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Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically Black women with an opinion who

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Speaker 1: talk back. What's up, y'all?

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Speaker 2: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode of

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Speaker 2: We Talk Back, a show dedicated to you niggas and

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Speaker 2: these hoes. This is your co-host, AJ. What up, girl? Hey, y'all.

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Speaker 1: It's Official Tam Bam, y'all.

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Speaker 2: I love y'all. I love y'all once again.

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Speaker 1: Hey, AJ.

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Speaker 2: How was your weekend? My weekend.

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Speaker 1: What the hell I did? Oh, I took some pictures

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Speaker 1: for my birthday. And then I got drunk per usual

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Speaker 1: on my Sunday. I didn't do nothing else the rest

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Speaker 1: of the weekend. I just chilled in the house after work.

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Speaker 1: It was raining. It seems like it was raining every day.

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Speaker 2: I know the grass was tapping.

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Speaker 1: Is this Seattle? Is this Seattle or something? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: We need some rain. Girl, it's been hot as hell outside.

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Speaker 2: Cool it down a little bit. Every day? I like

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Speaker 2: when it rains. Especially if I ain't got shit to do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's because you got on a wig. Bitch like

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Speaker 1: me got real hair out right now.

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Speaker 2: It's stupid. Bitch, I be in the rain like I'm Brazilian. Like,

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Speaker 2: who cares about getting wet? It's a black girl problem.

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Speaker 2: What about your weekend?

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Speaker 1: What you do?

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Speaker 2: I don't do much. I just hung out in the

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Speaker 2: city some dinner and kicking it. Some Netflix and chilling

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Speaker 2: a little bit. That's about it.

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Speaker 1: Oh, you got fucked. So you got fucked.

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Speaker 2: Pardon me?

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Speaker 1: Netflix and chill. That means you got fucked.

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Speaker 2: That's Netflix and drill, okay? I said Netflix and chill, okay?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, wink, wink, everybody.

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Speaker 2: Just chill. Not too much. Just hang out around the city.

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Speaker 2: One day I'm going to go on a scavenger hunt

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Speaker 2: around here. Go ahead.

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Speaker 1: Oh, yeah. My birthday is on Saturday, y'all. So when

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Speaker 1: you hear this in a couple of days, it's my birthday.

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Speaker 1: Y'all come to my page and tell me happy birthday.

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Speaker 1: And y'all can send me some money, too, if y'all

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Speaker 1: want to, to my cash app.

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Speaker 2: Should I?

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Speaker 1: I'm scared because, you know, I put my cash app

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Speaker 1: out there. Somebody might hack my shit and steal all

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Speaker 1: my money, ain't it?

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Speaker 2: People already got your cash app damn near. Okay. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Well, it's money sign Tams Vanity. T-A-M-S-V-A-N-I-T-Y.

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Speaker 2: Send a bitch.

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Speaker 1: A couple dollars for a birthday. Don't play with her.

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Speaker 2: It's cancer season, y'all. Cry baby ass season. Don't nobody

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Speaker 2: got no time for that shit. Whatever.

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Speaker 1: I'll cry and drink at the same time this weekend.

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Speaker 2: Fuck it. Shame. I ain't got nothing.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to Atlanta to hang out with my best friend.

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Speaker 1: I think it's birthday bash this weekend.

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Speaker 2: I might see y'all out there.

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Speaker 1: This bitch ain't coming, y'all. i might hardly come all

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Speaker 1: right we'll see i might blow it out there we'll

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Speaker 1: see if you pull up so uh what you got

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Speaker 1: for stupid internet news you seen any uh any special

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Speaker 1: any interesting topics out there i did i did see

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Speaker 1: um A woman posted that her husband had threatened to

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Speaker 1: divorce her, and she didn't get her physical body in shape.

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Speaker 1: And she shows a video of her losing weight to

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Speaker 1: save her marriage. And there were a lot of people

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Speaker 1: who were like, uh-uh, you should divorce him, get in shape,

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Speaker 1: and then leave that nigga.

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Speaker 2: What's your thoughts? No. We already know men are visual, okay?

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 2: So if you just look like a totally different person

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Speaker 2: from who he married, it's understandable. Now, it depends on

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Speaker 2: how he came at her with the shit. At least

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Speaker 2: he talked to her about it. At least he didn't

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Speaker 2: just immediately go out the damn relationship as soon as

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Speaker 2: his bitch started getting a little chunky. And she had

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Speaker 2: a baby, right?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she had kids after having a baby. She had

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Speaker 1: let herself go.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of things take place. Less time for yourself.

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Speaker 2: Having to take care of everybody else in the household.

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Speaker 1: Including him.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And then, you know, having to try and find

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Speaker 2: time to work out a little bit, which we already

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Speaker 2: know like the diet is made, like mainly it's the eating.

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Speaker 2: If you don't have time to go to the gym,

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Speaker 2: you got time to not eat fucked up. Right.

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Speaker 1: I agree.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I feel the same way. People were like really mad

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Speaker 1: at him, but I agree with him. Like if I'm

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Speaker 1: with someone, if you don't care about your body, I

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Speaker 1: don't think we compatible.

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Speaker 2: Right. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I got to love yourself. Yeah. You got to love yourself.

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Speaker 1: More than you love me, I want you to love yourself.

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Speaker 1: And that means keeping yourself, because I want you to

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Speaker 1: be here a long time, you know? So if you

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And a lot of things comes with that extra weight.

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Speaker 2: You know, you might get a little lazy. You probably

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Speaker 2: ain't trying to fuck. You probably can't get stretched out

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Speaker 2: as much as you used to. Like, all type of

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Speaker 2: things come with weight gain.

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Speaker 1: And.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know. Men are visual. That's what

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Speaker 2: I do know. So if you love your fucking husband,

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Speaker 2: you'll get it together. It shouldn't always be like, oh,

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Speaker 2: men got to accept this about women. That's not fair.

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Speaker 2: And that's how we be sometimes. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: If he married you fat, then I'd be like, nigga,

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Speaker 1: I was fat when we met.

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Speaker 2: Exactly. Just like I give my disclosure to men all

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Speaker 2: the time that I wear weave all the time. So

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Speaker 2: one year in the relationship, don't be coming at me

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Speaker 2: about this goddamn hair. I gave you the disclosure. Right.

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Speaker 2: And even weight. Shit, I got a fat max, okay?

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Speaker 2: And once I hit it, I'll start coming down from it.

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Speaker 2: But don't you say a motherfucking word to me, because

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Speaker 2: I've been giving you the same body when I met

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Speaker 2: your ass. Nigga. So, look, apparently Jocelyn Savage wants to

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Speaker 2: marry R. Kelly, or she's engaged to R. Kelly. He

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Speaker 2: just got sentenced.

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Speaker 1: To 30 years. He ain't even got no wealth anymore, right?

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Speaker 1: He's like, He got a debt of like a million,

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Speaker 2: He got to have some money somewhere. He got to

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Speaker 2: have some money somewhere. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Why would you be engaged to a nigga who's 50

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Speaker 1: and got 30 years in prison? Yeah.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't make sense.

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Speaker 1: I don't get it.

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Speaker 2: Is it clout chasing? Make it make sense. Possibly. Possibly.

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Speaker 1: Girl, if you don't get your stupid ass out of here.

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Speaker 2: It ain't that much love in the world. Right. So

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Speaker 2: they're saying before sentencing, Savage tried to convince the judge

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Speaker 2: that Kelly didn't deserve such a harsh sentencing. She pleaded

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Speaker 2: that she was not a victim and that Kelly was

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Speaker 2: an amazing person. She also referred to herself as his wife.

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Speaker 2: She goes on to say, My relationship with Robert is amazing,

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Speaker 2: she wrote. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me.

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Speaker 2: We have a very special connection and are deeply in love.

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Speaker 2: I still support Robert to this day because I love

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Speaker 2: him and will always be there to support him. She says,

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Speaker 2: Robert is not the monster that the government has described

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Speaker 2: him as. Now, one thing, I don't know if everybody

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Speaker 2: looked at the charges that Robert, I'm about to say

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Speaker 2: Robert Kelly, that R. Kelly got. One of the charges

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Speaker 2: is this. It's called the Mann Act. Is this the

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Speaker 2: Mann Act? Let me see. I just want to be sure.

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Speaker 2: But to me, yes, it's the Mann Act. M-A-N-N Act.

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Speaker 2: And y'all listen, this is the White Slave Traffic Act.

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Speaker 2: Also called the Mann Act is the United States federal

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Speaker 2: law passed June 25th, 1910 and is named after Congressman

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Speaker 2: James Robert Mann of Illinois's. So this is for white

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Speaker 2: men who were trafficking slaves. That's just a little, how

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Speaker 2: in the hell did Ghislaine Maxwell not get that type

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Speaker 2: of charge? But you give a black man, Robert Kelly,

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Speaker 2: like a slave trafficking charge. That is really where that

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Speaker 2: we would be seeing that charge put on anybody in 2022.

