WEBVTT - The Babies Are Changing My Body 0:00:05.080 --> 0:00:08.560 Hey, guys, Welcome, welcome, welcome. It's your girl and you're 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:12.559 listening to exactly a mada a production of my heart 0:00:12.640 --> 0:00:14.760 and I am so grateful that you guys came in 0:00:14.880 --> 0:00:17.239 to tune in and show me some love and support 0:00:17.239 --> 0:00:19.960 as usual. Um, if you're watching me on the YouTube channel, 0:00:19.960 --> 0:00:22.760 don't judge because my hair looks like a beehived You're okay. 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:26.119 I am a working mama and I couldnot not sit 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:28.320 over here and do this podcast and talk to you 0:00:28.320 --> 0:00:31.240 guys about today's topic. But before I get into it, 0:00:31.440 --> 0:00:34.760 I want to remind you guys to subscribe, subscribe, rate, 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:38.880 and share this podcast. Okay, do that with your friends, family, 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:41.599 with whoever you may know. 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But I 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:04.400 did this for you, so toesday, I want to talk 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:09.040 to all the moms I want to talk to you. 0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:11.560 Just know a lot of you guys are over me 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:14.160 talking about my pregnancy, and I'm always talking about being 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:16.800 pregnant and like my baby this, and my baby that 0:01:16.840 --> 0:01:19.440 and this and that. But this is like something that happens, like, 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:21.600 you know, not once in a blue because you can 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:24.920 make this happen many times. Trust me, it's not that difficult. 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:27.920 But this is my first time, and I want to 0:01:27.920 --> 0:01:30.600 share my journey with you guys. So I want to 0:01:30.600 --> 0:01:32.520 talk to you about every single thing that has been 0:01:32.560 --> 0:01:37.200 happening during my pregnancy. And part of that is the 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:41.679 fact that my babies are changing my body. My babies 0:01:41.720 --> 0:01:43.800 are changing my body, and this is something that I 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:47.440 wasn't necessarily prepared for because I've always had like a 0:01:47.560 --> 0:01:51.720 body image, you know issues. For those have heard my 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:54.640 podcast before, I was honest and open and I said 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:56.560 that at one point in life, I was bulimic. I 0:01:56.640 --> 0:02:00.720 used to eat, bench eat and throw everything up, um, 0:02:00.760 --> 0:02:03.640 you know. And I've been in places where I've getting 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:05.960 a lot of weight. I was like over two thirty pounds, 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:08.560 then I lost the weight and I've been it's like 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:11.640 my body has gone through a roller coaster of like 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:15.079 being fat, being skinny, being skinny, being fat like all 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:18.360 types of things. Um. Also being in this industry, right, 0:02:18.400 --> 0:02:20.600 the entertainment industry makes you feel as if you have 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:23.640 to have this perfect body, like you have to be flawless. 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:29.040 That's why face tune and you know whatever other apps 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:32.480 is out there, you know, um, photoshop, Like you have 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:36.560 to have this perfect skin, no stretch marks, no steady lights, 0:02:36.600 --> 0:02:40.080 no dimples, no jelly rolls, no acne, no this. And 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:43.320 it's so hard, especially for women. So I've always tried 0:02:43.360 --> 0:02:46.560 to fit into somewhat society standards of beauty when it 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:50.359 comes to my physical appearance, like my body. And then 0:02:50.400 --> 0:02:52.320 I came to a point, yeah I don't mean bored 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:55.840 back whatever. Right before I got pregnant, I actually lost 0:02:55.880 --> 0:03:00.400 sixty pounds and it was such an accomplishment, like wow, porf, 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:04.560 I'm like the skinniest I've been in a very long time. 0:03:04.639 --> 0:03:08.239 And and don't said boom, right there I come and 0:03:08.280 --> 0:03:11.240 I get pregnant and then my body starts to go 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:15.520 through a different you know, body transformation. But I really 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:18.639 want to hear a male's