1 00:00:02,320 --> 00:00:06,040 Speaker 1: West West. It's Lift Service. I'm Angela Yee, I'm g McGuire, 2 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:12,320 Speaker 1: I'm Stephanie Santiago Laura, and I am Yami a Laddy Blood. 3 00:00:12,320 --> 00:00:17,040 Speaker 1: Guys be international now you know what I'm saying. But 4 00:00:17,120 --> 00:00:20,400 Speaker 1: we are very excited to have you pleasures all my 5 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:24,319 Speaker 1: global superstar on Lift Service. What are you doing in 6 00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:26,920 Speaker 1: New York right now? Just so we can know? Uh So, 7 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:30,480 Speaker 1: I was invited here by the by the Grammy Academy, 8 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:33,640 Speaker 1: the Academies, and it's one of the people in the 9 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:37,879 Speaker 1: Pannel to speak on afrobeats and Dan Tall you know 10 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: I tell you about a cranium, Yeah and yes, And 11 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: it was a nice thing to do, you know, talking 12 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: about afrobeats and how far it's come. You know, it's 13 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 1: been so many years and there's so much more that 14 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:54,440 Speaker 1: afrobeats still needs to cover up in the entire world. 15 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 1: But it's a great time to be a life. And 16 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: there's like a lot of sub genres within afrobeats because 17 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 1: it's like, don't even get me started on now, and 18 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:05,839 Speaker 1: there's so many like almost every state in every country 19 00:01:06,080 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: in Africa. It's like having like in Nigeria alone, we 20 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 1: have like over three tribes now we might imagine if 21 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:21,720 Speaker 1: each tribe. Now, that is how diverse our sound is. Yeah, listen, 22 00:01:21,840 --> 00:01:25,399 Speaker 1: and I feel like afrobeast is taken over though, you know, 23 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 1: so for yourself in particular, I mean you, I think 24 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 1: are one of the most successful international stars. Thank God 25 00:01:33,200 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 1: for that. Thank God for that. So what was your 26 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:38,119 Speaker 1: journey like just even getting to that point? Because man 27 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:41,920 Speaker 1: or woman, you are killing it. Thank you. I would 28 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:45,319 Speaker 1: say in general, just like every other industry, is never 29 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:50,919 Speaker 1: easy for a female because the opportunities aren't exactly the same. 30 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:54,840 Speaker 1: I don't know why. You know, the world doesn't deserve us, right, 31 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:58,840 Speaker 1: but I definitely don't understand why. But you know, the 32 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 1: women before me, they went through these exact same, you know, difficulties, 33 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:07,200 Speaker 1: and I'm facing mine and I'm exceeding them, I'm overcoming them. 34 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:09,520 Speaker 1: So I like to focus on the funt that even 35 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 1: though you know we're women and that there's disadvantages, but 36 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 1: you know, there's definitely a lot of opportunities that open 37 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:19,560 Speaker 1: up when we actually push break down the door and 38 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:23,120 Speaker 1: take what's hours. But as as a female, that literally 39 00:02:23,160 --> 00:02:26,040 Speaker 1: what I'm saying is that all my entire career, that's 40 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: all I've had to do take my spot, earn my spots, 41 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: take what's mine because I've never given you know, it 42 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:36,679 Speaker 1: takes a lot of strength. But um, I'm here now. Yeah. 43 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:38,680 Speaker 1: I mean I gotta ask you this because this is 44 00:02:38,680 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 1: lip service because you like that in your career. Are 45 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 1: you like that in the bedroom too? Fighting for my life? 46 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 1: But girl and making sure that are you aggressive or 47 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 1: do you like to be dominated in the bedroom? Wow? 48 00:02:56,000 --> 00:03:03,560 Speaker 1: Okay there, I just kind of question what I would 49 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:09,400 Speaker 1: I mean my loud Um, no, I'm not aggressive, but 50 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:14,080 Speaker 1: I would say I'm exactly very dominating either. But I 51 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 1: give instructions. You give instructions. Nice, Okay, sometimes you gotta 52 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:20,600 Speaker 1: tell them girls. No, that's good because you know why. 53 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 1: I find like when I was younger, even if I 54 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: didn't like somebody struck or what they were doing, I 55 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:29,720 Speaker 1: would be kind of like just go with it. You 56 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:32,400 Speaker 1: kind of just try to like move but not say 57 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:34,960 Speaker 1: anything or try to and sometimes you do got to 58 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:36,600 Speaker 1: speak up. It took a while for me to be 59 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: able to do that. GS like not me, not for sure. 60 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 1: I just respect to my class. But yeah, I'm definitely 61 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 1: a communicator in all aspects of my life. I'm gonna 62 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:48,960 Speaker 1: tell you what it is and how I feel, and 63 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 1: definitely in the bedroom, like I'm not holding nothing bad. 64 00:03:51,480 --> 00:03:54,839 Speaker 1: But even when you were younger, you always been like that. Yeah, 65 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:57,520 Speaker 1: I learned at a young age to to communicate. I 66 00:03:57,560 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 1: learned at a young age that people cannot read your mind. 67 00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:01,240 Speaker 1: If people who are not going to understand you, if 68 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:02,680 Speaker 1: they don't let you, if you don't let them know 69 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:04,720 Speaker 1: what's going on. Because I feel like if you move, 70 00:04:05,160 --> 00:04:07,120 Speaker 1: like sometimes you move a certain way and they think 71 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: that you move like there because it feels good, but 72 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 1: you're really moving like that because you're like don't feel good. Yeah, 73 00:04:14,200 --> 00:04:20,839 Speaker 1: like you us, I can feel your teeth ouch. That 74 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 1: is a good thing to know because like in Nigeria, 75 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:26,920 Speaker 1: in Africa, most of the females, um, we aren't exactly 76 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:31,960 Speaker 1: taught to you know, speak our minds as unfiltered as 77 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 1: we want to as we feel. Like most times you 78 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:38,560 Speaker 1: have to put being polite first before you know even 79 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 1: consider how to put the words together. So most times 80 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:44,480 Speaker 1: you just end up keeping quiet, you know. But like 81 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:47,960 Speaker 1: so like for me, I'm actually I just kept smiling 82 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: when you said right from when you're a kid, you 83 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 1: learned that people cannot read mind, So I learned that way. 84 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:55,360 Speaker 1: Later on, I thought, okay, since I can't say what 85 00:04:55,400 --> 00:04:57,480 Speaker 1: I don't say, maybe body language you'll do it for me. 86 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:00,640 Speaker 1: It still does not you look like a person, even 87 00:05:00,640 --> 00:05:03,400 Speaker 1: if it's your best friend, your mom, someone who has 88 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 1: known you all your life. Still they don't get it. 89 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:09,920 Speaker 1: How you have to speak, you have to speak? How 90 00:05:09,960 --> 00:05:12,280 Speaker 1: did you learn about sex? Like, was that a conversation 91 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: that like you did your mom tell you? Like okay, 92 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:17,560 Speaker 1: so you know, like, how does that happen? Because my 93 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 1: parents never talked to me about sex. Well, for me, 94 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:25,120 Speaker 1: I think my first I would say encounter, But my 95 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 1: first understanding of sex obviously was in school, the biology 96 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 1: classes that we had. But then at some point there 97 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:36,640 Speaker 1: was something that was introduced to my my school, secondary 98 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 1: school they called high school here, it's called sex education. 99 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:41,880 Speaker 1: So it was like a very short it only happening 100 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:44,360 Speaker 1: for like two days, and they had to help protiction 101 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:46,720 Speaker 1: us come to school and you know, show us how 102 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: to wear a condom. That was the most important thing 103 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 1: to them at the point of time. So they add 104 00:05:51,200 --> 00:05:53,599 Speaker 1: the deal looking things and they just you know, see 105 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:56,560 Speaker 1: the condoms on them or like okay, So that was 106 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:59,160 Speaker 1: my first understanding. Off you know sex, but I never 107 00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:02,799 Speaker 1: had a conversation on appearance. It never happened. The closest 108 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 1: to sex in a sentence that I probably heard from 109 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:10,360 Speaker 1: my mama told my mom at some point was when 110 00:06:10,400 --> 00:06:14,279 Speaker 1: I asked her, Mommy, what does it mean to be sexy? 111 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,520 Speaker 1: I think that was the only time whatever. I can't 112 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:21,280 Speaker 1: remember because I feel like my mother just dodged. She 113 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:27,359 Speaker 1: just went like this, like that, like that, yeah, and 114 00:06:27,400 --> 00:06:29,160 Speaker 1: you still never got an answer. I don't even when 115 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:31,040 Speaker 1: I got my period, I didn't even know what it was. 116 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:34,200 Speaker 1: My mom was just like, put this pad on. I 117 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: didn't know what was happening. When I caught my parent. 