Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hi. What's your name? My love? My love?
Speaker 1: I'm going to call you M. I'm going to call
Speaker 1: you M L.
Speaker 2: No because I want you to say something like, ah,
Speaker 2: talk about today, my love.
Speaker 1: No, that's that's creepy. I don't like that.
Speaker 2: I thought I would get you.
Speaker 1: Well, mL, mL, what's up? How you doing?
Speaker 2: I'm good. I was I'm about to. Well, I'm not
Speaker 2: about to. I'm getting ready, just doing my makeup while
Speaker 2: watching Meet the Parents. And I called you like one
Speaker 2: hundred and seven times.
Speaker 1: Well, what is it you wanted to talk about?
Speaker 2: Oh? I wanted to talk about when I met my
Speaker 2: ex boyfriend on chat Rolette and that resulted in me
Speaker 2: moving from California to Copenhagen for two and a half years.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, how was how was that journey?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 4: It was.
Speaker 2: It was crazy. Do you know what chatterlette is? I
Speaker 2: feel like when I've told people this story, they're like,
Speaker 2: what's Chatroulette?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Of course, Chatroulette is a place where you can
Speaker 1: go to see people jerk off all over the world.
Speaker 2: Yes, basically. Yeah, And this was a long time ago.
Speaker 2: This was in like, this was when Chatroulette was really new.
Speaker 2: It was like two thousand and I don't know, nineteen
Speaker 2: or something or not, nineteen nine, and my friend and
Speaker 2: I used to go on there together and just suck
Speaker 2: with people. And there was one day I went on
Speaker 2: by myself. I had time to kill. Yeah, it was
Speaker 2: just a bunch of dudes jerking off and you just
Speaker 2: press next until you meet someone that's normal, and yeah,
Speaker 2: it was this dude. And we didn't even talk for
Speaker 2: very long, but yeah, we ended up becoming pen pals
Speaker 2: for about a year. And then after a year, I
Speaker 2: was like, I've never been to Europe. I don't even
Speaker 2: know what Denmark. I knew nothing about Denmark, never was
Speaker 2: on my radar. And I was like, would it be
Speaker 2: weird if I came to Denmark and you know, stayed
Speaker 2: there for like a week or something, just to go
Speaker 2: to Europe for the first time. And he said no,
Speaker 2: And everyone thought I was going to be murdered, Like
Speaker 2: my friends had like a going away party for me,
Speaker 2: because everyone was convinced I wasn't going to come back.
Speaker 2: And yeah, I went and we ended up dating like
Speaker 2: right away, and like a year. We were long distance
Speaker 2: for a year. I would go out there every few
Speaker 2: months for like a month at a time, and Yeah.
Speaker 2: Eventually I got a job out there as an no
Speaker 2: pair and that's what allowed me to live out there.
Speaker 2: And that shit was crazy, because a no pair, like
Speaker 2: you're supposed to kind of live with a family in
Speaker 2: exchange for pocket money and just having the experience of
Speaker 2: living in another country, in a different culture or whatever.
Speaker 2: You're supposed to be kind of like a member of
Speaker 2: the family. I didn't know what opairing was before I
Speaker 2: started applying for it, and this lady, she told me
Speaker 2: right away that she expected a little bit more like
Speaker 2: her standards were a little higher. And I was so
Speaker 2: desperate to move out there, and I had interviewed with
Speaker 2: so many families that fell through that I was like, sure, yeah, whatever.
Speaker 2: I didn't think much of it, but yeah, that bitch
Speaker 2: had me working six days a week, sometimes seven days
Speaker 2: a week, and I made her and her two kids breakfast, lunch,
Speaker 2: and dinner seven days a week on I had Sundays off,
Speaker 2: and on Saturdays I would have to make, you know,
Speaker 2: enough dinner for them to have, breakfast, lunch, and dinner
Speaker 2: for them to have for two days. I cleaned her
Speaker 2: entire house. She was hell a rich she lived in
Speaker 2: like a mansion. Clean that shit, mowed her lawn. I
Speaker 2: had never mowed a lawn in my life, trimmed these
Speaker 2: hedges that were like ten feet tall. It never done
Speaker 2: that shit before. She had me like weigh her food
Speaker 2: and keep an inventory like in an Excel sheet, and
Speaker 2: it was it was intense. It was very intense.
Speaker 1: Did you get paid at all or or was this
Speaker 1: like just in exchange for living?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: I got paid, but man, I was living extremely paycheck
Speaker 2: to paycheck. I've never lived that paycheck to paycheck in
Speaker 2: my entire life, because Denmark is such an expensive country.
Speaker 2: And the first like three months I lived in her
Speaker 2: house in a room just to really get a feel
Speaker 2: for what the expectations are and get to know her
Speaker 2: kids and stuff, because part of what I had to do,
Speaker 2: on top of everything else was take her kids to school,
Speaker 2: them up from school, teach them English, make sure they
Speaker 2: did their homework, aise them, like everything. And after three
Speaker 2: months she whupped my pay so I could get an
Speaker 2: apartment with my friend. But she was like that the
Speaker 2: expectations are going to be higher, and I was like okay,
Speaker 2: but I mean I had no choice. I did not
Speaker 2: want to live with them anymore. It was very hard
Speaker 2: working like that, and then going home is just going
Speaker 2: upstairs to a room. I was just in a room
Speaker 2: all day because I don't want to hang out with them.
Speaker 2: And she was very crazy. I thought it was normal
Speaker 2: at first. I'm like, I'm in a new culture. I
Speaker 2: don't know, maybe everyone out here weighs their fucking oregano
Speaker 2: and then puts it in the next smell sheet.
Speaker 1: And you were weighing food and putting it in excel. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: is that a Danish thing or this lady?
Speaker 2: No, it's her. I learned it was her because after
Speaker 2: like months of doing that, I was out with friends
Speaker 2: one night, just exhausted, and I was just like, man,
Speaker 2: telling them about all the shit she's having me do.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, is that what you guys do out here?
Speaker 2: And they were like no, what the fuck? So yeah,
Speaker 2: she was just crazy, I guess. And she had a
Speaker 2: huge basement and in the basement was so much food,
Speaker 2: like multiple freezers and fridges completely full, and every like
Speaker 2: every other week, I would have to go down there
Speaker 2: and take inventory and put it in a spreadsheet. And
Speaker 2: I don't know why she had me do that. I
Speaker 2: think it was she had she had some issues for sure.
Speaker 2: I think it was just control. She wanted, like control
Speaker 2: of her environment because she didn't have control, and a
Speaker 2: lot of other aspects of her life I learned over time. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it was pretty wild. I still keep in touch with
Speaker 2: the little girl. She's eighteen now, which is crazy.
Speaker 1: But oh yeah, how was How were the kids? Were
Speaker 1: they nice or were they like Brad?
Speaker 2: The little girl, I mean, her and I were cool.
Speaker 2: She was the older one, she was eight when I
Speaker 2: started there, and the little boy was so little, he
Speaker 2: was like three, So I didn't really build a relationship
Speaker 2: with him because he really just spoke zero English, and
Speaker 2: no matter how much I would work with him and
Speaker 2: try to teach him, he just, I don't know, didn't
Speaker 2: want to learn English. But the little girl learned English
Speaker 2: so fast, and so her and I were cool, but
Speaker 2: she was out of absolutely out of control. She would
Speaker 2: just straight up be like fuck you to her mom
Speaker 2: and like this is bullshit. Yeah, and it was tight
Speaker 2: because I was like, dang, she's saying so much I
Speaker 2: wish I could say to her, but she's like my boss,
Speaker 2: So yeah, I had to.
Speaker 1: So you you also hated this lady.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was complex because I hated her in a
Speaker 2: lot of ways, because she would really hold over my head,
Speaker 2: like deporting me. And I moved to Denmark to be
Speaker 2: with my boyfriend, so I was like, you know, going
Speaker 2: back to the USA was my worst fear, and I
Speaker 2: felt like I was working my fucking ass off and
Speaker 2: if I didn't do one thing to her standards, it
Speaker 2: would be like, hey, before you leave for the night, like,
Speaker 2: do you mind if we sit down, and it's like, oh,
Speaker 2: fuck what, And it would just be this intense conversation
Speaker 2: of her base and then her being like, you know,
Speaker 2: I really don't want to send you back to the US,
Speaker 2: but I don't how to know what else to do.
Speaker 2: This can't continue, and I'm like, okay, I forgot to
Speaker 2: pack like an apple in the kid's lunch or something.
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's something so tiny.
Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, this sounds like a cunt.
Speaker 2: Yeah. But at the same time, I felt really sad
Speaker 2: for her because I feel like I learned stuff about
Speaker 2: her that a lot of her family didn't know, Like
Speaker 2: she her dream was to become to like work on
Speaker 2: Wall Street in New York. She's super smart. She was
Speaker 2: the CEO of the energy like the solar energy company
Speaker 2: in Denmark and her ex husband lived in China. He's
Speaker 2: super rich, like owned some pharmaceutical shit in China, and
Speaker 2: basically I learned that she got pregnant by him super young.
