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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Angie and this is Keon, your favorite

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Speaker 2: My mother made me wear a hot dog costume as

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Speaker 2: a kid and laughed about it diabolic. It sounds pretty funny.

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Speaker 2: My god, I hate to break it to you.

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Speaker 1: So there's this new thing.

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Speaker 2: There is this new commercial going around where little girl

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Speaker 2: dresses as a hot dog. And it came on while

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Speaker 2: my family was watching a scary movie. I am twenty

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Speaker 2: funny female and home from college for the weekend and

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Speaker 2: brought my boyfriend and my mother fifty seven female decided

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Speaker 2: it would be hilarious to mention that she had made

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Speaker 2: me a hot dog costume as a kid. Except the

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Speaker 2: way she told the story, it was at my request.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from throwaway Halloween, red ah

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Speaker 2: and Op says. She said that all the girls wanted

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Speaker 2: to be Disney princes, but I had asked to be

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Speaker 2: a hot dog, so she had gone out of her

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Speaker 2: way to make me that costume. This is not what happened,

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Speaker 2: and I said as much. What actually happened is that

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Speaker 2: I wanted to be snow White and had told everyone,

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Speaker 2: including the teachers, that I was going to be snow White.

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Speaker 2: I was obsessed with that movie as a kid, to

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Speaker 2: the point where I would actually get invested in doing

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Speaker 2: chores because I.

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Speaker 1: Was cleaning up just like snow White.

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Speaker 2: My dad and I would watch that movie all the time,

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Speaker 2: and I was very excited to be snow White for Halloween,

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Speaker 2: especially because my ballet studio was doing a special princess

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Speaker 2: dance for Halloween and we had all signed up the

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Speaker 2: special princess slots and I had shown up early with

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Speaker 2: my dad the week before so I could get to

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Speaker 2: be snow White.

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Speaker 1: Okay, listen, but the best way to steal a show

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Speaker 1: is if everyone's in a princess costume doing the dance

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Speaker 1: and you are in a hot dog costume. I feel

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Speaker 1: like I've seen something like that online. Yeah, like you

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Speaker 1: are going to be a viral sense You're gonna be

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Speaker 1: a star. Dude, there's gonna.

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Speaker 2: Be a star in that hot dog costume. My mother

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Speaker 2: decided that she wanted to be quirky and that snow

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Speaker 2: White was a bad role model. After I got in

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Speaker 2: trouble for trying to cook dinner for my family.

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Speaker 1: Snow White is a bad role model. Wrap it up, kids,

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Speaker 1: bad role models. She speaks in two high of a boys.

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Speaker 2: And she eats poison apples that mysterious ladies getting that's

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Speaker 2: a bad example.

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Speaker 3: You're gonna teach kids to eat apples from strange ladies.

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Speaker 4: All she does is.

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Speaker 3: Sleep all day and hang out with like like she

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Speaker 3: and she likesves and animals.

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Speaker 4: She was taking red flag.

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Speaker 1: Green flag. Yeah, red flag and green flag.

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Speaker 4: She sleeps all day.

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Speaker 1: That would be a sleeping beauty, I believe. But but

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Speaker 1: she she do napping.

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Speaker 4: Doesn't snow White also do that? Probably? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: She gets tired from all those chorts.

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Speaker 2: I was about eight and I tried to make hot dogs,

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Speaker 2: like how she made food for the dwarves in the movie,

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Speaker 2: and I made a mess. My mom surprised me on

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Speaker 2: the day of with this crappy hot dog suit and

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Speaker 2: told me if I did not wear it, she would

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Speaker 2: never let me watch Snow White again.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, what terrible.

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Speaker 2: Does your mom look like the witch from Snow White?

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Speaker 2: Because she's acting like it.

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Speaker 1: Literally, she's literally the evil queen. Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: She took a million pictures the other girls teased me

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Speaker 2: for months and it was one of the most humiliating

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Speaker 2: moments of my childhood. I told the real story and

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Speaker 2: mentioned that I got through the day by pretending that she.

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Speaker 1: Was the evil queen making me dress in rags. But

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Speaker 1: the rags happened to be a garbage meat costume.

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Speaker 4: What it was even a good hot dog costume.

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Speaker 2: It was just garbage slapped together hot dog costumes.

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Speaker 3: It looked like meat, Like you're kind of like a

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Speaker 3: gas station hot dog.

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Speaker 1: You're just a bad dog.

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Speaker 2: She got really quiet after that, and after we left,

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Speaker 2: my brother says she was crying and looking at the

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Speaker 2: and it felt like she was trying to humiliate me

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Speaker 2: all over again in front of my boyfriend. Am I

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Speaker 2: the ale?

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Speaker 4: Did she like?

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Speaker 3: Did she also like just take out the hot dog

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Speaker 3: costume out of the closet and he's like, remember this.

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Speaker 1: Just like wiping her tears with it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And there are some comments here comet one not

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Speaker 2: the ahle. Wow, what a bad move by your mom

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Speaker 2: And to an eight year old, I'm glad you told

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Speaker 1: I hope she learns.

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Speaker 2: Jeez, Louise, what a witch. I'm sorry that happened. Ope,

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Speaker 2: he says, I hadn't thought about it in ages until

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Speaker 2: I saw that commercial. Honestly, just awoke your trauma.

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Speaker 1: Just commercial still exists.

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Speaker 4: Hot Dog, Yeah, hot dog.

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Speaker 3: It was like a sleeper ag yeah, Mustard relish, Oh

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Speaker 3: my cat you up?

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Speaker 1: Sorry? Sorry, I don't know what that was.

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Speaker 2: A reply says letting your parents pretend that everything they

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Speaker 2: did was perfect is a terrible way to approach your

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Speaker 2: adult parent child relationship. We the parents need to hear

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Speaker 2: about this to reconcile our self image with who we

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Speaker 2: were to you, the children. My own parents are still

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Speaker 2: pretty crappy about admitting to the past. Denial is quite

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Speaker 2: a little a habit, so I don't really bother anymore. However,

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Speaker 2: I make a point of telling my kid that I

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Speaker 2: have probably messed up plenty. I've asked him to tell

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Speaker 2: me about it when those memories come up for him.

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Speaker 2: We've had a couple of hard, painful conversations about times

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Speaker 2: I've heard him. They're important for him to get out there.

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Speaker 2: It's cathartic to say it out loud. I sincerely believe

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Speaker 2: that it helps heal our inner child when our parents

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Speaker 2: affirm our version of memories and soothe our hurts.

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Speaker 1: I agree totally.

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Speaker 2: Parents aren't perfect. You should be able to own that

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Speaker 2: you're not a perfect parent. Yeah, you're everything, right, Come

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Speaker 2: on to not the a hole. She clearly had a

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Speaker 2: different perspective and you just it's straight. Just because someone

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Speaker 2: cries doesn't mean they're the victim in this, especially if

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Speaker 2: the truth is that not only did you not want

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Speaker 2: to wear the hot dog, but she threatened your favorite

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Speaker 2: movie as a result, where this or else?

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Speaker 1: Like what, that's crazy?

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Speaker 2: If this is true, it's pretty weird and messed up.

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Speaker 2: I would never force a costume on my child. That

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Speaker 2: is such a weird butt thing to do. Opie says

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Speaker 2: she hated snow White and Cinderella and Aurora.

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Speaker 1: Well, she was kind of.

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Speaker 2: Okay with Belle, probably because she was French and really

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Speaker 1: But those weren't the ones I was interested in.

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Speaker 4: Wasn't Mereda like really further down the line?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really further.

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Speaker 3: We skipped a couple princesses there, but a couple generations

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Speaker 3: they h She generally hated everything I liked and was

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Speaker 2: What the thing is?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never heard of that. That thing.

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Speaker 2: She wanted us to be allies against the other moms

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Speaker 2: of the town we lived in, and I just wanted

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Speaker 2: her to be like the other moms honestly, because they

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Speaker 4: This is wild.

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Speaker 1: What's up with this mom? Like? What is she? Why

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Speaker 1: does she want to be against all the other moms.

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Speaker 1: She's like, yeah, me and my child against the world.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna start feuds at eight years old, all of

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Speaker 1: them like princesses. You can't.

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Speaker 2: It's you and me versus the whole neighborhood.

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Speaker 1: Babe. Yeah, we have an update.

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Speaker 2: There was not actually that much fallout from the whole situation,

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Speaker 2: and I kind of forgot about it for a few

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Speaker 2: months until I saw that dang hot dog at again

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Speaker 2: and it all came flooding back and I was in

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Speaker 2: a fugue state. I froze and I couldn't move. Just

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Speaker 4: Has Opie not seen a hot dog ever since?

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Speaker 2: Like, my mom was a little awkward the next few

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Speaker 2: times we saw each other, but that was all back

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Speaker 2: to normal by Christmas. It did not destroy our relationship,

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Speaker 2: and I realized that a lot of my fears were

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Speaker 2: just anxiety and overthinking clouding my mind. My brother made

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Speaker 2: a few Snyder remarks, but I did not get or

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Speaker 2: get an apology, and I figured that was that. However,

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Speaker 2: last weekend, my mom picked me up from work and

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Speaker 2: and I should shower and do my hair. Fancy Is

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Speaker 2: she gonna do it again? Is she gonna do this

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Speaker 1: No, I'm excited for what it is.

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Speaker 2: She had all the nicest skincare and hair stuff laid out,

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Speaker 2: with the most gorgeous snow white dress I have ever seen. Ah,

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Speaker 2: but she's not she's doing a good one.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, a good one.

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Speaker 1: I think this is right.

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Speaker 2: And then everyone else is gonna be dressed up as

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Speaker 1: And then you get to sit on the throne and

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Speaker 5: Say, I hope you'll get you enjoy being the queen

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Speaker 2: Blah blah, blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.

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Speaker 2: It is genuinely stunning quality, and I could not believe

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Speaker 2: it was actually for me. She was all dressed up

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Speaker 2: as the Wicked Queen too, with the cowl and everything.

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Speaker 2: I'm starting to sense maybe a little hostility. And she

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Speaker 2: took me to see the new movie together. Ah, Okay,

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Speaker 2: never mind, I guess this is good.

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Speaker 1: This is good.

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Speaker 2: I guess this is good.

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Speaker 1: This is all right. I like this and I likes Yeah.

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Speaker 2: When I tell you, I almost cried. No, I am

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Speaker 2: not exaggerating. It was one of the best days I've

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Speaker 2: ever had with her, and I felt like a legit

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Speaker 2: parncess when little girls came up and asked for pictures.

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Speaker 2: I swear I have never enjoyed anything that much. I

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Speaker 2: might actually try to get a job as a party

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Speaker 2: princess if I can swing it, just because of how

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Speaker 2: great this experience was. At the movie, which by the way,

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Speaker 2: is better than most people are saying. I hated the

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Speaker 2: New Love Interest, but.

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Speaker 1: Rachel really crushed it.

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Speaker 2: She apologized for not taking my feelings into consideration when

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Speaker 2: I was younger, and explained that she has always wanted

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Speaker 2: me to feel like I could be anyone I wanted to,

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Speaker 2: even if they're not a hot dog.

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Speaker 1: I guess I'll allow it if you don't want to

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Speaker 1: be a hot dog.

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Speaker 4: Bye.

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Speaker 2: And did not have to conform, But what she did

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Speaker 2: to help me feel like the best princess in the

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Speaker 2: She explained that the hot dog costume was not meant

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Speaker 2: I'm glad I spoke up when I did, and I

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Speaker 2: Honestly, she's a good person and I am really grateful

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Speaker 1: on to the next one. My sister is furious that

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Speaker 1: I want to stand out in my own wedding. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Opie says, I'm getting married in December to the absolute

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Speaker 1: because we both really love attention. I never used to

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Speaker 1: both dressed head to toe in gold. All right, that's

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Speaker 1: a little taki. I think that's amazing. I think there's

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Speaker 1: They're not like painting themselves gold like the people on

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Speaker 2: You guys want to be gold statues for your wedding.

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Speaker 2: That's that doesn't scream everybody, look at me.

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Speaker 1: What we want is for all our guests to wear

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Speaker 4: And another look.

