WEBVTT - Ep 353: Reunited And It Feels So Good

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<v Speaker 1>Sing take it away so awkward.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, hey, yes we're back. We're black brown and this

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<v Speaker 2>should and this should should should many and are.

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<v Speaker 1>Back in the black. Kelly is so happy to have

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<v Speaker 1>her Beyonce back because singing lead vocal on our opening

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<v Speaker 1>track and the QA, I'm like some honky who I

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<v Speaker 1>like that word hoky. I'm gonna use that little ox.

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<v Speaker 1>But so good to have you back. You've been going

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<v Speaker 1>for a minute, girl, I'm still technically gone.

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<v Speaker 2>This is that like brown ambition, but like I still

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<v Speaker 2>have one more week off of my sabbatical where I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>Doing nothing and you stay true to it, like you're

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<v Speaker 1>taking March off. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, The next one is August. I was gonna take

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<v Speaker 2>December off, but I have like a project I don't

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<v Speaker 2>even know. Well, maybe i'll let you guys in on

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<v Speaker 2>a news So I have the workbook version of Kicker

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<v Speaker 2>Money coming out later on this year. But so because

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<v Speaker 2>it's later on this year, I will not be able

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<v Speaker 2>to take December off, which I'm like, yeah, so, but

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<v Speaker 2>I'll take August off, but I'll be here in December.

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<v Speaker 1>Well who needs January?

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<v Speaker 2>I know, because you know, when you drop something, you

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<v Speaker 2>need to at least plan them in the two months

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<v Speaker 2>after that you're gonna be going hard on like book promotion. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so probably won't be like February, so I'm like, but whatever. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>how was Costa Rica Rica?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? It was amazing. It felt like a dream. We

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<v Speaker 1>left Homeboy at home with my mom shout out love

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<v Speaker 1>it at homeboy. Homeboy was at home, and there was

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<v Speaker 1>a twinge of guilt, but honestly, like we needed that.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't realize how badly we needed to just be

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<v Speaker 1>the two of us. We have not done anything like

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<v Speaker 1>that since before Rio was born. Twenty nineteen, we went

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<v Speaker 1>to Portugal for our baby moon. That was the last

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<v Speaker 1>time we were like alone on a trip because you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the pandemonium and all that, and it was divine. And

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<v Speaker 1>the beauty of like knowing your partner for a decade

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<v Speaker 1>plus is that you stop expecting them to travel the

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<v Speaker 1>way that you want to travel. So we we had

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<v Speaker 1>like the perfect Mandy like Manrique version of resort that

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<v Speaker 1>we chose. It was like natury and boutiqued. It wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>too big, it wasn't you know, which is not Enrique style,

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<v Speaker 1>but it still had like pools and the little beach

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<v Speaker 1>for me because I want to be in the sun

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<v Speaker 1>for hours. And I was with a hat on. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna say, because.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't look because you get brown, browner like you

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<v Speaker 2>not as brown as you look normally.

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<v Speaker 1>I know my nose got a little red the first

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<v Speaker 1>day and I got scurred.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, the black part was not gonna come through. You're like,

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<v Speaker 2>hold on, I don't know my daddy's part's gonna do.

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<v Speaker 1>Irish. Mandy was a Mandabella. She she came to It's

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<v Speaker 1>the first ten of the year. Is rough, okay, The

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<v Speaker 1>Costa Rican sun's a little intense, yes, So I wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>trying to to bake myself to crisp. But it was

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<v Speaker 1>just lovely. We just did nothing, but you know, really

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<v Speaker 1>stay at the resort and eat really well and have conversations.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so weird. And I remember and my husband

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<v Speaker 1>like he opened up in a way he's a cancer

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<v Speaker 1>and he's just who he is. But the way that

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<v Speaker 1>he opened up at a certain point in our vacation,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I've been waiting for.

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<v Speaker 2>This, Oh yeah, because you know it was such a

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<v Speaker 2>super sensitive but quiet yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And like you know when you're with someone like that.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to like fill in the blanks of like

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<v Speaker 1>what they're thinking and all that, and don't be too

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<v Speaker 1>put Remember we talked about the credit score thing and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, you better give me your credit score.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't love me. He's like, back off, this is

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<v Speaker 1>not how I operate. Anyway. It was just it was lovely.

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<v Speaker 1>It was bittersweet to come home. Obviously we both missed

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<v Speaker 1>Rio so much. But I'm already thinking about where we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to go next on a little like solo Husbane

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<v Speaker 1>wifey Vak. But okay, much, I wasn't as good as you.

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<v Speaker 1>I did not stay off of the internet. I still

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<v Speaker 1>check my email.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I'll say, I check my personal email. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>checked like, you know, the Budgeanista dot com or let

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<v Speaker 2>me the budget.

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<v Speaker 1>Well let me, I was about to tell y'all girl.

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<v Speaker 2>By anyway, I did check my guest I know, but

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<v Speaker 2>so yeah, so I checked that and I did do like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, some personal stuff. I was like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 2>finally fitished my trust. It almost took like a year

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<v Speaker 2>and a half, which is honestly pretty normal. Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 2>there's all this back and forth, back and forth, back

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<v Speaker 2>and four key you ad this and then so I finally, well,

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<v Speaker 2>let me not say it's finished. The written component is

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<v Speaker 2>finished because with the trust, it's actually not done until

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<v Speaker 2>you fund it and you sign it. And so for me,

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<v Speaker 2>I you know, so I'm waiting for Tony Tony Moore,

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<v Speaker 2>my attorney, super dope black woman attorney.

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<v Speaker 1>We love her.

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<v Speaker 2>And so she just sent me the final I sent Itologeally,

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<v Speaker 2>my financial advisor, to review, and there was just one

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<v Speaker 2>last component when it came to the kids. So the

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<v Speaker 2>kids are like anybody who I'm going to be leaving

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<v Speaker 2>something to under the age of twenty one, So that's

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<v Speaker 2>Alyssa Roman and my nephew, Amelia my niece, Lily my niece.

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<v Speaker 2>And initially I left my siblings as the beneficiaries to

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<v Speaker 2>those accounts that I've been setting aside for the kids.

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<v Speaker 2>But then I thought about it, and just after Jarelle

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<v Speaker 2>passed away and some things happened, and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I said, I want to make sure that the person

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<v Speaker 2>that I leave the money to it goes to them

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<v Speaker 2>and so and Tony knew that. So she was like,

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<v Speaker 2>Tiffany asked, Angelie, this is why it's important to have

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<v Speaker 2>You're gonna have financial advisor. And it turned that they're

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<v Speaker 2>all talking together because Tony knew that, and she said,

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<v Speaker 2>ask ANGELI, who's the beneficiaries on those accounts? And I

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<v Speaker 2>had not thought about it because it's been a while

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<v Speaker 2>when I open them, and she was like, I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>the kids, And Tony's like, remember what you said, not

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<v Speaker 2>the kids, your siblings, you know, remember what you said.

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<v Speaker 2>She was like, we can have the kids be the

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<v Speaker 2>beneficiaries and we can have it in the trust that

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<v Speaker 2>they did not get access to their money to their

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<v Speaker 2>twenty five And I was like, okay, because that was

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<v Speaker 2>something important to me too that I don't believe that

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<v Speaker 2>you know, well, typically the state whoever will hold the

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<v Speaker 2>money for them until they're eighteen, but I think that's

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<v Speaker 2>too young, and so I wanted, like, okay, twenty five.

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<v Speaker 2>And so that was the last component of the trust.

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<v Speaker 2>So now I just have to update beneficiaries to everything

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<v Speaker 2>to go into the trust. I have to actually put

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<v Speaker 2>I have this home that I live in now, and

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<v Speaker 2>I have the condo that I just bought. I have

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<v Speaker 2>to change the title to the trust.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So like so basically I have to fund the trust

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<v Speaker 2>with the things I want in there that if something

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<v Speaker 2>were to happen to me, it would go to the

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<v Speaker 2>people who were part of the trust without having to

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<v Speaker 2>go through probate or anything like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Interesting, So you're gonna fund it already, yes, So it's

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<v Speaker 1>not like if I have so much when I'm gone,

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<v Speaker 1>it's this percentage of that or whatever. You have to

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<v Speaker 1>literally fund it now, yes, because and then can you

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<v Speaker 1>add to it or you to add to it?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So like if I buy another property, or like

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<v Speaker 2>if I, you know, like have a bank account that's

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<v Speaker 2>part of the trust, I can put that money there

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<v Speaker 2>or I can have Basically, you make the trust the beneficiary.

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<v Speaker 2>Like normally, when I was like twenty one, my mom

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<v Speaker 2>was my beneficiary and everything, cause I'm like I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know my mom, you know. And so now it's like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>Tiffany's Trust is the beneficiary of everything. So on my

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<v Speaker 2>bank accounts to Tiffany's Trust, my home Tiffany's Trust, everything.

