WEBVTT - It's a Celebration B!tches! 200th Anniversary Episode 0:00:11.240 --> 0:00:14.560 Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and 0:00:14.680 --> 0:00:18.000 I'm Mila, and it's our two hundred episode. 0:00:19.760 --> 0:00:24.919 Two hundred episodes. Holy fucking shit, do you believe it? 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:25.840 What the fuck? 0:00:25.920 --> 0:00:29.080 We talk two hundred times, bitch, that's like two hundred 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:32.000 plus hours of talking. Wait, wait, like, where's your credentials? 0:00:32.120 --> 0:00:34.159 Do you have two hundred plus hours of talking? 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:37.200 More than two hundred? It's on Camra, like five hundred plus, okay, 0:00:37.240 --> 0:00:39.120 because each episode is about an hour and a half. 0:00:39.320 --> 0:00:44.559 It's crazy. Congratulation, congratulation. Oh my goodness, I have. 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:48.360 Shown up to do something two hundred motherfucking times in 0:00:48.400 --> 0:00:51.600 your life. Every week, every week, you have done something 0:00:51.600 --> 0:00:52.320 two hundred times. 0:00:52.360 --> 0:00:55.080 You At this point, we're masters. We've mastered it because 0:00:55.160 --> 0:00:56.880 that's what they say. 0:00:56.920 --> 0:01:04.200 That's what the people are saying. So we're experts. Yeah. Wow, wow, wow, wow. 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:08.679 It feels really good to say that we're masters at 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:09.319 our craft. 0:01:09.600 --> 0:01:09.960 We are. 0:01:10.040 --> 0:01:11.680 You're watching masters at work. 0:01:13.160 --> 0:01:13.760 Bing bong? 0:01:14.640 --> 0:01:17.399 No, no, no, no, no, don't fucking bing bong again? 0:01:18.360 --> 0:01:21.520 Why are you doing that? Where did you get that? 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:22.520 Are you watching the shade? 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:25.319 We're doing it a few months ago. I don't know just. 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:26.640 Why are you just catching on now? 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:28.720 I'm older. I don't like it. 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:30.600 I think just stay on your lane. Okay, I'm sorry, 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:31.840 no bing bong here. 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:33.479 That's not cool. Okay, got it, won't do it again. 0:01:33.560 --> 0:01:34.560 Okay, this is the last time. 0:01:34.600 --> 0:01:35.119 Guys. 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:40.000 Yeah, how do you feel? I feel like a seasoned vet, 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:43.080 very seasoned. 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:47.760 I feel amazing. I feel like wow, a, like we 0:01:47.800 --> 0:01:50.280 really showed up two hundred times to do something. I 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:54.200 think it's like this podcast has giving me obviously so 0:01:54.320 --> 0:01:58.400 much purpose and made me feel so empowered in who 0:01:58.440 --> 0:02:00.360 I am, and I get to show up as myself 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:03.080 every week, and that has allowed me to show up 0:02:03.080 --> 0:02:05.600 in my life as myself every day all the time 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:08.239 in the most annoying obnoxious way. But hey, it's me, 0:02:09.080 --> 0:02:12.880 and I don't know. I'm just really grateful that we 0:02:12.919 --> 0:02:15.320 met that one night at the bar. I think it 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:17.560 was like the Funky Monkey or something, the blue Monkey. 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:19.200 It was like the blue It was the blue monkey, 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:23.600 every monkey, and the rest is history. 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:28.120 For real, honest to fucking god, thank you for creeping 0:02:28.200 --> 0:02:30.880 up on me in that bathroom line, like, hey, bitch, 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:33.679 oh my god, we got to find that picture. There's 0:02:33.680 --> 0:02:35.639 like one pic member that picture. We just found like 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:36.799 last year of that night. 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:38.280 Oh yeah, we. 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:41.240 Found there's like one mysterious picture somewhere that Erica has 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:42.959 somewhere on her phone of like the first. 0:02:42.720 --> 0:02:43.440 Time we ever met. 0:02:44.200 --> 0:02:47.440 And I know, like how crazy that you just asking 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:51.840 low Kia stranger to start something with you has spawned 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:56.200 into this huge fucking umbrella of things. 0:02:56.480 --> 0:02:58.360 I never would have done that any other time. So 0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:00.240 I don't know why I did that, because I, like, 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:03.360 especially prior to that, like it was really hard for 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:07.040 me to even ask for help, to even like just 0:03:07.280 --> 0:03:09.359 I don't know, like I think, I think my ego 0:03:09.440 --> 0:03:10.880 was really wrapped up and like I could do it. 0:03:10.919 --> 0:03:12.040 I could do it. I could do everything myself. I 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:12.639 don't need anybody. 