Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, we're back.
Speaker 2: We're black, We're.
Speaker 1: Ambition, ambition, ambition, amision. I'm so excited that baby's back
Speaker 1: to the studio, back, she's in the stew.
Speaker 3: I'm in this, in this, I survive. I am a
Speaker 3: survivor of the triple demic. I think I need like
Speaker 3: a bingo card for the viruses. I know I sound crappy,
Speaker 3: but this is the best I have felt in an
Speaker 3: over a month. Yeah, the flu was first, blue knocked
Speaker 3: me down. Got my flu shot, and I'm pro vaccination,
Speaker 3: but what the hell? Who made the flu shot this year?
Speaker 3: Because it was not giving what it needed to give
Speaker 3: to my immune system? Okay, yeah, I got the flu.
Speaker 3: Then Rio got the flu. Somehow my husband, who I
Speaker 3: was badgering to get his flu shot, didn't get the
Speaker 3: flu shot. He did not get the flu, so he
Speaker 3: was walking around all healthy and annoying but anyway, and
Speaker 3: then flew to bronchitis to er trip to make sure
Speaker 3: I wasn't gonna like lose my lungs. It was. It's
Speaker 3: been a it's been a it's been a rocky few weeks.
Speaker 3: But I'm so so grateful for my health and Rio's
Speaker 3: back in daycare today. Homeboy was not happy to go
Speaker 3: back because he's been attached to my hip for eleven days.
Speaker 3: But yeah, it's rough out there, but I'm so happy
Speaker 3: to be back to How are you?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm good, I'm good. I'm so happy you're back.
Speaker 1: I was like, I missed Mantra, you miss Kevin.
Speaker 3: I know, I can't believe I didn't know that was good.
Speaker 3: I mean, it wouldn't have mattered anyway because I couldn't
Speaker 3: have talked. But yeah, I didn't know it was gonna
Speaker 3: be so soon.
Speaker 2: But he didn't know.
Speaker 3: We wanted him.
Speaker 1: More everything he wanted. And Kevin was literally awesome. Miss Tina,
Speaker 1: his his wife was so beautiful. She came just for
Speaker 1: a second just to say, hey, she's super introverted, so
Speaker 1: she didn't want to, but like they're just like this
Speaker 1: amazing couple of I don't know when that's gonna air.
Speaker 1: We don't know when, Like you know, it might have
Speaker 1: aired already, No it did. Yeah, I forget what it's
Speaker 1: called increased the increased decrease or something, but it's that
Speaker 1: listener Kevin that we read his letter about his wife.
Speaker 2: We had him in the studio. He was just like
Speaker 2: such a great.
Speaker 1: Sport, funny, hilarious. He was like, y'all grabbed me from
Speaker 1: philth and he was like, and I did write the
Speaker 1: second letter Tina. Remember we were like the secondary my wife.
Speaker 1: Tina was so beautiful, like Tina's like say it right,
Speaker 1: He's a knife to his back.
Speaker 2: So much he was he was honestly super delightful. But
Speaker 2: you were missed.
Speaker 3: I was like, may day, yeah, man, talk about I
Speaker 3: was just telling the last listener, the last b a
Speaker 3: q A, like, don't compare your to where you think
Speaker 3: you ought to be right now. It has been so
Speaker 3: tough because like, for a minute, you just forget. It's
Speaker 3: like you're floating through this like misery stew and you
Speaker 3: just forget. Who even am I anymore? Like do I
Speaker 3: make money? Am I a business person? Am I just
Speaker 3: a human Kleenex? Just disposal? Like you know, just chasing
Speaker 3: around a snotty child and feeling horrible myself. It's really
Speaker 3: hard when you get knocked down like that. But I
Speaker 3: did do some things that I'm proud of. I really
Speaker 3: worked on, like changing my own intrusive thought, you know,
Speaker 3: my narrative, Like it's okay to just rest, you don't
Speaker 3: have to turn your sick leave into read a bunch
Speaker 3: of books and ketch up on podcasts and like, huh,
Speaker 3: you know so, Michelle Obama, I'll get to your book
Speaker 3: in the new year, probably, even though I bought it,
Speaker 3: like and just just heal and try, I didn't even
Speaker 3: put up This is a big thing for me. How
Speaker 3: many like all this Christmas magic, all the holiday magic,
Speaker 3: how much of that burden is on the shoulders of
Speaker 3: like you know, wanted to like keep it alive. And
Speaker 3: usually that's me. I'm the one putting lights up on
Speaker 3: the roof and the trees and all that. And this
Speaker 3: year it's we're already we're gonna be gone to Atlanta
Speaker 3: next week. And I had to give up. I made
Speaker 3: peace with not putting up Christmas decorations outside. I did
Speaker 3: drag my sick child and my sick self to the
Speaker 3: Christmas tree farm just for five minutes to get a tree.
