Speaker 1: Hell I Suck Dating with Dengler dared Haven Heart Radio podcast. Hey,
Speaker 1: welcome to an all new episode of help by Suck
Speaker 1: at Dating, of course, joined by Dean at I don't
Speaker 1: know why I said it that way. We also have Heather.
Speaker 1: Heather is back, Heather. Why am I blanking on your
Speaker 1: last name? Martin? Martin? How could I already just forgotten
Speaker 1: about that? No? I know, but it's just it's one
Speaker 1: of those things that I just know and then I
Speaker 1: couldn't remember for a second. Anyway, Dean and Heather are here.
Speaker 1: We also have a very very special guest, the host
Speaker 1: of the podcast. We have the receipts which you can
Speaker 1: listen to wherever you're listening to this podcast. It is
Speaker 1: Lauren Speed. Hamilton's Lauren. Thank you so much for joining
Speaker 1: us today. How are you? Oh? I'm great excited to
Speaker 1: be here with you lovely people in and talk hell yeah, Um, Laura,
Speaker 1: are you watching this new season of Love Is Blind?
Speaker 1: I am? I am watching this new season? Crazy? Right? Well,
Speaker 1: what do you think of it? Because you got to
Speaker 1: watch your first season back? I mean, yes, you nailed
Speaker 1: on the head is crazy, but watching it now as
Speaker 1: like a non contestant you know what, I think that
Speaker 1: this season is so much different from ours for a
Speaker 1: lot of different reasons. And like you said, I do
Speaker 1: kind of have that kind of you know, I know
Speaker 1: what it's like being on the other side, right, So
Speaker 1: I'm watching it as kind of the spectator and somebody
Speaker 1: who understands. And I got to tell y'all, it's some
Speaker 1: interesting people on this season, and it's some interesting love stories.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. It's very very entertaining. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: I just gotta preface, please know spoilers. I have not
Speaker 1: seen the reunion yet. Okay, I'm glad. Yeah, so let's
Speaker 1: keep it, keep it up to episode twelve or whatever
Speaker 1: the ending is. Uh no, you're you're agree with my girlfriend.
Speaker 1: I've been saying the same thing about this season. Season one, um,
Speaker 1: like with you and Cameron and I can't remember the
Speaker 1: other two the other couple that I liked, but they're
Speaker 1: not like normal but like people that you would like
Speaker 1: be friends with in real life. You know, this season
Speaker 1: you're kind of like you're kind of like like watching
Speaker 1: through your fingers with the contestants. Yeah too, I think
Speaker 1: that with any like the first season of the show,
Speaker 1: it's kind of like we didn't really know fully what
Speaker 1: we were walking into. So I think that us kind
Speaker 1: of having that just open heart and open mind is
Speaker 1: going to be a lot different than a season two
Speaker 1: of any show because they kind of know how it
Speaker 1: works a little bit, they know what they're walking into.
Speaker 1: So I also think, like you said, because it was
Speaker 1: season one, you guys didn't know what the show was
Speaker 1: gonna be. You know, I think you can kind of
Speaker 1: related to Bachelor a little bit. Were Bachelor people would
Speaker 1: go on the show because you got to go on TV,
Speaker 1: of course, but you went on for love and there
Speaker 1: was this fantasy and romance. And now with social media,
Speaker 1: it's kind of changed a little bit where a lot
Speaker 1: of people are going on the show hoping that they
Speaker 1: garner a big following they can kind of build their
Speaker 1: own business. So I think for you guys would Love
Speaker 1: is Blind. It was the first season, nobody knew, Hey,
Speaker 1: was this going to be a huge hit? What is
Speaker 1: this show even gonna be? And then now obviously Love
Speaker 1: is Blind it really I don't think this is hyperbole,
Speaker 1: kind of like captivated the nation, and so I think
Speaker 1: people went on season two, uh, for maybe not different reasons,
Speaker 1: but alternative motives at times. Yeah, absolutely agree with that.
Speaker 1: I noticed that too. I feel like, or maybe I'm
Speaker 1: walking watching through like this stupid lens. But season one
Speaker 1: felt a lot more authentic, and season two, I feel
Speaker 1: like people are saying yes to proposals just because they
Speaker 1: want exactly what Jared was just talking about, you know,
Speaker 1: like the moment, the fifteen minutes of fame or whatever
Speaker 1: that comes along with it. Because I know there's a
Speaker 1: lot of people, I feel like they just kind of
Speaker 1: say yes, and I'm like, wait, yeah, I have nothing
Speaker 1: in common, Like that's what I'm saying. I really can
Speaker 1: not drying conversations at all on the season too. I'm
Speaker 1: like just watching. I feel like a little bit star stuck, mom,
Speaker 1: because I am just watching season one right now, and
Speaker 1: I feel like your friends. I feel like I'm like
Speaker 1: best friends to you right now the past two days.
