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Speaker 1: My partner of seven years accused me of cheating. Turns

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Speaker 1: out she has her own dirty, dark secret. I want

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Speaker 2: Am I the a whole?

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Speaker 1: Well, it depends what the secret is. Ooh, is the

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Speaker 1: secret that your loves you?

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Speaker 3: Well, she's always loved you.

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Speaker 1: I mean hopefully that's not a secret. He's like, hey, babe,

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Speaker 1: I love you.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't want to hear it.

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Speaker 1: I can't talk to you. I can't talk to you

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Speaker 1: about this. I have too many secrets that wouldn't be great.

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Speaker 2: All right.

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Speaker 1: I was blindsided and was confused. She gave it a

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Speaker 1: week and asks again to tell the truth about me cheating.

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Speaker 1: I said no again. She then brought up a message

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Speaker 1: from seven years ago. Wow, we're really being thrown into

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Speaker 1: the deep ende. She then brought up a message from

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Speaker 1: seven years ago, a couple of months after we started

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Speaker 1: dating that she found. It was literally like the most

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Speaker 1: generic bot scam dating site message. So she's just going

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Speaker 1: through his phone finding like Hi baby.

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Speaker 3: Then years ago, Hi baby, you down for a sexy

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Speaker 3: time with hot singles in your area.

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Speaker 2: And it's like a pixelated picture of my Russian girl.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, I remember I got one of those

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Speaker 3: and like my ex girlfriend was like, what the fuck

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Speaker 3: is that?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Right, and you're like, dude, guys will know all my

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Speaker 1: boys can relate. To be fair, it had my details

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Speaker 1: on it, but I literally couldn't remember anything. I just

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Speaker 1: said it was seven years ago, I haven't cheated, and

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Speaker 1: it literally looks like some generic scam email.

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Speaker 2: She said okay and left it.

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Speaker 1: This bothered me a bit, and I thought it was

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Speaker 1: really weird that she went through my emails of seven

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Speaker 1: years ago.

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Speaker 2: To find me cheating.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I remember seeing on Reddit that a lot of people

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Speaker 1: accuse others of cheating because of guilt and other things.

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Speaker 1: So I decided that I would go through her phone

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Speaker 1: the next time she leaves it to check. Oh, the

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Speaker 1: start of a healthy relation. Just snoop for a snoop,

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Speaker 1: snoop for a snoop? Is this where we stoop?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Wow, poet, I guess.

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Speaker 1: So she left her phone on its own one morning

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Speaker 1: a few weeks later, and I decided to snoop quickly

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Speaker 1: and yes, lo and behold, she was cheating.

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Speaker 3: Dang, my guy, remember god, I like to see you

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Speaker 3: don't like to see it.

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Speaker 2: We don't like to see it.

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Speaker 1: She had about thirty guys no on a message app

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Speaker 1: who had she she had been talking to.

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Speaker 2: Thirty thirty bro is queen.

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Speaker 4: Oh my lot.

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Speaker 2: At that point, it's just like bulk mail like that.

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Speaker 3: Just zy go, I can even talk to thirty of

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Speaker 3: my friends of the same time.

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Speaker 2: I would need like a like an assistant to help.

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Speaker 3: Me, man chat assistant obviously.

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Speaker 1: Hey, op, so Harry just sent in a pick of

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Speaker 1: his wien or do you want to respond to that

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Speaker 1: now or should we bulk that in for responding later?

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Speaker 3: Batch send all the nudes because.

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Speaker 2: Also she could only reply with like, oh he's.

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Speaker 3: Not around, Yeah, dude, fucking crazy impressive though impressive thirty people,

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Speaker 3: that's that's you know, hey, put some put some respect

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Speaker 3: on that name apparently, and then take it away because

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Speaker 3: of the situation exactly.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, videos of her playing with herself and

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Speaker 1: doing some effing disgusting stuff that they had saved. I

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Speaker 1: and pictures for evidence.

