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Speaker 1: My boyfriend got upset I said no to sleeping together

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Speaker 1: after a surgery.

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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 1: This comes from a throw away ad fifty five thirty six,

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Speaker 1: who says for context, I female thirty one and my

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Speaker 1: boyfriend is mail twenty nine. Hi, Reddit throw away here.

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Speaker 1: There's something that just happened six months ago that I

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Speaker 1: just can't get out of my head. So I wanted

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Speaker 1: to get an outside opinion. I had an eye surgery

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Speaker 1: that resulted in me not being able to see well

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Speaker 1: and to be in discomfort. The day of and several

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Speaker 1: days later of the surgery, put.

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Speaker 3: On a blindfold.

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Speaker 1: Share bro an eye surgery. That's crazy eye surgery, wigs

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Speaker 1: me out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Personally, well, I mean it could just be like you're

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Speaker 3: getting lasik. Wiggs me out, Yeah, I mean it is.

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Speaker 3: It's booky, it is booky, it's boogy.

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Speaker 1: I asked my boyfriend to stay at my place so

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't be alone while recovering smart. I was also

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Speaker 1: very nervous about the surgery and was following all the

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Speaker 1: rules my doctor gave as I was scared to mess

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Speaker 1: something up. This included not touching, slash, rubbing my eyes,

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Speaker 1: and wearing eyeguards to sleep. It was in the evening

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Speaker 1: and my surgery was in the morning, and I was

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Speaker 1: lying on the couch being careful, nothing was touching my eyes.

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend came over and immediately tried to initiate us

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Speaker 1: sleeping together.

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Speaker 3: Bruh, bruh, you're someone's gonna touch her eyes accidentally. Like, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's read a room, bro who who Yeah, right after

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Speaker 3: a surgery, literally right before surgery.

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Speaker 2: In the evening.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, you're right, all right, Sorry, it was the evening

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Speaker 1: before the surgery. You're correct, the evening before.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I told him no, and told him the reasons above

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Speaker 1: that I felt anxious that I would somehow rub my eyes.

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Speaker 2: I was feeling uncomfortable, et cetera.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, you know how much I rubbed my eyes

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Speaker 3: during sex, Probably at least once a lace.

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Speaker 2: Ons, ladies and gentlemen.

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Speaker 4: That's concerning you probably should work on that.

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Speaker 2: But you don't rub your eyes at all.

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Speaker 5: I probably wipe my brow, but I'm not like, I'm

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Speaker 5: not doing that.

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Speaker 2: No, how did we get here? How did we get here?

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Speaker 2: It's so dangerous.

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Speaker 3: I'm not sticking my.

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Speaker 5: Things get messy, Okay, dang right.

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Speaker 1: He immediately offered that I could get on top to

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Speaker 1: make sure nothing touched my eyes. I was really disappointed

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Speaker 1: and just felt disrespected.

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Speaker 3: That is so bro my guy read the room because

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Speaker 3: she sure can't because her eyes gy.

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Speaker 2: Come on.

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Speaker 1: He ended up getting angry and going to bed in silence,

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Speaker 1: and we didn't talk until the next day.

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Speaker 3: Bro On, dude, it's very like I feel like that's

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Speaker 3: very childish super child uh bro.

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Speaker 2: Thirty one female and twenty nine male.

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Speaker 3: That feels more like early twenties mid twenties behavior slash

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Speaker 3: first relationship behavior of being like a little poudy bitch.

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Speaker 2: She feels like college to me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, uh, get over.

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Speaker 2: It, immature, you're old.

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Speaker 3: Over it, you're old. I guess you got Opie's boyfriend

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Speaker 3: Jill Yeah, j I LLL and she knows how to

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Speaker 3: work it.

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Speaker 2: That's correct.

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Speaker 1: I told him I felt really disrespected, and he said

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Speaker 1: he realized he shouldn't have taken it personally.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, I mean that's good. Yes, that's a win.

