WEBVTT - #185 Our Hearts Are Broken

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<v Speaker 1>Kind of kind of love. Where's the love in this email? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't I didn't see it one time. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>see I don't think I didn't see ever in a

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<v Speaker 1>lot pretty long email. I didn't see anything that says.

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<v Speaker 2>Our heart, our hearts are broken, Our hearts are broken.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to the podcast, y'all. Special guests today. Well

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<v Speaker 1>you're not special, you're normal. Normal, normal guest today. Bernie

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<v Speaker 1>Calcote special personally special to the podcast. The most regular

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<v Speaker 1>guest we've ever had in your back now. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know how many you've been to lots.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you guys for like keeping uh, keep on requesting

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<v Speaker 2>me to come back and Griz for you to keep

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<v Speaker 2>asking me to come back. Man, it's privilege and honor.

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<v Speaker 1>Man. No, that's exactly how I feel about you, because

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<v Speaker 1>you add to my life. The reason I bring you

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<v Speaker 1>on this podcast is because you bring to my life

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<v Speaker 1>so much wisdom and so much grounding to whatever I

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<v Speaker 1>have going on and when I have questions, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I want to bring you here to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>give that out to the people that ask the questions here.

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<v Speaker 1>Because you're just such an asset and you're just so wise.

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate that.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>You are going this weekend. What you told me is,

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<v Speaker 1>I was setting up this podcasting, You're going to do

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<v Speaker 1>the most physically difficult thing you've ever done in your

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<v Speaker 1>entire life.

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<v Speaker 2>Please tell me that and possibly the dumbest I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>Are tied pretty well. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So I got into trail running a while back, and

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<v Speaker 2>just I love getting lost in the woods. If you've

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<v Speaker 2>listened to this for any amount of time, you know

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<v Speaker 2>I love to get out in the woods with nothing

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<v Speaker 2>but nature and you know, talk to God and get lost.

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<v Speaker 3>So start trail running. Kind of got into it.

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<v Speaker 2>And yes, I'm gonna do a fifty k up in

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<v Speaker 2>cleveborand Texas.

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<v Speaker 1>So how how far is fifty k?

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<v Speaker 2>Thirty two miles? And there's roughly four to five thousand

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<v Speaker 2>feet of elevation game throughout the race, so it's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>be pretty physically demanding. There's a lot of guys out there,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure listening who have done you know, fifty milers

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<v Speaker 2>or a hundred miles and not a lot the ultra

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<v Speaker 2>The ultra world is really big and I'm just kind

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<v Speaker 2>of dipping my toe into it.

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<v Speaker 3>But for me, where I'm at in my journey.

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<v Speaker 2>This will definitely be the hardest thing physically possibly mentally,

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<v Speaker 2>because when you get into these things, your mind will

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<v Speaker 2>just You're out in the middle of nowhere. It's not

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<v Speaker 2>like you on a marathon you have like people clapping

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<v Speaker 2>for you on the side throughout the race. It's like

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<v Speaker 2>you're out there by yourself and your mind can just start.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, how long will this take you?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not sure, maybe between six and eight hours, Like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>never run this course, don't really know. So Okay, if

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<v Speaker 2>y'all want to be praying for something next Saturday or

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<v Speaker 2>this Saturday.

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<v Speaker 1>Or it will by the time the podcast, it will

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<v Speaker 1>have already happened.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so it's crazy. So if I die in this race,

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<v Speaker 2>I love you guys. This is coming from beyond the grave.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm with Jesus.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh. What tell me about your the the nutrition you

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<v Speaker 1>have the morning of. Maybe let's start with the night

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<v Speaker 1>before and then the morning of. This is so off

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<v Speaker 1>topic of what we typically talk about on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's great. So night before, what are you eating?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so pretty much this whole week is kind of

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<v Speaker 2>a taper week. So you're car bloating, we're eating like

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<v Speaker 2>pretty much like a raccoon, anything that I possibly can,

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<v Speaker 2>because I've been burning so many calories doing you know,

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<v Speaker 2>six or seven hours of running on a trail per

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<v Speaker 2>week for the last six eight weeks. So this week

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<v Speaker 2>is kind of like you taper down and then you're

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<v Speaker 2>just eating kind of everything you I've been coached that

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<v Speaker 2>you want to eat more sugar than usual, Like I

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<v Speaker 2>don't usually eat like little candies and stuff, but you

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<v Speaker 2>want to like lace the muscles with sugar, which I

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<v Speaker 2>guess is the thing you're gonna need whenever you get

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<v Speaker 2>into endurance. And so the night before probably something carb heavy.

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<v Speaker 2>The morning of I've been advised to like probably start

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<v Speaker 2>lower calorie, like you don't want to like load a bunch,

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<v Speaker 2>but you're gonna be eating, you know, probably eight hundred

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<v Speaker 2>calories per hour kind of like that you're out there.

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<v Speaker 3>Hydration is another really where do you put that stuff?

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<v Speaker 2>So they have like drop bags that you can have

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<v Speaker 2>like at different locations, or if you have something like

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<v Speaker 2>I have like a vest that I'll run with that'll

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<v Speaker 2>have something in there with water bottles that have you know, electrolytes, sodium, potassium,

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<v Speaker 2>magnesium in the water because if you lose sodium too

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<v Speaker 2>much and you get up into the you know, twenties

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<v Speaker 2>thirties of my ailes, and your body crashes like there's

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<v Speaker 2>no coming back. You get dehydrated, you can't get hydrated

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<v Speaker 2>back enough. You know you're gonna crash. So we're just

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<v Speaker 2>trying to finish. We're trying to stay healthy.

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<v Speaker 1>The goal to finish.

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<v Speaker 2>The goal is to finish. For me, the goal is

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<v Speaker 2>to finish. I know that some guys just you know,

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<v Speaker 2>are crazy and go for time, but I'm just gonna

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<v Speaker 2>try to finish and then I'll come back and tell

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<v Speaker 2>you guys how dumb of decision it was to sign.

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<v Speaker 3>Up for this.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>But my wife honestly has been super supportive this. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I said, this is not the wisest thing I've ever done,

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<v Speaker 2>and she has just been amazing and like my biggest

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<v Speaker 2>cheerleader through the training.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if it's I don't know, if it's unwise,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I think debatable testing yourself like that

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<v Speaker 1>mentally physically, and it's honestly, it's safely. I mean, you

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<v Speaker 1>got yeah. They probably have plenty of paramedics on standby

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<v Speaker 1>and people with radios. So it's it's safe, You're not

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<v Speaker 1>You're not reckless. Yeah, it's not careless.

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<v Speaker 3>It's definitely not reckless.

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<v Speaker 2>And I feel like as much as I can have

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<v Speaker 2>trained for something like this, I've done all that I

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<v Speaker 2>can for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, is there a risk of doing the the

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<v Speaker 1>ankle fracturing the ankles or or the shin splints? What

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<v Speaker 1>is that when you actually fracture your shins? Well, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean you can like David Goggins, yeah you can't.

