1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,200 Speaker 1: Buckle up, hold on tight. Here it is a Strawberry 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:10,480 Speaker 1: letter subject my fiance won't give me his password. Dear 3 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:13,920 Speaker 1: Steve and Shirley. My fiance and I have been together 4 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:17,239 Speaker 1: for four years. When we were dating, I would sneak 5 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 1: and go through his phone to see his text messages 6 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:22,319 Speaker 1: and call logs. He didn't have a password on his 7 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:24,720 Speaker 1: phone at the time. One day I went through his 8 00:00:24,760 --> 00:00:27,280 Speaker 1: phone and I found exactly what I was looking for. 9 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:30,280 Speaker 1: I saw that my man had been texting his child's 10 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 1: mom for a month, and the texas to her were 11 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:39,800 Speaker 1: sexually explicit. She had sent him multiple pictures of herself 12 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:43,120 Speaker 1: and they called each other baby on the messages. Without 13 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: saying anything to him, because I knew he would lie, 14 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:49,919 Speaker 1: I contacted his child's mom and she confirmed that they 15 00:00:49,960 --> 00:00:52,960 Speaker 1: were seeing each other again but had not had sextion. 16 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 1: I broke up with my boyfriend immediately. A month later, 17 00:00:57,360 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: after all of his apologies and sweet gifts, he asked 18 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:04,040 Speaker 1: me to marry him. Everything is going great now except 19 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:07,880 Speaker 1: for one thing. My fiance has recently put a password 20 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:11,400 Speaker 1: on his phone. I have asked him for his password 21 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 1: numerous times, but he won't give it to me. I 22 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 1: have also tried to figure out the password, but with 23 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: no luck. I know I'm wrong for snooping, but I 24 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 1: need that password. He told me to just let it 25 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:25,959 Speaker 1: go and trust him. I don't want to marry a cheater. 26 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:31,760 Speaker 1: Please advise. Okay, you're not ready. I mean really, you're 27 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:35,559 Speaker 1: already having trust issues with this man before you've even 28 00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:38,399 Speaker 1: walked down the aisle. You do not trust him. That's 29 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:41,040 Speaker 1: why you're snooping. That's why you're upset that he got 30 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 1: a password on his phone. So how do you think 31 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 1: this marriage is gonna work? I mean, you'll be constantly 32 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:50,080 Speaker 1: thinking about him and his baby mama. What are they doing? 33 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 1: Are they sleeping together? And please believe me, Uh they are, Okay, 34 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 1: No matter what she said, they're sleeping together. He's got 35 00:01:57,360 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 1: a password. Anyway you would have told you think the 36 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 1: woman would have told it. She would have told me, 37 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 1: she said, yet though, all right, you would be asking, 38 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 1: you know, has she sent any more pictures? Etcetera, etcetera. 39 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: You just the trust issues are too great right now. 40 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: Uh So your choices are marry him and always be 41 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 1: wondering you know, and worried not having peace, or not 42 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: marry him and wait until you know you can rebuild 43 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:25,960 Speaker 1: or in this case, I think build some trust in 44 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:30,000 Speaker 1: your relationship. He hit him apologizing and giving you sweet gifts. 45 00:02:30,240 --> 00:02:33,600 Speaker 1: They're great, but his behavior needs to change. Action should 46 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: go with those apologies and those gifts. He should have 47 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:43,360 Speaker 1: done that before he proposed. Steve, Well, surely you're reading 48 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:50,119 Speaker 1: this letter from the standpoint of a woman who has 49 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:55,720 Speaker 1: been hurt, and I understand you are reading this letter 50 00:02:56,080 --> 00:03:01,359 Speaker 1: in an advisatory capacity. One woman to another asked her 51 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:07,360 Speaker 1: girlfriend charged, I'm gonna read this letter as somebody totally 52 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 1: disconnected from the dude at her and I'm just gonna 53 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:13,600 Speaker 1: read the letter, and I am. I ask questions all 54 00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:17,640 Speaker 1: the way through the letter. You ready subject, My fiance 55 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:22,880 Speaker 1: won't give me his password. My question is you still 56 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:30,959 Speaker 1: want to be his fiance? That's the question. My fiance 57 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:34,399 Speaker 1: won't give me his password. My question do you here? 58 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 1: Do you still want to be his fiance? If you 59 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 1: want to be his fiance, could ask her for that. 60 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:45,680 Speaker 1: Damn pass you. Okay, let's go. Did Stephen Sherley my 61 00:03:45,720 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: fiance have been together for four years. When we were dating, 62 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 1: I was sneaking go through his phone to see his 