Speaker 1: So I went to the Glamour Women of the Year Awards,
Speaker 1: and I want to talk about it. You know, I've
Speaker 1: been very lucky and grateful to have been in interesting
Speaker 1: rooms lately. Like I told you guys about that L'Oreal experience.
Speaker 1: Now they're a forty billion dollar company, and what I
Speaker 1: experienced in Paris was the culture of a company that
Speaker 1: transcended an entire event, taking over a landmark in Paris.
Speaker 1: And believe me, you know, I say when something sucks,
Speaker 1: I say when something doesn't land And I was moved
Speaker 1: that a company of that size can connect to the
Speaker 1: customer and have me being there as like an interloper
Speaker 1: and you know, a newbie and feeling like that they
Speaker 1: really wanted everyone to just feel themselves and be empowered
Speaker 1: and acceptance and like the types of things that Doved
Speaker 1: has done in their campaigns. But a lot of times brands,
Speaker 1: remember when Target changed their floor or bud Light that scandal.
Speaker 1: When people do things and it feels like corporations are
Speaker 1: doing it because they're checking the box, they're doing what
Speaker 1: they should do, but it doesn't feel like they're doing
Speaker 1: it because they really want to do it. It feels
Speaker 1: like someone's breathing down their neck and telling them they
Speaker 1: have to do it. And sometimes it doesn't hit because
Speaker 1: you want it to be the true culture of a company,
Speaker 1: to be inclusive and to support women and to support
Speaker 1: the LGBT community and to want women to feel their worth.
Speaker 1: And you hear all these situations about different brands that
Speaker 1: are there only for thin people or pretty people, or
Speaker 1: you hear this stuff all the time. So my experience
Speaker 1: in Paris was like, Wow, I was part of something
Speaker 1: amazing and I really gained respect for this company. So
Speaker 1: then I go last night to this event, the Glamour
Speaker 1: Women of the Year Awards and much a great magazine
Speaker 1: and they are all about women. And I've been to
Speaker 1: this event before and they honor different women, like and
Speaker 1: it was all about confidence this year, and it's athletes
Speaker 1: and philanthropists and moms and and you know, these types
Speaker 1: of events are always on a weeknight in New York
Speaker 1: City in a location. It's always like a bar that
Speaker 1: has some wine and maybe a signature cocktail or you know,
Speaker 1: no full bar. It's always a lot of speeches and
Speaker 1: you know you're trying to be patient and it's good,
Speaker 1: but you know it can drag on and it's always
Speaker 1: gives a little bit of like entertainment meets corporate. So
Speaker 1: I go to this Women of the Year Awards event
Speaker 1: and I was truly blown away, Like I want to
Speaker 1: support brands and celebrate corporate culture that is creative and
Speaker 1: finds a way to connect through this messaging. So gltamor's
Speaker 1: about female empowerment. But if you don't message it right,
Speaker 1: it sort of becomes just another event. And this was
Speaker 1: not just another event. This is also important for you
Speaker 1: who own business owners or want to be your own
Speaker 1: publicists or want to market. They did this event this
Speaker 1: year at a fraction of the cost of last year,
Speaker 1: and it was so much more inspired. They got this
Speaker 1: freestyle group I have to find out the name for you.
