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Speaker 1: The Nicky Glazer Podcast. Here's Nikki. Hello here, I am

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Speaker 1: welcome to the show. It's a Nicki Glezer podcast. It's

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Speaker 1: Wednesday edition. Um in not in the studio with me remotely,

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Speaker 1: but it feels like they're here. Um. We've got Anya

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Speaker 1: in New York. How about uh? And we got Noah

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Speaker 1: in Arizona, which is also a city. Thank you, Brian. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: did you look at into it? I did. It's like

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Speaker 1: like on the side of a highway or something. Oh,

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Speaker 1: one of the like the ones that just has like

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Speaker 1: a restop or something. Yeah, yeah, exactly, like a population

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Speaker 1: of five. Right. And then Brian Frangie is visiting us

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Speaker 1: again from Los Angeles. Welcome back to the show, Brian.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever heard Yeah, I'm obsessed with them. Okay,

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Speaker 1: wait I don't have them, but I want them so bad.

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Speaker 1: Wait shoes, Wait, there's shoes right? No, no, no. Zizix

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Speaker 1: is a a roadside town. If you're driving everywhere, lay wa, Zizix.

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Speaker 1: It's a it's if you're driving from La to I

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Speaker 1: think Las Vegas. I think it's in between LA and

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Speaker 1: Las Vegas. You'll see I hate green sign for a

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Speaker 1: town called Zizzix. It's in the middle of nowhere, and

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Speaker 1: it's spelled I might get this wrong, but it spelled

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Speaker 1: zy x x y x x or something. Yes, I

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Speaker 1: remember that does One time I sat on my keyboard

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Speaker 1: and that's how they got that town. Okay, okay, Zizzix. Well,

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Speaker 1: how do they name that town? That's what I thought

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Speaker 1: when I was Okay, did you as you were driving?

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Speaker 1: I googled it? Well, no, I asked. I asked my

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Speaker 1: fiance or wife or whatever to google it, and uh,

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Speaker 1: we discovered that that the person who names Zizzix had

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Speaker 1: a vendetta against the government and decided to name the

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Speaker 1: town Zizix just to mess with the people who have

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Speaker 1: to write that into the register. Oh man, good job, dude.

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Speaker 1: That would be That would be a fun break in

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Speaker 1: my day if I was just writing down towns all

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Speaker 1: day and then I'm like, what is this one? And

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Speaker 1: that would actually wake me up. I think that's a

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Speaker 1: good thing to do. Z why x x yeah why

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Speaker 1: Springs and the guy invented this like retreats where you

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Speaker 1: could go there and like, you know, discover yourself and

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Speaker 1: become healthy. And then it's turned out to be like

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Speaker 1: a scam, and so then the government came after him

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Speaker 1: and then eventually to get a vendetta against them that

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Speaker 1: he named it zizix Oh man, he showed them that's

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Speaker 1: a creative angry man an ya. That sounds like a

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Speaker 1: documentary you would want to watch about soda springs and

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Speaker 1: whatever cult self help. Yeah, I haven't seen Wild Wild Country,

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Speaker 1: but I hear that's you would love it. It's so

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Speaker 1: well done. That's the next document that everyone was in

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Speaker 1: two years ago that I need to get into and

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Speaker 1: I'll be obsessed with it for a week and no

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Speaker 1: one will want to talk to me about it because

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Speaker 1: they're like, yeah, well we all talked about this already.

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Speaker 1: So when used to have have a stand up joke like

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Speaker 1: everyone's already seen and you're like, he can't stop talking

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Speaker 1: about Like I'll get that way with like a few

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Speaker 1: good men, I'm like, have you guys seen this kind

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Speaker 1: of like you with Succession? It's cool. I like it

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Speaker 1: because you're making me rewatch it. Like I'll get back

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Speaker 1: into wild wild country. Oh my god, I've I've talked

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Speaker 1: to so many people about Succession that I've actually yesterday

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Speaker 1: I saw my boyfriend's brother, Tim Convey, Brian Frandi's former roommate,

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Speaker 1: and I asked him. I was like, have you are

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Speaker 1: and I like, so I'm already like making the rounds

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Speaker 1: through everyone. Um yeah, it's starting a new season as

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Speaker 1: this Sunday. It's very exciting. Um so. But the funny

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Speaker 1: thing about you asked me about Zizzix is that I

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Speaker 1: literally have an app or like a note on my

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Speaker 1: is the shoes. I think I broke in Zizzis. I

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Speaker 1: think I may have erased it, But for a while

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Speaker 1: I had written on here Zizzix because I'm obsessed with

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Speaker 1: seen these no they're so cute. Zizzix. I think it's zi. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because tying your shoes is annoying and and a lot

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Speaker 1: of times I'll jam my foot into a shoe and

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Speaker 1: too lazy even bend over and pull that tongue out.

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Speaker 1: So kiszics are really my speed. Um. A couple of

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Speaker 1: other things I've written down because I have this note

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Speaker 1: up is that um pump And I want to just

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Speaker 1: talk about what pump is because it's a word that

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Speaker 1: everyone needs to know. So you've a dog, Brian, right,

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Speaker 1: I yesterday Michael Roko by the way, I was like,

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Speaker 1: here's why I want to like linen's. When like a

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Speaker 1: won't be that inhabitable. Did you guys know that Mars

425
00:21:56,880 --> 00:22:00,840
Speaker 1: is like millions of miles away? The other day I

426
00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:03,480
Speaker 1: saw a picture of Earth from Mars and it said

427
00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:05,480
Speaker 1: it was like, no, will you look up how far

428
00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:08,880
Speaker 1: Mars is? Because we've landed on Mars with a rover. Correct,

429
00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:12,919
Speaker 1: how the fuck did anything travel millions of miles? One

430
00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:15,120
Speaker 1: hundred million miles or something? It's like one hundred twenty

431
00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:18,800
Speaker 1: six million miles, maybe a one hundred and twenty seven

432
00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:21,840
Speaker 1: point two three million miles? How did I mean? That's

433
00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:25,720
Speaker 1: pretty impressive? How Nikki that is? So I was off

434
00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:29,520
Speaker 1: by a million point two? How many? That is? So

435
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 1: long to travel? Did we send that thing off in

436
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:35,760
Speaker 1: eighteen twenty two and then it finally landed like this year?

437
00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:38,200
Speaker 1: How did we get a rope that blew my mind?

438
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:42,119
Speaker 1: I would have guessed thousands of miles? One hundreds of

439
00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 1: millions of miles? Does that blow your Maris's mind at all?

440
00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:48,680
Speaker 1: It's too large of a number to comprehend, right, which

441
00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:52,440
Speaker 1: is very long? Yeah? So you know that a million

442
00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:57,480
Speaker 1: seconds a million seconds is something like twelve days, and

443
00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:01,119
Speaker 1: a billion seconds is thirty seven years. You know that difference,

444
00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:05,120
Speaker 1: isn't there? Envy for women who like Linen's is equal

445
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:08,399
Speaker 1: to my envy for you remembering these numbers. Well, I'm

446
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:11,080
Speaker 1: probably off by that, but I know I committed that

447
00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:13,040
Speaker 1: one to memory like you would lyrics to a song

448
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:14,680
Speaker 1: that you wanted to sing. I'm not kidding you, because

449
00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:17,120
Speaker 1: that was one where I go, I never remember this one.

450
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,199
Speaker 1: It's so interesting, So I worked hard to remember that,

451
00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 1: and I don't know that I did. That is so cool.

452
00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:29,359
Speaker 1: What is nine times seven? Oh? God, that one's I

453
00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 1: think it's I think it's um. If I'm gonna go

454
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:33,399
Speaker 1: off the dome, I'm gonna say it's sixty three, but

455
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:36,199
Speaker 1: I always think it's fifty six. Okay, tell me the

456
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:38,159
Speaker 1: thing I want to know again? It was all fucked up?

457
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:42,719
Speaker 1: What um you would memorize it? Okay? Yeah? A million

458
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:45,840
Speaker 1: seconds is twelve days. I think it's something like that.

459
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:51,119
Speaker 1: It's eleven days, eleven days, Okay. Ready, A million seconds

460
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:57,400
Speaker 1: is eleven days, right. A billion seconds is thirty seven years.

461
00:23:57,960 --> 00:24:02,320
Speaker 1: I believe what could be thirty two? Those two numbers

462
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:04,760
Speaker 1: are swirling in my head. So that's the difference when

463
00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:06,960
Speaker 1: someone says they have a billion dollars, just it's not

464
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 1: even close to a million. That's a difference between an

465
00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:13,160
Speaker 1: eleven year, eleven day old baby and a thirty seven

466
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,479
Speaker 1: year old man. That is the difference. So it's like,

467
00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:18,480
Speaker 1: there's no don't even think that you ever make a

468
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 1: billion dollars. Sorry, one million seconds is eleven days, okay,

469
00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:28,879
Speaker 1: A billion seconds is thirty seven years, thirty two years

470
00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:33,160
Speaker 1: or thirty that is. That's a fascinating little factoid, right.

471
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:35,960
Speaker 1: It does put it in comparison. You know how you

472
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:38,639
Speaker 1: have that or you've seen that calendar with the how

473
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:42,240
Speaker 1: many weeks you have that calendar? Get it. Don't even

474
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:45,560
Speaker 1: bring it up. That fucking thing bugs the shit out

475
00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:48,119
Speaker 1: of me. If you two guys nobody's talking about it,

476
00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:50,439
Speaker 1: tells me how much of life? No it is, Oh,

477
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:54,800
Speaker 1: it is eight it is. Ah, it's a poster of dots, right, Brian,

478
00:24:56,119 --> 00:25:00,040
Speaker 1: you've showed us to me. Yeah, it's see this. This

479
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 1: is on my list of things that I like, climate change, disaster,

480
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 1: burn victims, and how many weeks you have to live.

481
00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 1: It is a plot, a graph almost of like dots

482
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:14,280
Speaker 1: just across, you know, and then it's probably like twelve

483
00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:19,159
Speaker 1: across and then fifty down and then it's all filled

484
00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 1: in so it's like a dot forever. Oh no, it's

485
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 1: fifty two across fifty down right, So it's almost like

486
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:28,440
Speaker 1: a square fifty two meeting each week of a year,

487
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:30,920
Speaker 1: fifty meeting, Like you're probably fifty years to live if

488
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 1: you're like or whatever. It is. No, no, no, sorry,

489
00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:36,600
Speaker 1: let's say we all live to be eighty. So it's

490
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 1: eighty on one axis, fifty two on the other right,

491
00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:42,080
Speaker 1: So that shows a dot for every week of your life,

492
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 1: and then it says like, if you're thirty something, this

493
00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 1: is how many dots you are, this is on the dot,

494
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 1: and you can go week by week and you just

495
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 1: see how many dots you have left and it ain't

496
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 1: a lot, and it's like, I can't believe those are weeks.

497
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:58,719
Speaker 1: Those aren't years. Those are fucking weeks. And it is

498
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:01,720
Speaker 1: depressing because you look at the scope of your life

499
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: and you're like, it comes down to these dots and

500
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:06,199
Speaker 1: I'm so many dots in That reminds me. I was

501
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:10,520
Speaker 1: watching Bobby Kelly on some interview and he was saying,

502
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 1: how like something that really put life in perspective for

503
00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:15,639
Speaker 1: him was he thought how many summers he had left,

504
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 1: and like the number was dwindling. It's like, I only

505
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 1: have many more summers left. Yeah, no, it's sad. Yeah,

506
00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:25,160
Speaker 1: I have one of those posters, except it's one dot

507
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 1: is a billion seconds, so it's only two dots and

508
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 1: the first dots built in one dot left. Oh my god,

509
00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:35,920
Speaker 1: you only have a billion seconds of life sixty four

510
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:38,919
Speaker 1: years later. Oh that's weird to think that you have

511
00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:42,640
Speaker 1: like a billion seconds left to live now and now

512
00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:45,280
Speaker 1: it's less than a billion because we've just started into it.

513
00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Yeah, it's um and you don't even

514
00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:51,159
Speaker 1: you're not even guaranteed that you know, No, that's just

515
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:54,080
Speaker 1: everything could happen. That's why I hate stuff like that.

516
00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:57,280
Speaker 1: That's why I hate whenever someone posts on like when

517
00:26:57,359 --> 00:27:01,200
Speaker 1: some tragedy happens, and then someone always guaranteed when there's

518
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:03,719
Speaker 1: something horrifically tragic that and someone will always comment like

519
00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:06,400
Speaker 1: that just goes to show you that life is precious

520
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 1: and every day county and never know how much time

521
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:10,400
Speaker 1: you have left. And it's like that's not a good

522
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 1: way to think. Like if you go through life thinking

523
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:15,159
Speaker 1: like this might be my last moment on earth, I

524
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 1: have to make the most of it, you'll go into

525
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 1: a squirrels always you're like making phone calls to people

526
00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:24,240
Speaker 1: you don't really want to make. You're like, I'll call

527
00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 1: my mom. Fine, yeah, but I know. I think it

528
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:30,760
Speaker 1: is a good reminder to be like, what would I

529
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:32,800
Speaker 1: do today if this was I mean, I don't think

530
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:34,359
Speaker 1: we really need to run through that because people are

531
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 1: like if this was the last of your life, it

532
00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:38,000
Speaker 1: would you do? I'd be like cry the whole day,

533
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 1: like just be so sad. So yeah, I mean, but

534
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 1: it does. I gotta believe there's something else, because this,

535
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,439
Speaker 1: this can't be it. You can't just say goodbye forever

536
00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:51,880
Speaker 1: to think it's just too it's too much. I can't

537
00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 1: handle it. I can't. I can't. I got from mushrooms.

538
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:57,679
Speaker 1: The one time I did mushrooms in my life and

539
00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:02,320
Speaker 1: tripped balls, I left my body. I went up into

540
00:28:02,320 --> 00:28:06,679
Speaker 1: the stratosphere or what's past the atmosphere? You guys who

541
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:13,960
Speaker 1: have traveled a billion side. Yeah, but I just knew, Oh,

542
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 1: I will exist after I die, because whatever I am

543
00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:20,800
Speaker 1: now is not in the body of Anya. It is

544
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 1: some it's like consciousness, but it's me with you. Do

545
00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 1: you really believe that? Yeah, I really believe that. Like,

546
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:30,000
Speaker 1: so you recommend tripping mushrooms because this is what people

547
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 1: always say after they do mushrooms, is like they are

548
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 1: okay with They're a little bit more okay with death. Yeah,

549
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 1: I know, who never needs to do mushrooms again. Like,

550
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:42,520
Speaker 1: it was a terrifying night. I didn't have a great time,

551
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:46,080
Speaker 1: but the gift of that experience is invaluable, and I'm

552
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 1: so glad I did it because I do not believe

553
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:50,880
Speaker 1: that when you die you're just done and like your

554
00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 1: life gets snuffed out. And this is just like every

555
00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 1: other person who talks about this experience. You can't make

556
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,440
Speaker 1: me understand what you know now. There's nothing you can

557
00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 1: say that will adequately make me get it without having

558
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 1: that experience, Like talking to people who've done ayahuasca, mushrooms, LSD.

559
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:11,520
Speaker 1: You just it's just doesn't there's no way to communicate it.