Speaker 2: He's about like almost fifteen years older than her, and
Speaker 2: it just like put all her dreams of moving to
Speaker 2: the US and doing all these things on hold to
Speaker 2: have kids with him. And then he ended up having
Speaker 2: an affair in China because he would go there for
Speaker 2: business all the time, and then basically was like, Hey,
Speaker 2: I actually love this woman in China, so I'm going
Speaker 2: to move to China and peace. So she was like
Speaker 2: a single mom while he was with his woman in
Speaker 2: China that he cheated on her with, and then he
Speaker 2: had a baby with her and the kids, the kids
Speaker 2: would like skype him once a week and it was
Speaker 2: only for thirty minutes, and by then I had learned
Speaker 2: Danish pretty well, and their conversations would always be like, hey,
Speaker 2: I got you guys at present. You want to guess
Speaker 2: what it is, and then the kids would be guessing
Speaker 2: what it is, and then oh, thirty minutes are up.
Speaker 2: All right, talk to you next week. That was like
Speaker 2: the extent, and they would visit him once a year
Speaker 2: and I got offered to go and I would be paid,
Speaker 2: but I really thought about it, and the vibes were off.
Speaker 2: I was like, hell no, this guy sounds crazy and
Speaker 2: I'll be stuck in China. I'm good, wow like this, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: she would like I felt like she had no one
Speaker 2: else to talk to. I mean, she didn't really have friends.
Speaker 2: I would offer to keep the kids over the weekend.
Speaker 2: I'm like, do you want like a weekend alone? Like,
Speaker 2: do you want to go out go on dates? I
Speaker 2: don't know something, because all she did was work and
Speaker 2: then be with the kids. That's it. And yeah, I
Speaker 2: feel like she didn't have anyone to talk to about it.
Speaker 2: And it's crazy because so fast forwarding to I'm already
Speaker 2: back in the US two and a half years later,
Speaker 2: it's like five months after I'm home. Oh shit, I
Speaker 2: shouldn't have said her name.
Speaker 1: We can believe it out.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: I don't think she listens to this, but I don't
Speaker 2: know who knows. But anyway, the little girl she messaged
Speaker 2: me on Facebook, and her English was all weird and broken,
Speaker 2: and I know she speaks perfect English, so I was confused,
Speaker 2: and there was something about her mom and so I
Speaker 2: messaged her uncle, her mom's brother, and was like, hey,
Speaker 2: messaging me about her mom, Like what's up. And he's like, oh,
Speaker 2: her mom. I don't want to say her name. Her
Speaker 2: mom died. She fell off a mountain.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Wow, fell off a mountain.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: So crazy wow? Crazy. Yeah. So every year the whole
Speaker 2: family would go to France to like ski and they
Speaker 2: would just do rich people stuff for like a few weeks.
Speaker 2: And I guess they were there and she said I'm
Speaker 2: gonna go on a hike by herself, which already is
Speaker 2: a red flag because she never did that shit. She
Speaker 2: always wanted the kids to like do that stuff with her.
Speaker 2: And hours went by, it's getting dark, everyone's like where
Speaker 2: is she? And they get a knock on the door
Speaker 2: and it's like a mountain ranger and he has her
Speaker 2: ID and it's like, you guys know this woman And
Speaker 2: they said yeah, and they're like, we found her body
Speaker 2: at the like the base of a mountain ship. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And obviously I never told anyone in their family this,
Speaker 2: but I really think she killed herself just based on
Speaker 2: like how how I don't know, I felt, how tormented
Speaker 2: she was, she was, she had some she was she
Speaker 2: was a lot.
Speaker 1: So now I feel now, I feel now I feel
Speaker 1: bad that I said she sounds like a cunt, honestly, honestly,
Speaker 1: right after honestly, right after I said it, I was like, ah,
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have said that.
Speaker 2: Uh no, I've I've said those exact words, so not
Speaker 2: even she sounds like she is. That's why I have
Speaker 2: very conflicted feelings about her. I'm like, yeah, I hated her,
Speaker 2: but I also felt bad for her. But I also
Speaker 2: was like, I don't know, yeah, she it was a lot,
Speaker 2: but yeah, it was interesting because that job, you know,
Speaker 2: that was the kind of job that would have me
Speaker 2: wake up in the middle of the night like gasping
Speaker 2: because I'm like, oh my god, I forgot to do whatever.
Speaker 2: And after I moved back home, I promised myself I
Speaker 2: would never ever in my life, ever again have a
Speaker 2: job that has me feeling like that. I'll never have
Speaker 2: a job that I need to take work home, that
Speaker 2: I need to stay after five or whatever that has
Speaker 2: me thinking about work outside of work. Ever, I don't
Speaker 2: care how much it pays, like it's not worth it.
Speaker 2: And I haven't. I've turned down jobs that I thought
Speaker 2: would be like that, and I think that served me.
Speaker 2: It was a learning experience.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, you know, it's so life is so
Speaker 1: complicated like that, because like this lady, it sounds like,
Speaker 1: you know, something fucked up happened to her, and so
Speaker 1: she's like taking it out on everyone else and then
Speaker 1: it ends with her fucking you know. Uh yeah, that's
Speaker 1: a it's a real yeah, that's that's a real tricky one.
Speaker 2: Yeah. But at the same time, I was like twenty
Speaker 2: and I'm like, this is a lot, Like I I
Speaker 2: can't Yeah, I don't know. And I was just one person.
Speaker 1: So what happened with your boyfriends? Like, what's that whole story?
Speaker 2: Oh? I mean, I don't know. We were together while
Speaker 2: I was there. So actually the first it was interesting
Speaker 2: because he and his friend had plans to come to
Speaker 2: the US for a month and do like a little
Speaker 2: US trip, and then I found out I got this
Speaker 2: job in Denmark and when she hired me, she was like,
Speaker 2: I need you here in a week, So that was
Speaker 2: pretty insane. I was actually living in LA at the time,
Speaker 2: and it went from trying to find my bearings in
Speaker 2: LA to oh my god, I have to move back
Speaker 2: to my hometown to say goodbye. To my friends and
Speaker 2: family because I'm going to be moving across the world
Speaker 2: in one week and I don't know when.
Speaker 5: I'll be back.
Speaker 2: And the week that I moved to Denmark was the
Speaker 2: same week my boyfriend at the time and his best
Speaker 2: friend were coming to the US. So the whole first
Speaker 2: month I was in Denmark, I knew nobody. I didn't
Speaker 2: have my boyfriend there. He was here in the US,
Speaker 2: so that was pretty crazy. But after that, I ended
Speaker 2: up getting an apartment with my friend and then eventually
Speaker 2: me and my boyfriend moved in together and it was cool,
Speaker 2: and he came back with me when I had to
Speaker 2: move back, because you know, you get a residence permit
Speaker 2: as a no pairent. After so long, it expires and
Speaker 2: then that's it. And I tried everything to stay in
Speaker 2: Denmark everything. Denmark is like one of the hardest countries
Speaker 2: in the world to get citizenships, and it doesn't matter
Speaker 2: if I got married to my boyfriend, even it does
Speaker 2: not guarantee me anything. And it's like a point system
Speaker 2: out there, and if you don't reach a hundred points
Speaker 2: then they're like, sorry, you're not good enough. And I
Speaker 2: think being like a doctor or a lawyer, stuff like
Speaker 2: that gets you like fifty points, like they want useful people,
Speaker 2: which I can't blame him, I guess, But.
Speaker 1: Why you guys broke up?
Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely. Yeah. He came back with me for like
Speaker 2: two weeks or something, and it was fun like, well, yeah,
Speaker 2: all over California, European guy whatever. But at the end
Speaker 2: of two weeks, it was like, okay, I mean what
Speaker 2: we're not like, this isn't it's gonna work. There's just
Speaker 2: no way. So, yeah, we broke up. I mean I
Speaker 2: don't really, I'm in California in the base.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I don't want to interrupt. You said you
Speaker 1: still keep in touch with him?
Speaker 2: I mean I don't keep in touch with him, like
Speaker 2: follow each other, and I still keep in touch with
Speaker 2: a lot of people from there that we are our
Speaker 2: mutual friends, but like we all talk, but you know,
Speaker 2: we're friendly.
Speaker 1: And what's life like nowadays in California?
Speaker 5: It's cool.
Speaker 2: I'm married, no, and oh wow me and my husband.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I mean this is like ten years ago.
Speaker 1: Oh oh oh, this was all ten Oh okay, I
Speaker 1: didn't realize this was that long. Okay, So how old
Speaker 1: are you now?