Speaker 3: It stood undecorated for like a week. But yeah, just
Speaker 3: trying to just like, Okay, Christmas does not look like
Speaker 3: how I think it ought to look. But thank god
Speaker 3: we're healthy again. It's really scary when you have your
Speaker 3: son and he's so little and he's so sick and
Speaker 3: it could have been a lot worse. So but yeah,
Speaker 3: just trying to be grace great, give myself grace. I'm
Speaker 3: doing my last Negotiation masterclass of twenty twenty two this
Speaker 3: week on Thursday. It was supposed to be tomorrow, but
Speaker 3: I pushed my own deadline. See yeah, I was like,
Speaker 3: I can fix this, so I hopefully get more of
Speaker 3: my voice back. So I hope to see somebody all
Speaker 3: there for my last Negotiation masterclass. And yeah, just trying
Speaker 3: to just stay healthy and stay calm and not be
Speaker 3: so hard on myself towards the end of the year.
Speaker 2: Honestly, this end of the year, I have been so.
Speaker 1: Like I don't have the motivation to do anything except
Speaker 1: for like the podcast and like the occasional. Luckily, I
Speaker 1: don't have anything planned, you know, next year. I'm definitely
Speaker 1: just I have an X all on December, but because
Speaker 1: I just you know, it's the end of the year,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, Like even today, I was supposed
Speaker 1: to do the Today Show in like a couple of weeks.
Speaker 1: They called to it like, oh, we don't have we
Speaker 1: don't have space for the segment. I was like, yay,
Speaker 1: I mean oh, just because I'm just upseying, you know.
Speaker 2: I just I just feel just kind of dry.
Speaker 1: I haven't bought any Christmas presents yet, which is like
Speaker 1: I don't know when they're gonna arrive.
Speaker 2: I just, you know, it's crazy.
Speaker 1: The other day, like I was walking and I was
Speaker 1: as wrong with you? You know, you're kind of dragged.
Speaker 1: I'm like, Tiffany, great, damn it. Sometimes we forget that
Speaker 1: like you're you're we're human, you know, And I'm like,
Speaker 1: it's the time of year. Jarrelle loved this time of year,
Speaker 1: and you know, and it just doesn't feel like Christmas.
Speaker 1: And I just had to because I literally had to.
Speaker 1: I literally said to myself, what happened with you? Nothing's wrong,
Speaker 1: nothing's happened. And I'm like, are you are we?
Speaker 3: Are you kidding? You know?
Speaker 1: And it's like this is our Like although he passed
Speaker 1: away last November, that December, it was so crazy it
Speaker 1: I remember Lissa had COVID. She was like upstairs in
Speaker 1: her room, she couldn't come out. Nobody was coming over
Speaker 1: for Christmas. So it didn't really feel like Christmas anyway.
Speaker 1: So it didn't the him not being here that it
Speaker 1: wasn't the biggest part of Christmas because it was literally
Speaker 1: like no one was out for Christmas. My parents, like
Speaker 1: no one went to visit anyone, and literally just Alyssa
Speaker 1: was just in her room.
Speaker 2: And I just put food by the door.
Speaker 1: So it was already like this is weird in general,
Speaker 1: but this Christmas it's like kind of quote unquote normal.
Speaker 1: And then I guess it's just kind of hit me.
Speaker 1: Like I did a toy drive for him along with
Speaker 1: his family.
Speaker 3: We raised like we.
Speaker 1: Almost people b are almost five thousand dollars worth of toys,
Speaker 1: which is awesome, and so we did it with connecting
Speaker 1: connection with me. Way, yeah, it's been awesome, But I
Speaker 1: just I don't know, I'm in this like weird space
Speaker 1: where like I was talking like I went to this
Speaker 1: and we have to go the next year when you're
Speaker 1: with so a girlfriend in min Hand Naime is Renee
Speaker 1: blew It. She has this every year in New York.
Speaker 1: She has this annual Black Woman Like I don't know,
Speaker 1: I guess you would like a not a festival, but
Speaker 1: like basically all the entrepreneurs are black women, and you
Speaker 1: can go and purchase gifts. So it's maybe like fifty
Speaker 1: or sixty black women, and they have everything from licens. Yes,
Speaker 1: black black woman own business and so everything from lip
Speaker 1: glosses to like press on nails, to T shirts to
Speaker 1: jewelry to It was honestly, Mandy incredible because it was
Speaker 1: just like and then like the whole space was filled
Speaker 1: with black women supporting black women. You know, of course
Speaker 1: anyone was allowed, but it was like ninety percent of
Speaker 1: black women.
Speaker 3: Ah.
Speaker 1: Yes. It was like I think she only had it
Speaker 1: one day and I'm like, girl, you need to do
Speaker 1: this more often. Because it was when I say incredible,
Speaker 1: because you know, like women we've been doing the most.
Speaker 1: Meaning like everyone was just excellent, you know, like they
Speaker 1: had this amazing brand stories and just like I mean,
Speaker 1: and you know, I'm not even a big shopper. I
Speaker 1: want to say I patronized like seventy five percent. I
Speaker 1: was like, I'll take one of those. I don't even
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 2: Even wear wait speeds.
Speaker 1: I'm wearing waste speeds right now because I'm just like
Speaker 1: I don't box wispeds. I'm like, I'll take wte speeds.
