WEBVTT - How long does SISTERHOOD really last????

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with

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<v Speaker 1>your hosts me Gia Judice.

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<v Speaker 2>Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Kessler. Welcome back to another episode

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<v Speaker 2>of Dirty Ruf Rush. I'm your host Davey Kent. Today

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<v Speaker 2>we're talking all about what sorority life looks like after

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<v Speaker 2>you graduate. We're gonna hear from some amazing guests about

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<v Speaker 2>what sisterhood means to them years after graduation. So for me,

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<v Speaker 2>sorority sisterhood after college. I'm actually really close with a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of my sorority sisters. I have four sorority sisters

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<v Speaker 2>in my wedding that are going to be bridesmaids. And

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<v Speaker 2>then I actually I was in Alpha FE and then

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<v Speaker 2>pi FI was like the other sorority I was really

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<v Speaker 2>close with, and two of my bridesmaids were in PIEFI

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<v Speaker 2>my little from my sorority is also in my wedding,

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<v Speaker 2>which is really cool. And I think for me, like

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<v Speaker 2>maintaining that friendship just goes back to being in college

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<v Speaker 2>and being in side such an interesting time of your

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<v Speaker 2>life and you learn so much about yourself, and also

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<v Speaker 2>it can be really difficult but really amazing, and so

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really lucky that I have such a good friend

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<v Speaker 2>group through it all, and I think everything just made

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<v Speaker 2>us so much closer. So in my wedding, actually two

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<v Speaker 2>of my sorority sisters are going to give a speech,

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<v Speaker 2>which is really exciting. One of them, Jacqueline, she's I

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<v Speaker 2>have four Maative honors, but she's going to give a speech.

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<v Speaker 2>And then Christy was in pi FI and she's going

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<v Speaker 2>to give a speech also, so she wasn't my sorority sister,

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<v Speaker 2>but in a sorority also. And then if I had

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<v Speaker 2>to describe my bridesmaids in one sentence to a stranger,

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<v Speaker 2>I would say, they're very loyal friends, and there's I

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<v Speaker 2>could call them and there's nothing that they wouldn't do

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<v Speaker 2>for me and me same for them. They're just they're

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<v Speaker 2>really really great people. So after college was such an

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<v Speaker 2>interesting time in my life because my health got really

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<v Speaker 2>bad and I was very sick for a while, and

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<v Speaker 2>they really rallied behind me and helped me, whether it

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<v Speaker 2>was going to treatments with me or just studying me

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<v Speaker 2>support or being there for me when I literally I

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<v Speaker 2>couldn't go out and do all the normal stuff that

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<v Speaker 2>like a college student does. Right after college and then

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<v Speaker 2>also within my time when I went on The Bachelor,

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<v Speaker 2>in my life just like really really changed. It's so

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<v Speaker 2>interesting because my friend group is still the exact same.

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<v Speaker 2>I made some new friendships from the show and stuff,

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<v Speaker 2>but all my best friends and everyone they're the same.

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<v Speaker 2>So well with that everyone, I have Lydia here, So

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<v Speaker 2>she is actually my little from my sorority in Alpha fe.

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<v Speaker 2>She's a year younger than me, and we met when

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<v Speaker 2>I was a sophomore and she was a freshman going

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<v Speaker 2>through recruitment. And the first time we met, I forget

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<v Speaker 2>what day it was of recruitment, but I remember talking

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<v Speaker 2>to Lydia and I was like, I just felt like

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<v Speaker 2>we were like meant to be. And since then we've

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<v Speaker 2>been like so close and it's been such a fun

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<v Speaker 2>and meaningful relationship. But Lydia, do you remember when we

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<v Speaker 2>first met.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, I'll never forget it. And I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like our first like couple of days together, it was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>you're from Minnesota, we love the color yellow, and we

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<v Speaker 3>both are just like such like joyful people, and we

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<v Speaker 3>bonded over like so much different medical stuff that we

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<v Speaker 3>both had gone through. I'll never forget prefnite, Like, I

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<v Speaker 3>will literally never forget Prefnite together. Like, don't you feel

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<v Speaker 3>like that's like one of the most special memories we

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<v Speaker 3>ever had.

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<v Speaker 2>For sure, And it's crazy to think back on because

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<v Speaker 2>like this year, going into like August, it will be

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<v Speaker 2>ten years since I started college, so we've known each

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<v Speaker 2>other nine years this coming August, which is crazy to

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<v Speaker 2>think about. That makes me feel old.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't say that.

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<v Speaker 2>What, Yeah, that's crazy?

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<v Speaker 3>Ten years is crazy?

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<v Speaker 4>Wow?

