Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 1: I'm Mila, and it's our two hundred episode.
Speaker 2: Two hundred episodes. Holy fucking shit, do you believe it?
Speaker 2: What the fuck?
Speaker 3: We talk two hundred times, bitch, that's like two hundred
Speaker 3: plus hours of talking. Wait, wait, like, where's your credentials?
Speaker 3: Do you have two hundred plus hours of talking?
Speaker 2: More than two hundred? It's on Camra, like five hundred plus, okay,
Speaker 2: because each episode is about an hour and a half.
Speaker 1: It's crazy. Congratulation, congratulation. Oh my goodness, I have.
Speaker 3: Shown up to do something two hundred motherfucking times in
Speaker 3: your life. Every week, every week, you have done something
Speaker 3: two hundred times.
Speaker 2: You At this point, we're masters. We've mastered it because
Speaker 2: that's what they say.
Speaker 1: That's what the people are saying. So we're experts. Yeah. Wow, wow, wow, wow.
Speaker 3: It feels really good to say that we're masters at
Speaker 3: our craft.
Speaker 2: We are.
Speaker 1: You're watching masters at work.
Speaker 2: Bing bong?
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no, don't fucking bing bong again?
Speaker 1: Why are you doing that? Where did you get that?
Speaker 1: Are you watching the shade?
Speaker 2: We're doing it a few months ago. I don't know just.
Speaker 1: Why are you just catching on now?
Speaker 2: I'm older. I don't like it.
Speaker 3: I think just stay on your lane. Okay, I'm sorry,
Speaker 3: no bing bong here.
Speaker 2: That's not cool. Okay, got it, won't do it again.
Speaker 1: Okay, this is the last time.
Speaker 2: Guys.
Speaker 3: Yeah, how do you feel? I feel like a seasoned vet,
Speaker 3: very seasoned.
Speaker 2: I feel amazing. I feel like wow, a, like we
Speaker 2: really showed up two hundred times to do something. I
Speaker 2: think it's like this podcast has giving me obviously so
Speaker 2: much purpose and made me feel so empowered in who
Speaker 2: I am, and I get to show up as myself
Speaker 2: every week, and that has allowed me to show up
Speaker 2: in my life as myself every day all the time
Speaker 2: in the most annoying obnoxious way. But hey, it's me,
Speaker 2: and I don't know. I'm just really grateful that we
Speaker 2: met that one night at the bar. I think it
Speaker 2: was like the Funky Monkey or something, the blue Monkey.
Speaker 2: It was like the blue It was the blue monkey,
Speaker 2: every monkey, and the rest is history.
Speaker 3: For real, honest to fucking god, thank you for creeping
Speaker 3: up on me in that bathroom line, like, hey, bitch,
Speaker 3: oh my god, we got to find that picture. There's
Speaker 3: like one pic member that picture. We just found like
Speaker 3: last year of that night.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we.
Speaker 3: Found there's like one mysterious picture somewhere that Erica has
Speaker 3: somewhere on her phone of like the first.
Speaker 1: Time we ever met.
Speaker 3: And I know, like how crazy that you just asking
Speaker 3: low Kia stranger to start something with you has spawned
Speaker 3: into this huge fucking umbrella of things.
Speaker 2: I never would have done that any other time. So
Speaker 2: I don't know why I did that, because I, like,
Speaker 2: especially prior to that, like it was really hard for
Speaker 2: me to even ask for help, to even like just
Speaker 2: I don't know, like I think, I think my ego
Speaker 2: was really wrapped up and like I could do it.
Speaker 2: I could do it. I could do everything myself. I
Speaker 2: don't need anybody.
Speaker 1: You' got it, and I got it. I got it,
Speaker 1: I got it, don't got it, got it.
Speaker 2: You know, Like and so I'm just really grateful that
Speaker 2: God said, bitch, go talk to this bitch, go say something.
Speaker 2: You need a friend, okay, and I have.
Speaker 3: The best one I know, like for real. I mean
Speaker 3: I wasn't expecting that. Obviously, I didn't know you were
Speaker 3: coming to say make friends. And I don't know in
Speaker 3: any other circumstance would I have ever felt comfortable to
Speaker 3: be like, hi, do you have a baby?
Speaker 1: Like I probably would have.
Speaker 3: Been like, oh, I did see her on Instagram and like,
Speaker 3: you know, say hi because we had a mutual friend there.
Speaker 3: But like I don't know if I would have taken
Speaker 3: as far as been like take my number, let's hang out,
Speaker 3: just because like I'm not that I am friendly, but
Speaker 3: like thinking that people are so cool and that they're
Speaker 3: gonna think that you're being weird. But I'm so grateful
Speaker 3: that you stepped out on a whim and did that,
Speaker 3: because oh child, it's been quite a ride, baby.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think it's a testament to anyone listening
Speaker 2: to Like sometimes you just gotta just if you if
Speaker 2: your gut something in you was like just go ahead
Speaker 2: say hi to that person, and you reject it, don't
Speaker 2: like just go do it because something is telling you
Speaker 2: to do that and I don't know something. I like
Speaker 2: took a lot of measures to go there, Like I
Speaker 2: trot to drop my kid off, I had to confront mom, shame,
Speaker 2: I had to get to the club, find this bitch,
Speaker 2: figure out what am I going to say and not
Speaker 2: be awkward because I'm so fucking awkward.
Speaker 3: Follow through, Like but you know, and you follow through.
Speaker 3: But we that Monday we hang out. I can't tell
Speaker 3: you nearly what we talked about.
Speaker 1: I wasn't. It was just like marg Margarita, Margerite. Yes,
Speaker 1: maybe it was.
Speaker 3: I think it was a white wine. It was something
Speaker 3: at your grandma's house, Margarita.
Speaker 2: I think it was margarita.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3: And you know, even further than that, like being around
Speaker 3: each other and not being super we're uper close, like
Speaker 3: still being like, hey, do you want to.
Speaker 1: Start this thing with me?
Speaker 3: And then telling me the story about your threesome couple
Speaker 3: and like if you guys didn't know me and Erica
Speaker 3: weren't friends until we started the podcast. We actually got
Speaker 3: to know each other on the mic. We're just assuming
Speaker 3: people have not joined us anywhere in this two hundredth
Speaker 3: episode fucking journey, But if you're just joining us, Erica
Speaker 3: creeped up on me in a bar and we had
Speaker 3: a play date. We had a couple of play dates,
Speaker 3: but we really weren't close friends until one day were
Speaker 3: at a birthday party and she was newly single and
Speaker 3: she's like, I met a couple on tender?