perspective of, you know, what 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:20.400 it is to be with the woman wants her body 0:03:20.480 --> 0:03:23.000 changes um, because I feel like a lot of times 0:03:23.000 --> 0:03:25.320 guys don't want to say the truth and they try 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:27.520 to like not make women feel bad, you know, because 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:31.160 their confidence and postpartum and all those things. Because one 0:03:31.200 --> 0:03:32.919 thing is when you're with a girl and her body 0:03:33.000 --> 0:03:35.680 is banging, and next thing, you know, her stomach is 0:03:35.680 --> 0:03:37.960 full of stretch marks and it's you know, it's the 0:03:38.000 --> 0:03:40.120 skin is sagging, and you know, you can't even see 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:42.640 her throat anymore, and you know it the s a 0:03:42.800 --> 0:03:45.400 everything is weird and is jiggling. And then the boobs, 0:03:45.440 --> 0:03:47.920 you know, start to like breastfeed the belly button because 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:51.040 they get long and stretchy and it's just a lot 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:52.720 going on. But then they guys like, oh, I love 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:54.760 you look so good, and I'm like, do you really? 0:03:54.920 --> 0:03:56.800 Do you really care? Do you not? You know the 0:03:56.840 --> 0:03:58.920 same thing I talk about. I always talk about the 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:02.080 push because when you see it on the on the 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:05.600 YouTube channel, oh my god, that look so terrible art. 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:08.160 But then I wonder when the guys and the husbands 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:09.840 or whatever, they get back with their girls and they 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:12.800 go back to smashing. This is still juicy? Is it good? 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:15.119 Is that white? Is it spread? Is it loose? Tell 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:17.560 me what's happening. I don't know. I've never had a dangling. 0:04:18.120 --> 0:04:22.760 Then I also want to know from somebody else's perspective 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:26.200 that doesn't have any children at this moment eventually, right, 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:28.559 hopefully I don't. I don't know what she's looking forward 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:32.000 to in life. But are these any of her concerns me? 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:36.720 I'm already stuck in the situation I'm here. Is happening better? 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:40.040 With that being said, I want to bring in Alex 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:43.839 big Sexy? Okay? Is it big Sexy? Yeah? I can't 0:04:43.839 --> 0:04:46.520 believe you actually called me that. It's something that everyone 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:50.880 called me high school and you brought it out. That's right, Yes, 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:55.720 big sexy ladies, you already know, and we got Arlene 0:04:56.360 --> 0:05:04.640 Mrs Juicy, you already know this Juicy is here with us. Okay, 0:05:04.640 --> 0:05:06.760 Oh my god, I just gave you like a stripper name. 0:05:06.800 --> 0:05:11.400 Do you like it? Or you down my alter alter ego? 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:15.760 Your alter ego? Is this Juicy? Well? With that being said, 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:18.560 um no, the truth of the matter is, guys, you 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:20.839 know I have been going through my whole body transformation. 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:23.280 I've been trying to be you know, to accept it. 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:26.120 Um My, my tummy has been little right, and I 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:29.640 haven't had like crazy stretch marks yet. Um. I do 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:32.320 wonder how my body is gonna transform once I start 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:35.560 breastfeeding and all these other things and um, and then 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:37.600 I also think about the man. You know, what it 0:05:37.640 --> 0:05:41.120 is to go back into regular life and get back 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:43.360 into the entertainment industry, which you know that it is 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:49.560 very extremely over sexualized, and they do expect this perfect body. 0:05:49.880 --> 0:05:52.880 It's a lot of pressure. Me. I can see, Alex, 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:57.120 you that that you know that have been there, done that. 0:05:58.360 --> 0:06:01.159 Does it really bother you? You could be honest, it 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:04.360 doesn't matter. It's cool, judgment free zone. But did it 0:06:04.520 --> 0:06:07.680 