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<v Speaker 2>So if something happens to me, you know, the trust

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<v Speaker 2>continues to hold what it already was holding, and the

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<v Speaker 2>people of the trust will get access to those assets

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<v Speaker 2>based upon my instructions. You know, like for example, God

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<v Speaker 2>forbid something happens to me. Before my parents passed away,

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<v Speaker 2>it didn't make sense to me for them for me

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<v Speaker 2>to leave them a percentage of my assets, so I

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<v Speaker 2>just left them a lump sum that was a good

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<v Speaker 2>lump sum. Like my mom gets the same lump sum,

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<v Speaker 2>my dad gets the same lump sum. Because then then

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<v Speaker 2>the rest is really divided by my sisters, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>because I no longer so I left also two like

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<v Speaker 2>the kids alyssa Moment, Me, Amelia, Lily, they all get

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<v Speaker 2>these lump sums. But really what's leftover gets divided evenly

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<v Speaker 2>by my sisters. And then if I get married or

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<v Speaker 2>whatever later I don't know, then I would just you know,

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<v Speaker 2>relook at But as it is right now, that's what happens.

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<v Speaker 2>What's great about that is that with a trust, all

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<v Speaker 2>these things happen behind closed doors. Like let's just say

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<v Speaker 2>I leave you know, fifty million dollars in assets. No

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<v Speaker 2>one will know because a trust allows you to navigate

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<v Speaker 2>behind closed doors, and it allows people not to say

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<v Speaker 2>that you will inherit without having to pay taxes, but

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<v Speaker 2>it helps you with the potential to greatly reduce your

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<v Speaker 2>tax burden, you know. So you know that's so but

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<v Speaker 2>it's a long process depending on how many assets, because

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<v Speaker 2>I have to decide what do I want to have

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<v Speaker 2>with the business. So the budgetista, I mean, I am

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<v Speaker 2>the budgetista, so I put it in there. You would

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<v Speaker 2>have to sell it, you know, because you know I

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<v Speaker 2>think that like I have like you know, like it.

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<v Speaker 2>So basically like I have to really decide what do

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<v Speaker 2>I want to happen with all assets. Because I thought

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<v Speaker 2>to myself, you know, thanks Jerrell and I had talked

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<v Speaker 2>about so much of his finances, so I would say

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<v Speaker 2>eighty percent. I was pretty clear about what he wanted.

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<v Speaker 2>But I didn't want my family to have to guess

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<v Speaker 2>because you know, Durrell had what I call normal people finances.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I have all these random businesses, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>just like, so, what do you want to happen? And

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want them to have to guess and tussle,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, and you always say like, oh, my

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<v Speaker 2>family wouldn't, but you don't know, you know, grief brings

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<v Speaker 2>out weird things in people, and I just didn't want to,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. So it's just a little relief that like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, if something happens also too, It's like I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to tell my family if I'm not capable of

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<v Speaker 2>making decisions for myself because I'm heart in some way,

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<v Speaker 2>this is who I want to make those Here's who

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<v Speaker 2>I want separate to make like I have my my

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<v Speaker 2>sister Karen. Her husband is is a medical doctor, and

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<v Speaker 2>I said, he's actually a disease and infectious disease like specialists.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I was like, I want her to make

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<v Speaker 2>my health choices, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And then Tracy, I want her than just a financial

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<v Speaker 1>person because you can separate whole kit in kaboodle, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>grown up what I was.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, for Tracy, I want her to make

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<v Speaker 2>these chores. And then for this I want because I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to know. Oh my gosh, when I tell you,

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<v Speaker 2>because the truth death, I've been ninety percent financially wholed

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<v Speaker 2>for a long time. This was the last ten percent

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<v Speaker 2>where I'm like, Tiffany, you're a state plan is not

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<v Speaker 2>planned out, you know, like if something happens, you will

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<v Speaker 2>literally leave your family in just such disarray because you

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<v Speaker 2>just have a lot going on and it's a lot

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<v Speaker 2>for someone to figure out. And I'm sure I've not

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<v Speaker 2>thought of every single thing. But if I can get

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<v Speaker 2>ninety five percent, you know, and so they can be like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>at least we know this and we have candid conversations,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. I remember when I was telling my sister Tracy, like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I leave you in charge of making these

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<v Speaker 2>and she's like, oh, I don't want to hear. I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, you have to hear it, because I want

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<v Speaker 2>you to know. And I told the other sisters too,

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<v Speaker 2>so it's not like, well, what did Tiffany say, Well,

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<v Speaker 2>remember she told us this, you know, and so yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so I bet I feel and then I made it,

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<v Speaker 2>like you know, y'all know are already. I got my

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<v Speaker 2>parents to update their will from when we were like ten.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, Daddy, this will says that I will

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<v Speaker 2>go to uncle such and such if something happens to you,

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm forty.

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<v Speaker 1>Three, Uncle's coming exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>So they finally updated their will, which is great. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm glad to be back. Like y'all know, I

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<v Speaker 2>went to I don't know if you know, but I

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<v Speaker 2>went to Egypt for the first two weeks of my mom.

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<v Speaker 1>That slip, and I wasn't sure but it was yes, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>But no, no, that's fine. But it was mean because

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<v Speaker 2>like the likelihood. Although I did meet some I was

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<v Speaker 2>lily walking. This woman was like, I know you are

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to freak out. Yes at the pyramids.

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<v Speaker 1>You word Africa though, so you know it was so cute.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like what she was like, Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>I love you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, that was so.

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<v Speaker 2>Cute, wonderful, but it was Egypt was top three vacations

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<v Speaker 2>I've ever taken. I know, I told you I loved

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<v Speaker 2>Kenya and I did. Kenya was amazing, amazing, amazing, but

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<v Speaker 2>Kenya was like amazing in the space of like the now.

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<v Speaker 2>Egypt was like literally opening up your history book and

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<v Speaker 2>jumping into remember the Magic school Bus with.

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<v Speaker 1>Me's frizzle.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, it literally felt like I'm inside the Magic school Bus,

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<v Speaker 2>like experiencing like is this a pyramid? It is a pyramid,

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<v Speaker 2>like I can touch it, I can sit on it.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the sphinx. I can look at it. I

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<v Speaker 2>can I mean just to I cannot describe what it

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<v Speaker 2>is to like know that like literally, this is not

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<v Speaker 2>hundreds of years ago. These things were built thousands and

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<v Speaker 2>thousands of thousands of years ago, and there were people

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<v Speaker 2>who built this with such mathematical precision that it's lined

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<v Speaker 2>up with the sun and the stars and the moon.

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<v Speaker 2>And not only just that, not just mathematical precision, but

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<v Speaker 2>artistic precision. I mean to see, like I just it

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<v Speaker 2>is literally mind blowing how much is left behind that

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<v Speaker 2>you think to yourself, like, yo, you think your house

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<v Speaker 2>is gonna be here in fifty years? Probably not. This

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<v Speaker 2>is five thousand years old? What type of material.

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<v Speaker 1>By you guys? Use it?

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<v Speaker 2>Can you imagine that they're still here for us to see?

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<v Speaker 2>And so much, you know, so much has been lost,

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<v Speaker 2>but so much has been you know, preserved. And what

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<v Speaker 2>I love too about Egypt is that you can reach

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<v Speaker 2>out and touch history. I feel like if you go

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<v Speaker 2>to like Mount Rushmore, you can't touch the statues, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>but here you can like touch the pyramid. It's allowed,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, Like you can go inside the pyramids, it's allowed.

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<v Speaker 2>So I love how hands on the history is in Egypt.

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<v Speaker 2>So we spent like we went to like it was

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<v Speaker 2>two weeks, So we spent about three or four days

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<v Speaker 2>and like four different locations, and so one of my

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<v Speaker 2>favorites was this place called Aschuon, which is like the

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<v Speaker 2>Hamptons of Egypt.

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<v Speaker 1>It was gorgeous, the hand one of Egypt, the Hamptons.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like the super fell posh, you know, but

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<v Speaker 2>it was gorgeous and beautiful. We did like a three

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<v Speaker 2>or four day cruise on the River Nile and like this,

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<v Speaker 2>like I call the river boat. Oh yeah, so it was.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't like it wasn't like the size of like

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<v Speaker 2>you know, a carnival cruise, but it wasn't like the

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<v Speaker 2>super small boat. So I just called the river boat.

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<v Speaker 2>But to cruise the Nile, to see the sunset and

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<v Speaker 2>sunrise on the Nile, oh my god. And then we went.

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<v Speaker 2>I sent you those pictures made of hot air balloon

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<v Speaker 2>riding and luxor which is really beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, it looked like.

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<v Speaker 2>A story book.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you have to get up at the crack of dawn? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>it was. We were so tired. We had to get

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<v Speaker 1>three ah Turkey and husband. That was our first trip

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<v Speaker 1>together and he was like, bitch, I'm not kidding us.

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<v Speaker 1>We joined the balloons.

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<v Speaker 2>But it was so worth it. So because I did

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<v Speaker 2>I did hot air blue writing in like Albuquerque, New Mexico,

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<v Speaker 2>which is actually the hotter ballute capital of the world.

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<v Speaker 2>But this was so worth it because you do a

0:14:35.480 --> 0:14:39.160
<v Speaker 2>hot air balloon over the ancient ruins, you know, and

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<v Speaker 2>it just honestly, it was just such an amazing trip.

