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Speaker 1: Throughout recent times, we have sadly encountered incidents that have

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Speaker 1: of friendships. We have witnessed multiple scenarios where young women

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Speaker 1: have tragically lost their lives, with the individuals responsible being

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Speaker 1: women who were once their friends. Today, my guest would

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Speaker 1: share her personal journey of surviving the worst night of

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Speaker 1: her life, which unfolded while she was at her friend's house.

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Speaker 1: So to my guests, how are you feeling? How you doing?

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Speaker 2: I'm doing good. I'm feeling good, you know, just going

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Speaker 2: day every day, you know, trying to make the best

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Speaker 2: of it.

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Speaker 3: Good.

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Speaker 4: Good.

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Speaker 1: But look she looked good, y'all. She got her birdberry

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Speaker 1: bonding on. Okay, Yes, thank you.

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Speaker 2: Good.

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Speaker 1: Well, I want to say thank you so much for

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Speaker 1: being a guest on the show because I know this

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Speaker 1: conversation is going to be a little difficult for you.

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Speaker 1: So I really appreciate you sharing your story and definitely

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Speaker 1: inspiring the listeners out there. So thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Yes, of course that's what I want to do, you know,

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Speaker 2: that's all that matter. Good.

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Speaker 1: So what inspire you to start sharing your story?

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Speaker 2: Well, it's crazy because at first, like when it was fresh,

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Speaker 2: I did not want to tell anybody, like the day after.

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Speaker 2: That was my plan to not you know, go about

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Speaker 2: it in the big way. But after a while, I

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Speaker 2: guess I just felt like I needed to tell somebody.

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Speaker 2: And when I did tell somebody, they shared their experience

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Speaker 2: with me and I didn't even know what happened to them.

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Speaker 2: So that kind of opened my eyes, like, wow, you

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Speaker 2: don't even know who goes the same.

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Speaker 1: You want it right?

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Speaker 2: Right? Yes? So afterday I was just like, wow, Okay,

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Speaker 2: I love helping people, so let me just open my story.

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Speaker 3: And I finally got the bravery or determination that one

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Speaker 3: day to make a video and it came out positive.

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Speaker 2: It was a positive outcome.

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Speaker 1: So do you feel lighter the more you share your story?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 5: Definitely.

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Speaker 1: Now, if I'm not mistaken, you recently graduated from high

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Speaker 1: school like three years ago.

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Speaker 2: Right, yes, twenty twenty.

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Speaker 1: Wow, so you was a graduation baby in the pandemic.

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Speaker 2: How was that?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god? Well, first, so I was supposed to

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Speaker 2: be passed to twenty twenty one. But because I did

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Speaker 2: early college programing, you know, in my high school we

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Speaker 2: had a smart.

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Speaker 1: Professional homegirl.

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Speaker 2: Now okay, thank you, But yes, I didn't have my credentions,

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Speaker 2: so I was able to graduate early. But when I

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Speaker 2: was excited, of course, I'm like, okay, And then when

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Speaker 2: we got the announcement, it just kind of brought everything. Now,

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Speaker 2: you know, I always look forward to graduating in high

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Speaker 2: school because I don't know, if you know the movie

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Speaker 2: High School Musical, I grew up on that. And then

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Speaker 2: when they dance in that graduation yeah, yes, but yes,

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Speaker 2: but now it's like, I'm not gonna lie. It's kind

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Speaker 2: of hard, like watching you know, twenty twenty one, two A,

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Speaker 2: kind of sad and I wish we could have had it.

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Speaker 1: But you can say, yeah, I mean that's like the

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Speaker 1: of high school. Like you look forward to graduation, you

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Speaker 1: look forward to prom, senior skip day, like you look

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Speaker 1: forward to ship. And y'all was kind of robbed when

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Speaker 2: Yes, twelve years of school right just to be at

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Speaker 2: home graduating right exactly, So.

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Speaker 1: Like y'all didn't have you didn't have a problem, did you?

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Speaker 2: No? No? Come? Oh wow? And then I didn't have

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Speaker 1: And I feel like you were pretty popular in school, right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I kind of I'm out there, but I kind

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Speaker 2: of also stayed on myself, like I don't like to

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Speaker 1: Was right, you don't like to be mixy right right now?

