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Speaker 1: Talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion

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Speaker 1: who talks back? What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning

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Speaker 1: that for a new episode and we talked back, a

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Speaker 1: show dedicated to you, niggas and knees. Host your co host,

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Speaker 1: a J without Girl. Hey, y'all, it's official. Tam Bam y'all.

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Speaker 1: I love y'all. I love y'all once again. Hey a J.

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Speaker 1: How was your weekend? My weekend? What the hell I did? Oh?

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Speaker 1: I took some pictures for my birthday and then I

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Speaker 1: got drunk per usual on my Sunday. I didn't do

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Speaker 1: not enough to the rest of the weekend. I just

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Speaker 1: chilled in the house after work. It was raining. It

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Speaker 1: seems like it's raining every day. Is this see Attle?

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Speaker 1: Is this Seattle or something? I don't know. We need

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Speaker 1: some rain, grow up and hottest hell outside, cool it

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Speaker 1: down every day. I like when it rains, especially if

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Speaker 1: I ain't got shipped to do. Yeah, that's because you

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Speaker 1: got on a week It's like me got real hair

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Speaker 1: out right now? Is stupid that I'll be in the rain,

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Speaker 1: Like I'm Brazilian? Like who cares about getting wet? It's

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Speaker 1: a black girl problem. What about your weekend? What you

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Speaker 1: do now? I do much. I just hung out in

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Speaker 1: the city, some dinner and kicking it, some Netflix and

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Speaker 1: chilling a little bit. That's about it. You got fucked,

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Speaker 1: so you got fun. Pardon me, that means you got fun.

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Speaker 1: That's neck Netflix and drill. Okay, I said Netflix and chill. Okay. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: wink wink, everybody, just chill, No do much, Just hang

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Speaker 1: out around the city one day. Oh yeah, my birthday

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Speaker 1: is on Saturday, y'all. So when you hear this in

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Speaker 1: a cup of days, it's my birthday, y'all come to

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Speaker 1: my page and tell me happy birthday. And y'all can

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Speaker 1: send me some money too, if y'all want to to

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Speaker 1: my cash at should? I I'm scared because you know,

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Speaker 1: I put my cash up out there. Somebody might hack

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Speaker 1: my ship and still all my money, ain't it? People

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Speaker 1: already got your cash app? Damn there it's okay, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: well it's money signed TAM's vanity T A M S

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Speaker 1: v A N I T Y Send a bitch a

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Speaker 1: couple of dollars for a birthday. Don't play with her.

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Speaker 1: It's cancer season, y'all, cry baby aass season. Do nobody

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Speaker 1: got on time for that ship. Whatever. I'll cry and

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Speaker 1: drink at the same time this weekend. Fuck it shame,

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Speaker 1: I ain't got no. I'm going to Atlanta hang out

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Speaker 1: with my best friend for I think it's birthday. Best

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Speaker 1: this weekend. I might see yall out there. This bitch

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Speaker 1: ain't coming y'all. All right, we'll see. We'll see if

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Speaker 1: you pull up. So what you guys for stupid internet news?

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Speaker 1: You see any uh, any special, any interesting topics out there?

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Speaker 1: I did, I did see um. A woman posted uh

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Speaker 1: that her husband had threatened to divorce her and she

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Speaker 1: didn't get her physical body in shape, and she shows

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Speaker 1: a video of her losing weight to save her marriage.

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Speaker 1: And there were a lot of people who were like, ah,

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Speaker 1: you should divorce him, get in shape, and then leave

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Speaker 1: that nigger. What's your thoughts? No, we already know a

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Speaker 1: man of visual Okay, so if you just look like

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Speaker 1: a totally different person from who he married, it's understandable. Now.

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Speaker 1: It depends on how he came at her with the ship.

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Speaker 1: At least he talked to her about it. At least

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Speaker 1: he didn't just immediately got the damn relationship as soon

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Speaker 1: as his bitch starting a little chunky, and she had

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Speaker 1: a baby, right, Yeah, she had kids after she let

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Speaker 1: herself go. Yeah, a lot of things take place, you know,

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Speaker 1: less time for yourself, having to take care of everybody

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Speaker 1: little bit. But we already know, like the diet is made,

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Speaker 1: Like mainly it's the eating. If you don't have time

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Speaker 1: eat fun up right? I agree? Um, yeah, I feel

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Speaker 1: the same way. People were like really mad at him,

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Speaker 1: but I agree with him. Like if I'm with someone,

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Speaker 1: if you don't care about your body, I don't think

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Speaker 1: we're compatible. Yeah, I gotta love yourself. Yeah, you gotta

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Speaker 1: to love yourself, and that means keeping yourself because I

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Speaker 1: That's not fair. And that's how we mean. Yeah, if

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Speaker 1: he married you fat, then I'd be like, nigga, I

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Speaker 1: was fat when we met, exactly, just like I give

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Speaker 1: my disclosure to men all the time that I wear.

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Speaker 1: We've all the time. So one year in the relationship,

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Speaker 1: don't be coming at me about this. Goddamn here. I

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Speaker 1: I gotta fat max. Okay, once I hit it, I'll

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Speaker 1: start coming down from it. But don't you say a

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Speaker 1: same body when I met your ass. So apparently Jocelyn

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Speaker 1: Savage wants to marry R Kelly or she's engaged R Kelly.

