Speaker 1: West West. It's Lift Service. I'm Angela Yee, I'm g McGuire,
Speaker 1: I'm Stephanie Santiago Laura, and I am Yami a Laddy Blood.
Speaker 1: Guys be international now you know what I'm saying. But
Speaker 1: we are very excited to have you pleasures all my
Speaker 1: global superstar on Lift Service. What are you doing in
Speaker 1: New York right now? Just so we can know? Uh So,
Speaker 1: I was invited here by the by the Grammy Academy,
Speaker 1: the Academies, and it's one of the people in the
Speaker 1: Pannel to speak on afrobeats and Dan Tall you know
Speaker 1: I tell you about a cranium, Yeah and yes, And
Speaker 1: it was a nice thing to do, you know, talking
Speaker 1: about afrobeats and how far it's come. You know, it's
Speaker 1: been so many years and there's so much more that
Speaker 1: afrobeats still needs to cover up in the entire world.
Speaker 1: But it's a great time to be a life. And
Speaker 1: there's like a lot of sub genres within afrobeats because
Speaker 1: it's like, don't even get me started on now, and
Speaker 1: there's so many like almost every state in every country
Speaker 1: in Africa. It's like having like in Nigeria alone, we
Speaker 1: have like over three tribes now we might imagine if
Speaker 1: each tribe. Now, that is how diverse our sound is. Yeah, listen,
Speaker 1: and I feel like afrobeast is taken over though, you know,
Speaker 1: so for yourself in particular, I mean you, I think
Speaker 1: are one of the most successful international stars. Thank God
Speaker 1: for that. Thank God for that. So what was your
Speaker 1: journey like just even getting to that point? Because man
Speaker 1: or woman, you are killing it. Thank you. I would
Speaker 1: say in general, just like every other industry, is never
Speaker 1: easy for a female because the opportunities aren't exactly the same.
Speaker 1: I don't know why. You know, the world doesn't deserve us, right,
Speaker 1: but I definitely don't understand why. But you know, the
Speaker 1: women before me, they went through these exact same, you know, difficulties,
Speaker 1: and I'm facing mine and I'm exceeding them, I'm overcoming them.
Speaker 1: So I like to focus on the funt that even
Speaker 1: though you know we're women and that there's disadvantages, but
Speaker 1: you know, there's definitely a lot of opportunities that open
Speaker 1: up when we actually push break down the door and
Speaker 1: take what's hours. But as as a female, that literally
Speaker 1: what I'm saying is that all my entire career, that's
Speaker 1: all I've had to do take my spot, earn my spots,
Speaker 1: take what's mine because I've never given you know, it
Speaker 1: takes a lot of strength. But um, I'm here now. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean I gotta ask you this because this is
Speaker 1: lip service because you like that in your career. Are
Speaker 1: you like that in the bedroom too? Fighting for my life?
Speaker 1: But girl and making sure that are you aggressive or
Speaker 1: do you like to be dominated in the bedroom? Wow?
Speaker 1: Okay there, I just kind of question what I would
Speaker 1: I mean my loud Um, no, I'm not aggressive, but
Speaker 1: I would say I'm exactly very dominating either. But I
Speaker 1: give instructions. You give instructions. Nice, Okay, sometimes you gotta
Speaker 1: tell them girls. No, that's good because you know why.
Speaker 1: I find like when I was younger, even if I
Speaker 1: didn't like somebody struck or what they were doing, I
Speaker 1: would be kind of like just go with it. You
Speaker 1: kind of just try to like move but not say
Speaker 1: anything or try to and sometimes you do got to
Speaker 1: speak up. It took a while for me to be
Speaker 1: able to do that. GS like not me, not for sure.
Speaker 1: I just respect to my class. But yeah, I'm definitely
Speaker 1: a communicator in all aspects of my life. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell you what it is and how I feel, and
Speaker 1: definitely in the bedroom, like I'm not holding nothing bad.
Speaker 1: But even when you were younger, you always been like that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I learned at a young age to to communicate. I
Speaker 1: learned at a young age that people cannot read your mind.
Speaker 1: If people who are not going to understand you, if
Speaker 1: they don't let you, if you don't let them know
Speaker 1: what's going on. Because I feel like if you move,
Speaker 1: like sometimes you move a certain way and they think
Speaker 1: that you move like there because it feels good, but
Speaker 1: you're really moving like that because you're like don't feel good. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like you us, I can feel your teeth ouch. That
Speaker 1: is a good thing to know because like in Nigeria,
Speaker 1: in Africa, most of the females, um, we aren't exactly
Speaker 1: taught to you know, speak our minds as unfiltered as
Speaker 1: we want to as we feel. Like most times you
Speaker 1: have to put being polite first before you know even
Speaker 1: consider how to put the words together. So most times
Speaker 1: you just end up keeping quiet, you know. But like
Speaker 1: so like for me, I'm actually I just kept smiling
Speaker 1: when you said right from when you're a kid, you
Speaker 1: learned that people cannot read mind, So I learned that way.
Speaker 1: Later on, I thought, okay, since I can't say what
Speaker 1: I don't say, maybe body language you'll do it for me.
Speaker 1: It still does not you look like a person, even
Speaker 1: if it's your best friend, your mom, someone who has
Speaker 1: known you all your life. Still they don't get it.
Speaker 1: How you have to speak, you have to speak? How
Speaker 1: did you learn about sex? Like, was that a conversation
Speaker 1: that like you did your mom tell you? Like okay,
Speaker 1: so you know, like, how does that happen? Because my
Speaker 1: parents never talked to me about sex. Well, for me,
Speaker 1: I think my first I would say encounter, But my
Speaker 1: first understanding of sex obviously was in school, the biology
Speaker 1: classes that we had. But then at some point there
Speaker 1: was something that was introduced to my my school, secondary
Speaker 1: school they called high school here, it's called sex education.
Speaker 1: So it was like a very short it only happening
Speaker 1: for like two days, and they had to help protiction
Speaker 1: us come to school and you know, show us how
Speaker 1: to wear a condom. That was the most important thing
Speaker 1: to them at the point of time. So they add
Speaker 1: the deal looking things and they just you know, see
Speaker 1: the condoms on them or like okay, So that was
Speaker 1: my first understanding. Off you know sex, but I never
Speaker 1: had a conversation on appearance. It never happened. The closest
Speaker 1: to sex in a sentence that I probably heard from
Speaker 1: my mama told my mom at some point was when
Speaker 1: I asked her, Mommy, what does it mean to be sexy?