118 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:39,280 Speaker 1: My mom didn't tell me nothing either. I didn't even 119 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 1: tell her. I didn't think about telling her first. So 120 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:43,760 Speaker 1: my friend caught it first and I laughed at her. 121 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:45,360 Speaker 1: A week later, I called it so I just went 122 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: back to her like a disease. That's how I felt 123 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 1: at that time. I called theeriod. I wastageous around me. 124 00:06:56,200 --> 00:06:59,159 Speaker 1: My mom was at work, she worked seven so it 125 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:01,599 Speaker 1: was like when she she found out, like three days later, 126 00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:04,400 Speaker 1: you have pads in the house and everything or act. 127 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 1: I love my I love my friend, my childhood friend 128 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 1: she came downstairs and gave me like a whole box 129 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 1: of pads because her mom bought her to see. I 130 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 1: remember learning how to use tampons. Yeah, I was one 131 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 1: of the special ones. But I didn't want to use 132 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:25,120 Speaker 1: the tampon. I just I don't like it, so I 133 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:29,000 Speaker 1: would ride it like it's crazy. I would rather use tissue. 134 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 1: You put toilet paper in your underwear. I was doing 135 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 1: to do that, and my mom had to take me 136 00:07:33,920 --> 00:07:35,960 Speaker 1: to my aunt and tell her, please talk to this 137 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 1: young lady. Like a lot of persuation. I didn't like 138 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:44,360 Speaker 1: the you know, the you know it has a feel, uh, 139 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:49,360 Speaker 1: the nylon. I don't like tampons now inside yourself tampons. 140 00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:52,160 Speaker 1: When I had to, I had older sisters, so they 141 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 1: taught me. You know, I learned. My mother didn't teach me, 142 00:07:54,360 --> 00:07:57,360 Speaker 1: but my older sisters cheerleading in high school, Like we 143 00:07:57,400 --> 00:08:00,040 Speaker 1: had to wear tampons because we used to have That 144 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 1: would be terrible if you did a summersault and your Yeah, 145 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:06,920 Speaker 1: an instance where the string was show like not me, 146 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:09,640 Speaker 1: but I've had some of my cheirmates like the string 147 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:14,120 Speaker 1: when they do. You imagine it happened in the strip club. 148 00:08:15,360 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 1: Can't imagined the girl bending over and the string just hanging. 149 00:08:17,960 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 1: I've seen it happen. Well, you can't wear a pad 150 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:24,800 Speaker 1: in the strip club. But I've been saying, imagine you dancing. 151 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:27,080 Speaker 1: Imagine a girl dancing in front of you, and all 152 00:08:27,120 --> 00:08:28,520 Speaker 1: of a sudden she's been over and it's a little 153 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 1: string bang. And I didn't know how to head girls. 154 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:33,960 Speaker 1: Plenty of times like oh you damn my straight. I 155 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:36,080 Speaker 1: had to read the pamphlet and I still was doing 156 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:38,800 Speaker 1: it wrong. You put the whole applicator and every day 157 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:43,880 Speaker 1: and they kept sliding back out. I was like, this 158 00:08:43,920 --> 00:08:46,320 Speaker 1: is uncomfortable. And then it doesn't work if you don't 159 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:48,560 Speaker 1: put the cotton, like if you don't use the applicator. 160 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:50,880 Speaker 1: So it just kept sliding back out, and I was like, 161 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 1: this is terrible, and understand what I'm supposed to be doing. 162 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 1: I just recently stays in Tompon, just been I started 163 00:08:56,320 --> 00:09:00,880 Speaker 1: last year. I've always used um pods, but know son 164 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:03,760 Speaker 1: tree pods they can't give infections because I had had 165 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 1: an infection from some path Yeah, like they have those things, 166 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:10,440 Speaker 1: you know, they have like moil on the inside that 167 00:09:10,520 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 1: turns you know, flow into all these chemicals over the years. 168 00:09:16,880 --> 00:09:19,880 Speaker 1: But yeah, when you're performing, right, because you you go 169 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:22,880 Speaker 1: in when you perform. How can you put that? It 170 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:25,640 Speaker 1: isn't an uncomfortable in a pad. I'm just asking even 171 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:30,560 Speaker 1: just sitting down, it's uncomfortable, But like performing, I'm just 172 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:33,320 Speaker 1: really blessed to be one of the females that don't 173 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:38,600 Speaker 1: exactly experience a lot of pain when on their period. 174 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:41,720 Speaker 1: So I'm able to go ahead, do everything, do perform 175 00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 1: dance saying you know, I recently realized that with the tampon. Okay, 176 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:47,360 Speaker 1: this is the reason why it stays on the tampon 177 00:09:47,640 --> 00:09:50,280 Speaker 1: because I just learned how to swim. I don't know 178 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:52,440 Speaker 1: how to swim, Sam, the only person in here that 179 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:56,320 Speaker 1: doesn't know how. I definitely how do you? Okay, so 180 00:09:56,679 --> 00:09:58,880 Speaker 1: break this down for me. So you decided you needed 181 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:01,320 Speaker 1: to learn how to swim out fascinated by that. Yes, 182 00:10:01,520 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 1: Covidar really just did a lot. I just really had 183 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:08,199 Speaker 1: time to reflect on life and just think to myself, 184 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:11,560 Speaker 1: what are the few things, like, you know, get myself 185 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:14,760 Speaker 1: into that that would you know, just really make me happy, 186 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:18,720 Speaker 1: help me get my mind you know less tense. I 187 00:10:18,800 --> 00:10:22,760 Speaker 1: learned how to write the bicycle. Then this is crazy? 188 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 1: And then I learned how to swim. So I was 189 00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 1: taking swimming classes and then I really was excited about 190 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:35,480 Speaker 1: it because I started floating, and that's exciting. You don't 191 00:10:35,520 --> 00:10:38,000 Speaker 1: know how crippling it is to not know how to swim. 192 00:10:38,040 --> 00:10:43,120 Speaker 1: It is crippling sometimes and I'd love that. I'd love that. 193 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:46,000 Speaker 1: But then the thing what happened was that because I 194 00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 1: was really I always woke up in the morning very 195 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:53,880 Speaker 1: excited for my swim classes. Then one day the period 196 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:57,440 Speaker 1: decided to coming and I started making cold How do 197 00:10:57,480 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: I do this because I don't want to miss my 198 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:04,800 Speaker 1: swimming classes. I don't want to like, I'll just protect 199 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: I messed up about four or five. I didn't understand 200 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: the technique, but it hurts on the way in. How 201 00:11:13,360 --> 00:11:16,280 Speaker 1: do you And then when I now, I'm a pro. 202 00:11:18,559 --> 00:11:21,400 Speaker 1: But they also have the cups now and they're reusable, 203 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:24,480 Speaker 1: so they're amazing. You know, they also have the cups 204 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:26,839 Speaker 1: for you know, when your bladder is weak and you know, 205 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:29,040 Speaker 1: like me, like I go from zero to a hundred 206 00:11:29,080 --> 00:11:33,439 Speaker 1: when I have peas, they have the cup peacups to 207 00:11:34,160 --> 00:11:37,320 Speaker 1: try them, like they gave them to me, and I 208 00:11:37,400 --> 00:11:39,000 Speaker 1: was like, yo, I mean, you know when you're at 209 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: the club and you drink it and then the line 210 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:44,000 Speaker 1: be long and yourself so it's not me. It's like 211 00:11:44,040 --> 00:11:48,439 Speaker 1: a cup and it helps you hold like if you square, 212 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:50,840 Speaker 1: you know, you wait until use squirt a little. You 213 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:54,320 Speaker 1: go to the yes crazy if you squirt a little, yeah, 214 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:56,920 Speaker 1: like you know when you gotta gold roll back so 215 00:11:57,200 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 1: and sometimes like you get yeah, like I call it 216 00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:04,600 Speaker 1: happy my dog, My dog get excited. Yeah, I don't. 217 00:12:04,679 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 1: I don't go through that. I don't know, because you 218 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 1: know there's women that stuff like they have after half 219 00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:14,920 Speaker 1: half ki you have. That's why I got vaginal rejuvenation 220 00:12:15,000 --> 00:12:18,000 Speaker 1: with the laser is because I smoked and I would 221 00:12:18,080 --> 00:12:20,760 Speaker 1: cough and I would peel on myself a little bit, 222 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:23,920 Speaker 1: and it happened one too many times. So I looked up, 223 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 1: like what can I do to stop this from happening? 