Speaker 1: I'll take Look, I don't even wear press on there.
Speaker 1: I bought press up there. It was just like this
Speaker 1: beautiful because there is the statistic that says that the
Speaker 1: black dollar doesn't make like it leaves the black hand
Speaker 1: as soon as it comes in, and then like I
Speaker 1: think it's like other communities, it's like it will touch
Speaker 1: like five hands before it loves the community ten hands,
Speaker 1: but the black dollar doesn't even touch one hand before
Speaker 1: it loses the community. And so, like, you know, that
Speaker 1: just felt like that's not true, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: And so to me, that felt, you know, like awesome
Speaker 1: and amazing. And I got to also see one of
Speaker 1: my mentors, Bevy Smith, who pulled me to the side
Speaker 1: and was like, Tiffany, you are in the season of allowing.
Speaker 1: She's like, you know, you have done so much work
Speaker 1: for so long that you're in a space where I
Speaker 1: want you to just allow things to come into your space.
Speaker 1: If something happens, great, If it doesn't happen, okay, you
Speaker 1: are not to chase, You're not to run after. That's
Speaker 1: not the season that you're in. And you know that's
Speaker 1: already the feeling I've been getting anyway, and so I've
Speaker 1: just been really like blue sighing and like like cranking
Speaker 1: down and just allowing opportunities to come or not and
Speaker 1: being okay either way.
Speaker 2: And so yeah, it's.
Speaker 1: Just like just this different season for myself financially, personally, professionally,
Speaker 1: and I'm just like you know, navigating and seeing my
Speaker 1: way through. But I am excited because January first, your
Speaker 1: girl will be in Kenya. I've never been before. Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm going to Kenya for like a week speaking at
Speaker 1: this Safe Journey retreat that one of my play cousins
Speaker 1: does every year. Her name is Ejama Indi Yama and
Speaker 1: Ebo means safe journey and so yeah, so she does
Speaker 1: it every year and she had asked me in twenty
Speaker 1: nineteen because but I could I was doing IVF and
Speaker 1: I couldn't be away. So I saw she was doing
Speaker 1: it again this year and I was like, oh, w
Speaker 1: are you still looking for speakers and she said yeah.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh I still like to speak AKA
Speaker 1: free Vacation. Yeah, I'm excited to bring my sister Lisa.
Speaker 1: We've never traveled together before, like well as adults, and
Speaker 1: so yeah, this is the baby right, yes, yes, it
Speaker 1: was just her birthday and I saw just how much
Speaker 1: a baby she was. I was like, I just you know,
Speaker 1: those of you who grew up the youngest of a
Speaker 1: big family. You don't even understand the heavy lifting us
Speaker 1: grown folks have to do for y'all babies.
Speaker 3: If it's a baby boy, it's even worse.
Speaker 1: I mean, I can only imagine, especially if it's girls
Speaker 1: ahead of the boy.
Speaker 3: I know, Oh my family, Okay, hi baby brother. Well
Speaker 3: I'm glad. I mean Jesus, Like, if there's ever a
Speaker 3: time to feel weird and like to just be with
Speaker 3: that grief and checking with yourself, I feel like this
Speaker 3: is the time, in this moment for you. What's helpful
Speaker 3: because I feel like as a friend, you know, of
Speaker 3: course I'm always thinking about you and how you're feeling,
Speaker 3: but what do you and you and I think it's
Speaker 3: also a difficult time for a lot of people during
Speaker 3: the holidays for whatever reason, grieving. I'm getting emotional. I'll
Speaker 3: tell you, guys why. It's just I can't control it
Speaker 3: anymore then. Anyway, like to check in with people want
Speaker 3: I want to say, this is the time of year
Speaker 3: to check in with your loved ones and make sure
Speaker 3: that people you haven't heard from know that they're loved,
Speaker 3: because I mean, the mental health suicide rates, it all
Speaker 3: goes up this time of year. But yeah, I'm just
Speaker 3: wondering from your perspective, what is helpful and what feels
Speaker 3: good to you now, well what feels.
Speaker 1: Good to me? Honestly, before, you know, when after it
Speaker 1: first happened, I didn't want to talk about it. I
Speaker 1: don't talk about I don't talk, don't don't bring him by.
Speaker 2: I don't want to. You know, it was just too much.
Speaker 1: And now I've entered into a space where not that
Speaker 1: I want to talk about it with strangers and whole foods,
Speaker 1: you know, like I still don't want.
Speaker 2: To do that, but I appreciate you.
Speaker 1: But I do love the stories I get to tell
Speaker 1: with friends and people who knew him, you know, Like
Speaker 1: how like right about now, you know, Jerobi opening the
Speaker 1: door like oh you say the podcast like or a
Speaker 1: door of creek, Like are you like, are you guys
Speaker 1: gonna get that door fixed?
Speaker 2: You want a sandwich?