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<v Speaker 2>He's a yeah, he's a different guy, but you definitely

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<v Speaker 2>can run into these overuse injuries, which shin splints will

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<v Speaker 2>be one of those, you know, ptelotenonitis. And honestly, if

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<v Speaker 2>anybody out there is thinking of doing any kind of

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<v Speaker 2>training for anything, that kind of pushes their limits. Like

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<v Speaker 2>Granger said, I think there really is something good about it,

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<v Speaker 2>the amount of self discovery that you find just through

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<v Speaker 2>the training, not even just getting to the start line,

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<v Speaker 2>not even the finish and the actual race day. But

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I've learned a lot about my ego,

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<v Speaker 2>which I didn't think I had a lot of. But

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<v Speaker 2>I do have a lot of ego that I've had

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<v Speaker 2>to die to and just work through. I think just

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<v Speaker 2>in that what you learn in that training of getting

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<v Speaker 2>shin splints, Okay, how do I still got three more

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<v Speaker 2>weeks of training? How do I like work through these

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<v Speaker 2>kind of small you know, injuries or you know, annoyances

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<v Speaker 2>to like get out there and just keep going. There's

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<v Speaker 2>something that's just very enlightening about that whole process that,

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<v Speaker 2>hopefully in the end, what it does is it gets

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<v Speaker 2>you to the end or to the start line with

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<v Speaker 2>confidence and just understanding yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>A little more.

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<v Speaker 1>Whenever you text me something very profound about life or

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<v Speaker 1>about the Bible, it's typically after one of your training runs. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Which is interesting because Jesus was tempted for forty days

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<v Speaker 1>in the desert, but he was tempted after forty days

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<v Speaker 1>of fasting, no water, no food, and and that the

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<v Speaker 1>temptation came at the end of that. It's so interesting

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<v Speaker 1>that that's and that was the begining of his ministry.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how his ministry started, was through that temptation first,

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<v Speaker 1>through that extreme body deprivation. And so that it explains

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<v Speaker 1>why you come up with these profound things that you

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<v Speaker 1>just think about and you meditate on through the running

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<v Speaker 1>through body deprivation. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's a good point.

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<v Speaker 1>Interesting. Yeah, well, so on this podcast we answer your question.

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<v Speaker 1>So this is it's a very untypical that I would

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<v Speaker 1>ask questions to someone else, So thank you, dude. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to mention something coming out of this break. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so after the first break, I want to mention something

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<v Speaker 1>that I think is very interesting that involves Bernie. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>talk about it then, So hang tight for about ten

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<v Speaker 1>more minutes. Let's get into some questions, which is what

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<v Speaker 1>we typically do. We answer your questions. Email me Grangersmith

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<v Speaker 1>podcast at gmail dot com. Putting my phone on airplane

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<v Speaker 1>mode to stop getting text and I'm going to go

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<v Speaker 1>to the first question I have here, subject line as

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<v Speaker 1>missing toxic people. Email says, Hey, I was wondering how

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<v Speaker 1>come when I drink I miss the most toxic people

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<v Speaker 1>in my life. They used to be my friends, And

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<v Speaker 1>when I drink, even just with a buzz, I end

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<v Speaker 1>up messaging them. I became friends with them again before

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<v Speaker 1>because of it, and it always ends up the same

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<v Speaker 1>very simple email. That's it. Why you look at me

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<v Speaker 1>like that? Uh no, there's there's not a name. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>what's great about this? Podcast is that I feel like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, we're sitting around a campfire and we get

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<v Speaker 1>to look at things from the outside. We kind of

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<v Speaker 1>hover over a problem that you're you, the writer of

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<v Speaker 1>this email, is right in the middle of it, and

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<v Speaker 1>it like doesn't make can see. But then we look

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<v Speaker 1>over it and we go, all right, bro, it's actually

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<v Speaker 1>a girl. It's actually a girl. Okay, So we say, sister,

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<v Speaker 1>what are you doing? Do you not see the connection

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<v Speaker 1>between you drink and you miss toxic people? You text

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<v Speaker 1>them and it ends up being the same. So what's

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<v Speaker 1>the common denominator in your question? What can you control? Yeah? Drinking?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's so easy.

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<v Speaker 1>The one thing you can control is don't drink and

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<v Speaker 1>the cycle stops.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it sounds like those people, the connections that you

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<v Speaker 2>made with those people were in the context of drinking.

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<v Speaker 2>So even though the people are gone, it makes sense

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<v Speaker 2>that when you start to do that thing that connected

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<v Speaker 2>connected you, you would think about those people. And in

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<v Speaker 2>this case maybe it's an you're calling them toxic, so

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<v Speaker 2>it's an unhealthy thing.

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<v Speaker 1>So don't drink.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean you could.

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<v Speaker 2>Say not drink, or you could say, hey, we probably

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<v Speaker 2>need to find some new friends. That can help us

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<v Speaker 2>form better healthy habits around drinking and then make those connections.

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<v Speaker 2>So whenever you drink, it's in moderation, and it's in

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<v Speaker 2>the context of like, oh, that those unhealthy, toxic things

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<v Speaker 2>are no longer a part of this thing that can

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<v Speaker 2>still be.

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<v Speaker 1>And for now, don't drink.

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<v Speaker 3>But for.

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<v Speaker 2>I love Margaret like good cop, bad cop.

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<v Speaker 1>Next question. This question, The subjectline says, I need some advice.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey Grangeer, my name is Brennan. I'm sixteen from Colorado.

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<v Speaker 1>I have liked this girl for a long time. We're

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<v Speaker 1>best friends. We sleep in the same bed when she

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<v Speaker 1>comes over, and act like a couple besides telling each

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<v Speaker 1>other I love you. I told her I liked her

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<v Speaker 1>and asked her out. She told me she liked me too,

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<v Speaker 1>but wasn't ready for a relationship. So I gave her

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<v Speaker 1>a year or so and asked her if she would

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<v Speaker 1>ever want to get back into a relationship with me

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<v Speaker 1>or I would be waiting for the rest of my life.

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<v Speaker 1>She told me she didn't know, and then got with

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<v Speaker 1>a boy the next day. They are still together. Do

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<v Speaker 1>I let her go stay friends? Do I let her

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<v Speaker 1>know she hurt me? What do I do? Love the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Brandon Brandon Brennan outside looking in. You're sixteen years old

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<v Speaker 1>in Colorado. Stop it. It wasn't a joke. Bernieh Owth Today.

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<v Speaker 3>Brennan, don't drink. Stop it, stop it, stop it.

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<v Speaker 1>What are you doing? Man? God Lee Brennan. I wish

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<v Speaker 1>I was in your town with you. I wish I

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<v Speaker 1>could take you to coffee? All right?

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<v Speaker 2>Can I can I play advocate for Brennan?

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<v Speaker 1>Real quick? Yogo go?

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<v Speaker 2>He's sixteen. His brain is not fully formed yet. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>you gotta remember that twenty five. If he's twenty six,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe we hold him two highs and her but males

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<v Speaker 2>frontal cortex I ain't formed yet.

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<v Speaker 3>Many he is.

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<v Speaker 1>Baby, He's got nobody in his life. He's got this girl, Brenda.

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<v Speaker 1>You got this girl coming over and she's staying with

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<v Speaker 1>you in the same bed. Where are you staying?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's a good question.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like mom's letting that happen.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And of course you're gonna like her.

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<v Speaker 2>Sixteen years old girl comes over, So you said your bed?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I like her?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah. So's his question is do I let her go?

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<v Speaker 1>Let's go through each of his questions. Do I let

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<v Speaker 1>her go yes, yes, do we stay friends? No? Do

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<v Speaker 1>I let her know she hurts me? Nah? Yeah, just

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<v Speaker 1>block her, Just block her. And the best thing you

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<v Speaker 1>could do, because you said, what do I do? The

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<v Speaker 1>best thing you could do is learn from this, this

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<v Speaker 1>feeling you have right now, this feeling of betrayal. She

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<v Speaker 1>hurt you. You gave her heart, you gave away your heart.