560
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: It sucks. Have you done that stuff? Brian No, No,

561
00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:18,440
Speaker 1: I have not, And I do envy that feeling very

562
00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 1: much so. And it's the same way I view about

563
00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:23,600
Speaker 1: really religious people, where it's like I envy you because

564
00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 1: you have this whole layer of anxiety that's been lifted

565
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 1: because you have faith that there's something else after and

566
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 1: that there's all a purpose and a plan. And I'm

567
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:36,520
Speaker 1: living in this universe that it's just random chaos, and

568
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 1: I feel like when it's over, it's over, and it's

569
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 1: that's a horrible place to be. You gotta watch Tyler

570
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:46,880
Speaker 1: Henry on Netflix, this kid who talks to ghosts that

571
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 1: made me believe that there's something else right right, I'm

572
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:52,160
Speaker 1: not kidding. Can take his word for it like you

573
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: can take my word for it. About mushrooms. Can't you

574
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:58,560
Speaker 1: watch Tyler Henry and that convinced you. And if I'm

575
00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 1: telling I want to feel it though, I want to

576
00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:02,960
Speaker 1: have it in my bones, and I already do kind of,

577
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 1: I just want to. There's other things you get from

578
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:08,760
Speaker 1: mushrooms too, that are like you get more okay with eight,

579
00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 1: You just get it more okay with everything, Like there's

580
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: they're just so healing, but there is that aspect of

581
00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 1: where you could have a really bad trip and it's terrifying.

582
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 1: Like Neil Brennan after he did DMT, the like drug

583
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 1: that you know comes out of your brain when you die,

584
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 1: and you could you know he did that, and he

585
00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:27,960
Speaker 1: said that you couldn't pay him a billion dollars, That's

586
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 1: what he said. And he's someone that's motivated my money

587
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:31,480
Speaker 1: for sure. He was like, I wouldn't do it again

588
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 1: for a billion dollars. It was the most horrifying. He

589
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:38,080
Speaker 1: was like, horrifying. Isn't even a fucking fraction of the

590
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 1: of what I felt. But I will never suffer with

591
00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 1: depression again because I did it. He was like, I'm

592
00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 1: cured because I did this, But what I recommended, God

593
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 1: fucking no. It was the worst thing of my life.

594
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 1: It was. It was I wouldn't recommend to anyone, but

595
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 1: I'm healed now. I'll never suffer with depression again. He said.

596
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 1: Then there's this hat that he's worn his whole life,

597
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 1: and the hat came off. He couldn't describe what happened.

598
00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:01,479
Speaker 1: He couldn't describe. There was noe. He just said that.

599
00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 1: I remember him saying that terrifying. It was a fraction

600
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 1: of the feeling he felt. It was. It was like

601
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,480
Speaker 1: nothing he could describe. He couldn't describe it, much like

602
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:13,200
Speaker 1: what you're saying, like I can't grasp really what happened

603
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:15,920
Speaker 1: to you. But he said that he would not recommend it,

604
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:18,240
Speaker 1: and that he wouldn't do it again for a billion dollars.

605
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 1: I mean, I know people who've taken DMT and it

606
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:25,320
Speaker 1: changed them. Yes, Like he became totally a different person

607
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:27,880
Speaker 1: after that, And it was it was I don't not

608
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 1: necessarily for the better, but like a I don't know,

609
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:32,640
Speaker 1: for the like it changed them in a way that

610
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 1: they became less motivated, they were a little slower. I

611
00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:39,120
Speaker 1: know a few people who yeah, like they did DMT

612
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 1: and like all of a sudden they were like did

613
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 1: they lacked the motivation to continue their pall because so

614
00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:49,320
Speaker 1: much of motivation is I don't want to die, I

615
00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 1: gotta make a legacy. I want money. I like things.

616
00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:55,800
Speaker 1: I want validation. I want money that will get me

617
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 1: validation and love. And so when you realize that none

618
00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 1: of that actually mattered or whatever they maybe learned, some

619
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 1: of that decreases and you and maybe they are happier

620
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:09,320
Speaker 1: not having as much motivation. You know, I think they are.

621
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 1: I think they are. They are happier, They're more content

622
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:14,800
Speaker 1: with where they are. But then in reality, they don't

623
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:20,960
Speaker 1: have any money anymore. They don't, Yeah, but they're very happier. No,

624
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 1: I wouldn't like the Neil thing, like I don't want

625
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 1: to no matter what is on the other side of that.

626
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 1: I don't want to give up anything that sounds scary.

627
00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:31,400
Speaker 1: I will not do even if it means freedom on

628
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:34,240
Speaker 1: the other side of it. I you know, I'll do

629
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:36,160
Speaker 1: a DMT when I die, thank you very much. Like

630
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:38,720
Speaker 1: it will be omitted naturally in that process. But that's

631
00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 1: not I don't want to do it anytime sooner. But

632
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 1: I think mushrooms and LSD even though those I've heard

633
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:47,040
Speaker 1: I've been described as terrifying. I think those are roller

634
00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:49,600
Speaker 1: coasters that I'm willing to go on because I don't

635
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,640
Speaker 1: do you this is DMT specifically that you've seen people

636
00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: lose motivation, and I'm guessing you're talking about one case

637
00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 1: study as opposed to multiple, right, Brian, I'm a few.

638
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 1: I actually have a few. I've talked to a few

639
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: people who have experienced this. Okay, wow, well that's the

640
00:33:05,800 --> 00:33:07,960
Speaker 1: one I won't touch after what Neil told me. But

641
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 1: the other ones I don't know. Maybe some besties have

642
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 1: experiences with DMT that you can share. But yeah, this

643
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 1: elephant documentary really lifted me out of it and there's

644
00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 1: a part of me that wants to go. So they

645
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 1: have to call them elephants. It's just such a high row.

646
00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 1: It's so rude, but these little baby elephants are so

647
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 1: cute and they are just so human and they are

648
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 1: just so sweet, and it was just sweet to see

649
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 1: these like Indian people speaking this language that I do

650
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 1: not know and would never know. And then the subtitle

651
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 1: is You're a good boy, aren't you? Are you the

652
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:41,880
Speaker 1: best boy? Are you the best boy? Like talking to

653
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 1: the elephants the same way that we talked to are dogs.

654
00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 1: It was just so sweet. I'd screenshot at it, but

655
00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 1: it was like, you're the best little boy there ever

656
00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 1: was in this whole little village. Like they just talked

657
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 1: to them sweetly. It's just it's so freaking sweet. So

658
00:33:56,960 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 1: that's just more a proof that we're all the same. Yeah, yeah,

659
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:02,760
Speaker 1: that reminds me of there was some study that a

660
00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 1: psychologist did with like a tribe in New Guinea or

661
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 1: somewhere very remote, and they were like the stuff the

662
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:13,399
Speaker 1: women and the men were complaining about was like when

663
00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:15,759
Speaker 1: they had a translator figure out, like what is the

664
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 1: thing that troubles you the most? And they were like, well,

665
00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:23,319
Speaker 1: he's I think he has a crush on her and

666
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 1: I feel left out. And it was like all this

667
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:28,759
Speaker 1: same petty shit, or not petty, but like the same

668
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 1: shit that we all struggle with everywhere else in the

669
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:34,560
Speaker 1: Western world. And he doesn't get the trash enough and

670
00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:39,359
Speaker 1: separate the recycling from the river that we drink from.

671
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:45,359
Speaker 1: He doesn't. Yeah, it's that is interesting, Like we all

672
00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:49,000
Speaker 1: do have, like even animals have jealousy, which I used

673
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 1: to tell my parents because they'd be like, we gotta

674
00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 1: give Luigi treat if we gave Wiley one. I'm like,

675
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:55,920
Speaker 1: Wiley's two hundred pounds. Luigi does not get the same treat.

676
00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:58,320
Speaker 1: He's gonna get fat. And they were like, well, he's jealous,

677
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:00,879
Speaker 1: and I'm like, animals don't have jealousy. Then every time

678
00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 1: I've eaten my words for ten years now or since

679
00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:06,680
Speaker 1: I said that, every time the dogs like get jealous

680
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: of each other, they go and the animost don't know

681
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 1: if Josie Niki and I'm like, okay, they do. I

682
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 1: get it. I'm sorry, but they've heard about the study

683
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 1: about plants where no one which plants. The study about plants,

684
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 1: the one where um, they were testing whether or not

685
00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:30,680
Speaker 1: plants could feel emotions. And so they they took like

686
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:33,319
Speaker 1: I think it was like cabbage plants or something, and

687
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:36,279
Speaker 1: they would take a they would attach electrode. I don't

688
00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 1: know the science, but they're attached electrodes to the plant

689
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:40,239
Speaker 1: to see whether or not it did register. And they

690
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:42,080
Speaker 1: would take a cabbage plant and they would cut up

691
00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:44,520
Speaker 1: a cabbage plant in front of the other cabbage and

692
00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:49,000
Speaker 1: the cabbage the living cabbage plant would respond right to

693
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:51,040
Speaker 1: the cabbage plant being chopped up in front, and they

694
00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:54,320
Speaker 1: were able to connect it to a device that would

695
00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:57,320
Speaker 1: that would take those electrodes and turn them into noises,

696
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:01,319
Speaker 1: so then you would hear hear the screen, Yes, you

697
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:04,320
Speaker 1: would hear it. Oh god damn it. Yeah. Well this

698
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:08,240
Speaker 1: is always what people say to vegans, like, well, plant

699
00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:10,799
Speaker 1: of feelings, and it's like, okay, well you know what,

700
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:13,080
Speaker 1: now I'm going to struggle to eat plants. Did you

701
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:16,600
Speaker 1: want like us? It doesn't change the way I feel.

702
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:18,400
Speaker 1: It's still now I'm going to eat plants and feel

703
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 1: bad about it, but I have to fucking eat so um.

704
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:25,200
Speaker 1: Yeah that sucks to hear. But um, that's why you

705
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:27,879
Speaker 1: just don't hook your you don't need You don't hook

706
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 1: your cabbage up to Yeah, you don't listen to your

707
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:36,279
Speaker 1: say never hook ellectrodes up to your fu. Yeah. At

708
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:38,920
Speaker 1: the same time, though, the positive takeaway is that if

709
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:41,799
Speaker 1: you have plants and you like talk to them, oh,

710
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 1: then you grow better. They grow better. That's yeah, that's

711
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 1: that's because of the oxygen, I think. But like they do.

712
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:51,399
Speaker 1: There's a world where your plants are listening to you,

713
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 1: and they can hear what you're saying, and they react

714
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 1: to your emotions. There's a world and everything's listening to

715
00:36:57,239 --> 00:37:01,720
Speaker 1: us and say even up on the plants. Um, yeah,

716
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:04,239
Speaker 1: I do the other day I realized I hadn't fed

717
00:37:04,280 --> 00:37:06,440
Speaker 1: my plants in a while, watered them, and I was

718
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:08,560
Speaker 1: like so sad, and I was like, I'm sorry, and

719
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:10,479
Speaker 1: I'm picking up like some of the dead leaves because

720
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:13,880
Speaker 1: it had been like anymore. And I was like, I

721
00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:16,719
Speaker 1: am so sorry. Plant. I just felt so bad and

722
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:21,080
Speaker 1: I was like, oh no, I'm like, am tremorpathizing whatever

723
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:23,319
Speaker 1: that word is where you like make a thing that

724
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:29,920
Speaker 1: doesn't have human emotions have it? Um wait Briant twice again? No, oh,

725
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:41,320
Speaker 1: I can't any sheds. Yeah the cabbage please, don't to me.

726
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:47,120
Speaker 1: That's a cabbage. They're from like not my mom. Yeah,

727
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:51,880
Speaker 1: oh my god, Um, Brian, you had a bachelor party

728
00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:54,319
Speaker 1: this weekend? Is that what you told me? Yeah? No,

729
00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:57,399
Speaker 1: I went. I went into the woods and a cab.

730
00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:04,880
Speaker 1: Yeah my god, and your bowsome crew? Did you find

731
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:07,439
Speaker 1: Chris on this but he couldn't go. I'm guessing well,

732
00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 1: I had a West Coast bachelor party in an East

733
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 1: Coast bachelor party. Yeah, okay, Yeah, you didn't want to

734
00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:17,640
Speaker 1: combine those two that would have been don't want people

735
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:20,680
Speaker 1: to have to feel like they have to mingle. I

736
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:25,120
Speaker 1: wanted to separate the friends groups so that everyone can life.

737
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:28,640
Speaker 1: Why why because your friends are socially awkward and they can't.

738
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:30,799
Speaker 1: Don't you think your friends would get along? Come on, man,

739
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:33,000
Speaker 1: they would get along fine. But I wanted everybody to

740
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:36,200
Speaker 1: feel completely at ease and natural. I don't want one

741
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:38,319
Speaker 1: of my friend to be like And I also don't

742
00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 1: want to be put in the position where I'm like

743
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 1: in the middle facilitating conversations because like, oh, here's my

744
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 1: friend Mike, here's meet my friend Jim. You buys both, Like,

745
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:51,640
Speaker 1: how about how we don't we stop doing that. I

746
00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:55,240
Speaker 1: hate when people go, you, Nikki, this is this person,

747
00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:57,799
Speaker 1: this person, and I'm like, I can do this myself.

748
00:38:57,920 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 1: I guess some people need that, but I hate that

749
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 1: because then I'm like, oh, now I'm being set up

750
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:03,880
Speaker 1: on a date and I don't want to talk to

751
00:39:03,920 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 1: this person. I never did I would have gradually. I

752
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 1: just feel And by the way, that's not your job.

753
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 1: If people sign up to go to a party, they

754
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:14,359
Speaker 1: just they know. But I get I get wanting to

755
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:17,319
Speaker 1: um erase any kind of feelings of anxiety. So you

756
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:19,439
Speaker 1: kept them separate, so you have you had the West

757
00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:22,279
Speaker 1: Coast one yet, yeah I did when the Midwest one.

758
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 1: The Midwest one is uh yeah, it's gonna be next month,

759
00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 1: okay um, and then we're gonna do the Upper Peninsula. Yeah. Well,

760
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:33,880
Speaker 1: I feel like people do that thing that you're describing

761
00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 1: when they don't want to talk to the person that

762
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:39,920
Speaker 1: they're introducing you exactly, that is what happens. They always

763
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:43,439
Speaker 1: they pawn off someone on you and you go, I

764
00:39:43,480 --> 00:39:46,479
Speaker 1: don't and then you and then you have to talk

765
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:50,480
Speaker 1: about you know that they gave you the only piece

766
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 1: of information they gave you. It's so annoying. I like

767
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:58,720
Speaker 1: it because I'm like very awkward socially. And my sister

768
00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 1: used to have these part pies with like literary people,

769
00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 1: and she had it was her job to be like

770
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:06,520
Speaker 1: the host, and she was like, how do you make

771
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:08,920
Speaker 1: small talk with fifty people at night? And she was

772
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:11,719
Speaker 1: just really good at being like Anya you might you know,

773
00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:14,239
Speaker 1: Anya's used to be an ice skater and this one

774
00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 1: like she would know these little factoids about people and

775
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 1: like quickly set them up and then leave. And it

776
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,399
Speaker 1: was like, okay, well that's better than thing to talk about.