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Speaker 1: Look at that. It's kind of cute in a way.

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Speaker 4: A lot of princesses today.

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Speaker 6: We just love that idea of a sea of monochrome

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Speaker 2: Like, there's no such thing as a dress code for weddings.

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Speaker 1: That's what the is.

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Speaker 2: They're like, yeah, we're in gold, we rock everyone look

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Speaker 1: I completely disagree. I completely you can wear it, nice

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Speaker 1: Tacky, so wrong. I think there's a way to do it.

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Speaker 1: There's a way to do it. Then she started making

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Speaker 2: Okay, I think we got some confirmation biased from your sister.

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Speaker 2: Knowing that you have NPD and growing up with you,

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Speaker 1: You're aware of it.

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Speaker 2: You're probably taking steps to like you're making this post

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Speaker 1: If someone is so offended by this, though, I kind

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Speaker 1: of wonder does she have this personality disorder? I mean

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Speaker 2: I think like she probably got a chip on her

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Speaker 1: To be white. Yeah, you also can wear black or gray.

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Speaker 1: And then the husband is like, well, I mean, okay,

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Speaker 1: well let's change this so that you could be more comfortable.

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Speaker 1: First of all, we need to hear that story of

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Speaker 1: they'll be hurting my sister. Well, that's true.

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Speaker 1: Your sister has a massive chip on her shoulder for you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: It ended with my sister calling my father an enabler

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Speaker 1: and my sister said that she was genuinely happy for me.

445
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Speaker 1: I felt like a princess in a fairy tale the

446
00:20:45,240 --> 00:20:48,080
Speaker 1: whole day, and my husband was the handsomest prince in

447
00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:51,679
Speaker 1: the universe. The whole thing was under the stars, and

448
00:20:51,760 --> 00:20:55,159
Speaker 1: it was perfect. I could talk about it forever, but

449
00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:58,280
Speaker 1: character limits as a wedding gift, my sister told me

450
00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:00,199
Speaker 1: that she was going to start letting me wear what

451
00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:03,080
Speaker 1: I liked at family gatherings and talk about my accomplishments

452
00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:05,520
Speaker 1: and talk about myself when it's just me and her

453
00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:09,000
Speaker 1: a little and she has, and it's been great. The

454
00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:12,360
Speaker 1: only better gift I got that night was my husband himself.

455
00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 1: This past year has been the best of my life,

456
00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:17,320
Speaker 1: and I genuinely feel so much better about life and

457
00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:21,280
Speaker 1: family these days. I'm a girl mom. Now, Hey, I'm

458
00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:25,040
Speaker 1: guessing that was the best. The first best was the

459
00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:28,600
Speaker 1: birth of her child child, and I am so glad

460
00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:31,080
Speaker 1: my daughter gets to know her aunt and cousins too.

461
00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:34,040
Speaker 1: I'm even allowed to babysit for my sister sometimes.

462
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

463
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Speaker 2: Well, when you when your daughter was born, did you

464
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:39,760
Speaker 2: have to schwaddle her in a gold blanket?

465
00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:43,800
Speaker 1: Yes? And we do have a comment here, Oh pie,

466
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Speaker 1: can you tell us more about your NPD because everything

467
00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:50,040
Speaker 1: you did sounds normal, but your sister's actions do not. Oh,

468
00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:53,040
Speaker 1: he says, Okay, So NPD is the official diagnosis of

469
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:57,920
Speaker 1: being personality disorder. Basically, when we were kids, I would

470
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Speaker 1: take all the attention away from my sister, including at

471
00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:02,720
Speaker 1: her own events, but also just in general, everything would

472
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,120
Speaker 1: be about me. I'm a musician, and so I would

473
00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:07,800
Speaker 1: perform a lot and talk about myself and whatever my

474
00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:10,879
Speaker 1: latest accomplishments or goals were. And it really ruined a

475
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Speaker 1: lot of her birthdays and other events, even though I

476
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Speaker 1: didn't realize it at the time. And a reply says, Okay,

477
00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:19,359
Speaker 1: you're handling this super well, and honestly I would agree.

478
00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 1: I think you're so self aware. I think you're like good.

479
00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:26,320
Speaker 1: I think I think so too. I could understand if

480
00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:29,159
Speaker 1: the sister had dealt without her whole life, and like

481
00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 1: any other reminder of it is just like, oh my god,

482
00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:35,080
Speaker 1: like we worked on this. I thought you stopped, but

483
00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:37,920
Speaker 1: apparently you didn't. But it's also kind of like, well,

484
00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:41,320
Speaker 1: Opie seemed very aware of that, Like, yeah, this has

485
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Speaker 1: been a problem. I've been working on this, but like

486
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Speaker 1: for my wedding, can I have one day where I

487
00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:47,879
Speaker 1: just like give in and I actually like let my

488
00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:50,920
Speaker 1: attention seeking take over.

489
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess that's fine, and it's fine or whatever.

490
00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:58,119
Speaker 2: Just if the vibe is where the King and queen,

491
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Speaker 2: then it might you know, I don't no, don't be

492
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Speaker 2: insufferable lays.

493
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Speaker 1: On my day. Yeah, yeah, I think I understand where

494
00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 1: the sister is coming from. But she definitely went way

495
00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:10,919
Speaker 1: too far. But I'm glad. I mean, everything kind of

496
00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:12,720
Speaker 1: worked out in the end. And that's the end of

497
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Speaker 1: this story. We're gonna go on to the next one.

498
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Speaker 1: My partner is jealous of my ex even after we

499
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Speaker 1: lost our daughter. Oh my gosh, partner needs to get

500
00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:25,240
Speaker 1: over it. Trigger warning mentions of losing a child. I

501
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:27,480
Speaker 1: am a thirty three year old woman who six years

502
00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 1: ago lost my two year old daughter to leukemia. Oh oh.

503
00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:33,399
Speaker 1: My husband and I tried to make things work, but

504
00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:35,359
Speaker 1: the grief of losing her and the emotions at the

505
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Speaker 1: time made our relationship unsalvagable, and a year after her passing,

506
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Speaker 1: we divorced. By the way, this comes from mistletone Knife

507
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Speaker 1: And if you want to submit your own stories, go

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Speaker 1: to the r slash Okay storytime separate it And I'm Angie.

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Speaker 4: I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we're.

510
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Speaker 1: Here to give good advice. Goofy. But we don't have

511
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Speaker 1: all the answers. We just know what we would do

512
00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:54,840
Speaker 1: in this situation. So let us know what you would

513
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:58,080
Speaker 1: do in the comments. And oh P says I kept

514
00:23:58,080 --> 00:23:59,720
Speaker 1: her room as it was because I liked to go

515
00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:02,399
Speaker 1: there sometimes to sit and remember her and be around

516
00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 1: her things, minus the few keeps caakes her father took

517
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:08,360
Speaker 1: with him when we divorced so he could remember her too.

518
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:11,080
Speaker 1: A while after we divorced, I met my current partner,

519
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Speaker 1: and now three years into our relationship, I am twenty

520
00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:18,400
Speaker 1: nine weeks pregnant with the little boy. Why I'm equally

521
00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:21,399
Speaker 1: excited and terrified about this, as I'm so scared of

522
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Speaker 1: going through that kind of pain again. I live in

523
00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:26,360
Speaker 1: a two bedroom home, so obviously my daughter's room needs

524
00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:28,919
Speaker 1: to be packed up, and I accepted that though it

525
00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:31,840
Speaker 1: wasn't easy. My partner offered to help me do so,

526
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:33,520
Speaker 1: and I told him, if you wanted to help, it

527
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:36,880
Speaker 1: would be appreciated, but that I'd also asked my ex

528
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Speaker 1: husband to help me so we could decide together what

529
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:43,119
Speaker 1: we each wanted to keep, donate, or toss. This upset

530
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 1: my partner is he doesn't like the idea of my

531
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:47,919
Speaker 1: ex husband being around for such a lengthy time, and

532
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:50,480
Speaker 1: so that since he is my partner, I should have

533
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:51,760
Speaker 1: asked only him.

534
00:24:52,200 --> 00:25:03,479
Speaker 7: Wow, to not understand this situation, the blatant I don't know,

535
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:10,880
Speaker 7: intentional obliviousness. Yeah, to not understand that this goes beyond

536
00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 7: your feelings about this situation.

537
00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:18,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, Yeah I know, and just trying to Yeah. Yeah.

538
00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:20,360
Speaker 1: He told me I could just put aside a few

539
00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: random things for my ex. I tried to explain to

540
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Speaker 1: him that my daughter was also my ex husband's daughter,

541
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Speaker 1: so he had to write blame that. Yeah, so he

542
00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:30,680
Speaker 1: had a right to be there for this, and reminded

543
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Speaker 1: him that if he wanted to help, he could be

544
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Speaker 1: there too. He doesn't want to be around my ex husband, however,

545
00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:38,320
Speaker 1: so he denied this and has been upset with me

546
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 1: all night over It is it truly unreasonable that I'd

547
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Speaker 1: asked my ex husband to be a part of this.

548
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 1: There are some comments, but I mean it.

549
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Speaker 7: Would be unreasonable if you didn't ask your partner this

550
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 7: was his kid.

551
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:52,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you're totally in the right. Like this

552
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 1: is a very hard thing, and if you're feeling this,

553
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:58,719
Speaker 1: then like it's guaranteed that he's gonna feel that too. Yeah,

554
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 1: because I mean you I'm I mean, you know, it

555
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 1: depends on what works for you and what helps. But

556
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:07,160
Speaker 1: like it might be argued that, like you got more

557
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 1: of her things and to remember and stuff, so he

558
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 1: might want some more after so much time too. Yeah,

559
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:15,719
Speaker 1: there are some comments coming. Number one says, tell your

560
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:18,880
Speaker 1: partner to grow up. Not the a w hole. Yep, coming.

561
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 1: Number two says, not the a whole. So so not

562
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Speaker 1: the a whole. I'm married to a woman that had

563
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Speaker 1: children prior to our marriage. I have a step son

564
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 1: and stepdaughter. I absolutely despise her ex husband and he

565
00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:33,359
Speaker 1: despises me. Neither of us have one single positive thing

566
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 1: to say about the other. And we are just cordial

567
00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 1: enough to be in the same room during events like graduations,

568
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:41,280
Speaker 1: get together as family stuff, you know, because we're adults,

569
00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:45,160
Speaker 1: but the interaction ends there. There is absolutely no way

570
00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:48,480
Speaker 1: under these circumstances that I would even begin to express

571
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Speaker 1: anything but support and understanding. This is something so unbearably

572
00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 1: sad and traumatizing that I question that he is even

573
00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:58,840
Speaker 1: worth being married to. If this was his response as

574
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Speaker 1: the new husband, and I'd be grateful and flattered that

575
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:04,919
Speaker 1: I was invited to participate in it, I'd truly be

576
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:07,679
Speaker 1: reevaluating my relationship with this dude. If this is the

577
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:11,760
Speaker 1: level of immaturity you're dealing with. Opie says, we're not married.

578
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 1: I should have put that in the post. Goodness, he's

579
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 1: just my partner. Frankly, given my past, I'm not very

580
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,280
Speaker 1: open to the idea of marriage in the future. Again,

581
00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 1: I'm glad you and your wife's ex husband are able

582
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 1: to be cordial enough to be in the same room

583
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:26,880
Speaker 1: for family things like that, as that's honestly all you need.

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00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 3: Come on.

585
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:30,399
Speaker 1: Number three says, grief is what it is, not the

586
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:32,600
Speaker 1: a hole. Your current partner needs to get a grip

587
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:35,159
Speaker 1: and stay out of the way. Supportive, but let you

588
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:38,159
Speaker 1: have the space to finish this task. He needs to

589
00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 1: not be jealous of your ex. If there is a

590
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:43,400
Speaker 1: reason to be jealous, not letting him help won't squash

591
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:46,879
Speaker 1: the reason. If there's no reason, letting him help won't

592
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:49,639
Speaker 1: make one. Opie says, I offered to let him help

593
00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:52,080
Speaker 1: despite favoring the idea of it just being me and

594
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 1: my ex as a final sort of goodbye, but he

595
00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:57,440
Speaker 1: doesn't want to help. If my ex husband is there,

596
00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 1: we do have an edit. But yeah, I agree with

597
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 1: all those comments. He's gotta suck it up. He's gotta

598
00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:06,640
Speaker 1: suck it up and figure it out, not about him,

599
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:09,080
Speaker 1: because it's like, dude, like you're literally about to have

600
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Speaker 1: a child. I feel like you should have some sort

601
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:15,120
Speaker 1: of understanding of what that like. I'm with that law.

