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Speaker 2: My roommates created a gossip podcast about me.

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Speaker 4: Guys, this is about us.

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Speaker 2: I twenty female, accidentally discovered that my two roommates twenty's

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Speaker 2: female have a gossip podcast about me. The ego I

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Speaker 2: would have forever. The fake LinkedIn is the first thing

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Speaker 2: that pops up when searching my name on Google. I

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Speaker 2: assume it might have been created in the past month

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Speaker 2: or two, because it wasn't there before. I believe I'm

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Speaker 2: having trouble being hired because of it. O wown. You

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Speaker 2: could sue those like not just gossips, you know, we'd

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Speaker 3: Yeah, here comes defamation one O one.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, here you go. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 2: Genaris ninety nine. And if you want to spit your

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Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, I'm Angie, and we're here to give good advice. Goofly,

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Speaker 2: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 2: what we'd do, So let us know what you would

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Speaker 2: do in the comments, and Op says, the profile uses

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Speaker 2: my real name and has the profile pick from my

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Speaker 2: real LinkedIn, but it's distorted to make me look ugly.

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Speaker 2: So it's like the Demi Levado picture.

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Speaker 3: Where they she looks bald.

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Speaker 2: I think they use them pronouns. I don't think anymore.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I'm not updated on no dang it. Okay, well Demi Levado,

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Speaker 2: Oh the pot the poot one.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like heavily edited. Yeah, she even makes fun

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Speaker 2: Yeah for Halloween this year. Yeah, at some point it

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Speaker 2: there are some comments thoughts though any advice about LinkedIn?

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Speaker 2: And I know you're an expert.

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Speaker 4: You know I've got LinkedIn, yeah, wrapped around my fingers.

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Speaker 4: I have no idea. I don't even have a full

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Speaker 2: I works have a profile on LinkedIn that I made

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Speaker 2: I just every so often someone's like, yeah, I found

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Speaker 2: Like what can we do?

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Speaker 3: Also, can't you just tell the picture is just so

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Speaker 3: But again, op, he was like, it's heavily distorted.

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Speaker 4: It like it's just like it's like Flinn Ryder entangled,

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Speaker 2: What a great point, commons common one says, I think

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Speaker 2: So make them aware that this profile is fake in

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Speaker 2: do it yourself if you're so inclined. A Search engine

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Speaker 2: You would have to investigate it, though, and there is

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Speaker 2: dive in. I think those are great points.

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Speaker 4: I agree, I didn't think of those, but I think

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Speaker 2: Doesn't need to be just mine, and I can admit

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Speaker 2: Other people, I guess, have ideas. Eleven days later, I'm

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Speaker 2: people total. The one who's moving out is taking her

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Speaker 2: I insisted on putting it in my room? And when

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Speaker 2: And we still haven't even like gott into the main juice.

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Speaker 2: The LinkedIn thing was going to be your roommates did that? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: The the player confirmed spoilers for season five.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, no, I think you should feel so ashamed and

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Speaker 2: I think you're a terrible that. The only thing I

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Speaker 2: It should be in here. So yeah, you kind of

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Speaker 3: You remember Sam's old house, not the one that you're at,

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Speaker 2: So yeah, yeah. Comment one says, not the a hole.

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Speaker 2: You told them you wanted in your room so you

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Speaker 2: can play games. You paid for it, so it's your TV.

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Speaker 2: It's coming. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Do you think we're gonna get a new problem here?

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I think it's gonna be like my shampoo.

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Speaker 2: to them from their friend away at a religious camp.

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Speaker 3: On it, those are words in the religious.

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Speaker 4: Camp is big fan, big fan, big fan, first of

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Speaker 2: Yeah, two things I like, yeah, got and this podcast

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Speaker 2: they think my new s O twenty four mail is interesting. AKA,

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Speaker 2: they think he's awkward. I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like the Dear James. I think it's so

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Speaker 2: I'm at I'm praying four times a day at this

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Speaker 2: I think it's so funny. That's crazy. You're crazy. You're

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Speaker 2: you need to stay at that camp for longer, exactly.

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Speaker 4: A couple more confessionals. Yeah, like sorry, father something.

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Speaker 3: It's terrible Father father camp.

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Speaker 2: Father camp. I laughed, someone's eating disorder today. Yeah, and

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Speaker 4: They're like supposed to stay silent or whatever. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't have expected a full blown effing podcast about

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Speaker 2: my quirks and f ups. They're the types to watch

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Speaker 2: a lot of dating reality TV and watch gossipy popular YouTubers,

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Speaker 2: epitome of drama queens. However, this really feels like crossing

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Speaker 4: I mean, I think you've got the what's called the letter?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that you don't get all that. I think. Definitely

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Speaker 2: Comment once is good for you. Now you can start

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Speaker 4: My friends placed a bet on my marriage failing at

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Speaker 4: This comes directly from the r slash okay storytime subreddits.

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Speaker 4: I'm Keon, and we're here to give you good advice. Goofily,

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Speaker 4: But we don't have all the answers. We just know

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Speaker 2: This is important to note. Okay, write that down peak.

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Speaker 2: Avoided juicing.

434
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Speaker 4: No one could have guessed, which was anywhere from two

435
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Speaker 4: to five nights a week.

436
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Speaker 2: Sometimes.

437
00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:43,199
Speaker 4: We both dated people in the friend group after the breakup,

438
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Speaker 4: so it was definitely awkward at times, but we kept

439
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Speaker 4: our distance to keep things civilis, to not disrupt the

440
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Speaker 4: dynamic of the friend group. Y'all just kept it in

441
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Speaker 4: the friend group. Keep it in the friend group. That's

442
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Speaker 4: what I always say. I would never do that. I

443
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Speaker 4: would never do that ever, Sophia would never know. I'd

444
00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:03,760
Speaker 4: never date one of my friends.

445
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Speaker 2: Fast forward to two years after the breakup.

446
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Speaker 4: We were all at a party and he had just

447
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Speaker 4: broken up with one of the other girls in our group.