Speaker 1: I think that was the only time whatever. I can't
Speaker 1: remember because I feel like my mother just dodged. She
Speaker 1: just went like this, like that, like that, yeah, and
Speaker 1: you still never got an answer. I don't even when
Speaker 1: I got my period, I didn't even know what it was.
Speaker 1: My mom was just like, put this pad on. I
Speaker 1: didn't know what was happening. When I caught my parent.
Speaker 1: My mom didn't tell me nothing either. I didn't even
Speaker 1: tell her. I didn't think about telling her first. So
Speaker 1: my friend caught it first and I laughed at her.
Speaker 1: A week later, I called it so I just went
Speaker 1: back to her like a disease. That's how I felt
Speaker 1: at that time. I called theeriod. I wastageous around me.
Speaker 1: My mom was at work, she worked seven so it
Speaker 1: was like when she she found out, like three days later,
Speaker 1: you have pads in the house and everything or act.
Speaker 1: I love my I love my friend, my childhood friend
Speaker 1: she came downstairs and gave me like a whole box
Speaker 1: of pads because her mom bought her to see. I
Speaker 1: remember learning how to use tampons. Yeah, I was one
Speaker 1: of the special ones. But I didn't want to use
Speaker 1: the tampon. I just I don't like it, so I
Speaker 1: would ride it like it's crazy. I would rather use tissue.
Speaker 1: You put toilet paper in your underwear. I was doing
Speaker 1: to do that, and my mom had to take me
Speaker 1: to my aunt and tell her, please talk to this
Speaker 1: young lady. Like a lot of persuation. I didn't like
Speaker 1: the you know, the you know it has a feel, uh,
Speaker 1: the nylon. I don't like tampons now inside yourself tampons.
Speaker 1: When I had to, I had older sisters, so they
Speaker 1: taught me. You know, I learned. My mother didn't teach me,
Speaker 1: but my older sisters cheerleading in high school, Like we
Speaker 1: had to wear tampons because we used to have That
Speaker 1: would be terrible if you did a summersault and your Yeah,
Speaker 1: an instance where the string was show like not me,
Speaker 1: but I've had some of my cheirmates like the string
Speaker 1: when they do. You imagine it happened in the strip club.
Speaker 1: Can't imagined the girl bending over and the string just hanging.
Speaker 1: I've seen it happen. Well, you can't wear a pad
Speaker 1: in the strip club. But I've been saying, imagine you dancing.
Speaker 1: Imagine a girl dancing in front of you, and all
Speaker 1: of a sudden she's been over and it's a little
Speaker 1: string bang. And I didn't know how to head girls.
Speaker 1: Plenty of times like oh you damn my straight. I
Speaker 1: had to read the pamphlet and I still was doing
Speaker 1: it wrong. You put the whole applicator and every day
Speaker 1: and they kept sliding back out. I was like, this
Speaker 1: is uncomfortable. And then it doesn't work if you don't
Speaker 1: put the cotton, like if you don't use the applicator.
Speaker 1: So it just kept sliding back out, and I was like,
Speaker 1: this is terrible, and understand what I'm supposed to be doing.
Speaker 1: I just recently stays in Tompon, just been I started
Speaker 1: last year. I've always used um pods, but know son
Speaker 1: tree pods they can't give infections because I had had
Speaker 1: an infection from some path Yeah, like they have those things,
Speaker 1: you know, they have like moil on the inside that
Speaker 1: turns you know, flow into all these chemicals over the years.
Speaker 1: But yeah, when you're performing, right, because you you go
Speaker 1: in when you perform. How can you put that? It
Speaker 1: isn't an uncomfortable in a pad. I'm just asking even
Speaker 1: just sitting down, it's uncomfortable, But like performing, I'm just
Speaker 1: really blessed to be one of the females that don't
Speaker 1: exactly experience a lot of pain when on their period.
Speaker 1: So I'm able to go ahead, do everything, do perform
Speaker 1: dance saying you know, I recently realized that with the tampon. Okay,
Speaker 1: this is the reason why it stays on the tampon
Speaker 1: because I just learned how to swim. I don't know
Speaker 1: how to swim, Sam, the only person in here that
Speaker 1: doesn't know how. I definitely how do you? Okay, so
Speaker 1: break this down for me. So you decided you needed
Speaker 1: to learn how to swim out fascinated by that. Yes,
Speaker 1: Covidar really just did a lot. I just really had
Speaker 1: time to reflect on life and just think to myself,
Speaker 1: what are the few things, like, you know, get myself
Speaker 1: into that that would you know, just really make me happy,
Speaker 1: help me get my mind you know less tense. I
Speaker 1: learned how to write the bicycle. Then this is crazy?
Speaker 1: And then I learned how to swim. So I was
Speaker 1: taking swimming classes and then I really was excited about
Speaker 1: it because I started floating, and that's exciting. You don't
Speaker 1: know how crippling it is to not know how to swim.
Speaker 1: It is crippling sometimes and I'd love that. I'd love that.
Speaker 1: But then the thing what happened was that because I
Speaker 1: was really I always woke up in the morning very
Speaker 1: excited for my swim classes. Then one day the period
Speaker 1: decided to coming and I started making cold How do
Speaker 1: I do this because I don't want to miss my
Speaker 1: swimming classes. I don't want to like, I'll just protect
Speaker 1: I messed up about four or five. I didn't understand
Speaker 1: the technique, but it hurts on the way in. How
Speaker 1: do you And then when I now, I'm a pro.
Speaker 1: But they also have the cups now and they're reusable,
Speaker 1: so they're amazing. You know, they also have the cups
Speaker 1: for you know, when your bladder is weak and you know,
Speaker 1: like me, like I go from zero to a hundred
Speaker 1: when I have peas, they have the cup peacups to
Speaker 1: try them, like they gave them to me, and I
Speaker 1: was like, yo, I mean, you know when you're at
Speaker 1: the club and you drink it and then the line
Speaker 1: be long and yourself so it's not me. It's like
Speaker 1: a cup and it helps you hold like if you square,
Speaker 1: you know, you wait until use squirt a little. You
Speaker 1: go to the yes crazy if you squirt a little, yeah,
Speaker 1: like you know when you gotta gold roll back so
Speaker 1: and sometimes like you get yeah, like I call it
Speaker 1: happy my dog, My dog get excited. Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't go through that. I don't know, because you
Speaker 1: know there's women that stuff like they have after half
Speaker 1: half ki you have. That's why I got vaginal rejuvenation
Speaker 1: with the laser is because I smoked and I would
Speaker 1: cough and I would peel on myself a little bit,
Speaker 1: and it happened one too many times. So I looked up,
Speaker 1: like what can I do to stop this from happening?
