WEBVTT - Generous Orthodoxy

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<v Speaker 1>Pushkin. I grew up in southwestern Ontario, farming country, in

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<v Speaker 1>a place called Waterloo County. Waterloo County is home to

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<v Speaker 1>one of the largest populations of Mennonites in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>I grew up among Mennonites, went to school with them.

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<v Speaker 1>They're Anabaptists, which is one of the oldest Protestant denominations.

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<v Speaker 1>Mennonites are small in number, industrious, close knit. Came to

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<v Speaker 1>North America after they were persecuted in Russia. The joke

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<v Speaker 1>is they're basically Jews who farm. So I went home

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<v Speaker 1>to see my parents not long ago, and everyone was

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<v Speaker 1>talking about something online called an Open Letter to my

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<v Speaker 1>beloved church. It's a long letter touching on family and

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<v Speaker 1>devotion and faith in scripture. A Mennonite pastor wrote it, actually,

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<v Speaker 1>I should say an ex Mennonite pastor, a man named

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<v Speaker 1>Chester Wanger. I read the letter and I was so

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<v Speaker 1>taken by it that I went to see him, drove

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<v Speaker 1>four and a half hours on one cold January day.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my, just every day three four or five people say, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>we just like your letter. We like your letter, we

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<v Speaker 2>like your letter.

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<v Speaker 1>The letter has been read more than two hundred and

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<v Speaker 1>thirty thousand times on Mennonite dot org. To put that

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<v Speaker 1>in perspective, there were only eight hundred thousand mena nits

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<v Speaker 1>in North America. It's been liked and shared all over

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<v Speaker 1>Facebook hashtag Chester Wenger is a thing. I asked Wenger

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<v Speaker 1>if he anticipated any of his words going viral.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't even know it. Didn't even know what viral meant.

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<v Speaker 2>The letter went virals. What does that mean? It's like

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<v Speaker 2>a virus. It just read. I was shocked.

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<v Speaker 1>My name is Malcolm Gladwell. This is Revisionist History, my

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<v Speaker 1>podcast about things misunderstood and overlooked. This week's episode is

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<v Speaker 1>about Chester Wenger and about an idea called generous orthodoxy.

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<v Speaker 1>That phrase generous orthodoxy comes from a theologian named Hans Fry.

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<v Speaker 1>It's an oxymoron.

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<v Speaker 3>Of course.

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<v Speaker 1>To be orthodox is to be committed to tradition. To

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<v Speaker 1>be generous, as Frida fines, it is to be open

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<v Speaker 1>to change. But Fri I thought the best way to

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<v Speaker 1>live our lives was to find the middle ground. Because

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<v Speaker 1>orthodoxy without generosity leads to blindness, and generosity without orthodoxy

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<v Speaker 1>is shallow and empty. One of the hardest things in

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<v Speaker 1>the world is to find that balance. Not just for

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<v Speaker 1>those pursuing a life of faith, but for anyone interested

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<v Speaker 1>in making their world better. I think Chester Wenger shows

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<v Speaker 1>us the way.

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to study Bible, and I got the first

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<v Speaker 2>the best of arts, and then I got a Bachelor

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<v Speaker 2>of Theology. I was very interested in getting all the

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<v Speaker 2>training I could.

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<v Speaker 1>Wenger lives in Lancaster, Pennsylvania, another man of night Enclave,

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<v Speaker 1>in a little house just off the turnpike, where he

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<v Speaker 1>and his wife, Sarah Jane brought up their eight children.

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<v Speaker 1>Wenger has a barrel chest, straight back, real handshake, big

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<v Speaker 1>head of white hair. He looks a little like a

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<v Speaker 1>cross between Colonel Sanders and an NFL linebacker. He's ninety

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<v Speaker 1>eight years old. This is the part of the evening

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<v Speaker 1>that I remember the most. The very end of several

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<v Speaker 1>hours in his tiny living room. It nearly brought me

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<v Speaker 1>to tears.