448
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Speaker 4: I wasn't close with her, but we never had any

449
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Speaker 4: issues or anything until my husband.

450
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Speaker 2: Started to talk with me. At the party.

451
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Speaker 4: We randomly ended up in the kitchen making small talk originally,

452
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Speaker 4: but it turned into hours long catch up conversation, and

453
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Speaker 4: a few people in the friend group were not happy

454
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Speaker 4: that we were talking so soon.

455
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Speaker 2: After his breakup. Literally just talking. Yeah, it's literally he's

456
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Speaker 2: not allowed to talk about he's not allowed to talk

457
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Speaker 2: to anyone.

458
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Speaker 4: Yeah, we were just talking in the kitchen.

459
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Speaker 2: We were just talking in the kitchen. Down mind you.

460
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Speaker 4: I had a boyfriend at the time that I was

461
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Speaker 4: very into, so it wasn't like flirting. It was just

462
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Speaker 4: a wow, we haven't actually spoken more than a few

463
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Speaker 4: words to each other in two years. Got a chat,

464
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Speaker 4: and about a month later we were talking a lot

465
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Speaker 4: more while my boyfriend at the time was royally messing up.

466
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Speaker 2: Later found out that he was cheating on me.

467
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Speaker 4: Yes, after all the mess hit the fan with that boyfriend,

468
00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:07,720
Speaker 4: my husband didn't waste any time letting his feelings be known.

469
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you were like, oh my boyfriend cheat on me.

470
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Speaker 2: He's like, that sucks. Do you want to date? Yeah?

471
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Speaker 2: It just looks I would never do that. I would

472
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Speaker 2: never do that. You want to date me? Do you

473
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Speaker 2: want to date? I'll go on a date with you. Oh,

474
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Speaker 2: you're not going on a date with no way, I'll

475
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Speaker 2: literally be there.

476
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Speaker 4: We're crazy there If I was truly honest with myself.

477
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Speaker 4: My feelings were him and never fully went away, which

478
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:33,399
Speaker 4: was probably due to the abrupt nature of the breakup

479
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Speaker 4: that we had years ago.

480
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Speaker 2: Being unresolved does happen when we avoid things. That is

481
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Speaker 2: classic avoidance.

482
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Speaker 4: We started dating, and this polarized a good portion of

483
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Speaker 4: our friend group.

484
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Speaker 2: And that's what happens when you're date within the friend group,

485
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Speaker 2: you do risk I'm destroying the friend group.

486
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Speaker 4: Some friends thought it was totally fine because there was

487
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Speaker 4: zero overlap, while other friends said that I went after

488
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Speaker 4: her man and even though I literally dated him first

489
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Speaker 4: years ago, so we already had some friends rooting against

490
00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:08,600
Speaker 4: us from the beginning. Those friends I expected not to

491
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Speaker 4: be supportive when the wedding invites went out two years later,

492
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Speaker 4: But what I didn't expect was our close friends being

493
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Speaker 4: the ones to hurt me so deeply at our own

494
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Speaker 4: wedding dang. As I mentioned, my husband and I have

495
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Speaker 4: attachment issues, which has led us to a lot of

496
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Speaker 4: fighting and miscommunication, but.

497
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Speaker 2: We always worked through them.

498
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Speaker 4: We moved in together within the first year of dating again,

499
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Speaker 4: and which made us the first in our friend group

500
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Speaker 4: to move out of our parents' houses.

501
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Speaker 2: At twenty and twenty one years old. Wow, young day.

502
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:41,639
Speaker 4: About six months after that, we were ring shopping and

503
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:44,280
Speaker 4: planning our lives together. Everyone thought that we were moving

504
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Speaker 4: a little fast, and while their concerns.

505
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:47,800
Speaker 2: Were valid, we knew what we wanted.

506
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Speaker 4: Almost a year later, he went into the military and

507
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Speaker 4: proposed the moment he got back.

508
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Speaker 2: Classic military. That's what happens when you're in the military.

509
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Speaker 2: You gotta propose, you gotta you gotta howldso you're gonna

510
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Speaker 2: ge those bets. It fits. Yeah.

511
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Speaker 4: A couple of weeks of being engaged led to a

512
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Speaker 4: spontaneous elopement at a port call while on deployment. I

513
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 4: loved our elopement. It was perfect and I wouldn't change

514
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Speaker 4: a single thing.

515
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Speaker 2: We decided to do a big.

516
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 4: Wedding for family and friends on our one year anniversary.

517
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Speaker 2: The one thing we didn't expect was to be expecting

518
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Speaker 2: by the time of said big wedding. Dang, are moving?

519
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:25,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, it would be six months long, to be exact,

520
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:27,920
Speaker 4: dang six months a long?

521
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Speaker 2: Yeah, So like literally they moved out at twenty twenty one.

522
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Speaker 2: I'm assume, you know, let's say, ope's twenty Yeah, at

523
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:38,680
Speaker 2: twenty one, they're married. No, no, engaged.

524
00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:42,479
Speaker 4: Yeah, uh no, oh yeah, yeah, when ope's twenty one.

525
00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:45,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, did they already? Then they got eloped within

526
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:49,440
Speaker 2: like a couple months later, and then found out the pregnant.

527
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:51,880
Speaker 2: This is all happening within like a year and a half.

528
00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 4: Well, yeah, a year later he went into the military.

529
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:56,720
Speaker 4: We don't know how long he's been in the military,

530
00:25:56,720 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 4: but yeah, sure, it's not that long. And then yeah,

531
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Speaker 4: a couple of weeks into being engaged, they got eloped.

532
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:08,320
Speaker 4: They eloped, Yeah, they're moving. And then six months later

533
00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:09,120
Speaker 4: they get preggers.

534
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Speaker 3: Wow, they took running with it.

535
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:13,159
Speaker 2: Literally, yep, yeah, literally.

