1 00:00:06,320 --> 00:00:09,760 Speaker 1: Sing take it away so awkward. 2 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:22,239 Speaker 2: Hey, hey, yes we're back. We're black brown and this 3 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 2: should and this should should should many and are. 4 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:30,800 Speaker 1: Back in the black. Kelly is so happy to have 5 00:00:30,840 --> 00:00:34,040 Speaker 1: her Beyonce back because singing lead vocal on our opening 6 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:40,920 Speaker 1: track and the QA, I'm like some honky who I 7 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 1: like that word hoky. I'm gonna use that little ox. 8 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:45,919 Speaker 1: But so good to have you back. You've been going 9 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,600 Speaker 1: for a minute, girl, I'm still technically gone. 10 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 2: This is that like brown ambition, but like I still 11 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 2: have one more week off of my sabbatical where I'm not. 12 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:56,959 Speaker 1: Doing nothing and you stay true to it, like you're 13 00:00:57,040 --> 00:00:59,640 Speaker 1: taking March off. Yeah. 14 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, The next one is August. I was gonna take 15 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 2: December off, but I have like a project I don't 16 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:08,319 Speaker 2: even know. Well, maybe i'll let you guys in on 17 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:10,640 Speaker 2: a news So I have the workbook version of Kicker 18 00:01:10,720 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 2: Money coming out later on this year. But so because 19 00:01:14,720 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 2: it's later on this year, I will not be able 20 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:18,480 Speaker 2: to take December off, which I'm like, yeah, so, but 21 00:01:18,520 --> 00:01:20,680 Speaker 2: I'll take August off, but I'll be here in December. 22 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:21,800 Speaker 1: Well who needs January? 23 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 2: I know, because you know, when you drop something, you 24 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:26,200 Speaker 2: need to at least plan them in the two months 25 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 2: after that you're gonna be going hard on like book promotion. Okay, 26 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:32,959 Speaker 2: so probably won't be like February, so I'm like, but whatever. Anyway, 27 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:36,400 Speaker 2: how was Costa Rica Rica? 28 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 1: Yeah? It was amazing. It felt like a dream. We 29 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 1: left Homeboy at home with my mom shout out love 30 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 1: it at homeboy. Homeboy was at home, and there was 31 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 1: a twinge of guilt, but honestly, like we needed that. 32 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:51,920 Speaker 1: I didn't realize how badly we needed to just be 33 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: the two of us. We have not done anything like 34 00:01:54,160 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 1: that since before Rio was born. Twenty nineteen, we went 35 00:01:57,520 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: to Portugal for our baby moon. That was the last 36 00:01:59,520 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 1: time we were like alone on a trip because you know, 37 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: the pandemonium and all that, and it was divine. And 38 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:09,400 Speaker 1: the beauty of like knowing your partner for a decade 39 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:12,280 Speaker 1: plus is that you stop expecting them to travel the 40 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 1: way that you want to travel. So we we had 41 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:20,000 Speaker 1: like the perfect Mandy like Manrique version of resort that 42 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:24,240 Speaker 1: we chose. It was like natury and boutiqued. It wasn't 43 00:02:24,280 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 1: too big, it wasn't you know, which is not Enrique style, 44 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: but it still had like pools and the little beach 45 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:30,799 Speaker 1: for me because I want to be in the sun 46 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 1: for hours. And I was with a hat on. I'm 47 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:34,800 Speaker 1: gonna say, because. 48 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 2: You don't look because you get brown, browner like you 49 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:38,640 Speaker 2: not as brown as you look normally. 50 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 1: I know my nose got a little red the first 51 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 1: day and I got scurred. 52 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 2: Anyway, the black part was not gonna come through. You're like, 53 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:46,799 Speaker 2: hold on, I don't know my daddy's part's gonna do. 54 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:53,359 Speaker 1: Irish. Mandy was a Mandabella. She she came to It's 55 00:02:53,520 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 1: the first ten of the year. Is rough, okay, The 56 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:58,360 Speaker 1: Costa Rican sun's a little intense, yes, So I wasn't 57 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:01,240 Speaker 1: trying to to bake myself to crisp. But it was 58 00:03:01,720 --> 00:03:04,800 Speaker 1: just lovely. We just did nothing, but you know, really 59 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:09,639 Speaker 1: stay at the resort and eat really well and have conversations. 60 00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:13,600 Speaker 1: It was so weird. And I remember and my husband 61 00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 1: like he opened up in a way he's a cancer 62 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:18,920 Speaker 1: and he's just who he is. But the way that 63 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 1: he opened up at a certain point in our vacation, 64 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 1: I was like, I've been waiting for. 65 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:26,040 Speaker 2: This, Oh yeah, because you know it was such a 66 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:28,959 Speaker 2: super sensitive but quiet yeah. 67 00:03:29,080 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, And like you know when you're with someone like that. 68 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:32,480 Speaker 1: You have to like fill in the blanks of like 69 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: what they're thinking and all that, and don't be too 70 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: put Remember we talked about the credit score thing and 71 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 1: I was like, you better give me your credit score. 72 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: You don't love me. He's like, back off, this is 73 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:45,800 Speaker 1: not how I operate. Anyway. It was just it was lovely. 74 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:49,560 Speaker 1: It was bittersweet to come home. Obviously we both missed 75 00:03:49,960 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 1: Rio so much. But I'm already thinking about where we're 76 00:03:53,080 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 1: going to go next on a little like solo Husbane 77 00:03:57,320 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 1: wifey Vak. But okay, much, I wasn't as good as you. 78 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 1: I did not stay off of the internet. I still 79 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:05,200 Speaker 1: check my email. 80 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 2: Well, I'll say, I check my personal email. Like I 81 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 2: checked like, you know, the Budgeanista dot com or let 82 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:12,600 Speaker 2: me the budget. 83 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 1: Well let me, I was about to tell y'all girl. 84 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 2: By anyway, I did check my guest I know, but 85 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:26,560 Speaker 2: so yeah, so I checked that and I did do like, 86 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 2: you know, some personal stuff. I was like, oh, I 87 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 2: finally fitished my trust. It almost took like a year 88 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 2: and a half, which is honestly pretty normal. Yeah, because 89 00:04:34,920 --> 00:04:36,240 Speaker 2: there's all this back and forth, back and forth, back 90 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:38,840 Speaker 2: and four key you ad this and then so I finally, well, 91 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 2: let me not say it's finished. The written component is 92 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:45,280 Speaker 2: finished because with the trust, it's actually not done until 93 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:50,000 Speaker 2: you fund it and you sign it. And so for me, 94 00:04:50,360 --> 00:04:52,800 Speaker 2: I you know, so I'm waiting for Tony Tony Moore, 95 00:04:52,880 --> 00:04:55,200 Speaker 2: my attorney, super dope black woman attorney. 96 00:04:55,200 --> 00:04:55,640 Speaker 1: We love her. 97 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:58,960 Speaker 2: And so she just sent me the final I sent Itologeally, 98 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:03,000 Speaker 2: my financial advisor, to review, and there was just one 99 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:06,800 Speaker 2: last component when it came to the kids. So the 100 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:10,080 Speaker 2: kids are like anybody who I'm going to be leaving 101 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 2: something to under the age of twenty one, So that's 102 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:16,719 Speaker 2: Alyssa Roman and my nephew, Amelia my niece, Lily my niece. 103 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 2: And initially I left my siblings as the beneficiaries to 104 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 2: those accounts that I've been setting aside for the kids. 105 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 2: But then I thought about it, and just after Jarelle 106 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:31,480 Speaker 2: passed away and some things happened, and I was like, oh, 107 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 2: I said, I want to make sure that the person 108 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:36,720 Speaker 2: that I leave the money to it goes to them 109 00:05:36,960 --> 00:05:39,359 Speaker 2: and so and Tony knew that. So she was like, 110 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 2: Tiffany asked, Angelie, this is why it's important to have 111 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:45,880 Speaker 2: You're gonna have financial advisor. And it turned that they're 112 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:48,799 Speaker 2: all talking together because Tony knew that, and she said, 113 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:52,240 Speaker 2: ask ANGELI, who's the beneficiaries on those accounts? And I 114 00:05:52,240 --> 00:05:53,560 Speaker 2: had not thought about it because it's been a while 115 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:55,920 Speaker 2: when I open them, and she was like, I was like, oh, 116 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:58,720 Speaker 2: the kids, And Tony's like, remember what you said, not 117 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:01,239 Speaker 2: the kids, your siblings, you know, remember what you said. 118 00:06:01,480 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 2: She was like, we can have the kids be the 119 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 2: beneficiaries and we can have it in the trust that 120 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:07,480 Speaker 2: they did not get access to their money to their 121 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:10,400 Speaker 2: twenty five And I was like, okay, because that was 122 00:06:10,440 --> 00:06:12,719 Speaker 2: something important to me too that I don't believe that 123 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:15,520 Speaker 2: you know, well, typically the state whoever will hold the 124 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:19,360 Speaker 2: money for them until they're eighteen, but I think that's 125 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 2: too young, and so I wanted, like, okay, twenty five. 126 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 2: And so that was the last component of the trust. 