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm taping the podcast like I do every
Speaker 1: single time at the sum day, and so like that
Speaker 1: like brings joy. Like even Alisa and I were hanging
Speaker 1: out the other day taping Tiktoks and we were just
Speaker 1: talking about like, you know, just like reminiscing about you know,
Speaker 1: her father and and just like you know, fun things
Speaker 1: and like just like just like you know, just just
Speaker 1: stories and so that I've been enjoying. And I would say,
Speaker 1: what I'm really enjoying more than anything is that like
Speaker 1: two years ago, I was either working or home.
Speaker 2: That was it. I really didn't make time for anything else.
Speaker 1: I mean my family, yes, but like but now I
Speaker 1: find myself making time for friendships beyond like like my
Speaker 1: three core.
Speaker 2: Friends, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Like the last night, a friend of mine, her name
Speaker 1: is Tiffany as Well, was like, Oh, I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: in the city. You know, you want to come for dinner.
Speaker 1: And old Tiffy would have been like the city yet,
Speaker 1: not girl, Let's just have a phone call. But I
Speaker 1: went and it was so great, you know, to like
Speaker 1: be out. And then Ross Mac from the Netflix special,
Speaker 1: the young black man who was a leading football player.
Speaker 1: Ross was like, he like message because we got cool,
Speaker 1: you know. After the Netflix special he messaged me. He
Speaker 1: was like, Oh, I'm in town and being in the
Speaker 1: city to do something. I would love to have lunch
Speaker 1: And I said okay, And it was so awesome. He's
Speaker 1: like the nicest guy him. His wife got married in
Speaker 1: twenty twenty. Although they've been like college sweethearts, I think
Speaker 1: he's like no high school sweethearts. And they had two
Speaker 1: kids in like the last two years, so you know,
Speaker 1: he's just running around. I was like, oh, so you
Speaker 1: came to the city and left your poor wife with
Speaker 1: them babies at home, and so but it was such
Speaker 1: a nice lunchcause he was just such a nice guy,
Speaker 1: like such a nice guy, and so I just what
Speaker 1: I crave now more than anything is connectedness, you know, Yes,
Speaker 1: like he had this lunch with people that I care
Speaker 1: about or that like I'm cool with, or just just
Speaker 1: connecting because life really is so short and you know,
Speaker 1: and so I've just found myself like wanting to add
Speaker 1: to like the love that's in the air, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, and thought indeed and action. So even
Speaker 1: if I don't call someone or if someone comes up
Speaker 1: and thought, like I had this really terrible dream about
Speaker 1: my high school best friend where she was like really
Speaker 1: sick and I got scared, and so normally I'd be like,
Speaker 1: she's fine, but I was like, no text her. So
Speaker 1: I text her. I say, hey, Manica, you know we
Speaker 1: text every once in a while, you know. But I
Speaker 1: was like, just you know, I had this terrible dream.
Speaker 1: Are you okay? Do you need anything? And she was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm fine, and I was just like, you know, I
Speaker 1: just I just had this dream, so I just wanted
Speaker 1: to reach out. She's like, well, thank you so much
Speaker 1: for checking in, but yeah, no, I'm all good, but
Speaker 1: how are you? You know? And so like I'm trying
Speaker 1: to lean into when someone comes to mind a text,
Speaker 1: a call or do you want to have lunch? And
Speaker 1: so I'm really enjoying this stage where I am learning
Speaker 1: to be Tiffany and then Budgetista has to fit around
Speaker 1: Tiffany versus the opposite how I was for so many years,
Speaker 1: which was I was the budgetista and Tiffany had to
Speaker 1: fit around the Budgetista and that's not so anymore. So yeah,
Speaker 1: just for anything, It's just like, I mean, if you
Speaker 1: don't know me personally, sending light and love because I
Speaker 1: can feel it. I couldn't before just was I was
Speaker 1: so overwhelmed by grief, but I can feel it now.
Speaker 1: Or if you do see me, like you know, just
Speaker 1: like continuingly the like, the love and the blessing. You
Speaker 1: guys are so awesome when we see each other in
Speaker 1: person you know, you guys are always giving me the
Speaker 1: unwonted hugs for Mandy because you think it's funny. Hey,
Speaker 1: jokes on you. I like that naciate them. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, a man, you've been such an awesome friend.
Speaker 1: I just sor like I remember, just start two hard talks,
Speaker 1: like you know, when I was away that like, although
Speaker 1: I was not at Brown Ambition, min and I were
Speaker 1: still like in you know, constant connection because we're friends
Speaker 1: in real life, you know, and that was just like
Speaker 1: such a lifeline, you know.
Speaker 2: And so yeah, I just say.
Speaker 1: You know, reach out to the people that you care
Speaker 1: about and make time for them in general, you know,
Speaker 1: because that means more than anything this time of year.
Speaker 3: I almost feel like the pandemic may really helped introverts
Speaker 3: and normalize like taking time for yourself and saying no
Speaker 3: to social engagements and things like that. But jokes aside,
Speaker 3: we need that, you know, human connection and you can
Speaker 3: really define your boundaries and what that looks like for you.
Speaker 3: But I'm tired of like trying to make friends with
Speaker 3: make plans with friends and then it takes like three
Speaker 3: months later and you go back to text them and
Speaker 3: you're like, oh, yeah, we were supposed to get coffee.