536
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:16,120
Speaker 4: Since our elopement was kind of hush hush, a lot

537
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 4: of speculation happened that we were just getting married because

538
00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 4: we got pregnant, well, not knowing that we had already

539
00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:24,080
Speaker 4: been married for over a half a year before getting pregnant.

540
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Speaker 2: While this was inconvenient for the dress that I originally.

541
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:28,879
Speaker 4: Picked out, I had a great excuse to be more

542
00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:31,600
Speaker 4: relaxed for my wedding than most brides who run around

543
00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:34,440
Speaker 4: to each table all night. However, due to my lack

544
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:37,280
Speaker 4: of table talking during my wedding, I found out recently

545
00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 4: seven years later that our entire friend group participated in

546
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 4: a bet for how long it would be until we

547
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:46,240
Speaker 4: got divorced at our wedding.

548
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Speaker 2: Well, I was six months pregnant. That's like, that's just

549
00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 2: so intensely bad form. Yeah, right, bad karma. That's bad karma. Yeah,

550
00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:01,080
Speaker 2: even if you have those thoughts, just keep it inside

551
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 2: or maybe just like talk about it after the wedding,

552
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 2: be like, yeah, like what did you think about you know, yeah,

553
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:10,400
Speaker 2: do you think it? Just like yeah, that's it. Even then,

554
00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:12,760
Speaker 2: you know, still shouldn't be necessarily talking about that, but

555
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 2: like place in betting, Yeah, facing bets at the wedding.

556
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 2: Come on, yeah, Larry.

557
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 4: Uncouth, Yeah exactly, Like I agree if you disagree with that,

558
00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 4: if you do think it's fast.

559
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:24,720
Speaker 2: Like I honestly think that's fair.

560
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:27,720
Speaker 4: I agree, But like that's something that you just you

561
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 4: speak to yourselves. But then when you're at the wedding,

562
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:32,120
Speaker 4: now it's time to be happy for them. Now it's

563
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:33,440
Speaker 4: time to be like, okay, yeah.

564
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 2: They're more truly their friends. Yeah exactly, and clearly you're not.

565
00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 2: Cly not so much.

566
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Speaker 4: I also found out that a year later, they were

567
00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,440
Speaker 4: all discussing the who would get the baby and the

568
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 4: divorce debates. Oh my gosh, and only one of them

569
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,399
Speaker 4: thought that I would get her depending the fact that

570
00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:52,960
Speaker 4: my husband was away all the time due to his

571
00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:55,240
Speaker 4: job and I had been taking care of her for

572
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 4: ninety percent of her life at that point.

573
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Speaker 2: What a terrible discussion. Yeah, dreadful.

574
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:04,359
Speaker 4: I find it ironic that with his current job, the

575
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 4: kids would definitely be granted to me for full custody

576
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 4: due to how unpredictable his schedule is, because in a

577
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 4: moment's notice he may have.

578
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:13,160
Speaker 2: To jump on a plane and fly around the world

579
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 2: for weeks at a time. He literally is in the military,

580
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 2: and they thought that he I don't even know why,

581
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:21,639
Speaker 2: gay one. They shouldn't even be discussing that. But like

582
00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 2: the fact that they thought that the guy in the

583
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:26,359
Speaker 2: military would get the baby, Yeah, insane crazy. He's in

584
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 2: the military, doesn't have time to take care of a

585
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:29,080
Speaker 2: baby full time.

586
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:33,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, so all but one friend was completely wrong on

587
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 4: that vindication Wait on that vindication or just a piece

588
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 4: just like.

589
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 2: As svindication all wrong.

590
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 4: Since learning about the actual bet that took place at

591
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 4: our wedding, two of the friends in the group recently

592
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:48,240
Speaker 4: got engaged.

593
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Speaker 2: I want to be super petty with the entire group

594
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Speaker 2: by looking each of them in the.

595
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Speaker 4: Eyes, and as I ask the entire table what their

596
00:28:56,720 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 4: bet is on these two friends divorcing wa they're engagement

597
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 4: party or their wedding if my husband isn't able to

598
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:05,479
Speaker 4: attend the engagement party. My husband so that he has

599
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:07,200
Speaker 4: no problem with me doing this, but he doesn't want

600
00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:09,520
Speaker 4: to be the one to start the petty confrontation. I

601
00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 4: know the fallout of this would be messy, but I

602
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 4: am also so incredibly angry that they were literally a

603
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:17,760
Speaker 4: big part of our wedding yet didn't actually support our

604
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 4: marriage or growing family. The only reason I found this

605
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 4: out was my college friend outside that group had overheard

606
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 4: this from the next table over, but didn't want to.

607
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Speaker 2: Upset me at the time. She waited seven years, Yes,

608
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 2: seven years A well, like, hey, yeah, I have something

609
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 2: to tell you. I've been holding it in for seven years, right,

610
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 2: He was like, what nobody thought you were gonna stay married.

611
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:40,959
Speaker 2: Oh that's such a relief.

612
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 4: You're right, She told me recently out of concern that

613
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Speaker 4: I would lean on some of these quote friends for

614
00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 4: support while having relationship issues. Since learning this, I have

615
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 4: not shared anything regarding our family because they clearly are

616
00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:54,560
Speaker 4: rooting for it to fall to pieces.

617
00:29:54,760 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, that's it.

618
00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 4: That is a good point too, Like, yeah, I do

619
00:29:57,440 --> 00:29:59,520
Speaker 4: you think she probably should tell you earlier, But like

620
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:03,600
Speaker 4: if you came to these friends about your relationship issues

621
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Speaker 4: when they were like see, they're like he's gonna get

622
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 4: some money now, you.

623
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Speaker 2: Should leave them on July thirty. Yeah, yeah, and she's

624
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 2: like what why.

625
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 4: Another friend is like, no, you definitely have to leave

626
00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 4: them before, and the one girl's like no, never leave you.

627
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. But we do have some comments. Hey,

628
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Speaker 2: it's Jean here.

629
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Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick

630
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Speaker 1: three minute break with answer more sponsors.