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Speaker 1: When everything happened, you were in the eleventh grade, yes, yes,

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Speaker 1: So how would you describe your friendship with the person

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Speaker 2: Well? In the beginning, of course, it was great, everything

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Speaker 2: thing normal to me. We met each other in church

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Speaker 2: we all danced together a whole bunch of times, and

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Speaker 2: we would come over, she would come over to our

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Speaker 2: house dinner, you know, everything like that. Yes, Like my

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Speaker 2: mom gave her money for graduation rides, the work, yes,

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Speaker 2: all of that, and it was just everything. She seemed

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Speaker 1: She was a few years older than you, right.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I think probably. Well, well at the time I

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm. So did you notice anything or did anything

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Speaker 1: your eleven grade homecoming?

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Speaker 2: Not? Really, everything seemed normal, Like it wasn't nothing out

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so strange that, I mean, we all get

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Speaker 1: into it. Leia on about how like she's just like

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Speaker 1: a light switch, like she just flipped. Yes, yes, especially

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Speaker 1: since our families were so close.

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Speaker 2: Right exactly. But after that situation, a couple of my

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Speaker 2: close friends in the circle did the same thing, so

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Speaker 1: You know what, did the same thing to you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Well did some shady things pertaining to the event

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, So tell us about the night of

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Speaker 1: the homecoming, because I know you was going to was

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Speaker 1: it her birthday party?

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Speaker 2: Yes, she was having a little kickback. So you want

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Speaker 2: to know the homecoming or just go straight to No,

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Speaker 2: you can do both, Okay, So I go to my

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Speaker 2: home coming, you know, dressed up. You was a cheerleader, right, yes,

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Speaker 2: of course, I think we had a game before we went,

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Speaker 2: so yeah, and then we went home, got dressed and

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Speaker 2: when it was in the cafeteria, everybody was dancing. It

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Speaker 1: That's how I know. That's how I know, y'all. Young

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Speaker 1: to always go to I hop.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I should have went to me some I hop Yes,

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Speaker 2: I'm like okay, like all right, and so I start

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Speaker 2: getting I start talking everybody, you know, introducing myself, and

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Speaker 2: when everything started to show. But I didn't really you know,

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Speaker 1: What do you mean by things started to show? Like

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Speaker 2: Like as when I look at when I looked about

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Speaker 2: this situation after the fact. Yes, So when I was

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Speaker 2: introducing myself, those two particular people just like stood out.

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Speaker 2: They kept asking me like different questions like how do

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Speaker 2: more detailed questions. And I don't know why, but I

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Speaker 2: just wasn't thinking of it. I'm just thinking they're getting

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Speaker 2: alone me. Right, that's my friend's friend, so whatever, and yeah,

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Speaker 2: and we started drinking. It's cool, the two particular people.

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Speaker 2: It's a guy and it's a girl. The guy seeings

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Speaker 1: Spent in right, so you thought he was gay, right,

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Speaker 2: And the girl portrayed, well, she was dressed you no.

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Speaker 1: Like, yes, look, get your ship out.

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Speaker 2: Don't know how to talk.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're from the same neighborhood, get your ship out. Okay,

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Speaker 2: You like to see her she's.

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Speaker 1: But go ahead. So he thought he was gay because

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Speaker 4: Was like something like that, right, right, So I'm like, okay, cool,

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Speaker 4: we start drinking or I started taking side.

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Speaker 1: But wait, but you made a comment. You said when

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, so she worked there. She was just she

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Speaker 2: She was yeah yeah, so yeah, she when I get

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Speaker 2: we were just taking shot and then I don't know,

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Speaker 2: I think this is this is definitely like my first

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Speaker 1: Oh well yeah, if you mixing us and this is

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Speaker 1: like your first cause I was going to ask you that,

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Speaker 1: like was this your first time drinking or did you

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Speaker 2: No, that was like first time I'm drinking drinking. It

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Speaker 2: was I think it was. It was definitely Hennessy.

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Speaker 1: Oh ya in eleventh grade child, y'all.

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Speaker 2: Was less right Hannessy and maybe the rock or y'all

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Speaker 2: I'm dark and light, yeah, dare cho but mind you,

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Speaker 2: but mind you. The two particular people. They're like twenty

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Speaker 1: Oh, but we also she was your friend is older

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Speaker 2: Right right, right, So yeah, so.