127 00:06:26,480 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 2: So now I just have to update beneficiaries to everything 128 00:06:29,839 --> 00:06:31,760 Speaker 2: to go into the trust. I have to actually put 129 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 2: I have this home that I live in now, and 130 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:35,480 Speaker 2: I have the condo that I just bought. I have 131 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 2: to change the title to the trust. 132 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:38,279 Speaker 1: Yeah. 133 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:40,480 Speaker 2: So like so basically I have to fund the trust 134 00:06:40,560 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 2: with the things I want in there that if something 135 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 2: were to happen to me, it would go to the 136 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:46,599 Speaker 2: people who were part of the trust without having to 137 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:48,159 Speaker 2: go through probate or anything like that. 138 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:51,080 Speaker 1: Interesting, So you're gonna fund it already, yes, So it's 139 00:06:51,120 --> 00:06:53,720 Speaker 1: not like if I have so much when I'm gone, 140 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:55,520 Speaker 1: it's this percentage of that or whatever. You have to 141 00:06:55,600 --> 00:06:58,640 Speaker 1: literally fund it now, yes, because and then can you 142 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:00,719 Speaker 1: add to it or you to add to it? 143 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:04,160 Speaker 2: Okay, So like if I buy another property, or like 144 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:06,160 Speaker 2: if I, you know, like have a bank account that's 145 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:07,719 Speaker 2: part of the trust, I can put that money there 146 00:07:07,839 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 2: or I can have Basically, you make the trust the beneficiary. 147 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:13,600 Speaker 2: Like normally, when I was like twenty one, my mom 148 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 2: was my beneficiary and everything, cause I'm like I don't 149 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 2: know my mom, you know. And so now it's like, no, 150 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 2: Tiffany's Trust is the beneficiary of everything. So on my 151 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:25,200 Speaker 2: bank accounts to Tiffany's Trust, my home Tiffany's Trust, everything. 152 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 2: So if something happens to me, you know, the trust 153 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:32,480 Speaker 2: continues to hold what it already was holding, and the 154 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:35,160 Speaker 2: people of the trust will get access to those assets 155 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:38,560 Speaker 2: based upon my instructions. You know, like for example, God 156 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:40,760 Speaker 2: forbid something happens to me. Before my parents passed away, 157 00:07:41,240 --> 00:07:42,800 Speaker 2: it didn't make sense to me for them for me 158 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:45,200 Speaker 2: to leave them a percentage of my assets, so I 159 00:07:45,240 --> 00:07:47,040 Speaker 2: just left them a lump sum that was a good 160 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:49,120 Speaker 2: lump sum. Like my mom gets the same lump sum, 161 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 2: my dad gets the same lump sum. Because then then 162 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:54,400 Speaker 2: the rest is really divided by my sisters, you know, 163 00:07:54,520 --> 00:07:56,920 Speaker 2: because I no longer so I left also two like 164 00:07:56,960 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 2: the kids alyssa Moment, Me, Amelia, Lily, they all get 165 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 2: these lump sums. But really what's leftover gets divided evenly 166 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:06,240 Speaker 2: by my sisters. And then if I get married or 167 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:08,720 Speaker 2: whatever later I don't know, then I would just you know, 168 00:08:08,760 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 2: relook at But as it is right now, that's what happens. 169 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:14,800 Speaker 2: What's great about that is that with a trust, all 170 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:17,240 Speaker 2: these things happen behind closed doors. Like let's just say 171 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 2: I leave you know, fifty million dollars in assets. No 172 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 2: one will know because a trust allows you to navigate 173 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:27,560 Speaker 2: behind closed doors, and it allows people not to say 174 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 2: that you will inherit without having to pay taxes, but 175 00:08:30,920 --> 00:08:33,079 Speaker 2: it helps you with the potential to greatly reduce your 176 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 2: tax burden, you know. So you know that's so but 177 00:08:37,880 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 2: it's a long process depending on how many assets, because 178 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:42,120 Speaker 2: I have to decide what do I want to have 179 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 2: with the business. So the budgetista, I mean, I am 180 00:08:44,520 --> 00:08:46,320 Speaker 2: the budgetista, so I put it in there. You would 181 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:49,600 Speaker 2: have to sell it, you know, because you know I 182 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:53,559 Speaker 2: think that like I have like you know, like it. 183 00:08:53,679 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 2: So basically like I have to really decide what do 184 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 2: I want to happen with all assets. Because I thought 185 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:01,280 Speaker 2: to myself, you know, thanks Jerrell and I had talked 186 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:04,920 Speaker 2: about so much of his finances, so I would say 187 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:07,120 Speaker 2: eighty percent. I was pretty clear about what he wanted. 188 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:09,720 Speaker 2: But I didn't want my family to have to guess 189 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:12,920 Speaker 2: because you know, Durrell had what I call normal people finances. 190 00:09:13,240 --> 00:09:16,079 Speaker 2: You know, I have all these random businesses, and it's 191 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:18,400 Speaker 2: just like, so, what do you want to happen? And 192 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:20,360 Speaker 2: I don't want them to have to guess and tussle, 193 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:22,320 Speaker 2: and you know, and you always say like, oh, my 194 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:24,360 Speaker 2: family wouldn't, but you don't know, you know, grief brings 195 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 2: out weird things in people, and I just didn't want to, 196 00:09:26,960 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 2: you know. So it's just a little relief that like, 197 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:31,000 Speaker 2: you know, if something happens also too, It's like I 198 00:09:31,040 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 2: wanted to tell my family if I'm not capable of 199 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:36,960 Speaker 2: making decisions for myself because I'm heart in some way, 200 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:39,160 Speaker 2: this is who I want to make those Here's who 201 00:09:39,160 --> 00:09:41,360 Speaker 2: I want separate to make like I have my my 202 00:09:41,400 --> 00:09:44,960 Speaker 2: sister Karen. Her husband is is a medical doctor, and 203 00:09:45,120 --> 00:09:49,560 Speaker 2: I said, he's actually a disease and infectious disease like specialists. 204 00:09:49,559 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 2: And so I was like, I want her to make 205 00:09:51,400 --> 00:09:53,320 Speaker 2: my health choices, you know. 206 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:56,400 Speaker 1: And then Tracy, I want her than just a financial 207 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:59,720 Speaker 1: person because you can separate whole kit in kaboodle, yes, 208 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:01,599 Speaker 1: grown up what I was. 209 00:10:02,120 --> 00:10:03,480 Speaker 2: I was like, for Tracy, I want her to make 210 00:10:03,520 --> 00:10:05,240 Speaker 2: these chores. And then for this I want because I 211 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:07,960 Speaker 2: wanted to know. Oh my gosh, when I tell you, 212 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 2: because the truth death, I've been ninety percent financially wholed 213 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:14,040 Speaker 2: for a long time. This was the last ten percent 214 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:16,000 Speaker 2: where I'm like, Tiffany, you're a state plan is not 215 00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 2: planned out, you know, like if something happens, you will 216 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:22,720 Speaker 2: literally leave your family in just such disarray because you 217 00:10:22,840 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 2: just have a lot going on and it's a lot 218 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 2: for someone to figure out. And I'm sure I've not 219 00:10:28,080 --> 00:10:30,959 Speaker 2: thought of every single thing. But if I can get 220 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:34,200 Speaker 2: ninety five percent, you know, and so they can be like, well, 221 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 2: at least we know this and we have candid conversations, 222 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:38,440 Speaker 2: you know. I remember when I was telling my sister Tracy, like, well, 223 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:40,560 Speaker 2: you know, I leave you in charge of making these 224 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:41,560 Speaker 2: and she's like, oh, I don't want to hear. I 225 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 2: was like, you have to hear it, because I want 226 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:45,200 Speaker 2: you to know. And I told the other sisters too, 227 00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 2: so it's not like, well, what did Tiffany say, Well, 228 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 2: remember she told us this, you know, and so yeah, 229 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:52,280 Speaker 2: so I bet I feel and then I made it, 230 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:53,880 Speaker 2: like you know, y'all know are already. I got my 231 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 2: parents to update their will from when we were like ten. 232 00:10:56,080 --> 00:10:58,439 Speaker 2: I was like, Daddy, this will says that I will 233 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 2: go to uncle such and such if something happens to you, 234 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:02,280 Speaker 2: like I'm forty. 