WEBVTT - Splitting All The Finances 50/50 With Your Partner

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<v Speaker 1>Morning.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody is DJ Envy Charlamagne to God. We are to

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<v Speaker 2>breakfast club. Nephew just joining us. We're talking about Gabrielle

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<v Speaker 2>Union and the Waye Wade. Now this comes from a

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<v Speaker 2>recent interview she did and she was talking about hustplitting

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<v Speaker 2>the bills fifty to fifty with our husband.

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<v Speaker 3>Lists Listen, that first sense of security and that the

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<v Speaker 3>work is coming. And I just as long as I

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<v Speaker 3>keep knocking it out, there's gonna be more and there

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<v Speaker 3>isn't this sort of sense of the rug is going

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<v Speaker 3>could still be pulled out.

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<v Speaker 4>I struggle with that still, just because I think I

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<v Speaker 4>just have more responsibilities, you know, for my money. It's

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<v Speaker 4>weird to say I'm head of household because in this

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<v Speaker 4>household we split everything fifty to fifty. But in the

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<v Speaker 4>other households that each of us have to support, it

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<v Speaker 4>puts this there's always this like gorilla on your back

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<v Speaker 4>that is like.

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<v Speaker 5>You better work, You would have better work.

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<v Speaker 4>Somebody might not eat word, and it's hard. It's hard

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<v Speaker 4>to let that go. So I'm working on that, all right.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're asking what are your thoughts. When we got

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<v Speaker 2>Tracy on the line, Tracy, good.

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<v Speaker 6>Morning, Hey, good morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey bro, what's your thoughts? Brother?

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<v Speaker 6>So, my thoughts is this, If it's a regular couple

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<v Speaker 6>and they work, they both work in jobs, I don't

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<v Speaker 6>see nothing wrong with going fifty to fifty. But if

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<v Speaker 6>the woman's in like school or something like that, I

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<v Speaker 6>understand that man paying the bills. But if the man's

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<v Speaker 6>paying all the bills and a woman's not doing anything,

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<v Speaker 6>how they ever gonna get anywhere, like as far as

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<v Speaker 6>investments and growing a better future for the family, leaving

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<v Speaker 6>the legacy, how they gonna get anywhere if they regular

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<v Speaker 6>people and the man's just spending all the money on

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<v Speaker 6>the building.

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<v Speaker 5>It's like, now, this goes back to exactly what we

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<v Speaker 5>were just talking about. You just said that woman is

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<v Speaker 5>not doing nothing. But I guarantee you if you go

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<v Speaker 5>to that woman that you're the hypothetical woman's house you're

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<v Speaker 5>talking about, and you see all of the things that

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<v Speaker 5>she does on the daily in that house, you would

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<v Speaker 5>realize that nothing you're saying is a huge something.

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<v Speaker 1>Tracy, are you married? Tracy?

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<v Speaker 6>Nah? I'm not mad. I'm not saying she's not doing nothing,

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<v Speaker 6>but I'm saying, with the money, what is she doing

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<v Speaker 6>with them? Yeah? No, No, listen to what I'm saying though,

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<v Speaker 6>with the money that she's saving, that she's not paying bills,

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<v Speaker 6>I understand that she's being a money.

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<v Speaker 1>You say that money and say.

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<v Speaker 6>What is she doing with that money that she's not spending?

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<v Speaker 6>Or get what you're saying, putting it into invest next

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<v Speaker 6>for the family, get what you say? You know what

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<v Speaker 6>I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>What I thought you said she wasn't making no money?

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<v Speaker 1>Fifty fifty? What is she doing with her money?

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<v Speaker 2>She's just putting her money in her account and spending

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<v Speaker 2>and buying bag shoes and going on trips with the girls.

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<v Speaker 2>Or is she taking that money and putting it back

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<v Speaker 2>to the house or investing it or whatever it is? No,

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<v Speaker 2>I agree that That's why I say, you put it

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<v Speaker 2>all into one pot, and it should be the households

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<v Speaker 2>money to you know, to take care of the household,

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<v Speaker 2>build the kids in all lives.