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Speaker 1: Afterwards y'all took the shots. Then what happened next?

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Speaker 2: And so I don't know, you know, I'm feeling it.

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Speaker 2: I guess I just remember. The next thing, I know,

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Speaker 2: I'm starting to have a panic attack, and like I'm

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Speaker 2: felt better or something like that. And so, oh, mind

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Speaker 2: It's about five or six friends other people there too.

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Speaker 2: But after that it kind of just went blank. Like

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Speaker 2: the next thing I remember was the events. I remember

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Speaker 2: just waking up. The room was dark, It's nobody there

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Speaker 2: but the two people. Everybody else left, Yeah, everybody else

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Speaker 2: like I know they wouldn't. And I was crying, why

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it was hurting like aching. I was like,

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Speaker 1: Do you know anybody that's been in a similar situation

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Speaker 2: When I told him and he's just telling me like,

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Speaker 2: oh my gosh, you need to tell somebody, like this

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Speaker 2: is going hurt if you keep by the way, yeah yes,

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Speaker 2: And I was like having a panic. It's take on

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Speaker 2: I told her come over. She came right over, and

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Speaker 2: I just gave her a hub because I couldn't face

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Speaker 2: I told her what happened, and then she was like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: She called the police so we could, you know, start

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Speaker 2: writing a report, and she called my cousin that came

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Speaker 2: to pick me up so she could be there, you know,

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Speaker 2: for comfort. So the police get there, my cousin get there.

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Speaker 2: what happened? You know, of course, right, and so eventually

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Speaker 2: But she called my friend's mom, right, she was out

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Speaker 2: And she said, oh, oh my gosh, okay, let me

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Speaker 2: call her and I'll call you back. That's all. That's it,

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Speaker 2: that's all. And never called that till today, Like till today,

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Speaker 2: never called that. Never.

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Speaker 1: That's kind of sketch. Yeah, but unless she was unless

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Speaker 1: she I mean, I'm pretty sure she was shocked as well,

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Speaker 2: Well, after a while we stopped going because I couldn't

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Speaker 2: but yeah, we did see them in church sometimes and

436
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,359
Speaker 2: it would be hard for the both from me wait.

437
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:28,879
Speaker 1: For me to get there, because I do have a

438
00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 1: question about that. So when the police got involved, what

439
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,720
Speaker 1: was the outcome? Did anything happen?

440
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 2: Now? Nothing?

441
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:39,240
Speaker 1: And why not?

442
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 2: So okay, it's a couple things. So this thing I

443
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:51,000
Speaker 2: always okay, I'm not gonna say it's my fault, but

444
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 2: I too, remember I said I took a shower, right,

445
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 2: So when they did the rape kids and you know,

446
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 2: all the evidents, they didn't find anything. So that was that.

447
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 2: And then it was one sixteen year old girl against

448
00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 2: five adults or whatever. And in the interview process, I

449
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 2: wasn't I guess I wasn't hurt or enough, like I

450
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 2: didn't look hurt enough. So they didn't.

451
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 1: Believe me because she was crying and like.

452
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,760
Speaker 2: Ball in my eyes, right, right, is that what they do?

453
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 2: That's not what they told me. But okay, well my

454
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 2: mom works in the law enforcement, so she kind of

455
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 2: knows everything, but she kind of told me that thing.

456
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 2: And when I was in the interview, I was crying

457
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 2: a little bit, but I was like more calm because

458
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 2: that's the kind of person I am. I don't like

459
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 2: to be sad for a long amount of time.

460
00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 1: You know, you have to be distressed, right right.

461
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:09,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, and the well on that whatever situation. So yeah,

462
00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:14,280
Speaker 2: so nothing happened. They the last thing they told me

463
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:20,080
Speaker 2: was we're gonna let you know. We talked to we

464
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:22,840
Speaker 2: interviewed them, and we interviewed you. We're gonna let you know,

465
00:30:24,080 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 2: and we never heard anything mind you. I was in

466
00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 2: twenty nineteen and then I recently tried to reopen. They

467
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 2: came last year and I talked to new people and

468
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 2: they they said it's still no evident.

469
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 1: And they couldn't do like a blood test to see

470
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 1: if you was drug.