Speaker 1: And I learned about vaginal rejuvenation, and I got my
Speaker 1: vagina lasered um from the inside out and it took
Speaker 1: it back to virgin status. And that's why tampons hurt
Speaker 1: me now because it's so tight down there. Hello white part.
Speaker 1: The only time I almost pee on myself is when
Speaker 1: I have to go and I'm at the door when
Speaker 1: you get you to do it. Listen, you get to
Speaker 1: the toilet, the board, you gotta go exactly, and then
Speaker 1: get into the bathroom the toilets eventually and it's right
Speaker 1: there before. It's just I wonder if guys like I
Speaker 1: thought that too. I was like, I wonder guys like
Speaker 1: when they little there's a little pee, like, what happens?
Speaker 1: Does it happen to you when you Yeah, so y'all
Speaker 1: in your box, when you're gonna suck it, you can
Speaker 1: take the pee a little bit, y'all happened to y'all
Speaker 1: had a little bit of I don't know, ye no toy.
Speaker 1: We never get no p money. That's a head. No
Speaker 1: wait too, guys like wet wipes their tips too, should
Speaker 1: and then we won't have beer in the mouth, he said,
Speaker 1: they do, Yeah, they do. Well, my guys have I think.
Speaker 1: I think it's like the birds is great for it happening.
Speaker 1: It's a bit you're lying, all right, keep up, ladies, Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean you too. Okay, you're not gonna slide out
Speaker 1: of this. So let's just say you've been out all
Speaker 1: day and then you get back to the house with
Speaker 1: with your dude and he wants to eat you out,
Speaker 1: but you haven't showered a nothing. Let's go let him.
Speaker 1: I trust myself, I'm letting him. No, I'm good. No,
Speaker 1: let's go, let's really, let's really again. I will let
Speaker 1: my man eat me right after I work out. Okay,
Speaker 1: what if you shippa right after? I don't even do that.
Speaker 1: I'm right after, I don't even do that, and right
Speaker 1: after that, right after because I said, how to clean
Speaker 1: myself a day? Right all day you've been working. He
Speaker 1: was in rehearsals, and then use the restaurant at some
Speaker 1: point while yes, you and then you get home and
Speaker 1: he's like just trying to rip your clothes off, and
Speaker 1: are you gonna just let him do it? Rip the
Speaker 1: clothes off and pass me the wipes? Yeah, wiping throughout
Speaker 1: the day. Don't let me tell you something. I had
Speaker 1: an experience one time, and ever since this one time,
Speaker 1: I've been scared to death about this happening to me again.
Speaker 1: And I'm sure there's a woman in the room that
Speaker 1: can relate. Have you ever want to go have sex
Speaker 1: or do something with your vagina? And there was a
Speaker 1: little piece of toilet paper stuff there and he had
Speaker 1: to pull it off right. Y'all had to pull off
Speaker 1: the little that happened to me once and I never went.
Speaker 1: I was so embarrassed and had some cheape happened to
Speaker 1: me again, So I used, where's my purse? I have
Speaker 1: wiped my purse right now. I keep wipes. I wipe.
Speaker 1: Got about forty eight packs wipes in my house trying
Speaker 1: out the good wipe. Y'all need to spons to us
Speaker 1: to um. I got about forty. I got the to
Speaker 1: go ones in the little individual rap backets and I
Speaker 1: have to actual baby white packet and I wipe. Start
Speaker 1: out that that guy saw the piece, he picked it off.
Speaker 1: He was about to eat my pussy and he picked
Speaker 1: off with baby. He still ate it though, when he
Speaker 1: picked off the little piece of tough paper. It looks everybody,
Speaker 1: your posting was like an hour later when you pilled
Speaker 1: off the wrapper and it doesn't come stuck. It was
Speaker 1: it was a later with a little piece of the
Speaker 1: wage paper on it. And you know we're underwear, yes,
Speaker 1: and I used white, I wipe and everything. But if
Speaker 1: I know I've been out for a while, no matter,
Speaker 1: I'm going in the bathroom if I know, if not,
Speaker 1: if I just showered, and I just happened to come
Speaker 1: over that separate they I'm gonna go and wipe and
Speaker 1: just not me but him, poor baby, like poor baby,
Speaker 1: not me. I picked up paper. I'm gonna be honest
Speaker 1: with you. I feel like going home and taking the
Speaker 1: shower and having sex. You ruined everything. You your your
Speaker 1: body was mavernating for that. The best time to have
Speaker 1: sex is after your whole day is finished, and then
Speaker 1: take a shower and go to sleep after after it
Speaker 1: is nice to go to sleep after text. But I
Speaker 1: also like, I'm telling you everything is a little juicy
Speaker 1: and and nice and taste in the c It's good.
Speaker 1: It's got it's Laura, get that man, that crop girl.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you it's good that thing taste. That thing's
Speaker 1: gonna taste like beast about is gonna taste like like
Speaker 1: a second you basically love a girl who goes and
Speaker 1: takes a shower before No, I don't say, hold on,
Speaker 1: say all of that. She said, white, You get what
Speaker 1: I'm saying that that's the same. She really did that.
Speaker 1: She showed us like a little a little yeah. And
Speaker 1: then if I'm a ready and I'm just you know,
Speaker 1: and then I go back and all right, Yeah, let's
Speaker 1: get back to you. Like she like, I don't want
Speaker 1: my white or do you just go straight into it white?
Speaker 1: She yeah, yeah, because I'm just I'm just very self conscious,
Speaker 1: like might not. Fortunately, unfortunately, I have a very sensitive
Speaker 1: nose and I pick up on every order. Like I
Speaker 1: can literally smell myself right like just even sitting Like
Speaker 1: that's good. So you know, one time I tried, I
Speaker 1: tried to not wear panties because I had a friend
Speaker 1: that never wore panties and she, you know, and she
Speaker 1: really loves she was like she was anti pants, like
Speaker 1: she's like, what is pants? I really want this pants?
Speaker 1: And then so I tried it, and I just noticed
Speaker 1: I could always smell myself. I don't. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: like that when I have to wear hats. And then
Speaker 1: I start thinking about it, like so no, I needed to.
Speaker 1: I even wear underwear, like I was just but I
Speaker 1: have to underwear. But I have specific underwear that I
Speaker 1: wear to go to bed. Me too, if I have
Speaker 1: a comfortable pair, Yeah, I have to. But I've started.
Speaker 1: So my waxer told me that, you know, to prevent
Speaker 1: and grown hairs after you get waxes, to not wear
Speaker 1: panties to go to sleep. So now I've started not
Speaker 1: wearing panties. I don't take the side that's I don't.