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Speaker 1: We haven't talked about it since, but I just can't

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Speaker 1: seem to get it out of my head. I have

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Speaker 1: not brought it up to him again. I want to

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Speaker 1: be able to forgive him for this and to move on,

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Speaker 1: but I also want to feel secure, for example, if

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Speaker 1: I need to have another surgery or burr a child

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Speaker 1: that I could depend on him to be there. Am

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Speaker 1: I blowing this out of proportion? Any advice on how

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Speaker 1: I can move on from this? Edit to add we've.

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Speaker 3: Been together for four years, we have an update. Has

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Speaker 3: this happened before? I'm so, I'm And also, what is

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Speaker 3: the cadence of your sexual activity? Like, is it like,

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Speaker 3: are you like a once a day kind of person?

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Speaker 3: Seven times a day? I think, I think, i'm I

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Speaker 3: think the cadence of your sexual activity will be interesting

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Speaker 3: to know, and I think it is if this is, like,

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Speaker 3: i'm I would be surprised that in four years of boinking,

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Speaker 3: this is the first time it's ever happened.

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Speaker 2: Oh something something scenario.

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Speaker 3: Life I can't imagine, Like, like, I can't imagine this

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Speaker 3: is the first time he's pouted from being rejected one

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Speaker 3: hundred percent and it's like and it's not even rejection,

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Speaker 3: it's like, bro, I medically can't have sex with you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And like.

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Speaker 1: It would be a different scenario if it was, like

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Speaker 1: it would still be I think him not reading the room, well,

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Speaker 1: if he tried to initiate. But the big major f

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Speaker 1: up here was when he was like, oh, you know,

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Speaker 1: we could do a certain position to be okay.

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Speaker 2: It's like, dude, she she.

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Speaker 3: I actually don't think that is a big f up.

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Speaker 3: I think the big f up is the poudiness.

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Speaker 2: Is the poudiness. I mean I think it's it's it's both.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I think in order an order of stinkiness,

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Speaker 3: pouting after her giving her reasons we are very valid.

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Speaker 3: Not that she has to, but that is stinky, top

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Speaker 3: top sninky behavior. Right below that is asking a second

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Speaker 3: time after her telling you all the reasons. Yeah, and

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Speaker 3: then the first is asking the first place or the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would I would say they're approximately equal. But again,

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Speaker 1: like maybe I could see like, oh I had a

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Speaker 1: lapse in judgment when he asked initially.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I don't see that as bad.

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Speaker 2: Everything after that, yeah, everything after that is.

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Speaker 3: Like I think the pouting is way worse than the

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Speaker 3: asking a second time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's pretty, it's bad. It's bad.

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Speaker 3: Is the worst one.

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Speaker 2: Grow up, dude, grow You're twenty nine years old, so yeah,

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Speaker 2: you have the tools at your disposal.

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Speaker 3: Get a hobby, get a hobby, get an item, Yeah, dude,

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Speaker 3: you can purchase.

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you tlvies.

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Speaker 3: The Auto blow four thousand blowjob robotic blowjob technology has

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Speaker 3: come so far it's it's truly.

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Speaker 2: That no one's talking about.

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Speaker 1: Our next YouTube video, the revolution in BJ technology.

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Speaker 3: I actually think that's a legitimate like it has like

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Speaker 3: AI ship dude for AI stuff. Yeah. Yeah, it's like

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Speaker 3: and like, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Not aware of these technological advances. I've never gotten one.

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Speaker 2: Yeah sure, but.

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Speaker 3: But but apparently there's this thing called the auto blow okay,

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Speaker 3: And what it does is every time it will algorithmically

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Speaker 3: change cadence and other like and like rhythm right and

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Speaker 3: pausing and like like uh gript. And what you do

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Speaker 3: is you log if you like tune it you log

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Speaker 3: like when you're edging or when you finish, and it

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Speaker 3: uses machine learning to optimize your edging and completion experience. Wow,

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Speaker 3: so you're telemon we have blowjob robots and you're still

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Speaker 3: acting like a child, sir, What are you doing?

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Speaker 2: Wow?

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Speaker 1: That that's mind john blow mind blown, mind blown, mind blown.