224 00:12:26,679 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 1: And I learned about vaginal rejuvenation, and I got my 225 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:33,719 Speaker 1: vagina lasered um from the inside out and it took 226 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:36,400 Speaker 1: it back to virgin status. And that's why tampons hurt 227 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:45,360 Speaker 1: me now because it's so tight down there. Hello white part. 228 00:12:47,040 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 1: The only time I almost pee on myself is when 229 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 1: I have to go and I'm at the door when 230 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:57,240 Speaker 1: you get you to do it. Listen, you get to 231 00:12:57,280 --> 00:12:59,840 Speaker 1: the toilet, the board, you gotta go exactly, and then 232 00:13:00,280 --> 00:13:03,640 Speaker 1: get into the bathroom the toilets eventually and it's right 233 00:13:03,720 --> 00:13:08,640 Speaker 1: there before. It's just I wonder if guys like I 234 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:10,760 Speaker 1: thought that too. I was like, I wonder guys like 235 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:14,120 Speaker 1: when they little there's a little pee, like, what happens? 236 00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:18,200 Speaker 1: Does it happen to you when you Yeah, so y'all 237 00:13:19,200 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 1: in your box, when you're gonna suck it, you can 238 00:13:21,120 --> 00:13:25,320 Speaker 1: take the pee a little bit, y'all happened to y'all 239 00:13:27,240 --> 00:13:35,079 Speaker 1: had a little bit of I don't know, ye no toy. 240 00:13:35,200 --> 00:13:37,599 Speaker 1: We never get no p money. That's a head. No 241 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 1: wait too, guys like wet wipes their tips too, should 242 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:48,880 Speaker 1: and then we won't have beer in the mouth, he said, 243 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:51,839 Speaker 1: they do, Yeah, they do. Well, my guys have I think. 244 00:13:52,160 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 1: I think it's like the birds is great for it happening. 245 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 1: It's a bit you're lying, all right, keep up, ladies, Okay, yeah, 246 00:14:12,760 --> 00:14:14,920 Speaker 1: I mean you too. Okay, you're not gonna slide out 247 00:14:14,960 --> 00:14:17,400 Speaker 1: of this. So let's just say you've been out all 248 00:14:17,520 --> 00:14:19,320 Speaker 1: day and then you get back to the house with 249 00:14:19,520 --> 00:14:22,200 Speaker 1: with your dude and he wants to eat you out, 250 00:14:22,240 --> 00:14:25,360 Speaker 1: but you haven't showered a nothing. Let's go let him. 251 00:14:25,560 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 1: I trust myself, I'm letting him. No, I'm good. No, 252 00:14:30,160 --> 00:14:36,960 Speaker 1: let's go, let's really, let's really again. I will let 253 00:14:37,080 --> 00:14:41,440 Speaker 1: my man eat me right after I work out. Okay, 254 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:45,360 Speaker 1: what if you shippa right after? I don't even do that. 255 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:47,520 Speaker 1: I'm right after, I don't even do that, and right 256 00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:50,200 Speaker 1: after that, right after because I said, how to clean 257 00:14:50,240 --> 00:14:54,400 Speaker 1: myself a day? Right all day you've been working. He 258 00:14:54,560 --> 00:14:57,520 Speaker 1: was in rehearsals, and then use the restaurant at some 259 00:14:57,600 --> 00:15:01,760 Speaker 1: point while yes, you and then you get home and 260 00:15:01,920 --> 00:15:04,120 Speaker 1: he's like just trying to rip your clothes off, and 261 00:15:05,120 --> 00:15:07,360 Speaker 1: are you gonna just let him do it? Rip the 262 00:15:07,440 --> 00:15:11,440 Speaker 1: clothes off and pass me the wipes? Yeah, wiping throughout 263 00:15:11,480 --> 00:15:13,840 Speaker 1: the day. Don't let me tell you something. I had 264 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:17,680 Speaker 1: an experience one time, and ever since this one time, 265 00:15:17,880 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 1: I've been scared to death about this happening to me again. 266 00:15:20,920 --> 00:15:22,840 Speaker 1: And I'm sure there's a woman in the room that 267 00:15:22,880 --> 00:15:25,960 Speaker 1: can relate. Have you ever want to go have sex 268 00:15:26,360 --> 00:15:28,760 Speaker 1: or do something with your vagina? And there was a 269 00:15:28,800 --> 00:15:31,440 Speaker 1: little piece of toilet paper stuff there and he had 270 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:34,120 Speaker 1: to pull it off right. Y'all had to pull off 271 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:38,320 Speaker 1: the little that happened to me once and I never went. 272 00:15:38,440 --> 00:15:42,320 Speaker 1: I was so embarrassed and had some cheape happened to 273 00:15:42,400 --> 00:15:45,120 Speaker 1: me again, So I used, where's my purse? I have 274 00:15:45,200 --> 00:15:47,640 Speaker 1: wiped my purse right now. I keep wipes. I wipe. 275 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:53,720 Speaker 1: Got about forty eight packs wipes in my house trying 276 00:15:53,720 --> 00:15:55,040 Speaker 1: out the good wipe. Y'all need to spons to us 277 00:15:55,080 --> 00:15:57,440 Speaker 1: to um. I got about forty. I got the to 278 00:15:57,560 --> 00:15:59,640 Speaker 1: go ones in the little individual rap backets and I 279 00:15:59,720 --> 00:16:03,200 Speaker 1: have to actual baby white packet and I wipe. Start 280 00:16:03,240 --> 00:16:05,440 Speaker 1: out that that guy saw the piece, he picked it off. 281 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:06,920 Speaker 1: He was about to eat my pussy and he picked 282 00:16:06,920 --> 00:16:09,160 Speaker 1: off with baby. He still ate it though, when he 283 00:16:09,320 --> 00:16:12,320 Speaker 1: picked off the little piece of tough paper. It looks everybody, 284 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:14,880 Speaker 1: your posting was like an hour later when you pilled 285 00:16:14,880 --> 00:16:22,920 Speaker 1: off the wrapper and it doesn't come stuck. It was 286 00:16:24,120 --> 00:16:27,440 Speaker 1: it was a later with a little piece of the 287 00:16:27,480 --> 00:16:31,840 Speaker 1: wage paper on it. And you know we're underwear, yes, 288 00:16:32,840 --> 00:16:35,640 Speaker 1: and I used white, I wipe and everything. But if 289 00:16:35,680 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 1: I know I've been out for a while, no matter, 290 00:16:38,360 --> 00:16:40,400 Speaker 1: I'm going in the bathroom if I know, if not, 291 00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:42,400 Speaker 1: if I just showered, and I just happened to come 292 00:16:42,440 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 1: over that separate they I'm gonna go and wipe and 293 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:49,160 Speaker 1: just not me but him, poor baby, like poor baby, 294 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:52,800 Speaker 1: not me. I picked up paper. I'm gonna be honest 295 00:16:52,880 --> 00:16:54,960 Speaker 1: with you. I feel like going home and taking the 296 00:16:55,040 --> 00:16:58,120 Speaker 1: shower and having sex. You ruined everything. You your your 297 00:16:58,160 --> 00:17:03,760 Speaker 1: body was mavernating for that. The best time to have 298 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:06,280 Speaker 1: sex is after your whole day is finished, and then 299 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:09,000 Speaker 1: take a shower and go to sleep after after it 300 00:17:09,119 --> 00:17:10,639 Speaker 1: is nice to go to sleep after text. But I 301 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:13,639 Speaker 1: also like, I'm telling you everything is a little juicy 302 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:18,000 Speaker 1: and and nice and taste in the c It's good. 303 00:17:18,480 --> 00:17:27,679 Speaker 1: It's got it's Laura, get that man, that crop girl. 304 00:17:27,720 --> 00:17:30,320 Speaker 1: I'm telling you it's good that thing taste. That thing's 305 00:17:30,320 --> 00:17:37,920 Speaker 1: gonna taste like beast about is gonna taste like like 306 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:41,920 Speaker 1: a second you basically love a girl who goes and 307 00:17:41,960 --> 00:17:43,800 Speaker 1: takes a shower before No, I don't say, hold on, 308 00:17:44,040 --> 00:17:46,320 Speaker 1: say all of that. She said, white, You get what 309 00:17:46,359 --> 00:17:49,359 Speaker 1: I'm saying that that's the same. She really did that. 310 00:17:49,560 --> 00:17:52,359 Speaker 1: She showed us like a little a little yeah. And 311 00:17:52,440 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 1: then if I'm a ready and I'm just you know, 312 00:17:56,240 --> 00:17:57,920 Speaker 1: and then I go back and all right, Yeah, let's 313 00:17:57,960 --> 00:18:03,320 Speaker 1: get back to you. Like she like, I don't want 314 00:18:03,359 --> 00:18:08,639 Speaker 1: my white or do you just go straight into it white? 315 00:18:09,040 --> 00:18:12,520 Speaker 1: She yeah, yeah, because I'm just I'm just very self conscious, 316 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:16,840 Speaker 1: like might not. Fortunately, unfortunately, I have a very sensitive 317 00:18:16,880 --> 00:18:19,840 Speaker 1: nose and I pick up on every order. Like I 318 00:18:19,960 --> 00:18:24,440 Speaker 1: can literally smell myself right like just even sitting Like 319 00:18:24,520 --> 00:18:27,200 Speaker 1: that's good. So you know, one time I tried, I 320 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:30,200 Speaker 1: tried to not wear panties because I had a friend 321 00:18:30,240 --> 00:18:33,680 Speaker 1: that never wore panties and she, you know, and she 322 00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:36,600 Speaker 1: really loves she was like she was anti pants, like 323 00:18:36,800 --> 00:18:39,600 Speaker 1: she's like, what is pants? I really want this pants? 324 00:18:39,680 --> 00:18:41,680 Speaker 1: And then so I tried it, and I just noticed 325 00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:43,880 Speaker 1: I could always smell myself. I don't. Yeah, I don't 326 00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:45,679 Speaker 1: like that when I have to wear hats. And then 327 00:18:45,720 --> 00:18:48,119 Speaker 1: I start thinking about it, like so no, I needed to. 328 00:18:48,640 --> 00:18:51,960 Speaker 1: I even wear underwear, like I was just but I 329 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:55,639 Speaker 1: have to underwear. But I have specific underwear that I 330 00:18:55,720 --> 00:18:57,879 Speaker 1: wear to go to bed. Me too, if I have 331 00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:00,639 Speaker 1: a comfortable pair, Yeah, I have to. But I've started. 332 00:19:00,680 --> 00:19:03,760 Speaker 1: So my waxer told me that, you know, to prevent 333 00:19:04,359 --> 00:19:07,480 Speaker 1: and grown hairs after you get waxes, to not wear 334 00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:10,440 Speaker 1: panties to go to sleep. So now I've started not 335 00:19:10,600 --> 00:19:15,600 Speaker 1: wearing panties. I don't take the side that's I don't. 336 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:19,159 Speaker 1: Now I want to talk about woman of Steel. I 337 00:19:19,240 --> 00:19:22,639 Speaker 1: want to go to that. Okay, yeah me, let me 338 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 1: ask you to be a woman of steel? Right, how 339 00:19:25,040 --> 00:19:26,639 Speaker 1: hard is it for you to be vulnerable when it 340 00:19:26,680 --> 00:19:31,400 Speaker 1: comes to men, because sometimes we feel like we gotta 341 00:19:31,440 --> 00:19:33,760 Speaker 1: be so tough and we got to make sure that 342 00:19:33,920 --> 00:19:35,879 Speaker 1: I can handle this. I got this, I got that, 343 00:19:36,520 --> 00:19:39,800 Speaker 1: but I've had to learn how to allow a man 344 00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:43,080 Speaker 1: to help me. So how is that for you? I 345 00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:46,280 Speaker 1: will say, you know, a woman of steel? First of all, 346 00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:49,800 Speaker 1: when when I chose that that name for my album, 347 00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:53,720 Speaker 1: I was thinking more of um, how to go about 348 00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:59,800 Speaker 1: my daily activities without allowing the world to crush me, 349 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:03,760 Speaker 1: you know, with their expectations, with their thoughts, with their words, 350 00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:07,280 Speaker 1: just you know, pulldozing through all the sorts to say 351 00:20:07,400 --> 00:20:11,439 Speaker 1: b s. And that's where Woman of still came. Apologize 352 00:20:11,480 --> 00:20:18,760 Speaker 1: for bs you can, yeah, yeah, I just it's just 353 00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:21,200 Speaker 1: my nure. I told you where I'm coming from. Okay. 354 00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:25,879 Speaker 1: So for me to be strong, I