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Speaker 1: a bishous ambitious ambition, ambition, ambition, Hey, mandra, just a

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Speaker 2: There is this, you know, like everybody's now into Korean

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Speaker 2: beauty and I told myself I was not gonna jump on,

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Speaker 2: but there's this bomb like this.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I should have brought with me this. I saw

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Speaker 1: it on social.

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Speaker 2: And like, I think a lot of people don't realize

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Speaker 2: that if you've got oily skin, oftentimes it looks oil

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Speaker 2: actually not oily. And so sometimes in my t zone,

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Speaker 1: Dry out and it will kind of look oily.

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Speaker 2: And I didn't notice how bad it looked until if

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Speaker 2: you ever get your lashes done, in your brain, I

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Speaker 2: was done, and you're under that fluorescent light and they

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Speaker 2: give you the mirror to see and you see your skin.

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Speaker 3: Your skin's like I wish they wouldn't, Like, I don't

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Speaker 3: want to see my skin after a facial. I don't

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Speaker 2: Girl, but I've been using this bomb. I'm going to

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Speaker 2: find the like the name of it. It's like, I

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Speaker 1: It's a Korean beauty. It like little and.

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Speaker 2: Look like basically it's like a face chapstick. And so

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Speaker 2: every night I put it like, you know, like T

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Speaker 1: I just got my arm.

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Speaker 2: I was done, obviously, and when they brought me the mirror,

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Speaker 1: Skin was skinning. I said, thank you Korea getting this

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Speaker 3: Aw. But yeah, so I was in Cali for a

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Speaker 3: I bought a ticket to a conference that I had

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Speaker 3: We've seen that trip Beverly Hills. Oh is that like

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Speaker 3: you on Shelley Long Rest in peace. Okay, but I

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Speaker 3: The whole time. I was like, Okay, I'll find something

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Speaker 3: else to beat my personality today. State farm agents are

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Speaker 3: it wrong. This is the thing. You book your own vacation.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I like that fun because you are cute. Chatting

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Speaker 3: She would love to have more black girls at her

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Speaker 3: She was one of those white ladies that you just

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Speaker 2: And Loki HAIKEI, I mean my daddy saying plopactic.

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Speaker 3: Oh I think you've told us that before. Rachel Maddow.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. He was like, I think she's gay. I said nothing, definitely,

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Speaker 1: And then he was like all the things I've been told,

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Speaker 3: I was like, if Rachel's not going to heaven.

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Speaker 2: It was Glennon Doyle, but to be clear, they were

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Speaker 2: They raised about two million dollars on that one call alone.

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Speaker 2: Joe Kate. She's a woman who started the Black Women

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Speaker 2: which I hate.

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Speaker 3: Take a breath. Find out the.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I am gonna find Joe j Okay. I feel

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Speaker 3: Even though do the Google thing where it like reads

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Speaker 3: Sometimes they will put their name up. I love that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, uh huh, but no, cydbar you told me something

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Speaker 2: That attributed to your ability to like be a really

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Speaker 3: it's the thrill of like just saying the truth out

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00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:28,080
Speaker 3: loud and just like not dying after, Like you're actually

436
00:21:28,119 --> 00:21:31,080
Speaker 3: not going to bloat into flames if you put yourself

437
00:21:31,080 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 3: out there in that way. Anyway, he had a girlfriend

438
00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:37,440
Speaker 3: and he was super nice about it, and he was like, actually, no,

439
00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:39,080
Speaker 3: I have a girlfriend. She goes to different school. And

440
00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:42,240
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, cool, see you around, see you

441
00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:46,360
Speaker 3: in homeroom. And that was the first time. And I

442
00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:49,920
Speaker 3: have done oh my god, I have done that multiple

443
00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:53,399
Speaker 3: times in my life. Sometimes when we're working out, Like

444
00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:55,600
Speaker 3: right before I met Enrique, I was on the war path.

445
00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:59,120
Speaker 3: I was like, I'm by me a mate in New York.

446
00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:03,040
Speaker 3: I really no, I'm not kidding. I was telling Chris.

