1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,680 Speaker 1: All right, everybody ready, We're ready. Stick this on. You're 2 00:00:03,720 --> 00:00:05,960 Speaker 1: rubbing in with back a chilly and tak your back 3 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:14,319 Speaker 1: and people's choices the podcast. Yeah, if you heard a 4 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:21,759 Speaker 1: new voice in the intro, that was Joel Fletcher. I mean, 5 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 1: you know why so many people have been like, have 6 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:27,240 Speaker 1: Jojo on the podcast? And I'm like, she's been on 7 00:00:27,280 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 1: the podcast. If you're an o G listener, just once 8 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:33,519 Speaker 1: though I can't write it's just but it's not like 9 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 1: we haven't. You're a busy girl. I'm a busy girl. 10 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:40,520 Speaker 1: But it feels good to be bad guys. I mean 11 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:45,840 Speaker 1: there's something different about you. There's a sparkle. Sparkle guys. 12 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:50,800 Speaker 1: What Um yeah, I don't even know how to talk 13 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:53,479 Speaker 1: about it, but I do have any ring and I 14 00:00:53,640 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 1: kind of got re engaged yesterday two days ago. Um crazy, 15 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 1: it's so are you talking about how it happened? This 16 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 1: will be the first time I talked about maybe we 17 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:22,440 Speaker 1: can get them exclusive guys. It was crazy. Um, So 18 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:25,319 Speaker 1: you guys know, we went to look at wedding venues. 19 00:01:26,040 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 1: So I had made five appointments to different venues in California. 20 00:01:30,760 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: I've been planning this for like like a month. Whatever, 21 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:36,479 Speaker 1: So in my mind, that's all we're doing. We go 22 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,440 Speaker 1: to the first venue. It's really beautiful, it's great, We 23 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:42,920 Speaker 1: get all the details, then we go to the next venue. 24 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 1: I just want to preface all this with letting you 25 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:50,520 Speaker 1: know I started the day not thinking anything exciting was 26 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:53,200 Speaker 1: going to happen, and so I did. I looked insane. 27 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 1: No you did. I saw you did. Not like insane. Okay, Anyways, 28 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:00,080 Speaker 1: it was not how I wanted to look back, not 29 00:02:00,240 --> 00:02:03,240 Speaker 1: how I look the first time we got engaged. I 30 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:06,560 Speaker 1: didn't have a gown on. Anyways, we're at this venue 31 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 1: and we're looking around and at this particular venue there's 32 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 1: a helicopter pad and that's where the ceremony happens. So cute, 33 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 1: so cute, so great. There's the girl who's giving us 34 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 1: a tour, and just Jordan I super private. It's a 35 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 1: private estate, so it's not your typical resort. We go 36 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:26,520 Speaker 1: down to the helicopter pad and the ladies telling us 37 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 1: how many people you can see and Jordan's like kind 38 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 1: of on the outskirts of this helicopter bad and it's 39 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 1: like in the mountains, like you're like high up, and 40 00:02:34,200 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 1: I'm like asking, like Okay, so this looks really small, 41 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:38,520 Speaker 1: like we're do the seats, so like, can you put 42 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:41,000 Speaker 1: an arch here? In? Jordan's like, babe, just like taking 43 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 1: the view. This is amazing. I'm like it's great, babe, 44 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 1: It's like awesome, cool, But how many kinds stay here? 45 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:46,919 Speaker 1: Because we have more than eighty and I don't know 46 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 1: if that's gonna work. Like mind is in total business mode. 47 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 1: He kind of reels me in and he's like, you know, 48 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 1: isn't it crazy that the Bachelor mansion is just like 49 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 1: a mile away from here. He's like where we first met. 50 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 1: It's like we can literally see the Bachelor Mansion. It's 51 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 1: like that is sweet, Like okay, and then like you know, 52 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:10,760 Speaker 1: he just keeps saying sweet things and like I'm kind 53 00:03:10,760 --> 00:03:12,799 Speaker 1: of embarrassed at this moment because the girl the tour 54 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:16,359 Speaker 1: guide is there, and so I'm like, okay, let's move on. 55 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:20,839 Speaker 1: So sweet, but right now, you only have an hour here. 56 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 1: We gotta figure out details is gonna work? And then 57 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 1: you know, the moment, we're like you realized things have 58 00:03:26,480 --> 00:03:31,079 Speaker 1: gotten kind of weird and like something's happening. I always 59 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 1: used to make the joke I black out, like I 60 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 1: blacked out. I actually blacked out because I don't remember 61 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:39,360 Speaker 1: anything else that he said. And then he got down 62 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 1: on one knee and he opened this box and it 63 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:46,480 Speaker 1: was this ring, and I just it happened, and he 64 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 1: asked me to marry him again. And I don't remember 65 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:51,600 Speaker 1: anything but the girl who was doing the tour at 66 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 1: a recording. It was like a shaky iPhone video. So 67 00:03:54,960 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: we have that, y'all. I been missing a lot of 68 00:04:00,880 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 1: major points. Like I said, I blacked out, but that's 69 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: kind of how it happened. Oh, but it was just 70 00:04:05,560 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 1: the best. Is this the first Bachelor? Is this the 71 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 1: first time this has ever been done? I mean I 72 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 1: feel like people get re engaged a lot on like 73 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 1: after the final rows or like you know, you saw 74 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 1: when I think there's a couple of people that got 75 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:21,520 Speaker 1: re re engaged. No, Ben had proposed to Lauren again. Really, 76 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:24,640 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure he did. I've never seen this before. Yeah, 77 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:29,120 Speaker 1: I'm no, No, it's I'm saying, like outside of Bachelor, Yeah, 78 00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:31,279 Speaker 1: no cameras, no nothing. Now, I don't know. I don't 79 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 1: think it was special. It was so romantic beyond and 80 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:38,719 Speaker 1: it meant I mean, it meant so much. Well, he 81 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:42,200 Speaker 1: texted me, so Tony and I met you for a 82 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 1: wedding dress shopping with your mom, your aunt and Jordan's 83 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:50,880 Speaker 1: mom future mother in law and um. After that, Tony 84 00:04:50,920 --> 00:04:52,599 Speaker 1: and I went to dinner in Jordan texted me and 85 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:57,240 Speaker 1: he was like, hey, UM, I am planning on reproposing 86 00:04:57,240 --> 00:05:01,720 Speaker 1: to Jojo on Saturday and it I have a photographer 87 00:05:01,720 --> 00:05:03,280 Speaker 1: set up, but I'm not sure if they're gonna be 88 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:04,599 Speaker 1: able to do it. Do you know anyone? And I 89 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:06,680 Speaker 1: was like, I like, literally all of a sudden, I 90 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:09,320 Speaker 1: couldn't think of one photographer that I know. Yeah, I 91 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 1: got I got so excited. So I text my friend Jesse, 92 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:14,479 Speaker 1: who I just like, try I love. I felt like 93 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:17,400 Speaker 1: a lot of pressure with like recommending someone, so I 94 00:05:17,440 --> 00:05:20,320 Speaker 1: was like, I'm gonna recommend Jesse, and she's not She 95 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 1: wasn't in talent, and so then I was like and 96 00:05:22,120 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: then he kind of was like, I'm not sure if 97 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:26,560 Speaker 1: I'm gonna you know, if things fall through, I'm not 98 00:05:26,560 --> 00:05:27,840 Speaker 1: sure I'm going to do it. So then I was 99 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:30,440 Speaker 1: just in the state of limbo. And then you came 100 00:05:30,480 --> 00:05:32,720 Speaker 1: and stayed with me like the next night or whatever, 101 00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 1: and I was just like, I don't say anything about anything. 102 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:39,240 Speaker 1: I can't believe you knew. I can't believe the only 103 00:05:39,279 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 1: people that knew, I think were you, my parents, his parents, 104 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 1: and then I think his brother Luke and Amy, and 105 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: then my best friend from home, Catherine, But no one 106 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:52,640 Speaker 1: else and my other brothers didn't know, my sister didn't know. 107 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:54,280 Speaker 1: No one knew. And I can't believe you knew it. 108 00:05:54,279 --> 00:05:59,920 Speaker 1: Didn't say she's like a vault, she's a good poker face. Yeah, yeah, 109 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: I even like you. I like said, I like was 110 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:07,039 Speaker 1: saying things that I didn't like to even never even 111 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:10,239 Speaker 1: give you an idea that maybe he'd do it. Yeah, 112 00:06:10,680 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 1: you were good. I just think there's something so sweet 113 00:06:13,320 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 1: about like about a man on his own, like in 114 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: his own brain, being like I'm already engaged, I have 115 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:27,000 Speaker 1: the woman of my dreams, like we're getting married, but no, 116 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:29,840 Speaker 1: I want to do this on my own, like on 117 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: my own, with my own words, with no nothing around. 118 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:35,480 Speaker 1: Like I just think there's something so romantic about that. 119 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:37,600 Speaker 1: And it's like all the time as girls are sitting 120 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:40,560 Speaker 1: here being like, oh, we're expecting too much, Like guys 121 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 1: just don't think like that. No, no they do, Yes, No, 122 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: I'm with you. I but I never expected it because like, 123 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:51,160 Speaker 1: we had a beautiful ring that Neil gave us, right, 124 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:53,440 Speaker 1: Jordan didn't have to go buy a new ring on 125 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:56,159 Speaker 1: his own. We had a stunning ring. We had a 126 00:06:56,200 --> 00:06:58,920 Speaker 1: great first engagement. So I think that was the part 127 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:01,359 Speaker 1: that meant more than anything, Like we already had a 128 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: really great first engagement. There was nothing that I ever 129 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:06,200 Speaker 1: would have changed about it other than like, yes, it 130 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 1: was unconventional, but it was us so so yeah, the 131 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:12,239 Speaker 1: fact that he like he wanted to do it before 132 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 1: we chose the venue, because he told me he wanted 133 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 1: me to feel that excitement of planning, because you know, 134 00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: we did get engaged three years ago, and so most 135 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:22,240 Speaker 1: people get engaged and they jumped right into planning, and 136 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 1: so he's like, it was just really important that before 137 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 1: we got married, before we actually dove into the wedding planning, 138 00:07:27,560 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 1: that I did this and I did it our way 139 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:31,800 Speaker 1: and in the way that I've always wanted to do 140 00:07:31,840 --> 00:07:34,160 Speaker 1: it and the way that I think you deserve. And 141 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:37,920 Speaker 1: it was like, wow, I never thought about that. It's 142 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 1: so and it's so fun to talk about your wedding 143 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:44,040 Speaker 1: because for so long, for three years, it's been like 144 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:45,840 Speaker 1: when are you getting married. When are you getting married? 