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Speaker 2: We have some great stories coming.

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Speaker 1: Up, but before that, we have a quick two minute

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Speaker 1: break from the sponsors that keep the show alive. My

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Speaker 1: this year. Be big her I thirty seven female, have

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Speaker 1: for my aunt sixty female for years. Growing up, we

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Speaker 1: used to spend Thanksgiving at my paternal grandparents' house. They

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Speaker 1: both have passed away, so now we spend Thanksgiving with

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Speaker 1: my mom's family at her sister's house. By the way,

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Speaker 1: slash Okay story. Tom s upbrought it so Ever, since

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Speaker 1: one of her brother in laws have been highly critical

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Speaker 1: of me. Ever since I was a toddler, their nickname

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Speaker 1: especially as I got older and understood that this was

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Speaker 1: matter how many great things I was doing, every get

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Speaker 1: Or belittling me. In my early twenties, I nearly returned

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Speaker 1: to the bosom of the universe from a severe infection

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Speaker 1: which which ravaged my whole body. The infection was so

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Speaker 1: fully in quotes because for reasons my medical team can't

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Speaker 1: fully understand. It has left me unable to process dairy.

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Speaker 2: Yikes.

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Speaker 1: Well, ever since we started having Thanksgiving at my aunt's house,

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Speaker 1: I've dreaded going.

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Speaker 2: Oh, you know why, she puts dairy.

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Speaker 1: She puts butter, she puts milk in everything you eat.

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Speaker 2: Everything's gonna have even the smallest bit of dairy. Everything's

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Speaker 1: Past five years, I've shown up very late, a couple

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Speaker 1: up late as usual. They know I don't expect them

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Speaker 1: to hold dinner for me, especially where I have allergies. Well,

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Speaker 1: the kicker came when my aunt came to me and said,

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Speaker 1: Now my aunt's managed to forget or just totally disregard

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Speaker 1: my allergy. I've learned to bring my own food with me,

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Also, is there any reason that you are going

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Speaker 2: to these like Thanksgiving things You're not forced to go?

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Speaker 1: I think it's family though, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But like is this really family? Because family treats family

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Speaker 1: The one who had the chocolate allergy often orders pizza

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Speaker 2: Where's the family at here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't see the support.

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Speaker 1: You know, you might as well give up because you're

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Speaker 2: Sorry, honey, you're just not good enough.

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Speaker 1: I was in shock. As mentioned, we were in the

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Speaker 1: She doubled down with the well, it's not going to happen.

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Speaker 1: Read the room.

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Speaker 2: Read the room. That's all you have to do is

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Speaker 1: You can do it?

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Speaker 2: It's read the room.

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Speaker 1: I managed to extricate myself by attending one of the

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Speaker 2: Good for you.

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Speaker 1: Later, I'll let my parents know what had happened. They

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Speaker 1: agreed it was not kind of my aunt to say

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Speaker 2: That, Now you're enabling the aunt of being bad person.

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Speaker 1: I just give her a knuckle sandwich. Hey, dude, is

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Speaker 2: Yeah? They didn't say you couldn't tackle your aunt.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, is that you could not be the grab

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Speaker 1: I've decided if I am even going to attend. My

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Speaker 1: she also doesn't want me to cause any trouble. The

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Speaker 1: an update with some clarifications. Are we going or not? No?

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Speaker 2: I said it earlier. It's not your family. You're there

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Speaker 1: She's not your family. Yeah, I understand. I mean if

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Speaker 1: Oh, you haven't had a job in two years, that's okay,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna find one soon, Like what update clarifications? My parents?

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Speaker 1: My parents are certainly not innocent in this. I'm aware

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Speaker 1: The conversation had happened before I was prepared. We are

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Speaker 1: ask about your job hunt. The reality is that I

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Speaker 1: things he will be looking for to manage, including project

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Speaker 1: managing tasks. When my aunt first accused me, I told

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Speaker 1: She has lost the right to know about my job search.

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Speaker 1: My dad suggests that she just say that I am

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Speaker 1: like this got a bunch. Then they both said, if

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and the fact that your family is not like

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Speaker 2: I lost my mother when I was very young, and

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Speaker 3: This?

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Speaker 1: Probably was the final straw. There's maybe some jealousy. This

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Speaker 2: The Opie's step sister.

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Speaker 2: I mean, we've all been eighteen. We've all done him

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: It was a legit burn book.

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Speaker 1: Why didn't you egg their house? Why didn't you slash

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Speaker 2: The fact that you're an eighteen year old and you're

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Speaker 1: And we would love you.

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Speaker 2: Wherever you tune in to podcast, just search up Okay

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Speaker 2: Were there and we got more stories just like this,

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Speaker 2: and we'll see you there. But we have a little

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Speaker 1: I just want to know what happened to the sister now.

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Speaker 2: But the fact that the mom, like if this is

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Speaker 1: We're about the un we got to see.

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Speaker 2: Let's just go straight into it. She admitted that her

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Speaker 2: weren't toxic. She assured me she hadn't left her with nothing.

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Speaker 2: She had full access to a college fund that my

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Speaker 2: mother set up for her when she was born, and

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Speaker 2: she will still get inheritance. Mom finished the call by

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Speaker 2: telling me she still felt horrible about what happened to

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Speaker 2: the photo album and wish those memories of my mother

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Speaker 2: weren't gone forever. I told her it was okay and

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Speaker 2: I appreciated the links. She and my dad went to

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Speaker 2: replace it before telling her I loved her. To address

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Speaker 2: a few comments, I did not and still do not

447
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Speaker 2: have any desire to talk to my stepsister. I just

448
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Speaker 2: wanted the whole story, and that is the whole story.

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Speaker 1: That's it. Everybody.

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Speaker 2: Wow, I hope the stepsister learned from her mistakes. Yeah,

451
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Speaker 2: that's one thing. But yeah, you did. You did a

452
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Speaker 2: really fed up thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, facts, facts.

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Speaker 2: Opie has a good family, Yeah, a great mom.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I's seen the story and this an episode.

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Speaker 1: If you love us, make sure to subscribe.

457
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Speaker 2: We love you and see you tomorrow.

458
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Speaker 4: My mother condoned my husband and sister cheating, so my

459
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Speaker 4: father divorced her.

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Speaker 1: Well, it shouldn't it be fine because Mom said it

461
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Speaker 1: was okay.

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Speaker 4: Mom said I could cheat on her with her if

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Speaker 4: I wanted to, so as long as I was home

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Speaker 4: by ten, Dad, Mom said it was okay. This has

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Speaker 4: been the most traumatic year of my life, and I'm

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Speaker 4: wondering if I'm being too harsh or if I'm justified

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Speaker 4: in my choices. I female thirty five. I was married

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Speaker 4: to my husband Mail forty two for eight years. We

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Speaker 4: have two kids together, a son nine and a daughter seven.

470
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Speaker 4: I thought her life was stable and happy until everything

471
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Speaker 4: unraveled seven months ago. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 4: clicking pop on the Okay storytime subpured it so I

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Speaker 4: found out that my husband was cheating on me with

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Speaker 4: my younger sister, twenty four. I didn't discover it through

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Speaker 4: subtle clues or intuition. My son overheard an inappropriate conversation

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Speaker 4: between the two of them at a family gathering and

477
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Speaker 4: came to me confused and upset. I mean traumatizing w son.

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Speaker 3: How old does that soun? Do we have any information

479
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Speaker 3: on that? It's probably nine nine nine, dude. These kids

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Speaker 3: are like little used geniuses.

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Speaker 4: When I confronted my husband, he denied it at first,

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Speaker 4: but eventually admitted to the affair. I was utterly shattered.

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Speaker 4: But what made it even worse was that my mom

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Speaker 4: sided with husband and sister. She defended their actions, saying,

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Speaker 4: your sister is young, she doesn't know any better.

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Speaker 1: Girl.

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Speaker 4: I'm twenty three and I know better. What are you

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Speaker 4: talking about?

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Speaker 1: Their own mother defended that behavior.

