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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of My Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that maybe you really don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>do something. We can convince ourselves that we should be

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<v Speaker 1>doing all sorts of things, but if you don't have

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<v Speaker 1>to and you don't want to, well, maybe better to

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<v Speaker 1>just let it go. If you are the sort of

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<v Speaker 1>person who listens to Before Breakfast, my guess is that

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<v Speaker 1>you make lots of goals for yourself. You have resolutions,

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<v Speaker 1>you have lists. I approve of all these things, but

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<v Speaker 1>my guess is that you, like me, wind up putting

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<v Speaker 1>some things on these lists over and over again. For instance,

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<v Speaker 1>I put watching Casablanca on my list of a hundred dreams,

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<v Speaker 1>and I am sure it is an amazing movie, probably

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<v Speaker 1>one of the best ever made. So as a cultured person,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought I should watch it, and then I didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I crossed several huge things off that list of a

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<v Speaker 1>hundred dreams, like making an autumn trip out west to

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<v Speaker 1>Yellowstone and taking a winery tour of the Pacific Northwest

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<v Speaker 1>before attempting to take the maximum three hours that watching

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<v Speaker 1>Casablanca would take, which led me to realize something. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't want to watch the movie. Perhaps that makes

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<v Speaker 1>me sound like a sad and uncultured person, but oh well.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe you have noticed this with some of your long

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<v Speaker 1>standing goals or resolutions too. If there are tasks on

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<v Speaker 1>your work or home to do lists that you find

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<v Speaker 1>yourself not getting to consider whether you actually value them.

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<v Speaker 1>If you have been saying for a year that you

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<v Speaker 1>want to clean out your attic but you haven't made

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<v Speaker 1>any progress, maybe you don't actually have any desire to

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<v Speaker 1>do it, and if you don't need to, well, so

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<v Speaker 1>it goes. If you ever move, you could just box

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<v Speaker 1>it all up and ship it to the next place.

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<v Speaker 1>The world will keep spinning. If you have had pitching

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<v Speaker 1>a particular project on your work list for months but

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<v Speaker 1>never get motivated to develop the pitch, maybe it's not

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<v Speaker 1>a project you want to do after all. There are

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<v Speaker 1>all sorts of ideas that sound great in theory and

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<v Speaker 1>may be great for other people, or may even be

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<v Speaker 1>great for you at some other stage of your life.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you tell yourself every year that you are

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<v Speaker 1>going to learn Spanish and then you don't take any

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<v Speaker 1>steps towards learning Spanish, maybe you don't want to learn Spanish,

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<v Speaker 1>so it goes. Of course, there are some things that

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<v Speaker 1>work and home that you do actually have to do,

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<v Speaker 1>or at least the consequences of not doing them are problematic.

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<v Speaker 1>Few people feel like filing their expense reports, but you

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<v Speaker 1>probably don't want an entire business trip of expenses sitting

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<v Speaker 1>on your own personal ledger. If you were transferred to

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<v Speaker 1>a Spanish speaking country and you wanted to keep your job,

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<v Speaker 1>learning Spanish would rise up the priority list fast. We

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<v Speaker 1>can do plenty of things even if we don't like them. However,

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't have to do something and you keep

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<v Speaker 1>moving it forward week after week, consider that maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>just don't want to do it. As we often say

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<v Speaker 1>here on before Breakfast, expectations are infinite and time is finite.

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<v Speaker 1>We are always choosing. By letting go of things that

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<v Speaker 1>you don't really want to do, you free up mental

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<v Speaker 1>space to pursue things that you truly do, desire and value.

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<v Speaker 1>Life is far better when we focus our energy on

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<v Speaker 1>what actually excites us. In the meantime, this is Laura,

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear from you.

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