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Speaker 1: Corner up a fresh show. It's K's court, all right.

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Speaker 1: The honorable is here, Your honor take it away.

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Speaker 2: All right, let's get into the courtroom. This one says,

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Speaker 2: hey ki KEI. My name is Ashley. I've been dating

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Speaker 2: my boyfriend Kevin for five years now. He has two

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Speaker 2: little sons from a previous relationship that I love in

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Speaker 2: street like my own, but of course I've always wanted

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Speaker 2: a wedding in kids of my own. At our second

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Speaker 2: year of dating, he made a promise to me that

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Speaker 2: by year four we'd be married and expecting a baby.

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Speaker 3: But year four is long and gone.

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Speaker 2: So a few months ago, I made the decision to

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Speaker 2: stop my birth control, and I'm now pregnant with our

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Speaker 2: first child. When I told him the news, he said,

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Speaker 2: I thought you went birth control. So that obviously crushed me,

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Speaker 2: but he accepted it and we worked through it. Fast

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Speaker 2: forward to our baby shower last weekend, where his mom

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Speaker 2: made a toast in front of all of our family

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Speaker 2: and guests and said, congratulations on trapping my son, and

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Speaker 2: then they had laughed. I was crushed. I can't believe

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Speaker 2: that he told his mother that I trapped him. I

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Speaker 2: am the one that's trapped in a five year relationship

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Speaker 2: with no commitment from her son. I cried in the

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Speaker 2: car about it and asked him to confront his mom

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Speaker 2: about her comment, but he still hasn't. So now I'm

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Speaker 2: avoiding all contact with his mother and I don't plan

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Speaker 3: Am I wrong? Ashley girl?

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Speaker 2: Judge, congratulations on the baby, But honey, I don't think

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Speaker 2: you need to be mad at his mother.

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Speaker 3: I think you should be mad with your man. I

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Speaker 3: feel like your anger is a.

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Speaker 2: Little bit displaced because you know he told her that

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Speaker 2: comment obviously, but that's truly how he feels. And another

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Speaker 2: thing is I am all for my body, my choice,

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Speaker 2: you know, as a woman. However, I don't think it's

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Speaker 2: right to stop your birth control without talking it over

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Speaker 2: with your.

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Speaker 1: Partner yet that I'm sorry. But if that's the agreed

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Speaker 1: upon method for preventing pregnancy and you just stop right,

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Speaker 1: then you I'm not going to use the word trap,

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Speaker 1: but you know what you're doing because you're not telling

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Speaker 1: the other person to use any preventative method, so you

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Speaker 1: know that the possibility of you getting pregnant it has

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Speaker 1: now is exponentially higher that's something that and you could argue, well,

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Speaker 1: you know, I mean a guy could take this method

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Speaker 1: if you have an adult conversation and you sit down

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Speaker 1: and you say, hey, this is what we're gonna do,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna use this method of that method, and you

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Speaker 1: guys agree on that together, then one person cannot just

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Speaker 1: change it up right and not have that conversation. So

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Speaker 1: that again, I'm not gonna use the word trapped.

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Speaker 3: Well, but.

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Speaker 1: What else are you going to call a situation where

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Speaker 1: you stop doing something to prevent pregnancy and don't tell

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Speaker 1: the other person, who then doesn't stop doing anything either.

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Speaker 2: Right, And you can play devil advocate and say, you know,

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Speaker 2: he did promise her at year four they would be

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Speaker 2: married and expecting. It's now year five, he's made no

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Speaker 2: moves on the engagement and so had that conversation too. Well,

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Speaker 2: that's true, but she clearly took matters into her own hands,

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Speaker 2: and now they have a baby on the way, and

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Speaker 2: so actually, yeah, I don't think it's his mom's issue, honey.

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Speaker 3: I think you are wrong.

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Speaker 2: Sadly, and I know you're pregnant, so don't get emotional

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, sorry, sorry.

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Speaker 1: Well, and you can't just go get pregnant because the

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Speaker 1: more you build more of a foundation with, hasn't proposed

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Speaker 1: to you. People try this thing. It's like, well, and

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying everyone does it on purpose, but it's like, uh, well,

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Speaker 1: now we have this kid together, so that you know,

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Speaker 1: now we're like god to right. Yeah, now, well we

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Speaker 1: we've taken one additional step to sort of I don't

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Speaker 1: know what the word is, I'm looking for, create a human. Well, well,

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Speaker 1: I just solidify this relationship, yeah, like in perpetuity for

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Speaker 1: But you guys are the jury eight five five five

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go with the dude needs to he probably

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Speaker 2: You have to share that with your partner. And she

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Speaker 2: mentioned in this in this letter that you know, she

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Speaker 2: feels like she's trapped in a relationship with no commitment. Honey,

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Speaker 2: you're not trapped. You can leave whenever you want. I know,

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Speaker 2: you may be attached to his other sons, you know,

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Speaker 3: Honey, you can leave.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she ain't got the relationship with the family no more.

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Speaker 1: Oh man, Yeah, everybody's thinking it.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, everybody knows.

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Speaker 1: That's what everybody And it's hard not to. It's hard

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Speaker 1: not to because again, if you guys, if you're having

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Speaker 1: then everyone needs to know. Otherwise, why does only one

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and this is how you end up with men

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Speaker 3: And you know, he never wanted to.

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Speaker 2: Maybe he never wanted more kids with you, or he

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Speaker 2: never wanted wanted more keys.