777
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 1: How most people do it, I will say I am

778
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:25,480
Speaker 1: good at finding commonalities and being like, you guys need

779
00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:27,480
Speaker 1: to talk about this, and I'm I will set you

780
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:29,920
Speaker 1: up for success. But some people just do it to

781
00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:33,319
Speaker 1: get exactly what Brian is saying so they don't have

782
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 1: to talk to either of you. Can you do it

783
00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 1: for me and Anya? Like what if we were at

784
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 1: a party and you came up to us and you're like, hey, okay,

785
00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 1: plant voice okay, Um, I would say, oh, you guys,

786
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 1: I both I did a podcast with both of you. Brian,

787
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 1: I did a podcast with when I had that Not

788
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 1: Safe show. Anya, I've done podcasts with forever. Um. Brian

789
00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:54,560
Speaker 1: is getting married. You guys are both getting married soon

790
00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:58,080
Speaker 1: in um this summer. Brian just had his bachelor party

791
00:40:58,120 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 1: where he introduced people or didn't have to introduce anyone

792
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:03,840
Speaker 1: because he kept it like separate. Ana's not having a

793
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 1: bachelorette party. What do you guys think about that? Like

794
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:08,359
Speaker 1: what or not that I know of? I haven't been

795
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:11,200
Speaker 1: invited yet if she is, and I would talk about

796
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 1: like you're both getting or like Anya, as a musician, Brian,

797
00:41:14,320 --> 00:41:16,879
Speaker 1: you like music, like I don't know, like I love

798
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 1: the wedding thing. You could just leave it at that,

799
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:20,920
Speaker 1: but Anya says, Brian, you guys have both worked with

800
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 1: me and lived with me or whatever. Brian hasn't, but

801
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:25,880
Speaker 1: you're both getting married soon and then bye. And then

802
00:41:25,920 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 1: I'd be like, oh my god, Brian, you're getting married?

803
00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 1: Are you stressed out? Does everyone want to know the

804
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:33,880
Speaker 1: best icebreaker for a conversation if someone is married or

805
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:36,879
Speaker 1: has a girlfriend, or just ask how they met? It's

806
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 1: a good It's always a good story, even if it's online.

807
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 1: And if it's online and they want to seem like

808
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:44,840
Speaker 1: they go oh on an app? Which app? Who wrote first?

809
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:47,120
Speaker 1: Where'd you go on your first date? People love if

810
00:41:47,120 --> 00:41:49,239
Speaker 1: they're in a good relationship. They love talking about their

811
00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:52,120
Speaker 1: relationship and it's always a good story. Oh my god,

812
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:54,880
Speaker 1: can I tell you you're gonna love this? I was

813
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:59,160
Speaker 1: at a I think it was an engagement party where

814
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:01,879
Speaker 1: they were, Um, I would say pretty well to do?

815
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 1: People like one of the people getting married was well

816
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:12,799
Speaker 1: to do hmm yeah, and um I heard that as

817
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:16,960
Speaker 1: his name was to do. Holy seconds like money do

818
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:22,239
Speaker 1: they have? Probably like yeah, um I And I was

819
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:25,040
Speaker 1: with my I was with Ali, my fiance, and um,

820
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:28,360
Speaker 1: someone was like, how'd you guys meet? And then and

821
00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 1: then we were like we always think it's cute to

822
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:31,720
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, we met on we met on an app,

823
00:42:31,880 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 1: and then people are always like, um oh that, oh

824
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 1: my god. Really and then sometimes the other people we

825
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:38,799
Speaker 1: talked to have met on an app and that's you

826
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 1: really connect there. Yeah, we said, They said how did

827
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 1: you meet and we said, oh, we met on an

828
00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:49,160
Speaker 1: app and this person was like, oh, that's interesting, and

829
00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 1: then she like couldn't handle it. She was like judging

830
00:42:53,160 --> 00:42:55,759
Speaker 1: us for having met on an app. No, that is

831
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:58,839
Speaker 1: a that saying you met online was embarrassing in two

832
00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 1: thousand and three, and before then we were so confused.

833
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:05,840
Speaker 1: The only way people meet now if you've met in person.

834
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:09,120
Speaker 1: That is when I go, h, what you met a

835
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:12,240
Speaker 1: stranger out in the real world, like at the grocery

836
00:43:12,239 --> 00:43:14,479
Speaker 1: store in line, Like why are you talking to someone

837
00:43:14,480 --> 00:43:16,000
Speaker 1: in line? Get on your be on your phone and

838
00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:19,200
Speaker 1: mind your business, like that is the that is the

839
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:21,920
Speaker 1: weird thing now. So this woman couldn't handle it, okay,

840
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 1: and then we're like, yo, let me have to continue

841
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 1: the conversation with her when she clearly just outwardly judged

842
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:29,600
Speaker 1: us to our face and we're like, yeah, we met

843
00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 1: on his miserable and old was she She was probably

844
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:37,880
Speaker 1: late twenties or early thirties. I think it was. I

845
00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:39,239
Speaker 1: think it had to do with the fact that she

846
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 1: was well to do. Yeah, I forgot about the well

847
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:45,319
Speaker 1: to do part. Yeah that in her world, Like that

848
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:48,920
Speaker 1: really is an embarrassment. You didn't meet at your father's

849
00:43:48,920 --> 00:43:54,320
Speaker 1: country club, didn't meet at your local plane much. Yeah,

850
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:56,839
Speaker 1: you weren't. It wasn't arranged for you by you know,

851
00:43:57,320 --> 00:44:02,080
Speaker 1: by two of your wealthy aunts. Well, okay, so when

852
00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 1: you say you met on Hinge, what is the story there, like,

853
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:06,360
Speaker 1: because I do want to know. I'm kind of interested.

854
00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:08,000
Speaker 1: We have five minutes till the end of this break,

855
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:11,400
Speaker 1: let's get to it. So you met on Hinge? Hinge

856
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 1: is the one where it's like you have friends in common,

857
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 1: but you can pretty much find someone in common with

858
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:19,640
Speaker 1: anyone that you have. Shit. Really, I mean, after like

859
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 1: three days, you no longer have enough friends to have

860
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:25,440
Speaker 1: anybody in common with who you're matching with. Got it?

861
00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:27,680
Speaker 1: Even with all of your friends on each of the

862
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:30,560
Speaker 1: coasts that you have that you have to separate your parties. Yeah,

863
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 1: all ten friends? No, what was your mutual friend with?

864
00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:37,279
Speaker 1: We didn't have a mutual friend. There was no They

865
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:39,480
Speaker 1: just started giving you what was it about her profile?

866
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 1: Because Hinge has you know, I think most of them

867
00:44:41,640 --> 00:44:43,759
Speaker 1: do this now, but back in the day Hinge when

868
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:46,560
Speaker 1: I was on, it always had fun question prompt questions,

869
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:48,879
Speaker 1: and then you put up a picture and you could

870
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:50,719
Speaker 1: just like each other's photo as opposed to like being

871
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:53,239
Speaker 1: like I want to date you. I'm swiping right, you

872
00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:56,160
Speaker 1: just like like a photo? Yes, and well that This

873
00:44:56,239 --> 00:45:00,800
Speaker 1: is why anyone who's creative excels on Hinge because instead

874
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:03,880
Speaker 1: of just swiping, you have to you comment on the photo,

875
00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:07,160
Speaker 1: and so you have to come up with something remotely

876
00:45:07,200 --> 00:45:09,840
Speaker 1: interesting to say in the comments in order to get

877
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 1: matched back. You can't just swipe and then hope. And

878
00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 1: you can't just and if you comment on the photo

879
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:18,839
Speaker 1: like hey or what's up, that's not good enough. No. No.

880
00:45:19,000 --> 00:45:20,920
Speaker 1: And someone wrote to me recently because I said on

881
00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:25,319
Speaker 1: the podcast that if you are on Bumble Girls, just

882
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:28,800
Speaker 1: send an emoji. Never write like hey, what's up? Don't

883
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:31,040
Speaker 1: write anything because bumble Girls have to reach out first.

884
00:45:31,080 --> 00:45:32,880
Speaker 1: But just do an emoji, because guys don't really like

885
00:45:32,920 --> 00:45:34,799
Speaker 1: you to make the first move. They want just you

886
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:36,839
Speaker 1: to like, look at them, so send it emoji. But

887
00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:38,440
Speaker 1: this girl wrote to me and goes The emoji thing

888
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:40,800
Speaker 1: has been working for me so much, So many conversations

889
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:43,359
Speaker 1: have popped off because I send it emoji. She was like,

890
00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 1: but they never ask me out. And that's the thing

891
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 1: that I think on dating apps that a lot of

892
00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:50,240
Speaker 1: people run into, based on what I read on Reddit

893
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:53,560
Speaker 1: from dating advice, is that people don't ask people out.

894
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:55,120
Speaker 1: And I used to do this too on dating apps.

895
00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:56,480
Speaker 1: I would match with people and then I would just

896
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:57,880
Speaker 1: like not want to go out with them because I

897
00:45:57,960 --> 00:46:00,680
Speaker 1: just because I just wanted the validation that people liked me.

898
00:46:00,880 --> 00:46:05,200
Speaker 1: I wasn't really wanting intimacy because or meeting up in person.

899
00:46:05,480 --> 00:46:07,359
Speaker 1: And you used to be on the apps, like did

900
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:10,000
Speaker 1: you ever struggle with men like not asking you out

901
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:12,359
Speaker 1: or not like setting a date or taking it from

902
00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:15,600
Speaker 1: just conversating too Yeah. I remember like taking it to

903
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 1: therapy and being like, am I doing something wrong? And

904
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:20,000
Speaker 1: my therapist is like, yeah, you're chatting for too long,

905
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:23,200
Speaker 1: Like three or four volleys is enough? Like if the

906
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:25,200
Speaker 1: person doesn't ask you out by then, or if you

907
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 1: don't say like do you want to get together? Which

908
00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 1: I never took her advice on that because she was wrong.

909
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:32,800
Speaker 1: She'd be like, just be done. You know none of that.

910
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:35,080
Speaker 1: This isn't a chat app. You're not like here to

911
00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:38,000
Speaker 1: make penal friends. And then if you go on forever

912
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:39,799
Speaker 1: like that and I do the same thing, you know

913
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:43,000
Speaker 1: I would. I would definitely like just turned in into

914
00:46:43,040 --> 00:46:44,440
Speaker 1: like let's get to know each other, and then you

915
00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:46,120
Speaker 1: have nothing to talk about on your date when you

916
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 1: finally go on it, because you've you've done all the cursory,

917
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:51,000
Speaker 1: like what do you do? What do you like? Like

918
00:46:51,280 --> 00:46:53,480
Speaker 1: so how quickly did you ask Alli out? Because I'm

919
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:55,520
Speaker 1: guessing you asked her out? Well, by then I was

920
00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:58,839
Speaker 1: like an online dating expert and I had this Ryan

921
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:04,320
Speaker 1: was so so I mean, Brian, there's so many layers

922
00:47:04,360 --> 00:47:08,120
Speaker 1: to this guy. But Brian was like very adamant about

923
00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:10,879
Speaker 1: finding a partner and like, oh my god, you were

924
00:47:11,160 --> 00:47:12,759
Speaker 1: you have you? He had a system of his like

925
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 1: that there pillars in his life, and one of the

926
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:17,160
Speaker 1: pillars was finding like a wife, like finding a woman.

927
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:20,319
Speaker 1: I treat everything like that, you know, like there when

928
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 1: I try to find a therapist, I go to like

929
00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:24,920
Speaker 1: five six therapists. There was a time when I had

930
00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:28,000
Speaker 1: five therapists at the same time, and I was waiting

931
00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:31,400
Speaker 1: to see which one would pops which one asked me

932
00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:33,880
Speaker 1: how first it was just because we're just chatting. It

933
00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:37,200
Speaker 1: so chatting for an hour. We would chat for an hour.

934
00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:43,080
Speaker 1: So um, when you met Ali? I mean this was

935
00:47:43,120 --> 00:47:45,840
Speaker 1: at the end of like years of online dating and

936
00:47:45,880 --> 00:47:48,719
Speaker 1: going on multiple dates a week. Yes, there was a year,

937
00:47:49,000 --> 00:47:50,799
Speaker 1: the Year of Dating I call it, where I went

938
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 1: on dates with over fifty different women and multiple dates

939
00:47:57,120 --> 00:48:00,360
Speaker 1: for many of them. So it was like on a ridge.

940
00:48:00,440 --> 00:48:03,160
Speaker 1: It was like a few dates a week. And there

941
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:05,640
Speaker 1: was a time when I would go on multiple dates

942
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:08,880
Speaker 1: at night. Oh my god, would you make for all

943
00:48:08,920 --> 00:48:11,920
Speaker 1: these or would you guys go dodge? Or what it

944
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 1: would be? I would always go on. The date would

945
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 1: always be drinks at a bar, and so if I

946
00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:22,120
Speaker 1: paid for oh yeah, and also I don't drink, So

947
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:24,680
Speaker 1: I would go to these bars and let's get drinks,

948
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:27,879
Speaker 1: and then I would pretend to drink the beer. Right,

949
00:48:27,880 --> 00:48:30,680
Speaker 1: that's what's called the beer. And one time I had

950
00:48:30,880 --> 00:48:34,600
Speaker 1: a bartender. I got there early, I had a beer

951
00:48:34,920 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 1: and I said to the bartender, can listen. I don't drink.

952
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:40,080
Speaker 1: And this is a first date can you like help

953
00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:42,400
Speaker 1: me get rid of this beer? So it looks like

954
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 1: I drank it, And so the bartender was like yeah, man,

955
00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:46,880
Speaker 1: And so I was on this date and then the

956
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:50,040
Speaker 1: bartender like when the person wasn't looking, would take my

957
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:53,000
Speaker 1: beer and pour it out a little bit. Oh my god,

958
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:56,719
Speaker 1: is so funny. Yeah, well, you're really bringing your authentic

959
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:59,279
Speaker 1: self to these yeats by the way, Well, I felt

960
00:48:59,320 --> 00:49:01,040
Speaker 1: like they would they wouldn't want to get they would

961
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:03,200
Speaker 1: judge you. Well, but discuss what you were dating girls

962
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:05,600
Speaker 1: in their twenties who like, were not secure enough to

963
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:08,040
Speaker 1: probably go on dates and not get a little bit drunk,

964
00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:11,880
Speaker 1: because that's what dating in your twenties is, right, Yes, um,

965
00:49:11,960 --> 00:49:13,560
Speaker 1: but Ali, what did you guys do on your first

966
00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:17,600
Speaker 1: day date? What about what about your what about her profile?