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<v Speaker 2>And I encourage everyone to Egypt. If it's not on

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<v Speaker 2>your bucket list, it ought to be, whether your history

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<v Speaker 2>buff or not. It's just this amazing, miraculous like it

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<v Speaker 2>is the it is the seat of civilization, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like literally like this is where it all started and

0:14:59.400 --> 0:15:01.080
<v Speaker 2>you could feel and see it. But I will say,

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<v Speaker 2>if you do go to Egypt, it is not a

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna go by myself or I'm gonna go without

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<v Speaker 2>guided assistance. Certainly not that's super bustling, like Cairo is

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<v Speaker 2>like New York on steroids. I mean, Cairo is like

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<v Speaker 2>New York Times twenty honestly, super busy, super hustle, energy,

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<v Speaker 2>super go go go so and you just want to

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<v Speaker 2>be like safe. So I encourage people to go, Like

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<v Speaker 2>I went with the tour, which was really great, and so.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna ask that must have taken a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>the pressure off. Yeah, Plus you get the it's like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to go to Egypt and not have

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<v Speaker 1>someone telling me what I'm looking at. Yes, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>because like I feel like I will waste because everything

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<v Speaker 1>is historical. Yes, yeah, that's amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>It was yeah, and it's like so honestly, but this

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<v Speaker 2>whole Sabbatico has been awesome.

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<v Speaker 3>I love.

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<v Speaker 2>I know everyone is not able, but if you are

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<v Speaker 2>able to take a weekend a week I'm taking this

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<v Speaker 2>month and you know, August, I won't be able to

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<v Speaker 2>take December, like I said, but that's okay, but like

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<v Speaker 2>to take time away and it's not like to take

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<v Speaker 2>time away for everything, and you know, like I still

0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:03.840
<v Speaker 2>have to go food chopping, pay bill, you know, but

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<v Speaker 2>meaning like one of the best things was being on

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<v Speaker 2>social media. I can't tell you how free it is

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<v Speaker 2>not to know where everybody's up to every second of

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<v Speaker 2>the day. I mean, because you don't think about your like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm wondering if such just has had the baby, how

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<v Speaker 2>such is us?

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<v Speaker 3>Dog?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even know these people. How am I keeping

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<v Speaker 2>up with Yola? Everyone is a Kardashian, I didn't. You

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<v Speaker 2>don't realize how much people's lives I was keeping up

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<v Speaker 2>with until I wasn't. And I'm just keeping up with

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<v Speaker 2>the lives of the people who are central to my life,

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<v Speaker 2>my sisters, my friends. But you know, like a few

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<v Speaker 2>people hit me up, like my friends were like, girl,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm waiting for the Egypt pictures on Instagram. I said,

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<v Speaker 2>you will continue to wait. I'm not posting them, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe months from now maybe if I feel like it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I get the advanced copy like somebody I didn't many.

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<v Speaker 2>He was I don't care about at last sent me

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<v Speaker 2>my picks and so but I did because but that's

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<v Speaker 2>there was a connectedness with sharing it with my sister

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<v Speaker 2>group chat. Like literally, I have a group chat with

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<v Speaker 2>my four sisters with my friend who asked because I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't want to take pictures with the end of posting

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<v Speaker 2>it for social media in mind, I just wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>enjoy Egypt and take pictures because it was fine. Although

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<v Speaker 2>I was slaying like maybe a special dress.

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<v Speaker 1>Just you'll see them because the world deserves the world

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<v Speaker 1>needs it deserves. Are you gonna get one? Get one?

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<v Speaker 1>Because they're not expensive. I looked into it. No, that's

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<v Speaker 1>I think that. I honestly I was. I told you

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<v Speaker 1>they should stop selling that dress. It's the Tiffany now

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<v Speaker 1>and no one else can have it. I have plenty

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<v Speaker 1>of yellow dresses though, that's my killer. No, you look stunning,

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<v Speaker 1>and I mean, yeah, it's just yeah, I'm and honestly

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<v Speaker 1>you taking time off too. It gives me an opportunity.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean obviously I was holding it down and BA land,

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<v Speaker 1>but it makes it feel like, Okay, it's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be part of the BA you know, like cadence now

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<v Speaker 1>and you really set that presidence. I'm like, hell, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>let's take August to off. We can do this. Yeah, amazing,

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<v Speaker 1>So on on my behalf in my family's behalf.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we deserve because you can't keep go go go,

0:17:56.800 --> 0:17:59.520
<v Speaker 2>go go go. You know, even if you can't take

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<v Speaker 2>off from work or whatever, take off from social media.

0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:04.520
<v Speaker 2>Anybody could take off from social media for like a

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<v Speaker 2>week a.

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<v Speaker 1>Month banding in Utah. Do you hear that.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, Well, they passed a law that because there's actually,

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<v Speaker 3>like CDC, there's research that obviously shows how damaging social

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<v Speaker 3>media is to teenagers, and they just passed a law

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<v Speaker 3>in Utah where now you have to be eighteen and up.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like cigarettes to access it, except it's not like

0:18:25.359 --> 0:18:28.239
<v Speaker 1>cigarettes because your parents can give you permission, but you

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<v Speaker 1>have to like get your identity verified and all of

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<v Speaker 1>that before you can even get on, like Instagram, YouTube,

0:18:33.040 --> 0:18:35.840
<v Speaker 1>TikTok any of that stuff. It's the most restrictive ban

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<v Speaker 1>I think out of all the states, and I think

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<v Speaker 1>like California has some kind of rule. But I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like we're definitely and when the TikTok, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, you probably missed all of it, but TikTok

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<v Speaker 1>I did CEO was on, you know, getting grilled by

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<v Speaker 1>Congress and stuff is on his way talk Talk talk out.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It's uh. I mean, it's funny because

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<v Speaker 1>I understand that the national security issue and all that,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm like, what are we giving them exactly? Like

0:19:03.000 --> 0:19:05.320
<v Speaker 1>I really like recipes that I'm never gonna cook, and

0:19:05.359 --> 0:19:08.120
<v Speaker 1>I save a lot of them. That's like the information

0:19:08.200 --> 0:19:11.960
<v Speaker 1>China will get about me. But anyway, it makes me think,

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't know how you and Superman did it

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<v Speaker 1>with Alyssa, but I and I'm gonna have two boys.

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<v Speaker 1>But still like I'm I'm leaning more on the side

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<v Speaker 1>of like really conservative with social media for my kids.

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't really know how to feel as a parent.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, we need something, but like total restriction, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>until you're eighteen. I don't I don't know what the

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<v Speaker 1>right answer is.

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<v Speaker 2>I know the rule with Alyssa is that Jarelle and

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<v Speaker 2>Chante said up for her was that she can't be

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<v Speaker 2>on a social platform that they're not on and they

0:19:43.080 --> 0:19:43.480
<v Speaker 2>have to have.

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<v Speaker 1>Full access, like I'll your password and tell what like.

0:19:47.080 --> 0:19:49.040
<v Speaker 2>And then also too, I need we need to be friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that's the other thing in Utah. Your parents get

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<v Speaker 1>access to everything. Yeah, so if you get on it,

0:19:54.480 --> 0:19:57.000
<v Speaker 1>they can access all your content, your messages, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>everything that you're looking at.

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<v Speaker 2>Because sometimes you try to post a little something cute,

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<v Speaker 2>her little belly shirt out what she got snatched up

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<v Speaker 2>so quick.

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<v Speaker 1>We were all like all the aunties.

0:20:04.280 --> 0:20:07.720
<v Speaker 2>I was like, screenshots, screenshot screen, I got somebody screenshots,

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<v Speaker 2>I said.

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<v Speaker 1>We said, I write to shant like I'm blocking everybody else.

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<v Speaker 1>Say you won't or.

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<v Speaker 2>You'll be blocked off ticktoxis, you know, and so yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>because I mean that's really what you have to do,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I mean, because you know, I mean it would

0:20:22.040 --> 0:20:23.760
<v Speaker 2>be nice to say you can't use it, but then

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<v Speaker 2>the kids will sneak.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're not a thousand percent yes, but.

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<v Speaker 2>Her mom is honestly like they have such a great

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<v Speaker 2>relationship and so her mom is really good at keeping

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<v Speaker 2>up with like the teen t if you will, because

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<v Speaker 2>she works for the Water of Education and so like

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<v Speaker 2>she's one of you know, you ever have somebody that

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<v Speaker 2>works in your building and everybody loves them. They're like,

0:20:42.040 --> 0:20:44.359
<v Speaker 2>we all love Missachisaj and they just tell all they

0:20:44.359 --> 0:20:46.360
<v Speaker 2>business like and then I'm dating and then so that's

0:20:46.400 --> 0:20:48.720
<v Speaker 2>her mom anyway. So that's the way she relay on.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, exactly, that's the way she relates.

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<v Speaker 2>So she'd be like, girl, I heard that Denise and

0:20:53.840 --> 0:20:57.280
<v Speaker 2>Dennis are not talking, yes, and then you know, so

0:20:57.400 --> 0:21:00.239
<v Speaker 2>that's how she connects to be like and that's why

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<v Speaker 2>you can't go to that party. Yeah, So she's honestly,

0:21:03.920 --> 0:21:05.520
<v Speaker 2>her mom was awesome. Like I tell her all the time,

0:21:05.560 --> 0:21:07.600
<v Speaker 2>You're such an awesome mom, because it's not easy. Alissa

0:21:07.720 --> 0:21:11.199
<v Speaker 2>is sixteen, and you know, like to be able to

0:21:11.320 --> 0:21:15.000
<v Speaker 2>stay like I have this mam authority. Like for example,

0:21:15.119 --> 0:21:17.040
<v Speaker 2>she was like, oh, my my friend who's seventeen is

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<v Speaker 2>having a birthday, like weekend, she went to an Airbnb

0:21:21.000 --> 0:21:23.679
<v Speaker 2>and she wants to all to come. I was like, sis,

0:21:24.000 --> 0:21:27.040
<v Speaker 2>I what now at airbnb? So you can come back

0:21:27.040 --> 0:21:27.600
<v Speaker 2>with a baby.

