WEBVTT - Breakups, Yam Pellets & How to Sound More Assertive

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<v Speaker 1>Good.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, break it down.

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<v Speaker 3>If you ever have feelings that you just won'ts ay

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<v Speaker 3>and Cat gotcha covin locking a brother, Ladies and folks,

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<v Speaker 3>do you just follow ann the spirit where it's all

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<v Speaker 3>the front and real stuff to the chill stuff and

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<v Speaker 3>the am But Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can

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<v Speaker 3>do it just stop you feel things. This is feeling

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<v Speaker 3>things with Amy and Cat.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm Kat,

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<v Speaker 2>And my feeling of the day is anticipation. I am

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<v Speaker 2>full of anticipation because, let me tell you, in about

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<v Speaker 2>two weeks or so, apparently I'm going to be a

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<v Speaker 2>whole new person, whole new in what ways. Well, Marty,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm already halfway there. Yeah, to this new person that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna feel like because I've started my hormone replacement therapy,

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<v Speaker 2>which a lot of it I'm trying to do through food.

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<v Speaker 2>But we got my blood work back and my doctor

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<v Speaker 2>was like, look, I can intervene with some other things

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<v Speaker 2>that are just gonna help kickstart you and sort of

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<v Speaker 2>put you to the front of the line and then

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<v Speaker 2>you can maintain with food. But she's like, it's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>take a minute, and we can be patient and you

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<v Speaker 2>can do that, or I can put a yam based

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<v Speaker 2>rice size pellet into your upper butt hip area and

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<v Speaker 2>it'll slowly release plant based testosterone into your body.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's just like putting a little piece of a

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<v Speaker 1>vegetable inside of.

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<v Speaker 2>Your I guess, so, I mean in layman's terms.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's a very saturated piece of vegetable.

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<v Speaker 2>It's slowly releasing. Well, I mean, I don't know that

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<v Speaker 2>it's it's not a piece of vegetable. I do know

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<v Speaker 2>that it is a yam based pellet. Do your own research.

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<v Speaker 2>Do not listen to me on this. But I have

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<v Speaker 2>done testosterone cream in the past, and I do think

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<v Speaker 2>that it helped me. But I told her I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>mind the cream, but she was like, look, they've come

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<v Speaker 2>a long way with the pellets, the type of pellet

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<v Speaker 2>that I use, and how I sort of engineer the

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<v Speaker 2>pellet to work specifically for you and slow release, like

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<v Speaker 2>you're not going to get too much. She's had a

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<v Speaker 2>bad experience with pellets, certain types of pellets in the past,

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<v Speaker 2>but this particular pellet she's all about. And she's a

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<v Speaker 2>guynecologist that also has a pharmaceutical background, So I like

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<v Speaker 2>too that she knows a lot about anything she's prescribing

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<v Speaker 2>for me. And I have the pellet in.

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<v Speaker 1>My butt right now, can you feel it like?

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<v Speaker 2>No? Well, I don't know because I say no just

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<v Speaker 2>moving around and sitting.

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<v Speaker 4>No.

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<v Speaker 2>But I still have the bandage on it, and I

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<v Speaker 2>get to remove the bandage tonight. So right now, if

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<v Speaker 2>I rub my hand over it, I feel the big, thick,

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<v Speaker 2>padded bandage.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean, can you feel like it's haynes like

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<v Speaker 1>sore or something like when you're sitting down on your butt?

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<v Speaker 1>Does it kind of hurt?

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<v Speaker 2>No? No, it's not tender to the test. She did

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<v Speaker 2>have to numb the area before inserting.

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<v Speaker 1>That's shocking to me because I did see the bandage

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<v Speaker 1>in a This is not to scare anybody, but it

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<v Speaker 1>looks like it would be painful, like.

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<v Speaker 2>There's some blood, just a little bit. And then she's

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<v Speaker 2>just like, I want you to keep this vandage on

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<v Speaker 2>for four days and no plates because she didn't want

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<v Speaker 2>me doing squats while the pellet's still finding it's home.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess because if I crossplat it could like move

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<v Speaker 2>the pellet go somewhere else if they need the pellet

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<v Speaker 2>to settle in right where we put it. So all

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<v Speaker 2>I've been able to do is just walk, no squatting.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, hey, don't have to tell me. Darn,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess I can't good love your plot. I do

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<v Speaker 2>love my plates, but I welcome to the break. The break.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I feel like I have pilates pressure because I

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<v Speaker 2>bought a package, and so I feel like I want

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<v Speaker 2>to It's not I don't have pressure to work out

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<v Speaker 2>for my well being.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I got to get my money for you. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>if I go four times a week, that means each

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<v Speaker 1>class is this much money. Yes, done them.

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<v Speaker 2>Before, done the math, and it feels good. So I've

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<v Speaker 2>got the pellet in my bottom that will hopefully get

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<v Speaker 2>me up to a seventy. I need to be like,

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<v Speaker 2>there's different ways to measure testosterone the way she's measuring mine.

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<v Speaker 2>I have ten, and she would like to see most women,

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<v Speaker 2>depending on who they are and their body type structure.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know heightweight, whatever, anywhere from seventy to two hundred,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm at ten.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, so you could be at two hundred and no.

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<v Speaker 2>She doesn't want me to be at two hundred. I

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<v Speaker 2>might grow a beard. I don't think she wants me

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<v Speaker 2>at two hundred.

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, no, no. You might not know the answer

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<v Speaker 1>to this, but age wise, is seventy based anything to

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<v Speaker 1>do with your age or is it?

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's just normal female like to feel. When

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<v Speaker 2>I say normal, it's what helps you feel your most normal.

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<v Speaker 2>Because when you're low on testosterone, you are more fatigued.

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<v Speaker 2>No low libido, brain fog.

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<v Speaker 1>So do you have low testosterone when you're pregnant?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, because I feel this. I think you are.

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<v Speaker 2>You're growing a human in your body, so brain fog

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<v Speaker 2>and fatigue would make sense. But I actually have never

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<v Speaker 2>been pregnant, so I don't know what hormones are fluctuating.

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<v Speaker 2>And let's be honest, even if I had been pregnant

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<v Speaker 2>and probably wouldn't remember, Yeah, that's fair, I'd be like,

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<v Speaker 2>it's one of those testosterone estrogen for gesturine. So I

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<v Speaker 2>am just over the moon excited about what is in

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<v Speaker 2>store for me once my testosterone gets up to at

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<v Speaker 2>least seventy. I mean, shoot, I might start feeling better

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<v Speaker 2>if I hit fifty. Yeah, because I'm at ten. And

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<v Speaker 2>then I will say when I did the cream and

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<v Speaker 2>this was the different doctor. And the reason why I

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<v Speaker 2>know people measure it differently is because I remember her

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<v Speaker 2>telling me I was like at a three or something,

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't know if it was the same measurement.

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<v Speaker 2>But then I was talking to my friend Gracie the

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<v Speaker 2>other day and she was like, yeah, I'm at like

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<v Speaker 2>a point like I had a decimol And I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>there's no way the measurement's the same because she would

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<v Speaker 2>not have a point like. She wouldn't even be at

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<v Speaker 2>a one. She's at like a point four out of seven.

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<v Speaker 2>That can't be right.

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<v Speaker 1>We need a universal test, yeah, measurement.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So that's where my tea is, my testosterone, my

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<v Speaker 2>iron is really low, and my vitamin D might as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Not exist, which that I feel like is pretty common.

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<v Speaker 2>Very common. Apparently every woman is low in vitamin D,

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<v Speaker 2>so get on that. And the thing is if I

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<v Speaker 2>want my body to produce testosterone and naturally through food,

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<v Speaker 2>so with iron, for example, I'm low on iron, so

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<v Speaker 2>I need to be eating more beef and spinach. However,

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<v Speaker 2>I believe with vitamin D the same with the iron

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<v Speaker 2>and the testosterone. If you're lacking vitamin D, your body's

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<v Speaker 2>not going to do all the things it needs to

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<v Speaker 2>do to produce the iron and the testosterone.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, they all play a part.

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<v Speaker 2>So they all play a part. So my pellet is

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<v Speaker 2>just jump starting me and then hopefully I can get

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<v Speaker 2>my body. I keep it in my mind. I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>going to invite you into my mind like right now,

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<v Speaker 2>like just ready on the edge. I'm just ready. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>because she described it as like a car and there's

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<v Speaker 2>four key things she's looking for, and three of the

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<v Speaker 2>four of my tires are basically flat, So what we're metife.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've got one working tire and then my vitamin D,

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<v Speaker 2>my iron which is also attached to my thyroid and

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<v Speaker 2>my testosterone or flat tires. So I'm get hitting the

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<v Speaker 2>road every day, hitting life, going out into the world

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<v Speaker 2>with one working tire.

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<v Speaker 1>Think about how functional you are.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I'm full of anticipation.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, wouldn't that be you're feeling one hundred percent. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I was about to be like a superhuman

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<v Speaker 1>and I could like lift a car or something.

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<v Speaker 2>But also in two weeks, if you feel like I'm

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<v Speaker 2>the same, just don't keep it to yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>I won't say a word but also I wonder if

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna have this feeling of like, oh, I've been

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<v Speaker 1>doing it this way for so long that I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>need to because you know a lot of times people

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<v Speaker 1>are high achieving because they don't have any other option

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<v Speaker 1>inside their brain, right, Like a lot of people with

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<v Speaker 1>ADHD feel that way. Like I had a doctor one

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<v Speaker 1>time tell me like, well, if you have ADHD, how

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<v Speaker 1>did you get good grades in school? Almost like saying

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<v Speaker 1>I was like making stuff up and it's because emotionally

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<v Speaker 1>and mentally I didn't have a choice. So you just

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<v Speaker 1>like go the extra seventeen thousand miles and run yourself

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<v Speaker 1>into the ground when you realize that it didn't have

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<v Speaker 1>to be that hard. So I wonder if you're going

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<v Speaker 1>to have that feeling of like I've been doing this

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<v Speaker 1>and it didn't need to feel that hard.

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<v Speaker 2>Very excited.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Okay, well I'm excited too, and I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>encourage you in your new life journey no matter what

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<v Speaker 1>I see happening.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, my HRT.

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<v Speaker 1>So two weeks from now, we're going to check it

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<v Speaker 1>ish too. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I would like to say, I've got to get some

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<v Speaker 2>iron impulsions. So once the iron gets in me because

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<v Speaker 2>I've already started taking my vitamin D thing, which is

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<v Speaker 2>one capsule. I take it one day a week, So

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<v Speaker 2>every Thursday, I'm gonna be taking my fifty thousand units

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<v Speaker 2>of vitamin D. And then I also need to be

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<v Speaker 2>getting sunlight as well. Yeah, carefully, carefully, responsibly when the

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<v Speaker 2>UV rays are low.