Speaker 2: I'm thirty four?
Speaker 1: Oh, okay, okay, so this is just like fourteen years ago.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, well yeah, yeah, I guess whoa, No, fourteen
Speaker 2: years Well yeah, I said you said you were twenty
Speaker 2: ten years ago.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I was twenty when I went there, and then when
Speaker 2: I came back home, I was like twenty three. But yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I guess eleven.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's crazy. Whoa Yeah, No, I'm married now. And
Speaker 2: it's funny because when my ex came out here, we
Speaker 2: went to a party and a bunch of my friends
Speaker 2: were there and my friend Caleb was at the party,
Speaker 2: and I'm introducing my boyfriend to everyone. And later, like
Speaker 2: days later or something, he's like, so, what's up with
Speaker 2: you and Caleb? And I'm like, what do you mean?
Speaker 2: And he's like, what's the history there? And I've known
Speaker 2: Caleb since I was about fifteen. We've never had anything romantic.
Speaker 2: We're just friends. And he did not believe me, never
Speaker 2: believed me. He always thought I was lying. And anyway,
Speaker 2: that's my husband, Caleb.
Speaker 1: Wait, I'm sorry, ing, hold on, I'm sorry, I'm sorry
Speaker 1: that I didn't understand. Just now you're at Caleb is
Speaker 1: the friend that you never did anything with or he's
Speaker 1: your husband.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, both.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, oh okay, okay, So he ended up being
Speaker 1: your husband?
Speaker 2: Yeah, like years later, years years later, we ended up
Speaker 2: starting to date and then that's who I'm married to now.
Speaker 1: So it's always the guy. It's always the guy she
Speaker 1: tells you not to worry about. Yes, yeah, you married
Speaker 1: the guy you told him not to worry about. That's funny.
Speaker 2: Yeah, literally, But but I was being honest there truly
Speaker 2: never was I want this to be on the record,
Speaker 2: There really never was anything between me and him until
Speaker 2: years later. It was like, oh, but clearly he saw
Speaker 2: something between us that we didn't see. I don't know
Speaker 2: the chemistry. Who knows?
Speaker 1: So in that gay how long? How long have you
Speaker 1: known your husband?
Speaker 2: For a long time? We met when I was about fifteen, Wow,
Speaker 2: through mutual friends. He was in a band and my
Speaker 2: friend was like, why is see this band tonight? And yeah,
Speaker 2: you know, we just had a ton of mutual friends
Speaker 2: and have stayed friends. I have a lot of friends
Speaker 2: from when I was about fifteen fourteen fifteen, we're I
Speaker 2: have a lot of friends from that era and he's
Speaker 2: one of them.
Speaker 1: And what do you do now in California?
Speaker 4: Oh god, my job.
Speaker 2: Is so boring. It's not even I work for the state.
Speaker 2: That's all that's worth mentioning. It's just a boring stage job.
Speaker 2: But it's cushy. I mean, when you work for the state,
Speaker 2: it's like impossible to get fired and you get like
Speaker 2: retirement and all that shit.
Speaker 1: So looking back on all this and like talking about
Speaker 1: it right now, since it's been so long since, do
Speaker 1: you feel like your life worked out better having left
Speaker 1: Denmark or do you ever think about what it would
Speaker 1: be like if you s did?
Speaker 2: I think sometimes I would think about it, but then
Speaker 2: I would see, like what my ex is up to,
Speaker 2: and I'll be like, nah, Hellna, there's no way like
Speaker 2: he's he just seems so like he doesn't know what
Speaker 2: he has no direction in life. He just seems like
Speaker 2: he's kind of flailing. And I wouldn't be down for that.
Speaker 2: I'd want to be with someone that's more grounded, and
Speaker 2: I don't know, it just it wouldn't have worked out anyway.
Speaker 2: Would it have been cool though, to live in Denmark?
Speaker 2: Hell yeah, I would be stoked to live in Denmark,
Speaker 2: But as far as being with my ex, I don't
Speaker 2: think it would have lasted anyway. He's just I don't
Speaker 2: know doing his thing, but yeah, I've thought about it,
Speaker 2: but I think my life. I like my life now. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I love my life. And we bought our first house
Speaker 2: this year or last year, twenty twenty four. But yeah,
Speaker 2: so I like how things turned out. I think it
Speaker 2: was meant to be. I'm glad I had that experience
Speaker 2: though out there. I mean, gave me a very good
Speaker 2: work ethic for sure, and it made me like so
Speaker 2: at boundaries for what I want in a job, what
Speaker 2: I'm willing to put up with and say no to
Speaker 2: and stuff. And yeah, I had like a cool experience
Speaker 2: living in another country for a long time. And I
Speaker 2: still understand a good amount of Danish, which is cool.
Speaker 2: The language I don't know anyone that knows anything about.
Speaker 2: But yeah, that was awesome. I'd recommend it to anyone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was gonna say, I'm gonna take if the chat,
Speaker 1: if the live twitch chat watching wants to ask any questions,
Speaker 1: I'll give them a chance to put some questions in
Speaker 1: the chat. Just real quick. This has absolutely nothing to
Speaker 1: do This has literally nothing to do with any anything.
Speaker 1: But I'm looking at the twitch chat and somebody in
Speaker 1: the chat wrote, damn the gecko got chunky. But there's
Speaker 1: a little icon Hella ho on. There's a little icon
Speaker 1: next to their name that says that they're that they're
Speaker 1: only listening to the stream. They're not even watching what.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just know, I don't. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't give a shit. But I just
Speaker 1: thought it was funny that they weren't even watching the stream. Okay,
Speaker 1: somebody said, uh, was the food good there?
Speaker 2: It was, okay, Honestly, it was kind of bland. It's
Speaker 2: funny because they did not have any hot sauce out there.
Speaker 2: Their hot sauce was tabasco. That's all they had. And
Speaker 2: I came back to California one time for five days
Speaker 2: and I brought HELLI shit back. They don't have corn
Speaker 2: tortillas out there either, So I brought back corn tortillas.
Speaker 2: I brought back a huge like you know, the giant
Speaker 2: bottle top of TiO. I think two of them. And
Speaker 2: I brought back like all these dried chili peppers. And
Speaker 2: I had a dinner party in my tiny ass apartment
Speaker 2: and I made enchiladas and like rice and beans and
Speaker 2: guacamole and all these things, and it was like they
Speaker 2: tasted flavor for the first time. The people I had
Speaker 2: over they could it was like their minds were blown.
Speaker 2: Oh and I brought back red vines. The only licorice
Speaker 2: they have out there as black licorice and they love
Speaker 2: that shit. And I brought back red vines and everyone
Speaker 2: was like, wow, this this should tell a good But yeah,
Speaker 2: all they eat out there is like pork and pickled fish.
Speaker 1: Now I've maybe mentioned this on this podcast about two
Speaker 1: hundred times. Did you go to seven eleven and did
Speaker 1: you get the chicken on a stick there?
Speaker 2: Hell? Yeah, that was my first experience with a nice
Speaker 2: seven eleven. And I've been to Japan and like, obviously
Speaker 2: that's like the seven eleven ever, But en Mark, I
Speaker 2: didn't know seven elevens in other countries were good. I
Speaker 2: didn't know that was a thing. And what was interesting
Speaker 2: to me out there too was the people behind the
Speaker 2: counter at two am, when you're waisted and going to
Speaker 2: seven eleven to eat, are like teenagers. It's like teenager
Speaker 2: guys and girls working seven eleven at two am in
Speaker 2: a major city. That was insane to me. And the
Speaker 2: fact that you could get hot food that's actually good. Yeah,
Speaker 2: kicking kebabs and stuff, and that was my first experience
Speaker 2: with that, and I thought, wow, why why can't we
Speaker 2: have that?
Speaker 1: Somebody? So somebody asked, uh, okay, so when when that
Speaker 1: girl messaged you for the first time in a while
Speaker 1: and her English was broken but you remember her having
Speaker 1: good English? Do you do you? Did you ever figure
Speaker 1: out why her English was broken? Like was it? Because
Speaker 1: when you first said that, I was like, Oh, somebody's
Speaker 1: messaging you through her account or something.
Speaker 2: That's exactly what I thought. I thought she got was
Speaker 2: like hacked or something. I think she was distraught. I
Speaker 2: think she was just messaging me while being distraught, which
Speaker 2: is like to think about. But yeah, I think she
Speaker 2: was just probably I don't know, not thinking straight and
Speaker 2: just getting out the first words she could think of
Speaker 2: to put a sentence together. But yeah, that's my guess.
Speaker 2: But I don't know. I didn't ask her, Probably never will.
Speaker 1: Somebody said, so, Denmark is known as like the happiest
Speaker 1: country in the world. Having gone there, does that check
Speaker 1: out to you?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Kinda? Like I mean, I was broke as hell because
Speaker 2: this lady was paying me and there was a minimum
Speaker 2: she had to pay, and she stayed at that minimum.