967
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 1: Did you say anything? Do you remember it? Do you

968
00:49:19,560 --> 00:49:21,839
Speaker 1: remember or was it just one of another? Like I

969
00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:25,560
Speaker 1: remember seeing her on Hinge and I was like, there's

970
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:28,840
Speaker 1: just no way she is going to respond to my

971
00:49:28,880 --> 00:49:32,520
Speaker 1: message because she was so beautiful. I was like, there's

972
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:37,040
Speaker 1: no way. And then I made a comment she was

973
00:49:37,400 --> 00:49:39,640
Speaker 1: she had like a pirate so beautiful. She had a

974
00:49:39,640 --> 00:49:43,560
Speaker 1: pirate costume on this she had a pirate costume on,

975
00:49:43,800 --> 00:49:46,279
Speaker 1: and she was wearing an eyepatch and the eye patch

976
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:51,360
Speaker 1: was a little bit a jar. And all I said was, um,

977
00:49:51,480 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 1: a jar. It was a jar. And all I said

978
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,759
Speaker 1: was it was askew. That's what I meant. Okay, a

979
00:49:56,840 --> 00:50:00,319
Speaker 1: jar was like it's slightly open. Yeah, probably was. Yeah,

980
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:02,799
Speaker 1: it was slightly open and it was a skew. And

981
00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 1: I said, are you a pirate full time? Or is

982
00:50:06,120 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 1: that your side hustle? That was my comment. So you

983
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:10,279
Speaker 1: see what I'm saying. You have to be just like

984
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 1: a little bit clever. Well, yeah, you should have been,

985
00:50:13,760 --> 00:50:17,319
Speaker 1: but a little bit. It was a nice try. I

986
00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:21,000
Speaker 1: cannot feel Okay, so she already probably liked you. I

987
00:50:21,040 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 1: got the but I got the inside scoop since then,

988
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:27,640
Speaker 1: because this is why you're You're you're setting me up

989
00:50:27,640 --> 00:50:30,919
Speaker 1: against other comedians in terms of being interesting. Like that

990
00:50:31,000 --> 00:50:33,920
Speaker 1: comment is like a ten out of ten compared to

991
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,120
Speaker 1: my god, you're so right, you're so right. The gen

992
00:50:37,200 --> 00:50:40,600
Speaker 1: pop is not capable of that of Yeah, even so

993
00:50:40,719 --> 00:50:43,359
Speaker 1: getting the word a jar wrong, no, yeah, they don't

994
00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:45,880
Speaker 1: even know that word even much less even able to

995
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:49,879
Speaker 1: use it wrong incorrectly. Okay, that's right. Um, and so

996
00:50:50,120 --> 00:50:51,839
Speaker 1: she told me that. I was like, so, what did

997
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:55,239
Speaker 1: most people say when unhinged to you? And she said, well,

998
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:58,160
Speaker 1: most people would say, and I would hate this is

999
00:50:58,239 --> 00:51:02,879
Speaker 1: they would go, hey, you're patches on wrong. That would

1000
00:51:02,880 --> 00:51:07,000
Speaker 1: be their first comment. Yeah, yeah, that's a nag kind

1001
00:51:07,000 --> 00:51:09,319
Speaker 1: of like again, was like, are you a part time

1002
00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:13,279
Speaker 1: pirate or just are you a pirate full time? Or

1003
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:17,120
Speaker 1: is it your side hustle? Okay, yeah, yeah, it's good

1004
00:51:17,320 --> 00:51:19,799
Speaker 1: all right, And so that kicked it off. And then

1005
00:51:20,000 --> 00:51:22,920
Speaker 1: you asked her out right, yeah, because I mean that

1006
00:51:22,920 --> 00:51:26,879
Speaker 1: it couldn't get too chatty. And the thing was we lived, Um,

1007
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:29,279
Speaker 1: she lived in on the west side and I lived

1008
00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:33,040
Speaker 1: on the east side, and in in normal people, that's

1009
00:51:33,080 --> 00:51:36,840
Speaker 1: like separate bachelor partist. That's like, that's like living in

1010
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:38,799
Speaker 1: a different state if you're in LA. I mean it's

1011
00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 1: it's almost like, why would you even have your hinge

1012
00:51:41,040 --> 00:51:43,840
Speaker 1: to go to those areas because this is going to work. Yeah,

1013
00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:47,960
Speaker 1: And she had her uh her radius set to like

1014
00:51:48,080 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 1: fifty miles by accident. Yeah, And so it was like

1015
00:51:52,120 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 1: she and so for like one week she accidentally had

1016
00:52:00,680 --> 00:52:03,759
Speaker 1: it open and I always had mine open as wide

1017
00:52:03,760 --> 00:52:06,680
Speaker 1: as possible. I was like I'll drive anywhere. Yeah, and

1018
00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:13,360
Speaker 1: we matched and um yeah and uh then she like

1019
00:52:13,440 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 1: disappeared for a little bit and I was like, of course,

1020
00:52:15,680 --> 00:52:18,520
Speaker 1: she disappeared, like she's not going to continue talking to me.

1021
00:52:18,600 --> 00:52:20,400
Speaker 1: And then one day she messaged me back after like

1022
00:52:20,440 --> 00:52:24,160
Speaker 1: two weeks and was like, oh, hey, she just wasn't

1023
00:52:24,239 --> 00:52:25,759
Speaker 1: checking the app. And then we went on a date.

1024
00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 1: Um at a at a lesson. Two girls seemed disinterested.

1025
00:52:32,080 --> 00:52:37,200
Speaker 1: Don't be too needy. Well cool, she just she wasn't

1026
00:52:37,200 --> 00:52:40,160
Speaker 1: even trying. She just was cool. Yes, exactly. And your

1027
00:52:40,239 --> 00:52:44,399
Speaker 1: your emoji comment is one hundred percent correct, like just

1028
00:52:44,400 --> 00:52:48,520
Speaker 1: send an emoji guy. Don't do anything like you don't

1029
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:51,479
Speaker 1: have to do anything. Guys will come after you, Yes,

1030
00:52:51,840 --> 00:52:56,800
Speaker 1: yes they will. Well, last night, Anya uh discovered something

1031
00:52:56,880 --> 00:53:00,520
Speaker 1: on the show. She's watching The Bachelor and boiler alert

1032
00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:02,239
Speaker 1: if you don't want to hear if you haven't seen

1033
00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:04,840
Speaker 1: the latest episode. But it's down to him picking the

1034
00:53:04,840 --> 00:53:07,000
Speaker 1: final two. There were three girls left. They all went

1035
00:53:07,040 --> 00:53:10,360
Speaker 1: to the fantasy suite, which is where you could possibly

1036
00:53:10,400 --> 00:53:12,319
Speaker 1: have sex. It's kind of like in the air. Now

1037
00:53:12,360 --> 00:53:16,480
Speaker 1: what happened exactly? Anya? So he decides the Bachelor decides

1038
00:53:16,520 --> 00:53:18,480
Speaker 1: I'm going to go into this week without sex being

1039
00:53:18,520 --> 00:53:21,600
Speaker 1: on the table, and he tells each woman this at

1040
00:53:21,600 --> 00:53:24,480
Speaker 1: the start of dating the bed. No not on tables,

1041
00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:28,000
Speaker 1: no sex on tables. So with Girl number one, he's like,

1042
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:29,839
Speaker 1: just so you know, I want sex to be off

1043
00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:31,920
Speaker 1: the table this week. And then they cut to her

1044
00:53:31,960 --> 00:53:33,480
Speaker 1: in review and she's like, that was sort of a

1045
00:53:33,480 --> 00:53:35,920
Speaker 1: disappointment and I don't like being told what's not going

1046
00:53:35,960 --> 00:53:39,239
Speaker 1: to happen. And she's very sexual too, and she's like

1047
00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:42,320
Speaker 1: this beautiful Russian girl and they have tons of chemistry.

1048
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:46,439
Speaker 1: She's like a knockout too, and she's like, we'll see

1049
00:53:46,440 --> 00:53:49,200
Speaker 1: about that. Well, you know. Anyway, they have a date

1050
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:52,240
Speaker 1: and you find out afterwards they did not have sex,

1051
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:55,120
Speaker 1: and so he moves on to Girl number two. She's

1052
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:59,239
Speaker 1: very shy. Yeah, they hang the sheet outside after and

1053
00:53:59,440 --> 00:54:03,480
Speaker 1: there was not a blood stain upon it. So Chris Harrison, oh,

1054
00:54:03,520 --> 00:54:05,279
Speaker 1: he's on the show anymore. That other guy that looks

1055
00:54:05,280 --> 00:54:09,040
Speaker 1: like all the bachelors said they did not have sex, Okay,

1056
00:54:09,520 --> 00:54:12,920
Speaker 1: they didn't tell. When the bachelor told that guy, Jesse

1057
00:54:13,280 --> 00:54:15,960
Speaker 1: his plan, you could just see in Jesse's eyes, which

1058
00:54:15,960 --> 00:54:18,600
Speaker 1: are pretty blank anyway, he was just fighting this urge

1059
00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:23,080
Speaker 1: to be like, dude, no bad idea, And so he

1060
00:54:23,120 --> 00:54:25,919
Speaker 1: goes on date number two with this very like sort

1061
00:54:25,920 --> 00:54:29,120
Speaker 1: of mentally fragile girl. She has bad h adhd. She's

1062
00:54:29,239 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 1: very insecure. They have a lot of chemistry though, but

1063
00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:35,000
Speaker 1: she's like shy and anyway, same thing. He tells her

1064
00:54:35,000 --> 00:54:38,480
Speaker 1: his intentions no sex. She's cut to her interview. She's like,

1065
00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:40,319
Speaker 1: I don't know about that. We'll see if I can

1066
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:42,480
Speaker 1: convince him to otherwise. I kind of think sex is

1067
00:54:42,520 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 1: important or whatever. Then after their date, cut to them

1068
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:48,719
Speaker 1: snuggling in the morning and you do an interview with

1069
00:54:48,760 --> 00:54:51,280
Speaker 1: her one on one and she's like, we had a

1070
00:54:51,400 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 1: great cuddle fest and big smile, So you're like, did

1071
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:57,799
Speaker 1: they I think they did have sex. Then cut to

1072
00:54:58,120 --> 00:55:01,080
Speaker 1: the bachelor and he's like, we had an amazing night.

1073
00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:05,040
Speaker 1: But I changed my mind and it became evident that,

1074
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:08,239
Speaker 1: like my rule was not going to fly, and we

1075
00:55:08,320 --> 00:55:11,160
Speaker 1: both decided, as adults, we wanted to take this further,

1076
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:13,200
Speaker 1: and we did. But now I'm in a quandary. I

1077
00:55:13,239 --> 00:55:16,880
Speaker 1: gotta tell I gotta tell girl number three what I

1078
00:55:16,920 --> 00:55:21,000
Speaker 1: did because I told Girl number three no sex, right,

1079
00:55:21,239 --> 00:55:24,719
Speaker 1: he actually hadn't. He had only told each woman so

1080
00:55:24,760 --> 00:55:26,880
Speaker 1: far that he had seen and got it. Okay, so

1081
00:55:26,920 --> 00:55:29,279
Speaker 1: we can Jest see. The host is like why do

1082
00:55:29,680 --> 00:55:32,080
Speaker 1: He's like, you don't really, you're gonna tell him, but

1083
00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:33,600
Speaker 1: you're going to tell her, and he goes, I have

1084
00:55:33,680 --> 00:55:35,719
Speaker 1: to be transparent with all the women, and Jesse's just

1085
00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:39,640
Speaker 1: like okay. So he goes on date number three, which

1086
00:55:39,680 --> 00:55:42,880
Speaker 1: is in a fucking swamp in Thailand, like the worst setting.

1087
00:55:42,880 --> 00:55:45,640
Speaker 1: It's in a river, but it's like, oh, cold, dank

1088
00:55:45,840 --> 00:55:48,200
Speaker 1: river and it's getting darker and darker by the second,

1089
00:55:48,400 --> 00:55:51,439
Speaker 1: and they're in this horrible canoe. Anyway, he tells her

1090
00:55:51,520 --> 00:55:54,440
Speaker 1: and she's not crazy. He goes, I wanted this to

1091
00:55:54,480 --> 00:55:57,560
Speaker 1: be a no sex week for everybody, and I kind

1092
00:55:57,560 --> 00:55:59,279
Speaker 1: of fucked up and just left with the last girl.

1093
00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:03,600
Speaker 1: She's horror fied and she's like, I know what this

1094
00:56:03,640 --> 00:56:06,600
Speaker 1: week is. I didn't need to know this, and now

1095
00:56:06,960 --> 00:56:08,680
Speaker 1: like this is the beginning of our date, like I

1096
00:56:08,719 --> 00:56:12,319
Speaker 1: can't be psyched. This is a bummer, Like you didn't

1097
00:56:12,360 --> 00:56:13,960
Speaker 1: need to tell me this. This is between you and

1098
00:56:14,000 --> 00:56:16,360
Speaker 1: all the women you know, and it's just awkward and

1099
00:56:16,719 --> 00:56:19,000
Speaker 1: terrible and it's just getting darker and darker. Is he

1100
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:21,880
Speaker 1: apologizing now? Or is this her saying this off camera

1101
00:56:21,920 --> 00:56:23,160
Speaker 1: of like I didn't even know this, or is she

1102
00:56:23,239 --> 00:56:27,400
Speaker 1: saying that to him? She's saying that to him, He's

1103
00:56:27,440 --> 00:56:30,399
Speaker 1: awkwardly like trying to hug her. It's the she just

1104
00:56:30,440 --> 00:56:32,680
Speaker 1: does not want to be there. He feels kind of dumb,

1105
00:56:32,680 --> 00:56:35,160
Speaker 1: but he keeps trying to be like, I'm an honest person,

1106
00:56:35,200 --> 00:56:37,239
Speaker 1: though I would think that you would want this, like

1107
00:56:37,280 --> 00:56:40,360
Speaker 1: I'm being transparent. She's like, no, I don't need to

1108
00:56:40,400 --> 00:56:42,439
Speaker 1: know all this, you know, And she's like, I don't

1109
00:56:42,480 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 1: really what did you expect me to just be like,

1110
00:56:44,640 --> 00:56:47,640
Speaker 1: oh great, like let's have a fun date. Like I'm

1111
00:56:47,680 --> 00:56:49,719
Speaker 1: not happy. She just kept saying I'm not happy and

1112
00:56:49,760 --> 00:56:54,040
Speaker 1: I can't sound I feel like if any person that

1113
00:56:54,080 --> 00:56:55,880
Speaker 1: you could ever relate to, it would be this woman.

1114
00:56:56,760 --> 00:56:59,399
Speaker 1: I liked her because I actually am afraid to say

1115
00:56:59,600 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 1: all right, have been in the past, afraid to just

1116
00:57:01,520 --> 00:57:03,839
Speaker 1: say my feelings very simply. And she just kept being like,

1117
00:57:04,360 --> 00:57:07,560
Speaker 1: I'm just not happy, and she kept repeating, and I

1118
00:57:07,600 --> 00:57:10,920
Speaker 1: was like, that's pretty powerful to just own that, yeah,

1119
00:57:10,960 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 1: Like why would you be happy anyway? Then she snaps

1120
00:57:14,080 --> 00:57:16,280
Speaker 1: out of it after a few hours. They go on

1121
00:57:16,320 --> 00:57:18,480
Speaker 1: their date later that night, they get out of the swamp,

1122
00:57:18,520 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 1: they get cleaned up, they go to dinner. Somehow this

1123
00:57:20,840 --> 00:57:23,280
Speaker 1: woman's out of total one eighty and she's like, you

1124
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:26,200
Speaker 1: know what, I am so into you. I'm falling in

1125
00:57:26,240 --> 00:57:30,200
Speaker 1: love with you. Let bygones be bygones, don't care. Let's

1126
00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:32,680
Speaker 1: have a fun night. She pulled the nicky glazer. I

1127
00:57:32,720 --> 00:57:35,760
Speaker 1: think Nikky would do that of like let me just

1128
00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:40,360
Speaker 1: re reset, like yeah, you know, power down and power

1129
00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:43,360
Speaker 1: back up, Like yeah, let's get the political Okay, You're

1130
00:57:43,400 --> 00:57:47,080
Speaker 1: like logical, I know what show I'm on, Like, well,

1131
00:57:47,080 --> 00:57:50,040
Speaker 1: thank you. That's very nice of you to that reminds

1132
00:57:50,040 --> 00:57:52,960
Speaker 1: you of me. Yeah, I was like, this girl's kind

1133
00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:55,400
Speaker 1: of practical. I've always thought this girl, Katie was the

1134
00:57:55,400 --> 00:57:57,800
Speaker 1: best match for this boring guy, Jake the Bachelor, whatever

1135
00:57:57,800 --> 00:58:01,040
Speaker 1: his name is, I forgot anyway, they this whole show.