447
00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:05,800
Speaker 3: I'm like, Chris, Oh, Chris, bless his heart. I think

448
00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:09,040
Speaker 3: I gave him heart failure. He's a very nice boy anyway,

449
00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:12,480
Speaker 3: But I'm like, yeah, I just kind of like would

450
00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:16,600
Speaker 3: decide I didn't want to waste time. I mean, it's

451
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:19,000
Speaker 3: not wasting time to have a really good friend, you

452
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:21,000
Speaker 3: know what I mean. Like, I love meeting new people,

453
00:22:21,280 --> 00:22:24,040
Speaker 3: but when you actually develop feelings, it's quite uncomfortable to

454
00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:28,240
Speaker 3: be in that presence, like especially if they're unrequited, requitted requited.

455
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:30,760
Speaker 3: So for me, it was just like, let me just

456
00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:32,520
Speaker 3: see if this is going anywhere, because if it's not,

457
00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:36,840
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna like continue bringing my energy, my sparkle.

458
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:40,359
Speaker 3: I'm fabulous, just like give that energy to someone else,

459
00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:41,280
Speaker 3: you know what I mean.

460
00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:45,120
Speaker 1: You are and I just I am I that so much.

461
00:22:45,119 --> 00:22:48,080
Speaker 2: And I can see that in grown Mandy now and

462
00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:51,840
Speaker 2: how you negotiate on your own behalf business and career

463
00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:53,199
Speaker 2: and otherwise.

464
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:56,359
Speaker 3: There's I mean, it's exactly the same rush of just

465
00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:59,560
Speaker 3: telling someone And this is just me saying I was

466
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:02,720
Speaker 3: gonna do it, my brown, my brown boost, but I

467
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:06,119
Speaker 3: challenge you even like and it does. I don't believe

468
00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 3: there's any shame in that as a grown woman. Yes

469
00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:10,920
Speaker 3: I'm married, Yes I have a kid, but like I'm

470
00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:13,800
Speaker 3: not dead, Like we're adults, you know, So just saying like, hey,

471
00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:16,040
Speaker 3: I really have like a crush on you, or whatever

472
00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:18,800
Speaker 3: you want however you want to say it, Okay, maybe

473
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:21,359
Speaker 3: don't do that. I am a little cuckoo for coconuts

474
00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:24,200
Speaker 3: Coco clubs. I know that you don't need to tell.

475
00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:28,119
Speaker 3: But for me, it was just like it was a

476
00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:30,119
Speaker 3: little bit. It was so thrilling, and it was just

477
00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:36,360
Speaker 3: like I it just reminded me how bold and awesome

478
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 3: I can be and beautiful, oh yeah, bold and beild

479
00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:46,840
Speaker 3: and beautiful. And then I and then you know, Chris

480
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:49,280
Speaker 3: was asking me more about my you know, negotiating when like,

481
00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:52,640
Speaker 3: as for creators, I had just given a talk at

482
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:55,040
Speaker 3: this women in Money event and it was all about

483
00:23:55,080 --> 00:23:57,320
Speaker 3: how to It's called bank your brand, so it's about

484
00:23:57,320 --> 00:24:00,679
Speaker 3: how you can negotiate on your behalf get brands like

485
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:04,560
Speaker 3: all of that. And I said, I think I finally

486
00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:08,480
Speaker 3: have the answer. I'm just I love that adrenaline rush.

487
00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:11,879
Speaker 3: I can I can withstand it, like I can withstand

488
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:15,359
Speaker 3: the dread and the anticipation and all of that, and

489
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 3: I can do it and I can walk away and

490
00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:20,480
Speaker 3: just coming down from that high. Ugh, there's nothing like it.

491
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,120
Speaker 3: And Chris was like, I know you probably skydive before

492
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:27,000
Speaker 3: having you. I was like, yeah, you have paragliding, Yes,

493
00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:31,119
Speaker 3: skydiving paragliding. So I hitchhiked down. I hitchhiked, you know,

494
00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:32,600
Speaker 3: I said yes to a boy who asked me to

495
00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 3: go hitchhiking up and down the coast of Chili. I

496
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:38,240
Speaker 3: was like, yeah, cool, sounds good. Eighteen wheeler would love

497
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 3: to tag along.