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Speaker 1: Not in addition to other things, but you know what else,

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Speaker 1: we got to blow the lid off of.

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Speaker 6: Saying this this up day. So, Hi I fed up?

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Speaker 6: Opie says, I afft up.

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Speaker 1: This is a post written by me, but before posting,

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Speaker 1: I implemented some comments my oh wait.

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Speaker 2: Wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait, hold

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Speaker 2: the phone.

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Speaker 1: I think this is coming from the boyfriend. From the boyfriend, wow.

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Speaker 3: Which I love when we have that. I like, I

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Speaker 3: love a good like hearing it from the other side.

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Speaker 3: Perspective shift, prospective shift. So the boyfriend says, Hi, I

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Speaker 3: I implemented some comments my ex girlfriend made to it

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Speaker 3: to show her perspective.

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Speaker 2: Ex girl seems like it's over. Wow, what a what

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Speaker 2: a just little bombed drop just so.

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Speaker 3: Actually okay, I don't know. They've been dating for four years.

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Speaker 3: I don't off rip. I don't think that is a

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Speaker 3: breakup worthy offense. Yeah, it's an f up, but it's

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Speaker 3: not a breakup worthy of Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So she also made a post about it not too

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Speaker 1: long ago, sharing her perspective in a time where she

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Speaker 1: didn't feel good in our relationship. This is the story, so,

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Speaker 1: and I feel like we're gonna get the the rehashed

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Speaker 1: through the boyfriend's eyes, which.

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Speaker 2: Is always interesting.

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Speaker 1: Me twenty nine male and my ex dot dot dot

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Speaker 1: girlfriend thirty one female, are in a four year relationship

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Speaker 1: mostly long distance, seeing each other every one to two months,

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Speaker 1: so they're long distance actually throughout this time.

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Speaker 3: Oh I see.

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Speaker 2: Is there an I see you? In the comments of

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Speaker 2: where this is leading up to, does it justify? Does

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Speaker 3: Man's been retaining, He's been retained. His seed is building

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Speaker 2: The boys are stacked in the vault. The boys are stacked, dude.

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Speaker 1: About six months ago, my girlfriend had a laser eye surgery.

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Speaker 1: I went to her place for two weeks to support

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Speaker 1: nice time before the surgery, but on the day of

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Speaker 1: the surgery, some things happened that added to her feelings

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Speaker 1: of insecurity in our relationship and is a big reason

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Speaker 1: her home afterwards. The surgery went well and she already

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Speaker 1: started seeing better a few hours afterwards, but understandably she

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Speaker 3: I think we did mess up. I think it was

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Speaker 3: he tried to hook up with her after the surgery.

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Speaker 2: Oh, based on what we know here, yes, you could

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Speaker 2: be right.

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Speaker 1: We will probably get even more clarification as we go here.

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Speaker 1: I tried to make her feel better by assuring her

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Speaker 1: that I'm there for her and trying to make her

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Speaker 1: feel less scared, repeating what the doctor said and how

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Speaker 1: well that surgery usually goes with.

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Speaker 2: The babe, may make you feel more comfortable. Yeah, wave,

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Speaker 2: here's my sausage. Let me take a load off. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: on you. Cleo Patri used to bathe and semen.

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Speaker 3: I did not know that she did.

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Speaker 1: With really bad timing, with really bad timing. I also

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Speaker 1: had a big f up at work that day. During

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Speaker 1: the surgery, I found out that I ordered a major

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Speaker 1: machine parts for four times the price then I thought

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Speaker 1: that they would be. When she came out of the surgery,

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Speaker 1: I was outside on a phone call and she had

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Speaker 1: see an experiencing discomfort from the surgery. So this so

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Speaker 1: she's like getting out of the surgery, she's alone, and

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Speaker 2: He's like trying to like put out this fire.

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Speaker 3: At work that is out of his control. You know

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Speaker 1: I also initiated to have sex, and when she said no,

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Speaker 1: I suggested that I could help her put the eye

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Speaker 2: Then I just don't want to be around you right now.