145 00:07:45,880 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 1: Like literally, even when I go and do like interviews anywhere, 146 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 1: it's like, have you heard anything about Joe John Jordan's 147 00:07:53,120 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: like crickets? I hope I'm still in it. It's been 148 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 1: for years, I know. And it's like, I wouldn't change 149 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:06,360 Speaker 1: that for the world. Totally did everything in our own 150 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: time and clearly in our own way, and I think 151 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 1: some people were really doubted us, and that's okay, like whatever, 152 00:08:14,120 --> 00:08:16,640 Speaker 1: but I wouldn't change that, Like the three years we 153 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:20,360 Speaker 1: needed that they were growing years they were the first 154 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:23,840 Speaker 1: year was painful, like they was. There was growth, but 155 00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:26,320 Speaker 1: there was pain and there was a lot, but I 156 00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:29,080 Speaker 1: feel like we needed that time and we needed to 157 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:32,800 Speaker 1: grow and like now I'm like over the moon beyond 158 00:08:32,840 --> 00:08:35,840 Speaker 1: like ready. So it was perfect for us, like I think, 159 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:38,040 Speaker 1: and I think more people are starting to talk about, 160 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 1: like people who have been on the Bachelor or Bachelor 161 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:44,840 Speaker 1: that are still with their the person that they chose, 162 00:08:44,880 --> 00:08:47,199 Speaker 1: that they taught, they're finally starting to say that first 163 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:51,040 Speaker 1: year was really hard, and it is like it makes 164 00:08:51,080 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 1: sense because you meet and then you're engaged and then 165 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: it's like we're here, We're and I think it's interesting too, 166 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:01,640 Speaker 1: because I know that everyone that comes off that show 167 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:07,560 Speaker 1: that first year, you don't want to show that there's trouble. 168 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:10,599 Speaker 1: You don't want to let people know that you're struggling. 169 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:13,840 Speaker 1: And so that first year we actually kept that very private. 170 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:16,679 Speaker 1: We didn't even share it with our family, our family members, Like, 171 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:18,640 Speaker 1: I think I talked to you back a few times 172 00:09:18,640 --> 00:09:20,520 Speaker 1: about it, but like, obviously you don't want to share 173 00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 1: with your family members, like you don't want them to 174 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:25,760 Speaker 1: know that the times were really tough and things are happening, 175 00:09:26,440 --> 00:09:29,679 Speaker 1: because you don't want that judgment, let alone everyone on 176 00:09:29,840 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 1: social media. And so we kept that secret. But I 177 00:09:33,040 --> 00:09:35,839 Speaker 1: think what was really sort of like a moment for 178 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 1: us is when we actually started to talk about it publicly, 179 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:41,560 Speaker 1: and like talking about it publicly and being very transparent, 180 00:09:41,640 --> 00:09:44,040 Speaker 1: I feel like has allowed people coming off that show 181 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:47,160 Speaker 1: now to be okay with that and to be open 182 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:49,920 Speaker 1: about the struggles, because there's nothing wrong with struggling if 183 00:09:49,920 --> 00:09:52,600 Speaker 1: you're if if you grow, I think from it, and 184 00:09:53,360 --> 00:09:55,560 Speaker 1: I don't know. So, yes, it was very tough, and 185 00:09:56,760 --> 00:09:59,560 Speaker 1: three years ago we wouldn't who knows what we didn't know, 186 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:01,920 Speaker 1: We didn't know if we'd be here today. We wanted 187 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:05,680 Speaker 1: to be. We didn't know, but now we know. Did 188 00:10:05,679 --> 00:10:08,080 Speaker 1: you have a moment? I know because I remember when 189 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 1: you all bought the house. You'll just you all announce 190 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:12,440 Speaker 1: that y'all bought a house. And then literally about a 191 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:14,680 Speaker 1: week or so later, you texted Tony and I and 192 00:10:14,679 --> 00:10:17,880 Speaker 1: you're like, hey, I'm coming out to go wedding rush shopping. 193 00:10:17,880 --> 00:10:21,439 Speaker 1: And it was like, oh, things are moving. Things of 194 00:10:21,640 --> 00:10:24,520 Speaker 1: escalated quickly. I don't like you asking me when there 195 00:10:24,559 --> 00:10:28,160 Speaker 1: was a moment of being like, okay, this is it's time. Well, 196 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:32,720 Speaker 1: I remember Jordan's brother, Luke had gotten married in the summer. 197 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:34,440 Speaker 1: It was like Luke and Amy had gotten married and 198 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:36,160 Speaker 1: we're at the wedding and there was a moment we 199 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 1: were dancing and like, I mean, we've always talked, like 200 00:10:39,720 --> 00:10:41,520 Speaker 1: in the last year, we've talked about our wedding, Like 201 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:43,960 Speaker 1: it hasn't anything that we have not talked about, but 202 00:10:44,000 --> 00:10:47,120 Speaker 1: they're never with a definitive like let's start planning. But 203 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 1: at that wedding, there was this moment where Jordan kind 204 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 1: of just like looked to me and he had this 205 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:55,560 Speaker 1: weird sort of look and he just like, I am 206 00:10:55,640 --> 00:10:58,600 Speaker 1: so ready to marry you, Like I like, let's do this, 207 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:01,320 Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my god, like feels you know, 208 00:11:01,440 --> 00:11:04,840 Speaker 1: nice music in the background. We're feeling it. It was 209 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 1: and we had just gotten through filming cash Pad, which 210 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:11,160 Speaker 1: was a true test to our relationship, working together, starting 211 00:11:11,160 --> 00:11:13,840 Speaker 1: a business together, filming a show together. Yeah, I mean 212 00:11:13,880 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 1: like there was a lot and like we soared through 213 00:11:16,800 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 1: that somehow, and like I had the best time ever. 214 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:21,600 Speaker 1: So I feel like like it's time. Like things that 215 00:11:21,679 --> 00:11:25,640 Speaker 1: happened that moment, man, three years in the making, we're 216 00:11:25,679 --> 00:11:31,080 Speaker 1: here now, it's time. So sweet of cash Pad. It's 217 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 1: so good, so good, guys, it's so good. And I 218 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:39,920 Speaker 1: don't mean to toot my own horn, but but listen, 219 00:11:39,960 --> 00:11:44,320 Speaker 1: I am so proud of what we did with those 220 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:46,920 Speaker 1: projects and the fact that, like I don't know if 221 00:11:46,920 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 1: people even know, Like I don't know if your listeners 222 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:50,480 Speaker 1: even want y'all should be watching cash Bad, But if 223 00:11:50,520 --> 00:11:54,160 Speaker 1: you don't know, it's We go around basically the country 224 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:57,079 Speaker 1: we've kind of limited actually not the country, Texas and Arizona, 225 00:11:57,520 --> 00:12:00,280 Speaker 1: and we team up with homeowners that have this really 226 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:03,520 Speaker 1: sort of maybe unique property or something attached to their property, 227 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:06,600 Speaker 1: and we turn them into airbnbs, and we do it 228 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:10,079 Speaker 1: in a week, and you'll know, like I do this 229 00:12:10,120 --> 00:12:11,840 Speaker 1: for a living, but it takes me months to do it. 230 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:15,599 Speaker 1: But we turned these places into crazy vacation rentals and 231 00:12:15,720 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: Jo and I together, like it was the most fun 232 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:23,240 Speaker 1: we ever had, the funniest, most stressful, but it's awesome. 233 00:12:23,600 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 1: Like I'm so so proud of everything. I just felt 234 00:12:26,679 --> 00:12:28,320 Speaker 1: so proud when I watched it, because you know, you 235 00:12:28,360 --> 00:12:31,240 Speaker 1: have these shows and and then there's editing and you're like, 236 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:35,760 Speaker 1: what is it going to I just woke up early. 237 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:40,600 Speaker 1: I wish I'll could see her face right now. I 238 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:44,280 Speaker 1: just like, I just really love love stories, and I 239 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:47,080 Speaker 1: just think it's just so like it's just this isn't 240 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 1: really love story. This is cash Path. But like I 241 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:54,040 Speaker 1: feel like working with your significant other that's like a 242 00:12:54,040 --> 00:13:01,160 Speaker 1: whole another level of intimacy. That cry, it's amazing. She's tired. 243 00:13:01,240 --> 00:13:03,320 Speaker 1: But you do legitimately love the show because you menage 244 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:05,840 Speaker 1: it with Ryan and Sissy from The Secret loves it too, 245 00:13:05,920 --> 00:13:07,440 Speaker 1: and they but you both mentioned it on the show. 246 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:10,280 Speaker 1: Will there be another season? Fingers crossed? I mean I 247 00:13:10,320 --> 00:13:12,559 Speaker 1: think this is like season one. They're testing the water. 248 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:15,360 Speaker 1: Everyone watched Cash Pad. It really comes down to if 249 00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:17,960 Speaker 1: people are watching it. So, um, we have like what 250 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:20,040 Speaker 1: are we on this city? We have three more episodes 251 00:13:20,120 --> 00:13:22,559 Speaker 1: left and so hopefully we find out if there there 252 00:13:22,600 --> 00:13:24,360 Speaker 1: will be a season. I'm trying to think of the 253 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:26,760 Speaker 1: last time a show on CNBC ever got on my radar, 254 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 1: and I can't think of any except for cash Pad 255 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:33,359 Speaker 1: in ten years. It's a very unique network. So um yeah, 256 00:13:33,400 --> 00:13:35,800 Speaker 1: that's it's amazing. I'm very proud of it, whether or 257 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:37,760 Speaker 1: not there is a season two, Like I'm I'm so 258 00:13:37,800 --> 00:13:40,200 Speaker 1: happy with how everything turned out, and it was the 259 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:42,520 Speaker 1: greatest experience in my life. And we'll continue to do 260 00:13:42,559 --> 00:13:45,640 Speaker 1: this whether we're being filmed or not. Um, So it's 261 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:47,160 Speaker 1: a part of our life. So it's cool. You know. 262 00:13:47,240 --> 00:13:49,080 Speaker 1: I'm thinking about higher and you all. I want to 263 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 1: get like an Airbnb and flip it and put it 264 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:54,199 Speaker 1: somewhere cool. So I'm going to reach outthing else, Just 265 00:13:54,320 --> 00:13:57,520 Speaker 1: reach out here. I'm here for me, and you know 266 00:13:57,559 --> 00:14:02,920 Speaker 1: what we'll need when or like putting an airbnb together, 267 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:05,880 Speaker 1: getting it all together for people to come, We're gonna 268 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:12,520 Speaker 1: need some good mattresses that transilatefre we go into the mattresses. 269 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:15,000 Speaker 1: I want to get back to something that happened. An 270 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:18,199 Speaker 1: amazing transition. I love the transition we're gonna I want 271 00:14:18,240 --> 00:14:21,080 Speaker 1: to go back to the wedding dress shopping because Beckett 272 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:22,920 Speaker 1: did something to me that literally made me like sweat 273 00:14:22,960 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 1: for probably a good twenty minutes. Okay, yeah, we'll do 274 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:28,840 Speaker 1: that after um. The beds that I would put in 275 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:32,640 Speaker 1: a an Airbnb that I renovated or had Jojoe and 276 00:14:32,720 --> 00:14:36,320 Speaker 1: Jordan renovate would be the Sleep Number three sixty smart bed. 277 00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:39,320 Speaker 1: Do you want to know why? Why? Well, when was 278 00:14:39,360 --> 00:14:42,120 Speaker 1: the last time you slept really great? It's been a minute. 279 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 1: What's what is my allergies? To be honest, But okay, well, 280 00:14:46,080 --> 00:14:49,080 Speaker 1: isn't it strange like we'll try anything to sleep better 281 00:14:49,320 --> 00:14:52,600 Speaker 1: when it could just actually be time for new mattress? Yeah? 282 00:14:52,600 --> 00:14:54,280 Speaker 1: I feel like that's the case for a lot of people. 283 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:56,760 Speaker 1: And if you are getting the quality sleep you deserve, 284 00:14:57,000 --> 00:14:59,880 Speaker 1: I recommend the bed that I have chosen, which is 285 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:03,120 Speaker 1: the Sleep Number bed. So right now at Sleep Number stores, 286 00:15:03,240 --> 00:15:06,440 Speaker 1: it's the biggest sale of the year. 