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<v Speaker 2>As I thought I wanted to read from Romans. It's

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<v Speaker 2>very familiar, for I'm not ashamed of the Gospel of

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<v Speaker 2>Christ Jesus. It is the power of God for salvation

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<v Speaker 2>to everyone who has faith. Notice how broad that is.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me start with a few more words about Mennonites,

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<v Speaker 1>because what Wanger did makes no sense unless you understand

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<v Speaker 1>the world that he inhabits. The theologian Palm Rebcker has

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<v Speaker 1>a lovely phrase to describe the Mennonite way. Jesus is

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<v Speaker 1>the center of our faith. Community is the center of

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<v Speaker 1>our lives. Reconciliation is the center of our work. It's

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<v Speaker 1>hard to explain to an outsider how seriously the Mennonites

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<v Speaker 1>take these three things Jesus, community, and reconciliation. They don't

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<v Speaker 1>use the word community, for example, in the metaphorical way

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<v Speaker 1>like most of us. Do you know, I'm a member

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<v Speaker 1>of the journalist community. To Mennonite's community is a much

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<v Speaker 1>more serious thing. Listen to my friend Jim Laptisin, who's

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<v Speaker 1>a Mennonite pastor.

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<v Speaker 4>In my dad's church growing up, it was very strict.

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<v Speaker 4>He told me at one point that if people didn't

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<v Speaker 4>believe you were a given ten percent of your income

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<v Speaker 4>to the church, they had the right to audit your books.

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<v Speaker 4>And he said that without any recrimination or any condemnation,

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<v Speaker 4>and even a bit of humor. He was like, and

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<v Speaker 4>so my books got out, and twice by his good

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<v Speaker 4>friend and neighbor up their own.

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<v Speaker 1>How on earth? But did that conversation happen. The treasurer

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<v Speaker 1>came to him and said, we don't think you're giving enough.

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<v Speaker 4>Absolutely, And I have a really high view of the church,

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<v Speaker 4>and you know you speak on behalf of the church.

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<v Speaker 4>And we've all submitted to this, so it's not like

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<v Speaker 4>I'm submitting to something that you haven't. So we're all

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<v Speaker 4>in us together, yeah, and we're all trying to be

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<v Speaker 4>as faithful as we can be.

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<v Speaker 1>That business of auditing each other's books, that's from fifty

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<v Speaker 1>or sixty years ago, a different era. But I think

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<v Speaker 1>it gives you a flavor of what Mennonites mean when

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<v Speaker 1>they say we're all in this together. When I was

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<v Speaker 1>a kid, just after we moved to Canada from England,

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<v Speaker 1>we heard about a barn raising not far from us.

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<v Speaker 1>When a Mennonite farmer's barn burns down, the people from

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<v Speaker 1>church gather as soon as they can bring food and

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<v Speaker 1>building materials and anything else to replace what was lost,

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<v Speaker 1>and they build a new barn. Frame it up one day,

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<v Speaker 1>put it up the next. My parents were Presbyterians, but

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<v Speaker 1>my father found the idea of a barn raising incredibly impressive,

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<v Speaker 1>so he crashed it.

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<v Speaker 5>You have to.

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<v Speaker 1>Understand that these are what were called Old Order Mennonites,

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<v Speaker 1>like the Amish. They drove horses and buggies and lived

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<v Speaker 1>without electricity. My dad was a college professor in a

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<v Speaker 1>rusty Puusia with an impenetrable English accent and a shirt

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<v Speaker 1>and a tie. They'd never seen him or anything like

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<v Speaker 1>him before. They just put him to work, no questions asked.

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<v Speaker 1>We're all in this together. Eventually my parents would join

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<v Speaker 1>the Mennonite Church, and my brother would marry a Mennonite pastor.

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<v Speaker 1>And I suspect that sense of community is why there's

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<v Speaker 1>something beautiful about that kind of belonging. One more Mennonite

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<v Speaker 1>story from my friend Jim Leftisen. This might even be

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<v Speaker 1>the quintessential Mennonite story. About a guy who buys a

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<v Speaker 1>house from another Mennonite whom, of course, he trusted.

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<v Speaker 4>He bought the house and find out that in fact

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<v Speaker 4>he'd been light to so. On either side of this

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<v Speaker 4>man two men from a Mennonite church. One of them

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<v Speaker 4>said to him, did he tell you that the septic

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<v Speaker 4>system was in good shape? And he said yes he did,

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<v Speaker 4>and he said you have to fix it. He said, yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>I have to replace it completely. Was twelve thousand dollars

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<v Speaker 4>or something.

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<v Speaker 1>The septic system, one of the most expensive things in

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<v Speaker 1>a house.

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<v Speaker 4>He said, well, here's four thousand dollars for that. What

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<v Speaker 4>he did wasn't right, and he goes to our church

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<v Speaker 4>and the guy on the other side said, dumb, I'll

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<v Speaker 4>pay whatever he didn't pay, so they together covered it.