498
00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:42,119
Speaker 2: So one thing I really admire too is that a

499
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:45,240
Speaker 2: lot of people would have one felt the crush, two

500
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:47,639
Speaker 2: not said anything to the crush, and then three not

501
00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:49,960
Speaker 2: said anything to their partner, But you told your partner.

502
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:53,760
Speaker 3: Maybe I just talked too much. Now, yeah, I told him.

503
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:56,320
Speaker 3: I was like, because I wanted him to know what

504
00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:58,440
Speaker 3: an incredible week I had. I wanted him to know

505
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,359
Speaker 3: how amazing this was for me to just like to

506
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:05,280
Speaker 3: like be by myself and to and to listen. He

507
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:08,760
Speaker 3: always has my location anyway, like there's no Also the

508
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 3: best thing about my husband is just like how little

509
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 3: he he how he knows like I'm ninety nine percent

510
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:18,679
Speaker 3: just talk and like just like tap dancing and like,

511
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 3: you know, I just say all I see things all

512
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:21,639
Speaker 3: the time to try to like get a rise out

513
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 3: of him, and he just doesn't give me any reaction.

514
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 1: They called they called the beige flag.

515
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:29,680
Speaker 3: The beige flag. Oh yeah, he's like, he's.

516
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:34,480
Speaker 2: Just like, so, how did that conversation go with the

517
00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:35,680
Speaker 2: girls who are like, ah.

518
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:37,640
Speaker 3: Wait it went?

519
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:38,400
Speaker 2: Man?

520
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 3: I wish it was exciting. I was just like I

521
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:42,080
Speaker 3: couldn't I couldn't contain it. I was like, I have

522
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 3: to tell you something. And I told him and I

523
00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:48,919
Speaker 3: was like, nothing happened, blah blah blah blah blah, and

524
00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:50,720
Speaker 3: he was just he just made this face. He was

525
00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 3: just like, okay, so about these are rapists. We were

526
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:58,639
Speaker 3: going to the restaurant. No, I'm not kidding. He's like,

527
00:25:58,640 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 3: what kind of a rippa do you want? Are you

528
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:02,159
Speaker 3: going to do? Going on dynasts take that's all he

529
00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:02,439
Speaker 3: knows you.

530
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 2: He's like, girl, this is my girl, and so you know,

531
00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:09,120
Speaker 2: but I love that, Like I think, I think it's

532
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:14,439
Speaker 2: important that people in healthy relationships show like you know,

533
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,440
Speaker 2: because it's it's not unhealthy to be like, oh my gosh,

534
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 2: that person's really cool. And it's also not unhealthy to

535
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 2: tell your partner like, you know, you have a say.

536
00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:24,479
Speaker 2: What that signals to me is that you have a

537
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:28,320
Speaker 2: safe space to have that conversation with h Yeah, you know,

538
00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:31,400
Speaker 2: because some places couldn't, like some some partners would absolutely

539
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 2: blow up.

540
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 1: That's why I didn't want you to go by yourself.

541
00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:34,639
Speaker 1: You can't ever go out of there.

542
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:37,040
Speaker 2: And it's like it shows the health that you have

543
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 2: in yourself, but also the healthy relationship we have with him,

544
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 2: and so no, I just love that.

545
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 1: And I love that you can.

546
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:49,119
Speaker 2: Trace your ability to navigate the hard financial conversations to

547
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 2: being able to advocate for yourself when it came to you,

548
00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 2: like your romantic interests as a young woman. That's like

549
00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 2: so critical, you know, And so I think so many

550
00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:04,440
Speaker 2: of your whole are raising, you know, young people, especially girls,

551
00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 2: this sense of confidence to instill in them because you

552
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:11,439
Speaker 2: might think it's just this, it's not. It's going to

553
00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:14,640
Speaker 2: follow them into the future about how they feel about

554
00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 2: themselves when they're six and ten and fifteen.

555
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 1: Is how you feel about yourself in the boardroom when.

556
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:22,480
Speaker 2: You're thirty and forty five and fifty, it absolutely matters,

557
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,120
Speaker 2: Like I am a testament to I had to claw

558
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 2: my way back to like feeling good about myself because

559
00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 2: I was allowing things to happen in business that ought not.