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We are on our way to meet 356 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:51,359 Speaker 1: you to try on You're trying on your wedding dresses. 357 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:54,480 Speaker 1: This is a big deal, big deal, and so that 358 00:18:54,520 --> 00:18:55,879 Speaker 1: could text me the night before and she's like, what 359 00:18:55,880 --> 00:18:57,240 Speaker 1: are you gonna wear? And I was like, I don't know, 360 00:18:57,320 --> 00:18:59,879 Speaker 1: like workout clothes, Like I didn't I truly didn't know. 361 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:02,320 Speaker 1: I don't care where you are, right, I didn't think anything. 362 00:19:02,320 --> 00:19:04,040 Speaker 1: And then bed I was like to our wedding dress shop. 363 00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:05,359 Speaker 1: I was like, okay, I'll put on jeans and like 364 00:19:05,400 --> 00:19:08,960 Speaker 1: a cute shirt or something. So I get already and 365 00:19:08,960 --> 00:19:10,960 Speaker 1: I'm wearing this shirt that has like sunflowers on it, 366 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 1: and I'm like tom makeup on, Like I'm like, thank you. 367 00:19:15,560 --> 00:19:17,280 Speaker 1: And I walked outside back and comes to pick me 368 00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:19,600 Speaker 1: up and she looks at me and she was did 369 00:19:19,640 --> 00:19:22,399 Speaker 1: you say, are you wearing that? No? I didn't know that. 370 00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:26,200 Speaker 1: I okay, No, I did not say. She keeps telling 371 00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:28,400 Speaker 1: people this, so people probably think I'm the biggest jerk. 372 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:32,400 Speaker 1: She walks out in a white top as we're going 373 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:36,960 Speaker 1: wedding shopping, white and had sun flowers on it, but 374 00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:39,240 Speaker 1: it was white and I couldn't see the sunflowers at first. 375 00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:43,400 Speaker 1: So she walks up and I'm just like I could 376 00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:45,760 Speaker 1: write out her face. I don't know what the rules 377 00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:48,040 Speaker 1: are here. So then I was like, I was like, 378 00:19:49,160 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 1: she said something like what, and I was like, your 379 00:19:51,080 --> 00:19:53,800 Speaker 1: shirts white? And then I panicked because I did have 380 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:56,040 Speaker 1: that thought. And then I panicked in my head and 381 00:19:56,040 --> 00:19:57,879 Speaker 1: I was like, should go upstairs and changed. I like, 382 00:19:58,040 --> 00:19:59,960 Speaker 1: already late, so she's like you can't. I was like, 383 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:01,920 Speaker 1: maybe there's a store right by the wedding dress, and 384 00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:05,640 Speaker 1: then we start Googlingbecco is like, just google it, let's 385 00:20:05,640 --> 00:20:07,680 Speaker 1: see if it's like a faux pause. I'm like, happened? 386 00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:11,520 Speaker 1: And then what are we doing? Just make a joke 387 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:13,399 Speaker 1: about Jojo won't care about make a joke when you 388 00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:15,040 Speaker 1: see her about it. Yeah, I was just like if 389 00:20:15,080 --> 00:20:17,600 Speaker 1: anyone doesn't care, But there are brides who are like, 390 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:21,520 Speaker 1: but you know, but I said that, but still it's 391 00:20:21,560 --> 00:20:23,760 Speaker 1: like wedding drug, you know. It's like I know. And 392 00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:25,720 Speaker 1: then I was like, what a dummy, Tanya, Like, you 393 00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:29,480 Speaker 1: don't wear white to go wedding dress shopping with somebody. 394 00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:33,480 Speaker 1: Here's the thing. Tanya would text me if we were 395 00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:35,280 Speaker 1: going to a funeral and I'd pick her up and 396 00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:37,840 Speaker 1: she'd have like hot pink one because she just doesn't 397 00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:43,800 Speaker 1: she's just like I felt cute. I actually actually got 398 00:20:43,880 --> 00:20:46,159 Speaker 1: so many d m when people ask me where that 399 00:20:46,200 --> 00:20:50,760 Speaker 1: top was from. It from Zara. There you go, people. 400 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:54,280 Speaker 1: But it's funny because I've been told and I even said, 401 00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:55,520 Speaker 1: I was like, Jojo is not going to care. If 402 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:57,480 Speaker 1: anyone's not gonna care, it's gonna be Jojo. But I've 403 00:20:57,520 --> 00:21:00,840 Speaker 1: been to weddings or like wedding events where the bride's 404 00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:05,240 Speaker 1: like where anything except for why totally? Yeah? Literally, and 405 00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:07,400 Speaker 1: then you could not have cared less. And I felt 406 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:09,520 Speaker 1: like such a moron that I literally was like sweating, 407 00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:14,000 Speaker 1: like the whole drive over there, just been like, oh, 408 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:19,639 Speaker 1: it's fine whatever, But I was nervous. Would you care, Tania? 409 00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:22,680 Speaker 1: I think about that. I don't either, But now that 410 00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:26,600 Speaker 1: I think about it, that's sweet. But I don't care maybe, 411 00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:28,440 Speaker 1: but it's good to think about because, like you says 412 00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:32,040 Speaker 1: some people, I think for people to know, maybe because 413 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:36,400 Speaker 1: I say something about that day of us. So we're 414 00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:38,760 Speaker 1: at this store trying on dresses and there's like a 415 00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:43,320 Speaker 1: bunch of tiaras and like random things there, and I'm 416 00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:45,240 Speaker 1: like in the room trying on my dress, and I 417 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:48,120 Speaker 1: come out and Tania has like a full blown tier 418 00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:51,200 Speaker 1: on her head and I'm like, what's It's amazing, that's great. 419 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:53,280 Speaker 1: And then the next thing, you know, my aunt has one. 420 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:56,600 Speaker 1: So the two single ladies in my thing are wearing 421 00:21:56,600 --> 00:21:59,160 Speaker 1: this tiara and they're just saying it's gonna be it's 422 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,920 Speaker 1: my jojo ju you. Yeah, I need to know. Has 423 00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:04,720 Speaker 1: did the jojo juju of wearing that tr all day 424 00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:09,320 Speaker 1: prompt any sort of progress in your dating life? I 425 00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:12,360 Speaker 1: think I have the jojo juju. She texted me, by 426 00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:14,520 Speaker 1: the way, when I was looking for venues and she's like, 427 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:16,879 Speaker 1: I need all the details, like you gotta let me 428 00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:18,240 Speaker 1: know which ones are clue. I was like, is the 429 00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:21,160 Speaker 1: jojo juju? Like? Are we already playing? Are we playing 430 00:22:21,200 --> 00:22:25,560 Speaker 1: the wedding already? To Mr my Notes page, Yeah, miss 431 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:29,280 Speaker 1: in your Butterfly, that's what we're going with. Their first 432 00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:35,280 Speaker 1: kiss was to Casey Musgrave's butterflies, huge, super cute. It's 433 00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:45,199 Speaker 1: time nicknames so so good. By the way, we went 434 00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:48,200 Speaker 1: out to dinner on Friday night and we were leaving 435 00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:51,640 Speaker 1: the restaurant and I think we're holding hands or some 436 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:54,879 Speaker 1: sort of touching and this lady like kind of like 437 00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:56,800 Speaker 1: weighs me down. And I didn't know if I like 438 00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:58,840 Speaker 1: a knew her or something. So I stopped at her 439 00:22:58,840 --> 00:23:00,840 Speaker 1: table and I was like, Hi, a gabra hug and 440 00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:05,520 Speaker 1: she's like, because I didn't know, I like I met 441 00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:06,840 Speaker 1: her or something, and she was like, I listened to 442 00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:09,199 Speaker 1: the morning show and I listened to the podcast. She 443 00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:11,600 Speaker 1: listened to both, and she was like, I just I 444 00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:15,280 Speaker 1: love you and is this is this the new guy? Yeah, 445 00:23:15,520 --> 00:23:18,879 Speaker 1: she's like your butterfly And I was like, I'm literally 446 00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:20,760 Speaker 1: dying right now. He was so cute about it. He 447 00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:22,680 Speaker 1: came over and like I told her his real name 448 00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:25,440 Speaker 1: and introduced her to him, and he was really cute 449 00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:30,080 Speaker 1: about it. But she was so cute. So why we 450 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:33,320 Speaker 1: named him Senior Butterfly. That's why we named him was 451 00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:37,760 Speaker 1: made out to Musgragh. Senior was just like, yeah, like 452 00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:48,000 Speaker 1: I was spanning, we don't know my TV d on that. Yeah, 453 00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:52,480 Speaker 1: we haven't gotten information. True, true, but the Senor was 454 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,119 Speaker 1: just to like make it different. I love that so 455 00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:57,560 Speaker 1: that you had your day, had her day, held hands. 456 00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:00,800 Speaker 1: We held hands. How many days now? It's been a lot, 457 00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:06,800 Speaker 1: a lot, four or five five dates and some hangouts. 458 00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:11,280 Speaker 1: And I heard that he napped at your place. Got 459 00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:16,679 Speaker 1: a cute little picture of her with him. Nothing actually 460 00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:23,119 Speaker 1: datime now very intimate, that's what I thought. That's very so. 461 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:26,680 Speaker 1: So here's the thing. I like, I just want to 462 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:29,359 Speaker 1: see him at all times. It's really weird because I 463 00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:31,600 Speaker 1: have not been like this in a very long time. 464 00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:35,840 Speaker 1: So can I see the photo? Becca? Do you care 465 00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 1: if I share the photo with me? I don't know, 466 00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:43,119 Speaker 1: but we can't put that anywhere. It's like so creepy. 467 00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:52,360 Speaker 1: Actually it's kind of creepy napping. It's just his hat, 468 00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:56,520 Speaker 1: but he's laying there. You you weren't happy, You're just 469 00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:58,600 Speaker 1: being creepy and taking photos of him laying next to 470 00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:00,760 Speaker 1: you sleeping next year, all right, So what are you doing? 471 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:03,359 Speaker 1: And she was like, oh, I'm watching shows and um 472 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:06,680 Speaker 1: signor came over to watch the shows with me, and 473 00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:08,959 Speaker 1: he fell asleep because he's had a long weekend. Did 474 00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:11,200 Speaker 1: you fall asleep. Ever, No, I was like, just I 475 00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:14,880 Speaker 1: was like in it. So I basically took my whole 476 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:16,920 Speaker 1: weekend to just do watch all these shows and do 477 00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,840 Speaker 1: stuff prepping for the Emmy's and so um, I was like, 478 00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:22,000 Speaker 1: it actually benefited me that he fell asleep because I 479 00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:24,040 Speaker 1: could actually pay attention because whenever he's around, I just 480 00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:26,000 Speaker 1: want to kiss him and look at him. That is 481 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:29,200 Speaker 1: that shows such a comfort level on his end. Like 482 00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,840 Speaker 1: that's major. I feel like, I know it was really 483 00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 1: like whatever you are. He's just like whatever, it's fine. 484 00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:42,880 Speaker 1: He's like normal and cool, and I'm like chill, cool girl, 485 00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:45,200 Speaker 1: and yeah, it's fine. We're slope. We're slow playing it. 486 00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:47,720 Speaker 1: But it's so okay. I know we're slow playing it. 487 00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:51,119 Speaker 1: But five dates, at what point is this a relationship? 