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<v Speaker 1>You told her everything you said you wanted to be

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship, you said you liked her or whatever

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<v Speaker 1>you said. You slept with her, all these things that

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<v Speaker 1>you did. Don't do it again because you feel this feeling,

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<v Speaker 1>you feel what this feels like. You have to think

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<v Speaker 1>this stuff through. You can't dive in. You have to

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<v Speaker 1>know these things. Just wait, you're sixteen. Just wait. There's

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<v Speaker 1>no need to jump into this kind of stuff right now. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>let her go block her? Good? Yeah, good, okay, next

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<v Speaker 1>question rolling something line? Oh that was next question, says

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<v Speaker 1>hey Grangeer, hoping to keep my name confidential. I was

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<v Speaker 1>wondering if you could help me this last December. I

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<v Speaker 1>had broken up with my girlfriend about a year and

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<v Speaker 1>it didn't end well. We're both missing each other. I

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<v Speaker 1>was the one who initiated the breakup, but it was

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<v Speaker 1>only because I couldn't handle everything in the relationship. During

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<v Speaker 1>the relationship, we decided we would wait for marriage for

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<v Speaker 1>anything of that nature. For about four months we broke up.

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<v Speaker 1>She decided after one night she wanted to sleep with

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<v Speaker 1>another guy off of a limb.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what that means, off of a limb,

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<v Speaker 3>on a whim.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it was on a whim. I heard this

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<v Speaker 1>from one of our friends that she stayed in contact with,

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<v Speaker 1>and I felt betrayed. Should I not be feeling this way?

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<v Speaker 1>Is there anything that I could do to help myself

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<v Speaker 1>in this situation? Or am I just overreacting? Thanks for

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<v Speaker 1>all you do. Okay, man, it's almost the same question. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like the same scenario went down again. Let me

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<v Speaker 1>rescan here. He initiated a breakup because it was toxic,

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<v Speaker 1>and you guys decided to wait for marriage. After the breakup,

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<v Speaker 1>she goes right into a new one. You feel betrayed, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you should leave her block her. If it was up

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<v Speaker 1>to me, I would say next question, But Bernie's.

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<v Speaker 3>Got to say something.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I'm trying to find anything to add more than that, Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's okay to feel what you're feeling and

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<v Speaker 2>feel betrayed for you, guys to have this relationship. You

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<v Speaker 2>did decide to break it off, but like you didn't say, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>let's break it off and then you go sleep with

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<v Speaker 2>somebody else. So I mean, I could see how y'all

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<v Speaker 2>probably talked about some things and then she kind of

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<v Speaker 2>went a different direction. But I think it's easy to

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<v Speaker 2>kind of look back and wish that or kind of

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<v Speaker 2>see things maybe differently as they were. There was a

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<v Speaker 2>reason that you broke up. There's a reason that she

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<v Speaker 2>is kind of moving in the direction that she is.

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<v Speaker 2>I probably wouldn't give her any more attention. I would

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<v Speaker 2>guard your heart and just kind of move on. And

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<v Speaker 2>same thing that I would say to this. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know how old you are. You didn't say right no,

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<v Speaker 2>but other sixteen year old, maybe you're in your teens

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<v Speaker 2>early twenties. Find a hobby, leave the girls alone for

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<v Speaker 2>a while, guys like find something that you can just

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<v Speaker 2>like put yourself into, and yea, there's time for that

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<v Speaker 2>later on.

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<v Speaker 1>It good.

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<v Speaker 2>Once your brain's formed and your heart has a little

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<v Speaker 2>more experience.

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<v Speaker 1>It's good. All right, We're gonna get into something deeper here.

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<v Speaker 1>Sevic client says how to help my son. Hey, Grangdeer,

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<v Speaker 1>Hope you're doing good. Been a listener listener of yours

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<v Speaker 1>for years. Love everything you do. Thanks for being an inspiration.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm writing you today about my step son. He's sixteen

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<v Speaker 1>years old. He's into death metal music, loves horror movies

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<v Speaker 1>at times, seems infasciated with the devil and all things dark.

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<v Speaker 1>I am a Christian, and the deeper my faith has

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<v Speaker 1>gotten over the past few years, the harder this topic

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<v Speaker 1>seems to be. My stepson and I have gone head

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<v Speaker 1>to head in regards to his clothing choices. He thinks

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<v Speaker 1>it's fine to wear upside down crosses, devil pictures, etc.

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<v Speaker 1>On his clothing. To him, it's just a style and

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't mean anything to him. I find this unacceptable.

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<v Speaker 1>It had gotten so bad at the beginning of the

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<v Speaker 1>school year that he had threatened to move back to

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<v Speaker 1>his mom's house because we didn't allow him to be himself.

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<v Speaker 1>We have tried to compromise to keep him here. It's

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<v Speaker 1>better and safer environment here than at his mom's. We

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<v Speaker 1>have allowed him or at the other home, excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>we have allowed him not to attend church every weekend

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<v Speaker 1>with us. I think he missaid that. I think he

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<v Speaker 1>missaid that just once a month. We've allowed him to know, Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>he doesn't want to go to church. I got it.

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<v Speaker 1>We've allowed him to not attend church every weekend, just

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<v Speaker 1>once a month, gotcha. He told us when he attends

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<v Speaker 1>church he feels like he he's being choked. We have

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<v Speaker 1>slacked off some on the clothing. We said he could

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<v Speaker 1>wear band shirts if it's a little darker, but that

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<v Speaker 1>was it. We have drawn the line and the sand

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<v Speaker 1>in regards to this. Lately, he's becoming more and more

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<v Speaker 1>into the dark side and ask a lot of questions

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<v Speaker 1>about the anti Christ exorcisms, and even gone as far

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<v Speaker 1>as to pretend he's possessed to try and scare us.

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<v Speaker 1>We have told him to stop, but he thinks it's

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<v Speaker 1>quite entertaining to get us worked up. Tonight, at our

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<v Speaker 1>younger son's baseball game, he told my husband and some

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<v Speaker 1>family that I am scared of him. He finds joy

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<v Speaker 1>in this. My question is how do we handle this?

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<v Speaker 1>What's a good next step for us? I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I have tried to stand our ground and really nothing

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<v Speaker 1>has helped. He is currently in counseling, and the counselor

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<v Speaker 1>says she is working on this as well. Any advice

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<v Speaker 1>would be great, God bless Anonymous recapping for me, this

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<v Speaker 1>is a woman speaking about a step son. So she

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<v Speaker 1>has married a man and this is this is her

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<v Speaker 1>new husband's son who's sixteen. The mom, the biological mother,

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<v Speaker 1>is not a It doesn't have a good living situation. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I think those are my facts here.

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<v Speaker 2>And not too much mentioned about dad.

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<v Speaker 1>No, not a lot of mention about dad.

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<v Speaker 2>That was the first thing I was wondering, where's Dad,

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<v Speaker 2>what's he doing? Yeah, first, just want to empathize, like

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<v Speaker 2>I can only imagine what you're going through with a child,

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<v Speaker 2>even you know, if it's a step child, not a

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<v Speaker 2>bio even so, this just has to be really heartbreaking

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<v Speaker 2>for you. And I don't want to minimize the weight

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<v Speaker 2>of the responsibility and the burden that you're probably carrying

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<v Speaker 2>seeing this play out.

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<v Speaker 3>So I just want to say that first.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I agree what I want to do because I

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<v Speaker 1>think this is complex and I have some stuff to say.