471
00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:04,960
Speaker 2: Well they so they did do it. They sing, yeah,

472
00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 2: they seen all the all of it. Well they've seen

473
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:19,280
Speaker 2: well they just seen marijuana, so but they just seen

474
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:23,080
Speaker 2: other they just seen liquid. So I don't I don't

475
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:24,880
Speaker 2: think so that's what they told me. I don't know.

476
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 2: But what what gets me is they could have charged

477
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 2: them with, you know, underage drinking. They could have charged

478
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 2: her mom with underage drinking because it's her house. It

479
00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:39,400
Speaker 2: was like other things they could have looked for.

480
00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 1: So you can feel hurt, right, But.

481
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 2: Let me tell you this. I just found out my

482
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:57,840
Speaker 2: girlfriend people's people had been through the same experience with

483
00:31:58,720 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 2: that guy, with the same guy before me.

484
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 1: So he's just out here raping people.

485
00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 5: Yeah but yeah, yeah, but no, that's the Unfortunately she's

486
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:15,680
Speaker 5: not he's not open.

487
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:21,000
Speaker 2: So and I'm not gonna you know, workpas, but I believe,

488
00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 2: you know, if she was to come forward, maybe they

489
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:26,560
Speaker 2: will open the case back up.

490
00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 1: Well, how did I mean, obviously not to tell too

491
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:30,360
Speaker 1: much of her business, but how did you know that

492
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 1: y'all was? Uh, it was the same guy, So.

493
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:40,560
Speaker 2: I think one day, oh, because one day I guess

494
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:45,320
Speaker 2: I was, you know, triggered or in my feelings about it,

495
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 2: and I posted him on my story. It was like

496
00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 2: do anybody notice man? And yeah? Right. Her people come

497
00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 2: to like, oh yeah, what the school am? And then

498
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:06,760
Speaker 2: I told her what happened to me, and she's like,

499
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, the same thing happened to my cousin

500
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:18,440
Speaker 2: or whatever. So and I was like, oh wow, Like right, okay,

501
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 2: And I hope he's not, you know, doing it anymore

502
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:28,760
Speaker 2: if he's already getting twice yeah, right right.

503
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 1: But you also mentioned how you felt like you thought

504
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:34,920
Speaker 1: that this was a setup because you mentioned that your

505
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 1: your friend had videos of her just giving you water.

506
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:41,400
Speaker 2: Mmm, yes, yes.

507
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:44,440
Speaker 1: Which I thought that was kind of weird.

508
00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 2: Right right. That was another reason why I guess they

509
00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 2: didn't believe me, because everything that they had against me

510
00:33:55,080 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 2: was perfectly like like it was literally a video of

511
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 2: me just saying like, oh yeah, give me some more,

512
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:10,160
Speaker 2: give me some more, like I'm really out, Like you

513
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:13,319
Speaker 2: don't leave to whatever, give me some more and she's like,

514
00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:16,239
Speaker 2: oh no, you need to some water, taking it out

515
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 2: my hands, like just really doing the whole little play

516
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:26,319
Speaker 2: on acting whatever. Right. I don't Yeah, I don't know.

517
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 2: And it's crazy because also when I was in the interview,

518
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 2: the police were like being weird, like they were being

519
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:40,839
Speaker 2: kind of sketchy, like they were telling me little details

520
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:43,839
Speaker 2: from what they say, but not really. They told me

521
00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 2: about the videos. Only seen one video, but they told

522
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:49,719
Speaker 2: me it was multiple videos.

523
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:52,399
Speaker 1: They showed it to you or you saw it on

524
00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:53,080
Speaker 1: social media.

525
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 2: I saw it from one from my aunt somehow. I

526
00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 2: think they said it to world or something like that.

527
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 2: I don't know, right, but it was more videos and

528
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:08,680
Speaker 2: they said we were playing truth or there and I

529
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:12,160
Speaker 2: was dancing on everybody and I wanted to play truth

530
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:15,959
Speaker 2: or there, and I like truth or dare Like from

531
00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:19,839
Speaker 2: my mind, I don't remember no time of playing truth

532
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 2: to day, So I don't know. But they was just

533
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:26,759
Speaker 2: being like giving me very little details and I don't

534
00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 2: know if that's what was their job, trying to see

535
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:30,799
Speaker 2: how I was gonna react to it. But it was

536
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:34,160
Speaker 2: just weird, like they was already like I already knew

537
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 2: whose side they were on.