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Speaker 4: She's not a baby, she's twenty four years old. You're

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Speaker 4: crazy and your hat's been must have felt neglected to

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Speaker 4: fall for someone else. Then she had the audacity to

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Speaker 4: suggest I forgive them and keep the family together for

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Speaker 4: the kids.

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Speaker 3: I know why she's crazy now I remember the title

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Speaker 3: of the story.

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Speaker 4: But she's a cheater too. My dad, on the other hand,

498
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Speaker 4: was furious. He called out my mom's behavior, told her

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Speaker 4: she was enabling betrayal, and eventually filed for a divorce

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Speaker 4: from her because he couldn't tolerate her lack of morals.

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Speaker 4: He's been one of my few sources of support through

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Speaker 4: all of this. I filed for divorce immediately and cut

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Speaker 4: off my mom and sister completely. My kids have been

504
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Speaker 4: struggling with the fallout. My son is especially angry and

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Speaker 4: has told me he doesn't want anything to do with

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Speaker 4: his dad. My daughter is quieter, but has been acting

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Speaker 4: out in small ways, and she's seven. We've been going

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Speaker 4: to therapy to get and I've been doing everything I

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Speaker 4: can to help them navigate this while also trying to

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Speaker 4: heal myself. Over the past few months, I've started putting

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Speaker 4: my life back together. I focused on my kids, leaned

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Speaker 4: on my dad and close friends for support, and even

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Speaker 4: started dating someone new female thirty six. She's been incredible, kind, understanding,

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Speaker 4: and supportive. She's great with my kids and they've grown

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Speaker 4: to lover which makes me feel like I can finally

516
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Speaker 4: see a light at the end of the tunnel. But

517
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Speaker 4: the chaos isn't over. My sister's relationship with my ex

518
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Speaker 4: husband has completely fallen apart shocking. Right now, she's blaming

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Speaker 4: my mom, saying she encouraged the whole thing. I mean,

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Speaker 4: she did, like owed up to your own actions, but

521
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Speaker 4: she did. My mom, meanwhile, is blowing up my phone,

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Speaker 4: accusing me of tearing the family apart by refusing to

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Speaker 4: forgive them. She says my new relationship is a slap

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Speaker 4: of the face to our family and claims I'm being

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Speaker 4: selfish for not letting her or my sister back into

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Speaker 4: my life. To top it off, my ex husband has

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Speaker 4: been reaching out, begging for forgiveness and asking for a

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Speaker 4: second chance. He's telling me it was all mistake, and

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Speaker 4: then he misses me and the kids. Of course, they

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Speaker 4: all come crying back to ope, but ohp he's in

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Speaker 4: a happy relationship.

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Speaker 1: I miss my own life before I completely ruined it

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Speaker 1: by my own actions.

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Speaker 4: It's the consequences of your own watch.

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Speaker 3: I'm now the ghost of relationship past because it's not

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Speaker 3: in your present or your future.

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Speaker 1: Stupid, you don't goofed it up when you cheat it

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Speaker 1: on her.

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Speaker 4: My son and daughter both want nothing to do with him,

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Speaker 4: but I'm conflicted about how much of a relationship, if any,

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Speaker 4: they should have with their father. My dad and friends

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Speaker 4: say I'm doing the right thing by cutting out toxic

543
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Speaker 4: people and focusing on rebuilding my life, but the guilt

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Speaker 4: tripping from my mom and sister is starting to wear

545
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Speaker 4: me down, and I'm wondering if I'm being too harsh.

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Speaker 4: You're not your mom's crazy and your sister's awful to you.

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Speaker 4: Should I try to reconcile with my mom and sister

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Speaker 4: for the sake of my family. Should I give my

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Speaker 4: ex more of a chance to be involved the sake

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Speaker 4: of the kids. Am I the a hole for divorcing

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Speaker 4: my husband, cutting off my mom and sister and moving

552
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Speaker 4: forward with my life and new relationship? And there is

553
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Speaker 4: an edit, and I believe an update. But why do

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Speaker 4: we say to Opie?

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Speaker 3: I mean, I don't think you're the a hole for

556
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Speaker 3: like leaving this guy and wanting nothing to do with him,

557
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Speaker 3: But it's like, no, you're not an a hole, because

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Speaker 3: also you brought up the fact that you are concerned

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Speaker 3: like about the impact he could have on the kids,

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Speaker 3: and I think that's really important and needs to be addressed,

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Speaker 3: probably in a clinical setting, like by a therapist.

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Speaker 4: I think they're going to therapy.

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Speaker 3: I think, yeah, So it's like that is where that

564
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Speaker 3: decision needs to be made, maybe that the kids don't

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Speaker 3: want anything to do with their dad yea, and they

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Speaker 3: come to that decision on their own, and then you know,

567
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Speaker 3: you can move forward by trusting their intuition and their feelings.

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Speaker 4: I do think that like going forward, it's trying to

569
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Speaker 4: figure out how to co parent the best way possible,

570
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Speaker 4: which doesn't mean that you're like together at all. Like,

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Speaker 4: don't ever get back with this man.

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Speaker 1: I definitely would not go back.

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Speaker 3: I don't think, op, he's going to go out of

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Speaker 3: the way to like try to turn the kids against

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Speaker 3: the dad.

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Speaker 1: Anymore than he's already done it himself.

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Speaker 4: The son caught them. Yeah, so that's already kind of tricky.

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Speaker 4: It's like you can't do much there, but there is

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Speaker 4: an edit. But you're not the ale op edits. I

580
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Speaker 4: have changed my number and I'm currently moving. No, I

581
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Speaker 4: don't speak to any of my ex husband's family, and

582
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Speaker 4: apparently the snitch was my aunt and her husband. Are

583
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Speaker 4: we shocked, So I'm officially not speaking to them. And

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Speaker 4: for the people complaining about the fact my kids no

585
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Speaker 4: my girlfriend, so what my children adore her. Also, for

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Speaker 4: the custody, it's sixty forty, meaning I can choose which

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Speaker 4: schedule the kids can have with their father since I'm

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Speaker 4: the primary. No, I'm not forcing my kids to not

589
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Speaker 4: speak to their dad. They've told me numerous times that

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Speaker 4: they don't like going to my ex husband's house, and

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Speaker 4: I respect that. I'm currently going for full custody. For

592
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Speaker 4: the people telling me to get a restraining order, my

593
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Speaker 4: lawyer said they haven't done anything to endanger my children,

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Speaker 4: so illegally can't get one. My dad also has some

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Speaker 4: suspicions that my mom cheated on him, with how she

596
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Speaker 4: was defending the affair. Yeah, I believe that.

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Speaker 3: I would be extra suspicious of her. Yeah, she's there

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Speaker 3: after hearing those she must.

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Speaker 4: Forgive someone if they cheat, know that I would ever

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Speaker 4: do it.

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Speaker 1: He wasn't meeting your need, Oh you.

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Speaker 4: Want meeting his clear? I mean he was being neglected just.

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Speaker 1: Like I am in my relationship.

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Speaker 2: Boooo.

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Speaker 4: But there is an update, so let's get into it. Wow,

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Speaker 4: there are a lot of homophobes in the replies. I

607
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Speaker 4: want to first say thank you all for the kind

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Speaker 4: messages and some are kind replies. Now for the update.

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Speaker 4: The people that suggested my mom may have cheated slash

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Speaker 4: had an affair were correct. Apparently my mom cheated on

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Speaker 4: my dad early in the relationship, but said she stopped

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Speaker 4: the affair when my dad found out spoiler she didn't.

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Speaker 4: We aren't exactly sure if my sister is my father's child,

614
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Speaker 4: and quite frankly, we hope she isn't, as or my

615
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:02,919
Speaker 4: ex husband. Yes, he is allowed to visit his children.

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Speaker 4: He just refuses to see them because my kids hate

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Speaker 4: being around him, not because I'm restricting it as people

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Speaker 4: are claiming. I have sixty forty custody and the judge

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Speaker 4: granted me full permission to set a schedule on when

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Speaker 4: my kids see their father, as long as he isn't

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Speaker 4: completely out of their lives. It also might help that

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Speaker 4: the affair he had with my sister, no one knows

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Speaker 4: how long it went, but my son has spoken to me,

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00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:28,440
Speaker 4: which is hard for him and said that he's always

625
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:32,000
Speaker 4: seen his daddy talking to my sister, so it's definitely

626
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,920
Speaker 4: gone on since she was early twenties, which is yikes.