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<v Speaker 1>So are you gonna not wear a hat when you

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<v Speaker 1>go out? Like? W how do you do?

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<v Speaker 2>Not really know my plan yet, but I think I

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<v Speaker 2>can responsibly get a little bit of sun. It's not

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<v Speaker 2>like I have to go out there and peak hours,

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<v Speaker 2>peak tanning hour, say, just be outside. I can go

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<v Speaker 2>morning afternoon and just be out there for a little bit. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>again this is not We're not a medical podcast. Talk

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<v Speaker 2>to your doctor. People are seeing are like, yeah, don't worry,

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<v Speaker 2>we wouldn't take medical advice from you. All good.

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<v Speaker 1>I never thought it was.

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<v Speaker 2>We are mental health minded though. So what's your feeling

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<v Speaker 2>of the day.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm feeling confused for two reasons actually, and both have

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<v Speaker 1>to do with the Internet, because I've just learned on

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<v Speaker 1>another level things are not always what they seem. One

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<v Speaker 1>I tried to put wallpaper up in my powder room

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<v Speaker 1>this weekend because TikTok convinced me that it was really

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<v Speaker 1>simple and easy and I could do it on my own,

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<v Speaker 1>and I have. Honestly, I have no words. But the

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<v Speaker 1>people that are making peel and stick wallpaper content, Are

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<v Speaker 1>you guys lying or am I stupid? It's what I

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<v Speaker 1>want to know.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know because I've never done it. I personally

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<v Speaker 2>would never put myself in that situation. That sounds like

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<v Speaker 2>a nightmare.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, the last time I had wallpaper, I hired

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<v Speaker 1>somebody because I was like, yeah, I can't do this.

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<v Speaker 1>But then I kept seeing people do it and showing

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<v Speaker 1>tips and tricks and it looked so easy. And then

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<v Speaker 1>I started doing it and I was like, this is

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<v Speaker 1>not for me, and this will ruin my marriage if

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<v Speaker 1>we continue. So so what are you going to do?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to call the lady that my dining room,

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<v Speaker 1>which we want a wallpaper the nursery too, so we'll

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<v Speaker 1>have her come do both. But in the meantime, my

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<v Speaker 1>powder room looks a hot mess because it has like

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<v Speaker 1>one and a half panels of wallpaper. We ripped a

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<v Speaker 1>hole in the wall. The yeah, it's a whole thing.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's one reason I'm confused. The other reason I'm

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<v Speaker 1>confused is I got hit with dry brushing content you're

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<v Speaker 1>familiar with. That's yeah, and I've previously just like swiped

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<v Speaker 1>past that, but like, for some reason it was a

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<v Speaker 1>little interesting to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe now that you're with child.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And I think because maybe because I can't do

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<v Speaker 1>my vibration plate.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh can you not do that while you're pregnant? I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I think.

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<v Speaker 2>Shake it around.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that would be good for her.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, speaking of yeah, you know Courtney Cook on Instagram

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<v Speaker 2>Courtney Cook Sweet Potatoes Girl.

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<v Speaker 1>No, but she was making eggs the.

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<v Speaker 2>Other day and she was because you know, she always

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<v Speaker 2>has marinated eggs or whatever, but did you know she

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<v Speaker 2>has twenty five chickens. Like her eggs come from her chickens.

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<v Speaker 2>So she had this big basketful of eggs and she

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<v Speaker 2>said she learned on TikTok that you take a spoon

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<v Speaker 2>to the egg and you sort of crack the membrane

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<v Speaker 2>or something. So before you put them in the water

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<v Speaker 2>to boil, to make hard boiled eggs, you tap it

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<v Speaker 2>with a spoon, tap tap, tap tap, And as you're

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<v Speaker 2>tapping it, it's making one swined like one one swin. Sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>when you're tapping it, it's making one sound like tap

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<v Speaker 2>tap tap, and then it'll go deep like. And then

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<v Speaker 2>when you hear the deep, you know you cracked the membrane.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are we cracking the membrane?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, but it made me think you're vibrating

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<v Speaker 2>your baby, baby, And I'm.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, oh, we don't want to we don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>crack the memborine. We don't want to do that.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, no no. So you can't do you can't release

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<v Speaker 2>your limps that way. So you're curious about releasing it

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<v Speaker 2>through dry brush here.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's where I'm I guess this is coming from.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was watching videos and I'm not familiar with this. Again,

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<v Speaker 1>So if anybody's listening to this and you're like, this

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<v Speaker 1>feels sounds simple and stupid, that's because I am new

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<v Speaker 1>to this club. I bought a dry rush for my

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<v Speaker 1>face and for my body, and this morning I was

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<v Speaker 1>so excited to do it. It hurt.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think you're supposed to press hard. You're supposed

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<v Speaker 2>to press hard.

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<v Speaker 1>At how hard are you?

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<v Speaker 5>Well?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know that it should hurt.

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<v Speaker 1>Well and I was like kind of scratching. I think

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<v Speaker 1>on my arm. That's like a little bit like there

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<v Speaker 1>were some like red scratches. Maybe need to go back

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<v Speaker 1>and watch the videos because I the face one was

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<v Speaker 1>really soft.

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<v Speaker 2>Did they have you open up the Big six? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I did the like whatever, But the face one felt

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<v Speaker 1>really good and the face one felt like almost like

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<v Speaker 1>a makeup a stiff makeup rush, you know. But the

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<v Speaker 1>other one, it I was like, I can't, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>go through with this. I couldn't finish it hurt, but like, okay,

0:13:56.760 --> 0:13:57.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm doing it too hard.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe you will because it is lighter to the touch

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<v Speaker 2>than people would think. Even when you're opening up the

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<v Speaker 2>Big six, you've got when you're working your lymphatic system,

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<v Speaker 2>you want to open up like the exits on the highway.

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<v Speaker 2>It's sort of like if you had a highway with

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<v Speaker 2>no exits and you start to do something like dry

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<v Speaker 2>brushing or getting on your vibration plate, it has nowhere

0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:20.600
<v Speaker 2>to exit, It has nowhere to go, so it just

0:14:20.680 --> 0:14:23.440
<v Speaker 2>that can cause issues. So if you open up like

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<v Speaker 2>under your like by your collarbone, under your ears, under

0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:30.840
<v Speaker 2>your your under arms, which we've got a whole segment

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<v Speaker 2>coming up later.

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<v Speaker 1>I just said armfit. Sorry again.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, we have some listeners that are just as

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<v Speaker 2>passionate as me when it comes to under arm and

0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:43.880
<v Speaker 2>putting on deodorant in public. So we've got some fun

0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:46.920
<v Speaker 2>voicemails coming up in a minute. But you're under arms

0:14:47.080 --> 0:14:50.360
<v Speaker 2>and then your ab area you're growing or what would

0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:53.400
<v Speaker 2>you call it as growing, and then behind your knees.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't do the app because I was afraid to.

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<v Speaker 1>I am being so anxious about.

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<v Speaker 2>My I think, touch your son, I know, but I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't want to, Like maybe it just because I was

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<v Speaker 1>taking my swfl like do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I know that I feel like the way you're talking

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<v Speaker 2>to me, like I'm scared.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm scared to brush my stomach. But now it's making

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<v Speaker 1>sense that like I was doing it way too hard

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<v Speaker 1>that it's but in my head, I'm like, how is

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<v Speaker 1>this doing anything if I'm not like putting pressure on

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<v Speaker 1>my skin.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think that that's the misconception. Even with the

0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:34.680
<v Speaker 2>vibration plate, I've heard from multiple experts keep it on

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<v Speaker 2>a low level and don't do only ten to twenty minutes. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>when I first got it, before I was seeking out

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<v Speaker 2>help from people to know what they're talking about. I'm like, well,

0:15:44.000 --> 0:15:45.720
<v Speaker 2>I need level ten and I'm going to do this

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<v Speaker 2>for thirty minutes. It's counterproductive.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So, and even when you're opening the big six, like

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<v Speaker 2>they say over and over, like it's not a hard pressure,

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<v Speaker 2>like you feel like you might need to press hard

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<v Speaker 2>to open it up, but you don't, like you just

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<v Speaker 2>really need to tep tep tap.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, well maybe that's the I'm going to try again.

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<v Speaker 2>Pump soft pump. Just you gotta be gentle.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you do the dry brushing?

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<v Speaker 2>No, I've done it in the years past, but oh

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<v Speaker 2>it's been a long long time, like probably a decade

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<v Speaker 2>since I've tried it. And I definitely didn't know about

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<v Speaker 2>opening up my limp system before, so I probably wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>even doing it properly.

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<v Speaker 1>The face one I'm probably gonna keep doing because it

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<v Speaker 1>feels good.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so this sort of stuff can be overwhelming.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Like it's just like another thing in my schedule.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm going to do when it feels appropriate and

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<v Speaker 1>when I have the time. But I'm not going to

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<v Speaker 1>get too stuck on it, and I'm going to work

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<v Speaker 1>on being more gentle. But Why don't they just give

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<v Speaker 1>you a softer brush.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, all right, well, speaking of I was confused, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>like to follow up on some of your confusion. About

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<v Speaker 1>four or five weeks ago, you said you were confused,

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<v Speaker 1>and you you talk about it later. Yeah, my feeling

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<v Speaker 1>of the day was confused, Yes, and I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>it's now later.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the cow out of the bagh at least I

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<v Speaker 2>talked about it on the Bobby Bone Show. My boyfriend

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<v Speaker 2>and I broke up. My boyfriend and I broke up.

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<v Speaker 2>We were both were just not in a great place.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't terrible. We were both having similar feelings of

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<v Speaker 2>that maybe we needed a break or a breakup, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's what I couldn't really figure out. And then we

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<v Speaker 2>decided to break up. And now that cat's out of

0:17:34.160 --> 0:17:36.200
<v Speaker 2>the bag, because well we talked about it on the

0:17:36.200 --> 0:17:38.680
<v Speaker 2>Bobby Bone Show and now I can talk about it

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<v Speaker 2>in more detail here, which I have something in my

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<v Speaker 2>hands right now that led to well my confusion, Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, Kat.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you confused? K I have to say, when I

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<v Speaker 1>saw it, it was confusing.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh the price tag is on the bottom. Oh no, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it wasn't don't worry. It's not Unclaire, Okay, Yeah, was

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<v Speaker 2>like that must have been unclearance.

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<v Speaker 1>It still could have been on a clearance shelf. We

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<v Speaker 1>don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know. I think that this to me,

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<v Speaker 2>which I'll tell y'all what it is. I'm holding a

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<v Speaker 2>coffee mug that was bought at a little store conveniently

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<v Speaker 2>located next to a coffee shop that we had gone to,

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<v Speaker 2>which makes me think we just got coffee and then

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<v Speaker 2>he ran into the shop to grab a Valentine's gift

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<v Speaker 2>really quick?