488 00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:54,000 Speaker 1: I don't you know? What's so funny? Sara asked me 489 00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:55,240 Speaker 1: the same thing. She's like, so you guys are like 490 00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:57,399 Speaker 1: exclusively dating now, and I was like, but we're not, 491 00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:00,240 Speaker 1: because that's like a conversation, right, But if someone else 492 00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:02,040 Speaker 1: asked you out, would you go on a date? That's 493 00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:05,399 Speaker 1: the question. I feel like, go ahead. Someone's trying to 494 00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:08,440 Speaker 1: set me up with somebody else currently, and I like 495 00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:10,000 Speaker 1: don't know what to tell her. She's already told him 496 00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:12,560 Speaker 1: to slide into your DM. I was like, here's a 497 00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:15,840 Speaker 1: better question. If you found out through the grapevine that 498 00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:18,439 Speaker 1: last night he was out with a different woman, how 499 00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:21,360 Speaker 1: would that make you feel? I'd be bummed. So there 500 00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:24,840 Speaker 1: we have it. You'd be bummed. But would you be no, 501 00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:26,720 Speaker 1: you feel like you would have to ask that. No, 502 00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:29,520 Speaker 1: I would. I would be revengeful. But that's not my 503 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:32,400 Speaker 1: place because he's not my boyfriend, so he technically could 504 00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:35,280 Speaker 1: be doing whatever he wants right now. Okay, I would 505 00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:37,680 Speaker 1: just like to say if this or me, I'd be 506 00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:41,439 Speaker 1: so upset because I'm like territorial ones, I like somewhere, 507 00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:43,840 Speaker 1: and I think it's time. I don't know if it's 508 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:45,480 Speaker 1: time for a conversation, but I think it's time to 509 00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:49,120 Speaker 1: stop seeing other people. Right. But that's a conversation, right, Yeah, 510 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:52,080 Speaker 1: I think that's a conversation. So are you going to 511 00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:59,600 Speaker 1: have the conversation? I mean, that's so uncomfortable. I never 512 00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:04,479 Speaker 1: had a conversation. It was just understood, but was understood. Scary, 513 00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:10,160 Speaker 1: But at what point was it understood? Like scorpio things 514 00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:12,600 Speaker 1: came out on the clause right now? Yeah, that's a 515 00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:17,520 Speaker 1: great question. When when when was it understood like a weekend? Yeah, 516 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:20,359 Speaker 1: but I think that's normal. Obviously this was a long 517 00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:22,240 Speaker 1: time ago, twenty two years ago with my wife, but 518 00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:25,080 Speaker 1: I feel like it was understood once we went out 519 00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:26,600 Speaker 1: a couple of times we weren't going to go see 520 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:28,119 Speaker 1: other people and we never had to talk about that. 521 00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:36,359 Speaker 1: The same times have changed, but there they have, but 522 00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,240 Speaker 1: they all there are situations where it is like mine 523 00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:41,720 Speaker 1: and yours. Plus we also discussed on the help Us 524 00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:44,520 Speaker 1: Second Dating podcast last week that there is where you 525 00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:47,399 Speaker 1: are now, Tanya. Then there's the exclusive talk and that 526 00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:51,080 Speaker 1: comes before the boyfriend girlfriend talked. Those are two separate conversations. 527 00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:54,640 Speaker 1: I'm told, Yes, I disagree. I think that's really very exclusive. 528 00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:58,800 Speaker 1: Your boyfriend girlfriend know what, I would the ideal thing 529 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:00,920 Speaker 1: for you would be if he asked you to be 530 00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:05,280 Speaker 1: his girlfriend and you skipped the exclusive talk, like, oh, 531 00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:10,440 Speaker 1: just go straight In the difference, listen, Joe meets their 532 00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:19,760 Speaker 1: significant ding boyfriend my engage the first time I had 533 00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:28,320 Speaker 1: got another baith life. But it is true there these 534 00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:31,920 Speaker 1: are like weird conversations and I think, I mean, I 535 00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:35,399 Speaker 1: think on my end, I'm not going to bring it 536 00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:41,440 Speaker 1: up right, why not modern woman because like, let's just 537 00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:45,200 Speaker 1: modern woman is also confident and just going with just 538 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:49,840 Speaker 1: so wish we could understand where his head was at, 539 00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:53,160 Speaker 1: like why he likes her, like the text that I 540 00:28:53,360 --> 00:29:00,480 Speaker 1: hear about are really you? I? And may maybe it's 541 00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:03,360 Speaker 1: because he has a similar sense of humor as so, 542 00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:05,880 Speaker 1: like I under I like laugh at what he says, 543 00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:09,440 Speaker 1: and I'm like, that is really cute. They do you 544 00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:12,000 Speaker 1: guys have a very similar sense of humor. I'm just saying, 545 00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,280 Speaker 1: out of all the guys that Tony has dated, I 546 00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:17,520 Speaker 1: don't think that any of them have been as like 547 00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:21,080 Speaker 1: attentive and like kind and thoughtful as he has, at 548 00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:26,520 Speaker 1: least through texting. Doesn't he listen to this? No he should, No, 549 00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:32,120 Speaker 1: I can really spark the conversation what he knows does 550 00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:35,040 Speaker 1: and no, actually one of his best friends does there 551 00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:37,440 Speaker 1: you go? Maybe it'll spark it for girl I was 552 00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:39,360 Speaker 1: dating at a podcast when she talks for an hour 553 00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:42,760 Speaker 1: about her relationship. I think I told him not to, 554 00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:48,080 Speaker 1: but even more so that my argument. No, but he's 555 00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:50,200 Speaker 1: so respectful. He's like, I'm not go. If you don't 556 00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:51,440 Speaker 1: want me to, I'm not going to. And I was like, look, 557 00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:53,440 Speaker 1: I'm not going to ever say you can't do anything, 558 00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:56,040 Speaker 1: but I just think, like, these are conversations that I 559 00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:58,520 Speaker 1: have with my girlfriends, and it's like it's not for 560 00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:03,000 Speaker 1: the person i'm dating to hear. But so I have 561 00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:07,680 Speaker 1: this conversation. I said, if someone said please don't listen, 562 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:14,520 Speaker 1: I'm like, of course I won't. Scrubbing in with my head. 563 00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:17,080 Speaker 1: I hit my head three times on his microphone, but 564 00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:20,640 Speaker 1: I keep laughing so exactively. Okay, so here's the way 565 00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:22,880 Speaker 1: determined Jojo and I guess it wasn't help I second dating. 566 00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:26,040 Speaker 1: It was the podcast, but they all run together. Um 567 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:29,640 Speaker 1: that that boyfriend girlfriend's a major conversation, and there becomes 568 00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:32,680 Speaker 1: a point before that will be rude to see someone else, 569 00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:34,880 Speaker 1: and that's when you have that conversation, and then the 570 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:39,840 Speaker 1: boyfriend girlfriend is a more serious conversation. That partment confused me. 571 00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:41,240 Speaker 1: I feel like that those are two in the same. 572 00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,200 Speaker 1: Literally got uncomfortable and I will not say her name, 573 00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:46,800 Speaker 1: but coworker mind was like, I have this great guy, 574 00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:50,240 Speaker 1: he's super into you. You got mad, we know, would 575 00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:54,520 Speaker 1: you just because because I was like, I'm kind of 576 00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:58,680 Speaker 1: like this this guy, and that's a that's a great sign. Right, 577 00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:01,960 Speaker 1: because because the thing is, if you go out with 578 00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:05,280 Speaker 1: someone else, you're going to either be feeling thinking about 579 00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:07,000 Speaker 1: him the whole time, or you're gonna be feeling like 580 00:31:07,080 --> 00:31:10,320 Speaker 1: a weird like guilt a little bit, I think because 581 00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:12,280 Speaker 1: you know where you're feelings. And let me just tell 582 00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:15,360 Speaker 1: you from going through the experience of dating multiple people 583 00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:17,720 Speaker 1: at once, like it really puts you in a bad place. 584 00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:20,560 Speaker 1: If you start to like both, yeah, I need that 585 00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:22,800 Speaker 1: you do that, and then the one that you actually 586 00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:26,360 Speaker 1: really really like it starts to get muddy. It's not good. 587 00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:28,840 Speaker 1: I've never been the girl that can date multiple people 588 00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:30,520 Speaker 1: at once. I've never been that way. But she's like, 589 00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:33,480 Speaker 1: just meet him, just talk to him, Like that seems 590 00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:36,160 Speaker 1: like a slippery slow what does because it's a setup. 591 00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:38,719 Speaker 1: It's not like you meet somebody randomly and talk to them. 592 00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:42,600 Speaker 1: It's it's not a chance meeting. You're respecting him the 593 00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:45,040 Speaker 1: way that you expect to be respecting, and that's how 594 00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:48,760 Speaker 1: you should continue on with this relationship. That's a That 595 00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:52,719 Speaker 1: was some good advice advice. Did everyone hear that? That's listening? 596 00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:57,560 Speaker 1: Treat people you respect, to treat people with the respect 597 00:31:57,640 --> 00:32:00,760 Speaker 1: that you want to return. Yeah, that's good. Uh yeah, 598 00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:02,000 Speaker 1: I think it'd be sad. I feels like I'm going 599 00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:06,400 Speaker 1: to take someone else out tonight. I like you're feeling, well, 600 00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:10,640 Speaker 1: what's next this weekend? Already you guys have already said 601 00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:13,600 Speaker 1: another date. It doesn't leave me without like knowing when 602 00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:22,160 Speaker 1: he's going to see me next senior senior, And even 603 00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:24,080 Speaker 1: if you don't know what we're doing, he's always like, okay, 604 00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:30,200 Speaker 1: you're free that night, Like hang great, But it's that 605 00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,720 Speaker 1: a weekend, like there's something happening this weekend, that's spending 606 00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:35,720 Speaker 1: the weekend together. We might because the first weekend that 607 00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:39,240 Speaker 1: neither one of us have, Like every weekend each one 608 00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:40,760 Speaker 1: of us has had like something where like I was 609 00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:42,680 Speaker 1: in Sandigo than he was in San Diego. I have 610 00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:44,400 Speaker 1: a question, and I was talking to back about this 611 00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:47,560 Speaker 1: in the way up here. When is it okay? When 612 00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:51,240 Speaker 1: is it time to introduce each other to your friends? 