627
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Speaker 4: My children are completely fine. They're currently in therapy for

628
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Speaker 4: this and other stuff. No schoolwork has been affected, and

629
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Speaker 4: my girlfriend certainly isn't affecting them. Matter of fact, they

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Speaker 4: love her in the few times she's here. For those curious,

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Speaker 4: my son is turning ten soon and he heard more

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Speaker 4: than one of these conversations. He only told me about

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00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 4: this one because he understood what they were saying, which

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Speaker 4: is traumatizing for a child to literally listen to. But

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Speaker 4: you know what, you should always listen to us and

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Speaker 3: Twitch will whisper sweet Nothings to You or sweet some Things.

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Speaker 1: Who knows. You'll have to join to find.

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Speaker 4: Out who's the same. But there is a little bit

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Speaker 4: left of the story. But that's pretty tricky. I mean,

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Speaker 4: like it seems like they truly don't want anything to

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Speaker 4: do with their dad right now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and you know you gotta respect that in that moment,

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Speaker 3: it's like you don't want to pull them either way.

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Speaker 3: I think it's smarter the chord to be like, well,

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Speaker 3: you guys, you can have like the full plan. You

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Speaker 3: can you can make the schedule. Yeah, as long as

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Speaker 3: he's not completely cut out, because it's like to be fair,

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Speaker 3: it's like at some point the kids could change their minds,

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Speaker 3: Like they got a lot of life left and right

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Speaker 3: now it's probably really raw for that.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I mean they like again the sun heard

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Speaker 4: it is probably still realizing more stuff.

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Speaker 1: From the sound of it.

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Speaker 3: It's like realizing that, yeah, they've been talking for a

656
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 3: long time. Oh they were always talking. Daddy was always

657
00:29:57,360 --> 00:30:00,040
Speaker 3: talking to her and stuff like. So it's hard, but

658
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:02,160
Speaker 3: but I think you're on the right track here.

659
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:04,000
Speaker 4: I think you're gonna figure it out. And there is

660
00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:06,719
Speaker 4: a little bit left. A massive FU to the homophobes.

661
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 4: My children adore my partner. No, she isn't like a

662
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 4: second parent to them. She also loves them as well

663
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:14,239
Speaker 4: and is in no way trying to take on a

664
00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:15,800
Speaker 4: fatherly role in their life.

665
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 1: Shout out to all of those people and shut.

666
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 4: Up, yeah, shut up, and freaking shut.

667
00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:22,320
Speaker 1: Up, shut your stinky trash mouth.

668
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 4: And for the people claiming this is Ai a lord,

669
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:27,280
Speaker 4: I wish it was I'm flattered you think my life

670
00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:29,760
Speaker 4: is fake. I wish it was, but sadly it isn't.

671
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:31,840
Speaker 4: And that is the end of that story.

672
00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:33,440
Speaker 3: It's say I, we're going to get back to these stories,

673
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 3: but here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors. My

674
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:39,960
Speaker 3: mother and stepfather pulled a horrible prank on my brother.

675
00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:43,240
Speaker 3: I want to sue them. No, it's bad when you

676
00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 3: gotta go to court, when the legal system is involved.

677
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:47,920
Speaker 3: I don't know if that counts as prank or rehea.

678
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 4: It's all jokes, not in the eyes of.

679
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 1: The law, buddy, your honor, I was joking.

680
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 3: I twenty female, am an older sister to my little

681
00:30:56,520 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 3: biological brother, seventeen male, who finished high school last year.

682
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:03,760
Speaker 3: My little brother and I are really close. He says

683
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:06,480
Speaker 3: I'm the best friend he has and he loves me

684
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 3: more than anyone.

685
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 1: Of course, this is not true. He has many friends

686
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 1: of his own.

687
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from user Jamie Doo on

688
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 3: the r slash okay storytime subreddit. So, my brother has

689
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 3: been asking our stepdad and mother if he could get

690
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 3: a new car for his grad party since last year,

691
00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 3: and he said he'd pay fifty to seventy five percent

692
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:31,440
Speaker 3: of it with his own hard earned money while they

693
00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:35,080
Speaker 3: paid the rest. They said, no, I have a car,

694
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 3: but I had been working for one and they helped

695
00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:40,440
Speaker 3: me pay it off. So my brother's arguments with our

696
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:43,080
Speaker 3: parents got heated after a while. One time I told

697
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 3: my brother that I'd help him pay off expenses for

698
00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 3: a good car once I got my own. He hugged

699
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 3: me and said I didn't need to worry in that

700
00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 3: he owed me way more than I owed him. But

701
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 3: he continued to press our parents all of last year

702
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,640
Speaker 3: until they gave in and said yes, like they did

703
00:31:58,680 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 3: for me. Note that our stepdad and my brother have

704
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 3: a negative relationship for the most part. Our bio mother

705
00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 3: and stepdad got together soon after our biodad and mom

706
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 3: divorced when we were little. My brother thinks that stepdad

707
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:14,200
Speaker 3: and mother were seeing each other before our real parents divorced,

708
00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 3: and to be honest, I think that might be true. Anyway,

709
00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 3: my stepdad, my mother, and brother compromised and said they'd

710
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:24,120
Speaker 3: get him the car in twenty twenty one so that

711
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 3: people don't gawk at him at the graduation party June

712
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 3: of this year. My brother and stepdad slash mother are

713
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 3: still on about the car. Now, the arguments are getting

714
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:37,800
Speaker 3: loud and lasting hours until the evening. My stepdad was

715
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 3: getting into screaming matches with my brother over it, but

716
00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 3: they reached a final compromise of the car being bought

717
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:47,480
Speaker 3: last week. The fateful morning comes and my brother wakes

718
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 3: up to our stepdad and mom guiding him.

719
00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 1: Outside to a car, but not his are mother's.

720
00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 3: Stepdad used his and my brother's money on a dumb prank,

721
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:01,920
Speaker 3: bought a completely different model of car and said it

722
00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 3: was for our mom. Our mom and stepdad just laughed

723
00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:08,200
Speaker 3: and kissed each other. My brother didn't lose it or anything.

724
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 3: He didn't even look angry. He just looked directly into

725
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:16,840
Speaker 3: our stepdad's eyes and said, and I'm not joking verbatim.

726
00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:20,320
Speaker 3: You might think I'm effing stupid, you might think whatever,

727
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:21,360
Speaker 3: But I'm.

728
00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 1: Just better than you, bro. You know that.

729
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 3: I know that, And our mom is an e thing

730
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 3: idiot for staying with a prick like you.

731
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 1: But I'll make you wish you'd never effing met us.

732
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 1: I promise you. You might be laughing now, but you'll

733
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 1: be crying later. Woo wow. And then he waded away

734
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 1: wattle waddle.

735
00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:44,960
Speaker 4: Until the very next day.

736
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 3: Wow, because again this is a prank that was such

737
00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 3: an appropriate callback to the old Internet.

738
00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:52,440
Speaker 1: Because the duck was playing a prank on the man.

739
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:55,200
Speaker 3: The man said, no, we just sell lemonade, but it's

740
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:57,720
Speaker 3: fresh and it's squeeze and it's all homemade. Will you

741
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:03,680
Speaker 3: give it a chance? The duck said. He then walked off,

742
00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:07,880
Speaker 3: not even looking back at them as they stared horrified.

743
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:10,720
Speaker 3: They asked me what was that about, and I, feeling

744
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,440
Speaker 3: terrible for my brother, said they had it coming and

745
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 3: not to be surprised.

746
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:16,399
Speaker 1: So now they grounded both of us.

747
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:18,920
Speaker 3: I've had to explain the situation to my friends as

748
00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:21,279
Speaker 3: I can't see them anymore. But I feel so bad

749
00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:23,880
Speaker 3: for my baby brother, and they backed me up on

750
00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:26,440
Speaker 3: this and asked me to comfort him as much as possible.