631
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Speaker 4: Comment numberone says, I'm petty af so I would have

632
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Speaker 4: no problem with this one.

633
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Speaker 2: Does it make you an a hole? I mean maybe justified?

634
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:44,640
Speaker 4: Yes, your alleged friends, I'll bet against your marriage surviving

635
00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:47,560
Speaker 4: and bet against you personally for not getting your own

636
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 4: child in a divorce situation, which is odd for me.

637
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 4: Why the f would anyone believe a mother wouldn't get

638
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:54,160
Speaker 4: any custody?

639
00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 2: Are they stupid? Yeah? And mean, yeah, definitely you would

640
00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:01,400
Speaker 2: not be the a whole. I think it's justifiable. Here.

641
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:04,360
Speaker 4: Does your friend remember what each person said specifically or

642
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 4: was it just that they all were being laughing and

643
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:09,840
Speaker 4: praying for your relationship downfall at your wedding.

644
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 2: Also, your friend waiting seven years to tell you isn't

645
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:13,240
Speaker 2: that great either?

646
00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:17,280
Speaker 4: Literally, she waited until the seven year itch started and

647
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 4: the problems started before she said something. How could she

648
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 4: sit on this and let you still talk to and

649
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 4: see these people as friends? At least you now know

650
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 4: what crap friends these are. I don't know if you

651
00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:29,719
Speaker 4: should even show up to any of these functions. Honestly,

652
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,640
Speaker 4: giving them any of your attention just feeds their own egos.

653
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Speaker 4: They'll pat themselves on the back and say, see, told

654
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:37,360
Speaker 4: you she wouldn't get the kids in the divorce. She's

655
00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 4: way too hostile. We could all write letters for your

656
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 4: husband's name. I would let them know that. You know, though,

657
00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 4: if there is a group chat with them all, you

658
00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 4: can always ask if there are any bets yet for

659
00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 4: your friend's marriage. When they try and dogpile on you

660
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 4: about it, tell them, oh, my bad, I thought that's

661
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:55,520
Speaker 4: what we did when our friends got married. I mean,

662
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 4: y'all bet against us, and there was only one person

663
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 4: who thought I would get the baby in the divorce.

664
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 2: Y'all are just caddy witches must be jealous. You can

665
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:07,640
Speaker 2: leave the last part out if you want to.

666
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 4: An ope response, Her reasoning for not telling me was

667
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:12,920
Speaker 4: not wanting to create drama or stir pots.

668
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 2: So we've got a lot of avoidant people in it. Yeah,

669
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 2: everyone's avoidant in this story, every single one.

670
00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 4: She has said in the past that she doesn't like

671
00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 4: this group of friends for me and that she has

672
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 4: bad vibes about a lot of them.

673
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 2: She's kind a little shy and very non.

674
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 4: Confrontational, so I can understand why she didn't tell me,

675
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:32,080
Speaker 4: especially at the time it happened. She felt it necessary

676
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 4: to tell me when I said, maybe I should ask

677
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 4: some of the friends closer to my husband what their

678
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:38,880
Speaker 4: take on some of our issues was Slash. They can

679
00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 4: give me advice on the general Mayle perspective of set issues.

680
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:44,640
Speaker 4: The custody of our kids would one hundred percent go

681
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 4: to me due to his type of job, and it's

682
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:49,000
Speaker 4: a job known for high divorce rates and cheating.

683
00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:51,120
Speaker 2: Because of how hard it is sometimes to get into

684
00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 2: communication with them.

685
00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:55,239
Speaker 4: They're well known for being a FaceTime parents if they

686
00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:58,560
Speaker 4: have kids because they are traveling constantly at a moment's notice,

687
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:00,560
Speaker 4: so most judges give full custody to.

688
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 2: The parent that has a more stable environment for the kids.

689
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 2: The only reason they all believed.

690
00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 4: My husband would get the custody was because he has

691
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 4: the better job than I did. That one friend was

692
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 4: the only one that actually came to visit after my

693
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 4: baby was born and saw firsthand how extremely primary of

694
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 4: a parent I was compared to my husband due to

695
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 4: his work schedule. My husband is a wonderful dad, but

696
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 4: his line of work is very demanding and extremely important.

697
00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:29,400
Speaker 4: And comment number two says you would be the a

698
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:32,360
Speaker 4: whole interesting understandable maybe, but still an.

699
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 2: A whole move.

700
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 4: You won you and your husband have a successful marriage.

701
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 2: They were all idiots.

702
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 4: You might be able to say to them that you

703
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:40,800
Speaker 4: are still waiting to get paid from all the losers

704
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 4: that bad at your wedding.

705
00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:43,800
Speaker 2: That's a good way to put it if you really

706
00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:44,680
Speaker 2: want a petty moment.

707
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:46,880
Speaker 4: But there is no need to crap on the couple

708
00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:49,440
Speaker 4: getting married on their engagement party slash wedding day.

709
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 2: If that's what you want, you shouldn't bother attending the

710
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,640
Speaker 2: wedding at all. And that's the end. Of that story. Well,

711
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:57,080
Speaker 2: but yeah, what are your thoughts? I just to say,

712
00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 2: I kind of get where that comment is coming from. Yeah,

713
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 2: because I don't think that you should necessarily go to

714
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 2: another person's wedding with the intention of bringing up like

715
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:10,399
Speaker 2: drama that you did cause but still is drama that's

716
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 2: seven years old. And I think that if you are

717
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 2: still upset, rightfully, so, then either you know, like distance

718
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 2: yourself from these friends, confront them outside of a wedding environment,

719
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:24,160
Speaker 2: be like, hey, I mean you didn't even do the

720
00:34:24,200 --> 00:34:25,920
Speaker 2: group chat thing, Like it doesn't even have to be

721
00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:28,520
Speaker 2: at the wedding. You could be like, no, when's what's

722
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 2: what better are we doing? Right? I think that Uh,

723
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 2: I totally agree. I think don't do it at their wedding.

