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Speaker 1: Hold on tight, We got it for you here. It

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Speaker 1: is the Strawberry Letter. Subject. I have fallen in love

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Speaker 1: with another man. Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband went out

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Speaker 1: was done with him. He assured me that things were

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Speaker 1: told him I needed some time apart. Well, he was

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Speaker 1: and in my time away from my marriage mentally, I

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Speaker 1: love this line. He suggested we make love to help

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Speaker 1: Isn't that a great line? We might love for the

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Speaker 1: because we were in separable. My husband is back home

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Speaker 1: and I told him I'd had an affair and he

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Speaker 1: took it hard, but he said he forgave me and

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Speaker 1: we're even. But we're not because I still want my

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Speaker 1: but I don't want to be with my husband. He's

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Speaker 1: been back for four months and I haven't even had

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Speaker 1: follow your vows. Okay, that's why you said them. But

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Speaker 1: all I have fallen in love with another man. You know,

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Speaker 1: if you're not going to follow your vows, just like

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Speaker 1: your husband didn't follow his, you should just get out.

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Speaker 1: don't never work out, do it ever, We're just hanging

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Speaker 1: the chemistry was undeniable. He suggested. Now, now, this is

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Speaker 1: He just suggested it, right, you know, baby, Look, you

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Speaker 1: ain't got to That's my grandma used to say that

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Speaker 1: You're in the same trouble. Why get into more trouble.

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