Speaker 1: Are you on tender? And I was like a couple. Huh.
Speaker 3: It's like I didn't know this bitch was this spicy
Speaker 3: and I like her more than I thought. Of course,
Speaker 3: that was a story that made me like her more.
Speaker 1: I did like her, but no two people one time. Wow,
Speaker 1: my people.
Speaker 3: Made more in common than I thought that. I thought
Speaker 3: the babies were the only thing. And you know, it
Speaker 3: made me more intrigued in her, I guess. And then
Speaker 3: shortly after she was like, do you want to start
Speaker 3: like a podcast?
Speaker 1: And she's like, there's note about like single motherhood. Do
Speaker 1: you know?
Speaker 2: Originally, actually before I even asked you, I talked to
Speaker 2: Niche about this, and you know, I was gonna ask Felicia.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you did tell me that, Yeah.
Speaker 2: Felicia Latour And like look at her fucking glow up
Speaker 2: to filling it. Somebody's mama shout out to Felicia. But
Speaker 2: like God was like something was like, you know, I
Speaker 2: felt like Feli. I was like, she's doing her she's
Speaker 2: found her thing, she already got her thing. And I
Speaker 2: was like, I don't know who I'm gonna ask, and
Speaker 2: what how do I even ask this? I don't even
Speaker 2: know what I'm asking.
Speaker 1: Can you record her?
Speaker 2: She talked to me and with my computer out, like
Speaker 2: I'm gonna put my computer on and we'll just like
Speaker 2: talk like yeah, it's just it's but we just I
Speaker 2: think off the bat though, even though we weren't like
Speaker 2: the best of friends, we always had good conversation. And
Speaker 2: that's why I was like, yeah, we're interesting, we agree,
Speaker 2: we disagree. And I thought like, when I started listening
Speaker 2: to podcasts, I was like, there's nothing about black moms
Speaker 2: that are dating and single and young. Everyone's old and
Speaker 2: white and drinking a lot of wine, saying like.
Speaker 1: But fuck, fuck, those kids are assholes.
Speaker 2: God damn it. Yeah, assholes, that's the one. But yeah,
Speaker 2: so that's what let us hear. And it's two hundred
Speaker 2: episodes in. We've had a wild ride of really personal growth,
Speaker 2: making so many friends along.
Speaker 1: The way, so many friends.
Speaker 2: Friends that like, God, like it's crazy, just like friends
Speaker 2: I didn't even know I needed. Like, it's from listeners
Speaker 2: that are friends now, to guests that are friends, to
Speaker 2: people that are helping us support this podcast, like it's
Speaker 2: it's crazy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, everybody.
Speaker 3: A lot of our community has been built just through
Speaker 3: the podcast.
Speaker 1: It just it makes me more reassured.
Speaker 3: In the fact, like obviously I already know, like this
Speaker 3: is our purpose and this is like the path that
Speaker 3: we've been given, and like that's why we've just I
Speaker 3: don't know, it's like we are we do get to
Speaker 3: show up every day and be ourselves, and as a
Speaker 3: direct result of being ourselves, we inevitably attract our tribe,
Speaker 3: you know, like people who we fuck with and people
Speaker 3: who just accept us as we are and like make
Speaker 3: us even more ourselves and more comfortable to be ourselves
Speaker 3: because everybody else is in there who they are too.
Speaker 3: You know, Like I feel good being empowered to be me,
Speaker 3: and then everybody else is empowered to be themselves, and
Speaker 3: so together collaboratively, we've just like made so many I
Speaker 3: feel like soulmates we have we have.
Speaker 2: I think people often think reserve soulmate title for like
Speaker 2: a sexual lover, romantic lover, but like I have some
Speaker 2: of the deepest soulmates in my friendships for sure, And
Speaker 2: you know, I think that like and a lot of
Speaker 2: them have been a result of this podcast. I'm so
Speaker 2: grateful that most of my friends really you know, have
Speaker 2: made me a like tap into myself understand that like
Speaker 2: I am just enough the self love is like the
Speaker 2: only love I really need and I think being able
Speaker 2: to come on here and get on the mic every
Speaker 2: day and not every day but every week, and just
Speaker 2: like talk has been incredibly what is it therapuzing.
Speaker 1: Therapeutic for me?
Speaker 2: And sometimes when I couldn't afford therapy, I was just.
Speaker 1: Here and it's expedited.
Speaker 3: I feel like for me, it's really expedited, like some
Speaker 3: personal growth.
Speaker 1: I'm amen. Yes, you know, like things.
Speaker 3: That may have taken even longer for me to understand,
Speaker 3: I've just just by talking through it, by having a
Speaker 3: person in a community that keeps me accountable for having
Speaker 3: to be accountable for myself.
Speaker 1: Like, bait, you sound dumb.
Speaker 3: You just said that last year, Like you said that
Speaker 3: two years ago, bitch, you still like getting digmatized. It
Speaker 3: is just like I don't know, it's beautiful to have
Speaker 3: this safe space and like really therapy, you know. That's like,
Speaker 3: I'm so grateful my work is therapy a man.
Speaker 2: And honestly, the theme of this month is so aligned.
Speaker 2: And I think this was just by accident actually that
Speaker 2: our two hundred episode landed in February on.
Speaker 3: The second, on the second, wait, today's the second month
Speaker 3: of the year. In the February the second month of
Speaker 3: the year on the second in the year of twenty
Speaker 3: twenty two in.
Speaker 2: Two hundredth episode This Whole Journey? What does too mean?
Speaker 1: Two? Okay? So twenty two.
Speaker 3: In numerology, number twenty two symbolizes sole mission, duality, selflessness, relationship.
Speaker 1: And balance are all shown by the number two.
Speaker 3: The number twenty two represents double the amount of energy. Additionally,
Speaker 3: this angel number has a strong relationship to emotions, intuition,
Speaker 3: and idealism. These are only a few of the many
Speaker 3: attributes in numerology. The number twenty two represents the fulfillment
Speaker 3: of one's greatest aspirations, as well as a sense of
Speaker 3: strength and accomplishment.
Speaker 1: I feel that way.
Speaker 2: Be aware that.