Speaker 1: Nil.
Speaker 3: Right, it is short. Life is short, and like going
Speaker 3: out of your way to make the time. It's almost
Speaker 3: like an active love because how crucial with time right
Speaker 3: to spend time with someone. That's that's the only resolution
Speaker 3: I'll make in twenty twenty threes. I want to spend
Speaker 3: some time with Tiff in person, because I haven't done
Speaker 3: that in a long time. Well, thanks for sharing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and so we be man, I want to give
Speaker 1: you a hug.
Speaker 3: Are you I am? I'm fine, I'm gonna Yeah, it's
Speaker 3: been a it's been a Yeah, it's just this time
Speaker 3: of year. I think it's yeah, reflecting and there's so
Speaker 3: much good. There's so much bad, you know, but just
Speaker 3: trying to focus on the good what helps me. I
Speaker 3: never realized this until I had a kid, how wonderful
Speaker 3: children are. I find myself wanting to be around kids
Speaker 3: that aren't even my own, Like I don't know who
Speaker 3: I am. I kind of get the whole preschool teacher
Speaker 3: thing now, Yeah, I why that was something like that
Speaker 3: anyone would want to do. Yeah, spending time with Rio
Speaker 3: and seeing even taking it back to school today and
Speaker 3: seeing the little babies and Yeah, it's it's that's what
Speaker 3: it's all about.
Speaker 1: I think there's a pureness there that you're like you
Speaker 1: just get to. I mean, I honestly loved teaching preschool
Speaker 1: because I don't care what kind of terrible day you're having,
Speaker 1: Like the way kids just crack open your heart and
Speaker 1: pour and they're like, m having.
Speaker 3: A bad day.
Speaker 2: I don't care about that. Miss Tiffany, you look.
Speaker 1: So pretty today. I'm like, you know, or like Miss Tippany,
Speaker 1: that's what they didn't what they say my name, Miss Tiffany,
Speaker 1: Miss Tiffany, you're my favorite person, or just sitting in
Speaker 1: your lab or like can you hold me? And you're
Speaker 1: just like yo, these kids love me no matter what.
Speaker 1: And I just put her on time out to look
Speaker 1: at her manipulating her way out trying to be my bestie.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm wondering if you I was gonna forget that
Speaker 3: I promised him my new truck. If you just fell
Speaker 3: them to his classroom today, you will never forget. They
Speaker 3: just help you. I feel like it helps me see
Speaker 3: the joy and everything. Like it's snowed yesterday for snow
Speaker 3: and York City, or at least in the suburbs where
Speaker 3: I lived at snow and Newark.
Speaker 2: Yeah it didn't.
Speaker 3: We got snow and I wasn't feeling great. I was
Speaker 3: trying to finish one of my shows. It was the finale,
Speaker 3: and I was like, I'll put this on pause, throw
Speaker 3: O Rio in his his snowsuit and get him outside
Speaker 3: so we can like catch some snowflakes for like twenty minutes.
Speaker 3: And yeah, those little small moments like that. I mean,
Speaker 3: heading into twenty twenty three, I feel like it's the
Speaker 3: time to think about reflecting on the last year, and
Speaker 3: you know, it's like resolutions, and I I'm all for
Speaker 3: setting those goals for the next year. I have my
Speaker 3: own business goals. I went back and checked my twenty
Speaker 3: twenty two business resolutions. I didn't meet them all. I
Speaker 3: didn't even meet half of them. But yeah, it's okay.
Speaker 3: But that being said, I'm really proud of, like at
Speaker 3: least what I've accomplished in this in this last year.
Speaker 3: And I hope I'm granted the time and health and
Speaker 3: energy to do even more next year. Yeah, there's so
Speaker 3: much to be done.
Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, I just what I wish for everyone
Speaker 1: is like health, happiness, love, connectedness and the other things
Speaker 1: will take care of themselves. Like, don't get me wrong,
Speaker 1: as someone who has achieved all the goals and dreams
Speaker 1: and at one point had nothing and at one point
Speaker 1: was in the middle, I feel like I seen the gamut,
Speaker 1: and the place where it feels best has nothing to
Speaker 1: do with that external stuff. It's really just like some
Speaker 1: of my happiest moments is just going to see Roman
Speaker 1: and Amelia at the house down the street, Like I
Speaker 1: love ringing the doorbell and hearing them squeal, like as
Speaker 1: if so One or Amelia were one to the window
Speaker 1: to peek outside but confirmed it's aunty, and then they'll
Speaker 1: run and screaming, so so you hear all those tussling
Speaker 1: because they have to hide under the covers or how
Speaker 1: pretend like they're not home that Carol opens the door,
Speaker 1: and that have to always be like where are Roman
Speaker 1: and Amelia?
Speaker 2: I wonder if they're home?