Speaker 1: Now I want to talk about woman of Steel. I
Speaker 1: want to go to that. Okay, yeah me, let me
Speaker 1: ask you to be a woman of steel? Right, how
Speaker 1: hard is it for you to be vulnerable when it
Speaker 1: comes to men, because sometimes we feel like we gotta
Speaker 1: be so tough and we got to make sure that
Speaker 1: I can handle this. I got this, I got that,
Speaker 1: but I've had to learn how to allow a man
Speaker 1: to help me. So how is that for you? I
Speaker 1: will say, you know, a woman of steel? First of all,
Speaker 1: when when I chose that that name for my album,
Speaker 1: I was thinking more of um, how to go about
Speaker 1: my daily activities without allowing the world to crush me,
Speaker 1: you know, with their expectations, with their thoughts, with their words,
Speaker 1: just you know, pulldozing through all the sorts to say
Speaker 1: b s. And that's where Woman of still came. Apologize
Speaker 1: for bs you can, yeah, yeah, I just it's just
Speaker 1: my nure. I told you where I'm coming from. Okay.
Speaker 1: So for me to be strong, I definitely for me
Speaker 1: to know what strong is, I have to be weak.
Speaker 1: Why else I wouldn't know what strength is and for
Speaker 1: me to me also learning to allow people help me
Speaker 1: when they need to help me, or will I say
Speaker 1: my man to help me when he wants to help me.
Speaker 1: I'm learning every day, Oh do you need this? I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm good. I need to learn to say yes, please,
Speaker 1: thank you, and I crossed my feet and just do
Speaker 1: do do everything you say you want to do. I'm
Speaker 1: learning that. Um. But being a woman who still comes
Speaker 1: with a lot of vulnerability because you need to be
Speaker 1: able to love is it takes a lot. Yeah, because
Speaker 1: I think guys like to be able to help you.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, like the need Yeah, they
Speaker 1: do need that, just like we do too, Like like
Speaker 1: as nurturers. I would feel a way if I wanted
Speaker 1: to help my man with out there and he kept
Speaker 1: telling me, no, it's good, I got it. Yeah, can
Speaker 1: I help you? Would you like me to know the
Speaker 1: where I can do? It's on? No, you're gonna let
Speaker 1: me do this. Listen. So your song Johnny was one
Speaker 1: of your first really really big songs. Was that a
Speaker 1: truth story? Of course? So tell us who Who's Johnny?
Speaker 1: A silly man with shipped for brains and trust me,
Speaker 1: in that song, I only mentioned like three ladies that
Speaker 1: was being very nice and modest. So this really happened.
Speaker 1: You had a guy that was just cheating on you.
Speaker 1: But every every everybody has that one person. Every man
Speaker 1: has that one lady who has done that, and every
Speaker 1: woman has that one minded religious and Johnny was that guy.
Speaker 1: I don't know any other female who has been so
Speaker 1: blessed to have someone that she's a love with that
Speaker 1: really rocks her world and literally breaks her heart and
Speaker 1: ushers her into a new stratusphere of life. Because literally
Speaker 1: that breakup broke me into the person I am today.
Speaker 1: If not for that song, enough for that experience, where
Speaker 1: will that be? Like? I probably if I ever see
Speaker 1: this guy, and she'd be telling him, than you ever
Speaker 1: have another way to break this heart again? Another one
Speaker 1: of those everything there for a reason. He knew that
Speaker 1: it was about him. You never spoke like So it happened,
Speaker 1: and I went my way. I chose to leave, and
Speaker 1: I just went head deep into work trying to figure
Speaker 1: out who I was in the music, and we never reconnected.
Speaker 1: I think he tried reaching out to me, but I
Speaker 1: was just so I blocked it out because I knew it.
Speaker 1: I knew I was weaking niece. I knew I was
Speaker 1: just the fool, you know. And then when I left
Speaker 1: that we never reconnected, we never spoke. At some point
Speaker 1: I was thinking, oh, she try and get some closure.
Speaker 1: Sometimes closure is just telling yourself this is not for you.
Speaker 1: Like that. I think at some point it became a
Speaker 1: thing where everybody says closure. She don't always have to
Speaker 1: have that conversation. It's not important that because the person
Speaker 1: who did what they did knows exactly what they were doing.
Speaker 1: And it's very possible that you were just the lamb
Speaker 1: at slaughter. You know, you're the one who didn't know anything.
Speaker 1: Now that you know, can you just continue your life?
Speaker 1: You know? So it so and since I'm sure if
Speaker 1: I had that closure or whatever it is, out of
Speaker 1: just felt either felt more stupid or maybe just open
Speaker 1: another door from another stupid thing to happen. And so
Speaker 1: I'm happy. Sometimes closure space, you know, because it's not
Speaker 1: saying like if he shows up or you happen to
Speaker 1: run into him because you had space. Your closure is
Speaker 1: just being able to be cord you and keep moving
Speaker 1: without feeling nothing. Let's say he came to one of
Speaker 1: your shows and you saw him, would you let him
Speaker 1: in the v I p let him in people, I
Speaker 1: wouldn't have one doing that like where he gets he
Speaker 1: gets to and he's like, yeah, you remember me. I'm
Speaker 1: like what, We're not having that conversation, Like I've had
Speaker 1: an extra to do that one time. No, I don't know.
Speaker 1: You don't know me, you don't understand. No, Like what
Speaker 1: are you doing? What is this? So during the pandemic,
Speaker 1: it was probably nice for you to have a little
Speaker 1: bit of time to sit down, right because you've been
Speaker 1: super busy. So what was that like for you? Sis? Wow?
Speaker 1: It was bitter sweets um, but definitely started off on
Speaker 1: the sweet side because I've never really Okay, So here's
Speaker 1: what happened. COVID started, Corona started, and I had gigs
Speaker 1: here in New York and then some of the gigs
Speaker 1: outside America. But I had flown in already. I was
Speaker 1: ready in New York in February March of Um, it
Speaker 1: was a few days to my birthday because my birthdays
Speaker 1: in March. Yeah, okay, three one three, that's like when
Speaker 1: saying my last day I was And then that stuck
Speaker 1: wherever you float No. I finally got home, I decided
Speaker 1: that I was going to cancel on my shows and
Speaker 1: just go home, I mean, back to Legos, Nigeria. Whatever
Speaker 1: madness is happening in the world. I told my management
Speaker 1: util they were like, I don't want to be a
Speaker 1: part of this. Let me just be at home and
Speaker 1: feel good upstairs, you know. And and so I remember
Speaker 1: being in Manhattan and looking down the Times Square and
Speaker 1: it was empty. I felt like I was in a movie.