538
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 1: Right, do you feel like do you and you say

539
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 1: your mom is in she's in law enforcement, do you

540
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:44,279
Speaker 1: feel like they did their job or do y'all feel

541
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 1: like they did their job?

542
00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:51,480
Speaker 2: No? Not at all. Wow. And the sad thing about

543
00:35:51,520 --> 00:35:55,120
Speaker 2: it is the main person who was on my case

544
00:35:55,200 --> 00:36:05,319
Speaker 2: he's now working with the kid abuse section or what

545
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 2: I'm going to call it. So I just think that's

546
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:13,360
Speaker 2: that he didn't help me. So I hope he's helping

547
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:14,759
Speaker 2: the kids I love.

548
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:18,799
Speaker 1: Right, So, how did this experience impack you? Because I

549
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 1: know it had to be challenging for you to concentrate

550
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 1: on graduating.

551
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 2: Yes, it definitely mcaped me. I don't I can't even

552
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:35,919
Speaker 2: describe my feelings towards it when it happened and after

553
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:40,359
Speaker 2: because I think I just, like I said, the type

554
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 2: of person I am, I don't like to do well.

555
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:47,800
Speaker 2: And like literally after the hospital day, I was like, Okay,

556
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 2: I'm going to school the rest of the week, and

557
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,880
Speaker 2: my mom was like, no, like you need to take

558
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:54,239
Speaker 2: a break. I was like no, And I went back

559
00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:57,480
Speaker 2: to school and I was good and I was just

560
00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:03,320
Speaker 2: focused on, you know, school because I'm almost graduating and stuff.

561
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:12,279
Speaker 2: But it kind of it definitely impacted like relationship and friendship, right,

562
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 2: sometimes family stuff too, Like it didn't impact a lot

563
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:27,200
Speaker 2: of stuff, but over the years, you know, I became

564
00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 2: good with it, Like I'm better with it now. Sometimes

565
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:36,359
Speaker 2: I still, you know, have those moments, but it's better,

566
00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:37,440
Speaker 2: definitely better now.

567
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, because me, I guess and I we were talking

568
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:44,399
Speaker 1: earlier and I like to ask my guests, like, hey,

569
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 1: have you listened to the show? Have you ever heard

570
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 1: the show before, just to give the guests an idea

571
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 1: of what to expect. And I was talking to my

572
00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:53,799
Speaker 1: guests and she told me how she listened to the

573
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:59,360
Speaker 1: suicide episode. So I'm assuming you felt suicidal during that time.

574
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:08,000
Speaker 2: Yes, I did, but I feel like it was for

575
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 2: a brief moment. I feel like, honestly, that's when I

576
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:16,840
Speaker 2: felt I grew up in you know, the church and stuff.

577
00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:21,359
Speaker 2: But honestly, I felt like in that moment, that's when

578
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:25,600
Speaker 2: I opened myself up and my eyes could God. Like

579
00:38:26,560 --> 00:38:29,640
Speaker 2: I gained so much strength that I didn't know I

580
00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:33,640
Speaker 2: had from that up until now, Like I still am

581
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:39,000
Speaker 2: in disbelief that myself like really did that. Like I'm good,

582
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:45,040
Speaker 2: like right, So yeah.

583
00:38:44,000 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: Well, I know you're very religious So did this situation

584
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:47,800
Speaker 1: make you question God?

585
00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 2: Yeah? It was like I don't know, it was like

586
00:38:54,280 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 2: I did question him, but it was also I kind

587
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:06,320
Speaker 2: of understood, like I always carry the you know, the

588
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 2: quote God gives God gives his battle to a strongest soldiers.

589
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:18,040
Speaker 2: Oh my God. So yeah, so I just kept that

590
00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:23,359
Speaker 2: in my mind, I think, and I just was like, Okay,

591
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:26,480
Speaker 2: I learned from it, what did what did I need

592
00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:30,279
Speaker 2: to learn from it? Like I didn't think about oh

593
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:32,840
Speaker 2: my gosh. Well I did think about why did happened?