602
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:17,960
Speaker 1: I mean, you can never I haven't gone through it,

603
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 1: so no, right, but I'm sure you have that fear

604
00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 1: at least. Yeah.

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00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:26,360
Speaker 5: And also just anybody, Yeah, literally, anybody, regardless of whether

606
00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:29,080
Speaker 5: or not you have been through that situation, should understand,

607
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 5: right that that is devastating, right, And it's like.

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Speaker 1: Kind of like, well, what are you expecting is gonna happen?

609
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:38,600
Speaker 1: Like what would happen if if she did survive but

610
00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 1: we got a divorce anyway, Like if we were co parenting,

611
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 1: what would you expect if I had to see my

612
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 1: ex husband all the time to like co parent, you know, like,

613
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:50,880
Speaker 1: what what was going on you? We do have an edit.

614
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 1: Just realize the title could be a little confusing. Yes,

615
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:56,240
Speaker 1: I told my partner he could help out, but truthfully,

616
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 1: I'd rather do it just with my ex husband as

617
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 1: we are her parents, hence the wanting it to be

618
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:05,560
Speaker 1: my ex. We do have an update. My partner did

619
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:08,479
Speaker 1: not back up on his displeasure over my ex husband

620
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 1: coming around to help pack up our late daughter's bedroom.

621
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Speaker 1: He said some very hurtful things regarding me, my ex husband,

622
00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:16,640
Speaker 1: and my late daughter that I will not post here

623
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 1: as it would probably get my post removed. He then

624
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 1: told me if I didn't call off my ex husband

625
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 1: coming around for this, he'd break up with me as

626
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 1: he wouldn't put up with it, clearly thinking I'd back

627
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 1: down as I wouldn't want to be a single parent.

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00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, he seems so smug as he made

629
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,760
Speaker 1: this threat. That is so insane.

630
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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean glad, it's I mean tough that it's

631
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 7: coming out right when you're about to have a kid,

632
00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 7: But yeah, not a person that you want to raise

633
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Speaker 7: a child.

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Speaker 1: With yeah, I mean, maybe this is a good time

635
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:50,000
Speaker 1: to have this come up, So like, problems don't happen

636
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 1: while you're like having this child and stillment or like

637
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 1: still together. If you just need to leave and then

638
00:29:57,160 --> 00:30:01,120
Speaker 1: maybe you can you imagine if you like, this might

639
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 1: not happen. But if you I'm imagining you're don't you worry? Yeah,

640
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,120
Speaker 1: if you break up with this guy and then you're

641
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:09,520
Speaker 1: like going through your your daughter's things with your ex

642
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:12,640
Speaker 1: husband and then you guys fall in love again and

643
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:15,800
Speaker 1: then boom, you get to raise a child together. Boom boom?

644
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:19,480
Speaker 1: What if? What if if? By this point I was

645
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 1: already seeing red. He could insult me all he wanted,

646
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:26,120
Speaker 1: but the things he said about my daughter. I told

647
00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:28,200
Speaker 1: him to get the f out of my house and

648
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:31,000
Speaker 1: never come back, and kick him out, throwing his stuff

649
00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:34,240
Speaker 1: after him in a fit of rage. Nothing breakable. Don't worry,

650
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 1: And that was that. I then spent the day crying

651
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 1: over all of this. A few days later, my ex

652
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 1: husband came around and we packed up our daughter's room.

653
00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:45,000
Speaker 1: During it, he asked me if my partner was around.

654
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:47,480
Speaker 1: I explained the situation to him, and he was so

655
00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 1: pissed off On my behalf. Boooooooo, how pissed off was

656
00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:57,800
Speaker 1: He spent the rest of the afternoon comforting me about it. Oooh,

657
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 1: how comforting was He would call me every day to

658
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:05,360
Speaker 1: check if I needed anything or help with anything. As

659
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Speaker 1: I'm starting to get less agile and began to spend

660
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:13,320
Speaker 1: more time around to help out. Oh how much more time. Listen.

661
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 1: The last two nights he's actually been sleeping on my

662
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 1: sofa in case I needed anything during the night as

663
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 1: I went into labor with our daughter a few weeks

664
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,320
Speaker 1: further along than I am right now, and he keeps

665
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:27,640
Speaker 1: fretting about what if that happens while I'm alone. Let's

666
00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 1: cut out the middleman, put him in your bed. Let's yeah,

667
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 1: let's just go straight to it. Let's just get down

668
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 1: to it. Stop it with all this funny business. We

669
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 1: don't need to beat around the bush. No, we don't.

670
00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:45,560
Speaker 1: I Angie excited to read this book together. My advice

671
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:48,440
Speaker 1: is to I mean, you already got.

672
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 7: Rid of your ex, yes, seeky little X, right, but

673
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:53,560
Speaker 7: I assume custody might be a little bit of a

674
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 7: difficult thing.

675
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I mean, listen, I'm sure we can I'm

676
00:31:58,960 --> 00:31:59,920
Speaker 1: sure we can figure it.

677
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:03,960
Speaker 7: Out, I'm sure, especially like if the saddest true faction

678
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 7: of I mean, okay, don't don't parent like this, but

679
00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 7: is Clina gonna be satisfying if you're with your ex

680
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 7: who you're X, You're sorry, you're your new X doesn't

681
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 7: like your old X, and then you get back with

682
00:32:18,840 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 7: your old X, and then your new ex has to

683
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 7: co parent with you.

684
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then it's like, well, because you're my am

685
00:32:26,760 --> 00:32:29,880
Speaker 1: I ex, then yeah, I can't have you around. I

686
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 1: thought that was yeah, I thought you didn't want and

687
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 1: then I thought you so it was weird for you. Yeah,

688
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 1: so there's a little bit went on to the story.

689
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,880
Speaker 1: Last night, he asked me if I consider going out

690
00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 1: for somebody to eat with him, to see about possibly

691
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 1: restarting things line, no pressure, just to test the waters.

692
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:53,480
Speaker 1: I agreed, as having him around so much and being

693
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 1: so helpful reminded me of all our good times and

694
00:32:57,840 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 1: why I fell in love with him in the first place.

695
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:04,840
Speaker 1: I was so not expecting to be right, I'm so

696
00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:07,920
Speaker 1: happy about this. We are taking it slowly, one day

697
00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 1: at a time. Ironic that my ex partner's jealousy and

698
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 1: actions that may have caused exactly what he wanted to

699
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 1: avoid on the subject of my ex partner. He has

700
00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:18,719
Speaker 1: not been around since or called me, and I am

701
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 1: getting a lawyer involved to check what I should do

702
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 1: in regards to our son moving forward. It was an

703
00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 1: easy split as we weren't married. The house is in

704
00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 1: my name and always has been, and he had only

705
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 1: moved in after I got pregnant by accident. Yeah, I

706
00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:35,960
Speaker 1: think you're good. Like you're I think you're golden man.

707
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 1: You're totally good. You like didn't really need to be

708
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 1: with this partner or like, you know, things kind of

709
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 1: rushed with that other partner because of the baby. Clearly

710
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 1: he's wrong for you, because of everything that he said

711
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:52,440
Speaker 1: about your your late daughter. Yeah, I mean, I don't

712
00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 1: even know what it was, but anything any sort of

713
00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 1: insult about that is beyond the line.

714
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:01,320
Speaker 4: Hey, Op, are you Hunterricks? Because you're golden, You're.

715
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:04,480
Speaker 1: Golden God and being gonna be golden. Yeah, and that's

716
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 1: the end of this story. We're going on to the

717
00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 1: next one.

718
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719
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721
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Speaker 7: I missed my daughter's birth because my wife wouldn't let

722
00:34:18,160 --> 00:34:18,400
Speaker 7: me in.

723
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:20,359
Speaker 1: Let me in, Let me in.

724
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 7: I thirty two mail am eight months into my wife's

725
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:27,480
Speaker 7: pregnancy with her first kid, and she has been finalizing

726
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:29,680
Speaker 7: her birth plan. She included me in the process, and

727
00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:32,759
Speaker 7: I did my best to research and understand it. By

728
00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:34,719
Speaker 7: the way, this comes from husband and birth. And if

729
00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:36,080
Speaker 7: you want to smit your own stories, go to the

730
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:37,799
Speaker 7: raslash okay, storytime, separate it.

731
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 4: I'm Sophia, I'm Angie, I'm Keon.

732
00:34:40,280 --> 00:34:43,800
Speaker 7: I went with her to see various doulas, picked hospital together,

733
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 7: and helped establish emergency plans. I assumed I would be

734
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 7: there for the birth, but she told me she didn't

735
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 7: want me to see our daughter being born. She only

736
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:57,000
Speaker 7: wants her mother there and I could come in once

737
00:34:57,080 --> 00:34:59,799
Speaker 7: it was done to see the baby.

738
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:01,240
Speaker 1: It's crazy.

739
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:04,640
Speaker 7: It hurt like heck, cause I was obviously very excited

740
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:07,280
Speaker 7: about it. I asked why, and she just said she'd

741
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:08,439
Speaker 7: be more comfortable that way.

742
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:09,880
Speaker 1: I said, okay.

743
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 7: I told her I'd let her do whatever made her

744
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:15,239
Speaker 7: comfortable and I'd be on board with it, but that

745
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:18,719
Speaker 7: I was very hurt and would need some space for

746
00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:21,400
Speaker 7: a few days to process it. I slept in the

747
00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 7: guest room and left before she woke up for work.

748
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:26,480
Speaker 7: She's been blowing up my phone with text about how

749
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 7: it's unfair to punish her for doing what's best for

750
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 7: the baby. She called crying and telling me I was

751
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 7: putting so much stress on a pregnant woman for no

752
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 7: reason and that I was an ale for that. What

753
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:40,200
Speaker 7: it feels like she feels a lot of guilt for

754
00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 7: asking you to do this or denying you this when.

755
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:46,759
Speaker 1: You are rightfully I think allowed to be hurt about that.

756
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 7: Yeah, and then she's now she's not putting on you more.

757
00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 1: I don't think needing space for a few days is

758
00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:53,080
Speaker 1: wrong of me.

759
00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:55,719
Speaker 7: I'm just asking her to let me take in what's happening.

760
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:58,359
Speaker 7: I can't pretend to be happy about missing the birth

761
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 7: of our baby. She's so angry. I'm wondering if I'm

762
00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:05,879
Speaker 7: being the wiener and no VID restrictions for us. There

763
00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:08,440
Speaker 7: are some comments and an update, But what do you think?

764
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 1: I think? Like I was really wondering where that was going.

765
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:15,319
Speaker 1: So part of me was like, is she insecure about, like,

766
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:19,480
Speaker 1: you know, her being seen given birth, because I know

767
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 1: that can look a little crazy, but like it doesn't

768
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:24,279
Speaker 1: she could just be like stay on the side, yeah right,

769
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 1: Like it doesn't like I feel like it's a very

770
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:28,000
Speaker 1: normal thing for the husband to be there and help

771
00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:32,359
Speaker 1: the mom while she's given birth. So I don't really

772
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:36,759
Speaker 1: understand why, because then she's also being weird about like like,

773
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 1: oh now you're now OPI's the a hole for talking

774
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:44,000
Speaker 1: about this and being hurt by it. Like she's lashing

775
00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:48,160
Speaker 1: out because she feels skilty. Maybe yeah, common one, not

776
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:48,719
Speaker 1: the al.

777
00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 7: She's allowed to choose whoever she wants in the room,

778
00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 7: and you're allowed to take a day to sort your feelings.