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Speaker 1: Right. But not old girl.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Like, I don't know that that's, that's a real treacherous.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know if, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know. I got to go back.

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Speaker 2: I got to go look at what all he was

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Speaker 2: convicted of. I know that was one of the charges

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Speaker 2: and then like regular like sex trafficking and stuff like that.

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Speaker 2: But that's real racial to me for some reason. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: What else we got going on, bitch? Did you see

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Speaker 2: this damn dude repossessing his baby mama bumper because she

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Speaker 2: put his ass out?

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Katie.

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Speaker 2: I don't understand men.

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Speaker 1: That made me think of Kevin Hart when he was

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Speaker 2: He'd be like, give me the steak. Put it in

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Speaker 2: my hand, bitch. Taking the food with me out this bitch.

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Speaker 2: Like your kid still has to ride in that car, sir.

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Speaker 2: This goes to show you that if a man can't

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Speaker 2: we ain't fucking no more, I don't see the value

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Speaker 2: coming to get my damn kid, bitch. I don't see

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Speaker 2: the value in having this bumper on your car. What

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Speaker 2: the hell? I had a nigga cancel.

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Speaker 1: He was supposed to take me to dinner for my birthday,

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Speaker 1: and I didn't give him none the night before.

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Speaker 2: I didn't even see him. I didn't hang out with him.

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Speaker 2: And he said he wasn't taking me to dinner no more.

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Speaker 2: He petty as hell. Boy, fuck you in that little.

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Speaker 1: Seafood dinner you was about to say you did.

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Speaker 2: That little steak dinner.

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Speaker 1: It's more steak out.

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Speaker 2: There, nigga. Right. Then you gonna try to fuck on

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Speaker 2: me next week, but you didn't come through for my birthday.

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Speaker 2: Everybody knows you don't play with women about their damn birthday, nigga. Right. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's a dead end. You dug.

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Speaker 1: And I'm celibate, so no, there's no pussy for you, sir.

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Speaker 2: Send a little bit of this. What you think about

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Speaker 2: academics and how he was coming at uh Meek Mills

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Speaker 2: I know you saw that shit Meek Mills and the

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Speaker 2: baby and um he also put up this old video

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Speaker 2: from like 2014 2015 with Kanye um holding a bowl

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Speaker 2: of food for some designer feeding him yeah I didn't

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Speaker 2: get to see that what was that about So Academics

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Speaker 2: took to his YouTube channel and was saying how he

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Speaker 2: finds it funny that certain rappers tend to make clowns

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Speaker 2: of themselves basically to entertain white billionaires. So he was

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Speaker 2: talking about a video with Meek Mill's bunny hopping after

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Speaker 2: losing a tennis match with Mark Rubin. He was hopping

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Speaker 2: and Mark Rubin was like behind the... camera saying shit like, yeah, hop, hop.

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Speaker 2: Tell him why you hopping, Meek. Like, cause you lost tennis,

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Speaker 2: like hopping and, and, and just like some shit you

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Speaker 2: wouldn't see a real nigga doing. That's all. You know

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Speaker 2: Because this was still 2015. We know that Kanye done

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Speaker 2: Nigga, this is me in front of you, Tam. I'm

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Speaker 1: No, nigga.

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Speaker 2: You got the fork. Like, you using my hands as

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Speaker 1: So maybe he lost a bet or something like that.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. But why your wife recording that? I

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Speaker 1: That probably was just fun and games. Like, they were

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Speaker 2: I don't know about that.

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Speaker 1: And what they was going to go do? Beat her

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So somebody hid her warrant. Yeah, so- And it

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Speaker 1: Well, I just feel like if Bill Cosby can go

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Speaker 2: Absolutely. Absolutely. So can she.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know, running up in the old folks' home,

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Speaker 1: What y'all going to jump on that old ass lady?

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Speaker 2: Relax. Right. Stupid. Come up with the plan.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I understand why y'all upset, but plan that

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Speaker 2: That was worthless so that's our stupid internet news for

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Speaker 2: the day child y'all we gonna take a break we'll

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Speaker 1: Okay guys we're back and I had this situation and

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Speaker 2: Guy and.

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Speaker 1: Anytime I didn't do anything that he wanted to do

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Speaker 2: What do you think, AJ? Yeah, there's definitely a difference

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Speaker 2: between being selfish and practicing self-care. I think that One

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Speaker 2: of the major differences is you practicing self-care doesn't affect

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Speaker 2: anyone else. Okay? Okay. When you're being selfish towards somebody,

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Speaker 2: it usually causes, like, people some type of duress somehow. Right?

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Speaker 2: So you telling him no because it's better for your

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Speaker 2: let's look it up right quick. Hold on.

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Speaker 1: So if I don't want to drive to your house

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Speaker 1: I'm scared to drive in the rain, that's not selfish, right?

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Speaker 2: Of course not. The fuck? Right. I hate when people

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Speaker 2: always ask me, well, I called you. Why didn't you answer?

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Speaker 2: You don't know what I was in the middle of doing.

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Speaker 2: That's self-care. Okay, I'm driving. Okay, I'll respond when I

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Speaker 2: get stationary. I might have even saw your message. That's

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so being, like I said, it says, being selfish

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Speaker 2: means that there's a desire to take from others, often

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Speaker 2: to their detriment. However, self-care is about replenishing your resources

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Speaker 2: without depleting someone else's. Self-care is a means of restoring

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Speaker 2: your own energy, which promotes healthy, physical, and emotional well-being, okay?

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Speaker 2: In essence, self-care is about fulfilling yourself, excuse me, in essence,

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Speaker 2: self-care is about filling yourself up So you could be

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Speaker 2: the best spouse, parent, friend, employee, boss, and person that

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Speaker 2: you could be. Selfishness, on the other hand, reflects the

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Speaker 2: me first attitude, determining just how much you can get

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Speaker 2: for yourself, often at the expense of others. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So, all right, sometimes, based on that definition, sometimes I

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: And then other times, it's self-care. But I don't think

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Speaker 1: me not wanting to drive to your house in a

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Speaker 1: thunderstorm is selfish. But then I was like, you drive

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Speaker 2: You're not scared. Did he come? Is that selfish? Mm-mm. Look,

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Speaker 2: somebody got to sacrifice. But if I'm always the one sacrificing,

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Speaker 2: you're selfish. Like, if I'm the one that's always making

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Speaker 2: the sacrifice to make a relationship or whatever situation shit work,

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Speaker 2: you're the selfish one, not me. And then the one

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Speaker 2: time I tell you, no, it's a problem. Right.

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Speaker 1: And then I'm selfish.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Telling somebody they're selfish is almost a form of manipulation. Mm-hmm.

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Speaker 2: I agree. Big time. Like, people might consider me selfish,

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Speaker 2: but here's the thing about me is that I don't

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Speaker 2: disturbing mine. Like, so I don't go out of my way, like,

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Speaker 2: let me say, let me rephrase this so I don't

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Speaker 2: because I don't want anybody requiring shit from me. I

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Speaker 2: swear to God. Like. It could be little simple things.

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Speaker 2: I have friends who I know their love language is

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Speaker 2: acts of service all the fucking time, and they don't

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Speaker 2: mind asking you to do shit. I never ask these

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Speaker 1: Is that selfish? Well, that's because that's their love language.

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Speaker 1: But do they speak to yours?

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Speaker 2: What is yours? I like acts of services too, but

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Speaker 2: I like people to offer. I'm not going to be

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Speaker 2: the difference? I like people to offer their services. I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I like gifts too, but I tend to speak

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Speaker 1: so then I'm like, oh, I saw this thing. I'll

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Speaker 1: that book have you ever written in that gratitude book ever.

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Speaker 2: Once like no it's right here too this the productivity

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Speaker 1: That's not actually the one I was talking about.

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Speaker 2: Oh, which other one?

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Speaker 1: I bought you a gratitude book.

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Speaker 2: You did. I did write in that book. Okay. I have.

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Speaker 2: That's why it's not in here. See, this is the

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Speaker 2: I don't know, in advance. I hate feeling rushed or

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Speaker 2: I will. I will do that.

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Speaker 1: To people. But that's because if the shoe was on

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Speaker 1: I know I would do the same for, though.

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Speaker 1: not fucking opening that message. Because it looked like you

434
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:20,859
Speaker 1: about to ask me for some shit. I ain't got it.