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<v Speaker 2>Right? So you guys everyone listening. So, Lydia is a

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<v Speaker 2>bridesmaid in my way wedding too. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>I've said that, but the reason I chose her to

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<v Speaker 2>be a bridesmaid is because I feel like we have

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<v Speaker 2>such a unique and special relationship. She's somebody like she's

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<v Speaker 2>gone through a lot of health things too, and we're

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<v Speaker 2>both like have a good sense of our faith and

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<v Speaker 2>stuff like that, and I feel like we've just really

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<v Speaker 2>bonded over a lot of stuff and all of the

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<v Speaker 2>like hard seasons and all of the really good seasons.

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<v Speaker 2>Lyddy has always really been there for me, and I

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<v Speaker 2>just think our relationship is very, very special. She's somebody

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<v Speaker 2>that I talk too often. But also if we don't

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<v Speaker 2>talk to each other for like a month, and then

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<v Speaker 2>we call and talk on the phone. We'll like probably

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<v Speaker 2>talk for an hour and just like it's almost like

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<v Speaker 2>it feels like we're family in a way. So that's

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<v Speaker 2>why I have her in my wedding. And I think,

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<v Speaker 2>what do you think about like this next stage of

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<v Speaker 2>life or like the stage being out of Like call,

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<v Speaker 2>what would you say? Because you're close with some of

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<v Speaker 2>your like sorority sisters that are in your grade. Also, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and even.

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<v Speaker 3>Like our like my little your g little like we are.

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<v Speaker 3>We live seven minutes down the road from each other,

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<v Speaker 3>and she has babies and is married, And I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like going through like into this next chapter, it's so

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<v Speaker 3>different because we would talk about such day to day

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<v Speaker 3>things and now we're talking about buying houses and weddings

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<v Speaker 3>and children, and just like it's so wild to still

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<v Speaker 3>feel the simplicity of the friendship. It just has changed

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<v Speaker 3>so much, even though we're still so close. Yeah, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I mean it's just so fun to cheer each other on.

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<v Speaker 3>I think, like, no matter whatever season of life I've

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<v Speaker 3>been in, I feel like you've been such a cheerleader

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<v Speaker 3>for me.

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<v Speaker 2>And like I.

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<v Speaker 3>Look up to you like a big sister, and I

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<v Speaker 3>feel like sometimes it goes the other way around.

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<v Speaker 2>Like for her, it's like very very wise. So anytime

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<v Speaker 2>I'm having like a life crisis, I call her. She's

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<v Speaker 2>like sometimes I'm like, wait, how old are you?

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<v Speaker 3>But I also feel like it's cool because, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>for like, he was like a bestie in college, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>and so like it's so fun now like seeing the

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<v Speaker 3>two of you and just like how the friendship has

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<v Speaker 3>turned into something you know, like that's going to last

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<v Speaker 3>a lifetime, which is sad equally as amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>That is crazy to think about because yeah, because when

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<v Speaker 2>you first met me, you also met Thor, which was weird.

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<v Speaker 2>And then to talk about everything that has happened in

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<v Speaker 2>between then until now is like so crazy, but it's

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<v Speaker 2>so awesome to look back on too.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, anyone in the halls of Zura at San Diego State,

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<v Speaker 3>there have been some very core memories made there.

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<v Speaker 2>Literally, what do you do You have any specific memories

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<v Speaker 2>from our sorority days that like really like speak out

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<v Speaker 2>to you.

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<v Speaker 3>Without going into too much detail, every big little that

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<v Speaker 3>ever happened, stay too, And I loved formals together, Like

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<v Speaker 3>those are some of my favorite memories with you. We

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<v Speaker 3>were a big like sygab people obviously, and anytime like

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't a very big I wasn't a very big

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<v Speaker 3>guy person like I just wasn't. I didn't like fling

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<v Speaker 3>around as much in college, and whenever I got got

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<v Speaker 3>to go with you, I felt like so cool because

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<v Speaker 3>I would be like, oh, I'm I'm with Daisy and

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<v Speaker 3>we're gonna go hang out with all the guys that

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<v Speaker 3>and you know, exactly one night I'm talking.

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<v Speaker 2>About say up groupie.

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<v Speaker 3>For sure, Halloween at SAGAP is like a core memory. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>for every year that ever happened that it ever happened

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<v Speaker 3>as well.

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<v Speaker 2>For sure. I think Also one for me is when

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<v Speaker 2>we drove out. This wasn't like for a sorority thing,

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<v Speaker 2>but it was so weird because me and Lydia met

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<v Speaker 2>in college but we're both from Minnesota. So after one summer,

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<v Speaker 2>me and her road tripped out from Minnesota to San

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<v Speaker 2>Diego and she drove her car literally like the whole

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<v Speaker 2>way and we did a little road trip and it

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<v Speaker 2>was so much fun.