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Speaker 3: I mean, which fair? I think the suggestion of it

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Speaker 4: Still, the fact that he had to write a post

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Speaker 3: I'm not talking about the post. I'm talking about like,

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Speaker 2: The loan, Yeah do you no, But I just like,

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Speaker 2: there's no reason to justify it. I guess like, I

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Speaker 3: Up, well, she she broke up with him. We don't

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Speaker 1: Probably not, But in that moment, that just didn't make

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Speaker 2: There.

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Speaker 3: We go, I agree, Now, okay, you takeing accountability. Still

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Speaker 1: So I apologized and tried to explain to her what

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Speaker 3: you just going to distance yourself and basically shut me out?

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Now that she's actually breaking up and I'm realizing how

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Speaker 3: It's well, you can always apply it to your next partner.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think he is getting uh great learnings, uh,

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Speaker 3: Hopefully hard to believe though that it never came up

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good that's a yeah.

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Speaker 1: Or or something does he did he like kind of

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Speaker 1: it couldn't have even maybe not directly about sleeping together.

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Speaker 2: I don't know that's a good point.

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Speaker 3: I find it hard. It must be the tip of

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Speaker 3: I want to ask y'all because I've been like in

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Speaker 3: the comments, if your partner did this once, is it

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Speaker 3: break up worthy? Let me ask you, John, Yes, you

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Speaker 3: just got eye surgery. Your lady wants the boink asked

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Speaker 3: you twice? Do you break up?

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Speaker 2: I would not break up, But it's also what would

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Speaker 2: you do? What would I do?

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Speaker 3: What would you do?

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Speaker 1: I would I would just say no, Oh, that's.

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Speaker 2: It, right, I mean that's I think that's pretty much it.

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Speaker 3: Riley, would you you'd go for it?

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Speaker 2: All right? I'm always so fine and you know what

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Speaker 2: to for me.

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Speaker 1: My last surgery was literally a hernia surgery, So like,

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Speaker 1: when I think about surgery, I think about, oh.

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Speaker 3: Dude, yeah, you would be broken.

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't.

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't break up, but I but if this was

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Speaker 3: a consistent behavior over years and when I was feeling

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Speaker 3: most vulnerable, it happened again, then I would be like, oh,

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Speaker 3: this is the straw that broke the camel's back, and

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Speaker 3: then potentially break up.

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Speaker 1: Yes, on top of maybe some other things going on yea,

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Speaker 1: possibly too.

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Speaker 3: And maybe I'm just not into them. Maybe maybe all right,

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Speaker 3: conspiracy theory. Once she got her eyes fixed, she realized

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Speaker 3: the ugly dude call back, my god.

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Speaker 1: Well, let's get back to re find out how ugly

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Speaker 1: this guy really is.

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Speaker 2: Just kidding.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So we had a really nice few days together,

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Speaker 1: talking about everything in very considerate and reflective ways, and

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Speaker 1: doing things together that we love doing.

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Speaker 2: It's pretty obvious that we still love each other.

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Speaker 1: Very much, and in my imagination there's still a million

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Speaker 1: futures in which we.

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Speaker 2: Would become an old, happy, married couple.

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Speaker 3: Woo wa Wait, So there's she said I want to

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Speaker 3: break up, but they're still hanging out.

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Speaker 1: She has not said we want to break up yet

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Speaker 1: in the boyfriend's story. So the boyfriend dropped the bomb

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Speaker 1: just casually. She was now an ex and we're still

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Speaker 1: in the building. In the building, but she seems very

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Speaker 1: unsure about it not being their future. Finally, we had

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Speaker 1: recently been planning to move together. Yeah, because they're because

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Speaker 1: they're a long distance. The doubts she already had added

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Speaker 1: to the stress of finding a place together. I feel

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Speaker 1: quite lost now and can't.

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Speaker 2: Wrap my head around it.