435
00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:27,000
Speaker 2: I ain't got it. That's funny as hell. See, now look,

436
00:22:27,340 --> 00:22:29,520
Speaker 2: you ain't even giving them the opportunity to fuck with

437
00:22:29,540 --> 00:22:34,010
Speaker 2: your damn date. That's different. But no, my mom be

438
00:22:34,050 --> 00:22:37,109
Speaker 2: calling me selfish sometimes. Now, my mom would do anything

439
00:22:37,150 --> 00:22:40,350
Speaker 2: for anybody, but she'll talk shit while doing it. Oh,

440
00:22:40,369 --> 00:22:43,950
Speaker 2: that's you too. No, no, no. Hold on. But why not? No. Why?

441
00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:46,140
Speaker 2: But guess what? That's probably because I told you yes

442
00:22:46,180 --> 00:22:47,400
Speaker 2: and I didn't want to. Right.

443
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:48,560
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

444
00:22:48,619 --> 00:22:50,860
Speaker 2: She won't talk shit to the person. She was like,

445
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,060
Speaker 2: you know, call me to talk shit about it while

446
00:22:53,100 --> 00:22:55,899
Speaker 2: she doing it. But I'm like, why not just say no?

447
00:22:56,380 --> 00:22:59,300
Speaker 2: And then there's nothing to talk about. AJ, you do

448
00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:02,710
Speaker 2: the same thing. You do that. If I tell somebody yes,

449
00:23:02,750 --> 00:23:05,640
Speaker 2: I'm going to do it? Like what? Give me an example.

450
00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:10,540
Speaker 1: So you used to have that. So AJ is like

451
00:23:10,580 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 1: a really selfless person, y'all. But she had a homeless

452
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:14,660
Speaker 1: woman living with her.

453
00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:15,840
Speaker 2: That is different.

454
00:23:16,340 --> 00:23:18,990
Speaker 1: That's not different, though. And you would complain about all

455
00:23:19,030 --> 00:23:20,150
Speaker 1: the shit you were doing.

456
00:23:20,170 --> 00:23:23,790
Speaker 2: Okay, imagine somebody living with you for 14 months. And like,

457
00:23:23,910 --> 00:23:26,570
Speaker 2: of course, I didn't complain about it initially. It's just

458
00:23:26,609 --> 00:23:30,190
Speaker 2: like once you start... You can't use that as an example.

459
00:23:30,550 --> 00:23:33,090
Speaker 2: It's a great example. That is not a good example.

460
00:23:33,869 --> 00:23:36,470
Speaker 1: You didn't have to have that woman living in your house.

461
00:23:36,530 --> 00:23:37,530
Speaker 2: Yes, I did.

462
00:23:38,030 --> 00:23:41,970
Speaker 1: I love that about you, though. I admire that about you,

463
00:23:42,710 --> 00:23:45,000
Speaker 1: but you complained about a lot of stuff she was.

464
00:23:44,910 --> 00:23:47,640
Speaker 2: Doing in there. Because it was fucking driving me nuts.

465
00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:51,580
Speaker 2: I don't think that's a good example because somebody being

466
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:54,560
Speaker 2: in your fucking space, whether you invited them there or not,

467
00:23:54,619 --> 00:23:56,859
Speaker 2: I feel like, bitch, abide by my damn rules so

468
00:23:56,880 --> 00:24:00,500
Speaker 2: you can stay here. The things I was complaining about

469
00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:03,500
Speaker 2: because I was trying to, I needed her to help

470
00:24:03,540 --> 00:24:06,180
Speaker 2: me help her. Do you see what I'm saying? So

471
00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 2: that's not the same thing. I don't think it is.

472
00:24:10,780 --> 00:24:14,100
Speaker 2: I don't think it is. I mean, like somebody said, hey,

473
00:24:14,140 --> 00:24:16,020
Speaker 2: could you give me a ride to such and such?

474
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 2: And you don't feel like doing it. And then the

475
00:24:17,820 --> 00:24:20,020
Speaker 2: whole time you talk a shit about having to do

476
00:24:20,060 --> 00:24:22,300
Speaker 2: it because you said yes. Why not say no if

477
00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:24,859
Speaker 2: it's going to bother your damn spirit that bad? You

478
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:27,500
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying? Initially, when I moved her in

479
00:24:27,540 --> 00:24:29,680
Speaker 2: my house, it was not a problem. It wasn't a

480
00:24:29,700 --> 00:24:32,869
Speaker 2: problem until now I get to know this person. And

481
00:24:32,930 --> 00:24:35,730
Speaker 2: I see this is an elderly person who possibly has

482
00:24:35,950 --> 00:24:38,750
Speaker 2: mental health issues on top of that. But as a human,

483
00:24:39,050 --> 00:24:41,590
Speaker 2: which is why I don't think I'm fucking human, but

484
00:24:41,710 --> 00:24:44,550
Speaker 2: as a good person, I feel like that's what you're

485
00:24:44,570 --> 00:24:47,020
Speaker 2: supposed to do in this life. You're supposed to help people,

486
00:24:47,060 --> 00:24:51,300
Speaker 2: especially old people. It's just not fair. You're a baby twice, essentially.

487
00:24:51,420 --> 00:24:54,400
Speaker 2: I agree, but that was wild, though.

488
00:24:54,750 --> 00:24:57,230
Speaker 1: You took like, y'all, she literally took this woman in

489
00:24:57,290 --> 00:24:59,590
Speaker 1: off the corner of the street and let her live

490
00:24:59,630 --> 00:25:00,149
Speaker 1: with her.

491
00:25:00,430 --> 00:25:03,369
Speaker 2: She was actually at Gold's Gym. She had a silver

492
00:25:03,430 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 2: sneaker membership. She was still homeless. Yeah, and if I

493
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 2: got an empty room, why would I not let her

494
00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:13,639
Speaker 2: live there? If she was 30 years old, it would

495
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:14,040
Speaker 2: never happen.

496
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:15,129
Speaker 1: That's so godly of you.

497
00:25:15,140 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 2: I be trying to tell y'all motherfuckers I'm God, but

498
00:25:17,260 --> 00:25:19,500
Speaker 2: y'all don't be believing me. I don't think you God.

499
00:25:19,540 --> 00:25:20,580
Speaker 2: Calling me a ho tap.

500
00:25:22,500 --> 00:25:25,290
Speaker 1: They just call you a ho tap. Not a hotel.

501
00:25:26,230 --> 00:25:32,100
Speaker 2: But whole step. How about that? That was dope.

502
00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 1: I don't even think like as much as I love

503
00:25:33,859 --> 00:25:35,419
Speaker 1: to help people, I don't know if I would have

504
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:37,590
Speaker 1: been able to do that. So kudos to you for that.

505
00:25:38,330 --> 00:25:41,470
Speaker 1: But you used to complain every morning. We thank God

506
00:25:41,490 --> 00:25:43,690
Speaker 1: for the morning and then we complain about that bitch.

507
00:25:47,220 --> 00:25:50,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think she passed away, too, so I don't know. Oh, no. Yeah,

508
00:25:50,460 --> 00:25:52,720
Speaker 2: I think she passed away last year, maybe around this

509
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:56,280
Speaker 2: time last year. And I've been trying to look for her, but,

510
00:25:57,160 --> 00:25:59,880
Speaker 2: you know, she was homeless. Maybe they didn't have the

511
00:25:59,980 --> 00:26:05,090
Speaker 2: proper paperwork to document her. I don't know, but I

512
00:26:05,109 --> 00:26:06,830
Speaker 2: haven't been able to find her. I done call every

513
00:26:06,869 --> 00:26:13,030
Speaker 2: damn hospital in Miami and Margate area, Fort Lauderdale area, too.

514
00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:17,300
Speaker 1: Well, you did your due diligence for her and you

515
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:19,899
Speaker 1: did the best you could to help someone when you

516
00:26:19,940 --> 00:26:20,780
Speaker 1: would gain nothing.

517
00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:23,639
Speaker 2: Right. So that now this now here's the example. I

518
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:27,040
Speaker 2: was selfish. I mean, selfless for allowing her to live

519
00:26:27,060 --> 00:26:29,340
Speaker 2: with me. Then she was selfish when she got up

520
00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 2: in there. You know what I'm saying? She was like.

521
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:36,480
Speaker 2: And me being able to talk shit to you about

522
00:26:36,500 --> 00:26:39,909
Speaker 2: what was going on was fucking self-care, bitch. Like, what

523
00:26:39,930 --> 00:26:44,430
Speaker 2: are we talking about? I talk shit for self-care, okay,

524
00:26:44,450 --> 00:26:46,490
Speaker 2: with anybody. Whoever going to listen, I'm going to talk shit.

525
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,500
Speaker 1: Every morning, let me tell you, this bitch put her

526
00:26:52,619 --> 00:26:55,280
Speaker 1: mop head in my washing machine.