613 00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:54,800 Speaker 1: And like does that make it more official or does 614 00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:57,400 Speaker 1: that sort of make it more platonic, like because I 615 00:32:57,480 --> 00:32:58,920 Speaker 1: know some people like, oh, I'll just take him in 616 00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:00,479 Speaker 1: a group with my friends and it will be more 617 00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:02,960 Speaker 1: chill and not so much pressure. I think differently. I 618 00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:05,640 Speaker 1: think once you introduce them into your friend's circle, Like 619 00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:08,720 Speaker 1: that's a that's a big step. I think if the 620 00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:11,680 Speaker 1: first day, if you're like I'm gonna do a group setting, 621 00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:14,560 Speaker 1: that makes it more less pressure, and I think that 622 00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:16,600 Speaker 1: does make it more platonic. I think if you've been 623 00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:19,760 Speaker 1: dating for a while and then you're like, it's time, 624 00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:21,840 Speaker 1: I want you to meet my friends, that's when it's 625 00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:29,160 Speaker 1: like waiting for your weekend too, when it needs to 626 00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:31,520 Speaker 1: be like, oh, that could be so he's met one 627 00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:33,760 Speaker 1: of my UM. I was out to dinner with one 628 00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:36,680 Speaker 1: of my girlfriends, Raquel, and he came um and met 629 00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:39,320 Speaker 1: us after dinner and then like my friend Roquelle left, 630 00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:40,880 Speaker 1: So he actually has already met one of my friends. 631 00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:43,200 Speaker 1: But have you met any of his on occasion outside 632 00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:45,640 Speaker 1: of the wedding. No. I met some of his friends 633 00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:48,080 Speaker 1: on FaceTime over the weekend. He was with them and 634 00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:51,360 Speaker 1: we FaceTime, so that was cute. They were all lovely. UM. 635 00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:55,080 Speaker 1: But No, I feel like that's always an interesting dynamic 636 00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:58,080 Speaker 1: how the person plays into your inner circle and what 637 00:33:58,280 --> 00:34:00,360 Speaker 1: that looks like, because that could be like a huge 638 00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:04,200 Speaker 1: like push forward or can I tell you The thing 639 00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:06,120 Speaker 1: I like about this guy is that I kind of 640 00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:08,480 Speaker 1: feel like I could put him in every situation and 641 00:34:08,640 --> 00:34:10,800 Speaker 1: he would thrive. Like he's kind of just like a 642 00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:13,640 Speaker 1: really easy to get along with kind of guy. That's great. 643 00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:16,480 Speaker 1: I feel like that too, and so are you. I 644 00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:19,320 Speaker 1: can't imagine being with somebody that you would have to 645 00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:22,320 Speaker 1: babysit and like worry about, because you can make friends 646 00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:24,480 Speaker 1: with like a door knob, and so I feel like 647 00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:27,600 Speaker 1: you need somebody who's kind of like that. He's kind 648 00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:32,040 Speaker 1: of like that. Just thinking about on the treadmill with 649 00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:36,040 Speaker 1: her eyes and mouth open, looking at everything. If I 650 00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:37,960 Speaker 1: got a good song in my headphones and I'm like 651 00:34:38,120 --> 00:34:40,320 Speaker 1: jamming on the treadmill, I will literally look around and 652 00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:43,640 Speaker 1: be like I love that. Should we should we dive 653 00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:45,680 Speaker 1: into maybe what you'd be listening to at the gym 654 00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:49,640 Speaker 1: this week? Oh yeah, let's get to that next. Okay, 655 00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:08,239 Speaker 1: shall we talk about an album that came out recently. 656 00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:16,320 Speaker 1: Let's give it up for Taylor Slow who Wow Wow. 657 00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:21,560 Speaker 1: I know, like this is when so many words why 658 00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:22,960 Speaker 1: to get out of tiny mouth. At the same time 659 00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:24,759 Speaker 1: that she has a hard time, she buffers. I really 660 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:26,560 Speaker 1: have a hard time because I just feel like this 661 00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:32,480 Speaker 1: is such a cohesive, like slash beautiful, slash, love centric 662 00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:36,960 Speaker 1: piece of work. It feels. How was that I got 663 00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:41,880 Speaker 1: the ice going and sell the judge in this setting 664 00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:43,840 Speaker 1: that everyone watching me sit on my last day, this 665 00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:45,680 Speaker 1: is when we can hear it. I wouldn't have known 666 00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:49,319 Speaker 1: except the Mike girls got to caffeinate herself for these 667 00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:55,040 Speaker 1: um so I feel the same way it. I just 668 00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:57,160 Speaker 1: felt like it was going to come out because it's 669 00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:59,759 Speaker 1: weird because her singles didn't. They were good, they were 670 00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:02,200 Speaker 1: at you, they were fun like we obviously danced to 671 00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:05,719 Speaker 1: me like no one was watching, and they were good. 672 00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:09,759 Speaker 1: But the album is just that's how Taylor does it. 673 00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:12,520 Speaker 1: She'll like release some of the like and then you 674 00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:16,360 Speaker 1: get the album and you're like, these are the ones, 675 00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:18,600 Speaker 1: like those are the nuggets, and they're not always the singles. 676 00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:22,040 Speaker 1: Give me your top three, so okay. So I like 677 00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:23,719 Speaker 1: to when I get an album, I like to listen 678 00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:25,040 Speaker 1: to it from top to bottom, the way that the 679 00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:27,799 Speaker 1: artist intends us to listen to it. So I really 680 00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:31,960 Speaker 1: So I started out with number one with UM forget 681 00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:34,880 Speaker 1: You for I forgot Forgot. So I started out with 682 00:36:34,960 --> 00:36:38,480 Speaker 1: number one, I Love That one. Blown Away went to 683 00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:45,319 Speaker 1: number two, Summer blown Away went to three. Lover then 684 00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:47,320 Speaker 1: I got to then I got to the Man and 685 00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:49,160 Speaker 1: I was done. I was like, I am done. This 686 00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:52,000 Speaker 1: album has like peaked, and so I would keep I 687 00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:53,719 Speaker 1: kept going back to number one and I would listen 688 00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:58,719 Speaker 1: to those on repeat before I continued on. So I 689 00:36:58,719 --> 00:37:01,480 Speaker 1: would have been very satisfied. It's so true the top 690 00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:04,440 Speaker 1: four the first word so strong, so strong, and I 691 00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:08,040 Speaker 1: don't get me wrong, Number five Archer was still as fantastic. 692 00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:10,320 Speaker 1: But the Man is like when it peaked for me, 693 00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:12,520 Speaker 1: and I was just like, I feel seen. I feel 694 00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:14,840 Speaker 1: so proud that Taylor put that song out, Like I 695 00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:16,800 Speaker 1: just I want the video to be like a movement. 696 00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:18,920 Speaker 1: I wanted to be just like I feel like she's 697 00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:20,759 Speaker 1: saying everything. I feel like what she stands for is 698 00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:23,200 Speaker 1: so prolific and she's so empowering, and it's just like 699 00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:25,680 Speaker 1: the song just was so encompassing of everything that I 700 00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:28,840 Speaker 1: feel right now, and I just like, that's my favorite. 701 00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:32,799 Speaker 1: The LEO mentioned is awesome, is so good. And then 702 00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:34,600 Speaker 1: I feel like this weird sense of pride were you 703 00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:36,960 Speaker 1: going down to the lyrics and seeing like if Taylor 704 00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:38,399 Speaker 1: wrote the song on her own, Like if I said 705 00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:40,520 Speaker 1: written by Taylor Swift, I'd be like I'm so proud 706 00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:42,279 Speaker 1: she did that one all on her own, and that 707 00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:46,600 Speaker 1: song is oh yeah, and that came that came from 708 00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:50,360 Speaker 1: a place of like I need to say something totally. 709 00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:54,080 Speaker 1: So I have a question because I've only really Okay, 710 00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:56,880 Speaker 1: don't get mad at me for saying, okay, okay, right, 711 00:37:57,040 --> 00:38:00,600 Speaker 1: So what is this album about? If only listened to 712 00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:06,360 Speaker 1: like one song on the first roe, I mean major 713 00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:08,800 Speaker 1: the theory that it's about. I mean, does it is 714 00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:11,759 Speaker 1: this album like encompassing a phase in her life that's 715 00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:14,719 Speaker 1: like happening? Like what is this like her being in love? 716 00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:18,000 Speaker 1: Like I love the struggle she's gone through and works 717 00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:22,919 Speaker 1: old relationships, so many weddings like wedding or her mom generally. Yeah, 718 00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:25,160 Speaker 1: the Mom's song. Oh man, she wrote a song about 719 00:38:25,200 --> 00:38:27,520 Speaker 1: her mom's health issues and the cancer. I didn't know. 720 00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:31,680 Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's just called and you just cry, 721 00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:34,640 Speaker 1: like the first verse. It's just so an idol that 722 00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:38,360 Speaker 1: Dixie Chicks. Oh my gosh. I've only listened to it 723 00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:39,800 Speaker 1: one time through. I can't do it. I skip, but 724 00:38:39,840 --> 00:38:41,239 Speaker 1: I can't do it. Okay, I'm gonna have to listen 725 00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:44,320 Speaker 1: to after. It's hard. It's really hard. I have Billboard 726 00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:46,799 Speaker 1: ranked the eighteen songs from eighteen to one if you're 727 00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:50,600 Speaker 1: interested your opinions. So number eighteen is London Boy, which 728 00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:53,040 Speaker 1: I think you agreed was not your favorite, and also 729 00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:56,120 Speaker 1: Billboard is not favorite. You're making face so justified by 730 00:38:56,160 --> 00:39:00,319 Speaker 1: we've seen. Okay, seventeen is me yeah, because they said 731 00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:03,400 Speaker 1: was it doesn't quite fit. It doesn't wanted me to 732 00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:07,360 Speaker 1: be at the end. It doesn't without Yeah, it's not 733 00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:10,200 Speaker 1: the vibe. Sixteen Miss Americana and the Heartbreak Prints. That 734 00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:11,919 Speaker 1: one actually grew on me a little bit more. Listen 735 00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:13,239 Speaker 1: to it. That one I don't. I don't. I mean 736 00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:15,680 Speaker 1: at first listen, I wasn't crazy about it, but it 737 00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:20,480 Speaker 1: grew on me. Fifteen is I think he knows. Yeah, 738 00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:25,160 Speaker 1: short not my favorite. Number fourteen this surprise, millim were fourteen. 739 00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:30,760 Speaker 1: I forgot that you existed. That seems long. Agree heavily, heavily. 740 00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:36,640 Speaker 1: That's in my top three. Yeah, thirteen after Glow. Okay, 741 00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:38,680 Speaker 1: twelve of the Man. Now, I know you're going to 742 00:39:38,760 --> 00:39:41,160 Speaker 1: have a problem with that now, And I'm who wrote that. 743 00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:45,320 Speaker 1: The name of the person that wrote that, Bill Jason, Jason, 744 00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:49,080 Speaker 1: what's his last name? His last name is lip Shuts. 745 00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:53,120 Speaker 1: Of course, Jason lip Shuts does not like the song 746 00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:57,160 Speaker 1: of the Jason lip Shuts. I was thinking that, yet 747 00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:00,960 Speaker 1: he likes it that by the way, I think they 748 00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:02,600 Speaker 1: really like this out he's been he said, He said 749 00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:05,440 Speaker 1: this biting look at gender dynamics within the industry and 750 00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:09,000 Speaker 1: celebrity Culturescorse points for its rye humor and honest perspective. 