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Speaker 1: First Day to follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Evan is on the phone today for our first dight

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Ruby. So in

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Speaker 2: a few minutes we'll call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: a second day. But first, Evan, how long has it,

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Speaker 2: Vinceince you heard from Ruby?

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Speaker 3: It's been about four days?

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's too bad. Yeah, have you hit her up

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Speaker 1: a bunch in that time?

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Speaker 3: I did try a couple of times. Yeah, I don't

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Speaker 3: want to over do it, but reached out and definitely

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Speaker 3: got nothing back.

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Speaker 1: Okay, And you feel like that's weird, Like you feel

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Speaker 1: like four days is a long time? Did not hear

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Speaker 1: from her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we're kind of hitting it off, so it is

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Speaker 3: out of the ordinary.

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Speaker 1: Well, tell us about your date.

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Speaker 3: Well, Ruby and I went to rooftop Bar, and you know,

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Speaker 3: I had the best view of the city. It was

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Speaker 3: it was her idea. Actually it was super cool. You know,

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Speaker 3: I can't really beat it. For our first days, this

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Speaker 3: great great place, grabed drinks, shared a charcoterie board, and

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Speaker 3: you know our conversation was just really easy, natural. The

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Speaker 3: vibe was laid back and plenty of kind of flirty moments.

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Speaker 3: She's hilarious, you know, We're making each other laugh the

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Speaker 3: whole night, and they were just sparked, you know, the

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Speaker 3: kind you can't bake. We ended up taking a walk

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Speaker 3: after and because they were both a little buzzed, and

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Speaker 3: before we said good night, there are a few kisses

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Speaker 3: and yeah, you know, it's just a kind of date

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Speaker 3: you never want to stop.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, why do you think you're hitting? Ghosted?

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Speaker 1: Then?

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Speaker 3: Honestly really confused. You know, we were texting NonStop for

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Speaker 3: two days after so things are you know, they felt

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Speaker 3: promising and then nothing, it just stopped.

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Speaker 1: So wait, you went on the date and you ended

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Speaker 1: up hearing from her after the date.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, after the date for about two days and then

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Speaker 3: it stopped.

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Speaker 2: Right, could be something you texted?

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Speaker 3: I don't think so. I mean I don't think it was.

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Speaker 3: I did text her a pick of me, like in

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Speaker 3: the bathroom with a towel on and the tease, like

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Speaker 3: I thought it would be harmless.

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Speaker 2: Okay, is that the last time you were from her?

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Speaker 3: I believe so.

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Speaker 1: Id sripp And if I got ghosted after that.

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Speaker 3: She was teasing me about having abs, so I just

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Speaker 3: decided to show her. You know, I don't know, maybe

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Speaker 3: it was too much. It wasn't like a pick or anything.

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Speaker 2: You know, do you have abs? Or was joking around

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Speaker 2: me and like check out mine, but you don't have them?

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Speaker 3: You know I have abs? Yeah, I mean I just

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Speaker 3: wanted to prove myself.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that could be it. So was a selfie?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean if.

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Speaker 2: You stop talking to you right after that, then that

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Speaker 2: probably it probably has something to do with that.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I mean, I don't think it was

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Speaker 3: that bad or racy or anything.

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Speaker 1: But what did you say when you send the picture

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Speaker 1: of yourself in a towel?

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Speaker 3: Nothing much, just that I think I've put like a

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Speaker 3: little blurb like you know here proved for something like

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Speaker 3: along those lines.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, we'll see if we can help you out

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Speaker 2: with then then. I mean, it is kind of strange

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Speaker 2: that she was stop talking to you right after that,

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Speaker 2: so that might be the reason. But we'll play a

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Speaker 2: song come back and see if we can get you

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Speaker 2: a second date in your first Day follow up next

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Speaker 2: in the middle of today's First DA follow up, if

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Speaker 2: you're just joining us. Evan is on the phone and

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Speaker 2: he's getting ghosted by Ruby. So we're about to call

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Speaker 2: her and see if she tell us why she's ghosting

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Speaker 2: him and hopefully get him a second date. But first, Evan,

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Speaker 2: why don't you break down your date for us one

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Speaker 2: more time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So we had a lot of great moments on

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Speaker 3: our date, bark flew. Everything was perfect. So we had

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Speaker 3: a connection. And you know, two days after the date,

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Speaker 3: I've not heard from her.

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Speaker 1: And the last thing that you sent her was, let's

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Speaker 1: not forget this part, a picture of yourself in the

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Speaker 1: bathroom and a towel.

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Speaker 3: I did send her my ab.

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Speaker 2: All right, well, are you ready to see if that's

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Speaker 2: the reason you're getting ghosted?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. I'm gonna call her right now,

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Speaker 2: him aspeaking to Ruby. Please, Hey Ruby, how are you?

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Speaker 2: This is a radio show, it's called the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 1: Hi Ruby. My name is Nina.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria and I'm Jebel.

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Speaker 3: How are you.

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Speaker 4: Okay? I'm I'm good.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 3: I have?

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Speaker 2: Nope? Thank you? Well, what if I told you that

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Speaker 2: you were the star of a first eight follow up

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Speaker 2: right now? Oh god, yeah, we got an email about

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Speaker 2: you from somebody that you're ghosting, and they don't know why.

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Speaker 2: You know who emails.