Speaker 1: That it was for women that were sort of just
Speaker 1: like beat boxing and like pitch perfecting and meddling and
Speaker 1: rapping and celebrating each of these women that were honored
Speaker 1: at the Women of the Year Awards, people like Pamela
Speaker 1: Anderson and Sophia Bush and young women speaking out about
Speaker 1: being sexually abused, and women speaking out about black women
Speaker 1: dying during childbirth and miscarriages, and like, they managed to
Speaker 1: make this event that was so meaningful, entertaining. What's her name,
Speaker 1: the one from a cookie from Empire. Anyway, she's spoken
Speaker 1: up and she was talking about being disruptive and when
Speaker 1: like people tell you to be quiet, you talk louder
Speaker 1: and like to be able to land an event where
Speaker 1: people are learning some thing, You're being inspired, you're hearing
Speaker 1: about tough, tough issues, and also be entertained, and not
Speaker 1: only entertained, but like it felt like a gospel choir
Speaker 1: moving through this room in your body. And then they
Speaker 1: honored all these moms and it was Billie Eilish's mom,
Speaker 1: Beyonce's mom, and Travis and Jason Kelsey's mom Donna Kelcey,
Speaker 1: and it was their speeches were like my favorite of
Speaker 1: the night. I couldn't believe the way Tina Knowles spoke
Speaker 1: about being a mother and the privilege and the honor
Speaker 1: and the gift and the emotion she had, and Donna
Speaker 1: Kelcey about all she ever wanted to be was a mom,
Speaker 1: And like the videos they put together of the people's
Speaker 1: kids honoring them, it just was like this woman, Samantha
Speaker 1: Barry is apparently running Glamor magazine. She just got a promotion.
Speaker 1: She was so charming and nice. On the carpet, she
Speaker 1: was beautiful, but like they know what they're doing over there, Okay,
Speaker 1: whatever they're doing, like Team Glamour. And the event made
Speaker 1: me feel good and I met so many interesting people
Speaker 1: in the room. You wanted to talk to people, you
Speaker 1: wanted to hear about people. You know, there's a woman
Speaker 1: on TikTok, Denessa Myriks, like a beauty influencer, makeup artist,
Speaker 1: and she came up and she was so sparkly and
Speaker 1: grateful to me. And you're meeting people in fashion and
Speaker 1: you know, this woman walked up to me and she said,
Speaker 1: you worked the hell out of that dress or you
Speaker 1: you know, effectively, like you ate that dress, my dress.
Speaker 1: And then I start talking to her, asking about her
Speaker 1: and she created the me too movement, like to hear
Speaker 1: that story. You know. It was just such an incredible
Speaker 1: evening and it felt good and it made me feel like, Wow,
Speaker 1: women are and I'm not. You know, sometimes women can
Speaker 1: talk about female empowerment and if it's discussed in a
Speaker 1: way that is too touchy feeling, people get turned off.
Speaker 1: Myself included sometimes on that like boss Bitch cultures talked
Speaker 1: about or like female empowerment women supporting women. It doesn't
Speaker 1: it doesn't hit if it's not delivered in a in
Speaker 1: like a really really authentic and edgy way.
Speaker 2: And let me just tell you something.
Speaker 1: When women are together and powerful and articulate and clear
Speaker 1: and not complainy and not whiny and just like and
Speaker 1: just like I've got this, don't fuck around with us,
Speaker 1: it is so amazing. And that's what the event was like.
Speaker 1: It was like the not it was like the not
Speaker 1: fucking around crew. And when those moms were speaking, like
Speaker 1: the Donna and Billie Eilish and Travis Kelcey Beyonce was
Speaker 1: in the room and like not wasn't about her at all.
Speaker 1: Bill wasn't about Billie Eilish, Like they were the understudies.
Speaker 1: The moms were the full stars. And I loved that too,
Speaker 1: like they just did everything right. Everything was like quiet
Speaker 1: but yet disruptive. And you know, Anna Wintour was in
Speaker 1: the room, and you guys know I talk about her
Speaker 1: being the Hbic of all hbics, and I've like it's
Speaker 1: almost like I've never I was in this room of
Speaker 1: her last year, but she like skated out quickly, and
Speaker 1: I always regretted not saying hello to her, like what
Speaker 1: exactly what I say to her? And I'm just fascinated
Speaker 1: by her and intrigued by the power that she's yielded
Speaker 1: and wielded and like that yielded wielded, and I just
Speaker 1: got up and I was like, you know, I say,
Speaker 1: you're the hbic of all hbics. Now I don't even
Speaker 1: know the she knows what that means. And I wasn't
Speaker 1: gonna like give her like a lexicon. She may literally
Speaker 1: not know what it means. She may know what it means.
