Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of My Heart Radio.
Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.
Speaker 1: Today's tip is that maybe you really don't want to
Speaker 1: do something. We can convince ourselves that we should be
Speaker 1: doing all sorts of things, but if you don't have
Speaker 1: to and you don't want to, well, maybe better to
Speaker 1: just let it go. If you are the sort of
Speaker 1: person who listens to Before Breakfast, my guess is that
Speaker 1: you make lots of goals for yourself. You have resolutions,
Speaker 1: you have lists. I approve of all these things, but
Speaker 1: my guess is that you, like me, wind up putting
Speaker 1: some things on these lists over and over again. For instance,
Speaker 1: I put watching Casablanca on my list of a hundred dreams,
Speaker 1: and I am sure it is an amazing movie, probably
Speaker 1: one of the best ever made. So as a cultured person,
Speaker 1: I thought I should watch it, and then I didn't.
Speaker 1: I crossed several huge things off that list of a
Speaker 1: hundred dreams, like making an autumn trip out west to
Speaker 1: Yellowstone and taking a winery tour of the Pacific Northwest
Speaker 1: before attempting to take the maximum three hours that watching
Speaker 1: Casablanca would take, which led me to realize something. Maybe
Speaker 1: I didn't want to watch the movie. Perhaps that makes
Speaker 1: me sound like a sad and uncultured person, but oh well.
Speaker 1: Maybe you have noticed this with some of your long
Speaker 1: standing goals or resolutions too. If there are tasks on
Speaker 1: your work or home to do lists that you find
Speaker 1: yourself not getting to consider whether you actually value them.
Speaker 1: If you have been saying for a year that you
Speaker 1: want to clean out your attic but you haven't made
Speaker 1: any progress, maybe you don't actually have any desire to
Speaker 1: do it, and if you don't need to, well, so
Speaker 1: it goes. If you ever move, you could just box
Speaker 1: it all up and ship it to the next place.
Speaker 1: The world will keep spinning. If you have had pitching
Speaker 1: a particular project on your work list for months but
Speaker 1: never get motivated to develop the pitch, maybe it's not
Speaker 1: a project you want to do after all. There are
Speaker 1: all sorts of ideas that sound great in theory and
Speaker 1: may be great for other people, or may even be
Speaker 1: great for you at some other stage of your life.
Speaker 1: But if you tell yourself every year that you are
Speaker 1: going to learn Spanish and then you don't take any
Speaker 1: steps towards learning Spanish, maybe you don't want to learn Spanish,
Speaker 1: so it goes. Of course, there are some things that
Speaker 1: work and home that you do actually have to do,
Speaker 1: or at least the consequences of not doing them are problematic.
Speaker 1: Few people feel like filing their expense reports, but you
Speaker 1: probably don't want an entire business trip of expenses sitting
Speaker 1: on your own personal ledger. If you were transferred to
Speaker 1: a Spanish speaking country and you wanted to keep your job,
Speaker 1: learning Spanish would rise up the priority list fast. We
Speaker 1: can do plenty of things even if we don't like them. However,
Speaker 1: if you don't have to do something and you keep
Speaker 1: moving it forward week after week, consider that maybe you
Speaker 1: just don't want to do it. As we often say
Speaker 1: here on before Breakfast, expectations are infinite and time is finite.
Speaker 1: We are always choosing. By letting go of things that
Speaker 1: you don't really want to do, you free up mental
Speaker 1: space to pursue things that you truly do, desire and value.
Speaker 1: Life is far better when we focus our energy on
Speaker 1: what actually excites us. In the meantime, this is Laura,
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of
Speaker 1: our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear from you.
Speaker 1: You can send me your tips, your questions, or anything else.
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Speaker 1: Thanks so much, I look forward to staying in touch.
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