724
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, an engagement party, like definitely not the wedding, probably

725
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 4: not being a ready either, Like yeah, don't.

726
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:42,359
Speaker 2: You could do it in a group paying yeah?

727
00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:45,320
Speaker 4: Related, yeah exactly, Like I probably wouldn't do in a

728
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 4: group chat because they're not going to respond sure, yeah,

729
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:50,520
Speaker 4: or they're gonna be like texting everyone else and be

730
00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 4: like and then you just don't get their.

731
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:56,440
Speaker 2: Like actual reaction. Yeah, so maybe in person, ye, the

732
00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:59,160
Speaker 2: group invite them to some sort of group hay and

733
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:03,239
Speaker 2: and uh yeah, yeah yeah, invite them to like a

734
00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 2: water park. And then you guys go stand over here

735
00:35:07,239 --> 00:35:09,200
Speaker 2: really quick. I want to tell you a secret. And

736
00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:10,799
Speaker 2: then you break the news.

737
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:14,120
Speaker 4: And then oh, you take a big step back, and

738
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,360
Speaker 4: that's when the bucket of water drops on it.

739
00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 2: Splashes on them, and they get soaked at the water.

740
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:21,560
Speaker 2: They never saw it.

741
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:25,319
Speaker 4: I bet none of them could even see that big

742
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:27,440
Speaker 4: bucket ahead, sir, No, sir.

743
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:29,800
Speaker 2: They're all they all have terrible eyesight.

744
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:31,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, and they all have their phones in their pockets.

745
00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 4: Make sure you have to actually clarify. Make sure you

746
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:35,279
Speaker 4: guys have your phones.

747
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, do you have your phones on you?

748
00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 4: And yeah, make sure. And then that's that's how I

749
00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:40,840
Speaker 4: would do it.

750
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:41,360
Speaker 3: I like it.

751
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 2: I like it. Yeah, I like you. Wouldn't you like

752
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:46,960
Speaker 2: to know? I need to the restaurant.

753
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:51,520
Speaker 4: That is why I'm going to address.

754
00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 3: Go ahead and just I'm gonna set some stuff up

755
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:55,240
Speaker 3: for this next episode.

756
00:35:55,480 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 2: My best friend's wife accuse me of ruining their marriage.

757
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,840
Speaker 2: I well did you? And there is a trigger warning

758
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 2: for emotional abuse. I thirty female have a friend Megan,

759
00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:09,880
Speaker 2: thirty six, female from the small town we live in

760
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:13,120
Speaker 2: I moved here in twenty nineteen and we became close friends.

761
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 2: We love doing things in the city, like going to movies, concerts,

762
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 2: and the opera. I work remotely, so I help her

763
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 2: and her wife Hannah out when they travel or when

764
00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:24,240
Speaker 2: money is tight. By the way, this comes from Critical

765
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 2: Quiet fourteen thirty four. And if you want to submit

766
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:28,920
Speaker 2: your own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime

767
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 2: subredd at. I'm Sophia, I'm Angie, I'm Keon, and we're

768
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:34,719
Speaker 2: here to give good advice goofy, but we don't have

769
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:36,800
Speaker 2: all the answers. Well, you know what we'd do, so

770
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 2: let us know what you would do in the comments

771
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:41,719
Speaker 2: and obesas. Problems started mid last year when Megan began

772
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 2: acting distant, ghosting me for days. Then came holidays and birthdays.

773
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:49,759
Speaker 2: Megan gave me the wrong date, time and location for

774
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 2: her party and got upset when I didn't go. I

775
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,439
Speaker 2: held a holiday party and something similar happened. They still

776
00:36:56,640 --> 00:36:59,359
Speaker 2: didn't come. I texted if I should drop gifts off

777
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:02,279
Speaker 2: and Megan txtit back. Sure, but they weren't home. I

778
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 2: asked Megan to hang out and mention I felt things

779
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 2: were weird. She seemed thrilled, but I waited for four

780
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:11,000
Speaker 2: hours and she never showed up. I was angry and

781
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:13,840
Speaker 2: texted Hannah to ask if something was going on. Hannah

782
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 2: let me have it. She called me and told me off,

783
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:18,880
Speaker 2: saying I was overly friendly and she knew what I

784
00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:21,960
Speaker 2: was doing. Hanna, why dare you would be too good

785
00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 2: of a friend? Yeah? Got her heart? You want to

786
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 2: hang out with her? Disgusting. Hannah mentioned I often pay

787
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 2: when Megan and I hang out, that I dress sluty

788
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:34,040
Speaker 2: when we go to the city, and that Megan complimented

789
00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:36,759
Speaker 2: me but not Hannah. Then that's an issue y'all have

790
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:40,240
Speaker 2: in your relationship. Yeah, leave me out of it. Megan

791
00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:42,640
Speaker 2: gave me a thoughtful gift for my birthday but forgot

792
00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:46,360
Speaker 2: Hannah's birthday. Again, an issue in your relationship. I am

793
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:49,279
Speaker 2: single but do not date, which to Hannah indicated I

794
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:52,120
Speaker 2: was sleeping with someone secretly. I let her scream at

795
00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 2: me for twenty minutes. Then she said, you made her

796
00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:57,320
Speaker 2: fall in love with you, and you think I'll just

797
00:37:57,480 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 2: take that girl. You are coming up with these own thoughts.

798
00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 3: All I would say, it's just like that girl. That

799
00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 3: sounds like an issue.

800
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:09,400
Speaker 2: It's like, girl, I don't I'm not into your freaking girl.

801
00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:13,439
Speaker 2: I just freaking she's my friends. Don't freaking date dude.

802
00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:17,520
Speaker 2: Leave me alone. She told me how I disrespected her

803
00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:22,480
Speaker 2: by making Megan fall in love with me. Yeah, man, love,

804
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:28,360
Speaker 2: but just existing. I never knew anything about this. I

805
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:31,680
Speaker 2: gave them space, but Hannah posted vague messages about home

806
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:34,800
Speaker 2: wreckers and pick me girls. I texted her and Megan,

807
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:38,399
Speaker 2: and Hannah responded with the laughing emoji, saying, oh, did

808
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:39,759
Speaker 2: it hit too close to home?