779
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:57,120
Speaker 7: You didn't abandon her, You took space to organize your thoughts.

780
00:36:57,840 --> 00:37:00,480
Speaker 7: Sometimes it's best to be quiet for a bit instead

781
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:03,320
Speaker 7: of saying something mean or not thought out. I'm wondering

782
00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:06,240
Speaker 7: if she psyched herself out and is worried that the blood, moaning,

783
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:09,359
Speaker 7: possible pooping and all that will turn you off. Some

784
00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:12,360
Speaker 7: women think he can't see me like this. I'm a

785
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 7: mom up too, and I didn't care who saw me

786
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:16,719
Speaker 7: like that. I just wanted my kids healthy and out.

787
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:19,400
Speaker 1: Edit. I do mean not the ale.

788
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 7: Her blowing up his phone and calling him an ale

789
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:27,240
Speaker 7: is uncalled for. I've been pregnant twice in birth twice.

790
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:30,720
Speaker 7: Pregnancy is not an excuse to call your partner names

791
00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:33,880
Speaker 7: and blow their phone up. He said he needed space

792
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:35,280
Speaker 7: and time to collect his thoughts.

793
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:37,799
Speaker 1: He didn't leave the family home. He didn't run to

794
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 1: his parents, he didn't call an X.

795
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 7: He slept in an extra room and went to work.

796
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 7: Reply says, oh, yes, some women fear that they will

797
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 7: no longer be attractive to their husbands once they've seen

798
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 7: the gory part of childbirth. Maybe check with her what

799
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 7: her driving decision is or what's driving her decision without

800
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:57,640
Speaker 7: pushing for change, just to understand, and if it is

801
00:37:57,719 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 7: apprehension about this, ask if it would be y, I'll write,

802
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:03,800
Speaker 7: if you stayed near her head and not watch the

803
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 7: poop in the blood. If she's still not comfortable, it's

804
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:09,840
Speaker 7: understandable for you to be upset, but please understand that,

805
00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:13,319
Speaker 7: no matter how grown up we are, sometimes when we're scared, we.

806
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:15,320
Speaker 1: Just want our mommies. That's true.

807
00:38:15,440 --> 00:38:18,040
Speaker 7: I think these comments are really nice and that they're

808
00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:20,319
Speaker 7: also they're understanding that she's probably feeling a lot of.

809
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:23,239
Speaker 1: Fear, but also is not being kind.

810
00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 7: Opie, Yeah, I understand missing the birth is a huge thing,

811
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 7: but my husband had to miss it too. We had

812
00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 7: to go for emergency c second because of the VID restrictions,

813
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:35,239
Speaker 7: no one was allowed in the ot and then our

814
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:38,279
Speaker 7: kid was in the nick you for three days and

815
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:41,400
Speaker 7: neither of us could hold him. It's been two years since,

816
00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 7: and every day there is something to marvel at. You'll

817
00:38:44,640 --> 00:38:48,000
Speaker 7: love years and years of those special moments, and there

818
00:38:48,040 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 7: is an update. Let's find out if she has a reason,

819
00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:51,640
Speaker 7: let's do it.

820
00:38:51,719 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 1: I would love to know my wife had the baby. Whooo,

821
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:56,440
Speaker 1: doesn't sound like you were there.

822
00:38:57,320 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 7: They're both healthy. I asked her honor do if she

823
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:03,319
Speaker 7: still didn't want me to be there, and she said

824
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:04,800
Speaker 7: she wasn't sure.

825
00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:05,360
Speaker 1: Hmm.

826
00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:08,719
Speaker 7: She was very stressed during labor and I could tell

827
00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:10,960
Speaker 7: she was really anxious, so I did my best to

828
00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 7: comfort her and didn't ask. She did ask me to

829
00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:16,000
Speaker 7: leave when it was time to push, and I came

830
00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:18,839
Speaker 7: back when our daughter was born. I didn't catch her,

831
00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 7: but I got to cut the cord and held her first,

832
00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:24,400
Speaker 7: which I'm very grateful for. Things were okay with my

833
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:26,839
Speaker 7: wife for a while until she dismissed how I felt

834
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:29,320
Speaker 7: about missing the birth and said I was making a

835
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:31,480
Speaker 7: big deal out of a couple of minutes. I then

836
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:34,440
Speaker 7: found out the reason she excluded me was because she

837
00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 7: was scared I would stop being attracted to her, which

838
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 7: everyone in the comments nailed that.

839
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 1: Yeah. Interesting. Interesting.

840
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 7: I kind of lost it and I regret it, but

841
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:46,400
Speaker 7: I was sleep deprived and told her that I was

842
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 7: disappointed in her as a mother and that she.

843
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:53,839
Speaker 1: Put her vanity before our kid and before me. Tough, tough,

844
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:55,360
Speaker 1: h great.

845
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 7: My wife then asked for marriage counseling and we're on

846
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:01,160
Speaker 7: a waitless for our first appointment. We've been very cold

847
00:40:01,200 --> 00:40:03,760
Speaker 7: toward one another when we're alone, and we will probably

848
00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:06,160
Speaker 7: fight again soon. I know it's not the best way

849
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 7: to be when we have a newborn, but I can't

850
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:11,080
Speaker 7: help but blame her for this situation. I will be

851
00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:14,280
Speaker 7: going back to work soon, so I'm hoping the distance

852
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 7: or it gives me from her will help me calm

853
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:20,040
Speaker 7: down and gather the strength, which'd be more mature about it.

854
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:24,680
Speaker 1: There's another update. Wasn't a great reply. I think she's not.

855
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:27,880
Speaker 7: I mean, like, is pretty really hard to not be

856
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:32,400
Speaker 7: there for like the birth birth of your you know child,

857
00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 7: But I you know, also she's being very vulnerable.

858
00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 1: And like that's such a normal thing for her women

859
00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 1: to feel more insecure about their changing bodies.

860
00:40:44,080 --> 00:40:46,239
Speaker 7: First of all, Yeah, I mean and you are in like,

861
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:48,839
Speaker 7: I don't know, I think that you both have kind

862
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 7: of made errors in this, but she like that is

863
00:40:52,640 --> 00:41:00,800
Speaker 7: the most just intimate and like, what's the word vulnerable position?

864
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:03,560
Speaker 7: That you one of the most vulnerable positions that anyone

865
00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 7: can be in.

866
00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:05,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know.

867
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:10,359
Speaker 7: Where you are an intense amount of pain, it unclothed

868
00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 7: and have something coming out of you.

869
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:13,760
Speaker 1: Yeah.

870
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:19,279
Speaker 7: I understand why she might feel very scared and insecure

871
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 7: in that moment. However, I also understand that he does

872
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 7: not want to miss that moment and did not want

873
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 7: to miss that moment.

874
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's.

875
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:30,480
Speaker 7: Like for a lot of people that like, you know,

876
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:33,359
Speaker 7: the birth of your first child is, is.

877
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:37,520
Speaker 4: You only get the first time? Yeah, I mean.

878
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:40,319
Speaker 1: Might have another child, but I think you know, the

879
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:41,399
Speaker 1: first is. Yeah.

880
00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:43,080
Speaker 7: I think a lot of people will talk about how

881
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 7: kind of spiritual that that moment is.

882
00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:49,480
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.

883
00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:53,120
Speaker 7: Update two, my wife and I separated for a couple

884
00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:56,360
Speaker 7: of months but decided to work on our marriage. Bigger

885
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:58,640
Speaker 7: issues rose to the surface in marriage counseling, and my

886
00:41:58,680 --> 00:42:01,480
Speaker 7: wife did apologize keeping me out of the delivery room,

887
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 7: although she affirmed in the same sentence that if we

888
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:08,440
Speaker 7: have a second child, she'd ask me to stay outside again.

889
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:11,200
Speaker 7: She will just not trust me to not lose attraction

890
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 7: to her. I never realized just how deeply insecure she

891
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 7: is about her looks and how it affects every part

892
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:19,760
Speaker 7: of her daily life. She's a pretty woman and always

893
00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:22,520
Speaker 7: acted very confident, but it was mostly a facad that

894
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 7: completely grumbled with the pregnancy.

895
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:28,760
Speaker 1: Are we are we just kind of assuming these things? Yeah? Yeah,

896
00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:31,440
Speaker 1: I don't know, Pee, I feel like we got to

897
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:35,880
Speaker 1: work on our understandings bond of people. I feel like

898
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:39,920
Speaker 1: I feel like I don't like how you're going about this.

899
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:43,920
Speaker 7: No, No, it's it's just not going well. There's deeper

900
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 7: problems here. And yeah, I think you have to approach

901
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 7: them gently. Yeah, she also has to be willing to

902
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:53,640
Speaker 7: meet you half way. But this is a this is

903
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:56,240
Speaker 7: a very gentle, very delicate.

904
00:42:55,880 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 3: Thing, right, I think it would have been a perfect

905
00:42:58,080 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 3: time to be vulnerable and yeah, tell her like how

906
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:06,200
Speaker 3: you feel. And but you like you went very aggressive

907
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 3: and you like pointed the finger at her, right, wasn't

908
00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:11,280
Speaker 3: a bad bad tactic?

909
00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:12,560
Speaker 4: I don't know yeah, and like.

910
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:14,799
Speaker 1: Maybe she means to work on being more understanding of

911
00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:18,160
Speaker 1: you and like your experience with the with the birth

912
00:43:18,239 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 1: and wanting to be there for the birth. I think

913
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 1: that is a very valid desire to have. Yeah, but

914
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:23,919
Speaker 1: this is a little bit more.

915
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:26,640
Speaker 7: We ran into some issues with beating related to that,

916
00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:29,279
Speaker 7: where she would eat very little to lose the pregnancy weight,

917
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:32,840
Speaker 7: and it caused her to produce less milk, consequently stressing

918
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 7: her and the baby up more. I begged her to

919
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 7: postpone her diet until our baby was a little older,

920
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 7: but it was important for her to lose weight first.

921
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:41,960
Speaker 7: I tried supporting her, but I was going through my

922
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:44,359
Speaker 7: own struggles and I couldn't understand how she could put

923
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:46,840
Speaker 7: that over the health of our baby. We're determined to

924
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:48,680
Speaker 7: make our marriage work, and I'm going to do my

925
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:51,839
Speaker 7: best to understand her struggles with self image. I've come

926
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 7: to accept that seeing the birth of any child I

927
00:43:53,760 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 7: have with her will not be possible. She needs intense

928
00:43:57,800 --> 00:44:01,200
Speaker 7: therapy int and.

929
00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 1: That's the end of the story. We're going on to

930
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 1: the next one. My husband wanted to put a peloton

931
00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:10,440
Speaker 1: in our shared room, but I refused. Get that thing

932
00:44:10,520 --> 00:44:12,960
Speaker 1: out of here. My husband thirty two male, and I

933
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:15,359
Speaker 1: thirty one female, live in a modus three bed, two

934
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:17,680
Speaker 1: bath house. We don't have kids, so it's just the

935
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:19,759
Speaker 1: two of us and our dog. We've had the house

936
00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 1: for years now and have designated personal spots in the house.

937
00:44:23,120 --> 00:44:25,920
Speaker 1: The biggest bedroom is our room. The medium sized bedroom

938
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 1: is a guest room and my husband uses the dresser

939
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:31,440
Speaker 1: in it for his clothes. The smallest of the bedrooms

940
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:34,359
Speaker 1: is my husband's room, a man cave one may call it.

941
00:44:34,440 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Sales Civil twenty five

942
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 1: to seventy one. And if you want to submit your

943
00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 1: own stories, go to the r slash. Okay, storytime separated

944
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:43,600
Speaker 1: it and I'm Angie.

945
00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:45,280
Speaker 4: I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we're.

946
00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 1: Here to give good advice. Goofly, but we don't have

947
00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:49,000
Speaker 1: all the answers. We just know what we would do

948
00:44:49,040 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 1: in this situation. So let us know what you would

949
00:44:51,280 --> 00:44:55,600
Speaker 1: do in the comments. Yes, so, op sets. We also

950
00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 1: have a sunroom, which which for the most part hasband

951
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:01,000
Speaker 1: dedicated as much.