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<v Speaker 3>You like swam in the canyons and you done are.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, yeah, it was such a great time.

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<v Speaker 3>That was so fun and you were moving into your

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<v Speaker 3>PEV house that time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, senior year.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah that was crazy, what a different life. That was

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<v Speaker 3>such a good memory.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Do you think that friendships that last are the

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<v Speaker 2>ones like you expect to last or do you think

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<v Speaker 2>there's like unexpected ones.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like life just changes so much, and like

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<v Speaker 3>looking back, I knew that when we met, like you

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<v Speaker 3>were going to be in my life forever.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt that like gives me chills.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Like from the ivet met, I was like, you're

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<v Speaker 3>going to be in my life forever, Like you're going

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<v Speaker 3>to be in my wedding one day, and now like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm in your wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>It's crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>But then like you kind of see who really lasts postgrad,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, and like who definitely shows up for you

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<v Speaker 3>and who I don't know you talk to without a

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<v Speaker 3>feeling too, you know, to catch up with them.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a weird time in life too, Like people are

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<v Speaker 2>like trying to find jobs or have a job and

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<v Speaker 2>like moving different places. So I think after college is

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<v Speaker 2>like really telling to like who you stay close with.

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<v Speaker 3>A like it goes beyond distance and time zones, and

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<v Speaker 3>you know, it really is like if I can call

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<v Speaker 3>you and we haven't talked in six weeks, it's like

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<v Speaker 3>nothing changes. Like those are the friendships that last, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Forever, m hm, because life gets crazy as you get

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<v Speaker 2>older too. Yeah, alities, even now, I'm like, can you

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<v Speaker 2>imagine when we get it's gonna be more career?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I've met can people are having them, and it

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<v Speaker 3>just it never slows down.

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<v Speaker 2>It never slows Yeah. Do you have a specific moment

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<v Speaker 2>that you can think about when like a sorority sister

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<v Speaker 2>that you had in like the past but like now

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<v Speaker 2>like is currently in your life when they like really

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<v Speaker 2>showed up for you.

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<v Speaker 3>Gosh, I mean the first person I think it was

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<v Speaker 3>Taylor Derek, who is my little everyone, Yeah listening, we

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<v Speaker 3>are just we've had a really strong lineage. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I mean Taylor decided when I got my job in Charleston,

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<v Speaker 3>my first job in twenty twenty one, she decided to

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<v Speaker 3>move with me, and she had never been here like ever,

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<v Speaker 3>and we are like sisterhood turns into like family, and

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<v Speaker 3>we we became each other's family. And now we're still

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<v Speaker 3>out here in Charleston, and you know, it's like everyday things,

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<v Speaker 3>whether it's share in closets. We're still sharing closets, Like

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<v Speaker 3>she has kids and I borrow her outfits and vice versa.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's like the little moments, you know, like whether

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<v Speaker 3>it's dropping off food for one person or the other,

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<v Speaker 3>or you know, she comes over and brightens my day

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<v Speaker 3>with her babies. It's just like that friendship is also

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<v Speaker 3>one that is going to last forever as well.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I mean so special.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's so special.

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<v Speaker 2>It really is. And do you have any like advice

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<v Speaker 2>for girls graduating that want to keep their relationships close

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<v Speaker 2>with their sorority sisters.

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<v Speaker 3>I would say, don't wait to catch up, Like, don't wait,

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<v Speaker 3>life is going to be crazy, and one text message,

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<v Speaker 3>one phone call is all you need to stay connected.

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<v Speaker 3>Like there are months that you're gonna have too much

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<v Speaker 3>going on and all you need to do is send

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<v Speaker 3>a short text. So just like, don't don't wait to

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<v Speaker 3>to keep in touch with your sisters. You have to

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<v Speaker 3>invest in your friendships, and like that's not going to

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<v Speaker 3>go away, but it doesn't have to be complicated.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that. Well, thank you so much for coming on.

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<v Speaker 2>It was so special having you on here.

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<v Speaker 4>It's so fun.

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<v Speaker 3>I love you.

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<v Speaker 2>I love you too, okay, well, I will talk to

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<v Speaker 2>you later.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, bye, Okay, guys, we have Maddie On here now.

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<v Speaker 6>And where did you go to school, Maddie Hi, I

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<v Speaker 6>went to University of Nevada Reno.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, and you are also assumed to be bride right, Yes, I.