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Speaker 1: He just got since he ain't even got no wealth anymore,

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Speaker 1: right like he got a debt of like a million

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Speaker 1: have some money somewhere. I don't know, do you Why

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Speaker 1: would you be engaged to nigga who's fifty and got

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Speaker 1: thirty years in prison. Yeah, it doesn't make sense. I

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Speaker 1: don't get it. Is it cloud chasing? Make it makes sense? Possibly, girl,

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Speaker 1: if you don't get your stupid ass out of him.

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Speaker 1: So before that much love in the world, right, so

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Speaker 1: they're saying before centisen Uh, Savage tried to convince the

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Speaker 1: judge that Kelly didn't deserve such a heart heart sentencing. Um.

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Speaker 1: She pleaded that she was not a victim and that

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Speaker 1: Kelly was an amazing person. Um. She also referred to

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Speaker 1: herself as his wife. She goes on to say, my

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Speaker 1: relationship with Robert is amazing, she wrote, He's the best

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Speaker 1: thing that's ever happened to me. We have a very

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Speaker 1: charges that um Rob Robert Kelly, the r Kelly got

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Speaker 1: Man Act. This the Man Act. Let me see, I

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Speaker 1: just want to be sure, Um, but it to me, Yes,

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Speaker 1: it's the Man Act m A N N Act, And

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Speaker 1: y'all listen. This is the White Slave Traffic Act, also

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Speaker 1: called the Man Act, is the United States federal law

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Speaker 1: did uh gets Laye Maxwell not get that type of charge?

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Speaker 1: But you give a black man Robert Kelly, like a

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Speaker 1: but not girl. Yeah, Like, I don't know that that's

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Speaker 1: for some reason. And yeah, yeah, um, what else are

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Speaker 1: dude repossessing his baby mama bumper? Because she put his

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Speaker 1: think of Kevin Hart when he was talking about how

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Speaker 1: off to Christie's tree. He was like, give me the state,

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Speaker 1: put it in my hand, beach taking the food with me.

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Speaker 1: Like your kids still has to ride in that car, sir.

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Speaker 1: This goes to show you that if a man can't

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Speaker 1: value in having this bumper on your car. What the hell?

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Speaker 1: I had a nigga canceled. He's supposed to take me

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Speaker 1: to dinner for my birthday and I didn't give him none.

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Speaker 1: The night before I didn't even see him, I didn't

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Speaker 1: taking me to dinner. He patties out, boy, fuck you

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Speaker 1: in that movie seafood Dinner, use a little steak steak dinner.

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Speaker 1: This is the more steak out there nigga, right, then

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Speaker 1: you're gonna try to funk on me next week. But

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Speaker 1: you don't play with women about their damn birthday. Nigger right,

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's a daddy, Doug, and I'm celibate, So no,

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Speaker 1: of this what you think about Academics and how he

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Speaker 1: was coming at Meek Mills. I know you saw that

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Speaker 1: ship me Mills and the baby and um. He also

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Speaker 1: put up this old video from with Kanye Um holding

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Speaker 1: I didn't get to see that. What was that about?

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Speaker 1: So Academics took to his YouTube channel and was saying

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Speaker 1: So he was talking about a video with UM Meek

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Speaker 1: He was hopping and Mark Mark Rubin was like behind

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Speaker 1: why you hopping Meek? Like because you lost tennis? Like

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Speaker 1: Like niggas are not allowed to have fun and be

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Speaker 1: That's not fair, Like it's like it was just having fun.

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Speaker 1: But what about Kanye holding this man's ribs and French

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Speaker 1: fries in the back of a sprinter van and Kim

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Speaker 1: k is recording it and he's holding this man's plate

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Speaker 1: while a man eats out of it. It's some designer

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Speaker 1: we think about that. I mean, it's not that deep.

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Speaker 1: People be reading too much into it. I think, like,

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Speaker 1: why was he holding it? He asked him to hold,

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Speaker 1: Like Kanye n look happy in the face on the video.

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Speaker 1: I'll send it to you so you can see what

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Speaker 1: But metaphorically, maybe it's like, yeah, I'm a had these

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Speaker 1: motherfucker's eating out my hands type ship. I don't know

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Speaker 1: because this was sto. We know that man Kanye d

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Speaker 1: and blew up since then even more the man was

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Speaker 1: he eating with his mouth just mouth to plate? Or

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Speaker 1: was he putting picking it up with his hand. Nigger,

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Speaker 1: This is me in front of you, dam I'm holding

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Speaker 1: no nigga, you got the full work, like you're using

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Speaker 1: why your wife recording that. I know from that point

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Speaker 1: she don't love him. That's probably that's probably was just

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Speaker 1: gonna bother your damn spirit that bad? You know what

423
00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:28,200
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Initially, when I moved around my house, it

424
00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:30,439
Speaker 1: was not a problem. It wasn't a problem until now

425
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:33,320
Speaker 1: I get to know this person and I see, like,

426
00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:36,160
Speaker 1: this is an elderly person who possibly has like mental

427
00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:38,600
Speaker 1: health issues on top of that. But as a human,

428
00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:41,440
Speaker 1: which which why I don't think I'm fucking human, but

429
00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:44,280
Speaker 1: as a good person or I feel like that's what

430
00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:46,560
Speaker 1: you're supposed to do in this life. You're supposed to

431
00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:49,200
Speaker 1: help people, especially old people. It's just not fair, like

432
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:53,680
Speaker 1: you'r a baby twice essentially, I agree, But that was

433
00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:57,000
Speaker 1: wild though. You took like she literally took this woman

434
00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:01,159
Speaker 1: in off the corner of the street. She was actually

435
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:06,560
Speaker 1: at Ghols Gym. She had a silver Sneaker membership. She

436
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 1: was still homeless. Yeah, and if I got an empty room,

437
00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:12,720
Speaker 1: why would I not let her live there? She was thirty.