751
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:29,360
Speaker 3: But our parents are so mad and they can't see

752
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 3: that my brother had his heart crushed?

753
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? How could you be the

754
00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 1: a hole here?

755
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:34,560
Speaker 3: Buddy?

756
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 1: I think your parents are whack.

757
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:39,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, we're gonna get you one. Nope, it's for your mom.

758
00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 4: And also I think they stole his money.

759
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:43,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, did they take his money?

760
00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:46,400
Speaker 4: That's a question I have. Did they take his money?

761
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 3: I mean maybe the prank is that they're saying it's

762
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:50,160
Speaker 3: for the mom, but it's not.

763
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:52,800
Speaker 4: I don't know. This was confusing. I thought the prank,

764
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:54,880
Speaker 4: to my understanding, was like, oh, we got you a car,

765
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:57,239
Speaker 4: never mind for your mind.

766
00:34:57,160 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 1: Right, I think that is, but the car exists.

767
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:03,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, we'll find out soon whether or not the prank

768
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 3: is the car is your mom's or it's like haha,

769
00:35:06,239 --> 00:35:08,400
Speaker 3: it's not the car that you thought it was gonna be,

770
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:11,920
Speaker 3: or maybe they're gonna share it. I think regardless, if

771
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:14,640
Speaker 3: you're gonna do the prank, you need to also clarify

772
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:17,840
Speaker 3: like pretty quick, like like it is your car, buddy,

773
00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 3: it's yours, right, it's your car. Relevant comments from Jick.

774
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 3: Not the A hole that was really cruel and they

775
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:28,399
Speaker 3: used your brother's money for it. But also, how can

776
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:31,319
Speaker 3: you be grounded when you're twenty years old? Opie says, well,

777
00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:33,279
Speaker 3: I still live with them, So it is what it is.

778
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:38,359
Speaker 3: Finny Keepistrano says info. So, if I'm understanding correctly, they

779
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:41,240
Speaker 3: took your brother's money, put it towards a newer car

780
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 3: for your mom, and are giving your brother your mom's

781
00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:46,920
Speaker 3: old car, not the A hole. What your mom and

782
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:50,400
Speaker 3: stepdad did is deceitful, cruel, and borderline criminal, and both

783
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:52,560
Speaker 3: you and your brother would be one hundred percent justified

784
00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:58,000
Speaker 3: in going no contact with these demented crooks. So Opi responds, Yep,

785
00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:01,480
Speaker 3: but they gave my mom's old car away months ago.

786
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:06,000
Speaker 3: She had to use public transport to get around terrible situation.

787
00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:08,719
Speaker 1: So they did just steal this kid's money.

788
00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:10,839
Speaker 4: Which is insane because I don't know. This is kind

789
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:13,600
Speaker 4: of annoying because on the one hand, if they literally

790
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,799
Speaker 4: could not afford to help their son buy this car,

791
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:19,400
Speaker 4: they should have just said that. She just said like, sorry,

792
00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 4: we can't, like we can't even afford to get mom

793
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 4: a car right now. Instead, they played this terrible prank

794
00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:26,480
Speaker 4: and stole his money.

795
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 1: Which is not a prank.

796
00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:30,799
Speaker 3: This is just a Fela ivery again, your honor, I

797
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:31,560
Speaker 3: was joking.

798
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:32,520
Speaker 4: It was a prank.

799
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:34,920
Speaker 1: It was so few you should have been there, your honor.

800
00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:36,279
Speaker 1: It was hilarious.

801
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:38,719
Speaker 4: It's not a prank if you actually do the thing.

802
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, what, Vinnie Capistrano responds, So they used your brother's

803
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:44,279
Speaker 3: money to go towards a car for your mom, and

804
00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:47,920
Speaker 3: your brother still has no car. Opie responds, Yep, but

805
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 3: stepdad said that mom and my brother can share the car,

806
00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 3: which doesn't make things better. Westcott says, info, I don't

807
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:57,759
Speaker 3: understand the most important part of the post. Did you

808
00:36:57,840 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 3: say your stepfather stole your brother's money and bought your

809
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 3: mommy a car? Opie says, no, he didn't steal it.

810
00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 3: I'm sorry I should have clarified better before stepdad purchased

811
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 3: the car. My brother and stepdad pulled the money for

812
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 3: the car to spend in a single purchase.

813
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:13,720
Speaker 1: But no, no, no, no, Dad.

814
00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 4: Is stealing because they had an agreement that the car

815
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:18,520
Speaker 4: would be his. That stealing.

816
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:21,080
Speaker 1: What are we doing If I give someone.

817
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 4: Money and I say, hey, this money is going to

818
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:26,239
Speaker 4: be spent to buy me an apple, and then they

819
00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:29,400
Speaker 4: go and take it and buy themselves a watch. I

820
00:37:29,440 --> 00:37:31,320
Speaker 4: don't know why that watching the apple at the same price.

821
00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:33,400
Speaker 4: I'd be like, hey, you stole my money.

822
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:36,200
Speaker 3: Snarky Goblin eighty five says not the a hole. I'd

823
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:38,120
Speaker 3: move out with my brother if I were you and

824
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 3: cut ties with them. If not now, then as soon

825
00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:44,239
Speaker 3: as feasibly possible, Or if your dad is in the

826
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:46,480
Speaker 3: picture still, then maybe see if he can step.

827
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 1: Up for you and your brother. They stole your brother's

828
00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:51,920
Speaker 1: money to buy themselves a vehicle and laughed about it.

829
00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:54,759
Speaker 1: They're grounding you at the age of twenty because you

830
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 1: called them out on it.

831
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:59,239
Speaker 3: There was no respect in that house. I wouldn't feel

832
00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:01,800
Speaker 3: comfortable relying on them for anything. I wouldn't want to

833
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:04,280
Speaker 3: go to university when at any minute they could renege

834
00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 3: on whatever fiscal agreements you guys had made. Also, that

835
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 3: isn't a prank. This is a crime. But your honor

836
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:15,280
Speaker 3: we laughed. We laughed your honor, which makes it legally

837
00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:18,600
Speaker 3: a prank. OPI responding to that is a crime.

838
00:38:18,960 --> 00:38:21,360
Speaker 1: It is. I'm taking this very seriously.

839
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:23,840
Speaker 3: Do you think I can tell on my stepdad to

840
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:27,120
Speaker 3: the police. My brother and stepdad agreed to put the

841
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:29,560
Speaker 3: money away for the car that my brother wanted. The

842
00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:32,760
Speaker 3: issue was that he made a purchase he didn't want.

843
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:37,400
Speaker 3: Is this illegal? When asked how she thinks she is

844
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:40,360
Speaker 3: the a hole in the scenario, my stepdad thinks I

845
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 3: insulted his pride, and my mother is offended. I took

846
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:46,319
Speaker 3: my brother's side on this so it might make me

847
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:48,720
Speaker 3: look bad in their eyes, and like a bad child.

848
00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:51,400
Speaker 4: You're not a child. You are not a child.

849
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:55,160
Speaker 1: Your mom and your stepfather are toxic.

850
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 4: Incredibly so. The fact that he's a you insulted my pride.

851
00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:00,840
Speaker 4: What who carest care about your bride?

852
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:03,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, my dad, why are you proud?

853
00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:05,960
Speaker 3: You literally just stole money from a seventeen year old

854
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:09,839
Speaker 3: boy to get your wife a car. You're pathetic when

855
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 3: told to leave and move in with the biodad, OHP responds,

856
00:39:13,200 --> 00:39:15,800
Speaker 3: thank you everyone. All of these insights mean a lot.

857
00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:18,320
Speaker 3: I'm working on talking to my brother on a potential

858
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 3: legal action, like a lawsuit to get the expenses back

859
00:39:22,040 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 3: from our stepfather. My biodad is generally nice and loving

860
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:29,279
Speaker 3: to us. I think he barely tolerates our stepdad and

861
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:32,319
Speaker 3: his ex wife our mother, and he'll take us back

862
00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 3: in full time if the law allows it. If not,

863
00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:38,239
Speaker 3: my brother and I will move in together to our

864
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 3: own place. Right now, I'm trying to be there for

865
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 3: my little brother as much as possible, lots of cuddles

866
00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:46,879
Speaker 3: and free food, but he won't stop bawling his eyes out.