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<v Speaker 1>No, no.

0:21:29.080 --> 0:21:33.720
<v Speaker 2>I was like, girl, Draking is taken. I was like, uh,

0:21:33.920 --> 0:21:35.800
<v Speaker 2>did you tell your mom? She's like I did. She

0:21:35.880 --> 0:21:38.160
<v Speaker 2>was staying with me like for like the last week

0:21:38.200 --> 0:21:40.280
<v Speaker 2>and a half, so of course I was having her

0:21:40.359 --> 0:21:41.960
<v Speaker 2>that weekend that she was trying to go to this airbnb.

0:21:42.119 --> 0:21:44.600
<v Speaker 2>I was like, you told your mom? She said, it's fine.

0:21:44.640 --> 0:21:50.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, sis, I said, let's call her together. Like

0:21:50.080 --> 0:21:52.080
<v Speaker 2>I said, I said, Listen could go to this airbnb.

0:21:52.240 --> 0:21:54.640
<v Speaker 2>She said I did not. She's like mine, you said,

0:21:54.680 --> 0:21:56.560
<v Speaker 2>I said no, no, you told me about it, And

0:21:56.640 --> 0:21:59.320
<v Speaker 2>I said what she said, yeah, but you didn't say no.

0:21:59.520 --> 0:22:03.760
<v Speaker 1>So well, I was like, not looking for a loophole,

0:22:04.600 --> 0:22:07.800
<v Speaker 1>and so in the contract it was so obviously she

0:22:07.840 --> 0:22:08.360
<v Speaker 1>did not go.

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, when I looked at the Airbn meet girl,

0:22:10.320 --> 0:22:12.080
<v Speaker 2>it looked like a trap house.

0:22:12.359 --> 0:22:15.360
<v Speaker 1>I was like, first of all, who rented this? It's

0:22:15.400 --> 0:22:16.960
<v Speaker 1>in newark On like D Block.

0:22:17.080 --> 0:22:20.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, was it friends kids or yeah? Like seven

0:22:20.840 --> 0:22:23.359
<v Speaker 2>like some her friend is turning seventeen or eighteen. Maybe

0:22:24.200 --> 0:22:27.480
<v Speaker 2>Souselsta's sixteen turning seventeen, but she's young for her grade,

0:22:27.480 --> 0:22:29.000
<v Speaker 2>you know, so.

0:22:28.359 --> 0:22:31.400
<v Speaker 1>So either way, ready for those kinds of chats Hell

0:22:31.480 --> 0:22:32.440
<v Speaker 1>to the now No.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, like, you know, your little girlfriends can come

0:22:34.280 --> 0:22:39.760
<v Speaker 2>here whatever, but I'm like an airbnbsist for the weekend. No, yeah, no, And.

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<v Speaker 1>That comes from I think the kids watching like MTV

0:22:42.280 --> 0:22:44.239
<v Speaker 1>and did they watch TV? I sound so fuck at

0:22:44.280 --> 0:22:48.919
<v Speaker 1>all seeing on TikTok like the group Vak's and like

0:22:49.040 --> 0:22:51.080
<v Speaker 1>all that, which is all fun wait for college, you know.

0:22:51.200 --> 0:22:53.000
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but also too, it didn't even look I said,

0:22:53.040 --> 0:22:54.320
<v Speaker 2>you're not gonna have fun there.

0:22:54.359 --> 0:22:57.920
<v Speaker 1>That place looks ghetto. I was like, this is this, this.

0:22:57.880 --> 0:22:59.879
<v Speaker 2>Is run down. I could see it like, you know,

0:23:00.119 --> 0:23:02.919
<v Speaker 2>like the girl's mom had rented some beautiful place and

0:23:02.920 --> 0:23:05.160
<v Speaker 2>blah blah blah. You know, but that's not the case here.

0:23:05.560 --> 0:23:08.439
<v Speaker 2>So anyway, the answer was no, you know so, but

0:23:08.520 --> 0:23:11.480
<v Speaker 2>that's why it's important you have those conversations, all the stakeholders,

0:23:11.520 --> 0:23:13.160
<v Speaker 2>all the you know, like I have, like a really,

0:23:13.240 --> 0:23:15.879
<v Speaker 2>I've always had a great relationship with Alyssa's mom. You know,

0:23:15.960 --> 0:23:18.560
<v Speaker 2>it's even better now. Honestly, we're even closer now. And

0:23:18.640 --> 0:23:20.760
<v Speaker 2>so I'm always like, girl, I don't even know why

0:23:20.760 --> 0:23:23.119
<v Speaker 2>you're trying to cause it's a phone call away. We

0:23:23.119 --> 0:23:30.159
<v Speaker 2>could text your mom at today exactly. But yeah, but this,

0:23:30.240 --> 0:23:32.480
<v Speaker 2>I have to say this sabbatical. When I tell you

0:23:32.760 --> 0:23:35.320
<v Speaker 2>so recharging, so resetting, I'm so glad I still have

0:23:35.400 --> 0:23:39.760
<v Speaker 2>another full week. I'm just USA time. And it took

0:23:39.760 --> 0:23:41.600
<v Speaker 2>me a while. So I was telling doctor Green, my

0:23:41.600 --> 0:23:44.399
<v Speaker 2>my amazing therapist, like I feel bad because I'm not

0:23:44.480 --> 0:23:46.679
<v Speaker 2>doing anything. She was like, doing nothing is doing something,

0:23:48.119 --> 0:23:50.199
<v Speaker 2>you know, because I just feel like, you know, like

0:23:50.240 --> 0:23:51.720
<v Speaker 2>I should be doing all this stuff. She's like, no,

0:23:51.800 --> 0:23:55.480
<v Speaker 2>that that's literally the point, Tiffany, Like you next month,

0:23:55.520 --> 0:23:57.959
<v Speaker 2>you can go right back to doing whatever. But like

0:23:58.080 --> 0:24:00.240
<v Speaker 2>it's you know, you went to Egypt for the first

0:24:00.240 --> 0:24:01.960
<v Speaker 2>two weeks, and then the last three weeks you've just

0:24:02.040 --> 0:24:06.800
<v Speaker 2>been walking, reading, therapy, hanging out with family and friends.

0:24:07.480 --> 0:24:08.040
<v Speaker 1>That's it.

0:24:08.160 --> 0:24:10.200
<v Speaker 2>And so it's like it's a lot, that's the point

0:24:10.200 --> 0:24:13.760
<v Speaker 2>of it. So it's hard not to feel guilty about

0:24:13.840 --> 0:24:15.919
<v Speaker 2>not being quote unquote productive, but I'm really trying.

0:24:17.040 --> 0:24:18.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we all need to like break that cycle. My

0:24:18.840 --> 0:24:21.280
<v Speaker 1>therapist has the same things. And that's why, Like before

0:24:21.320 --> 0:24:23.480
<v Speaker 1>I went on vacation, I was trying to pep talk myself,

0:24:23.560 --> 0:24:27.000
<v Speaker 1>like sometimes all stress about not doing vacation, right, Like,

0:24:27.080 --> 0:24:28.520
<v Speaker 1>am I going to enjoy it enough? I'm i gonna

0:24:28.560 --> 0:24:29.679
<v Speaker 1>enjoy it the right way? Am I going to be

0:24:29.720 --> 0:24:32.159
<v Speaker 1>on my phone too much? Like and even that, I

0:24:32.240 --> 0:24:34.320
<v Speaker 1>was like, girl, just go and do whatever you feel

0:24:34.359 --> 0:24:38.520
<v Speaker 1>like doing. But my favorite thing is silence. And this

0:24:38.680 --> 0:24:41.800
<v Speaker 1>place was like had all these little nooks and crannies

0:24:41.840 --> 0:24:45.280
<v Speaker 1>and hidden little pools and hidden you know, natury areas

0:24:45.320 --> 0:24:47.560
<v Speaker 1>to go sit. And I read a whole book. By

0:24:47.560 --> 0:24:50.000
<v Speaker 1>the way, if y'all need a good beach, read black Cake.

0:24:50.160 --> 0:24:52.400
<v Speaker 1>You were talking about Inheritance, and I was thinking about

0:24:52.400 --> 0:24:55.439
<v Speaker 1>the book I read. It's called black Cake. By dang it,

0:24:55.600 --> 0:24:59.080
<v Speaker 1>I should have looked at the author, but it's really good.