bother you once your your partner, your wife at the 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:10.440 time or whatever, had her babies and you saw her 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:12.760 body change from the hot mama that you you know 0:06:12.800 --> 0:06:15.000 that you got into it and then she changed like 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:18.160 was it a thing for you? Like? Okay? Well, so 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:22.119 I'll be completely honest, And I don't speak for every 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:24.960 dude out there, but I do speak for most men 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:30.040 out there. I for one, did not see that change, 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:35.200 the bad change. I saw someone who is sacrificing her 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:39.680 entire body to give life and to bring my children 0:06:39.880 --> 0:06:43.800 into this world, right, my little spawn, and I couldn't 0:06:44.240 --> 0:06:48.640 in my head wrap around like the the the pains, 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:53.040 everything that she is doing right, like yourself to sacrifice. 0:06:53.200 --> 0:06:56.440 Is anything bad could happen? God forbid? And you know 0:06:56.720 --> 0:07:00.960 so that's for me. I saw the it. And now 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:03.120 the truth of the matter is that not all men 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:06.559 see the fact that the beauty of a woman giving 0:07:06.760 --> 0:07:10.679 you know, you're creating life. You know your body, women's 0:07:10.720 --> 0:07:12.840 body is so amazing. I feel like we should give 0:07:12.920 --> 0:07:15.040 women more credit for that. We talk about it, but 0:07:15.080 --> 0:07:20.560 don't like literally, her body is creating another human being 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:24.560 because we all come from there, right, and just the 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:30.000 process alone, the pain, the discomfort, the everything, even from 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:33.080 the from the morning sickness to the epidural if you 0:07:33.160 --> 0:07:35.720 get to that or if you have natural birth or 0:07:35.760 --> 0:07:38.280 if you get split. Look, I said, just the whole 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:40.920 process of a woman, what she goes through, and not 0:07:41.000 --> 0:07:45.600 only physically but also emotionally because you know your mental health, 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:49.440 your hormones, the old people like goals. Okay, I feel 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:54.560 that obviously men don't understand a you. There's a lot 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:57.440 of pressure for women, especially with our looks, going back 0:07:57.560 --> 0:08:00.400 having going back to having sex with your partner or 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:04.840 after your body has been through this entire change. Like 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:07.800 that's those are insecurities that that maybe women don't talk 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:10.280 about with their partners, but that's definitely there in the 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:17.880 back of their minds. You know. Something that was weird 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:21.040 for me too, having sex well pregnant. I chid it 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:22.920 with the father and my kids because I don't have 0:08:22.920 --> 0:08:25.400 to give details to y'all, but you know, with the 0:08:25.440 --> 0:08:27.920 father of my kid, I was like, look, I this 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:31.320 is you know, my children's you know, like this is 0:08:31.400 --> 0:08:34.560 your home. I'm not just gonna have any random you 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:37.360 know whatever coming here and just you know, savvy with it. 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:40.560 But um, if we do do it, all right, let's 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:44.840 try it. But I felt so weird to be like, okay, 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:47.720 let's have sex. And I felt like my stomach was 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:50.320 moving and I just one, it's two, so like my 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:53.760 whole stomach was just like a whole bunch of aliens, 0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:56.520 just like moving in the stomach while I'm getting you know, 0:08:56.920 --> 0:08:59.400 jabbed with it. And I just felt weird, Like I 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:04.520 didn't feel sexy. I felt uncomfortable. I felt horny, right, 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:06.760 because I think it's normal to say your your body 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:11.520 wants it, but like you got to find these awkward, like, 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:13.520 you know, do the side one like the lazy one. 