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<v Speaker 1>I want I want to really dig into this. So

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<v Speaker 1>I want to take a break and come back and

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<v Speaker 1>get back to this question because we're running a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit long. Okay, We'll be right back. Thanks for listening

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<v Speaker 1>to the podcast, y'all. You know, if you ever want

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<v Speaker 1>to get a hold of me, get a personal message

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<v Speaker 1>from me, the easiest way to do that is cameo

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<v Speaker 1>dot com slash Granger Smith. You go there and you

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<v Speaker 1>request anything you want me to say, and you fill

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<v Speaker 1>it out, and it's super simple. It goes to my

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<v Speaker 1>phone and then I record you a video message back.

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<v Speaker 1>So it could be like happy birthday, mom, or congratulations

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<v Speaker 1>on graduating to my son or my brother, or happy

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<v Speaker 1>anniversary or a baby announcement, or encouragement words. It could

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<v Speaker 1>be really anything. And I've been doing cameo for several

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<v Speaker 1>years and it goes on my phone and it gives

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<v Speaker 1>me a few days to record it, and then, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm on the road and some reason I don't

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<v Speaker 1>get it in time, it just kicks it back up

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<v Speaker 1>and allows me to have a few more minutes to

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<v Speaker 1>do it for you. It's super easy. You could also

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<v Speaker 1>download the cameo app and search for me Granger Smith.

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<v Speaker 1>It's an easy way for us to stay in touch

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<v Speaker 1>and for you to get a personalized video from me

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<v Speaker 1>straight from my phone. And although I am quitting touring,

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<v Speaker 1>that is correct. I am quitting music touring. I'm still

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<v Speaker 1>doing yeee apparel like that's not going away. So yeye

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<v Speaker 1>dot com is still alive and well, my brother Parker

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<v Speaker 1>is still running it, and my brother Tyler is still

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<v Speaker 1>working with us, so is Chris. Everyone's still on the team.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just not music touring. Does that make sense? So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>ye yee you can still rocket back to the podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, back to the podcast. I promised something at

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<v Speaker 1>the very beginning of last break that I was gonna

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<v Speaker 1>say something after the break, and here we go. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like me and you could do a live podcast

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<v Speaker 1>one of these days. I've mentioned it before, and now

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<v Speaker 1>that touring we've announced music touring is over, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like you would Wait, well, I feel like now that

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<v Speaker 1>now that I have availability, not that I have a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of time, but there's time for the podcast now

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<v Speaker 1>to travel. So I kind of want to know if

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<v Speaker 1>you comment below here, if you're able to comment, if

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<v Speaker 1>we should do like a test city or if we

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<v Speaker 1>should just go out and do like three cities. If

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<v Speaker 1>you want to do a din like should we do

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<v Speaker 1>a dinner with tables? Or should we just do a

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<v Speaker 1>theater where you're sitting in seats.

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<v Speaker 3>And would you come?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Would you come? And so it's be like we

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<v Speaker 1>we would have a stage and we would have like

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<v Speaker 1>a couch or something, and we would have these microphones

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<v Speaker 1>and we would just hold them and then we would

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<v Speaker 1>have people out in the crowd and they would we'd

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<v Speaker 1>have somebody walking around a microphone. Someone has their hand

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<v Speaker 1>up basically just spit firing here, and you just go

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<v Speaker 1>out and hand them the microphone. They asked the question,

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<v Speaker 1>and me, you and Chad and Parker or whoever, or

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<v Speaker 1>just me and you are whatever, slowly walk through it

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<v Speaker 1>like a campfire?

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<v Speaker 3>Could we have a campfire on the sun?

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe maybe we should make a fake can fake campfire?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm in Okay, back to the question at hand. Here,

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<v Speaker 1>this is the question about the step son. Mother is

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<v Speaker 1>writing about her step son who's sixteen and he's into

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<v Speaker 1>all this satanic stuff, and she says she's a Christian

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<v Speaker 1>and as her faith has gotten deeper, this is harder

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<v Speaker 1>to accept this kind of stuff from her step son,

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<v Speaker 1>all his choices and what he's doing, and she's forcing

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<v Speaker 1>him to go to church once a month. So the

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<v Speaker 1>first thing I want to do here is I want

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<v Speaker 1>to take this mirror and kind of flip it around

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit to the writer of this email, a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit where we're looking a lot at the step son,

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<v Speaker 1>and I want to kind of make sure that we're

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<v Speaker 1>looking at ourselves in the mirror here, making sure we're

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<v Speaker 1>not becoming the Pharisee and saying I tithe, and I

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<v Speaker 1>do this, and I do that, and I prayed a

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<v Speaker 1>thousand times a day, and thank God, I'm not like

0:25:17.680 --> 0:25:23.359
<v Speaker 1>this poor tax collector. And then you get this idea

0:25:23.359 --> 0:25:27.119
<v Speaker 1>of the tax collector who beats his chest and says, oh, God,

0:25:27.240 --> 0:25:30.760
<v Speaker 1>have mercy on me a sinner. And I'm not saying

0:25:30.800 --> 0:25:34.080
<v Speaker 1>that the sixteen year old is repenting in any way.

0:25:34.119 --> 0:25:36.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying we have to be careful when we're

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<v Speaker 1>just going, oh, this person is despicable to me, and

0:25:40.840 --> 0:25:43.399
<v Speaker 1>I'm drawing a line in the sand and I'm dragging

0:25:43.440 --> 0:25:49.119
<v Speaker 1>him the church. Kind of where's the love in this email? Like,

0:25:49.680 --> 0:25:52.879
<v Speaker 1>I haven't I didn't see it one time. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>see I don't think I didn't see ever in a

0:25:56.760 --> 0:26:02.480
<v Speaker 1>pretty long email. I didn't see anything that says our heart.

0:26:02.600 --> 0:26:04.479
<v Speaker 2>Our hearts are broken, Our hearts are broken.

0:26:05.520 --> 0:26:10.399
<v Speaker 1>We love him, We love him, he has he has

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<v Speaker 1>so much going for him in life and and it

0:26:14.320 --> 0:26:16.760
<v Speaker 1>just breaks my heart to see him on this path.

0:26:17.520 --> 0:26:21.320
<v Speaker 1>Where's that? So we have to start there. And I

0:26:21.320 --> 0:26:23.120
<v Speaker 1>think if you don't start there, and if you don't

0:26:23.119 --> 0:26:26.159
<v Speaker 1>feel that, and if that's not part of of your

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<v Speaker 1>your your intention, are you a Christian too? Why are you?

0:26:34.160 --> 0:26:34.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's a great thing to ask yourself, because

0:26:37.560 --> 0:26:44.320
<v Speaker 2>if you and Griz and I and anybody out there listening, like,

0:26:44.400 --> 0:26:49.040
<v Speaker 2>actually stop and consider the grace that we have been

0:26:49.080 --> 0:26:57.440
<v Speaker 2>given and we have received that free gift, there's there's

0:26:57.480 --> 0:27:00.800
<v Speaker 2>nothing but that same grace that we would want to

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<v Speaker 2>extend to others, even a step son who you know,

0:27:06.000 --> 0:27:09.560
<v Speaker 2>may seem like he is just you know, completely gone.