0:24:59.119 --> 0:25:01.159
<v Speaker 1>It's about a I don't know if she's actually they

0:25:01.200 --> 0:25:03.080
<v Speaker 1>don't even mention what island she's from, but a woman

0:25:03.080 --> 0:25:06.840
<v Speaker 1>from the island who leaves her son and daughter a

0:25:06.920 --> 0:25:09.360
<v Speaker 1>cake in the freezer. Like they call it black cake,

0:25:09.400 --> 0:25:12.640
<v Speaker 1>but I think we know it as rum cake and

0:25:12.720 --> 0:25:16.080
<v Speaker 1>like all of her dirty secrets from her childhood. It's

0:25:16.119 --> 0:25:19.560
<v Speaker 1>so good. So get y'all a good book, whether it's

0:25:20.119 --> 0:25:23.520
<v Speaker 1>a bench at the park or somewhere. But yeah, I agree,

0:25:23.720 --> 0:25:26.040
<v Speaker 1>And you come back to like springtime. I love that

0:25:26.800 --> 0:25:30.760
<v Speaker 1>came back and it felt like things were blooming and

0:25:31.040 --> 0:25:33.920
<v Speaker 1>my baby bump is blooming, that's for sure. How you

0:25:34.000 --> 0:25:37.399
<v Speaker 1>feeling huge? We keeps saying I'm cute. I'm like, I

0:25:37.440 --> 0:25:39.639
<v Speaker 1>hate the cute stage of pregnancy. You don't call me cute, no,

0:25:39.680 --> 0:25:40.800
<v Speaker 1>but you do look really cute.

0:25:41.200 --> 0:25:42.800
<v Speaker 2>I mean some people have a hard look when it

0:25:42.800 --> 0:25:45.760
<v Speaker 2>comes for You're like Chad, But I'm like, really, your

0:25:45.760 --> 0:25:46.520
<v Speaker 2>mother having glowy?

0:25:46.600 --> 0:25:49.000
<v Speaker 1>Your hair is all cute, your face is all glowy.

0:25:50.320 --> 0:25:52.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean, okay, I'll take it, but I will say

0:25:52.720 --> 0:25:55.360
<v Speaker 1>as someone who I finally approached that age. Maybe it's

0:25:55.359 --> 0:25:57.600
<v Speaker 1>a pregnancy, but I've never felt more confident in a

0:25:57.640 --> 0:26:00.920
<v Speaker 1>bikini than I did on vacation this past week, never

0:26:01.000 --> 0:26:03.359
<v Speaker 1>been heavier in my whole life, got this huge baby bump.

0:26:03.359 --> 0:26:05.239
<v Speaker 1>But I don't know. I'm just feeling myself, and I'm like,

0:26:05.440 --> 0:26:07.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna rock this because what choice do I have.

0:26:08.200 --> 0:26:10.119
<v Speaker 1>I'm not about to be out here in pants in

0:26:10.200 --> 0:26:12.840
<v Speaker 1>long sleeves like I want to be at the pool

0:26:13.080 --> 0:26:16.560
<v Speaker 1>all days. So it was lovely good. Now you're here

0:26:16.600 --> 0:26:19.639
<v Speaker 1>for your bad confidence. Please refly. Oh well, it's so

0:26:19.680 --> 0:26:21.640
<v Speaker 1>good to have you back. Should we take a quick

0:26:21.640 --> 0:26:24.080
<v Speaker 1>little break? Yes, we're just easing on into this and

0:26:24.119 --> 0:26:25.520
<v Speaker 1>come back with brown boost brown.

0:26:25.320 --> 0:26:32.240
<v Speaker 2>Break if we ought to yes, and we're back in black.

0:26:33.680 --> 0:26:36.080
<v Speaker 2>I actually have a funny well, actually it's now it's

0:26:36.160 --> 0:26:36.879
<v Speaker 2>time I forgot.

0:26:37.440 --> 0:26:38.800
<v Speaker 1>I was about to say still.

0:26:38.520 --> 0:26:42.080
<v Speaker 2>Break up boostop break up boostop stops.

0:26:42.119 --> 0:26:44.920
<v Speaker 1>You go on booth, Are you going.

0:26:46.320 --> 0:26:51.119
<v Speaker 2>What you're gonna do? What you're going to.

0:26:51.760 --> 0:26:52.520
<v Speaker 1>Pix?

0:26:53.280 --> 0:26:55.520
<v Speaker 2>I have a super light boosty breaking, so I'll go first,

0:26:55.520 --> 0:26:56.399
<v Speaker 2>and then I don't know what you have for a

0:26:56.400 --> 0:27:00.119
<v Speaker 2>booty breaking. But so I got two things one and

0:27:00.160 --> 0:27:01.879
<v Speaker 2>they're like both cosmetic. I think, you know, I'm not

0:27:01.920 --> 0:27:04.119
<v Speaker 2>being paid, but I really liked it. So I my

0:27:04.160 --> 0:27:06.800
<v Speaker 2>sister Lisa came over the other day and she was like,

0:27:06.800 --> 0:27:07.600
<v Speaker 2>I've been influenced.

0:27:07.640 --> 0:27:08.120
<v Speaker 1>I was like wow.

0:27:08.160 --> 0:27:11.680
<v Speaker 2>She was like, I'm wearing this new almost lipstick my clinique.

0:27:11.680 --> 0:27:13.240
<v Speaker 2>I had this little box. Just went to Alt today

0:27:13.280 --> 0:27:13.639
<v Speaker 2>and buy it.

0:27:14.000 --> 0:27:14.680
<v Speaker 1>Bought it.

0:27:14.680 --> 0:27:17.040
<v Speaker 2>It's called black Honey, and the claims of fame is

0:27:17.080 --> 0:27:20.800
<v Speaker 2>that whether no matter your skin color, you can wear it.

0:27:20.800 --> 0:27:23.920
<v Speaker 2>It looks different and so basically it just basically enhances

0:27:23.960 --> 0:27:26.359
<v Speaker 2>like your natural lip color. And I was like, so

0:27:26.400 --> 0:27:28.480
<v Speaker 2>Lisa put it on and her lip color is like

0:27:28.480 --> 0:27:31.560
<v Speaker 2>like slightly pinky whatever, and so like I was like, oh,

0:27:31.840 --> 0:27:34.760
<v Speaker 2>and we went out to brunch and she was putting

0:27:34.760 --> 0:27:36.040
<v Speaker 2>it on and this woman was like, oh my god.

0:27:36.240 --> 0:27:37.199
<v Speaker 2>We were in brunch in Brooklyn.

0:27:37.240 --> 0:27:37.800
<v Speaker 1>It was a sister.

0:27:37.840 --> 0:27:40.600
<v Speaker 2>She was like black honey. So the woman took out

0:27:40.600 --> 0:27:43.520
<v Speaker 2>her black honey put it on and hers was like

0:27:43.600 --> 0:27:45.600
<v Speaker 2>more of like a reddish lip club, so like her natural.

0:27:45.640 --> 0:27:46.359
<v Speaker 1>So it enhanced it.

0:27:46.359 --> 0:27:48.240
<v Speaker 2>That's like, oh, that's nice. So then I just bought

0:27:48.240 --> 0:27:49.840
<v Speaker 2>it today and I have to say, I like it.

0:27:50.160 --> 0:27:52.520
<v Speaker 2>This is I have more of a brown like, I'm

0:27:53.080 --> 0:27:56.240
<v Speaker 2>like a brownish like with the undertones of red loop colors.

0:27:56.280 --> 0:27:59.000
<v Speaker 2>So it just basically enhances like this is your lip,

0:27:59.480 --> 0:28:02.560
<v Speaker 2>but your lip more lipping. You know, I don't know

0:28:02.560 --> 0:28:04.399
<v Speaker 2>how to explain it. So it's like it's not a

0:28:04.440 --> 0:28:06.600
<v Speaker 2>lipstick and it's not a chapstick, but it feels like

0:28:07.240 --> 0:28:08.960
<v Speaker 2>it feels really nice like a chapstick. So I just

0:28:09.040 --> 0:28:11.120
<v Speaker 2>was like, I like it. So, I mean, it's not true.

0:28:11.240 --> 0:28:12.880
<v Speaker 2>It was like twenty three dollars but whatever.

0:28:13.560 --> 0:28:16.720
<v Speaker 1>So at the going rate for a good tube of yes,

0:28:17.040 --> 0:28:17.680
<v Speaker 1>but I just liked it.

0:28:17.760 --> 0:28:20.640
<v Speaker 2>I was just like, okay, so you know, I'm super chock.

0:28:20.760 --> 0:28:24.240
<v Speaker 2>Lisa is like like maybe like a medium brown, and

0:28:24.280 --> 0:28:27.119
<v Speaker 2>the other lady was like someplace in between. And then

0:28:27.119 --> 0:28:29.239
<v Speaker 2>I've seen it like on all different colored girls. But

0:28:29.280 --> 0:28:31.800
<v Speaker 2>I love when a product it rarely. It's like the

0:28:31.840 --> 0:28:33.840
<v Speaker 2>Traveling pants, the Sisterhoods, the traveling pants.

0:28:34.600 --> 0:28:38.520
<v Speaker 1>That you took my jokey joke, So this is like traveling.

