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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if

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Speaker 1: it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you nephew. Subject he booked

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Speaker 1: an all inclusive vacation. Dear Stephen Shirley, my boyfriend and

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Speaker 1: I had a bad breakup four months ago. I was

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Speaker 1: planning a graduation party for him and he said he

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Speaker 1: was planning to go on a trip with his best

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Speaker 1: friend and his cousins. I got in my feelings and

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Speaker 1: I started a big argument and he broke up with me.

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Speaker 1: He didn't call me to try to fix it, and

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Speaker 1: neither did I. I'm very stubborn, and it backfired on

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Speaker 1: me since I started. Since I started it, I should

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Speaker 1: have been the first one to apologize. My boyfriend got

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Speaker 1: his master's degree and I attended his graduation and then

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Speaker 1: went to dinner with him and his family because his

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Speaker 1: mother invited me. He barely talked to me, and it

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Speaker 1: was embarrassing. I asked about the trip they planned on,

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Speaker 1: trip and she told me where he was staying. I

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Speaker 1: called the resort and I told a girl on the

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Speaker 1: staying at an all inclusive resort with a balcony suite

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Speaker 1: She asked me to confirm that we wanted the massage

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Speaker 1: and dinner in our room when we arrived. I canceled

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Speaker 1: that dinner and the massage. There is no way I'm

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Speaker 1: letting him go on this trip with another woman. We

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Speaker 1: fight like this all the time, but he has never

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Speaker 1: been this mad. I wanted more details about the trip,

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Speaker 1: anything else. I have tried talking to my man, and

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Speaker 1: he said that he needs this getaway to clear his

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Speaker 1: head and we'll talk when he gets back. His sister

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Speaker 1: said she's sure he's not taking another woman. What do

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Speaker 1: you think should I pop up on him at this

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Speaker 1: all inclusive resort or wait until he gets back? Uh?

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Speaker 1: I want to apologize to all the men that's about

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Speaker 1: to hear Sherley's response, Go here, Shelly, you know what

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Speaker 1: what you are going to? Stop? I'm sorry, stop it, Steve. Stop. Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, girl, All right, I'm talking to the lady

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Speaker 1: that wrote the letter right now, talking to all women.

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Speaker 1: I'm talking to the lady who wrote the letter. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Your your turn is coming. Thank you? All right, girl? Stop? Okay,

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Speaker 1: you gotta face it since it is over. You just

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Speaker 1: haven't realized it yet. He had already planned his own

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Speaker 1: graduation getaway without you, which means he never was planning

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Speaker 1: on taking you in the first place. The breakup, it's

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Speaker 1: not your fault because you started the argument. That's what

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Speaker 1: you think, and that's what you said in the letter.

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Speaker 1: The breakup was already coming. You just made it easier

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Speaker 1: for him to do it. You gotta look at these

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Speaker 1: signs for yourself. Okay. It started with him booking the

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Speaker 1: trip without you, then the argument, then the breakup, then

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Speaker 1: you know you coming to the dinner but you were

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Speaker 1: invited not by him but by his mother. Okay. He

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Speaker 1: please no, do not pop up on him at this

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Speaker 1: all inclusive vacation. You gotta stop this, okay, just get you.

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Speaker 1: Don't wait until he gets back. None of that. That's

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Speaker 1: not going to happen again. It is over. There are

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Speaker 1: so many signs and clues in this letter that it's over,

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Speaker 1: but you keep ignoring them. He is not coming back

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Speaker 1: to you, Okay, and you have to get this in

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Speaker 1: It's over. Hasted, Steve, Wow, I want to Shirley. You

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Speaker 1: actually surprised me with your answer. Girl. I thought you

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Speaker 1: about well. Well, well it's oh, it's all over. It's ollover.

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Speaker 1: Oh baby, it's all over. My boyfriend and I had

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Speaker 1: a bad breakup four months ago. Full months ago, y'all

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Speaker 1: still ain't together. I was playing in a graduation party

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Speaker 1: That's to keep the the letter. He was waiting on

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Speaker 1: the exact moment to break up with you and break

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Speaker 1: the news to you that it was over, and you

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Speaker 1: accelerated it by starting a big argument, and he went,

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Speaker 1: damn higg on my Outright here, she has solved the

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Speaker 1: problem for me, and he broke up with me. He

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Speaker 1: ain't trying to call me to fix it, and neither

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Speaker 1: did I. Well, then it looks like it's all amicable.