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<v Speaker 6>Am twenty twenty seven, so excited, so exciting.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you close with any of your sorority sisters anymore

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<v Speaker 2>or any of them in your wedding? Yes?

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<v Speaker 6>They are My big is in my wedding. I absolutely

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<v Speaker 6>love her. Yeah, I'm so excited. And then one of

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<v Speaker 6>my childhood best friends we went to the same college

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<v Speaker 6>and she is also going to be one of my

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<v Speaker 6>bride's nids. We were in the same sorority, so those

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<v Speaker 6>two are definitely like my two for my sorority.

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<v Speaker 2>That's so fun. I just had my little on right

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<v Speaker 2>before you, and she's in my wedding too.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 6>Really, I feel like that bond is so special between

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<v Speaker 6>a big and a.

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<v Speaker 2>Little it is. It's really cool. Like if you like

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<v Speaker 2>Mesh well, yes, Brennan can be like so special exactly.

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<v Speaker 7>That makes all the difference.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have any like other sorority girls that will

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<v Speaker 2>be invited to your wedding.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I have a bunch of girls that will be invited.

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<v Speaker 6>They'll definitely be there for sure. I feel like we're

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<v Speaker 6>at such like an interesting age where if I got married,

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<v Speaker 6>like and maybe even just a few years ago, I

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<v Speaker 6>feel like more sorority sisters.

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<v Speaker 7>Would be in the wedding party.

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<v Speaker 6>But we you know, like it was seems like a

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<v Speaker 6>while ago that we graduated, so you meet new people.

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<v Speaker 6>But yeah, a bunch of a bunch of girls are invited.

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<v Speaker 6>How many bridesmaids are you having? I have eight bridesmaids, Okay,

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<v Speaker 6>I have twelve.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, that's so funny. How many were in your sorority?

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<v Speaker 2>I have Riley, Kendall, Jacqueline, and Lydia, so four of them.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh great, so that's like a good yeah sure. And

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<v Speaker 2>then I have like a couple of high school friends

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<v Speaker 2>and then a couple girls that were in like I

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<v Speaker 2>was in Alphahy and they were in pi FI but

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<v Speaker 2>we were really close. So those two and then like

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<v Speaker 2>my sister in law, my sisters, and then my like

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<v Speaker 2>two week sister in law.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh I love that it's same.

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<v Speaker 6>It's like just a little eclectic mix of everyone.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, did you have you Well, you've asked your bridesmaids then, right,

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<v Speaker 2>how did you ask them?

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<v Speaker 7>I got them?

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<v Speaker 6>I did like the classic little bridesmaid box.

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<v Speaker 5>I got that.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, I loved it.

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<v Speaker 6>It was like my fait. It's been my favorite part

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<v Speaker 6>so far. I'm like getting to give to them these things.

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<v Speaker 6>But yeah, I had like the little makeup bag with

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<v Speaker 6>their initials embroidered into it, and like a fragrance and

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<v Speaker 6>a candle and you know, all the like things you'll.

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<v Speaker 7>Find on Pinterest.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, all the fun stuff exactly. Now, like when you

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<v Speaker 2>met your big did you think that you guys were

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<v Speaker 2>going to be like so close and have this like

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<v Speaker 2>long like relationship.

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<v Speaker 7>You know what?

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<v Speaker 6>That's a really good question. She transferred from a different

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<v Speaker 6>school to our school, so she grew.

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<v Speaker 7>Up in Vegas as well.

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<v Speaker 6>I didn't actually know her when we like both gran

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<v Speaker 6>here and went to high school, but I think since

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<v Speaker 6>she transferred, she was kind of like newer and people

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<v Speaker 6>hadn't really gotten to know her.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh super well yet.

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<v Speaker 6>So I think I didn't realize at first how close

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<v Speaker 6>you would be, But like since then, I feel like

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<v Speaker 6>we've really stayed kind of inseparable.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you find any like similarities when you were like

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<v Speaker 2>going through picking people to be your bridesmaids, Like, did

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<v Speaker 2>it feel like big little at all, like when you

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<v Speaker 2>were like picking a big.

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<v Speaker 7>Yes, it actually totally did.

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<v Speaker 6>It's like I feel like what was important to me

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<v Speaker 6>was just kind of looking at my friends and being like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 6>who do I see myself you know, really still being

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<v Speaker 6>this close with in like ten years?

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<v Speaker 7>And that's so.

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<v Speaker 6>Hard to predict, I guess, but like I feel like

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<v Speaker 6>you're doing the same thing in big little. It's not

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<v Speaker 6>just like, Okay, who am I going to be friends

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<v Speaker 6>with for like just my four years in college? Like

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<v Speaker 6>who do I really see myself boning with forever? So yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>it was definitely a very similar thought process for sure.