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Speaker 4: I'm pretty sure it's probably Evan.

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Speaker 2: You're a very smart Evan told us about your date,

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Speaker 2: said that he really liked you, thought you guys had

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Speaker 2: an awesome time, but you texted her a little while after,

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Speaker 2: and then you just ghosted him, and he wants to

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Speaker 2: know what's up? Would you mind telling us?

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Speaker 4: I mean, like, look, I really I thought Evan was

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Speaker 4: great and we had an amazing time. But then after

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Speaker 4: my date, my friend showed me something and it just

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Speaker 4: it kind of killed the vibe for me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, what was it?

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Speaker 5: Okay, So I tested my friend the picture of Evan

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Speaker 5: when we were on the base because she wanted me

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Speaker 5: what to look like. And then the next night she

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Speaker 5: sends me a picture of him with some other girl,

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Speaker 5: like literally the night after we went on the date,

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Speaker 5: and then she was at another bar and they were

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Speaker 5: making out.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, you've got it wrong, Evan. He's

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Speaker 2: actually on the phone and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, I mean like, yeah, okay, I knew,

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Speaker 4: I guess I knew this was com.

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Speaker 3: Oh man, hi, hi, h Look, you've got it all wrong.

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Speaker 5: It's not no, no, even you were literally in the picture.

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Speaker 5: I mean, it's not hard to recognize someone when you

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Speaker 5: were just right there.

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Speaker 3: You know. Oh okay, Yeah it happened, but it's not

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Speaker 3: what you think. Like she's she's someone I've been cooking

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Speaker 3: going to tell her it was over because I wanted

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Speaker 3: to focus on you that night, and I just I

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Speaker 2: So you were, oh with someone else right after your

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Speaker 2: day making out with her?

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Speaker 5: Technically, yeah, Agan, you were just with me and then

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Speaker 5: you just go and make out with someone else.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I understand people date multiple people, but it

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Speaker 4: just it felt wrong to me.

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Speaker 3: I swear, I swear, I'm done with her. I'm not

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Speaker 3: seeing anyone else.

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Speaker 1: I like you.

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Speaker 3: I was going to tell her that the next day,

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Speaker 3: but it was like, it wasn't like that anymore. Like

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Speaker 3: you're the one that I want to date.

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Speaker 1: Did you tell her that?

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Speaker 3: I told her?

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Speaker 1: I mean, I wouldn't want to see a picture of

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Speaker 1: the dude that I just want to date with, mix

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Speaker 1: like messing around with somebody else. Again, Like she said,

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Speaker 1: I get people are dating other people, but if I

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Speaker 1: don't know, I wouldn't feel good about that either. I

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Speaker 1: just would have too many questions.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, like are you just saying that like you want

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Speaker 4: to date me? Or like did you hook up with

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Speaker 4: her that night? You know that's just powerful to me?

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Speaker 3: Will you hook up at her? Yeah? But it was

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Speaker 3: it was just like a last like last brown type

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Speaker 3: of thing. I swear I told her about you at

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Speaker 3: that point, and that was the last time you.

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Speaker 2: Told her after you hooked up.

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Speaker 3: You're hooked up when.

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Speaker 4: You're after you told her about me?

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Speaker 3: Like seriously, No, I told her about you after I

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Speaker 3: hooked up.

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Speaker 1: With herful, Yeah that's true.

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Speaker 5: Okay, so you hooked up with her after you told

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Speaker 5: her about me? Like seriously, no, I hooked up with

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Speaker 5: her and then I told her about you. It's but

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Speaker 5: that's because things it's so different with you, Like we've

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Speaker 5: been on one date. It's not like I cheated on

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Speaker 5: you or anything. I was just I was trying to

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Speaker 5: do the right thing. I mean, it would have been

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Speaker 5: better if you told her before and didn't hook up.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I get that, but it was, you know, it

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Speaker 3: was just kind of desperate and dead. I didn't get

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Speaker 3: to see you, and you know, I was just trying

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Speaker 4: I mean, if we were to date and you didn't

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Speaker 4: see me, you can't hook up with other people.

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Speaker 3: I'm not trying to do that. I swear.

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Speaker 1: It's kind of tricky because he kind of does have

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Speaker 1: a point. He is trying to do the right thing,

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Speaker 1: like he didn't cheat on anybody, and she's out of

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Speaker 1: the picture.

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Speaker 2: Now, Ruby, would you like to go on a second

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Speaker 2: date with Evan? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 4: I mean, Evan, are there any other people I need

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Speaker 4: to know about?

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Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, well yes, but we're going to text

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Speaker 3: them and let them know I'm not available via text.

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Speaker 3: I'm not going to meet up with them. I will

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Speaker 3: show you the text.

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Speaker 2: What do you think, Ruby, it sounds like serious?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, like honestly, we did just go in

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Speaker 5: one date and it was like a really really good date.

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Speaker 5: But I swear to God, Evan, if any of my

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Speaker 5: friends send me more pictures of you out with other women,

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Speaker 5: you're gonna wish that I was just ghosting you.

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Speaker 3: It will be very large promise you'll never see that again.

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Speaker 3: I don't want to to ever meet that side of

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Speaker 3: you again.

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Speaker 4: Okay, sure, all right, we'll go out again.

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Speaker 1: Are you happy?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you, you're welcome.

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Speaker 1: First date,