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, that grace will be the only thing

0:27:15.520 --> 0:27:20.879
<v Speaker 2>that corrects his course or guides his course in a

0:27:20.880 --> 0:27:24.240
<v Speaker 2>way that you really want. It's not going to be

0:27:24.320 --> 0:27:27.280
<v Speaker 2>by your condemnation, your rules, your laws, you know all

0:27:27.320 --> 0:27:33.560
<v Speaker 2>that stuff. So I think, with echoing what Griz just said,

0:27:33.680 --> 0:27:36.080
<v Speaker 2>I think you got to stop and consider God's grace

0:27:36.119 --> 0:27:38.000
<v Speaker 2>in your own life. Do you really get it? Do

0:27:38.080 --> 0:27:42.399
<v Speaker 2>you really understand it and accept it and then extend it.

0:27:43.960 --> 0:27:46.760
<v Speaker 3>And if not, it's okay. His mercy is new.

0:27:46.800 --> 0:27:49.359
<v Speaker 2>Every morning we get to wake up and say, you

0:27:49.359 --> 0:27:50.080
<v Speaker 2>know what, I.

0:27:50.000 --> 0:27:50.840
<v Speaker 3>Haven't been.

0:27:52.240 --> 0:27:56.040
<v Speaker 2>That gracious, I haven't been that patient, And maybe think

0:27:56.080 --> 0:27:57.960
<v Speaker 2>of ways that you get to extend that to him.

0:27:57.960 --> 0:28:04.840
<v Speaker 2>And I guarantee you just knowing the truth of grace

0:28:05.000 --> 0:28:08.800
<v Speaker 2>and love and and and what it will beget and

0:28:08.800 --> 0:28:14.080
<v Speaker 2>what condemnation and law and rules will beget. I guarantee

0:28:14.080 --> 0:28:16.440
<v Speaker 2>you if you start that process with him, it may

0:28:16.440 --> 0:28:19.000
<v Speaker 2>take a little while, and it may push you past

0:28:20.280 --> 0:28:23.280
<v Speaker 2>your comfort level, you know, speaking of like endurance and

0:28:23.359 --> 0:28:25.639
<v Speaker 2>like pushing past your comfort level. It may push you there,

0:28:25.720 --> 0:28:30.560
<v Speaker 2>especially with the child. But if ultimately what you want

0:28:30.680 --> 0:28:32.520
<v Speaker 2>is for him to be in the arms of God

0:28:32.600 --> 0:28:36.400
<v Speaker 2>and in God's grace and living a healthy, obedient life

0:28:36.400 --> 0:28:39.160
<v Speaker 2>in that way, I think grace is going to be

0:28:39.200 --> 0:28:40.320
<v Speaker 2>your avenue to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's so well said, And ma'am I we have

0:28:47.960 --> 0:28:50.640
<v Speaker 1>to we have to also put ourselves in his position.

0:28:50.840 --> 0:28:54.360
<v Speaker 1>Look look at the world from his position. He's gotta

0:28:54.480 --> 0:28:57.880
<v Speaker 1>he's got a split family, his mom, whatever is going

0:28:57.920 --> 0:28:59.680
<v Speaker 1>on at mom's house. You say, it's not a good

0:28:59.760 --> 0:29:02.000
<v Speaker 1>good not a good place to be. So he's got

0:29:02.000 --> 0:29:05.000
<v Speaker 1>that going on. You didn't mention anything about dad. The

0:29:05.080 --> 0:29:09.000
<v Speaker 1>guy's got a lot going on. And and when someone

0:29:09.040 --> 0:29:12.480
<v Speaker 1>is outside of Christ, as obviously this sixteen year old

0:29:12.520 --> 0:29:17.400
<v Speaker 1>kid is outside of Christ. Right, when someone is outside

0:29:17.440 --> 0:29:22.440
<v Speaker 1>of Christ, then it doesn't it doesn't surprise me anything

0:29:22.480 --> 0:29:25.320
<v Speaker 1>that they would do. It doesn't surprise me. If you

0:29:25.360 --> 0:29:28.520
<v Speaker 1>said he's he's shaving his head and he's joining all

0:29:28.600 --> 0:29:33.320
<v Speaker 1>kinds of racist organizations, or he's going he's going off

0:29:33.360 --> 0:29:37.480
<v Speaker 1>and he's chasing aliens in Roswell, New Mexico. Or he's

0:29:37.520 --> 0:29:41.480
<v Speaker 1>out there and like throwing flowers with hippies. He's out,

0:29:41.680 --> 0:29:45.840
<v Speaker 1>he's out dressing up as as bunny rabbits and hopping

0:29:45.880 --> 0:29:49.280
<v Speaker 1>around Istanbul. It could say, you could say anything, and

0:29:49.320 --> 0:29:52.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna I'm not going to be surprised. It

0:29:52.440 --> 0:29:55.400
<v Speaker 1>just so happens. This particular story is death metal and

0:29:55.440 --> 0:29:59.959
<v Speaker 1>horror movies and gothic type Satan worship. It doesn't surprise.

0:30:00.960 --> 0:30:03.840
<v Speaker 1>There's not a level once you're outside of Christ. There's

0:30:03.840 --> 0:30:06.720
<v Speaker 1>not a level of surprise that I that I get.

0:30:06.760 --> 0:30:09.960
<v Speaker 1>I just go, Yeah, it doesn't have the Holy Spirit

0:30:10.040 --> 0:30:15.000
<v Speaker 1>living in them? What do we expect? So with everything

0:30:15.040 --> 0:30:17.360
<v Speaker 1>we've said, come the foundation of what we built that

0:30:17.440 --> 0:30:21.160
<v Speaker 1>come at this as grace. Look at yourself? Are you

0:30:21.160 --> 0:30:26.800
<v Speaker 1>yourself saved? Are you coming at this with love? Mercy?

0:30:26.840 --> 0:30:31.479
<v Speaker 1>With all that, now, let's look at where's your common ground?

0:30:31.920 --> 0:30:33.920
<v Speaker 1>Someone's gonna have to find common ground with this kid,

0:30:33.960 --> 0:30:37.120
<v Speaker 1>whether you or the dad. I'm hoping it's the dad,

0:30:38.000 --> 0:30:41.720
<v Speaker 1>But if not, what's common ground? What's something you both

0:30:41.880 --> 0:30:44.760
<v Speaker 1>share that you like. Is it a food? Is it

0:30:44.840 --> 0:30:49.200
<v Speaker 1>a vacation spot? Is it we know it's not music?

0:30:49.680 --> 0:30:52.680
<v Speaker 1>Is it any where? Is the common ground? Lean into that?

0:30:54.480 --> 0:30:57.920
<v Speaker 1>Learn Learn to play a video game. I'm telling you,

0:30:58.560 --> 0:31:00.960
<v Speaker 1>learn to play a video game. If that means you're

0:31:00.960 --> 0:31:04.000
<v Speaker 1>gonna be in there with him, If you're gonna be

0:31:04.040 --> 0:31:06.200
<v Speaker 1>in there with this video game that he plays at

0:31:06.240 --> 0:31:08.719
<v Speaker 1>ten o'clock at night, be in there with him and

0:31:08.800 --> 0:31:11.840
<v Speaker 1>play it and challenge him in it. If that means

0:31:12.080 --> 0:31:15.640
<v Speaker 1>quality time together to build something. If he loves grilled

0:31:15.680 --> 0:31:19.400
<v Speaker 1>cheese sandwiches, learn to make them good. Learn to make

0:31:19.440 --> 0:31:22.360
<v Speaker 1>them better than anyone. If he's an early riser, I

0:31:22.360 --> 0:31:24.320
<v Speaker 1>don't think he is. If he's an early riser, learn

0:31:24.400 --> 0:31:26.920
<v Speaker 1>to make pancakes and have them ready when he gets up.