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<v Speaker 1>Was it the day? Was it Valentine's Day?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yeah, that day? And then so I saw him

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<v Speaker 2>and there was nothing, which I think is an indicator

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<v Speaker 2>that like, it's just not a priority. And I think

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<v Speaker 2>we were both feeling blab and he had been traveling

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<v Speaker 2>that week.

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<v Speaker 1>I get it. Well, clarify this. You saw him earlier

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<v Speaker 1>and he didn't have anything for you. No, it was

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<v Speaker 1>be a hike.

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<v Speaker 2>And then after the hike we went to get coffee.

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<v Speaker 2>And then after coffee, I got in my car and left,

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<v Speaker 2>and I guess he pretended to get in his car,

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<v Speaker 2>and then he got out and must have gone in

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<v Speaker 2>and bought the coffee.

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<v Speaker 1>Mug that I had to be clear.

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<v Speaker 2>I like coffee mugs. Yeah, okay, so, like I was

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<v Speaker 2>thinking about it, I have some coffee mugs that I've

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<v Speaker 2>had for years from friends. My friend Gracie got me

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<v Speaker 2>this cute little a I love it. It's from Anthropology.

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<v Speaker 2>I use it all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>You've gotten so cute. You got me four coffee mugs, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're my favorite.

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<v Speaker 2>Coffee mugs can be a great gift. Claire got me

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<v Speaker 2>one with a piece of toast on it that talks

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<v Speaker 2>about toast. You know how I went through my big toast.

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<v Speaker 2>I still love toast, but I had a season where

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<v Speaker 2>I was eating toast multiple times a day, all different

0:19:30.240 --> 0:19:36.639
<v Speaker 2>types of toast salty sweet, Yeah, savory, salty and sweet

0:19:36.640 --> 0:19:39.240
<v Speaker 2>at the same time. Like I was obsessed with toast.

0:19:39.240 --> 0:19:40.920
<v Speaker 2>So she got me this toast smug that was really

0:19:40.920 --> 0:19:44.240
<v Speaker 2>funny and cute. And then Claire also got me another

0:19:44.680 --> 0:19:47.000
<v Speaker 2>mug that says cat person. It has got these little

0:19:47.040 --> 0:19:49.760
<v Speaker 2>cat heads on it. And then Ali fallon Once got

0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:52.479
<v Speaker 2>me a mug and maybe Gracie was in on it

0:19:52.480 --> 0:19:55.440
<v Speaker 2>with her too, but it's like these two little raccoons

0:19:55.440 --> 0:19:57.840
<v Speaker 2>on a bike and they're it says born to Dilly DELI.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, that's so cute.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, anyway, I'm not anti coffee mug. Okay, this particular

0:20:04.600 --> 0:20:07.480
<v Speaker 2>mug which I think he was maybe doing his best

0:20:07.520 --> 0:20:09.800
<v Speaker 2>that he could in that moment for where we were

0:20:09.840 --> 0:20:13.960
<v Speaker 2>in our relationship. This is Valentine's Day, not my birthday.

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<v Speaker 2>The mug is pink. And then like, what do you

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<v Speaker 2>call this font?

0:20:19.359 --> 0:20:21.160
<v Speaker 1>Cheogy font chewgee?

0:20:21.840 --> 0:20:23.560
<v Speaker 2>Well to find chew gee because.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a fund It reminds me of like early

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<v Speaker 1>two thousands, Like you know how it used to be

0:20:29.080 --> 0:20:32.520
<v Speaker 1>really popular to have art that had words on it,

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<v Speaker 1>like written stuff like quotes and stuff something you would find. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to say, oh yeah nobody.

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<v Speaker 2>Someone might love this mug that and that is okay.

0:20:43.640 --> 0:20:45.720
<v Speaker 1>But it's obviously not your story.

0:20:45.840 --> 0:20:52.040
<v Speaker 2>My thing is my boyfriend whom I love and he

0:20:52.119 --> 0:20:56.320
<v Speaker 2>loves me went into a store and thought she's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>love this.

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<v Speaker 1>Like like, well did I think that? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know that he was in the place honestly

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<v Speaker 2>to really try to get something that Even our conversation

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<v Speaker 2>before we went to the coffee shop, our walk was

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<v Speaker 2>not a great walk. Yeah, because now I have all

0:21:16.560 --> 0:21:19.919
<v Speaker 2>these feelings because a handwritten note would have meant something

0:21:19.960 --> 0:21:24.200
<v Speaker 2>to me, and we didn't have that exchange. So then

0:21:24.280 --> 0:21:28.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm perplexed. But I get it if you're in sort

0:21:28.480 --> 0:21:31.760
<v Speaker 2>of this weird phase in your relationship. And I remember

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<v Speaker 2>when I was filling out the his Valentine's Day card,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I don't really know what to say because

0:21:36.320 --> 0:21:38.600
<v Speaker 2>in that moment, I wasn't feeling all the warm, fuzzy

0:21:38.600 --> 0:21:41.399
<v Speaker 2>feelings that I normally would feel, so I sort of

0:21:41.480 --> 0:21:43.879
<v Speaker 2>kept it pretty generic. So I get it, That's what

0:21:43.960 --> 0:21:47.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, Like, I get I totally understand how this

0:21:47.040 --> 0:21:47.840
<v Speaker 2>smug happened.

0:21:48.000 --> 0:21:49.400
<v Speaker 1>Yes, yeah, I get it.

0:21:50.119 --> 0:21:53.720
<v Speaker 2>And this smug also led to me being like, we're done.

0:21:53.840 --> 0:21:55.639
<v Speaker 2>It was a sort at this moment, we need a

0:21:55.640 --> 0:21:58.360
<v Speaker 2>break or we're done. I think this is a breakup

0:21:58.400 --> 0:22:03.480
<v Speaker 2>because I can tell he's done. It was almost like

0:22:03.560 --> 0:22:07.960
<v Speaker 2>subconsciously his brain was like, this mug will show her

0:22:08.200 --> 0:22:13.880
<v Speaker 2>you don't care, and I feel horrible. I haven't even

0:22:13.880 --> 0:22:15.720
<v Speaker 2>gotten to really talk to him about the mug, and

0:22:15.760 --> 0:22:18.680
<v Speaker 2>I hope that one day we can talk about the mug,

0:22:19.440 --> 0:22:22.120
<v Speaker 2>but I don't know if there's a reason to if

0:22:22.160 --> 0:22:23.720
<v Speaker 2>we have a reason to talk about the mug. I'll

0:22:23.720 --> 0:22:26.600
<v Speaker 2>bring up the mug because I couldn't have felt less

0:22:26.960 --> 0:22:31.520
<v Speaker 2>known or seen when I was given the mug, because

0:22:31.640 --> 0:22:33.320
<v Speaker 2>I'll now, i'll read to you what the mug says.

0:22:34.119 --> 0:22:39.000
<v Speaker 2>This is Valentine's Day. Okay, you can't improve with age

0:22:39.240 --> 0:22:44.560
<v Speaker 2>if you're already perfect. And it's again pink. It's got

0:22:44.560 --> 0:22:51.280
<v Speaker 2>these blue swirly letters, and so I was like, it's

0:22:51.400 --> 0:22:57.080
<v Speaker 2>Valentine's Day, I'm not turning sixty.

0:22:55.119 --> 0:22:56.679
<v Speaker 1>Like it doesn't make any sense.

0:22:57.119 --> 0:23:00.800
<v Speaker 2>No, And there was also some cute, pink, warm fuzzy socks.

0:23:00.800 --> 0:23:02.560
<v Speaker 2>I have no issues with the socks. Love the socks.

0:23:03.040 --> 0:23:04.920
<v Speaker 2>Give me a pair of fuzzy socks all day long.

0:23:04.960 --> 0:23:06.600
<v Speaker 2>But it was almost like maybe they were a set.

0:23:06.800 --> 0:23:09.760
<v Speaker 2>Was the socks come with the mug? I don't know.

0:23:10.000 --> 0:23:13.520
<v Speaker 1>I wonder like what kept him from just like going

0:23:13.520 --> 0:23:15.439
<v Speaker 1>and picking up a bouquet of flowers from like a

0:23:15.480 --> 0:23:18.280
<v Speaker 1>grocery store, like a lot of men do, Like would

0:23:18.320 --> 0:23:19.520
<v Speaker 1>that have been as.

0:23:20.280 --> 0:23:23.800
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I guess I have said over time

0:23:23.960 --> 0:23:26.480
<v Speaker 2>that I'm not like the biggest flower person, but I'm trying.

0:23:26.600 --> 0:23:32.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to be or maybe a plant words, yeah,

0:23:32.200 --> 0:23:34.760
<v Speaker 2>but I get that at that moment. I do have

0:23:35.440 --> 0:23:37.960
<v Speaker 2>compassionate understanding for the fact that maybe words would be

0:23:38.000 --> 0:23:40.840
<v Speaker 2>hard at that time, Like if you're at a rocky

0:23:40.880 --> 0:23:43.280
<v Speaker 2>place in your relationship, it's hard to sit down and

0:23:43.359 --> 0:23:48.240
<v Speaker 2>profess your love for someone that you're not vibing with. Yeah,

0:23:48.280 --> 0:23:53.679
<v Speaker 2>and I give grace for that part, because yeah, if

0:23:53.720 --> 0:23:55.639
<v Speaker 2>I had like walked back to my car and there

0:23:55.760 --> 0:23:58.399
<v Speaker 2>was maybe a single stem flower, like even in my

0:23:58.440 --> 0:24:01.160
<v Speaker 2>windshield with a little note it was like a heart

0:24:01.920 --> 0:24:05.359
<v Speaker 2>like have to being great something like that, you know,

0:24:06.040 --> 0:24:09.760
<v Speaker 2>And and on our walk I had shared I don't

0:24:09.760 --> 0:24:11.040
<v Speaker 2>want to get too much in the weeds of like

0:24:11.080 --> 0:24:14.119
<v Speaker 2>our very personal stuff. But like we've talked about this

0:24:14.200 --> 0:24:19.160
<v Speaker 2>on this podcast multiple times, my primal question is am

0:24:19.160 --> 0:24:26.439
<v Speaker 2>I wanted? And this mug did not fall into the

0:24:26.440 --> 0:24:30.840
<v Speaker 2>category of me feeling wanted. I felt like it felt convenient,

0:24:31.240 --> 0:24:34.080
<v Speaker 2>like I'm going to run into this little store right

0:24:34.080 --> 0:24:37.680
<v Speaker 2>by the coffee shop and grab the smug. And now

0:24:37.720 --> 0:24:39.960
<v Speaker 2>I feel a little bit catty talking about it here

0:24:40.440 --> 0:24:42.760
<v Speaker 2>with you. It's part of those moments where I'm having

0:24:42.760 --> 0:24:44.439
<v Speaker 2>like regret, like if he were to hear this, but

0:24:44.560 --> 0:24:47.080
<v Speaker 2>I would these are things I would want to say

0:24:47.119 --> 0:24:51.680
<v Speaker 2>to him, and he didn't do anything wrong. I get

0:24:51.720 --> 0:24:53.000
<v Speaker 2>why he bought this mug.

