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Speaker 1: It is a Strawberry letter subject, I am so sick

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Speaker 1: of my daughter. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm tired of motherhood. Sorry,

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Speaker 1: but I am no longer interested in being a mother.

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Speaker 1: I'm a twenty I am twenty eight years old, and

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Speaker 1: I have a five year old daughter that is disrespectful, obnoxious,

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Speaker 1: out of control on a daily basis. Beating her behind

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Speaker 1: does not help, and I don't know what else to do.

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Speaker 1: I have tried many ways of disciplining her. Reverse psychology

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Speaker 1: to get through to her without yelling and arguing. Why

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Speaker 1: am I arguing with a five year old? I recently

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Speaker 1: got divorced and my daughter and I live with my parents.

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Speaker 1: My child never had a great relationship with her dad

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Speaker 1: because he can't control her either. My parents see that

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Speaker 1: I have no control over her, and they try to

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Speaker 1: hard to overlook her behavior. We have been to counseling

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Speaker 1: and the doctor suggested that I put her on medication.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to take that route yet. She will

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Speaker 1: problem child or be medicated daily. I do have faith

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Speaker 1: it for me. What should I do? Help me? There's

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Speaker 1: a lot going on, um in this letter with a

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Speaker 1: five year old that's disrespectful, obnoxious, in a constant source

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Speaker 1: of embarrassment in public. Uh. You said you just got divorced.

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Speaker 1: That could be a lot of why she's acting out

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Speaker 1: because you know she misses her home situation with her

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Speaker 1: dad being there and all of that. Um. But I

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Speaker 1: do get what you're saying. A lot of parents, every

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Speaker 1: parent gets tired at some point. It is understandable. What

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Speaker 1: I don't understand is why after you, after your ex

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Speaker 1: parents couldn't control her. So why don't you listen to

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Speaker 1: the doctor. You took her to a therapist, you took

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Speaker 1: her to counseling, and they suggested medication. He's a professional.

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Speaker 1: I'm not discounting the fact you say in your letter

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Speaker 1: that you do have faith in God and you're hopeful

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Speaker 1: that God will fix it for me. Well, of course,

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Speaker 1: there's nothing too hard for God. God can do anything.

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Speaker 1: Nothing is impossible. Yes, absolutely, God can fix everything. But

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Speaker 1: please please know that there are people on this earth

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Speaker 1: that are working in their God appointed gifts their purpose. Uh.

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Speaker 1: That means lawyers, that means pastors, teachers, journalists, and yes, doctors, okay, doctors.

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Speaker 1: Uh so what should you do? You ask at the

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Speaker 1: end of your letter. I think you should listen to

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Speaker 1: your doctors in this instance. I mean, you don't know

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Speaker 1: what's going on with your daughter. She may have some

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Speaker 1: sort of chemical and balance you don't know, but the

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Speaker 1: doctor is a professional. If you don't like what he said,

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Speaker 1: get a second opinion, get a third opinion. You do

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Speaker 1: want your daughter to go to school and have a

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Speaker 1: she's going to start school soon. Uh, don't just leave

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Speaker 1: this up to chance. Continue this quest to get your

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Speaker 1: get your daughter the help that she so rightfully needs

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Speaker 1: and deserves. Steve, I don't know, I don't I don't

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Speaker 1: know what I've been talking about this lady like this.

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Speaker 1: First of all, let me say this, Shirley Strawberry, I

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Speaker 1: think that everything you said was absolutely spot on. I

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Speaker 1: gonna try. So I want to just say before I

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Speaker 1: She is out of control on daily basis. Beating hubb

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Speaker 1: that beating hubby behind. I bet this five year old

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Speaker 1: See I've had and I lost Vera Harvey asked, Whipping

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Speaker 1: that cured all my eels. Every time I produce one

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Speaker 1: hardheadedness talking back, I rolled it. Huh what all that

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Speaker 1: saying hunted. My mama says, what I'm outs playing, Steve?

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Speaker 1: What I was playing basketball? I got caught up soon

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Speaker 1: as I said it. I tried to swallow my basketball,

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Speaker 1: lost Vera Harvey A whooping? Yeah? Uh, I ain't say that.