438
00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 1: That's so I've been trying to tell your motherfucker's I'm God,

439
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:19,119
Speaker 1: But y'all don't be believing me. I don't think you

440
00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:26,240
Speaker 1: call They just call you a hope a hotel, the

441
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:32,360
Speaker 1: Hope Step. How about that? That was dope. I don't

442
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:34,359
Speaker 1: even think, like, as much as I'd love to help people,

443
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:35,879
Speaker 1: I don't know if I would have been able to

444
00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:38,440
Speaker 1: do that. So kudos to you for that. But you

445
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 1: used to complain every morning. We thank God for the morning,

446
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:47,640
Speaker 1: and then we complained about that beach. Yeah. I think

447
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,480
Speaker 1: she passed away too, So I don't know. Yeah, I

448
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 1: think she passed away last year, maybe around this time

449
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 1: last year, I really and I've been trying to look

450
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 1: for her. But you know, she was homeless. Maybe they don't.

451
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:02,879
Speaker 1: They didn't have the proper paperwork to document her. I

452
00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 1: don't know, but I haven't been able to find here.

453
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:10,359
Speaker 1: I don't call every damn hospital in Miami um and

454
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 1: Margate area for a lot of del area too. Well,

455
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,400
Speaker 1: you did your due diligence for her, and you did

456
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:20,080
Speaker 1: the best she could to help someone when you would

457
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:23,280
Speaker 1: gain nothing. Right so that now this, now here's the example.

458
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:26,760
Speaker 1: I was selfish, I mean selfless for allowing her to

459
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:28,879
Speaker 1: live with me, And then she was selfish when she

460
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:31,560
Speaker 1: got up in there. You know what I'm saying. She

461
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:35,639
Speaker 1: was like and me being able to talk shit to

462
00:26:35,840 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 1: you about what was going on was fucking self care?

463
00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:42,880
Speaker 1: Bit Like, what are we talking about? I talked ship

464
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 1: for self care? Okay with anybody who ever gonna listen,

465
00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:51,440
Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk shit every morning. Let me tell you

466
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 1: this bitch put her mop head in my washing mashame.

467
00:26:57,080 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 1: I remember that crazy look. She used to be trying

468
00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 1: to help me, But I swear to god, she got

469
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 1: sucked up so many of my clothes sucked up soon,

470
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,879
Speaker 1: like she would bleach everything she get her hands on,

471
00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 1: like this is color? Why would you want? Who told

472
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 1: you to wash my ship? And see that's where I

473
00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:21,400
Speaker 1: would be selfish, because as soon as you bleach one

474
00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:24,800
Speaker 1: item of my motherfucking clothes. I love my clue, she'd

475
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:29,920
Speaker 1: be back in front of goals right there. But you

476
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:33,000
Speaker 1: gotta go. Is that self care? It would have been

477
00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 1: self care if I had put her out right yep, yeah,

478
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 1: because took her in for a long time. She was

479
00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:43,399
Speaker 1: driving me nuts. I'm just trying to figure out what

480
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:45,840
Speaker 1: was you taking silver sneakers classes? Like, how did y'all

481
00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 1: even she went? That's when she took her showers at

482
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:51,880
Speaker 1: and stuff. She lived, um, you know, at different organizations

483
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 1: around the city. But she would you know, spend all

484
00:27:55,440 --> 00:28:00,680
Speaker 1: day at the gym essentially yep. So look, I gotta list. Um.

485
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:06,119
Speaker 1: This is a list examples of selfless versus self care. Right, So,

486
00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:11,199
Speaker 1: self care getting adequate nightly rest. Selfish is sleeping excessively

487
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:16,640
Speaker 1: to avoid responsibility responsibilities. Self care is enjoying a break

488
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:20,280
Speaker 1: from work to fuel up with healthy foods. Selfish is

489
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:25,440
Speaker 1: taken an unauthorized extended lunch on company time. How many

490
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: y'all bitches is out there? Self self care creating and

491
00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:34,000
Speaker 1: enforcing healthy boundaries, which is what you were doing with

492
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 1: the guys ham so fuck him. Um. Selfish is saying

493
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:42,400
Speaker 1: no to every request for help without a reason. Um

494
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:46,840
Speaker 1: self care, making time for relaxation and meditation. Selfish is

495
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 1: isolating and ignoring your loved ones. Self care buying ingredients

496
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 1: to cook your favorite recipe. Selfish is spending your family's

497
00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 1: savings on unnecessary items. Look, that last one brings me

498
00:28:59,880 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 1: to some ship I just saw on on social media.