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:13.639 You' got it, and I got it. I got it, 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:15.960 I got it, don't got it, got it. 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:19.280 You know, Like and so I'm just really grateful that 0:03:19.960 --> 0:03:23.880 God said, bitch, go talk to this bitch, go say something. 0:03:24.040 --> 0:03:26.840 You need a friend, okay, and I have. 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:29.600 The best one I know, like for real. I mean 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:32.400 I wasn't expecting that. Obviously, I didn't know you were 0:03:32.400 --> 0:03:35.520 coming to say make friends. And I don't know in 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:38.360 any other circumstance would I have ever felt comfortable to 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:40.840 be like, hi, do you have a baby? 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:42.120 Like I probably would have. 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:44.280 Been like, oh, I did see her on Instagram and like, 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:46.360 you know, say hi because we had a mutual friend there. 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:48.000 But like I don't know if I would have taken 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:50.320 as far as been like take my number, let's hang out, 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:52.880 just because like I'm not that I am friendly, but 0:03:52.920 --> 0:03:54.760 like thinking that people are so cool and that they're 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:58.160 gonna think that you're being weird. But I'm so grateful 0:03:58.280 --> 0:04:01.200 that you stepped out on a whim and did that, 0:04:01.360 --> 0:04:04.720 because oh child, it's been quite a ride, baby. 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:06.840 I mean, I think it's a testament to anyone listening 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:09.560 to Like sometimes you just gotta just if you if 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:11.400 your gut something in you was like just go ahead 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:13.800 say hi to that person, and you reject it, don't 0:04:14.080 --> 0:04:16.320 like just go do it because something is telling you 0:04:16.400 --> 0:04:18.479 to do that and I don't know something. I like 0:04:18.560 --> 0:04:20.280 took a lot of measures to go there, Like I 0:04:20.480 --> 0:04:23.320 trot to drop my kid off, I had to confront mom, shame, 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:26.920 I had to get to the club, find this bitch, 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:28.599 figure out what am I going to say and not 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:30.120 be awkward because I'm so fucking awkward. 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:36.120 Follow through, Like but you know, and you follow through. 0:04:36.200 --> 0:04:39.920 But we that Monday we hang out. I can't tell 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:41.839 you nearly what we talked about. 0:04:42.760 --> 0:04:47.800 I wasn't. It was just like marg Margarita, Margerite. Yes, 0:04:48.320 --> 0:04:48.640 maybe it was. 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:50.559 I think it was a white wine. It was something 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:51.880 at your grandma's house, Margarita. 0:04:52.920 --> 0:04:53.760 I think it was margarita. 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:54.960 Yeah. Yeah. 0:04:55.040 --> 0:04:58.280 And you know, even further than that, like being around 0:04:58.320 --> 0:05:01.040 each other and not being super we're uper close, like 0:05:01.760 --> 0:05:03.320 still being like, hey, do you want to. 0:05:03.320 --> 0:05:04.320 Start this thing with me? 0:05:04.600 --> 0:05:07.560 And then telling me the story about your threesome couple 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:10.560 and like if you guys didn't know me and Erica 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:13.839 weren't friends until we started the podcast. We actually got 0:05:13.839 --> 0:05:15.560 to know each other on the mic. We're just assuming 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:18.520 people have not joined us anywhere in this two hundredth 0:05:18.560 --> 0:05:22.080 episode fucking journey, But if you're just joining us, Erica 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:25.480 creeped up on me in a bar and we had 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:27.119 a play date. We had a couple of play dates, 0:05:27.240 --> 0:05:30.000 but we really weren't close friends until one day were 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:32.760 at a birthday party and she was newly single and 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:34.400 she's like, I met a couple on tender? 0:05:34.480 --> 0:05:36.600 Are you on tender? And I was like a couple. Huh. 0:05:36.720 --> 0:05:38.359 It's like I didn't know this bitch was this spicy 0:05:38.360 --> 0:05:41.040 and I like her more than I thought. Of course, 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:42.560 that was a story that made me like her more. 0:05:43.600 --> 0:05:46.960 I did like her, but no two people one time. Wow, 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:48.120 my people. 0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:50.800 Made more in common than I thought that. I thought 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:53.560 the babies were the only thing. And you know, it 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:55.720 made me more intrigued in her, I guess. And then 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:57.640 shortly after she was like, do you want to start 0:05:57.640 --> 0:05:58.400 like a podcast? 