63 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:55,360 Speaker 1: text messages and call law here's the question, why did 64 00:03:55,480 --> 00:03:59,840 Speaker 1: you do that? All people say, if you go look 65 00:03:59,840 --> 00:04:05,280 Speaker 1: at for trouble, you're gonna find it. Now. He didn't 66 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 1: have a password on his phone at the time. One day, 67 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:10,360 Speaker 1: I went through his phone and found exactly what I 68 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:15,800 Speaker 1: was looking for. You was looking for trouble. You found it. 69 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 1: Now it's gonna be a problem. I saw that my 70 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:25,279 Speaker 1: man had been texting his child's mom for a month, 71 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:30,279 Speaker 1: and the text to her was sexually explicit. She had 72 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 1: sent him several pictures of herself and they called each 73 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 1: other baby on the message. Without saying anything to him, 74 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:44,360 Speaker 1: because I knew he would lie, I contacted his child's mom. 75 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 1: She confirmed that they were seeing each other again, but 76 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:50,520 Speaker 1: had not had sex yet. I broke up with my 77 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:54,839 Speaker 1: boyfriend immediately. Okay, Now, you went in that looking for 78 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:57,719 Speaker 1: what you wanted to find. You found exactly what you 79 00:04:57,839 --> 00:05:03,040 Speaker 1: thought you'd find. Now, you called the girl. She confirmed 80 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:06,200 Speaker 1: that they had been talking but had not had sex yet. 81 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:10,239 Speaker 1: You immediately went and broke up with your boy Fred, Okay, cool. 82 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 1: Why why are we back at this letter? Why? Why 83 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:19,640 Speaker 1: are we back? But why is it? Motives letter? I'm 84 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:23,480 Speaker 1: gonna tell you why because a month later, after all 85 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:27,360 Speaker 1: his apologies and sweet gifts. He asked me to marry him, 86 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 1: But didn't you say yes? Sure? Did did not you 87 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 1: say yes? That's why you all have become fiances because 88 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 1: you said yes. After all you knew and all you 89 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:46,159 Speaker 1: found and all you heard he asked you to marry 90 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 1: him with some sweet gifts and apologies, and you said yes. Yes. Well, 91 00:05:53,960 --> 00:06:03,719 Speaker 1: everything is going great now? Okay this hell? Yeah? Where 92 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:08,599 Speaker 1: everything is going great now except for one thing. My 93 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:12,680 Speaker 1: fiance has recently put a password on his phone right 94 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:18,680 Speaker 1: for listen, what did you expect him do him? What? 95 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 1: You know why he put the password on the phone 96 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:29,840 Speaker 1: because everything is going great now? Why would he allow 97 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:36,800 Speaker 1: it to not to continue to go great? You already 98 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:43,279 Speaker 1: snoops mm hmm, you already go through phones looking for stuff. 99 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:47,800 Speaker 1: So now he didn't put a password on his phone. 100 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 1: And you know why I put the password on this phone? 101 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:56,159 Speaker 1: Because everything going great now? Everything we're going good. Before 102 00:06:56,360 --> 00:07:01,320 Speaker 1: to your ass got into that phone, it's started calling people. 103 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:06,679 Speaker 1: See you started calling people. You didn't ask him because 104 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:10,000 Speaker 1: what you say, you knew he would laugh. So what 105 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 1: you did you call? Huh? She can fire what you 106 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 1: had already been thinking back I finished this all this East, 107 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 1: Part two of your response to today's Strawberry Letters subject 108 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:26,320 Speaker 1: my fiance won't give me his password. My fiance won't 109 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:28,840 Speaker 1: give me his pass for the question I ask for you, 110 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: and do you still won't be his fear? If you do, 111 00:07:33,040 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 1: you gut quit ask you for this past because the 112 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:40,080 Speaker 1: last time you went through his phone, you said you 113 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:43,320 Speaker 1: find what you was looking for. He was talking to 114 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 1: his child, baby mama. Him and the baby mama been 115 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:49,960 Speaker 1: a change of piss, called each other baby baby, and 116 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 1: they've been talking sexually explicit. But the woman you call Huck, 117 00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:57,520 Speaker 1: you knew he was gonna lie. Hmm. Anybody's gonna see 118 00:07:57,560 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 1: him telling like, yeah, I'm calling huh, that's a lie. 119 00:08:01,960 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 1: Anybody gladly tell. So she said you hadn't had it, 120 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:09,600 Speaker 1: so you're just having sex. So you broke up immediately. 121 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 1: Now after a bunch of sweet gifts and some apologies 122 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:21,760 Speaker 1: and talking nice, he asked you to marry him. You said, yes, 123 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 1: that's how y'all fiance. M hmm. Everything is going great 124 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:33,559 Speaker 1: now except for one thing. My fiance has recently put 125 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:37,240 Speaker 1: a password on the phone. Like I said before the break. 