560
00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:33,639
Speaker 1: To be because I was like, well, maybe just I

561
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 1: just kind of saw it. Maybe I just like let

562
00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 1: me just be easy and let me just be and so.

563
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:42,239
Speaker 2: Losing out because I wasn't bold as like as I

564
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:44,879
Speaker 2: was deserving to be for myself. And so no, I

565
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:46,920
Speaker 2: love that, and honestly I admire that so much, Mane.

566
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 2: I think underlying I kind of sensed that in you,

567
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:51,480
Speaker 2: like I probably didn't have the wording for it. And

568
00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:53,120
Speaker 2: it's like one of the things I like, I really

569
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 2: love most about you is that the sense of like, girl,

570
00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:58,159
Speaker 2: if it could be gotten, I'm gonna get it.

571
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 3: You know, well I don't get it. Sometimes I just

572
00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:02,640
Speaker 3: say it, I want it.

573
00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 1: I'm okay.

574
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:06,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, you know, you missed one hundred percent

575
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:10,120
Speaker 3: of the shots you don't take. It's literally the tagline

576
00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 3: yeah and I and I. It's just the adrenaline rush.

577
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:15,959
Speaker 3: I think it's I think it's exactly why you see

578
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 3: people like do the cliff, like the base jumping, where

579
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 3: you just hurl yourself off a cliff. It goes against

580
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 3: everything and your anatomy, like your biology to put yourself

581
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:29,080
Speaker 3: in that kind of peril. And I don't think there's

582
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 3: that much different. There's not that much difference between like

583
00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:35,720
Speaker 3: negotiating or just asking for more, or going going after

584
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 3: an opportunity or going after a crush whatever. And you know, again,

585
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:43,280
Speaker 3: Chris love him so much. He listened to all of

586
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:45,080
Speaker 3: this and then he was he was like, you won't

587
00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:47,000
Speaker 3: tell your husband. I was like, yeah, shut up, just

588
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 3: it's fine, it's fine, keep biking. And what was it

589
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 3: that he said? He was like, oh, I'd be too scared,

590
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 3: And I'm like, but that's the thing. I'm always scared.

591
00:28:58,000 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm all.

592
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:02,640
Speaker 3: I was touch I mean, I was like, I was

593
00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 3: awkward and you know, and nervous to say the thing

594
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 3: out loud, you know, and to the guy. And I'm

595
00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:12,960
Speaker 3: nervous what every time I negotiate, And it didn't it Also,

596
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 3: I think it helped matters that the day that I

597
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:19,680
Speaker 3: did that, I had helped two badass Mandy moneymakers with

598
00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:23,240
Speaker 3: their negotiations. They both got offers on the table, one

599
00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 3: for like forty K more than she was making, one

600
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 3: for thirty K more than she was making. And every

601
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 3: time I'm negotiating with them, I still get a little nervous.

602
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, I'm gonna ask for more, and like

603
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 3: they have to do it, you know. And I just

604
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 3: try to tell them I can coach them and what

605
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 3: to ask for and all of that. But at the

606
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 3: end of the day, it's them picking up the phone

607
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 3: and calling or sending that email, and I just I

608
00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 3: never lie about it's gonna be scary. The point is

609
00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:50,560
Speaker 3: push through the fear and do it anyway. And that

610
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 3: I and that's the hard part. It's not because you're scared,

611
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 3: it's because you're too afraid that you won't survive the

612
00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 3: fear like to push through it.

613
00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 1: Ooh, you think you won't, so the fear.

614
00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 3: You think the fear is going to consume you, But

615
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 3: really if you don't. On the other side of that

616
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 3: fear is freedom. Whatever happens, you said it, you did it.

617
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 3: You know the outcome. So I will. Nine times out

618
00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 3: of ten, I'm walking through that fear fire and I

619
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 3: will be so much happier and free on the other side.

620
00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:25,760
Speaker 3: So Beverly Hills, Baby, Beverly Hills, Mandy, you might be

621
00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 3: seeing me again. I don't know, but I'm definitely going

622
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:32,160
Speaker 3: to try to incorporate so much more solo travel because

623
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 3: I just love hanging out with myself and being in

624
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:39,720
Speaker 3: new places and I don't get to. Not that I

625
00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 3: don't get to, but yeah, I just haven't had the

626
00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 3: space for that, and I want to make more of that.