1136
00:58:01,080 --> 00:58:04,240
Speaker 1: You don't even know his name. That's out bloring. This

1137
00:58:04,320 --> 00:58:07,560
Speaker 1: dude was. I think I watched the first episode and

1138
00:58:07,560 --> 00:58:08,840
Speaker 1: I go because I was like, I'm gonna get back

1139
00:58:08,840 --> 00:58:13,000
Speaker 1: into the Bachelor. I couldn't care less about this guy.

1140
00:58:13,960 --> 00:58:16,240
Speaker 1: This guy was so boring. He didn't deserve all these

1141
00:58:16,280 --> 00:58:18,640
Speaker 1: women to be falling over him. He was just he's

1142
00:58:18,680 --> 00:58:22,200
Speaker 1: kind of adult. But he's tall and hot, right yeah,

1143
00:58:22,440 --> 00:58:26,960
Speaker 1: like he's a formerly fat person, so he's very he's

1144
00:58:27,080 --> 00:58:30,360
Speaker 1: very kind and emotionally mature, I think, but he's a

1145
00:58:30,360 --> 00:58:32,680
Speaker 1: little I think it's passive aggressive. He's got some rage

1146
00:58:32,680 --> 00:58:35,480
Speaker 1: in there. But anyway, I'll wrap this up. So they

1147
00:58:35,520 --> 00:58:38,600
Speaker 1: have date number three together. It's unclear whether they've slept

1148
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:41,800
Speaker 1: together until all three women are lined up the next

1149
00:58:41,880 --> 00:58:46,640
Speaker 1: day at the rose ceremony, at which point he I'm

1150
00:58:46,640 --> 00:58:49,640
Speaker 1: gonna spoil this completely now he eliminates the no no

1151
00:58:49,640 --> 00:58:52,640
Speaker 1: no oh, yeah, he start no no, he eliminates um

1152
00:58:52,880 --> 00:59:00,960
Speaker 1: number one. Right, yeah, that correct. She's very mature about there, goodbye.

1153
00:59:01,040 --> 00:59:04,080
Speaker 1: It's kind of amazing, and you know, she's like it

1154
00:59:04,120 --> 00:59:06,400
Speaker 1: was incredible, meaning you goodbye, and they have a hug goodbye.

1155
00:59:06,440 --> 00:59:09,600
Speaker 1: He comes back and then but as he's saying breaking

1156
00:59:09,680 --> 00:59:12,920
Speaker 1: up with the Russian girl, these two were together holding

1157
00:59:12,920 --> 00:59:18,400
Speaker 1: their roses and Katie Girl number three looks to girl

1158
00:59:18,520 --> 00:59:20,880
Speaker 1: number two, who has slept with the bachelor, and she goes,

1159
00:59:21,080 --> 00:59:23,400
Speaker 1: I knew. Under her breath, she goes, I knew you'd

1160
00:59:23,440 --> 00:59:26,320
Speaker 1: be the only one, meaning I know you'd be the

1161
00:59:26,360 --> 00:59:28,800
Speaker 1: only one he's slept with, So now we know Katie

1162
00:59:28,800 --> 00:59:31,200
Speaker 1: did not sleep with him. And then they're standing there,

1163
00:59:31,240 --> 00:59:33,080
Speaker 1: but the girl who slept with him, I wish I

1164
00:59:33,120 --> 00:59:36,040
Speaker 1: could remember her name. She looks furious. She's pissed off.

1165
00:59:36,080 --> 00:59:39,680
Speaker 1: I forgot to mention, she told the producers on camera.

1166
00:59:39,720 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 1: In her one on one interview, she's like, I feel

1167
00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:46,360
Speaker 1: completely blindsided because Jake came to tell her the next day,

1168
00:59:46,640 --> 00:59:49,439
Speaker 1: like I'm going to tell all the women what we've done.

1169
00:59:49,520 --> 00:59:51,280
Speaker 1: And she's like no, no, no no, no, no, no no no,

1170
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:54,800
Speaker 1: this was our thing, Like this is private, and he's like, no,

1171
00:59:54,880 --> 00:59:57,240
Speaker 1: I think it's really important to be transparent with everybody else.

1172
00:59:57,320 --> 00:59:58,960
Speaker 1: Why was she blindsided if he told her that he

1173
00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:01,960
Speaker 1: was going to tell him. I good question. I think

1174
01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:04,480
Speaker 1: they must have had an agreement during the sex or

1175
01:00:04,520 --> 01:00:07,320
Speaker 1: their little private night together, like let's just nact on

1176
01:00:07,400 --> 01:00:09,560
Speaker 1: between us, got it? Yes? And she's like, now you

1177
01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:11,600
Speaker 1: show up at my house with all these cameras telling

1178
01:00:11,640 --> 01:00:14,480
Speaker 1: me like, hey, we fucked, let's tell America. And she's like,

1179
01:00:14,920 --> 01:00:16,680
Speaker 1: I wanted to be a little more subtle about it,

1180
01:00:16,960 --> 01:00:18,560
Speaker 1: and so he signed up to me on the Bachelor,

1181
01:00:18,680 --> 01:00:23,080
Speaker 1: so right. But she also she's like, I didn't. I

1182
01:00:23,080 --> 01:00:26,720
Speaker 1: didn't know. We're telling everybody, yeah, yeah, But the most

1183
01:00:26,760 --> 01:00:29,840
Speaker 1: interesting part is he comes back from the can we

1184
01:00:29,920 --> 01:00:32,200
Speaker 1: do leave this as a cliffhanger and come back and

1185
01:00:32,240 --> 01:00:34,440
Speaker 1: tell everyone because this does end in a way that

1186
01:00:34,560 --> 01:00:36,280
Speaker 1: there's a reason I asked on you to tell a story,

1187
01:00:36,320 --> 01:00:38,400
Speaker 1: because we're going to come back after this and find

1188
01:00:38,400 --> 01:00:44,160
Speaker 1: out why. All right, we're back. So he comes back

1189
01:00:44,400 --> 01:00:47,440
Speaker 1: after letting the first girl go, the two remaining girls,

1190
01:00:47,560 --> 01:00:49,360
Speaker 1: one of whom just goes, I knew you'd be the

1191
01:00:49,400 --> 01:00:51,320
Speaker 1: only one, meaning the only one he slept with. So

1192
01:00:51,360 --> 01:00:54,400
Speaker 1: she knows girl who slept with him is horrified that

1193
01:00:54,440 --> 01:00:56,760
Speaker 1: he has told this girl and that now her secret

1194
01:00:56,800 --> 01:00:59,040
Speaker 1: that she slept with the bachelor is out. And then

1195
01:00:59,080 --> 01:01:04,840
Speaker 1: what happens. Then Jake is only making eye contact with Katie,

1196
01:01:04,880 --> 01:01:07,760
Speaker 1: the woman he has yet number three, Girl number three,

1197
01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:09,840
Speaker 1: and he's just like, next week is going to be

1198
01:01:09,880 --> 01:01:13,320
Speaker 1: so great, meeting your family's just tunnel vision on. Katie

1199
01:01:13,480 --> 01:01:16,160
Speaker 1: has completely forgotten about the other woman that he had

1200
01:01:16,200 --> 01:01:19,600
Speaker 1: this very special night with, and all we see is

1201
01:01:19,640 --> 01:01:22,720
Speaker 1: cutting back to the girl, Girl number two, who's furious,

1202
01:01:22,800 --> 01:01:24,800
Speaker 1: pissed off and is staring at both of them like,

1203
01:01:25,160 --> 01:01:27,560
Speaker 1: all right, I'm just a third wheel here. He's already

1204
01:01:27,560 --> 01:01:30,880
Speaker 1: moved past her, he's over it. He's like focused on Katie,

1205
01:01:31,360 --> 01:01:35,880
Speaker 1: and it made me think of coming Now, Why Anya,

1206
01:01:35,960 --> 01:01:39,680
Speaker 1: you've synthesized this pretty well last night I was texting

1207
01:01:39,680 --> 01:01:41,440
Speaker 1: with you about it because you were filling me in.

1208
01:01:42,120 --> 01:01:44,880
Speaker 1: Why do you think he wasn't? And it's not just

1209
01:01:44,920 --> 01:01:47,240
Speaker 1: about that he's slept with her and he's bored with

1210
01:01:47,280 --> 01:01:49,640
Speaker 1: someone he's slept with already and he's already conquered it.

1211
01:01:50,080 --> 01:01:52,800
Speaker 1: What is it about a guy sleeping with someone who

1212
01:01:52,960 --> 01:01:57,840
Speaker 1: isn't um their actual boyfriend that makes this? Why do

1213
01:01:57,840 --> 01:02:01,680
Speaker 1: you think he liked her less? I think he didn't

1214
01:02:01,680 --> 01:02:06,720
Speaker 1: earn her. He didn't earn it. Really, it was too

1215
01:02:06,760 --> 01:02:09,400
Speaker 1: easy to come by. Still, he was still dating three

1216
01:02:09,440 --> 01:02:11,600
Speaker 1: women when she said, fine, I'll give you the one

1217
01:02:11,720 --> 01:02:14,560
Speaker 1: thing that is SA is supposed to be sacred, and

1218
01:02:14,600 --> 01:02:16,760
Speaker 1: I know some women are like, it's not sacred. I

1219
01:02:16,800 --> 01:02:19,040
Speaker 1: love sex. I want to give Men look at it

1220
01:02:19,080 --> 01:02:21,080
Speaker 1: as a sacred thing. They want to earn it, and

1221
01:02:21,120 --> 01:02:23,720
Speaker 1: as much as they beg for it and convince themselves

1222
01:02:23,720 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 1: that they want it whenever they can get it, they

1223
01:02:26,400 --> 01:02:29,080
Speaker 1: really want it when they've earned it. And they will

1224
01:02:29,120 --> 01:02:32,120
Speaker 1: only really stick around afterwards if they feel like they've

1225
01:02:32,120 --> 01:02:33,760
Speaker 1: earned it. And you're right, he didn't feel like he

1226
01:02:33,760 --> 01:02:36,640
Speaker 1: earned it because he didn't. He was dating three women

1227
01:02:36,720 --> 01:02:39,360
Speaker 1: still and they I'm sure they did make an adult

1228
01:02:39,360 --> 01:02:42,360
Speaker 1: decision together, and I'm sure the moment was great, but

1229
01:02:42,400 --> 01:02:45,680
Speaker 1: the problem is it wasn't an exclusive relationship yet. And

1230
01:02:45,760 --> 01:02:50,680
Speaker 1: the problem is women more than men, have this oxytocin

1231
01:02:50,760 --> 01:02:53,920
Speaker 1: thing that happens where even though we feel amazing in

1232
01:02:53,920 --> 01:02:55,800
Speaker 1: the moment and the sex was great and everything, if

1233
01:02:55,800 --> 01:02:57,840
Speaker 1: you break up with us after and choose someone else,

1234
01:02:57,880 --> 01:03:01,640
Speaker 1: it is heartbreaking. It is heartbreaking, Like it is hard

1235
01:03:01,680 --> 01:03:04,400
Speaker 1: to get over that because we're already bonded somewhat. We

1236
01:03:04,440 --> 01:03:06,600
Speaker 1: don't just shake it off, you know what I mean.

1237
01:03:07,040 --> 01:03:09,200
Speaker 1: Do you think he's still into this number three girl

1238
01:03:09,240 --> 01:03:14,080
Speaker 1: because she um, she's still like he hasn't gotten everything

1239
01:03:14,120 --> 01:03:16,200
Speaker 1: that he wants from her yet, and he really has

1240
01:03:16,200 --> 01:03:18,680
Speaker 1: gotten I mean, sex is kind of like it's done

1241
01:03:18,720 --> 01:03:22,640
Speaker 1: with them. I actually don't and maybe that's a controversial point,

1242
01:03:22,720 --> 01:03:25,200
Speaker 1: but I actually think he like he's always liked her

1243
01:03:25,240 --> 01:03:27,600
Speaker 1: a little. I think they have a deeper connection and

1244
01:03:27,640 --> 01:03:31,200
Speaker 1: like a more lasting connection, and she's a little less

1245
01:03:31,240 --> 01:03:33,280
Speaker 1: of a wild card than girl number two. Girl number

1246
01:03:33,280 --> 01:03:36,400
Speaker 1: two has some like problems, you know, so you're a

1247
01:03:36,400 --> 01:03:39,080
Speaker 1: little worried about her. I think, yeah, Like, they don't

1248
01:03:39,080 --> 01:03:41,560
Speaker 1: think it's going to go towards her. She's great, but

1249
01:03:41,600 --> 01:03:45,320
Speaker 1: they just don't have the solid chances the chances she

1250
01:03:45,400 --> 01:03:49,520
Speaker 1: wins percentage wise the girl number two to me, Wow,

1251
01:03:49,680 --> 01:03:54,320
Speaker 1: low percentage Okay, okay, so it still could happen. Not likely,

1252
01:03:54,880 --> 01:03:57,640
Speaker 1: just my opinion. Yeah, do you think if she didn't

1253
01:03:57,640 --> 01:04:02,360
Speaker 1: sleep with him that he would have been less? Like?

1254
01:04:02,680 --> 01:04:04,479
Speaker 1: Do you think that was a factor. Do you really

1255
01:04:04,840 --> 01:04:09,840
Speaker 1: believe that that of him being more focused on number three?

1256
01:04:10,400 --> 01:04:12,840
Speaker 1: I think it's a factor. Yeah, But I think that

1257
01:04:13,120 --> 01:04:15,560
Speaker 1: ultimately the connection is better with the third girl. I

1258
01:04:15,640 --> 01:04:18,000
Speaker 1: just think that they shouldn't have had sex because the

1259
01:04:18,080 --> 01:04:22,560
Speaker 1: girl's going to be heartbroken. Yes, I so much more

1260
01:04:22,600 --> 01:04:25,080
Speaker 1: than if she didn't. I read all the time in

1261
01:04:25,160 --> 01:04:28,600
Speaker 1: dating advice on Reddit of Girls saying I slept with

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Speaker 1: this guy. We had been dating five weeks. I finally

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Speaker 1: stop with him, and I haven't heard from him. He

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Speaker 1: went away for a week and he said he'd call

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Speaker 1: me when he got back to town, and I haven't

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Speaker 1: heard from him. Since and I slept with him the

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Speaker 1: night before he left. Why haven't I? And it's always

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Speaker 1: like I want to just get in there and go

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Speaker 1: read Getting two. I do read Getting two, I do

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Speaker 1: read like and it's the worst name for a book.

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Speaker 1: But it just sleeping with guys too soon before commitment

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Speaker 1: is always a bad idea, It just is. So the

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Speaker 1: thing Jake said, if that is his name, was he

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Speaker 1: goes it was very important to our relationship to make

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Speaker 1: that decision. It was important to further our relationship. And

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Speaker 1: I don't think that's the reason she had sex. Like

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Speaker 1: he thinks for them, it was really good for them,

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Speaker 1: it got them farther along. But I don't think that's

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Speaker 1: the reason she had I've had sex with guys because

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Speaker 1: I think that it's going to get us farther along,

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Speaker 1: and that that's the next step. It's like that's going

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Speaker 1: to push our relationship. Once we've had sex, now he's

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Speaker 1: going to almost feel more close to me. But it doesn't.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't. He's like he's like to Jake, I think

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Speaker 1: it means it's getting a step closer to where Katie

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Speaker 1: and I are girl number three, right, you know, like

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Speaker 1: they're now built intimacy, and it does think Girl number

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Speaker 1: two had any idea of that. Girls have sex early

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Speaker 1: on and it comes from like insecurity, and they think

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Speaker 1: that it'll move the relationship further head. That's why I've

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Speaker 1: done it too. I've done it because I'm like they,

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Speaker 1: because we only know our own experience, and I know

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Speaker 1: that when I have sex, I feel much closer with one.