Speaker 2: But out there, like I had friends that were working
Speaker 2: like in a grocery store, bagging groceries, and they made
Speaker 2: enough money to have their own apartment. And you know,
Speaker 2: you get free education, free healthcare. And then on top
Speaker 2: of that, if you go to school out there, the
Speaker 2: government sends you a check every month. And I was like,
Speaker 2: what is that four so like financial aid and they're
Speaker 2: like no, it's literally the government being like, good for
Speaker 2: you for going to school, thank you, here's a reward,
Speaker 2: here's a check, keep it up now. And people pay
Speaker 2: their rent and shit with that. And but speaking of
Speaker 2: free healthcare, I got hit by a car while living
Speaker 2: in Denmark while riding my bike and that free healthcare
Speaker 2: really kicked in for me. And they got pneumonia while
Speaker 2: I lived out there, and I thought I was going
Speaker 2: to die.
Speaker 1: So one person help said. One person said, what were
Speaker 1: the people there like? And then another person said, are
Speaker 1: the people they're boring?
Speaker 2: No, I don't think they're boring. They're really interesting, and
Speaker 2: there were for the most part. They spoke English. Weirdly,
Speaker 2: my ex spoke the best English. I mean, he founded
Speaker 2: American when you would talk to him, and I asked
Speaker 2: him how his English was so good, and he said
Speaker 2: from playing online video games for so many years and
Speaker 2: so a lot of the people I spoke with it
Speaker 2: would be like very broken English. But I mean I
Speaker 2: got to know a lot of people, and no, they
Speaker 2: weren't boring. They're really cool. And what was the other question?
Speaker 1: Uh, just like what the people are like in general?
Speaker 2: Oh, they were cool. But man, I felt so ugly
Speaker 2: living out there.
Speaker 1: Like people there are very beautiful.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, everyone is like at least five eight five nine,
Speaker 2: like girls, just everyone and very beautiful blonde hair like.
Speaker 2: Everyone looks like a model, and I'm Hella shore brown
Speaker 2: hair like. I don't look like a model. I don't know.
Speaker 2: So everyone's gorgeous, and I felt very ugly.
Speaker 1: I'm really I'm really glad to hear that everything worked
Speaker 1: out so well for you. I appreciate you taking all
Speaker 1: this time to tell us your life story. I feel like, again,
Speaker 1: you know, I always talk about this like my favorite.
Speaker 1: I really enjoy talking to you because, like the I
Speaker 1: like hearing about people's like life experience and you know,
Speaker 1: how things take twists and turns and work out and
Speaker 1: kind of unconventional ways. And I'm sure they'll be at
Speaker 1: least a person or too who listens to your story
Speaker 1: and maybe it gives them some kind of context for
Speaker 1: their own life story of some kind. So I appreciate
Speaker 1: you sharing. Is there? I guess you know? Before we go?
Speaker 1: Is there any other like aspect of anything you wanted
Speaker 1: to talk about or anything you want to say? Any
Speaker 1: any any The floor is yours before we go. If
Speaker 1: there's anything else, Oh, man.
Speaker 2: There is something else I want to talk about. But
Speaker 2: it's almost seven and I'm supposed to meet my friend
Speaker 2: at seven thirty for dinner. So no, But can I
Speaker 2: can I shout out my band?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Please? What's your band?
Speaker 2: Were called night School and our Instagram is night School Band,
Speaker 2: and shed give us a follow where Actually we just
Speaker 2: finished recording, aren't ep so we'll be releasing your music
Speaker 2: soon And if you live in the Bay Area, we
Speaker 2: play shows.
Speaker 1: So oh, look at you got a blue check mark?
Speaker 1: Look at that?
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're official?
Speaker 1: Pretty cool, pretty cool? What kind of music is this you?
Speaker 1: I guess there's no. That was a stupid question to
Speaker 1: ask over the phone. But is this how many? Is
Speaker 1: there four or four people in the band?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I actually just made a shirt today for merch.
Speaker 2: I was like painting with bleach and it turned out
Speaker 2: pretty sick.
Speaker 1: So yuess all right, cool man, what got it? What
Speaker 1: kind of what kind of music?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: Play? Oh?
Speaker 4: Man?
Speaker 2: I never the best way to describe it, I guess
Speaker 2: is shoe gaze. I never know what are like kind
Speaker 2: of Jean to describe us as. But I mean we're
Speaker 2: on all like streaming platforms and stuff, so you can
Speaker 2: listen to us anywhere.
Speaker 1: Ooh, you guys have a show? You have a show?
Speaker 1: Can I talk? Can I shout out your show? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah in a couple of weeks.
Speaker 1: Yeah, sure, Yeah, you got a show in San Francisco
Speaker 1: on January twenty third. That sounds cool, just like all
Speaker 1: like the Yeah, I'm just scrolling through the Instagram. I'm like,
Speaker 1: all right, I gotta check out this band. This looks cool.
Speaker 2: Yeah, check us out. And when you're here, I mean,
Speaker 2: if we're playing, come see us. But yeah, if you
Speaker 2: come here again, I do want to go to your show.
Speaker 2: I actually had tickets to one of your San Francisco
Speaker 2: shows and I ended up like not being able to go,
Speaker 2: and I, yeah, I just have the tickets. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't have any friends that listen to you. Which
Speaker 2: is sad, but I talk you up all the time.
Speaker 2: I tell people about you and they're like, Therapy, get go,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, no, just listen, you just gotta listen.
Speaker 1: Well, thanks man. Hopefully I'm returning the favor with the
Speaker 1: by shouting out Nights School. I'm sure you'll get some
Speaker 1: some Gecko people in there. Yeah, let me know if
Speaker 1: anyone shows up. Let me know if anyone shows up
Speaker 1: to your show, and it's like I heard about you
Speaker 1: on the Gecko podcast.
Speaker 2: Oh dude, yeah, hell yeah, yeah, if you come to
Speaker 2: our show, I mean, you won't know which person I am,
Speaker 2: but come up to one of us and just ask
Speaker 2: if you you know I talked on Arapy Get Go?
Speaker 1: But yeah, what's your name again?
Speaker 2: My love? Oh?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I forgot about that all right, all right,
Speaker 1: my love, thank you for calling. Okay, right, all right,
Speaker 1: thanks for calling man, Thanks for sharing your story, and
Speaker 1: good luck dog.
Speaker 2: Thanks you too.
Speaker 3: Bye.
Speaker 1: That was cool. I like that. I liked that story. Yeah, dude,
Speaker 1: that's a that's a that's a crazy twisty turney tail
Speaker 1: right there. It's a crazy twisty turney tail right there.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna check this out Night's School band. That sounds cool.
Speaker 1: Hey man, what's your name? Uh?
Speaker 3: If you want, you can give me a name.
Speaker 1: I like when you do that, cool, I'll call you.
Speaker 1: Uh uh Stacy, Stacy.
Speaker 2: I like that.
Speaker 1: What's going on, Stacy?
Speaker 2: Uh?
Speaker 3: Not much right now. I'm just hanging out my house.
Speaker 3: Not much going on. Just watch my roommate play Minecraft.
Speaker 1: Is there anything you wanted to talk about today, Stacy? Oh?
Speaker 3: Nothing really super in particular. There's a few, like not
Speaker 3: so serious things and more serious things. You go like
Speaker 3: with like a not so serious type question if you want.
Speaker 1: Dear God, please please please. I'm begging, I beg you
Speaker 1: please give me a not serious question.
Speaker 3: Okay, So something I've been thinking about a lot recently
Speaker 3: because like Taco Bell has like brought back some of
Speaker 3: their old discontinued items. Yeah, just like old discontinued items
Speaker 3: that I really really like because I love the caramel
Speaker 3: apple and panada. I don't know if you've ever had that,
Speaker 3: but that is literally my dad old, give that.
Speaker 1: Stop me stop stop. What the what the fuck is
Speaker 1: a caramel apple and panada?
Speaker 3: You've never had that before?
Speaker 1: You're lying to me.
Speaker 3: I'm not lying to you. Okay, okay, okay, do you
Speaker 3: remember like when McDonald used to have like the fried
Speaker 3: apple pies. Yeah, it's it's it's like that. It's it's
Speaker 3: like that basically. It's like so good. It's it's amazing.
Speaker 3: It's just like like an apple pie type filling and
Speaker 3: then they fry it. I mean, I don't know if
Speaker 3: they actually fry it, but it's like it's it's like
Speaker 3: a fried type texture.
Speaker 1: And this is a Taco Bell item.
Speaker 3: Yeah, right now. They brought it back for a limited time.
Speaker 3: It used to be like around more like in the
Speaker 3: two thousands and stuff.
