WEBVTT - Episode 348: Crockpot P*ssy (Feat. Yemi Alade) 0:00:02.320 --> 0:00:06.040 West West. It's Lift Service. I'm Angela Yee, I'm g McGuire, 0:00:06.200 --> 0:00:12.320 I'm Stephanie Santiago Laura, and I am Yami a Laddy Blood. 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:17.040 Guys be international now you know what I'm saying. But 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:20.400 we are very excited to have you pleasures all my 0:00:20.720 --> 0:00:24.319 global superstar on Lift Service. What are you doing in 0:00:24.320 --> 0:00:26.920 New York right now? Just so we can know? Uh So, 0:00:26.960 --> 0:00:30.480 I was invited here by the by the Grammy Academy, 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:33.640 the Academies, and it's one of the people in the 0:00:33.680 --> 0:00:37.879 Pannel to speak on afrobeats and Dan Tall you know 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:42.760 I tell you about a cranium, Yeah and yes, And 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:45.440 it was a nice thing to do, you know, talking 0:00:45.479 --> 0:00:48.360 about afrobeats and how far it's come. You know, it's 0:00:48.400 --> 0:00:51.080 been so many years and there's so much more that 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:54.440 afrobeats still needs to cover up in the entire world. 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:56.120 But it's a great time to be a life. And 0:00:56.120 --> 0:00:59.280 there's like a lot of sub genres within afrobeats because 0:00:59.280 --> 0:01:01.360 it's like, don't even get me started on now, and 0:01:01.440 --> 0:01:05.839 there's so many like almost every state in every country 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:10.880 in Africa. It's like having like in Nigeria alone, we 0:01:10.920 --> 0:01:14.240 have like over three tribes now we might imagine if 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:21.720 each tribe. Now, that is how diverse our sound is. Yeah, listen, 0:01:21.840 --> 0:01:25.399 and I feel like afrobeast is taken over though, you know, 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:29.080 so for yourself in particular, I mean you, I think 0:01:29.280 --> 0:01:33.160 are one of the most successful international stars. Thank God 0:01:33.200 --> 0:01:35.440 for that. Thank God for that. So what was your 0:01:35.520 --> 0:01:38.119 journey like just even getting to that point? Because man 0:01:38.240 --> 0:01:41.920 or woman, you are killing it. Thank you. I would 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:45.319 say in general, just like every other industry, is never 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:50.919 easy for a female because the opportunities aren't exactly the same. 0:01:51.680 --> 0:01:54.840 I don't know why. You know, the world doesn't deserve us, right, 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:58.840 but I definitely don't understand why. But you know, the 0:01:58.840 --> 0:02:03.080 women before me, they went through these exact same, you know, difficulties, 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:07.200 and I'm facing mine and I'm exceeding them, I'm overcoming them. 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:09.520 So I like to focus on the funt that even 0:02:09.560 --> 0:02:12.600 though you know we're women and that there's disadvantages, but 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:16.480 you know, there's definitely a lot of opportunities that open 0:02:16.600 --> 0:02:19.560 up when we actually push break down the door and 0:02:19.560 --> 0:02:23.120 take what's hours. But as as a female, that literally 0:02:23.160 --> 0:02:26.040 what I'm saying is that all my entire career, that's 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:30.040 all I've had to do take my spot, earn my spots, 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:33.400 take what's mine because I've never given you know, it 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:36.679 takes a lot of strength. But um, I'm here now. Yeah. 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:38.680 I mean I gotta ask you this because this is 0:02:38.680 --> 0:02:41.760 lip service because you like that in your career. Are 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:44.600 you like that in the bedroom too? Fighting for my life? 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:52.360 But girl and making sure that are you aggressive or 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:55.960 do you like to be dominated in the bedroom? Wow? 0:02:56.000 --> 0:03:03.560 Okay there, I just kind of question what I would 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:09.400 I mean my loud Um, no, I'm not aggressive, but 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:14.080 I would say I'm exactly very dominating either. But I 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:18.480 give instructions. You give instructions. Nice, Okay, sometimes you gotta 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:20.600 tell them girls. No, that's good because you know why. 0:03:20.760 --> 0:03:23.440 I find like when I was younger, even if I 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:25.480 didn't like somebody struck or what they were doing, I 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:29.720 would be kind of like just go with it. You 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:32.400 kind of just try to like move but not say 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:34.960 anything or try to and sometimes you do got to 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:36.600 speak up. It took a while for me to be 0:03:36.640 --> 0:03:41.040 able to do that. GS like not me, not for sure. 