809
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, it's like girlypop. You're the one who's like

810
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 3: insecure about this. I'm pretty sure you're the es.

811
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:49,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, I existing hit too close to home.

812
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like, oh sorry, I didn't realize I was

813
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:56,120
Speaker 4: a mirror and you were talking into the mirror.

814
00:38:56,280 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 3: I would just like, hey, Megan, you want to just

815
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 3: take a photo me. I gotta take it to Hannah.

816
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I'm like, I take up so much space

817
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 2: in your mind. She kept posting and even tagged me.

818
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 2: I blocked her, blocked Megan and some usual friends. It's

819
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:13,359
Speaker 2: a small town. I went to the movies and heard Hi.

820
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,560
Speaker 2: Looked up to see Megan with some guy smiling at me.

821
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 2: My whole body ran cold. Many people had been treating

822
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:22,440
Speaker 2: me coldly because someone told them I'm a home wrecker

823
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:25,000
Speaker 2: and epic mey. Megan noticed I didn't want to talk

824
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:27,760
Speaker 2: and excused herself. I later received a text from Megan

825
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:30,120
Speaker 2: asking if we could move past things or if we

826
00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:33,120
Speaker 2: are over. I texted back that she couldn't have been

827
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:36,279
Speaker 2: unaware of Hannah's posts and my attempts to figure things out.

828
00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:39,640
Speaker 2: It's been months and I've been treated like a biblical harlot.

829
00:39:39,960 --> 00:39:42,239
Speaker 2: I said we need to address what her wife was

830
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:45,520
Speaker 2: alleging and a why. Megan then texted back Hannah and

831
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:47,400
Speaker 2: I are diforce thing. That was a week and a

832
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 2: half ago, and she only texted question mark lead me

833
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 2: out of this girl like Megan, Yeah, you aren't bringing

834
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:57,920
Speaker 2: me into all of your problems. Yeah, I'm literally not

835
00:39:58,080 --> 00:40:03,080
Speaker 2: in your relationship. Quit it to quit it. I asked

836
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:05,800
Speaker 2: Megan to meet and we sat at the bar and drank.

837
00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:08,800
Speaker 2: I let Megan lead with small talk for about two rounds.

838
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:11,600
Speaker 2: Then I blurted out, what in the nine hells is

839
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 2: going on with you? She broke into silent, sad tears.

840
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:18,800
Speaker 2: Her happy mask shattered Megan apologized repeatedly for the ghosting,

841
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:22,680
Speaker 2: for Hannah blasting me online, for the town treating me poorly,

842
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:25,320
Speaker 2: and for not defending me. She said she and Hannah

843
00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:28,040
Speaker 2: had been having trouble. It started when Megan and I

844
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:31,400
Speaker 2: got wasted and talked about bad experiences with men. I

845
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 2: mentioned my boness took a hard left turn after my

846
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 2: last X. Megan said it made her think she considered

847
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:40,759
Speaker 2: that she might be by rather than just attracted to

848
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 2: the same gender. She came home and mentioned this to

849
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:46,400
Speaker 2: Hannah as a casual topic. Hannah lost it. She started

850
00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 2: throwing things and screaming, you want to cheat so bad,

851
00:40:49,080 --> 00:40:52,960
Speaker 2: then cheat? I don't care. So Hannah is by phobic girl.

852
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:56,560
Speaker 2: Oh girl, just because you're bye doesn't mean that you're

853
00:40:56,600 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 2: going to cheat or that you want to cheat. That's stereotype.

854
00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 4: Is sure is.

855
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:04,880
Speaker 2: Megan was so afraid she slept in their car with

856
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 2: the doors locked. Megan is five foot two and Hannah

857
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:10,080
Speaker 2: is very tall, fit and muscular. You got to break

858
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:14,240
Speaker 2: up with this girl, you sure do, Hannah insisted Megan

859
00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:16,840
Speaker 2: was cheating, went through her phone and forced Megan to

860
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 2: log into her Social media. Messages between Megan and me

861
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:22,880
Speaker 2: were discovered, including a photo I sent of a dress

862
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:24,960
Speaker 2: for a date. Megan said it was pretty and we

863
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:28,040
Speaker 2: talked about sailor moon dubs. Hannah took this as proof

864
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:29,160
Speaker 2: of an affair.

865
00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:31,720
Speaker 3: Talking about sailor air everyone.

866
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 4: Yeahs the sailor moon is just just an innuendo for

867
00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:37,399
Speaker 4: something else.

868
00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:38,880
Speaker 2: Well, like who is it? Is it?

869
00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:41,319
Speaker 3: Sailor Venus and Sailor Neptune. They are the ones.

870
00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:43,440
Speaker 2: I was like, I've never seen sailorman they are.

871
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:47,040
Speaker 3: There are two of the sailors that are like known

872
00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 3: not not. Basically, it's not like.

873
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:52,600
Speaker 2: A known sailors. Opie's a woman, okay, Billy time, Yes, yes,

874
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:54,320
Speaker 2: they're all ladies in this story.

875
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:54,799
Speaker 3: Uh.

876
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:58,759
Speaker 2: She actively sabotaged our plants. Hannah was the logistical one

877
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:04,640
Speaker 2: who gave me wrong info for Megan's party. Yikes. Thanks.

878
00:42:04,760 --> 00:42:06,719
Speaker 2: The thing is that, like, yes, Megan is in this

879
00:42:07,120 --> 00:42:09,440
Speaker 2: terrior relationship, but she does need to make up a

880
00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:11,839
Speaker 2: lot for how you were treated and how you were

881
00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:15,279
Speaker 2: driving to it. Totally, it was not Megan texting me back,

882
00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:19,320
Speaker 2: but Hannah on her phone. Yikes. Megan was so stressed

883
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:22,920
Speaker 2: she forgot Hannah's birthday. Honestly, Hannah doesn't deserve a present

884
00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:26,640
Speaker 2: because she sucks. Yeah, no presents for people who suck.