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:16.720 We just lay there one leg. It's important that you also, 0:09:16.920 --> 0:09:22.120 you know, it also helps later on with having your kids. Yeah, 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:24.280 I heard that it's actually very healthy for you to 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:28.760 physically be active in that aspect. It does, it does 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:32.440 affect at least for me. I'm sure there's women can 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:34.840 only bolt and they feel sexy, but at least for 0:09:34.880 --> 0:09:36.640 me with my partner at that time, and make me 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:40.680 feel a little bit uncomfortable to be pregnant because I 0:09:40.760 --> 0:09:43.400 just didn't feel as attractive. Yeah, you want to feel 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:45.960 sexy when you're like trying to have that time with 0:09:46.000 --> 0:09:47.800 your partner, and then all of a sudden, now you 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:51.679 have this whole other part. It's growing, and it's it's 0:09:51.720 --> 0:09:54.720 now like a part you have to maneuver past this, 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:57.800 but belly for yeah, for sure. Yeah, yeah, so that's 0:09:57.840 --> 0:09:59.959 definitely one of those things. And I'm sure that there's 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:03.520 also a transformation once you have the kids of going 0:10:03.559 --> 0:10:06.640 back into trying to find yourself and feel sexy again, 0:10:06.960 --> 0:10:10.800 feel attractive again, because obviously it takes some time. You know, 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:12.600 it took almost a whole year for you to create 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:14.960 this whole human being, but now it's gonna take some 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:17.160 time for your body to you know, go back to 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:18.960 how it used to be a lot of times, it 0:10:19.040 --> 0:10:21.160 shall never go back to how it used to be. 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:24.000 I feel that there's like a before and after. Even 0:10:24.080 --> 0:10:28.960 if you work out your body, your body has changed, right. Um. 0:10:29.000 --> 0:10:31.360 And something that I was talking about before Big Sexy 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:40.520 is that oh um, and I was like, okay, be 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:44.160 honest too. When you go back into having how was 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:48.000 the difference in between having uh sex went with your 0:10:48.040 --> 0:10:51.439 partner when they're pregnant and then after, you know, after 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:55.000 they have their children. Do you feel or see a difference? 0:10:55.000 --> 0:10:59.280 So I don't, Well, when you're they're pregnant, obviously, yes, 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:02.439 right because it's it's um to quote one of your lines, 0:11:02.520 --> 0:11:05.920 it's juicier when they're pregnant, right, so yes, and it's 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:11.120 tight and everything because of blood pressure right now, Okay, alright, 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:14.559 teach me big So basically, yeah, oh god, I'm never 0:11:14.559 --> 0:11:19.320 gonna live this down. Um. So basically, yes, there's a difference, 0:11:19.840 --> 0:11:23.439 but the after is not a negative difference. The after 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:25.440 And you've got to remember, a woman's body has to 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:27.959 get back to normal, you you know, you just let 0:11:28.000 --> 0:11:29.640 and and I'm not talking about the normal like a 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:32.839 Mota would say of the push, I'm talking about the 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:36.079 normal of like you know, um, it's it's like going 0:11:36.120 --> 0:11:38.120 through surgery, right, so you have to make sure the 0:11:38.160 --> 0:11:40.680 body and it takes one like six weeks, yes, six 0:11:40.679 --> 0:11:42.640 to like twelve weeks before your body kind of just 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:45.760 starts feeling normal again and then you start working out 0:11:45.800 --> 0:11:48.880 and stuff like that. But in my experience, it got 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:53.240 better afterwards, it really did. Yeah, and I've had you know, 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:57.520 I never thought in my head, like you know, this 0:11:57.559 --> 0:12:00.440 feels this feels different. Oh, I don't feel feel more 0:12:00.440 --> 0:12:03.000 aroused or I don't feel I feel like it's it's 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:06.480 uh not as as it was before, you know, quote 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:09.200 unquote tight or anything like that. It just everything, like 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:12.240 