Speaker 1: But I feel like they're not showing I feel like
Speaker 1: on season one they showed a lot more like in
Speaker 1: depth conversations, and in season two is just kind of like,
Speaker 1: how do you guys even know each other at all?
Speaker 1: If there's something it's weird agreed, agreed, and I know
Speaker 1: that you know, we all know because we've all been
Speaker 1: on reality how you know, the editing can play a
Speaker 1: little like maybe it's some stuff that we didn't see,
Speaker 1: but just from what we saw seeing on the show,
Speaker 1: it didn't seem like it was a lot of build up.
Speaker 1: A lot of things just seemed kind of like, alright,
Speaker 1: I like you, so let's get married. So totally yeah, Lauren,
Speaker 1: how are things going with you in your relationship right now? Oh?
Speaker 1: Things are going great. We've been married almost four years.
Speaker 1: That's crazy saying that's like, yeah, four years because we
Speaker 1: were married a year and a half before Love is
Speaker 1: Blind even came out, so that added check on like
Speaker 1: extra time. And now I can't believe like our season
Speaker 1: have lived premiere like two years ago. So can you
Speaker 1: say something real quick? Your husband is gentlemen? Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I need to take a picture of you doing that.
Speaker 1: You just done. Come on, look at the guy. I
Speaker 1: love that YouTube YouTube. From the very beginning, I felt
Speaker 1: like and and it shows just through you guys popularity
Speaker 1: as a couple, like everyone kind of knew that you
Speaker 1: two were like perfect for each other. It seemed like
Speaker 1: thank you. Yeah, it's crazy, how man, it's almost we
Speaker 1: feel like it was the universe brought us together. Not
Speaker 1: to sound like cliche or like corny and stuff, but
Speaker 1: even like going into it, we both went into it
Speaker 1: with the open heart, but neither of us really expected
Speaker 1: to get married. So the fact that we've been married
Speaker 1: for four years and we're so happy and we found
Speaker 1: each other, it's like a true blessing. We're so grateful. Yeah,
Speaker 1: do you think your relationship changed from the year and
Speaker 1: a half before you were a quote public relationship to
Speaker 1: afterwards what it is now, for better or for worse.
Speaker 1: I honestly feel like it got stronger, believe it or not,
Speaker 1: just because from the year and a half from when
Speaker 1: we got married to everything that's happened since then since,
Speaker 1: I mean, including like the pandemic and lockdown and everything
Speaker 1: just the whole. I feel like that felt like five
Speaker 1: years and one. So I feel like we just grew
Speaker 1: so much during that time and just learned a lot
Speaker 1: about each other. And of course, you know, we'll always
Speaker 1: cherish that year and a half that we have before
Speaker 1: our relationship kind of became this public thing, because that
Speaker 1: was our sacred time, So nothing will ever cap that.
Speaker 1: But I feel like we're even stronger now. Yeah, were
Speaker 1: you guys allowed to be out together before the show
Speaker 1: aired at all. We could be out together, but we
Speaker 1: couldn't post any photos or anything like, like we can
Speaker 1: only tell our close friends. So whenever we were going
Speaker 1: like vacations and stuff, I would have to make it
Speaker 1: look like I was with like some sugar daddy and
Speaker 1: I wasn't posting the man like on vacation, like how
Speaker 1: many vacatients are you gonna take? Lauren? Like what are
Speaker 1: you doing? So yeah, you would tell you your close
Speaker 1: friends that you're married. You couldn't tell like anyway, so
Speaker 1: you're like legitally married for you're going to have and
Speaker 1: just could not go yeah crazy, And that year and
Speaker 1: a half, it's just like it was so much through
Speaker 1: our minds outside of you know, being newly web but
Speaker 1: just like, oh my god, when the show comes out,
Speaker 1: there so many people that don't even know we're together
Speaker 1: and married, and even some family members because you know,
Speaker 1: it's just a lot to explain. So I just they'll see,
Speaker 1: they'll see it. What's been what's been the hardest part
Speaker 1: about not just that that whole experience, but even like
Speaker 1: the relationship with your you guys, um the hardest part
Speaker 1: of the relationship. I would say really just being married
Speaker 1: in general, I feel like is hard work. You know,
Speaker 1: it's not easy. All relationships require work, but I feel
Speaker 1: like being married it's not just about you anymore. You
Speaker 1: have to kind of give up that selfish part of
Speaker 1: you because now you're a part of a team and
Speaker 1: you're a partner. And for me, that can be hard,
Speaker 1: just because I you know, prior to love is blind.