527
00:26:55,300 --> 00:27:03,880
Speaker 2: I remember that. Dog, look, she used to be trying

528
00:27:03,900 --> 00:27:05,910
Speaker 2: to help me, but I swear to God, she done

529
00:27:05,930 --> 00:27:10,210
Speaker 2: fucked up so many of my clothes. Fucked up so,

530
00:27:10,230 --> 00:27:14,170
Speaker 2: like she would bleach everything she get her hands on. Like,

531
00:27:14,190 --> 00:27:16,460
Speaker 2: this is color. Why would you, and who told you

532
00:27:16,500 --> 00:27:17,379
Speaker 2: to wash my shit?

533
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:20,200
Speaker 1: And see, that's where I would be selfish because as

534
00:27:20,220 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 1: soon as you bleach one item of my motherfucking clothes,

535
00:27:23,380 --> 00:27:25,989
Speaker 1: I love my clothes, she be back in front of golds.

536
00:27:27,140 --> 00:27:32,399
Speaker 2: Right there. Bitch, you got to go. Is that self-care?

537
00:27:32,619 --> 00:27:35,570
Speaker 2: It would have been self-care if I had put her out, right? Yep.

538
00:27:36,430 --> 00:27:38,130
Speaker 1: Yeah, that motherfucker was driving me nuts.

539
00:27:38,150 --> 00:27:40,949
Speaker 2: You took her in for a long time. She was

540
00:27:40,970 --> 00:27:41,690
Speaker 2: driving me nuts.

541
00:27:42,490 --> 00:27:44,330
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to figure out, was you taking silver

542
00:27:44,350 --> 00:27:45,190
Speaker 1: sneakers classes?

543
00:27:45,230 --> 00:27:47,570
Speaker 2: Like, how did y'all even... That's where she took her

544
00:27:47,609 --> 00:27:51,090
Speaker 2: showers at and stuff. She lived, you know, at different

545
00:27:51,270 --> 00:27:55,040
Speaker 2: organizations around the city, but she would, you know... Spend

546
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:59,659
Speaker 2: all day at the gym, essentially. Yep. So look, I

547
00:27:59,700 --> 00:28:03,900
Speaker 2: got a list. This is a list examples of selfless

548
00:28:03,940 --> 00:28:09,890
Speaker 2: versus self-care, right? So self-care, getting adequate nightly rest. Selfish

549
00:28:10,050 --> 00:28:16,409
Speaker 2: is sleeping excessively to avoid responsibilities. Self-care is enjoying a

550
00:28:16,470 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 2: break from work to fuel up with healthy foods. Selfish

551
00:28:20,220 --> 00:28:25,340
Speaker 2: is taking an unauthorized extended lunch on company time. How

552
00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:31,200
Speaker 2: many of y'all bitches is out there selfish? Self-care, creating

553
00:28:31,369 --> 00:28:33,950
Speaker 2: and enforcing healthy boundaries, which is what you were doing

554
00:28:33,970 --> 00:28:37,830
Speaker 2: with the guy, Tam, so fuck him. Selfish is saying

555
00:28:38,050 --> 00:28:43,340
Speaker 2: no to every request for help without a reason. Self-care,

556
00:28:43,380 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 2: making time for relaxation and meditation. Selfish is isolating and

557
00:28:47,900 --> 00:28:52,150
Speaker 2: ignoring your loved ones. Self-care, buying ingredients to cook your

558
00:28:52,190 --> 00:28:58,470
Speaker 2: favorite recipe. Selfish is spending your family's savings on unnecessary items. Look,

559
00:28:58,590 --> 00:29:00,670
Speaker 2: that last one brings me to some shit I just

560
00:29:00,690 --> 00:29:05,690
Speaker 2: saw on social media. So it's a story where this

561
00:29:05,750 --> 00:29:12,120
Speaker 2: lady wrote into this radio station and she said that,

562
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 2: you know, she makes... substantially more money than her husband, right?

563
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 2: But he wants to buy himself a Range Rover off

564
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:25,120
Speaker 2: of their collective salaries. And she was asking if he

565
00:29:25,140 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 2: should allow her. I feel it's selfish for him to

566
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 2: even ask her or even think he can go buy

567
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:30,830
Speaker 2: a Range Rover.

568
00:29:32,410 --> 00:29:32,630
Speaker 1: Why?

569
00:29:34,010 --> 00:29:36,140
Speaker 2: She makes more money than him. That's why.

570
00:29:36,150 --> 00:29:39,230
Speaker 1: But if it was the other way around and she

571
00:29:39,270 --> 00:29:41,220
Speaker 1: wanted a Range Rover, would you feel the same way?

572
00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:49,490
Speaker 2: No. The fuck? Look, period. That's not right. Period. No,

573
00:29:49,550 --> 00:29:51,480
Speaker 2: hell no. He needs to get his fucking money up.

574
00:29:51,490 --> 00:29:53,390
Speaker 2: I agree.

575
00:29:53,990 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 1: But when you get into that marriage.

576
00:29:57,130 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 1: What's good for the goose is good for the gander

577
00:29:59,020 --> 00:30:00,220
Speaker 1: or whatever the fuck they're saying.

578
00:30:00,260 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 2: They a lie. They a damn lie.

579
00:30:02,780 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 1: Because if I'm with a man and he makes... All right.

580
00:30:08,270 --> 00:30:09,370
Speaker 1: So I'm going to make my own money.

581
00:30:09,420 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 2: Right.

582
00:30:09,770 --> 00:30:11,770
Speaker 1: And I drive a Range Rover now off of my

583
00:30:11,890 --> 00:30:14,650
Speaker 1: own dime. But if I was in a situation where

584
00:30:14,750 --> 00:30:17,030
Speaker 1: I was with a man and he made more than me,

585
00:30:17,050 --> 00:30:20,010
Speaker 1: then I want a fucking G-Wagon. I already got a

586
00:30:20,030 --> 00:30:20,410
Speaker 1: Range Rover.

587
00:30:20,550 --> 00:30:26,510
Speaker 2: Right. But do you think that more often the women

588
00:30:26,550 --> 00:30:29,370
Speaker 2: is probably taking his pockets into consideration, especially if this

589
00:30:29,390 --> 00:30:31,330
Speaker 2: your husband? This ain't your sugar daddy. It's your husband.

590
00:30:31,370 --> 00:30:34,980
Speaker 2: He makes more money than you. Women oftentimes do the finances.

591
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:38,100
Speaker 2: Unless it's somebody who owns a big ass company and

592
00:30:38,140 --> 00:30:41,110
Speaker 2: he has people doing that type of shit. But you

593
00:30:41,150 --> 00:30:44,170
Speaker 2: guys have been making money together, right? I feel like

594
00:30:44,650 --> 00:30:47,830
Speaker 2: a wife is not going to get some shit that

595
00:30:47,910 --> 00:30:50,970
Speaker 2: the family can't afford to do. Right. You know what

596
00:30:50,990 --> 00:30:53,380
Speaker 2: I'm saying? So you want to go out and get

597
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:56,540
Speaker 2: a Range Rover to look like what for who? You

598
00:30:56,580 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 2: need to get the type of car you can afford.

599
00:31:00,700 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 1: My last boyfriend... This is in my 20s. And I mean,

600
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 1: we didn't have a lot.

601
00:31:06,020 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 2: Neither one of us.

602
00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:09,380
Speaker 1: He was military and he wasn't high ranking.

603
00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:10,870
Speaker 2: And I didn't.

604
00:31:10,910 --> 00:31:14,370
Speaker 1: We just moved to Florida and I was pretty much unemployed.

605
00:31:14,550 --> 00:31:17,370
Speaker 1: So the money was scarce. And then we would have

606
00:31:17,430 --> 00:31:19,030
Speaker 1: his two kids for the summer. So we had to

607
00:31:19,070 --> 00:31:23,150
Speaker 1: make just his military salary stretch. Right. So he wants

608
00:31:23,190 --> 00:31:26,940
Speaker 1: to go out and get this goddamn job. It was the,

609
00:31:27,340 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: not the year, that year, I think it was like

610
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:34,060
Speaker 1: 2010 or something like that, up 12. He wanted to

611
00:31:34,100 --> 00:31:39,940
Speaker 1: get a 2013 Jeep Sahara, which I love that truck, right?

612
00:31:40,010 --> 00:31:43,010
Speaker 1: But I just felt like it was outside of what

613
00:31:44,530 --> 00:31:48,030
Speaker 1: our money, which was his money at the time, could afford.

614
00:31:49,390 --> 00:31:49,930
Speaker 2: Could afford.