Speaker 3: Number twenty two is among the most powerful numbers, so
Speaker 3: if you see it, don't be surprised. Most likely as
Speaker 3: a result of the divines desired to inspire you to
Speaker 3: strive for greater heights. While it's a lot of responsibility,
Speaker 3: it's all in the best possible light. Because twenty two
Speaker 3: is your life number, it's likely that you are Okay, well,
Speaker 3: we're not going to go into that because we're not
Speaker 3: talking about life number, but clearly amen, Yeah, total my
Speaker 3: birthday is also on the twenty second special number.
Speaker 1: I agree it is.
Speaker 3: And it's been like this journey looking back has been
Speaker 3: so wildly divine, Like it's not a coincidence that our
Speaker 3: twenty like we are turning, you know, our two.
Speaker 1: Hundredth episodes on the second.
Speaker 3: Like everything we've done has been like really shown us
Speaker 3: how magical life is and how like how like how
Speaker 3: powerful we are, and like when you listen to the universe,
Speaker 3: it really opens up for you and answers for you,
Speaker 3: and you will get all the friends, and you will
Speaker 3: get all the like all the things that you need.
Speaker 1: Will inevitably come to you. You know.
Speaker 3: I just feel like we weren't as witchy when we started,
Speaker 3: but now we're just like full blown witch mode.
Speaker 2: Yeah, especially when you're doing everything with good intentions, you know.
Speaker 2: I think like all of the intentions that we've had
Speaker 2: in business have really been good. Like they've never been malicious.
Speaker 2: It's never been about like I mean, obviously we want
Speaker 2: to make money and shit and do that and do
Speaker 2: the things and be successful, but like, ultimately it's always
Speaker 2: been about like the growth, the growth of the self,
Speaker 2: growth of us. How do we help our community and
Speaker 2: how do we help them grow? How do we give
Speaker 2: them the tools that you know that they need? How
Speaker 2: do we give them the resources that maybe like how
Speaker 2: do we find resources for them that maybe we don't need,
Speaker 2: but like, hey, I know someone that you know can
Speaker 2: help you with that. That's really kind of what good
Speaker 2: Moms is all about.
Speaker 3: We just really wanted to create a space that wasn't
Speaker 3: judgmental of anyone, Like you can come as you are,
Speaker 3: and that's cool, and like, in fact, we're different. This
Speaker 3: is not typical to say, but I'm gonna say it anyway,
Speaker 3: because this is who the fuck I am, and like
Speaker 3: really providing a safe space not only for us, but
Speaker 3: like for the people who come to know you can
Speaker 3: be who you are and that's perfectly acceptable, especially.
Speaker 1: As a mom.
Speaker 3: And like, I don't know, it's true, it's always been
Speaker 3: good intentions and like really the intentions we have for
Speaker 3: ourselves we also have for our community.
Speaker 2: Literally, like everything that I like, even like the challenges
Speaker 2: that we learned, is like I don't want to do
Speaker 2: it alone, Like it's because I want to grow, Like
Speaker 2: maybe maybe someone else wants to grow in this way
Speaker 2: with me. I don't know, maybe, And then I think
Speaker 2: that's kind of like the driver of everything.
Speaker 3: And also like planning a seed, you know, like there
Speaker 3: are so many people who are living in thought processes
Speaker 3: and in like ideologies that they didn't even they didn't
Speaker 3: even ask for, and sometimes you just need someone to
Speaker 3: drop in and be like is that your thoughts?
Speaker 1: That makes sense? You know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Like we all need that, Like that's what conversation is
Speaker 3: for that, Like that's the most beautiful thing about exchanging
Speaker 3: conversation is like you can always be birth new ideas.
Speaker 3: You can always like your mindset can always expand, Like damn,
Speaker 3: I never even thought about that, you know, like suddenly
Speaker 3: your scope is so much larger just for having a conversation.
Speaker 3: And I think our hope is also to be like
Speaker 3: so many women are stuck in certain like mine jails,
Speaker 3: mind prisons because you've been taught something and in fact,
Speaker 3: like you've become a slave to the system and in fact,
Speaker 3: like you are the system and you create your own
Speaker 3: and like that's in motherhood, that's in parenthood, that's an
Speaker 3: adulthood and womanhood. You know, like we are only as
Speaker 3: broad as our ideas. And I really I think one
Speaker 3: of our big thing too, is like breaking out this stereotypical,
Speaker 3: archaic idea of how you have to be as a woman,
Speaker 3: as a mom, as a man, you know, like to
Speaker 3: be heard of the fuck you want to be. And
Speaker 3: you can be black, and you could be young, and
Speaker 3: you could be old or whatever.
Speaker 1: Like it doesn't none of these things.
Speaker 3: You know, they're all what we how we design, and
Speaker 3: life is to be designed and not to just be lived.
Speaker 2: Ay man, I love when you go. I love when
Speaker 2: you have a sermon, bitch, it's every time. It's the
Speaker 2: way to deliver. Oh my goodness. So speaking of black
Speaker 2: black it also is Black History Months, So happy Black
Speaker 2: History Month, my.
Speaker 1: Love, Happy Black History Month. Queen. I hate saying that goddess.
Speaker 1: What is like, what's a better word than goddess?
Speaker 2: Grand Rising?
Speaker 1: Queen grand Rise?
Speaker 3: Oh god, that's like the number one. Don't ever text
Speaker 3: for grand Rising.
Speaker 1: I hate that.
Speaker 2: I fucking hate it.
Speaker 1: I've like said that bad. Don't say it to me.
Speaker 2: You've said it, You've literally texted.
Speaker 1: I never texted probably put in like a story.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna search your fucking fun I'm gonna search Jamila's
Speaker 2: text and type been grain Rising.
Speaker 3: It's and I've never sent that to anyone, shut the
Speaker 3: fuck up like a hotep man tea.
Speaker 1: No you don't.
Speaker 2: That's why I need to know for sure to confirm this.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I got distracted.
Speaker 1: Oh we said it. Happy Black History Months.
Speaker 3: Happy, I'm dropping some very black drops merch.
Speaker 1: We're really in our merch game right now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, go check out our merch. We dropped a little
Speaker 2: special thing for Black History Month, some teas that are
Speaker 2: cute as fuck, black as fuck, mam a's fuck fine
Speaker 2: as fuck. Go check that out on our website. But
Speaker 2: you know, every day's Black History Month. Over're here, boo.
Speaker 2: We don't even like to celebrate. Okay, I'm black already,
Speaker 2: motherfucking day.