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Speaker 1: I can't tell you how many times, how many times

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Speaker 1: I've had to take one. So this fact that you

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Speaker 1: have beat your child and it ain't help, I disagree.

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Speaker 1: I disagree. Now, all this counselor Shirley want to send

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Speaker 1: you to and all this other stuff, all that's good,

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Speaker 1: but don't write me in talking about the fire. You

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Speaker 1: you can't control, How you can't control the five year?

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Speaker 1: Don't you feed her? What she stayed? Who bought her clothes?

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Speaker 1: Who do her hair? M hmmm? What if I control

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Speaker 1: all that? I control? You? Oh? Timehouse don't work? How

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Speaker 1: about you ain't eating today? Damn? What food? Hard to

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Speaker 1: fight when you're hungry. I don't give a damn She

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Speaker 1: is five. She acts like she fought, and she disrespectful.

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Speaker 1: She ain't got no relationship with this woman's father. She

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Speaker 1: She finish. Send this fool up to school. Now, you

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Speaker 1: this five year old? Five? Take this thirty year old

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Speaker 1: Let's stop it right there and come back with part two.

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Speaker 1: If you're in part two of the Strawberry Letter for

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Speaker 1: I really don't know how we got a part too.

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Speaker 1: You got a five year old that can't nobody control.

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Speaker 1: You got a five year old that the mama can't control.

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Speaker 1: The daddy of the baby can't controller. The parents see

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Speaker 1: to go there. Well, what can we do instead of medication?

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Speaker 1: I have told you the in Lost Vera Harvey Ashwhoop

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Speaker 1: what we have is Junior is there's a re enactment.

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Speaker 1: So I'm the grandfather. Shirley, you the mama, Junior, you

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Speaker 1: the baby. Shirley asked the baby to do so. All right,

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Speaker 1: come on in here, sweetie, breakfast is ready. Come on

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Speaker 1: Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Mama,

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Speaker 1: I'm not hungry. Hey, ho you raising your hand that

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Speaker 1: The boy said he ain't hungry. It's the girl. I'm

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Speaker 1: not junior for real. Yeah, the baby sounds just like like, okay,

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Speaker 1: take two, alright, Chap, coming in here and eat breakfast.

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Speaker 1: I keisha, breakfast is the most important. I ain't hongry.

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Speaker 1: Why why I'm gonna be hungry to morrow? Because you

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna get a damn thing today. You an't run

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Speaker 1: We we cook for you, We bring your food. You

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Speaker 1: You stop that. You don't talk to your granddad, talk

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Speaker 1: to him and you like that? Oh my god? What? What? What? What?

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Speaker 1: It's a couple of things you don't know. First of all,

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Speaker 1: That's playing in this skit and in real life, you

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Speaker 1: I don't bought everything in this house. You ain't getting

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Speaker 1: I ain't gotta do nothing. You tell me. This is

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Speaker 1: I carried you for nine months. You are mine. I

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Speaker 1: real respectful for our go dad. You know we've tried

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Speaker 1: whipping her behind nothing work. No, no, see. I was

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Speaker 1: I've never heard of that. What is that? Oh? I

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Speaker 1: Because your mama been putting you in time out and

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to beat her and I got you.

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Speaker 1: You're doing once? You stop that? Right? Had five ain't

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Speaker 1: Ms Carl, you're gonna have to take Okay, don't beat

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Speaker 1: know what I'm gonna do. The thing that This is

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Speaker 1: VIR Harvey Horpen Academy. Do you want to get slapped

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Speaker 1: into next week? Well booked me for Thursday. That's the

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Speaker 1: same thing Tommy said. And I'm glad you brought it

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Speaker 1: stop that tworking? You stop that? Where'd you learn that from? You?

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Speaker 1: I've learned from watching you. Okay, here would go, Shirley. Yes, daddy,

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Speaker 1: let me talk to a Kishu No. Item number two

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Speaker 1: M hm oh, I ain't never heard that. I know

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Speaker 1: you see all this is stuff are not it's when

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Speaker 1: I jerk you so hard, you standing there looking like

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