Speaker 1: Jamie, pull up caramel Apple and Panada. It's so good.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, yeah, I'm looking at it right now.
Speaker 1: That's insane USA. Today Taco Bells Caramel a Panada is
Speaker 1: Caramel Apple and Panada is back. What the fuck? Oh
Speaker 1: my god, Yeah, this is real. I've never heard of this.
Speaker 1: That's crazy.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I'm telling you you're missing out.
Speaker 1: WHOA.
Speaker 3: As a kid, every time I would be begging my dad,
Speaker 3: I was like, please, please, please, can I get a
Speaker 3: caramel and plump caramel apple epanat I'm struggling.
Speaker 1: Wow, okay, okay, so go ahead. What is it about
Speaker 1: the caramel apple and panada.
Speaker 3: Like, what is it that makes it so amazing?
Speaker 1: Or sorry? I thought you said I thought you said
Speaker 1: you had a not sorry. I thought you said you
Speaker 1: had a not serious question. I thought there was a
Speaker 1: question about the.
Speaker 3: Well, my question was gonna be if there was any
Speaker 3: discontinued fast food item that you like, hold near and
Speaker 3: dear to your heart that you really want to see
Speaker 3: come back.
Speaker 1: Oh man, um m mmm, I'm trying to think here, dude,
Speaker 1: not really like all my favorites are so oh oh wait,
Speaker 1: I actually do an answer. Do they still have the
Speaker 1: case so rito? Dude?
Speaker 3: No? They okay, okay, they's answer kind they get them
Speaker 3: to make You can kind of get them to make
Speaker 3: it though. I have a friend who works at Taco
Speaker 3: Bell and he taught me the hack.
Speaker 1: What like the hack is you want to beg them
Speaker 1: to Is it just you beg them to wrap a
Speaker 1: burrito in a case of dia.
Speaker 3: You can literally, like if you do it on the app,
Speaker 3: you can customize one of their items to make it
Speaker 3: so it's basically a case rito.
Speaker 1: Whoa, that's pretty cool.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so you do the five layer burrito, take the
Speaker 3: fucking beans off of that because the beans are terrible
Speaker 3: and they don't go into the case. So Rito take
Speaker 3: those off, add the spicy like Chipotle sauce that they have,
Speaker 3: and then you add rice and have them grill it
Speaker 3: at the case.
Speaker 1: So Rito, Man, there are enough ads in this podcast already,
Speaker 1: but this is fully I just want people to know.
Speaker 1: This is not like a sponsored segment. I just genuinely
Speaker 1: take a lot of joy in talking about Taco Bell.
Speaker 3: Oh, I absolutely love Taco.
Speaker 1: Bell when I and I also and also by the way,
Speaker 1: just to just to just to even reiterate the fact
Speaker 1: that this is not sponsored. I I act, if you're
Speaker 1: listening to this right now, I actively suggest that you
Speaker 1: never ever ever go to Taco Bell for the rest
Speaker 1: of your life. I really think, like if you were
Speaker 1: to ask me, no, if you were to ask me,
Speaker 1: like if you if you were to ask me to
Speaker 1: describe the day in a life of a happy, healthy
Speaker 1: human being, nowhere in that day does it involve them
Speaker 1: going to Taco Bell. So I enjoy eating Taco Bell,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about it, but I don't I can't in
Speaker 1: good conscious or faith recommend anyone ever go there and
Speaker 1: eat any of the food there.
Speaker 3: I mean, I get it, but it also makes me
Speaker 3: sad to hear you say that.
Speaker 1: Why why did hold on? Why does that make you? Said?
Speaker 3: I go to Taco Belle, I mean at least three
Speaker 3: times a week usually, so I mean, yeahs at least
Speaker 3: three days out of my week are not happy days
Speaker 3: according to you.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, I don't know. We what's your definition
Speaker 1: of happiness?
Speaker 3: Uh? I mean, honestly, for me, it's like if I
Speaker 3: if I get something done in the day that makes
Speaker 3: me like I feel like I did something good for
Speaker 3: someone else or something in the world. At least I
Speaker 3: feel like I've I've done something to have me have
Speaker 3: like a good happy day. Okay, but I don't know
Speaker 3: that's just me.
Speaker 1: I mean you're gonna get to that, I guess.
Speaker 3: But Taco Bell will be over reward if I do
Speaker 3: something like that.
Speaker 1: Sure, sure, sure, Look I'm just being Look here's thing.
Speaker 1: I also like. I eating a lot of Taco Bell
Speaker 1: makes me really happy, but it also makes me feel
Speaker 1: like shit as eating fast food. I'm not trying, by
Speaker 1: the way, I'm not trying to be like a dick
Speaker 1: about any of this. I'm just this is just realistic.
Speaker 1: This is just a realistic balance.
Speaker 3: So honestly, I should definitely not.
Speaker 1: No, no, Like I here's the thing is, like, I what's
Speaker 1: because a hypocrite is somebody who like talks about doing
Speaker 1: something that they would like I'm not. I'm trying not
Speaker 1: to be a hypocrite, but like there's a different word
Speaker 1: maybe of like I eat a lot, like eating a
Speaker 1: lot of taco bell. I enjoy it, but I know
Speaker 1: I shouldn't do it.
Speaker 3: You're yeah, like basically like you yourself do it, but you're
Speaker 3: not recommending it to other people, and you know yourself
Speaker 3: that it's not the best thing to be doing it,
Speaker 3: but you get the enjoyment out of it, so you're gonna.
Speaker 1: Do it, right. It's like a being it's like a
Speaker 1: reverse hypocrite.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know what the word for that would be,
Speaker 3: but there definitely should your word for that.
Speaker 1: You said, what was the other thing you wanted to say?
Speaker 1: You said you had a couple of not serious things
Speaker 1: and maybe one serious thing.
Speaker 3: Uh, I mean, like, I don't know, I know you,
Speaker 3: I don't know how much you smoke, but I smoke.
Speaker 3: But I'm trying to, like like weed, I'm trying to
Speaker 3: get down on it. But like I just don't really
Speaker 3: know the best. I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's hard.
Speaker 3: I don't know if you have any tips or anything
Speaker 3: on that. I don't know how much you smoke.
Speaker 1: I probably yeah. I mean, you know, we talked about this.
Speaker 1: We've talked about this a bunch of times. I yeah,
Speaker 1: probably smoked weed every day. I like it, and it's
Speaker 1: I I put it on the same level as taco bell.
Speaker 1: It's like, is it a doctor recommended? Probably not? Probably not.
Speaker 1: But I don't know, You'll be fine. Maybe, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I don't. I mean, I'm so what's your
Speaker 1: name again?
Speaker 2: Uh?
Speaker 3: Well, had you get oh? Froh?
Speaker 1: Stacy? Stacy. I'm so sorry, Stacy, but I can't have this.
Speaker 1: I can't have a conversation every podcast about smoking weed
Speaker 1: every time.
Speaker 3: No, no, you're all good. I just yeah, no, I
Speaker 3: get it. I get it. I mean that's about I
Speaker 3: talk about talk about.
Speaker 2: What do you expect?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, Well, I'm I'm happy for you. That the
Speaker 1: the thank you for ruining my life by telling me
Speaker 1: about the caramel apple and Panada. I will definitely be
Speaker 1: trying you do try it.
Speaker 3: Please talk about it sometime after you try it on
Speaker 3: like maybe one of the like nail Gag episodes or
Speaker 3: something like that.
Speaker 1: I promise, I promise you, Stacy, if I ever eat this,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna tell anyone. This is this will absolutely
Speaker 1: this will absolutely be a secret thing that I do.
Speaker 1: If I end up doing.
Speaker 3: It, it will be life changing though, if you ever
Speaker 3: do try it.
Speaker 1: I'm just telling you, Stacy. Is there anything else you
Speaker 1: want to say it to the people of the computer
Speaker 1: before we go?
Speaker 3: No, Uh, just thanks for talking to me. It was awesome.
Speaker 4: Uh.
Speaker 3: Everyone keeps trying and calling. I've tried a lot and
Speaker 3: I finally got it.
Speaker 1: Hell yeah, take care of you too.
Speaker 3: Hello, Hi, I'm Frank, Frank Yo.
Speaker 1: What's up? What's up? What's up?
Speaker 4: I actually, I literally just I was hanging out with
Speaker 4: my friends and we were watching the Lions Vikings football
Speaker 4: game and I saw you were streaming and I was like, Yo, guys,
Speaker 4: I gotta fucking go like tonight, tonight, I'm calling the
Speaker 4: gak it's happening. And they were like, no, Frank, you
Speaker 4: gotta stay for the game. Stay for the game. And
Speaker 4: I was like, the game, like it right, thank you.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I'm not a huge like football fan, like go birds.
Speaker 4: And all, but you know, like I don't know, football
Speaker 4: is not my vibe. So Gabe, I was like, I
Speaker 4: gotta try and.