235 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:06,800 Speaker 1: Three, Uncle's coming exactly. 236 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 2: So they finally updated their will, which is great. So yeah, 237 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:12,719 Speaker 2: but I'm glad to be back. Like y'all know, I 238 00:11:12,720 --> 00:11:13,760 Speaker 2: went to I don't know if you know, but I 239 00:11:13,800 --> 00:11:16,560 Speaker 2: went to Egypt for the first two weeks of my mom. 240 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:19,800 Speaker 1: That slip, and I wasn't sure but it was yes, yeah. 241 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:21,320 Speaker 2: But no, no, that's fine. But it was mean because 242 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:24,320 Speaker 2: like the likelihood. Although I did meet some I was 243 00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:26,719 Speaker 2: lily walking. This woman was like, I know you are 244 00:11:26,920 --> 00:11:29,000 Speaker 2: I'm trying to freak out. Yes at the pyramids. 245 00:11:30,320 --> 00:11:34,040 Speaker 1: You word Africa though, so you know it was so cute. 246 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:36,040 Speaker 2: I was like what she was like, Oh my god, 247 00:11:36,080 --> 00:11:37,040 Speaker 2: I love you so much. 248 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that was so. 249 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:43,880 Speaker 2: Cute, wonderful, but it was Egypt was top three vacations 250 00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:46,160 Speaker 2: I've ever taken. I know, I told you I loved 251 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:50,120 Speaker 2: Kenya and I did. Kenya was amazing, amazing, amazing, but 252 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:53,320 Speaker 2: Kenya was like amazing in the space of like the now. 253 00:11:53,840 --> 00:11:58,120 Speaker 2: Egypt was like literally opening up your history book and 254 00:11:58,200 --> 00:11:59,959 Speaker 2: jumping into remember the Magic school Bus with. 255 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:02,000 Speaker 1: Me's frizzle. 256 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:06,680 Speaker 2: Yes, it literally felt like I'm inside the Magic school Bus, 257 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:09,319 Speaker 2: like experiencing like is this a pyramid? It is a pyramid, 258 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:10,959 Speaker 2: like I can touch it, I can sit on it. 259 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:13,720 Speaker 2: This is the sphinx. I can look at it. I 260 00:12:13,760 --> 00:12:17,840 Speaker 2: can I mean just to I cannot describe what it 261 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:20,440 Speaker 2: is to like know that like literally, this is not 262 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:23,800 Speaker 2: hundreds of years ago. These things were built thousands and 263 00:12:23,840 --> 00:12:27,560 Speaker 2: thousands of thousands of years ago, and there were people 264 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 2: who built this with such mathematical precision that it's lined 265 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:35,080 Speaker 2: up with the sun and the stars and the moon. 266 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:38,760 Speaker 2: And not only just that, not just mathematical precision, but 267 00:12:39,040 --> 00:12:43,760 Speaker 2: artistic precision. I mean to see, like I just it 268 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 2: is literally mind blowing how much is left behind that 269 00:12:47,760 --> 00:12:49,720 Speaker 2: you think to yourself, like, yo, you think your house 270 00:12:49,800 --> 00:12:52,199 Speaker 2: is gonna be here in fifty years? Probably not. This 271 00:12:52,280 --> 00:12:56,440 Speaker 2: is five thousand years old? What type of material. 272 00:12:56,000 --> 00:12:56,720 Speaker 1: By you guys? Use it? 273 00:12:56,720 --> 00:12:59,079 Speaker 2: Can you imagine that they're still here for us to see? 274 00:12:59,760 --> 00:13:02,559 Speaker 2: And so much, you know, so much has been lost, 275 00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 2: but so much has been you know, preserved. And what 276 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:07,319 Speaker 2: I love too about Egypt is that you can reach 277 00:13:07,360 --> 00:13:09,280 Speaker 2: out and touch history. I feel like if you go 278 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:11,800 Speaker 2: to like Mount Rushmore, you can't touch the statues, you know, 279 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:14,959 Speaker 2: but here you can like touch the pyramid. It's allowed, 280 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:18,200 Speaker 2: you know, Like you can go inside the pyramids, it's allowed. 281 00:13:18,280 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 2: So I love how hands on the history is in Egypt. 282 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:25,160 Speaker 2: So we spent like we went to like it was 283 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 2: two weeks, So we spent about three or four days 284 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:30,760 Speaker 2: and like four different locations, and so one of my 285 00:13:30,760 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 2: favorites was this place called Aschuon, which is like the 286 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:34,199 Speaker 2: Hamptons of Egypt. 287 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:38,480 Speaker 1: It was gorgeous, the hand one of Egypt, the Hamptons. 288 00:13:38,480 --> 00:13:41,200 Speaker 2: It was like the super fell posh, you know, but 289 00:13:41,280 --> 00:13:44,199 Speaker 2: it was gorgeous and beautiful. We did like a three 290 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:47,160 Speaker 2: or four day cruise on the River Nile and like this, 291 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:51,240 Speaker 2: like I call the river boat. Oh yeah, so it was. 292 00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:53,480 Speaker 2: It wasn't like it wasn't like the size of like 293 00:13:53,720 --> 00:13:55,520 Speaker 2: you know, a carnival cruise, but it wasn't like the 294 00:13:55,600 --> 00:13:57,800 Speaker 2: super small boat. So I just called the river boat. 295 00:13:57,840 --> 00:14:01,000 Speaker 2: But to cruise the Nile, to see the sunset and 296 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:04,400 Speaker 2: sunrise on the Nile, oh my god. And then we went. 297 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:07,319 Speaker 2: I sent you those pictures made of hot air balloon 298 00:14:07,400 --> 00:14:09,440 Speaker 2: riding and luxor which is really beautiful. 299 00:14:09,480 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 1: Yes, it looked like. 300 00:14:11,480 --> 00:14:12,319 Speaker 2: A story book. 301 00:14:12,760 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: Did you have to get up at the crack of dawn? Yes, 302 00:14:14,720 --> 00:14:16,040 Speaker 1: it was. We were so tired. We had to get 303 00:14:16,200 --> 00:14:19,440 Speaker 1: three ah Turkey and husband. That was our first trip 304 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 1: together and he was like, bitch, I'm not kidding us. 305 00:14:22,440 --> 00:14:23,359 Speaker 1: We joined the balloons. 306 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:27,560 Speaker 2: But it was so worth it. So because I did 307 00:14:27,640 --> 00:14:29,880 Speaker 2: I did hot air blue writing in like Albuquerque, New Mexico, 308 00:14:29,880 --> 00:14:31,920 Speaker 2: which is actually the hotter ballute capital of the world. 309 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:35,440 Speaker 2: But this was so worth it because you do a 310 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:39,160 Speaker 2: hot air balloon over the ancient ruins, you know, and 311 00:14:39,200 --> 00:14:41,680 Speaker 2: it just honestly, it was just such an amazing trip. 312 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:45,160 Speaker 2: And I encourage everyone to Egypt. If it's not on 313 00:14:45,200 --> 00:14:48,600 Speaker 2: your bucket list, it ought to be, whether your history 314 00:14:48,640 --> 00:14:54,240 Speaker 2: buff or not. It's just this amazing, miraculous like it 315 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:56,840 Speaker 2: is the it is the seat of civilization, you know, 316 00:14:57,040 --> 00:14:59,320 Speaker 2: like literally like this is where it all started and 317 00:14:59,400 --> 00:15:01,080 Speaker 2: you could feel and see it. But I will say, 318 00:15:01,080 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 2: if you do go to Egypt, it is not a 319 00:15:03,360 --> 00:15:06,160 Speaker 2: I'm gonna go by myself or I'm gonna go without 320 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 2: guided assistance. Certainly not that's super bustling, like Cairo is 321 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:14,160 Speaker 2: like New York on steroids. I mean, Cairo is like 322 00:15:14,200 --> 00:15:17,320 Speaker 2: New York Times twenty honestly, super busy, super hustle, energy, 323 00:15:17,400 --> 00:15:21,240 Speaker 2: super go go go so and you just want to 324 00:15:21,280 --> 00:15:24,640 Speaker 2: be like safe. So I encourage people to go, Like 325 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 2: I went with the tour, which was really great, and so. 326 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:28,720 Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask that must have taken a lot of 327 00:15:28,720 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 1: the pressure off. Yeah, Plus you get the it's like 328 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:33,040 Speaker 1: I don't want to go to Egypt and not have 329 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:35,080 Speaker 1: someone telling me what I'm looking at. Yes, you know, 330 00:15:35,240 --> 00:15:37,920 Speaker 1: because like I feel like I will waste because everything 331 00:15:37,960 --> 00:15:40,880 Speaker 1: is historical. Yes, yeah, that's amazing. 332 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:43,040 Speaker 2: It was yeah, and it's like so honestly, but this 333 00:15:43,080 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 2: whole Sabbatico has been awesome. 