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Speaker 1: I know we love each other, I know we have

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Speaker 1: a strong base to work out our issues. I know

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Speaker 1: she still has hope to and I feel like it

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Speaker 1: would be so and I feel like it would be

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Speaker 1: so sad if after six years we don't even take

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Speaker 1: the chance to finally move together and fix things while

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Speaker 1: we have a life in the same place. I also

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Speaker 1: feel like I majorly effed up and can understand why

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Speaker 1: she feels this way. Any thoughts or advice, and we

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Speaker 1: do have some relevant comments to close us up.

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Speaker 3: I'm so curious what Reddit has to say. Maybe I'm

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Speaker 3: at a base and this is like a terrible offense,

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Speaker 3: But like I just I my suspicion is that there

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Speaker 3: are other reasons she doesn't want to be in a

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Speaker 3: relationship with you, and it's not this instance, or this

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Speaker 3: instance is actually emblematic of a greater issue in the

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Speaker 3: relationship and is a repeat behavior. It does not it

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Speaker 3: makes Maybe I'm off base, but it makes no sense

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Speaker 3: to me that someone would break up with you because

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Speaker 3: of this one an instance.

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Speaker 1: And she this is still like you know, reading into

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Speaker 1: it a little bit, it's not crystal clear, uh, like

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Speaker 1: the stress of moving together, so like that it could

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Speaker 1: be that, but well, that tells me that, like this

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Speaker 1: process is yet another way in which they are. I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's always stressful to move, yeah, and coordinating with a

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Speaker 1: partner partner can be can be tricky.

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Speaker 3: But like COUDI, she's just stressed with the idea of

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Speaker 3: like so much change, like if she was if she

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Speaker 3: got super stressed with the whole I thing. Maybe like

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Speaker 3: she gets stressed about things.

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Speaker 1: I'm just getting more examples of, like the coordinating to

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Speaker 1: move together isn't working well, that we had this whole

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Speaker 1: incident with the with the surgery. There's probably more under

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Speaker 1: the surface that isn't explicitly being laid out. I'm getting

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Speaker 1: the sense that maybe the girlfriend is like these we're

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Speaker 1: just trying all these different things and it's just not Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she's just not feeling it, just not feeling it. I

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Speaker 1: want to know what the relevant comments have to say.

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Speaker 1: Put your thoughts and answers in the comments. Maybe you

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Speaker 1: think we're off base or I'm off base with my opinions.

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Speaker 1: My classic Sam bad takes.

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Speaker 2: Classic Sam takes.

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Speaker 3: Classic Sam bad takes. But yeah, I want to hear

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Speaker 3: that relevant comments. Well, the reddit community, let's get into these.

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Speaker 1: So mar max Ode says, you try to have sex

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Speaker 1: with her the same day she got her eyes lasered

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Speaker 1: open and didn't take no for an answer.

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Speaker 2: Question mark.

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Speaker 1: She really shouldn't have to explain why she wasn't interested there.

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Speaker 1: I really doubt any of the examples you give were

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Speaker 1: the first time to your point, and it sounds like

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Speaker 1: the plan to move in gave her a mental check

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Speaker 1: of whether she really wanted to be with you long term.

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Speaker 1: My advice is to accept what she is telling you

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Speaker 1: and move on. And just Rent says, she had surgery

549
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Speaker 1: and you wanted to have sex, and after she said no,

550
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Speaker 1: you were angry that she doesn't want to have sex

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Speaker 1: with you. This is a major red flag. You wanted

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Speaker 1: to fulfill your needs and ignore what she needs. And

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Speaker 1: because of your reaction, I think your whole I wanted

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Speaker 1: to care for my girlfriend after the surgery story was

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Speaker 1: the whole plot to have sex with her. Yes, you

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Speaker 1: fed up, and I don't think that this was the

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Speaker 1: first time. Something similar happened exactly.

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Speaker 3: I agree. I agree.

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Speaker 1: You are not an eighteen year old boy, you are

560
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Speaker 1: twenty nine years old. If you really want to work

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Speaker 1: on the issue, I suggest therapy and accept the fact

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Speaker 1: that she broke up with you and move on.