0:24:53.080 --> 0:24:54.840
<v Speaker 1>Well, it's also out of character for him.

0:24:55.080 --> 0:24:58.920
<v Speaker 2>Yes, I get the season or whatever you want to

0:24:58.960 --> 0:25:02.080
<v Speaker 2>call it. The timing of our relationship. This mug makes sense,

0:25:02.880 --> 0:25:05.120
<v Speaker 2>and he was doing the best that he could in

0:25:05.160 --> 0:25:08.560
<v Speaker 2>that moment, and I think that's what it showed me.

0:25:08.640 --> 0:25:12.040
<v Speaker 2>It showed me, Okay, this is where our relationship is

0:25:12.119 --> 0:25:12.560
<v Speaker 2>right now.

0:25:12.680 --> 0:25:15.440
<v Speaker 1>It almost This is going to sound a little weird,

0:25:16.280 --> 0:25:18.800
<v Speaker 1>but I kind of hear this is that you getting

0:25:18.920 --> 0:25:22.439
<v Speaker 1>that gift, even though that's not something you would have

0:25:22.520 --> 0:25:25.639
<v Speaker 1>ever wanted and you did not feel wanted by, it

0:25:25.680 --> 0:25:27.880
<v Speaker 1>was a gift because it helped give you clarity.

0:25:28.440 --> 0:25:31.920
<v Speaker 2>Yes, like you said it, Yeah, a couple of weeks ago,

0:25:31.920 --> 0:25:33.320
<v Speaker 2>you had that quote, what.

0:25:33.280 --> 0:25:35.760
<v Speaker 1>Was it someone once gave me a box full of darkness?

0:25:37.000 --> 0:25:39.920
<v Speaker 1>That sounds I found out this too was a gift,

0:25:40.240 --> 0:25:42.119
<v Speaker 1>which that wasn't a box full of darkness, but it

0:25:42.200 --> 0:25:44.720
<v Speaker 1>was like you were like, oh, probably like oh dang it,

0:25:44.760 --> 0:25:48.320
<v Speaker 1>what like this doesn't feel good? And then also having

0:25:48.320 --> 0:25:51.000
<v Speaker 1>that experience is like, oh, this is clarity, Like this

0:25:51.080 --> 0:25:55.000
<v Speaker 1>is he wasn't using his words, but because maybe he

0:25:55.040 --> 0:25:56.720
<v Speaker 1>didn't want to acknowledge them.

0:25:57.600 --> 0:26:00.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that he wanted a break too. Yeah, it's like

0:26:00.800 --> 0:26:03.400
<v Speaker 2>last year for Valentine's Dates. Speaking of flowers, I did

0:26:03.440 --> 0:26:06.280
<v Speaker 2>get this massive bouquet. I mean it was the largest

0:26:06.280 --> 0:26:09.960
<v Speaker 2>bouquet of flowers that I maybe have ever received. And

0:26:10.200 --> 0:26:14.480
<v Speaker 2>I got that gold heart necklace that I had I

0:26:14.480 --> 0:26:17.200
<v Speaker 2>think originally sent him. Maybe he was asking for Christmas

0:26:17.200 --> 0:26:20.760
<v Speaker 2>gift ideas and something or maybe my birthday. I don't know,

0:26:20.880 --> 0:26:23.760
<v Speaker 2>but he he had it and he's ordered it and

0:26:23.800 --> 0:26:26.920
<v Speaker 2>surprised me with it. So I got the necklace. So yes,

0:26:26.960 --> 0:26:29.960
<v Speaker 2>when you say this smug is out of character, and

0:26:30.000 --> 0:26:32.040
<v Speaker 2>I would hope that that's what he would see too,

0:26:32.119 --> 0:26:35.800
<v Speaker 2>And I share this as not to be this caddie

0:26:35.840 --> 0:26:39.680
<v Speaker 2>at all. This smug was information, yes, and I shared

0:26:39.800 --> 0:26:45.120
<v Speaker 2>this because oftentimes we are given information and it can

0:26:45.119 --> 0:26:46.480
<v Speaker 2>be very helpful.

0:26:46.680 --> 0:26:49.080
<v Speaker 1>And in different ways. Information is not always words like

0:26:49.119 --> 0:26:51.200
<v Speaker 1>that was. Yeah.

0:26:51.520 --> 0:26:54.359
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I have yet to meet a friend in my

0:26:54.480 --> 0:27:00.840
<v Speaker 2>life that isn't perplexed by of the mug. So again,

0:27:01.400 --> 0:27:03.679
<v Speaker 2>it's not about that it's a coffee mug or that

0:27:03.800 --> 0:27:08.359
<v Speaker 2>it's not the price. Words are free, and I can't

0:27:08.400 --> 0:27:10.840
<v Speaker 2>acknowledge that for both of us during that time words

0:27:10.840 --> 0:27:17.120
<v Speaker 2>would have been incredibly difficult. And I don't know what

0:27:17.200 --> 0:27:20.280
<v Speaker 2>will happen from here, but that is where we are.

0:27:20.680 --> 0:27:23.720
<v Speaker 1>How do you feel like you've been since you guys

0:27:23.760 --> 0:27:27.440
<v Speaker 1>broke up, Like, how would you characterize the journey?

0:27:27.600 --> 0:27:32.679
<v Speaker 2>It's been hard? Yeah, yeah, it's been hard. Something was

0:27:32.880 --> 0:27:35.239
<v Speaker 2>just I don't know if it's gonna work. That's the

0:27:35.240 --> 0:27:38.080
<v Speaker 2>best way I can put it, Like just the vibes

0:27:38.119 --> 0:27:40.919
<v Speaker 2>weren't vibing as well as they were. And what's crazy

0:27:41.000 --> 0:27:43.360
<v Speaker 2>is it was so easy for so long, and then

0:27:43.359 --> 0:27:47.640
<v Speaker 2>we just kept hitting some little roadblocks, Which doesn't mean

0:27:47.680 --> 0:27:50.840
<v Speaker 2>I think if if we were married, obviously we would

0:27:51.119 --> 0:27:54.199
<v Speaker 2>really buckle up and commit and go to therapy and

0:27:54.280 --> 0:27:58.200
<v Speaker 2>figure it out. But we also have such busy lives, respectively,

0:27:58.400 --> 0:28:01.280
<v Speaker 2>like between his kids and mine, and I don't know.

0:28:01.320 --> 0:28:04.520
<v Speaker 2>I think we'll have to just well, we made the decision.

0:28:04.680 --> 0:28:06.600
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I keep talking about it as if well,

0:28:06.640 --> 0:28:08.360
<v Speaker 2>if it is a break, then we'd have to make

0:28:08.359 --> 0:28:11.240
<v Speaker 2>the decision to lean into that so we can get

0:28:11.280 --> 0:28:15.320
<v Speaker 2>some guidance and clarity on how to move forward. Because

0:28:15.320 --> 0:28:19.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm not someone even though I am divorced, that divorce

0:28:19.000 --> 0:28:22.960
<v Speaker 2>did not come lightly and I don't take relationships lightly,

0:28:23.160 --> 0:28:27.919
<v Speaker 2>and I wouldn't end a relationship lightly, but it was

0:28:28.000 --> 0:28:31.919
<v Speaker 2>easier to just Okay, let's go our separate ways here

0:28:31.960 --> 0:28:35.520
<v Speaker 2>for now, because yeah, we weren't married, which is crazy

0:28:35.560 --> 0:28:38.800
<v Speaker 2>because a few months before that we were talking marriage.

0:28:38.880 --> 0:28:42.040
<v Speaker 1>Well, we talked about you getting engaged on the podcast.

0:28:42.600 --> 0:28:45.760
<v Speaker 1>I know I was sending your engage trip because I guess.

0:28:46.840 --> 0:28:50.080
<v Speaker 2>I mean, it is crazy how it can take a turn.

0:28:50.160 --> 0:28:53.800
<v Speaker 2>And I'm also like, whoa, maybe we needed to just

0:28:53.840 --> 0:28:57.239
<v Speaker 2>pump the brakes for a minute. And I've got some

0:28:57.280 --> 0:29:01.200
<v Speaker 2>stuff I can focus on. My life as a way

0:29:01.240 --> 0:29:04.880
<v Speaker 2>more controlled than it's ever been in terms of different

0:29:04.920 --> 0:29:08.880
<v Speaker 2>people having different things going on that you know, can

0:29:08.920 --> 0:29:12.280
<v Speaker 2>be really disruptive. I do have some stuff going on

0:29:12.320 --> 0:29:14.720
<v Speaker 2>that I'm trying to tend to and maybe it's giving

0:29:14.760 --> 0:29:18.320
<v Speaker 2>me space to do that, which I need. And he's

0:29:18.360 --> 0:29:23.239
<v Speaker 2>well aware of that situation and even gave me his

0:29:23.320 --> 0:29:25.160
<v Speaker 2>thoughts on it the other day when I saw him.

0:29:25.160 --> 0:29:27.840
<v Speaker 2>I've seen him a couple of times, even with the breakup,

0:29:28.000 --> 0:29:31.120
<v Speaker 2>and that's been very normal and cool.

0:29:29.800 --> 0:29:33.960
<v Speaker 6>And also hard because and hard yeah, because I leave

0:29:34.000 --> 0:29:37.600
<v Speaker 6>and I'm like, oh, okay, he's a good person, Yes, Yeah,

0:29:37.640 --> 0:29:41.240
<v Speaker 6>he's amazing, which I think that's helpful for people to hear,

0:29:42.080 --> 0:29:45.680
<v Speaker 6>because often you hear of these breakups that are toxic

0:29:45.920 --> 0:29:49.600
<v Speaker 6>or it was very black and white and this one

0:29:49.640 --> 0:29:53.200
<v Speaker 6>person hates the other person, and that's how it is.

0:29:53.240 --> 0:29:55.920
<v Speaker 6>You don't hear as much people talking about the like, oh,

0:29:55.960 --> 0:29:59.320
<v Speaker 6>we really loved each other and we had to make

0:29:59.320 --> 0:30:02.080
<v Speaker 6>this hard decision and because there was this piece that

0:30:02.160 --> 0:30:02.720
<v Speaker 6>wasn't fitting.