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<v Speaker 4>He said, he goes to our church, and that isn't right.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the world Chester Wenger in habits. He's squarely

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<v Speaker 1>in the middle of it. Wenger's father was one of

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<v Speaker 1>the founders of a big Mennonite seminary in Virginia. His daughter, Sarah,

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<v Speaker 1>is the president of the Big Mennonite Seminary in Elkhart, Indiana.

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<v Speaker 1>Wenger lived seventeen years in Ethiopia, where he helped to

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<v Speaker 1>found and build what is now the largest Mennonite church

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<v Speaker 1>in the world. To Deep Ties, Deep Ties, you guys

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<v Speaker 1>are Mennonite royalty. Basically in Hans Frey's terms. Wenger is

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<v Speaker 1>an Orthodox Manolone, a member of the Blossom Hill Congregation

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<v Speaker 1>in Lancaster. But there's another side to him. Mennonites come

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<v Speaker 1>in all kinds of shapes and sizes. My parents' church

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<v Speaker 1>in Ontario was pretty liberal, full of college professors and

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<v Speaker 1>software engineers and teachers. My mom and her best friend

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<v Speaker 1>Lorraine were doing feminist retreats back in the seventies. But

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<v Speaker 1>Lancaster County, where Wenger is from, is much more conservative.

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<v Speaker 1>The Mennonites there didn't accept women as our dained ministers

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<v Speaker 1>until a couple of years ago, and that was something

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<v Speaker 1>that Wenger struggled with because he's not just orthodox, he's generous.

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<v Speaker 1>He's open to the world. He spent ten years as

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<v Speaker 1>pastor of Blossom Hill in the nineteen eighties, so when

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<v Speaker 1>it came to the prohibition against female pastors, Wenger would

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<v Speaker 1>do what kind of workaround. The rules said women could

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<v Speaker 1>not be ordained as ministers, meaning they couldn't be formally

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<v Speaker 1>recognized as church leaders, but they could still talk on

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<v Speaker 1>Sunday morning.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, I used women in the pulpit that weren't ordained.

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<v Speaker 2>I preach, and then next Sunday I'd have this woman preach,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I'd have my wife preach. I didn't want

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<v Speaker 2>to do all the preaching.

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<v Speaker 1>Would if no one questions your loyalty, you can get

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<v Speaker 1>away with that kind of subversion. Chester Wenger walked that

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<v Speaker 1>fine line orthodox but also generous. Until one day, Chester

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<v Speaker 1>Sun Philip comes to him, and the line becomes almost

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<v Speaker 1>impossible to walk.

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<v Speaker 2>It all.

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<v Speaker 6>Growing up, I had no awareness of homosexuality anywhere. I

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<v Speaker 6>remember somewhere along the line, maybe when I was early

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<v Speaker 6>adolescence it I talked about a cousin of mine, but

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<v Speaker 6>I didn't know what they were.

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<v Speaker 1>Talking about, the question of whether someone might be gay

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<v Speaker 1>simply never occurred to him. And it goes without saying

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<v Speaker 1>that a community that did not permit the ordination of

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<v Speaker 1>women until quite recently did not have progressive views on homosexuality.

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<v Speaker 1>But one day Phil pulled his father aside. What did

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<v Speaker 1>he tell you?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know the words he used, but I understood

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<v Speaker 2>that he had attraction for males instead of females.

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<v Speaker 7>And I said, maybe you can outgrow this, and so

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<v Speaker 7>that's where that's where we left it. And about a

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<v Speaker 7>year later he came back and said, Dad, I haven't

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<v Speaker 7>outgrown it. And so we had this.

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<v Speaker 2>Awareness that he's that's who he is.

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<v Speaker 1>So Phil goes off to college, he comes home, he

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<v Speaker 1>brings up the subject again.

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<v Speaker 8>And I came to him and I explained to him

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<v Speaker 8>ten minutes before I was going to drive back to

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<v Speaker 8>college in Virginia.

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<v Speaker 1>That's Phil. He's in the room with me and Chester

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<v Speaker 1>sitting across from his father.

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<v Speaker 8>That dad, this is for real. I'm going to identify

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<v Speaker 8>as being gay. I'm going to tell other people I'm gay.

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<v Speaker 8>I'm going to date other guys. And you know, you're

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<v Speaker 8>going to have to get used to this.