Speaker 1: I have no idea how hip she is. I have
Speaker 1: no idea. I don't think she knows. I don't know
Speaker 1: if she knows who I am. I have no idea,
Speaker 1: Like I literally don't know. But she said you look
Speaker 1: amazing or you look fantastic, And like, did I think
Speaker 1: she meant it? It was sort of like she was
Speaker 1: just like saying it, but not in a disingenuous way.
Speaker 1: She just it was like matter of fact, like you
Speaker 1: look amazing. She said that to me. I felt like
Speaker 1: I looked good. Okay, so let's just put that to
Speaker 1: the side. But me looking good in someone saying it
Speaker 1: to me and Anna Wintour saying it like, I think
Speaker 1: you buy that at a charity auction, which would wake
Speaker 1: it ridiculous because then it wouldn't be authentic. And that's
Speaker 1: absurd that I just said that. But like Anna Wintour,
Speaker 1: the only thing that Anna Wintour in my entire lifetime
Speaker 1: has ever said to me is you look amazing. And
Speaker 1: I keep wanting to say fantastic, because it sounds like
Speaker 1: she would say fantastic and not amazing or beautiful. But
Speaker 1: she said you look amazing. I believe it was amazing.
Speaker 1: I'm putting you look amazing dash Anna winter on my tombstone,
Speaker 1: like because that's her brand. And Anna Wintery does and
Speaker 1: say look amazing to people. If she doesn't think they
Speaker 1: look amazing. She could say a thousand things. She could
Speaker 1: say nice to meet you. She didn't even say nice
Speaker 1: to meet you. She said you look amazing. So I
Speaker 1: don't use a stylist, as many of you know, and
Speaker 1: I don't. I've borrowed maybe once or twice in my
Speaker 1: entire career, just because it's like a last minute thing
Speaker 1: or something is so great, and I always offer to
Speaker 1: buy it, by the way, but sometimes I can't buy
Speaker 1: it because it's like a company thing and then I
Speaker 1: have to borrow, which was one of these times.
Speaker 2: But I don't use a stylist.
Speaker 1: I pay attention to like what I want and how
Speaker 1: I think I want the hair to go with the
Speaker 1: outfit and what I want to do, and I give
Speaker 1: direction to the hair and to the makeup and to
Speaker 1: the outfit.
Speaker 2: And I'm proud of myself. I shot my own closet.
Speaker 1: Everything I wore with the look that Anna Wintre said
Speaker 1: was amazing was in my own closet. The shoes are
Speaker 1: years old, the necklace is years old.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: I was proud of myself. I had a great fricking time.
Speaker 2: I really did.
Speaker 1: Like I'm it was like Loriel and like I go
Speaker 1: there and like if I'm going, I'm going, I make
Speaker 1: a meal of everything. Like literally, I make chicken salad
Speaker 1: out of chanel. If Chanello doesn't let me in, I
Speaker 1: make chicken salad out of it. I go in and
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm here.
Speaker 2: We're talking. We're walking.
Speaker 1: People I know left early, you know, in the beginning,
Speaker 1: and like they wanted me to leave with them, and
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm staying. I want to experience this.
Speaker 1: And it was one of the greatest nights of my life,
Speaker 1: Like it was amazing. But I just mean, like, if
Speaker 1: I'm there for Loreel, I'm giving it, I'm bringing it.
Speaker 1: I'm here, I'm present, you got me out, I got
Speaker 1: the hair at the makeup. Let's go, let's meet, let's greet,
Speaker 1: Let's be valuable in the room. Let's utilize the opportunity.
Speaker 1: That's how you should be with everything. If you go go,
Speaker 1: if you don't stay home and stay home, like we're there,
Speaker 1: I left, we use gas, we put makeup on. I
Speaker 1: was did knock on my daughter's volleyball game, which is
Speaker 1: you know, I don't miss Usually I would only do
Speaker 1: that for Glas. I'm a Women of the Year. So
Speaker 1: I went and I'm gonna give other people my time,
Speaker 1: my attention, work the room, and be a valuable asset.