594
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:36,760
Speaker 1: But I think that's natural because you actually know this person,

595
00:39:36,840 --> 00:39:38,319
Speaker 1: you grew up with her, and your families are so

596
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 1: close in church, so it's just like wow, yeah.

597
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:47,239
Speaker 2: Right, but yeah, I don't. I think it made me

598
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 2: stronger with him, and true.

599
00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 1: Made your relationship fronger.

600
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 2: Yeah.

601
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:56,760
Speaker 1: So did you ever confront your friend or did anybody

602
00:39:56,800 --> 00:39:57,759
Speaker 1: else come front her?

603
00:40:00,320 --> 00:40:03,680
Speaker 2: I never in front of her, and I seen her

604
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:09,080
Speaker 2: one day and I staid up front. I went to

605
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:12,760
Speaker 2: the store, to the head store, and it was about

606
00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 2: the close, so I was like the only one in there,

607
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:17,319
Speaker 2: and I heard the door open and I heard her

608
00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:23,360
Speaker 2: voice and I looked and I was like I noticed that,

609
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:29,279
Speaker 2: you know, just garling with him, and I just walked

610
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:32,759
Speaker 2: into the counter and bought my stuff, and I seen

611
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:35,800
Speaker 2: her in my pariphia looking at me, like just staring

612
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:38,920
Speaker 2: at me. And I walked out and I sat in

613
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 2: my truck and she walked up the store and she

614
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:46,040
Speaker 2: just still was just staring at me, like walk into

615
00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:48,319
Speaker 2: her car, just starning me. So I know, and I

616
00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:50,319
Speaker 2: looked and I thought about that, and I was like,

617
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:56,840
Speaker 2: I must really do bother her, and that's good. But

618
00:40:57,080 --> 00:41:00,719
Speaker 2: in the store, I was like, I know it's not girl, Like,

619
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:04,440
Speaker 2: what should I do right now? I have an opportunity

620
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 2: to say yeah, But then I was like, wait, I'm

621
00:41:11,280 --> 00:41:16,920
Speaker 2: in a store with you know, Korean people, and you

622
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 2: know they don't be playing about the I want to

623
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:24,080
Speaker 2: body call the police. So I was like, I'm not

624
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:26,680
Speaker 2: gonna give her the energy to look at us, So

625
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:29,880
Speaker 2: let me just go get my stuff and leave. And

626
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:34,839
Speaker 2: they bothered her, and yeah, but I kind of regret it.

627
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 2: You regret it a little bit. A little bit. I

628
00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:39,640
Speaker 2: wish I said something.

629
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 1: So, how would it be in church, because I know

630
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 1: that you and your mom stopped going to that church,

631
00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:44,719
Speaker 1: like you said earlier.

632
00:41:46,520 --> 00:41:50,080
Speaker 2: Well, we wouldn't really cross path because the church is big,

633
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:52,600
Speaker 2: so we would be in this section, they would be

634
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:54,879
Speaker 2: in the section next to us. That's how we're saying them.

635
00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:59,440
Speaker 2: But everybody would be packing it, so we wouldn't actually

636
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 2: see them. And I was just ignored.

637
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:05,799
Speaker 1: And do anybody else know about it in the church?

638
00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:10,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, So the pastor, we had the pastor and the

639
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 2: first lady, we had a meeting with them one night

640
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:17,640
Speaker 2: and we told them, and the first lady actually, you know,

641
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:20,799
Speaker 2: opened up about her story to me. Mm hmm, so

642
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:23,680
Speaker 2: and she kind of went through the same experience, the

643
00:42:23,680 --> 00:42:29,000
Speaker 2: black outs and stuff. So yeah, And I don't know.

644
00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 2: I mean, it's not like they could be like, Okay,

645
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:36,279
Speaker 2: y'all can't come to church or whatever. But I don't know,

646
00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:39,640
Speaker 2: it didn't I don't want I don't know. I don't

647
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:42,480
Speaker 2: want to say. It didn't seem like they did any

648
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:45,120
Speaker 2: say in situation, But I don't know if they were

649
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,279
Speaker 2: supposed to why.

650
00:42:47,320 --> 00:42:50,919
Speaker 1: I am happy that the people are starting to share

651
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:52,719
Speaker 1: their stories with you, because you're starting to share your

652
00:42:52,719 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 1: stories with them, because I know, when I was going

653
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:56,880
Speaker 1: through a lot of traumatic shit, I used to always

654
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Speaker 1: feel like I was the only one until I started

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Speaker 1: sharing my story. So when you start showing your story,

656
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Speaker 1: that's how you build your community.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely.