952
00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:03,880
Speaker 7: Okay, okay, okay, So everyone's got their own, they've got

953
00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:04,480
Speaker 7: the spaces.

954
00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 1: Yea, it's a bit of a larger space and is

955
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 1: our means to the backyard. We use it a lot

956
00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:11,960
Speaker 1: for entertaining, but I took control of the decor and

957
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 1: the vibe of the room. Love. About a third of

958
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:16,960
Speaker 1: the room I have made into a little yoga pilates

959
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 1: to be thick fun I have my I have plants everywhere,

960
00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:23,280
Speaker 1: and all of my equipment is coordinated to the decor.

961
00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:26,760
Speaker 1: A great little zen spot. If I do say so myself.

962
00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 7: I can see it's so well, like said, yoga mat

963
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:32,960
Speaker 7: is like a sage green yeah yeah, And all of

964
00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 7: the workout bells are like all green to yeah, like

965
00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 7: various colors, yeah, colored greens.

966
00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:42,040
Speaker 1: Yeah. I love it. I love it. The other two

967
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 1: thirds of the room has a sofa and a table

968
00:45:44,239 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 1: and the door to the backyard. My husband's family has

969
00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 1: a traveling Peloton bike traveling one nice. It's been with

970
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:53,719
Speaker 1: his parents, then to us, then with his brother, and

971
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 1: now it's traveling back to us. Okay, so that's why

972
00:45:56,560 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 1: it's traveling, like traveling actual moving gotcha peloton Yeah classic.

973
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:07,040
Speaker 1: I personally don't like it, but my husband thinks it's

974
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:09,680
Speaker 1: a good workout anyway. He says he's going to put

975
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:10,440
Speaker 1: it in the sunroom.

976
00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 7: Na Na Nah, you can put it in the freaking

977
00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:15,799
Speaker 7: man cave buster unless you want to pay in the green.

978
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 1: There you go. I told him no and said he

979
00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:21,399
Speaker 1: could put it in the guess room, his room, or

980
00:46:21,440 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 1: the garage. He says that the sunroom has the most

981
00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:26,160
Speaker 1: space for it, and it's the nicest room in the house,

982
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 1: so it will be nice for him to work out

983
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 1: in there. Too bad you have your own room my room. Uh.

984
00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:34,600
Speaker 1: For those who have seen a Peloton bike in person,

985
00:46:34,760 --> 00:46:39,040
Speaker 1: they aren't the sleekest. No, they're ugly. Yep Opie says,

986
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 1: it's big and clunky in black. It does not fit

987
00:46:41,719 --> 00:46:44,840
Speaker 1: the bright light, natural sanctuary. I made the room to be.

988
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:47,440
Speaker 1: The space he wants to put it in is awkwardly

989
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:49,680
Speaker 1: right in the middle of the room, blocking the path

990
00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:51,960
Speaker 1: to the back door. Since we've had it before, I

991
00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:54,360
Speaker 1: know what it looks like and the inconvenient space that

992
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:56,239
Speaker 1: takes up, which is part of the reason we gave

993
00:46:56,280 --> 00:46:58,439
Speaker 1: it away the first time. It's not like I said

994
00:46:58,440 --> 00:47:00,160
Speaker 1: he couldn't put it in the house at all. I

995
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:02,239
Speaker 1: gave him other options. So am I the a hole

996
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:04,719
Speaker 1: for not letting my husband put a peloton in our sunroom?

997
00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:04,920
Speaker 7: No?

998
00:47:05,200 --> 00:47:06,759
Speaker 1: There are some comments, but yeah, definitely not.

999
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 3: No.

1000
00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:10,000
Speaker 1: Coming number one says, not the a hole. He has

1001
00:47:10,040 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 1: a room designated as his man cave. Why can't it

1002
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 1: go in there? It sounds like you've divvied up the house.

1003
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:18,520
Speaker 1: He has the man cave, you have the sunroom. Offer

1004
00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:20,480
Speaker 1: him to take the sunroom if you can have the

1005
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 1: man cave and switch the furniture. See what his reaction is.

1006
00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 1: Then Coming number two says, not the a hole. This

1007
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 1: isn't about what's the best use of this room. It's

1008
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:31,480
Speaker 1: about where are we allowed to have our own spaces.

1009
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:34,600
Speaker 1: He's spread out to two other bedrooms. He even has

1010
00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:37,919
Speaker 1: an entire room to himself the man cave. You want

1011
00:47:37,920 --> 00:47:40,920
Speaker 1: a space for communal living. That's having friends over and

1012
00:47:40,960 --> 00:47:43,520
Speaker 1: having a yoga space. Yoga is often a group activity.

1013
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:47,239
Speaker 1: What it isn't is a giant black block that's for

1014
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 1: staring at a screen and blocking out the rest of

1015
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:52,960
Speaker 1: the world. Coming number three says, if he needs sun

1016
00:47:53,040 --> 00:47:55,800
Speaker 1: and air, then he could also get a bike such

1017
00:47:56,000 --> 00:48:00,279
Speaker 1: and go right it outdoor. Such an excellent yeah. There

1018
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:01,200
Speaker 1: are of course.

1019
00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 7: Many reasons why people do you know, uh, stationary bikes

1020
00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:07,480
Speaker 7: and homes, So however, excellent point.

1021
00:48:07,640 --> 00:48:13,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what you want so bad? Someone responds, right,

1022
00:48:13,440 --> 00:48:16,399
Speaker 1: but now picture this. What if OPI lives somewhere where

1023
00:48:16,400 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 1: it snows, then what There's lots of reasons to own

1024
00:48:19,040 --> 00:48:22,239
Speaker 1: a stationary of course, many reasons, right, However, I think

1025
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:25,680
Speaker 1: it's still funny. Boy, it definitely is. We do have

1026
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 1: an update. So what do we think is going to happen?

1027
00:48:28,040 --> 00:48:30,160
Speaker 1: Do we think we're gonna cave and put them the

1028
00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 1: bike in summer?

1029
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:33,360
Speaker 4: Tell them to run outside.

1030
00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 7: I think it's incredibly unfair for him to expect to have,

1031
00:48:37,320 --> 00:48:40,640
Speaker 7: you know, I don't know, to be able to put

1032
00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:42,600
Speaker 7: all of his stuff in two rooms.

1033
00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:45,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, like he's got his man cave. I don't

1034
00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 1: understand why it doesn't.

1035
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:49,719
Speaker 4: Go in there, like to smell like man in there.

1036
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:50,480
Speaker 1: You can't do.

1037
00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:55,719
Speaker 7: That's so particular about things like things having places. Yeah,

1038
00:48:55,800 --> 00:48:59,399
Speaker 7: I would not be able to Yeah do this. Yeah,

1039
00:48:59,440 --> 00:49:01,800
Speaker 7: that's that's it's tough. Yeah, we do have an update

1040
00:49:01,960 --> 00:49:05,120
Speaker 7: for anyone who cares. He put the peloton in the sunroom.

1041
00:49:05,400 --> 00:49:08,279
Speaker 1: What I care? I don't know.

1042
00:49:08,560 --> 00:49:08,799
Speaker 7: There.

1043
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:12,480
Speaker 1: I don't care for this. It is not in the

1044
00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:14,319
Speaker 1: middle of the room as it was before. He put

1045
00:49:14,360 --> 00:49:16,680
Speaker 1: it in the corner. Next to my pilate's equipment. I

1046
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 1: asked why he couldn't put it in his room, and

1047
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:21,440
Speaker 1: he said that there was no room. Freaking make room. Yeah, makeroom,

1048
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 1: it's your room. You get to decide what's in there. Yeah.

1049
00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:26,000
Speaker 1: I asked why he couldn't put it in the guest room,

1050
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:28,120
Speaker 1: and he said he would, but we need to clear

1051
00:49:28,160 --> 00:49:31,280
Speaker 1: stuff out first. That weekend, I did a major clean

1052
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:33,440
Speaker 1: out of the guest room, cleaning out things that we

1053
00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:36,000
Speaker 1: didn't need and rearranging to make room for the peloton.

1054
00:49:36,360 --> 00:49:38,360
Speaker 1: When I showed him the space for the bike, he said,

1055
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:41,320
Speaker 1: but it's workout equipment. It should go with the workout stuff.

1056
00:49:42,080 --> 00:49:44,879
Speaker 1: I explained, pointing to his man cave. This is your

1057
00:49:44,920 --> 00:49:47,799
Speaker 1: space and the portion of the sunroom is MySpace. I

1058
00:49:47,840 --> 00:49:49,600
Speaker 1: don't put my things in your space, and I would

1059
00:49:49,600 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 1: not like the bike. In mind, he said, but you

1060
00:49:52,719 --> 00:49:55,160
Speaker 1: can use the peloton. I don't mind the peloton. I

1061
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:58,680
Speaker 1: don't like it. I'm not that now. I'm not going

1062
00:49:58,719 --> 00:50:01,000
Speaker 1: to use it. I don't like it, and on principle,

1063
00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:03,480
Speaker 1: I definitely won't use it in the spot. I don't

1064
00:50:03,520 --> 00:50:07,680
Speaker 1: want it. Is it petty? Yes? Am I proud? Also yes? Yeah?

1065
00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:10,200
Speaker 1: To add we recently got a new coffee table and

1066
00:50:10,239 --> 00:50:12,440
Speaker 1: we pushed the old one off to the side. I

1067
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:14,080
Speaker 1: asked my husband to help me move it into the

1068
00:50:14,120 --> 00:50:16,279
Speaker 1: garage until we can find a way to dispose of it.

1069
00:50:16,680 --> 00:50:19,680
Speaker 1: He kept saying later, and three weeks later I decided

1070
00:50:19,719 --> 00:50:22,160
Speaker 1: I could do it myself. It was a bit large

1071
00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:25,160
Speaker 1: and heavy, but it's on wheels, so easy, peasy. I

1072
00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:27,800
Speaker 1: may or may not have lost control of the coffee

1073
00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 1: table around a corner, and may or may not have

1074
00:50:30,400 --> 00:50:33,440
Speaker 1: put a tiny hole in the wall. There's no hard

1075
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:37,200
Speaker 1: evidence that it was me and us. The incident remains

1076
00:50:37,280 --> 00:50:40,040
Speaker 1: a legend. It was the dog on the do like,

1077
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:44,239
Speaker 1: I don't know where that hole from. The dog was

1078
00:50:44,280 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 1: trying to move the table, and that's what happened to

1079
00:50:47,719 --> 00:50:50,399
Speaker 1: the wall. It's not me. But also it's like, even

1080
00:50:50,400 --> 00:50:53,799
Speaker 1: if it was, well, it was me. Helped me. Yeah,

1081
00:50:53,920 --> 00:50:56,319
Speaker 1: I've been asking you for so long, and so I

1082
00:50:56,360 --> 00:50:58,080
Speaker 1: had to do it myself and do it. This is

1083
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:01,239
Speaker 1: what happens. Anyways, given the recent event, I am on

1084
00:51:01,320 --> 00:51:06,160
Speaker 1: a slight probationary period of moving large objects myself. So now, friends,

1085
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:08,600
Speaker 1: I stare at the peloton in my space and debate

1086
00:51:08,760 --> 00:51:11,480
Speaker 1: if I a try to move myself be suck it

1087
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:13,640
Speaker 1: up and leave it where it is, or see set

1088
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:16,120
Speaker 1: the house on fire, collect the insurance money and never

1089
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:16,919
Speaker 1: see the bike again.

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Speaker 4: D involve your friend, just say the bike rode off.

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Speaker 1: Hosta hosta, Hey, help me move my peloton party.

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00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:25,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's just unhinge the bike. Take the like, put

1093
00:51:25,680 --> 00:51:27,840
Speaker 3: wheels on it and be like boom, there you go,

1094
00:51:28,400 --> 00:51:28,920
Speaker 3: like that one.

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00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:31,120
Speaker 1: Episode of Phineas and ferb just like it got up

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Speaker 1: and it walked away? What it got up and walked away?