885
00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 2: Their dog had been six, so Megan took him to

886
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 2: the vet and Hannah came home to an empty house.

887
00:42:31,320 --> 00:42:33,920
Speaker 2: She was livid, threatened to put the dog down, and

888
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 2: locked Megan out. Hannah is a terrible person. Hannah put

889
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 2: Megan down, saying hurtful things and refusing intimacy because Megan

890
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 2: was disgusting and sloppy. Seconds. Oh my god, that was

891
00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:48,000
Speaker 2: the night Megan ghosted me. Hannah asked where Megan was going,

892
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:51,400
Speaker 2: and Megan told her, which made Hannah scream. Megan stayed

893
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 2: home and Hannah took her phone. When I sent a

894
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:56,520
Speaker 2: text ending with love you, Hannah asked Megan if she

895
00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:59,799
Speaker 2: loved me. Megan struggled to explain she loved me, put

896
00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 2: Hannah demanded an answer. She went nuclear. Megan broke down

897
00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:08,160
Speaker 2: and said she wanted a divorce. Hannah apologized and insisted

898
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:10,880
Speaker 2: on date night. Megan tried, but she was miserable and

899
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:14,400
Speaker 2: lost all remaining love, but was afraid, so she quietly

900
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:17,399
Speaker 2: started putting money away and contacted a lawyer. The man

901
00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 2: I saw with Megan at the movies was a date

902
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:22,839
Speaker 2: Megan wanted to talk to me, but felt tense and cold.

903
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:26,960
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe too soon. Megan, I was honestly confused about that.

904
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:29,279
Speaker 2: I also was like, cause she with a man.

905
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:33,440
Speaker 4: She said it said boyfriend when it was being told

906
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:36,200
Speaker 4: to us, and oh, I thought it was just a

907
00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:39,040
Speaker 4: guy friend. Well that's probably what it meant, but that's

908
00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:41,719
Speaker 4: what it said. And then like the next sentence was

909
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 4: like like when they got married, or like when when

910
00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:47,880
Speaker 4: Megan and Hannah were married or something like that, and

911
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:49,760
Speaker 4: I was like, what is happening?

912
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 2: But I didn't want to sound stupid, so I didn't

913
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:52,439
Speaker 2: say anything.

914
00:43:52,520 --> 00:43:56,240
Speaker 4: But I guess, yeah, maybe because that happened obviously before

915
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 4: this the doors hasn't even happened.

916
00:43:58,280 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 2: So Megan seemingly was you know, maybe was cheating or

917
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 2: maybe was just hanging out with the guy. And was like,

918
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:07,719
Speaker 2: oh no, that I do have feelings, yeah, or maybe

919
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:11,239
Speaker 2: they separated, and it was like, okay, something regardless, you

920
00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:14,720
Speaker 2: are being pulled into all of this very awful relationship drama.

921
00:44:15,640 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 1: Hey it's Sam. We're gonna get back to these stories.

922
00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:19,759
Speaker 1: But here's three bads from our sponsors that keep the

923
00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:20,239
Speaker 1: show alive.

924
00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:22,480
Speaker 2: The man I saw with Megan at the movies was

925
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 2: a date. She said she and Hannah no longer lived together.

926
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:27,719
Speaker 2: Megan got a job in the city and made up

927
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:30,359
Speaker 2: the excuse she wanted fun money to go out. One day,

928
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:32,800
Speaker 2: Hannah asked if she was sleeping with a coworker. Megan

929
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:34,880
Speaker 2: said she was fed up and replied, you're right, I

930
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:36,759
Speaker 2: don't want to be with you anymore. You're just mean,

931
00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:39,880
Speaker 2: and walked out. She stayed with her parents. Megan couldn't

932
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:42,800
Speaker 2: come to me because everyone would assume the rumors were true.

933
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:45,160
Speaker 2: She was so embarrassed she didn't know how to say

934
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 2: I am not a home wrecker and that her marriage

935
00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 2: is over. Someone had seen us at the bar together laughing.

936
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:52,880
Speaker 2: Then a man from our town walked up, arms folded

937
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:56,440
Speaker 2: and took a picture. Who are these people? How small

938
00:44:56,520 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 2: is your town? Yeah?

939
00:44:58,320 --> 00:44:58,360
Speaker 1: What?

940
00:44:58,600 --> 00:45:02,400
Speaker 3: Wait? How do you folded into a picture that's so gross?

941
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:06,120
Speaker 2: You? This is weird. Later we found out he posted

942
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:10,000
Speaker 2: on Facebook claiming we kissed. The post spread over fifty times,

943
00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:13,279
Speaker 2: and he ranted about queer relationships being abominations. So it

944
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 2: seems like he didn't even care about the Hannah means

945
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:20,640
Speaker 2: and it's just like he's just like ew girls kissing.

946
00:45:22,600 --> 00:45:25,160
Speaker 2: I don't even think they didn't know they did. They

947
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:27,960
Speaker 2: were laughing, girls hanging out and girls laughing.

948
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:30,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, And he's like, you better not kiss. You guys

949
00:45:30,520 --> 00:45:33,160
Speaker 4: better not kiss right now. You guys better not kiss

950
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:35,360
Speaker 4: each other on the lips. I hate that.

951
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:37,640
Speaker 3: I bet that guy gets really upset when hears Cindy

952
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 3: lappers the girls want to have fun.

953
00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:42,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I bet. The next day I found three of

954
00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:45,879
Speaker 2: my tires slash game, What Get out of this town?

955
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 2: The day after, literal feces were left on my porch.

956
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:51,560
Speaker 2: Oh my god, my car was spray painted with effing

957
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:54,399
Speaker 2: cheater on one side and another hate message on the other.