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<v Speaker 6>Did you feel the same way.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I feel like it's the same. Like for me too,

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<v Speaker 2>I was like who, like have I been close with

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<v Speaker 2>for a really long time? And like who, like will

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<v Speaker 2>I be like close with? And also I kind of

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<v Speaker 2>looked at like not like the word too, but also

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<v Speaker 2>like who, like which of my friends are like close

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<v Speaker 2>with him? And like have always really like supported us

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<v Speaker 2>and stuff.

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<v Speaker 6>So that's kind of way right Because you want to

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<v Speaker 6>look back at pictures and be like I'm still friends

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<v Speaker 6>with this person, not like, oh I haven't talked to

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<v Speaker 6>them forever.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I was.

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<v Speaker 7>It's definitely a big decision.

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<v Speaker 2>Definitely has planning your wedding like made you appreciate your

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<v Speaker 2>friendships in a different way, I think.

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<v Speaker 6>So, I think you kind of hear crazy stories, like

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<v Speaker 6>at least I do on TikTok. I'm like on bride

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<v Speaker 6>TikTok right now, so you get all of the crazy

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<v Speaker 6>stories of like my friends got jealous and whatever when

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<v Speaker 6>I was getting married. But I've had zero experiences like that.

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<v Speaker 6>I feel like all of my friends have just been

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<v Speaker 6>so supportive and like it's really important. I think I

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<v Speaker 6>kind of didn't realize how important it would be when

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<v Speaker 6>like planning your bachelorette, like you want to make sure

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<v Speaker 6>all of the girls really have your back.

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<v Speaker 7>So yeah, it's been fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Well I am so excited for you. Thank you so

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<v Speaker 2>much for coming on.

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<v Speaker 7>Thank you to congrats.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks also bye bye. You have live on and live

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<v Speaker 2>Where do you go to school?

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<v Speaker 4>So?

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<v Speaker 1>I went to TCU, Texas Christian University, so in Fort Worth, Texas.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you just graduated like a couple of years ago, right.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I graduated in twenty twenty four, so about like

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<v Speaker 1>two years ago now just two and a half kind

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<v Speaker 1>of crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>And are you still in touch with a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>your sorority sisters?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, definitely.

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<v Speaker 1>I keep up with most of them honestly, whether it's

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<v Speaker 1>like social media, but also.

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<v Speaker 4>Just like in person.

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<v Speaker 1>We really like I feel like most of my college

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<v Speaker 1>friends see each other a lot, and also a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of us moved to the East Coast.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so we all like keep in touch like pretty regularly.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it does staying connected look for you, Like, do

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<v Speaker 2>you guys go on trips? Like is it the group

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<v Speaker 2>chat like FaceTime? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>I would say group chat is like number one.

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<v Speaker 5>Ye.

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<v Speaker 1>We like texting it all the time, so that's like

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<v Speaker 1>the most up to date way like day to day.

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<v Speaker 4>But also trips.

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<v Speaker 1>We've done a lot of different trips, like since I graduated,

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<v Speaker 1>like weekend trips to like the Jersey Shore. We've gone

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<v Speaker 1>back to Texas for like alumni weekend or someone's birthday,

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<v Speaker 1>like some of my friends are getting married now, So

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<v Speaker 1>there's like a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Of different Yeah, a lot of different trips.

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<v Speaker 4>And like plans that we've done. But I feel like

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<v Speaker 4>texting is like the most.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the most that we do. I feel like that's

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<v Speaker 2>like the easiest too, and it's like fun, yeah, all

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<v Speaker 2>throughout the day.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, Like I'm sitting at my desk at work

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<v Speaker 1>like texting in my group chat most of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>which is probably not great, but I feel like we're

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<v Speaker 1>all kind of we kind of do it to keep

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<v Speaker 1>each other sane and like it's a nice way to

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<v Speaker 1>just like keep each other updated, especially if for not

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<v Speaker 1>like in the same place, just with like random stuff

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<v Speaker 1>or even like sometimes my friends will go down a

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<v Speaker 1>rabbit hole of like sending old pictures from college, like

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<v Speaker 1>on a random Tuesday in the middle of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>which is the best.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so funny. We just had one of my like

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<v Speaker 2>best friends bachelorette like a couple months ago. Yeah, like

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<v Speaker 2>a video of like all of us in like our

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<v Speaker 2>pictures and videos, and it was so funny. Like going

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<v Speaker 2>back through college and like seeing I know, every.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the best, especially like freshman year because like most

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<v Speaker 1>of my friends were from like freshman year on and.