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Speaker 3: Damn, and then furiously masturbate.

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Speaker 1: And then went back to Yeah, spank bank filled not

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Speaker 3: Oh man, oh g my guy.

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Speaker 1: And on special days like hours and others, anniversaries and birthdays.

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Speaker 3: She's sending that on those days too, dude.

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Speaker 1: Loads of guys are saying that they love her and

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Speaker 1: how they love spending time with her. Oh off, bro,

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Speaker 1: she's on the grind stone.

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Speaker 3: Literally, I don't know how you could. I mean, that's

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Speaker 3: that's difficult to do. Thirty. That's quite the rotation.

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Speaker 1: I had been letting juggle. Yeah, she's something. That was

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Speaker 3: I got it, I got it.

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Speaker 1: I had been letting her go out late at night

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Speaker 3: That, Oh my guy's too trusting.

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Speaker 1: But nope, she's adding effing and messaging random guys her

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Speaker 1: I don't have any pictures of her physically cheating, but

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Speaker 2: I am so effing pissed.

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Speaker 3: She's out seven years, seven years, seven years.

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Speaker 1: I wonder if she has others of the relationships are like.

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Speaker 3: Like there's other like like other long term relationships that

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Speaker 1: Because, like we mentioned this in a few episodes ago,

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Speaker 1: there's that go a guy I know a reel and

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Speaker 1: and then they called the other girl who he'd been

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Speaker 1: dating for six years. So he'd been dating the two

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Speaker 3: That's that's like impressive, like like it's terrible. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 3: impressive because like I am the most open book. I

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Speaker 3: don't think, not not by any like not not by

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Speaker 3: just like it's just easier to be open and honest

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Speaker 2: Sam.

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Speaker 1: Sam has to hide it from every group of one

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Speaker 2: Thousands of people.

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Speaker 3: And also like it would just come out on the podcast. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: oh my god, I could never see. I can't even

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Speaker 2: Otherwise they become the Australian girl.

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Speaker 3: It's what I'm saying. They just become my girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: Yes, you know what I'm saying that too. What Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'll be back to sad Zam.

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Speaker 3: I mess her dun.

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Speaker 2: Due.

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Speaker 1: Well, Sam, I have a story that might be just

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Speaker 1: a little bit a little bit sadder.

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Speaker 2: I am so effing pissed.

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Speaker 1: She's out right now, oh man, But I don't know

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Speaker 1: what to do. I was literally considering marriage just so

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Speaker 1: I have a fair claim to our stuff, seeing as

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Speaker 1: she works full time. I am so mad, like she

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Speaker 1: literally had been crying at me being out of shape

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Speaker 2: She's depressed, et cetera.

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Speaker 1: So I encourage her to go out and make friends

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Speaker 2: Damn, Oh buddy.

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Speaker 3: Buddy, really uh you really drove here in the stranger.

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Speaker 2: Wow, you look so strong. Your six pack is listening.

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Speaker 2: Cann't wipe it up for you.

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Speaker 1: With my tongue. Oh boy, I'm just so upset. I

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Speaker 1: don't even know what to do. We have such young kids.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, kids.

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Speaker 1: Oh that makes it five billion times worse fuck or

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Speaker 1: thirty times worse, thanks, Riley, and I love them so much,

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Speaker 1: but I can't leave them.

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Speaker 2: I'm already depressed.

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Speaker 3: Yours?

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Speaker 2: How many thirty young day yours?

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Speaker 1: I'm already depressed and finding this out is just crushing.

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Speaker 1: She would literally say to me how she hates cheaters

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Speaker 1: and doesn't know why they don't leave if they're unhappy.

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Speaker 1: Great question. I'm just so angry and sad that I

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Speaker 1: just keep flipping moods. I don't want to tell people

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Speaker 1: or if we can work this out.

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Speaker 3: Oh man, I know.

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Speaker 2: If you can just went out my guy.

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Speaker 3: A little beyond that, I think we've we've crossed.