0:28:38.920 --> 0:28:43.560
<v Speaker 2>So yeah, so clinique almost lipstick. It's called black Honey,

0:28:43.840 --> 0:28:45.160
<v Speaker 2>and so I don't know, try it. If you guys

0:28:45.200 --> 0:28:46.640
<v Speaker 2>are using it, let me know. I would love to

0:28:46.640 --> 0:28:48.800
<v Speaker 2>see it on you because I love that it really

0:28:48.960 --> 0:28:53.760
<v Speaker 2>just like you know, like it's your color, just like

0:28:53.880 --> 0:28:56.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, like a more enhanced version of your color,

0:28:56.560 --> 0:28:59.760
<v Speaker 2>which I love because sometimes like I don't always no,

0:28:59.760 --> 0:29:01.600
<v Speaker 2>not all, but I don't. Also I like wearing like

0:29:01.640 --> 0:29:03.560
<v Speaker 2>a like a like the like the lip like a

0:29:03.680 --> 0:29:06.880
<v Speaker 2>not necessarily lipstick, but I like wearing like these lips

0:29:06.960 --> 0:29:10.320
<v Speaker 2>stains sometimes and then sometimes I like chapstick. But sometimes

0:29:10.320 --> 0:29:12.560
<v Speaker 2>you just want something where you're like I want something

0:29:13.280 --> 0:29:17.880
<v Speaker 2>that's me like supernatural, but not just exactly my lip color,

0:29:18.000 --> 0:29:22.320
<v Speaker 2>something like more enhanced. And the second boost is child

0:29:22.400 --> 0:29:24.479
<v Speaker 2>So this is gonna sound like crazy, but let's talk

0:29:24.480 --> 0:29:26.760
<v Speaker 2>about ziinas so it took me.

0:29:27.480 --> 0:29:30.080
<v Speaker 1>We are there's nothing off limits. In fact, part of

0:29:30.080 --> 0:29:31.640
<v Speaker 1>the reason I was late was because I realized I

0:29:31.640 --> 0:29:33.400
<v Speaker 1>had my underwear inside out, so I had to put

0:29:33.440 --> 0:29:35.800
<v Speaker 1>them right. And I'm pregnant and it took a while

0:29:35.840 --> 0:29:38.120
<v Speaker 1>to get the leggings off and let it go.

0:29:39.000 --> 0:29:41.960
<v Speaker 2>So when I was in college, I'm gonna say nothing.

0:29:42.000 --> 0:29:45.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna be careful not to like incriminate her. There

0:29:45.680 --> 0:29:48.680
<v Speaker 2>was a young woman who just had like a very

0:29:48.680 --> 0:29:52.000
<v Speaker 2>strong resigna older and I didn't know at the time.

0:29:52.040 --> 0:29:55.920
<v Speaker 2>I know, and I realize now that it was uh

0:29:56.400 --> 0:30:00.760
<v Speaker 2>that was it bacterial vagamosis or whatever that word? Yeah, BB,

0:30:00.960 --> 0:30:03.480
<v Speaker 2>basically that's the right. So I didn't know at the time.

0:30:03.560 --> 0:30:05.120
<v Speaker 2>It was just like and I didn't know her well

0:30:05.200 --> 0:30:07.240
<v Speaker 2>enough to say because she was just on the floor,

0:30:07.280 --> 0:30:07.800
<v Speaker 2>lived on the floor.

0:30:07.840 --> 0:30:08.440
<v Speaker 1>And no, this is not me.

0:30:09.360 --> 0:30:13.120
<v Speaker 2>But I remember thinking, I I grew up in to

0:30:13.120 --> 0:30:15.000
<v Speaker 2>have My mom's a nurse, and I have four sisters,

0:30:15.000 --> 0:30:17.440
<v Speaker 2>and so she was very adamant about teaching us this

0:30:17.480 --> 0:30:18.960
<v Speaker 2>is how you clean yourself, This is how you clean yourself,

0:30:19.000 --> 0:30:21.240
<v Speaker 2>you know, and especially like after we got our cycles

0:30:21.280 --> 0:30:23.400
<v Speaker 2>for the first time, you know, Like, but I remember

0:30:24.040 --> 0:30:28.120
<v Speaker 2>when that happened because she was this pretty girl and

0:30:28.520 --> 0:30:31.680
<v Speaker 2>she didn't want to have like any boyfriends. She didn't

0:30:32.400 --> 0:30:34.480
<v Speaker 2>she just had a really hard time. And you know,

0:30:34.480 --> 0:30:37.280
<v Speaker 2>you're so young. I didn't know like what. I honestly

0:30:37.360 --> 0:30:39.920
<v Speaker 2>just thought, well, don't you just clean yourself? And you don't,

0:30:39.960 --> 0:30:43.160
<v Speaker 2>you know, But I remember it was then that I

0:30:43.280 --> 0:30:47.080
<v Speaker 2>became super vigilant about finding the right thing to clean

0:30:47.440 --> 0:30:50.160
<v Speaker 2>like myself, because I just remember being terrified that that's

0:30:50.200 --> 0:30:52.080
<v Speaker 2>what happens when you maybe are not using the right

0:30:52.120 --> 0:30:54.240
<v Speaker 2>so right, you know, and you tried all this stuff

0:30:54.240 --> 0:30:56.000
<v Speaker 2>that just totally just like and you're not supposed to

0:30:56.040 --> 0:30:58.320
<v Speaker 2>put down there. So I remember my friend who's West

0:30:58.320 --> 0:31:00.440
<v Speaker 2>India put me onto this thing called debt tall, which

0:31:00.560 --> 0:31:06.680
<v Speaker 2>is like literally like putting bleach. I was like, girl, Yes,

0:31:06.800 --> 0:31:09.640
<v Speaker 2>it was such a strong Now what staying need a

0:31:09.680 --> 0:31:11.240
<v Speaker 2>dead talp? They like detalp for everything. They use de

0:31:11.360 --> 0:31:11.800
<v Speaker 2>tal to lie.

0:31:11.960 --> 0:31:14.280
<v Speaker 1>You're supposed to like not use anything because you're you're

0:31:14.440 --> 0:31:16.200
<v Speaker 1>unless I mean, that's a condition. You need to see

0:31:16.200 --> 0:31:19.080
<v Speaker 1>a doctor, yes, so they say, but but I will say,

0:31:19.120 --> 0:31:20.000
<v Speaker 1>so I've always.

0:31:19.680 --> 0:31:22.400
<v Speaker 2>Tried, like I liked, I was using doctor Bronner's with

0:31:22.600 --> 0:31:25.320
<v Speaker 2>set Pepperman be tangling in ways that feel like y'all.

0:31:27.200 --> 0:31:32.160
<v Speaker 1>But I love the natural bacterium, I will say lately,

0:31:33.040 --> 0:31:33.719
<v Speaker 1>I love this one.

0:31:33.760 --> 0:31:35.920
<v Speaker 2>This is a black owned woman brand like back owned

0:31:36.680 --> 0:31:39.280
<v Speaker 2>is that? And I think we've we actually had them, like,

0:31:39.320 --> 0:31:40.800
<v Speaker 2>I think we need to get them back. This is

0:31:40.800 --> 0:31:43.000
<v Speaker 2>our money, to our our producer. We need to get

0:31:43.000 --> 0:31:45.600
<v Speaker 2>them back as people that you know, pay us for

0:31:45.680 --> 0:31:48.320
<v Speaker 2>like ads. But I will say, honey.

0:31:47.960 --> 0:31:51.800
<v Speaker 1>Pot, girl, honeypot, when I tell you, I'm not gonna lie.

0:31:52.280 --> 0:31:54.960
<v Speaker 2>When they first brought us honeypot, it was the was

0:31:55.000 --> 0:31:56.520
<v Speaker 2>it the pads they gave us, And I was not

0:31:56.560 --> 0:31:59.120
<v Speaker 2>a fan, you know, like as a girl who wars pads,

0:31:59.120 --> 0:32:01.239
<v Speaker 2>I've never used tampon like I was like, yeah, so

0:32:01.280 --> 0:32:03.840
<v Speaker 2>then I never I honestly never explored anything else honeypot,

0:32:04.120 --> 0:32:06.320
<v Speaker 2>until I think, I want to say, I think they

0:32:06.360 --> 0:32:09.120
<v Speaker 2>sponsored us again or something like that. But they have

0:32:09.360 --> 0:32:12.680
<v Speaker 2>a wash like a foaming wash, huh knee or squirrel

0:32:12.760 --> 0:32:16.120
<v Speaker 2>because I'm super sensitive my skin everything, so I use

0:32:16.160 --> 0:32:20.280
<v Speaker 2>the sensitive foaming wash everything, and then the wipes, oh

0:32:20.280 --> 0:32:23.080
<v Speaker 2>my gosh, like and I use the sensitive wipes too everything,

0:32:23.120 --> 0:32:24.880
<v Speaker 2>and then they have like a like a sensitive spray

0:32:24.920 --> 0:32:27.680
<v Speaker 2>but when I tell you, even during your cycle, even

0:32:27.720 --> 0:32:30.680
<v Speaker 2>after your cycle, when your least feeling your least fresh,

0:32:30.960 --> 0:32:36.880
<v Speaker 2>You're like, girl, is this like it is honestly when

0:32:36.880 --> 0:32:39.480
<v Speaker 2>I say life changing, because like I said, I'm someone

0:32:39.520 --> 0:32:42.400
<v Speaker 2>who's just clean, clean, cleaning, but always felt like I

0:32:42.400 --> 0:32:45.560
<v Speaker 2>could do better. It could be I mean it, I

0:32:45.600 --> 0:32:49.520
<v Speaker 2>mean even after working out. Like what I love most

0:32:49.520 --> 0:32:52.360
<v Speaker 2>about honeypot is the last thing effects because you do

0:32:52.440 --> 0:32:54.400
<v Speaker 2>your thing, you know, use your foaming wash, you know,

0:32:54.560 --> 0:32:56.880
<v Speaker 2>you wipe with the wipes, you spray, and then you

0:32:56.920 --> 0:32:58.960
<v Speaker 2>can work out and then be done with the workout

0:32:59.160 --> 0:33:00.440
<v Speaker 2>and you don't smell like don't.

