WEBVTT - Try combination adventures

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to try combination adventures if you've got

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<v Speaker 1>a family or you otherwise spend your days off with

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<v Speaker 1>the same people. Keeping everyone happy can be hard, but

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<v Speaker 1>it is not impossible. Combining adventures can make everyone want

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<v Speaker 1>to be adventurous. Today's tip, like a few others over

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<v Speaker 1>the next few weeks, comes from my new book, Tranquility

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<v Speaker 1>by Tuesday. The book, which is out October eleven, is

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<v Speaker 1>about nine rules that can help you calm the chaos

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<v Speaker 1>and make time for what matters. One of the rules

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<v Speaker 1>is to have one big adventure and one little adventure

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<v Speaker 1>each week. A big adventure takes a few hours, think

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<v Speaker 1>half a week end day. A little adventure might be

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<v Speaker 1>just an hour, doable on a lunch break or a

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<v Speaker 1>week day evening. I find that this is a good

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<v Speaker 1>pace to keep life interesting without exhausting or bankrupting anyone.

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<v Speaker 1>If you've got a family, or a partner, or a

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<v Speaker 1>really close friend group, you will often have those big

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<v Speaker 1>adventures together. That's just the nature of sharing a house

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<v Speaker 1>or wanting to share life, which introduces some obvious tension.

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<v Speaker 1>What if you don't all enjoy the same things. Friends

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<v Speaker 1>can decide to do different things, as can partners, but

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<v Speaker 1>when you've got kids, that raises the question of who's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be responsible for them. If one party doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to go, it can all get fraught, which is

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<v Speaker 1>why it is good to think of combination adventures. If

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<v Speaker 1>you are the one who often does the planning, and

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<v Speaker 1>let's face it, if you listen to this podcast, you

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<v Speaker 1>are that person. In your family, marriage, or friend group.

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<v Speaker 1>Use this rubric. Everyone gets something to look forward to.

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<v Speaker 1>You might plan one major adventure, but make sure that

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<v Speaker 1>you tack on something that will nudge any less enthusiastic

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<v Speaker 1>folks into excitement. In my family, for instance, one child

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<v Speaker 1>loves to get ices at wah Wah that is a

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<v Speaker 1>Northeastern regional convenience store. If we tack on a stop

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<v Speaker 1>at wah Wah to any trip, that child is probably happy.

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<v Speaker 1>Or maybe another child is obsessed with arcades. You could

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<v Speaker 1>get him or her to spend an hour at an

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<v Speaker 1>art museum, which would normally be a big no. If

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<v Speaker 1>you can try out a new arcade that is on

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<v Speaker 1>the way home. Adults can sort this out too. What

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<v Speaker 1>if he wants to go apple picking and cider tasting,

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<v Speaker 1>and another likes to go shopping, So you find an

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<v Speaker 1>antique mall near the apple orchard and do both on

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<v Speaker 1>your weekend adventure. As I note in Tranquility by Tuesday,

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<v Speaker 1>with all adventures, it is getting out the door that

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<v Speaker 1>is the hardest. Once you are out, it is often

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<v Speaker 1>just as easy to do a second part to the adventure,

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe even a third part if that becomes necessary.

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<v Speaker 1>But knowing that the second or third part is included

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<v Speaker 1>in the adventure will make it more likely that people

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<v Speaker 1>get out the door in the first place. So as

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<v Speaker 1>you plan your adventures, think about what other stops you

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<v Speaker 1>can include. A hike somewhere followed by a stop at

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<v Speaker 1>a new playground, checking out a new farm, r's market,

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<v Speaker 1>and then stopping at a diner for pumpkin pancakes later.

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<v Speaker 1>Combination adventures mean everyone can be excited, and that means

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<v Speaker 1>the adventures are more likely to happen. Tell me what

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<v Speaker 1>you like to do in your adventures. You can reach

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<v Speaker 1>me at Laura at Laura Vanderkam dot com. In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>this is Laura. Thanks for listening and here's to making

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<v Speaker 1>the most of our time. Hey everybody, I'd love to

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