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:44.360 I just respect to my class. But yeah, I'm definitely 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:47.440 a communicator in all aspects of my life. I'm gonna 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:48.960 tell you what it is and how I feel, and 0:03:49.000 --> 0:03:51.400 definitely in the bedroom, like I'm not holding nothing bad. 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:54.839 But even when you were younger, you always been like that. Yeah, 0:03:54.920 --> 0:03:57.520 I learned at a young age to to communicate. I 0:03:57.560 --> 0:03:59.680 learned at a young age that people cannot read your mind. 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:01.240 If people who are not going to understand you, if 0:04:01.240 --> 0:04:02.680 they don't let you, if you don't let them know 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:04.720 what's going on. Because I feel like if you move, 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:07.120 like sometimes you move a certain way and they think 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:09.400 that you move like there because it feels good, but 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:14.120 you're really moving like that because you're like don't feel good. Yeah, 0:04:14.200 --> 0:04:20.839 like you us, I can feel your teeth ouch. That 0:04:20.960 --> 0:04:23.440 is a good thing to know because like in Nigeria, 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:26.920 in Africa, most of the females, um, we aren't exactly 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:31.960 taught to you know, speak our minds as unfiltered as 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:34.800 we want to as we feel. Like most times you 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:38.560 have to put being polite first before you know even 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:42.080 consider how to put the words together. So most times 0:04:42.080 --> 0:04:44.480 you just end up keeping quiet, you know. But like 0:04:44.520 --> 0:04:47.960 so like for me, I'm actually I just kept smiling 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:49.760 when you said right from when you're a kid, you 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:53.000 learned that people cannot read mind, So I learned that way. 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:55.360 Later on, I thought, okay, since I can't say what 0:04:55.400 --> 0:04:57.480 I don't say, maybe body language you'll do it for me. 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:00.640 It still does not you look like a person, even 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:03.400 if it's your best friend, your mom, someone who has 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:07.200 known you all your life. Still they don't get it. 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:09.920 How you have to speak, you have to speak? How 0:05:09.960 --> 0:05:12.280 did you learn about sex? Like, was that a conversation 0:05:12.360 --> 0:05:15.440 that like you did your mom tell you? Like okay, 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:17.560 so you know, like, how does that happen? Because my 0:05:17.560 --> 0:05:21.120 parents never talked to me about sex. Well, for me, 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:25.120 I think my first I would say encounter, But my 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:29.440 first understanding of sex obviously was in school, the biology 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:32.240 classes that we had. But then at some point there 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:36.640 was something that was introduced to my my school, secondary 0:05:36.640 --> 0:05:39.560 school they called high school here, it's called sex education. 0:05:39.720 --> 0:05:41.880 So it was like a very short it only happening 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:44.360 for like two days, and they had to help protiction 0:05:44.440 --> 0:05:46.720 us come to school and you know, show us how 0:05:46.720 --> 0:05:49.400 to wear a condom. That was the most important thing 0:05:49.400 --> 0:05:50.920 to them at the point of time. So they add 0:05:51.200 --> 0:05:53.599 the deal looking things and they just you know, see 0:05:53.640 --> 0:05:56.560 the condoms on them or like okay, So that was 0:05:56.600 --> 0:05:59.160 my first understanding. Off you know sex, but I never 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:02.799 had a conversation on appearance. It never happened. The closest 0:06:02.839 --> 0:06:08.320 to sex in a sentence that I probably heard from 0:06:08.360 --> 0:06:10.360 my mama told my mom at some point was when 0:06:10.400 --> 0:06:14.279 I asked her, Mommy, what does it mean to be sexy? 