0:31:27.320 --> 0:31:30.320
<v Speaker 1>Find the way to his heart so that you could

0:31:30.360 --> 0:31:32.240
<v Speaker 1>you could empathize with them, so that you could find

0:31:32.240 --> 0:31:35.320
<v Speaker 1>common ground, so then you could earn his trust through that.

0:31:35.840 --> 0:31:39.400
<v Speaker 1>Stop condemning this kid. Stop dragging him to church once

0:31:39.440 --> 0:31:42.640
<v Speaker 1>a month. Of course he feels choked. He's outside of Christ.

0:31:42.680 --> 0:31:45.880
<v Speaker 1>It doesn't it's foolish to him. The Gospel is foolish

0:31:45.960 --> 0:31:49.840
<v Speaker 1>to this kid because he's outside of Christ.

0:31:51.160 --> 0:31:54.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, preece, brother, that's good. Yeah.

0:31:54.560 --> 0:31:59.040
<v Speaker 2>I think that everything that Granger is saying is like,

0:31:59.080 --> 0:32:03.000
<v Speaker 2>if we define great unmerited favor, like he doesn't deserve

0:32:03.040 --> 0:32:05.160
<v Speaker 2>for you to find out how to make his favorite

0:32:05.200 --> 0:32:09.080
<v Speaker 2>grilled cheese sandwich or to do all the things. And

0:32:09.160 --> 0:32:13.880
<v Speaker 2>someone that is full of hate will not live in

0:32:13.960 --> 0:32:17.960
<v Speaker 2>a house of grace. If you create a house full

0:32:18.000 --> 0:32:21.560
<v Speaker 2>of grace, he will either align or he will leave.

0:32:22.720 --> 0:32:25.040
<v Speaker 2>And those are two realities that you're probably gonna have

0:32:25.040 --> 0:32:27.920
<v Speaker 2>to face if not now down the road, he's not

0:32:28.040 --> 0:32:33.160
<v Speaker 2>even yours. Yea, His future, his destiny is not really

0:32:33.160 --> 0:32:35.520
<v Speaker 2>in your hands to control or to conform.

0:32:36.440 --> 0:32:37.320
<v Speaker 3>What we get.

0:32:37.240 --> 0:32:39.280
<v Speaker 2>To do is steward them in the way of grace.

0:32:39.400 --> 0:32:42.640
<v Speaker 2>Create a house of grace, and maybe he will start

0:32:42.680 --> 0:32:45.200
<v Speaker 2>to align, he'll start to be like oh, because he'll

0:32:45.200 --> 0:32:49.840
<v Speaker 2>start to see the healthy habits. But if your house

0:32:49.920 --> 0:32:52.920
<v Speaker 2>is dirty, you can't point at him and be like,

0:32:52.920 --> 0:32:55.520
<v Speaker 2>why are you dirty? Take a second look around the house.

0:32:55.960 --> 0:32:58.520
<v Speaker 2>I think if we, you know, start there.

0:32:58.400 --> 0:33:02.320
<v Speaker 1>Like you said, my neighbor told me this story. And

0:33:02.560 --> 0:33:06.680
<v Speaker 1>they've got a sixteen year old son and he is

0:33:07.960 --> 0:33:09.400
<v Speaker 1>in he's in high school, you know, a first year

0:33:09.400 --> 0:33:12.600
<v Speaker 1>in high School's driving and he's he's really into football.

0:33:13.280 --> 0:33:15.680
<v Speaker 1>He's gone all the time because he's either doing some

0:33:15.760 --> 0:33:20.240
<v Speaker 1>kind of two days are training or are weight lifting something,

0:33:20.480 --> 0:33:24.000
<v Speaker 1>or speed camp or football. And it's a new school

0:33:24.000 --> 0:33:25.960
<v Speaker 1>for him. So he's got his friends and so he

0:33:26.080 --> 0:33:28.840
<v Speaker 1>drives and he's gone most of the day. Pops in,

0:33:28.880 --> 0:33:31.840
<v Speaker 1>he does something, he goes back out, and he's most

0:33:31.920 --> 0:33:34.480
<v Speaker 1>nights during the week he's missing dinner. And it was

0:33:34.560 --> 0:33:37.880
<v Speaker 1>like making the mother upset. She's like, you know, I

0:33:37.920 --> 0:33:40.920
<v Speaker 1>miss my son. He's not here. You know, I'm I'm

0:33:40.960 --> 0:33:43.720
<v Speaker 1>tired of just taking food and putting a paper towel

0:33:43.720 --> 0:33:45.480
<v Speaker 1>on it, putting the fridge and writing a note said

0:33:45.560 --> 0:33:47.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm tired. She says, I'm tired like, I've got a

0:33:47.840 --> 0:33:50.440
<v Speaker 1>busy day too. You know, I've got three other kids

0:33:50.480 --> 0:33:52.800
<v Speaker 1>besides him, and so you know, I've got to make

0:33:52.840 --> 0:33:54.720
<v Speaker 1>sure the house is clean. And then by the time

0:33:54.880 --> 0:33:57.160
<v Speaker 1>we finished dinner, he's not even home, so I have

0:33:57.160 --> 0:33:58.760
<v Speaker 1>to put it in the fridge, and then I just

0:33:58.960 --> 0:34:00.360
<v Speaker 1>and then I get upset and I have to get

0:34:00.400 --> 0:34:01.800
<v Speaker 1>ready for bed, and I'm like, hey, you have to

0:34:01.960 --> 0:34:03.760
<v Speaker 1>do you have to fend on your by yourself on

0:34:03.800 --> 0:34:07.680
<v Speaker 1>this stuff. And then she said, then I realized what

0:34:07.800 --> 0:34:11.840
<v Speaker 1>I was doing, she said, I had to realize that

0:34:11.920 --> 0:34:15.520
<v Speaker 1>I needed to be connecting with him. So I decided

0:34:15.520 --> 0:34:19.600
<v Speaker 1>one day to wait for him and make whatever he

0:34:19.640 --> 0:34:22.040
<v Speaker 1>wanted to eat. So he came home at like nine o'clock.

0:34:22.280 --> 0:34:24.239
<v Speaker 1>Instead of that's the time I'm getting ready for bed,

0:34:24.280 --> 0:34:26.879
<v Speaker 1>she says, Instead, I said, what do you want to eat?

0:34:27.400 --> 0:34:28.880
<v Speaker 1>And I heat it up dinner and I made it

0:34:29.120 --> 0:34:30.920
<v Speaker 1>and I put it on the table, and all of

0:34:30.960 --> 0:34:33.400
<v Speaker 1>a sudden, for the first time in months, he started talking.

0:34:34.080 --> 0:34:35.759
<v Speaker 1>Because you know, teenagers can go through this thing where

0:34:35.760 --> 0:34:37.439
<v Speaker 1>they're like, well, no.

0:34:37.480 --> 0:34:38.799
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, don't care, I don't know.