334 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:44,640 Speaker 3: I love. 335 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:47,880 Speaker 2: I know everyone is not able, but if you are 336 00:15:48,000 --> 00:15:51,160 Speaker 2: able to take a weekend a week I'm taking this 337 00:15:51,280 --> 00:15:54,280 Speaker 2: month and you know, August, I won't be able to 338 00:15:54,280 --> 00:15:56,360 Speaker 2: take December, like I said, but that's okay, but like 339 00:15:56,520 --> 00:16:00,520 Speaker 2: to take time away and it's not like to take 340 00:16:00,520 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 2: time away for everything, and you know, like I still 341 00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:03,840 Speaker 2: have to go food chopping, pay bill, you know, but 342 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:06,560 Speaker 2: meaning like one of the best things was being on 343 00:16:06,640 --> 00:16:09,120 Speaker 2: social media. I can't tell you how free it is 344 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:10,840 Speaker 2: not to know where everybody's up to every second of 345 00:16:10,880 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 2: the day. I mean, because you don't think about your like, oh, 346 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:15,960 Speaker 2: I'm wondering if such just has had the baby, how 347 00:16:16,040 --> 00:16:16,600 Speaker 2: such is us? 348 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:16,840 Speaker 3: Dog? 349 00:16:16,960 --> 00:16:18,880 Speaker 2: I don't even know these people. How am I keeping 350 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:21,400 Speaker 2: up with Yola? Everyone is a Kardashian, I didn't. You 351 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:23,800 Speaker 2: don't realize how much people's lives I was keeping up 352 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:26,040 Speaker 2: with until I wasn't. And I'm just keeping up with 353 00:16:26,080 --> 00:16:29,480 Speaker 2: the lives of the people who are central to my life, 354 00:16:29,520 --> 00:16:32,720 Speaker 2: my sisters, my friends. But you know, like a few 355 00:16:32,720 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 2: people hit me up, like my friends were like, girl, 356 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:36,760 Speaker 2: I'm waiting for the Egypt pictures on Instagram. I said, 357 00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:38,680 Speaker 2: you will continue to wait. I'm not posting them, you know, 358 00:16:38,760 --> 00:16:40,440 Speaker 2: maybe months from now maybe if I feel like it. 359 00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:43,480 Speaker 1: But I get the advanced copy like somebody I didn't many. 360 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:44,640 Speaker 2: He was I don't care about at last sent me 361 00:16:44,720 --> 00:16:49,280 Speaker 2: my picks and so but I did because but that's 362 00:16:49,840 --> 00:16:52,120 Speaker 2: there was a connectedness with sharing it with my sister 363 00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:54,200 Speaker 2: group chat. Like literally, I have a group chat with 364 00:16:54,240 --> 00:16:57,840 Speaker 2: my four sisters with my friend who asked because I 365 00:16:57,880 --> 00:17:00,920 Speaker 2: didn't want to take pictures with the end of posting 366 00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:03,320 Speaker 2: it for social media in mind, I just wanted to 367 00:17:03,400 --> 00:17:05,960 Speaker 2: enjoy Egypt and take pictures because it was fine. Although 368 00:17:06,000 --> 00:17:09,160 Speaker 2: I was slaying like maybe a special dress. 369 00:17:09,080 --> 00:17:11,880 Speaker 1: Just you'll see them because the world deserves the world 370 00:17:12,000 --> 00:17:14,720 Speaker 1: needs it deserves. Are you gonna get one? Get one? 371 00:17:14,760 --> 00:17:18,080 Speaker 1: Because they're not expensive. I looked into it. No, that's 372 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:20,240 Speaker 1: I think that. I honestly I was. I told you 373 00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:22,680 Speaker 1: they should stop selling that dress. It's the Tiffany now 374 00:17:22,800 --> 00:17:24,879 Speaker 1: and no one else can have it. I have plenty 375 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:29,760 Speaker 1: of yellow dresses though, that's my killer. No, you look stunning, 376 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:33,600 Speaker 1: and I mean, yeah, it's just yeah, I'm and honestly 377 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:36,000 Speaker 1: you taking time off too. It gives me an opportunity. 378 00:17:36,240 --> 00:17:38,680 Speaker 1: I mean obviously I was holding it down and BA land, 379 00:17:39,160 --> 00:17:42,680 Speaker 1: but it makes it feel like, Okay, it's going to 380 00:17:42,720 --> 00:17:45,640 Speaker 1: be part of the BA you know, like cadence now 381 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:47,600 Speaker 1: and you really set that presidence. I'm like, hell, yeah, 382 00:17:47,640 --> 00:17:50,919 Speaker 1: let's take August to off. We can do this. Yeah, amazing, 383 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:53,439 Speaker 1: So on on my behalf in my family's behalf. 384 00:17:54,680 --> 00:17:56,800 Speaker 2: No, we deserve because you can't keep go go go, 385 00:17:56,800 --> 00:17:59,520 Speaker 2: go go go. You know, even if you can't take 386 00:17:59,560 --> 00:18:01,720 Speaker 2: off from work or whatever, take off from social media. 387 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:04,520 Speaker 2: Anybody could take off from social media for like a 388 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:05,080 Speaker 2: week a. 389 00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:06,920 Speaker 1: Month banding in Utah. Do you hear that. 390 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:12,480 Speaker 3: Now, Well, they passed a law that because there's actually, 391 00:18:12,480 --> 00:18:15,920 Speaker 3: like CDC, there's research that obviously shows how damaging social 392 00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:18,440 Speaker 3: media is to teenagers, and they just passed a law 393 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:21,600 Speaker 3: in Utah where now you have to be eighteen and up. 394 00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:25,320 Speaker 1: It's like cigarettes to access it, except it's not like 395 00:18:25,359 --> 00:18:28,239 Speaker 1: cigarettes because your parents can give you permission, but you 396 00:18:28,240 --> 00:18:30,199 Speaker 1: have to like get your identity verified and all of 397 00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:32,720 Speaker 1: that before you can even get on, like Instagram, YouTube, 398 00:18:33,040 --> 00:18:35,840 Speaker 1: TikTok any of that stuff. It's the most restrictive ban 399 00:18:36,240 --> 00:18:38,000 Speaker 1: I think out of all the states, and I think 400 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:42,439 Speaker 1: like California has some kind of rule. But I don't know. 401 00:18:42,480 --> 00:18:44,080 Speaker 1: I feel like we're definitely and when the TikTok, I 402 00:18:44,119 --> 00:18:45,720 Speaker 1: don't know, you probably missed all of it, but TikTok 403 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:48,639 Speaker 1: I did CEO was on, you know, getting grilled by 404 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:53,320 Speaker 1: Congress and stuff is on his way talk Talk talk out. 405 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:57,080 Speaker 1: I don't know. It's uh. I mean, it's funny because 406 00:18:57,400 --> 00:18:59,879 Speaker 1: I understand that the national security issue and all that, 407 00:19:00,040 --> 00:19:02,840 Speaker 1: but I'm like, what are we giving them exactly? Like 408 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:05,320 Speaker 1: I really like recipes that I'm never gonna cook, and 409 00:19:05,359 --> 00:19:08,120 Speaker 1: I save a lot of them. That's like the information 410 00:19:08,200 --> 00:19:11,960 Speaker 1: China will get about me. But anyway, it makes me think, 411 00:19:12,040 --> 00:19:14,199 Speaker 1: like I don't know how you and Superman did it 412 00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:17,479 Speaker 1: with Alyssa, but I and I'm gonna have two boys. 413 00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:20,520 Speaker 1: But still like I'm I'm leaning more on the side 414 00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:24,879 Speaker 1: of like really conservative with social media for my kids. 415 00:19:25,960 --> 00:19:27,600 Speaker 1: So I don't really know how to feel as a parent. 416 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:32,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, we need something, but like total restriction, you know, 417 00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:33,879 Speaker 1: until you're eighteen. I don't I don't know what the 418 00:19:33,920 --> 00:19:34,560 Speaker 1: right answer is. 419 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 2: I know the rule with Alyssa is that Jarelle and 420 00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:40,359 Speaker 2: Chante said up for her was that she can't be 421 00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:43,040 Speaker 2: on a social platform that they're not on and they 422 00:19:43,080 --> 00:19:43,480 Speaker 2: have to have. 423 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:47,040 Speaker 1: Full access, like I'll your password and tell what like. 424 00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:49,040 Speaker 2: And then also too, I need we need to be friends. 425 00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:51,880 Speaker 1: Oh that's the other thing in Utah. Your parents get 426 00:19:51,880 --> 00:19:54,160 Speaker 1: access to everything. Yeah, so if you get on it, 427 00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:57,000 Speaker 1: they can access all your content, your messages, you know, 428 00:19:57,080 --> 00:19:58,240 Speaker 1: everything that you're looking at. 429 00:19:58,160 --> 00:20:00,000 Speaker 2: Because sometimes you try to post a little something cute, 430 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:02,639 Speaker 2: her little belly shirt out what she got snatched up 431 00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:03,120 Speaker 2: so quick. 432 00:20:03,119 --> 00:20:04,240 Speaker 1: We were all like all the aunties. 433 00:20:04,280 --> 00:20:07,720 Speaker 2: I was like, screenshots, screenshot screen, I got somebody screenshots, 434 00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:08,040 Speaker 2: I said. 435 00:20:08,520 --> 00:20:11,600 Speaker 1: We said, I write to shant like I'm blocking everybody else. 436 00:20:11,600 --> 00:20:12,760 Speaker 1: Say you won't or. 437 00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:17,920 Speaker 2: You'll be blocked off ticktoxis, you know, and so yeah, 438 00:20:18,040 --> 00:20:19,640 Speaker 2: because I mean that's really what you have to do, 439 00:20:19,840 --> 00:20:22,040 Speaker 2: Like I mean, because you know, I mean it would 440 00:20:22,040 --> 00:20:23,760 Speaker 2: be nice to say you can't use it, but then 441 00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:24,679 Speaker 2: the kids will sneak. 442 00:20:25,119 --> 00:20:27,440 Speaker 1: So you're not a thousand percent yes, but. 443 00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:29,640 Speaker 2: Her mom is honestly like they have such a great 444 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:33,480 Speaker 2: relationship and so her mom is really good at keeping 445 00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:36,280 Speaker 2: up with like the teen t if you will, because 446 00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:38,719 Speaker 2: she works for the Water of Education and so like 447 00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:40,119 Speaker 2: she's one of you know, you ever have somebody that 448 00:20:40,160 --> 00:20:42,000 Speaker 2: works in your building and everybody loves them. They're like, 449 00:20:42,040 --> 00:20:44,359 Speaker 2: we all love Missachisaj and they just tell all they 450 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:46,360 Speaker 2: business like and then I'm dating and then so that's 451 00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:48,720 Speaker 2: her mom anyway. So that's the way she relay on. 452 00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:51,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, that's the way she relates. 453 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:53,760 Speaker 2: So she'd be like, girl, I heard that Denise and 454 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:57,280 Speaker 2: Dennis are not talking, yes, and then you know, so 455 00:20:57,400 --> 00:21:00,239 Speaker 2: that's how she connects to be like and that's why 456 00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:03,919 Speaker 2: you can't go to that party. Yeah, So she's honestly, 457 00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:05,520 Speaker 2: her mom was awesome. Like I tell her all the time, 458 00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:07,600 Speaker 2: You're such an awesome mom, because it's not easy. Alissa 459 00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:11,199 Speaker 2: is sixteen, and you know, like to be able to 460 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:15,000 Speaker 2: stay like I have this mam authority. Like for example, 461 00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:17,040 Speaker 2: she was like, oh, my my friend who's seventeen is 462 00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:20,840 Speaker 2: having a birthday, like weekend, she went to an Airbnb 463 00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:23,679 Speaker 2: and she wants to all to come. I was like, sis, 464 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:27,040 Speaker 2: I what now at airbnb? So you can come back 465 00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:27,600 Speaker 2: with a baby. 466 00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:28,200 Speaker 1: No, no. 467 00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:33,720 Speaker 2: I was like, girl, Draking is taken. I was like, uh, 468 00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:35,800 Speaker 2: did you tell your mom? She's like I did. She 469 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:38,160 Speaker 2: was staying with me like for like the last week 470 00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:40,280 Speaker 2: and a half, so of course I was having her 471 00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:41,960 Speaker 2: that weekend that she was trying to go to this airbnb. 