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00:51:38,440 --> 00:51:42,279
Speaker 1: For Candas. Yeah, and for those who don't understand sarcasm,

1098
00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:45,160
Speaker 1: that was a joke. I'm obviously not going to leave

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00:51:45,200 --> 00:51:48,480
Speaker 1: it in the suner. Thank you to everyone who replied

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00:51:48,560 --> 00:51:51,360
Speaker 1: and became invested in my first world problem. It was

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00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:54,719
Speaker 1: very much appreciated, and there are some comments. Comment number

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00:51:54,719 --> 00:51:57,520
Speaker 1: one says, I'm petty af and would move the peloton

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00:51:57,600 --> 00:51:59,880
Speaker 1: to the guest room. Common number two says, when my

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00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:03,120
Speaker 1: husband does something I find to be rather reprehensible, I

1105
00:52:03,200 --> 00:52:05,040
Speaker 1: like to remind him of a quote from my favorite

1106
00:52:05,080 --> 00:52:11,400
Speaker 1: Stephen King novel, Dolores Pattiborn. I'm paraphrasing. Husbands pass away.

1107
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:14,440
Speaker 1: Every day, they pass away, and they leave their wives,

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00:52:14,640 --> 00:52:18,200
Speaker 1: their money. He usually gets the point and that's so funny.

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00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 7: Gosh, I love that that commentary is just saying, threaten

1110
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:22,160
Speaker 7: your husband.

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00:52:22,160 --> 00:52:24,840
Speaker 1: It usually works. Yeah, literally, it works for me. Yeah,

1112
00:52:24,920 --> 00:52:26,680
Speaker 1: I just show him gone girl, every time I'm mad

1113
00:52:26,719 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 1: at him. Actually works. Oh boy, what do we think

1114
00:52:31,160 --> 00:52:33,960
Speaker 1: she should do? Move it? Get used to it or no,

1115
00:52:34,440 --> 00:52:36,680
Speaker 1: never get used to it. Never, you never get used

1116
00:52:36,680 --> 00:52:39,040
Speaker 1: to it. We do have a second update for everyone

1117
00:52:39,080 --> 00:52:41,640
Speaker 1: asking for an update. The sub only allows one update

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00:52:41,680 --> 00:52:44,520
Speaker 1: per post, so I'm hoping this edit is seen. I

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00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:46,960
Speaker 1: am very pleased to announce that the peloton is now

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Speaker 1: in the guest post.

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Speaker 7: I'm happy to guess yeah, yeah, that guests could be

1122
00:52:54,520 --> 00:52:58,280
Speaker 7: so excited to do a little workout totally like you're like, hey, girl,

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00:52:58,560 --> 00:53:03,160
Speaker 7: thanks for coming over and staying does Yeah, that's.

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Speaker 1: Ready for you. I am even happier to add that

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00:53:07,040 --> 00:53:12,960
Speaker 1: I was not the one that put it there. Okay.

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00:53:13,440 --> 00:53:15,480
Speaker 1: I brought it up again to my husband and after

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00:53:15,520 --> 00:53:19,960
Speaker 1: a minor protest, he moved it immediately. Oh oh by

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00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:22,400
Speaker 1: you and me putting down a bottle of light of

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00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:26,719
Speaker 1: fluid in a matche He said, you said done. He's

1130
00:53:27,719 --> 00:53:33,719
Speaker 1: minor protests, yes, but she said, yeah, I'll do it.

1131
00:53:34,120 --> 00:53:38,319
Speaker 1: It starts pouring, I'll do it, just kidding. That was

1132
00:53:38,400 --> 00:53:41,280
Speaker 1: actually just water. And he's like, he smells like gasoline.

1133
00:53:41,320 --> 00:53:44,080
Speaker 1: She's like, it's just what's not don't worry. By the way,

1134
00:53:44,120 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 1: we have to replace our carpets water. I will add

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00:53:48,920 --> 00:53:50,799
Speaker 1: a new plant in the spot where it's at to

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00:53:50,840 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 1: commemorate to the feet and all those who supported this

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00:53:55,840 --> 00:54:00,080
Speaker 1: yay plan suggestions are welcome. This is for you. And

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Speaker 1: that is the end of that story. I freaking love that.

1139
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:05,120
Speaker 7: I love it too, and says name it the pink

1140
00:54:05,160 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 7: Pony peloton I telton, Yeah, we can pay.

1141
00:54:08,200 --> 00:54:11,799
Speaker 1: It's a great idea. And making it glitter on it,

1142
00:54:13,360 --> 00:54:16,640
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, dream get you get glitter on you

1143
00:54:16,680 --> 00:54:19,719
Speaker 1: every time you work out. Yeah, and that's the end

1144
00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:23,080
Speaker 1: of this story. We're going on to the next one. Hey,

1145
00:54:23,239 --> 00:54:26,200
Speaker 1: it's Carly, your favorite Axelattel host.

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00:54:26,320 --> 00:54:26,480
Speaker 2: Here.

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00:54:26,680 --> 00:54:28,840
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00:54:28,880 --> 00:54:30,719
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1149
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Speaker 7: My fiance's coworker tried to wear white to our wedding.

1150
00:54:35,920 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 1: Too bad, I'm unbothered. Get a bridesmaid glass of red wine. Whoops,

1151
00:54:40,719 --> 00:54:42,280
Speaker 1: this is petty and stupid.

1152
00:54:42,440 --> 00:54:44,240
Speaker 7: I would have liked to think I'm a bigger person

1153
00:54:44,320 --> 00:54:46,520
Speaker 7: than this, but it seems it's not the cake. I

1154
00:54:46,800 --> 00:54:50,240
Speaker 7: early thirties female am marrying my fiance this week. Early

1155
00:54:50,280 --> 00:54:54,759
Speaker 7: thirties male. He's the most wonderful and amazing person in

1156
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:59,160
Speaker 7: the universe, but he's also extremely oblivious, socially awkward pause

1157
00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:03,200
Speaker 7: probably on the autism spectrum. Boy just cannot pick a hint.

1158
00:55:03,440 --> 00:55:05,400
Speaker 7: By the way, this comes from someone And if you

1159
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:06,800
Speaker 7: want to spend your own stories, go to the r

1160
00:55:06,840 --> 00:55:11,120
Speaker 7: slash Okay storytime severed it. I'm Sophia, I'm Carly. We're

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00:55:11,160 --> 00:55:13,560
Speaker 7: here to give good advice coofully, but we don't have

1162
00:55:13,640 --> 00:55:15,480
Speaker 7: all the answers. We only know what we'd do, So

1163
00:55:15,520 --> 00:55:17,000
Speaker 7: let us know what you would do in the comments

1164
00:55:17,360 --> 00:55:20,560
Speaker 7: and no PI says. My fiance works with a relatively

1165
00:55:20,640 --> 00:55:23,640
Speaker 7: small group of people and they get along great. They

1166
00:55:23,719 --> 00:55:26,799
Speaker 7: usually go for after office drinks one Friday a month.

1167
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:29,839
Speaker 7: Since we moved across the country a couple of years ago,

1168
00:55:30,160 --> 00:55:32,920
Speaker 7: we haven't made a lot of new friends. So basically,

1169
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:36,400
Speaker 7: these coworkers are currently my fiance's closest group of friends.

1170
00:55:36,760 --> 00:55:39,040
Speaker 7: There's one girl in this group, let's call her Daisy

1171
00:55:39,400 --> 00:55:43,920
Speaker 7: late thirties who has an evident, massive crush on my fiance.

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00:55:44,640 --> 00:55:47,040
Speaker 7: I must say I don't blame her. My fiance is

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00:55:47,080 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 7: in tech and makes good money, wicked, wicked, smile, nice, funny, interesting, and.

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00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:01,600
Speaker 1: We switched to long eyes. I couldn't.

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00:56:01,600 --> 00:56:04,200
Speaker 7: I couldn't figure out how to sustain Boston. I've been

1176
00:56:04,239 --> 00:56:06,359
Speaker 7: part of a few of their get togethers, and this

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00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:09,280
Speaker 7: woman acts like a teen girl with him. She giggles

1178
00:56:09,320 --> 00:56:13,680
Speaker 7: and literally twirls her hair whenever she laughs. She puts

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00:56:13,680 --> 00:56:17,719
Speaker 7: her hand on his arm once even his knee. When

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00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:20,480
Speaker 7: I pointed it out, he said he hadn't realized, then

1181
00:56:20,560 --> 00:56:23,719
Speaker 7: made a face like gross and said he'd make sure

1182
00:56:23,760 --> 00:56:26,800
Speaker 7: to sit away from her before anyone does the rereddit thing. No,

1183
00:56:27,040 --> 00:56:29,880
Speaker 7: he's not cheating on me or into her, or secretly

1184
00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:30,520
Speaker 7: encouraging it.

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00:56:31,040 --> 00:56:33,360
Speaker 1: We both work from home. We spend all day together

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00:56:33,440 --> 00:56:35,560
Speaker 1: every day. I have full.

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00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:38,440
Speaker 7: Access to his phone and accounts, and I'm friends with

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00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:41,000
Speaker 7: some of the other people who join those months after

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00:56:41,080 --> 00:56:44,760
Speaker 7: office drinks. They never met without several other people joining,

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00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:48,480
Speaker 7: et cetera. My fiance is also extremely loyal. He doesn't

1191
00:56:48,480 --> 00:56:51,920
Speaker 7: do the typical things like following random women on Instagram.

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00:56:52,160 --> 00:56:55,799
Speaker 7: He always is talking about me. Doesn't like attention or

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00:56:55,800 --> 00:56:59,359
Speaker 7: strangers touching him. I actually saw him lean away when

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00:56:59,360 --> 00:57:02,840
Speaker 7: she sat next to him, and straight up pushed away

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00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:05,520
Speaker 7: or moved away when she touched his knee.

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Speaker 1: Additionally, he adores me.

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Speaker 7: I even feel silly having to justify his loyalty, but

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Speaker 7: I know how red it is. This man bakes me

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Speaker 7: cookies and brushes my hair when I'm sad he's a seat.

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Speaker 7: Our wedding is very soon.

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Speaker 1: It'll be a small intimate thing, only thirty five people

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Speaker 1: or so.

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Speaker 4: Dang.

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Speaker 7: We have a flu gluten intolerant guests, including Daisy, so

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00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:31,080
Speaker 7: we're doing a cake for everyone in special gluten free

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00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 7: cupcakes for these guests. We found a very nice boutique

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00:57:34,080 --> 00:57:37,360
Speaker 7: bakery that makes super tasty and safe gluten free cupcakes,

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00:57:37,880 --> 00:57:41,040
Speaker 7: literally the best in the province. One of my gluten

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00:57:41,040 --> 00:57:44,720
Speaker 7: intolerant friends said, one of our guests has proper selacs

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00:57:44,800 --> 00:57:46,840
Speaker 7: and she needs it to be like one molecule and

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00:57:46,840 --> 00:57:49,120
Speaker 7: I end up in the hospital levels of safe. So

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Speaker 7: we're getting all cupcakes for our gluten free guests there.

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00:57:52,560 --> 00:57:55,920
Speaker 7: This place, however, only has two cupcake flavors, chocolate or caramel.

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Speaker 1: We asked each.

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Speaker 7: Guest which flavor they prefer, and they all said chocolate,

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00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:04,160
Speaker 7: except for Daisy, who asked for caramel. She doesn't like

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00:58:04,360 --> 00:58:07,440
Speaker 7: chocolate and never eats it. I know she's not allergic

1218
00:58:07,560 --> 00:58:09,640
Speaker 7: or intolerant. I checked and got a list of all

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00:58:09,680 --> 00:58:12,160
Speaker 7: our aalogies. When we confirmed her meal for our joint

1220
00:58:12,200 --> 00:58:15,480
Speaker 7: bachelor and bachelorette party, I was about to place the

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00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:18,480
Speaker 7: order when I received a text. Long story short, I

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00:58:18,480 --> 00:58:20,960
Speaker 7: found out that Daisy was planning on wearing white to

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Speaker 7: the wedding and her plus one friend, another girl, was

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00:58:25,360 --> 00:58:28,400
Speaker 7: gonna wear beige. I went to tell my fiance and

1225
00:58:28,480 --> 00:58:31,920
Speaker 7: he said, what an effing butt hat, and nipped that

1226
00:58:31,960 --> 00:58:34,320
Speaker 7: in the butt immediately. You straight up told them it

1227
00:58:34,400 --> 00:58:39,000
Speaker 7: was super rude in that if they showed up wearing white, beige, cream, ivory, bone,

1228
00:58:39,120 --> 00:58:42,720
Speaker 7: super light pastels, very light gray, or any other complicated

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00:58:42,720 --> 00:58:44,840
Speaker 7: way of saying white, they would not be let in

1230
00:58:45,280 --> 00:58:46,920
Speaker 7: prost your husband or fiance.