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:02.520 And she's like, there's note about like single motherhood. Do 0:06:02.520 --> 0:06:02.719 you know? 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:05.520 Originally, actually before I even asked you, I talked to 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:08.520 Niche about this, and you know, I was gonna ask Felicia. 0:06:08.640 --> 0:06:10.000 Yeah, yeah, you did tell me that, Yeah. 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:12.400 Felicia Latour And like look at her fucking glow up 0:06:12.480 --> 0:06:16.680 to filling it. Somebody's mama shout out to Felicia. But 0:06:16.839 --> 0:06:19.520 like God was like something was like, you know, I 0:06:19.560 --> 0:06:21.080 felt like Feli. I was like, she's doing her she's 0:06:21.120 --> 0:06:23.000 found her thing, she already got her thing. And I 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:24.400 was like, I don't know who I'm gonna ask, and 0:06:24.440 --> 0:06:26.400 what how do I even ask this? I don't even 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:27.200 know what I'm asking. 0:06:28.640 --> 0:06:29.279 Can you record her? 0:06:29.600 --> 0:06:32.240 She talked to me and with my computer out, like 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:34.080 I'm gonna put my computer on and we'll just like 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:38.279 talk like yeah, it's just it's but we just I 0:06:38.320 --> 0:06:41.080 think off the bat though, even though we weren't like 0:06:41.160 --> 0:06:43.320 the best of friends, we always had good conversation. And 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:46.440 that's why I was like, yeah, we're interesting, we agree, 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:49.520 we disagree. And I thought like, when I started listening 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:52.960 to podcasts, I was like, there's nothing about black moms 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:56.800 that are dating and single and young. Everyone's old and 0:06:56.880 --> 0:06:59.800 white and drinking a lot of wine, saying like. 0:07:00.160 --> 0:07:02.120 But fuck, fuck, those kids are assholes. 0:07:02.160 --> 0:07:05.360 God damn it. Yeah, assholes, that's the one. But yeah, 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:08.799 so that's what let us hear. And it's two hundred 0:07:08.880 --> 0:07:14.000 episodes in. We've had a wild ride of really personal growth, 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:16.280 making so many friends along. 0:07:15.960 --> 0:07:18.440 The way, so many friends. 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:22.200 Friends that like, God, like it's crazy, just like friends 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:25.720 I didn't even know I needed. Like, it's from listeners 0:07:25.720 --> 0:07:29.080 that are friends now, to guests that are friends, to 0:07:29.360 --> 0:07:32.840 people that are helping us support this podcast, like it's 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:33.520 it's crazy. 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:34.920 Yeah, everybody. 0:07:35.160 --> 0:07:38.200 A lot of our community has been built just through 0:07:38.240 --> 0:07:38.880 the podcast. 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:41.720 It just it makes me more reassured. 0:07:41.160 --> 0:07:42.800 In the fact, like obviously I already know, like this 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:45.000 is our purpose and this is like the path that 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:48.960 we've been given, and like that's why we've just I 0:07:48.960 --> 0:07:50.560 don't know, it's like we are we do get to 0:07:50.560 --> 0:07:52.560 show up every day and be ourselves, and as a 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:56.840 direct result of being ourselves, we inevitably attract our tribe, 0:07:56.960 --> 0:07:58.800 you know, like people who we fuck with and people 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:01.080 who just accept us as we are and like make 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:03.760 us even more ourselves and more comfortable to be ourselves 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:06.840 because everybody else is in there who they are too. 0:08:07.000 --> 0:08:10.000 You know, Like I feel good being empowered to be me, 0:08:10.280 --> 0:08:12.680 and then everybody else is empowered to be themselves, and 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:16.960 so together collaboratively, we've just like made so many I 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:19.720 feel like soulmates we have we have. 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:23.440 I think people often think reserve soulmate title for like 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:27.240 a sexual lover, romantic lover, but like I have some 0:08:27.280 --> 0:08:30.720 of the deepest soulmates in my friendships for sure, And 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:33.600 you know, I think that like and a lot of 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:36.920 them have been a result of this podcast. I'm so 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:39.680 grateful that most of my friends really you know, have 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:43.520 made me a like tap into myself understand that like 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:46.160 I am just enough the self love is like the 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:49.160 only love I really need and I think being able 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:51.120 to come on here and get on the mic every 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:53.679 day and not every day but every week, and just 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:59.480 like talk has been incredibly what is it therapuzing. 