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Speaker 1: People talk about midlife crisis, people talk about empty nester.

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Speaker 1: What people don't talk about is the bridge in between.

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Speaker 1: And it's a critical bridge and only someone of a

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Speaker 1: certain age understands this bridge. You cannot explain it. You

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Speaker 1: have to go through it. What does it mean? You're

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Speaker 1: one of the guys that I meet. They're good looking,

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Speaker 1: they're successful, they are wealthy, they're in shape, they're brilliant minded.

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Speaker 1: Their kids are fourteen fifteen, so they are sitting in

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Speaker 1: a holding pattern. Now they're single. They want a date.

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Speaker 1: They can see the end of the tunnel. You have

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Speaker 1: kids that are thirteen, fourteen, fifteen, sixteen, Okay, they're going

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Speaker 1: to go to college, but in this moment, they're in

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Speaker 1: purgatory because you don't know exactly what your purpose is.

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Speaker 1: Your kids don't really need you. You could go out

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Speaker 1: of town for a week. They don't really care. They've

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Speaker 1: got their homework, they've got their sports, they've got their friends.

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Speaker 1: They can cook for themselves, clean for themselves, organized for themselves,

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Speaker 1: pack for themselves, plan for themselves. They understand their calendar,

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Speaker 1: and they are fully functioning beings, which is why in

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Speaker 1: Shakespearean times they were getting married. Okay, so they are

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Speaker 1: humans that make decisions and are almost adults, so your

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Speaker 1: identity is not tied to them anymore. Maybe your kids

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Speaker 1: have gone off to college. You're a fifty five year

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Speaker 1: old man, you're a fifty four year old woman, you're

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Speaker 1: fifty one. You are not yet an empty nest syndrome,

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Speaker 1: So you don't know what decisions to make because you

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Speaker 1: are aware of the fact that in two three years

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Speaker 1: you could live in Florida, you could go to France.

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Speaker 1: Your kids are going to college. You know that right

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Speaker 1: now they barely need you, and you could go to

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Speaker 1: France now, but you still have to be home, and

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Speaker 1: you have to be a functioning individual in your home,

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Speaker 1: and you're going to take your kids on the college

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Speaker 1: tours and you go into the softball and soccer and

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Speaker 1: lacrosse games like so you still have to be here

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Speaker 1: in body, but you just basically a driver, housekeeper, errand doer, concierge,

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Speaker 1: planner atm machine. So you're in this purgatory bridge phase.

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Speaker 1: So you think the decisions you're making like you're going

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Speaker 1: on a date with someone. You're like, yeah, I yes,

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Speaker 1: I do live right now in Des Moines, but in

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Speaker 1: two years my kids will be gone. I could live

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Speaker 1: anywhere I want. I can live intu loom in Saint

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Speaker 1: Barts or Africa. You're trying to like make decisions. In addition,

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Speaker 1: you're kind of purposeless for that same reason you're working,

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Speaker 1: but like you have more free time. You kind of

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Speaker 1: know where you are in your life, and you're just

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Speaker 1: sort of like this body scarecrow that's just putting your

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Speaker 1: arms in different directions to like direct people where to

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Speaker 1: go and what to do. You're just waiting till you

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Speaker 1: get to live your own fucking Ramona Pino Grigio. Move

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Speaker 1: down to Palm Beach, Boca tennis, pickleball, golf club lifestyle. Right,

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Speaker 1: that's what it is, you know. Or you're taking your eat,

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Speaker 1: praying and loving, or you're painting like it's a per

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Speaker 1: Tory Bridge phase that people don't discuss enough. And people.

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Speaker 1: I know this because I'll meet men that are like

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Speaker 1: so successful and they can do whatever they want. But

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Speaker 1: but I got this, you know, fifteen year old sitting

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Speaker 1: here that hasn't gotten to where he's gonna be yet.

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Speaker 1: So I'm here for this, I'm here for the sports,

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Speaker 1: and I'm I'm in the same fucking boat I have

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Speaker 1: this neppo baby, caviar eating freeloader that'll be upstairs at

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Speaker 1: feed her and give her money. I have to give

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Speaker 1: her her allowance today I forgot and tell her where

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Speaker 1: she's allowed to be and what she's allowed to do

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Speaker 1: and what she's allowed to buy and go to her tournaments. Well,

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Speaker 1: she doesn't pay any attention to me, and I sit

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Speaker 1: in my own hotel where while she's hanging out with

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Speaker 1: her friends braiding each other's hair and just like wants

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Speaker 1: me to watch the game. But that's like my only purpose.

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Speaker 1: I'm just like a warm body. So it's something people

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Speaker 1: do not discuss enough. And dating at this age and

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Speaker 1: stage is interesting because dating at this age and stage

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Speaker 1: is kind of like purgatory. Also, you're just in purgatory

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Speaker 1: and you're trying. We're all saying to each other, like

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Speaker 1: you just don't know where you're going to be, So

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Speaker 1: you're trying to date but in your own community, but

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Speaker 1: They're in these places because this is where their kids

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Speaker 1: called dating and waiting. You're dating, but you're waiting not

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Speaker 1: for your final resting place, but for your final nesting place.