958
00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:55,800
Speaker 3: Oh wow, I wonder who did that.

959
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:59,359
Speaker 2: I installed cameras and made police reports. My neighbor also

960
00:45:59,400 --> 00:46:01,560
Speaker 2: has cameras, so I asked them to check their footage

961
00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:04,359
Speaker 2: as I would be pressing charges. Megan and I got

962
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:06,360
Speaker 2: an apartment about a month and a half ago. I

963
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:08,560
Speaker 2: asked she was okay with us getting a place together

964
00:46:08,640 --> 00:46:11,360
Speaker 2: in the city. She was over the moon, and her

965
00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 2: parents paid her first six months of rent. We settled

966
00:46:14,080 --> 00:46:17,000
Speaker 2: in quickly. Megan pays less rent because she keeps the

967
00:46:17,040 --> 00:46:20,160
Speaker 2: home tidy. We cooked together twice a week, splurge months

968
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 2: for takeout and alternate other days. Megan has been going

969
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:25,239
Speaker 2: to therapy and seems happier. She has a new job,

970
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:28,680
Speaker 2: work friends, and goes out without me Sometimes. Anna saw

971
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:32,040
Speaker 2: all of Megan's things gone and the letter Megan left.

972
00:46:32,320 --> 00:46:35,520
Speaker 2: She raised heck and came to my house, but Megan's

973
00:46:35,560 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 2: cousin was renting and told her we weren't home. Anna

974
00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:41,719
Speaker 2: posted online immediately claiming I the home wrecker and her

975
00:46:41,800 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 2: wife ran off together. Old neighbors found footage of Oh,

976
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:49,760
Speaker 2: you guessed it, Hannah vandalizing my car. We filed police

977
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:53,319
Speaker 2: reports and she was charged. Megan reported Hannah hitting her

978
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 2: oh and disclosed it wasn't the first time, and we

979
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,480
Speaker 2: had only a trigger warning for emotional but we'll put

980
00:46:58,560 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 2: a trigger warning for just abuse in general, trigger warning

981
00:47:03,160 --> 00:47:06,120
Speaker 2: for a said mentions of violence and help help you.

982
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 2: Megan is applying for schooling to be a counselor for

983
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,359
Speaker 2: queer folk. We are both safe and healthy. Hannah went

984
00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:15,719
Speaker 2: on a campaign against us, telling everyone I was a homewrecker.

985
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:20,800
Speaker 2: She contacted my job, found Megan's LinkedIn and calls her workplace.

986
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 2: This helped us because it provided documented proof of intimidation.

987
00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:27,719
Speaker 2: We screenshot at everything, and Megan's lawyer used it to

988
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:30,719
Speaker 2: force Hannah to sign off on the divorce. There is

989
00:47:30,800 --> 00:47:34,040
Speaker 2: a little bit left to this story, but yeah, Hannah

990
00:47:34,120 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 2: is a terrible person and should be in jail. Absolutely,

991
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:41,960
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, just horrendous behavior. Yeah, and honestly, op,

992
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:46,200
Speaker 2: after the way that you were treated by everyone, props

993
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:50,239
Speaker 2: to you for sticking by Megan. Yeah, because obviously this

994
00:47:50,360 --> 00:47:52,800
Speaker 2: is like, it's not Megan's fault, Like she was in

995
00:47:52,880 --> 00:47:56,080
Speaker 2: a very bad situation, right, but not everyone would have

996
00:47:56,239 --> 00:48:00,120
Speaker 2: stayed and would have helped her. So helped you. Yeah, yeah, Abs,

997
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:02,799
Speaker 2: And I'm glad that Megan is out of that relationship. Same.

998
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 2: It is seemingly doing great, seems so so in the city,

999
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:07,520
Speaker 2: out of that small town.

1000
00:48:07,640 --> 00:48:11,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, I'm very very happy for that.

1001
00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 2: Screwhanna. Yeah, get her into I don't know, man, just

1002
00:48:16,239 --> 00:48:18,680
Speaker 2: get her out of here. Hannah tried to call me names,

1003
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:22,440
Speaker 2: calling me a salute. Megan explained her paranoia and mistreatment

1004
00:48:22,560 --> 00:48:26,719
Speaker 2: as the reason for the divorce. Anna finally stopped contacting us.

1005
00:48:26,920 --> 00:48:29,880
Speaker 2: She left the country for a job, thank goodness, and

1006
00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:32,840
Speaker 2: sent Megan a letter through her lawyer waving the white flag.

1007
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:35,880
Speaker 2: She has agreed to everything through her lawyer. Megan got

1008
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 2: her own place after securing a better job, but we

1009
00:48:38,400 --> 00:48:41,400
Speaker 2: remain close. She needed to prove she could be independent.

1010
00:48:41,760 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 2: She is doing fine, has made friends and seems happier.

1011
00:48:44,880 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 2: We talk often and played d and d Over Zoom

1012
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:50,000
Speaker 2: every other week. She knows I'll always be there for

1013
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:51,920
Speaker 2: her as a friend, and I know she has my

1014
00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:55,000
Speaker 2: back too, And that's the end of the story. Well, wow,

1015
00:48:55,719 --> 00:48:58,120
Speaker 2: well good, you guys have each other's backs. Yeah, and

1016
00:48:58,239 --> 00:48:59,759
Speaker 2: you're in a much better place now.

1017
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:05,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's great, great, absolutely absolutely happy for you guys.

1018
00:49:05,680 --> 00:49:08,840
Speaker 2: Me too, And I'm happy that Hannah is out of

1019
00:49:09,040 --> 00:49:13,359
Speaker 2: the country. She's as far as possible. Best places yeah,

1020
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:18,360
Speaker 2: out of the Solar system would be better, but a

1021
00:49:18,360 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 2: little bit harder, a lot of money. Yeah, But that's

1022
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:23,680
Speaker 2: the end of that story. So if you love us,

1023
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:27,440
Speaker 2: make sure to subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.