Speaker 1: It was too scary, the sites of the fun and
Speaker 1: then the lights weren't really know as bright and attractive
Speaker 1: as they It just looked like like the apocalypse, look
Speaker 1: like something that happened in Legends. Oh my god, Like
Speaker 1: I stand here before I see someone else, it's probably
Speaker 1: like ten blocks down, and what am I doing in
Speaker 1: the city, Like even to have breakfast at the hotel,
Speaker 1: everybody's looking at each other like you can't see you
Speaker 1: wipe the spoons, right, What are you doing for something
Speaker 1: that you can't even see? When when when the virus
Speaker 1: gets to that plate, it's on the plate, you know.
Speaker 1: But eventually I just left. I went back to Nigeria,
Speaker 1: and I then realized them all as well. My house
Speaker 1: wasn't really my house, like I'd never really been leaving there.
Speaker 1: All I do is comeback switched my boxes because I
Speaker 1: wear a little were a lot of traditional stuff, so
Speaker 1: I have a lot of designers mixed off for me
Speaker 1: in different parts of Africa. So I just go back,
Speaker 1: pick up a box, and I just I'm out. And
Speaker 1: so when I got the opportunity to sit at home,
Speaker 1: I finally made my house my home. So I enjoyed
Speaker 1: it like it was warm. I started to personalize my space.
Speaker 1: I really it was. I would wake up on the
Speaker 1: morning and understand what it meant to have a good morning.
Speaker 1: I just slide open that window and like look at
Speaker 1: the atmosphere, like, oh it's a good morning, take it
Speaker 1: in and just really it was beautiful. But then it
Speaker 1: became too much. It was at all. The streets just
Speaker 1: kept going it. Corona just said say hi, I'm but
Speaker 1: it was big time. It called everybody and eventually it
Speaker 1: baking on men on. My first encounter with COVID was baddening.
Speaker 1: It was not nice. It was not nice. And the
Speaker 1: annoying thing is that it really affected me mentally because
Speaker 1: I was already mentally vulnerable. I had absorbed too much information,
Speaker 1: both the things that were true, things that were not true,
Speaker 1: concy theories, whoa what it will do to you? In fact,
Speaker 1: when I hear Kobe, I hear death and so I
Speaker 1: had gotten to that point and eventually had covie. So
Speaker 1: I was me. I was a big mess. I didn't
Speaker 1: in three months. I still hadn't recovered. Damn. Like I
Speaker 1: was a mess, and it was most mostly mental. I
Speaker 1: just felt like I'm never going to be well. Maybe
Speaker 1: I might not wake up tomorrow because I feel this
Speaker 1: way and that way. I'm not myself. I take the stairs,
Speaker 1: I can hardly catch my breath. Didn't affect your vocals
Speaker 1: at all, because I know for some people with their
Speaker 1: lungs and being able to perform, Thank you Jesus at N.
Speaker 1: And we also said most basically, you guys did a
Speaker 1: poem for your mom to always always. My mom was crazy.
Speaker 1: I love her, but yeah, I'm always doing stuff for mom,
Speaker 1: you know, and I there so much more I still
Speaker 1: needs into for her musically, blah blah blah. You know,
Speaker 1: how does she feel about you being an artist? At first?
Speaker 1: You know, my mom and I never really had that conversation, like,
Speaker 1: oh Mom, I want to be an artist or anything.
Speaker 1: I never even wanted to be an artist. I just
Speaker 1: realized that anywhere I went if I especially in primary school,
Speaker 1: secondary school, I was always representing the schools I attended,
Speaker 1: I was always singing, and I noticed that there was
Speaker 1: a response, a vibe each time I sang. So I
Speaker 1: just me it was a thing that happened. And I
Speaker 1: also loved music, so I was just it was just
Speaker 1: a very big for me. You know, it was a
Speaker 1: big hobby from me. I never realized that I would
Speaker 1: actually make a living from, you know, being a musician.
Speaker 1: That's the best living to make is something that you
Speaker 1: feel good doing. You don't even think about the money.
Speaker 1: You think about the feeling that it gives you when
Speaker 1: you're doing said thing, and then the money just comes.
Speaker 1: Then the money so nice, money sweet, and it's the
Speaker 1: own kind of currencies international. How do you find guys
Speaker 1: to date being in your position? Like, well, they're also
Speaker 1: some guys that he's in the first place. Um, like,
Speaker 1: what do you like? What do I like? The sons
Speaker 1: of humor is like it's probably one of the most
Speaker 1: attractive things. First of all, a sense of humore. Um
Speaker 1: obviously appearance because like you first see the person, right,
Speaker 1: so like like that, like, what are you attracted to physically?
Speaker 1: Then a tight um boy, have a time or have
Speaker 1: a I used to have a type, but what was
Speaker 1: now I was a vibe like I just feel I
Speaker 1: just feel it. Um those days you say, oh, I
Speaker 1: used to like light skin guys. Then I said, like
Speaker 1: in chocolate guys. And then it's just the vibe like
Speaker 1: I feel it. I feel it. I feel the company
Speaker 1: and and the area. Obviously you want me to describe
Speaker 1: like heights and all of that, like because you know
Speaker 1: you could be as specific as if it was that
Speaker 1: specific for you, Like okay, I would say a definitely,
Speaker 1: because this is way I like to put it. You
Speaker 1: cannot be shut because I don't want to be standing
Speaker 1: next to you and seeing the middle of your head. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: I think guys who are tall. No, there's some guys
Speaker 1: that like short guys. I don't know what it is,
Speaker 1: but no, that's what I got. Well for me, I
Speaker 1: would take the short guy. If you had a six
Speaker 1: pack and g said shut, guys have figger dicksie most
Speaker 1: of the most of them. Yeah, yeah, like so that's
Speaker 1: a fact pretty much most year. But No, it's just
Speaker 1: bang bang bang. I'm short, so they don't have to
Speaker 1: be that tall. Like, so I like best of both worlds.
Speaker 1: Stephaniely want to climb a month star? Yeah, I like
Speaker 1: I like them. I like them like six ft seven,
Speaker 1: six pack, big legs, big hands. It's very specific. Yeah,
Speaker 1: exactly as you want specific. I got you on that.
Speaker 1: I like, you know, big hands, strong shoulders, muscles. Um,
Speaker 1: six ft seven, I said that already. Um, yeah, that's
Speaker 1: what I like, even though I could go for like
Speaker 1: six ft five or four, but I like seven and
Speaker 1: five and four. Six six ft is cool. That's kind
Speaker 1: of short for me, um, but really specific for me.
Speaker 1: It's like I like a six pack, and I like
Speaker 1: strong dive and strong shoulders and like for this part
Speaker 1: of the chest to be like really defined. So when
Speaker 1: now on top of me, it just feels like I
Speaker 1: have like some colom based over me. It's like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, you're so strong. I like you. It's very visual.