472 00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:44,600 Speaker 2: I was like, you told your mom? She said, it's fine. 473 00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:50,040 Speaker 2: I'm like, sis, I said, let's call her together. Like 474 00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:52,080 Speaker 2: I said, I said, Listen could go to this airbnb. 475 00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:54,640 Speaker 2: She said I did not. She's like mine, you said, 476 00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:56,560 Speaker 2: I said no, no, you told me about it, And 477 00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:59,320 Speaker 2: I said what she said, yeah, but you didn't say no. 478 00:21:59,520 --> 00:22:03,760 Speaker 1: So well, I was like, not looking for a loophole, 479 00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:07,800 Speaker 1: and so in the contract it was so obviously she 480 00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:08,360 Speaker 1: did not go. 481 00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:10,280 Speaker 2: First of all, when I looked at the Airbn meet girl, 482 00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:12,080 Speaker 2: it looked like a trap house. 483 00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:15,360 Speaker 1: I was like, first of all, who rented this? It's 484 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:16,960 Speaker 1: in newark On like D Block. 485 00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:20,720 Speaker 2: I'm like, was it friends kids or yeah? Like seven 486 00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:23,359 Speaker 2: like some her friend is turning seventeen or eighteen. Maybe 487 00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:27,480 Speaker 2: Souselsta's sixteen turning seventeen, but she's young for her grade, 488 00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:29,000 Speaker 2: you know, so. 489 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:31,400 Speaker 1: So either way, ready for those kinds of chats Hell 490 00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:32,440 Speaker 1: to the now No. 491 00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:34,280 Speaker 2: I mean, like, you know, your little girlfriends can come 492 00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:39,760 Speaker 2: here whatever, but I'm like an airbnbsist for the weekend. No, yeah, no, And. 493 00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:42,199 Speaker 1: That comes from I think the kids watching like MTV 494 00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:44,239 Speaker 1: and did they watch TV? I sound so fuck at 495 00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:48,919 Speaker 1: all seeing on TikTok like the group Vak's and like 496 00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:51,080 Speaker 1: all that, which is all fun wait for college, you know. 497 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:53,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, but also too, it didn't even look I said, 498 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:54,320 Speaker 2: you're not gonna have fun there. 499 00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:57,920 Speaker 1: That place looks ghetto. I was like, this is this, this. 500 00:22:57,880 --> 00:22:59,879 Speaker 2: Is run down. I could see it like, you know, 501 00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:02,919 Speaker 2: like the girl's mom had rented some beautiful place and 502 00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:05,160 Speaker 2: blah blah blah. You know, but that's not the case here. 503 00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:08,439 Speaker 2: So anyway, the answer was no, you know so, but 504 00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:11,480 Speaker 2: that's why it's important you have those conversations, all the stakeholders, 505 00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:13,160 Speaker 2: all the you know, like I have, like a really, 506 00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:15,879 Speaker 2: I've always had a great relationship with Alyssa's mom. You know, 507 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:18,560 Speaker 2: it's even better now. Honestly, we're even closer now. And 508 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:20,760 Speaker 2: so I'm always like, girl, I don't even know why 509 00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:23,119 Speaker 2: you're trying to cause it's a phone call away. We 510 00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:30,159 Speaker 2: could text your mom at today exactly. But yeah, but this, 511 00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:32,480 Speaker 2: I have to say this sabbatical. When I tell you 512 00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:35,320 Speaker 2: so recharging, so resetting, I'm so glad I still have 513 00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:39,760 Speaker 2: another full week. I'm just USA time. And it took 514 00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:41,600 Speaker 2: me a while. So I was telling doctor Green, my 515 00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:44,399 Speaker 2: my amazing therapist, like I feel bad because I'm not 516 00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:46,679 Speaker 2: doing anything. She was like, doing nothing is doing something, 517 00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:50,199 Speaker 2: you know, because I just feel like, you know, like 518 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:51,720 Speaker 2: I should be doing all this stuff. She's like, no, 519 00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:55,480 Speaker 2: that that's literally the point, Tiffany, Like you next month, 520 00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:57,959 Speaker 2: you can go right back to doing whatever. But like 521 00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:00,240 Speaker 2: it's you know, you went to Egypt for the first 522 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:01,960 Speaker 2: two weeks, and then the last three weeks you've just 523 00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:06,800 Speaker 2: been walking, reading, therapy, hanging out with family and friends. 524 00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:08,040 Speaker 1: That's it. 525 00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:10,200 Speaker 2: And so it's like it's a lot, that's the point 526 00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:13,760 Speaker 2: of it. So it's hard not to feel guilty about 527 00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:15,919 Speaker 2: not being quote unquote productive, but I'm really trying. 528 00:24:17,040 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, we all need to like break that cycle. My 529 00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:21,280 Speaker 1: therapist has the same things. And that's why, Like before 530 00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:23,480 Speaker 1: I went on vacation, I was trying to pep talk myself, 531 00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:27,000 Speaker 1: like sometimes all stress about not doing vacation, right, Like, 532 00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:28,520 Speaker 1: am I going to enjoy it enough? I'm i gonna 533 00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:29,679 Speaker 1: enjoy it the right way? Am I going to be 534 00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:32,159 Speaker 1: on my phone too much? Like and even that, I 535 00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:34,320 Speaker 1: was like, girl, just go and do whatever you feel 536 00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:38,520 Speaker 1: like doing. But my favorite thing is silence. And this 537 00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:41,800 Speaker 1: place was like had all these little nooks and crannies 538 00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:45,280 Speaker 1: and hidden little pools and hidden you know, natury areas 539 00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:47,560 Speaker 1: to go sit. And I read a whole book. By 540 00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:50,000 Speaker 1: the way, if y'all need a good beach, read black Cake. 541 00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:52,400 Speaker 1: You were talking about Inheritance, and I was thinking about 542 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:55,439 Speaker 1: the book I read. It's called black Cake. By dang it, 543 00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:59,080 Speaker 1: I should have looked at the author, but it's really good. 544 00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:01,159 Speaker 1: It's about a I don't know if she's actually they 545 00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:03,080 Speaker 1: don't even mention what island she's from, but a woman 546 00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:06,840 Speaker 1: from the island who leaves her son and daughter a 547 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,360 Speaker 1: cake in the freezer. Like they call it black cake, 548 00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:12,640 Speaker 1: but I think we know it as rum cake and 549 00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:16,080 Speaker 1: like all of her dirty secrets from her childhood. It's 550 00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:19,560 Speaker 1: so good. So get y'all a good book, whether it's 551 00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:23,520 Speaker 1: a bench at the park or somewhere. But yeah, I agree, 552 00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,040 Speaker 1: And you come back to like springtime. I love that 553 00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:30,760 Speaker 1: came back and it felt like things were blooming and 554 00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:33,920 Speaker 1: my baby bump is blooming, that's for sure. How you 555 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:37,399 Speaker 1: feeling huge? We keeps saying I'm cute. I'm like, I 556 00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:39,639 Speaker 1: hate the cute stage of pregnancy. You don't call me cute, no, 557 00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:40,800 Speaker 1: but you do look really cute. 558 00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:42,800 Speaker 2: I mean some people have a hard look when it 559 00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:45,760 Speaker 2: comes for You're like Chad, But I'm like, really, your 560 00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:46,520 Speaker 2: mother having glowy? 561 00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:49,000 Speaker 1: Your hair is all cute, your face is all glowy. 562 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:52,600 Speaker 1: I mean, okay, I'll take it, but I will say 563 00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:55,360 Speaker 1: as someone who I finally approached that age. Maybe it's 564 00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:57,600 Speaker 1: a pregnancy, but I've never felt more confident in a 565 00:25:57,640 --> 00:26:00,920 Speaker 1: bikini than I did on vacation this past week, never 566 00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:03,359 Speaker 1: been heavier in my whole life, got this huge baby bump. 567 00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:05,239 Speaker 1: But I don't know. I'm just feeling myself, and I'm like, 568 00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:07,680 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna rock this because what choice do I have. 569 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:10,119 Speaker 1: I'm not about to be out here in pants in 570 00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:12,840 Speaker 1: long sleeves like I want to be at the pool 571 00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:16,560 Speaker 1: all days. So it was lovely good. Now you're here 572 00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:19,639 Speaker 1: for your bad confidence. Please refly. Oh well, it's so 573 00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:21,640 Speaker 1: good to have you back. Should we take a quick 574 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,080 Speaker 1: little break? Yes, we're just easing on into this and 575 00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:25,520 Speaker 1: come back with brown boost brown. 