751 00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:13,200 Speaker 1: It's also just a complete jam. So how's it? Twelve twelve? 752 00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:17,319 Speaker 1: There's a lot of good ones. I feel like Jason 753 00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:20,439 Speaker 1: lip Shuts has probably heard shut your lips so many times. 754 00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:23,160 Speaker 1: I feel I feel lame that I even said it, 755 00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:27,520 Speaker 1: so I apologize. He's probably heard his whole life, and 756 00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:30,960 Speaker 1: here I am triggering, but I got passionate. Number ten 757 00:40:31,120 --> 00:40:33,799 Speaker 1: is oh sorry. Number eleven is paper rings lower than 758 00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:35,719 Speaker 1: I expected for paper rings. See, I would have put 759 00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:41,919 Speaker 1: that definitely lower than the main forgot the smash. It's cute, 760 00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:45,759 Speaker 1: t is the archer. Can I be honest? Paper rings 761 00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:48,480 Speaker 1: meant more to me before I saw JoJo's ring. You 762 00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:53,000 Speaker 1: don't want a paper ring anymore. The line of the 763 00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:57,520 Speaker 1: song is I don't need fancy things. I'd marry you rings. 764 00:40:57,640 --> 00:41:01,279 Speaker 1: So that's the idea. It's a great sentiments out the 765 00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:06,360 Speaker 1: window now. Number nine is Death by a Thousand Cuts surprising. 766 00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:08,719 Speaker 1: I can't even think about how that one goes. It's 767 00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:13,120 Speaker 1: death by thousand, Okay, I kind of like that one. 768 00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:16,880 Speaker 1: Number eight is Cornelia Street Love Cornelian three for me, 769 00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:22,400 Speaker 1: you've had about seven songs. You're that's not incorrect, man, exist, Man, 770 00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:26,200 Speaker 1: I start got the US in cornelis number seven. You 771 00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:31,600 Speaker 1: need to calm down. Okay, okay. Number six soon you'll 772 00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:35,480 Speaker 1: get better. Number five Lover, that's a good one. That's 773 00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:37,600 Speaker 1: in my top three. Yeah, that's gonna be a wedding song. 774 00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:41,040 Speaker 1: Number four It's Nice to Have a Friend is number four. 775 00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:46,120 Speaker 1: That's a sweet song. But I love the arch of it. 776 00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:48,320 Speaker 1: It tells a little story. Yeah, like me and Phoebe. 777 00:41:48,360 --> 00:41:50,919 Speaker 1: I feel like Number three is False God, which tiny 778 00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:55,560 Speaker 1: is a fan of dude. That one is my favorite yesterday. Yeah. 779 00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:58,920 Speaker 1: Number true is Cruel Summer, which there are rumors that's 780 00:41:58,920 --> 00:42:04,960 Speaker 1: the next single who Know and the number one song. 781 00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:12,080 Speaker 1: According to Jason Daylight, it's a grand finale that encapsulate 782 00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:15,040 Speaker 1: much of what precedes it. It's true. It's a great 783 00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:17,680 Speaker 1: song to end the album. She always has that though. 784 00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:23,919 Speaker 1: Um but like her ending with clean was so beyond Yeah, 785 00:42:24,120 --> 00:42:27,200 Speaker 1: she like she likes when I send her songs, but 786 00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:29,320 Speaker 1: like she's not one to get into a whole album 787 00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:31,840 Speaker 1: like like we I and I really only do this 788 00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:36,640 Speaker 1: with Taylor, like because her lyrics and like their stories, 789 00:42:36,680 --> 00:42:38,840 Speaker 1: and she hypes it up and so you're so excited 790 00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:42,480 Speaker 1: to hear every song. I listened to it three times 791 00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:46,360 Speaker 1: from one to eighteen. I skipped me but one to seventeen, 792 00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:50,320 Speaker 1: basically three times in one day. Oh, I didn't like 793 00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:53,920 Speaker 1: three and like Friday, how he does that? Though she 794 00:42:54,040 --> 00:42:56,040 Speaker 1: listened to one song, I repeat and drive to Orange 795 00:42:56,080 --> 00:43:00,719 Speaker 1: count Yeah, I've been in there when I have to say, 796 00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:03,360 Speaker 1: Taylor is the only artist that I'll do this with, 797 00:43:03,560 --> 00:43:05,800 Speaker 1: Like I listened to her album but thank twice on Friday. 798 00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:08,279 Speaker 1: Like my favorite guy of all times, Bruce Bringsteen. He's 799 00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:10,160 Speaker 1: my favorite datist of all time. He hadn't have more recently, 800 00:43:10,400 --> 00:43:12,680 Speaker 1: barely got on my radar, but when this thing came out, 801 00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:14,560 Speaker 1: I was all over it. Okay, so I have a 802 00:43:14,600 --> 00:43:17,279 Speaker 1: lot of questions. So she wore this Dunham jacket on 803 00:43:17,320 --> 00:43:19,359 Speaker 1: the cover of Entertainment Weekly with like all these little 804 00:43:19,440 --> 00:43:21,879 Speaker 1: like Easter rug clues. Okay, and we got like the Drake. 805 00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:25,480 Speaker 1: She mentioned Drake in one of the songs. Um, there's 806 00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:28,880 Speaker 1: a lot of the like buttons came to fruition Dixie Chicks. 807 00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:30,680 Speaker 1: She has a song with Dixie Chicks. But there's a 808 00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:32,279 Speaker 1: lot of buttons on there that I still don't have 809 00:43:32,360 --> 00:43:34,520 Speaker 1: answers to that I'm very curious about, Like the Selena 810 00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:43,920 Speaker 1: Gomez button, the Friends cast Christina, Oh nice, she has Christina. 811 00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:47,840 Speaker 1: She had Christina and Meredith Yang on a button and 812 00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:51,399 Speaker 1: her cat is married like he's the guys. I don't 813 00:43:51,400 --> 00:43:54,800 Speaker 1: know any of my good jojo. I love her music. 814 00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:58,480 Speaker 1: When I hear it, I'm okay, alright, album, It's not 815 00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:01,400 Speaker 1: my place to stake anymore. No, this is probably this 816 00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:04,040 Speaker 1: is probably like normal human over here, and just like 817 00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:14,360 Speaker 1: stands what she took another sip. Is that like a 818 00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:18,640 Speaker 1: rule of them here? You just know? I mean, there 819 00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:20,520 Speaker 1: was a lot there was a Game of Thrones pin 820 00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:23,000 Speaker 1: that we're not sure what that references. Maybe that's the 821 00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:27,759 Speaker 1: man like the King and the Throne, law and order. 822 00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:30,040 Speaker 1: I mean, she has a cat named Mariska Harget, doesn't 823 00:44:30,080 --> 00:44:37,440 Speaker 1: she Yeah, yeah she does. It's named Olivia Benson, Mr Rogers. 824 00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:40,239 Speaker 1: That could be to have a friend too, you know, yeah, 825 00:44:40,800 --> 00:44:43,920 Speaker 1: maybe they're all about a friend. Becca. We got an 826 00:44:43,960 --> 00:44:46,560 Speaker 1: email from Brooke who's asking you if you knew anything 827 00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:49,440 Speaker 1: about Lover prior to release because your friend Haley is 828 00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:53,480 Speaker 1: in the squad. I knew very little, but I did 829 00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:57,240 Speaker 1: know some entail, but I have to respect, like that's 830 00:44:57,280 --> 00:45:01,360 Speaker 1: not really my friendship. Really, Taylor very kind and I 831 00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:03,960 Speaker 1: have met her, but I don't want to, like, you know, 832 00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:06,520 Speaker 1: cross boundaries understood. But now that it's out, did you 833 00:45:06,560 --> 00:45:11,120 Speaker 1: know anything before the rest of us? Yeah, like song titles. No, 834 00:45:11,320 --> 00:45:15,000 Speaker 1: no song titles and like literally barely any nothing. Like 835 00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:17,279 Speaker 1: I knew like some dates and that was it, but 836 00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:21,360 Speaker 1: like song droppings some things. Yeah, they might not like 837 00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:24,080 Speaker 1: song droppings. She's trying to stay in the inner circle, 838 00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:26,719 Speaker 1: trying to make sure the inner circle, Like you have 839 00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:28,480 Speaker 1: a connection to the inner circle, so you're trying to 840 00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:31,520 Speaker 1: maintain I can't even like say that I have an 841 00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:36,560 Speaker 1: inn because it's like, you know, I just respreend friends 842 00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:43,000 Speaker 1: of friends counts, totally counts, totally counts. Yeah, I dropped 843 00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:49,279 Speaker 1: when that happen one of the loud zips, damn it, 844 00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:51,120 Speaker 1: we watch I'm gonna drink my coffee right now and 845 00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:55,360 Speaker 1: it's still gonna be hot. Oh that's impressive. Is that 846 00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:58,719 Speaker 1: water in there? Yeah, that's a lemon in it. You 847 00:45:58,800 --> 00:46:02,440 Speaker 1: have to always ask what'since ide? Tanya? Has she pete 848 00:46:02,480 --> 00:46:08,799 Speaker 1: in hers in the car? So? Okay? To she was sacrificed. 849 00:46:08,960 --> 00:46:11,440 Speaker 1: Did y'all see that drip on me this whole time? No? No, no, 850 00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:21,719 Speaker 1: I did not appropriate. It's not I don't know what 851 00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:25,680 Speaker 1: you're talking about. Um, you know what has saved me 852 00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:29,719 Speaker 1: many times over and over again. I do know because 853 00:46:29,760 --> 00:46:33,279 Speaker 1: you've been literally talking about it. When did Oh yeah, 854 00:46:33,280 --> 00:46:34,759 Speaker 1: I tried to give it to you on her diet 855 00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:38,440 Speaker 1: swap digg. Um. I've talked about We've talked about cheers before. 856 00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:42,480 Speaker 1: I can't say enough about cheers. Um. Cheers or store 857 00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:45,440 Speaker 1: is an after alcohol aid designed to reduce the negative 858 00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:48,200 Speaker 1: effects of alcohol. 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He used 894 00:48:41,239 --> 00:48:50,320 Speaker 1: it on the floor Vegas legendary moment. I still have 895 00:48:50,400 --> 00:48:52,799 Speaker 1: that video. Are we gonna do some email? We're gonna 896 00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:55,200 Speaker 1: have some nice emails? Um, this woman anonymous, I don't 897 00:48:55,200 --> 00:48:57,000 Speaker 1: know why she's Oh yeah, you do know now that 898 00:48:57,120 --> 00:48:59,680 Speaker 1: I see this year old mom of two kids three 899 00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:01,800 Speaker 1: and five. I'm just recently getting out of a toxic 900 00:49:01,880 --> 00:49:05,520 Speaker 1: six year marriage to a narcissistic alcoholic. Now that I'm 901 00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:07,440 Speaker 1: navigating left at my own, I'm ready to find my 902 00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:11,080 Speaker 1: Becca slash Tanya. All my friendships have been surface level, 903 00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:12,840 Speaker 1: and I would love to have more genuine friends in 904 00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:14,960 Speaker 1: my life. I got pregnant at nineteen, so I've never 905 00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:16,960 Speaker 1: been able to experience going out to the bars or 906 00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:18,959 Speaker 1: having any sort of life outside a marriage and kids. 907 00:49:19,200 --> 00:49:21,399 Speaker 1: How can I start making friends and putting myself out there? 908 00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:27,120 Speaker 1: I love this. I'm so sorry um that your marriage ended, 909 00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:31,000 Speaker 1: but I'm so happy you're out of a toxic relationship 910 00:49:31,280 --> 00:49:32,680 Speaker 1: and I'm proud of you for getting out of it 911 00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:35,279 Speaker 1: because a lot of people never get out of it. Um, 912 00:49:35,719 --> 00:49:40,719 Speaker 1: you're so young, I know. UM. I feel like we 913 00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:42,920 Speaker 1: get this question a lot about a lot of people 914 00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:47,800 Speaker 1: are like after college, if I'm if I'm not working 915 00:49:48,000 --> 00:49:49,879 Speaker 1: or I'm not in an environment where I meet people, 916 00:49:50,320 --> 00:49:53,839 Speaker 1: how do I make friends as an adult? Um, that's 917 00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:57,800 Speaker 1: a good question. It is, Yeah, I don't even really know. 918 00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:04,239 Speaker 1: I don't know. It's hard. It is hard because all 919 00:50:04,239 --> 00:50:05,719 Speaker 1: of my friends when I think about our friends from 920 00:50:05,760 --> 00:50:08,120 Speaker 1: when I was in my early twenties, or the people 921 00:50:08,160 --> 00:50:11,440 Speaker 1: I work with, and nothing nothing else. So I'll tell 922 00:50:11,480 --> 00:50:16,919 Speaker 1: you how i'd like to do it. When you click 923 00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:18,800 Speaker 1: with someone because you do things like I think a 924 00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:20,680 Speaker 1: lot of time people say, oh, they just go to 925 00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:22,600 Speaker 1: work and then they go home, but it's like you 926 00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:24,719 Speaker 1: live your life, so it's like when you're at work, 927 00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:26,680 Speaker 1: or you're at a work event, or you're at the 928 00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:29,320 Speaker 1: gym or you're the grocery store, Like you meet people. 