867
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 3: I'm worried psychological harm has been done to him. And

868
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:52,920
Speaker 3: there is an update, let's dig.

869
00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:54,359
Speaker 4: In, dive in the.

870
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 3: Time away from the post. It kind of blew up lmao.

871
00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:02,520
Speaker 3: My brother and I appreciate everyone tuning in with their insights.

872
00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:04,879
Speaker 3: I took a break away from work today to call

873
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:08,080
Speaker 3: my biological dad. Since I'm over the age of eighteen,

874
00:40:08,239 --> 00:40:11,719
Speaker 3: in our state, custody arrangements aren't as stringent on me

875
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 3: and my brother.

876
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:14,280
Speaker 1: In a few weeks.

877
00:40:14,760 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 3: My biological father legally sees us forty percent of the

878
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 3: time and my bio mother gets sixty percent. I have

879
00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:23,440
Speaker 3: the legal right to choose if I should stay with

880
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:26,440
Speaker 3: my biomom and her husband and my biological dad, who,

881
00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 3: in my opinion, is a much better fit. My brother

882
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 3: and I have agreed our biological dad is the only

883
00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:34,799
Speaker 3: way out of this madness, so we're going to move out.

884
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 3: We'll raise the issue in court if need be, and

885
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 3: we need to get away from this madness. Right after

886
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 3: writing the posts and getting comments suggesting legal action, I

887
00:40:44,080 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 3: talked to my brother about it. He's still kind of

888
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 3: feeling awkward about it, but he feels certain that that's

889
00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 3: the route he will take, so as not to pass

890
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 3: any statute of limitations since in a few weeks he

891
00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:57,520
Speaker 3: will be an eighteen year old. I'm certain a few

892
00:40:57,560 --> 00:41:01,320
Speaker 3: weeks is fairly safe, though, lol. I'm not legally smart

893
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 3: at all, Nor is my brother, nor am I. But

894
00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:07,920
Speaker 3: we're getting good at this stuff. He got robbed and

895
00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:09,319
Speaker 3: he deserves his money back.

896
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:13,600
Speaker 4: Yes, absolutely, make an agreement and you spend money on it.

897
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 4: You would hope that agreement would have some follow the.

898
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:18,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like that's and it's not a little bit

899
00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:20,680
Speaker 3: of money, he said, No, it's he said seven fifty

900
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 3: to seventy five percent, So that's at least we're talking

901
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:27,960
Speaker 3: thousands of dollars. A few comments mentioned the setting up

902
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:30,799
Speaker 3: of a go fund me. My brother wants everyone to

903
00:41:30,840 --> 00:41:33,560
Speaker 3: know that he appreciates the gesture, but asks people not

904
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:37,279
Speaker 3: do that to themselves. He's adamant about taking his stepfather

905
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:39,400
Speaker 3: to court over this, and said that the messages of

906
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 3: support were extremely touching. He wants everyone wanting to donate

907
00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 3: somehow to him to keep their money and use it

908
00:41:47,200 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 3: to better themselves and their families. If at eighteen I

909
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 3: had strangers on the internet being like, I'll give you money,

910
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:54,680
Speaker 3: I would have been like, give it.

911
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 1: This guy is very mature.

912
00:41:57,320 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, And all of the offers of free cars from

913
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:02,919
Speaker 3: working mothers to him.

914
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 1: Working mothers were offering him cars, he.

915
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:09,920
Speaker 3: Said, people with families deserve their cars more than he

916
00:42:09,960 --> 00:42:13,880
Speaker 3: does at his age. Wow, this guy is a stand

917
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 3: up kind of guy, and he better fight his stepdad.

918
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:18,920
Speaker 4: And we're on the.

919
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:21,920
Speaker 1: Courts, within the confines of the law.

920
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Speaker 3: We would like Op's brother to fight his stepdad, and

921
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:31,359
Speaker 3: we would also like you to not fight us when

922
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 3: we say join us when we go live every weekday

923
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Speaker 3: at three pm PST. All you have to do is

924
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Speaker 3: tap our profile on YouTube, TikTok, Facebook, or Twitch.

925
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Speaker 4: Just tap it and you're in.

926
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Speaker 1: We might have been live right now.

927
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Speaker 3: Lastly, I end this by saying thank you to everyone

928
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 3: for my brother's sake and for my own. We realize

929
00:42:52,520 --> 00:42:55,680
Speaker 3: what a terrible situation we're in, but we're taking steps

930
00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 3: to get away and it means a lot.

931
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Speaker 1: And there's an edit if this is meaningful to anyone.

932
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:04,120
Speaker 3: The car my baby brother wanted was around eighteen thousand dollars.

933
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:07,440
Speaker 3: Seventy five percent of that purchase, so thirteen and a

934
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:11,880
Speaker 3: half thousand dollars was pooled with the remainder of the

935
00:43:11,920 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 3: money my stepfather had. My father purchased a cheaper car

936
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 3: with his own and my brother's money. Is thirteen thousand,

937
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:22,399
Speaker 3: five hundred dollars worth going to court over.

938
00:43:22,880 --> 00:43:26,520
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, that's a lot of money.

939
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:30,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's like life savings for certain people. Relevant comments

940
00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:33,480
Speaker 3: says consistent Winter sixty seven. Is is that worth going

941
00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 3: to court for? I'd go to court for a tenth

942
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 3: of that. Reluctant Seal says, I feel for this Op.

943
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:41,680
Speaker 3: She's really naive. If this is real, I'm glad she

944
00:43:41,760 --> 00:43:44,160
Speaker 3: reached out in some way instead of just going with it.

945
00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 3: She's twenty and still talks like she actively follows a

946
00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:48,799
Speaker 3: custody agreement, and yeah, that is true.

947
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:51,800
Speaker 1: I feel like this is infantilized. I'm a mage.

948
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:54,719
Speaker 3: Fight Me says, Yeah, if this is real, I have

949
00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:58,400
Speaker 3: to assume that Op has been incredibly incredibly sheltered, probably

950
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:00,600
Speaker 3: raised in some sort of religion that is very strict,

951
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:02,920
Speaker 3: because even if an adult is still living with parents,

952
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 3: you can't really ground them. So that plus the idea

953
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:09,080
Speaker 3: that she was still not following a custody agreement at twenty,

954
00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:12,600
Speaker 3: plus not realizing that the theft of over thirteen thousand

955
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:15,719
Speaker 3: dollars is a very obvious crime. It all reads is

956
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:18,640
Speaker 3: someone who has no idea how the real world works.

957
00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:20,000
Speaker 1: This is harsh.

958
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:21,719
Speaker 4: You a lot of twenty year olds like this like,

959
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 4: very few twenty year olds know how the real world works.

960
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:27,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I also need to touch on the fact that

961
00:44:27,160 --> 00:44:29,040
Speaker 3: because if an adult is living with parents who really

962
00:44:29,040 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 3: can't ground them, they really can because if they wanted to,

963
00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:34,480
Speaker 3: they could just change the locks and be like, there's

964
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:36,720
Speaker 3: a twenty year old outside trying to get in my house.

965
00:44:37,080 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 3: Her writing doesn't indicate a developmental delay, so sheltered upbringing

966
00:44:40,239 --> 00:44:43,520
Speaker 3: makes the most sense. Mother of Puppo's says, seriously, it's

967
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:46,399
Speaker 3: also bananas that OPI thought it qualified as a prank. Well,

968
00:44:46,480 --> 00:44:48,560
Speaker 3: I mean that's what they did. Also, what country do

969
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:50,360
Speaker 3: they live in where twenty is considered a minor?

970
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:52,320
Speaker 4: He never said she was a minor. She said that

971
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 4: her brother, seventeen, was a minor.

972
00:44:54,480 --> 00:44:57,479
Speaker 1: Add Angel says, seriously, I kept waiting for the prank part.