Speaker 1: Prior to being married and everything, I was such a
Speaker 1: like home body loner. I still am, Like I enjoy
Speaker 1: I love my private time, Like just put me in
Speaker 1: a room somewhere, closed the door. I'm so happy about myself,
Speaker 1: like my favorite company, and I think being buried. I
Speaker 1: really had to adjust a lot of that. So that's
Speaker 1: been hard, but you know, we're growing in more and
Speaker 1: more every every year every day. That's surprising to hear
Speaker 1: because between the two of you, it seems like you're
Speaker 1: way more like extroverted and you thrive off that social
Speaker 1: I am, but it's like I like to call it
Speaker 1: that my recovery time. Like I love people, I love
Speaker 1: being around people, I love talking. Clearly, I also really
Speaker 1: value my time when it's just me and quiet. You know,
Speaker 1: I feel like with our life as you guys know,
Speaker 1: you know, working in the public eye and stuff, and
Speaker 1: even with social media, it's just like I really value
Speaker 1: that time when it's just quiet. Yeah, so what have
Speaker 1: you been doing since the show? You've obviously got your
Speaker 1: podcast if you want to talk about that a little bit.
Speaker 1: So we have our podcast. We have the Receipts. It
Speaker 1: just premiered this week. It's doing great. I'm so excited
Speaker 1: that everyone's loving it. And basically, you know, we talk
Speaker 1: about all things reality, pop culture, um, all of the
Speaker 1: shows that Netflix has, and we just kind of read
Speaker 1: the receipts. Honey, we tell it how it is, we
Speaker 1: give our opinions, and we have fun. I like to say,
Speaker 1: it's a fun way to really connect with the fans
Speaker 1: in a different way and just come and laugh and
Speaker 1: we just enjoy that time. And that's what we want
Speaker 1: the listeners to do too. It's like an our party.
Speaker 1: So why the name we have the Receipts. It's it's
Speaker 1: super interesting name and it definitely makes me want to
Speaker 1: listen because I'm like, we have the receipts, what does
Speaker 1: that mean? But also it's quite intimidating because anytime I
Speaker 1: hear we have the receipts, I'm like, oh, right, but
Speaker 1: we have the receipts is almost like a term slay,
Speaker 1: meaning like, oh, I have the receipts. I have the proof,
Speaker 1: like you know, I got it. And on our show,
Speaker 1: we also feature a lot of like behind the scenes things.
Speaker 1: We talked to a lot of people who are actually
Speaker 1: on the shows that we're talking about. We have some
Speaker 1: clips that people have never seen before behind the scenes
Speaker 1: as well, so it's like we're talking about this stuff, y'all,
Speaker 1: but trust me, we have the receipts for everything that
Speaker 1: we're talking about. So that's where it kind of stems from,
Speaker 1: like you know, we got all the info, we have
Speaker 1: the receipts. I respect. And you said, you guys just
Speaker 1: started last week, Greg, Yes, yes, okay, okay, I'll have
Speaker 1: to check that one out. Um. So okay, So back
Speaker 1: to Love's Blind a little bit. So obviously, I feel like,
Speaker 1: especially during the pandemic, it was like one of the
Speaker 1: most bingeable dating shows and with this new season coming out.
Speaker 1: What what Kaylin tried doing my girlfriend tried doing this
Speaker 1: season was she would like cover the TV before they
Speaker 1: introduced themselves to anyone because she didn't want to see
Speaker 1: anyone until they like introduced themselves. Right. Um, So my
Speaker 1: question for you is, when you were talking to Cameron
Speaker 1: in the Pods, did you like envision what he would
Speaker 1: look like before you actually met him. You know, it's
Speaker 1: funny because people ask that question and believe it or not.
Speaker 1: Actually right not to envision like what he would look like,
Speaker 1: because I didn't want to think of something and he
Speaker 1: looked nothing like that. So I was trying not to
Speaker 1: disappoint myself, which I wasn't disappointed at all, but I
Speaker 1: really just tried to focus on like the stuff that
Speaker 1: we were saying and connect like more so on a
Speaker 1: level that wasn't just what he looked like. Of course,
Speaker 1: after we would talk, I'll be thinking, like, I wonder
Speaker 1: if he's tall or you know, shut And I really tried,
Speaker 1: my heart is because it's so easy when you talk
Speaker 1: to someone and you don't see their face and just
Speaker 1: picture what they look like, right, But I just didn't
Speaker 1: want to picture somebody and he looked nothing like that.