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:17.520 I think that was the only time whatever. I can't 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:21.280 remember because I feel like my mother just dodged. She 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:27.359 just went like this, like that, like that, yeah, and 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:29.160 you still never got an answer. I don't even when 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:31.040 I got my period, I didn't even know what it was. 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:34.200 My mom was just like, put this pad on. I 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:37.080 didn't know what was happening. When I caught my parent. 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:39.280 My mom didn't tell me nothing either. I didn't even 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:41.320 tell her. I didn't think about telling her first. So 0:06:41.680 --> 0:06:43.760 my friend caught it first and I laughed at her. 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:45.360 A week later, I called it so I just went 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:50.440 back to her like a disease. That's how I felt 0:06:50.480 --> 0:06:55.920 at that time. I called theeriod. I wastageous around me. 0:06:56.200 --> 0:06:59.159 My mom was at work, she worked seven so it 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:01.599 was like when she she found out, like three days later, 0:07:01.960 --> 0:07:04.400 you have pads in the house and everything or act. 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:07.680 I love my I love my friend, my childhood friend 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:10.280 she came downstairs and gave me like a whole box 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:14.920 of pads because her mom bought her to see. I 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:19.800 remember learning how to use tampons. Yeah, I was one 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:21.760 of the special ones. But I didn't want to use 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:25.120 the tampon. I just I don't like it, so I 0:07:25.120 --> 0:07:29.000 would ride it like it's crazy. I would rather use tissue. 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:31.040 You put toilet paper in your underwear. I was doing 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:33.880 to do that, and my mom had to take me 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:35.960 to my aunt and tell her, please talk to this 0:07:36.040 --> 0:07:40.400 young lady. Like a lot of persuation. I didn't like 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:44.360 the you know, the you know it has a feel, uh, 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:49.360 the nylon. I don't like tampons now inside yourself tampons. 0:07:49.960 --> 0:07:52.160 When I had to, I had older sisters, so they 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:54.360 taught me. You know, I learned. My mother didn't teach me, 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:57.360 but my older sisters cheerleading in high school, Like we 0:07:57.400 --> 0:08:00.040 had to wear tampons because we used to have That 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:03.240 would be terrible if you did a summersault and your Yeah, 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:06.920 an instance where the string was show like not me, 0:08:07.000 --> 0:08:09.640 but I've had some of my cheirmates like the string 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:14.120 when they do. You imagine it happened in the strip club. 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:17.920 Can't imagined the girl bending over and the string just hanging. 0:08:17.960 --> 0:08:22.440 I've seen it happen. Well, you can't wear a pad 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:24.800 in the strip club. But I've been saying, imagine you dancing. 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:27.080 Imagine a girl dancing in front of you, and all 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:28.520 of a sudden she's been over and it's a little 0:08:28.520 --> 0:08:31.920 string bang. And I didn't know how to head girls. 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:33.960 Plenty of times like oh you damn my straight. I 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:36.080 had to read the pamphlet and I still was doing 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:38.800 it wrong. You put the whole applicator and every day 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:43.880 and they kept sliding back out. I was like, this 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:46.320 is uncomfortable. And then it doesn't work if you don't 0:08:46.360 --> 0:08:48.560 put the cotton, like if you don't use the applicator. 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:50.880 So it just kept sliding back out, and I was like, 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:53.200 this is terrible, and understand what I'm supposed to be doing. 