Speaker 1: Call when you say now, when you say go birds,
Speaker 1: what what? What game is this? What game is on?
Speaker 4: It's the Detroit Lions and the Vikings. But I'm from Philly,
Speaker 4: so it's always cool time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I I remember when the Eagles won the
Speaker 1: Super Bowl in twenty eighteen, everyone stormed the city and
Speaker 1: like I was in Philly at the time, and everyone
Speaker 1: it stormed the city.
Speaker 4: I went, Yeah, I was in high school at the time,
Speaker 4: and I went to the parade and that was like
Speaker 4: the first time I ever day drank. Like I was
Speaker 4: a theater kid in high school, so it was a
Speaker 4: big thing for me to even go to the gate.
Speaker 4: Like everybody was like, let's go to the parade, and
Speaker 4: I was like, I don't watch football, but like I guess,
Speaker 4: and I begged my mom. I was like, Mom, everybody's
Speaker 4: taking the train.
Speaker 2: It'll be it'll be super safe, Like we're.
Speaker 4: Going to ride the train together. And we had rehearsal
Speaker 4: that day and we all got so trashed, like showed
Speaker 4: up to rehearsal kind of hungover. It was so fun,
Speaker 4: like most insane day of my life. Well, actually that's
Speaker 4: a lie. That's a lie, but it was.
Speaker 2: It was pretty lit.
Speaker 3: It was pretty lit, so franky fun.
Speaker 1: What is it you wanted to talk about today?
Speaker 4: Honestly, I don't know. Well, I have a few things
Speaker 4: on my mind, and one of them is kind of stupid.
Speaker 4: But I just have wanted your opinion because I don't know.
Speaker 4: You're a guy, and I feel like you'll be able
Speaker 4: to like give me just the opinion. I broke up
Speaker 4: with my ex, all right, let's just start there. I
Speaker 4: met the most wonderful guy this summer after a really
Speaker 4: horrible relationship.
Speaker 2: I was dating.
Speaker 4: Somebody who I met my freshman year of college. I
Speaker 4: actually moved out of the country to be with him.
Speaker 4: I dropped out of college. I did a whole like
Speaker 4: I really just like up ended my life to be
Speaker 4: with this guy, and I like was down bad. I
Speaker 4: was in love with him, I got a dog. We
Speaker 4: were like doing the thing. I was in a whole
Speaker 4: nother I was. I was living in Puerto Rico. It
Speaker 4: was beautiful, and we broke up for well, he dumped
Speaker 4: me like four years ago, and it's been a really
Speaker 4: long time. Like getting back into the dating scene. And
Speaker 4: this past summer, I met this guy, such a nice guy,
Speaker 4: like truly so nice, but I just had a feeling
Speaker 4: from the beginning. I was like, I don't know, something
Speaker 4: just seems off, like and I think I don't know.
Speaker 4: I like told him from the get go too, I
Speaker 4: was like, I'm worried I'm gonna break your heart, like
Speaker 4: this is the first healthy relationship I've been in, and
Speaker 4: like something just doesn't seem right. And he always he knew,
Speaker 4: like right away, he was like, I want kids, I
Speaker 4: want to get married. I'm gonna like I just love
Speaker 4: having like a white like the idea of a wife,
Speaker 4: and like I don't know, that's just like not me.
Speaker 4: And it felt like a lot. And then for a
Speaker 4: while everything was going really great and I just I
Speaker 4: don't know, I think I broke his heart. Like we
Speaker 4: were everything was great and he would hang out with
Speaker 4: my friends and they all got along, but like I
Speaker 4: would go home and I just knew, like something wasn't right,
Speaker 4: and I think part of it is like I mean
Speaker 4: I don't really care like what people have going on,
Speaker 4: but I'm pretty sure I'm kind of gay. And that
Speaker 4: was like something that wasn't fair to like him to
Speaker 4: like be in the middle of you know what I mean,
Speaker 4: How am I supposed to figure out like my own
Speaker 4: shit when I have a boyfriend who's like very monogamous
Speaker 4: and like, does that make sense? I?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, yes, Sorry, I feel.
Speaker 4: Like I'm going so hard right now.
Speaker 1: Like oh no, no, no, no.
Speaker 4: That I'm like, literally I feel like I'm screaming at
Speaker 4: you right now.
Speaker 1: Tell your story.
Speaker 4: So anyways, we dated for not even that long, like
Speaker 4: after like a month, he told me he loved me,
Speaker 4: like it was just it was very fast. I met
Speaker 4: his family like and it was so nice. But the
Speaker 4: whole time, I knew in the back of my head,
Speaker 4: like this guy's so into you and you don't know
Speaker 4: what you want to do, and like it all felt
Speaker 4: it felt not fair to like be with somebody who
Speaker 4: cared so much about me when I didn't know what
Speaker 4: I wanted to do, and it felt like I was
Speaker 4: dragging him along, and like, truly, I have never had
Speaker 4: somebody treat me like that, and I just the whole
Speaker 4: time knew it wasn't right. And we had like the
Speaker 4: most amazing weekend. We went to like october Fest with
Speaker 4: my friends, and I was so like sick knowing that
Speaker 4: it wasn't the right fit for me, that I couldn't
Speaker 4: even be alone, Like my anxiety was just eating at
Speaker 4: me every day, and all my family and friends were
Speaker 4: like yourself sabotaging, Like you've never had somebody be this
Speaker 4: nice to you, and now he's like so nice to
Speaker 4: you that you're trying to ruin it. But like I knew,
Speaker 4: like I feel like you know when you really want
Speaker 4: to be with somebody, and like I wanted it to
Speaker 4: work so bad, but I felt like I was playing
Speaker 4: straight and like being somebody I wasn't. And I just
Speaker 4: woke up one morning and was like I have to
Speaker 4: end it, like and it was so hard. I felt horrible.
Speaker 4: He called me that morning and was like, let's go
Speaker 4: take the dogs for a walk, because like our dogs
Speaker 4: were friends. It was really sweet, and I just I
Speaker 4: packed up all this stuff and I met him outside
Speaker 4: and I made him come to my car, and I
Speaker 4: feel like I broke his heart and like he cried,
Speaker 4: like it was just it was a lot, like I
Speaker 4: feel horrible, and I like tried to make it make
Speaker 4: sense to him, and I was like listen, like you're
Speaker 4: so great, and you're so wonderful, and like.
Speaker 2: I just feel like I have.
Speaker 4: Been trying really hard to make this work, but like
Speaker 4: you deserve somebody that wants to be in the same
Speaker 4: boat as you, And like I just felt horrible because
Speaker 4: he was trying so hard to like make it work too.
Speaker 4: He was like, oh, do whatever you want, like we can,
Speaker 4: and I was like, no, that's not the thing. Like
Speaker 4: I want you to be happy with whoever you're gonna
Speaker 4: be with. And I guess what I'm worried about now
Speaker 4: is that I've just like broke his heart and like,
Speaker 4: would you hate that person like down the line, like
Speaker 4: if you thought about it and somebody broke up with
Speaker 4: you because they were like, hey, we have so much
Speaker 4: fun and like this all seems so perfect, but like
Speaker 4: you just it's not the right fit. Like do you
Speaker 4: think you would hate that person down the line or
Speaker 4: do you think you look back on it and be like, Yeah,
Speaker 4: that sucked. That really sucked. I wish that it worked out,
Speaker 4: but I'm also glad that they did that because now
Speaker 4: I can find somebody that I feel the same way about.
Speaker 1: I don't I really don't think you did this guy wrong.
Speaker 1: I really agree with the way that you're looking at it,
Speaker 1: because if you had a gut feeling about this relationship,
Speaker 1: and if you were to just continue to ignore your
Speaker 1: gut feeling over and over and over again until until
Speaker 1: it got too late, right and you were like married
Speaker 1: and had a kid with this guy. Yeah, no, you
Speaker 1: didn't do this guy. I think you did the right thing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was.
Speaker 4: It was to the point where I felt so bad
Speaker 4: that I was like trying to force myself to stay
Speaker 4: and I was I was like, I'll just get pregnant.
Speaker 1: Like yeah, it's terrible.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like everything, like We'll just I'll make it work,
Speaker 4: Like I'll be like I'll be his stay out Like no,
Speaker 4: like that is just not that's just not okay, okay, cool,
Speaker 4: Well I need to make sure.
Speaker 1: Well it's an interesting No, it's an interesting it's like
Speaker 1: a truly interesting.
Speaker 4: Thing.
