1 00:00:01,320 --> 00:00:04,160 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:07,440 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:11,240 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to STRVFM dot com. We 4 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:14,800 Speaker 1: could be reading your letter live on the air, just 5 00:00:14,840 --> 00:00:17,040 Speaker 1: like we're going to read this one right here, right now, 6 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:21,040 Speaker 1: and you never know, it could be yours. That's right, 7 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:23,280 Speaker 1: all right, ladies and gentlemen, it's time for the Strawberry Letter. 8 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:27,080 Speaker 1: My good friend, Shirley Strawberry. Thank you, my good friend. 9 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:31,760 Speaker 1: Junior subject, she said, he said, She said, Dear Stephen, Shirley. 10 00:00:32,040 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 1: I'm twenty nine years old and my boyfriend is twenty eight. 11 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 1: We have been together for four years and everything is 12 00:00:38,159 --> 00:00:42,159 Speaker 1: great with us until he starts drinking when he's around 13 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: his best friend, and his best friend's girlfriend is his 14 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:49,760 Speaker 1: drinking gets crazy. She is almost always the only female 15 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 1: in the group when they hang out, so it's not 16 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: a shocker when the rumors surface that her boyfriend was 17 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 1: setting her out to his friends. I asked my boyfriend 18 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 1: about it, and he said it was a because none 19 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 1: of them want her. I don't put anything past a man, 20 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 1: especially a drunk man. So fast forward to Friday night 21 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 1: when my boyfriend told me he was going to hang 22 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 1: out with his best friend. He took my car because 23 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 1: his car needed gas. I woke up at three am 24 00:01:18,040 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 1: and my car and my man were still gone. I 25 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: called him and his phone went straight to voicemail. I 26 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: called his best friend and his phone went straight to voicemail, too, 27 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 1: so I got worried. I decided to go over to 28 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 1: his best friend's apartment. I had to drive the car 29 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,320 Speaker 1: that was on e and it made me mad that 30 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:41,319 Speaker 1: he's so trifling. The girlfriend opened the door and was 31 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:44,760 Speaker 1: surprised to see me. My boyfriend was passed out on 32 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:48,000 Speaker 1: the couch, so I pushed my way in. The best 33 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 1: friend wasn't home unless he was hiding in a closet. 34 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:54,800 Speaker 1: I woke my boyfriend up and scared the mess out 35 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:57,600 Speaker 1: of him. He and the girl started stuttering. When I 36 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 1: asked what was going on and where his friend was, 37 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:03,600 Speaker 1: all I got was a bunch of he said, she said, 38 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:06,680 Speaker 1: he said, And my man still has not told me 39 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:10,160 Speaker 1: why he was there alone with her. It didn't look 40 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:13,959 Speaker 1: like they had sex, but I have a very bad 41 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:17,280 Speaker 1: feeling about it. She's not an attractive girl at all, 42 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 1: but she's still a woman. Should I trust my intuition 43 00:02:21,720 --> 00:02:30,640 Speaker 1: or trust my man? What do you think? Okay, you 44 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: already know the answer to that. You got to trust yourself. 45 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 1: You gotta trust your intuition. If you're still in doubt, 46 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:40,359 Speaker 1: trust your eyes. Your man of four years was over 47 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: his best friend's house alone with his best friend's supposed girlfriend, 48 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 1: who you said, there's a rumor out that he's setting 49 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:53,519 Speaker 1: her out to his friends, which means I guess that 50 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: you know she can be with one of his friends 51 00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:59,000 Speaker 1: if she chooses, or if they want her or something. 