615
00:31:50,030 --> 00:31:53,410
Speaker 1: And I was so against it. And I had a

616
00:31:53,430 --> 00:31:55,570
Speaker 1: conversation with his mom, and she just told me to

617
00:31:55,610 --> 00:31:57,050
Speaker 1: let him be a man and let him do what

618
00:31:57,090 --> 00:31:59,650
Speaker 1: he going to do. And then we struggled because of

619
00:31:59,690 --> 00:32:02,910
Speaker 1: that car. We struggled because that car payment was outside

620
00:32:02,950 --> 00:32:08,020
Speaker 1: of our finances, which is his finances at the time,

621
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 1: because I wasn't working. And then he was like, go

622
00:32:11,100 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 1: get a job at Walmart. Nigga, I got a degree.

623
00:32:14,660 --> 00:32:16,220
Speaker 1: I was like, you are not going to reduce me

624
00:32:16,260 --> 00:32:20,090
Speaker 1: to the Walmart bitch. I'm going to go get a job. Listen,

625
00:32:20,250 --> 00:32:22,290
Speaker 1: no shade to people who work at Walmart because I

626
00:32:22,310 --> 00:32:24,390
Speaker 1: don't want to make it seem like that's beneath me

627
00:32:24,450 --> 00:32:27,270
Speaker 1: or anything because I have worked at Walmart before. But

628
00:32:27,390 --> 00:32:29,430
Speaker 1: at that current stage in my life, I just didn't

629
00:32:29,450 --> 00:32:31,690
Speaker 1: feel like that's what I needed to be doing. I

630
00:32:31,710 --> 00:32:36,020
Speaker 1: can contribute in other ways when I find a job,

631
00:32:36,060 --> 00:32:40,700
Speaker 1: but I'm not just going to go work at Walmart. Yeah,

632
00:32:40,740 --> 00:32:44,630
Speaker 1: because now we're we're fucking broke because you got this

633
00:32:44,690 --> 00:32:46,950
Speaker 1: expensive-ass truck that I asked you not to get.

634
00:32:47,170 --> 00:32:49,860
Speaker 2: Right. Was I wrong?

635
00:32:49,950 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 1: Was I selfish to not go work at Walmart?

636
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 2: No. He didn't need that vehicle. Did he need that

637
00:32:56,420 --> 00:32:56,980
Speaker 2: new truck?

638
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:57,060
Speaker 1: No.

639
00:32:57,840 --> 00:32:59,780
Speaker 2: Yeah. He didn't need it. So he went and did

640
00:32:59,820 --> 00:33:01,860
Speaker 2: what he wanted to do because, really, he wasn't taking

641
00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:05,360
Speaker 2: you into consideration with the relationship. Honestly. He was like,

642
00:33:05,460 --> 00:33:08,420
Speaker 2: I'm making the money. That's my money. Bitch, you need... Like,

643
00:33:08,910 --> 00:33:12,110
Speaker 2: in some way, somehow, I'm pretty sure it started... To

644
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:14,150
Speaker 2: take care of this fucking truck, you wasn't being taken

645
00:33:14,170 --> 00:33:16,810
Speaker 2: care of at some point. So it's like, now, bitch,

646
00:33:16,830 --> 00:33:18,350
Speaker 2: go get a job so you can figure it out

647
00:33:18,370 --> 00:33:18,870
Speaker 2: for yourself.

648
00:33:20,990 --> 00:33:23,090
Speaker 1: And the crazy part was, all right, so I had

649
00:33:23,110 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 1: just moved from Europe with him. And I made like...

650
00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:27,980
Speaker 1: When I was there, I was making a lot of

651
00:33:28,020 --> 00:33:30,860
Speaker 1: money doing hair in a salon there. And obviously, you

652
00:33:30,900 --> 00:33:32,240
Speaker 1: have to build your.

653
00:33:32,340 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 2: Like, when you go to a new city, you got

654
00:33:33,620 --> 00:33:34,180
Speaker 2: to start over.

655
00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:34,620
Speaker 1: You know?

656
00:33:34,660 --> 00:33:36,380
Speaker 2: You're not going to be like... So.

657
00:33:37,380 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 1: When I was making all that money, everything was good

658
00:33:39,500 --> 00:33:43,240
Speaker 1: because I could contribute so much more. But as soon

659
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 1: as I move with you, the only reason I'm leaving

660
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:48,060
Speaker 1: is because of you. I'm moving because you got stationed

661
00:33:48,100 --> 00:33:49,800
Speaker 1: to a new place and I'm going with you. And

662
00:33:49,820 --> 00:33:51,719
Speaker 1: now you're treating me like a poop-foot ass bitch who

663
00:33:51,780 --> 00:33:52,280
Speaker 1: ain't got shit.

664
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:56,130
Speaker 2: And I'm like, how dare you? And you see that

665
00:33:56,170 --> 00:33:58,730
Speaker 2: a lot of times in relationships. It's almost like, are

666
00:33:58,750 --> 00:34:01,310
Speaker 2: you my man or is it competition? You know what

667
00:34:01,350 --> 00:34:04,090
Speaker 2: I'm saying? Because I left because of the relationship, right?

668
00:34:04,630 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 2: My comfort zone. And now you have me in this

669
00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:10,219
Speaker 2: vulnerable state of really not being able to take care

670
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:13,400
Speaker 2: of myself initially. And now you're trying to shit on me.

671
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:15,840
Speaker 1: And want me to go work at Walmart.

672
00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:19,450
Speaker 2: Right. And that's why I don't suggest women to struggle

673
00:34:19,489 --> 00:34:22,330
Speaker 2: with men. Because that motherfucker ain't looking back once he

674
00:34:22,350 --> 00:34:25,310
Speaker 2: get his shit together, dog. He ain't looking back. He

675
00:34:25,390 --> 00:34:28,370
Speaker 2: ain't looking back. Look, man, try to get a nigga

676
00:34:28,410 --> 00:34:31,450
Speaker 2: as whole as possible. Because they don't like the women

677
00:34:31,469 --> 00:34:35,320
Speaker 2: that saw them fucked up. They don't like it. Mm-hmm.

678
00:34:35,340 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 2: That's why they don't like their first baby mamas. Sometimes. Girl,

679
00:34:39,180 --> 00:34:40,680
Speaker 2: a lot of times. Sometimes, nigga.

680
00:34:40,700 --> 00:34:45,550
Speaker 1: Look at- Kanye told y'all. LeBron and Savannah, see? I

681
00:34:45,550 --> 00:34:47,950
Speaker 1: don't think they ever struggled, though. Sorry, they don't count.

682
00:34:48,510 --> 00:34:50,170
Speaker 1: They went straight from high school to rich.

683
00:34:50,390 --> 00:34:56,049
Speaker 2: Exactly. Shit, like- Exactly. And they probably struggled with other shit,

684
00:34:56,310 --> 00:35:01,759
Speaker 2: you know, because I done heard about LeBron, Ron. the

685
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:06,100
Speaker 2: son right now acting out what daddy really like you

686
00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:07,520
Speaker 2: know cause they say he got like a little white

687
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:08,460
Speaker 2: girl fetish.

688
00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:11,700
Speaker 1: Oh yeah they do say that I love me some

689
00:35:11,780 --> 00:35:14,089
Speaker 1: LeBron and Savannah I would love to be like their

690
00:35:14,140 --> 00:35:20,770
Speaker 1: girlfriend them both of them I love Savannah I might

691
00:35:20,810 --> 00:35:27,170
Speaker 1: love Savannah more than like LeBron honestly but yeah look

692
00:35:27,190 --> 00:35:29,170
Speaker 1: how I got off at attention anyways.

693
00:35:30,739 --> 00:35:34,239
Speaker 2: Me and that nigga broke up in the store. Let's

694
00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:40,930
Speaker 2: go to break, bitch. We'll be right back. All right, y'all.

695
00:35:40,950 --> 00:35:43,490
Speaker 2: So look, just to wrap up our little brief conversation today,

696
00:35:43,670 --> 00:35:50,410
Speaker 2: it is not selfish of you to practice self-care. I

697
00:35:50,950 --> 00:35:54,730
Speaker 2: want everybody, every woman especially, to know that no is

698
00:35:54,770 --> 00:35:57,310
Speaker 2: a complete statement. And if somebody tries to make you

699
00:35:57,350 --> 00:36:01,720
Speaker 2: feel bad about Saying no when it's going to cause

700
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:08,969
Speaker 2: you fucking stress. Fuck them. And anguish. Yeah. It's not

701
00:36:09,050 --> 00:36:15,250
Speaker 2: selfish now. If you... Hold on. I sent you another post, bitch.

702
00:36:15,910 --> 00:36:22,150
Speaker 2: With this girl basically being a goddamn chatty patty, essentially.