I mentioned before, it goes back. It's like a muscle, 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:15.000 you know, it goes it goes back to normal. The 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:17.079 truth of the matter is that, yes, your body is 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:20.199 going through a whole bunch of changes all around and 0:12:20.280 --> 0:12:23.600 obviously wants to stand in the mirror and your body 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:28.080 has changed from the woman that you originally you know saw. Yes, 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:30.520 it can be traumatic for you, and at the same time, 0:12:30.559 --> 0:12:32.560 you do a lot of times, not every time, but 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:35.440 if you're a working mom or if you have, you know, 0:12:35.600 --> 0:12:38.880 several kids, you barely have time to take time for 0:12:38.960 --> 0:12:41.800 yourself to work out and take care of you because 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:44.839 you're like taking care of newborns. You know, your body looks. 0:12:45.160 --> 0:12:47.680 You know, we are from what you wanted it to be. 0:12:47.720 --> 0:12:49.760 And and it's just a lot, it's a lot on 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:52.360 the play. But important to have a really good support 0:12:52.400 --> 0:12:55.439 system and have people that love you and support you 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:57.480 and and help you understand. And if you have a 0:12:57.520 --> 0:12:59.840 good partner next to you that's willing to instead of 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:04.760 because I've seen this happen so much. There's so many 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:08.320 men that can be so judgmental towards their own partner, 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:11.360 towards their own wife, where you discredit her, make her 0:13:11.440 --> 0:13:14.839 feel bad for her, her the way that her body 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:18.120 has transformed, and support her. Let's go to the gym together, 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:20.840 you know what. Let's not eat this tonight tonight, Let's 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:25.240 cook dinner together, something healthier, like, you know, figure out ways. 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:27.640 Because something that I did see on social media was 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:34.839 how they how they the latran right, they uplift the 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:39.240 dad body. The dad body is the great thing, like, oh, 0:13:39.320 --> 0:13:41.440 you have such an awesome body, you know with you know, 0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:46.480 if you have a big tummy or whatever, it's hot, 0:13:46.800 --> 0:13:50.680 But what about the mom bodies? These bodies that these 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:53.520 bodies that are creating a life are the ones that 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:57.520 are being you know, made fun of or made they 0:13:57.559 --> 0:14:00.680 make them feel ashamed. So that I got a question 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:03.520 for you about And I've seen a lot of women 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:06.640 do this where they do some type of physical activity, 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:09.480 doing yoga, doing I mean even lifting weights and going 0:14:09.520 --> 0:14:13.320 to the gym and and writing their their pelotons through 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:18.920 the entire uh like pregnancy for you and yourself as 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:22.120 your when did you notice your body kind of like 0:14:22.240 --> 0:14:24.880 taking shape? Not because of just the belly because you 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:30.640 have kids, right, but everything else. How was that for you? Well, 0:14:30.680 --> 0:14:33.480 I'll tell you this, Like, um, the ending of my 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:37.920 first trimester, I noticed that my daughter was kind of swollen, 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:41.080 and I was a little bit concerned, like what the 0:14:41.080 --> 0:14:43.480 hell is going on? And I was like and I 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:45.720 would like, you know, try to do all types of 0:14:45.760 --> 0:14:48.640 circus so late, you know, trying to see what is 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:51.640 going down there. And then um, I went to the 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:54.480 doctors and they told me what one, it's the blood flow. 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:58.160 You know, there's pressure, the uterus is going down, the 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:00.440 babies are growing, and yes, that's going to make you 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:03.680 know your vagina swoll up a little bit, all right? Cool? 