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<v Speaker 1>As word got out in Lancaster, the consequences were immediate.

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<v Speaker 1>Phil had a job with the church. He lost it.

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<v Speaker 1>He was instructed to come in and confess his sins.

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<v Speaker 1>He refused. Chester Wanger had a position in the Midda

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<v Speaker 1>Night administration in Lancaster at the time, and attended a

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<v Speaker 1>local Meddonite church One Sunday morning. The pastor got up

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<v Speaker 1>and made an announcement.

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<v Speaker 2>He just read off in church one day that Phil

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<v Speaker 2>Winger is no longer a member of our congregation. And

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<v Speaker 2>we didn't know it. He didn't approach you first know

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<v Speaker 2>that he was doing that, and Phil hadn't had contact

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<v Speaker 2>with him either or him with Phil, and I couldn't

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<v Speaker 2>believe it.

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<v Speaker 8>It was illilateral and I wasn't part of the conversation,

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<v Speaker 8>and the deed was already done, and at that point

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<v Speaker 8>my faith had pretty much diminished. To next to nothing,

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<v Speaker 8>and I was going to proceed with a life outside

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<v Speaker 8>the traditional church community.

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<v Speaker 1>Think about this through Chester Wenger's eyes. He can accept

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<v Speaker 1>his son's sexuality, but his own church, the church to

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<v Speaker 1>which he has been loyal all his life, that church

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<v Speaker 1>has now cast his son out. His orthodoxy is in

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<v Speaker 1>conflict with his generosity, and his son is caught in

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<v Speaker 1>the middle. Can you imagine not just the pain, but

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<v Speaker 1>the guilt. He gave his life to a church that

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<v Speaker 1>said we're all in this together, and now that church

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<v Speaker 1>has split his family in two.

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<v Speaker 2>I always told Phil that your faith is most important

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<v Speaker 2>to me. Don't give up the faith in Jesus.

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<v Speaker 1>Phil went on to start a successful restaurant business. At

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<v Speaker 1>one point, some years ago, he goes back to his

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<v Speaker 1>high school reunion and there some of his old classmates

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<v Speaker 1>confront him and tell him they would never eat at

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<v Speaker 1>one of his restaurants. Phil tells his mother.

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<v Speaker 2>And you told her all this, and she said to you,

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<v Speaker 2>don't give up on Jesus.

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<v Speaker 1>He's sitting in his chair straight back ninety eight years old,

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<v Speaker 1>Colonel Sanders meets a linebacker, a man of God, and

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<v Speaker 1>as Chester Wenger talks about that moment years ago, when

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<v Speaker 1>he worried that his son's soul was in jeopardy. He

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<v Speaker 1>starts to.

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<v Speaker 9>Weep, and I guess there was no expression at that

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<v Speaker 9>point particularly, But as he went to go out the door,

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<v Speaker 9>he gave.

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<v Speaker 3>A broad swap.

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<v Speaker 2>Test to testified, don't give up what Jesus, and he

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<v Speaker 2>seemed to accept it with a smile. And that test

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<v Speaker 2>tests very deeply.

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<v Speaker 1>At the beginning of this story, I said that balancing

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<v Speaker 1>loyalty and conscience is just about the hardest thing to do.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me give you another example. It's not as wrenching

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<v Speaker 1>as Chester Wenger's story, but it gets at some of

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<v Speaker 1>the same issues. It's from Princeton University, one of the

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<v Speaker 1>schools that's been swept up in the recent wave of

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<v Speaker 1>campus unrest. The controversy is over Woodrow Wilson, who was

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<v Speaker 1>president of Princeton from nineteen oh two to nineteen ten,

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<v Speaker 1>and of course, later went on to serve two terms

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<v Speaker 1>as President of the United States. Princeton named one of

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<v Speaker 1>his most prestigious graduate schools after him, the Wilson School

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<v Speaker 1>of Public and International Affairs. Wilson did many remarkable and

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<v Speaker 1>important things as the head of Princeton and later as

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<v Speaker 1>president but he was a racist, and not a mild one,

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<v Speaker 1>a kind of nasty one. So in the fall of

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<v Speaker 1>twenty fifteen, activists at the school staged a thirty two

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<v Speaker 1>hours sitting in the office of the Princeton president. They

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<v Speaker 1>want Wilson's name off.

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<v Speaker 10>The graduate schoolerpetuated in ideology that has led to the

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<v Speaker 10>continuous shut aside of black people in this country.