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Speaker 1: He didn't hear the promise he did say, we won't

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Speaker 3: Bruh, it's like a pinky promise.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not again, I don't mean to. This

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Speaker 1: isn't all her fault by any means, but like, I

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Speaker 1: never understand why when things aren't going someone's way, it's like, well,

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Speaker 1: let's just throw a kid into this, fix it, right,

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Speaker 1: Like more stress, more responsibility, you know, in this particular case,

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Speaker 1: he could take the position that he was deceived. Again

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Speaker 1: when you know, when we're all being adults and we're

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Speaker 1: and now the risk is much higher and nobody told

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Speaker 4: By the way, I just wanted to say that technically speaking,

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Speaker 4: promised her that they're going to have a you know, kids,

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Speaker 4: and mayor being married by the fourth year. However, as

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Speaker 4: just not ready, you know. Like I've said things in

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm really not trying to put this all on

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Speaker 1: But like, I don't know, it's hard to look at

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Speaker 1: this and say her response to this was to get

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Speaker 1: just for no other reason, but I'm just going to

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Speaker 1: not tell anybody you're trying to get pregnant, right, absolutely,

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Speaker 1: So maybe that kind of decision making is how we

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Speaker 1: I'm just creating. I'm just presenting an alternative perspective here,

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Speaker 1: which is that isn't the best decision to make, no,

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Speaker 1: And so if you're making decisions like that all the time,

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Speaker 1: you know, it's a little bit deceptive. Oh yeah, it's

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Speaker 2: As a woman, we have a clock that you all

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Speaker 2: don't have, you know, And she wanted kids. She wants

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Speaker 1: But sis, which is so wrong. I know you can't.

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Speaker 1: You can't do that, like you but.

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Speaker 3: We're on a clock, damn it, y'all need to help us.

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Speaker 1: There's just there are so many layers. It's just so

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Speaker 1: many layers of deception, it is. But then she got

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Speaker 1: to do with all those consequences she started it. You

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Speaker 3: It's the truth. It's the truth.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, that's what they're all saying behind that

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Speaker 1: I've heard of this sound the name before, to where

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Speaker 1: it's like, we're not gonna have kids, We're not gonna

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Speaker 1: have kids. When I gonna have kids. We decided this together,

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Speaker 1: We had the conversation. Not one person decided. We decided.

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Speaker 1: And then it comes up again and it's like, but

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Speaker 1: a I know it's not a problem solver, it's not.

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Speaker 1: No Adriana, Hi, good morning, good morning. Hey what do

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Speaker 5: Well, two things, as women, we know what we do

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Speaker 3: So she knew the concept, Like she knew what she

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Speaker 5: And second of all, who knows if he, like I know,

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Speaker 5: he said four years that they'd be married and have kids.

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Speaker 1: Well, how does she.

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Speaker 5: Know, like there's no financial problems or something like that

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Speaker 4: Hasn't done that yet, right, Yeah, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: Look at both.

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Speaker 3: Like she knew darn well what she was doing.

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Speaker 4: She let's call it what it is.

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Speaker 2: She kind of does track them because you know, you

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Speaker 2: rid of your first control.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, Adriana, thank you, have a good day, you too.

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Speaker 1: At someone texted seven O waight, she's holding him to

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Speaker 1: a year and bring the baby on him, she's wrong. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean you know, I don't. I don't think you

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Speaker 1: we got to think about the child's life here. What

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Speaker 1: if he's like, yo, I feel trapped. You didn't communicate

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Speaker 1: with this is here and I don't want anything to

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Speaker 1: do with you anymore. Well, now you're bringing a kid

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Speaker 1: into that. And again I'm not putting it all on her,

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Speaker 1: but it is one of those disproportionate things in relationships

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Speaker 1: Like I can I can use protection. There's a lot

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Speaker 1: I can do all that, but like, there isn't a

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Speaker 3: I never I've never followed through on any of it.

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Speaker 1: Through Hey La, hi guy, Hi, good morning. What do

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Speaker 5: she had to take things like this is. Honestly, I

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Speaker 6: You know, I just feel like this was a whole wrong.

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Speaker 1: Situation like this is now where she had to take

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Speaker 1: I'll never understand when people throw a child into an

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Speaker 3: The key right right.

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Speaker 1: The kid has nothing to say about it. Thank you, Lava.

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Speaker 1: Have a good day, Tito. What's up, Tito? How you doing?

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Speaker 1: Hey man? How do I even recap this? Kiky scort?

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Speaker 1: So this woman uh waiting for Yeah, was waiting for

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Speaker 6: I just think that he's just trying to keep her around.

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Speaker 1: Right, so have a baby. Yeah right, let's throw a

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Speaker 6: I'm good?

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Speaker 3: How are you?

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Speaker 1: Hey, Nicole? Good morning, Welcome to the Friend Show. What

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Speaker 2: I wanted to say, what if the roles were reversed

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Speaker 6: That's not fair.

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Speaker 2: One person doesn't get to choose family planning, no matter

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Speaker 2: Sorry, because I feel like sometimes maybe as a I'm

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Speaker 1: You can't. You cannot. Again you want to raise the

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Speaker 1: And then again, if a dude, and thank you, Nicole,

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Speaker 3: I'm just trying to show a little compass.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it is wild.

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Speaker 1: The dude is just ignorant and he's like there's no

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Speaker 1: If it's a health thing, like I don't know, I

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Speaker 1: Heads up, you know, don't be out of here shooting

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Speaker 1: up the club, right, don't you doing your thing? Because

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Speaker 1: I don't, I don't like it. I don't like it.

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