definitely for me 355 00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:28,120 Speaker 1: to know what strong is, I have to be weak. 356 00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:31,240 Speaker 1: Why else I wouldn't know what strength is and for 357 00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:34,840 Speaker 1: me to me also learning to allow people help me 358 00:20:34,920 --> 00:20:36,520 Speaker 1: when they need to help me, or will I say 359 00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:39,680 Speaker 1: my man to help me when he wants to help me. 360 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:43,000 Speaker 1: I'm learning every day, Oh do you need this? I'm like, no, 361 00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:46,520 Speaker 1: I'm good. I need to learn to say yes, please, 362 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:49,840 Speaker 1: thank you, and I crossed my feet and just do 363 00:20:50,160 --> 00:20:52,720 Speaker 1: do do everything you say you want to do. I'm 364 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:57,040 Speaker 1: learning that. Um. But being a woman who still comes 365 00:20:57,080 --> 00:21:00,800 Speaker 1: with a lot of vulnerability because you need to be 366 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:05,840 Speaker 1: able to love is it takes a lot. Yeah, because 367 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:08,560 Speaker 1: I think guys like to be able to help you. 368 00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:11,639 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, like the need Yeah, they 369 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:14,119 Speaker 1: do need that, just like we do too, Like like 370 00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:17,119 Speaker 1: as nurturers. I would feel a way if I wanted 371 00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:18,480 Speaker 1: to help my man with out there and he kept 372 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:22,520 Speaker 1: telling me, no, it's good, I got it. Yeah, can 373 00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:24,480 Speaker 1: I help you? Would you like me to know the 374 00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:31,119 Speaker 1: where I can do? It's on? No, you're gonna let 375 00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:35,680 Speaker 1: me do this. Listen. So your song Johnny was one 376 00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:37,960 Speaker 1: of your first really really big songs. Was that a 377 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:42,159 Speaker 1: truth story? Of course? So tell us who Who's Johnny? 378 00:21:42,720 --> 00:21:50,000 Speaker 1: A silly man with shipped for brains and trust me, 379 00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:52,000 Speaker 1: in that song, I only mentioned like three ladies that 380 00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:55,280 Speaker 1: was being very nice and modest. So this really happened. 381 00:21:55,359 --> 00:21:57,159 Speaker 1: You had a guy that was just cheating on you. 382 00:21:58,160 --> 00:22:01,520 Speaker 1: But every every everybody has that one person. Every man 383 00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:04,000 Speaker 1: has that one lady who has done that, and every 384 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:13,400 Speaker 1: woman has that one minded religious and Johnny was that guy. 385 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:16,760 Speaker 1: I don't know any other female who has been so 386 00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:22,560 Speaker 1: blessed to have someone that she's a love with that 387 00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:26,480 Speaker 1: really rocks her world and literally breaks her heart and 388 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:32,199 Speaker 1: ushers her into a new stratusphere of life. Because literally 389 00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:36,240 Speaker 1: that breakup broke me into the person I am today. 390 00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:39,760 Speaker 1: If not for that song, enough for that experience, where 391 00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:42,280 Speaker 1: will that be? Like? I probably if I ever see 392 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:45,719 Speaker 1: this guy, and she'd be telling him, than you ever 393 00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:49,320 Speaker 1: have another way to break this heart again? Another one 394 00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:52,760 Speaker 1: of those everything there for a reason. He knew that 395 00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:58,760 Speaker 1: it was about him. You never spoke like So it happened, 396 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:02,159 Speaker 1: and I went my way. I chose to leave, and 397 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:05,480 Speaker 1: I just went head deep into work trying to figure 398 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:10,480 Speaker 1: out who I was in the music, and we never reconnected. 399 00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:12,159 Speaker 1: I think he tried reaching out to me, but I 400 00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:14,440 Speaker 1: was just so I blocked it out because I knew it. 401 00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:16,520 Speaker 1: I knew I was weaking niece. I knew I was 402 00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:20,200 Speaker 1: just the fool, you know. And then when I left 403 00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:23,320 Speaker 1: that we never reconnected, we never spoke. At some point 404 00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:26,119 Speaker 1: I was thinking, oh, she try and get some closure. 405 00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:31,040 Speaker 1: Sometimes closure is just telling yourself this is not for you. 406 00:23:31,560 --> 00:23:36,000 Speaker 1: Like that. I think at some point it became a 407 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:40,000 Speaker 1: thing where everybody says closure. She don't always have to 408 00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:44,800 Speaker 1: have that conversation. It's not important that because the person 409 00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:49,120 Speaker 1: who did what they did knows exactly what they were doing. 410 00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:51,600 Speaker 1: And it's very possible that you were just the lamb 411 00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:55,399 Speaker 1: at slaughter. You know, you're the one who didn't know anything. 412 00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:57,440 Speaker 1: Now that you know, can you just continue your life? 413 00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:02,679 Speaker 1: You know? So it so and since I'm sure if 414 00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:04,800 Speaker 1: I had that closure or whatever it is, out of 415 00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:07,480 Speaker 1: just felt either felt more stupid or maybe just open 416 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 1: another door from another stupid thing to happen. And so 417 00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:16,280 Speaker 1: I'm happy. Sometimes closure space, you know, because it's not 418 00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:18,440 Speaker 1: saying like if he shows up or you happen to 419 00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:21,520 Speaker 1: run into him because you had space. Your closure is 420 00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:23,400 Speaker 1: just being able to be cord you and keep moving 421 00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:26,080 Speaker 1: without feeling nothing. Let's say he came to one of 422 00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:27,639 Speaker 1: your shows and you saw him, would you let him 423 00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:31,200 Speaker 1: in the v I p let him in people, I 424 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:33,639 Speaker 1: wouldn't have one doing that like where he gets he 425 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:35,960 Speaker 1: gets to and he's like, yeah, you remember me. I'm 426 00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:41,120 Speaker 1: like what, We're not having that conversation, Like I've had 427 00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:45,840 Speaker 1: an extra to do that one time. No, I don't know. 428 00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:50,840 Speaker 1: You don't know me, you don't understand. No, Like what 429 00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:57,480 Speaker 1: are you doing? What is this? So during the pandemic, 430 00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:00,200 Speaker 1: it was probably nice for you to have a little 431 00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:01,920 Speaker 1: bit of time to sit down, right because you've been 432 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:05,960 Speaker 1: super busy. So what was that like for you? Sis? Wow? 433 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:11,159 Speaker 1: It was bitter sweets um, but definitely started off on 434 00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:15,800 Speaker 1: the sweet side because I've never really Okay, So here's 435 00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:20,719 Speaker 1: what happened. COVID started, Corona started, and I had gigs 436 00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:23,760 Speaker 1: here in New York and then some of the gigs 437 00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:27,040 Speaker 1: outside America. But I had flown in already. I was 438 00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:31,680 Speaker 1: ready in New York in February March of Um, it 439 00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:33,760 Speaker 1: was a few days to my birthday because my birthdays 440 00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:37,760 Speaker 1: in March. Yeah, okay, three one three, that's like when 441 00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:46,760 Speaker 1: saying my last day I was And then that stuck 442 00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:50,160 Speaker 1: wherever you float No. I finally got home, I decided 443 00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:52,040 Speaker 1: that I was going to cancel on my shows and 444 00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:56,240 Speaker 1: just go home, I mean, back to Legos, Nigeria. Whatever 445 00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:58,840 Speaker 1: madness is happening in the world. I told my management 446 00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 1: util they were like, I don't want to be a 447 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:03,240 Speaker 1: part of this. Let me just be at home and 448 00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:07,159 Speaker 1: feel good upstairs, you know. And and so I remember 449 00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:10,920 Speaker 1: being in Manhattan and looking down the Times Square and 450 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:13,359 Speaker 1: it was empty. I felt like I was in a movie. 451 00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:17,879 Speaker 1: It was too scary, the sites of the fun and 452 00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 1: then the lights weren't really know as bright and attractive 453 00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:26,600 Speaker 1: as they It just looked like like the apocalypse, look 454 00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,200 Speaker 1: like something that happened in Legends. Oh my god, Like 455 00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:31,840 Speaker 1: I stand here before I see someone else, it's probably 456 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:35,080 Speaker 1: like ten blocks down, and what am I doing in 457 00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:38,400 Speaker 1: the city, Like even to have breakfast at the hotel, 458 00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:46,480 Speaker 1: everybody's looking at each other like you can't see you 459 00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:49,280 Speaker 1: wipe the spoons, right, What are you doing for something 460 00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,439 Speaker 1: that you can't even see? When when when the virus 461 00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:54,639 Speaker 1: gets to that plate, it's on the plate, you know. 462 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:59,359 Speaker 1: But eventually I just left. I went back to Nigeria, 463 00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:05,520 Speaker 1: and I then realized them all as well. My house 464 00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:09,440 Speaker 1: wasn't really my house, like I'd never really been leaving there. 