627
00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 3: It felt really damn good. And I hope my kids

628
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 3: also will see like me coming back so happy going

629
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 3: and traveling alone and being brave and all of that.

630
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 3: I hope to instill that in them as well.

631
00:30:57,760 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 1: I love that.

632
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:01,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think on that note, we're gonna take a

633
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:04,720
Speaker 2: break and come back with some brown break brown booz

634
00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 2: All right right back, he off, we pay some bills,

635
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 2: and we're back, and now it's time to boost up.

636
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:21,240
Speaker 1: Break up, boost up, break up, boost up, break up? Boost?

637
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 1: Are you gonna boost? Are you gonna break? What you're

638
00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:33,000
Speaker 1: gonna do to do what you're gonna take? So and

639
00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: then I decide I'm gonna go first, and I'm.

640
00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:40,720
Speaker 2: Going to do a boost because I have been and

641
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 2: my boost is for transitions, because they're a bitch.

642
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:45,720
Speaker 1: Okay, here's the thing.

643
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 2: I've been going through a lot of transition obviously, but

644
00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 2: lately more there's just been so many changes, from leaving

645
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 2: my house that I build my husband to this condo

646
00:31:57,520 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 2: where largely I'm by myself, although I did ask my

647
00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 2: baby sister Lisa to stay with me for the summer

648
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 2: so I can make an easier transition of it here.

649
00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 2: Even transitioning you know into like dating and like partnership again. Business,

650
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 2: there's a lot of transitions happening in business that are scary.

651
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 2: The growth is is scary but necessary. Even Brann and Bishen,

652
00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 2: we're gonna be transitioning. We have some like exciting transitions

653
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 2: that we're going to have. You guys, you know that

654
00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:26,280
Speaker 2: really just going to take Brann and bishon to the

655
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:31,240
Speaker 2: next level, and something that you said earlier in.

656
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:33,280
Speaker 1: The app really sparked that.

657
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:37,160
Speaker 2: I think sometimes people look at you, Mandy, or people

658
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 2: like you, and they think that you're doing the thing unafraid,

659
00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 2: and I think, really a good aha moment is that, like, oh,

660
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 2: so Manby is afraid, but she's just always, you know,

661
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 2: like that she has just reminded herself that the fear

662
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 2: doesn't kill, you know, and that if you can get

663
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 2: past it, then like, you know, what's on the other

664
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 2: side typically is so much much better. And so it

665
00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 2: has been a lot I'm not gonna lie so many changes,

666
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 2: I mean, but now I couldn't even sleep here by myself,

667
00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 2: like the first night, like coming to the condo.

668
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:11,160
Speaker 1: I had bought this place.

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Speaker 2: It took me a while to even start to renovate,

670
00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 2: and then even the renovations, I was throwing monkey wrenches

671
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:16,120
Speaker 2: left and.

672
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 1: Right to slow it down.

673
00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 2: And then even when it's done, I refused to come

674
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Speaker 2: here to like I would come here during the day,

675
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 2: but I could not sleep here. And then I asked

676
00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:27,160
Speaker 2: for my therapist said, why don't you ask for someone

677
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:29,720
Speaker 2: to spend the night? First few nights until my sister

678
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 2: Lisa did, and it made it so much easier. And

679
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 2: now I'm not gonna lie, like I really love it here.

680
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:40,840
Speaker 2: I mean it is beautiful and designed exactly to my

681
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Speaker 2: rich auntie afrocentric traveling specifica. I mean, it is amazing

682
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 2: here and it feels like home. And when I go

683
00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:51,800
Speaker 2: back to the house, that still feels like home too.

684
00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:53,479
Speaker 2: So I think I thought I was gonna be like

685
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 2: stripped and ripped away, and even now more so, like

686
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:01,680
Speaker 2: I was talking to my partner, I know, it's crazy

687
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 2: because it's like three years ago. You know, Drop passed

688
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 2: away three years ago, and three years I know, isn't

689
00:34:08,200 --> 00:34:08,840
Speaker 2: that crazy.