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Speaker 3: That is also the other crazy part, because this whole

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Speaker 3: situation just sounds like like a like an early college

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Speaker 3: relationship of like a poudy, horny teenager, truly truly.

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Speaker 1: Like and look, I get in a regular scenario, they're like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: we got like a week or two point city. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's it's it's it's boanc city.

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Speaker 3: But dude, you just get some get get get a clue.

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Speaker 3: There's two things here. One major f up with this

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Speaker 3: situation of trying to boink the day of the surgery, yes,

572
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Speaker 3: legitimately so crazy, like not even the day after the

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Speaker 3: day of with the eyes eye surgery, Yes, so crazy.

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Speaker 3: But I think the real thing that the comments are suggesting,

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Speaker 3: and I think we've suggested, is there's no way this

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Speaker 3: is the first time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, And there there was a point too

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Speaker 1: of like, yeah, this wasn't the first time, and maybe

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Speaker 1: the I I kind of think, like you know, he

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Speaker 1: was there, like I think to care for, but also

581
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Speaker 1: was just like being oblivious and not like really thinking

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Speaker 1: throughout it.

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Speaker 2: So let us know what you think. Let us know

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Speaker 2: what you think.

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Speaker 3: Put your answers in the comments below. And I think

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Speaker 3: my biggest question is if this just happened once, would

587
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Speaker 3: you break up? Let us know in the comments now comments,

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Speaker 3: but if you love us, make sure to subscribe We

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Speaker 3: love you and say it tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives.

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Speaker 1: Time for okop Relam.

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Speaker 3: I completed a group, probably by myself. My professor gave

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Speaker 3: me n F but don't worry, I gave him an

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Speaker 3: F two.

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Speaker 2: He's fired. Okayop, This is okay Ope.

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Speaker 3: I'm Samuel Donner and we tell the funniest stories in

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Speaker 3: the Internet. And Johnny, there's actually this guy on TikTok

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Speaker 3: that I saw, you know, Axel Axel. Yeah, you see

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Speaker 3: this guy Axel. He basically like tried to apply to

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Speaker 3: Juilliard and Juilliard didn't get him in.

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Speaker 1: Oh, and like everyone's kind of like rooting for him

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Speaker 1: a small, smallst apartment in New.

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Speaker 3: York, Yes, smallest apartment in New York, and he didn't

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Speaker 3: get a Juilliard. But then like all of his fans

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Speaker 3: just flooded Juilliard's Instagram.

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Speaker 2: Page and just wreck them, tore them a new one.

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Speaker 3: And now he's getting all these brand deals, he's getting

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Speaker 3: modeling gigs, but he's still in that small apartment. Uh

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Speaker 3: And And I just want everyone to remember when we

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Speaker 3: were recording from my room. In the future, maybe it's

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Speaker 3: six months, maybe it's a year, but one day we're

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Speaker 3: gonna be in our big, fancy studio. And I want

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Speaker 3: you to remember this moment TikTok before you blow us

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Speaker 3: up and YouTube and the podcast.

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Speaker 1: And shout out to everyone who has been saying why

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Speaker 1: is this so small? Like you guys deserve to be bigger,

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Speaker 1: Like people are out there rooting for us. Yeah yeah,

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Speaker 1: and we appreciate you and you're the ones making it

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Speaker 1: happen also yeah yeah, And like like you know, everyone

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Speaker 1: who's actually you know, supporting us on Patreon or on

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Speaker 1: YouTube or the podcast, you're the real ones.

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Speaker 3: It all helps, it all helps. But I got a

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Speaker 3: I got a real story for you, John, that'll help.

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Speaker 2: That'll help me, that'll help me. Good story. That's what

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Speaker 2: I want to do. That's what I want.

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Speaker 3: I completed a group project by myself, my professor gave

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Speaker 3: me an F. But don't worry. I gave him an

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Speaker 3: F two. He's fired till you'll your stupid professor.

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Speaker 2: You thought you could get away with it. You couldn't.

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Speaker 2: You won't.

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Speaker 3: You'll m nincome poop nincompoop.

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Speaker 2: That's that's a good one. I profess that you're stupid.