Speaker 3: The only thing Black History Month is good for is
Speaker 3: around January ish the brands we'll start looking for their
Speaker 3: token blacks, setting them on payroll, making it seem like
Speaker 3: their brands give a fuck about the twenty eight days
Speaker 3: in February because it's Black History Months.
Speaker 1: But I have a reminder for everyone and all the
Speaker 1: brands that are.
Speaker 2: Give us the shortest month of the whole of course, But.
Speaker 3: You guys, black people are here every day three six
Speaker 3: five by.
Speaker 2: By black all the time, not just this month.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Support.
Speaker 2: But if you're going to and you're not black and
Speaker 2: you're white and you want to you want to get
Speaker 2: into that white guilt.
Speaker 1: Go to Good Mom's Bad Choices dot com click merch.
Speaker 3: Brand partnerships are in the contact us. We're available to
Speaker 3: be your token blacks for fifuar.
Speaker 2: We will ask for the highest price this month specifically,
Speaker 2: and you must give it to us, or we're going
Speaker 2: to tell everyone exposed.
Speaker 1: No pressure, no pressure to call us.
Speaker 3: Should no one called this month, use the other black moms,
Speaker 3: I didn't do that that thing or they bullied.
Speaker 2: Them on air, Oh my gosh. Well, you know we
Speaker 2: have a theme for every month.
Speaker 1: Yes.
Speaker 2: Last month's theme was confidence Confidence. This month's theme.
Speaker 1: Is for Self. February for the love of Self.
Speaker 2: You know, February can be a weird time because, you know,
Speaker 2: in America, we love to just be so invested in
Speaker 2: all the holidays that they say are really important we
Speaker 2: must celebrate, including Valentine's Day. And I feel like around
Speaker 2: this month winter in general, you know, it's cuffing season,
Speaker 2: and niggas feel like they got to have a WiFi.
Speaker 2: Bitch just feel like they need to have a nigga
Speaker 2: if they don't they're sad. And you know what I've
Speaker 2: felt in this month being a single woman and really
Speaker 2: focusing on my self love is like I rarely feel
Speaker 2: sad about not having a man, Like do I want
Speaker 2: a partner? Yes? Of course? Do I want partnership? Do
Speaker 2: I do? Sometimes Like I look up and I'm like,
Speaker 2: if I had a boyfriend or a man, like my
Speaker 2: groceries would have gotten picked up already. Yeah, of course
Speaker 2: I feel all those ways, but which I think are natural.
Speaker 2: But I think my journey and self love has really
Speaker 2: allowed me to come to this place where it's like
Speaker 2: I am not seeking outwardly in that way. And this
Speaker 2: month I really wanted us to focus on is just
Speaker 2: like focusing on dating yourself, spending time with yourself. When
Speaker 2: was the last time you, you know, I went to
Speaker 2: the movie was by yourself? When someone was the last
Speaker 2: time you went and had a drink by yourself, took
Speaker 2: yourself on a nice date. You know, a lot of
Speaker 2: times we're sad because no one's taking us out, but
Speaker 2: we haven't even took us out right, Like, I think
Speaker 2: that those things are really really important and inevitably all
Speaker 2: that those things will come love and all those things
Speaker 2: if as long as you're you know, aligned and manifesting
Speaker 2: those things and working on yourself. But the self love
Speaker 2: is the major key confidence self love. I mean, we're
Speaker 2: going on this journey this year of really like building
Speaker 2: the perfect, not the perfect, but like the highest version
Speaker 2: of ourself every month, and I feel like self love
Speaker 2: is one you cannot forget. You cannot overstep that, you
Speaker 2: can't skip it, you can't get around it, because that
Speaker 2: bitch will show up every single time.
Speaker 3: Well, we're trying to fill voids with people, and like
Speaker 3: when you love yourself, you don't really need to do that,
Speaker 3: and like everybody wants love, but essentially you can't really
Speaker 3: give love or receive it if you don't believe it.
Speaker 3: And that means loving yourself, and people fuck that up
Speaker 3: all the time, attaching themselves to other people.
Speaker 2: And attach themselves the things too, like even just not
Speaker 2: even people like work, right, you know, like overworking yourself
Speaker 2: at me, like just just distracting yourself from yourself with anything,
Speaker 2: whether it's drugs, whether it's sex. Being an entrepreneur, I
Speaker 2: mean I think that that even itself can feel like
Speaker 2: I think that can become an excuse as well to
Speaker 2: not work on your career. I'm working. I'm working. I'll
Speaker 2: get to that. I'll get to that. I'll get to that.
Speaker 2: I remember I went on this date with this guy.
Speaker 2: I talked about him like last year. He was kind
Speaker 2: of crazy.
Speaker 1: What was his name? Do I give it?
Speaker 2: Did I ever give him a name?
Speaker 1: Oh? Oh? Do I forget that? It will crazy babe.
Speaker 3: Actually, someone just mention that person to me and I
Speaker 3: was like, I don't fuck with them.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, I talked about this guy and anyway, he
Speaker 2: was like a self proclaimed self avoid like he was like, yay, yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm working on this and this and that and like
Speaker 2: but I know, like I really got to work on
Speaker 2: like my self love. But I'll get to that later.
Speaker 2: Like he literally said that to me, like I'll get
Speaker 2: to that later, and I was like wow, I mean,
Speaker 2: I mean, it was kind of amazing that he like
Speaker 2: said it out loud. I was like, Okay, well, at
Speaker 2: least you know that you.
Speaker 3: Need to get there, but not something to say on
Speaker 3: a date per se. I mean, you should actually say
Speaker 3: that to me. If that's the truth, let me go
Speaker 3: get my shit and go to the car right back.
Speaker 2: I shouldn't, I should haven't. But you know the woman
Speaker 2: in me is like, oh, you need to be loved, Like, oh,
Speaker 2: maybe you don't know you're misunderstood.
Speaker 1: You don't show you how good you are. You don't
Speaker 1: mean that.
Speaker 2: A nigga meant that. But yeah, I mean he was
Speaker 2: avoiding himself because he had all these projects and things
Speaker 2: he was trying to, you know, focus on That's what's
Speaker 2: his main goal is Like, and he was a father too,
Speaker 2: like making sure his kid was set up and he
Speaker 2: had to make sure that was how happening before he
Speaker 2: had the time to focus on himself. And like even
Speaker 2: parents like again, like we avoid ourselves so much and
Speaker 2: use our kids as reasons why we can't, you know,
Speaker 2: make self care and self love a priority, but it
Speaker 2: has to be. You're gonna be a shitty parent if
Speaker 2: you're not prioritizing that at all.