Speaker 1: I think about it a lot, like like obviously, I
Speaker 1: think with relationships, like there does come a point where
Speaker 1: you have to be like, Okay, this is like a
Speaker 1: challenge that like what's the line between this is a
Speaker 1: challenge or a difference that I want to work to
Speaker 1: overcome because I think all relationships have that. And then
Speaker 1: what's the line between that and no, this just isn't
Speaker 1: working and this is in reconcilable in what's unreconcilable and
Speaker 1: and it's hard and it is it is, it's like
Speaker 1: very hard I think to just discern between what's like
Speaker 1: worth uh what like are what are just like hurdles
Speaker 1: that are necessary to accomplish as as part of being
Speaker 1: in a relationship versus like overall this is this is
Speaker 1: just a complete irreconcilable difference. Yeah, I don't know. It's hard,
Speaker 1: and it's really it is very hard. And in a
Speaker 1: lot of ways I think subjective the difference between those things,
Speaker 1: but I don't. But overall, I don't think you did
Speaker 1: any I don't think you did anything wrong. I don't
Speaker 1: think you like if you like here, like if you
Speaker 1: were like a cheating on this guy and you were
Speaker 1: like trying to make it way like that would be
Speaker 1: doing it wrong. But no, like just ending the relationship
Speaker 1: because it didn't feel right to you even if he
Speaker 1: was treating you well, I think is I think it's
Speaker 1: not a bad. Yeah, I don't think Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: think you did this guy wrong.
Speaker 4: Amazing, thank you. That was that was good. That was good. Gek,
Speaker 4: this is so surreal. I cannot believe this is happening
Speaker 4: right now. How have you been?
Speaker 2: How are you?
Speaker 1: How am I? Like? Uh, yeah, I'm doing I'm doing
Speaker 1: pretty good. I'm doing okay. Life is Life is nice.
Speaker 1: It's nice to be alive. It's better than the alternative
Speaker 1: to be dead forever. By the way, you said you
Speaker 1: said you had a I feel like maybe I'm hearing
Speaker 1: this wrong, but I think you had said you had
Speaker 1: multiple things and this was just one of them.
Speaker 4: This is yeah. I mean, I feel like I'm going
Speaker 4: through like insane shifts in my life your podcast. So
Speaker 4: I'm not an old listener. I just started listening to
Speaker 4: you like three months ago. But when I listen to podcasts,
Speaker 4: what I like to do is I started your first
Speaker 4: ever episode and I listen from there. So I've really
Speaker 4: only listened to a few of your newer episodes. But
Speaker 4: this shit, like it, this is one of my favorite
Speaker 4: things to listen to. Like, when I was going through
Speaker 4: all that shit, I would put this on and it
Speaker 4: was in the background and it would just be so
Speaker 4: great to like hear what everybody's going through and just
Speaker 4: kind of be going through it together. And I think
Speaker 4: you're doing a fucking awesome thing. I honestly, of course GEK, Like, dude,
Speaker 4: it's every time my boss makes fun of me. Every
Speaker 4: time your I groom dogs. So sometimes when I'm grooming
Speaker 4: a dog, I'll put your podcasts on and I'll listen
Speaker 4: and so like what are you doing? And I'm like, oh,
Speaker 4: you know, just listen to therapy got go. Like she's like, dude,
Speaker 4: you're always looking at that shit, Like yeah, because it's
Speaker 4: fucking good. My other thing, honestly, is kind of just
Speaker 4: from what you've been hearing a lot because it's the
Speaker 4: new year, is like I want to start going to
Speaker 4: the gym and like I'm trying to eat healthier. My
Speaker 4: biggest thing is I've been trying to quit maping, and
Speaker 4: that is like a bit and a half, but I
Speaker 4: think we're we're working through it. Honestly, It's it could
Speaker 4: be worse. It could be worse. I'm alive, I'm here.
Speaker 4: I feel like that's something that a lot of people
Speaker 4: are struggling with recently. I feel like so many people
Speaker 4: I know, like it went from being nobody smokes now
Speaker 4: everybody either likes smokes weed, which I love because like,
Speaker 4: I fucking love weeds or or they evade, and I
Speaker 4: feel like I need to pick one of the two.
Speaker 4: I feel like my lungs can't do both, so I'm
Speaker 4: gonna stick with weeds. I'm gonna stick with weed.
Speaker 1: Yeah, for whatever, I don't I'm not one to well.
Speaker 1: I like for my I get. I don't know if
Speaker 1: I would call them New Year's resolutions, but just my
Speaker 1: like resolutions. I'm noticing that. Uh, I like you, I
Speaker 1: think to actually do any of this shit, you have
Speaker 1: to like love the process of it, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Like like like when I'm trying to lose
Speaker 1: weight and shit, like I I genuinely like when I
Speaker 1: go to the gym, or I go on long walks
Speaker 1: or I do my fast I don't go. I don't go, like,
Speaker 1: oh I have to faster or I have to go
Speaker 1: to the gym and it sucks, and like I don't
Speaker 1: view it as a chore, like I like it. I
Speaker 1: like being a because it used to be that I
Speaker 1: would just like I had know what, like I had
Speaker 1: no control over my eating and over food. And I
Speaker 1: was reading some journals I wrote, like a couple of
Speaker 1: years ago about how just like I can't get it
Speaker 1: under control, and like I'm genuinely enjoying the process of
Speaker 1: like fucking like writing, like like writing down what I'm eating,
Speaker 1: and like fasting and like going by. I'm enjoying the
Speaker 1: process of losing weight. I don't want to do this
Speaker 1: as a sprint. That's kind of how I used to
Speaker 1: do it. I would do like keto or I would
Speaker 1: do like really really really, you know, restrictive shit, just
Speaker 1: try to get it all over with. And now I'm
Speaker 1: this This year specifically, I think is the first year
Speaker 1: where I've been trying to just take it very slow
Speaker 1: and kind of try to make it more of like
Speaker 1: a lifestyle change and less of a crash. And we'll
Speaker 1: see how it goes. But I'm feeling pretty damn good
Speaker 1: about it.
Speaker 4: I feel that I feel like I just turned twenty four.
Speaker 4: I feel like my prefrontal cortex is getting to that
Speaker 4: point where it's like almost there. And I will say,
Speaker 4: I mean, I've come a long way. When I was
Speaker 4: dating that that little turn knocker, previously, I was like
Speaker 4: heavily into drugs. I was a complete fucking mess. Like
Speaker 4: my life was just like candy flipping and like ketamine
Speaker 4: every day. And I've i mean, I will say the
Speaker 4: best thing I ever did was get a dog and
Speaker 4: get my shit together, like that was, and I will
Speaker 4: say it's so much fun now, Like I I've been
Speaker 4: trying to like eat healthier and like do the thing,
Speaker 4: and I will say, like the meal prepping has been fun,
Speaker 4: and like I think the way you just put it,
Speaker 4: like looking at it less as like I have to
Speaker 4: get it all done today, Like just taking it day
Speaker 4: by day is like the best thing that you can do.
Speaker 4: You should look into getting a dog, dude.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I don't want to get a dog. I
Speaker 1: have a I have a stuffed dog that is pretty good.
Speaker 1: The job of it does the job of a normal dog.
Speaker 4: I get it. Listen there, I tell everybody, I'm like,
Speaker 4: you should get a dog. But at the same time,
Speaker 4: I'm like, listen, it's a lot, like it's the true
Speaker 4: labor of love.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have. I mean, I have a dead plant
Speaker 1: in my apartment right now, and I'm I'm and I'm
Speaker 1: glad that that. I'm glad it's a plant and not
Speaker 1: a dead dog.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that's fair.
Speaker 1: Frank. Is there anything else, Oh, Frank, is there anything
Speaker 1: else you want to say to the people of the
Speaker 1: computer before we go.
Speaker 4: No, I just I hope they have a wonderful night.
Speaker 4: I'm so glad I got to talk to you. This
Speaker 4: was fucking awesome. I wish I had like something better planned,
Speaker 4: but honestly, I really think that this is what I needed.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Frank. I have a good rest of the day.
Speaker 1: God bless America. And I'll talk to you in another
Speaker 1: I'll talk I'll talk to you.
Speaker 4: In another lifetime, in another lifetime, Baybey, have a good one.
Speaker 3: Jack.
Speaker 4: It's a great chat with you. I appreciate it. Man.
Speaker 1: Bye, Frank, ye bye. Hello.
Speaker 5: Oh my god, this is insane. I'm sorry. I was
Speaker 5: the one who said you looked Asian.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, we like it? Uh like in the chat?
Speaker 5: Yeah, in the chat. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: What's your name?
Speaker 5: My name is Bev.
Speaker 1: Bev. What's like Bevery? Yeah? No, like Beverly, well, Beverly.
Speaker 1: What's up? How can I how can I help you today?
Speaker 1: What's going on? What's going on in your life that
Speaker 1: you want to talk about?
Speaker 5: Not much, I'm just kind of chilling. I took a
Speaker 5: walk earlier. I lived by the docs, so it's quite scenic.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Yeah.
Speaker 5: Also, I saw a show in London and.