Speaker 1: I felt that I can taking notes somehow to make
Speaker 1: the next What if the guy told you he loved
Speaker 1: you on the first date? Spooky much spooky much that
Speaker 1: that that So there's one time a guy did that
Speaker 1: to me anyways, and and that just made me take off. Really,
Speaker 1: it's just so much, just too much at once, too soon.
Speaker 1: So you don't believe in love at first sight. I
Speaker 1: like to think it. But just the ease that which
Speaker 1: someone would just say it means that sometimes it just
Speaker 1: feels like you can say anything. But if he was drunk,
Speaker 1: that's an excuse, right, So yeah, I'll take that excuse
Speaker 1: if I really like the person. Maybe, Like I said,
Speaker 1: i'll take it if you're drunk, you know, and when
Speaker 1: you're better, we'll talk about it. Have you ever felt
Speaker 1: like you was in love at first sight? Me? Always?
Speaker 1: Oh my day be the first time thinking I love you?
Speaker 1: How many kids were going out? Baby? You want babies?
Speaker 1: You ever hang up the phone and be like you
Speaker 1: have done that? I do? Like when he called you,
Speaker 1: you see his number, like yeah, I know you got
Speaker 1: you'd be so mad, like if he didn't answer and
Speaker 1: then you're going back and you'd be like lending ring
Speaker 1: four all right, let me stop playing up, and then
Speaker 1: you'd be actually like you was doing something. Oh, I'm
Speaker 1: just like, you're not bad, but you're mad. Have you
Speaker 1: ever blocked somebody and then call them back? I mean
Speaker 1: block somebody and forgot you blocked them, and they hit
Speaker 1: them like, yo, you ain't even hit me in a
Speaker 1: minute or whatever. I forgot that you blocked. I blocked
Speaker 1: me up. I ain't forgetting. No, I ain't FORGETT just
Speaker 1: blocked being petty as I don't petty block when you blocked,
Speaker 1: like you gotta get another number. You better email me
Speaker 1: a d M me or something, because you get better
Speaker 1: try to call me. Block that I'd be changing numbers.
Speaker 1: I've blocked just to like slow the situation NOWT like,
Speaker 1: let me give us some distance. Let mean, it's a fizza.
Speaker 1: Why don't you just do not disturb? Put them turn
Speaker 1: the moon on? Yeah? Yeah, that person, But isn't that
Speaker 1: the same thing. It's gonna keep going a voicemail. Yeah.
Speaker 1: The worst is like when you date somebody who's really stubborn,
Speaker 1: and y'all are both stubborn. Yeah, that's what I'm like.
Speaker 1: That's that's like I'm not all the way. I'm just
Speaker 1: being because we both but you know, like if you
Speaker 1: call them, he'd probably be it's the forgot. But for me,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna forget if I can't forget, because I
Speaker 1: don't really ever I've only ever blocked one person in
Speaker 1: my whole life. Damn, somebody block and I didn't forget
Speaker 1: that I blocked him, but I started hitting them up,
Speaker 1: cursing the mount and it was blocked. Yeah, And I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: did he get that? Let me on? Blocks delivered okay
Speaker 1: and already, so I'm like, maybe it did go through.
Speaker 1: Like that's the only time I didn't forget though I
Speaker 1: knew he was blocked. But yeah, sometimes like both of
Speaker 1: us are too stubborn, and you're like, I know he
Speaker 1: want to talk to me, and I definitely want to
Speaker 1: talk to him, but I'm not going to do it,
Speaker 1: and then it could just end. Yeah. Have you ever
Speaker 1: been like the person to make the first move after that?
Speaker 1: When like you'll get into an argument, will you call
Speaker 1: and say sorry, M sorry damn for me to really
Speaker 1: throw a guy? Oh no, for me, I was in
Speaker 1: a I was in a relationship. I don't off with
Speaker 1: somebody who likes to pick arguments with me. So I'm
Speaker 1: always apologizing for things that I didn't even do, just
Speaker 1: because I don't want to argue. It's like, oh, sorry,
Speaker 1: you're mad. I'm sorry that you're mad. I don't know
Speaker 1: why you're man, Okay, sorry, that's like a terrible apology. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just I'm definitely I have definitely been
Speaker 1: the person even after a breakup, even sorry, but I've
Speaker 1: definitely been the person after the you know, after the
Speaker 1: fight to come back and be like, bib, can we
Speaker 1: just talk about it. I've definitely, But they have to.
Speaker 1: I feel like when you're in a long term relationship,
Speaker 1: when you're when you're messing with somebody for so long,
Speaker 1: you take turns. Yeah, you know if you take turns. No,
Speaker 1: you take turns coming back like sometimes yeah, like sometimes
Speaker 1: you gotta be the bigger person and sometimes you need them.
Speaker 1: If you guy after you apologize first that I really
Speaker 1: throw him off. Maybe I'm a master haplogize. Yes, let
Speaker 1: me tell you something. And it's really like not that
Speaker 1: big a deal. We make it so much more of
Speaker 1: a big deal than it has to be. Like to
Speaker 1: call somebody and be like, you know, wait, I do
Speaker 1: want to apologize. Guys will go crazy and they think
Speaker 1: you're amazing. He'll be like, wow, I can't. No one's
Speaker 1: ever apologize apologize for how you were affected by it,
Speaker 1: Like that wasn't my intentions? Right? And then he better
Speaker 1: apologize for his part too. Yeah, that's really I'm really
Speaker 1: apologizing so you can apologize back to me. All My
Speaker 1: funniest apology is you know, you're you're really trash, and
Speaker 1: if that's disrespectful, I apologize because I don't want to
Speaker 1: be disrespectful. But it's not an apology. How do you
Speaker 1: start an apology but your trash? You're fucking trash. But
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not a disrespectful person, and so if
Speaker 1: it's fine, not disrespectful, I'm sorry. But that's the truth.
Speaker 1: Yeah that before do you write better music when you're
Speaker 1: in a relationship and when you're single, you think, Look,
Speaker 1: if I've ever been single is probably just for aqu
Speaker 1: weekship yo yo yo. Yeah, I've always been in a relationship, um,
Speaker 1: even if it's for a short time or a long time,
Speaker 1: whatever it is, I've always been a relationship. Um. I
Speaker 1: think for me, the good part is that I'm in
Speaker 1: my mind because I have a very visual mind. In
Speaker 1: my mind, I could take a happy moment and flip it,
Speaker 1: make it sad because that's what music allows me to do,
Speaker 1: just really mess around with the truth and the picture,
Speaker 1: you know. So I could take a very happy moment
Speaker 1: and flip it and I could just look at someone
Speaker 1: who's having really the best time of their life for
Speaker 1: the worst time of their life and making my story. Okay,
Speaker 1: So I just doesn't matter if I'm single or I'm
Speaker 1: a relationship, but I do find that when it particularly
Speaker 1: affects me directly, I have such a connection to what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, you know, and and no true awards would
Speaker 1: be sung than what you hear on that song. Yeah, Like,
Speaker 1: what's an example would you say of a song that
Speaker 1: is super personal to you when you was going through
Speaker 1: something size Johnny Um, I try to personalize a little moments.