0:34:39.440 --> 0:34:42.239
<v Speaker 1>So all of a sudden, he's opening up. He's talking

0:34:42.280 --> 0:34:45.600
<v Speaker 1>about his day, he's sharing a meal with mom, and

0:34:45.640 --> 0:34:48.160
<v Speaker 1>she's like, this is it. She had she had to

0:34:48.200 --> 0:34:52.319
<v Speaker 1>sacrifice her time. You know, nine o'clock. We all as parents,

0:34:52.360 --> 0:34:54.200
<v Speaker 1>we know that's like a good time for us. She

0:34:54.280 --> 0:34:58.000
<v Speaker 1>had to sacrifice that, and the sun opened up and

0:34:58.120 --> 0:35:01.160
<v Speaker 1>talked and it was a huge, huge breakthrough. And I

0:35:01.200 --> 0:35:03.239
<v Speaker 1>was like, praise God, that is an amazing thing. So

0:35:03.280 --> 0:35:06.239
<v Speaker 1>that's what I'm pleading with you, ma'am. Yeah, I could

0:35:07.040 --> 0:35:11.400
<v Speaker 1>find a breakthrough. It's somewhere every sixteen year old kid

0:35:11.600 --> 0:35:17.160
<v Speaker 1>that there's a breakthrough somewhere, find it you will, and

0:35:17.239 --> 0:35:22.400
<v Speaker 1>then priest the gospel. Yeah, all right, that took a

0:35:22.400 --> 0:35:24.120
<v Speaker 1>little bit, but that was a complex question.

0:35:24.280 --> 0:35:26.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I think applicable to a lot of people

0:35:26.160 --> 0:35:28.279
<v Speaker 2>out there that are parents maybe seeing their kids do

0:35:28.360 --> 0:35:30.040
<v Speaker 2>things that you're like, I don't understand it.

0:35:31.760 --> 0:35:39.680
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, another one complex subject, client says military plus stay

0:35:39.680 --> 0:35:42.160
<v Speaker 1>at home dad question for podcast. Hey Grangeer, and my

0:35:42.239 --> 0:35:45.280
<v Speaker 1>husband is about to retire soon from having served twenty

0:35:45.360 --> 0:35:48.759
<v Speaker 1>years almost in the military. He has been on seven deployments.

0:35:49.000 --> 0:35:52.680
<v Speaker 1>He's been the absolute best worker and then best leader

0:35:52.719 --> 0:35:55.320
<v Speaker 1>he could possibly be, and deserves every bit of this retirement.

0:35:55.680 --> 0:35:59.239
<v Speaker 1>He will be thirty nine at retirement. When asked what

0:35:59.360 --> 0:36:02.120
<v Speaker 1>he would like to do next, his answer to everyone

0:36:02.320 --> 0:36:05.040
<v Speaker 1>is stay at home, be a dad, raise his kids,

0:36:05.239 --> 0:36:09.000
<v Speaker 1>homeschool them, teach them everything from household chores to gardening

0:36:09.080 --> 0:36:11.200
<v Speaker 1>to the Bible. You could see it in his eyes

0:36:11.239 --> 0:36:13.319
<v Speaker 1>and hear it in his voice. This is truly what

0:36:13.440 --> 0:36:18.440
<v Speaker 1>makes him happiest. I am a veteran myself currently. I

0:36:18.480 --> 0:36:20.720
<v Speaker 1>have a great part time job that I love, working

0:36:20.719 --> 0:36:23.759
<v Speaker 1>about twenty four hours and making good money seventy dollars

0:36:23.800 --> 0:36:26.759
<v Speaker 1>an hour. I love working and would be happy to

0:36:26.840 --> 0:36:29.399
<v Speaker 1>work while he's at home with our children. My only

0:36:29.520 --> 0:36:35.120
<v Speaker 1>concern is is this unbiblical and dishonoring God's instruction? Is

0:36:35.160 --> 0:36:37.600
<v Speaker 1>it okay for him to retire and be the stay

0:36:37.600 --> 0:36:40.760
<v Speaker 1>at home dad that he's always dreamed of being while

0:36:40.920 --> 0:36:44.560
<v Speaker 1>I work? Will he or I or both of us

0:36:44.680 --> 0:36:46.600
<v Speaker 1>be disobeying God? Thank you so much.

0:36:49.480 --> 0:36:53.080
<v Speaker 2>I think it's a fair question, but I'm going to

0:36:53.160 --> 0:36:57.440
<v Speaker 2>say no. Do you maybe you have a little bit

0:36:57.440 --> 0:36:59.040
<v Speaker 2>more insight? It sounds awesome?

0:36:59.080 --> 0:37:05.000
<v Speaker 1>Actually, yeah, yeah, I want to kind of go back

0:37:05.000 --> 0:37:10.120
<v Speaker 1>to this a little bit. We're kind of throwing around

0:37:10.160 --> 0:37:14.160
<v Speaker 1>that term loosely stay at home dad, but he wants

0:37:14.200 --> 0:37:19.560
<v Speaker 1>to raise the kids homeschool, then that's full time, full

0:37:19.560 --> 0:37:24.400
<v Speaker 1>time job, teach them everything, household chores, which is another

0:37:24.600 --> 0:37:28.160
<v Speaker 1>big job, gardening, all this kind of stuff, and the Bible.

0:37:30.160 --> 0:37:33.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna say something here in a way, this is

0:37:34.120 --> 0:37:37.200
<v Speaker 1>what he's wanting to do. Is what every dad did

0:37:37.480 --> 0:37:40.680
<v Speaker 1>one hundred and fifty years ago, two hundred years ago,

0:37:41.080 --> 0:37:43.799
<v Speaker 1>five hundred years ago, Like what they did for most

0:37:43.840 --> 0:37:49.279
<v Speaker 1>of history. They didn't leave to go to a workplace

0:37:49.960 --> 0:37:52.080
<v Speaker 1>like we have in our minds now. Like we look

0:37:52.120 --> 0:37:54.719
<v Speaker 1>at biblically, the man should go work, and we think

0:37:54.800 --> 0:37:57.279
<v Speaker 1>that means we get in a car and commute down

0:37:57.280 --> 0:38:02.720
<v Speaker 1>the highway to an office building. Work always forever meant

0:38:03.160 --> 0:38:06.720
<v Speaker 1>you're working at home in the garden and doing chores

0:38:07.080 --> 0:38:11.120
<v Speaker 1>and fixing fences and harvesting vegetables and putting out new crop,

0:38:11.440 --> 0:38:14.920
<v Speaker 1>and teaching the kids school and teaching them the Bible.

0:38:15.840 --> 0:38:19.360
<v Speaker 1>It's just what they did. So I don't see any

0:38:19.400 --> 0:38:20.080
<v Speaker 1>problem with this.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's yeah, it's very biblical, if that's the lens

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<v Speaker 2>you're looking through. But also it's just kind of awesome.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like.

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<v Speaker 2>We've lost kind of the apprenticeship. Hey, you know, watch

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<v Speaker 2>me do it. I watch you do it, then you

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<v Speaker 2>do it kind of process of like kids actually learning

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<v Speaker 2>how to do things by.

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<v Speaker 3>Sitting next to us watching it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so maybe maybe when you go to church and

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<v Speaker 1>things like that and you're discussing this, maybe change your

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<v Speaker 1>language about it. Instead of saying, well, now he's retired

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<v Speaker 1>and stay at home dad, don't say it that way.

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<v Speaker 1>Say say he retired in the military, but now he's

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<v Speaker 1>working around our house, gardening, teaching, learning, having apprenticeships. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>you could word it in a different way where it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't sound kind of condescen almost sounds condescending the way

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<v Speaker 1>you're saying. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>If you say he's he's now homeschooling our kids, it's

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<v Speaker 2>like whoa.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, let me say something that you don't know, anonymous.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me say something. This is not the end of

0:39:26.000 --> 0:39:29.879
<v Speaker 1>his story or yours. He's thirty nine, he's had an

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<v Speaker 1>incredible career with seven deployments. So thank you for your

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<v Speaker 1>service and thank you for his but this is not

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<v Speaker 1>the end of his story. He might he might think

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<v Speaker 1>that next is home gardening, teaching, give it five years,

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<v Speaker 1>something's going to come up. Yeah, he's going to want

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<v Speaker 1>to invest in something, or try something, or work at

0:39:53.480 --> 0:39:55.480
<v Speaker 1>the church or something. Something's going to come up. I

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<v Speaker 1>promise this is just a dream that a thirty nine

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<v Speaker 1>year old has going home. Man, you know what's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be awesome putting tomatoes and oak in the garden.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, and he's probably missed if he's been on seven deployments,

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<v Speaker 2>he's probably missed out great point being home. And so

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<v Speaker 2>this is kind of the compensation, like the great point.