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<v Speaker 3>He is a murderer. We all have nothing. This university everything.

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<v Speaker 1>Jacob Smith, one of my producers, talked to one of

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<v Speaker 1>the protesters, a sophomore named will Glory Tanjohn. The promise

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<v Speaker 1>of Princeton, she argues, is that all its students will

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<v Speaker 1>feel at home. This campus is for you. But everywhere

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<v Speaker 1>she goes, she sees pictures of Wilson.

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<v Speaker 10>Everywhere in the most random places, there are rooms that

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<v Speaker 10>have just all these huge photos of this white man

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<v Speaker 10>peering down on you. Right, So when you see these

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<v Speaker 10>kind of things, you really feel like, what was this

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<v Speaker 10>university meant for me? Or is it still really meant

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<v Speaker 10>for white men?

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<v Speaker 1>Now? I happen to agree with Tanjohn. How do you

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<v Speaker 1>think Princeton became one of the wealthiest universities in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>The place is ground zero for rich white guys. Just

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<v Speaker 1>walk around campus. There's the carl Icon Laboratory. That's Carl Icon,

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<v Speaker 1>rich white male, corporate raider billionaire. There's the Frick Chemistry Laboratory.

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<v Speaker 1>That's Henry Clay Frick, white male robber baron. The Firestone

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<v Speaker 1>Library that's the rich white guy who started Firestone Tires.

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<v Speaker 1>The Bezos Center for Neural Circuit Dynamics, you know, the

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<v Speaker 1>rich white guy who founded Amazon. Look over there, it's

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<v Speaker 1>the Lewis Center for the Arts. That's Peter Lewis, the

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<v Speaker 1>white guy who started Progressive Insurance. The John Scully Center

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<v Speaker 1>for the Neuroscience of Mind and Behavior. Scully a rich

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<v Speaker 1>white guy. Not to be confused, by the way, with

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<v Speaker 1>the other John Scully, a rich white guy who used

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<v Speaker 1>to run Apple. This is the even richer John Scully

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<v Speaker 1>who manages billions of dollars on Wall Street. Do I

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<v Speaker 1>need to go on Rockefeller Hall, richest white guy ever.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, there's also Emma B. Bloomberg Hall. Emma Bloomberg

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<v Speaker 1>not a white guy, except wait, she's the daughter of

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<v Speaker 1>Michael Bloomberg. Super super like forty three billion dollar rich

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<v Speaker 1>white guy. They don't hide their identities at Princeton. They

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<v Speaker 1>put their identities on every single building on campus. A

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<v Speaker 1>few weeks after the students sit in, there was a

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<v Speaker 1>town hall meeting on the Princeton campus to discuss whether

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<v Speaker 1>or not to change the name of the Wilson School.

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<v Speaker 10>I really hope that people really think about why we

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<v Speaker 10>are so tied to this name, like what really changes

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<v Speaker 10>if we change the name.

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<v Speaker 1>It was held at the Richardson Auditorium, lots of dark

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<v Speaker 1>wood in stone tapestries on the wall. By the way,

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<v Speaker 1>a building named in honor of David B. Richardson, class

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<v Speaker 1>of thirty three, usefully described in the Princeton promotional literature

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<v Speaker 1>as a quote lifelong enthusiast of classical music and a

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<v Speaker 1>successful lawyer and investor. Another rich white guy. Think about it,

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<v Speaker 1>Princeton literally could not find a single place to discuss

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<v Speaker 1>the troubled legacy of a rich white guy that was

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<v Speaker 1>not named after a rich white guy. Here's the first

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<v Speaker 1>guy who gets up to speak.

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<v Speaker 11>I'm Harvey Rothberg, class of the great class of nineteen

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<v Speaker 11>forty nine. I absolutely believe that the name of Woodrow

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<v Speaker 11>Wilson should be preserved at the head of the School

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<v Speaker 11>of Public and International Affairs.

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<v Speaker 1>Rothberg says it's important that everyone know who Wilson was

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<v Speaker 1>and what the man did.

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<v Speaker 11>There could be a memorial plaque, engraved in bronze and

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<v Speaker 11>so on, which would detail in a short paragraph his

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<v Speaker 11>great achievements as president of this university, and in a

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<v Speaker 11>second paragraph his great achievements as president of the United

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<v Speaker 11>States and on the international scene as well. But there

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<v Speaker 11>could also be a final paragraph, a short one, which

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<v Speaker 11>would say something like Wilson's prejudiced views on racial matters

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<v Speaker 11>were undoubtedly influenced and shaped by his background and his

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<v Speaker 11>growing up in the post bellum South.