499
00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 1: So it's a story where this lady wrote into this

500
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 1: um this radio station and she said that you know,

501
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 1: she makes substantially, substantially more money than her husband, right,

502
00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 1: and he but he wants to buy himself arrange rover

503
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:24,800
Speaker 1: off of their collective salaries, and she was asking if

504
00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 1: he should allow her. I feel it's selfish for him

505
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 1: to even ask her or even think he can go

506
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:35,640
Speaker 1: buy a rain drover. Why she makes more money than him,

507
00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 1: that's But if it was the other if it was

508
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 1: the other way around and she wanted to rage, wherever,

509
00:29:40,200 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 1: would you feel the same way? No, Look, no, hell no,

510
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 1: he needs to get his fucking money up. Well, I agree,

511
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 1: but when you get into that marriage, what's good for

512
00:29:57,680 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 1: the goose is good for the gain or whatever the

513
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:04,560
Speaker 1: funk this? They lie there, damn lie, because if I want,

514
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:08,160
Speaker 1: if I'm with a man and he makes tip, all right,

515
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna make my own money, right, and I

516
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:12,280
Speaker 1: drive a range Rover now off of my own time.

517
00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:14,880
Speaker 1: But if I was in a situation where I was

518
00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 1: with a man and he made more than me than

519
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:19,960
Speaker 1: I want to fucking wagon. But I already got a

520
00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 1: range Rover, right? But do you think that more often

521
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 1: the women is probably taking his pockets into consideration, especially

522
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 1: this your husband. This ain't your sugar dady. It's your husband.

523
00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 1: He makes more money than you women, oftentimes due to finances,

524
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 1: unless it's like somebody like who owns a big ass

525
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:39,720
Speaker 1: company and he has people doing that type of ship.

526
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:42,719
Speaker 1: But if this is you guys have been making money together, right,

527
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:46,880
Speaker 1: I feel like a wife. It's not going to get

528
00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 1: some ship that the family can't afford to do, you

529
00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:53,040
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So you want to go out

530
00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:55,200
Speaker 1: and get a range Rover to look like? What for?

531
00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 1: Who you need to get the type of car you

532
00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 1: can afford. When my last boyfriend, this is in my twenties,

533
00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:06,360
Speaker 1: and I mean we didn't have a lot, neither one

534
00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 1: of us. He was military and he wasn't high ranking,

535
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:12,640
Speaker 1: and I didn't we just moved to Florida, and I

536
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 1: was pretty much unemployed, so the money was scarce, and

537
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 1: then we would have his two kids for the summer,

538
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 1: so we had to make just his military salary stretch. Right,

539
00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:25,200
Speaker 1: So he wants to go out and get this got down.

540
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 1: It was the not the year that year. I think

541
00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 1: it was like two thousand ten or something like that.

542
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:35,440
Speaker 1: Up twelve. He wanted to get a two thousand thirteen

543
00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 1: uh Jeep Sahara, which I love that truck, right, but

544
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 1: I just felt like it was outside of what our money,

545
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 1: which was his money at the time, could afford, could afford,

546
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 1: and I was so against it. But his and I

547
00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:55,240
Speaker 1: had a conversation with his mom and she just told

548
00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 1: me to let him be a man and let him

549
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 1: do what he's gonna do. And then we struggled because

550
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 1: of that. Are like we struggled because that car payment

551
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:06,880
Speaker 1: was outside of our uh our finances, which is its

552
00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:10,479
Speaker 1: finances at the time, because I wasn't working. And then

553
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 1: he was like, go get a job at Walmart. Nick

554
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 1: I got a degree, Like, I was like, you're not

555
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:17,280
Speaker 1: gonna reduce me to the Walmart, which I don't go

556
00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 1: get it because not no shade to listen. No shade

557
00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 1: to people who work at Walmart, because I don't want

558
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 1: to make it seem like that's beneath me or anything,

559
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 1: because I have worked at Walmart before, but at that

560
00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 1: current stage of my life, I just didn't feel like

561
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:31,840
Speaker 1: that that's what I needed to be doing. I can

562
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:36,040
Speaker 1: contribute in other ways when I find a job, but

563
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:39,760
Speaker 1: I'm not just I'm gonna go work at Walmart. And

564
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:44,200
Speaker 1: he was, yeah, because now we're we're fucking broke because

565
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 1: you got this expensive as truck that I asked you

566
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 1: not to get. Was I wrong? Was I selfish to

567
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:54,080
Speaker 1: not go work at Walmart? You didn't He didn't need

568
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 1: that vehicle? Did he need that? No? Yeah, he didn't

569
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 1: need it. So he went and did what he wanted

570
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 1: to do because really he wasn't taking you into consideration

571
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:06,160
Speaker 1: with the relationship. Honestly, he was like, I'm making the money.

