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Speaker 1: Now they're a forty billion dollar company, and what I

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Speaker 1: you want it to be the true culture of a company,

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Speaker 1: And you hear all these situations about different brands that

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Speaker 1: then I go last night to this event, the Glamour

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Speaker 2: No more than.

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Speaker 1: Relationships should be work, hard work. Relationship should be effort.

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Speaker 1: We're producing our lives, like producing the sports curriculum and timeline,

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