Speaker 2: Otherwise I'm staying home. And that's how I treat everything.
Speaker 1: And so many people brought up my walk from Loril,
Speaker 1: which I just want to tell you guys really says
Speaker 1: do it.
Speaker 2: Your way, Like what I looked happy, I was happy.
Speaker 2: So people are like, goes, I'm super you didn't you happy?
Speaker 2: What are we?
Speaker 1: It was supposed to go be miserable. And this is
Speaker 1: not a swipe, I Kim Kardashian. I'm just remembering that
Speaker 1: she had that super tight corset and like it was
Speaker 1: painful and beauty is pain, And like, I don't think
Speaker 1: beauty is pain. I do not think relationships should be pain,
Speaker 1: and I do not think beauty should be pain. Beauty
Speaker 1: is not pain. Beauty is authenticity and integrity, and beauty
Speaker 1: is happiness. Beauty is not pain.
Speaker 2: No more than.
Speaker 1: Relationships should be work, hard work. Relationship should be effort.
Speaker 1: They should not be pain. Okay, So that's what I
Speaker 1: thought about that the kids workload with the homework now
Speaker 1: with these kids is they're stressing out. They got they
Speaker 1: can't they have no free time, like it was not
Speaker 1: like this when I was a kid. They get home,
Speaker 1: they're freaking out. They've got practice after school, they get
Speaker 1: home at six seven o'clock, They got a shower, they
Speaker 1: gotta wash their face, they want to eat, then they
Speaker 1: got to do homework, like they're exasperated. You have to
Speaker 1: keep an eye on your kids with the mental health
Speaker 1: because the workload can sometimes be insane. And then these
Speaker 1: sports programs, you're not getting into a college unless you're
Speaker 1: doing sports and extracurriculars and the academics and then the
Speaker 1: sports programs on the volleyball teams.
Speaker 2: It could be.
Speaker 1: Thousands of dollars. I don't know how people are affording this.
Speaker 1: And then they're going on the weekends and they don't
Speaker 1: they have no time to breathe. I said to my
Speaker 1: daughter's counselor at school, her like guidance counselor, because there
Speaker 1: was a class that I wanted her to like not
Speaker 1: go to the AP version, and they were like, wow,
Speaker 1: that could affect college, et cetera. You know the decision now,
Speaker 1: because if she doesn't take the AP classes, she won't
Speaker 1: get into X school. I said, let me tell you something.
Speaker 1: She should be experiencing discomfort, but not pain. That's where
Speaker 1: we stop. Like yoga pos, you work deeper, but we're
Speaker 1: not trying to be in pain. I don't want her
Speaker 1: to be suffering. I want her emotional and well. I
Speaker 1: want her emotional health and well being intact. And guess
Speaker 1: what I did, okay without being I had no parental involvement.
Speaker 1: I did not take the practice tests for the SAT.
Speaker 1: I just walked in. I did not care about my homework.
Speaker 1: I did not want to go to college classes. I
Speaker 1: just wanted to get through. If I were doing it again,
Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't go to college. I mean I didn't
Speaker 1: based on what I do, I'm I don't. I just
Speaker 1: wanted to get through, get out of the classes. Like so,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I'm looking for that for her, and
Speaker 1: she's learning a lot, but like, I don't want stress.
Speaker 2: There's no reason for these kids to have this level
Speaker 2: of stress.
Speaker 1: And this guy that I know was saying that he
Speaker 1: thinks that the athletic programs when people are in high
Speaker 1: school is tearing family or tearing families apart. Three kids,
Speaker 1: one mom. The mom's taking the boy to hockey, the
Speaker 1: dad's taking the girl to soccer. The other one's got violin,
Speaker 1: this one's got ballet. No one's talking to each other.
Speaker 1: Everyone's a chauffeur.
Speaker 2: What are we doing. We're out living.
Speaker 1: We're producing our lives, like producing the sports curriculum and timeline,
Speaker 1: and it's insane.