576 00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:32,240 Speaker 2: Break if we ought to yes, and we're back in black. 577 00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:36,080 Speaker 2: I actually have a funny well, actually it's now it's 578 00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:36,879 Speaker 2: time I forgot. 579 00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:38,800 Speaker 1: I was about to say still. 580 00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:42,080 Speaker 2: Break up boostop break up boostop stops. 581 00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:44,920 Speaker 1: You go on booth, Are you going. 582 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:51,119 Speaker 2: What you're gonna do? What you're going to. 583 00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:52,520 Speaker 1: Pix? 584 00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:55,520 Speaker 2: I have a super light boosty breaking, so I'll go first, 585 00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:56,399 Speaker 2: and then I don't know what you have for a 586 00:26:56,400 --> 00:27:00,119 Speaker 2: booty breaking. But so I got two things one and 587 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:01,879 Speaker 2: they're like both cosmetic. I think, you know, I'm not 588 00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,119 Speaker 2: being paid, but I really liked it. So I my 589 00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:06,800 Speaker 2: sister Lisa came over the other day and she was like, 590 00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:07,600 Speaker 2: I've been influenced. 591 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:08,120 Speaker 1: I was like wow. 592 00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:11,680 Speaker 2: She was like, I'm wearing this new almost lipstick my clinique. 593 00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:13,240 Speaker 2: I had this little box. Just went to Alt today 594 00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:13,639 Speaker 2: and buy it. 595 00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:14,680 Speaker 1: Bought it. 596 00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:17,040 Speaker 2: It's called black Honey, and the claims of fame is 597 00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:20,800 Speaker 2: that whether no matter your skin color, you can wear it. 598 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,920 Speaker 2: It looks different and so basically it just basically enhances 599 00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:26,359 Speaker 2: like your natural lip color. And I was like, so 600 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 2: Lisa put it on and her lip color is like 601 00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:31,560 Speaker 2: like slightly pinky whatever, and so like I was like, oh, 602 00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:34,760 Speaker 2: and we went out to brunch and she was putting 603 00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:36,040 Speaker 2: it on and this woman was like, oh my god. 604 00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:37,199 Speaker 2: We were in brunch in Brooklyn. 605 00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:37,800 Speaker 1: It was a sister. 606 00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:40,600 Speaker 2: She was like black honey. So the woman took out 607 00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:43,520 Speaker 2: her black honey put it on and hers was like 608 00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:45,600 Speaker 2: more of like a reddish lip club, so like her natural. 609 00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:46,359 Speaker 1: So it enhanced it. 610 00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:48,240 Speaker 2: That's like, oh, that's nice. So then I just bought 611 00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:49,840 Speaker 2: it today and I have to say, I like it. 612 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:52,520 Speaker 2: This is I have more of a brown like, I'm 613 00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:56,240 Speaker 2: like a brownish like with the undertones of red loop colors. 614 00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:59,000 Speaker 2: So it just basically enhances like this is your lip, 615 00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:02,560 Speaker 2: but your lip more lipping. You know, I don't know 616 00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:04,399 Speaker 2: how to explain it. So it's like it's not a 617 00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:06,600 Speaker 2: lipstick and it's not a chapstick, but it feels like 618 00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:08,960 Speaker 2: it feels really nice like a chapstick. So I just 619 00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:11,120 Speaker 2: was like, I like it. So, I mean, it's not true. 620 00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:12,880 Speaker 2: It was like twenty three dollars but whatever. 621 00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:16,720 Speaker 1: So at the going rate for a good tube of yes, 622 00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:17,680 Speaker 1: but I just liked it. 623 00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,640 Speaker 2: I was just like, okay, so you know, I'm super chock. 624 00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:24,240 Speaker 2: Lisa is like like maybe like a medium brown, and 625 00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:27,119 Speaker 2: the other lady was like someplace in between. And then 626 00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:29,239 Speaker 2: I've seen it like on all different colored girls. But 627 00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 2: I love when a product it rarely. It's like the 628 00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:33,840 Speaker 2: Traveling pants, the Sisterhoods, the traveling pants. 629 00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:38,520 Speaker 1: That you took my jokey joke, So this is like traveling. 630 00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:43,560 Speaker 2: So yeah, so clinique almost lipstick. It's called black Honey, 631 00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:45,160 Speaker 2: and so I don't know, try it. If you guys 632 00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:46,640 Speaker 2: are using it, let me know. I would love to 633 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:48,800 Speaker 2: see it on you because I love that it really 634 00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:53,760 Speaker 2: just like you know, like it's your color, just like 635 00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:56,520 Speaker 2: I don't know, like a more enhanced version of your color, 636 00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:59,760 Speaker 2: which I love because sometimes like I don't always no, 637 00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:01,600 Speaker 2: not all, but I don't. Also I like wearing like 638 00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:03,560 Speaker 2: a like a like the like the lip like a 639 00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:06,880 Speaker 2: not necessarily lipstick, but I like wearing like these lips 640 00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:10,320 Speaker 2: stains sometimes and then sometimes I like chapstick. But sometimes 641 00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:12,560 Speaker 2: you just want something where you're like I want something 642 00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:17,880 Speaker 2: that's me like supernatural, but not just exactly my lip color, 643 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:22,320 Speaker 2: something like more enhanced. And the second boost is child 644 00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:24,479 Speaker 2: So this is gonna sound like crazy, but let's talk 645 00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:26,760 Speaker 2: about ziinas so it took me. 646 00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:30,080 Speaker 1: We are there's nothing off limits. In fact, part of 647 00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:31,640 Speaker 1: the reason I was late was because I realized I 648 00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:33,400 Speaker 1: had my underwear inside out, so I had to put 649 00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:35,800 Speaker 1: them right. And I'm pregnant and it took a while 650 00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,120 Speaker 1: to get the leggings off and let it go. 651 00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,960 Speaker 2: So when I was in college, I'm gonna say nothing. 652 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:45,600 Speaker 2: I'm gonna be careful not to like incriminate her. There 653 00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:48,680 Speaker 2: was a young woman who just had like a very 654 00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:52,000 Speaker 2: strong resigna older and I didn't know at the time. 655 00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:55,920 Speaker 2: I know, and I realize now that it was uh 656 00:29:56,400 --> 00:30:00,760 Speaker 2: that was it bacterial vagamosis or whatever that word? Yeah, BB, 657 00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:03,480 Speaker 2: basically that's the right. So I didn't know at the time. 658 00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:05,120 Speaker 2: It was just like and I didn't know her well 659 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,240 Speaker 2: enough to say because she was just on the floor, 660 00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:07,800 Speaker 2: lived on the floor. 661 00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:08,440 Speaker 1: And no, this is not me. 662 00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:13,120 Speaker 2: But I remember thinking, I I grew up in to 663 00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:15,000 Speaker 2: have My mom's a nurse, and I have four sisters, 664 00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:17,440 Speaker 2: and so she was very adamant about teaching us this 665 00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:18,960 Speaker 2: is how you clean yourself, This is how you clean yourself, 666 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,240 Speaker 2: you know, and especially like after we got our cycles 667 00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:23,400 Speaker 2: for the first time, you know, Like, but I remember 668 00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:28,120 Speaker 2: when that happened because she was this pretty girl and 669 00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:31,680 Speaker 2: she didn't want to have like any boyfriends. She didn't 670 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:34,480 Speaker 2: she just had a really hard time. And you know, 671 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:37,280 Speaker 2: you're so young. I didn't know like what. I honestly 672 00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:39,920 Speaker 2: just thought, well, don't you just clean yourself? And you don't, 673 00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:43,160 Speaker 2: you know, But I remember it was then that I 674 00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:47,080 Speaker 2: became super vigilant about finding the right thing to clean 675 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:50,160 Speaker 2: like myself, because I just remember being terrified that that's 676 00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:52,080 Speaker 2: what happens when you maybe are not using the right 677 00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:54,240 Speaker 2: so right, you know, and you tried all this stuff 678 00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,000 Speaker 2: that just totally just like and you're not supposed to 679 00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:58,320 Speaker 2: put down there. So I remember my friend who's West 680 00:30:58,320 --> 00:31:00,440 Speaker 2: India put me onto this thing called debt tall, which 681 00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:06,680 Speaker 2: is like literally like putting bleach. I was like, girl, Yes, 682 00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:09,640 Speaker 2: it was such a strong Now what staying need a 683 00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:11,240 Speaker 2: dead talp? They like detalp for everything. They use de 684 00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:11,800 Speaker 2: tal to lie. 685 00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:14,280 Speaker 1: You're supposed to like not use anything because you're you're 686 00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:16,200 Speaker 1: unless I mean, that's a condition. You need to see 687 00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:19,080 Speaker 1: a doctor, yes, so they say, but but I will say, 688 00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:20,000 Speaker 1: so I've always. 