0:30:02.920 --> 0:30:04.880
<v Speaker 2>I know, it was like when it happened, we were

0:30:05.120 --> 0:30:08.200
<v Speaker 2>we just hugged and then cried for a while. You

0:30:08.280 --> 0:30:10.080
<v Speaker 2>were like, Okay, I guess this is really happening.

0:30:10.240 --> 0:30:15.760
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. And that's also so I think that there this

0:30:15.880 --> 0:30:17.720
<v Speaker 1>is reminding me of I had a really bad breakup

0:30:17.760 --> 0:30:21.640
<v Speaker 1>once and then the next guy I dated broke up

0:30:21.680 --> 0:30:24.760
<v Speaker 1>with me in the kindest you know, I've never done

0:30:24.800 --> 0:30:27.640
<v Speaker 1>the breaking up, I've told you that, but he broke

0:30:27.720 --> 0:30:30.240
<v Speaker 1>up with me in the kindest, caring Like I remember,

0:30:30.320 --> 0:30:31.719
<v Speaker 1>he came over and we sat in our bed and

0:30:31.760 --> 0:30:35.520
<v Speaker 1>he just the things he said. I just will never forget.

0:30:35.640 --> 0:30:38.120
<v Speaker 1>Where I was like, oh, somebody can break up with

0:30:38.200 --> 0:30:40.920
<v Speaker 1>me and still really think highly of me. And that's

0:30:41.040 --> 0:30:43.880
<v Speaker 1>very helpful because I think a lot of times when

0:30:44.000 --> 0:30:47.720
<v Speaker 1>people and relationships. One person person is asking, well, what's

0:30:47.720 --> 0:30:49.360
<v Speaker 1>wrong with me? Or what do I not have or

0:30:49.400 --> 0:30:52.480
<v Speaker 1>what did I do wrong? And so for you to

0:30:52.520 --> 0:30:55.640
<v Speaker 1>have an experience where nobody did anything wrong.

0:30:56.560 --> 0:30:59.680
<v Speaker 2>Right, No, some of the stuff we were struggling through

0:30:59.720 --> 0:31:04.880
<v Speaker 2>was git real concern type stuff I think, or frustrations

0:31:04.960 --> 0:31:06.640
<v Speaker 2>I guess I don't know how to put it because

0:31:06.640 --> 0:31:11.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna yeah. It's almost like yeah, for this

0:31:11.760 --> 0:31:15.239
<v Speaker 2>little puzzle. Suddenly it's like, wait a second, what I

0:31:15.280 --> 0:31:18.880
<v Speaker 2>thought this piece went here and it's not fitting and

0:31:18.920 --> 0:31:20.760
<v Speaker 2>we're trying to force it, and should we try to

0:31:20.800 --> 0:31:23.640
<v Speaker 2>force it because we don't have the bandwidth for that.

0:31:23.880 --> 0:31:25.240
<v Speaker 2>We both have a lot going on.

0:31:25.680 --> 0:31:28.040
<v Speaker 1>And you shouldn't have to do that, Like I do

0:31:28.160 --> 0:31:33.040
<v Speaker 1>think there will be a relationship where the pieces do

0:31:33.240 --> 0:31:34.720
<v Speaker 1>just fit and they keep fitting for you.

0:31:35.200 --> 0:31:38.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I wouldn't say that it's our puzzles like

0:31:39.000 --> 0:31:41.840
<v Speaker 2>out the window, I don't really know for sure.

0:31:41.680 --> 0:31:43.560
<v Speaker 1>And it's just in the box right now.

0:31:43.880 --> 0:31:47.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's in the box, but we'll see you know.

0:31:47.360 --> 0:31:49.440
<v Speaker 2>That's That's what I've learned from this is I don't

0:31:49.560 --> 0:31:52.520
<v Speaker 2>need to rush it. While we were on this trajectory,

0:31:52.840 --> 0:31:54.959
<v Speaker 2>it's like it's okay that it's at a pause right now,

0:31:55.000 --> 0:31:58.400
<v Speaker 2>at least for me to figure out or tend to

0:31:58.720 --> 0:32:01.320
<v Speaker 2>some of the things in my life that need my attention,

0:32:02.040 --> 0:32:05.560
<v Speaker 2>and I can focus on that and also myself and

0:32:05.600 --> 0:32:10.560
<v Speaker 2>then still be present for things in his life as

0:32:10.560 --> 0:32:13.880
<v Speaker 2>they come up or him mine, like with our kids,

0:32:14.080 --> 0:32:17.360
<v Speaker 2>because we're still in communication with them, not a lot.

0:32:17.560 --> 0:32:22.400
<v Speaker 2>It's not excessive or inappropriate, just more like, hey, yeah,

0:32:22.840 --> 0:32:25.120
<v Speaker 2>I'll come to that game or stuff like that.

0:32:25.160 --> 0:32:27.680
<v Speaker 1>You're handling this very well. I do. I've already said

0:32:27.720 --> 0:32:29.840
<v Speaker 1>that to you, but I just feel like this is

0:32:30.160 --> 0:32:33.000
<v Speaker 1>hard and like you said, and you're doing it.

0:32:34.240 --> 0:32:34.920
<v Speaker 2>Thank you.

0:32:34.920 --> 0:32:37.400
<v Speaker 1>You're approaching this in a very healthy way.

0:32:37.600 --> 0:32:40.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm trying. I have therapy on Thursday. I cannot wait.

0:32:42.880 --> 0:32:43.239
<v Speaker 1>Every day.

0:32:43.280 --> 0:32:45.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm like waiting for therapy. Which I know earlier I

0:32:45.960 --> 0:32:47.400
<v Speaker 2>said the cats out of the bag because I talked

0:32:47.440 --> 0:32:49.440
<v Speaker 2>about it on the Bobby Bone Show, which it's not

0:32:49.480 --> 0:32:51.680
<v Speaker 2>going to be more long form there when I bring

0:32:51.720 --> 0:32:54.720
<v Speaker 2>it up. But I got curious on where that statement

0:32:54.840 --> 0:32:57.160
<v Speaker 2>cat the cats out of the bag? Do you know

0:32:57.200 --> 0:33:10.400
<v Speaker 2>where that comes from? The cat's out of the back.

0:33:10.960 --> 0:33:12.200
<v Speaker 2>Do you know where that comes from?

0:33:12.640 --> 0:33:13.240
<v Speaker 4>My cat?

0:33:13.880 --> 0:33:16.720
<v Speaker 2>I mean yeah, there's a cat involved, But the origin

0:33:16.760 --> 0:33:20.920
<v Speaker 2>of it is from medieval marketplaces, I guess farmers and traders.

0:33:20.920 --> 0:33:26.000
<v Speaker 2>They would be selling these young pigs in a burlap

0:33:26.120 --> 0:33:30.920
<v Speaker 2>sack or a bag, and there was some dishonest traders

0:33:31.320 --> 0:33:35.640
<v Speaker 2>that would try to cheat shoppers by putting a cat

0:33:35.720 --> 0:33:38.960
<v Speaker 2>in there instead of a pig, and they would just

0:33:39.000 --> 0:33:40.840
<v Speaker 2>take the sack and they wouldn't open the sack till

0:33:40.840 --> 0:33:42.560
<v Speaker 2>they got home. When they opened up the sack, a

0:33:42.640 --> 0:33:46.120
<v Speaker 2>cat would come out instead of a little piglet. Oh,

0:33:46.200 --> 0:33:50.080
<v Speaker 2>and they'd be like, let the cat out of the bag.

0:33:50.720 --> 0:33:52.160
<v Speaker 1>And then what do you do with the cat?

0:33:52.840 --> 0:33:54.280
<v Speaker 2>Well, I don't know if you can go back to

0:33:54.320 --> 0:33:56.720
<v Speaker 2>the market and be like, you tricked.

0:33:56.440 --> 0:33:59.520
<v Speaker 1>Me, this is fraud, this is not a piglet.

0:33:59.120 --> 0:34:00.520
<v Speaker 2>And they'll probably be like, I don't know what you're

0:34:00.520 --> 0:34:02.560
<v Speaker 2>talking about. You bought that bag fair and square.

0:34:02.920 --> 0:34:04.560
<v Speaker 1>I wonder why they wouldn't look in the bag.

0:34:05.920 --> 0:34:07.880
<v Speaker 2>Welly, I think they didn't had no reason maybe to

0:34:08.000 --> 0:34:08.520
<v Speaker 2>not trust.

0:34:08.560 --> 0:34:10.720
<v Speaker 1>They're just like, why are the animals in a bag,

0:34:10.960 --> 0:34:11.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

0:34:11.680 --> 0:34:14.799
<v Speaker 2>A burlap sack like a pig. I know, you think

0:34:14.840 --> 0:34:16.640
<v Speaker 2>maybe you'd look in and just check out what the

0:34:16.680 --> 0:34:19.400
<v Speaker 2>piglet looked like, I don't evenway. I just keep saying piglet,

0:34:19.480 --> 0:34:21.920
<v Speaker 2>But I'm imagining it had to be small, a young pig.

0:34:22.760 --> 0:34:26.040
<v Speaker 2>That's probably why I'm saying pilet, pilet, it's a young pig.

0:34:26.160 --> 0:34:28.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, well thanks for teaching us that.

0:34:30.000 --> 0:34:33.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, full of those things, you know, little stories, little tidbits,

0:34:34.520 --> 0:34:38.000
<v Speaker 2>basically have them coming out of me. Yeah, we're speaking

0:34:38.040 --> 0:34:40.759
<v Speaker 2>of the word basically. You know, I say that word

0:34:40.800 --> 0:34:45.760
<v Speaker 2>a lot. Probably I misuse it. I say basically literally.

0:34:46.400 --> 0:34:48.920
<v Speaker 1>I don't think you miss used basically. Well, if you do,

0:34:48.920 --> 0:34:50.000
<v Speaker 1>then I miss using it too.

0:34:50.440 --> 0:34:53.680
<v Speaker 2>Okay, let me be fair. I overuse it, Okay, okay,

0:34:53.960 --> 0:34:56.600
<v Speaker 2>I use it when there's no need to use it.

0:34:57.480 --> 0:35:00.000
<v Speaker 1>Weasically do that with certain words.

0:35:00.000 --> 0:35:06.040
<v Speaker 2>Literally, just the word just I was just calling to

0:35:06.120 --> 0:35:11.040
<v Speaker 2>say what I called to say. Oh, or really? You

0:35:11.080 --> 0:35:18.120
<v Speaker 2>know the guy we like, Jefferson Fisher. He's a lawyer, speaker, author.