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:56.240 I just recently stays in Tompon, just been I started 0:08:56.320 --> 0:09:00.880 last year. I've always used um pods, but know son 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:03.760 tree pods they can't give infections because I had had 0:09:03.800 --> 0:09:08.240 an infection from some path Yeah, like they have those things, 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:10.440 you know, they have like moil on the inside that 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:15.520 turns you know, flow into all these chemicals over the years. 0:09:16.880 --> 0:09:19.880 But yeah, when you're performing, right, because you you go 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:22.880 in when you perform. How can you put that? It 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:25.640 isn't an uncomfortable in a pad. I'm just asking even 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:30.560 just sitting down, it's uncomfortable, But like performing, I'm just 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:33.320 really blessed to be one of the females that don't 0:09:33.360 --> 0:09:38.600 exactly experience a lot of pain when on their period. 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:41.720 So I'm able to go ahead, do everything, do perform 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:45.800 dance saying you know, I recently realized that with the tampon. Okay, 0:09:45.800 --> 0:09:47.360 this is the reason why it stays on the tampon 0:09:47.640 --> 0:09:50.280 because I just learned how to swim. I don't know 0:09:50.280 --> 0:09:52.440 how to swim, Sam, the only person in here that 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:56.320 doesn't know how. I definitely how do you? Okay, so 0:09:56.679 --> 0:09:58.880 break this down for me. So you decided you needed 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:01.320 to learn how to swim out fascinated by that. Yes, 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:05.480 Covidar really just did a lot. I just really had 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:08.199 time to reflect on life and just think to myself, 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:11.560 what are the few things, like, you know, get myself 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:14.760 into that that would you know, just really make me happy, 0:10:15.800 --> 0:10:18.720 help me get my mind you know less tense. I 0:10:18.800 --> 0:10:22.760 learned how to write the bicycle. Then this is crazy? 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:26.640 And then I learned how to swim. So I was 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:30.720 taking swimming classes and then I really was excited about 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:35.480 it because I started floating, and that's exciting. You don't 0:10:35.520 --> 0:10:38.000 know how crippling it is to not know how to swim. 0:10:38.040 --> 0:10:43.120 It is crippling sometimes and I'd love that. I'd love that. 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:46.000 But then the thing what happened was that because I 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:49.080 was really I always woke up in the morning very 0:10:49.200 --> 0:10:53.880 excited for my swim classes. Then one day the period 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:57.440 decided to coming and I started making cold How do 0:10:57.480 --> 0:10:59.040 I do this because I don't want to miss my 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:04.800 swimming classes. I don't want to like, I'll just protect 0:11:05.960 --> 0:11:08.720 I messed up about four or five. I didn't understand 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:13.280 the technique, but it hurts on the way in. How 0:11:13.360 --> 0:11:16.280 do you And then when I now, I'm a pro. 0:11:18.559 --> 0:11:21.400 But they also have the cups now and they're reusable, 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:24.480 so they're amazing. You know, they also have the cups 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:26.839 for you know, when your bladder is weak and you know, 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:29.040 like me, like I go from zero to a hundred 0:11:29.080 --> 0:11:33.439 when I have peas, they have the cup peacups to 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:37.320 try them, like they gave them to me, and I 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:39.000 was like, yo, I mean, you know when you're at 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:40.480 the club and you drink it and then the line 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:44.000 be long and yourself so it's not me. It's like 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:48.439 a cup and it helps you hold like if you square, 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:50.840 you know, you wait until use squirt a little. You 0:11:50.880 --> 0:11:54.320 go to the yes crazy if you squirt a little, yeah, 0:11:54.440 --> 0:11:56.920 like you know when you gotta gold roll back so 0:11:57.200 --> 0:11:59.360 and sometimes like you get yeah, like I call it 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:04.600 happy my dog, My dog get excited. Yeah, I don't. 