465 00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:12,840 Speaker 1: All I do is comeback switched my boxes because I 466 00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,760 Speaker 1: wear a little were a lot of traditional stuff, so 467 00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:17,440 Speaker 1: I have a lot of designers mixed off for me 468 00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:20,080 Speaker 1: in different parts of Africa. So I just go back, 469 00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:22,280 Speaker 1: pick up a box, and I just I'm out. And 470 00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:24,720 Speaker 1: so when I got the opportunity to sit at home, 471 00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:28,160 Speaker 1: I finally made my house my home. So I enjoyed 472 00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:32,280 Speaker 1: it like it was warm. I started to personalize my space. 473 00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:34,960 Speaker 1: I really it was. I would wake up on the 474 00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:37,960 Speaker 1: morning and understand what it meant to have a good morning. 475 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:41,439 Speaker 1: I just slide open that window and like look at 476 00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:45,200 Speaker 1: the atmosphere, like, oh it's a good morning, take it 477 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:48,040 Speaker 1: in and just really it was beautiful. But then it 478 00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:56,040 Speaker 1: became too much. It was at all. The streets just 479 00:27:56,240 --> 00:28:01,119 Speaker 1: kept going it. Corona just said say hi, I'm but 480 00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:06,159 Speaker 1: it was big time. It called everybody and eventually it 481 00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:12,960 Speaker 1: baking on men on. My first encounter with COVID was baddening. 482 00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:17,639 Speaker 1: It was not nice. It was not nice. And the 483 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:21,880 Speaker 1: annoying thing is that it really affected me mentally because 484 00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:26,119 Speaker 1: I was already mentally vulnerable. I had absorbed too much information, 485 00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:29,800 Speaker 1: both the things that were true, things that were not true, 486 00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:34,200 Speaker 1: concy theories, whoa what it will do to you? In fact, 487 00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:36,879 Speaker 1: when I hear Kobe, I hear death and so I 488 00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:40,960 Speaker 1: had gotten to that point and eventually had covie. So 489 00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:43,320 Speaker 1: I was me. I was a big mess. I didn't 490 00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:46,560 Speaker 1: in three months. I still hadn't recovered. Damn. Like I 491 00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:51,480 Speaker 1: was a mess, and it was most mostly mental. I 492 00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:54,360 Speaker 1: just felt like I'm never going to be well. Maybe 493 00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:57,840 Speaker 1: I might not wake up tomorrow because I feel this 494 00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:01,560 Speaker 1: way and that way. I'm not myself. I take the stairs, 495 00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:06,240 Speaker 1: I can hardly catch my breath. Didn't affect your vocals 496 00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:08,040 Speaker 1: at all, because I know for some people with their 497 00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:13,600 Speaker 1: lungs and being able to perform, Thank you Jesus at N. 498 00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:17,320 Speaker 1: And we also said most basically, you guys did a 499 00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 1: poem for your mom to always always. My mom was crazy. 500 00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:26,400 Speaker 1: I love her, but yeah, I'm always doing stuff for mom, 501 00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:29,720 Speaker 1: you know, and I there so much more I still 502 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:32,880 Speaker 1: needs into for her musically, blah blah blah. You know, 503 00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:35,200 Speaker 1: how does she feel about you being an artist? At first? 504 00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:39,320 Speaker 1: You know, my mom and I never really had that conversation, like, 505 00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:41,080 Speaker 1: oh Mom, I want to be an artist or anything. 506 00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:43,480 Speaker 1: I never even wanted to be an artist. I just 507 00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:47,600 Speaker 1: realized that anywhere I went if I especially in primary school, 508 00:29:47,600 --> 00:29:50,080 Speaker 1: secondary school, I was always representing the schools I attended, 509 00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,680 Speaker 1: I was always singing, and I noticed that there was 510 00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:56,160 Speaker 1: a response, a vibe each time I sang. So I 511 00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:57,880 Speaker 1: just me it was a thing that happened. And I 512 00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:00,600 Speaker 1: also loved music, so I was just it was just 513 00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:02,680 Speaker 1: a very big for me. You know, it was a 514 00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:05,040 Speaker 1: big hobby from me. I never realized that I would 515 00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:09,120 Speaker 1: actually make a living from, you know, being a musician. 516 00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:11,000 Speaker 1: That's the best living to make is something that you 517 00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:13,480 Speaker 1: feel good doing. You don't even think about the money. 518 00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:15,520 Speaker 1: You think about the feeling that it gives you when 519 00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 1: you're doing said thing, and then the money just comes. 520 00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:23,880 Speaker 1: Then the money so nice, money sweet, and it's the 521 00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:30,840 Speaker 1: own kind of currencies international. How do you find guys 522 00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:34,800 Speaker 1: to date being in your position? Like, well, they're also 523 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:38,600 Speaker 1: some guys that he's in the first place. Um, like, 524 00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:42,160 Speaker 1: what do you like? What do I like? The sons 525 00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 1: of humor is like it's probably one of the most 526 00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:47,720 Speaker 1: attractive things. First of all, a sense of humore. Um 527 00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:51,120 Speaker 1: obviously appearance because like you first see the person, right, 528 00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:54,560 Speaker 1: so like like that, like, what are you attracted to physically? 529 00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:59,640 Speaker 1: Then a tight um boy, have a time or have 530 00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:01,960 Speaker 1: a I used to have a type, but what was 531 00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:04,280 Speaker 1: now I was a vibe like I just feel I 532 00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,040 Speaker 1: just feel it. Um those days you say, oh, I 533 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:09,320 Speaker 1: used to like light skin guys. Then I said, like 534 00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:13,680 Speaker 1: in chocolate guys. And then it's just the vibe like 535 00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:16,520 Speaker 1: I feel it. I feel it. I feel the company 536 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:21,080 Speaker 1: and and the area. Obviously you want me to describe 537 00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,520 Speaker 1: like heights and all of that, like because you know 538 00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:25,760 Speaker 1: you could be as specific as if it was that 539 00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:31,560 Speaker 1: specific for you, Like okay, I would say a definitely, 540 00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:34,120 Speaker 1: because this is way I like to put it. You 541 00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:35,880 Speaker 1: cannot be shut because I don't want to be standing 542 00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:38,400 Speaker 1: next to you and seeing the middle of your head. No, no, no, 543 00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:42,160 Speaker 1: I think guys who are tall. No, there's some guys 544 00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:44,280 Speaker 1: that like short guys. I don't know what it is, 545 00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:46,480 Speaker 1: but no, that's what I got. Well for me, I 546 00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:48,160 Speaker 1: would take the short guy. If you had a six 547 00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:53,600 Speaker 1: pack and g said shut, guys have figger dicksie most 548 00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:57,360 Speaker 1: of the most of them. Yeah, yeah, like so that's 549 00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:01,120 Speaker 1: a fact pretty much most year. But No, it's just 550 00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:05,080 Speaker 1: bang bang bang. I'm short, so they don't have to 551 00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:09,160 Speaker 1: be that tall. Like, so I like best of both worlds. 552 00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:12,680 Speaker 1: Stephaniely want to climb a month star? Yeah, I like 553 00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:15,560 Speaker 1: I like them. I like them like six ft seven, 554 00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:19,920 Speaker 1: six pack, big legs, big hands. It's very specific. Yeah, 555 00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:22,200 Speaker 1: exactly as you want specific. I got you on that. 556 00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:30,760 Speaker 1: I like, you know, big hands, strong shoulders, muscles. Um, 557 00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:36,640 Speaker 1: six ft seven, I said that already. Um, yeah, that's 558 00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:38,720 Speaker 1: what I like, even though I could go for like 559 00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:43,000 Speaker 1: six ft five or four, but I like seven and 560 00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:47,680 Speaker 1: five and four. Six six ft is cool. That's kind 561 00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:52,080 Speaker 1: of short for me, um, but really specific for me. 562 00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:55,000 Speaker 1: It's like I like a six pack, and I like 563 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:59,880 Speaker 1: strong dive and strong shoulders and like for this part 564 00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:03,240 Speaker 1: of the chest to be like really defined. So when 565 00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:04,920 Speaker 1: now on top of me, it just feels like I 566 00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:08,200 Speaker 1: have like some colom based over me. It's like, oh 567 00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:16,160 Speaker 1: my god, you're so strong. I like you. It's very visual. 