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<v Speaker 4>Like seeing myself freshman year. Yeah, it's a little scary,

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<v Speaker 4>but it's fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Do you think like your friendships that have lasted

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<v Speaker 2>past like graduation are the ones you expected to last.

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<v Speaker 4>I would say it's a mix.

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<v Speaker 1>But for me, it was very much like I kept

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<v Speaker 1>closest to the people that I lived near, honestly just

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<v Speaker 1>because like I'm so busy and so not being like

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<v Speaker 1>in the same city obviously, like traveling to see each

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<v Speaker 1>other as just like another element.

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<v Speaker 4>But with that said, like the girls that don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Live in the same city as me that I expected

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<v Speaker 1>to like stay close with, I have, so like I

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<v Speaker 1>definitely knew who would last like after college versus who

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<v Speaker 1>was more of like maybe just a college friend or

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<v Speaker 1>like that I don't keep up with as much. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but also for me, it kind of like it fluctuated

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<v Speaker 1>even throughout college. Like I feel like the girls that

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<v Speaker 1>I was like closest with at the end was like

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<v Speaker 1>different than freshman year. Like I was staying friends with

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<v Speaker 1>everybody because my so already were always doing stuff together.

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<v Speaker 1>But like it just kind of changed from like freshman

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<v Speaker 1>to senior year, and like those girls that I was

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<v Speaker 1>closest with senior year, like that stayed the same. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>So yeah, but like really like being in New York.

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<v Speaker 1>I live in New York, and like the girls that

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<v Speaker 1>live in New York or like nearby, like even Boston

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<v Speaker 1>or New Jersey or whatever, like those are the people

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<v Speaker 1>that are easiest to stay in touch with just because

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<v Speaker 1>we're close.

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<v Speaker 2>Is there something that you didn't appreciate or like you

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<v Speaker 2>didn't realize you would appreciate about sisterhood until like post grad.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, yeah, I didn't. I didn't even realize that.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I would say, I lived in the house. I

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<v Speaker 1>lived in the Zeta House, and that was like my

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<v Speaker 1>first time living with girls that like I genuinely loved

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<v Speaker 1>and like wanted to be around all the time. And

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<v Speaker 1>that like kind of prepped me for like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have a sister, so I just have a brother, and

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<v Speaker 1>like my friends would always talk about like having sisters

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<v Speaker 1>and like bickering with them like one hour before and

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<v Speaker 1>then being like.

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<v Speaker 4>Totally fine the next hour. Like that type of environment when.

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<v Speaker 1>I lived in the Zeta House was like the first,

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<v Speaker 1>like my first experience with like, oh, this is what

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<v Speaker 1>it's like having a sister. Like you're sharing a room

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<v Speaker 1>with someone or in my case, like I shared you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we were on the same floor as girls, but like

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<v Speaker 1>in each other's like rooms till late at night, like

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<v Speaker 1>maybe arguing over like stupid stuff.

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<v Speaker 4>But then the next day, like we're going to a

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<v Speaker 4>party together, we're like waking up walking to class like whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>So like that actual idea of having a sister, like

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<v Speaker 1>I knew nothing about really. I mean, I also danced

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<v Speaker 1>growing up, and I think that that is like a

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<v Speaker 1>different like type of sisterhood, if you will, almost more

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<v Speaker 1>like trauma bonded maybe, but like it was a different

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<v Speaker 1>it was a different type of sisterhood, like getting into

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<v Speaker 1>college and like having sorority sisters that like you kind

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<v Speaker 1>of depend on for everything you.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't have your family.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that really like just shape my like overall understanding

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<v Speaker 1>of like friendships that do feel like sisters versus like

0:24:28.000 --> 0:24:29.800
<v Speaker 1>friendships that are maybe a little more.

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<v Speaker 4>Like superficial or just like come and go.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>So I feel like now when I choose my friends

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<v Speaker 1>or I guess like make friends or whatever, I'm always

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<v Speaker 1>comparing it to like the girls that I already have

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<v Speaker 1>in my life that like do feel like sisters.

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<v Speaker 2>Definitely, especially in people that yeah, you feel so close

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<v Speaker 2>to and that you've made those great relationships with.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah it is, And like, honestly, it's been really nice

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<v Speaker 1>because even through like college, I like, I like went

0:25:00.119 --> 0:25:03.520
<v Speaker 1>like I went out of state technically, so I wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>like somebody that got super homesick, but still like not

0:25:06.080 --> 0:25:08.840
<v Speaker 1>being near your family, like a lot of other people

0:25:08.920 --> 0:25:11.760
<v Speaker 1>didn't have that experience, And for me, like having really

0:25:11.760 --> 0:25:14.840
<v Speaker 1>close friends throughout college and then now also not living

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<v Speaker 1>near home, it's kind of like carried me through.