52 00:02:59,320 --> 00:03:02,520 Speaker 1: It was three block in the morning, and this girlfriend 53 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: was shocked that it was you when she opened the door. 54 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:08,240 Speaker 1: Your man was knocked out on the couch. And they 55 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:10,640 Speaker 1: never gave you a straight answer as to what they 56 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: were doing alone there together. You said they started stuttering 57 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: when you asked, so, I mean, was he drinking too 58 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: much and passed out? Was he passed out because they 59 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:23,640 Speaker 1: had had sex? Now, normally all of that stuttering and 60 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:27,120 Speaker 1: stuff would make them look guilty as heck. But here's 61 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:30,520 Speaker 1: the interesting thing you said out of your mouth. It 62 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: didn't look like they had sex, but you said that 63 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: you had a very bad feeling about it. So this 64 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 1: is where you have to trust yourself and your intuition. 65 00:03:40,320 --> 00:03:42,600 Speaker 1: Just because you didn't catch them in the act doesn't 66 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 1: mean nothing happen. And did his best friend ever come back? 67 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 1: Where was he? Does he know what happened? Anyway? You 68 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:53,240 Speaker 1: know your man and you know what happens when he drinks. 69 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 1: So even though you have no physical evidence, he still 70 00:03:56,360 --> 00:04:00,520 Speaker 1: hasn't told you what exactly went down, which means he's 71 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 1: not even trying to fix it at this point. So 72 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 1: please don't let him get away with this. I mean, 73 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 1: after four years, you deserve way more respect than this. 74 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 1: All right, Steve, there's letters like these day created Who 75 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:20,440 Speaker 1: I am? Oh? Yes, you know some of my strawberry 76 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:26,280 Speaker 1: letter reactions is classics, some legendary moments, and uh think 77 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:31,920 Speaker 1: I'll provide another one. I see into this letter so 78 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:34,160 Speaker 1: many things. First of all, I want to thank Shirley 79 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:40,960 Speaker 1: wonderful response. Yeah, but here's a few things I noticed 80 00:04:40,960 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 1: in this letter. She said, he said, She said, ain't 81 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:48,680 Speaker 1: he really wanted letters about You're twenty nine years old? 82 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:50,680 Speaker 1: You got twenty eight year old boyfriend? Y'all been together 83 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:55,239 Speaker 1: four years, Everything cool till they started drinking. Oh don't 84 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:58,200 Speaker 1: we know that's true? We all have someone in my 85 00:04:58,400 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 1: life that once they started drinking, they are not the same. 86 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:04,600 Speaker 1: I stopped hanging with those people a long time ago 87 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 1: because you used me the people that they turned into 88 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:09,800 Speaker 1: a somebody I don't like. So I get rid of 89 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:12,000 Speaker 1: the person I like and don't like all at the 90 00:05:12,040 --> 00:05:14,599 Speaker 1: same time, because guess what, they're the same damn people. 91 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:17,160 Speaker 1: I can't run the risk of being nowhere and you're 92 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:18,920 Speaker 1: getting the drink. I don't know nothing about them when 93 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 1: you come back over to the damn table, you knew, 94 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:23,800 Speaker 1: so I can't take them. I gets rid of them 95 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:27,480 Speaker 1: people because I don't like to change. Well, they always 96 00:05:27,520 --> 00:05:31,920 Speaker 1: hang out together, and to get crazy. Now, the whole 97 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 1: thing about your best friend, and it's her best friend's 98 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 1: girlfriend is always there in the group and she's almost 99 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:39,599 Speaker 1: always the only female in the group when they hang out. 100 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 1: We're gonna get into why that is it just a second, 101 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:45,880 Speaker 1: so it's not a shocker. When the rumors surfing that 102 00:05:45,920 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 1: her boyfriend was setting her out to his friend, I 103 00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 1: asked my boyfriend about it. He said it was a 104 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:55,479 Speaker 1: lie because none of them won't hug man. That's stop 105 00:05:55,600 --> 00:06:02,280 Speaker 1: this right, don't nobody won't hunt nobody Why she a girlfriend, 106 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:06,800 Speaker 1: if you're his best friend, got her as a girlfriend. 