568 00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:20,240 Speaker 1: I felt that I can taking notes somehow to make 569 00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:24,240 Speaker 1: the next What if the guy told you he loved 570 00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:29,560 Speaker 1: you on the first date? Spooky much spooky much that 571 00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:32,080 Speaker 1: that that So there's one time a guy did that 572 00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:35,800 Speaker 1: to me anyways, and and that just made me take off. Really, 573 00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:41,720 Speaker 1: it's just so much, just too much at once, too soon. 574 00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:44,000 Speaker 1: So you don't believe in love at first sight. I 575 00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:48,400 Speaker 1: like to think it. But just the ease that which 576 00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:51,520 Speaker 1: someone would just say it means that sometimes it just 577 00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,760 Speaker 1: feels like you can say anything. But if he was drunk, 578 00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,800 Speaker 1: that's an excuse, right, So yeah, I'll take that excuse 579 00:33:57,840 --> 00:33:59,760 Speaker 1: if I really like the person. Maybe, Like I said, 580 00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:04,680 Speaker 1: i'll take it if you're drunk, you know, and when 581 00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:07,040 Speaker 1: you're better, we'll talk about it. Have you ever felt 582 00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:10,800 Speaker 1: like you was in love at first sight? Me? Always? 583 00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:23,880 Speaker 1: Oh my day be the first time thinking I love you? 584 00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:30,120 Speaker 1: How many kids were going out? Baby? You want babies? 585 00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:33,920 Speaker 1: You ever hang up the phone and be like you 586 00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:41,400 Speaker 1: have done that? I do? Like when he called you, 587 00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:44,040 Speaker 1: you see his number, like yeah, I know you got 588 00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:48,920 Speaker 1: you'd be so mad, like if he didn't answer and 589 00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:50,719 Speaker 1: then you're going back and you'd be like lending ring 590 00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:58,319 Speaker 1: four all right, let me stop playing up, and then 591 00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:01,160 Speaker 1: you'd be actually like you was doing something. Oh, I'm 592 00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:06,480 Speaker 1: just like, you're not bad, but you're mad. Have you 593 00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:09,600 Speaker 1: ever blocked somebody and then call them back? I mean 594 00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:12,440 Speaker 1: block somebody and forgot you blocked them, and they hit 595 00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:14,000 Speaker 1: them like, yo, you ain't even hit me in a 596 00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:17,439 Speaker 1: minute or whatever. I forgot that you blocked. I blocked 597 00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:19,680 Speaker 1: me up. I ain't forgetting. No, I ain't FORGETT just 598 00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:24,520 Speaker 1: blocked being petty as I don't petty block when you blocked, 599 00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:28,080 Speaker 1: like you gotta get another number. You better email me 600 00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:29,719 Speaker 1: a d M me or something, because you get better 601 00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:32,400 Speaker 1: try to call me. Block that I'd be changing numbers. 602 00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:35,239 Speaker 1: I've blocked just to like slow the situation NOWT like, 603 00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:38,000 Speaker 1: let me give us some distance. Let mean, it's a fizza. 604 00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:41,879 Speaker 1: Why don't you just do not disturb? Put them turn 605 00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:46,480 Speaker 1: the moon on? Yeah? Yeah, that person, But isn't that 606 00:35:46,600 --> 00:35:49,520 Speaker 1: the same thing. It's gonna keep going a voicemail. Yeah. 607 00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:53,280 Speaker 1: The worst is like when you date somebody who's really stubborn, 608 00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:55,440 Speaker 1: and y'all are both stubborn. Yeah, that's what I'm like. 609 00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:57,960 Speaker 1: That's that's like I'm not all the way. I'm just 610 00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:00,480 Speaker 1: being because we both but you know, like if you 611 00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:03,080 Speaker 1: call them, he'd probably be it's the forgot. But for me, 612 00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:06,080 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna forget if I can't forget, because I 613 00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:08,520 Speaker 1: don't really ever I've only ever blocked one person in 614 00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:14,320 Speaker 1: my whole life. Damn, somebody block and I didn't forget 615 00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:17,120 Speaker 1: that I blocked him, but I started hitting them up, 616 00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:20,759 Speaker 1: cursing the mount and it was blocked. Yeah, And I'm like, oh, 617 00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:26,040 Speaker 1: did he get that? Let me on? Blocks delivered okay 618 00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:29,719 Speaker 1: and already, so I'm like, maybe it did go through. 619 00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:32,840 Speaker 1: Like that's the only time I didn't forget though I 620 00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:36,680 Speaker 1: knew he was blocked. But yeah, sometimes like both of 621 00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:38,400 Speaker 1: us are too stubborn, and you're like, I know he 622 00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:39,920 Speaker 1: want to talk to me, and I definitely want to 623 00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:41,239 Speaker 1: talk to him, but I'm not going to do it, 624 00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:47,480 Speaker 1: and then it could just end. Yeah. Have you ever 625 00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:50,200 Speaker 1: been like the person to make the first move after that? 626 00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:53,279 Speaker 1: When like you'll get into an argument, will you call 627 00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:59,439 Speaker 1: and say sorry, M sorry damn for me to really 628 00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:01,360 Speaker 1: throw a guy? Oh no, for me, I was in 629 00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:03,160 Speaker 1: a I was in a relationship. I don't off with 630 00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:05,600 Speaker 1: somebody who likes to pick arguments with me. So I'm 631 00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:08,759 Speaker 1: always apologizing for things that I didn't even do, just 632 00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:11,240 Speaker 1: because I don't want to argue. It's like, oh, sorry, 633 00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:14,560 Speaker 1: you're mad. I'm sorry that you're mad. I don't know 634 00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:18,359 Speaker 1: why you're man, Okay, sorry, that's like a terrible apology. Yeah, 635 00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:22,399 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just I'm definitely I have definitely been 636 00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:29,359 Speaker 1: the person even after a breakup, even sorry, but I've 637 00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:32,040 Speaker 1: definitely been the person after the you know, after the 638 00:37:32,120 --> 00:37:34,279 Speaker 1: fight to come back and be like, bib, can we 639 00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:37,400 Speaker 1: just talk about it. I've definitely, But they have to. 640 00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:40,239 Speaker 1: I feel like when you're in a long term relationship, 641 00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:42,520 Speaker 1: when you're when you're messing with somebody for so long, 642 00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:47,080 Speaker 1: you take turns. Yeah, you know if you take turns. No, 643 00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:51,840 Speaker 1: you take turns coming back like sometimes yeah, like sometimes 644 00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:54,359 Speaker 1: you gotta be the bigger person and sometimes you need them. 645 00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:58,799 Speaker 1: If you guy after you apologize first that I really 646 00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:05,799 Speaker 1: throw him off. Maybe I'm a master haplogize. Yes, let 647 00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:08,160 Speaker 1: me tell you something. And it's really like not that 648 00:38:08,239 --> 00:38:09,719 Speaker 1: big a deal. We make it so much more of 649 00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:12,200 Speaker 1: a big deal than it has to be. Like to 650 00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:15,080 Speaker 1: call somebody and be like, you know, wait, I do 651 00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:20,279 Speaker 1: want to apologize. Guys will go crazy and they think 652 00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:22,560 Speaker 1: you're amazing. He'll be like, wow, I can't. No one's 653 00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:28,279 Speaker 1: ever apologize apologize for how you were affected by it, 654 00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:31,719 Speaker 1: Like that wasn't my intentions? Right? And then he better 655 00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:36,399 Speaker 1: apologize for his part too. Yeah, that's really I'm really 656 00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:39,640 Speaker 1: apologizing so you can apologize back to me. All My 657 00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:43,960 Speaker 1: funniest apology is you know, you're you're really trash, and 658 00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:47,080 Speaker 1: if that's disrespectful, I apologize because I don't want to 659 00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:52,640 Speaker 1: be disrespectful. But it's not an apology. How do you 660 00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:56,400 Speaker 1: start an apology but your trash? You're fucking trash. But 661 00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:59,520 Speaker 1: you know, I'm not a disrespectful person, and so if 662 00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:02,520 Speaker 1: it's fine, not disrespectful, I'm sorry. But that's the truth. 