572
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:09,840
Speaker 1: That's my money, bitch. You need like in some ways somehow,

573
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure it started to take care of this

574
00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 1: fucking truck. You wasn't being taken care of, right, So

575
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:18,120
Speaker 1: it's like, now, bit g job so you can figure

576
00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 1: it out for yourself. And the and the crazy part

577
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 1: was all right. So I had just moved from Europe

578
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:26,880
Speaker 1: with him, and I made like when I was there,

579
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 1: I was making a lot of money doing hair in

580
00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:32,120
Speaker 1: the salon there, and obviously you have to build your

581
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:33,680
Speaker 1: like when you go to a new city, you gotta

582
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 1: start over. You know you're not gonna be like So

583
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 1: when I was making all that money, everything was good

584
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 1: because I could contribute so much more. But as soon

585
00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 1: as I moved with you, the only reason I'm leaving

586
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 1: is because of you. I'm moving because you got stationed

587
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:49,680
Speaker 1: to a new place and I'm going with you. And

588
00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 1: now you're treating me like a poopa to ass bitch

589
00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 1: where gosh it? And I'm like, and that's why you

590
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 1: see that a lot of times in relationships. It's almost

591
00:33:58,160 --> 00:33:59,920
Speaker 1: like like are you my man or is it comp

592
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 1: a titian? You know what I'm saying, because you I

593
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 1: left because of the relationship, right, my comfort zone, and

594
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 1: now you have me in this vulnerable state of really

595
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:12,239
Speaker 1: not being able to take care of myself initially, and

596
00:34:12,400 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 1: now you're trying to shoot on me and want me

597
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 1: to go work at Walmart. Right. And that's why I

598
00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 1: don't suggest women to struggle with men, because that motherucker

599
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:23,359
Speaker 1: ain't looking back once he get a ship together, dog

600
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:27,759
Speaker 1: ain't looking back. He ain't looking back. Look, man, try

601
00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 1: to get a nigger as whole as possible, because they

602
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:33,839
Speaker 1: don't like the women that saw them funked up. They

603
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:36,359
Speaker 1: don't like it. That's why they don't like their first

604
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:40,920
Speaker 1: baby mamas. Sometimes girl a lot of times sometimes looking

605
00:34:40,920 --> 00:34:45,799
Speaker 1: at Kanye told y'all, Lebrian is avantasy. I don't think

606
00:34:45,840 --> 00:34:48,719
Speaker 1: they ever struggled though. Sorry, they don't count. They went

607
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 1: straight from high school to rich exactly, like exactly, and

608
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 1: they probably struggle with like other ship, you know, because

609
00:34:56,680 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 1: I don't heard about little bron Ron and ship the

610
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:04,880
Speaker 1: sun right now acting out how daddy what what daddy

611
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 1: really like? You know, because they say like a little

612
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 1: white girl fetish. Oh yeah, they do say that. I

613
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 1: love me some of Lebron and Savannah. I would love

614
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 1: to be like their girlfriend, but them, both of them.

615
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:23,920
Speaker 1: I love Savannah. I might love Savanna more like Lebron honestly,

616
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:27,800
Speaker 1: but yeah, look, look how I got off at a

617
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:32,840
Speaker 1: changing anyway, me and that nigga broke up in the story.

618
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:40,839
Speaker 1: Let's go to break bet you'll be right back, all right, y'all.

619
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:42,520
Speaker 1: So look, just to wrap up our a little brief

620
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 1: conversation today, it is not uh selfish of you to

621
00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:53,080
Speaker 1: practice self care. I want everybody, every woman especially to

622
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:56,440
Speaker 1: know that no. It's a complete statement. And if somebody

623
00:35:56,560 --> 00:36:00,440
Speaker 1: tries to make you feel bad about saying no when

624
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:06,839
Speaker 1: it's gonna car cause you like fucking stress, fuck them anguish. Yeah,

625
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:11,399
Speaker 1: like it's not it's not selfish. Now if you um,

626
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:16,399
Speaker 1: hold on, I sent you another post bitch with um

627
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:22,839
Speaker 1: this girl basically being a goddamn chatty patty essentially being

628
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:28,840
Speaker 1: a pick Misha saying, men, here are some top signs

629
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 1: to let you know what you're being what you're being

630
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:34,399
Speaker 1: used by. Oh excuse me, here are some top signs

631
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 1: to let you know you're being used by her. So

632
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 1: she goes on to talk about like, you know, she

633
00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 1: makes you pay for everything. What it's some men that

634
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:46,680
Speaker 1: won't let you go on your purse. You know, maybe

635
00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 1: she's never experienced that type of man, So I'll give

636
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:52,359
Speaker 1: her some paths. You know, maybe she's had to pay

637
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:54,279
Speaker 1: for some meal. Yeah, I have a lot of men

638
00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 1: who would be like offended when I try to pay

639
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:58,040
Speaker 1: for ship. Yes, I had a dude told me like,

640
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:00,759
Speaker 1: you're trying to cut my balls off. I'm like, what, Like,

641
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:03,280
Speaker 1: I just don't want you because we see the guys

642
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:05,400
Speaker 1: out here get mad because they took a woman out

643
00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:06,840
Speaker 1: and they're not getting pussy and I want to have

644
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 1: an episode about that. But I need a man on,

645
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 1: like we need a guy on, so we could talk

646
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 1: about that. Um. But yeah, I've definitely paid for a

647
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:18,800
Speaker 1: meal just so on nigga wouldn't feel like or offered

648
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 1: at least, so you don't feel like I owe you ship? Right,

649
00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 1: But and I don't mind paying for some food, like

650
00:37:25,920 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 1: what I'll pay for that? Yeah? So she she says,

651
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:33,360
Speaker 1: that's a red flag that a lot of dudes ignore

652
00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 1: when a woman makes them pay for everything. But something

653
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 1: like let's say you you're dating someone who ain't got

654
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:43,759
Speaker 1: ship then, and men like women who aren't got ship.