Speaker 1: Let me see you when me see when we see
Speaker 1: something that even when you sing it, you are like
Speaker 1: really reminiscing on something that happened and channeling that. There's
Speaker 1: this new song that I'm about to put out there,
Speaker 1: and it's the one that features Cranium Man. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: because I keep seeing the hashtag and I'm like, wait
Speaker 1: a minute, But then Crannium has been on lip Service,
Speaker 1: by the way, and so it's a very he's definitely
Speaker 1: been on here. Or if he speaks, he speaks his truth.
Speaker 1: Yes he does, Yes, he does. That's what he did, right.
Speaker 1: Oh and he has stories for days. He's amazing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we like he was great. Yeah, so what's my man about?
Speaker 1: It's a love story. Give us a little more because
Speaker 1: you know it's it's like, it's a love story. Okay,
Speaker 1: So contrary to what she said, let me tell you
Speaker 1: about my mon six bucks. Nobody thing would make me
Speaker 1: fall four um back up whenever day by him side. Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna love this, you know, because she said six
Speaker 1: packs said six packs isn't the thing, you know, but
Speaker 1: it's kind of there, but it's not really the thing.
Speaker 1: But yeah, that's it, but it's there. What death size
Speaker 1: mattered to you? Size of what the penis? Who know
Speaker 1: what I'm talking? What could I be talking about the
Speaker 1: size of it? Pinky toe? That? Hello? Whatever? Everything? Please
Speaker 1: do this splaying? Please decide? Is it a capital P
Speaker 1: or a lower case P? But do you feel like
Speaker 1: you ever get like, you know, with like I can't
Speaker 1: leave because it's so amazing? Huh. It always has to
Speaker 1: be amazing, man, I'm from the first note. It always
Speaker 1: has to be always. Oh I'm so busy, and when
Speaker 1: it happens it must be mind blowing. I do not
Speaker 1: have time to play. It must be the thing, you know, Yeah, definitely, No,
Speaker 1: it might because I've been I've been with a few
Speaker 1: people that I had a very small pocket. Other words,
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about money from the United States, you know, Okay? No, um.
Speaker 1: And and then when that, you know, you have to
Speaker 1: experience setting things to know what you don't like. And
Speaker 1: when that happened, I realized that, oh it does not
Speaker 1: work for me, Like it's such a turn off. I
Speaker 1: need to get out of here. Yeah, so that the
Speaker 1: size is the thing. And then skilled because some people
Speaker 1: have it but don't know how to use it. And
Speaker 1: that is very sad. Oh my god, Yes, that is sad.
Speaker 1: It's so sad. And I feel like if I put
Speaker 1: myself in that situation again, if I could have a
Speaker 1: conversation with that person, I'm sure funny, I'm with you.
Speaker 1: What could you say? Like right, like, what can you say? What?
Speaker 1: What's the conversation? All right, let's let's act it out. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, what's the problem? All right? Okay? Um? I
Speaker 1: really are you laughing at my dick? Something quick? Being? Okay,
Speaker 1: no being, I'm going out. But I'm saying you said,
Speaker 1: let's have a conversation. So like, I don't feel like
Speaker 1: you're into me. Oh no, I am. I really really
Speaker 1: do like you. Um, and I like the time we
Speaker 1: spent together. Um, what do you think should be making
Speaker 1: more interesting? How I feel like you? We could do
Speaker 1: all the things under then you just always being on me,
Speaker 1: like try all this other you know, interesting positions? Okay,
Speaker 1: Like what positions do you like? He's going to be like, ah,
Speaker 1: you're on a shower, you are in a prosty to
Speaker 1: so what without that guy? So I don't want that
Speaker 1: Stan you're telling So you're telling me that I don't
Speaker 1: know how to ego. It's gonna be your fault. Yes,
Speaker 1: sometimes you just gotta to take charge. Though you think America,
Speaker 1: So you think Internet like American man would maybe, I
Speaker 1: mean because America. What are you saying? Okay, even American
Speaker 1: will react as well, what do you what? I think?
Speaker 1: What I think is irrespective of where the man is,
Speaker 1: whether he's American, Spanish, or whatever, it's all in the head.
Speaker 1: Some people don't know how to put their ego aside
Speaker 1: and have certain conversations. So like, I'm very sure that
Speaker 1: there are some American guys that will not find that
Speaker 1: conversation with funny no matter how I put it, but
Speaker 1: probably would just really make sure that I feel like
Speaker 1: trash and then the relationship ends. Then they take their
Speaker 1: time out to maybe improve on their skill for another woman,
Speaker 1: because I probably like really messed with the ego at
Speaker 1: the point in time. It takes a man who's willing
Speaker 1: to really understand that it's not just a game. It's
Speaker 1: like it's all about pleasure, and like if you feel
Speaker 1: like you're not pleasuring me, and I'm able to tell you,
Speaker 1: and you really making your goal to just pleasure me
Speaker 1: and pleasure yourself, because if you if I'm don't enjoy myself,
Speaker 1: you can't enjoy it. There's a different feeling when we're
Speaker 1: both enjoying it. So it takes a man with pedigree
Speaker 1: to separate the ego from such a conversation. Have you
Speaker 1: ever faked an orgasm? What doesn't mean to fake an august?
Speaker 1: And that's a lot about never died com Yeah, but
Speaker 1: you really didn't. Oh that's still I wouldn't admitted I'm
Speaker 1: not faking maybe or types, I don't all what was
Speaker 1: the reason for that, I don't know. Maybe sometimes you
Speaker 1: just want your partner to really feel um great, feel like, um,
Speaker 1: I didn't feel great. You ain't feeling great? No, I
Speaker 1: did not know it's good. But maybe maybe your partner
Speaker 1: came before you, and I still didn't come at off
Speaker 1: should be able to have a good time, but I
Speaker 1: just didn't get there. Right, I've had sex and I
Speaker 1: didn't comments great. You like that's okay. Well, I guess
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie about it. He's too nice and like,
Speaker 1: what do you mean before you say something? I probably
Speaker 1: will just make my own stuff come, and then that's me.