1231
00:58:47,320 --> 00:58:50,080
Speaker 1: Daisy complained that it was just a white blouse.

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00:58:50,160 --> 00:58:52,800
Speaker 7: I'll wear peach pants, and he told her, no white

1233
00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:56,200
Speaker 7: at all of any shade anywhere. You're being rude to

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00:58:56,240 --> 00:58:58,920
Speaker 7: even consider it. The dress code is wear whatever you

1235
00:58:58,960 --> 00:59:01,840
Speaker 7: want except white. You can show up in flip flops

1236
00:59:01,840 --> 00:59:03,440
Speaker 7: if you want. Why would you want to wear the

1237
00:59:03,480 --> 00:59:05,440
Speaker 7: one thing that's not allowed?

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Speaker 1: Because she wants to show up and say, oh my god,

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00:59:08,360 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 1: I thought this was my wedding. What you sure you're

1240
00:59:11,640 --> 00:59:14,520
Speaker 1: not having second thoughts? O pee, I'm ready to step in.

1241
00:59:14,680 --> 00:59:18,560
Speaker 7: I object, She powered and said her plus fun was

1242
00:59:18,640 --> 00:59:20,800
Speaker 7: sad because she only looks good in light beige.

1243
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:23,440
Speaker 1: All right, I'm sorry. If you only look good and

1244
00:59:23,600 --> 00:59:26,640
Speaker 1: light bage, problems going.

1245
00:59:30,600 --> 00:59:33,400
Speaker 7: He considered uninviting her, but I told him not to

1246
00:59:33,480 --> 00:59:35,960
Speaker 7: do it. Why we'll just get her out of there.

1247
00:59:36,680 --> 00:59:38,920
Speaker 7: Of the thirty five people, do we really want the

1248
00:59:38,920 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 7: girl that flirts with your husband.

1249
00:59:40,400 --> 00:59:43,560
Speaker 1: You're a little too unbothered or it could.

1250
00:59:43,400 --> 00:59:46,000
Speaker 7: Cause drama with the With the rest of the friend group,

1251
00:59:46,200 --> 00:59:47,920
Speaker 7: We'll make sure the guard of the gate won't let

1252
00:59:47,920 --> 00:59:50,400
Speaker 7: her in if she's wearing anything too light. And my

1253
00:59:50,480 --> 00:59:52,439
Speaker 7: friends all volunteered to shower her.

1254
00:59:52,360 --> 00:59:55,920
Speaker 1: In red wine into what I say.

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Speaker 7: I'm also over all a very chill person. If she

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00:59:58,800 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 7: actually showed up wearing white, I'd laugh my butt off.

1257
01:00:01,520 --> 01:00:04,520
Speaker 7: She'd be shaming herself in public. Anyways, I went back

1258
01:00:04,560 --> 01:00:07,360
Speaker 7: to placing the cupcake. Order and just asked for all

1259
01:00:07,840 --> 01:00:13,240
Speaker 7: chocolate cupcakes. Take that, lady, I guess it just slipped

1260
01:00:13,280 --> 01:00:15,000
Speaker 7: my mind to order a caramel one.

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Speaker 1: Oops ooops.

1262
01:00:16,760 --> 01:00:20,280
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, oops oops with us Ah, well, who doesn't

1263
01:00:20,320 --> 01:00:23,000
Speaker 7: love chocolate anyway?

1264
01:00:23,080 --> 01:00:23,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, Riley.

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01:00:23,920 --> 01:00:26,120
Speaker 7: A couple of my other friends too op on Daisy

1266
01:00:26,160 --> 01:00:28,480
Speaker 7: being a distraction from her special day.

1267
01:00:28,680 --> 01:00:30,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm fully calm regarding that.

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01:00:30,920 --> 01:00:33,080
Speaker 7: The nicest thing about micro weddings is that you know

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01:00:33,200 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 7: almost everyone there is ready to unlive or pass away

1270
01:00:36,000 --> 01:00:38,480
Speaker 7: for you. Like other than this specific group of friends

1271
01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:41,000
Speaker 7: for my fiance, the other friends that are having to

1272
01:00:41,040 --> 01:00:43,960
Speaker 7: fly in from across the country have been our friends

1273
01:00:43,960 --> 01:00:47,280
Speaker 7: for an average of twenty plus years. If Daisy tries

1274
01:00:47,320 --> 01:00:49,800
Speaker 7: some crap, I fully believe someone will pick her up

1275
01:00:49,800 --> 01:00:51,120
Speaker 7: by the scruff and punt.

1276
01:00:50,840 --> 01:00:51,520
Speaker 1: Her to the curb.

1277
01:00:52,200 --> 01:00:55,240
Speaker 7: As for setting firmer boundaries, I fully trust my fiance.

1278
01:00:55,800 --> 01:00:58,560
Speaker 7: He doesn't reply to her text or anything, just communicates

1279
01:00:58,560 --> 01:01:00,760
Speaker 7: with her in a group setting. I actually want to

1280
01:01:00,800 --> 01:01:02,800
Speaker 7: kind of see her try and get destroyed.

1281
01:01:02,880 --> 01:01:03,360
Speaker 1: Alameo.

1282
01:01:03,600 --> 01:01:06,760
Speaker 7: My fiance has no chill when someone really crosses the line.

1283
01:01:07,240 --> 01:01:11,280
Speaker 7: He's a big Viking looking metalhead. He's scary when he's mad. Elameo,

1284
01:01:11,960 --> 01:01:14,680
Speaker 7: and there is an update, folks, to the point. Our

1285
01:01:14,720 --> 01:01:17,720
Speaker 7: wedding day was indeed the best of my life. I'm

1286
01:01:17,800 --> 01:01:21,160
Speaker 7: so excited to be a wife to my wonderful, question

1287
01:01:21,320 --> 01:01:24,320
Speaker 7: mark husband and start this new stage together. I know

1288
01:01:24,440 --> 01:01:26,920
Speaker 7: y'all didn't come here to hear me gush about friends

1289
01:01:26,920 --> 01:01:30,240
Speaker 7: and family being brought together to celebrate her love, or

1290
01:01:30,280 --> 01:01:33,160
Speaker 7: the adoration in my groom's eyes when he saw me

1291
01:01:33,280 --> 01:01:36,400
Speaker 7: walking down the aisle, or the funny anecdotes I'll get

1292
01:01:36,400 --> 01:01:38,439
Speaker 7: to the I'll get to that closer to the end.

1293
01:01:38,720 --> 01:01:41,720
Speaker 7: Y'all are here for drama.

1294
01:01:42,320 --> 01:01:44,640
Speaker 1: Sadly, I have no drama to report.

1295
01:01:45,200 --> 01:01:49,480
Speaker 7: Never mind Daisy and her beige loving plus one dressed

1296
01:01:49,520 --> 01:01:54,200
Speaker 7: perfectly appropriately in blue are wedding themes color. Daisy actually

1297
01:01:54,280 --> 01:01:57,280
Speaker 7: even made an amazing ig real that's the only piece

1298
01:01:57,280 --> 01:02:00,320
Speaker 7: of footage that managed to capture my husband's face when

1299
01:02:00,320 --> 01:02:03,560
Speaker 7: he saw me come in, my big, beautiful Viking, suddenly

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Speaker 7: holding back tears and staring right at me like nothing else.

1301
01:02:06,440 --> 01:02:08,680
Speaker 1: With the universe existed. I thought I'd have.

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01:02:08,680 --> 01:02:11,160
Speaker 7: To only rely on my memory of that face forever,

1303
01:02:11,400 --> 01:02:13,400
Speaker 7: But what do you know, Now I can catch a

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01:02:13,440 --> 01:02:15,280
Speaker 7: quick glimpse of it whenever I want.

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01:02:15,280 --> 01:02:17,480
Speaker 1: For the rest of my life. Yeah, you can.

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01:02:17,960 --> 01:02:20,080
Speaker 7: So thank you, Daisy for having such a crush on

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Speaker 7: my husband that you recorded exactly what I would have

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01:02:22,880 --> 01:02:24,720
Speaker 7: recorded myself if i'd been able.

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Speaker 2: Wait.

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01:02:25,240 --> 01:02:27,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, I totally didn't think about the fact that she

1311
01:02:27,360 --> 01:02:31,320
Speaker 1: was recording the husband because she's in love. I forgot

1312
01:02:31,360 --> 01:02:35,320
Speaker 1: about that, and just in that moment all his love

1313
01:02:35,400 --> 01:02:36,280
Speaker 1: for you. Yeah, for.

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Speaker 7: You truly have impeccable taste in men. Here's the part

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01:02:41,120 --> 01:02:45,240
Speaker 7: that'll disappoint you the most. Regarding the cupcakes, my dad

1316
01:02:45,360 --> 01:02:47,320
Speaker 7: was in charge of bringing stuff to the venue the

1317
01:02:47,320 --> 01:02:50,080
Speaker 7: morning of and he forgot to tell the staff what

1318
01:02:50,240 --> 01:02:52,560
Speaker 7: was in the bag. The cupcakes sat and the heat

1319
01:02:52,600 --> 01:02:54,920
Speaker 7: outside the fridge for five hours.

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01:02:55,400 --> 01:02:58,920
Speaker 1: Raw we ended up having to trash them. That's a

1321
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:00,000
Speaker 1: good use of thirty bucks.

1322
01:03:00,400 --> 01:03:03,560
Speaker 7: But luckily for our gluten intolerant guests, they had passion

1323
01:03:03,640 --> 01:03:07,760
Speaker 7: fruit parfes available, which were praised to a high heavens,

1324
01:03:08,240 --> 01:03:11,040
Speaker 7: So Daisy got some amazing dessert in the end, though

1325
01:03:11,040 --> 01:03:12,640
Speaker 7: her seat was still pretty terrible.

1326
01:03:12,640 --> 01:03:14,680
Speaker 1: If that makes you feel better, truth be.

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01:03:14,640 --> 01:03:17,200
Speaker 7: Told, I don't mind. That's what I get for attempting

1328
01:03:17,240 --> 01:03:21,320
Speaker 7: to get revenge. Daisy continued, to be her socially unaware self.

1329
01:03:21,880 --> 01:03:24,240
Speaker 7: Maybe it's because I was in good spirits, but I

1330
01:03:24,280 --> 01:03:27,400
Speaker 7: don't mind at all. She got too close front and

1331
01:03:27,480 --> 01:03:30,080
Speaker 7: center for the group picks, literally leaning over my dad

1332
01:03:30,080 --> 01:03:32,640
Speaker 7: in one of them, lol, made comments about how very

1333
01:03:32,680 --> 01:03:35,200
Speaker 7: single she was all night long, and at one point

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01:03:35,280 --> 01:03:35,600
Speaker 7: joke to.

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01:03:35,600 --> 01:03:37,880
Speaker 1: Please toss the bouquet bouquet.

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01:03:37,440 --> 01:03:40,920
Speaker 7: Her way, same as many other girls attending did. She

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01:03:41,000 --> 01:03:42,680
Speaker 7: didn't get to catch it though. We were having that

1338
01:03:42,760 --> 01:03:45,640
Speaker 7: part of our wedding at a craft brewery, very large place,

1339
01:03:45,800 --> 01:03:48,760
Speaker 7: capacity for some five hundred people, and there must have

1340
01:03:48,800 --> 01:03:51,240
Speaker 7: been about two hundred and fifty in that night. It was,

1341
01:03:51,360 --> 01:03:54,720
Speaker 7: after all, a Thursday. I know who gets married on

1342
01:03:54,760 --> 01:03:59,040
Speaker 7: a Thursday. People who saved tens of thousands in one decision,

1343
01:03:59,280 --> 01:03:59,880
Speaker 7: that's who.