690
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:10,399
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I didn't think I was gonna

691
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:10,719
Speaker 1: be here.

692
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:12,960
Speaker 2: I just was like wishing for me to go to

693
00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 2: sleep and not wake up, you know, like that was usually.

694
00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:17,440
Speaker 1: That was like my ardent prayer, Like I could just

695
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:18,839
Speaker 1: go to sleep and not wake up. That would be great.

696
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 1: Thanks God. So I'm up again.

697
00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 2: Great you're obviously not listening, like for real, our turbulence

698
00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 2: on a plane. I was like, if that's what we're

699
00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:29,360
Speaker 2: gonna do, let's do it. I mean that's what I

700
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:32,480
Speaker 2: used to think. So the fact that I'm here is

701
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 2: a miracle itself, because I just felt like everything went

702
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:38,399
Speaker 2: away when he went away. But the fact that I'm

703
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:42,360
Speaker 2: here and that I have found like a partner again,

704
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 2: I don't know, Like I don't I'm still in this

705
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:47,280
Speaker 2: weird space where, like, you know, I've had an amazing marriage.

706
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 2: I'm not opposed to getting married again, but I don't

707
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:51,319
Speaker 2: feel the urgency that I did in my thirties. You

708
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:54,359
Speaker 2: know how that goes. I just feel like, I mean,

709
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:57,960
Speaker 2: if that happens, great, and if it doesn't, okay, But

710
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:00,840
Speaker 2: I will say that I'm in a really healthy, happy,

711
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 2: communicative partnership that builds on all of the amazing love

712
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:09,359
Speaker 2: and lessons that I learned from Jerell. Like I could

713
00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:11,400
Speaker 2: not have this partnership without what I had with Jerrell,

714
00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:14,200
Speaker 2: you know, because he taught me, He really healed me

715
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:18,080
Speaker 2: and taught me what healthy relationship look like. And then

716
00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 2: from there I got to now experience what I'm experiencing now,

717
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:26,160
Speaker 2: and he's just loving and lovely and so much grace

718
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 2: to grieve whenever, and so yeah, and so I just think, like,

719
00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:35,400
Speaker 2: and it was hard because I made him work JOm.

720
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Speaker 1: I mean, it was a lot of therapy, Like doctor green.

721
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 1: I think it's a lot. She's like, well, wow, wow,

722
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Speaker 1: would he benefit from I knew.

723
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Speaker 3: I knew when you guys early in your relationship when

724
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:51,440
Speaker 3: y'all were reading the Attached book, Yes, and like he was.

725
00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 3: Y'all were meeting weekly to discuss chapters. And I was like, oh,

726
00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:57,960
Speaker 3: this boy is in it, Like is he has whooked?

727
00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:02,520
Speaker 3: She has him right where she wants him. Why are

728
00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:05,239
Speaker 3: you here? Go away?

729
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:07,839
Speaker 2: What an amazing subch I just want to say that,

730
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:10,759
Speaker 2: like you know. And so I thought to myself, like,

731
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 2: is it a portrayal? Like transition? It's another transition, like

732
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,360
Speaker 2: if I care and love someone else, is this a

733
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:19,439
Speaker 2: portrayal to like my love and care for Jirelle, Because

734
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:23,239
Speaker 2: that's a transition too, And doctor Renold reminds me that

735
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 2: it's it's different, You're not.

736
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:29,839
Speaker 1: One of the best kind of like ways that.

737
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 2: She reframed it is that do you know anybody with children?

738
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:35,800
Speaker 2: I said yes, and I think I actually brought up you, Mandy,

739
00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 2: and she said, well, you know, I'm sure if you

740
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:40,839
Speaker 2: would ask like your friend, your sister or your friend

741
00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 2: Mandy when their first kid of ride, they were like,

742
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 2: I don't think I can love another human being more

743
00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:49,840
Speaker 2: than this little baby right here, Like my heart is

744
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 2: so full. It's just I didn't know this kind of

745
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:56,359
Speaker 2: love is possible. It just unfolded something, right. And then

746
00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 2: they had baby number two, and it wasn't like, ooh,

747
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 2: so sorry, mabe number two. Baby number one took up

748
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 2: all the space, so you're gonna have to figure you're

749
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:06,200
Speaker 2: gonna have to live on love scraps.