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:07.800 I don't go through that. I don't know, because you 0:12:07.880 --> 0:12:10.240 know there's women that stuff like they have after half 0:12:10.360 --> 0:12:14.920 half ki you have. That's why I got vaginal rejuvenation 0:12:15.000 --> 0:12:18.000 with the laser is because I smoked and I would 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:20.760 cough and I would peel on myself a little bit, 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.920 and it happened one too many times. So I looked up, 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:26.480 like what can I do to stop this from happening? 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:29.920 And I learned about vaginal rejuvenation, and I got my 0:12:30.040 --> 0:12:33.719 vagina lasered um from the inside out and it took 0:12:33.760 --> 0:12:36.400 it back to virgin status. And that's why tampons hurt 0:12:36.440 --> 0:12:45.360 me now because it's so tight down there. Hello white part. 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:48.800 The only time I almost pee on myself is when 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:50.040 I have to go and I'm at the door when 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:57.240 you get you to do it. Listen, you get to 0:12:57.280 --> 0:12:59.840 the toilet, the board, you gotta go exactly, and then 0:13:00.280 --> 0:13:03.640 get into the bathroom the toilets eventually and it's right 0:13:03.720 --> 0:13:08.640 there before. It's just I wonder if guys like I 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:10.760 thought that too. I was like, I wonder guys like 0:13:10.800 --> 0:13:14.120 when they little there's a little pee, like, what happens? 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:18.200 Does it happen to you when you Yeah, so y'all 0:13:19.200 --> 0:13:21.000 in your box, when you're gonna suck it, you can 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:25.320 take the pee a little bit, y'all happened to y'all 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:35.079 had a little bit of I don't know, ye no toy. 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:37.599 We never get no p money. That's a head. No 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:46.000 wait too, guys like wet wipes their tips too, should 0:13:46.320 --> 0:13:48.880 and then we won't have beer in the mouth, he said, 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:51.839 they do, Yeah, they do. Well, my guys have I think. 0:13:52.160 --> 0:14:03.520 I think it's like the birds is great for it happening. 0:14:06.720 --> 0:14:12.760 It's a bit you're lying, all right, keep up, ladies, Okay, yeah, 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:14.920 I mean you too. Okay, you're not gonna slide out 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:17.400 of this. So let's just say you've been out all 0:14:17.520 --> 0:14:19.320 day and then you get back to the house with 0:14:19.520 --> 0:14:22.200 with your dude and he wants to eat you out, 0:14:22.240 --> 0:14:25.360 but you haven't showered a nothing. Let's go let him. 0:14:25.560 --> 0:14:29.520 I trust myself, I'm letting him. No, I'm good. No, 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:36.960 let's go, let's really, let's really again. I will let 0:14:37.080 --> 0:14:41.440 my man eat me right after I work out. Okay, 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:45.360 what if you shippa right after? I don't even do that. 0:14:45.480 --> 0:14:47.520 I'm right after, I don't even do that, and right 0:14:47.560 --> 0:14:50.200 after that, right after because I said, how to clean 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:54.400 myself a day? Right all day you've been working. He 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:57.520 was in rehearsals, and then use the restaurant at some 0:14:57.600 --> 0:15:01.760 point while yes, you and then you get home and 0:15:01.920 --> 0:15:04.120 he's like just trying to rip your clothes off, and 0:15:05.120 --> 0:15:07.360 are you gonna just let him do it? Rip the 0:15:07.440 --> 0:15:11.440 clothes off and pass me the wipes? Yeah, wiping throughout 0:15:11.480 --> 0:15:13.840 the day. Don't let me tell you something. I had 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:17.680 an experience one time, and ever since this one time, 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:20.720 I've been scared to death about this happening to me again. 