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:06.520 I noticed that I was very juicy, and I was like, 0:15:06.520 --> 0:15:08.640 oh my god, like do I want it? And I 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:10.560 want I don't know what's happening. My body is telling me. 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:12.440 I guess that I'm supposed to. I don't know what's 0:15:12.480 --> 0:15:16.040 going on. So you're trying to understand your body. What's happening. 0:15:16.480 --> 0:15:21.840 Your breast becomes sore. Um, you know you're my back now, 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:24.200 I'm starting to do the wobble like I do that 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:26.960 thing where you walk like set aside really like a penguin. 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:28.960 I don't mean to. I just don't even know when 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:31.480 I do it. My momi one like, oh my gosh, 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:33.720 she's already wobbling. I'm like, what do you mean? So 0:15:34.120 --> 0:15:36.720 I guess the way you kind of like start finding 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:41.120 balance by walking side to side. My back hurts. Um 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:45.520 your feet to have your feet changed. No, no feeling 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:49.120 at home. I haven't gotten swollen, Like my face got 0:15:49.120 --> 0:15:53.720 a little bit chunkier. My feet having gotten swollen lamano 0:15:53.840 --> 0:16:02.480 not a lot of pregnancy, especially with girls ps nala um. 0:16:02.600 --> 0:16:06.800 And then obviously my stomach has grown, which has made 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:11.800 past stretch marks that I already had intensify a little bit. 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:14.440 I have that very dark line in the middle of 0:16:14.480 --> 0:16:20.440 my tummy going down. My belly button is completely lost lost. Yeah, 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:22.560 like all of it is out, like you know, there's 0:16:22.600 --> 0:16:25.680 no any nothing, you know, you know, the babies are 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:28.440 about to come because the belly button pops. You're like, hey, 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:32.360 let's go. Belly button already popped. So yeah, has my 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:34.800 body changed? Yeah? Of course. Have I seen other women 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:37.560 that their bodies have changed way more than mine's first? Sure, 0:16:38.080 --> 0:16:39.560 you know I've heard women like, oh, I get a 0:16:39.600 --> 0:16:44.280 hundred and fifty pounds and you know, like um, and 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:45.920 I've seen a lot of women that never get their 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:48.520 bodies back, you know, their bodies never go back to 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:51.440 how they used to be. Like their bodies sacomolan. That's 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:54.120 another thing. It's hard than me. And but I don't 0:16:54.120 --> 0:16:55.600 know how you're supposed to do it. A lot of 0:16:55.600 --> 0:16:59.160 womenomolan with their new bodies, and it's like, you know, 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:01.600 that's it. You know, it is what it is. Take it. 0:17:01.840 --> 0:17:04.280 What does your mom saying about her when she was 0:17:04.320 --> 0:17:06.719 pregnant with you? Does your mom talk about how her 0:17:06.760 --> 0:17:09.960 body changed it all? She says that supposedly before she 0:17:10.040 --> 0:17:12.040 had me, she had a fat ass and I took 0:17:12.040 --> 0:17:14.160 it away from her. But that's a lie because she's 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:18.920 never had no booty, so that's a lie. But her 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:21.880 tell me, yeah, her tell me, you know, did did 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:25.240 stuff for some consequences because back then, even c sections 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:28.200 were different. It wasn't the side like a little side, 0:17:28.400 --> 0:17:31.199 you know, bahito, It was one of those from the 0:17:31.200 --> 0:17:34.480 belly button down. They would just slip, you know, like 0:17:34.520 --> 0:17:37.520 old school c sections and would just slide you open. 