750
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 1: No, she said, what love does is that it increases

751
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:12,120
Speaker 1: your capacity for more love.

752
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:16,400
Speaker 2: It really does. And that was like okay, and she

753
00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 2: was like, that's why someone can have a child, love

754
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:21,879
Speaker 2: that child so much. Think I could not possibly love

755
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,360
Speaker 2: anybody like this, have another child to be like and

756
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,520
Speaker 2: here we are again. And so she said, because you

757
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 2: were so loved well loved by Jirell, and because you

758
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:33,359
Speaker 2: loved Durell so much, it increased your capacity to love

759
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:36,880
Speaker 2: and be loved again. So this is not an erasure.

760
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 2: This is an add on, you know. And I just

761
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:43,319
Speaker 2: was like, okay. So that helped a lot with the

762
00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:45,600
Speaker 2: guilt of like is it okay to continue living when

763
00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:46,080
Speaker 2: he has not?

764
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:46,520
Speaker 1: You know?

765
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:51,920
Speaker 2: So yeah, And just like transition, with transition, you know,

766
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 2: there's just financial transitions, you know, like my company has

767
00:37:55,680 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 2: the opportunity to just explode. And so even that, like,

768
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 2: I'm just trying to be open. And I hope what

769
00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:07,080
Speaker 2: you guys took away from the earlier episode or earlier

770
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:10,480
Speaker 2: in the episode is that.

771
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 1: That there is no separation.

772
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 2: That the way if I'm not open to emotional and

773
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 2: mental and like transition, then it also like affects the

774
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 2: way I earn and manage my money.

775
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:26,080
Speaker 1: It's like where you're closed here, you're closed in general.

776
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 2: And so I'm realizing that like in order for me

777
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:32,200
Speaker 2: to have access to all the good things financial and otherwise,

778
00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:36,240
Speaker 2: I have to really be open and to despite the fear,

779
00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 2: move forward.

780
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:40,400
Speaker 1: And so yeah, I'm just grateful. I'm just grateful for

781
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 1: the good people in my life.

782
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:42,719
Speaker 2: I think by you, Mandy, I mean we have been

783
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:47,400
Speaker 2: through a lot, girl, I have been through a lot.

784
00:38:47,719 --> 00:38:48,359
Speaker 1: I think are.

785
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 3: I would say the most. I mean I believe the

786
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:56,759
Speaker 3: best is the best is yet to come. Anyway, I

787
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:58,640
Speaker 3: believe it's all ahead of us. But I also think

788
00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 3: that thank God for this show because because we really

789
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:05,200
Speaker 3: have a time capsule, I mean, the most action packed

790
00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 3: years for our existence.

791
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:09,040
Speaker 1: I mean.

792
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:12,200
Speaker 3: All of back Mondays. If you want to know about

793
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:14,320
Speaker 3: old Mandy and old Tiffany. I mean.

794
00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 2: I buy my pack panties from Target or if my

795
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 2: girl at least go to marshl That was like.

796
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,839
Speaker 3: You know, I don't want a baby. No, I can't

797
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:26,600
Speaker 3: get enough. I want to two more.

798
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 2: But yeah, so I just like, you know, I just

799
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:34,640
Speaker 2: wanted to dedicate my my brown boost to transitions and

800
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:38,279
Speaker 2: say I'm so grateful for you. Do Wan I said,

801
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:42,840
Speaker 2: I know we are podcast official.

802
00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:47,000
Speaker 1: Do Wan is the one?

803
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 3: Wan is the one? I said, do Wan is the one?

804
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:52,759
Speaker 3: Do Wan is one? All?

805
00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:55,319
Speaker 2: I know because I said, because we've been like keeping

806
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 2: it low, and he's just like, oh, let me find

807
00:39:57,520 --> 00:39:59,320
Speaker 2: out that. Like you know how like many usually the

808
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:01,320
Speaker 2: ones that don't want to he said, I'm this close, Tiffany,

809
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:03,319
Speaker 2: I'm not the post. I'm about the post on social

810
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my god, Like, why does it matter

811
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:07,520
Speaker 2: if people know? He's like, I'm so proud of you.