Speaker 1: You know, Like that is like those are some of
Speaker 1: the best times, you know, and it's just like there's
Speaker 1: just I cannot ex express that. I just hope that
Speaker 1: people don't trade in the actual good life they have
Speaker 1: for the one that they see displayed on social media
Speaker 1: or otherwise. Because so many of those people that you
Speaker 1: see are not very happy because I know them personally,
Speaker 1: you know, they have all the things, you know, but
Speaker 1: they're very well aware that that's all they have, you know,
Speaker 1: and they're working toward back to what you have, the connectedness,
Speaker 1: the family, the friends, the love you know, and so
Speaker 1: you know, don't get me wrong, where all adults and
Speaker 1: bills have to be paid and things like that. Yeah, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: but you know there's something to be said for those
Speaker 1: like core spaces of joy and to protect them with
Speaker 1: everything because in the end, that is the thing that
Speaker 1: you will wish for more of. Like when I was
Speaker 1: standing by Jirell, knowing that he wasn't going to make
Speaker 1: it in the hospital, I remember distinctly saying, Tiffany, in
Speaker 1: this moment, what matters most, because this is probably the
Speaker 1: most important lesson you'll ever have. And there was nothing
Speaker 1: came up about business. The only thing I thought about
Speaker 1: was like just connectedness and time and love, like I
Speaker 1: wish I had more time. I'm so glad you around
Speaker 1: knew how much I loved him, you know, like and
Speaker 1: like it. That was literally it. That was the only
Speaker 1: thing that came up that I was so glad he
Speaker 1: knew how much I loved him, and I wish I
Speaker 1: had more time. Nothing else came up, and it was
Speaker 1: very clear to me that love was like the most
Speaker 1: important thing, because nothing else came up. And so yeah,
Speaker 1: I just you know, while you still have your people,
Speaker 1: lean into that. Whoever's coming to mind as I'm saying this,
Speaker 1: text them, call them, reach out to them, make concrete
Speaker 1: plans to say, let's have lunch on Friday or Saturday,
Speaker 1: or come over to the house.
Speaker 2: It doesn't have to be a big deal. Come up
Speaker 2: to the house. We'll order pizza.
Speaker 1: I just want to see your face, you know, like
Speaker 1: make that the I hope that for twenty twenty three,
Speaker 1: there's so much divisiveness in this country that like, I
Speaker 1: hope for twenty twenty three that the pendulum swings in
Speaker 1: the other way and we'd lead more into connectedness. You know,
Speaker 1: I sure the exact same prayer, exact same heurt prayer,
Speaker 1: exact same hope.
Speaker 3: Yeah, look at us, just a couple of softy I
Speaker 3: know this.
Speaker 2: Is our sat the episode.
Speaker 1: We're gonna take a break, Okay, y'all, We're gonna take
Speaker 1: a break and we're gonna come back for a quick
Speaker 1: brown Boost Brown Break. All right, We'll see you in
Speaker 1: a minute.
Speaker 2: We're back, y'all.
Speaker 1: All right, it is time for Brown Boost Brown.
Speaker 3: Yes, is the last Brown Boost Brown Break of twenty
Speaker 3: twenty two.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go first. I feel like it is probably
Speaker 1: more deep mine is not super super deep mine Brown.
Speaker 2: I guess it's like, I guess it's kind of like
Speaker 2: a boost, is that?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 1: So I'm looking to purchase another property, like a condo,
Speaker 1: because I think I don't want to lessarily live in
Speaker 1: the househouse.
Speaker 2: So you all know, already put an offer in.
Speaker 1: It wasn't accepted, but the jewelry set out because there's
Speaker 1: another property going on selling that same building, and I
Speaker 1: just feel like, I don't know, I just feel like
Speaker 1: that place is mine at the price that I won't
Speaker 1: so I'm boosting for that in the future. That like,
Speaker 1: because it still has not sold, and I just feel
Speaker 1: like like it's it's the perfect location. It's close by
Speaker 1: where I already live, so I still get to be
Speaker 1: by my tribe and my family. I spoke to Alyssa
Speaker 1: about it because I wasn't sure how she feel and
Speaker 1: at first she was like, Oh, I thought you weren't
Speaker 1: going to move until maybe after like when I went
Speaker 1: to college. And I said, well, I don't know, like
Speaker 1: you know, at the end of the day, I you know,
Speaker 1: I have not bought the place. But and she said, well,
Speaker 1: will you still keep a room for me? Because I
Speaker 1: told them no, matter where I move, you know, she's
Speaker 1: still my BoatUS baby. And then there'll be a room.
Speaker 1: I say, yes, there's four bedrooms and you will have
Speaker 1: a room just for you. I get to decorating the
Speaker 1: ground up. I said, yes, with your TikTok money.
Speaker 2: But I don't know.
Speaker 1: It was just like this boost for like I guess
Speaker 1: for that there's transitions happening beginning. Yeah, just a new beginning.
Speaker 1: And what I love is I'm not selling this house.
Speaker 1: I love this house and said, my sister and her
Speaker 1: kids will live here, which is like perfect because they
Speaker 1: have their schools around the corner.
Speaker 2: I would be living literally.