655
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:53,160
Speaker 1: Women be like opposite a tractor, like they need someone

656
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:57,279
Speaker 1: to fix. I have a friend who only dates fix

657
00:37:57,360 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 1: her upper ass. Niggas. Nah, she got a problem. What

658
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 1: is it called when you're like, uh, savior a savior complex?

659
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 1: She just needs to be the savior all the time.

660
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:12,560
Speaker 1: The girl, why do you keep picking up these niggas off?

661
00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 1: The side of the road. I guess this type of

662
00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:17,040
Speaker 1: people are necessary, you know what. You know what I'm saying,

663
00:38:17,080 --> 00:38:20,360
Speaker 1: like to help those men get their shipped together. But

664
00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:25,839
Speaker 1: um nah, no, no no, And you know we never

665
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:28,840
Speaker 1: talked about that. It was I think it was a

666
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 1: podcast where the girl was saying, how men go get

667
00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:35,399
Speaker 1: fat women when they ain't know the ship? M hmm,

668
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:38,520
Speaker 1: what do you think about that? I don't know, because fat,

669
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:40,720
Speaker 1: but I know a lot of swaggy as fat girls

670
00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:46,200
Speaker 1: just be smelling good, smell good, swaggy, beautiful and bag

671
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:49,200
Speaker 1: and still your nigga today right out of your part.

672
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:51,840
Speaker 1: And look, I could be honest and say, listen, I

673
00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 1: was with a nigga who only cheated with super fat

674
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:56,719
Speaker 1: pretty bitches. And it got to the point to where

675
00:38:57,320 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 1: what I would see like a cute, light skin, fat bitch,

676
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,839
Speaker 1: I would be side eying her because I know I knew,

677
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 1: like deep down inside, like if my nigga saw this bitch,

678
00:39:06,239 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 1: she's going to be trying to suck. And it bothered

679
00:39:09,719 --> 00:39:16,400
Speaker 1: me that I knew this nigga's type was big gass,

680
00:39:16,560 --> 00:39:20,560
Speaker 1: light skinned pretty bitches. And I mean like two fifty

681
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 1: to seventy, like oh, beautiful suh. Yes, he called them

682
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 1: bitches love seats. They're gonna love seats type bitch. Yeah,

683
00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:37,279
Speaker 1: just be looking nice there talking about obviously a big

684
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:39,600
Speaker 1: bitch stole her man, that's all it is, right, And

685
00:39:39,719 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 1: she was intimidated. Anytime you're intimidated by some ship, you

686
00:39:43,239 --> 00:39:45,440
Speaker 1: want to try to downplay it. They can seem like

687
00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:48,040
Speaker 1: it ain't all that girl, you know the time, and

688
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:51,239
Speaker 1: she just stole your nigga, cooked him a good meal

689
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 1: and funding ship out of right now, that pussy be

690
00:39:54,800 --> 00:40:00,560
Speaker 1: extra with all of the sweat juice, Like, what that's

691
00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 1: your id? You see? All right? So I have a

692
00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 1: dumb bitch story for y'all dumb bitch stories because we've

693
00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 1: all been a dumb bitch at least it was or twice.

694
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:18,719
Speaker 1: This actually was sent to me on Instagram. Can I

695
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:20,920
Speaker 1: say who sent it to me? I guess uh. One

696
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:25,720
Speaker 1: of our grand followers who cheap Poppy's sent us this. Okay,

697
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:29,359
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna read it to y'all. Uh, And it's

698
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 1: actually on spiritual word. Twelve years ago, this nigga took

699
00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 1: my car while I was at work to go pick

700
00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:40,600
Speaker 1: up another bitch after dropping her off my tire blue,

701
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 1: and he crashed my car into a light post on

702
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:47,799
Speaker 1: Central As and died in my car. I didn't find

703
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:49,680
Speaker 1: out the whole story. Tell a friend of a friend

704
00:40:49,760 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 1: told me it was one of her clients who he

705
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:54,279
Speaker 1: went to go see. And it was confirmed when I

706
00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:56,800
Speaker 1: went to get my car out of impound and found

707
00:40:56,840 --> 00:41:00,400
Speaker 1: her bank card card in my total car with one

708
00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 1: of his shoes that came off during impact. Damn, that's wow.

709
00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:08,279
Speaker 1: Also found out he used my social Security number to

710
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:11,440
Speaker 1: foul taxes on the state of Georgia uh and got

711
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 1: ten K back. And now every time my foul taxes,

712
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 1: I have to have a pen number mailed to me

713
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:18,960
Speaker 1: for the rest of my life. But r I p

714
00:41:19,120 --> 00:41:22,279
Speaker 1: to him more of the story. Don't be a dumb bitch,

715
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:24,879
Speaker 1: no matter how good the sex is, you might save

716
00:41:24,920 --> 00:41:28,359
Speaker 1: a life. Also, karma is a bit. He didn't die

717
00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 1: along though. Where he crashed was right next to a

718
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 1: house that just so happened to be my co worker's house,

719
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 1: and they saw my work vest in the car, and

720
00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 1: thinking he was an employee, he held his hand until

721
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 1: he passed, waiting for e MT. This was twelve years ago.