973
00:44:57,560 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 1: This is literal theft.

974
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 4: But that is the end of that's story. Hopefully Peace

975
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Speaker 4: Sports Journey goes Well, Hey.

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Speaker 1: It's John here, og host of the show. We're gonna

977
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Speaker 1: get back to these juicy stories. But here's a quick

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979
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Speaker 4: I stepped in to make sure my son and his

980
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:14,520
Speaker 4: cousins were safe. Now, my in laws think I overstepped.

981
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 1: Ooh sorry, I was just thinking of the children.

982
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 4: So a bit of background the starts. I work in childcare.

983
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:25,400
Speaker 4: This is important for later and have been since my

984
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:28,640
Speaker 4: son three male let's call him Marshall thick name, was

985
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:32,239
Speaker 4: nine months old. I thirty one, female Jenny fake name,

986
00:45:32,600 --> 00:45:35,799
Speaker 4: had been working full time throughout my five year relationship

987
00:45:35,880 --> 00:45:39,400
Speaker 4: for your marriage with my husband, minus my three month

988
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 4: maternity leave. I was working in fast food before my

989
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:44,759
Speaker 4: current job. By the way, this comes from where Wolf

990
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:49,440
Speaker 4: number seventy six seventy two on the Okay storytime severed it.

991
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 4: So anyways, because my husband, twenty nine male Robert, and

992
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:56,799
Speaker 4: I got married in twenty twenty during COVID and had

993
00:45:56,840 --> 00:46:00,240
Speaker 4: our honeymoon baby Marshall, neither of us have been able

994
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 4: to meet much of our family's extended family. Also, my

995
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 4: parents are divorced, but I and our son got to

996
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 4: see my mom's side when my grandpa unexpectedly passed away

997
00:46:10,360 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 4: last year. Last year, my husband's family, spearheaded by my

998
00:46:14,080 --> 00:46:17,080
Speaker 4: mother in law, Faith, who I absolutely love, and his grandmother.

999
00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:20,319
Speaker 4: Grandgrand decided that it was time to have all the

1000
00:46:20,400 --> 00:46:23,840
Speaker 4: siblings their families come to grand grands and Papa's for

1001
00:46:23,960 --> 00:46:27,480
Speaker 4: Thanksgiving the upcoming year twenty twenty four for the first

1002
00:46:27,480 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 4: time in nineteen years. Wow. There are nine siblings and

1003
00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 4: my father in law Forest is the oldest. Because there

1004
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:38,440
Speaker 4: are so many siblings, I will just be referring to

1005
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:40,959
Speaker 4: the one that is involved in this by his birth

1006
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 4: order number. I don't want to come up with that

1007
00:46:43,040 --> 00:46:46,319
Speaker 4: many names, and most of them aren't important for this anyways. So,

1008
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:49,440
Speaker 4: because my husband Robert and I both work full time jobs,

1009
00:46:49,840 --> 00:46:52,959
Speaker 4: we had to save up PTO all year in order

1010
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:55,520
Speaker 4: to be able to make this trip happen. We wanted

1011
00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:57,440
Speaker 4: to be able to enjoy ourselves a bit. I made

1012
00:46:57,480 --> 00:46:59,799
Speaker 4: my plans with my dad Boyd for the first part

1013
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:02,040
Speaker 4: of our trip, since we were going to the same

1014
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 4: state anyways. We left early the Saturday before Thanksgiving, driving

1015
00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:09,600
Speaker 4: down from Washington State to Utah, stopping in Idaho for

1016
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:12,000
Speaker 4: the night to break our trip before starting early the

1017
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Speaker 4: next morning. We arrived at my dad's and stepmom's Josie

1018
00:47:15,400 --> 00:47:19,520
Speaker 4: on Sunday night and stayed for two nights and most

1019
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 4: of the third day. We as aforementioned, had several activities

1020
00:47:23,640 --> 00:47:26,400
Speaker 4: planned and had a really great time so far. Everything's

1021
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 4: nothing to worry.

1022
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:30,799
Speaker 1: About everything's lining up, ow for.

1023
00:47:30,800 --> 00:47:34,240
Speaker 4: What you have been waiting for. It was previously arranged

1024
00:47:34,280 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 4: that on Wednesday, the day before Thanksgiving, the guys will

1025
00:47:37,200 --> 00:47:40,040
Speaker 4: go shooting while the girls would socialize and make pies.

1026
00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 4: Being the newest to marry into the family and not

1027
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:45,439
Speaker 4: being a social butterfly, I was supposed to be able

1028
00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:48,560
Speaker 4: to meet the girls in a less intimidating setting and

1029
00:47:48,719 --> 00:47:51,759
Speaker 4: cook which I love. For further context, my husband is

1030
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:54,440
Speaker 4: the oldest of the cousins and so far the only

1031
00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:57,840
Speaker 4: married one, which puts us myself and my husband in

1032
00:47:57,880 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 4: a bit of an awkward position with the other adults.

1033
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:02,840
Speaker 4: We arrived at the airbnb we were sharing with my

1034
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:05,439
Speaker 4: in laws and brother in law Henry twenty two male

1035
00:48:05,520 --> 00:48:08,680
Speaker 4: fake name, Tuesday night, have traveled about three hours to

1036
00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:11,280
Speaker 4: get there from where my dad lives. Needless to say,

1037
00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:14,480
Speaker 4: we were pretty tired from our trip already by this point.

1038
00:48:14,719 --> 00:48:17,320
Speaker 4: Wednesday morning, my husband took her son with him to

1039
00:48:17,400 --> 00:48:19,840
Speaker 4: grand grands and papause while mother in law and I

1040
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:22,359
Speaker 4: got ready. Father in law and brother in law left

1041
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 4: extra early to go meet up with all the guys

1042
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:27,439
Speaker 4: for shooting, and myself and my mother in law followed later,

1043
00:48:27,560 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 4: as we had to make a stop on the way.

1044
00:48:29,360 --> 00:48:31,879
Speaker 4: When myself and my mother in law arrived at grand

1045
00:48:31,920 --> 00:48:35,200
Speaker 4: Grand's and Papause, the guys were already gone, which was expected,

1046
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:37,720
Speaker 4: and I went to check on my son. No one

1047
00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:40,880
Speaker 4: was watching him or the other littles. And he's three.

1048
00:48:41,239 --> 00:48:43,439
Speaker 4: That is an age you gotta keep an eye out.

1049
00:48:43,680 --> 00:48:45,600
Speaker 1: That's like a kind of fag.

1050
00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:49,160
Speaker 3: So you commit a crime by doing that, that's neglect.

1051
00:48:49,440 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 4: Number eight m and his wife Sarah fake name, five

1052
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:56,000
Speaker 4: children were all downstairs with my son and the older

1053
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:59,560
Speaker 4: three early teen to tween age girls. We're too busy

1054
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:02,000
Speaker 4: watching a movie in the other room and not keeping

1055
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 4: tabs on their younger brother Thomas, six male, their sister

1056
00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 4: Lily two female, or my son Marshall three males.

1057
00:49:10,280 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 1: We got a lot of parts in this story.

1058
00:49:13,520 --> 00:49:15,759
Speaker 4: As stated in the beginning of this post, I worked

1059
00:49:15,760 --> 00:49:17,880
Speaker 4: in childcare, and so I felt that I had to

1060
00:49:17,880 --> 00:49:20,759
Speaker 4: stay downstairs and watch them because no one else was,

1061
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:24,600
Speaker 4: even though Sarah was sitting upstairs not participating in making pies,

1062
00:49:24,640 --> 00:49:27,919
Speaker 4: et cetera, because she's pregnant with number six and too

1063
00:49:27,960 --> 00:49:30,640
Speaker 4: sick to do anything. After a couple hours of watching

1064
00:49:30,719 --> 00:49:34,400
Speaker 4: the kids, more family members arrived and thirteen girls and

1065
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:36,279
Speaker 4: I had them take over for a while so I

1066
00:49:36,320 --> 00:49:38,400
Speaker 4: could get into the kitchen with mother in law, grand

1067
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:41,240
Speaker 4: grand and the rest of the girls, where I'd hope

1068
00:49:41,280 --> 00:49:43,480
Speaker 4: to stay for the rest of the day, with the

1069
00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:46,360
Speaker 4: exception of when my son needed to change slash potty.