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<v Speaker 1>Then another alum gets up and he agrees.

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<v Speaker 11>He's a giant.

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<v Speaker 5>You can't just take his name off of schools or colleges.

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<v Speaker 5>We have to keep them. All people are flawed.

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<v Speaker 1>He also likes the plack idea. But this speaker has

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<v Speaker 1>a quibble with a short paragraph about prejudice.

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<v Speaker 5>I think it can't just say Wilson was influenced by

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<v Speaker 5>the prevailing more a's of the time, because a man

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<v Speaker 5>of his stature should have seen beyond that. And I

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<v Speaker 5>think some of the platforms to acknowledge that real harm

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<v Speaker 5>was caused to real people.

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<v Speaker 1>This is what the protesters are up against. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>can you believe these guys. When Wilson took office as president,

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<v Speaker 1>the Federal Civil Service was one of the only institutions

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<v Speaker 1>in Washington that was integrated. Blacks had jobs next to whites.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the first things Wilson does is reverse that policy.

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<v Speaker 1>Lots of black federal workers get fired, and it becomes

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<v Speaker 1>really hard for educated African Americans to get a job

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<v Speaker 1>in Washington. And when a delegation of black professionals comes

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<v Speaker 1>to him to complain, you know what he says to them.

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<v Speaker 1>Segregation is not a humiliation but a benefit and ought

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<v Speaker 1>to be so regarded by you, gentlemen. This is the

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<v Speaker 1>guy Princeton venerates. And the thing that the first two

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<v Speaker 1>speakers are arguing about is the wording of the last

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<v Speaker 1>paragraph of the plaque. They want to put up the

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<v Speaker 1>plaque as if the whole controversy were really just an

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<v Speaker 1>exercise in improving signage. For goodness sake, take the man's

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<v Speaker 1>name down. If you don't want to change the schools stationary,

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<v Speaker 1>just choose another Wilson. There are lots of Wilson's out

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<v Speaker 1>there who don't hate black people. Jackie Rita Russell flip

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<v Speaker 1>rebel Owen, how about the Owen Wilson School of Public

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<v Speaker 1>and International Affairs. But the only way people like this

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<v Speaker 1>are going to listen to the protesters is if they

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<v Speaker 1>think the protesters care about Princeton, care about Princeton the

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<v Speaker 1>way it is. They'll accept generosity only if it comes

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<v Speaker 1>with some orthodoxy. They want some acknowledgment that the protesters

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<v Speaker 1>appreciate what they've been given, some concession that the rich

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<v Speaker 1>white guys who make them so uncomfortable also made it

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<v Speaker 1>possible for them to attend a school that looks like Versailles,

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<v Speaker 1>if Versailles, by some accident of history, had been built

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<v Speaker 1>not outside of Paris, but between Trenton and Newark, New Jersey.

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<v Speaker 1>But instead, what do they hear?

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<v Speaker 3>This university owes us everything.

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<v Speaker 12>I walked around on this campus understanding that this was

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<v Speaker 12>built on the backs of my people, and I owe

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<v Speaker 12>none of you guys anything.

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<v Speaker 3>We owe white people nothing, and not for the for

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<v Speaker 3>the evilness and.

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<v Speaker 12>A white hatred in this country, we would not have

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<v Speaker 12>to be fighting for our rights.

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<v Speaker 3>All of this is mine. My people built this place.

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<v Speaker 1>She's angry, she's passionate. Maybe right now she regrets her

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<v Speaker 1>choice of words when I was an angry young student

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<v Speaker 1>a generation ago. I ended up regretting my words. But

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<v Speaker 1>I went to school before every emotional outburst got immortalized

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<v Speaker 1>on YouTube, and those words are what every crotchety old

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<v Speaker 1>Princeton alum heard when they went online. All of this

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<v Speaker 1>is mine. How do you think they felt when they

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<v Speaker 1>heard that or some version of this.

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<v Speaker 10>I don't feel welcomes when you walk on this campus

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<v Speaker 10>and you see the name of POJOA. Wilson on the

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<v Speaker 10>graduate building, right will.