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:00.520 Therapeutic for me? 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:03.640 And sometimes when I couldn't afford therapy, I was just. 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:06.320 Here and it's expedited. 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:09.120 I feel like for me, it's really expedited, like some 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:10.400 personal growth. 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:13.479 I'm amen. Yes, you know, like things. 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:15.960 That may have taken even longer for me to understand, 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:19.040 I've just just by talking through it, by having a 0:09:19.080 --> 0:09:21.640 person in a community that keeps me accountable for having 0:09:21.679 --> 0:09:22.720 to be accountable for myself. 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:23.600 Like, bait, you sound dumb. 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:25.959 You just said that last year, Like you said that 0:09:26.040 --> 0:09:29.440 two years ago, bitch, you still like getting digmatized. It 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:32.000 is just like I don't know, it's beautiful to have 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:35.839 this safe space and like really therapy, you know. That's like, 0:09:36.240 --> 0:09:39.600 I'm so grateful my work is therapy a man. 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:43.320 And honestly, the theme of this month is so aligned. 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:45.760 And I think this was just by accident actually that 0:09:45.840 --> 0:09:48.600 our two hundred episode landed in February on. 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:51.400 The second, on the second, wait, today's the second month 0:09:51.440 --> 0:09:54.079 of the year. In the February the second month of 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:56.120 the year on the second in the year of twenty 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:57.439 twenty two in. 0:09:57.840 --> 0:10:01.920 Two hundredth episode This Whole Journey? What does too mean? 0:10:02.120 --> 0:10:03.640 Two? Okay? So twenty two. 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:10.960 In numerology, number twenty two symbolizes sole mission, duality, selflessness, relationship. 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:12.520 And balance are all shown by the number two. 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:16.280 The number twenty two represents double the amount of energy. Additionally, 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:19.679 this angel number has a strong relationship to emotions, intuition, 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:23.360 and idealism. These are only a few of the many 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:27.440 attributes in numerology. The number twenty two represents the fulfillment 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:30.319 of one's greatest aspirations, as well as a sense of 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:31.520 strength and accomplishment. 0:10:31.640 --> 0:10:32.320 I feel that way. 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:33.400 Be aware that. 0:10:33.440 --> 0:10:36.880 Number twenty two is among the most powerful numbers, so 0:10:36.920 --> 0:10:39.400 if you see it, don't be surprised. Most likely as 0:10:39.400 --> 0:10:42.080 a result of the divines desired to inspire you to 0:10:42.120 --> 0:10:45.880 strive for greater heights. While it's a lot of responsibility, 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:48.400 it's all in the best possible light. Because twenty two 0:10:48.480 --> 0:10:51.000 is your life number, it's likely that you are Okay, well, 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:52.640 we're not going to go into that because we're not 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:58.200 talking about life number, but clearly amen, Yeah, total my 0:10:58.240 --> 0:11:00.640 birthday is also on the twenty second special number. 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:01.560 I agree it is. 0:11:02.679 --> 0:11:05.760 And it's been like this journey looking back has been 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:09.600 so wildly divine, Like it's not a coincidence that our 0:11:09.640 --> 0:11:12.440 twenty like we are turning, you know, our two. 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:13.920 Hundredth episodes on the second. 0:11:14.200 --> 0:11:17.319 Like everything we've done has been like really shown us 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:20.880 how magical life is and how like how like how 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:24.760 powerful we are, and like when you listen to the universe, 0:11:24.840 --> 0:11:26.880 it really opens up for you and answers for you, 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:28.520 and you will get all the friends, and you will 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:30.800 get all the like all the things that you need. 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:32.240 Will inevitably come to you. You know. 0:11:32.400 --> 0:11:35.000 I just feel like we weren't as witchy when we started, 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:36.920 but now we're just like full blown witch mode. 0:11:37.120 --> 0:11:41.360 Yeah, especially when you're doing everything with good intentions, you know. 