812
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:09,319
Speaker 2: I'm proud to be with you. Yeah, and I don't

813
00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:10,879
Speaker 2: want to have to hide it. I'm like, well, I'm

814
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:13,040
Speaker 2: not hiding it. I'm just private. It's not a man,

815
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:17,080
Speaker 2: I'm just private. And so yeah, I guess.

816
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:19,879
Speaker 3: To the fee post him in the feed let him

817
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 3: know we slow, but like, yeah, so storys are all

818
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 3: around me like a little story I tell.

819
00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:32,320
Speaker 1: So that is my boost.

820
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Speaker 3: I'm going to co sign your boost because I don't

821
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 3: want to follow that, and I think it was it

822
00:40:37,000 --> 00:40:40,440
Speaker 3: was a co boost And I love you so I

823
00:40:40,480 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 3: was going to use a bad word. I love you

824
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 3: so much genuinely.

825
00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:47,839
Speaker 1: I don't love you too many for real.

826
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 2: That's so grateful if you would have told them, I

827
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 2: don't think that anyone, because I mean, yeah, just to

828
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:57,840
Speaker 2: think of where we are now, like the growth, you know,

829
00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:02,879
Speaker 2: the friendship up, the down, the just yeah, this has

830
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:06,320
Speaker 2: been like this podcast has been such a blessing something.

831
00:41:06,040 --> 00:41:09,640
Speaker 1: That I was like, okay, you know, but it's been

832
00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 1: like this.

833
00:41:10,040 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 2: Constant, you know, in my life, and as a results,

834
00:41:14,200 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 2: so have you and our friends who has just grown

835
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:19,000
Speaker 2: and developed in ways I could not have imagined when

836
00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:20,120
Speaker 2: we first decided, like.

837
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:21,839
Speaker 1: Let's do this thing. You know.

838
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Speaker 3: So I love you too, girl, We love you, ba

839
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Speaker 3: fam Yes, love you so much. Please leave a review

840
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:32,800
Speaker 3: for us if you're out there in the internet streets.

841
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna see if we've got any. Did you read

842
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:37,080
Speaker 3: that review that I texted you to wasn't it funny?

843
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:37,759
Speaker 1: Did you text me?

844
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 3: There's like several texts that you have not got.

845
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Speaker 1: It's been so crazy. I am don't worry. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna.

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Speaker 3: No, okay, this one oh it was dropped the name

848
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Speaker 3: Sis from car Kayla Ray and Kayla Ray and said,

849
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Speaker 3: drop the name Sis. You ladies give me life. I

850
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:59,400
Speaker 3: seriously consider you both my aunties whose advice I actually

851
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 3: listened to. I appreciate the kindness. Excuse me, I appreciate

852
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:06,359
Speaker 3: the kindness, tough love and everything in between. I came

853
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 3: here to leave a good review, obviously, but also to

854
00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:11,799
Speaker 3: say drop the name Sis. We want to know who

855
00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:14,720
Speaker 3: was trying not to pay Tiffany for her speaking engagements.

856
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Speaker 2: I don't like to drop the name because sometimes they'd

857
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Speaker 2: be coming back around, and I don't want to be like,

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Speaker 2: you know, but for your snocky mouth, we was gonna

859
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Speaker 2: pay you.

860
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Speaker 3: So we don't want just a good punchline to block blessings,

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean? And our dollar signs and

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Speaker 3: then diva six number number numbers, says I adore the podcast.

863
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Speaker 3: These are my besties. I have learned so much listening

864
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Speaker 3: to them, just like having a conversation with good friends.

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Speaker 3: I'm so invested and I look forward to every episode.

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Speaker 3: These women are family, that's all. That's like, you can't.

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Speaker 3: There's no better compliment than that for me, not a

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Speaker 3: personal finance podcast, Like come on, I was saying that

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Speaker 3: about dr Show who Who.

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Speaker 1: We all.

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Speaker 3: So love y'all bee fam Until next time, check us

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Speaker 3: out Monday, Wednesday and Fridays.

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Speaker 1: Bye bye