Speaker 1: I'm not I haven't faked the organs in years. I'm
Speaker 1: not doing it. Like you said, I had a good time.
Speaker 1: I just didn't come this time. It's all good when
Speaker 1: you just had sucks? How do you do that your
Speaker 1: fingers just like you just showed UD said they could
Speaker 1: feel bad about it, saying I've done it. I pulled
Speaker 1: out a toy on purpose, and that's what I said?
Speaker 1: How many times? Because I let it happen like the first, second, third,
Speaker 1: and in the fourth like I felt, I didn't want
Speaker 1: to hurt his feelings, so I was like, I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna hurt it, but I'm gonna I'm gonna come and
Speaker 1: I pulled out the toy. Do you use toys? One time?
Speaker 1: I didn't really enjoy it? What's over here? What's here?
Speaker 1: What's happening? But like, we want to make sure you
Speaker 1: have fun. Okay, so we do have a fetish kit
Speaker 1: for you. So this has blindfolds, a collar and a
Speaker 1: leash for him to put on him, rist cuffs, ankle cuffs,
Speaker 1: and a little spanking paddle. There you go. I have
Speaker 1: just were not doing the right thing. You pull this out,
Speaker 1: You pull that paddle out and have a little fun.
Speaker 1: Yeahmy hey, I have to hide this from my mother. Listen,
Speaker 1: this will be a great time for you and your
Speaker 1: mom to have these conversations. No, she's going to pray
Speaker 1: for me. No, no, no, no, no. You can take
Speaker 1: it out of the box and I'm just you know,
Speaker 1: wrap it up in something later. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So you don't have the whole box. Your mom's not here,
Speaker 1: is she? Okay? I thought you can, but she is
Speaker 1: so online. She knows everything. So I'm not going to
Speaker 1: be able to dodge this woman. Bush it out to her.
Speaker 1: You know, she's taking it out. She's like, I want
Speaker 1: to have you ever been blindfolded. No, but I imagine
Speaker 1: that that would be nice. Yes, I don't have a
Speaker 1: blindfold a leash, it's the leash. I have a friend.
Speaker 1: I have a friend, and all she does is send
Speaker 1: me two things. She sends me pictures and videos of
Speaker 1: babies because she loves babies. And then she sends me
Speaker 1: pictures and videos of things like this. She she sends me,
Speaker 1: She's like, I need to be strip now she's oh,
Speaker 1: she's so silly, you're jealous. She will be someone now,
Speaker 1: of course I do. Okay, she ain't never saying what
Speaker 1: you heard that he's going to enjoy it. I want
Speaker 1: to see how I was looking at your finger, like
Speaker 1: is there a ring? But I don't see your ring
Speaker 1: right now. But you think he's the one. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: you think that every time? No, no, no, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: yeah like that. I used to always be like that. Yes, true,
Speaker 1: everybody's the one. Yeah, everyone was the one, But yeah
Speaker 1: he's the one. He's different. Why is that? In a
Speaker 1: grown way? When I was a kid then kid mentally
Speaker 1: as well. It doesn't matter how old I am. But
Speaker 1: he is. Okay, well, we'd love to hear it. Tie
Speaker 1: him up. Let's see if it's real. Okay, use some
Speaker 1: hand at the same time, girl, ready listen to me.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for coming through happy birthday. Thank
Speaker 1: you good really show for us though, because I know
Speaker 1: it's not too often that you're you know, in town.
Speaker 1: So we appreciate you coming through lip service. Thank you
Speaker 1: so much. We think you're amazing. I appreciate it. I
Speaker 1: appreciate um, even though like one would expect that in Africa,
Speaker 1: we don't always have this conversations because I wouldn't say
Speaker 1: it's a taboo, but like you would be seeing as
Speaker 1: a as an unnecessarily open my the person to the
Speaker 1: things that they would refer to us negatives, you know.
Speaker 1: But I value such conversations because I think women need
Speaker 1: to speak to each other more. Yeah, that's the whole
Speaker 1: point of it. And I do think part of women's
Speaker 1: empowerment is to be able to freely speak about our bodies,
Speaker 1: things that we like in a positive way with no judgment,
Speaker 1: bodies like we need and n by I guys have
Speaker 1: these conversations and it's a okay. So yes, we are
Speaker 1: able to have these conversations too, and they'll have these
Speaker 1: conversations about us, and so we can have these conversations
Speaker 1: with each other and this helps a lot of women.
Speaker 1: And that's what I love about lip service is women
Speaker 1: would be like I was listening and I learned this,
Speaker 1: and I didn't know about this, and I felt strange
Speaker 1: because I never was able to have anyone to talk to.
Speaker 1: So we just want to be able to let people
Speaker 1: know it's okay. There's nothing that you like that's weird,
Speaker 1: as long as it's consensual, you know, and legal. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: And I like that you guys, even though it's it's
Speaker 1: it's centered around sex, like, but you still talk about
Speaker 1: anything feminine, you know, that concerns that regards to the body,
Speaker 1: and each woman is different in our own way, but
Speaker 1: they're still woven out there who are exactly like we are.
Speaker 1: And most times we need to just be told that
Speaker 1: we're not alone and that whatever condition a situation that
Speaker 1: we experience, someone out there is experiencing the same thing.
Speaker 1: You could just be the solution to someone's problem out there.
Speaker 1: And don't get me wrong, even though you know, I
Speaker 1: keep saying in Africa we don't say certain things. A
Speaker 1: lot of women are now beginning to understand the importance
Speaker 1: of speaking out. So a lot of women are vocal
Speaker 1: and open to such conversations and we'll be very excited
Speaker 1: to watch this eventual. That's important to us. I appreciate
Speaker 1: that because even as discussing how like we didn't have
Speaker 1: these conversations with our own moms, who are you having
Speaker 1: them with? You know what I'm saying. So that's why
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying, Like even like, I'm pretty sure
Speaker 1: there's a girl I would be ashamed normally to speak
Speaker 1: about things like this and it would be uncomfortable. But
Speaker 1: being here and just be uncomfortable with everyone else and
Speaker 1: just knowing that you had that you you can't you like,
Speaker 1: it's amazing, and the messages you get with like wow,
Speaker 1: I went through that too, like the b MS. It
Speaker 1: is great, And it don't take away from how powerful
Speaker 1: you are and what a great role model you are
Speaker 1: for everybody but young women, I think in particular, So
Speaker 1: it does not take away from that. It adds to it.
Speaker 1: Thank you for having me, Thank you for having me
Speaker 1: on amazing. Thank you, thank you, thank you Chelsea, thank you.
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