Speaker 3: You can't, Like just like you can't be in a
Speaker 3: romantic relationship without first like having love of self. It's
Speaker 3: usually not successful. It's the same with your kids. It
Speaker 3: will always come up. Your lack of love for yourself
Speaker 3: will always come up in other relationships because it's a
Speaker 3: projection of what's not the shit that's not being done inwardly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 4: So February we're talking about the love of self, and
Speaker 4: that so much comes with that, right, like treating yourself nice,
Speaker 4: taking care of yourself, taking yourself out on dates, having
Speaker 4: positive self talk.
Speaker 3: When you hear negative things come up, or there's just
Speaker 3: so many things. You know what I noticed last month
Speaker 3: because I do like to be around people, well, i'd
Speaker 3: like to be around people, and until I don't, then
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, no, you're talking so fucking much.
Speaker 1: Why did I allow this? That?
Speaker 3: Like It's made me more conscious, Like when I'm alone,
Speaker 3: I'm like this company, I like, I don't have to
Speaker 3: worry about anyone's saying talking too much. No one's talking
Speaker 3: at all, not even me. And if I want to
Speaker 3: talk to someone, I can call them and then I
Speaker 3: can I hang up, you know, and like I'm more
Speaker 3: conscious of it, Like as I work more, as my
Speaker 3: kid is getting older, I'm like, my time is really valuable,
Speaker 3: and like I don't want to hear anyone talk about
Speaker 3: a bunch of nothingness, Like you know, like if you're
Speaker 3: on the same level and like the conversation feels really good,
Speaker 3: but if you don't feel like moved by it, then
Speaker 3: it's you're forcing it and you're just wasting time that
Speaker 3: you could be thinking to yourself.
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 2: I mean it's hard though to break old habits and
Speaker 2: like I means, and like you should be around people,
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Speaker 1: Have perfected like they've perfected everything else.
Speaker 2: Everything. There's more Buddhist capricorn Buddhist capricorns.
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Speaker 2: But yeah, I think that it's an ever changing journey
Speaker 2: because the circumstances of your life are always changing, and
Speaker 2: it's like you know, finding refining that balance. And then
Speaker 2: also like teaching our kids self love. I mean, how
Speaker 2: we show our children, like early on how to love
Speaker 2: themselves and choose themselves first. And you know, especially as
Speaker 2: parents and for parents that like don't haven't never prioritize
Speaker 2: themselves and have never shown themselves self love and self
Speaker 2: care until later on in life when their children are
Speaker 2: already older, Like, how do you implement that and show
Speaker 2: them that? After that? I think about sometimes the things
Speaker 2: that like I might miss as a parent, I'm like,
Speaker 2: what am I going to miss? How do I undo it?
Speaker 2: Can I undo it? Is there way to undo it?
Speaker 2: Is there a course for that?
Speaker 3: You're gonna inflict some trauma somewhere, it's just inevitable. You
Speaker 3: just hope that it's on the lighter side. But like,
Speaker 3: I don't know if kids can come out without trauma,
Speaker 3: And I don't think it's possible, Like what are they
Speaker 3: gonna work on when they get older? Like all childhood
Speaker 3: comes with some form of trauma.
Speaker 1: It's the human experience. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think it's true.
Speaker 2: I think you might be right.
Speaker 1: Fuck, parents got divorced.
Speaker 3: Someone made fun of me at school, like there's always
Speaker 3: bound to be the shit of life.
Speaker 2: It's true.
Speaker 1: Okay, well.
Speaker 2: Okay, well.
Speaker 1: You stunned over there.
Speaker 2: But I was not thinking. I was just really thinking.
Speaker 2: I was like, how have I shown Iri, like how
Speaker 2: to choose herself or like self care and self love?
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess I show her through my own
Speaker 2: actions and trying to think, like what are some ways
Speaker 2: that we can teach her kids?
Speaker 3: Like I mean, I think we've done a pretty good job,
Speaker 3: Like we celebrate them. We get the massages for their
Speaker 3: kindergarten graduation. We take them on trips, like we go
Speaker 3: on trips alone, Like I think I do notice it.
Speaker 1: Lina thinks.
Speaker 3: I Like, She'll make comments like I need you need
Speaker 3: to work. I need to work, Like I know that
Speaker 3: she knows that's priority, like she needs to She's like,
Speaker 3: because you're working, you know, like she in her like
Speaker 3: in her talking to me, I can tell that I've
Speaker 3: prioritized it so so like she understands that. But like
Speaker 3: that it comes up a lot, like you're working, or
Speaker 3: you have to work, you had.
Speaker 2: To work, but.
Speaker 3: Today by the microwave, she told me, she's like, when
Speaker 3: I get older and you can come over to my
Speaker 3: house when I'm rich.
Speaker 1: I was like, yep. She's like, if I'm going to
Speaker 1: be rich, she can come to my house. I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're going to be rich. She's like, I'm going to
Speaker 1: be She's like that. I'm like, I guess we care
Speaker 1: about tangible things. We've talked about it rich, let's get rich.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think we've done it.
Speaker 3: I think there's always ways to do more, obviously and all,
Speaker 3: like you said, we're always finding balance, you know, but
Speaker 3: I'd try to let Luna like have her her space
Speaker 3: and what she needs, Like that's okay too, if you
Speaker 3: need to.
Speaker 1: Take time, if you want to, okay.
Speaker 3: I also think a part of like self love is
Speaker 3: being able to celebrate yourself, you know, Like I think
Speaker 3: I'm just trying to take this moment to celebrate us
Speaker 3: and to really like sit back on these last this
Speaker 3: journey of these two hundred episodes, almost four years of podcasting,
Speaker 3: where we went into like bright eyed and bushy tailed,
Speaker 3: and we didn't really have a goal.
Speaker 1: We're just like, let's just do it and like be
Speaker 1: good at it. We did. That was it.
Speaker 3: And then as it has, as it's evolved, it's evolved
Speaker 3: into so many fucking things, you know, like so many things.
Speaker 3: I was just having like a flashback of like all
Speaker 3: of our friends that we've gotten from here, and I
Speaker 3: was just like el Toedo scrambling into Nearland's wedding a
Speaker 3: little bit late.
Speaker 1: I was like, wow, would be.