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<v Speaker 1>Glory Tanjohn complaining about the privileged white guys peering down

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<v Speaker 1>on her. But she chose to go to Princeton Ground

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<v Speaker 1>zero for the privileged white guy. It's not like the

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<v Speaker 1>school covered over the names on those buildings when she

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<v Speaker 1>came for her campus visit. She's basically saying that the

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<v Speaker 1>school I chose to attend, the school that makes no

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<v Speaker 1>attempt to hide what it is and what it stands for,

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<v Speaker 1>is not I suddenly realize a place that makes me

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<v Speaker 1>feel comfortable, and so I want to change it. These

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<v Speaker 1>are not arguments that are going to convince anyone. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't need to tell you what happens after a decent

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<v Speaker 1>interval A few months later, the Wilson Legacy Review Committee

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<v Speaker 1>comes out with the university's decision. The head of the

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<v Speaker 1>committee says, at the end of the day, what we

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<v Speaker 1>learned was that Wilson was a complicated and flawed individual.

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<v Speaker 1>But when you look at the pluses and minuses, we

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<v Speaker 1>didn't feel that the minuses were enough to eliminate his

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<v Speaker 1>name a whitewash. Here's what the protesters should have done. Instead,

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<v Speaker 1>they should have said, Wilson's name makes us so uncomfortable

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<v Speaker 1>that we're not coming back next semester unless you change it,

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<v Speaker 1>and we're going to tell other perspective Princeton students, minority

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<v Speaker 1>and otherwise to do the same. Instead of talking about

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<v Speaker 1>what they were owed by Princeton, they should have talked

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<v Speaker 1>about what they were willing to give up for Princeton.

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<v Speaker 1>I am willing to give up my position at the

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<v Speaker 1>New Jersey Versailles in order to make the school a

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<v Speaker 1>better place. That's how much I care about Princeton. Generosity

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<v Speaker 1>mixed with orthodoxy, Now would that have worked idea? But

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<v Speaker 1>the best and brightest standing up and saying I'm giving

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<v Speaker 1>up my place at one of the world's great universities

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<v Speaker 1>in order to save it from itself. Certainly has a

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<v Speaker 1>better shot than a sleepover in the president's office. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>it would have been a costly strategy. It would have

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<v Speaker 1>required a real sacrifice. That's why generous orthodoxy is so hard.

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<v Speaker 1>When he was twenty nine, Phil Wenger fell in love

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<v Speaker 1>with a man named Steve. They'd been together ever since.

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<v Speaker 1>Then about ten years ago, Gene Robinson became the first

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<v Speaker 1>openly gay bishop in the Episcopal Church, and Phil and

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<v Speaker 1>Steve found themselves a new spiritual home.

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<v Speaker 8>I was confirmed and joined the Episcopal Church, and I

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<v Speaker 8>invited mom and dad to come and participate in that,

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<v Speaker 8>and a couple of other siblings came, and after I

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<v Speaker 8>rejoined the church, my father could hardly stop weeping his

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<v Speaker 8>tears of joy.

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<v Speaker 1>When a state at Pennsylvania legalized gay marriage in twenty fourteen,

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<v Speaker 1>Phil and Steve raced down to the courthouse to apply

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<v Speaker 1>for their marriage license. They were a second in.

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<v Speaker 8>Line, and the couple in front of us offered to

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<v Speaker 8>let us go first, but we let them go first

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<v Speaker 8>because we knew each other.

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<v Speaker 1>Then they had a big party at the Hamilton Club

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<v Speaker 1>in downtown Lancaster as they waited for their marriage certificate.

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<v Speaker 1>Invited four hundred people. Phil's rector from the Saint James

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<v Speaker 1>Episcopal Church, performed a ceremony. Phil had his father say

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<v Speaker 1>a blessing at the end.

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<v Speaker 8>But afterward he shared with me that he sort of

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<v Speaker 8>was a little bit envious that I had not asked

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<v Speaker 8>him to actually marry us. So as soon as we

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<v Speaker 8>got the wedding certificate, and as soon as I knew

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<v Speaker 8>we were going to get married, I went to Dad.

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<v Speaker 8>I said, would you be willing to do this officially,

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<v Speaker 8>sign our wedding certificate, our marriagetif and would you be

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<v Speaker 8>willing to do the vows with the two of us?

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<v Speaker 1>They gathered in Phil's backyard, Phil Steve, two witnesses, Chester

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<v Speaker 1>and his wife Sarah Jane. I asked Chester Wenger about

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<v Speaker 1>that day, why would it matter to him that someone

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<v Speaker 1>else would officiate at his son's wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>He told me that the mayor offered to marry him.