703
00:36:22,710 --> 00:36:28,330
Speaker 2: Being a pick Misha. Saying, men, here are some... Top

704
00:36:28,410 --> 00:36:33,140
Speaker 2: signs to let you know what you're being used by. Oh,

705
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:34,739
Speaker 2: excuse me. Here are some top signs to let you

706
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:37,500
Speaker 2: know you're being used by her. So she goes on

707
00:36:37,540 --> 00:36:39,950
Speaker 2: to talk about like, you know, she makes you pay

708
00:36:40,010 --> 00:36:44,150
Speaker 2: for everything. What? It's some men that won't let you

709
00:36:44,170 --> 00:36:48,049
Speaker 2: go on your purse. You know, maybe she's never experienced

710
00:36:48,130 --> 00:36:51,250
Speaker 2: that type of man. So I'll give her some pass.

711
00:36:51,270 --> 00:36:53,370
Speaker 2: You know, maybe she's had to pay for some meals. Yeah.

712
00:36:53,590 --> 00:36:55,390
Speaker 1: I have a lot of men who'll be like offended

713
00:36:55,450 --> 00:36:56,609
Speaker 1: when I try to pay for shit.

714
00:36:56,630 --> 00:36:58,430
Speaker 2: Yes. I had a dude told me like, you trying

715
00:36:58,450 --> 00:37:01,029
Speaker 2: to cut my balls off? I'm like, what? Like, I

716
00:37:01,050 --> 00:37:03,509
Speaker 2: just don't want you. Because we see the guys out

717
00:37:03,530 --> 00:37:05,570
Speaker 2: here get mad because they took a woman out and

718
00:37:05,590 --> 00:37:07,029
Speaker 2: they're not getting pussy. And I want to have an

719
00:37:07,090 --> 00:37:09,529
Speaker 2: episode about that, but I need a man on. Like,

720
00:37:09,550 --> 00:37:11,609
Speaker 2: we need a guy on so we can talk about that.

721
00:37:13,450 --> 00:37:15,589
Speaker 2: But yeah, I have definitely paid for a meal just

722
00:37:15,610 --> 00:37:19,350
Speaker 2: so a nigga wouldn't feel like, or offered at least.

723
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:23,420
Speaker 2: So you don't feel like I owe you shit. Right.

724
00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:25,680
Speaker 1: And I don't mind paying for some food.

725
00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:26,460
Speaker 2: Like, what the fuck?

726
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:28,180
Speaker 1: It's a little meal. I'll pay for that.

727
00:37:28,780 --> 00:37:32,029
Speaker 2: Yeah. So she says that's a red flag that a

728
00:37:32,090 --> 00:37:35,009
Speaker 2: lot of dudes ignore when a woman makes them pay

729
00:37:35,050 --> 00:37:35,870
Speaker 2: for everything.

730
00:37:36,670 --> 00:37:39,950
Speaker 1: But let's say you're dating someone who ain't got shit.

731
00:37:41,310 --> 00:37:41,750
Speaker 1: Then what?

732
00:37:42,350 --> 00:37:43,820
Speaker 2: And men like women who don't got shit.

733
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:45,779
Speaker 1: Yeah.

734
00:37:47,510 --> 00:37:49,930
Speaker 2: Women be liking niggas when they got shit too sometimes.

735
00:37:50,030 --> 00:37:54,390
Speaker 1: Opposites attract her. Like, they need someone to fix. I

736
00:37:54,410 --> 00:37:58,510
Speaker 1: have a friend who only dates fixer-upper-ass niggas.

737
00:37:58,590 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 2: Nah, she got a problem. She got mental health issues.

738
00:38:02,700 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 1: What is it called when you're like a savior, a

739
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:09,799
Speaker 1: savior complex? She just needs to be the savior all

740
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,109
Speaker 1: the time. Like, girl, why you keep picking up these

741
00:38:12,150 --> 00:38:13,090
Speaker 1: niggas off the side.

742
00:38:12,910 --> 00:38:15,589
Speaker 2: Of the road? I guess those type of people are necessary.

743
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:18,299
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? Like, to help those men

744
00:38:18,380 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 2: get they shit together. But, nah. Nah, nah, nah.

745
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:25,060
Speaker 1: Right.

746
00:38:25,140 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 2: And you know, we never talked about that. I think

747
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:30,520
Speaker 2: it was a podcast where the girl was saying how

748
00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:34,380
Speaker 2: men go get fat women when they ain't on they shit.

749
00:38:35,060 --> 00:38:36,200
Speaker 2: What do you think about that?

750
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 1: I don't know, because I know a lot of swaggy-ass

751
00:38:40,180 --> 00:38:40,740
Speaker 1: fat girls.

752
00:38:40,780 --> 00:38:43,500
Speaker 2: Me too. And them bitches be smelling good. The fuck?

753
00:38:43,540 --> 00:38:47,420
Speaker 1: Smell good, swaggy, beautiful, and still your nigga today.

754
00:38:47,620 --> 00:38:48,080
Speaker 2: Exactly.

755
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:49,260
Speaker 1: Take your nigga right out your pocket.

756
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:51,989
Speaker 2: And look, I can be honest and say, listen, I

757
00:38:52,030 --> 00:38:54,609
Speaker 2: was with a nigga who only cheated with super fat,

758
00:38:54,650 --> 00:38:56,890
Speaker 2: pretty bitches. And it got to the point to where

759
00:38:57,410 --> 00:39:01,430
Speaker 2: when I would see a cute, light-skinned, fat bitch, I

760
00:39:01,450 --> 00:39:05,150
Speaker 2: would be side-eyeing her, because I knew deep down inside,

761
00:39:05,190 --> 00:39:06,880
Speaker 2: if my nigga saw this bitch, he's going to be

762
00:39:06,890 --> 00:39:10,450
Speaker 2: trying to fuck. And it bothered me that I knew

763
00:39:10,510 --> 00:39:17,920
Speaker 2: this nigga's type. Was these big ass, light-skinned, pretty bitches.

764
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:24,360
Speaker 2: And I mean like 250, 270. Oh, beautiful, squishy ass. Yes,

765
00:39:24,370 --> 00:39:31,020
Speaker 2: he call them bitches love seats. Damn it. Big old

766
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:34,160
Speaker 2: love seat type bitch. Yeah, them bitches be looking nice.

767
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:37,330
Speaker 2: The fuck is this bitch talking about? Obviously, a big

768
00:39:37,370 --> 00:39:39,510
Speaker 2: bitch stole her man. That's all it is. Right.

769
00:39:39,630 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 1: And she was intimidated. Anytime you're intimidated by some shit,

770
00:39:43,180 --> 00:39:45,359
Speaker 1: you want to try to downplay it. Make it seem

771
00:39:45,380 --> 00:39:47,819
Speaker 1: like it ain't all that. But girl, you know what

772
00:39:47,860 --> 00:39:50,500
Speaker 1: time it is. She done stole your nigga. Cooked him

773
00:39:50,560 --> 00:39:53,439
Speaker 1: a good meal and fucked the shit out of him.

774
00:39:53,460 --> 00:39:56,320
Speaker 2: Right. Now that pussy be extra wet. All the sweat

775
00:39:56,540 --> 00:40:03,190
Speaker 2: and coochie juice. Like, what? That shit probably be juicy. See?

776
00:40:03,890 --> 00:40:04,910
Speaker 2: Call that bitch hot. All right.

777
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:08,940
Speaker 1: All right, so I have a dumb bitch story for y'all.

778
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:11,120
Speaker 2: Dumb bitch story?

779
00:40:11,219 --> 00:40:13,819
Speaker 1: You are so dumb. Because we've all been a dumb

780
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:17,569
Speaker 1: bitch at least once or twice. This actually was sent

781
00:40:17,610 --> 00:40:18,510
Speaker 1: to me on Instagram.

782
00:40:18,550 --> 00:40:19,750
Speaker 2: Can I say who sent it to me?

783
00:40:19,810 --> 00:40:24,750
Speaker 1: I guess one of our growth followers, Hoochie Poppy sent

784
00:40:24,810 --> 00:40:27,990
Speaker 1: us this. Okay, so I'm going to read it to y'all.

785
00:40:28,950 --> 00:40:34,600
Speaker 1: And it's actually on Spiritual Word. 12 years ago, This

786
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:36,600
Speaker 1: nigga took my car while I was at work to

787
00:40:36,640 --> 00:40:39,900
Speaker 1: go pick up another bitch. After dropping her off, my

788
00:40:39,980 --> 00:40:42,939
Speaker 1: tire blew and he crashed my car into a light

789
00:40:42,980 --> 00:40:47,330
Speaker 1: post on Central Ave and died in my car. I

790
00:40:47,390 --> 00:40:49,350
Speaker 1: didn't find out the whole story till a friend of

791
00:40:49,410 --> 00:40:51,370
Speaker 1: a friend told me it was one of her clients

792
00:40:51,830 --> 00:40:54,090
Speaker 1: who he went to go see. And it was confirmed

793
00:40:54,130 --> 00:40:56,130
Speaker 1: when I went to get my car out of impound

794
00:40:56,469 --> 00:41:00,130
Speaker 1: and found her bank card in my total car along

795
00:41:00,150 --> 00:41:02,790
Speaker 1: with one of his shoes that came off during impound.