0:35:18.239 --> 0:35:20.040
<v Speaker 2>I ordered his book, by the way, it's called The

0:35:20.080 --> 0:35:22.239
<v Speaker 2>Next Conversation. I haven't read it yet because I'm still

0:35:22.239 --> 0:35:23.640
<v Speaker 2>reading THEO of Golden.

0:35:24.680 --> 0:35:26.000
<v Speaker 1>I need to get that book.

0:35:26.280 --> 0:35:28.439
<v Speaker 2>Okay, it's really good. I'm on chapter twenty four.

0:35:29.600 --> 0:35:30.839
<v Speaker 1>How far are you?

0:35:31.200 --> 0:35:32.440
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I'm about halfway.

0:35:32.680 --> 0:35:33.800
<v Speaker 1>It's a lot of chapters.

0:35:34.000 --> 0:35:38.279
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well, sometimes to be fair, they're short, like no,

0:35:38.360 --> 0:35:41.720
<v Speaker 2>some are long, but then randomly, you know, chapter twenty

0:35:41.719 --> 0:35:42.400
<v Speaker 2>will be a page.

0:35:42.480 --> 0:35:44.560
<v Speaker 1>Okay, not even I can do that.

0:35:44.880 --> 0:35:46.200
<v Speaker 2>I mean, how do they divide it up?

0:35:46.560 --> 0:35:46.640
<v Speaker 3>Like?

0:35:47.120 --> 0:35:49.320
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's like it's the end of like a thought.

0:35:49.520 --> 0:35:52.000
<v Speaker 2>I know, but I feel like, well, they're like, how.

0:35:51.800 --> 0:35:52.840
<v Speaker 1>Do you divide chapters?

0:35:53.200 --> 0:35:55.680
<v Speaker 2>I know that, but some of them feel like they

0:35:55.680 --> 0:35:57.520
<v Speaker 2>could flow together, and I'm like, and then there's just

0:35:57.560 --> 0:35:59.240
<v Speaker 2>this one little page for this chapter.

0:35:59.400 --> 0:36:01.360
<v Speaker 1>Maybe they're book quota. They are like, you have to

0:36:01.360 --> 0:36:03.920
<v Speaker 1>have five hundred pages and fifty seven chapters, and so

0:36:03.960 --> 0:36:06.719
<v Speaker 1>you have to like maybe.

0:36:06.600 --> 0:36:08.759
<v Speaker 2>So if you want to sound more assertive, I saw

0:36:08.800 --> 0:36:12.920
<v Speaker 2>this from him, and it's to stop using adverbs in

0:36:12.960 --> 0:36:17.440
<v Speaker 2>your everyday vernacular, like words in an l y. And

0:36:17.480 --> 0:36:20.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, well that would go. Now. My conversations are

0:36:20.680 --> 0:36:24.839
<v Speaker 2>ruined because I use those words so much. But you're

0:36:24.880 --> 0:36:27.480
<v Speaker 2>not going to sound assertive. If someone asked me a question,

0:36:27.640 --> 0:36:29.759
<v Speaker 2>you say, oh, well, basically da da da instead of

0:36:29.800 --> 0:36:30.759
<v Speaker 2>just saying d D.

0:36:31.239 --> 0:36:33.520
<v Speaker 1>That makes sense. I was gonna say, this is really hard,

0:36:33.680 --> 0:36:36.520
<v Speaker 1>but in normal conversation with me and you, it's fine.

0:36:36.800 --> 0:36:41.520
<v Speaker 1>But if I'm trying to sound assured of myself and assertive,

0:36:41.880 --> 0:36:44.960
<v Speaker 1>then I want am strong in my convictions. I don't

0:36:45.000 --> 0:36:46.520
<v Speaker 1>want to water it down.

0:36:46.880 --> 0:36:50.720
<v Speaker 2>Like he said, adverbs water down your speech.

0:36:51.080 --> 0:36:54.680
<v Speaker 1>So but that's also I think why sometimes I use

0:36:54.760 --> 0:36:57.640
<v Speaker 1>them because I don't want it to sound too harsh.

0:36:57.719 --> 0:36:57.920
<v Speaker 4>You know.

0:36:58.600 --> 0:37:01.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's why even the world just like think about

0:37:01.200 --> 0:37:04.480
<v Speaker 2>in emails like oh, hey, just reaching out ye, and

0:37:04.520 --> 0:37:08.040
<v Speaker 2>it's like, well, you could just say hi, reaching out

0:37:08.800 --> 0:37:12.239
<v Speaker 2>in regards to blah blah blah, Hey just checking in

0:37:12.280 --> 0:37:15.640
<v Speaker 2>to see if you know, basically you were interested. Basically

0:37:15.600 --> 0:37:17.759
<v Speaker 2>I was wondering you really wanted to do it, but

0:37:18.360 --> 0:37:23.960
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if you're literally big video, it's literally not.

0:37:25.880 --> 0:37:29.719
<v Speaker 2>So shout out Jefferson Fisher because he had some good

0:37:29.840 --> 0:37:33.400
<v Speaker 2>nuggets on Instagram that he was sharing from a podcast

0:37:33.520 --> 0:37:35.839
<v Speaker 2>or something, and they kept popping up in my feed

0:37:35.960 --> 0:37:37.520
<v Speaker 2>and that's what led to me ordering his book.

0:37:37.960 --> 0:37:39.440
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I would I want to read that

0:37:39.440 --> 0:37:42.000
<v Speaker 1>book too. That's when you have to like, I can't

0:37:42.000 --> 0:37:45.440
<v Speaker 1>audible that one. I have to read read it highlight

0:37:45.480 --> 0:37:48.440
<v Speaker 1>highlight and like circle stuff and.

0:37:48.160 --> 0:37:52.160
<v Speaker 2>Have a resources yes, yeah, well all if well.

0:37:52.040 --> 0:37:53.560
<v Speaker 1>An audio at my own because I'm going to write

0:37:53.560 --> 0:37:53.719
<v Speaker 1>in it.

0:37:53.719 --> 0:37:55.120
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, that's true. I was gonna say you can

0:37:55.160 --> 0:37:57.000
<v Speaker 2>borrow mine, but now you're talking about and I want

0:37:57.000 --> 0:37:58.719
<v Speaker 2>to keep it, marking it all up and using it

0:37:58.760 --> 0:38:00.919
<v Speaker 2>as I'm sure that it would be a resource too

0:38:01.040 --> 0:38:06.080
<v Speaker 2>for even some of your clients. My therapist has a

0:38:06.080 --> 0:38:08.239
<v Speaker 2>lot of books in her office and you can like

0:38:08.920 --> 0:38:10.040
<v Speaker 2>pull from it if you need.

0:38:10.680 --> 0:38:12.920
<v Speaker 1>I do that, and then I always I'm like, Catherine,

0:38:12.920 --> 0:38:16.600
<v Speaker 1>you need to get a system, because sixty five percent

0:38:16.600 --> 0:38:18.160
<v Speaker 1>of the time I never see those books again.

0:38:20.360 --> 0:38:23.080
<v Speaker 2>Mike D's wife, she let me borrow two books, and

0:38:23.120 --> 0:38:25.160
<v Speaker 2>on the inside cover she got I guess she probably

0:38:25.239 --> 0:38:28.319
<v Speaker 2>ordered on Amazon or somewhere. See how I'm unsure, so

0:38:28.360 --> 0:38:29.760
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, and I say things like I guess

0:38:29.800 --> 0:38:32.960
<v Speaker 2>she basically maybe went literally onto Amazons craziest.

0:38:33.000 --> 0:38:34.560
<v Speaker 1>I didn't register any of those words.

0:38:34.800 --> 0:38:39.040
<v Speaker 2>Okay, let me say this with assertiveness, assertiveness, but I'm

0:38:39.080 --> 0:38:43.480
<v Speaker 2>guessing she went online and ordered these cute library card

0:38:43.719 --> 0:38:45.360
<v Speaker 2>in certain thingies.

0:38:46.800 --> 0:38:54.080
<v Speaker 1>So assertive when you say thingiest in.

0:38:53.320 --> 0:38:56.440
<v Speaker 2>The book that I borrowed, as if she was checking

0:38:56.520 --> 0:38:58.400
<v Speaker 2>it out to me, and I put my name, like

0:38:58.440 --> 0:39:00.279
<v Speaker 2>it said, she says who she's checking it out to

0:39:00.400 --> 0:39:02.839
<v Speaker 2>in the date, Okay, and then I'm going to give

0:39:02.840 --> 0:39:04.920
<v Speaker 2>it back to her. But that makes me more inclined

0:39:05.160 --> 0:39:07.200
<v Speaker 2>to give the books back to her because you's got

0:39:07.239 --> 0:39:09.120
<v Speaker 2>a cute little library card in there.

0:39:09.000 --> 0:39:11.440
<v Speaker 1>Which I get. I love that. I should do that,

0:39:11.600 --> 0:39:15.600
<v Speaker 1>but I need the card in my possession so I

0:39:15.640 --> 0:39:16.560
<v Speaker 1>know who has the book.

0:39:16.800 --> 0:39:18.239
<v Speaker 2>Oh well, you can take a picture of it.

0:39:18.760 --> 0:39:20.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to do that, okay. I just need

0:39:20.680 --> 0:39:23.560
<v Speaker 1>a piece of paper that says this book and then

0:39:23.600 --> 0:39:25.879
<v Speaker 1>the client's name. I think that would solve a lot.

0:39:26.400 --> 0:39:30.240
<v Speaker 2>And also, I believe Jefferson to clarify, he's talking about

0:39:30.520 --> 0:39:33.439
<v Speaker 2>sounding assertive when you need to sound assertive. I don't

0:39:33.440 --> 0:39:36.520
<v Speaker 2>want to sound assertive with my friends, so I will

0:39:37.480 --> 0:39:43.320
<v Speaker 2>talk basically literally.

0:39:40.760 --> 0:39:43.319
<v Speaker 1>Literally literally whenever you want.

0:39:43.600 --> 0:39:50.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, basically, I do have habits that make you look unprofessional, though,

0:39:50.120 --> 0:39:51.799
<v Speaker 2>so I could run through those, just so that y'all

0:39:51.840 --> 0:39:53.920
<v Speaker 2>are in the know in case you do any of this.

0:39:54.320 --> 0:39:58.560
<v Speaker 1>I haven't looked at this, but I'm gonna, oh my gosh,

0:39:58.560 --> 0:40:06.759
<v Speaker 1>what's the word assume, oh, brain fog. Yeah, I'm going

0:40:06.800 --> 0:40:10.040
<v Speaker 1>to assume I have over half of these because I

0:40:10.120 --> 0:40:12.200
<v Speaker 1>find it very hard for me to feel professional.