107 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 1: That proves that somebody won't he And it's a lot 108 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 1: more of him out there than you know of. And 109 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: birds of a feather, I say, birds of a feather 110 00:06:16,160 --> 00:06:22,359 Speaker 1: flocked again, flock hello, you know, and when you start drinking. 111 00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:29,960 Speaker 1: I've seen men find anybody attractive on Steve being a king, 112 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 1: so that's not true. I get back into it when 113 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:38,480 Speaker 1: we come in here we're talking about and I have 114 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 1: some most stunning information for you when we return. All right, Steve, 115 00:06:42,640 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 1: Part two of your response is coming up at twenty 116 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:49,040 Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letter. Subject she said, 117 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 1: He said, She said, we'll get back into it right 118 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:57,120 Speaker 1: after this. You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve, 119 00:06:57,200 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject she said? He said, 120 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:04,480 Speaker 1: She said, Well, this lad ain't really about no gossiping 121 00:07:04,600 --> 00:07:06,599 Speaker 1: or nothing. This is about a rumor that's out about 122 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:09,160 Speaker 1: this couple that's been married for four years, twenty eight, 123 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 1: twenty nine years old. They've been together, not married, and 124 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:14,200 Speaker 1: they got the best friend that he hangs out with 125 00:07:14,200 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 1: with his girlfriend. When they get drunk, things get crazy 126 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 1: and the girl that hangs out with him is always 127 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:21,640 Speaker 1: the only girl in the group. And that's why rumors 128 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 1: started that the boyfriend was, you know, setting her friends up, 129 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: setting all his friends up with her on the side. 130 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:30,560 Speaker 1: I asked my boyfriend about it. He said it was 131 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:33,440 Speaker 1: a lie because none of them won't her. How that sound? 132 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 1: She is available being set out and don't know about 133 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:48,520 Speaker 1: any boy? How that? How did that sound? I am 134 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 1: of the male species. That don't even sound right to me. 135 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 1: I don't put anything past a man. Well, well, what 136 00:07:56,080 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 1: to hear you type that line for, especially a drunk man. 137 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:01,960 Speaker 1: So fast forward to Friday night. My boyfriend told me 138 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:03,520 Speaker 1: he was going to hang out with his best friend. 139 00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 1: He took my car because his car needed gas. I 140 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:08,320 Speaker 1: woke up three a m My camm A man wasn't 141 00:08:08,360 --> 00:08:12,360 Speaker 1: never still gonna. I called him in his phone when 142 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:14,960 Speaker 1: straight the voicemail. I called his best friend and his 143 00:08:15,040 --> 00:08:18,200 Speaker 1: phone went straight the voicemail too, So I got wearied. 144 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 1: That is a damn lie, she said. I called a voicemail. 145 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 1: He didn't ask. I call he he didn't answer, So 146 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:32,360 Speaker 1: I got wearied. That ain't what this he is, y'all. 147 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:40,319 Speaker 1: She didn't get wearied, she got suspicious. Suspicion and wearied 148 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 1: is two two different things. See, wearied is when you 149 00:08:45,120 --> 00:08:50,760 Speaker 1: wondering if somebody okay, suspicion is this food? Better not 150 00:08:50,840 --> 00:08:53,560 Speaker 1: be doing what I think you're doing. He's up to something. 151 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 1: You decided to go over to the best friend apartment. 152 00:08:57,960 --> 00:08:59,599 Speaker 1: You had to drive the car that was only and 153 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:02,600 Speaker 1: it made me man because he's so triful. You get 154 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:10,400 Speaker 1: over there, the girlfriend, the one don't nobody won't or 155 00:09:10,920 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 1: just opened. The girlfriend standing there just just looking like 156 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:21,839 Speaker 1: Morgan Freeman. Ah, yes, don't bring my brew into it. 157 00:09:23,280 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 1: A woman look like Morgan Freeman. Yeah, that's the only 158 00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:30,360 Speaker 1: thing I can think of. Ye, So Morganna Freeman opens 159 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:40,360 Speaker 1: the Moganna opens the door, and she was surprised to 160 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:44,680 Speaker 1: see you, because let me tell you something about ugly people. 