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Speaker 1: It does. It does up my intimacy. It does that

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Speaker 1: for me, but it does not work the same way

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Speaker 1: with men. Brian, can you weigh in on this at all?

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Speaker 1: It removes them the awkwardness that you have during the

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Speaker 1: date of like am I gonna kiss you? Or can

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Speaker 1: how you know, touchy feely? Can we be so? Like

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Speaker 1: if you have sex then afterwards, that removes a lot

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Speaker 1: of the awkwardness. But I will say I've never had

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Speaker 1: like a one night stand that I appreciated, you know,

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Speaker 1: like the earlier the worst in my opinion, Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: um explain why? Yeah? Well, I think the first time

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Speaker 1: you have sex with somebody, it's it's already horrible, no

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Speaker 1: matter what. It's so awkward, no matter Yeah, I don't

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Speaker 1: think that it makes it better. I've had sex with

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Speaker 1: people and then I go on a date and we're like,

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Speaker 1: we don't know when we can touch each other. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I was like, my mouth was inches from your asshole?

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Speaker 1: Why is it? Why are we like picking out our

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Speaker 1: food and being so awkward like this is It doesn't

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Speaker 1: necessarily make things that much easier. Alcohol does, But until

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Speaker 1: that would to my blood stream, it was still awkward.

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Speaker 1: You can't enter that state again, like right out of

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Speaker 1: the gate um. But yet to tell me a little

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Speaker 1: bit more about why you think it sects me as

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Speaker 1: soon as not great? I mean, I can't tell I

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Speaker 1: can't speak for all men because I don't feel like

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Speaker 1: I'm a typical Okay, well, I think guys the truth

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Speaker 1: about from the West coast Man. Yeah, well the West

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Speaker 1: coast Man is just flowing with it and he's like,

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Speaker 1: you know, whatever happens happens, which I hate. Um, the

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Speaker 1: East coast Man is trying to conquer. So I think

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Speaker 1: it depends on what coast demands from. But I think

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Speaker 1: like the earlier you do it, the the more things

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Speaker 1: that you can discover about the person that you don't like. Honestly.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, one time, one time, I during my

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Speaker 1: year of dating, I uh, I slept with some woman

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Speaker 1: early and um, while while we were resting, she she

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Speaker 1: commented that my shoulders didn't have enough hair on them. M.

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Speaker 1: She said, do you about yourself? She's like, do you

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Speaker 1: shave your shoulders? And I was like no, but I

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01:08:13,960 --> 01:08:17,280
Speaker 1: did get famously with Tim Convey. I did get a

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Speaker 1: laser hair removal on my back and shoulders, so there's

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Speaker 1: less hair on my shoulders than my than my arms.

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Speaker 1: And she was like and she was like, that's hysterical,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, well, I definitely don't want to

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Speaker 1: date you if the first time. Yeah, we're doing that.

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Speaker 1: You're shaming your body, shaming about my shoulder hair, and

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Speaker 1: you know what that is. That's just her feeling really

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Speaker 1: insecure and needing to call out the things. She's so

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Speaker 1: worried you're gonna do that to her. She's doing it

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Speaker 1: to you before you can get to her. Yeah, I

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01:08:43,160 --> 01:08:46,880
Speaker 1: think that's what. And then she went she dated some

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Speaker 1: surf instructor and I was like, there's nobody he's got

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01:08:50,120 --> 01:08:54,759
Speaker 1: hair on his shoulders. Now there's hairless. They're hair lessons. Yeah. Um.

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Speaker 1: Final thought, Um, okay, so we can we get some

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Speaker 1: fan traxes? Is that what we have today. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: do have some of you want to look. Okay, let's

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Speaker 1: do some fanthrax. Yeah, okay, that really got me today

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Speaker 1: for some reason. Okay, let's hear what some besties have

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Speaker 1: to say. Okay, let's start off with a voicemail from Hadley. Hello,

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Speaker 1: I'm listening to the most recent episode where you talk

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Speaker 1: about the Reddit post of the people finding the creamatory

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Speaker 1: smoke in the daytime, and it just made me think

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Speaker 1: of my hometown. We had a funeral home that was

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Speaker 1: across the street from a local high school, and the

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Speaker 1: weights room was right across the street, and they would

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Speaker 1: open the window to work out, and they would have

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Speaker 1: to shut it in the morning because specifically in the morning,

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Speaker 1: they would burn the bodies and the smoke would come

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Speaker 1: out and it was really pungent and smelly, and so

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Speaker 1: they would have to keep the window closed. That's been

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Speaker 1: like a thing forever. The juicier part about the story

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Speaker 1: is that the funeral home was recently shut down and

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Speaker 1: condemned because the owner was mishandling the bodies. Oh God,

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Speaker 1: there was a complaint of a smell like a block away.

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Speaker 1: They did an investigation. They found several like rotting bodies,

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Speaker 1: it's really disgusting and disrespectful and hard to talk about.

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Speaker 1: But fetuses that had no connection to anyone, and they

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Speaker 1: have also suspected necrophilia, and he was going to trial

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Speaker 1: and probably going to jail. So you should look that

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Speaker 1: up because it's a really interesting case. Also makes me

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Speaker 1: think about a Twitter thread I saw today of morticians

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Speaker 1: talking about how they don't like to hire men because

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Speaker 1: they get caught fucking the bodies so we're never safe. Um, okay, cool, no,

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Speaker 1: thank you, Hadley. This is not surprising. Again, male guynecologists

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01:10:46,960 --> 01:10:50,120
Speaker 1: like get men out of men are by and large

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01:10:50,160 --> 01:10:56,439
Speaker 1: more sexually erratic and motivated to do weird stuff. So

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Speaker 1: if you want to have things not get fucked, don't

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Speaker 1: hire men no offense. Like of course you wouldn't, most

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01:11:05,320 --> 01:11:09,720
Speaker 1: men wouldn't, but like you women, fewer women would be

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Speaker 1: motivated to fuck up a dead corpse. Then. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I used to have a boyfriend that you know, and

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01:11:16,360 --> 01:11:18,439
Speaker 1: college stuck is dick in like a peanut butter jar,

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01:11:18,560 --> 01:11:20,280
Speaker 1: like just to see what it was like. Men do

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01:11:20,360 --> 01:11:25,400
Speaker 1: weird stuff, they're motivated, their hormones are going crazy, and um, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's really disturbing. I have to maintain though that I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't mind if someone tried to fuck me when I

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Speaker 1: was dead. I would be almost I don't think it's

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Speaker 1: a respectful thing. I'm horrified by that. Um that message.

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Speaker 1: But if you are a mortician out there creamator or

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Speaker 1: um and you come across my body, you can't fuck it. Um.

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Speaker 1: If I'm dead, I don't care. I don't think dead

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01:11:47,160 --> 01:11:49,280
Speaker 1: parents would sign off on that. Well, they don't get to.

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Speaker 1: I'm in charge of my dead body. I get to

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Speaker 1: say I this is in my living will and my

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Speaker 1: dead one. I don't care if you try to fuck

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Speaker 1: me because I'm dead, But I still don't think it's

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Speaker 1: right to do a matter why an age? Oh oh man,

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01:12:04,439 --> 01:12:09,040
Speaker 1: that's that's an interesting one. Noah wow, okay, um, you

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Speaker 1: are like this is almost dealing with the thing of pedophilia,

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01:12:11,560 --> 01:12:14,519
Speaker 1: where they're like, well if they make dummies of kids, like,

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01:12:14,680 --> 01:12:17,799
Speaker 1: is it okay? I'm saying from this age and beyond.

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01:12:18,320 --> 01:12:21,240
Speaker 1: Oh um. No. If someone wants to fuck my old

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01:12:21,320 --> 01:12:24,040
Speaker 1: body when I'm like ninety and die like also fine,

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01:12:24,120 --> 01:12:26,479
Speaker 1: they can fuck it at anytime because I'm dead. Again,

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01:12:27,160 --> 01:12:29,640
Speaker 1: if it's before the open casket, I'd ask you to

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01:12:29,640 --> 01:12:32,040
Speaker 1: have a little respect for my head, Like let's like

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01:12:32,200 --> 01:12:34,920
Speaker 1: keep my head looking okay and not with like come

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01:12:34,960 --> 01:12:37,120
Speaker 1: all over it, like don't really fuck it up, but

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01:12:37,240 --> 01:12:40,240
Speaker 1: the rest of my body go at it, don't care. Um,

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Speaker 1: have fun. He wouldn't just let you go out there covered.

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Speaker 1: He would wipe it off. No, but I feel like

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Speaker 1: it would like dent, like it would just like mush

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01:12:48,680 --> 01:12:50,760
Speaker 1: my skin, Like my face already is dead, Like I

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01:12:50,760 --> 01:12:53,080
Speaker 1: don't need like them like humping my face, like it

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01:12:53,120 --> 01:12:56,200
Speaker 1: would just just don't don't do it to my face. Yeah, okay,

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01:12:56,439 --> 01:12:57,840
Speaker 1: if this is the least I can ask for, and

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Speaker 1: I have teeth still, I'm guessing when I die. Um,

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Speaker 1: but that was a fascinating story. And it would be

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01:13:03,080 --> 01:13:04,960
Speaker 1: so weird to be working out and then all of

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01:13:05,000 --> 01:13:09,040
Speaker 1: a sudden, your grandpa's ashes like fly in the room.

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01:13:09,800 --> 01:13:12,920
Speaker 1: You're like heaving and hoeing as you're trying to like

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01:13:12,960 --> 01:13:16,479
Speaker 1: do have lat pull or whatever. Um, oh my god,

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01:13:16,560 --> 01:13:19,080
Speaker 1: that's curious at all. When she said I forgot the

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01:13:19,080 --> 01:13:23,439
Speaker 1: word a stred but like punging about pungent, Like I

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01:13:23,520 --> 01:13:28,719
Speaker 1: wonder what it smells like. Um, it smells like corpses. Oh,

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01:13:28,720 --> 01:13:31,519
Speaker 1: really pungent. It makes me think of like tangy and

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01:13:31,640 --> 01:13:36,240
Speaker 1: like like rotting pungent. Yeah, yeah, I mean that's what

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01:13:36,280 --> 01:13:38,760
Speaker 1: they always say, people that have smelled a dead body,

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Speaker 1: which I've never smelled a dead human body to my knowledge,

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01:13:41,840 --> 01:13:44,520
Speaker 1: but people that have smelled it say it's the most unforgettable,

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01:13:44,640 --> 01:13:47,240
Speaker 1: awful scent ever. Have you, guys, ever smelled a dead body? Yes?

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01:13:47,320 --> 01:13:51,840
Speaker 1: I lived, you have I know a dead human I

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01:13:51,920 --> 01:13:55,080
Speaker 1: lived in a house where a neighbor passed away and

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01:13:55,120 --> 01:13:59,520
Speaker 1: they and we found out because of the smell. Oh

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01:13:59,560 --> 01:14:02,360
Speaker 1: so you sometimes sometimes you die and you have no

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01:14:02,400 --> 01:14:04,599
Speaker 1: one and then you just sit there in your living

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01:14:04,640 --> 01:14:07,880
Speaker 1: room until someone smells it, until someone smells it. Yeah. Yeah.

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01:14:09,160 --> 01:14:11,680
Speaker 1: I was on the subway, um, coming home from a

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01:14:11,720 --> 01:14:15,200
Speaker 1: Guns and Roses concert. It wasn't really Guns and Roses.

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01:14:15,200 --> 01:14:17,479
Speaker 1: It was just like them like reuniting in like this

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01:14:17,560 --> 01:14:20,120
Speaker 1: new band, and there was a homeless man on the

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01:14:20,160 --> 01:14:25,360
Speaker 1: subway and it's like a like this like sour chemical smell. Yeah,

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01:14:25,880 --> 01:14:29,920
Speaker 1: train smelled it. If you can you still smell it now,

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01:14:30,360 --> 01:14:32,800
Speaker 1: like if you Yes, that's that's what they describe it as.

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01:14:32,880 --> 01:14:36,559
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful I have never smelled it again. Um, well,

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01:14:36,600 --> 01:14:38,040
Speaker 1: I hope you smell it soon for that guy who

1451
01:14:38,120 --> 01:14:42,280
Speaker 1: kills possums. Fuck that guy, Oh my god, who's tortures possums.

1452
01:14:42,320 --> 01:14:44,559
Speaker 1: I hope that guy that smell admits from his house soon.

1453
01:14:44,600 --> 01:14:46,559
Speaker 1: I hope someone traps him and lets him just fucking

1454
01:14:46,640 --> 01:14:49,639
Speaker 1: die in the cage. Hate that asshole so much. Literally,

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01:14:49,680 --> 01:14:53,400
Speaker 1: I hope he dies um okay next to Fantrax. Okay,

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01:14:53,560 --> 01:15:00,560
Speaker 1: let's uh hate him. Sorry, aunty U just listening to

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Speaker 1: the episode where Nikki you were talking about how used

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Speaker 1: to go into chat rooms in like the late nineties

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01:15:07,320 --> 01:15:11,840
Speaker 1: and talk to those wolf people and kind of make

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01:15:11,880 --> 01:15:14,599
Speaker 1: fun of that. But it made me think about how

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01:15:14,640 --> 01:15:17,000
Speaker 1: when I was like fourteen with my best friend Sarah Jones,

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01:15:17,439 --> 01:15:19,200
Speaker 1: we would go into those chat rooms and we were

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Speaker 1: talking to this guy and his name was Ryan Sarge,

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01:15:21,920 --> 01:15:26,360
Speaker 1: and we used to like send him pictures and we

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01:15:26,400 --> 01:15:28,960
Speaker 1: would pretend like it was our pussies, but we was

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01:15:29,000 --> 01:15:31,040
Speaker 1: like our lips from our face, and we'd hold our

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01:15:31,080 --> 01:15:33,760
Speaker 1: hair in front of our lips and then scan it

1468
01:15:33,840 --> 01:15:36,719
Speaker 1: on my dad's scanner in his office, and then we'd

1469
01:15:36,720 --> 01:15:39,479
Speaker 1: send him those and pretend it was our pussy like

1470
01:15:40,600 --> 01:15:43,120
Speaker 1: you'd need to shave, And so we just stopped talking

1471
01:15:43,120 --> 01:15:50,839
Speaker 1: to him in chat rooms, love you uh juicy pussy.