Speaker 1: It was great London. Oh man, that was I gotta
Speaker 1: say that that show in London was one of my
Speaker 1: favorites I ever did at that at the Clapping Brand. Yes,
Speaker 1: that was one of the that was one of the
Speaker 1: one of the one of the nights of my life.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you that was a good time.
Speaker 2: Oh cool.
Speaker 5: I mean I couldn't be bothered to like line up
Speaker 5: to meet you afterwards.
Speaker 1: No, it's okay, Well, so here's what happened. Let me
Speaker 1: here's what happened. Is me and my buddy David. We
Speaker 1: were doing the Europe tour and I did a show
Speaker 1: in Amsterdam, a show in Berlin, and a show in
Speaker 1: Manchester and all of the you know, all of my shows,
Speaker 1: you know, people line up, I meet everyone after the
Speaker 1: show and everyone comes up to me and and you know,
Speaker 1: they're they're happy and they're satisfied, and uh. But sometimes
Speaker 1: I'll do a show and I'm just like, I didn't
Speaker 1: feel like I did a great job, And like three
Speaker 1: shows in a row, I got off stage being like,
Speaker 1: ah fuck, I feel like I fucked that one up.
Speaker 1: But I'm not satisfied with it. I feel like, you know,
Speaker 1: I could have been a better host I could have,
Speaker 1: you know, had more energy with it. And it was
Speaker 1: like three shows in a row of that, and I
Speaker 1: got off stage at all those at three of those
Speaker 1: shows and I and I said to David, I was like, fuck, man,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know if I can keep doing this,
Speaker 1: Like I'm just not performing to the degree that I like,
Speaker 1: to the level that I want to. And then that
Speaker 1: show in London, I felt so good about it. I
Speaker 1: got off stage and I just gave David a big
Speaker 1: hug and I was like, dude, fucking finally, fucking you know,
Speaker 1: we we did one that I felt really happy with.
Speaker 1: So that was that was a great moment. That felt
Speaker 1: really good.
Speaker 5: Do you think the crowd helped as well, because I
Speaker 5: think I always think that London's quite a vibe.
Speaker 3: Uh.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the crowd was great. The crowd was great. The
Speaker 1: crowd was great. I had I had an awesome time.
Speaker 1: I had an awesome, awesome time. And London's a great city.
Speaker 1: What do you guys got You got fish and chips?
Speaker 5: Yeah, actually there's actually like a Chinese guy who makes
Speaker 5: fish and chips down the road for me, and it's
Speaker 5: like the best fish and chips I've ever tasted, so,
Speaker 5: I mean, that's not really British. But yeah, London's cool.
Speaker 5: I guess. Talking about like traveling, I do kind of
Speaker 5: want to travel to the US, but like it seems
Speaker 5: a bit crazy over.
Speaker 1: There, crazy sense, I don't know.
Speaker 5: There's always stuff happening, people getting shot.
Speaker 1: You're not gonna I don't think you're gonna get actually okay,
Speaker 1: well hold on, well you're not gonna get shot if
Speaker 1: you come to the US. Here's the thing I will say,
Speaker 1: of all the places I have been, I probably the
Speaker 1: most day dangerous is probably New York and Los Angeles
Speaker 1: of any of the places that I have been. So
Speaker 1: I guess that's true. But no, you're not gonna get
Speaker 1: like shot if you come to the US.
Speaker 5: I mean, but just in general, stuff happens.
Speaker 1: Yeah, stuff happens. Stuff happens everywhere. Like what stuff are
Speaker 1: you talking about?
Speaker 5: I don't know what seems more dangerous that like people
Speaker 5: getting roads, people getting like harassed on the train. To
Speaker 5: see that lady who got burned on.
Speaker 1: The train was a lady that did happen. There was
Speaker 1: a lady who got there. That is undeniable. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: many things Trump is sure there's Trump, but like he's
Speaker 1: not gonna like, he's not gonna get you. You know,
Speaker 1: you're not gonna be like walking down the street and
Speaker 1: he shows up and he like grabs you. You know,
Speaker 1: he's not. He's in some other room. He's in he's
Speaker 1: in some room somewhere doing something and talking to someone
Speaker 1: and it and you know he's not he's not. He's sure,
Speaker 1: he's like in all of our lives, but he's not directly.
Speaker 1: He's not sitting in the chair across from you, like okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: he's not like behind he's you're gonna open a door
Speaker 1: and he punches you in the face, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean?
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, cool, thank you for you're asshowing me right.
Speaker 1: Well, so what else? What do you want to do
Speaker 1: if you come here? Where do you want to go?
Speaker 5: I want to eat so much food, Like I just
Speaker 5: want to eat what you guys eat, which is like
Speaker 5: really fatty shitty stuff.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Uh.
Speaker 1: The one thing if I were going to America and
Speaker 1: I'd never been before, the one thing that we have
Speaker 1: here that they really truly truly do not have anywhere
Speaker 1: else is Chick fil A. Because you guys have McDonald's
Speaker 1: they have like five guys, I think even in Europe,
Speaker 1: but there's no check. There's no Chick fil As in Europe.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I really want to try Chick fil A and
Speaker 5: in and out in and it's pretty good.
Speaker 1: Inn it's pretty good. Five guys is better though, but
Speaker 1: Chick fil A will will blow your tits off.
Speaker 5: Okay, well, okay, beverage, do you know what? I hate
Speaker 5: that you made that joke because I just hate that joke.
Speaker 1: The thing, the beverage thing. Yeah, I mean whatever.
Speaker 5: Sometimes you just say sorry, yeah, I sorry, I was
Speaker 5: just reading the chat.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I want to eat a lot of food in America.
Speaker 5: I want to go to the grocery store and see
Speaker 5: what it's like. I want to go to Costco and
Speaker 5: see what it's like. I want to like go on
Speaker 5: a hike and go skiing and go to the beach,
Speaker 5: all in the same country. Like that's lit. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 5: But for now I'm stuck in London. Well a bit.
Speaker 1: What do you do in London? What's going on over there?
Speaker 5: I work for a large supermarket in their office, which
Speaker 5: is nice. I work as part of the buying team,
Speaker 5: which is not very interesting.
Speaker 1: Yeah, cool, very nice, very good. Well come to America
Speaker 1: and you know, see for yourself. If I tell you what,
Speaker 1: if you come to America and you do get shot
Speaker 1: and killed, I will give you whatever money you spent
Speaker 1: back to have this phone call. That's my money back guarantee.
Speaker 5: Oh my god, you know I'm probably running up the
Speaker 5: bit yo and Ayway's two things. Have you ever watched
Speaker 5: Broad City?
Speaker 1: Uh? Yeah, I know, I know, brad City, Okay.
Speaker 5: Yes, So when I imagine it going to New York,
Speaker 5: I like to think of broad City because I'm a
Speaker 5: stoner and I'm a girl. I mean I'm not Jewish,
Speaker 5: all white, but I'm black. But yeah, I always imagine
Speaker 5: New York to be like that, just going on an
Speaker 5: adventure pretty much every day and smoking loads of weeds. Also,
Speaker 5: have you watched Lost?
Speaker 1: I have not watched Lost?
Speaker 5: Okay, well, you look like a character and Lost called Hurley.
Speaker 1: Oh god, I've always thought that. Wait, hold on, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna hate. I'm gonna look this up and I know
Speaker 1: I'm gonna.
Speaker 2: No, just the face, just.
Speaker 5: The face, just.
Speaker 1: Lost, Oh god, damn it? All right?
Speaker 5: No, well, I mean Harley's cute.
Speaker 1: No, No, yeah, I get you, I get you. I
Speaker 1: get it, like.
Speaker 5: And even the way he speaks, like, guys, do agree
Speaker 5: like the way he speaks you just it's very similar.
Speaker 5: I'm not I'm not trying.
Speaker 1: I get it. It's my look, it's my fault. Look,
Speaker 1: it's not your fault that I definitely look like this guy.
Speaker 1: It's it's not You're not the I have habits in
Speaker 1: my life and routines that have that I have enforced
Speaker 1: consciously and subconsciously that are the reason that that I
Speaker 1: look like this guy. So it's not your fault. I
Speaker 1: don't blame you, okay.
Speaker 5: But also you don't look like him weight or body wise.
Speaker 5: I just mean also the way you guys, you guys
Speaker 5: sound alike.
Speaker 1: Well, listen, Bev, you should come to America, eat some
Speaker 1: Chick fil A, and then we can both look like
Speaker 1: Harley from Lost.
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 3: Cool?
Speaker 4: Uh?
Speaker 1: Is there anything else? Who I say to the people
Speaker 1: of the computer before.
Speaker 5: We go, Peace and love to everyone, Be nice, be
Speaker 5: kind and happy.
Speaker 1: Yea God, bless see you later, BEV, get bless Hello, folks,
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