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:43.839 I think like all of the intentions that we've had 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:47.679 in business have really been good. Like they've never been malicious. 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:50.280 It's never been about like I mean, obviously we want 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:51.920 to make money and shit and do that and do 0:11:52.000 --> 0:11:55.720 the things and be successful, but like, ultimately it's always 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:59.120 been about like the growth, the growth of the self, 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:02.000 growth of us. How do we help our community and 0:12:02.040 --> 0:12:03.600 how do we help them grow? How do we give 0:12:03.600 --> 0:12:06.199 them the tools that you know that they need? How 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:08.280 do we give them the resources that maybe like how 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:10.679 do we find resources for them that maybe we don't need, 0:12:10.720 --> 0:12:12.480 but like, hey, I know someone that you know can 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:14.960 help you with that. That's really kind of what good 0:12:14.960 --> 0:12:15.800 Moms is all about. 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:18.160 We just really wanted to create a space that wasn't 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:21.199 judgmental of anyone, Like you can come as you are, 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:25.160 and that's cool, and like, in fact, we're different. This 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:27.360 is not typical to say, but I'm gonna say it anyway, 0:12:27.400 --> 0:12:29.600 because this is who the fuck I am, and like 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:32.640 really providing a safe space not only for us, but 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:35.400 like for the people who come to know you can 0:12:35.480 --> 0:12:39.640 be who you are and that's perfectly acceptable, especially. 0:12:39.200 --> 0:12:40.120 As a mom. 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:42.840 And like, I don't know, it's true, it's always been 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:45.320 good intentions and like really the intentions we have for 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:47.240 ourselves we also have for our community. 0:12:48.080 --> 0:12:51.040 Literally, like everything that I like, even like the challenges 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:52.720 that we learned, is like I don't want to do 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:54.680 it alone, Like it's because I want to grow, Like 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:56.800 maybe maybe someone else wants to grow in this way 0:12:56.840 --> 0:12:59.120 with me. I don't know, maybe, And then I think 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:01.280 that's kind of like the driver of everything. 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:03.880 And also like planning a seed, you know, like there 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:08.520 are so many people who are living in thought processes 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.960 and in like ideologies that they didn't even they didn't 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:13.920 even ask for, and sometimes you just need someone to 0:13:14.000 --> 0:13:15.240 drop in and be like is that your thoughts? 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:18.480 That makes sense? You know what I mean? 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:20.720 Like we all need that, Like that's what conversation is 0:13:20.760 --> 0:13:23.000 for that, Like that's the most beautiful thing about exchanging 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:26.000 conversation is like you can always be birth new ideas. 0:13:26.000 --> 0:13:29.120 You can always like your mindset can always expand, Like damn, 0:13:29.160 --> 0:13:31.559 I never even thought about that, you know, like suddenly 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:34.400 your scope is so much larger just for having a conversation. 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:36.520 And I think our hope is also to be like 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:40.920 so many women are stuck in certain like mine jails, 0:13:41.040 --> 0:13:44.360 mind prisons because you've been taught something and in fact, 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:47.480 like you've become a slave to the system and in fact, 0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:49.680 like you are the system and you create your own 0:13:49.720 --> 0:13:51.720 and like that's in motherhood, that's in parenthood, that's an 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:55.319 adulthood and womanhood. You know, like we are only as 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:58.199 broad as our ideas. And I really I think one 0:13:58.200 --> 0:14:01.719 of our big thing too, is like breaking out this stereotypical, 0:14:01.840 --> 0:14:04.920 archaic idea of how you have to be as a woman, 0:14:05.040 --> 0:14:07.199 as a mom, as a man, you know, like to 0:14:07.280 --> 0:14:08.480 be heard of the fuck you want to be. And 0:14:08.520 --> 0:14:10.040 you can be black, and you could be young, and 0:14:10.080 --> 0:14:11.200 you could be old or whatever. 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:13.240 Like it doesn't none of these things. 0:14:13.520 --> 0:14:16.000 You know, they're all what we how we design, and 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:18.440 life is to be designed and not to just be lived. 