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<v Speaker 1>So if he's been on seven deployments and say does

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<v Speaker 1>she say what what branch? If it's army, that means

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<v Speaker 1>seven years. Yeah, he's been gone maybe more out of

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<v Speaker 1>the kid's life. Now he's going to pour back in

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<v Speaker 1>and invest back into the lives of the kids that

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<v Speaker 1>he missed out on. Great Point. Yeah, I think there's

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<v Speaker 1>nothing wrong with this.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'd kind of like to meet the guy. Honestly.

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<v Speaker 2>Come to a podcast show or is it a podcast show?

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<v Speaker 2>What are these tour things called? We're making it up

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<v Speaker 2>as we go, the podcast podcast, live recording, live recording.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's do one more and if we could try this

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<v Speaker 2>is a common but difficult question. We'll try to make

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<v Speaker 2>it quick. Here it says, Hey GRAINGERR. My name is Forest.

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<v Speaker 2>I was wondering why some people suffer from mental illness,

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<v Speaker 2>why does God allow that to be a thing? The

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<v Speaker 2>reason I ask it because I've been clinically diagnosed, and

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<v Speaker 2>at times I wonder if I'll always take medicine for

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm diagnosed with. I feel like you're about to

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<v Speaker 2>preach a sermon on this, right, so.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, kind of, I mean, well, I'm in a class

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<v Speaker 1>right now in seminary called the Problem of Evil, and

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<v Speaker 1>and so I've just been reading all different kinds of

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<v Speaker 1>books on evil and and usually what it comes down to,

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<v Speaker 1>really the question, the core question that people are going

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<v Speaker 1>to ask is either why does God allow evil? Or

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<v Speaker 1>because of the existence of evil, that proves there is

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<v Speaker 1>no God? Right and so that's something that Christians need

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<v Speaker 1>to think through. It's also very biblical. If you read

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<v Speaker 1>the Book of Job it is it is all throughout

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<v Speaker 1>the Bible. But I don't think that's what you're asking

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<v Speaker 1>for us. I don't think you're asking for some kind

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<v Speaker 1>of great theological interpretation of evil in the Bible or

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<v Speaker 1>in the world, or the existence of it, or God's

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<v Speaker 1>allowance of it, or or God raising his hand and

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<v Speaker 1>evil the entrance of evil. I don't think you're asking

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<v Speaker 1>any of that. In fact, you didn't even use that word.

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<v Speaker 1>You're calling it suffering or mental illness? Why does God

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<v Speaker 1>allow that to be a thing? So that's a specific

0:42:29.360 --> 0:42:36.440
<v Speaker 1>piece of evil mental illness, And what you're asking is,

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<v Speaker 1>I hope, God, what are you showing me through this?

0:42:41.920 --> 0:42:45.279
<v Speaker 1>What are you showing me? Now? This is a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been clinically diagnosed, I have been given medication. God,

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<v Speaker 1>What is the purpose of this so that I can

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<v Speaker 1>glorify you? Because my purpose is to give you glory?

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<v Speaker 1>How is mental illness a component in that? And I

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<v Speaker 1>can't help you totally with that for Est, but I

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<v Speaker 1>will say that's a place to start. That's a place

0:43:10.080 --> 0:43:13.279
<v Speaker 1>for you to start thinking instead of thinking why did

0:43:13.320 --> 0:43:18.200
<v Speaker 1>he allow its? Why is you know this can't be good? Instead,

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<v Speaker 1>this is me, this is what I have. How am

0:43:21.600 --> 0:43:24.360
<v Speaker 1>I going to glorify God? And I could tell you

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<v Speaker 1>right now there's a lot of options.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, for sure, anyone.

0:43:30.120 --> 0:43:32.040
<v Speaker 1>Could ask this question. I could ask the same thing

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<v Speaker 1>for Est. I could say, how could a dad who

0:43:34.280 --> 0:43:40.080
<v Speaker 1>lost his son glorify God through that? Any of us could?

0:43:40.160 --> 0:43:42.720
<v Speaker 1>Whatever affliction we have it currently, and we have them all,

0:43:43.160 --> 0:43:45.799
<v Speaker 1>any of us could ask that same question with our afflictions.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think this is one of those things where

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<v Speaker 2>the live recording and having you guys you've mentioned it before,

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<v Speaker 2>being able to ask like the follow up, Because if

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<v Speaker 2>you have rendered your life to Jesus and you are

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<v Speaker 2>spending time in the world and seeking to glorify God

0:44:06.160 --> 0:44:09.520
<v Speaker 2>with your life like Granger's talking about, this is a

0:44:09.560 --> 0:44:13.920
<v Speaker 2>different maybe not a different answer, but a different conversation

0:44:14.239 --> 0:44:18.120
<v Speaker 2>that we are having. If that is true. What I

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<v Speaker 2>want to remind you of and anybody out there who

0:44:22.360 --> 0:44:25.280
<v Speaker 2>is in this suffering, who has that heart of surrender

0:44:25.480 --> 0:44:28.880
<v Speaker 2>and want for obedience, is that we are but a

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<v Speaker 2>missed guys, Like this life is going so fast and

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<v Speaker 2>there's gonna be eternity, eternity that there will.

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<v Speaker 3>Be no mental illness.

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<v Speaker 2>You won't have to carry this burden and this suffering

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<v Speaker 2>any longer. And if we can just wait a little while,

0:44:46.080 --> 0:44:48.640
<v Speaker 2>if we can just hold on to that hope that

0:44:48.760 --> 0:44:52.359
<v Speaker 2>is in Jesus that you, by your wounds, I am

0:44:52.400 --> 0:44:55.239
<v Speaker 2>healed and one day this is waiting for me and

0:44:55.280 --> 0:44:57.560
<v Speaker 2>that I will press on towards the goal. Like I

0:44:57.640 --> 0:45:00.920
<v Speaker 2>am going to keep carrying this suffer because I know

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<v Speaker 2>that in this you have also suffered to the extent

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<v Speaker 2>with me. And it's just for a little while. It

0:45:08.080 --> 0:45:11.520
<v Speaker 2>feels like forever in this life with this earthly body.

0:45:11.520 --> 0:45:12.439
<v Speaker 2>It feels too much.

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<v Speaker 1>But guys, it is.

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<v Speaker 2>Going so fast, and eternity will start and you will

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<v Speaker 2>enter and all of that will be gone.

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<v Speaker 1>So good. What Ernie's saying is the answer to the

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<v Speaker 1>problem of evil is always found at the foot of

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<v Speaker 1>the cross, the gospel of Jesus Christ, your suffering Savior,

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<v Speaker 1>who suffered innocently for the rebellion of the guilty, that

0:45:43.680 --> 0:45:52.360
<v Speaker 1>we are for our sake. At that point everything is resolved.

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<v Speaker 1>We should leave it with that. Yeah, love you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>See you next Monday. Thanks for joining me on the

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