0:15:20.920 --> 0:15:22.840 And I'm sure there's a woman in the room that 0:15:22.880 --> 0:15:25.960 can relate. Have you ever want to go have sex 0:15:26.360 --> 0:15:28.760 or do something with your vagina? And there was a 0:15:28.800 --> 0:15:31.440 little piece of toilet paper stuff there and he had 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:34.120 to pull it off right. Y'all had to pull off 0:15:34.120 --> 0:15:38.320 the little that happened to me once and I never went. 0:15:38.440 --> 0:15:42.320 I was so embarrassed and had some cheape happened to 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:45.120 me again, So I used, where's my purse? I have 0:15:45.200 --> 0:15:47.640 wiped my purse right now. I keep wipes. I wipe. 0:15:50.960 --> 0:15:53.720 Got about forty eight packs wipes in my house trying 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:55.040 out the good wipe. Y'all need to spons to us 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:57.440 to um. I got about forty. I got the to 0:15:57.560 --> 0:15:59.640 go ones in the little individual rap backets and I 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:03.200 have to actual baby white packet and I wipe. Start 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:05.440 out that that guy saw the piece, he picked it off. 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:06.920 He was about to eat my pussy and he picked 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:09.160 off with baby. He still ate it though, when he 0:16:09.320 --> 0:16:12.320 picked off the little piece of tough paper. It looks everybody, 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:14.880 your posting was like an hour later when you pilled 0:16:14.880 --> 0:16:22.920 off the wrapper and it doesn't come stuck. It was 0:16:24.120 --> 0:16:27.440 it was a later with a little piece of the 0:16:27.480 --> 0:16:31.840 wage paper on it. And you know we're underwear, yes, 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:35.640 and I used white, I wipe and everything. But if 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:37.760 I know I've been out for a while, no matter, 0:16:38.360 --> 0:16:40.400 I'm going in the bathroom if I know, if not, 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:42.400 if I just showered, and I just happened to come 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:46.360 over that separate they I'm gonna go and wipe and 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:49.160 just not me but him, poor baby, like poor baby, 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:52.800 not me. I picked up paper. I'm gonna be honest 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:54.960 with you. I feel like going home and taking the 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:58.120 shower and having sex. You ruined everything. You your your 0:16:58.160 --> 0:17:03.760 body was mavernating for that. The best time to have 0:17:03.920 --> 0:17:06.280 sex is after your whole day is finished, and then 0:17:06.359 --> 0:17:09.000 take a shower and go to sleep after after it 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:10.639 is nice to go to sleep after text. But I 0:17:10.720 --> 0:17:13.639 also like, I'm telling you everything is a little juicy 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:18.000 and and nice and taste in the c It's good. 0:17:18.480 --> 0:17:27.679 It's got it's Laura, get that man, that crop girl. 0:17:27.720 --> 0:17:30.320 I'm telling you it's good that thing taste. That thing's 0:17:30.320 --> 0:17:37.920 gonna taste like beast about is gonna taste like like 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:41.920 a second you basically love a girl who goes and 0:17:41.960 --> 0:17:43.800 takes a shower before No, I don't say, hold on, 0:17:44.040 --> 0:17:46.320 say all of that. She said, white, You get what 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:49.359 I'm saying that that's the same. She really did that. 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:52.359 She showed us like a little a little yeah. And 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:55.320 then if I'm a ready and I'm just you know, 0:17:56.240 --> 0:17:57.920 and then I go back and all right, Yeah, let's 0:17:57.960 --> 0:18:03.320 get back to you. Like she like, I don't want 0:18:03.359 --> 0:18:08.639 my white or do you just go straight into it white? 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:12.520 She yeah, yeah, because I'm just I'm just very self conscious, 0:18:12.560 --> 0:18:16.840 like might not. Fortunately, unfortunately, I have a very sensitive 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:19.840 nose and I pick up on every order. Like I 0:18:19.960 --> 0:18:24.440 can literally smell myself right like just even sitting Like 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:27.200 that's good. So you know, one time I tried, I 0:18:27.320 --> 0:18:30.200 tried to not wear panties because I had a friend 0:18:30.240 --> 0:18:33.680 that never wore panties and she, you know, and she 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:36.600 really loves she was like she was anti pants, like 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:39.600 she's like, what is pants? I really want this pants? 0:18:39.680 --> 0:18:41.680 And then so I tried it, and I just noticed 0:18:41.720 --> 0:18:43.880 I could always smell myself. I don't. Yeah, I don't 0:18:43.880 --> 0:18:45.679 like that when I have to wear hats. And then 0:18:45.720 --> 0:18:48.119 I start thinking about it, like so no, I needed to. 0:18:48.640 --> 0:18:51.960 I even wear underwear, like I was just but I 0:18:52.040 --> 0:18:55.639 have to underwear. But I have specific underwear that I 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:57.879 wear to go to bed. Me too, if I have 0:18:57.960 --> 0:19:00.639 a comfortable pair, Yeah, I have to. But I've started. 