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Speaker 1: So I think that's really good that you're starting to

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Speaker 1: find your tribe that can help you with this part

660
00:43:10,840 --> 00:43:16,600
Speaker 1: of your journey. Yes, yes, So what were some of

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Speaker 1: the things you did that help you with your journey

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Speaker 1: towards healing? Because I know you mentioned in one of

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Speaker 1: your interviews that it was very difficult for you to

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Speaker 1: even say the word rape.

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Speaker 2: Yes. So I had this journal and it was sparkling.

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Speaker 2: It's so pretty my personality, you know.

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Speaker 6: Okay, So yes, So I was like, let me start

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Speaker 6: writing and see what happened and go by the day

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Speaker 6: so I can read it later.

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Speaker 2: On and see how much I improved. So I started

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00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 2: writing in it every day. And what else did I do?

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00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 2: I just hung out with my trusted, loyal friend that

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Speaker 2: I knew who were there, and they just helped me learn.

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Speaker 2: They gave me advice when I needed, they gave me

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Speaker 2: a shoulder, you know. But I really think the book

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Speaker 2: helped me a lot because even if I wasn't comfortable

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Speaker 2: sharing a specific thing with somebody, I could write it

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Speaker 2: down and get it out right, and it definitely made

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Speaker 2: me feel better. Like now reading my book back then

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Speaker 2: and I'm just like wow.

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Speaker 1: So when we come across stories like Kanika Jenkins, a

682
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Speaker 1: nineteen year old who was found in the freezer, or

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Speaker 1: the recent case of Shanquilla Robinson, who lost her life

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Speaker 1: while on vacation with her homegirls. When you hear these stories,

685
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 1: how does that make you feel?

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00:44:54,520 --> 00:45:01,399
Speaker 2: That hurts? Like it's just a surprise. It's just confusing

687
00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 2: because like why, like that's my response? Why, what's the

688
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 2: reason it should never be necessarious? We'll get to that

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00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 2: point to do that to a human being, right, So

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Speaker 2: I don't I don't know, It's just it hurts. It

691
00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:21,320
Speaker 2: definitely hurts.

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Speaker 1: So how do you go about picking your friends now?

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Speaker 1: Because I know earlier you said that it's been kind

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Speaker 1: of difficult when it comes to trusting people, whether it's

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Speaker 1: within your family or your friendships or dating.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So now now that I'm out of school, I

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00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:44,800
Speaker 2: want to know. From school, I literally only had people,

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00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:47,799
Speaker 2: three people I hang out with that I actually like

699
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:50,799
Speaker 2: grew up with elementary all the way up to now.

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Speaker 2: That's it, Like I do not touch to nobody. I

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00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:59,759
Speaker 2: tried to have some friends, and you know they are

702
00:46:01,840 --> 00:46:02,840
Speaker 2: they don't act their.

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Speaker 1: Age grow people. So that's that's normal, right, right, So

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Speaker 1: how has the situation affected your relationship with your with

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Speaker 1: your family, especially with your mom?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I mean it brought us I feel like,

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Speaker 2: you know, if I feel like my mom had her

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00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 2: own feelings towards the situation of course, like you know,

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Speaker 2: I always wanted to keep my child, see but I

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Speaker 2: couldn't or I failed or whatever. And so I felt

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Speaker 2: like after a while we were good, like we were

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00:46:47,840 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 2: always close. We were good, but it was like I

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00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:56,480
Speaker 2: don't know, we were both thinking, but like like I

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00:46:56,520 --> 00:47:04,359
Speaker 2: don't know. And after a while she me and her

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00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:10,759
Speaker 2: started to class mm hmm. Not because of that situation,

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Speaker 2: but because of a whole other situation involving with my girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: If you get what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: She didn't like to find like girls. M h yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I saw the interview. She gave it up nasty.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yet acting the pool. But now we're good. We

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Speaker 2: just talked to it all a couple of months to

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Speaker 2: those So.

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Speaker 1: Well, that's good. Did she did she didn't. Was it

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Speaker 1: because of the religion part or the aspect of it?