Speaker 1: Do you think there would have been any deal breakers,
Speaker 1: like anything at all if if you met him? I mean,
Speaker 1: obviously it's so hard to say, and like, you know,
Speaker 1: maybe there is, but you don't want to sound like
Speaker 1: an asshole kind of thing, but like it's true, Like
Speaker 1: you know, like if someone is completely the opposite side
Speaker 1: of your whatever your type is, like, then you would
Speaker 1: be kind of immediately turned off deal breakers like physically
Speaker 1: you mean, yeah, like what if you're five ft tall? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've actually dated short guys, which is and I'm tall
Speaker 1: too because I'm like five eight So if I put
Speaker 1: heels on, I'm like, you know, I'm pushing six feet,
Speaker 1: I would I what him being short wouldn't have been
Speaker 1: too bad. And I'll say, if he like didn't have
Speaker 1: any teeth, you know, or like something bad, I would
Speaker 1: have been like, oh, I love you gotta so you
Speaker 1: could get something FA's like like that. Um so, and
Speaker 1: you said marriage is good that between you guys, So
Speaker 1: what's next? Like marriage wise, you guys gonna have any kids?
Speaker 1: What's going on that first? So we are actively trying
Speaker 1: to get pregnant and while doing it, okay, so yeah,
Speaker 1: we're working on it. We're definitely working on it. So
Speaker 1: you know, throw up a prayer for us. Well, you know,
Speaker 1: Jared might have some advice for you guys, you just
Speaker 1: had a baby five weeks ago. I saw congratulations, Thank
Speaker 1: you very much little Dawson. He's pretty awesome. Yeah, it's crazy.
Speaker 1: We talked about on the podcast all the time, how
Speaker 1: when you get as a kid, you're like, oh, if
Speaker 1: you have sex without a condom, you're definitely getting pregnant,
Speaker 1: and it's like, that's not how it works. It's actually
Speaker 1: a little bit more difficult than you'd imagine you actually
Speaker 1: have to try. So yeah, I wish you guys the
Speaker 1: best of luck than you come to some wisdom, give us,
Speaker 1: give us, uh my man advice. Uh, I would say,
Speaker 1: don't take anything personally, you know, when you're trying. Of course,
Speaker 1: you know my point being as sex as funny, but
Speaker 1: sometimes it can be a little when you're trying to
Speaker 1: have a kid and you're like, okay, we have we
Speaker 1: you have to have you know, sex, at certain times,
Speaker 1: it's like it can be kind of work. So I
Speaker 1: would say, like, sometimes honestly, it would be you know,
Speaker 1: Actuley and I would have to have conversations to be like,
Speaker 1: you know, because literally okay, they'll be Let me give
Speaker 1: an example. There be times where as she's like, okay,
Speaker 1: we have to have sex now. I'm like all right,
Speaker 1: and she's like I'm sorry, Like, no, I didn't mean
Speaker 1: it that way. I just meant like, you know, this
Speaker 1: is the fifth day in a row. I'm tired, you know.
Speaker 1: I just yeah, It's like I just I just had
Speaker 1: a piece of cake. Like I'm not feeling my best
Speaker 1: right now, but all right, let's let's do it. Jared,
Speaker 1: what is uh not not to get too into it
Speaker 1: and feel free to just strugle this question off if
Speaker 1: you want to entirely what is sex postpartum? Like you know,
Speaker 1: like have you guys gotten back steaming and the sheet
Speaker 1: we so the doctor, uh, the doctor was straight up
Speaker 1: it was like six weeks, can't do anything next six weeks?
Speaker 1: Uh So, yeah, I haven't reached that yet. I was
Speaker 1: thinking that I don't think anything's going to really change. Honestly,
Speaker 1: it's really up to Actually, she's still it's weird because
Speaker 1: she sore, you know, she's literally peeing her pants. It's
Speaker 1: crazy after birth. She's very open about this. She has
Speaker 1: to wear a diaper. She had a weird diaper because
Speaker 1: it was like she would sneeze and pee. She can't
Speaker 1: control anything down there, which makes sense. She just had
Speaker 1: an eight pound human come out of her. She's that
Speaker 1: women go through happy women's momot because right, women are
Speaker 1: much stronger than men. And I could not do it.
Speaker 1: Um that watermelon challenge, We're like guys strapped the watermelon
Speaker 1: to the to the to their body to like stimulate
Speaker 1: how it feels to be pregnant. I want to see you.