0:40:12.560 --> 0:40:14.560
<v Speaker 2>Okay, let me tell you what they are. Okay, and

0:40:14.600 --> 0:40:19.280
<v Speaker 2>you just say check check Okay, talking too much? Check

0:40:20.000 --> 0:40:21.440
<v Speaker 2>ooh you do at work?

0:40:24.000 --> 0:40:27.759
<v Speaker 1>Not at No, not not what I'm not what I'm

0:40:27.760 --> 0:40:29.799
<v Speaker 1>being a therapist. I just mean, like, in general, I

0:40:29.800 --> 0:40:30.560
<v Speaker 1>feel like I talk.

0:40:30.719 --> 0:40:34.000
<v Speaker 2>No habit's making you look unprofessional. So I would assume

0:40:34.040 --> 0:40:38.520
<v Speaker 2>these are work related. Okay, Okay, okay, talking too much,

0:40:40.640 --> 0:40:42.279
<v Speaker 2>responding late to messages.

0:40:42.719 --> 0:40:45.480
<v Speaker 1>Check, you're laughing because you do it too.

0:40:45.760 --> 0:40:51.719
<v Speaker 2>Same saying yes to everything. Uh no, good, You've got

0:40:51.760 --> 0:40:58.160
<v Speaker 2>boundaries over sharing personal information. No, having a messy work space.

0:40:58.840 --> 0:41:01.920
<v Speaker 2>Check what yours is not that messy?

0:41:03.080 --> 0:41:03.200
<v Speaker 6>Uh?

0:41:03.360 --> 0:41:06.400
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't call it like organized them. Well, it's the

0:41:06.560 --> 0:41:08.120
<v Speaker 1>stuff is shoved in drawers. Okay.

0:41:08.120 --> 0:41:12.439
<v Speaker 2>How about that complaining all the time, No always being late,

0:41:13.120 --> 0:41:15.560
<v Speaker 2>no making excuses for everything.

0:41:16.480 --> 0:41:18.800
<v Speaker 1>No, okay, this made me feel really good about myself.

0:41:19.160 --> 0:41:20.040
<v Speaker 1>We eliminated the.

0:41:21.800 --> 0:41:26.520
<v Speaker 2>Ning poor communication using words like bro, dude an lol,

0:41:29.640 --> 0:41:31.520
<v Speaker 2>swearing I do.

0:41:31.520 --> 0:41:34.440
<v Speaker 1>That at work. It depends with the clan i'm with.

0:41:34.520 --> 0:41:36.759
<v Speaker 1>If they are cursing, then I'm jumping in with so.

0:41:36.960 --> 0:41:40.440
<v Speaker 2>On The Madison, which is a show on Paramount. Plus,

0:41:40.480 --> 0:41:44.479
<v Speaker 2>it's Tyler Sheridan's new show. He did Yellowstone and Lion Ass.

0:41:46.320 --> 0:41:48.560
<v Speaker 2>Michelle Pfeiffer's in it. I've already completed the whole thing.

0:41:48.560 --> 0:41:50.480
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to give too much away, but I

0:41:50.520 --> 0:41:55.040
<v Speaker 2>will say there's a therapist in there and they drink

0:41:55.120 --> 0:41:56.000
<v Speaker 2>during the sessions.

0:41:56.120 --> 0:41:56.160
<v Speaker 6>What.

0:41:57.400 --> 0:42:00.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he's in it's in New York. Obvious, this is

0:42:00.480 --> 0:42:04.879
<v Speaker 2>a TV show, so it's not real. But he went

0:42:04.920 --> 0:42:06.920
<v Speaker 2>to Harvard, you know, has a.

0:42:07.840 --> 0:42:09.239
<v Speaker 1>Wait, how what do you mean he's drinking Like he's

0:42:09.239 --> 0:42:10.759
<v Speaker 1>sending a glass of wine while he's sitting down with

0:42:10.760 --> 0:42:13.600
<v Speaker 1>a client or whiskey. Knew it was gonna be whiskey.

0:42:13.880 --> 0:42:14.760
<v Speaker 1>Is the client drinking?

0:42:14.880 --> 0:42:18.480
<v Speaker 2>Yes, He's like, here, we I normally don't do this,

0:42:18.640 --> 0:42:21.239
<v Speaker 2>but it seems like you're someone where this is what

0:42:21.239 --> 0:42:23.920
<v Speaker 2>we're going to need to do. And he busts out.

0:42:24.239 --> 0:42:27.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think you can like be turned in for that.

0:42:27.320 --> 0:42:30.319
<v Speaker 1>I don't think that that's a ethical Okay, I thought

0:42:30.320 --> 0:42:33.719
<v Speaker 1>there's no drinking. I will say people during COVID did

0:42:33.760 --> 0:42:36.480
<v Speaker 1>try to drink during sessions because they were at home

0:42:36.920 --> 0:42:39.319
<v Speaker 1>on zoom. Yeah, and if I saw that, I'd be like,

0:42:39.320 --> 0:42:40.160
<v Speaker 1>we're not doing that.

0:42:40.719 --> 0:42:42.279
<v Speaker 2>I guess you probably weren't on Zoom. Were you on

0:42:42.320 --> 0:42:44.120
<v Speaker 2>like a telehealth portal.

0:42:45.440 --> 0:42:47.959
<v Speaker 1>In the beginning. I think I used just FaceTime because

0:42:48.000 --> 0:42:49.520
<v Speaker 1>it was like new to everybody, so I had to

0:42:49.520 --> 0:42:51.520
<v Speaker 1>make make a waiver and have people sign that it

0:42:51.560 --> 0:42:54.920
<v Speaker 1>was okay, and hippo laws were lenient during that time.

0:42:55.880 --> 0:42:58.359
<v Speaker 1>Facetime's not hip. OUD never use that now, but they

0:42:58.360 --> 0:42:59.919
<v Speaker 1>allowed us to do that because we had no other option.

0:43:01.440 --> 0:43:10.040
<v Speaker 2>So being too noisy, no, no poor hygiene, I hope not. Well,

0:43:10.080 --> 0:43:15.719
<v Speaker 2>speaking of hygiene, we do have some fun messages from people. Well,

0:43:15.760 --> 0:43:18.759
<v Speaker 2>I've got an email and then a couple of voicemails

0:43:19.239 --> 0:43:25.600
<v Speaker 2>in regards to my deodorant situation where I cringe when

0:43:25.719 --> 0:43:28.919
<v Speaker 2>people online put deodorant on, like and they're get ready

0:43:28.920 --> 0:43:30.600
<v Speaker 2>with me videos or whatever.

0:43:30.480 --> 0:43:33.680
<v Speaker 1>Which I was shocked with the response we got because.

0:43:33.960 --> 0:43:37.239
<v Speaker 2>Even more than this, we're just sharing with y' all

0:43:37.320 --> 0:43:38.560
<v Speaker 2>these few.

0:43:38.800 --> 0:43:41.280
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I didn't know this was such a thing for people.

0:43:41.880 --> 0:43:42.920
<v Speaker 2>So this is from Jackie.

0:43:43.120 --> 0:43:43.560
<v Speaker 1>Hey there.

0:43:43.600 --> 0:43:45.959
<v Speaker 2>I never have emailed a podcast before, but you guys

0:43:45.960 --> 0:43:48.000
<v Speaker 2>are so cute and so funny and so real. Love you.

0:43:50.880 --> 0:43:51.680
<v Speaker 1>Anyway, Amy.

0:43:51.800 --> 0:43:55.480
<v Speaker 2>I also cringe whenever someone is putting on deodorant in

0:43:55.520 --> 0:43:58.279
<v Speaker 2>their posts. I'm like, do I need to see you

0:43:58.320 --> 0:44:02.720
<v Speaker 2>putting on your deodorant? Can't something's just be a given?

0:44:02.760 --> 0:44:04.880
<v Speaker 2>Do we need to see it? Ha ha, so funny

0:44:04.880 --> 0:44:06.239
<v Speaker 2>you even brought it up. I thought I was the

0:44:06.239 --> 0:44:16.799
<v Speaker 2>only one signed Jackie in Pittsburgh. Haha Pittsburgh, because during

0:44:16.840 --> 0:44:20.120
<v Speaker 2>that episode, how we even started talking about the deondorant

0:44:20.120 --> 0:44:22.400
<v Speaker 2>thing was I don't like the word arm pit. I

0:44:22.520 --> 0:44:23.440
<v Speaker 2>prefer under arm.

0:44:23.600 --> 0:44:24.799
<v Speaker 1>I can't let you just said it.

0:44:25.440 --> 0:44:29.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm cool, I'm cool, I'm asual, I can do it.

0:44:30.200 --> 0:44:35.120
<v Speaker 2>So that's why she's also like, haha, Pittsburgh.

0:44:33.640 --> 0:44:35.880
<v Speaker 1>Which that is hilarious. Yeah.

0:44:35.920 --> 0:44:39.600
<v Speaker 2>And then we have a voicemail. This is from Sam

0:44:40.120 --> 0:44:41.520
<v Speaker 2>who listens in Boston.

0:44:42.320 --> 0:44:45.880
<v Speaker 4>I'm laughing out loud. I'm listening to the latest episode

0:44:46.000 --> 0:44:49.480
<v Speaker 4>when Amy is talking about how she's grossed out with

0:44:50.280 --> 0:44:53.800
<v Speaker 4>people on camera or just in general putting on dedorant

0:44:53.920 --> 0:44:57.680
<v Speaker 4>in their arms under arms, and I swear every time

0:44:57.719 --> 0:45:01.879
<v Speaker 4>I listen to your podcast, I I think I can't

0:45:01.880 --> 0:45:03.680
<v Speaker 4>believe they also think this way. I feel like I

0:45:03.719 --> 0:45:07.240
<v Speaker 4>was the only one. Amy, You're not alone. I also

0:45:07.400 --> 0:45:10.160
<v Speaker 4>get very gross out or just like shocked when I

0:45:10.239 --> 0:45:13.880
<v Speaker 4>see you know, a vlogger or whomever put on deodorant

0:45:13.920 --> 0:45:16.880
<v Speaker 4>on camera. Even like when I change after the gym.

0:45:17.280 --> 0:45:20.359
<v Speaker 4>At the gym, I always put deodorant on, like in

0:45:20.400 --> 0:45:23.359
<v Speaker 4>the bathroom, not in front of people, because I feel

0:45:23.360 --> 0:45:27.240
<v Speaker 4>it's such a vulnerable task. So yeah, I just wanted

0:45:27.239 --> 0:45:30.040
<v Speaker 4>to share that you guys are not alone or Amy,

0:45:30.040 --> 0:45:32.680
<v Speaker 4>You're not alone on that. Thanks so much, love the podcast.

0:45:32.840 --> 0:45:34.000
<v Speaker 4>Sam calling from Boston.