722
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 1: I healed as much as I could from this situation,

723
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:47,760
Speaker 1: but ever so often I get reminders of this situation,

724
00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: especially during tight tax season. Plus side is a grief.

725
00:41:53,880 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 1: I grief so bad during this time. I lost like

726
00:41:56,200 --> 00:41:58,640
Speaker 1: thirty pounds that I was struggling to get rid of

727
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:03,800
Speaker 1: last part, and I'm done. He crashed on Citu Avenue

728
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 1: in Crown Street. I was living on Addison Road in Crown.

729
00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:09,839
Speaker 1: I was blowing his phone up because he didn't come

730
00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 1: get me. I remember getting home and hearing the ambulance

731
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 1: and fire truck, but didn't find out that was him,

732
00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:18,319
Speaker 1: because I didn't find out that was because of him

733
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 1: until the next morning. The end shame hold on it says, Okay,

734
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:28,680
Speaker 1: to be very clear, he was not my boyfriend. We

735
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:32,799
Speaker 1: were f WB friends with benefits. He thought my name

736
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:38,440
Speaker 1: was Shaunte up until a month before he passed. I

737
00:42:38,520 --> 00:42:42,360
Speaker 1: eventually did tell him. I eventually did tell him my

738
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 1: real name. So y'all can stop saying he died cheating,

739
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:52,319
Speaker 1: he died being disrespectful. But hold all, both of y'all

740
00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:55,440
Speaker 1: was yes, And how was he following taxes in your name?

741
00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:58,239
Speaker 1: And he don't even know your name? Bitch like he

742
00:42:58,360 --> 00:43:01,320
Speaker 1: had her social right, But you have to put a

743
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:04,840
Speaker 1: name on the tax forms or if he be missing,

744
00:43:04,880 --> 00:43:07,759
Speaker 1: you knew that bitch was lying about her name. That's

745
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:11,880
Speaker 1: what he's like. I got something for this line, this

746
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:16,440
Speaker 1: big I'm about to get some money off of you

747
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 1: in I'm be picking up my other holes with your car.

748
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:21,360
Speaker 1: That's a sad story. It is because the man did

749
00:43:21,480 --> 00:43:23,880
Speaker 1: pass away. I mean, we cracking jokes and ship, but

750
00:43:23,960 --> 00:43:26,960
Speaker 1: it is kind of sad, like he died young, you know,

751
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:31,759
Speaker 1: and cheating in her. Maybe he wasn't cheating whatever you

752
00:43:31,840 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: call it. He was in the car, Yeah, to pick

753
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 1: up other women. See other women. That's cheating to me. M. Yeah,

754
00:43:40,719 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 1: don't use my car, right, But stuff with men who

755
00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:50,359
Speaker 1: don't got no car? What the hell? At least at

756
00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:56,120
Speaker 1: least like the bare minimum. That is a dumb bit story. Yeah,

757
00:43:56,200 --> 00:44:00,960
Speaker 1: but it books poor thing. She probably was having to

758
00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 1: walk to work. That's why her has lost some damn

759
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:06,439
Speaker 1: thirty pounds. M. She didn't have no car, no dick,

760
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:17,600
Speaker 1: dick in the dirt. Oh a J. Look, let me

761
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 1: tell you you know what, We're gonna get another fucking review.

762
00:44:20,840 --> 00:44:24,680
Speaker 1: Talk about a J like a J is always saying ship.

763
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 1: That's just they just make fun of every fucking thing.

764
00:44:27,480 --> 00:44:30,719
Speaker 1: Everything is not a fucking joke. Like, first of all,

765
00:44:30,920 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 1: I'm not like death isn't sad to me. I'm not

766
00:44:33,600 --> 00:44:36,120
Speaker 1: afraid of dying. Like people need to get over that ship.

767
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:38,160
Speaker 1: And maybe it's just a different life cycle I'm in.

768
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 1: But the funk like, you're gonna die. Everybody gonna get

769
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:43,080
Speaker 1: the funk u out of here at some point. You

770
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 1: just don't know how or win, but you're gonna get

771
00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:48,000
Speaker 1: the funk out of here. And we don't know what

772
00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 1: it's like on the other side. The ship might be

773
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:54,800
Speaker 1: fucking lit. You know this, Just get your ship together

774
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 1: while you're here. It's okay. It ain't no sending a

775
00:44:57,560 --> 00:45:05,040
Speaker 1: bible about tripping off people dying, Like the hell why

776
00:45:05,040 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 1: I got that dick? My one of my exits used

777
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:08,759
Speaker 1: to always tell me, now, you're always putting my dick

778
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:10,319
Speaker 1: in the dirt, Like when I would argue with him

779
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 1: about whole ship he was doing. You're always putting my

780
00:45:12,800 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 1: dick in the dirt. Yeah, because your dick stayed in

781
00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 1: the dirt. Literally because yes, nasty ass, But I never

782
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:24,160
Speaker 1: heard nobody say dick in the dirt as it applies

783
00:45:24,239 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 1: to being buried. That's that's one other persons. So this

784
00:45:28,400 --> 00:45:30,480
Speaker 1: is so fucking stupid. This is wild. So one of

785
00:45:30,560 --> 00:45:33,360
Speaker 1: my friends, she had this guy she used to funk with,

786
00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 1: and they used to work with each other for years

787
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:38,440
Speaker 1: and years, like off and on, you know, from teenage

788
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:42,080
Speaker 1: to adulthood. And this is when we were living in Colombia.