Speaker 3: Yes, like just like Smaiya, you know, like Trapioga Bay
Speaker 3: like so harder soft, horrible Mandy, like we have such
Speaker 3: a cool pop in like structure and network of like
Speaker 3: of homies and friends because of this, and I'm just
Speaker 3: like it's such a whirlwind, and like we have merch
Speaker 3: and we have meetups, and we have fucking a cannabis
Speaker 3: line and we're publishing a book at the end of
Speaker 3: the year and we're hosting retreats and like it's just dope.
Speaker 3: It's really a cool thing to see grow and like
Speaker 3: really just have ideas like, oh, would be so cool
Speaker 3: we could write a book for all the moms.
Speaker 1: Like yeah, and then like, oh my god, we're writing
Speaker 1: a book for all the moms. We like, how the
Speaker 1: fuck did this happen?
Speaker 3: It'd be so cool if like moms had special weed,
Speaker 3: like weed.
Speaker 1: Just for moms.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, we are making weed for the moms,
Speaker 3: you know, like all these things we just talked about. Oh,
Speaker 3: it would be so cool if we could have like joe Beedden.
Speaker 3: Then I put podcast or like, oh what if this
Speaker 3: person on our podcast. I'm like, oh my god on
Speaker 3: the podcast, Eric Abadu Icamadu on the podcast. But just
Speaker 3: seeing like how hard work and dedication and love can
Speaker 3: really like fuel the funk out of some shit. And
Speaker 3: like literally like this podcast, this friendship, this partnership has
Speaker 3: really been green light for me to be like, bitch,
Speaker 3: you can do whatever you want to do?
Speaker 1: What do you want? What do you want? What do
Speaker 1: you want? We could?
Speaker 2: You could have it?
Speaker 1: Do you want that? You can have it? Literally?
Speaker 2: I feel I remember feeling so opposite of that, like God,
Speaker 2: and being so hard on myself, the lack of self
Speaker 2: love that I had for myself, even going back and
Speaker 2: because we're writing this book, reading my journals, and how
Speaker 2: hard I was on myself and not knowing my purpose
Speaker 2: and why haven't I Why haven't I mastered my craft?
Speaker 2: Why am I not? Like, you know, why am I
Speaker 2: not booking every fucking audition that I go on? Why
Speaker 2: am I?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 1: Why is she?
Speaker 2: You know I'm saying? And like to be here now?
Speaker 2: And I had that thought the other day where I
Speaker 2: was like, I literally can do anything, Like it's just
Speaker 2: a matter of like first of all time, and like
Speaker 2: what do I want to do? That's exactly the thought
Speaker 2: I had. I was like, what is it that I
Speaker 2: want to do? And I was like, honestly, like this
Speaker 2: partnership and this relationship and this friendship gave me so
Speaker 2: much confidence in that I needed you.
Speaker 1: I needed you absolutely. I was not feeling hopeful I
Speaker 1: was feeling.
Speaker 2: I wasn't I couldn't have I don't want say I
Speaker 2: couldn't have done it by.
Speaker 1: Myself, but I couldn't have done it by myself.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I wouldn't be here by myself. But
Speaker 2: like I really I did. I needed I still need
Speaker 2: your reassurance. Sometimes all the time, I'd be like, girl,
Speaker 2: let's just do this. She'd be like, no. I'm like, okay, fine,
Speaker 2: we're not you're not and then and vice versa, like
Speaker 2: we keep us, we keep chugging each other along.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, not today, bitch, not today. Come on, do
Speaker 1: you have any times I'd be.
Speaker 2: Like, I don't want to record. I don't, I don't
Speaker 2: have any mean, She's like, we're recording, bitch.
Speaker 1: I'm like okay, Like.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's almost as like, as soon as one
Speaker 3: person's somewhere else, it's at the right person at the
Speaker 3: right time, the other person is not at.
Speaker 1: The same place because somebody else.
Speaker 3: Needs to keep going, you know, like it's not always easy,
Speaker 3: but oh my god, it's fucking worth it. And and
Speaker 3: we're only in the beginning, you know, like this is
Speaker 3: only the beginning, bitch, I know, And there's so much
Speaker 3: more to to happen and.
Speaker 1: To be had.
Speaker 3: But like it's this like intentional, consistent journey in this
Speaker 3: like passion for this thing that no one really understood
Speaker 3: but us is like, yeah, it's beautiful and I'm proud.
Speaker 3: And it's just like podcasting is a gamble. It's like
Speaker 3: one of the motherfucking NBA.
Speaker 1: It ain't really guaranteed.
Speaker 3: It's like being a rapper, Like it's not guaranteed, my nigger,
Speaker 3: you're gonna be You're gonna be on Spotify now now. Yeah,
Speaker 3: Like it's it's run of the mill and it's a male,
Speaker 3: white dominated industry and and here we are, you know,
Speaker 3: top one percent ho Like we in here, we ain't
Speaker 3: going nowhere, and you know.
Speaker 1: Come fuck with us. That's how I feel.
Speaker 3: I feel like we, like I always say this, we
Speaker 3: put out like a sound alarm for all of our people,
Speaker 3: like all the cool moms, all the weld, all the
Speaker 3: people come come to us.
Speaker 1: We're here, and everyone came.
Speaker 3: Everyone who needed to understand us and who understood us
Speaker 3: found you know, came to our support and like has
Speaker 3: really leveraged this our existence in this space. And just
Speaker 3: for the record, I'm gonna just go ahead and say it.
Speaker 1: There's no one really in our lane because we made it.
Speaker 1: It's ours. You can't fuck with us because we in here.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's true.
Speaker 3: Like someone says something to me about like, oh something,
Speaker 3: your competition, I'm like, it's not my competition.
Speaker 1: What's that my competition? Girl?
Speaker 2: There is no competition. Why do they always want to
Speaker 2: do that?
Speaker 3: I know?
Speaker 2: So I don't mean like there's no topic competition, like
Speaker 2: there's no one better. I just mean like there's enough
Speaker 2: room for everybody, and no one is good moms, No
Speaker 2: one is Eric, and no one is Jamila, no one
Speaker 2: is that girl either. Like we are all on our
Speaker 2: own laying laying our own path, and don't ever think like,
Speaker 2: oh they already have this, this person has that, cause
Speaker 2: like that could have shut us down so many times.
Speaker 2: You know, I'm like there was a time where we
Speaker 2: started with like episode three. I'm like, looking at other
Speaker 2: podcasts episode hundred and fifty six, I was like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, do we have this in't us?