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:40.600 So she has that. It almost looks like a butt 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:43.840 in the front. But um, she would hate me for 0:17:43.880 --> 0:17:46.960 seeing that. But it's a truth. That's how surgeries used 0:17:47.000 --> 0:17:50.479 to be back in the days. Um, So yeah, you know, 0:17:50.600 --> 0:17:54.200 she she has. I don't think she got so caught 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:56.640 up in being a mother that she didn't really take 0:17:56.680 --> 0:17:59.040 that time to take care of herself again like she 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:03.360 probably should have. So that happens. And and remember too, 0:18:03.440 --> 0:18:05.960 like there's more than just the physical aspect, right, You're 0:18:05.960 --> 0:18:10.919 talking about your your actual like respiratory system, cardiovascular system, 0:18:10.960 --> 0:18:13.760 everything inside of you is working over time. And you 0:18:13.760 --> 0:18:16.440 know what, guys, I'm glad that you're hearing the male 0:18:16.480 --> 0:18:21.919 perspective okay. Sometimes I feel like these conversations don't really 0:18:22.359 --> 0:18:24.960 happen a lot for men. It's always women talking about 0:18:25.000 --> 0:18:30.800 it like it's normal. Guys, like stop being an ass. 0:18:31.200 --> 0:18:33.040 You know, her body is going through this and it 0:18:33.040 --> 0:18:35.160 should be cool, like you're gonna get your girl back, 0:18:35.240 --> 0:18:38.359 but fall back for a little bit in a relationship. 0:18:38.760 --> 0:18:41.040 How does that affect when a woman can't really be 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:43.640 sexually active? Are you okay holding off for a little 0:18:43.680 --> 0:18:45.760 bit or you know, was it hard for you to 0:18:45.800 --> 0:18:47.640 be like, damn, I have to wait like all these 0:18:47.680 --> 0:18:51.320 weeks or like two or three months in the beginning. Yeah, 0:18:51.359 --> 0:18:53.160 So for me in my head, I was like, oh damn, 0:18:53.240 --> 0:18:55.119 Like I can't get it in, you know what I'm saying. 0:18:55.200 --> 0:18:58.800 But I had to kind of step back and remember 0:18:58.880 --> 0:19:03.080 what just happened, you know, and and there's pain, and 0:19:03.119 --> 0:19:06.160 there's you know, like like you said, there's tearing. There's 0:19:06.160 --> 0:19:08.560 all kinds of things that happen, you know, to a 0:19:08.640 --> 0:19:11.520 female anatomy when when you have a baby. So at 0:19:11.520 --> 0:19:13.560 first I was like, oh man, but you know, as 0:19:13.600 --> 0:19:16.680 time goes by and she starts, you know, feeling better 0:19:16.920 --> 0:19:19.560 and not having to wear a diaper anymore, you know, 0:19:19.680 --> 0:19:22.600 like you know, you know, because you know you you 0:19:22.680 --> 0:19:25.360 have to make sure you're you take care of yourself, 0:19:25.480 --> 0:19:35.200 plain and simple. You just have to take care of yourself. 0:19:35.240 --> 0:19:39.239 My thing is too big sexy. After you see it 0:19:39.320 --> 0:19:42.560 come out, when you see the prod, they just see 0:19:42.560 --> 0:19:48.560 it coming, don't She was like, don't, don't if you 0:19:48.720 --> 0:19:51.600 see it come out and it's like a big tunnel 0:19:51.600 --> 0:19:54.320 and everything, She's like why and everything just comes out? 0:19:55.160 --> 0:19:58.120 How do you stick it back? But it was it 0:19:58.240 --> 0:20:01.600 was to me, it didn't bother me. It just didn't 0:20:01.600 --> 0:20:03.920 bother me at all. It's crazy, I might, I might 0:20:03.960 --> 0:20:06.760 just be the outlier here. It just doesn't bother me. 0:20:08.080 --> 0:20:13.959 I cried, Oh yeah, yeah I didn't. It was just 0:20:14.040 --> 0:20:16.720 like I was. I was overwhelmed. But that's because you 0:20:16.760 --> 0:20:21.480 didn't see it. You just saw that, but you have 0:20:21.680 --> 0:20:23.679 to It's like, yeah, I also have to cut the 0:20:23.680 --> 0:20:27.320 baby's on meilical cord. Right, So I took I took that, 0:20:27.400 --> 0:20:30.840 you know, the dark you had one rule look and 0:20:30.920 --> 0:20:33.320 the dark was like, hey, you know, would you like 0:20:33.400 --> 0:20:35.440 the I was like, oh my god, yeah, that's that's 0:20:35.480 --> 0:20:39.040 my my child right there. Yeah, for sure, I'm sure 0:20:39.080 --> 0:20:43.119 it's a beautiful thing. But afterwards I'm like, dude, you 0:20:43.160 --> 0:20:46.200 know you're in here, you look at it, and then 0:20:46.280 --> 0:20:47.919 later on you're gonna stick it in there and then 0:20:47.920 --> 0:20:50.800 you're gonna lose you. Not at all. Us guys are like, 0:20:50.840 --> 0:20:53.119 hell no, man, we're going back in. I don't know 0:20:53.160 --> 0:20:55.680 what you're talking about. The problem is that you have 0:20:55.920 --> 0:20:58.880 you know, and not you. But this is just a stigma, right, 0:20:59.240 --> 0:21:02.560 we have we have the way that we look at things. 0:21:02.880 --> 0:21:05.680 We everything has to be has to have a physical 0:21:05.720 --> 0:21:09.280 standard to it, right. But for us guys, I'm sorry, 0:21:09.320 --> 0:21:12.679 that goes out the door. Once you're okay and cool, 0:21:12.880 --> 0:21:17.080 let's put the baby to sleep because I am coming back. Yeah. 0:21:17.240 --> 0:21:19.760 Was it weird also having the baby there and then 0:21:19.800 --> 0:21:21.640 you know, like, okay, I'm going to do it. No, 0:21:21.680 --> 0:21:23.959 not at all. It's a baby. The baby doesn't like. 0:21:24.040 --> 0:21:26.639 All it does is cry and get FEDS. It's not 0:21:26.720 --> 0:21:29.280 like the baby is gonna be like, hey, you putting 0:21:29.280 --> 0:21:37.159 your dangling in my mom? No like this? Oh my god, Arlene, 0:21:37.320 --> 0:21:40.120 is there is there anything like? Are these I mean, 0:21:40.240 --> 0:21:43.679 I know you're not necessarily maybe ready at this moment, right, 0:21:44.200 --> 0:21:46.399 but are these any of your concerns or have you 0:21:46.440 --> 0:21:48.280 thought of any of these things? Are you just like 0:21:48.320 --> 0:21:52.240 whatever it is, what it is. Um, Well, you know, 0:21:52.440 --> 0:21:56.080