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Speaker 2: Mike dropped Dune's gidding angry. I I got gosh. You know,

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Speaker 2: everyone's been in the group project where you.

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Speaker 3: Know, overachievers over here, always always doing the work. So

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Speaker 3: I was in speech class. It was my last semester

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Speaker 3: and it was completely online due to COVID. Our professor

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Speaker 3: assigned us a group speech that we were to record

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Speaker 3: and send to him by the due date. I thought

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Speaker 3: it would be easy enough, as he gave us two

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Speaker 3: weeks to work on it, and the group speeches weren't

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Speaker 3: anything new to me. He even made separate discussion boards

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Speaker 3: for our groups so we could communicate. And this project

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Speaker 3: was worth thirty percent of our grade, so failing this

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Speaker 3: project meant you would pretty much fail the course. Oh wow,

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Speaker 3: thirty percent, that's a lot. I wanted to get it

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Speaker 3: done early so we wouldn't have to worry about it.

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Speaker 3: So I immediately post a message to everyone in the group

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Speaker 3: asking when they were free to do a zoom meeting

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Speaker 3: to discuss the project.

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Speaker 2: You know, like op he's in respect and trying to

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Speaker 2: get it done.

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Speaker 3: No reply for a few days by any of them.

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Speaker 3: Sh that's what I imagining the meaning the tumbleweed. Just

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Speaker 3: I din't post again, this time a little more stern,

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Speaker 3: as it didn't seem like any of them cared enough

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Speaker 3: to reply at all. I waited a few more days.

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Speaker 3: At this point, we only had one week left before

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Speaker 3: it was due, so I just divided up the work

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Speaker 3: and posted what everyone would need to write their portion

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Speaker 3: of the speech about, and gave them a date slash

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Speaker 3: time that I would be holding a zoom meeting for

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Speaker 3: the final recording to send to the professor, which, like

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Speaker 3: locate dude, OPI is, OPI is is doing a lot

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Speaker 3: for them. At this point, I.

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00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 1: Literally just spelling everything out, like here's your little contribution.

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00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 2: I've set everything up.

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00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it would be in as clear as possible.

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00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 3: But still no reply, no reply. It was now the

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00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 3: day before the speech was to be a recorded and

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00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:03,800
Speaker 3: two days before the speech was due, and my group

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00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:07,320
Speaker 3: members had still not made an attempt to contact in

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Speaker 3: any form at all, whatsoever.

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Speaker 2: Zilch, not a zero. Come on, come on.

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00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:14,600
Speaker 3: So I did the only thing I could think of

676
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 3: and emailed my professor explaining the situation. But this professor

677
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:22,000
Speaker 3: kind of sucks. I assumed he would not reply because

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00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:24,919
Speaker 3: throughout the entire semester it took him over a week

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00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 3: to reply to any emails I had sent him. I

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00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:31,439
Speaker 3: then did the entire group project on my own, which

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00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 3: took me the entire night with no sleep. After I

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00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:36,920
Speaker 3: finished writing everyone's speech, it was around the time I

683
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:39,799
Speaker 3: had scheduled the Zoom meeting to record. And again, this

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00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 3: is a speech class.

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00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 2: A group speech. What is he like today? I have

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00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:49,440
Speaker 2: this speech, we need to do this. He's just running

687
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:53,719
Speaker 2: to everyone's spots yep. I then did the entire group

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00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:55,680
Speaker 2: project on my own. I joined.

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00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:59,200
Speaker 3: I joined the Zoom meeting out of amusement, knowing nobody

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00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 3: in my group would be there. Sure enough, it was empty.

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00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:09,520
Speaker 3: So I did the entire speech myself. But the rubric

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00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:12,720
Speaker 3: really put emphasis on transitioning to our other group members,

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Speaker 3: including saying their name. So between every section where it

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00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 3: would cut to a different member, I would say something

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00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:22,360
Speaker 3: like and now my name will explain the importance of

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00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 3: blah blah, and then mute my screen briefly as if

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00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:27,959
Speaker 3: the cut but on a different put on a different hat,

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00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:29,320
Speaker 3: and then continue the speech.