1472
01:15:50,920 --> 01:15:53,320
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's so funny. I get to see

1473
01:15:53,320 --> 01:15:56,639
Speaker 1: these little girls like slamming their faces into a scanner,

1474
01:15:56,720 --> 01:15:59,080
Speaker 1: like the dad's scanner, lifting up that screen and like

1475
01:15:59,120 --> 01:16:01,639
Speaker 1: it's clanking on their head as they just like smushed

1476
01:16:01,720 --> 01:16:04,680
Speaker 1: their faces. That I have one at home. Now I

1477
01:16:04,680 --> 01:16:08,959
Speaker 1: know what I'm doing with my afternoon. Yeah, O my god, Um,

1478
01:16:09,040 --> 01:16:11,600
Speaker 1: that is so funny. Did you ever um go on

1479
01:16:11,720 --> 01:16:14,040
Speaker 1: chat rooms? Brian? You're of the age? How old are

1480
01:16:14,040 --> 01:16:18,160
Speaker 1: you again? Thirty seven? Thirty five? And I have tell

1481
01:16:18,200 --> 01:16:24,320
Speaker 1: your face like two years? You know. I did actually

1482
01:16:24,320 --> 01:16:28,200
Speaker 1: get I got botox yesterday for my job. What's really

1483
01:16:28,479 --> 01:16:31,880
Speaker 1: I got? Bird? I got It's not for wrinkles. It's

1484
01:16:31,880 --> 01:16:36,040
Speaker 1: because I have excruciating pain in my jaw and they

1485
01:16:36,040 --> 01:16:39,439
Speaker 1: injected me with bowtime about dying? Yeah, well yes, because

1486
01:16:39,439 --> 01:16:41,840
Speaker 1: I clenched my teeth at night thinking about all the

1487
01:16:41,840 --> 01:16:48,160
Speaker 1: horror of non existing constantly. Sometimes wake up scream. This

1488
01:16:48,360 --> 01:16:53,880
Speaker 1: is the song Anti here, I wake up screaming from

1489
01:16:53,960 --> 01:16:58,000
Speaker 1: dreaming one day all watch as I'm leaving. That is

1490
01:16:58,080 --> 01:17:00,880
Speaker 1: so funny. Okay, so you got botox in your jaw.

1491
01:17:00,920 --> 01:17:04,719
Speaker 1: That's awesome. Oh yeah, and she feels so much better. Well,

1492
01:17:04,760 --> 01:17:06,439
Speaker 1: you know, I think it takes a few days to

1493
01:17:06,560 --> 01:17:10,000
Speaker 1: like kick in, but I have to say the first day.

1494
01:17:10,040 --> 01:17:12,200
Speaker 1: This is the first morning, and I do feel a

1495
01:17:12,240 --> 01:17:16,720
Speaker 1: little better. Yes, I feel better. That's cool. Yeah, I

1496
01:17:16,760 --> 01:17:21,160
Speaker 1: just got botox in my forehead because I forehead is Yeah,

1497
01:17:21,200 --> 01:17:26,360
Speaker 1: I've been stressing, screaming a rate that I've sleeped on

1498
01:17:26,360 --> 01:17:33,640
Speaker 1: my long way. Oh my god, that's exciting. Okay, so

1499
01:17:33,720 --> 01:17:36,439
Speaker 1: let's listen to then. Oh yeah, I was gonna ask

1500
01:17:36,439 --> 01:17:38,160
Speaker 1: you about chat rooms, but we'll talk about another time.

1501
01:17:38,240 --> 01:17:42,680
Speaker 1: Let's go to another fan rex. Okay, Um, do you

1502
01:17:42,720 --> 01:17:48,200
Speaker 1: want sad advice or like regular advice? Sad advice? Because

1503
01:17:48,200 --> 01:17:50,639
Speaker 1: I feel bad not saying sad advice like that would

1504
01:17:50,800 --> 01:17:54,240
Speaker 1: encourage you, not tell me sad things. All right, and

1505
01:17:54,320 --> 01:18:01,120
Speaker 1: I want to be Yeah, let's hello Nikki. Noah, Sorry

1506
01:18:01,120 --> 01:18:03,200
Speaker 1: in advanced my questions a bit of a sad one.

1507
01:18:04,200 --> 01:18:06,719
Speaker 1: I just wanted to pull the group on a money

1508
01:18:06,800 --> 01:18:10,559
Speaker 1: ish question since that's kind of been one of the

1509
01:18:10,600 --> 01:18:14,639
Speaker 1: topics as of late. When just thinking about how when

1510
01:18:14,640 --> 01:18:20,479
Speaker 1: Anya brought up yearly earnings versus what you would spend

1511
01:18:20,520 --> 01:18:24,240
Speaker 1: on a hotel room, for example, Yeah, my dog was

1512
01:18:24,400 --> 01:18:28,200
Speaker 1: diagnosed with cancer this week, So I'm just trying to

1513
01:18:28,479 --> 01:18:33,439
Speaker 1: wrap my head around what's an appropriate number, What is

1514
01:18:33,479 --> 01:18:37,439
Speaker 1: something that makes sense for a seven year old dog?

1515
01:18:37,960 --> 01:18:40,719
Speaker 1: He just seems so young. You know, we all expect

1516
01:18:40,720 --> 01:18:43,880
Speaker 1: to have a lot more time. That's not always the case.

1517
01:18:46,320 --> 01:18:49,040
Speaker 1: Ah he sorry, I'll say it again. He's seven years old.

1518
01:18:49,120 --> 01:18:51,639
Speaker 1: He's a bullmasted cross. He's about one hundred and thirty

1519
01:18:51,680 --> 01:18:55,719
Speaker 1: five pounds. He's got humanized I just want to hear

1520
01:18:55,840 --> 01:18:57,839
Speaker 1: what you ladies would do if you're in my shoes.

1521
01:18:58,400 --> 01:19:01,800
Speaker 1: I'm in Canada, so emo costs are a little bit

1522
01:19:01,880 --> 01:19:09,320
Speaker 1: higher down here for us anyways. Hoping sorry, he just snored.

1523
01:19:10,960 --> 01:19:14,840
Speaker 1: Hoping you guys can make this a little light and

1524
01:19:15,400 --> 01:19:17,880
Speaker 1: give some advice for me and anyone else who's been

1525
01:19:17,920 --> 01:19:22,360
Speaker 1: in my situation. What you think we should do? Oh?

1526
01:19:23,680 --> 01:19:30,320
Speaker 1: Jacked up? Pet bellum Man, I'm so sorry. Next to one,

1527
01:19:30,400 --> 01:19:35,439
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding this next question now, this sucks. I'm

1528
01:19:35,479 --> 01:19:39,880
Speaker 1: so so sorry. What is her name again? It's anonymous? Okay, um,

1529
01:19:39,920 --> 01:19:44,599
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry about your dog of seven years. It's

1530
01:19:44,880 --> 01:19:47,400
Speaker 1: fucking terrible. My sister's dog just had to be put

1531
01:19:47,439 --> 01:19:50,800
Speaker 1: down last week because of probably cancer issues like just

1532
01:19:50,840 --> 01:19:55,600
Speaker 1: tumors and um just too much complications. Also like a

1533
01:19:55,720 --> 01:19:59,880
Speaker 1: hundred and something pound dog um twelve years old, those

1534
01:20:00,040 --> 01:20:04,719
Speaker 1: so a little bit more life behind it to justify like, Okay,

1535
01:20:04,800 --> 01:20:08,960
Speaker 1: maybe it's time for it to go, so um, I

1536
01:20:09,040 --> 01:20:11,599
Speaker 1: can't you know, I wish I would have know, Like

1537
01:20:12,439 --> 01:20:17,240
Speaker 1: how much you like you shouldn't go homeless saving your dog?

1538
01:20:17,479 --> 01:20:22,680
Speaker 1: I don't think right like we have to that's I

1539
01:20:22,720 --> 01:20:27,040
Speaker 1: would financially, But then there's always like go fund means,

1540
01:20:27,080 --> 01:20:29,919
Speaker 1: and you're like, maybe I could get people to donate

1541
01:20:30,080 --> 01:20:37,720
Speaker 1: enough and do something like, um, try every avenue. I

1542
01:20:36,800 --> 01:20:42,000
Speaker 1: I would measure how horrible it would be for your

1543
01:20:42,000 --> 01:20:45,479
Speaker 1: dog to go through this, and what the outcome, how

1544
01:20:45,560 --> 01:20:47,720
Speaker 1: much life and what kind of what the quality of

1545
01:20:47,760 --> 01:20:50,800
Speaker 1: life would be for your dog. The nice thing about

1546
01:20:50,800 --> 01:20:53,160
Speaker 1: having animals, and I have to say that this, even

1547
01:20:53,160 --> 01:20:57,639
Speaker 1: though this is sad thing, you can euthanize them, unless

1548
01:20:58,240 --> 01:21:00,400
Speaker 1: unlike humans where you just have to wait for them

1549
01:21:00,439 --> 01:21:04,719
Speaker 1: to choke on their own vomit and die or like

1550
01:21:04,960 --> 01:21:07,559
Speaker 1: just die of old age. Like you can put them

1551
01:21:07,560 --> 01:21:10,000
Speaker 1: out of their misery and give them like a nice

1552
01:21:10,040 --> 01:21:12,320
Speaker 1: send off surrounded by like love, and they kind of

1553
01:21:12,320 --> 01:21:15,080
Speaker 1: just go to sleep and it's painless and it's humane,

1554
01:21:15,479 --> 01:21:17,599
Speaker 1: and that is like the cool thing that we get

1555
01:21:17,640 --> 01:21:20,280
Speaker 1: to do for our pets. So it's not as much

1556
01:21:20,280 --> 01:21:22,720
Speaker 1: as it is like a horrible thing like and that

1557
01:21:22,880 --> 01:21:25,360
Speaker 1: it is kind of your choice, and it feels like, oh,

1558
01:21:25,400 --> 01:21:29,360
Speaker 1: I'm choosing to kill my dog, like you're choosing to

1559
01:21:29,640 --> 01:21:32,360
Speaker 1: not have it suffer, as my thought, like a lot

1560
01:21:32,400 --> 01:21:34,639
Speaker 1: of people think that. Because I'm vegan, I never want

1561
01:21:34,680 --> 01:21:37,320
Speaker 1: dogs to like be put down or like cats and stuff.

1562
01:21:37,439 --> 01:21:39,920
Speaker 1: And I'm actually a big advocate for putting animals down

1563
01:21:39,920 --> 01:21:42,479
Speaker 1: when they're suffering or when they have to spend their

1564
01:21:42,520 --> 01:21:44,680
Speaker 1: lives in a small cage. I think they should. I

1565
01:21:44,720 --> 01:21:46,280
Speaker 1: think in a lot of ways it'd be better to

1566
01:21:46,400 --> 01:21:49,400
Speaker 1: just put them down because it's just the worst life

1567
01:21:49,479 --> 01:21:53,439
Speaker 1: to be lonely in a cage. So I just would

1568
01:21:53,479 --> 01:21:57,880
Speaker 1: weigh the suffering. And in terms of money, I mean,

1569
01:21:57,960 --> 01:22:00,200
Speaker 1: what do you what do you? What are your guys's thoughts.

1570
01:22:01,600 --> 01:22:05,519
Speaker 1: I think that definitely how much money she makes factors in.

1571
01:22:05,720 --> 01:22:09,439
Speaker 1: But I will say this, there is an option between

1572
01:22:10,360 --> 01:22:13,400
Speaker 1: putting the dog down and chemotherapy, and that is just

1573
01:22:13,560 --> 01:22:18,080
Speaker 1: letting nature take its course. I was visiting a farm

1574
01:22:18,160 --> 01:22:21,160
Speaker 1: one time, and they had this dog who had cancer

1575
01:22:21,800 --> 01:22:25,040
Speaker 1: for like four or five years and there was a

1576
01:22:25,040 --> 01:22:28,879
Speaker 1: tumor growing on its back that was literally the size

1577
01:22:29,040 --> 01:22:32,000
Speaker 1: of like a couch cushion. It was, it was like

1578
01:22:32,040 --> 01:22:33,639
Speaker 1: the size of it. It It was like crazy, like we'd

1579
01:22:33,680 --> 01:22:35,720
Speaker 1: see this thing and be like, isn't is that? Did

1580
01:22:35,760 --> 01:22:37,320
Speaker 1: you need to do something about that? And the and

1581
01:22:37,360 --> 01:22:41,519
Speaker 1: the farmer was like just letting it go. And the

1582
01:22:41,600 --> 01:22:44,599
Speaker 1: dog was perfectly happy. It had a tumor the size

1583
01:22:44,640 --> 01:22:46,760
Speaker 1: of a couch cushion, but it was running around, it

1584
01:22:46,800 --> 01:22:49,200
Speaker 1: was eating its food, it was still you know, and

1585
01:22:49,320 --> 01:22:55,040
Speaker 1: like that was like four or five years and d yeah, yeah,

1586
01:22:56,560 --> 01:22:58,920
Speaker 1: and people were finding coins underneath it, and I'm with

1587
01:22:59,080 --> 01:23:02,040
Speaker 1: ban my friend just went through this with her dog,

1588
01:23:02,120 --> 01:23:04,720
Speaker 1: and um, you know, they did what they could and

1589
01:23:04,760 --> 01:23:08,599
Speaker 1: this is a very wealthy friend. But ultimately the dog

1590
01:23:08,920 --> 01:23:12,200
Speaker 1: just basically, you know, was living with cancer for a

1591
01:23:12,240 --> 01:23:15,680
Speaker 1: few years and they gave it a good sendoff and

1592
01:23:15,720 --> 01:23:18,600
Speaker 1: had the vet come to the house and euthanize it

1593
01:23:19,120 --> 01:23:24,760
Speaker 1: up thousand dollars to No, it's not that much, it's

1594
01:23:24,800 --> 01:23:29,320
Speaker 1: not that much. But I would also, yeah, like Nikki said,

1595
01:23:29,360 --> 01:23:32,880
Speaker 1: like what how much is this chemotherapy? How much is

1596
01:23:32,920 --> 01:23:35,840
Speaker 1: this in relation to it? You make do not feel

1597
01:23:35,880 --> 01:23:38,760
Speaker 1: badly if you have to make the choice to euthanize

1598
01:23:38,760 --> 01:23:41,240
Speaker 1: the dog, but also talked to about salary. Oh wait,

1599
01:23:41,280 --> 01:23:44,920
Speaker 1: that's a wedding ring. Talk to the vet about how

1600
01:23:45,400 --> 01:23:47,400
Speaker 1: how the dog's life would be if it could just

1601
01:23:47,439 --> 01:23:51,120
Speaker 1: live with this for yeah, yeah, there's no guarantee. Just

1602
01:23:51,160 --> 01:23:53,679
Speaker 1: because you're diagnosed with cancer does not mean you're gonna die.

1603
01:23:53,920 --> 01:23:58,200
Speaker 1: And you know too much for some reason, when I start,

1604
01:23:58,240 --> 01:24:01,040
Speaker 1: I remember not that long ago, like I just started.