Speaker 1: Is this possible? How the fuck? And just like that.
Speaker 3: Episode two hundred, Amen, a man, commit to yourself, love yourself,
Speaker 3: and miracles will happen.
Speaker 1: I really believe.
Speaker 2: That yeah, I mean it's a it's a grind though.
Speaker 2: You have to really it's not easy self love. The
Speaker 2: journey in building anything worth it is not easy. You
Speaker 2: have to sacrifice.
Speaker 1: You have to.
Speaker 2: Show up every day even when you're not like thankfully,
Speaker 2: you know, maybe find if you need a partner, you
Speaker 2: need a partner like thank God, my partner would be like, no,
Speaker 2: we're doing it, and vice versa, like had it just
Speaker 2: been me, I don't would there would be no good
Speaker 2: moms honestly, And you just have to show up for
Speaker 2: yourself in the journey of becoming the best and higher
Speaker 2: version of you, whether that is a mother, the best
Speaker 2: motherfucking mom of all time, whether that's the best podcaster
Speaker 2: of all time, whether that's the best friend, the best daughter, whatever,
Speaker 2: Like it takes effort and the proof is.
Speaker 1: In the pin mm hmm. Yeah, it is.
Speaker 4: So congratulations to us, Congratulations to you.
Speaker 3: Hopefully next month we'll be having a four year anniversary.
Speaker 3: I know, Oh my god, Jesus four year anniversary will
Speaker 3: be coming up next month, so look out for that.
Speaker 3: We're definitely gonna celebrate with our community for sure. Do
Speaker 3: you need to do like East Coast, West Coast, like
Speaker 3: we do both. I know who I think I am Parker,
Speaker 3: I have to do both coasts.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I know, Damn.
Speaker 2: I would say, let's just do Zoom like relax. I'm
Speaker 2: just kidding. I want to be the I want to
Speaker 2: be in the mix with the peoples. But that's just
Speaker 2: the world we live in now.
Speaker 3: It may also be available on Zoom.
Speaker 2: Anything's available, anything's possible in the metaverse, you guys.
Speaker 3: I'm just so happy whatever we've been doing, and the
Speaker 3: started in the dining room that our kids thought it
Speaker 3: was so important that literally everywhere they go they tell.
Speaker 1: People we're famous.
Speaker 2: Honestly, shout out to our kids. They were really not
Speaker 2: the real writers of the podcast, really writing for us
Speaker 2: and being patient with us, because it is not easy
Speaker 2: doing anything with kids, let alone recording something where they
Speaker 2: you need people to be.
Speaker 1: Quiet, sound sensitive.
Speaker 2: I mean, we recorded a whole episode with Wheezy in
Speaker 2: the hotel room in New York with our kids in
Speaker 2: the room.
Speaker 3: They would put them in the closet and we put
Speaker 3: headphones on them and we said chill out, and then
Speaker 3: we proceeded to talk about me all types of stuff,
Speaker 3: receiving money for sex, and she was like, is this
Speaker 3: okay to talk about I'm like, they can't hear us,
Speaker 3: It's fine, keep talking.
Speaker 2: They couldn't, they really couldn't.
Speaker 3: And thank you for our audience for writing like the
Speaker 3: first two years because I'm pretty sure our kids were
Speaker 3: like three when we started.
Speaker 1: There was lots of interruptions.
Speaker 3: There was lots of there's children in the background, many
Speaker 3: times ships being eaten. We did not begin as professionals,
Speaker 3: you know, like you don't read.
Speaker 2: Them elevator music. We haven't hit the elevator music in
Speaker 2: a minute.
Speaker 3: We hit the elevated music. Because there was times where
Speaker 3: the kids needed tending to. We needed to eat a
Speaker 3: lot of times we gotta make dinner a beer back.
Speaker 1: We had them up late.
Speaker 2: We would record until like one in the morning sometimes
Speaker 2: because we had work and that was the only time
Speaker 2: we could.
Speaker 1: Record kids sleep, kids up.
Speaker 3: I mean that's when they didn't have school either. I
Speaker 3: mean we were like in the trenches, really getting shit
Speaker 3: done with small children a lot of times no help.
Speaker 3: They were babysitting each other. And you made that shit rock.
Speaker 2: That's crazy. We must have really loved We must really
Speaker 2: love this shit, bitch. We must really loved this shit,
Speaker 2: Like clearly was really lovely. I was just we like
Speaker 2: think I'm reflecting back on it, and it was like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I just did it. I just did it, and know
Speaker 2: it's like I knew this is what I want. I
Speaker 2: was just like, I don't even I wasn't even about
Speaker 2: I couldn't see into the future at all. It was
Speaker 2: just like, yeah, this is what I'm doing. We're gonna
Speaker 2: do it. We have to get it done. That was it.
Speaker 2: It feels good, I have to do this.
Speaker 3: How long had you sat on that idea before you
Speaker 3: asked me?
Speaker 2: Maybe like a week. It wasn't very long.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think she asked me after, like after
Speaker 3: I think it was after Luna's third birthday and like
Speaker 3: a couple like maybe you text me the next day
Speaker 3: or something, and I was like, or maybe you asked
Speaker 3: me at the party.
Speaker 2: I asked you at the party, and I was like, okay,
Speaker 2: I remember, because I was like it was kind of
Speaker 2: like all in one conversation. I was telling you about
Speaker 2: my couple. You were like doing Hostess with the mostes
Speaker 2: in your bathing suit with their like filowy thing. I
Speaker 2: don't know what was it, Princess, it was it was
Speaker 2: a princess theme. So I was you were like a
Speaker 2: princess stripper.
Speaker 1: Yeah, beautiful.
Speaker 2: I was like, wow, this is amazing. This is my
Speaker 2: new friend, this bitch with my new friend. Yeah, And
Speaker 2: I was telling you about them, and then I asked you,
Speaker 2: but I didn't even know.
Speaker 1: What it meant. I almost forgot that you asked me.
Speaker 3: I think the next day I was like thinking, I'm like, huh,
Speaker 3: she did ask me to do this thing with it,
Speaker 3: and you were like podcasts and I was like like radio.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, sure, if you're going to tell
Speaker 1: that story, we can do it. See only that's the circumstance.
Speaker 2: Wow, I think we recorded when I think we did
Speaker 2: like a a mini episode in my car.
Speaker 1: We did because we never really thought this through at all.