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<v Speaker 2>I was his father, and I was an ordained clergy

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<v Speaker 2>in our church. And I didn't say a word. I

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<v Speaker 2>just waited quietly, and when he asked, I said sure.

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<v Speaker 2>So I was I appreciate that he let me do that,

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<v Speaker 2>and signed the certificate.

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<v Speaker 1>With that act, Chester Wenger made his family whole. He

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<v Speaker 1>welcomed his son back into the fold of family and

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<v Speaker 1>religious community. But he knew what that meant. It meant

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<v Speaker 1>that he had broken the rules of his own church,

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<v Speaker 1>which do not acknowledge same sex marriages. There was no

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<v Speaker 1>work around this time, like when he had women preach

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<v Speaker 1>in the pulpit of Blossom Hill.

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<v Speaker 2>They had to discipline, and so they lifted my credentials.

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<v Speaker 1>He was no longer I'm at a night pastor. You've

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<v Speaker 1>had credentials as a clergyman for se many years, since

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen forty eight. How did it feel to be stripped

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<v Speaker 1>of them?

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<v Speaker 2>It didn't make any difference to me, because I'm the

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<v Speaker 2>same person I am. I'm respected in my congregation. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't intend to marry anybody else. I don't intend to

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<v Speaker 2>be an authority for anyone. I just have a heritage

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<v Speaker 2>life that I've lived. So they took away something that

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<v Speaker 2>I'll never use anyway.

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<v Speaker 8>I did think you might want to marry one of

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<v Speaker 8>your great grandchildren someday.

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<v Speaker 1>He laughs. But of course it made a difference to him.

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<v Speaker 1>It made all the difference in the world. He gave

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<v Speaker 1>up his profession, his position within the church, his identity,

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<v Speaker 1>so he could officiate at the marriage of his son.

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<v Speaker 1>He sacrificed, He gave something up because his son had

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<v Speaker 1>been excluded from the world of church and family for

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<v Speaker 1>a Mennonite, the most grievous kind of harm.

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<v Speaker 2>And he's my child, He's my son, precious, precious child.

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<v Speaker 1>Then Chesterwenger wrote his letter, an open letter to the

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<v Speaker 1>Mennonite Church, the letter that went viral, written by the

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<v Speaker 1>man who wasn't even sure what viral meant. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>long letter, but here are the two sentences that struck

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<v Speaker 1>me the most. When my wife and I read the

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<v Speaker 1>Bible with today's fractured, anxious church in mind, we ask,

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<v Speaker 1>what is Jesus calling us to do with those sons

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<v Speaker 1>and daughters who among the most despised people in the world,

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<v Speaker 1>in all races and communities. What would Jesus do with

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<v Speaker 1>our sons and daughters who are bullied, homeless, sexually abused,

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<v Speaker 1>and driven to suicide at far higher rates than our

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<v Speaker 1>heterosexual children. That's generous, Chester Wenger, open to seeing the

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<v Speaker 1>world in new ways, but there's no anger in his letter.

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<v Speaker 1>Alongside the generosity is orthodoxy respect for the body. He

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<v Speaker 1>is trying to heal. He goes on to say that

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<v Speaker 1>he reported his transgression to the church leadership himself. He

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<v Speaker 1>told them what he had done, and they responded, and

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<v Speaker 1>these are his words with grace filled pastoral listening. And

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<v Speaker 1>then he writes, I am at peace with their decision

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<v Speaker 1>and understand their need to take this action. Chester Wenger

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<v Speaker 1>is going to win. Maybe not right away, but he'll

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<v Speaker 1>win because he makes plain not just how beautiful, generous

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<v Speaker 1>orthodox he is, but how powerful, which is something that

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<v Speaker 1>everyone who stands up in protest needs to remember. You

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<v Speaker 1>must respect the body you are trying to heal.

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<v Speaker 11>Are you going to.

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<v Speaker 1>Read something to his Chester adverse?

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<v Speaker 2>I thought I wanted to read from Romans. It's very familiar.

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<v Speaker 2>For I'm not ashamed of the Gospel of Christ Jesus.

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<v Speaker 2>It is the power of God for salvation to everyone

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<v Speaker 2>who has faith. The Gospel is open. I just think

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<v Speaker 2>that's so precious.

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