161 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:49,160 Speaker 1: You want to see however they really are. Three am 162 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:55,840 Speaker 1: is the hour. Three a m Is the hour you 163 00:09:56,120 --> 00:09:59,679 Speaker 1: really had any doubts about a person being ugly? Three 164 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:03,400 Speaker 1: a ain't em tell it all? Ain't nobody looking fresh 165 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:08,160 Speaker 1: and fly? Three am? No, the boyfriend was passed out 166 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:10,040 Speaker 1: on the couch, so I pushed my way in. The 167 00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:13,360 Speaker 1: best friend wasn't home unless he was hiding in the close. 168 00:10:13,440 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 1: I woke my boyfriend up, scared the mess out of him. 169 00:10:15,679 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 1: Here the girl started stuttering. See, I used to stutter, 170 00:10:18,080 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 1: so I know what they did that. We got it? 171 00:10:25,520 --> 00:10:32,360 Speaker 1: You doing? Hell, we know it's stuttering. Stuttering gives you 172 00:10:32,480 --> 00:10:39,240 Speaker 1: time to buy a lie time. He and his girl 173 00:10:39,320 --> 00:10:41,680 Speaker 1: started studying. I asked what was going on and where 174 00:10:41,679 --> 00:10:43,320 Speaker 1: his friend was. All I got was a bunch of 175 00:10:43,360 --> 00:10:46,240 Speaker 1: he said. She said, my man steal has not told 176 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:49,120 Speaker 1: me why he was there with her alone. He ain't 177 00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 1: told you. Well, let me let me let me ask 178 00:10:51,880 --> 00:10:55,320 Speaker 1: you something. Then she said, it didn't look like they'd 179 00:10:55,320 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 1: had sex. What the hell do that look like? She 180 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 1: said that they didn't look like they had just had six? 181 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 1: What does that look like? Girl? I'm sixty six. I've 182 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:12,800 Speaker 1: had every look you can have before and after six, 183 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:19,320 Speaker 1: and there's a whole lot of different looks you. It 184 00:11:19,400 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 1: just ain't no way. I don't even know what They 185 00:11:21,400 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 1: don't look like they had six, depending on how long 186 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:28,720 Speaker 1: ago it was. Because I have sex and put my 187 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:30,599 Speaker 1: clothes back on and lay down because I'm drunk, I 188 00:11:30,600 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 1: ain't gonna look like I had sex. But I had 189 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 1: left that alone for you I've had sex and actually 190 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:45,280 Speaker 1: looked like I had been running a marathon. Different. I've 191 00:11:45,400 --> 00:11:48,000 Speaker 1: had sex and looked like I got shot in the chest. 192 00:11:49,440 --> 00:11:53,439 Speaker 1: I've had sex and it looked like I was cold. Yeah, 193 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 1: I've had sex, balled up in the fetal position in 194 00:11:56,040 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 1: the corner, sucking my thumb. I saw, how do it 195 00:12:00,480 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: look like when you don't have sex? I've had sex 196 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:06,920 Speaker 1: and been in my car with the window road down, 197 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:09,319 Speaker 1: had my head hanging out, just trying to survive what 198 00:12:09,480 --> 00:12:12,320 Speaker 1: it just happened to me back in there. So what 199 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:20,880 Speaker 1: are you talking about? Anyway? Very bad feeling about it. Now, 200 00:12:20,920 --> 00:12:23,840 Speaker 1: He go to key, she's not an attractive girl. I 201 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 1: told you that at three o'clock in the morning. I 202 00:12:25,920 --> 00:12:29,240 Speaker 1: told you that, I told you that she had not 203 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 1: an attractive girl. What the hell that got to do 204 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:35,920 Speaker 1: with it? Anyway? But she's still a woman. Should I 205 00:12:35,920 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 1: trust my intuition or trust my man? Here's the question? 206 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:44,400 Speaker 1: Why is a rumor started that he's passing his girl 207 00:12:44,440 --> 00:12:47,760 Speaker 1: out amongst her friends? Why did that rumor get started? 208 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:53,520 Speaker 1: Why is that a rumor? And how much does that cost? 209 00:12:56,760 --> 00:13:00,840 Speaker 1: Trust your intuition? Yea cousin, I can't saved dog on 210 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:03,680 Speaker 1: this week, you're in the room with an ugly headed 211 00:13:03,720 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 1: woman at three o'clock in the morning. It's going down 212 00:13:08,960 --> 00:13:11,959 Speaker 1: all right, Thank you, Steve. Leave us. 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