Speaker 3: So this is what we should put it on Patrion Okay,
Speaker 3: well she hasn't in her phone.
Speaker 1: I think you asked me.
Speaker 3: I said yeah, and then I think you text me
Speaker 3: or you called me like I think now we need
Speaker 3: a photo shoot and I was like okay, so we
Speaker 3: like we should go to the and then I think
Speaker 3: we talked like we talked about what the theme could be,
Speaker 3: and I was really on some old I was like
Speaker 3: we should be old timey, and I think we sat
Speaker 3: on the idea for like a week because we needed
Speaker 3: to come up with the name. It was like the
Speaker 3: name that was holding us back.
Speaker 1: It was like a week of names.
Speaker 3: We had one photo shoot. I think by that time
Speaker 3: we had bad Good Mom's Bad Choices. We knew there's
Speaker 3: any polarity in it, and that was very important.
Speaker 2: Well actually was parental advisory, Good Mom's Bad Choices.
Speaker 3: It was parental advisory, good Mom's Bad Choices. And we
Speaker 3: went to one. We did one photo shoot and then oh,
Speaker 3: in the car coming back from the vintage store, I
Speaker 3: was like, should we just like, do you a test run?
Speaker 2: And you're like okay, And that's when.
Speaker 3: It was yeah, and You're like I'm Erica and I
Speaker 3: was like I'm Mela, Like should be calling you Mila Jamila?
Speaker 1: I was like whatever, Okay.
Speaker 3: It wasn't very good, but that was the only time
Speaker 3: we ever tested the idea out.
Speaker 1: It was pretty dry.
Speaker 2: Actually, I'm going to go back and listen to that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, after this, even.
Speaker 2: Our first episode real, our first real episode.
Speaker 3: Our first real episode wasn't initially going to be in
Speaker 3: a real episode. I think we just decided to put
Speaker 3: it out because it was seemed good enough and we
Speaker 3: didn't think anyone was going to listen. I need to
Speaker 3: listen to that too. You guys should actually go back
Speaker 3: and listen to it. It's called sex Kids, Sex Kids
Speaker 3: and apps, Sex kids and Apps, and yeah, it's very Uh.
Speaker 2: I was just talking about complaining about Tinder or no.
Speaker 2: I was saying how much I loved Tender because I
Speaker 2: loved Tender for so long. Tender was like, I mean,
Speaker 2: I still fuck with Tender. Actually I'm not on it anymore,
Speaker 2: but it was it was a catalyst of so many
Speaker 2: experiences that really uh affirmed me and like showed me
Speaker 2: like so much shit too. I was like, damn, like
Speaker 2: I never would have I never would have met that couple,
Speaker 2: you know, I never would have had that experience, and
Speaker 2: that that particular experience shaped and validated so much of
Speaker 2: how I already felt, you know. So yeah, oh that's
Speaker 2: so cool.
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 3: I can't believe four years What the fuck that shit
Speaker 3: goes by quickly?
Speaker 1: Too? Kids are big as hell? Yeah, do you have
Speaker 1: anything to add?
Speaker 2: I don't think so.
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, thank you for all of you who have
Speaker 3: been listening, who are new to this journey, who have
Speaker 3: started from the beginning, who have come late and started
Speaker 3: from the beginning anyway, who get us, who don't judge us,
Speaker 3: who continue to keep this a safe space and support us,
Speaker 3: like we are genuinely, deeply, deeply grateful and we feel
Speaker 3: you you know wherever you're at, like what you know?
Speaker 3: We know our people and we're like always excited to
Speaker 3: connect with you guys and see our tribe grow. I'm
Speaker 3: and level up and level up together, grow and level
Speaker 3: up together. That's the purpose. That's the point. To use
Speaker 3: our magic wherever we're at, to be our truest self
Speaker 3: and be our best selves. Amen, because our cheuest selves
Speaker 3: are our best selves.
Speaker 1: Amen.
Speaker 2: All Right, I love well, you guys know where to
Speaker 2: find us good Mom's bad choices.
Speaker 1: Wait, did we do the taro? Oh? No?
Speaker 2: Should we do it here? The tarot is Okay, we're
Speaker 2: doing the end of the episode taro. It's tarot time.
Speaker 1: It's tarot time. I thought you're gonna do taro today,
Speaker 1: I am doing. Okay. Today's card is.
Speaker 2: The King of One's the King of ones. So the
Speaker 2: King of Ones is it's a great card. Actually, the
Speaker 2: King of Wands represents pure fire energy in its masculine form.
Speaker 2: Unlike the other Ones cards, the King is not so
Speaker 2: interested in creation and creativity, or in dreaming up ideas
Speaker 2: and implementing themselves instead and implementing them himself. Instead, he
Speaker 2: is more inclined to take the idea and then enlist
Speaker 2: others to help him actualize it. M let's see. Oh wait,
Speaker 2: hold on, maybe I'm not good at this or did
Speaker 2: I skip something?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: Upright? Natural born leader, vision, entrepreneur, honor Others naturally gravitate
Speaker 2: towards the King of Ones because you are charismatic, focused
Speaker 2: and determined, and they believe in you and your vision.
Speaker 2: They want to be part of what you are manifesting
Speaker 2: and are here to support you one hundred percent of
Speaker 2: the way. You are so masterful at getting other people
Speaker 2: to do your work for you while keeping them on
Speaker 2: side throughout the process. The King of One reminds you
Speaker 2: to lead your life with intent, vision and a long
Speaker 2: term view. You have a grand idea of what is
Speaker 2: truly possible, and you will stop at nothing to see
Speaker 2: it through. You achieve a lot because you are clear
Speaker 2: about future direction and how you will get there, and
Speaker 2: do not waste your time on activities or relationships you
Speaker 2: believe will lead nowhere. You never just go with the flow. Instead,
Speaker 2: you prefer to embark on a direct, robust course of action,
Speaker 2: and you are inspired by long term, sustainable success wanting
Speaker 2: to have a lasting impact. You are here to leave
Speaker 2: a legacy.
Speaker 1: Well, dear, that says a lot boom.
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Speaker 1: what I say.
Speaker 2: This is our most structured and organized year ever. So
Speaker 2: also we're leading with intent. I think we do go
Speaker 2: with the flow. I do.
Speaker 3: We are flowy bitches, but we're direct on what the
Speaker 3: flow and we want need to happen.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're Yeah, we've chosen which direction we're going for sure. Well, anyway,
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