1070
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 4: We are potty training. While I was upstairs with the girls,

1071
00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:52,959
Speaker 4: Sarah was complaining and saying she has done enough? Isn't

1072
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:55,120
Speaker 4: she like not done anything? Wasn't like the whole point?

1073
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:56,520
Speaker 4: She was like, I don't feel well, so I'm not

1074
00:49:56,520 --> 00:49:57,160
Speaker 4: gonna do anything.

1075
00:49:57,400 --> 00:50:00,240
Speaker 1: She's pregnant, don't you know she's done enough?

1076
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:03,440
Speaker 4: I was extremely upset. She hadn't lifted a finger or

1077
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Speaker 4: gone downstairs to watch her kids, any of the kids

1078
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Speaker 4: even once. She's a stay at home mom who doesn't

1079
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Speaker 4: cook or clean at all. She homeschools her kids. Her

1080
00:50:12,719 --> 00:50:15,880
Speaker 4: youngest daughter was in footed pajamas and clearly hadn't had

1081
00:50:15,880 --> 00:50:18,080
Speaker 4: a diaper change all day. Why is this woman have

1082
00:50:18,239 --> 00:50:19,719
Speaker 4: kids if she's not even taking care of the ones

1083
00:50:19,760 --> 00:50:21,760
Speaker 4: that are out. Also, there are a lot of wood

1084
00:50:21,800 --> 00:50:25,280
Speaker 4: stairs leading downstairs, and I was seriously afraid that Lily

1085
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Speaker 4: was going to get seriously hurt. Falling down them, since

1086
00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 4: not only were they slippery, but her footed pj's were

1087
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:33,440
Speaker 4: too big as well. Very dangerous.

1088
00:50:33,520 --> 00:50:35,920
Speaker 1: What is this house of horrors?

1089
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:38,920
Speaker 4: Literally, I bit my tongue and said nothing because I

1090
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:41,520
Speaker 4: didn't want to make waves with someone I had literally

1091
00:50:41,719 --> 00:50:44,759
Speaker 4: just meant. But I regret it. If I had spoken out,

1092
00:50:44,800 --> 00:50:47,360
Speaker 4: then maybe the later drama wouldn't have happened.

1093
00:50:47,520 --> 00:50:49,240
Speaker 1: One of those kids is fallen down the stairs.

1094
00:50:49,520 --> 00:50:50,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, one of those kids getting hurt.

1095
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:50,960
Speaker 3: Oh.

1096
00:50:52,000 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 4: After lunch, I went downstairs to just check on Marshall

1097
00:50:55,160 --> 00:50:57,799
Speaker 4: and the situation downstairs. And I wasn't down there for

1098
00:50:57,840 --> 00:51:01,480
Speaker 4: more than five minutes when the teen girls who had

1099
00:51:01,480 --> 00:51:04,880
Speaker 4: been watching the kids all scattered leaving. You guessed it

1100
00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:08,640
Speaker 4: me to watch the kids again for several hours. You

1101
00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:11,400
Speaker 4: should have known you can't leave or you can't go downstairs.

1102
00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:13,759
Speaker 4: It's like a holding up the sky if you take

1103
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:17,120
Speaker 4: over a You know, this was difficult because Number eight's

1104
00:51:17,120 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 4: and Sarah's children are free range. Thomas kept trying to

1105
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:23,160
Speaker 4: escape and run out onto the street, and I was

1106
00:51:23,280 --> 00:51:25,800
Speaker 4: terrified every time Lily got near the stairs.

1107
00:51:25,800 --> 00:51:27,759
Speaker 1: What do you mean free range? Is that a thing?

1108
00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:30,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's just they'd run wild. They run them up.

1109
00:51:30,360 --> 00:51:31,520
Speaker 1: They're not chickens.

1110
00:51:31,640 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 4: Nope, they aren't. Thomas and Marshall were somewhat playing together,

1111
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:37,360
Speaker 4: but Thomas kept taking toys from him and getting upset

1112
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 4: when I would tell him that he needs to take turns.

1113
00:51:40,680 --> 00:51:43,720
Speaker 4: Lily unfortunately copied her brother and started doing the same

1114
00:51:43,760 --> 00:51:46,399
Speaker 4: thing with Thomas and Marshall. Eventually, my mother in law

1115
00:51:46,440 --> 00:51:48,839
Speaker 4: game looking for me, wondering what was going on and

1116
00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:52,040
Speaker 4: why I barely spent any time upstairs. I gave her

1117
00:51:52,080 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 4: the condensed version of the story, being that I had

1118
00:51:54,200 --> 00:51:56,480
Speaker 4: been stuck watching the kids because no one else was.

1119
00:51:56,719 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 4: She was furious because she knows how shy I am

1120
00:51:59,680 --> 00:52:03,040
Speaker 4: and I work, so she instantly understood that I could

1121
00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:06,040
Speaker 4: not just let the kids run wild, despite my desire

1122
00:52:06,120 --> 00:52:08,480
Speaker 4: to get to know the girls and make pies, et cetera.

1123
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:11,480
Speaker 4: Who's gonna be making the pies? I would just WoT

1124
00:52:11,600 --> 00:52:12,640
Speaker 4: be to make the pies.

1125
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:14,960
Speaker 1: What can't somebody think of the pies?

1126
00:52:15,400 --> 00:52:17,040
Speaker 4: Would think? Is so much of the children that we're

1127
00:52:17,040 --> 00:52:18,080
Speaker 4: forgetting with the pies?

1128
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:20,040
Speaker 1: The delicious pie.

1129
00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:23,560
Speaker 4: My mother in law, Faith, my son, Marshall, and myself

1130
00:52:23,719 --> 00:52:26,960
Speaker 4: ended up leaving early because before the guys came back

1131
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:29,839
Speaker 4: from shooting, even though they were gone much longer than

1132
00:52:29,880 --> 00:52:33,120
Speaker 4: originally planned. To go back to the Airbnb because I

1133
00:52:33,160 --> 00:52:36,000
Speaker 4: was upset and overwhelmed, but my mother in law had

1134
00:52:36,040 --> 00:52:38,040
Speaker 4: to go back to making rolls. My mother in law

1135
00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:40,000
Speaker 4: went back with the intention to let them have it,

1136
00:52:40,239 --> 00:52:43,440
Speaker 4: meaning in number eight in Sarah, but my father in law, Forrest,

1137
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:45,560
Speaker 4: caught wind of what was going on and talked her

1138
00:52:45,600 --> 00:52:48,319
Speaker 4: out of it until after Thanksgiving. She gave them the

1139
00:52:48,360 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 4: silent treatment the rest of the night. Once my husband

1140
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:53,319
Speaker 4: came back to the Airbnb, he told me that I

1141
00:52:53,400 --> 00:52:56,600
Speaker 4: wasn't allowed to leave the kitchen tomorrow except for bathroom breaks,

1142
00:52:56,760 --> 00:52:58,480
Speaker 4: which sounds bad, but I think he means it in

1143
00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:00,960
Speaker 4: a well meaning way. He's like, yeah, gotta stand those

1144
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:02,920
Speaker 4: ketchen making me a pie.

1145
00:53:03,480 --> 00:53:05,719
Speaker 1: I think he's getting a little cheeky. Yeah. I think

1146
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 1: maybe they have a little cheeky dynamic.

1147
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:09,879
Speaker 4: I think they got a little cheeky cheekiness going on.

1148
00:53:09,800 --> 00:53:11,560
Speaker 1: There, and that's perfectly fine.

