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Speaker 1: See this is from Ashley on Facebook. Ashley says, my

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Speaker 1: boyfriend and I have been together for over ten years

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Speaker 1: and have two children together. We're totally committed to one

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Speaker 1: another and have talked about getting married one day, But

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Speaker 1: now that we're so far along in our relationship, I

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Speaker 1: wonder if it's even worth it. Neither of us are

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Speaker 1: very religious or very conventional, and we both feel like

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Speaker 1: we don't necessarily need a piece of paper or title

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Speaker 1: to legitimize legitimize our relationship. Are we missing anything? Is

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Speaker 1: there any benefit to us getting married?

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Speaker 2: Well, the last name of the children is one of

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Speaker 2: the things I would think of, And I don't want

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Speaker 2: you to be so selfish that you don't think about

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Speaker 2: the children, because children, really, it's really nice if you

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Speaker 2: can provide them with the family structure, with the family dynamics.

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Speaker 2: This is your mommy, I'm married to mom. Mom is

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Speaker 2: married today, because that kind of sets an example of

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Speaker 2: what your children will see. And so, but what a

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Speaker 2: lot of women do is you all go along with

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Speaker 2: these We don't need a piece of paper because you

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Speaker 2: ain't getting no ring anyway, you know. So they all

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Speaker 2: sit up here and settle for this. We don't seem

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Speaker 2: to need it. Where'd you get that from him?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 3: See?

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Speaker 2: You know, man, stop stop letting people put in your space.

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Speaker 2: They little shortcomings and beliefs and then and then you

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Speaker 2: gotta adapt to it if you want to be with them. No,

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Speaker 2: you always wanted to be married since you were a

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Speaker 2: little girl. Now you have met this man and set

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Speaker 2: up here and convinced you that you don't need a

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Speaker 2: piece of paper. It ain't gonna make a difference. Well,

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Speaker 2: if it ain't gonna make a difference, then let's.

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Speaker 3: Get one right, let's see. Yeah, you know, you know?

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Speaker 2: Or is it really that he don't want to do that? See,

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Speaker 2: don't don't get this thing twisted.

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Speaker 3: Man.

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Speaker 2: So is there an advantage to being Well, most people

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Speaker 2: get married get divorced. That's because you're married for the

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Speaker 2: wrong reasons. You know what I've been trying to explain

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Speaker 2: to people. Stop looking for a man that's dying to

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Speaker 2: get you. Find you a man that's willing to die

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Speaker 2: to keep you. That's what your ass is looking for.

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Speaker 2: Everybody want time part, Quit looking for a man that's

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Speaker 2: dying to get you, and find a man that will

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Speaker 2: die to keep you. Y'all in be looking y'all ain't

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Speaker 2: going deep enough in these relationship hunts. You know, everybody

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Speaker 2: won't you you fine, you're cute, you're single. Oh okay, yeah,

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Speaker 2: we dying to get you. But will he die to

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Speaker 2: keep you?

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Speaker 1: Man?

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Speaker 3: You know what my mother in law told told me

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Speaker 3: one time.

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Speaker 2: She said, me and Bubba decided that divorce just was

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Speaker 2: never an option, and it caused us to sit there

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Speaker 2: and work through some stuff.

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Speaker 3: And you to stay married. You got to work through

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Speaker 3: some stuff. This ain't easy, manet. I don't care what

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Speaker 3: you see on Instagram.

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Speaker 2: Ain't nobody got no perfect relationship with just all over it. No,

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Speaker 2: they at the house going through some things. I believe that.

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Speaker 2: I don't care who they are. You have bishop in

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Speaker 2: front of your name, a CEO, you can have a billionaires,

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Speaker 2: you all that doctor, you have all okay, what you

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Speaker 2: got in your name? You can have a star your ass,

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Speaker 2: have a stall, a sidewalk out there. Trust me, it's

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Speaker 2: something in that marriage that's the challenge and you gotta

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Speaker 2: work through it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Here's another one. Steve B says, I've been seeing this

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Speaker 1: woman for about six months and I think she's amazing.

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Speaker 1: Because of our work schedules, we don't get to spend

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Speaker 1: as much time as I'd like together, but we see

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Speaker 1: each other once or twice every couple of weeks. She's

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Speaker 1: quite impressive, and I really think I'm falling for her.

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Speaker 1: So when we get together, I find myself being overly nervous,

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Speaker 1: and when we have sex, I'm sometimes so nervous that

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Speaker 1: I worry I'm not going to be able to perform

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Speaker 1: my best.

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Speaker 3: So here's a question.

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Speaker 1: How can I learn to relax a bit so I

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Speaker 1: can enjoy bedroom time with my girlfriend more.

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Speaker 2: He ain't got no answer for you're gonna be nervous

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Speaker 2: just going there. Till you get used to it, you'll

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Speaker 2: be all right. But you need some supplements. Well the

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Speaker 2: well the first two times in I'll give damn what

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Speaker 2: you take.

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Speaker 3: The first few times.

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Speaker 2: It's snap, crackle, pop baby, it's rice Christmas, sou And

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Speaker 2: you ain't even need milk on rice Christmas to hear

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Speaker 2: the noise.

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Speaker 3: You can put tap water on the same thing. You know.

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Speaker 2: It's just like that. You know, sometimes they be so fine. Dog,

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Speaker 2: ain't nothing you could do. It just happened for it

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Speaker 2: supposed to happen.

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Speaker 3: That's all right, we'll have more.

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