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<v Speaker 4>In a way that like I don't even realize sometimes.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I know that's so important, especially when you

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<v Speaker 2>aren't like when you're away from home. It's such a

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<v Speaker 2>different experience like than anything I had ever experienced before.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm so grateful for the friends that I've had,

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<v Speaker 2>like since being in college and being like now I'm

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<v Speaker 2>like way out of it, but it like it's just

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<v Speaker 2>so fun and it's so amazing to like have those

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<v Speaker 2>people that you hold so close to yourself.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, no, it's special for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have any advice for girls that are graduating

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<v Speaker 2>that want keep those friendships close?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean I feel like being intentional with your friends,

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<v Speaker 1>and like you were saying before, like the friendships that

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<v Speaker 1>I knew would like carry outside of college, like I

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<v Speaker 1>had to make like a very like direct effort with

0:26:19.800 --> 0:26:22.399
<v Speaker 1>those people to like make sure that like we stayed

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<v Speaker 1>close and stayed in touch, and like that comes down

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<v Speaker 1>to like little things. I feel like right when my

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<v Speaker 1>friends like started their jobs, like I was always.

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<v Speaker 4>Like checking in and like asking intentional.

0:26:33.640 --> 0:26:37.000
<v Speaker 1>Questions or like wanting to like hang out after I

0:26:37.080 --> 0:26:39.399
<v Speaker 1>knew they had like a big first day or something

0:26:39.440 --> 0:26:41.960
<v Speaker 1>like that, and like setting aside like genuine time for

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<v Speaker 1>your friends. And another thing is like for me, at

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<v Speaker 1>least in college, I felt like immense pressure to like

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<v Speaker 1>include all my friends all the time and like be

0:26:53.800 --> 0:26:58.320
<v Speaker 1>surrounded by like hundreds of friends, like for every like

0:26:58.359 --> 0:27:01.520
<v Speaker 1>oh pregame, like I have to invite one hundred people,

0:27:01.560 --> 0:27:02.760
<v Speaker 1>and like everybody has to be.

0:27:02.720 --> 0:27:05.720
<v Speaker 4>Included, And not that you can't include.

0:27:05.280 --> 0:27:08.919
<v Speaker 1>Everybody necessarily, but like surround yourself with like who you

0:27:09.040 --> 0:27:12.360
<v Speaker 1>genuinely like want to spend time with and like want

0:27:12.400 --> 0:27:14.199
<v Speaker 1>to be friends with, and who puts in like the

0:27:14.280 --> 0:27:19.119
<v Speaker 1>same effort to your friendships, because you'll start like to

0:27:19.200 --> 0:27:21.919
<v Speaker 1>notice postcrid like, oh, you know, maybe they're not like

0:27:22.119 --> 0:27:25.960
<v Speaker 1>reaching out as much or asking me like questions that

0:27:26.040 --> 0:27:28.360
<v Speaker 1>I would maybe ask them or whatever, and like there's

0:27:28.400 --> 0:27:31.520
<v Speaker 1>nothing wrong with that, honestly, Like sometimes you just like

0:27:31.800 --> 0:27:33.640
<v Speaker 1>grow a part or you like grow out of friendships

0:27:33.680 --> 0:27:36.320
<v Speaker 1>and that's like totally okay, So like being okay with

0:27:36.359 --> 0:27:39.679
<v Speaker 1>that and like focusing on like a specific group of

0:27:39.720 --> 0:27:41.720
<v Speaker 1>people or a person or whatever that is for you

0:27:41.840 --> 0:27:44.119
<v Speaker 1>that like you know, you want to have in your

0:27:44.160 --> 0:27:47.560
<v Speaker 1>life forever, but it's it becomes you don't want it

0:27:47.600 --> 0:27:50.080
<v Speaker 1>to become like a task necessarily, but like you do

0:27:50.240 --> 0:27:52.600
<v Speaker 1>have like you have to make an effort, more of

0:27:52.640 --> 0:27:55.240
<v Speaker 1>an effort that you did in college, because in college

0:27:55.240 --> 0:27:58.080
<v Speaker 1>you would just be walking past each other going to

0:27:58.119 --> 0:28:00.840
<v Speaker 1>class or at the same party or like you're put

0:28:00.880 --> 0:28:05.960
<v Speaker 1>in environments where you are always with people. So POSTCRAD,

0:28:05.960 --> 0:28:10.359
<v Speaker 1>you don't have that situation. And I've definitely found that,

0:28:10.480 --> 0:28:13.080
<v Speaker 1>like my my strongest friendships and the ones that have

0:28:13.119 --> 0:28:16.240
<v Speaker 1>like really lasted, especially from college, have been the ones

0:28:16.280 --> 0:28:18.600
<v Speaker 1>that I've put like the most effort into.