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Speaker 2: A couple of lines. Can we come from? Can we

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Speaker 2: bring it from?

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Speaker 3: Thirty? Yeah? Thirty lines across here?

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Speaker 1: My goodness, And those are just the ones in that

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Speaker 1: one app dude be centralized, bro dude.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's the pint.

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Speaker 3: She's gotten a couple of people and Tinder, a couple

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Speaker 3: in Oh my gosh, one freaking Thrupple sites, Christian Mingle.

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Speaker 2: There he is, he's dying.

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Speaker 1: Fine, she's got hoes in different codes. If I tell

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Speaker 1: my family, they'll never look at her the same. But

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Speaker 2: Up right now.

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Speaker 1: Anyone got any advice? And there's there's two very quick edits.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for the kind words so far. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: my final edit turns out she was physically cheating as well,

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Speaker 1: three times with the same guy.

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Speaker 3: The thirty other ones.

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Speaker 1: You know, there might be more there, but you know,

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Speaker 1: the multitudes more.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know if man wants to keep digging. Okay,

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Speaker 3: so my man is divorce, the force obvious one divorce.

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Speaker 3: You got the receipts, you got the proof divorce. What

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Speaker 3: if she's willing to bring it down to just ten? Okay,

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Speaker 3: from thirty to ten. I mean that's a big conference compromise,

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Speaker 3: I mean a lot. Reducing her cheating by three x.

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Speaker 3: I mean that is pretty much nothing to I mean,

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Speaker 3: I think I think op should should be willing to compromise.

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Speaker 3: I think you should meet in the middle. You know,

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Speaker 1: Oh so he cheats on fifteen people and then she

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Speaker 1: continues cheating on fifteen people.

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Speaker 3: No she yes, yeah, yeah, yeah. So they both meet

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Speaker 1: And then they all thirty two of them start dating.

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Speaker 3: Each other, and then you got a commune.

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Speaker 2: And then we have a commune.

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Speaker 3: Baby. I think that's it. I think we just saw

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Speaker 2: We are so good a relations welcome. Oh my god. Wow.

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Speaker 3: I do like the idea of using dating apps to

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Speaker 3: uh like if they were all like creating a commune together,

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Speaker 3: group of friends and then and then then you're all friends.

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Speaker 2: I can see the video. Now.

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Speaker 1: You know, dating apps have taken over the world, but

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Speaker 1: I use it for a different, very differ person.

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Speaker 2: Click click click click.

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Speaker 3: I'm building a commune. Hey, everybody, dating app commune?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it would work dating app friends or

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I like it.

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Speaker 3: I like it. I like it. I like it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, op, divorce.

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Speaker 1: Divorce, dice the solution. But Sam, I don't want to

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Speaker 3: Yes? We do. My bff invited my arch and nemesis

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Speaker 1: Am I the asshole you know in my arch Nemesis

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Speaker 3: Want a death on your hands at your wedding, you know,

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Speaker 3: three weddings and a funeral, one wedding and a funeral?

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Speaker 3: Could the funeral? Do you know that's a movie? Nope,

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Speaker 3: four weddings in a funeral or three weddings in a funeral?

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Speaker 3: I forget what it's with Hugh Grant. I definitely forgot that.

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Speaker 3: Some people have said when I had long hair, I

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Speaker 1: Are we uh? Are we gonna twin? Is that what's happening?

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Speaker 1: You do not look like you Grant?

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, I was saying, are you gonna throw

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Speaker 3: I should? I should, but it's not it's not as

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Speaker 1: Ok yeah, like long tussle top. Yeah. I like your

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Speaker 3: You know, thanks, thanks for saying I look ugly now

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Speaker 3: I liked I liked you.

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Speaker 2: But what I this is my favorite hair? Sam? I

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Speaker 2: like this a lot? Wow?

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Speaker 3: Thank you? Okay, this is this is well? I see

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Speaker 3: all right, he's obviously better looking than me, but this

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, I don't even know if I would say

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Speaker 3: Don't. You don't, don't, you don't. You don't gotta say that.