689 00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:22,400 Speaker 2: Tried, like I liked, I was using doctor Bronner's with 690 00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:25,320 Speaker 2: set Pepperman be tangling in ways that feel like y'all. 691 00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:32,160 Speaker 1: But I love the natural bacterium, I will say lately, 692 00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:33,719 Speaker 1: I love this one. 693 00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:35,920 Speaker 2: This is a black owned woman brand like back owned 694 00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:39,280 Speaker 2: is that? And I think we've we actually had them, like, 695 00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:40,800 Speaker 2: I think we need to get them back. This is 696 00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:43,000 Speaker 2: our money, to our our producer. We need to get 697 00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:45,600 Speaker 2: them back as people that you know, pay us for 698 00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:48,320 Speaker 2: like ads. But I will say, honey. 699 00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:51,800 Speaker 1: Pot, girl, honeypot, when I tell you, I'm not gonna lie. 700 00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:54,960 Speaker 2: When they first brought us honeypot, it was the was 701 00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:56,520 Speaker 2: it the pads they gave us, And I was not 702 00:31:56,560 --> 00:31:59,120 Speaker 2: a fan, you know, like as a girl who wars pads, 703 00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:01,239 Speaker 2: I've never used tampon like I was like, yeah, so 704 00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:03,840 Speaker 2: then I never I honestly never explored anything else honeypot, 705 00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:06,320 Speaker 2: until I think, I want to say, I think they 706 00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:09,120 Speaker 2: sponsored us again or something like that. But they have 707 00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:12,680 Speaker 2: a wash like a foaming wash, huh knee or squirrel 708 00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:16,120 Speaker 2: because I'm super sensitive my skin everything, so I use 709 00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:20,280 Speaker 2: the sensitive foaming wash everything, and then the wipes, oh 710 00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:23,080 Speaker 2: my gosh, like and I use the sensitive wipes too everything, 711 00:32:23,120 --> 00:32:24,880 Speaker 2: and then they have like a like a sensitive spray 712 00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,680 Speaker 2: but when I tell you, even during your cycle, even 713 00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:30,680 Speaker 2: after your cycle, when your least feeling your least fresh, 714 00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:36,880 Speaker 2: You're like, girl, is this like it is honestly when 715 00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:39,480 Speaker 2: I say life changing, because like I said, I'm someone 716 00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:42,400 Speaker 2: who's just clean, clean, cleaning, but always felt like I 717 00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:45,560 Speaker 2: could do better. It could be I mean it, I 718 00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:49,520 Speaker 2: mean even after working out. Like what I love most 719 00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:52,360 Speaker 2: about honeypot is the last thing effects because you do 720 00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:54,400 Speaker 2: your thing, you know, use your foaming wash, you know, 721 00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:56,880 Speaker 2: you wipe with the wipes, you spray, and then you 722 00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:58,960 Speaker 2: can work out and then be done with the workout 723 00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:00,440 Speaker 2: and you don't smell like don't. 724 00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:02,320 Speaker 1: With the workout, if you know what I mean. Yeah, 725 00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:05,240 Speaker 1: you know, and that's kind of like shower properly, yes. 726 00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:06,680 Speaker 2: You know, but it just doesn't or just like before 727 00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:08,800 Speaker 2: you even get home or whatever. But it just because 728 00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:10,600 Speaker 2: usually that's when you're like, well this is natural, girl, 729 00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:12,520 Speaker 2: I just worked out. It's just you know, but no, 730 00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:14,200 Speaker 2: I don't know what they put in that thing that 731 00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:19,960 Speaker 2: what sorcery. Her name is Beatrice, but it is amazing, amazing, amazing. Yeah, 732 00:33:19,960 --> 00:33:21,880 Speaker 2: So like I use, like I said, my favorite is 733 00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:24,040 Speaker 2: the foaming watch, which I use every morning when I 734 00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:25,800 Speaker 2: take a shower, and even if I take a shower, 735 00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:30,200 Speaker 2: I use the wipes, especially during cycle time because that's 736 00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:32,680 Speaker 2: when you're most you know, not as fresh. 737 00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:35,000 Speaker 1: And then that's one of my favorite pregnancy symptoms. 738 00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:38,920 Speaker 2: And no way, and then I use this breastfeeding. 739 00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:41,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh two years no periods, sun me up 740 00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:44,440 Speaker 1: for it. Oh really when you breastfeed, when you breastfeed, yeah, 741 00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:46,400 Speaker 1: which does not mean that you can't get pregnant. Do 742 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:48,760 Speaker 1: not make that mistake because because we have a kids, 743 00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:51,480 Speaker 1: met you together exactly, I'm not no Irish twins here, 744 00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:54,000 Speaker 1: but yeah you do. I just will say that. 745 00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:56,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, I just have to say, honestly, honey pot, it's 746 00:33:56,640 --> 00:34:00,800 Speaker 2: for the wind. I have never felt fresher like I've 747 00:34:00,840 --> 00:34:01,480 Speaker 2: met there. 748 00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:03,280 Speaker 1: We ain't getting paid for this, I know. I'm sorry. 749 00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:04,520 Speaker 1: I'm not saying they need to, but it was. 750 00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:05,000 Speaker 2: Just so good. 751 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:07,280 Speaker 1: I just had to. Like, I just was like, like this. 752 00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:08,759 Speaker 2: Is when I was using that, I said, I got 753 00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:10,120 Speaker 2: to talk about honeypot, because. 754 00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:12,880 Speaker 1: That's right here. It's just too giffing out that shower. 755 00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:16,200 Speaker 2: So and you don't understand, like I'm someone who breaks 756 00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:18,239 Speaker 2: out for everything, like literally if I use a new 757 00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:20,680 Speaker 2: lip gloss. My lips will break down if I use 758 00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:22,680 Speaker 2: a new face, walk my face, Like I'm I have 759 00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:26,000 Speaker 2: super I'm sensitive to I'm alert to black hair dye. 760 00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:29,279 Speaker 2: I dyed my hair once and my whole heart story, yes, 761 00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:32,480 Speaker 2: and so like I'm somebody who is hyper sensitive to everything. 762 00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:34,040 Speaker 2: I guess that's why I'm so excited, because I'm like, 763 00:34:34,360 --> 00:34:37,200 Speaker 2: everything makes me break out, everything makes me and so 764 00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:38,879 Speaker 2: to be able to use this, and also that it's 765 00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:40,840 Speaker 2: a black woman on brand, I just and I'm not 766 00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:45,080 Speaker 2: gonna lie. They did her dirty when some random TikToker 767 00:34:45,160 --> 00:34:49,000 Speaker 2: posted a video about like, hey, they changed the formula 768 00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:50,959 Speaker 2: and didn't tell us, which is not true. They did, 769 00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:54,719 Speaker 2: and they dragged her and almost destroyed her business, and 770 00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:58,400 Speaker 2: I'm just like that, Yeah, it was really really really ugly, 771 00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:01,279 Speaker 2: and I just was like, you know, you know that 772 00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:04,160 Speaker 2: was wrong and two and it was also untrue, and 773 00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:05,799 Speaker 2: so three, I know they're not paying us, but I 774 00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:07,760 Speaker 2: just want to say, like, you know, I've met Beachess 775 00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:10,160 Speaker 2: a couple of times. She's super dope and also too, 776 00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:13,080 Speaker 2: like you know, it's it's the stuff actually works. So 777 00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:15,840 Speaker 2: that's that's your little kudos. But Bencher's girl, let us sponsor, 778 00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:17,600 Speaker 2: give us some sponsorship money, chet because I could talk 779 00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:19,319 Speaker 2: about vagina's every week if you need us to. 780 00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:21,799 Speaker 1: I think it's a good moment to call back our 781 00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:24,840 Speaker 1: recent episode where we had a vagina doctor what was 782 00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:27,399 Speaker 1: her name, that's not her actual title, but she got 783 00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:32,640 Speaker 1: me following, yes, Jennifer something. What was it, oh, discover her, 784 00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:35,120 Speaker 1: discover her or something like that. Yeah. Well yeah, anyway, 785 00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:37,520 Speaker 1: it's an awesome episode. It was Valentine's Day, That's what 786 00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:40,560 Speaker 1: it was, yes, V Day, the vagina episode. Please go 787 00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:43,560 Speaker 1: back and educate yourselves, Okay, no matter how you identify. 