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<v Speaker 4>So I feel like those are like those are really

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<v Speaker 4>the things.

0:28:22.840 --> 0:28:27.479
<v Speaker 1>And just also like not not being afraid to, like

0:28:27.760 --> 0:28:31.280
<v Speaker 1>if you don't maybe like hear from someone or talk

0:28:31.280 --> 0:28:34.159
<v Speaker 1>to them for a long time, like being okay with

0:28:34.240 --> 0:28:36.720
<v Speaker 1>like reconnecting and literally like calling them on the phone

0:28:36.720 --> 0:28:39.800
<v Speaker 1>and like having long conversation and like catching up yeah,

0:28:39.840 --> 0:28:42.440
<v Speaker 1>and like letting that be your ketch up to like

0:28:43.200 --> 0:28:46.280
<v Speaker 1>you know, say hey, like oh we you know, reconnected

0:28:46.400 --> 0:28:49.000
<v Speaker 1>or whatever. Like it just seems weird because I feel

0:28:49.000 --> 0:28:51.400
<v Speaker 1>like in college, like I was just so like kept

0:28:51.480 --> 0:28:53.720
<v Speaker 1>up with everybody at all, like at all times.

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<v Speaker 4>But you can't do that now and.

0:28:55.520 --> 0:28:59.160
<v Speaker 1>You don't have that ability, Like, especially if you're not

0:28:59.200 --> 0:29:00.960
<v Speaker 1>living in the same place is your friend, You're not

0:29:01.000 --> 0:29:02.360
<v Speaker 1>going to know what they're doing on a day to

0:29:02.400 --> 0:29:04.800
<v Speaker 1>day basis, Like you can't even guess what they're doing.

0:29:04.800 --> 0:29:07.720
<v Speaker 1>They're living in a completely different place. Like you're going

0:29:07.800 --> 0:29:10.040
<v Speaker 1>to have to ask questions, They're going to have to

0:29:10.080 --> 0:29:11.080
<v Speaker 1>tell you things like.

0:29:11.600 --> 0:29:14.760
<v Speaker 4>You might miss like a huge life moment for them,

0:29:14.840 --> 0:29:16.600
<v Speaker 4>like going on a date with a guy or something

0:29:16.640 --> 0:29:16.920
<v Speaker 4>like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I know, me and my friends have like been

0:29:19.680 --> 0:29:22.480
<v Speaker 1>in situations where there's like someone that lives in Texas

0:29:22.480 --> 0:29:24.880
<v Speaker 1>and we're in New York and they like will Texas

0:29:24.920 --> 0:29:26.440
<v Speaker 1>and be like, guys like I went on two dates

0:29:26.440 --> 0:29:28.240
<v Speaker 1>with this guy and like he's so great and we're like,

0:29:28.720 --> 0:29:31.280
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, we didn't know you were like going

0:29:31.280 --> 0:29:32.200
<v Speaker 1>on dates with someone.

0:29:32.280 --> 0:29:34.040
<v Speaker 4>She was like, well, I went to like on two

0:29:34.080 --> 0:29:34.560
<v Speaker 4>days with him.

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<v Speaker 1>This week and I haven't talked to you, and it's

0:29:36.200 --> 0:29:39.480
<v Speaker 1>like that's that's okay, Like it's okay to like be

0:29:39.560 --> 0:29:43.520
<v Speaker 1>able to catch up and like reconnect or like figure

0:29:43.520 --> 0:29:45.680
<v Speaker 1>out like a different way of how your friendships get

0:29:45.680 --> 0:29:49.960
<v Speaker 1>a function and like still stay like stay close, but

0:29:50.040 --> 0:29:52.080
<v Speaker 1>it's all just like a learning and you really like

0:29:52.840 --> 0:29:55.400
<v Speaker 1>are able to kind of just figure out like your

0:29:55.520 --> 0:29:59.680
<v Speaker 1>true like lifelong friends are postgrad pretty quickly too, which

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's a good thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, it for sure is well, that was all great advice.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much for coming on. It was great

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<v Speaker 2>chatting with you.

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<v Speaker 4>Of course, it was great chatting with you too.

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<v Speaker 2>That's it for this episode of Dirty Rush. Thank you

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