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00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 2: Yes? And growing up you know in the older days, right,

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00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:48,240
Speaker 2: So if she grew up in Texas, so they skirt.

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00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:51,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's consider that's the part of the Bible Belt, right,

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Speaker 1: I feel like, I mean it's in the South. Mm hmm. Well,

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Speaker 1: I'm happy that y'all are in a great space because

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Speaker 1: I know that had to be pretty challenging. But I

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Speaker 1: also feel like it's great that y'all have the conversation

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Speaker 1: about that because you are who you are and you

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Speaker 1: like what you.

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Speaker 2: Like like and I'm still the same no matter what.

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Speaker 1: Right, how has she been doing since the situation? Like, like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: does she still be herself up about it? Because I

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Speaker 1: know that has to be pretty difficult as a parent

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Speaker 1: to feel as if she didn't protect her child.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I can tell like it'll be like something

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00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:37,640
Speaker 2: that pertains to the event, right, or we'll be watching

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Speaker 2: something both of us will get, you know upstate. She'll

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Speaker 2: be like, Okay, what's all. She'll try to end the

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Speaker 2: conversation whatever it is about. I can tell she's still

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Speaker 2: very hurt.

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Speaker 1: Trigering M Yeah, Well, does anyone have any information about

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Speaker 1: the worriyabouts of the two individuals? Because I know you

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00:48:58,560 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 1: we talked about the guy, but what about girl? Where

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Speaker 1: is she at?

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Speaker 2: Man?

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Speaker 6: I don't know, she goes I had I found her

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Speaker 6: Instagram like back close to the event.

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Speaker 2: And then I don't know what happens she's done. I

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00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:16,960
Speaker 2: don't know right he backed off?

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Speaker 1: H What would you would you want anything to happen

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00:49:21,040 --> 00:49:23,160
Speaker 1: to them now? Like would you want an apology? Would

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00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:26,040
Speaker 1: you want them arrested? Like what a closure look like

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00:49:26,080 --> 00:49:27,160
Speaker 1: for you in this situation?

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Speaker 2: M hmm. I always thought about that, And I really

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00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:40,479
Speaker 2: don't know, like I don't know right, Like I don't

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00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:42,960
Speaker 2: know if I want to fight out or.

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Speaker 1: Just let let God handle them like he's been doing.

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Speaker 2: Right and that that is so hard to hear, No,

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Speaker 2: it is. It's hard to say too, yeah, like, oh

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Speaker 2: my God, but I'm just like, okay, but.

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Speaker 1: God, when God does get his lick, Yeah, that's really so.

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Speaker 1: What is your advice to the listeners when it comes

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Speaker 1: to friendships?

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Speaker 2: My right would be use them very carefully. I don't

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Speaker 2: want to say be cautious, but be cautious, like don't

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00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:31,200
Speaker 2: be paranoid, but be cautious from the moment you meet them.

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Speaker 2: If you don't get a genuine vibe from the beginning,

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Speaker 2: like an actual genuine vibe, like, then we're but and

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00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:45,839
Speaker 2: even if you've get a gingle vibe, because people will

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00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:53,600
Speaker 2: be fine until whatever y'all might fall out. Don't let

775
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:57,920
Speaker 2: that discern you. Don't let that hurt you. Just know

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00:50:58,080 --> 00:51:01,800
Speaker 2: that it was only for a season, you know.

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Speaker 1: Come on, list sirs.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you always want to find somebody that's supposed to

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Speaker 2: be in your life when they're supposed to be in

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00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:13,399
Speaker 2: your life. So yeah, you know.

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Speaker 1: I am so proud of you because when I was

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Speaker 1: doing research on your story and it really I had

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Speaker 1: sleeping in DMS and just gave you an encouraging word

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00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:25,000
Speaker 1: because it was really fucked up what happened to you.

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Speaker 1: But to see you now, you know, I feel like

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Speaker 1: the conversation it was definitely encouraging. I feel like you

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Speaker 1: definitely got your story out. But I also feel like

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Speaker 1: it wasn't as heavy as time.

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Speaker 2: It definitely wasn't right. I feel very.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you, thank you, And to the listeners.

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Speaker 1: If you have any questions or comments or concerns, please

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Speaker 1: make sure to email me a hello at the PHG

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