Speaker 1: A seven minute walking distance from this house, so I'd
Speaker 1: still be all my friends Jermaine and Rihanna and my
Speaker 1: friend Cabrella is down the street. And it's just, you know,
Speaker 1: it's just it feels like a new beginning within like
Speaker 1: already this beautiful construct of like this life I've built
Speaker 1: for myself and so yeah, I'm just boosting that life
Speaker 1: and whatever it turns out to be. I'm just I'm
Speaker 1: so happy that I get to, like, you know, Alyssa
Speaker 1: is still in my life. Me and Chante, her mom,
Speaker 1: have always been cool. We continue to be cool, if
Speaker 1: not cooler, just checking in. We had like an hour
Speaker 1: conversation the other day, just checking in, making sure she
Speaker 1: was good. And Terrell, Jirell's twin brother, and I are
Speaker 1: closer than ever. He's really like my brother, my annoying.
Speaker 3: Brother himself into the house.
Speaker 2: I mean, her together. He doesn't do that no more.
Speaker 1: I just you know, we're this family that's just figuring
Speaker 1: it out and we're still you know, close and in
Speaker 1: some instances even closer. So my booster is just really
Speaker 1: just for family and friends and for transitions that allow
Speaker 1: you to stay grounded.
Speaker 3: Well, beautiful, did you put an offer in?
Speaker 2: No, I'm gonna wait until favorites. I'm my girl.
Speaker 1: She's about to feel the heat because your own pal
Speaker 1: is going to breathe again.
Speaker 2: Okay this week?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I know the housing market
Speaker 3: is so tough right now. Yeah, all right, Well my
Speaker 3: boost is I mentioned I'm like really emotional these days.
Speaker 3: I can't help it. Another reason in the last few
Speaker 3: weeks have been so challenging is because I was really
Speaker 3: sick and also I'm really pregnant. I'm going another baby.
Speaker 3: Act really surprised, as if you didn't know. Yeah, number
Speaker 3: two is on the way, and no, it hasn't sunk in. No,
Speaker 3: I can't believe it. Even though I was a part
Speaker 3: of this process and I did make an adult decision
Speaker 3: to try for another one, I just forgot. Like my husband,
Speaker 3: there's no such thing as a miss. He's like always
Speaker 3: going to swing for the fences, always going to be
Speaker 3: a home run. So you know his record is untarnished.
Speaker 3: But yeah, baby baby Manrique twenty twenty three, and we
Speaker 3: know it's the gender. It's gonna be.
Speaker 2: A boy, another boy. Girl.
Speaker 3: Listen, it's fine. You know this is our starter hole.
Speaker 3: They can they can tear it up. But yeah, that's
Speaker 3: been it's been. I'm four months a long, I'm about
Speaker 3: four months. So the babies do at the end of
Speaker 3: at the end of May, and Rio does. He knows
Speaker 3: exactly what the baby is. He knows. As a brother,
Speaker 3: he's always asking like, where's my brother. He'll just be
Speaker 3: doing his thing, and then he'll get sad all of
Speaker 3: a sudden. He's like, I want my baby brother to
Speaker 3: play with me. Where is he at? He's saying, in
Speaker 3: this womb for as long as I can keep him there.
Speaker 1: He just turned three his birthday Thanksgiving. Okay, yeah, that's awesome.
Speaker 1: So he'll be like three and a half years older.
Speaker 1: That's a good that's a good.
Speaker 3: Little it's a bord. I hope he's potty trained by them.
Speaker 3: We have not this child. This child just wants to
Speaker 3: wear diapers. I don't know what to do. Oh my god,
Speaker 3: I'm trying to give myself grace. So I'm like, okay,
Speaker 3: and they say they're not going to go to college
Speaker 3: and diapers, Like yeah, hear it out.
Speaker 1: I remember, Like Chet's like, oh my kid only eats
Speaker 1: with a spoon and we use four. I'm like, I've
Speaker 1: not yet met a college dude. I'm not going to
Speaker 1: say this is boss, but that only eats with this food. Like,
Speaker 1: they'll just give him some space.
Speaker 3: He right, he's not going to go on a date
Speaker 3: on the diaper.
Speaker 1: But that is. So we're having the thing. I'm like,
Speaker 1: we're having up.
Speaker 3: They we're heaving a boy yeah, so send me all year.
Speaker 3: I don't know if you have if you have two kids,
Speaker 3: actually don't tell me. I know it's I know it's crazy.
Speaker 3: I know I'm insane. I know it's hell on earth
Speaker 3: and it's really really hard. I'm going into it with
Speaker 3: full understanding of what I'm.
Speaker 2: People say, the two kids is not bad. It's the third.
Speaker 1: It's the three kids that's like, what have I done?
Speaker 3: Well, Listen, now that I'm having another boy, the question
Speaker 3: is now like, well, are you gonna try for a girl?
Speaker 3: I'm like, can I get this one out first? My god, like,
Speaker 3: people are relentless? What am I like? It's a miracle.