929 00:50:29,840 --> 00:50:31,839 Speaker 1: If you meet somebody that you kind of like hit 930 00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:33,239 Speaker 1: it off with, Like I remember when I met you, 931 00:50:33,520 --> 00:50:36,720 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, like we could be friends. Oh 932 00:50:37,000 --> 00:50:40,640 Speaker 1: I did not feel that for me. And then you 933 00:50:40,719 --> 00:50:44,200 Speaker 1: have laser into somebody and then you like yeah, you 934 00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:46,440 Speaker 1: like make plans and then you follow through with the plans, 935 00:50:46,480 --> 00:50:48,480 Speaker 1: like let's get coffee or like let's get lunch or something. 936 00:50:48,520 --> 00:50:50,800 Speaker 1: You make a plan and then you just stick to it. 937 00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:53,640 Speaker 1: That's so important. Actually it's a good point because you know, 938 00:50:54,080 --> 00:50:56,239 Speaker 1: I'm in Dallas right now and all of my close 939 00:50:56,280 --> 00:50:59,400 Speaker 1: friends from Dallas have moved away, and so Jordan I 940 00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:03,319 Speaker 1: kind of are trying to bind another circle at home 941 00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:05,560 Speaker 1: and we're building a new house. And one of the 942 00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:08,080 Speaker 1: girls that lives next to me, I actually met her 943 00:51:08,120 --> 00:51:10,600 Speaker 1: at the dog part and we had the best conversation, 944 00:51:11,160 --> 00:51:12,840 Speaker 1: and I was like, Wow, this is somebody that I 945 00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:14,680 Speaker 1: could And normally I'm like, I'm not a type of 946 00:51:14,719 --> 00:51:17,360 Speaker 1: person asked for a phone number, but I did. I 947 00:51:17,480 --> 00:51:19,240 Speaker 1: asked for her number. I was like, we'll be neighbors, 948 00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:21,160 Speaker 1: and I feel like that's going to be a friendship 949 00:51:21,320 --> 00:51:23,759 Speaker 1: that will continue to grow, which I'm super excited about. 950 00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:25,880 Speaker 1: But normally I would never do that totally, but I 951 00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:29,400 Speaker 1: think it's like what you said, pursuing a relationship that 952 00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:31,919 Speaker 1: maybe you feel like it's a little kind of weird 953 00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:34,920 Speaker 1: to pursue, but totally, Like I moved into this apartment complex. 954 00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:36,759 Speaker 1: I knew nobody in my apartment complex, and I left 955 00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:39,120 Speaker 1: notes on everybody's door with like little candies, And now 956 00:51:39,200 --> 00:51:41,120 Speaker 1: I have like a couple of friends in my apartment complex, 957 00:51:41,320 --> 00:51:43,080 Speaker 1: like truly. I mean they're not like best friends by 958 00:51:43,120 --> 00:51:45,719 Speaker 1: any means, but like they're awesome and I live next 959 00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:47,600 Speaker 1: to them, and like you just have to open the door. 960 00:51:47,760 --> 00:51:49,320 Speaker 1: And then when you find someone that you really like 961 00:51:49,840 --> 00:51:52,920 Speaker 1: align with you just like laser focus in or she 962 00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:56,439 Speaker 1: how how old are her kids or like or any 963 00:51:56,480 --> 00:51:58,560 Speaker 1: of the other parents, and you know that she could 964 00:51:58,600 --> 00:52:00,319 Speaker 1: you know, I'm sure there's it doesn't matter how old 965 00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:02,760 Speaker 1: you are, Like a friend's a friend meeting other parents 966 00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:05,400 Speaker 1: with a similar interests, you have children that can play together. 967 00:52:05,480 --> 00:52:08,480 Speaker 1: That's just something. I think. The thing, though, is that 968 00:52:08,640 --> 00:52:11,280 Speaker 1: she's not married anymore so now she's kind of wanting 969 00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:13,920 Speaker 1: to like have that social life that she didn't have 970 00:52:14,320 --> 00:52:16,759 Speaker 1: early twenties. You know what I did with Tanya. I 971 00:52:16,840 --> 00:52:18,800 Speaker 1: knew that she wasn't like really into me when I 972 00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:24,520 Speaker 1: first met her, you know, as a friend so focused 973 00:52:24,560 --> 00:52:26,480 Speaker 1: she's lying because I remember how I felt when I 974 00:52:26,520 --> 00:52:28,120 Speaker 1: first met her, and it wasn't that she wanted to 975 00:52:28,120 --> 00:52:31,200 Speaker 1: be friends with me. So I was like, I'm just 976 00:52:31,239 --> 00:52:34,080 Speaker 1: going to act nonchalant like around her, and she's going 977 00:52:34,120 --> 00:52:36,279 Speaker 1: to try and hang out and I'm just gonna be like, oh, yeah, sure, 978 00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:38,279 Speaker 1: come over if you want. And so I played like this, 979 00:52:38,520 --> 00:52:42,719 Speaker 1: like whatever, yeah, and then she would like just try 980 00:52:42,800 --> 00:52:45,480 Speaker 1: and barge into my apartment whenever she tried to slow 981 00:52:45,560 --> 00:52:47,799 Speaker 1: plate you. You did not allow it. I didn't. How 982 00:52:47,840 --> 00:52:50,840 Speaker 1: did it feel to be laser focused on I'm content, 983 00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:57,239 Speaker 1: I'm still it hasn't stopped. It feels good, it feels consistent. 984 00:52:57,560 --> 00:53:02,440 Speaker 1: I never think like I'm only I never feel lonely, 985 00:53:04,360 --> 00:53:06,960 Speaker 1: but it is. I mean, it's so important to have friends, 986 00:53:07,080 --> 00:53:09,399 Speaker 1: and like it's so important because I had to tell 987 00:53:09,440 --> 00:53:11,960 Speaker 1: you when I was in my longest relationship that I 988 00:53:12,400 --> 00:53:16,840 Speaker 1: was ever in, I dropped everything for him, like truly 989 00:53:17,040 --> 00:53:19,480 Speaker 1: everything and when I got out of that relationship, I 990 00:53:19,560 --> 00:53:22,160 Speaker 1: was like, I literally felt like my world had been 991 00:53:22,200 --> 00:53:24,480 Speaker 1: turned upside down. I didn't have friends, I didn't have 992 00:53:24,960 --> 00:53:27,080 Speaker 1: like anything, And so I think it was at that 993 00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:29,800 Speaker 1: point where I was like, I my friendships to me 994 00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:31,560 Speaker 1: are always going to be. I don't say they'll be 995 00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:33,960 Speaker 1: more important than my relationship will be, but like on 996 00:53:34,080 --> 00:53:36,840 Speaker 1: an equal playing field, for sure, it's I just I 997 00:53:36,960 --> 00:53:39,080 Speaker 1: listened to this Ted talk and it was healthy and 998 00:53:39,200 --> 00:53:42,759 Speaker 1: unhealthy relationships, like the boundaries, because it kind of is 999 00:53:42,840 --> 00:53:46,399 Speaker 1: a fine line of like we're all human, we all 1000 00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:49,320 Speaker 1: are territorial, and we get jealous, but there is a 1001 00:53:49,520 --> 00:53:51,839 Speaker 1: there is too much jealousy. And one of the things 1002 00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:54,040 Speaker 1: was like, of course you want to hang out with 1003 00:53:54,120 --> 00:53:56,359 Speaker 1: your significant other all the time, Like the reason you're 1004 00:53:56,440 --> 00:53:59,239 Speaker 1: dating is because you love spending time together. But the 1005 00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:01,960 Speaker 1: healthy bald jree is when you make plans with your friends, 1006 00:54:02,000 --> 00:54:05,560 Speaker 1: you keep those plans, and you intentionally have time with 1007 00:54:05,719 --> 00:54:08,560 Speaker 1: those people that were there before your significant other game. 1008 00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:12,080 Speaker 1: And I was like, that's so true because it's so easy. 1009 00:54:12,120 --> 00:54:15,400 Speaker 1: You're good at that. Yeah, yeah, you give me a 1010 00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:17,440 Speaker 1: lot of time. I don't feel like I'm lacking in 1011 00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:19,960 Speaker 1: Becca time. I also think it has to do with 1012 00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:23,680 Speaker 1: your partner to somebody that promotes you have understanding those 1013 00:54:23,760 --> 00:54:26,800 Speaker 1: relationships and like, but like her question is how do 1014 00:54:26,880 --> 00:54:29,560 Speaker 1: you meet people at this phase of life? And I 1015 00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:33,960 Speaker 1: think a lot of people would say church, Yeah, if 1016 00:54:34,000 --> 00:54:41,000 Speaker 1: you're not religious, I think you maybe intramural sports, um, 1017 00:54:41,440 --> 00:54:44,279 Speaker 1: And then like you said, things where there's other kids 1018 00:54:44,360 --> 00:54:46,759 Speaker 1: there because you're not the only single mom, you're not 1019 00:54:46,840 --> 00:54:48,719 Speaker 1: the only person who's divorced with kids, and you're going 1020 00:54:48,760 --> 00:54:52,200 Speaker 1: to find someone who you connect to, maybe even specifically 1021 00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:54,320 Speaker 1: for that reason. Oh yeah, Like I have gym friends. 1022 00:54:55,000 --> 00:54:59,120 Speaker 1: Yeah the gym, Yeah, I only see them in my classes. 1023 00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:02,200 Speaker 1: Those are pretty what basic jumping off of what you said, Tanya, 1024 00:55:02,880 --> 00:55:04,760 Speaker 1: I think if your goal is to make new friends 1025 00:55:04,840 --> 00:55:07,360 Speaker 1: and maybe depending on what your personality is, like you know, 1026 00:55:07,440 --> 00:55:08,960 Speaker 1: the next time you go to a coffee shop and 1027 00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:11,680 Speaker 1: maybe you see someone that's sitting alone engage in a conversation. 1028 00:55:11,760 --> 00:55:13,280 Speaker 1: You never know if you're going to click with somebody, 1029 00:55:13,560 --> 00:55:16,440 Speaker 1: But put yourself out there in a way that allows 1030 00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:20,200 Speaker 1: relationships to potentially form. So I mean everyone goes to 1031 00:55:20,200 --> 00:55:22,440 Speaker 1: coffee shops, everyone goes to grocery stores, everyone goes to 1032 00:55:22,640 --> 00:55:25,640 Speaker 1: you know who whatever, but putting yourself out there just 1033 00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:28,920 Speaker 1: for a relationship friendship purpose. I think you can go 1034 00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:31,240 Speaker 1: to like your Okay, this is like so so creeper, 1035 00:55:31,320 --> 00:55:33,279 Speaker 1: but like kind of smart. If you go to your 1036 00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:37,000 Speaker 1: favorite spots in town tagged on Instagram and then see 1037 00:55:37,040 --> 00:55:38,640 Speaker 1: who post pictures like if you really like to go 1038 00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:40,239 Speaker 1: to berries or if you really like to go to 1039 00:55:40,360 --> 00:55:43,279 Speaker 1: like to like the people going now, and then you 1040 00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:47,800 Speaker 1: can like DM them Oh yeah, okay, I'd wait to 1041 00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:52,560 Speaker 1: actually cut it off. After what Jojo said and like that, 1042 00:55:53,440 --> 00:55:58,040 Speaker 1: I always take it. Just like when we were letting 1043 00:55:58,080 --> 00:56:00,960 Speaker 1: go shopping, you were like, should we all oh yeah, 1044 00:56:00,960 --> 00:56:03,000 Speaker 1: oh yeah, because we thought was when they thought we 1045 00:56:03,080 --> 00:56:04,719 Speaker 1: found the dress, and so I was like, should we 1046 00:56:04,800 --> 00:56:08,480 Speaker 1: all like do a giant hug around the dress? Was 1047 00:56:08,600 --> 00:56:12,160 Speaker 1: like no, just like done. She's like no like that. 1048 00:56:12,320 --> 00:56:14,200 Speaker 1: At that point, I was like, okay. By the way, 1049 00:56:14,239 --> 00:56:16,799 Speaker 1: the issue with your kids friends parents, it goes one 1050 00:56:16,840 --> 00:56:19,759 Speaker 1: of two ways. One is you love the parents. And 1051 00:56:19,880 --> 00:56:22,319 Speaker 1: we had this with one of my daughter's friends. Parents 1052 00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:23,960 Speaker 1: are great, used to hang out all the time. Well 1053 00:56:24,080 --> 00:56:26,640 Speaker 1: they grew apart to the daughters. No fault of anyone 1054 00:56:26,680 --> 00:56:28,480 Speaker 1: today is kind of wet in different paths, and so 1055 00:56:28,560 --> 00:56:30,320 Speaker 1: now we never get to see the parents anymore because 1056 00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:32,719 Speaker 1: the kids don't hang out anymore, and it's awkward now 1057 00:56:32,760 --> 00:56:34,759 Speaker 1: that they're teenagers. They'd be like, it'd be weird to 1058 00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:38,080 Speaker 1: throw them together. And then the other way is the 1059 00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:40,480 Speaker 1: kids are really getting along with his other kid, and 1060 00:56:40,520 --> 00:56:42,600 Speaker 1: then you get with their parents, you're like, oh, I 1061 00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:44,240 Speaker 1: guess we're gonna be spending a lot of time together 1062 00:56:44,360 --> 00:56:47,319 Speaker 1: now that their besties. Okay, you never know what you're 1063 00:56:47,360 --> 00:56:50,440 Speaker 1: gonna get your thrust together. It's true. But also she 1064 00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:52,480 Speaker 1: doesn't have to find people who have kids, like if 1065 00:56:52,520 --> 00:56:54,600 Speaker 1: she's at a workout class, that she doesn't have to 1066 00:56:54,680 --> 00:56:58,759 Speaker 1: be friends because she's looking for something outside of her 1067 00:56:59,719 --> 00:57:02,319 Speaker 1: Like workout classes are such a great way to meet people, 1068 00:57:02,640 --> 00:57:06,560 Speaker 1: like going to the trenches together. Seriously, there's a bonding 1069 00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:08,080 Speaker 1: thing when it comes to you don't know. I know that, 1070 00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:10,279 Speaker 1: like you cannot know the next person at all, But 1071 00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:11,759 Speaker 1: then when you walk out of that class, you feel 1072 00:57:11,800 --> 00:57:15,200 Speaker 1: connected and there's something to talk about there. So I 1073 00:57:15,280 --> 00:57:16,880 Speaker 1: think if you have like your friends that you always 1074 00:57:16,880 --> 00:57:18,480 Speaker 1: seen the same time and then they aren't there for 1075 00:57:18,520 --> 00:57:21,160 Speaker 1: a couple of weeks, like where were it was on vacation, 1076 00:57:21,360 --> 00:57:25,160 Speaker 1: like thanks for noticing I made friends with my Berry's 1077 00:57:25,160 --> 00:57:28,440 Speaker 1: bootcam trainer, like you know, is not funny, Like I 1078 00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:30,760 Speaker 1: don't like how she makes me feel in the class, 1079 00:57:30,840 --> 00:57:34,760 Speaker 1: but afterwards to do Yeah, all right, we got this 1080 00:57:34,840 --> 00:57:38,920 Speaker 1: one from Hannah Hannah McKinley here, she says, Hannah McKinley here, 1081 00:57:38,960 --> 00:57:41,040 Speaker 1: and we believe that we are the Becca Antonia of 1082 00:57:41,120 --> 00:57:52,000 Speaker 1: our generation. Generation A single and combined have gone on 1083 00:57:52,080 --> 00:57:54,720 Speaker 1: probably seventy five days in the last five years. Yet 1084 00:57:54,880 --> 00:57:57,200 Speaker 1: we wouldn't mind if we were thirty and still romping 1085 00:57:57,200 --> 00:58:02,880 Speaker 1: around like y'all still. First of all, the user, the 1086 00:58:02,920 --> 00:58:12,560 Speaker 1: word romping is generation. Your podcast has literally brought us closer, 1087 00:58:12,640 --> 00:58:15,880 Speaker 1: just like when Tanya Peet or hydro Flask your Hamster 1088 00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:19,120 Speaker 1: Issues episode kept it from literally shanking each other on 1089 00:58:19,200 --> 00:58:21,840 Speaker 1: the way home from stage coach last year. We are 1090 00:58:21,920 --> 00:58:23,720 Speaker 1: now just down here trying to live our best lives. 