0:19:00.680 --> 0:19:03.760 So my waxer told me that, you know, to prevent 0:19:04.359 --> 0:19:07.480 and grown hairs after you get waxes, to not wear 0:19:07.520 --> 0:19:10.440 panties to go to sleep. So now I've started not 0:19:10.600 --> 0:19:15.600 wearing panties. I don't take the side that's I don't. 0:19:17.200 --> 0:19:19.159 Now I want to talk about woman of Steel. I 0:19:19.240 --> 0:19:22.639 want to go to that. Okay, yeah me, let me 0:19:22.680 --> 0:19:25.000 ask you to be a woman of steel? Right, how 0:19:25.040 --> 0:19:26.639 hard is it for you to be vulnerable when it 0:19:26.680 --> 0:19:31.400 comes to men, because sometimes we feel like we gotta 0:19:31.440 --> 0:19:33.760 be so tough and we got to make sure that 0:19:33.920 --> 0:19:35.879 I can handle this. I got this, I got that, 0:19:36.520 --> 0:19:39.800 but I've had to learn how to allow a man 0:19:40.000 --> 0:19:43.080 to help me. So how is that for you? I 0:19:43.160 --> 0:19:46.280 will say, you know, a woman of steel? First of all, 0:19:46.359 --> 0:19:49.800 when when I chose that that name for my album, 0:19:50.040 --> 0:19:53.720 I was thinking more of um, how to go about 0:19:53.840 --> 0:19:59.800 my daily activities without allowing the world to crush me, 0:20:00.280 --> 0:20:03.760 you know, with their expectations, with their thoughts, with their words, 0:20:04.440 --> 0:20:07.280 just you know, pulldozing through all the sorts to say 0:20:07.400 --> 0:20:11.439 b s. And that's where Woman of still came. Apologize 0:20:11.480 --> 0:20:18.760 for bs you can, yeah, yeah, I just it's just 0:20:18.920 --> 0:20:21.200 my nure. I told you where I'm coming from. Okay. 0:20:22.200 --> 0:20:25.879 So for me to be strong, I definitely for me 0:20:26.000 --> 0:20:28.120 to know what strong is, I have to be weak. 0:20:28.760 --> 0:20:31.240 Why else I wouldn't know what strength is and for 0:20:31.440 --> 0:20:34.840 me to me also learning to allow people help me 0:20:34.920 --> 0:20:36.520 when they need to help me, or will I say 0:20:37.280 --> 0:20:39.680 my man to help me when he wants to help me. 0:20:40.040 --> 0:20:43.000 I'm learning every day, Oh do you need this? I'm like, no, 0:20:43.080 --> 0:20:46.520 I'm good. I need to learn to say yes, please, 0:20:47.400 --> 0:20:49.840 thank you, and I crossed my feet and just do 0:20:50.160 --> 0:20:52.720 do do everything you say you want to do. I'm 0:20:52.960 --> 0:20:57.040 learning that. Um. But being a woman who still comes 0:20:57.080 --> 0:21:00.800 with a lot of vulnerability because you need to be 0:21:00.880 --> 0:21:05.840 able to love is it takes a lot. Yeah, because 0:21:06.000 --> 0:21:08.560 I think guys like to be able to help you. 0:21:09.000 --> 0:21:11.639 You know what I'm saying, like the need Yeah, they 0:21:11.720 --> 0:21:14.119 do need that, just like we do too, Like like 0:21:14.200 --> 0:21:17.119 as nurturers. I would feel a way if I wanted 0:21:17.119 --> 0:21:18.480 to help my man with out there and he kept 0:21:18.520 --> 0:21:22.520 telling me, no, it's good, I got it. Yeah, can 0:21:22.560 --> 0:21:24.480 I help you? Would you like me to know the 0:21:24.560 --> 0:21:31.119 where I can do? It's on? No, you're gonna let 0:21:31.160 --> 0:21:35.680 me do this. Listen. So your song Johnny was one 0:21:35.720 --> 0:21:37.960 of your first really really big songs. Was that a 0:21:38.040 --> 0:21:42.159 truth story? Of course? So tell us who Who's Johnny? 0:21:42.720 --> 0:21:50.000 A silly man with shipped for brains and trust me, 0:21:50.040 --> 0:21:52.000 in that song, I only mentioned like three ladies that 0:21:52.160 --> 0:21:55.280 was being very nice and modest. So this really happened. 0:21:55.359 --> 0:21:57.159 You had a guy that was just cheating on you. 0:21:58.160 --> 0:22:01.520 But every every everybody has that one person. Every man 0:22:01.720 --> 0:22:04.000 has that one lady who has done that, and every 0:22:04.040 --> 0:22:13.400 woman has that one minded religious and Johnny was that guy. 0:22:13.640 --> 0:22:16.760 I don't know any other female who has been so 0:22:17.040 --> 0:22:22.560 blessed to have someone that she's a love with that 0:22:22.800 --> 0:22:26.480 really rocks her world and literally breaks her heart and 0:22:27.160 --> 0:22:32.199 ushers her into a new stratusphere of life. Because literally 0:22:32.320 --> 0:22:36.240 that breakup broke me into the person I am today. 0:22:36.680 --> 0:22:39.760 If not for that song, enough for that experience, where 0:22:39.800 --> 0:22:42.280 will that be? Like? I probably if I ever see 0:22:42.320 --> 0:22:45.719 this guy, and she'd be telling him, than you ever 0:22:45.800 --> 0:22:49.320 have another way to break this heart again? Another one 0:22:49.320 --> 0:22:52.760 of those everything there for a reason. He knew that 0:22:52.800 --> 0:22:58.760 it was about him. You never spoke like So it happened, 0:22:59.080 --> 0:23:02.159 and I went my way. I chose to leave, and 0:23:02.240 --> 0:23:05.480 I just went head deep into work trying to figure 0:23:05.480 --> 0:23:10.480 out who I was in the music, and we never reconnected. 0:23:10.520 --> 0:23:12.159 I think he tried reaching out to me, but I 0:23:12.280 --> 0:23:14.440 was just so I blocked it out because I knew it. 0:23:14.680 --> 0:23:16.520