789
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:44,800
Speaker 1: This is one of my best friends. But she was

790
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:46,759
Speaker 1: just telling me about this nigga dick something look some

791
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 1: other uber uber meets type ship. So like I go

792
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:55,120
Speaker 1: over to her house while he's there. It's like, I

793
00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 1: don't know, was I was I supposed to fun, I

794
00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 1: don't know, but it's like the nigga was fine as hey,

795
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:03,280
Speaker 1: she don't has shown me pictures of this beautiful, beautiful,

796
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:06,479
Speaker 1: beautiful penis and he had like a nice little mole

797
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:10,680
Speaker 1: on it, like just just beautiful dick dog. But it's

798
00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:12,359
Speaker 1: like I don't really want to look after my friend

799
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 1: like that, like not. I don't know why. I don't

800
00:46:14,600 --> 00:46:17,120
Speaker 1: know why I didn't do anything. But anyway, we were

801
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:19,360
Speaker 1: trying to set it up to the dude, but it

802
00:46:19,520 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 1: just didn't happen. But anyway, some years later, like he

803
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 1: ended up dying of some type of cancer and I

804
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 1: was like, yo, that fucking beautiful dick is in the dirt. Beautiful,

805
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 1: big juicy hamburger is in the dirt. It's a lot

806
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:40,799
Speaker 1: of beautiful dicks in the dirt. Girl, I know, y'all. Listen.

807
00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 1: We got a motherfucking live show coming up, y'all, first ever.

808
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:48,360
Speaker 1: So listen, Black Effect is having a live show. This

809
00:46:48,560 --> 00:46:54,759
Speaker 1: is the first annual podcast festival in Brooklyn, New York, y'all,

810
00:46:55,200 --> 00:47:01,760
Speaker 1: on the of August. Okay, we needna be on stage, yes, y'all.

811
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:04,520
Speaker 1: We have never done a live show before, so we're

812
00:47:04,560 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 1: putting together something super fly's super fun. Yeah, so you'all

813
00:47:09,520 --> 00:47:11,719
Speaker 1: can participate with us. It's gonna be lett I'm so

814
00:47:11,880 --> 00:47:16,759
Speaker 1: excited be back in New York. It's at the It's

815
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:21,080
Speaker 1: at the Brooklyn Mirrage. Okay, yep, so y'all pull up

816
00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 1: August twenty eight. You can buy your tickets now. Um,

817
00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:28,200
Speaker 1: where are they gonna sell it? I guess everywhere? Look, yeah,

818
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 1: go to Black Effect you can find out where to

819
00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:35,080
Speaker 1: purchase your tickets and come see us. We love y'all.

820
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:36,719
Speaker 1: I can't wait to tell y'all. I love y'all in

821
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 1: the person yep, it's Black Effect dot Com slash the

822
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 1: fest p O D fest f E st Alright. Look,

823
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:50,040
Speaker 1: I'm I'm like, I'm on a diet so I can

824
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:52,440
Speaker 1: look real fine when y'all see me. But I did

825
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:54,719
Speaker 1: just eat a piece of cake and one of my

826
00:47:54,800 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 1: home girls left over here. I'm like, wait, is that cake?

827
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:02,560
Speaker 1: I know, but I wouldn't have ate it if it

828
00:48:02,600 --> 00:48:08,399
Speaker 1: wasn't in my house. You know the fuck it's her fault. Yes,

829
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:13,640
Speaker 1: it's absolutely her fault. I don't have the self control

830
00:48:13,760 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: is not bringing ship like that in here? Okay? Right?

831
00:48:18,719 --> 00:48:22,160
Speaker 1: Did I'll be struggling, man, I like I'm much Cali.

832
00:48:22,880 --> 00:48:25,600
Speaker 1: I'd be struggling with the sweets girl, but I haven't

833
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:28,480
Speaker 1: had any. I did have some sweet ass onion ranged yesterday,

834
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:32,280
Speaker 1: That's about it. But I haven't had like some fucking

835
00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:36,200
Speaker 1: cake or fresh baked good like I like fresh baked

836
00:48:36,280 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 1: cookies and ship like that. No package ship, nothing from

837
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:41,879
Speaker 1: the middle of a grocery store. I'm gonna get all

838
00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:46,239
Speaker 1: fresh baked bullshit. But I've been doing good my dad, Yeah,

839
00:48:46,280 --> 00:48:48,319
Speaker 1: you'll be eating that football thing every time. I saw

840
00:48:48,360 --> 00:48:50,320
Speaker 1: it on TV one day and I was like, my

841
00:48:50,480 --> 00:48:53,040
Speaker 1: co host like them things. I haven't had that because

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