663 00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:07,879 Speaker 1: Yeah that before do you write better music when you're 664 00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:11,279 Speaker 1: in a relationship and when you're single, you think, Look, 665 00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:13,600 Speaker 1: if I've ever been single is probably just for aqu 666 00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:21,400 Speaker 1: weekship yo yo yo. Yeah, I've always been in a relationship, um, 667 00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:24,600 Speaker 1: even if it's for a short time or a long time, 668 00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:28,360 Speaker 1: whatever it is, I've always been a relationship. Um. I 669 00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:30,920 Speaker 1: think for me, the good part is that I'm in 670 00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:34,840 Speaker 1: my mind because I have a very visual mind. In 671 00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:37,360 Speaker 1: my mind, I could take a happy moment and flip it, 672 00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:41,040 Speaker 1: make it sad because that's what music allows me to do, 673 00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:44,880 Speaker 1: just really mess around with the truth and the picture, 674 00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:47,439 Speaker 1: you know. So I could take a very happy moment 675 00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:49,520 Speaker 1: and flip it and I could just look at someone 676 00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:52,279 Speaker 1: who's having really the best time of their life for 677 00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:55,400 Speaker 1: the worst time of their life and making my story. Okay, 678 00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:59,160 Speaker 1: So I just doesn't matter if I'm single or I'm 679 00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:03,239 Speaker 1: a relationship, but I do find that when it particularly 680 00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:07,520 Speaker 1: affects me directly, I have such a connection to what 681 00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:11,799 Speaker 1: I'm saying, you know, and and no true awards would 682 00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:15,360 Speaker 1: be sung than what you hear on that song. Yeah, Like, 683 00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:17,440 Speaker 1: what's an example would you say of a song that 684 00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:20,080 Speaker 1: is super personal to you when you was going through 685 00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:28,800 Speaker 1: something size Johnny Um, I try to personalize a little moments. 686 00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:30,319 Speaker 1: Let me see you when me see when we see 687 00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:32,480 Speaker 1: something that even when you sing it, you are like 688 00:40:33,520 --> 00:40:38,439 Speaker 1: really reminiscing on something that happened and channeling that. There's 689 00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:41,120 Speaker 1: this new song that I'm about to put out there, 690 00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:46,800 Speaker 1: and it's the one that features Cranium Man. Yeah, okay, 691 00:40:49,080 --> 00:40:52,040 Speaker 1: because I keep seeing the hashtag and I'm like, wait 692 00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:54,640 Speaker 1: a minute, But then Crannium has been on lip Service, 693 00:40:54,760 --> 00:41:00,600 Speaker 1: by the way, and so it's a very he's definitely 694 00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:03,920 Speaker 1: been on here. Or if he speaks, he speaks his truth. 695 00:41:04,160 --> 00:41:08,399 Speaker 1: Yes he does, Yes, he does. That's what he did, right. 696 00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:12,919 Speaker 1: Oh and he has stories for days. He's amazing. Yeah, 697 00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:17,040 Speaker 1: we like he was great. Yeah, so what's my man about? 698 00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:20,240 Speaker 1: It's a love story. Give us a little more because 699 00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:23,280 Speaker 1: you know it's it's like, it's a love story. Okay, 700 00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:28,160 Speaker 1: So contrary to what she said, let me tell you 701 00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:33,719 Speaker 1: about my mon six bucks. Nobody thing would make me 702 00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:45,520 Speaker 1: fall four um back up whenever day by him side. Yes, 703 00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:48,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna love this, you know, because she said six 704 00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:52,440 Speaker 1: packs said six packs isn't the thing, you know, but 705 00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:55,080 Speaker 1: it's kind of there, but it's not really the thing. 706 00:41:55,200 --> 00:42:03,680 Speaker 1: But yeah, that's it, but it's there. What death size 707 00:42:03,719 --> 00:42:06,520 Speaker 1: mattered to you? Size of what the penis? Who know 708 00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:11,360 Speaker 1: what I'm talking? What could I be talking about the 709 00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:20,480 Speaker 1: size of it? Pinky toe? That? Hello? Whatever? Everything? Please 710 00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:28,239 Speaker 1: do this splaying? Please decide? Is it a capital P 711 00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:30,800 Speaker 1: or a lower case P? But do you feel like 712 00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:33,879 Speaker 1: you ever get like, you know, with like I can't 713 00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:38,040 Speaker 1: leave because it's so amazing? Huh. It always has to 714 00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:41,760 Speaker 1: be amazing, man, I'm from the first note. It always 715 00:42:41,840 --> 00:42:47,799 Speaker 1: has to be always. Oh I'm so busy, and when 716 00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:50,800 Speaker 1: it happens it must be mind blowing. I do not 717 00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:58,800 Speaker 1: have time to play. It must be the thing, you know, Yeah, definitely, No, 718 00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:02,399 Speaker 1: it might because I've been I've been with a few 719 00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:10,880 Speaker 1: people that I had a very small pocket. Other words, 720 00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:18,000 Speaker 1: I'm not talking about money from the United States, you know, Okay? No, um. 721 00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:20,600 Speaker 1: And and then when that, you know, you have to 722 00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:24,080 Speaker 1: experience setting things to know what you don't like. And 723 00:43:24,160 --> 00:43:27,680 Speaker 1: when that happened, I realized that, oh it does not 724 00:43:27,800 --> 00:43:29,960 Speaker 1: work for me, Like it's such a turn off. I 725 00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:34,239 Speaker 1: need to get out of here. Yeah, so that the 726 00:43:34,320 --> 00:43:36,959 Speaker 1: size is the thing. And then skilled because some people 727 00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:38,840 Speaker 1: have it but don't know how to use it. And 728 00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:44,640 Speaker 1: that is very sad. Oh my god, Yes, that is sad. 729 00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:49,480 Speaker 1: It's so sad. And I feel like if I put 730 00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:51,719 Speaker 1: myself in that situation again, if I could have a 731 00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:57,840 Speaker 1: conversation with that person, I'm sure funny, I'm with you. 732 00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:02,480 Speaker 1: What could you say? Like right, like, what can you say? What? 733 00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:07,960 Speaker 1: What's the conversation? All right, let's let's act it out. Yeah, 734 00:44:07,960 --> 00:44:13,000 Speaker 1: I mean, what's the problem? All right? Okay? Um? I 735 00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:23,840 Speaker 1: really are you laughing at my dick? Something quick? Being? Okay, 736 00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:28,480 Speaker 1: no being, I'm going out. But I'm saying you said, 737 00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:31,880 Speaker 1: let's have a conversation. So like, I don't feel like 738 00:44:31,920 --> 00:44:35,480 Speaker 1: you're into me. Oh no, I am. I really really 739 00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:38,600 Speaker 1: do like you. Um, and I like the time we 740 00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:42,000 Speaker 1: spent together. Um, what do you think should be making 741 00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:47,920 Speaker 1: more interesting? How I feel like you? We could do 742 00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:50,080 Speaker 1: all the things under then you just always being on me, 743 00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:54,600 Speaker 1: like try all this other you know, interesting positions? Okay, 744 00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:57,319 Speaker 1: Like what positions do you like? He's going to be like, ah, 745 00:44:57,440 --> 00:45:00,120 Speaker 1: you're on a shower, you are in a prosty to 746 00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:11,560 Speaker 1: so what without that guy? So I don't want that 747 00:45:11,640 --> 00:45:13,480 Speaker 1: Stan you're telling So you're telling me that I don't 748 00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:20,239 Speaker 1: know how to ego. It's gonna be your fault. Yes, 749 00:45:20,840 --> 00:45:25,920 Speaker 1: sometimes you just gotta to take charge. Though you think America, 750 00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:30,440 Speaker 1: So you think Internet like American man would maybe, I 751 00:45:30,520 --> 00:45:36,280 Speaker 1: mean because America. What are you saying? Okay, even American 752 00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:39,480 Speaker 1: will react as well, what do you what? I think? 753 00:45:40,080 --> 00:45:43,800 Speaker 1: What I think is irrespective of where the man is, 754 00:45:43,920 --> 00:45:48,520 Speaker 1: whether he's American, Spanish, or whatever, it's all in the head. 755 00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:51,440 Speaker 1: Some people don't know how to put their ego aside 756 00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:55,640 Speaker 1: and have certain conversations. So like, I'm very sure that 757 00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:57,680 Speaker 1: there are some American guys that will not find that 758 00:45:57,800 --> 00:46:01,719 Speaker 1: conversation with funny no matter how I put it, but 759 00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:05,000 Speaker 1: probably would just really make sure that I feel like 760 00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:08,319 Speaker 1: trash and then the relationship ends. Then they take their 761 00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:12,239 Speaker 1: time out to maybe improve on their skill for another woman, 762 00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:16,600 Speaker 1: because I probably like really messed with the ego at 763 00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:19,280 Speaker 1: the point in time. It takes a man who's willing 764 00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:23,879 Speaker 1: to really understand that it's not just a game. It's 765 00:46:23,920 --> 00:46:26,919 Speaker 1: like it's all about pleasure, and like if you feel 766 00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:30,040 Speaker 1: like you're not pleasuring me, and I'm able to tell you, 767 00:46:30,600 --> 00:46:33,719 Speaker 1: and you really making your goal to just pleasure me 768 00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:36,840 Speaker 1: and pleasure yourself, because if you if I'm don't enjoy myself, 769 00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:39,560 Speaker 1: you can't enjoy it. There's a different feeling when we're 770 00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:43,520 Speaker 1: both enjoying it. So it takes a man with pedigree 771 00:46:43,600 --> 00:46:46,920 Speaker 1: to separate the ego from such a conversation. Have you 772 00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:56,680 Speaker 1: ever faked an orgasm? What doesn't mean to fake an august? 