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Speaker 1: Bro The production value is off the charts for this

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Speaker 1: single group speech, right.

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Speaker 3: Ophie is killing it. I did this for all six

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00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:41,680
Speaker 3: portions of the speech. There's six characters. I turned in

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00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 3: the speech shortly after and filled out the group member

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Speaker 3: roll sheet that was due as well.

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00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 2: I just put my name.

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00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:51,560
Speaker 3: And every single box that was supposed to be a

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00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:52,399
Speaker 3: different group member.

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Speaker 2: Because OPHI did the whole thing, the whole thing.

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Speaker 3: A week passes and I see that my professor greatd

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00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:01,759
Speaker 3: the p but he still has not replied to my

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00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:04,200
Speaker 3: previous email about the situation, by the way, and he

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00:36:04,280 --> 00:36:07,759
Speaker 3: gave me a zero stating it was supposed to be

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Speaker 3: a group project and you're doing it solo. Man, I

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00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:15,359
Speaker 3: did don't follow the inscruction.

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Speaker 2: Man's dying with every breath. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was about to say, like, first off, he's about

717
00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:28,320
Speaker 1: to be finishing his life, and second like op should

718
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 1: literally get like an A plus plus for.

719
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:34,719
Speaker 2: Doing everything, Like right, are you kidding me?

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00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:38,760
Speaker 3: I was actually infuriated by this and knew that emailing

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00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:41,879
Speaker 3: him about the grade was as good as useless. Yep,

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00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:44,359
Speaker 3: So I went straight above him to the board of

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00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:47,120
Speaker 3: the college and explained to them what happened.

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Speaker 2: The highest power.

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00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:51,000
Speaker 3: In the lamb, the highest power, I will go to

726
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 3: the citadel and talk to the council the Maldas. They

727
00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 3: apologize and said the situation would be resolved within a

728
00:36:57,719 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 3: few hours of me talking to the board.

729
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Speaker 2: Oh wow.

730
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 3: Then he had replied to my email three times saying

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Speaker 3: that he was sorry for the miscommunication about the project

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00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:11,239
Speaker 3: and that my grade would be corrected. And then he

733
00:37:11,520 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 3: scolded me for going above him, saying, you should have

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Speaker 3: just emailed me again if you couldn't get in contact

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00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 3: with your other class space, and he was putting the

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Speaker 3: blame on me for not trying to reach out to them.

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00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:35,400
Speaker 3: The next semester, I saw that he was no longer

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Speaker 3: with the school. My guess is that it was a

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00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:40,040
Speaker 3: habit of his to not reply to emails and he

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00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:42,439
Speaker 3: got fired for it. But he was also pretty old,

741
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 3: so maybe he just kicked the can. Also, his corrected

742
00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:50,719
Speaker 3: grade was a seventy. But I was so mentally exhausted

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00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:53,200
Speaker 3: from the situation at that point that I didn't care

744
00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:54,320
Speaker 3: to fight it anymore.

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Speaker 1: OP deserves one hundred and seventy percent, Like that is unacceptable.

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Speaker 3: They deserve six hundred percent. They do deserve one hundred

747
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 3: percent for every group member that they did work. Yeah,

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00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:06,440
Speaker 3: this is ridiculous.

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Speaker 1: And you could just tell like the fact that OP

750
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Speaker 1: like put together all the slots then just filled it in.

751
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:17,480
Speaker 2: Then the muting to transition, like ridiculous much work.

752
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 3: Was putting so much work, and honestly, like no one

753
00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 3: should ever have to do that amount of work. But

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Speaker 3: I think people should have to do a little work,

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Speaker 3: and so I want to make sure the OKOP fam

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Speaker 3: does a little bit of work right now, a little.

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Speaker 1: Bit of work to take that finger and smash the subscribe.

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Speaker 2: Smash it snaps subscribe button.

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Speaker 2: Thanks and we'll see us soon.

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Speaker 3: Yeah,