1344
01:04:00,320 --> 01:04:01,400
Speaker 1: Smart. Smart room.

1345
01:04:01,720 --> 01:04:04,360
Speaker 7: We had the back patio reserve for a private party,

1346
01:04:04,480 --> 01:04:06,320
Speaker 7: and when we came in, they rang a bell and

1347
01:04:06,360 --> 01:04:08,760
Speaker 7: all the strangers there were clapping and hollering for us

1348
01:04:08,800 --> 01:04:11,160
Speaker 7: as we walked through. So at the end when I

1349
01:04:11,240 --> 01:04:14,240
Speaker 7: went to toss the bouquet, we ran back all across

1350
01:04:14,280 --> 01:04:17,800
Speaker 7: the brewery again telling all single women they were invited

1351
01:04:17,840 --> 01:04:20,320
Speaker 7: to come to the toss. I thought maybe a couple

1352
01:04:20,320 --> 01:04:23,000
Speaker 7: would join up. What do you know, there were no

1353
01:04:23,160 --> 01:04:26,240
Speaker 7: less than one hundred people suddenly in for the bouquet toss.

1354
01:04:26,600 --> 01:04:29,320
Speaker 7: A random girl caught it. We took pictures together. It

1355
01:04:29,320 --> 01:04:32,200
Speaker 7: was a lot of fun. Some more details about the wedding.

1356
01:04:32,480 --> 01:04:35,600
Speaker 7: Lunch was great. Everyone got to eat whatever they wanted.

1357
01:04:35,600 --> 01:04:38,000
Speaker 7: Since the restaurant let us order a la carte, we

1358
01:04:38,080 --> 01:04:41,760
Speaker 7: got to toast. The cake was refrigerated, thank god, and

1359
01:04:41,840 --> 01:04:45,440
Speaker 7: it tasted great. It's in my freezer right now. I'm

1360
01:04:45,480 --> 01:04:49,440
Speaker 7: getting a slice after typing this. Consequences be damned. The favors,

1361
01:04:49,440 --> 01:04:52,800
Speaker 7: surprisingly were the best part of the wedding. Everyone was

1362
01:04:52,880 --> 01:04:57,240
Speaker 7: so excited about them. They were celestial planispheres. The paper

1363
01:04:57,280 --> 01:05:00,920
Speaker 7: flowers were handmade. We handmade with my husband for the

1364
01:05:00,960 --> 01:05:04,000
Speaker 7: centerpieces were also very popular, and the guest took them

1365
01:05:04,000 --> 01:05:06,840
Speaker 7: all home. Then that night we got a terrast suite

1366
01:05:06,880 --> 01:05:09,160
Speaker 7: at an amazing hotel with a gorgeous view of the

1367
01:05:09,160 --> 01:05:12,280
Speaker 7: city and a hut u. It would have been very

1368
01:05:12,400 --> 01:05:14,840
Speaker 7: romantic to spend all the night on the terrace.

1369
01:05:14,600 --> 01:05:18,400
Speaker 1: Seeing the city lights, making love in the hot ub.

1370
01:05:18,960 --> 01:05:23,320
Speaker 1: You can get diseases doing that. We'll read the next sentence.

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01:05:23,640 --> 01:05:26,000
Speaker 7: Except I caught stomach flew a couple of days before

1372
01:05:26,080 --> 01:05:26,480
Speaker 7: the wedding.

1373
01:05:26,600 --> 01:05:28,720
Speaker 1: Oh still kick. I thought that was gonna be like

1374
01:05:28,720 --> 01:05:30,320
Speaker 1: except we started throwing up on him.

1375
01:05:30,280 --> 01:05:33,600
Speaker 7: Right then and there get like UTI's or something. Thankfully,

1376
01:05:33,680 --> 01:05:36,840
Speaker 7: nothing terribly urgent. I'll go to the hospital tonight. I'm

1377
01:05:36,880 --> 01:05:39,840
Speaker 7: much better now. Didn't hamper my enjoyment of the day.

1378
01:05:40,240 --> 01:05:43,920
Speaker 7: Absolutely everything was perfect. Also didn't hamper our ability to

1379
01:05:43,960 --> 01:05:47,800
Speaker 7: consummate the marriage with a quickie. Okay, that's how you

1380
01:05:47,840 --> 01:05:52,520
Speaker 7: know it's real love. Slept soundly that night. Also making

1381
01:05:52,600 --> 01:05:55,280
Speaker 7: use of this update to answer some ethic You one,

1382
01:05:55,440 --> 01:05:58,200
Speaker 7: why would you ever invite Daisy? Sounds like neither one

1383
01:05:58,200 --> 01:06:02,200
Speaker 7: of you likes her, and Opi Alrei said, But, as

1384
01:06:02,200 --> 01:06:06,120
Speaker 7: I explained, my husband is very shy, introverted, and has a.

1385
01:06:06,240 --> 01:06:07,800
Speaker 1: Hard time making friends.

1386
01:06:08,240 --> 01:06:10,960
Speaker 7: Since we moved here, he lost contact with almost all

1387
01:06:11,040 --> 01:06:14,120
Speaker 7: his friends from our hometown. This group is all the

1388
01:06:14,160 --> 01:06:17,280
Speaker 7: team members of his department at work. Singling out just

1389
01:06:17,400 --> 01:06:21,520
Speaker 7: Daisy would have invited gossip, drama and people taking sides.

1390
01:06:21,880 --> 01:06:24,880
Speaker 7: There was no outright good reason not to invite Daisy.

1391
01:06:25,280 --> 01:06:27,800
Speaker 7: She technically didn't do anything wrong. I could name a

1392
01:06:27,840 --> 01:06:30,760
Speaker 7: couple of things I could name maybe a few. Why

1393
01:06:30,800 --> 01:06:33,720
Speaker 7: would I make myself look like a crazy, jealous witch

1394
01:06:34,200 --> 01:06:37,480
Speaker 7: and jeopardize my husband's new friend group, making it awkward

1395
01:06:37,520 --> 01:06:41,040
Speaker 7: for everyone and not insecure in my relationship. I didn't

1396
01:06:41,080 --> 01:06:44,800
Speaker 7: need Daisy uninvited. And yes, my husband offered to uninvite her,

1397
01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:47,760
Speaker 7: but only because he thought I'd want her uninvited for

1398
01:06:47,840 --> 01:06:50,640
Speaker 7: asking if she could wear white. He did so because

1399
01:06:50,680 --> 01:06:53,280
Speaker 7: he's a good partner who prioritizes my feelings over the

1400
01:06:53,320 --> 01:06:55,640
Speaker 7: potential consequences that drama would have brought.

1401
01:06:56,040 --> 01:06:56,240
Speaker 1: Two.

1402
01:06:56,520 --> 01:07:00,240
Speaker 7: Okay, bo I give her a plus one. Everyone got one.

1403
01:07:00,520 --> 01:07:03,160
Speaker 7: We're not Americans, so the typical rules don't apply to

1404
01:07:03,200 --> 01:07:05,600
Speaker 7: plus once. But also we had a weird wedding in

1405
01:07:05,600 --> 01:07:07,640
Speaker 7: the sense that it was more like a courthouse wedding

1406
01:07:07,640 --> 01:07:09,680
Speaker 7: and then a restaurant for lunch and a bar at night.

1407
01:07:10,120 --> 01:07:12,760
Speaker 7: We're using a government program that opens a courthouse and

1408
01:07:12,800 --> 01:07:15,880
Speaker 7: a beautiful landmark in the city think park, museum, theater,

1409
01:07:16,600 --> 01:07:18,640
Speaker 7: So we asked for no gifts and for people to

1410
01:07:18,680 --> 01:07:22,000
Speaker 7: pay for their own food instead. As a cash registry

1411
01:07:22,000 --> 01:07:25,240
Speaker 7: of sorts. The plus ones didn't cost us anything. The

1412
01:07:25,280 --> 01:07:28,320
Speaker 7: restaurant we used also was operating like a normal restaurant,

1413
01:07:28,640 --> 01:07:31,280
Speaker 7: so we didn't pay ahead of time. Everyone ordered what

1414
01:07:31,320 --> 01:07:32,520
Speaker 7: they wanted on the spot.

1415
01:07:32,920 --> 01:07:33,400
Speaker 1: Three.

1416
01:07:33,760 --> 01:07:36,400
Speaker 7: You said your fiance and you work from home, but

1417
01:07:36,400 --> 01:07:38,840
Speaker 7: that he goes for after office drinks once a month.

1418
01:07:39,160 --> 01:07:39,920
Speaker 1: What gives.

1419
01:07:41,120 --> 01:07:45,240
Speaker 7: As with pretty much every large, locally based, mostly remote company,

1420
01:07:45,520 --> 01:07:48,919
Speaker 7: there's an optional office space in town. They work there

1421
01:07:48,960 --> 01:07:51,120
Speaker 7: for one Friday month and then go for drinks to

1422
01:07:51,160 --> 01:07:53,800
Speaker 7: an airby bar. You can also call them after office

1423
01:07:53,880 --> 01:07:55,160
Speaker 7: drinks if you work from home.

1424
01:07:55,200 --> 01:08:00,680
Speaker 1: You know, I get the drama thing. This was a

1425
01:08:00,760 --> 01:08:01,360
Speaker 1: hitdled love.

1426
01:08:01,560 --> 01:08:03,440
Speaker 7: If he jerks away he knows she's touching him, that

1427
01:08:03,480 --> 01:08:07,280
Speaker 7: means he secretly wants to ever tell what This is

1428
01:08:07,320 --> 01:08:11,200
Speaker 7: the stupidest one yet. Yes, he knows he got touched,

1429
01:08:11,680 --> 01:08:14,040
Speaker 7: but didn't know what it implied until I mentioned it.

1430
01:08:14,200 --> 01:08:18,120
Speaker 7: Reading comprehension has really gone down the drain. Five something something.

1431
01:08:18,160 --> 01:08:20,160
Speaker 7: You're toxic and you'll get divorced and your husband should

1432
01:08:20,200 --> 01:08:23,360
Speaker 7: run and I'll laugh on your grave. Sorry, can't hear

1433
01:08:23,479 --> 01:08:27,760
Speaker 7: you over the sound of my perfect life. So yeah,

1434
01:08:28,000 --> 01:08:31,920
Speaker 7: boring update for you, Amazing update for me except for

1435
01:08:31,960 --> 01:08:32,639
Speaker 7: the stomach flu.

1436
01:08:32,760 --> 01:08:32,880
Speaker 1: Bit.

1437
01:08:33,720 --> 01:08:36,120
Speaker 7: Very happy with how everything turned out, even if my

1438
01:08:36,200 --> 01:08:40,200
Speaker 7: revenge went unexecuted. Sorry, I don't have more drama to share,

1439
01:08:40,360 --> 01:08:44,479
Speaker 7: but ah, well, the best laid plans of mice and men. Yeah.

1440
01:08:44,479 --> 01:08:47,000
Speaker 1: Oh, he's doing great, I guess. And I love that.

1441
01:08:47,160 --> 01:08:47,840
Speaker 1: I love that.

1442
01:08:48,320 --> 01:08:50,400
Speaker 7: One of my favorite weddings that I ever went to

1443
01:08:50,520 --> 01:08:55,120
Speaker 7: was my cousin's wedding. And this was like when I

1444
01:08:55,240 --> 01:08:58,760
Speaker 7: was twelve, I don't know, I was young. Uh, And

1445
01:08:59,520 --> 01:09:03,559
Speaker 7: they had a don't like a fresh hot donut machine,

1446
01:09:04,120 --> 01:09:06,120
Speaker 7: it like made little mini donuts.

1447
01:09:06,040 --> 01:09:08,760
Speaker 1: And oh my goodness, they were so good. And that's

1448
01:09:08,800 --> 01:09:09,559
Speaker 1: the end of this story.