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Speaker 3: He's even let me see, he's even even old. He's

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Speaker 3: aged nicely anyway, anyway, Uh, my twenty one female best

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Speaker 3: in terms of the wedding duties.

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Speaker 2: In terms of riley asking them for their number.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it's yeah, no, but wait, is there something

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 1: He went to a wedding recently, and I'm like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: And now I'm just working.

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Speaker 3: Did you hit up the bridesmaids?

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Speaker 4: Most of them were had boyfriends, and but their friends

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Speaker 4: I got to the bride herself was like, hey, you

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Speaker 4: see that girl in the green dress, she's really interested

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Speaker 3: That's a good line. And and I got a number super.

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Speaker 2: Quick while we were in BALI.

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Speaker 1: This is for all you podcast people out there, because

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Speaker 1: Sam had assigned Riley to get two numbers and.

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Speaker 2: Oh man, well he's.

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Speaker 3: Got and he was doing well for he was doing

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Speaker 3: a period of time checking in, you know, yeah, the

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Speaker 2: I will let you.

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Speaker 3: Know anywhere I go. That's new.

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Speaker 2: I'm definitely getting two just for you.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all right there Bil, All right. We'd always been

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Speaker 3: inseparable throughout high school, so I excitedly accepted. As they

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Speaker 3: the proposal before he did. We will call her B.

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Speaker 3: So B had a total of four bridesmaids, including me.

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Speaker 3: She created a group chat named Last name wedding, which

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Speaker 3: we were all in. A few months after the proposal,

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Speaker 1: Two bridesmaids you could barely call them bridesmaids.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's almost Yeah. You're your freaking

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Speaker 2: That'd be a fun show to you.

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Speaker 3: You are voted off the weddings. We all went out,

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Speaker 3: We all went shopping for addresses. It made it difficult

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Speaker 3: had always disliked Ali. We'll call her Ali, yeah, we will,

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Speaker 3: B knew how badly that situation had hurt me, and

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Speaker 3: casually asked, so, who all is going, and which Be

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Speaker 3: Be looked at her feet, looking guilty, and said, well,

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Speaker 3: she's my friend and my heart, instantly singing. As we

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Speaker 2: There's a list, There's there's multiple people.

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Speaker 3: There's multiple people. Oh my god, she had a similar

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Speaker 3: there's no wonder the two bridesmaids dropped out like there's

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Speaker 3: I texted back, I thought we agreed not to invite

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Speaker 3: she caught cheating with Bee's boyfriend, and she said I

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Speaker 3: Be about this, she said, well, we had no other choice. Also,

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Speaker 3: I don't know, maybe, yeah, that's it.

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Speaker 2: Damn, this is one toxic bro. They had a whole

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Speaker 3: Yeah, of girls that their boyfriends had cheated with. OK,

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Speaker 3: to not invite?

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Speaker 2: Can we just like yeah, this is this does not

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Speaker 3: Toxic friend group? Dude? What do we do a toxic

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Speaker 3: and then and then like that friend invites. Well, I guess,

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Speaker 3: like if question question to you, if one of your

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Speaker 2: Cheating cheating wise?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean that's that's a pretty pretty bad look.

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Speaker 3: It's also I guess it's how long the friendship is too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the the closeness of the relationship, like your closest friend,

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Speaker 1: you would probably give them way more of a chance. Right,

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Speaker 2: The first of many red flags?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I think I think it really depends on the friendship. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: five years, five years, I'd probably sit down with them.

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Speaker 2: And like try to give them a chance.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, five years, three years, probably still two years, probably

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Speaker 3: still one year, Yeah, cut off, Yeah, we'll probably cut off,

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Speaker 3: probably cut off the Mark, Yeah, I don't know what

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Speaker 3: would you do in this situation? Put your comments down below.

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Speaker 3: That's right, but let's also get to this next story.

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Speaker 2: Let's do it.