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Speaker 1: This looks consensual. This looks like the perfect storm. He

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Speaker 1: Then you said I'm very stubborn, and it backfired on me.

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Speaker 1: Nor didn't. If that fell right into his lap, You

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Speaker 1: arguing with him and not trying to fix it was

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Speaker 1: for him a gift from God. Since I started it,

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Speaker 1: I should have been the first one to apologize. Man,

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Speaker 1: too late for them. My boyfriend got his master's degree

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Speaker 1: and I attended his graduation, and then you went to

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Speaker 1: He didn't invite you, as Shirley, So bravely pointed out,

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Speaker 1: he didn't ask you to come over. Y'all ain't been talking.

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Speaker 1: You didn't try to fix it in either of that eye.

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Speaker 1: He barely talked to me, and it was embarrassing. How

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Speaker 1: you doing? And you are? Let me introduce you to

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Speaker 1: my family. This isn't my mama, this is my cup.

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Speaker 1: Who are you again? Well, hold on, bab I'll tell

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Speaker 1: you the rest of it. Yeah, just saying unworried, you

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Speaker 1: can stop. Thank you. We're gonna have part two of

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Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 1: The subject of today's Strawberry Letter, he booked an all

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Speaker 1: You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry letter. He booked an all inclusive vacation. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he booked an all inclusive vacation after he's graduating with

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Speaker 1: his masters. And he planned a trip to an all

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Speaker 1: and he didn't want the party. And he told you

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Speaker 1: was going on trip with his best friend and his cousin.

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Speaker 1: Y'all got in a big argument. Y'all fell out about it.

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Speaker 1: He didn't call you to try to fix it, and

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Speaker 1: you neither did you. You saying it was cause you

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Speaker 1: were stubbing it backfired me and you should have called

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Speaker 1: and apologize since you started it. But my boyfriend got

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Speaker 1: his master's degree. I attended his graduation, went to dinner

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Speaker 1: this boy got his masters. He went and got his

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Speaker 1: masters and his great education to better his future. He

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Speaker 1: as men, we don't know how to break up. We

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Speaker 1: don't do closure. And then you gave him the gift

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Speaker 1: fix it, and neither of that out. He didn't even

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Speaker 1: need to cool. I was trying to find out a

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Speaker 1: got his master to be all in um. Now you

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Speaker 1: was in bassing. I'll tell you how that dinner with Hello,

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Speaker 1: how are you and you are? Oh? Hell? You welcome

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Speaker 1: to the dinner. This is my mama, this is my sister,

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Speaker 1: then my cous Then you got nosy. He told you

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Speaker 1: he was going on this trip with his best friend

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Speaker 1: and his cousin, but because he young, he didn't tell

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Speaker 1: sisters always because she kind of like you, but not

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Speaker 1: really over her brother. Then you call the result. You

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Speaker 1: told a girl on the phone, I was his wife.

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Speaker 1: Why did you lie? Why did you lie? Because you

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Speaker 1: were snoopy? And what happens when you snoop? You find stuff? Well,

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Speaker 1: I found out he was staying at an all inclusive

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Speaker 1: to me as if I was coming with him. Well,

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Speaker 1: me to confirm that we wanted the massage and dinner

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Speaker 1: gonna stop it? Tell me how you gonna stop it?

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Speaker 1: We fight like this all the time. Well, and he

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Speaker 1: found it out. And her name is her? Her name

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Speaker 1: ain't as dinner in the room with a massage. I

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Speaker 1: Because you sounded surprised. I tell you exactly how I went.

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Speaker 1: What else they do? I'm sorry, I'm not in liberty

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Speaker 1: I have tried talking to my man, and he says

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Speaker 1: her sister said. His sister said, she's sure he's not

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Speaker 1: by telling you where he's staying. But now she tried

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Speaker 1: an all inclusive resort by hisself. I don't know except

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Speaker 1: my sons when on the hunt, I'm sorry out there.

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Speaker 1: What do you think should I pop up on him

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Speaker 1: Don't go to the resort for what? Don't do that.

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Speaker 1: Don't go to the resort. You're gonna humiliate yourself even further.

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Speaker 1: You ain't got no key to the room, none of that.

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Speaker 1: Stop that. And you might as well wait till he

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Speaker 1: he can tell you what you already know. It's oh, lover,

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Speaker 1: not in his future. He got that master's degree, he

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Speaker 1: didn't get that degree with you. He didn't invite you

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Speaker 1: to the dinner. He didn't try to fix it, and

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Speaker 1: not the one man, period. Now. Shirley told you that.

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