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<v Speaker 1>I see what you say.

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<v Speaker 6>Fact.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you brother. Hello?

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<v Speaker 7>Who's this Valencia?

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<v Speaker 1>Hey Valencia, good morning.

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<v Speaker 7>Good morning.

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<v Speaker 6>How are y'all doing?

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<v Speaker 5>Good?

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<v Speaker 8>Amen? What's your thoughts so on your on your topic.

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<v Speaker 8>I don't think there's anything wrong with fifty fifty. I

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<v Speaker 8>think the issue comes in where if Gabrielle feels like

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<v Speaker 8>her money has to go to more places, maybe he

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<v Speaker 8>should pay more. But I also feel like maybe she

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<v Speaker 8>hasn't had a conversation about it.

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<v Speaker 2>But you mean her money has to go to other places,

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<v Speaker 2>and mean past relationships, so parents or family, something like that.

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<v Speaker 7>No, in the interview, she said she feels like she

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<v Speaker 7>has more households to contribute to, so she's constantly stressed

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<v Speaker 7>about her money. So maybe it shouldn't be fifty fifty.

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<v Speaker 7>Maybe he should take over more in their households.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I didn't see the interview, so I don't

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<v Speaker 5>know what that means, but that.

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<v Speaker 1>Means that could mean she'd be taking care of family.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I was thinking.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm saying, you're taking care of other family members, you

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<v Speaker 5>know what I mean, Like you could be taking care

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<v Speaker 5>of your mom, You be taking care of your pops,

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<v Speaker 5>your grandma. I don't know her family situation, but also

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<v Speaker 5>it sounds like.

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<v Speaker 2>But even in family situation, when it's ours, it's we

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<v Speaker 2>both decide what goes.

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<v Speaker 1>To family members, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 5>All the time, because there's family members that may ask

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<v Speaker 5>my wife for money. Correct, you know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 5>there's family members that may ask me for money, correct,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, and those are conversations that we have.

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<v Speaker 1>It's usually simple because I ain't got it. But you know, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not mad at it.

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<v Speaker 5>And you know, we were talking about something earlier too,

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<v Speaker 5>in regards of like family members when they ask us

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<v Speaker 5>for money, Like my people might ask me for money,

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<v Speaker 5>or they might have my wife for money.

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<v Speaker 1>My wife is the no person. Well I'm the sucker.

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<v Speaker 5>My wife is the no person.

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<v Speaker 1>My wife.

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<v Speaker 5>No, it don't matter who it is, even if it's

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<v Speaker 5>people on my side of the family, tell them to

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<v Speaker 5>talk to me.

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<v Speaker 1>See, he's the no person.

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<v Speaker 2>Is just a good thing. See, you gotta it's like

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<v Speaker 2>you gotta go through my mom and pops. Right, My

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<v Speaker 2>mom and pops kind of handle my finances, but they

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<v Speaker 2>don't meaning they look at it like you work hard.

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<v Speaker 2>Nobody else works hard, but you so you ain't gonna

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<v Speaker 2>lend no money. So my mom and possibly be like

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<v Speaker 2>no like before if they you know, you know, sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>feeling but like let me talk to the garage, let

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<v Speaker 2>me talk.

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<v Speaker 1>To this room. My pops come right with me. No,

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely no, But that's that's mom and pops. Absolutely all right, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>what's the moil of the stories. The more the stories

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<v Speaker 1>doing worse for you.

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<v Speaker 5>You know what I'm saying. But I really don't like this, this,

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<v Speaker 5>this conversation about percentages. You know what I mean, Because,

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<v Speaker 5>like we've been saying all morning, if you really broke

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<v Speaker 5>it down and calculated what each person does in their

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<v Speaker 5>respective roles, if you look.

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<v Speaker 1>At all the things a woman does to make our

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<v Speaker 1>lives easier, yep, oh my god, it would not be

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<v Speaker 1>fifty fifty.

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<v Speaker 5>It'd be like seventy thirty, eighty twenty a gear towards

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<v Speaker 5>the woman.

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<v Speaker 1>Alright, it's the breakfast Club. Good morning,