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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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Speaker 1: tip is that life is mostly made up of memories.

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Speaker 1: We can anticipate the future, but that is largely unknown.

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Speaker 1: The present is fleeting memories we truly have. This ratio

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Speaker 1: means that it might be worth organizing life to pay

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Speaker 1: a bit more attention to memories than we might naturally

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Speaker 1: be inclined to do so. When you make your plans

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Speaker 1: for the day, or for a weekend, or even for

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Speaker 1: your year, my guess is that there are many criteria.

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Speaker 1: You figure out what needs to get done, You ask

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Speaker 1: what other people are doing. You consider what feels relaxing

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Speaker 1: or what is easiest at the moment. For most of us,

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Speaker 1: what makes the most or the best memories is not

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Speaker 1: going to be the primary consideration, And I'm not saying

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Speaker 1: that it should be, but I think it should be

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Speaker 1: a bigger consideration than it often is. That is because

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Speaker 1: life is made up of memories. The future is uncertain.

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Speaker 1: You can barely think about the present before it is gone.

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Speaker 1: Memories based on a past that actually happened are the

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Speaker 1: most known part of our life. Stories when we plan

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Speaker 1: our lives to optimize memories. We create a story, we

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Speaker 1: will be able to hold on to one that can

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Speaker 1: make our lives feel more like they happened than that

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Speaker 1: they were completely forgettable. Time feels stretched out. We don't

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Speaker 1: say where did the time go when we remember where

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Speaker 1: the time went. What this means in practice is nudging

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Speaker 1: ourselves to do things that create more memories. These may

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Speaker 1: not always be the easiest or most comfortable things to

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Speaker 1: do in the moment, but if we realize that life

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Speaker 1: is mostly memory, we might be more motivated. For instance,

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Speaker 1: traveling can be fun, but to be honest, big chunks

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Speaker 1: of it can be a bother. Plane flights are uncomfortable,

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Speaker 1: so as sleeping in new beds. Adjusting to uncertainty can

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Speaker 1: be challenging, as as being apart from familiar routines and

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Speaker 1: foods and other things. But when you think of your

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Speaker 1: memories of any given year, I would guess that any

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Speaker 1: major trips you took are one of the key ways

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Speaker 1: that you define the year. Oh, yes, that's the summer

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Speaker 1: when we went to France. My mother in law h I,

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Speaker 1: recently shared some of her memories with the family in

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Speaker 1: an album she created for all of us. Many of

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Speaker 1: her recollections had to do with her travels. Certainly, you

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Speaker 1: will have more memories of, say, a week spent on

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Speaker 1: a safari than a week spent in your apartment. Now,

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Speaker 1: you can't spend all your weeks on safari, but if

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Speaker 1: you have the opportunity to take a trip from time

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Speaker 1: to time, it is probably going to be a better

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Speaker 1: memory than not traveling, even if not traveling is more comfortable.

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Speaker 1: I have tracked my time for over seven years now,

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Speaker 1: and I have recently begun studying my time logs from

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Speaker 1: six years ago, when the date cycle was the same

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Speaker 1: as it was for this past year, December twenty six

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Speaker 1: being a Monday. In both twenty twenty two and twenty sixteen.

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Speaker 1: The normal days of work and kid care and costco

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Speaker 1: runs are hard to place. But when I see something

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Speaker 1: unusual on my log, something a little adventurous, I can

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Speaker 1: conjure up those memories pretty quickly. Memories make past times

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Speaker 1: feel more rich and full. Now. Of course, there is

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Speaker 1: nothing wrong with routines and the normal rhythm of work

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Speaker 1: and kid care and costco runs, but even any given

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Speaker 1: week can be made a little different by doing something

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Speaker 1: a little different In the deepest days of COVID lockdowns.

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Speaker 1: One family I know of made a giant game of

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Speaker 1: shoots and ladders with chalk on their driveway. Life is

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Speaker 1: a memory, and in normal life that became one. In

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Speaker 1: any case, as you plan the next week or the

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Speaker 1: next few weeks, try taking into account what memories you

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Speaker 1: would like to have of this time. Memories are not

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Speaker 1: just a passive result of life happening. They are something

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Speaker 1: we can consciously choose to cultivate. Yes, we can have

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Speaker 1: memories from things that are just spontaneously occurring, but they

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Speaker 1: are also the result of our planning them in and

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Speaker 1: choosing to do interesting, adventurous, novel intense things. Maybe not

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Speaker 1: every day, but not never either. When we take memory

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Speaker 1: into account with our plans, we simply do these things

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Speaker 1: more often. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening,

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Speaker 1: and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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