Speaker 1: I want you to make I should do that. I
Speaker 1: should do it just for a day and watching Ashley
Speaker 1: me and you know have actually watched me in agony
Speaker 1: as she will. Should do it for a day and
Speaker 1: go to work in the coffee shop and see how
Speaker 1: it goes. Not a bad idea, it would be good
Speaker 1: for the Graham Lorden. Before we let you go, I've
Speaker 1: got one question because it was pressing me earlier and
Speaker 1: I totally forgot to ask it. What led someone, well
Speaker 1: both of you guys, You and Cameron are both you know,
Speaker 1: conventionally attractive, and you're both intelligent and outgoing. What leads
Speaker 1: someone like you guys to go on that show like
Speaker 1: just a dating show in general, because I guess obviously
Speaker 1: didn't know it was Love is Blind at first, but
Speaker 1: like what was what was kind of the decision making
Speaker 1: process to go on the show. Well, for me, my
Speaker 1: data life stuff. To be honest, it was really terrible
Speaker 1: here in Atlanta, and I was just like tired of
Speaker 1: dating these like super surface dudes who like had nothing
Speaker 1: going for themselves but being like hot, Like okay, I'm
Speaker 1: bored next, you know. So I was really like attracted
Speaker 1: to the show because it was like, okay, well I
Speaker 1: get to date people. I don't get to see them,
Speaker 1: but we get to connect on something deeper than them
Speaker 1: just being hot. And with that I knew that, you know,
Speaker 1: that's what you need to have a relationship that really
Speaker 1: lasts for longevity, you know, trying to get married and
Speaker 1: really find a husband. So that's really what what pulled
Speaker 1: me towards the show is just like, yes, it was refreshing,
Speaker 1: something different, something with some substance hopefully so you or
Speaker 1: did you apply it? They approached me so like this
Speaker 1: casting lady slid in my d M s, and for
Speaker 1: the longest I was like, Okay, this is getting weird.
Speaker 1: Why do you keep thinking about this show? And then
Speaker 1: eventually I was just like, well, let me just see
Speaker 1: what she's talking about. So I ended up emailing her.
Speaker 1: She sent me more information about the show. And then
Speaker 1: that's when I was like, Okay, this is kind of interesting.
Speaker 1: And from then on it was just like, yeah, history,
Speaker 1: did they tell you ten days you had to get
Speaker 1: engaged in ten days? Did they like up front with
Speaker 1: that so quick? It is quick? It well, they don't
Speaker 1: really tell you necessarily ten days and you don't have
Speaker 1: to get engaged, but it's just like you're going to
Speaker 1: and in a short period of time, if you make
Speaker 1: a connection, then you know, maybe they'll be an engagement
Speaker 1: at the end. So they tell us that, you know,
Speaker 1: you could be anywhere from this process from ten days
Speaker 1: to two months, depending on you know, how it is
Speaker 1: with you if you make a connection. So for me,
Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, I'm just gonna be I'm gonna
Speaker 1: have fun whatever out I got a whole husband four
Speaker 1: years later. It's crazy, My god, were you fan of
Speaker 1: Like we had a TV before going on? You know what?
Speaker 1: I was a fan. And it's funny because me and
Speaker 1: Cam actually watched you before I Love is Blind came
Speaker 1: out because Cam is huge into the reality. He loves
Speaker 1: the Bachelor, he loves the Bachelor in Paradise, and so
Speaker 1: I remember like watching and like the van and just
Speaker 1: everything like cool circle. Now we're talking. That sound was
Speaker 1: like I have to get this picture of you. Yeah, like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, that is funny. That is funny. That's
Speaker 1: full circle, like you were saying too, and now you're
Speaker 1: getting married, about to have a baby. So no, exactly exactly.
Speaker 1: People are gonna be like, she's branding, we're not friend here.
Speaker 1: We got the receipts, babies. Lauren, thank you so much
Speaker 1: for joining us today. We really appreciate it. Everybody listening,
Speaker 1: go listen to Lauren's brand new podcast. We have the receipts.
Speaker 1: You can get that anywhere you are listening to podcasts
Speaker 1: right now. Lauren speed handles and thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Please come back soon. Thank you. Of course, this is fine.
Speaker 1: Thanks all. I appreciate it. Thank you, Hi Lauren. All right,
Speaker 1: that's gonna do it for this week's UH interview segment
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Speaker 1: you guys like this new format. I don't mind it.
Speaker 1: I just want to make sure everyone else likes it too.
Speaker 1: But he sounds very entused everybody, as you can tell,
Speaker 1: we'll mind the Only reason I say that as I
Speaker 1: saw an instagram comment saying that they didn't like the
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