1605
01:24:01,479 --> 01:24:04,960
Speaker 1: My world opened up, maybe on Instagram or something to

1606
01:24:05,200 --> 01:24:07,320
Speaker 1: people who just live with cancer, and they're just like,

1607
01:24:07,360 --> 01:24:09,800
Speaker 1: I have cancer for twenty years now. I'm like, wait, what,

1608
01:24:10,920 --> 01:24:14,000
Speaker 1: like you can I mean, I don't know anything about cancer,

1609
01:24:14,000 --> 01:24:16,400
Speaker 1: so I should just shut the fuck up. But yeah,

1610
01:24:16,439 --> 01:24:18,559
Speaker 1: I think that's an interesting option of just like letting

1611
01:24:18,640 --> 01:24:21,120
Speaker 1: nature take its course until life is so miserable for

1612
01:24:21,200 --> 01:24:24,679
Speaker 1: your dog and then doing what's necessary to like ease

1613
01:24:24,760 --> 01:24:27,759
Speaker 1: it's pain and send it off to the next realm

1614
01:24:27,840 --> 01:24:30,519
Speaker 1: that it will experience. If or you can get your

1615
01:24:30,520 --> 01:24:32,240
Speaker 1: dog to do DMT now and you guys can get

1616
01:24:32,240 --> 01:24:35,040
Speaker 1: together and you can both accept it. It's you'll be

1617
01:24:35,080 --> 01:24:37,760
Speaker 1: together in some other realm M Noah as someone who

1618
01:24:37,960 --> 01:24:41,519
Speaker 1: had a dog that died of cancer, right answer, yeah, yeah,

1619
01:24:41,960 --> 01:24:44,840
Speaker 1: what are your thoughts? So I think I'm like in

1620
01:24:44,880 --> 01:24:48,280
Speaker 1: between Brian and Anya. Definitely talk to the vet, see

1621
01:24:48,320 --> 01:24:51,400
Speaker 1: what the dog's quality of life is and also what

1622
01:24:51,479 --> 01:24:53,960
Speaker 1: your quality of life will be like. For example, with

1623
01:24:54,000 --> 01:24:57,679
Speaker 1: my dog Bruno, the tumor grew in a way where

1624
01:24:57,840 --> 01:25:01,040
Speaker 1: I would have to get him over to the hospital

1625
01:25:01,160 --> 01:25:04,479
Speaker 1: and they'd put a catheter to empty his bladder. So

1626
01:25:04,560 --> 01:25:06,080
Speaker 1: that was not like a thing I was going to

1627
01:25:06,200 --> 01:25:10,879
Speaker 1: do to keep my dog alive for another five years. UM. Also,

1628
01:25:11,000 --> 01:25:13,519
Speaker 1: I want to say that UM, I was very lucky

1629
01:25:13,640 --> 01:25:18,400
Speaker 1: because the doctor that UM in the emergency hospital of

1630
01:25:18,520 --> 01:25:23,759
Speaker 1: ERG in Brooklyn. He UM runs up like a pet

1631
01:25:23,800 --> 01:25:30,400
Speaker 1: rescue charity for people who can't afford medical expenses or

1632
01:25:30,640 --> 01:25:35,519
Speaker 1: UM rescuing um animals that don't have homes and stuff

1633
01:25:35,520 --> 01:25:39,240
Speaker 1: like that and providing them with medical treatment. And when

1634
01:25:39,320 --> 01:25:43,559
Speaker 1: I like, so, I would drive my dog Brunal like

1635
01:25:43,560 --> 01:25:45,240
Speaker 1: an hour and a half out of the city just

1636
01:25:45,280 --> 01:25:49,160
Speaker 1: to save money on the VET than have like being

1637
01:25:49,160 --> 01:25:51,360
Speaker 1: in New York City. And when I was like, oh,

1638
01:25:51,400 --> 01:25:53,760
Speaker 1: you know, can I just like wait one more day

1639
01:25:53,800 --> 01:25:57,200
Speaker 1: before you put the catheter the catheter in and take

1640
01:25:57,280 --> 01:25:59,120
Speaker 1: him to his regular vet. So I think he like,

1641
01:25:59,160 --> 01:26:01,439
Speaker 1: you know, he knew that I was concerned about the bills,

1642
01:26:02,240 --> 01:26:06,200
Speaker 1: so um, he was just like, don't worry about it,

1643
01:26:06,240 --> 01:26:08,880
Speaker 1: and he like entered me as a candidate into this

1644
01:26:09,479 --> 01:26:14,200
Speaker 1: pet rescue mission UM thing like totally unbeknownst to me

1645
01:26:14,240 --> 01:26:16,080
Speaker 1: because he knew what was going to happen and he

1646
01:26:16,080 --> 01:26:17,680
Speaker 1: didn't want that stress on it. It was like very

1647
01:26:17,760 --> 01:26:20,680
Speaker 1: very kind um. And then in return, I started to

1648
01:26:20,800 --> 01:26:23,559
Speaker 1: go fund me for Bruno and I paid the money

1649
01:26:23,600 --> 01:26:27,120
Speaker 1: back for someone else to have the same um experience

1650
01:26:27,160 --> 01:26:30,160
Speaker 1: that I had. So there are organizations out there that

1651
01:26:30,200 --> 01:26:34,240
Speaker 1: you can reach out to and they're very like sympathetic

1652
01:26:34,280 --> 01:26:38,160
Speaker 1: and kind and you know, just like weigh it all together.

1653
01:26:38,200 --> 01:26:40,160
Speaker 1: But also I think a very important thing is to

1654
01:26:40,200 --> 01:26:45,760
Speaker 1: take into consideration the costs of um euthanizing your dog,

1655
01:26:45,800 --> 01:26:47,800
Speaker 1: which is a very hard thing to look at it,

1656
01:26:47,840 --> 01:26:50,160
Speaker 1: and also what you're gonna do with the body and

1657
01:26:50,200 --> 01:26:54,400
Speaker 1: how much that costs? Oh right, I mean is it

1658
01:26:54,439 --> 01:26:57,360
Speaker 1: a lot? And it's one you have someone fuck your

1659
01:26:57,400 --> 01:27:06,960
Speaker 1: dog discounts that should be an option. That should be

1660
01:27:07,000 --> 01:27:08,880
Speaker 1: an option you should be able to check that off

1661
01:27:08,880 --> 01:27:13,840
Speaker 1: before you die for a discount the mortician. Honestly, wait

1662
01:27:13,880 --> 01:27:17,200
Speaker 1: a second, that sucks that. It's so so if is

1663
01:27:17,240 --> 01:27:19,120
Speaker 1: it free? If you're like just throw them in the dumpster?

1664
01:27:19,240 --> 01:27:23,680
Speaker 1: Is it free? Well? I I buried Bruno in someone's backyard,

1665
01:27:23,880 --> 01:27:26,160
Speaker 1: so that was free for me. So that was free. Yes, Okay,

1666
01:27:26,240 --> 01:27:30,160
Speaker 1: that's good. Did you was that hard to dig? Oh?

1667
01:27:30,240 --> 01:27:33,320
Speaker 1: My god? Well yes, taking into the ground is so hard.

1668
01:27:33,320 --> 01:27:36,600
Speaker 1: I mean Jeffrey Dahmer and he there's multiple stories of

1669
01:27:36,680 --> 01:27:39,600
Speaker 1: him trying to exuom bodies to fuck them, and he

1670
01:27:39,640 --> 01:27:42,080
Speaker 1: would always get tired because he's like, it's so much

1671
01:27:42,120 --> 01:27:44,679
Speaker 1: deeper than you think in the ground is so cold

1672
01:27:44,760 --> 01:27:47,679
Speaker 1: and wet and hard. And that's always what I remember,

1673
01:27:47,760 --> 01:27:49,360
Speaker 1: is like digging a grave is a lot harder than

1674
01:27:49,360 --> 01:27:51,920
Speaker 1: people think it is. Most people give up, and that's

1675
01:27:51,920 --> 01:27:55,880
Speaker 1: why bodies are found after like us light flooding is

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01:27:55,920 --> 01:27:58,080
Speaker 1: because people don't dig them deep enough. That's why it's

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01:27:58,120 --> 01:28:01,040
Speaker 1: like it has to be six feet you know, it's

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01:28:01,040 --> 01:28:03,120
Speaker 1: hard to get down that far. Did you ever hear

1679
01:28:03,160 --> 01:28:06,240
Speaker 1: that that Norm McDonald bit about what he would do.

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01:28:07,080 --> 01:28:09,880
Speaker 1: It's on his last album where it's like I would

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01:28:09,880 --> 01:28:11,880
Speaker 1: go into the woods and I would dig a very

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01:28:12,280 --> 01:28:16,679
Speaker 1: very very deep grave. Do you ever hear that bit? No? No,

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01:28:16,760 --> 01:28:18,640
Speaker 1: what is it? Well, that's the bit. I mean, I

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01:28:18,680 --> 01:28:22,519
Speaker 1: don't want to I can't do it justice. So but

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01:28:22,520 --> 01:28:26,200
Speaker 1: but Norm McDonald says it's funny. But yeah, I have

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01:28:26,240 --> 01:28:28,479
Speaker 1: to say that there was a friend of mine who

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01:28:28,520 --> 01:28:31,080
Speaker 1: had a problem with their animal and they were like,

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01:28:31,160 --> 01:28:34,160
Speaker 1: do do I What do I do? Like, Um, I

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01:28:34,200 --> 01:28:36,760
Speaker 1: have this animal that is like bites everyone and it's

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01:28:36,800 --> 01:28:40,240
Speaker 1: like causing my life so much turmoil. Do I like

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01:28:40,520 --> 01:28:42,439
Speaker 1: take take a risk and fly out to go get

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01:28:42,439 --> 01:28:44,240
Speaker 1: it and think it's not gonna bite my life and

1693
01:28:44,240 --> 01:28:45,960
Speaker 1: fuck it up? And I was like, you should just

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01:28:46,000 --> 01:28:50,080
Speaker 1: put it down. He keep suggesting people put down their

1695
01:28:50,120 --> 01:28:53,400
Speaker 1: animals this week, and I swear to God I I

1696
01:28:53,600 --> 01:28:56,240
Speaker 1: fucking love animals. But like, why am I the only

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01:28:56,320 --> 01:28:58,720
Speaker 1: one who ever thinks that it's a good idea to

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01:28:58,800 --> 01:29:02,200
Speaker 1: just like put things. But I'm also you know, slightly

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01:29:02,280 --> 01:29:05,120
Speaker 1: suicidal and have those ideations where I'm like, I think

1700
01:29:05,160 --> 01:29:08,200
Speaker 1: death is a sweet release. So I've always kind of like,

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01:29:08,600 --> 01:29:11,120
Speaker 1: I think that's the better option. So I don't want

1702
01:29:11,120 --> 01:29:13,240
Speaker 1: people to misconstrue me telling this girl to put her

1703
01:29:13,240 --> 01:29:15,799
Speaker 1: dog down. As like I'm being heartless and like careless.

1704
01:29:15,840 --> 01:29:18,760
Speaker 1: I'm actually just coming at it from a perspective of

1705
01:29:18,800 --> 01:29:22,040
Speaker 1: someone who, like I hope someone puts me down, like

1706
01:29:22,120 --> 01:29:24,920
Speaker 1: I hope there's the option for euthanization when I get

1707
01:29:24,960 --> 01:29:27,280
Speaker 1: to the point where I'm in so much pain instead

1708
01:29:27,320 --> 01:29:30,679
Speaker 1: of just waiting for it to because I because people

1709
01:29:30,720 --> 01:29:32,599
Speaker 1: are too scared to like see me die, they just

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01:29:32,600 --> 01:29:36,080
Speaker 1: have to watch me die from natural causes. So that

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01:29:36,160 --> 01:29:37,960
Speaker 1: was my point there. But it is hilarious to me

1712
01:29:38,000 --> 01:29:40,559
Speaker 1: that this week on the Girl's Chat, I gave advice

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01:29:40,720 --> 01:29:43,280
Speaker 1: for someone to put down their cat and no one

1714
01:29:43,400 --> 01:29:45,479
Speaker 1: co signed on it. Everyone was like, I think there's

1715
01:29:45,479 --> 01:29:47,880
Speaker 1: a different perspective here, and I was the first to

1716
01:29:47,920 --> 01:29:49,960
Speaker 1: be like, oh me, me, me, put your cat down.

1717
01:29:50,320 --> 01:29:51,800
Speaker 1: I was like, I'll go with you to do it.

1718
01:29:51,960 --> 01:29:53,840
Speaker 1: Not because I'm like excited for this cat to die,

1719
01:29:53,880 --> 01:29:56,360
Speaker 1: but I'm just like, oh, I just don't see another option.

1720
01:29:56,520 --> 01:29:59,680
Speaker 1: I just don't. But obviously there's many other options. So

1721
01:30:00,560 --> 01:30:03,040
Speaker 1: thank you for your SADU fan trax. It didn't turn

1722
01:30:03,080 --> 01:30:05,120
Speaker 1: out to be very funny because we were able to

1723
01:30:05,160 --> 01:30:07,360
Speaker 1: make some jokes, but I am really really sorry for

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01:30:07,400 --> 01:30:10,759
Speaker 1: what you're going through and it makes me just Yeah,

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01:30:10,880 --> 01:30:13,800
Speaker 1: animals suffering is just too much to comprehend, and you

1726
01:30:13,880 --> 01:30:16,479
Speaker 1: gotta make jokes. So thank you for the disturbing dark

1727
01:30:16,479 --> 01:30:20,040
Speaker 1: fan traxes today. Guys. Good job. Keep them coming. We

1728
01:30:20,080 --> 01:30:22,559
Speaker 1: will get to them at some point. I am on

1729
01:30:22,640 --> 01:30:25,800
Speaker 1: tour again this weekend. If you were in Spokane, Washington

1730
01:30:26,479 --> 01:30:29,800
Speaker 1: or Eugene, Oregon in those areas, I will be there

1731
01:30:29,920 --> 01:30:32,920
Speaker 1: this weekend, and then the weekend after that I think

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01:30:33,080 --> 01:30:35,840
Speaker 1: I'm oh, I'm in Palm Springs on a girls trip,

1733
01:30:35,880 --> 01:30:37,439
Speaker 1: and then the weekend after that I'm going to be

1734
01:30:37,520 --> 01:30:40,040
Speaker 1: in Las Vegas. Are there any other dates that I

1735
01:30:40,040 --> 01:30:42,320
Speaker 1: can plug Anya that you know of. It's not till

1736
01:30:42,360 --> 01:30:46,400
Speaker 1: April fourteenth in Bethlehem, PA. And then April fifteenth in Hampton,

1737
01:30:46,479 --> 01:30:52,240
Speaker 1: New Hampshire. Yeah, tuson Arizona AA April twenty seventh. I'm

1738
01:30:52,280 --> 01:30:54,559
Speaker 1: going to see Taylor Swift on April second. That's a

1739
01:30:54,600 --> 01:30:59,320
Speaker 1: big deal. I also watch the Kennedy Center Awards this

1740
01:30:59,400 --> 01:31:03,160
Speaker 1: Sunday for the Mark Twain Prize for um Adam Sandler.

1741
01:31:03,240 --> 01:31:06,759
Speaker 1: That will be on CNN on Sunday night. UM watch

1742
01:31:06,840 --> 01:31:10,559
Speaker 1: the iHeart Music Radio Awards on Monday night. I will

1743
01:31:10,600 --> 01:31:13,280
Speaker 1: be a special presenter on those awards. So I think

1744
01:31:13,280 --> 01:31:18,360
Speaker 1: that's on Fox. You can watch that. And um, Brian,

1745
01:31:18,400 --> 01:31:20,920
Speaker 1: do you have a podcast right now that we can promote. No,

1746
01:31:20,960 --> 01:31:23,200
Speaker 1: I don't have a podcast. Okay, we'll just follow Brian

1747
01:31:23,240 --> 01:31:27,320
Speaker 1: Frangie on Instagram Brian Frangie. UM, support on your Marina

1748
01:31:27,360 --> 01:31:32,600
Speaker 1: as always, come see me on tour and uh yeah yeah,

1749
01:31:31,520 --> 01:31:37,160
Speaker 1: don't be cool and just put your dog down. Easy answer.