1091 00:58:23,840 --> 00:58:25,720 Speaker 1: Yet every day we go on leads to nothing more 1092 00:58:25,760 --> 00:58:28,200 Speaker 1: than a two week relation. How does one continue to 1093 00:58:28,240 --> 00:58:31,120 Speaker 1: explore the dating world war constantly being thrown in the pooper? 1094 00:58:31,280 --> 00:58:33,120 Speaker 1: Can you say that word on the air, I don't know, 1095 00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:39,480 Speaker 1: I don't even know what you're talking about. Romping around around. 1096 00:58:40,280 --> 00:58:48,080 Speaker 1: I'm not romping any romping either, sons rom I'm definite 1097 00:58:48,160 --> 00:58:51,600 Speaker 1: sans romp, Like, couldn't be the more opposite of romp 1098 00:58:53,960 --> 00:59:03,400 Speaker 1: romp stomp. I don't know. Um, how do you continue 1099 00:59:03,440 --> 00:59:07,200 Speaker 1: to explore the dating world while you're constantly being let down? Which? 1100 00:59:07,960 --> 00:59:10,000 Speaker 1: How do you keep going? It's a very discouraging process. 1101 00:59:10,160 --> 00:59:15,240 Speaker 1: For sure. You have to keep a hopeful heart. You 1102 00:59:15,440 --> 00:59:18,320 Speaker 1: have to keep a hopeful heart because if you always like, 1103 00:59:18,800 --> 00:59:21,240 Speaker 1: every guy that you date is going to like suck 1104 00:59:21,360 --> 00:59:23,400 Speaker 1: until they don't suck. So it's like you just have 1105 00:59:23,520 --> 00:59:26,400 Speaker 1: to keep at it. I think that's true of life everything, 1106 00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:29,440 Speaker 1: whether it's professional or friendships or personal goals. You just 1107 00:59:29,520 --> 00:59:31,640 Speaker 1: have to keep a hopeful heart. Yeah, I love that 1108 00:59:32,040 --> 00:59:35,880 Speaker 1: you have to. I Um, it's hard now because I'm 1109 00:59:36,600 --> 00:59:39,720 Speaker 1: I have thought though, like if I wasn't in a relationship, 1110 00:59:39,880 --> 00:59:41,920 Speaker 1: what would my mindset be right now? If I was 1111 00:59:42,000 --> 00:59:44,880 Speaker 1: still dating? Interesting? I know I had this the other day. 1112 00:59:45,600 --> 00:59:48,680 Speaker 1: Could you be on the dating apps? I my my 1113 00:59:48,880 --> 00:59:53,000 Speaker 1: process of the dating apps was like delete and then redownload. 1114 00:59:53,480 --> 00:59:55,240 Speaker 1: I was kind of in a wild phase when I 1115 00:59:55,440 --> 00:59:58,400 Speaker 1: when I got into a relationship, I was like doing 1116 00:59:58,520 --> 01:00:01,800 Speaker 1: my thing you know. So when that happened, I was like, Okay, 1117 01:00:01,880 --> 01:00:04,280 Speaker 1: well I guess all right, I'll stop that. But I 1118 01:00:04,440 --> 01:00:06,160 Speaker 1: was like kind of been a phase of being like, 1119 01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:10,160 Speaker 1: oh whatever, I'll do whatever I want. Um, so I'd 1120 01:00:10,200 --> 01:00:12,200 Speaker 1: probably still be doing that, but I would I literally 1121 01:00:12,280 --> 01:00:13,880 Speaker 1: if I went on two bad dates in a row, 1122 01:00:13,880 --> 01:00:17,360 Speaker 1: I'd be like, I'm done for a year. Like it 1123 01:00:17,520 --> 01:00:21,000 Speaker 1: does get like you going to dates or like multiple 1124 01:00:21,080 --> 01:00:24,440 Speaker 1: dates and it's not going anywhere. It is like it's 1125 01:00:24,440 --> 01:00:26,680 Speaker 1: not even about like going on a bad date isn't 1126 01:00:26,760 --> 01:00:28,760 Speaker 1: like going I'd rather go on a bad date than 1127 01:00:28,840 --> 01:00:30,480 Speaker 1: go on a date with like a guy that like 1128 01:00:31,280 --> 01:00:35,000 Speaker 1: didn't call me back or like ghosted me. I mean 1129 01:00:35,320 --> 01:00:37,600 Speaker 1: a bad experience. It's a bad experience. Yeah, But it's 1130 01:00:37,640 --> 01:00:38,880 Speaker 1: like the dates were great and then all of a 1131 01:00:38,920 --> 01:00:42,760 Speaker 1: sudden he's like sons, like, Okay, what happened here? Do 1132 01:00:42,760 --> 01:00:44,960 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? But it doesn't like messes 1133 01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:46,680 Speaker 1: with your head because you're like, what was it about 1134 01:00:46,680 --> 01:00:48,760 Speaker 1: me that was? You constantly put it on like you 1135 01:00:48,960 --> 01:00:51,000 Speaker 1: so you're constantly being like, what's wrong with me? What's 1136 01:00:51,040 --> 01:00:54,000 Speaker 1: wrong with me? What's wrong with me? Nothing's wrong with you? Yeah, 1137 01:00:54,120 --> 01:00:56,640 Speaker 1: And I think to be honest, I I have been 1138 01:00:56,720 --> 01:00:59,640 Speaker 1: someone who's ghosted or like been like the one who's 1139 01:00:59,680 --> 01:01:03,560 Speaker 1: been not interested, so I've also I think i'd be 1140 01:01:03,680 --> 01:01:07,040 Speaker 1: more aware of that of being like, okay, be more 1141 01:01:07,520 --> 01:01:09,840 Speaker 1: like communicate more. If you didn't feel it, and you 1142 01:01:09,880 --> 01:01:12,040 Speaker 1: can tell that they're feeling it, then let them know, 1143 01:01:12,240 --> 01:01:14,920 Speaker 1: you know, I think I would handle it differently. Romping 1144 01:01:15,000 --> 01:01:18,320 Speaker 1: around in my third Send Your Butterfly and I actually 1145 01:01:18,360 --> 01:01:20,360 Speaker 1: had this conversation about ghosting and I was like, you 1146 01:01:20,400 --> 01:01:21,880 Speaker 1: were a ghost anyone? And he was like, have you 1147 01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:24,880 Speaker 1: ever been ghosting? And I was like I was remember 1148 01:01:25,120 --> 01:01:27,320 Speaker 1: Mr Stilt kind of tried to ghost me and I 1149 01:01:27,400 --> 01:01:29,400 Speaker 1: was like and I wouldn't let him. Like followed up 1150 01:01:29,400 --> 01:01:32,320 Speaker 1: like two weeks later, I was like, so, um, what's 1151 01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:39,760 Speaker 1: happening here? I was, um, Mr d d Yeah, he 1152 01:01:39,960 --> 01:01:42,400 Speaker 1: like ghosted me. But I remember I was like, no, no, no, 1153 01:01:44,640 --> 01:01:47,680 Speaker 1: not like where I started. Adults like just have a conversation, 1154 01:01:48,040 --> 01:01:51,320 Speaker 1: I know, and like, I actually not that I get 1155 01:01:51,400 --> 01:01:53,520 Speaker 1: it when you're younger, but it is you're like you're 1156 01:01:53,560 --> 01:01:55,520 Speaker 1: like scared, you don't want to her anyone's feelings, but 1157 01:01:55,600 --> 01:01:58,240 Speaker 1: it's just like at some point it's like just say 1158 01:01:58,440 --> 01:02:00,960 Speaker 1: like like you want to be serious and I'm still 1159 01:02:01,080 --> 01:02:05,720 Speaker 1: romping around. So it's like fine, d Sianara, thanks for 1160 01:02:05,760 --> 01:02:16,320 Speaker 1: the communicado. No no, no, no, no, no not Tanya 1161 01:02:16,400 --> 01:02:20,720 Speaker 1: shall not be ghosted. Don't let it happen. It's got big. 1162 01:02:22,400 --> 01:02:24,240 Speaker 1: Hey we're going to San Francisco. We're gonna talk about that. 1163 01:02:24,320 --> 01:02:27,520 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I'm so another trip with Tanya. I 1164 01:02:27,640 --> 01:02:32,680 Speaker 1: am thrilled A short flight. Okay, that's actually what are 1165 01:02:32,720 --> 01:02:34,480 Speaker 1: we gonna experiment with? I think we actually a lot 1166 01:02:34,480 --> 01:02:36,200 Speaker 1: of people reach out to me asking if we were 1167 01:02:36,200 --> 01:02:42,040 Speaker 1: gonna what happened you went on speed for a people 1168 01:02:42,080 --> 01:02:46,120 Speaker 1: to hit the two X button on their phone. People 1169 01:02:46,160 --> 01:02:47,720 Speaker 1: have been hitting me up asking if we're going to 1170 01:02:47,800 --> 01:02:50,160 Speaker 1: have the debate of air pods, and so I thought 1171 01:02:50,160 --> 01:02:51,800 Speaker 1: maybe we could do for the San Francisco flight, but 1172 01:02:51,800 --> 01:02:53,280 Speaker 1: maybe we should say it for the New York flight, 1173 01:02:55,280 --> 01:02:58,919 Speaker 1: or maybe I don't want should swede. Yeah okay, okay, yeah, 1174 01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:01,800 Speaker 1: you tell it. Let me think how this goes. Okay. 1175 01:03:02,240 --> 01:03:04,720 Speaker 1: The question is when the poll basically pull air b 1176 01:03:05,280 --> 01:03:08,000 Speaker 1: r B. When people wear air pods or earbuds in 1177 01:03:08,080 --> 01:03:12,600 Speaker 1: general on a flight, are they saying leave me, leave 1178 01:03:12,640 --> 01:03:15,320 Speaker 1: me alone, don't talk to me, or being on before 1179 01:03:15,360 --> 01:03:21,440 Speaker 1: you give your or b They're just hoping that somebody 1180 01:03:21,480 --> 01:03:24,080 Speaker 1: will take the time to say hello to them, a 1181 01:03:24,760 --> 01:03:26,640 Speaker 1: like I do not want to have my headphones are on. 1182 01:03:26,760 --> 01:03:28,800 Speaker 1: I don't like to be mess with it. Of course, 1183 01:03:29,720 --> 01:03:36,720 Speaker 1: agree disagree. It's smiley on the treadmill over there, like 1184 01:03:37,720 --> 01:03:41,640 Speaker 1: what she thinks. It's a sign of people just wanting 1185 01:03:41,680 --> 01:03:45,120 Speaker 1: to be asked. That is very confusing. You're really throwing 1186 01:03:45,120 --> 01:03:48,320 Speaker 1: people off those and bixed signals. They're really I feel 1187 01:03:48,360 --> 01:03:49,960 Speaker 1: like when you have your earphones and you just you 1188 01:03:50,320 --> 01:03:53,480 Speaker 1: just like you're just too shy to approach people. Is 1189 01:03:53,560 --> 01:03:57,160 Speaker 1: this same react? Joe's reaction is the exact same reaction 1190 01:03:57,200 --> 01:04:00,440 Speaker 1: I have, which is shell shock. So we're check this 1191 01:04:00,560 --> 01:04:03,360 Speaker 1: out on our flight to New York City. Imagine how 1192 01:04:03,480 --> 01:04:05,760 Speaker 1: this is going to have anyone ever taps you with 1193 01:04:05,800 --> 01:04:09,120 Speaker 1: your head your earphones on, No, I've I've engaging conversation, 1194 01:04:09,160 --> 01:04:13,560 Speaker 1: and they'll pull their headphones out. They are so alloyed. 1195 01:04:14,560 --> 01:04:17,600 Speaker 1: That's like, that's like tany like would be like I 1196 01:04:17,720 --> 01:04:19,760 Speaker 1: was running carrying it and that's how Jonah Hill and 1197 01:04:19,800 --> 01:04:22,000 Speaker 1: he had a hat on and sunglasses on and was 1198 01:04:22,080 --> 01:04:25,080 Speaker 1: looking down the whole time as meant he wanted me 1199 01:04:25,120 --> 01:04:27,000 Speaker 1: to come up and talk to him, take a photo. 1200 01:04:27,320 --> 01:04:33,080 Speaker 1: He wanted me to come take take I love you. 1201 01:04:33,640 --> 01:04:37,160 Speaker 1: Was like, sure, that's what I love it. But it's 1202 01:04:37,200 --> 01:04:41,560 Speaker 1: just so like sweet. So anyway, they can try the 1203 01:04:41,600 --> 01:04:43,240 Speaker 1: air pods on your way to San Francisco. It's a 1204 01:04:43,280 --> 01:04:44,960 Speaker 1: short flight, but you can try it if you want to. 1205 01:04:45,080 --> 01:04:47,840 Speaker 1: It's the pod raising the Giants. It's this Thursday, at 1206 01:04:47,880 --> 01:04:49,880 Speaker 1: the twenty nine of August, and there's going to be 1207 01:04:49,920 --> 01:04:52,920 Speaker 1: a meet up before the game. You can meet Tanya, 1208 01:04:53,160 --> 01:04:55,880 Speaker 1: you can meet Becca, you can meet Dean anglerd Hey Dean, 1209 01:04:58,480 --> 01:05:03,640 Speaker 1: let's go. Uh And if you want to do this, 1210 01:05:03,880 --> 01:05:08,120 Speaker 1: go to Group Maddics dot Events slash Scrubbing. I'm sorry, 1211 01:05:08,200 --> 01:05:10,160 Speaker 1: I know that's a complicated u r L, but it's 1212 01:05:10,200 --> 01:05:13,480 Speaker 1: Group Maddics g r O U P M A t 1213 01:05:13,720 --> 01:05:18,000 Speaker 1: I c S dot Events slash Scrubbing. You can meet Becca, Tanya, Dean, 1214 01:05:18,080 --> 01:05:22,000 Speaker 1: and Vanessa before the game at Oracle Field supposed in 1215 01:05:22,040 --> 01:05:24,880 Speaker 1: the Facebook group too point. Thank you good. We'll do 1216 01:05:24,960 --> 01:05:28,800 Speaker 1: some swipe ups too, Sancisco. There you go. That'll be 1217 01:05:28,840 --> 01:05:34,680 Speaker 1: the next episode. Oh so sad. We could not be 1218 01:05:34,840 --> 01:05:37,480 Speaker 1: more thankful for having you in this in o R today. 1219 01:05:38,280 --> 01:05:43,120 Speaker 1: I thoroughly enjoyed scrubbing in. I loved having Wait before 1220 01:05:43,160 --> 01:05:44,640 Speaker 1: you go, what are you doing with your other ring? 1221 01:05:45,120 --> 01:05:48,520 Speaker 1: We're keeping it, keeping it. It's it's so sentimental, so 1222 01:05:48,560 --> 01:05:50,480 Speaker 1: we're gonna keep it. Either pass it down, turn it 1223 01:05:50,520 --> 01:05:52,960 Speaker 1: into a necklace. We don't know, but we're not definitely. 1224 01:05:53,000 --> 01:05:54,600 Speaker 1: He's like, I don't want to give that away or 1225 01:05:54,680 --> 01:05:57,200 Speaker 1: sell it, so for sure you can. What is that? 1226 01:05:57,360 --> 01:06:01,959 Speaker 1: Why would we hold a great story, the greatest story 1227 01:06:02,000 --> 01:06:05,720 Speaker 1: of all time? This was fun, y'all can't wait to 1228 01:06:05,760 --> 01:06:08,040 Speaker 1: come back. Would you like to call time of Death 1229 01:06:08,080 --> 01:06:15,960 Speaker 1: of the podcast before it's over? It's I think we 1230 01:06:16,000 --> 01:06:18,440 Speaker 1: should do like a video where we're like scrubbing in, 1231 01:06:18,960 --> 01:06:21,000 Speaker 1: like you and I are scrubbing in in the bathroom, 1232 01:06:21,080 --> 01:06:23,680 Speaker 1: and then like like they can pay Justes and like, oh, 1233 01:06:23,880 --> 01:06:26,160 Speaker 1: you guys have a new doctor surgeon in the o R. 1234 01:06:26,600 --> 01:06:28,520 Speaker 1: And then we can like walk in and JoJo's in 1235 01:06:28,560 --> 01:06:32,040 Speaker 1: here like actually scrubbing. Yeah. Yeah, and I have the 1236 01:06:32,120 --> 01:06:37,120 Speaker 1: masks quick video, so be waiting for that on the 1237 01:06:37,200 --> 01:06:41,840 Speaker 1: podcast on the not on the podcast what I do? 1238 01:06:42,080 --> 01:06:48,000 Speaker 1: Time of Death twelve forty six, That is pretty goot, 1239 01:06:49,440 --> 01:06:51,959 Speaker 1: so cute. I just never wanted to end. I can't 1240 01:06:52,000 --> 01:06:54,360 Speaker 1: believe you bug people on the head. Wait