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Speaker 1: So I find it to be a very interesting phase.

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Speaker 1: So there are two dynamics I'm noticing in dating. I'm

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Speaker 1: noticing a desperation in women where there's certain women that

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Speaker 1: I know that'll be texting me, do you know this guy?

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Speaker 1: I have this guy, I went out with this guy?

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Speaker 1: You interested in this guy? They're almost wanting to horse trade.

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Speaker 1: They are like blood in the water. They want to

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Speaker 1: find someone who's a partner who's going to take care

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Speaker 1: of them, or they're just they know that they still

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Speaker 1: look good, they're working out, but like they've got a

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Speaker 1: like disposable income, and so now a guy can choose

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Speaker 1: them they're forty eight to fifty three, or a guy

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Speaker 1: can choose someone in their forties. But this forty year

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Speaker 1: old woman might still have young kids, and this fifty

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Speaker 1: something year old guy who can be nimble and is

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Speaker 1: almost on his way out. He doesn't want to hang

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Speaker 1: because he doesn't have to, And he definitely could be

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Speaker 1: out and party in the nightclub and he's already done

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Speaker 1: all that, and or maybe he's not interested in that,

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Speaker 1: and he's running a business and he's going to board

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Speaker 1: meetings and he doesn't want to hang out or look

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Speaker 1: Swayed to Coachella. So now he could be with the

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Speaker 1: thirty year old springe suede Coachella to get the best

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Speaker 1: she doesn't want to have kids, but she is gonna

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Speaker 1: want to have kids, or he's gonna have to go

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Speaker 1: out and act cool and do molly with her thirty

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Speaker 1: or he does want to while he's experiencing his you know,

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Speaker 1: two old midlife just got divorced crisis where he's gonna

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Speaker 1: gonna get tired of that real quick. That's a cliche.

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Speaker 1: Or he's gonna be with the one in her forties

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Speaker 1: and then he definitely doesn't fucking want that either, because

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Speaker 1: young kids are worse than being the old guy in

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Speaker 1: But she has her kids, and she's got more serious

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Speaker 1: She's been through it. She understands the music and the references,

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Speaker 1: and she's relating to the kids of going to college

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Speaker 1: for apartments in the city to move them into. She

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Speaker 1: can relate to that. But she definitely has like the

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Speaker 1: where he just got fucked over by his last wife

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Speaker 1: have another person on the payroll, you know, And frankly,

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Speaker 1: doesn't want kids that really does. Do you want the

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Speaker 1: security of getting him to have it other kid. He

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Speaker 1: wants no part of the fringe swede long term. He

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Speaker 1: also wants no part of the fifties. I have three kids,

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Speaker 1: and I'm gonna need you to support my dental bill

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Speaker 1: and support me in some way because I got fucked

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Speaker 1: over in my divorce and I really don't have that

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Speaker 1: much money and I need you for that. I have

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Speaker 1: had a lot of luck and opportunity with men at

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Speaker 1: all stages because at most of these stages, it's about

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Speaker 1: she who makes the goal, makes the rules. You gotta

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Speaker 1: listen to me. It's why you gotta fucking be working.

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Speaker 1: It's why pre wed doesn't work. It's why you gotta

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Speaker 1: be working, ladies. Because why Because starting in my mid

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Speaker 1: to be on someone else's program. And in my forties,

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Speaker 1: I only had one kid, so I met men that

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Speaker 1: me because I'm meeting men who want to talk to

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Speaker 1: someone who's business minded. I've still got the one kid,

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Speaker 1: And I'm no blood in the water. I don't need

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Speaker 1: I don't need them for money, I don't need them

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Speaker 1: for my teeth, I don't need them for business help.

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Speaker 1: I don't need any of them for anything. The rub

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Speaker 1: eyed Bambi on some level with some people, but that's

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Speaker 1: also a dying breed because they've also been with the

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Speaker 1: gold digger, and they're so exhaling because we can have

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Speaker 1: I could pay my own bills, and I I'm light

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Speaker 1: is I can't be wherever somebody needs to be because

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Speaker 1: I'm still here until my daughter goes to college. So

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Speaker 1: while I think I'm fucking busted up and don't understand

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Speaker 1: why I'm an influencer, you know, getting the same deals

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Speaker 1: as thirty year olds, I also understand that because I've

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Speaker 1: created my own financial independence and value in business, that's

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Speaker 1: going a long way with men. Bliss, I'm funny. So

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Speaker 1: whatever you want to take from all of that, you take.

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Speaker 1: But women and men are both going through it okay.

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Speaker 1: And a lot of these men are emotional disasters. Women

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Speaker 1: get the bad rap for emotional disaster. And I'm just

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Speaker 1: telling you meeting a lot of disastrous blood in the water,

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Speaker 1: desperate women who want to find their next meal ticket.

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Speaker 1: It's giving desperate. It's giving a lot of plastic surgery,

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Speaker 1: that in the Desperado women, because it's fucking rough out there,

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Speaker 1: and you've got to at least find your market. If

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Speaker 1: you're gonna look like a glazed turkey in a short

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