773 00:46:56,719 --> 00:47:04,040 Speaker 1: And that's a lot about never died com Yeah, but 774 00:47:04,120 --> 00:47:10,279 Speaker 1: you really didn't. Oh that's still I wouldn't admitted I'm 775 00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:14,840 Speaker 1: not faking maybe or types, I don't all what was 776 00:47:14,880 --> 00:47:18,560 Speaker 1: the reason for that, I don't know. Maybe sometimes you 777 00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:24,600 Speaker 1: just want your partner to really feel um great, feel like, um, 778 00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:28,040 Speaker 1: I didn't feel great. You ain't feeling great? No, I 779 00:47:28,160 --> 00:47:31,160 Speaker 1: did not know it's good. But maybe maybe your partner 780 00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:34,680 Speaker 1: came before you, and I still didn't come at off 781 00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:37,960 Speaker 1: should be able to have a good time, but I 782 00:47:38,080 --> 00:47:41,239 Speaker 1: just didn't get there. Right, I've had sex and I 783 00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:46,320 Speaker 1: didn't comments great. You like that's okay. Well, I guess 784 00:47:46,600 --> 00:47:50,360 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie about it. He's too nice and like, 785 00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:54,320 Speaker 1: what do you mean before you say something? I probably 786 00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:57,640 Speaker 1: will just make my own stuff come, and then that's me. 787 00:47:58,280 --> 00:48:02,160 Speaker 1: I'm not I haven't faked the organs in years. I'm 788 00:48:02,239 --> 00:48:05,960 Speaker 1: not doing it. Like you said, I had a good time. 789 00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:09,319 Speaker 1: I just didn't come this time. It's all good when 790 00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:11,680 Speaker 1: you just had sucks? How do you do that your 791 00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:14,839 Speaker 1: fingers just like you just showed UD said they could 792 00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:18,560 Speaker 1: feel bad about it, saying I've done it. I pulled 793 00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:21,440 Speaker 1: out a toy on purpose, and that's what I said? 794 00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:24,239 Speaker 1: How many times? Because I let it happen like the first, second, third, 795 00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:26,160 Speaker 1: and in the fourth like I felt, I didn't want 796 00:48:26,160 --> 00:48:27,880 Speaker 1: to hurt his feelings, so I was like, I'm not 797 00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:30,560 Speaker 1: gonna hurt it, but I'm gonna I'm gonna come and 798 00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:34,799 Speaker 1: I pulled out the toy. Do you use toys? One time? 799 00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:38,200 Speaker 1: I didn't really enjoy it? What's over here? What's here? 800 00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:40,920 Speaker 1: What's happening? But like, we want to make sure you 801 00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:45,160 Speaker 1: have fun. Okay, so we do have a fetish kit 802 00:48:45,280 --> 00:48:48,480 Speaker 1: for you. So this has blindfolds, a collar and a 803 00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:52,440 Speaker 1: leash for him to put on him, rist cuffs, ankle cuffs, 804 00:48:52,520 --> 00:48:56,440 Speaker 1: and a little spanking paddle. There you go. I have 805 00:48:56,600 --> 00:49:01,279 Speaker 1: just were not doing the right thing. You pull this out, 806 00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:04,160 Speaker 1: You pull that paddle out and have a little fun. 807 00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:11,560 Speaker 1: Yeahmy hey, I have to hide this from my mother. Listen, 808 00:49:11,680 --> 00:49:13,080 Speaker 1: this will be a great time for you and your 809 00:49:13,120 --> 00:49:16,560 Speaker 1: mom to have these conversations. No, she's going to pray 810 00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:24,680 Speaker 1: for me. No, no, no, no, no. You can take 811 00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:26,239 Speaker 1: it out of the box and I'm just you know, 812 00:49:26,480 --> 00:49:28,480 Speaker 1: wrap it up in something later. You know what I'm saying. 813 00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:30,279 Speaker 1: So you don't have the whole box. Your mom's not here, 814 00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:34,040 Speaker 1: is she? Okay? I thought you can, but she is 815 00:49:34,239 --> 00:49:37,840 Speaker 1: so online. She knows everything. So I'm not going to 816 00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:40,080 Speaker 1: be able to dodge this woman. Bush it out to her. 817 00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:49,240 Speaker 1: You know, she's taking it out. She's like, I want 818 00:49:49,280 --> 00:49:53,560 Speaker 1: to have you ever been blindfolded. No, but I imagine 819 00:49:53,600 --> 00:49:57,560 Speaker 1: that that would be nice. Yes, I don't have a 820 00:49:57,600 --> 00:50:06,759 Speaker 1: blindfold a leash, it's the leash. I have a friend. 821 00:50:07,440 --> 00:50:09,759 Speaker 1: I have a friend, and all she does is send 822 00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:12,600 Speaker 1: me two things. She sends me pictures and videos of 823 00:50:12,719 --> 00:50:15,320 Speaker 1: babies because she loves babies. And then she sends me 824 00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:19,440 Speaker 1: pictures and videos of things like this. She she sends me, 825 00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:23,480 Speaker 1: She's like, I need to be strip now she's oh, 826 00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:29,839 Speaker 1: she's so silly, you're jealous. She will be someone now, 827 00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:32,640 Speaker 1: of course I do. Okay, she ain't never saying what 828 00:50:32,719 --> 00:50:35,160 Speaker 1: you heard that he's going to enjoy it. I want 829 00:50:35,160 --> 00:50:39,000 Speaker 1: to see how I was looking at your finger, like 830 00:50:39,160 --> 00:50:40,680 Speaker 1: is there a ring? But I don't see your ring 831 00:50:41,560 --> 00:50:45,799 Speaker 1: right now. But you think he's the one. Oh yeah, 832 00:50:46,600 --> 00:50:49,319 Speaker 1: you think that every time? No, no, no, okay, okay, 833 00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:59,319 Speaker 1: yeah like that. I used to always be like that. Yes, true, 834 00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:03,279 Speaker 1: everybody's the one. Yeah, everyone was the one, But yeah 835 00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:06,840 Speaker 1: he's the one. He's different. Why is that? In a 836 00:51:06,960 --> 00:51:10,440 Speaker 1: grown way? When I was a kid then kid mentally 837 00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:14,000 Speaker 1: as well. It doesn't matter how old I am. But 838 00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:17,399 Speaker 1: he is. Okay, well, we'd love to hear it. Tie 839 00:51:17,480 --> 00:51:21,400 Speaker 1: him up. Let's see if it's real. Okay, use some 840 00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:27,200 Speaker 1: hand at the same time, girl, ready listen to me. 841 00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:30,160 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for coming through happy birthday. Thank 842 00:51:30,200 --> 00:51:34,360 Speaker 1: you good really show for us though, because I know 843 00:51:34,480 --> 00:51:37,160 Speaker 1: it's not too often that you're you know, in town. 844 00:51:37,280 --> 00:51:39,560 Speaker 1: So we appreciate you coming through lip service. Thank you 845 00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:42,560 Speaker 1: so much. We think you're amazing. I appreciate it. I 846 00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:49,840 Speaker 1: appreciate um, even though like one would expect that in Africa, 847 00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:54,719 Speaker 1: we don't always have this conversations because I wouldn't say 848 00:51:54,719 --> 00:51:56,799 Speaker 1: it's a taboo, but like you would be seeing as 849 00:51:56,880 --> 00:52:01,320 Speaker 1: a as an unnecessarily open my the person to the 850 00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:04,600 Speaker 1: things that they would refer to us negatives, you know. 851 00:52:05,320 --> 00:52:08,640 Speaker 1: But I value such conversations because I think women need 852 00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:11,239 Speaker 1: to speak to each other more. Yeah, that's the whole 853 00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:13,360 Speaker 1: point of it. And I do think part of women's 854 00:52:13,360 --> 00:52:17,680 Speaker 1: empowerment is to be able to freely speak about our bodies, 855 00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:20,160 Speaker 1: things that we like in a positive way with no judgment, 856 00:52:20,440 --> 00:52:27,320 Speaker 1: bodies like we need and n by I guys have 857 00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:31,680 Speaker 1: these conversations and it's a okay. So yes, we are 858 00:52:31,719 --> 00:52:34,200 Speaker 1: able to have these conversations too, and they'll have these 859 00:52:34,239 --> 00:52:37,839 Speaker 1: conversations about us, and so we can have these conversations 860 00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:40,160 Speaker 1: with each other and this helps a lot of women. 861 00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:42,120 Speaker 1: And that's what I love about lip service is women 862 00:52:42,160 --> 00:52:44,480 Speaker 1: would be like I was listening and I learned this, 863 00:52:44,640 --> 00:52:46,880 Speaker 1: and I didn't know about this, and I felt strange 864 00:52:47,000 --> 00:52:49,200 Speaker 1: because I never was able to have anyone to talk to. 865 00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:51,520 Speaker 1: So we just want to be able to let people 866 00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:54,759 Speaker 1: know it's okay. There's nothing that you like that's weird, 867 00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:59,640 Speaker 1: as long as it's consensual, you know, and legal. Yeah, yeah, 868 00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:03,520 Speaker 1: And I like that you guys, even though it's it's 869 00:53:03,560 --> 00:53:06,920 Speaker 1: it's centered around sex, like, but you still talk about 870 00:53:07,080 --> 00:53:11,080 Speaker 1: anything feminine, you know, that concerns that regards to the body, 871 00:53:11,560 --> 00:53:14,200 Speaker 1: and each woman is different in our own way, but 872 00:53:14,280 --> 00:53:17,480 Speaker 1: they're still woven out there who are exactly like we are. 873 00:53:17,600 --> 00:53:20,719 Speaker 1: And most times we need to just be told that 874 00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:24,200 Speaker 1: we're not alone and that whatever condition a situation that 875 00:53:24,280 --> 00:53:27,279 Speaker 1: we experience, someone out there is experiencing the same thing. 876 00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:31,120 Speaker 1: You could just be the solution to someone's problem out there. 877 00:53:31,120 --> 00:53:32,560 Speaker 1: And don't get me wrong, even though you know, I 878 00:53:32,680 --> 00:53:34,960 Speaker 1: keep saying in Africa we don't say certain things. A 879 00:53:35,120 --> 00:53:38,800 Speaker 1: lot of women are now beginning to understand the importance 880 00:53:38,800 --> 00:53:41,520 Speaker 1: of speaking out. So a lot of women are vocal 881 00:53:41,719 --> 00:53:44,720 Speaker 1: and open to such conversations and we'll be very excited 882 00:53:44,800 --> 00:53:48,680 Speaker 1: to watch this eventual. That's important to us. I appreciate 883 00:53:48,800 --> 00:53:50,960 Speaker 1: that because even as discussing how like we didn't have 884 00:53:51,000 --> 00:53:53,839 Speaker 1: these conversations with our own moms, who are you having 885 00:53:53,920 --> 00:53:56,640 Speaker 1: them with? You know what I'm saying. So that's why 886 00:53:58,200 --> 00:53:59,960 Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying, Like even like, I'm pretty sure 887 00:54:00,120 --> 00:54:02,200 Speaker 1: there's a girl I would be ashamed normally to speak 888 00:54:02,200 --> 00:54:04,759 Speaker 1: about things like this and it would be uncomfortable. But 889 00:54:04,880 --> 00:54:07,160 Speaker 1: being here and just be uncomfortable with everyone else and 890 00:54:07,280 --> 00:54:20,759 Speaker 1: just knowing that you had that you you can't you like, 891 00:54:21,040 --> 00:54:24,560 Speaker 1: it's amazing, and the messages you get with like wow, 892 00:54:25,360 --> 00:54:27,400 Speaker 1: I went through that too, like the b MS. It 893 00:54:27,520 --> 00:54:30,280 Speaker 1: is great, And it don't take away from how powerful 894 00:54:30,360 --> 00:54:32,319 Speaker 1: you are and what a great role model you are 895 00:54:32,920 --> 00:54:37,000 Speaker 1: for everybody but young women, I think in particular, So 896 00:54:37,160 --> 00:54:39,120 Speaker 1: it does not take away from that. It adds to it. 897 00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:41,440 Speaker 1: Thank you for having me, Thank you for having me 898 00:54:41,600 --> 00:54:45,840 Speaker 1: on amazing. Thank you, thank you, thank you Chelsea, thank you. 899 00:54:46,360 --> 00:54:46,960 Speaker 1: Left Service