796
00:41:03,380 --> 00:41:05,080
Speaker 2: Damn, that's wild. That's terrible.

797
00:41:05,980 --> 00:41:08,339
Speaker 1: Also found out he used my social security number to

798
00:41:08,380 --> 00:41:12,380
Speaker 1: file taxes on the state of Georgia and got 10K back.

799
00:41:12,739 --> 00:41:14,860
Speaker 1: And now every time I file taxes, I have to

800
00:41:14,960 --> 00:41:17,299
Speaker 1: have a PIN number mailed to me for the rest

801
00:41:17,340 --> 00:41:21,060
Speaker 1: of my life. But RIP to him. Moral of the story,

802
00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:23,469
Speaker 1: don't be a dumb bitch. No matter how good the

803
00:41:23,489 --> 00:41:26,790
Speaker 1: sex is, you might save a life. Also, karma is

804
00:41:26,850 --> 00:41:30,270
Speaker 1: a bitch. He didn't die alone, though. Where he crashed

805
00:41:30,310 --> 00:41:32,370
Speaker 1: was right next to a house that just so happened

806
00:41:32,410 --> 00:41:35,089
Speaker 1: to be my co-worker's house, and they saw my work

807
00:41:35,130 --> 00:41:37,610
Speaker 1: vest in the car, and thinking he was an employee,

808
00:41:37,950 --> 00:41:40,530
Speaker 1: he held his hand until he passed, waiting for EMT.

809
00:41:41,250 --> 00:41:43,569
Speaker 1: This was 12 years ago. I healed as much as

810
00:41:43,610 --> 00:41:46,319
Speaker 1: I could from the situation, but ever so often, I

811
00:41:46,340 --> 00:41:52,239
Speaker 1: get reminders of this situation, especially during tax season. Plus

812
00:41:52,260 --> 00:41:55,660
Speaker 1: side is, I grieved so bad during this time, I

813
00:41:55,700 --> 00:41:58,379
Speaker 1: lost like 30 pounds that I was struggling to get

814
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:02,890
Speaker 1: rid of, too. Last part and I'm done. He crashed

815
00:42:02,950 --> 00:42:05,529
Speaker 1: on Citroen Avenue and Crown Street. I was living on

816
00:42:05,870 --> 00:42:08,950
Speaker 1: Addison Road in Crown. I was blowing his phone up

817
00:42:09,050 --> 00:42:11,469
Speaker 1: because he didn't come get me. I remember getting home

818
00:42:11,550 --> 00:42:13,950
Speaker 1: and hearing the ambulance and fire truck, but didn't find

819
00:42:14,090 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 1: out that was him because I didn't find out that

820
00:42:17,580 --> 00:42:19,720
Speaker 1: was because of him till the next morning.

821
00:42:20,380 --> 00:42:25,130
Speaker 2: The end. Shame. Shame. Hold on.

822
00:42:25,190 --> 00:42:27,589
Speaker 1: It says, okay, to be very clear, he was not

823
00:42:27,670 --> 00:42:32,540
Speaker 1: my boyfriend. We were FWB, friends with benefits. He thought

824
00:42:32,580 --> 00:42:35,380
Speaker 1: my name was Shante up until a month before he passed.

825
00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:39,400
Speaker 2: What? Wait.

826
00:42:39,500 --> 00:42:43,489
Speaker 1: I eventually did tell him my real name so y'all

827
00:42:43,510 --> 00:42:45,010
Speaker 1: can stop saying he died cheating.

828
00:42:45,390 --> 00:42:51,310
Speaker 2: He died being disrespectful. Okay. Damn. But hold on.

829
00:42:51,330 --> 00:42:53,290
Speaker 1: First of all, both of y'all was fucked up.

830
00:42:53,350 --> 00:42:55,430
Speaker 2: Yes, and how was he filing taxes in your name

831
00:42:55,489 --> 00:42:57,589
Speaker 2: and he don't even know your fucking name, bitch. He

832
00:42:58,260 --> 00:43:01,420
Speaker 2: had her social. Right, but you have to put a

833
00:43:01,460 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 2: name on the tax form or it'd be mismatched.

834
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:06,980
Speaker 1: He knew that bitch was lying about her name.

835
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:07,980
Speaker 2: Oh, right.

836
00:43:10,340 --> 00:43:12,279
Speaker 1: He's like, I got something for this lying ass bitch.

837
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 1: I'm about to get some money off of you and

838
00:43:16,700 --> 00:43:17,980
Speaker 1: I'm going to be picking up my other.

839
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,100
Speaker 2: Hoes with your car that's a sad story.

840
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:22,239
Speaker 1: It is because the man did pass away I mean

841
00:43:22,260 --> 00:43:24,540
Speaker 1: we cracking jokes and shit but it is kind of

842
00:43:24,580 --> 00:43:27,300
Speaker 1: sad like he died young you know.

843
00:43:27,300 --> 00:43:30,860
Speaker 2: And cheating in her car well maybe he wasn't cheating

844
00:43:31,420 --> 00:43:34,280
Speaker 2: whatever you call it he was using her car yeah

845
00:43:34,340 --> 00:43:37,150
Speaker 2: to pick up other women or go see other women.

846
00:43:37,650 --> 00:43:42,770
Speaker 1: That's cheating to me yeah don't use my car right.

847
00:43:43,780 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 2: For that. Stop fucking with men who don't got no car, Louise.

848
00:43:46,060 --> 00:43:50,950
Speaker 2: What the hell? Right. At least. At least.

849
00:43:51,989 --> 00:43:52,489
Speaker 1: Jeez, Louise.

850
00:43:52,550 --> 00:43:56,109
Speaker 2: At the bare minimum. That is a dumb bitch story. Yeah,

851
00:43:56,130 --> 00:43:59,469
Speaker 2: it is. For the books. Poor thing. I know. The

852
00:43:59,489 --> 00:44:01,549
Speaker 2: nigga died, man. She probably was having to walk to work.

853
00:44:01,590 --> 00:44:04,770
Speaker 2: That's why her ass lost some damn 30 pounds. Mm-hmm.

854
00:44:04,790 --> 00:44:05,590
Speaker 1: She ain't have no car.

855
00:44:06,050 --> 00:44:09,529
Speaker 2: No dick. The dick in the dirt. Ooh, AJ.

856
00:44:11,510 --> 00:44:13,550
Speaker 1: Ooh, that's burn.

857
00:44:13,570 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 2: That's cold. Look, let me tell y'all. You know what?

858
00:44:19,060 --> 00:44:20,720
Speaker 1: We gonna get another fucking review.

859
00:44:20,940 --> 00:44:21,880
Speaker 2: Talk about AJ.

860
00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:25,759
Speaker 1: Like, AJ is always saying shit that's just, they just

861
00:44:25,850 --> 00:44:28,390
Speaker 1: make fun of every fucking thing. Everything is not a

862
00:44:28,510 --> 00:44:29,310
Speaker 1: fucking joke.

863
00:44:29,910 --> 00:44:32,650
Speaker 2: Like, first of all, I'm not like, death isn't sad

864
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Speaker 2: to me. I'm not afraid of dying. People need to

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Speaker 2: get over that shit. And maybe it's just a different

866
00:44:37,350 --> 00:44:40,740
Speaker 2: life cycle I'm in. But the fuck? You're going to die.

867
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Speaker 2: Everybody going to get the fuck up out of here

868
00:44:42,310 --> 00:44:44,589
Speaker 2: at some point. You just don't know how or when.

869
00:44:44,630 --> 00:44:45,969
Speaker 2: But you're going to get the fuck up out of here.

870
00:44:45,989 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 2: That's one thing for sure. And we don't know what

871
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 2: it's like on the other side. The shit might be

872
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:54,880
Speaker 2: fucking lit. You know? Right. Just get your shit together

873
00:44:54,900 --> 00:44:57,460
Speaker 2: while you're here. It's okay. It ain't no sins in

874
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Speaker 2: the Bible about tripping off people dying.

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Speaker 1: Like, what the fuck?

876
00:45:03,700 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 2: The hell? Why I got that dick? One of my

877
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:08,439
Speaker 2: exes used to always tell me, man, you always putting

878
00:45:08,460 --> 00:45:10,100
Speaker 2: my dick in the dirt. Like when I would argue

879
00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:12,320
Speaker 2: with him about whole shit he was doing. You always

880
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:14,779
Speaker 2: putting my dick in the dirt. Yeah, because your dick

881
00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:16,360
Speaker 2: stay in the dirt. Literally.