1149
00:53:11,600 --> 00:53:14,400
Speaker 4: He absolutely didn't want me watching the kids and wanted

1150
00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:16,319
Speaker 4: to try and make up for being gone so long,

1151
00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:19,759
Speaker 4: and I'm unable to switch out with me. Thursday, Thanksgiving

1152
00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:23,080
Speaker 4: started pretty uneventfully. I was in the kitchen, helping my

1153
00:53:23,120 --> 00:53:25,520
Speaker 4: mother in law, Faith, Grand Grand and the other girls,

1154
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:28,400
Speaker 4: not Sarah, who was still sitting upstairs too sick to

1155
00:53:28,400 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 4: do anything.

1156
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:31,520
Speaker 3: I don't mean to like dunk on the pregnant woman,

1157
00:53:31,680 --> 00:53:33,080
Speaker 3: but I bet you she ain't gonna be.

1158
00:53:33,080 --> 00:53:33,879
Speaker 1: Too sick to eat.

1159
00:53:34,000 --> 00:53:35,040
Speaker 4: No, she just gonna eat at all.

1160
00:53:35,160 --> 00:53:37,960
Speaker 3: Bet you she's gonna feel real good when dinner time

1161
00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:39,000
Speaker 3: comes around.

1162
00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:42,600
Speaker 4: Number eight was cooking on a smoker outside for several hours,

1163
00:53:42,640 --> 00:53:44,399
Speaker 4: so he didn't have a chance to rub each other

1164
00:53:44,440 --> 00:53:47,279
Speaker 4: the wrong way. Much later, after all, the tables got

1165
00:53:47,320 --> 00:53:50,959
Speaker 4: set up with everything cutlery, plates, napkins, decorations, et cetera,

1166
00:53:51,400 --> 00:53:54,880
Speaker 4: including glass goblets on Grand Grand's insistent, the last of

1167
00:53:54,920 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 4: the dinner preparations were coming together, and a few of

1168
00:53:57,120 --> 00:54:00,720
Speaker 4: the adults were socializing at the table, including Number Because

1169
00:54:00,760 --> 00:54:04,879
Speaker 4: all his cooking was done, Thomas wandered upstairs, and in

1170
00:54:04,920 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 4: fear of him breaking the glass goblets otherwise mess up

1171
00:54:08,160 --> 00:54:10,719
Speaker 4: the table, I approached him and was gently trying to

1172
00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:12,840
Speaker 4: convince him to go back downstairs with the rest of

1173
00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:16,160
Speaker 4: the kids, when Number eight snapped at me, yelling that

1174
00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:19,640
Speaker 4: he Thomas was fine and he was gonna stay right

1175
00:54:19,680 --> 00:54:22,680
Speaker 4: there despite him immediately starting to play with one of

1176
00:54:22,680 --> 00:54:26,120
Speaker 4: the glass goblets. Then grand Grant approached Thomas, and Number

1177
00:54:26,160 --> 00:54:29,680
Speaker 4: eight yelled at her two his own elderly mother.

1178
00:54:29,640 --> 00:54:32,120
Speaker 1: You don't yell at Graham, Graham.

1179
00:54:31,880 --> 00:54:34,440
Speaker 4: You don't freaking yell at grand grand or you get

1180
00:54:34,520 --> 00:54:37,040
Speaker 4: to get the fists, because she was afraid of the

1181
00:54:37,040 --> 00:54:40,160
Speaker 4: same thing I was. Then I discreetly texted my husband

1182
00:54:40,200 --> 00:54:42,719
Speaker 4: to intervene and asked him to make sure none of

1183
00:54:42,719 --> 00:54:45,000
Speaker 4: the kids came upstairs until it was time to eat.

1184
00:54:45,360 --> 00:54:48,640
Speaker 4: Same thing happened again. Then a couple of the other

1185
00:54:48,680 --> 00:54:50,880
Speaker 4: siblings said the same thing. You would have thought that

1186
00:54:50,920 --> 00:54:53,360
Speaker 4: maybe this would have given him slash his wife the hint,

1187
00:54:53,520 --> 00:54:56,560
Speaker 4: But last no, and there was more shouting from Number eight.

1188
00:54:56,840 --> 00:54:59,200
Speaker 4: After another half an hour or so of the back

1189
00:54:59,239 --> 00:55:02,319
Speaker 4: and forth, he finally decided that maybe Thomas should be

1190
00:55:02,320 --> 00:55:05,640
Speaker 4: downstairs after all. Dinner was an awkward affair, at least

1191
00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:08,480
Speaker 4: for me, because I could feel the animosity towards me

1192
00:55:08,560 --> 00:55:12,600
Speaker 4: from Number eight in sarah because obviously everything was my fault,

1193
00:55:12,640 --> 00:55:15,160
Speaker 4: since I couldn't just let their kids get hurt, et cetera.

1194
00:55:15,360 --> 00:55:17,799
Speaker 4: As soon as dinner was over, I wanted to leave.

1195
00:55:18,080 --> 00:55:20,719
Speaker 4: I was supposed to be on vacation and enjoying myself,

1196
00:55:21,200 --> 00:55:24,160
Speaker 4: but instead I had to watch some unruly kids and

1197
00:55:24,200 --> 00:55:26,719
Speaker 4: then get yelled at and later snubbed because I was

1198
00:55:26,719 --> 00:55:29,160
Speaker 4: trying to make sure everyone was safe. And we want

1199
00:55:29,200 --> 00:55:31,680
Speaker 4: to make sure that you safely join us live every

1200
00:55:31,680 --> 00:55:34,240
Speaker 4: week to at three PMPST. It's you're to Facebook, TikTok,

1201
00:55:34,280 --> 00:55:34,720
Speaker 4: and twitch.

1202
00:55:34,880 --> 00:55:38,480
Speaker 3: Don't do it while you're driving, or flying a plane

1203
00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:42,400
Speaker 3: or operating a train. Always safely. And you know what,

1204
00:55:42,440 --> 00:55:45,000
Speaker 3: we might even be live right now as you're watching this,

1205
00:55:45,080 --> 00:55:46,480
Speaker 3: so go check see if we're live.

1206
00:55:46,560 --> 00:55:48,560
Speaker 4: But wait once acond, We've got a little bit more

1207
00:55:48,600 --> 00:55:50,520
Speaker 4: to the story. So do you have any final thoughts

1208
00:55:50,560 --> 00:55:51,799
Speaker 4: before we crack it open.

1209
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:54,839
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's really hard to tell parents that their kids suck.

1210
00:55:55,040 --> 00:55:56,160
Speaker 4: Oh that's also true.

1211
00:55:56,200 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 1: It's kind of really hard.

1212
00:55:57,320 --> 00:55:59,239
Speaker 3: What you just said is the nice way of saying that,

1213
00:55:59,280 --> 00:56:01,160
Speaker 3: which is like, it sounds like these kids are being

1214
00:56:01,239 --> 00:56:03,640
Speaker 3: actively ruined, and it sounds like they're also not in

1215
00:56:03,680 --> 00:56:04,840
Speaker 3: the safest environment.

1216
00:56:05,080 --> 00:56:07,759
Speaker 4: I was so upset and overwhelmed by the whole situation

1217
00:56:07,960 --> 00:56:10,239
Speaker 4: that I did not leave the airbnb on Friday and

1218
00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:13,760
Speaker 4: was overjoyed to leave for home on Saturday morning. Don't worry.

1219
00:56:13,800 --> 00:56:16,600
Speaker 4: We made it home safely on Sunday and are grateful

1220
00:56:16,680 --> 00:56:18,719
Speaker 4: our trip is over. So am I in the wrong

1221
00:56:18,800 --> 00:56:21,719
Speaker 4: for stepping in and making sure that my husband's young

1222
00:56:21,800 --> 00:56:24,640
Speaker 4: cousins and our son were safe at a family gathering

1223
00:56:24,880 --> 00:56:27,960
Speaker 4: over Thanksgiving? And that is the end of that story.

1224
00:56:28,320 --> 00:56:30,560
Speaker 3: Oh P, I just want you to read that one

1225
00:56:30,600 --> 00:56:33,200
Speaker 3: more time and you can answer that one yourself.

1226
00:56:33,360 --> 00:56:35,879
Speaker 4: Am I the a hole for making sure that kids

1227
00:56:35,920 --> 00:56:37,120
Speaker 4: were safe? Obviously not