126 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:40,599 Speaker 1: The reason he put the password on the phone is 127 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 1: cause everything is going great and your nose ass ain't 128 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:49,320 Speaker 1: gonna leave it at that. Now I have asked him 129 00:08:49,360 --> 00:08:53,720 Speaker 1: for his password numerous times, but he won't give it 130 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 1: to me. Why would he give you this password? So 131 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 1: you start calling people? He now you all down on 132 00:09:05,080 --> 00:09:09,560 Speaker 1: this job? Was was Larry at work Friday? See you 133 00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 1: you see it? What once you call one person your 134 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:19,600 Speaker 1: fiance gotta figure you could call anyway? Who is Bishop Anita? 135 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 1: Bishop Anita is in the soul saving busins and you 136 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:34,080 Speaker 1: should leave it at that. So now I have tried 137 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:38,719 Speaker 1: to figure out the password, but with no luck. You 138 00:09:38,840 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 1: got a lot of time. Now let me tell you 139 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 1: why you're not gonna figure this pass word out because 140 00:09:44,320 --> 00:09:51,640 Speaker 1: once our password is complicated, once we've been busted. Ain't 141 00:09:51,640 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 1: my birthdays? Oh that ain't that. You ain't gonna get 142 00:09:55,880 --> 00:09:59,120 Speaker 1: the birthday with you ain't gonna get so security. But 143 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 1: last phone, you know you ain't gonna get you know, 144 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:09,719 Speaker 1: uh you you ain't. I number change when I was 145 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:13,920 Speaker 1: out there playing my every day, my password changed. Whatever 146 00:10:13,960 --> 00:10:18,120 Speaker 1: the lottery number was the night before, that was my password. 147 00:10:18,280 --> 00:10:22,720 Speaker 1: And you do not have voicemail for not U. Matter 148 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 1: of fact, my my My passwords so complicated. I used 149 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 1: the van number on my damn card. Seven numbers you got, 150 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:36,640 Speaker 1: damn you had a registration in your hand to get 151 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:40,760 Speaker 1: in my phone when I was out there working. Come on, man, 152 00:10:41,480 --> 00:10:46,640 Speaker 1: my my damn password has actually been the key to 153 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: the vote at Folk Knocks. Come on, man, my password 154 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:59,440 Speaker 1: has actually been the birthday or the Folk Chicks I 155 00:10:59,559 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 1: was day. Come on here, and that's how hard I 156 00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 1: Come on, give me some more. My passwords actually been 157 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:20,520 Speaker 1: my so securiting numbers, the Einstein equation, Newton's law of 158 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 1: m Yeah, yeah, you had to know something. My last 159 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:38,599 Speaker 1: password I had two thousand five was the middle of 160 00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:41,640 Speaker 1: you know that three sided ruling you had in school, 161 00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:52,240 Speaker 1: The middle feather two digits on that ruler was yeah. Yeah, 162 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 1: And dude, I had a password one time that was 163 00:11:56,400 --> 00:12:00,760 Speaker 1: the circumference of the third watermelon on the roll at 164 00:12:00,760 --> 00:12:06,920 Speaker 1: the produce. Come on, boy, that's how hard. So you're 165 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:10,920 Speaker 1: not gonna guess his password now? Then she says, I 166 00:12:11,000 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 1: know I'm wrong for snooping, but I need that password. No, 167 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:18,360 Speaker 1: you don't. Surely told you right? You need to be 168 00:12:18,400 --> 00:12:23,360 Speaker 1: in a loving, trusting relationship, but you're not. See you 169 00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:26,440 Speaker 1: you need that password for what because you know what 170 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 1: you're gonna find in now? Same thank you for him? 171 00:12:30,559 --> 00:12:40,320 Speaker 1: Let him have them pictures. Tell me how, oh boy, 172 00:12:41,200 --> 00:12:51,520 Speaker 1: like you said, you say that, Why would he say 173 00:12:51,520 --> 00:12:55,640 Speaker 1: it because that's how you don't Why would he say 174 00:12:55,640 --> 00:13:01,760 Speaker 1: it because that's sounds natural. He told me to just 175 00:13:01,960 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 1: let it go and trust him. I don't want to 176 00:13:05,679 --> 00:13:12,240 Speaker 1: marry a cheetah. Please advibe. Listen to me. He's telling you, right, 177 00:13:13,760 --> 00:13:17,560 Speaker 1: let it go and trust him. And then what you 178 00:13:17,640 --> 00:13:21,080 Speaker 1: think gonna happen when you trust him and let it go? 179 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:28,079 Speaker 1: What do you think gonna happen? Tell me, I'm listening, 180 00:13:29,880 --> 00:13:34,240 Speaker 1: you know see, Let listen to me. Or you could 181 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:39,640 Speaker 1: just say, hey, look by next Friday, next Friday or 182 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:45,400 Speaker 1: this Friday, Friday, this Friday, give me your phone. That 183 00:13:45,440 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 1: would give him three or four days clean that phone. 184 00:13:48,640 --> 00:13:58,440 Speaker 1: What yeah, I got the phone. I'm just telling you. 185 00:13:58,600 --> 00:14:00,360 Speaker 1: What he needs to do is he need take this 186 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:03,720 Speaker 1: phone down to the Apple. You need to go to 187 00:14:03,800 --> 00:14:06,800 Speaker 1: Google and you need to meet with ye Cloud people. 188 00:14:07,280 --> 00:14:12,800 Speaker 1: Just boy, you need this thing. White. You're listening to 189 00:14:12,920 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: the Stave Harvey Morning Show.