882
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:17,580
Speaker 1: Because it's dirty dick.

883
00:45:17,739 --> 00:45:20,420
Speaker 2: Yes. Nasty ass.

884
00:45:21,460 --> 00:45:23,419
Speaker 1: But I never heard nobody say dick in the dirt

885
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:25,440
Speaker 1: as it applies to being buried.

886
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:28,700
Speaker 2: No, okay. There's one other person. So this is so

887
00:45:28,780 --> 00:45:31,180
Speaker 2: fucking stupid. This is wild. So one of my friends,

888
00:45:31,930 --> 00:45:34,750
Speaker 2: she had this guy she used to fuck with. And

889
00:45:34,770 --> 00:45:36,589
Speaker 2: they used to fuck with each other for years and years,

890
00:45:36,610 --> 00:45:39,150
Speaker 2: like off and on, you know, from teenage to adulthood.

891
00:45:39,890 --> 00:45:42,110
Speaker 2: And this is when we were living in fucking Columbia.

892
00:45:42,130 --> 00:45:44,880
Speaker 2: This is one of my best friends. But she was

893
00:45:44,890 --> 00:45:47,180
Speaker 2: just telling me about this nigga dick. Look, some other

894
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:51,279
Speaker 2: Uber Meets type shit. So, like, I go over to

895
00:45:51,320 --> 00:45:55,860
Speaker 2: her house while he's there. And it's like, I don't know.

896
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:57,980
Speaker 2: Was I supposed to fuck? I don't know. But it's like.

897
00:45:58,660 --> 00:46:00,620
Speaker 2: The nigga was fine as hell. And she done had

898
00:46:00,660 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 2: shown me pictures of this beautiful, beautiful, beautiful penis. And

899
00:46:05,100 --> 00:46:07,660
Speaker 2: he had like a nice little mole on it. Like

900
00:46:07,739 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 2: just this beautiful dick, dog. But it's like, I don't

901
00:46:11,219 --> 00:46:13,620
Speaker 2: really want to fuck after my friend like that. Like not,

902
00:46:13,739 --> 00:46:15,259
Speaker 2: I don't know why. I don't know why I didn't

903
00:46:15,340 --> 00:46:17,799
Speaker 2: do anything. But anyway, we was trying to set it

904
00:46:17,880 --> 00:46:20,430
Speaker 2: up to fuck the dude, but it just didn't happen.

905
00:46:20,780 --> 00:46:23,010
Speaker 2: But anyway, some years later, like he ended up dying

906
00:46:23,050 --> 00:46:24,770
Speaker 2: of some type of cancer. And I was like, yo,

907
00:46:24,790 --> 00:46:29,920
Speaker 2: that fucking beautiful dick is in the dirt. Beautiful, big,

908
00:46:30,660 --> 00:46:32,580
Speaker 2: juicy hamburger is in the dirt.

909
00:46:33,260 --> 00:46:35,440
Speaker 1: There's a lot of beautiful dicks in the dirt, girl.

910
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:39,260
Speaker 2: I know. I hate to.

911
00:46:39,910 --> 00:46:40,330
Speaker 1: Tell you.

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Speaker 2: Y'all listen, we got a motherfucking live show coming up, y'all.

913
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Speaker 2: First ever. So listen, Black Effect is having a live show.

914
00:46:48,270 --> 00:46:53,899
Speaker 2: This is the first annual live. A podcast festival in Brooklyn,

915
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Speaker 2: New York, y'all, on the 28th of August. Okay. Yeah,

916
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Speaker 2: we're going to be on stage. Yes, y'all. We have

917
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Speaker 2: never done a live show before, so we're putting together

918
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Speaker 2: something super fly.

919
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Speaker 1: It's super fun.

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00:47:08,810 --> 00:47:09,170
Speaker 2: Yep.

921
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Speaker 1: So y'all can participate with us. It's going to be lit.

922
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Speaker 1: I'm so excited.

923
00:47:12,430 --> 00:47:12,629
Speaker 2: Yep.

924
00:47:13,090 --> 00:47:14,030
Speaker 1: Be back in New York.

925
00:47:14,989 --> 00:47:20,239
Speaker 2: It's at the Brooklyn Mirage. Okay. Okay. Yep.

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Speaker 1: So y'all pull up. August 28th. You can buy your

927
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Speaker 1: tickets now. Where are they on sale at?

928
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Speaker 2: I guess everywhere.

929
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Speaker 1: Look. Yeah, go to Black Effect. You can find out

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00:47:30,350 --> 00:47:34,589
Speaker 1: where to purchase your tickets and come see us. We

931
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Speaker 1: love y'all. I can't wait to tell y'all I love

932
00:47:36,489 --> 00:47:37,350
Speaker 1: y'all in person.

933
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Speaker 2: Yep. It's blackeffect.com slash podfest. P-O-D-F-E-S-T. F-E-S-T. All right. So

934
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Speaker 2: pull up.

935
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Speaker 1: I'm on a diet so I can look real fine

936
00:47:50,900 --> 00:47:53,000
Speaker 1: when y'all see me, but I did just eat a

937
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Speaker 1: piece of cake that one of my homegirls left over here.

938
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Speaker 2: I'm like, bitch, wait, is that cake? I know, but

939
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Speaker 2: I wouldn't have ate it if it wasn't in my house,

940
00:48:03,410 --> 00:48:04,830
Speaker 2: you know? The fuck?

941
00:48:05,570 --> 00:48:06,830
Speaker 1: Bitch is leaving good food here.

942
00:48:06,850 --> 00:48:07,430
Speaker 2: So it's her fault?

943
00:48:08,250 --> 00:48:13,670
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's absolutely her fault. Where's the self-control? The self-control

944
00:48:13,770 --> 00:48:16,430
Speaker 1: is not bringing shit like that in here, okay?

945
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Speaker 2: Bitch, I be struggling, man. I ain't much to lie.

946
00:48:22,980 --> 00:48:25,600
Speaker 2: I be struggling with the sweets, girl, but I haven't

947
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:28,460
Speaker 2: had any. I did have some sweet ass onion rings yesterday.

948
00:48:28,500 --> 00:48:32,700
Speaker 2: That's about it. But I haven't had some fucking cake

949
00:48:33,320 --> 00:48:36,980
Speaker 2: or fresh baked good. I like fresh baked cookies and

950
00:48:37,020 --> 00:48:39,990
Speaker 2: shit like that. No packaged shit. Nothing from the middle

951
00:48:40,010 --> 00:48:42,390
Speaker 2: of the grocery store. I'm going to get all fresh

952
00:48:42,489 --> 00:48:46,009
Speaker 2: baked bullshit. But I've been doing good with my dad.

953
00:48:46,030 --> 00:48:48,450
Speaker 1: Yeah, you be eating that football thing. I saw it

954
00:48:48,510 --> 00:48:50,950
Speaker 1: on TV one day, and I was like, my co-hosts

955
00:48:51,020 --> 00:48:51,820
Speaker 1: like them things.

956
00:48:52,120 --> 00:48:54,140
Speaker 2: I haven't had that, because I haven't been back to Charlotte.

957
00:48:54,180 --> 00:48:57,140
Speaker 2: I haven't had any. And I can't find a good

958
00:48:57,300 --> 00:49:06,320
Speaker 2: Asian bakery down here. I know. Anyway, y'all, listen. If

959
00:49:06,340 --> 00:49:09,009
Speaker 2: you enjoyed this episode, please tune in every Thursday on

960
00:49:09,030 --> 00:49:11,170
Speaker 2: the iHeartRadio app or wherever the fuck you get your

961
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Speaker 2: podcast at. This is your co-host, AJ Holiday 2.0. Follow

962
00:49:15,630 --> 00:49:18,380
Speaker 2: me on Instagram. Y'all follow us on Twitter. Okay, as

963
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:20,839
Speaker 2: we talk back podcast, we're going to try to start

964
00:49:20,880 --> 00:49:23,900
Speaker 2: tweeting and shit like that more just so we can

965
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Speaker 2: stay engaged with our listeners because we really appreciate you guys.

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Speaker 1: We love y'all. Follow me, y'all. It's Official Tam Bam

967
00:49:32,910 --> 00:49:37,219
Speaker 1: on Instagram. Come tell me happy birthday on Saturday. Under

968
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Speaker 1: my post and post me on your page, bitch.

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Speaker 2: I love y'all. See y'all later.

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Speaker 1: Oh, remember to speak now.

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Speaker 2: And never hold your peace, my nigga. My nigga. Bye. Bye.