Speaker 3: I even had the get out of my face. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm excited. I'm excited not to spend a lot of
Speaker 3: money on new clothes. Oh true, yeah, true. But now
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm I'm figuring out as a business owner. Wait,
Speaker 3: I had to pay for my own maternity leave. So yeah,
Speaker 3: the the wheels have been put in motion since like
Speaker 3: September when I found out I was pregnant. Of like,
Speaker 3: how I can position my business so that I can
Speaker 3: take time off and all of that. But yeah, here's
Speaker 3: that's my goal for the next few months. It's really
Speaker 3: like squirreling away and battening down the hatches so that
Speaker 3: I'm prepared to take a little break and have another baby.
Speaker 3: It's crazy, but a blessing, very crazy.
Speaker 1: Congratulations. The babies are such a blessing. And you're already
Speaker 1: a good mama, so it's just a pretty good at it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you already good at it. Okay, can you make cute kids?
Speaker 1: Because really it's sick. He's not my refrigerator. All the
Speaker 1: qu kids, well, all the kids because they're all cy
Speaker 1: are my refrigerator, Like when you guys send me like
Speaker 1: the you know I have the Christmas card?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, you need to see your school photo. Actually,
Speaker 3: let me show you what's right here on my desk
Speaker 3: school photo this year. I can look at this, Look
Speaker 3: at my handsome boy, Look at his little hands. I
Speaker 3: can't even take it.
Speaker 1: See if you watch this on YouTube, you'd be able
Speaker 1: to see.
Speaker 3: You can see my baby or thank god he's out
Speaker 3: the house, because there's lots of ten days have been
Speaker 3: how on earth? But yeah, thanks, thanks in advance for
Speaker 3: your well wishes and Auntie Tiffany.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes always so congratulations again, make sure you hit
Speaker 1: up Mandy money on Instagram and Twitter and wish Mandy
Speaker 1: some you know, give her some good baby giju. I'm
Speaker 1: just good energy and you know, just a happy, healthy,
Speaker 1: smooth pregnancy fingers crossed.
Speaker 3: Yeah, more a flu no more browniis please please just
Speaker 3: stay the f away from.
Speaker 2: This episode.
Speaker 1: Was definitely like we're gonna call it, maybe we're called
Speaker 1: the snappy.
Speaker 3: Episode Happy reflecting, Yes, reflecting, that's all I do. I'm
Speaker 3: either like you just be lucky you didn't get like
Speaker 3: really pissy, irritable Mandy, because that's the other the Doctor
Speaker 3: Jackyll and Doctor Hyde of my pregnancy is. I am
Speaker 3: either wanting to like wring your throat to my husband specifically,
Speaker 3: or I'm just like thinking about babies and like the
Speaker 3: world and like just sad and I'm just happy sad,
Speaker 3: sad and happy and joyful and all those things. So
Speaker 3: I can't be held accountable for my emotional breakdowns in
Speaker 3: the future. Okay, I am committed.
Speaker 1: I want to come to basically come and see you. Really, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I am, I'm gonna come to Long Long Island.
Speaker 3: Girl.
Speaker 1: Wait, where do you live?
Speaker 3: I live in Westchester.
Speaker 2: I don't know why people say western.
Speaker 3: Lives in Long Island.
Speaker 2: I don't know, is that far from each other?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm a lot close. Okayo, he lives on Long Island.
Speaker 3: Maybe that's why you're thinking.
Speaker 1: Oh maybe that's why. Yes, Oh okay, good, so I'll
Speaker 1: cover to west just it's one of them verbs. It's
Speaker 1: okay far yes, I mean I'll come up on a Sunday.
Speaker 1: So that was like, you know, lazy traffic, well lazy
Speaker 1: ish you know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, when we're when we're all really healthy and.
Speaker 2: Well, I'll let you know.
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, we hope you enjoyed this week's episode.
Speaker 1: We miss Nandy and she's back with the baby, so
Speaker 1: you know it's three of us want here or whatever.
Speaker 3: You're not gonna show you the bump yet, but the
Speaker 3: bump is bumping.
Speaker 1: Oh so you know we wish her well. So yes,
Speaker 1: if just continue to listen, tell tag a friend, go
Speaker 1: back and listen to prior episodes. You know, we hope
Speaker 1: you've enjoyed. Branhambish We love the well wishes. You can
Speaker 1: always tweet us, instagram us all the things.
Speaker 2: We love it.
Speaker 3: We love it.
Speaker 1: You could do Brandna Bishon or the Budgeonista or Mandy money.
Speaker 1: You know, we love it all the same, So we
Speaker 1: wish you an amazing holiday season and an amazing new Year.
Speaker 1: We will see you in the new year.
Speaker 3: I'm at the holidays, ba Fam. Love y'all, Yes, love y'all. Hey,
Speaker 3: ba Fam. We could not do this show without your
Speaker 3: support or the support of our team behind the scenes.
Speaker 3: The Brown Emission Podcast is produced by Cumulus Podcast Network.
Speaker 3: It's edited by the wonderful Emani Crosby and produced by
Speaker 3: Tanya Bustos. Dennis Stimplinsky is our in house tech curu,
Speaker 3: and I am Bandy Woodchard Santos your co host, and
Speaker 3: I will see y'all next week.