788 00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:48,040 Speaker 2: So that's my boost. Look, my boos deals with both 789 00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:55,960 Speaker 2: lips and up to our our producer. Please do not 790 00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:58,600 Speaker 2: use it as a clip because I was like, first 791 00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:00,960 Speaker 2: of all during the V Day episod, so Imani had 792 00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:02,120 Speaker 2: the nerve to use the clip where I was like, 793 00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:02,920 Speaker 2: I pee on myself. 794 00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:06,520 Speaker 1: I's just struggling body, so funny. Yeah, I had nothing 795 00:36:06,520 --> 00:36:06,960 Speaker 1: to do with that. 796 00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:11,160 Speaker 2: I said, not the peepe confession as the clip for 797 00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,000 Speaker 2: social media, but. 798 00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:14,879 Speaker 1: Whatever, it is what it is. But I'm like, yeah, 799 00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:21,239 Speaker 1: you to pick somebody else, so are you boosting or breaking? Well, 800 00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:22,840 Speaker 1: let me go ahead and boost for the book that 801 00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:25,360 Speaker 1: I found out the author. So the author is a 802 00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:28,120 Speaker 1: black woman. Her name is Charmaine wuckle Sent Wilkerson. The 803 00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:30,640 Speaker 1: book is Black Cake. I got it at Target in 804 00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:33,719 Speaker 1: paperback and that thing looks like I use and abuse it. 805 00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:36,200 Speaker 1: I read it so fast in the pool. But an 806 00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:41,000 Speaker 1: awesome book featuring some really like strong black female characters. 807 00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:44,120 Speaker 1: So if you're into that, definitely pick that book up 808 00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:48,160 Speaker 1: this summer. And then my other, my other boost because 809 00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:50,040 Speaker 1: I have mom brain. I need to go to my 810 00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:53,239 Speaker 1: notes and you know, oh, I wanted to give a 811 00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:56,200 Speaker 1: boost to myself because so I one of the things 812 00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:58,160 Speaker 1: I did before I went on vacation was I did 813 00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:02,640 Speaker 1: my first ever in person Mandy Money like I thought, 814 00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:06,279 Speaker 1: which was a couple of weeks ago, but I want 815 00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:10,120 Speaker 1: to mention it because I have just started. It's been 816 00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:11,600 Speaker 1: a couple of weeks and I've started to get the 817 00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:14,000 Speaker 1: emails like I met you there and here's this opportunity, 818 00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:15,839 Speaker 1: and here's this you know, like the fun, the fun 819 00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:17,719 Speaker 1: part and the reason why you sometimes do things for 820 00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:20,439 Speaker 1: free or things that you're kind of scared of. But yeah, 821 00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,799 Speaker 1: just shout out to that. And also I've found out 822 00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,520 Speaker 1: about this conference I don't feel like through an ad 823 00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:28,279 Speaker 1: on IG or something like that, or I saw it 824 00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:31,719 Speaker 1: in an email, like a random email and I wasn't 825 00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:33,719 Speaker 1: on a list of speakers and I checked them out 826 00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:35,800 Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, April Ryan's gonna be the keynote, 827 00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,799 Speaker 1: and she was awesome and it was local to me. 828 00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:42,239 Speaker 1: And I just use my journalism skills. I've tracked down 829 00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:46,040 Speaker 1: every organizer I could find, found them on LinkedIn, found 830 00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:48,560 Speaker 1: their IG, found their email, hit them up everywhere, Like 831 00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:51,040 Speaker 1: so I have this great workshop. I do it virtually, 832 00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:53,239 Speaker 1: but I'd love to do it at your conference. And 833 00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:55,480 Speaker 1: they just added me to the roster. Yes, just because 834 00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:57,600 Speaker 1: I asked, and you know, put myself there, put myself 835 00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:00,680 Speaker 1: out there. So yeah, for anyone. And I say it 836 00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:04,920 Speaker 1: all the time, like if you're wanting exposure or experience 837 00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:07,680 Speaker 1: public speaking, you can't. I mean, it's great when they 838 00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:10,120 Speaker 1: come to you, but also like do what you can 839 00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:12,279 Speaker 1: to make connections so that you know you can get 840 00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,440 Speaker 1: a chance like get on a panel or you know, 841 00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:16,840 Speaker 1: be seen. And I just told myself, this is a 842 00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:20,040 Speaker 1: conference with hundreds of badass entrepreneur women, there's going to 843 00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:22,799 Speaker 1: be someone there who maybe I could work with you 844 00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:25,480 Speaker 1: know down the line. So it was such a great 845 00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:27,360 Speaker 1: little event and I was just proud of myself. 846 00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:31,279 Speaker 2: And you spoke to my dream Catchers when I was away. 847 00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:34,040 Speaker 1: I did did they have any did they come to 848 00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:35,759 Speaker 1: you and give you my grade? I was like, I 849 00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:38,960 Speaker 1: have an out. Okay, you're right, You're right, You're right. No, 850 00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:41,080 Speaker 1: it was so No, it was so good. I mean, 851 00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:41,759 Speaker 1: I know they loved you. 852 00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:46,520 Speaker 2: But I told my team, I said, unless it's Settle 853 00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:47,920 Speaker 2: Boum myer Opraha, zon't. 854 00:38:47,719 --> 00:38:48,319 Speaker 1: Hit me up. 855 00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:51,239 Speaker 2: When I say I have no idea what's going on 856 00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:53,520 Speaker 2: the business, I said, I don't want to know. 857 00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:57,400 Speaker 1: Well, Logan Rose, the whole team, especially Logan. I had 858 00:38:57,440 --> 00:38:59,680 Speaker 1: a call with her. I talked to your SEO people 859 00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:01,960 Speaker 1: while you were gone. They got it going on, you 860 00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:03,680 Speaker 1: know they do. Please I trust them. 861 00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:05,560 Speaker 2: They're good. I was like, no, that's the point. If 862 00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:07,759 Speaker 2: I can't trust my team, what am I doing? So 863 00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:10,440 Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't need a blow by blow whatever. 864 00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:12,840 Speaker 2: It's cute when people hit me up and they're like, oh, 865 00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:15,279 Speaker 2: like I think NPR reached out. They want to do 866 00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:18,279 Speaker 2: like an interview or something like on a Saturday. And 867 00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:20,680 Speaker 2: I was like, okay, you talking about was on sabbatical. 868 00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:24,520 Speaker 2: I could do it and April, I mean it's dog 869 00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:27,560 Speaker 2: don't get me wrong, but I was like no, because 870 00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:29,600 Speaker 2: that's the point of sabbatical. You say no to everything 871 00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:33,839 Speaker 2: unless it's Oprah, oh, Michelle Obama, you know. But other 872 00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:36,279 Speaker 2: than that, I'm like now because then you start making 873 00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:38,839 Speaker 2: allowances for all these other random things and it's like no, no, no, 874 00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:40,440 Speaker 2: that's not breaking where breaking is about? 875 00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:42,640 Speaker 1: So well, let me know you still got some time. 876 00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:44,960 Speaker 1: We should we do another like Brown Ambition Summit at 877 00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:47,359 Speaker 1: the at the Spa, because like, I got time this week. 878 00:39:47,480 --> 00:39:49,960 Speaker 1: Just let me know. My back is. I got a 879 00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:52,239 Speaker 1: I got a delightful massage in Costa Rica, but you know, 880 00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:55,320 Speaker 1: the plane and a toddler. Three days later I needed again. 881 00:39:56,080 --> 00:40:00,560 Speaker 1: I needed a can Oh. But yeah, I guess that's 882 00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:03,520 Speaker 1: the show. Good to get back, Good to have y'all back. 883 00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:05,360 Speaker 2: We'll see you next week, y'all. 884 00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:09,080 Speaker 1: Hey ba fam, we could not do this show without 885 00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:12,240 Speaker 1: your support or the support of our team behind the scenes. 886 00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:15,920 Speaker 1: The Brown Ambition podcast is produced by Imani Crosby and 887 00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:19,520 Speaker 1: Dennis Stanplinsky is our in house tech guru. I am 888 00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:22,200 Speaker 1: your co host Mandy woodrif Santos and we will see 889 00:40:22,239 --> 00:40:26,239 Speaker 1: y'all next week. BA FAM