0:14:19.160 --> 0:14:21.080 Ay man, I love when you go. I love when 0:14:21.120 --> 0:14:24.040 you have a sermon, bitch, it's every time. It's the 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:28.520 way to deliver. Oh my goodness. So speaking of black 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:31.200 black it also is Black History Months, So happy Black 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:31.880 History Month, my. 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:37.840 Love, Happy Black History Month. Queen. I hate saying that goddess. 0:14:39.920 --> 0:14:41.760 What is like, what's a better word than goddess? 0:14:41.840 --> 0:14:42.520 Grand Rising? 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:43.800 Queen grand Rise? 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:46.080 Oh god, that's like the number one. Don't ever text 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:46.920 for grand Rising. 0:14:47.000 --> 0:14:47.440 I hate that. 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:48.400 I fucking hate it. 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:50.560 I've like said that bad. Don't say it to me. 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:53.600 You've said it, You've literally texted. 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:56.200 I never texted probably put in like a story. 0:14:56.240 --> 0:14:59.160 I'm gonna search your fucking fun I'm gonna search Jamila's 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:00.760 text and type been grain Rising. 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:03.680 It's and I've never sent that to anyone, shut the 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:06.400 fuck up like a hotep man tea. 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:07.160 No you don't. 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:10.040 That's why I need to know for sure to confirm this. 0:15:11.720 --> 0:15:13.960 Oh my gosh, I got distracted. 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:15.760 Oh we said it. Happy Black History Months. 0:15:15.800 --> 0:15:20.040 Happy, I'm dropping some very black drops merch. 0:15:20.360 --> 0:15:22.000 We're really in our merch game right now. 0:15:22.160 --> 0:15:24.600 Yeah, go check out our merch. 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Support. 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:12.640 But if you're going to and you're not black and 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:14.320 you're white and you want to you want to get 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:15.400 into that white guilt. 0:16:15.160 --> 0:16:18.520 Go to Good Mom's Bad Choices dot com click merch. 0:16:19.880 --> 0:16:23.960 Brand partnerships are in the contact us. We're available to 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:25.480 be your token blacks for fifuar. 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:28.280 We will ask for the highest price this month specifically, 0:16:28.680 --> 0:16:30.320 and you must give it to us, or we're going 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:31.760 to tell everyone exposed. 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:36.040 No pressure, no pressure to call us. 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:40.400 Should no one called this month, use the other black moms, 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:42.800 I didn't do that that thing or they bullied. 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:47.600 Them on air, Oh my gosh. Well, you know we 0:16:47.640 --> 0:16:48.760 have a theme for every month. 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:49.360 Yes. 0:16:50.040 --> 0:16:55.880 Last month's theme was confidence Confidence. This month's theme. 0:16:56.560 --> 0:17:02.240 Is for Self. February for the love of Self. 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:06.199 You know, February can be a weird time because, you know, 0:17:06.440 --> 0:17:11.040 in America, we love to just be so invested in 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:13.879 all the holidays that they say are really important we 0:17:13.960 --> 0:17:18.359 must celebrate, including Valentine's Day. And I feel like around 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:20.879 this month winter in general, you know, it's cuffing season, 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:23.360 and niggas feel like they got to have a WiFi. 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:25.119 Bitch just feel like they need to have a nigga 0:17:25.560 --> 0:17:29.320 if they don't they're sad. And you know what I've 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:32.679 felt in this month being a single woman and really 0:17:32.880 --> 0:17:36.360 focusing on my self love is like I rarely feel 0:17:36.520 --> 0:17:38.800 sad about not having a man, Like do I want 0:17:38.800 --> 0:17:41.480 a partner? Yes? Of course? Do I want partnership? Do 0:17:41.520 --> 0:17:43.480 I do? Sometimes Like I look up and I'm like, 0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:46.000 if I had a boyfriend or a man, like my 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:48.480 groceries would have gotten picked up already. Yeah, of course 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:51.200 I feel all those ways, but which I think are natural. 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:53.840 But I think my journey and self love has really 0:17:54.000 --> 0:17:56.080 allowed me to come to this place where it's like 0:17:56.280 --> 0:18:00.679 I am not seeking outwardly in that way. And this 0:18:00.800 --> 0:18:04.119 month I really wanted us to focus on is just 0:18:04.200 --> 0:18:09.400