0:45:34.840 --> 0:45:38.279
<v Speaker 2>Okay, Sam, thank you for that. Yes, it's not just

0:45:38.400 --> 0:45:41.319
<v Speaker 2>in video, it's in person too, Like she's saying, even

0:45:41.360 --> 0:45:43.320
<v Speaker 2>at the gym, she'll go into the bathroom stall to

0:45:43.400 --> 0:45:46.360
<v Speaker 2>put her deodorant on. Because for me, let me explain

0:45:46.400 --> 0:45:48.160
<v Speaker 2>it to you this way, this is what it feels like.

0:45:48.840 --> 0:45:50.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't pee in front of people.

0:45:51.280 --> 0:45:53.359
<v Speaker 1>Well, you're if you were pe in front of people,

0:45:53.400 --> 0:45:56.440
<v Speaker 1>you would be showing your private parts.

0:45:56.880 --> 0:45:57.359
<v Speaker 4>Well you know.

0:45:57.480 --> 0:46:00.680
<v Speaker 2>Serious ways you could maneuver to where you wouldn't really

0:46:00.680 --> 0:46:04.080
<v Speaker 2>see the private parts, and you could have the camera, like.

0:46:04.200 --> 0:46:09.680
<v Speaker 1>You like, getting rid of bodily fluids feels very different

0:46:10.280 --> 0:46:13.000
<v Speaker 1>than you putting on a little little sprits or a

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<v Speaker 1>spray on your underarms. Nope, I don't. I'd like that.

0:46:16.960 --> 0:46:19.680
<v Speaker 1>She used the word vulnerable, like it feels like a

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<v Speaker 1>vulnerable task. I just don't have that experience. But now

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<v Speaker 1>I'm wondering, like, I mean, I don't think that I

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<v Speaker 1>regularly do this. I don't know that I ever put

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<v Speaker 1>theodore on in front of people. But now I'm wondering, like,

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<v Speaker 1>have I in the past, And did I make people comfortable?

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<v Speaker 2>Well?

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<v Speaker 1>In front of you?

0:46:40.360 --> 0:46:40.960
<v Speaker 2>I don't think so.

0:46:41.080 --> 0:46:43.239
<v Speaker 1>And you were like, oh, gross, Cat, I get out

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<v Speaker 1>of here.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I don't think so. And we're close enough to

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<v Speaker 2>where I don't know that it would bother me if

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<v Speaker 2>it's you. But if I'm you know, at the gym

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<v Speaker 2>or in a public place, I'm gonna yeah, go around

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<v Speaker 2>the corner and do it well. Speaking of putting on

0:46:59.880 --> 0:47:03.040
<v Speaker 2>your are in public, our next voicemail is from Gin.

0:47:03.719 --> 0:47:07.080
<v Speaker 2>She's calling from Houston, and that's what she's talking about

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<v Speaker 2>as a teacher.

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<v Speaker 5>Hi, Amy and Kat, this is Jin from Houston, and

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<v Speaker 5>I am calling in regards to that Axila. Where neither

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<v Speaker 5>arm pit or under arms bother me. I've used some booths.

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<v Speaker 5>What does bother me is people putting on deodorant in

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<v Speaker 5>front of you. I am a high school teacher and

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<v Speaker 5>there are some times when students in class will lift

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<v Speaker 5>up their shirt and apply theodorant in the classroom with

0:47:39.840 --> 0:47:44.200
<v Speaker 5>everyone visible. They're visible, so everyone could see myself included,

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<v Speaker 5>and it just seems like you are interrupting an intimate moment.

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<v Speaker 5>There's just something about it. So I'm totally with you

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<v Speaker 5>on that. I don't understand how people do that in public.

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<v Speaker 5>It does give me the creeps a little bit, So

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<v Speaker 5>I'm just sharing that. I feel the same way. Love

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<v Speaker 5>your energy, have the day you need to have. Bye.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, two thoughts here. One she moves from the word

0:48:10.880 --> 0:48:15.520
<v Speaker 1>vulnerable to the word intimate. So now this is an intimact.

0:48:15.719 --> 0:48:19.480
<v Speaker 2>I know, Sam thought it was vulnerable and Jen is

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<v Speaker 2>calling it intimate zee, which maybe that's what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>Is we have it in a different category. Yeah, we

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<v Speaker 2>don't have it as folks face lotion and whatnot, but I.

0:48:28.640 --> 0:48:32.800
<v Speaker 1>Have it as face lotion. Yeah. I wouldn't be putting

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<v Speaker 1>face lotion on in the middle of class at school,

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<v Speaker 1>and I wouldn't. It is interesting that these kids are

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<v Speaker 1>just putting deodant on in the middle of class, like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>why would they need to in the middle of class?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I feel like they're just that's when they're thinking

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<v Speaker 2>of it, and it may not be exactly always in

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<v Speaker 2>the middle of class, but maybe at the start or

0:48:47.400 --> 0:48:49.360
<v Speaker 2>the end when they're going to their next class.

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<v Speaker 1>My son is.

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<v Speaker 2>Fifteen, and while it's tricky because you want your teenagers

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<v Speaker 2>to have good hygiene, yet I think he's over applying.

0:48:58.120 --> 0:49:00.840
<v Speaker 2>He puts on so much all the time, and he's like, Mom,

0:49:00.880 --> 0:49:04.279
<v Speaker 2>it's for the ladies. And he is addicted to this

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<v Speaker 2>old spice.

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<v Speaker 1>I was going to ask, was it like old spice

0:49:07.239 --> 0:49:09.560
<v Speaker 1>or axe or something old spice?

0:49:09.680 --> 0:49:12.920
<v Speaker 2>This one particular scent. I can't remember movies like Fiji

0:49:13.040 --> 0:49:15.880
<v Speaker 2>or something, and it is so strong.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, I've bought that like flavor shampoo for Patrick.

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<v Speaker 2>Before old spice shampoo or is it? Is it three

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<v Speaker 2>and one where it's body wash, shamboo, a conditioner all

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<v Speaker 2>in one.

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<v Speaker 1>It's definitely a three. He loves three and one.

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<v Speaker 2>Gotta love a good three.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think I got him really nice shampoo and

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<v Speaker 1>conditioner one year for Christmas and he didn't use it,

0:49:40.000 --> 0:49:41.920
<v Speaker 1>and he told me that he just wanted his head

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<v Speaker 1>and shoulders two and mine. And I was like, I

0:49:45.239 --> 0:49:47.719
<v Speaker 1>spent like forty dollars on this, and you want your

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<v Speaker 1>five ninety nine bottle.

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<v Speaker 2>Yep, so I get it Jen from paston. I can

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<v Speaker 2>see how that would bother me because there's probably a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of kids that are doing it. Yeah, my son's

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<v Speaker 2>putting it on all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>If I was a teacher in like math class, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>be like, kids, now, it's not the time for your deodorant.

0:50:04.880 --> 0:50:06.880
<v Speaker 1>Like I wouldn't be grossed out by it, but I

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<v Speaker 1>would be like.

0:50:07.520 --> 0:50:09.560
<v Speaker 2>Why only she's grossed out. She feels like she's watching

0:50:09.560 --> 0:50:12.520
<v Speaker 2>them do something like a more intimate moment. I wanted

0:50:12.600 --> 0:50:14.440
<v Speaker 2>you to go. You need to go to the bathroom

0:50:14.520 --> 0:50:15.040
<v Speaker 2>and put that on.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Like it's not disruptive to her, Like, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>picture the kid being like halfway through class wellerant. I

0:50:23.560 --> 0:50:26.560
<v Speaker 2>think it's probably during, you know, like when class is

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<v Speaker 2>rapping or beginning.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, like and she's like, oh, I shouldn't be And

0:50:29.840 --> 0:50:33.000
<v Speaker 6>she's like, oh, I feel like I need.

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<v Speaker 2>To turn away. Oh wow, But I'm not alone.

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<v Speaker 1>This helps.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank y'all for sharing all of your thoughts, all of

0:50:39.560 --> 0:50:43.120
<v Speaker 2>you who sent things in, because we had a lot

0:50:43.160 --> 0:50:45.239
<v Speaker 2>of feedback. Sometimes I feel like we can talk about

0:50:45.280 --> 0:50:50.879
<v Speaker 2>something that's really impactful and meaningful, and you know, really

0:50:51.160 --> 0:50:53.960
<v Speaker 2>that was not change, and you know you expect to

0:50:54.000 --> 0:50:57.000
<v Speaker 2>maybe get some feedback from that. Cricket's nothing. You talk

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<v Speaker 2>about flying deodorant on Instagram.

0:51:01.120 --> 0:51:02.480
<v Speaker 1>People like I have something to say.

0:51:02.800 --> 0:51:05.399
<v Speaker 2>People are like, I thought I was alone, And it's

0:51:05.440 --> 0:51:08.880
<v Speaker 2>not really anything I've ever shared before until it just

0:51:09.120 --> 0:51:12.080
<v Speaker 2>naturally came up. I've never talked about Why would I,

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<v Speaker 2>I know, but it's interesting when you say something that

0:51:14.640 --> 0:51:16.680
<v Speaker 2>you've always had these thoughts about and you're like, I

0:51:16.800 --> 0:51:19.920
<v Speaker 2>must be the only one, and then you learn you're not. Yeah,

0:51:20.080 --> 0:51:22.640
<v Speaker 2>feels good, good alone.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm glad you're feeling that way.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Well, thanks for the email and the voicemails. We

0:51:28.960 --> 0:51:31.759
<v Speaker 2>normally shared those in couch Talks, but since we had

0:51:31.800 --> 0:51:36.399
<v Speaker 2>talked about the Underarms and the Feeling Things episode last week,

0:51:36.400 --> 0:51:38.040
<v Speaker 2>we thought we would share them here. But you can

0:51:38.680 --> 0:51:41.399
<v Speaker 2>email us or call us. The email is hey, They're

0:51:41.400 --> 0:51:45.040
<v Speaker 2>at Feeling Things podcast dot com. Yes, and the phone

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<v Speaker 2>number is eight seven seven two O seven two O

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<v Speaker 2>seven seven. And we hope whatever you're doing wherever you

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<v Speaker 2>are right now, you are having the day you.

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<v Speaker 1>Need to have. Just wondering where you're going with that.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I want to say, have the day you need

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<v Speaker 2>to have. But I can't always set it up that way.

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<v Speaker 2>I end up having to say having the day you

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<v Speaker 2>need to have.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to say, you could just say, wherever you are,

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<v Speaker 1>we hope that you okay.

0:52:12.160 --> 0:52:14.440
<v Speaker 2>Wherever you are, we hope you have the day you

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<v Speaker 2>need to have. Bye.