0:33:00.240 --> 0:33:02.320
<v Speaker 1>With the workout, if you know what I mean. Yeah,

0:33:02.360 --> 0:33:05.240
<v Speaker 1>you know, and that's kind of like shower properly, yes.

0:33:05.040 --> 0:33:06.680
<v Speaker 2>You know, but it just doesn't or just like before

0:33:06.720 --> 0:33:08.800
<v Speaker 2>you even get home or whatever. But it just because

0:33:08.840 --> 0:33:10.600
<v Speaker 2>usually that's when you're like, well this is natural, girl,

0:33:10.600 --> 0:33:12.520
<v Speaker 2>I just worked out. It's just you know, but no,

0:33:12.680 --> 0:33:14.200
<v Speaker 2>I don't know what they put in that thing that

0:33:14.240 --> 0:33:19.960
<v Speaker 2>what sorcery. Her name is Beatrice, but it is amazing, amazing, amazing. Yeah,

0:33:19.960 --> 0:33:21.880
<v Speaker 2>So like I use, like I said, my favorite is

0:33:22.160 --> 0:33:24.040
<v Speaker 2>the foaming watch, which I use every morning when I

0:33:24.080 --> 0:33:25.800
<v Speaker 2>take a shower, and even if I take a shower,

0:33:26.280 --> 0:33:30.200
<v Speaker 2>I use the wipes, especially during cycle time because that's

0:33:30.200 --> 0:33:32.680
<v Speaker 2>when you're most you know, not as fresh.

0:33:32.760 --> 0:33:35.000
<v Speaker 1>And then that's one of my favorite pregnancy symptoms.

0:33:35.320 --> 0:33:38.920
<v Speaker 2>And no way, and then I use this breastfeeding.

0:33:38.400 --> 0:33:41.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh two years no periods, sun me up

0:33:41.200 --> 0:33:44.440
<v Speaker 1>for it. Oh really when you breastfeed, when you breastfeed, yeah,

0:33:44.480 --> 0:33:46.400
<v Speaker 1>which does not mean that you can't get pregnant. Do

0:33:46.440 --> 0:33:48.760
<v Speaker 1>not make that mistake because because we have a kids,

0:33:48.800 --> 0:33:51.480
<v Speaker 1>met you together exactly, I'm not no Irish twins here,

0:33:52.000 --> 0:33:54.000
<v Speaker 1>but yeah you do. I just will say that.

0:33:54.120 --> 0:33:56.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I just have to say, honestly, honey pot, it's

0:33:56.640 --> 0:34:00.800
<v Speaker 2>for the wind. I have never felt fresher like I've

0:34:00.840 --> 0:34:01.480
<v Speaker 2>met there.

0:34:01.480 --> 0:34:03.280
<v Speaker 1>We ain't getting paid for this, I know. I'm sorry.

0:34:03.280 --> 0:34:04.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying they need to, but it was.

0:34:04.480 --> 0:34:05.000
<v Speaker 2>Just so good.

0:34:05.000 --> 0:34:07.280
<v Speaker 1>I just had to. Like, I just was like, like this.

0:34:07.240 --> 0:34:08.759
<v Speaker 2>Is when I was using that, I said, I got

0:34:08.760 --> 0:34:10.120
<v Speaker 2>to talk about honeypot, because.

0:34:09.920 --> 0:34:12.880
<v Speaker 1>That's right here. It's just too giffing out that shower.

0:34:14.239 --> 0:34:16.200
<v Speaker 2>So and you don't understand, like I'm someone who breaks

0:34:16.200 --> 0:34:18.239
<v Speaker 2>out for everything, like literally if I use a new

0:34:18.280 --> 0:34:20.680
<v Speaker 2>lip gloss. My lips will break down if I use

0:34:20.760 --> 0:34:22.680
<v Speaker 2>a new face, walk my face, Like I'm I have

0:34:22.800 --> 0:34:26.000
<v Speaker 2>super I'm sensitive to I'm alert to black hair dye.

0:34:26.000 --> 0:34:29.279
<v Speaker 2>I dyed my hair once and my whole heart story, yes,

0:34:29.400 --> 0:34:32.480
<v Speaker 2>and so like I'm somebody who is hyper sensitive to everything.

0:34:32.520 --> 0:34:34.040
<v Speaker 2>I guess that's why I'm so excited, because I'm like,

0:34:34.360 --> 0:34:37.200
<v Speaker 2>everything makes me break out, everything makes me and so

0:34:37.440 --> 0:34:38.879
<v Speaker 2>to be able to use this, and also that it's

0:34:38.880 --> 0:34:40.840
<v Speaker 2>a black woman on brand, I just and I'm not

0:34:40.840 --> 0:34:45.080
<v Speaker 2>gonna lie. They did her dirty when some random TikToker

0:34:45.160 --> 0:34:49.000
<v Speaker 2>posted a video about like, hey, they changed the formula

0:34:49.120 --> 0:34:50.959
<v Speaker 2>and didn't tell us, which is not true. They did,

0:34:51.480 --> 0:34:54.719
<v Speaker 2>and they dragged her and almost destroyed her business, and

0:34:54.760 --> 0:34:58.400
<v Speaker 2>I'm just like that, Yeah, it was really really really ugly,

0:34:58.920 --> 0:35:01.279
<v Speaker 2>and I just was like, you know, you know that

0:35:01.400 --> 0:35:04.160
<v Speaker 2>was wrong and two and it was also untrue, and

0:35:04.200 --> 0:35:05.799
<v Speaker 2>so three, I know they're not paying us, but I

0:35:05.880 --> 0:35:07.760
<v Speaker 2>just want to say, like, you know, I've met Beachess

0:35:07.760 --> 0:35:10.160
<v Speaker 2>a couple of times. She's super dope and also too,

0:35:10.280 --> 0:35:13.080
<v Speaker 2>like you know, it's it's the stuff actually works. So

0:35:12.880 --> 0:35:15.840
<v Speaker 2>that's that's your little kudos. But Bencher's girl, let us sponsor,

0:35:15.840 --> 0:35:17.600
<v Speaker 2>give us some sponsorship money, chet because I could talk

0:35:17.600 --> 0:35:19.319
<v Speaker 2>about vagina's every week if you need us to.

0:35:20.160 --> 0:35:21.799
<v Speaker 1>I think it's a good moment to call back our

0:35:21.880 --> 0:35:24.840
<v Speaker 1>recent episode where we had a vagina doctor what was

0:35:24.840 --> 0:35:27.399
<v Speaker 1>her name, that's not her actual title, but she got

0:35:27.400 --> 0:35:32.640
<v Speaker 1>me following, yes, Jennifer something. What was it, oh, discover her,

0:35:32.800 --> 0:35:35.120
<v Speaker 1>discover her or something like that. Yeah. Well yeah, anyway,

0:35:35.440 --> 0:35:37.520
<v Speaker 1>it's an awesome episode. It was Valentine's Day, That's what

0:35:37.560 --> 0:35:40.560
<v Speaker 1>it was, yes, V Day, the vagina episode. Please go

0:35:40.680 --> 0:35:43.560
<v Speaker 1>back and educate yourselves, Okay, no matter how you identify.

0:35:44.880 --> 0:35:48.040
<v Speaker 2>So that's my boost. Look, my boos deals with both

0:35:48.080 --> 0:35:55.960
<v Speaker 2>lips and up to our our producer. Please do not

0:35:56.040 --> 0:35:58.600
<v Speaker 2>use it as a clip because I was like, first

0:35:58.600 --> 0:36:00.960
<v Speaker 2>of all during the V Day episod, so Imani had

0:36:00.960 --> 0:36:02.120
<v Speaker 2>the nerve to use the clip where I was like,

0:36:02.120 --> 0:36:02.920
<v Speaker 2>I pee on myself.

0:36:02.920 --> 0:36:06.520
<v Speaker 1>I's just struggling body, so funny. Yeah, I had nothing

0:36:06.520 --> 0:36:06.960
<v Speaker 1>to do with that.

0:36:07.520 --> 0:36:11.160
<v Speaker 2>I said, not the peepe confession as the clip for

0:36:11.200 --> 0:36:13.000
<v Speaker 2>social media, but.

0:36:13.000 --> 0:36:14.879
<v Speaker 1>Whatever, it is what it is. But I'm like, yeah,

0:36:15.080 --> 0:36:21.239
<v Speaker 1>you to pick somebody else, so are you boosting or breaking? Well,

0:36:21.320 --> 0:36:22.840
<v Speaker 1>let me go ahead and boost for the book that

0:36:22.880 --> 0:36:25.360
<v Speaker 1>I found out the author. So the author is a

0:36:25.400 --> 0:36:28.120
<v Speaker 1>black woman. Her name is Charmaine wuckle Sent Wilkerson. The

0:36:28.120 --> 0:36:30.640
<v Speaker 1>book is Black Cake. I got it at Target in

0:36:30.719 --> 0:36:33.719
<v Speaker 1>paperback and that thing looks like I use and abuse it.

0:36:33.760 --> 0:36:36.200
<v Speaker 1>I read it so fast in the pool. But an

0:36:36.239 --> 0:36:41.000
<v Speaker 1>awesome book featuring some really like strong black female characters.

0:36:41.000 --> 0:36:44.120
<v Speaker 1>So if you're into that, definitely pick that book up

0:36:44.160 --> 0:36:48.160
<v Speaker 1>this summer. And then my other, my other boost because

0:36:48.200 --> 0:36:50.040
<v Speaker 1>I have mom brain. I need to go to my

0:36:50.080 --> 0:36:53.239
<v Speaker 1>notes and you know, oh, I wanted to give a

0:36:53.280 --> 0:36:56.200
<v Speaker 1>boost to myself because so I one of the things

0:36:56.200 --> 0:36:58.160
<v Speaker 1>I did before I went on vacation was I did

0:36:58.160 --> 0:37:02.640
<v Speaker 1>my first ever in person Mandy Money like I thought,

0:37:04.560 --> 0:37:06.279
<v Speaker 1>which was a couple of weeks ago, but I want

0:37:06.280 --> 0:37:10.120
<v Speaker 1>to mention it because I have just started. It's been

0:37:10.120 --> 0:37:11.600
<v Speaker 1>a couple of weeks and I've started to get the

0:37:11.640 --> 0:37:14.000
<v Speaker 1>emails like I met you there and here's this opportunity,

0:37:14.000 --> 0:37:15.839
<v Speaker 1>and here's this you know, like the fun, the fun

0:37:15.880 --> 0:37:17.719
<v Speaker 1>part and the reason why you sometimes do things for

0:37:17.760 --> 0:37:20.439
<v Speaker 1>free or things that you're kind of scared of. But yeah,

0:37:20.560 --> 0:37:23.799
<v Speaker 1>just shout out to that. And also I've found out

0:37:23.800 --> 0:37:26.520
<v Speaker 1>about this conference I don't feel like through an ad

0:37:26.560 --> 0:37:28.279
<v Speaker 1>on IG or something like that, or I saw it

0:37:28.320 --> 0:37:31.719
<v Speaker 1>in an email, like a random email and I wasn't

0:37:31.719 --> 0:37:33.719
<v Speaker 1>on a list of speakers and I checked them out

0:37:33.719 --> 0:37:35.800
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, oh, April Ryan's gonna be the keynote,

0:37:35.800 --> 0:37:38.799
<v Speaker 1>and she was awesome and it was local to me.

0:37:38.840 --> 0:37:42.239
<v Speaker 1>And I just use my journalism skills. I've tracked down

0:37:43.000 --> 0:37:46.040
<v Speaker 1>every organizer I could find, found them on LinkedIn, found

0:37:46.040 --> 0:37:48.560
<v Speaker 1>their IG, found their email, hit them up everywhere, Like

0:37:48.880 --> 0:37:51.040
<v Speaker 1>so I have this great workshop. I do it virtually,

0:37:51.080 --> 0:37:53.239
<v Speaker 1>but I'd love to do it at your conference. And

0:37:53.320 --> 0:37:55.480
<v Speaker 1>they just added me to the roster. Yes, just because

0:37:55.480 --> 0:37:57.600
<v Speaker 1>I asked, and you know, put myself there, put myself

0:37:57.600 --> 0:38:00.680
<v Speaker 1>out there. So yeah, for anyone. And I say it

0:38:00.719 --> 0:38:04.920
<v Speaker 1>all the time, like if you're wanting exposure or experience

0:38:04.960 --> 0:38:07.680
<v Speaker 1>public speaking, you can't. I mean, it's great when they

0:38:07.680 --> 0:38:10.120
<v Speaker 1>come to you, but also like do what you can

0:38:10.200 --> 0:38:12.279
<v Speaker 1>to make connections so that you know you can get

0:38:12.320 --> 0:38:14.440
<v Speaker 1>a chance like get on a panel or you know,

0:38:14.520 --> 0:38:16.840
<v Speaker 1>be seen. And I just told myself, this is a

0:38:16.880 --> 0:38:20.040
<v Speaker 1>conference with hundreds of badass entrepreneur women, there's going to

0:38:20.080 --> 0:38:22.799
<v Speaker 1>be someone there who maybe I could work with you

0:38:22.840 --> 0:38:25.480
<v Speaker 1>know down the line. So it was such a great

0:38:25.480 --> 0:38:27.360
<v Speaker 1>little event and I was just proud of myself.

0:38:29.040 --> 0:38:31.279
<v Speaker 2>And you spoke to my dream Catchers when I was away.

0:38:31.719 --> 0:38:34.040
<v Speaker 1>I did did they have any did they come to

0:38:34.080 --> 0:38:35.759
<v Speaker 1>you and give you my grade? I was like, I

0:38:35.800 --> 0:38:38.960
<v Speaker 1>have an out. Okay, you're right, You're right, You're right. No,

0:38:39.080 --> 0:38:41.080
<v Speaker 1>it was so No, it was so good. I mean,

0:38:41.120 --> 0:38:41.759
<v Speaker 1>I know they loved you.

0:38:42.440 --> 0:38:46.520
<v Speaker 2>But I told my team, I said, unless it's Settle

0:38:46.520 --> 0:38:47.920
<v Speaker 2>Boum myer Opraha, zon't.

0:38:47.719 --> 0:38:48.319
<v Speaker 1>Hit me up.

0:38:50.080 --> 0:38:51.239
<v Speaker 2>When I say I have no idea what's going on

0:38:51.360 --> 0:38:53.520
<v Speaker 2>the business, I said, I don't want to know.

0:38:54.480 --> 0:38:57.400
<v Speaker 1>Well, Logan Rose, the whole team, especially Logan. I had

0:38:57.440 --> 0:38:59.680
<v Speaker 1>a call with her. I talked to your SEO people

0:38:59.680 --> 0:39:01.960
<v Speaker 1>while you were gone. They got it going on, you

0:39:02.040 --> 0:39:03.680
<v Speaker 1>know they do. Please I trust them.

0:39:03.680 --> 0:39:05.560
<v Speaker 2>They're good. I was like, no, that's the point. If

0:39:05.600 --> 0:39:07.759
<v Speaker 2>I can't trust my team, what am I doing? So

0:39:07.800 --> 0:39:10.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I don't need a blow by blow whatever.

0:39:10.719 --> 0:39:12.840
<v Speaker 2>It's cute when people hit me up and they're like, oh,

0:39:13.640 --> 0:39:15.279
<v Speaker 2>like I think NPR reached out. They want to do

0:39:15.400 --> 0:39:18.279
<v Speaker 2>like an interview or something like on a Saturday. And

0:39:18.360 --> 0:39:20.680
<v Speaker 2>I was like, okay, you talking about was on sabbatical.

0:39:20.760 --> 0:39:24.520
<v Speaker 2>I could do it and April, I mean it's dog

0:39:24.600 --> 0:39:27.560
<v Speaker 2>don't get me wrong, but I was like no, because

0:39:27.560 --> 0:39:29.600
<v Speaker 2>that's the point of sabbatical. You say no to everything

0:39:29.680 --> 0:39:33.839
<v Speaker 2>unless it's Oprah, oh, Michelle Obama, you know. But other

0:39:33.880 --> 0:39:36.279
<v Speaker 2>than that, I'm like now because then you start making

0:39:36.280 --> 0:39:38.839
<v Speaker 2>allowances for all these other random things and it's like no, no, no,

0:39:38.880 --> 0:39:40.440
<v Speaker 2>that's not breaking where breaking is about?

0:39:40.680 --> 0:39:42.640
<v Speaker 1>So well, let me know you still got some time.

0:39:42.680 --> 0:39:44.960
<v Speaker 1>We should we do another like Brown Ambition Summit at

0:39:45.000 --> 0:39:47.359
<v Speaker 1>the at the Spa, because like, I got time this week.

0:39:47.480 --> 0:39:49.960
<v Speaker 1>Just let me know. My back is. I got a

0:39:50.160 --> 0:39:52.239
<v Speaker 1>I got a delightful massage in Costa Rica, but you know,

0:39:52.280 --> 0:39:55.320
<v Speaker 1>the plane and a toddler. Three days later I needed again.

0:39:56.080 --> 0:40:00.560
<v Speaker 1>I needed a can Oh. But yeah, I guess that's

0:40:00.600 --> 0:40:03.520
<v Speaker 1>the show. Good to get back, Good to have y'all back.

0:40:03.520 --> 0:40:05.360
<v Speaker 2>We'll see you next week, y'all.

0:40:06.360 --> 0:40:09.080
<v Speaker 1>Hey ba fam, we could not do this show without

0:40:09.160 --> 0:40:12.240
<v Speaker 1>your support or the support of our team behind the scenes.

0:40:12.600 --> 0:40:15.920
<v Speaker 1>The Brown Ambition podcast is produced by Imani Crosby and

0:40:16.000 --> 0:40:19.520
<v Speaker 1>Dennis Stanplinsky is our in house tech guru. I am

0:40:19.560 --> 0:40:22.200
<v Speaker 1>your co host Mandy woodrif Santos and we will see

0:40:22.239 --> 0:40:26.239
<v Speaker 1>y'all next week. BA FAM