WEBVTT - "I'M ADDICTED TO HENTAI" 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.520 You're watching a ton of porn. You're watching anime girls. 0:00:04.160 --> 0:00:06.440 It sounds like you're watching the hen Tie. 0:00:06.960 --> 0:00:11.719 Well essentially, yeah, because like it's not even like it's 0:00:11.720 --> 0:00:14.360 like normal porn. It just like it would be like 0:00:14.400 --> 0:00:17.320 it started just getting like more fucked up type stuff 0:00:17.400 --> 0:00:19.239 and then like that's the only type of stuff I 0:00:19.360 --> 0:00:20.120 ended up watching. 0:00:20.560 --> 0:00:21.640 Hello is this Ben? 0:00:22.040 --> 0:00:22.279 Yes? 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:24.360 This is Ben. It says here that you can only 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:29.200 get aroused by anime girls and you feel disgusted by that? 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:31.480 Is this? Is this z accurate? 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:37.479 So there's kind of a story behind this burst that 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:40.720 will make it make sense. Would you like to hear that? 0:00:41.080 --> 0:00:41.600 Or no? 0:00:42.000 --> 0:00:44.560 I'm more curious what you mean by makes sense. 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:48.640 Because I feel like saying it right off the bat 0:00:48.680 --> 0:00:51.800 in general, it makes it sound very like odd. But 0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:54.280 I feel like if I give you the explanation behind 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:56.600 that statement, it would make more sense to what I'm saying. 0:00:57.000 --> 0:00:59.560 I mean, you know, sure, go ahead? What is uh? 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:00.400 What is? 0:01:01.400 --> 0:01:02.440 What is the origination? 0:01:02.720 --> 0:01:07.840 So this originally started whenever I realized that So I 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:10.280 had been hanging out with this one girl and then 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:13.680 I know that and I've never had a problem like, oh, 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:18.520 like performing before. But then one day, like all of 0:01:18.560 --> 0:01:21.880 a sudden, I just I couldn't, you know, and I 0:01:21.920 --> 0:01:24.200 thought it was just like very odd, and it started 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:27.400 to become more a consistent thing. And I know originally 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:29.480 I was thinking, like, oh god, do I have a 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:34.520 medical problem. But then I could like I had like 0:01:34.560 --> 0:01:37.320 a bad habit, like I would go home and like 0:01:37.400 --> 0:01:39.880 I would always like watch like the most like raunchy 0:01:40.000 --> 0:01:43.640 type videos, but I would not have a problem like performing. 0:01:44.840 --> 0:01:49.000 So I don't like I'm more or less looking for 0:01:49.080 --> 0:01:51.920 some advice. If you think that's like is if like 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:54.680 I've desensitized like my mind in a way, if it's 0:01:54.680 --> 0:01:57.480 an emotional connection, I missed it, Like what would you 0:01:57.680 --> 0:01:58.320 get out of that? 0:02:00.080 --> 0:02:04.720 Would I get out of? Okay, you're watching a ton 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:08.560 of porn? You're watching uh anime girls? It sounds like 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:10.000 you're watching the hen Tie. 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:17.320 Well essentially, yeah, because like it's not even like it's 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:19.960 like normal porn. It's just like it would be like 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:22.960 it started just getting like more fucked up type stuff 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:24.920 and then like that's the only type of stuff I 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:25.760 ended up watching. 0:02:28.720 --> 0:02:32.760 Hmm, and the fucked up type stuff that you're talking about. 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:39.000 Do you have a desire in real life to to 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:41.320 enacting stuff. 0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:44.200 I personally think it's like really disgusting even just like 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:46.600 mentioning it. I think the whole idea of just like 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:49.240 saying it out loud, I think it just sounds like 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:52.640 very gross in general, and like I feel disgusted that 0:02:52.680 --> 0:02:55.640 this is kind of like my reality that I'm like 0:02:55.800 --> 0:02:58.440 having to like work with now. And I was kind 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:03.760 of wondering. I remember mentioning about how like desensitizing actually 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:05.720 is a serious problem. How you went through a whole 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:08.520 thing about that, and I was wondering, if you think 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:10.560 that's the problem. 0:03:10.919 --> 0:03:17.359 Oh, well, definitely. I mean, look, I'm no brain chemist person, 0:03:18.040 --> 0:03:23.360 but absolutely you get desensitized. I mean, even like normal porn, 0:03:24.000 --> 0:03:26.600 right if you just watch, if you're just jacking off 0:03:26.639 --> 0:03:30.280 to two people fucking, like you know, when you go 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:32.200 out into the world and like I have sex with 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:36.720 the real human beings, you get like desensitized to that. 0:03:37.320 --> 0:03:37.480 Now. 0:03:38.240 --> 0:03:43.720 I have no explanation of the chemistry and whatnot, but yeah, 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:46.320 I mean clearly, you know, any any type of porn 0:03:46.400 --> 0:03:50.680 is going to like desensitize you to the actual reality 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:56.240 of sex. You know, whether whether you're just watching like 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:58.920 I said, people just have sex, or if you're watching 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:03.280 people shitting on each other, or if you're watching anime girls. 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:06.560 Although I feel like anime girls, that that has gotta 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:11.920 drive that up to like one hundred, right, because that's 0:04:11.960 --> 0:04:15.800 not even that doesn't even exist, you know, So you're 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:20.000 you're getting born at least it's like a model of 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:25.760 a thing that actually happens, but the anime is unattainable, 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:29.159 you know. So of course I feel like there's there's 0:04:29.240 --> 0:04:30.919 desensitization going on here. 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:34.960 Like at this point, I feel like, like, did I 0:04:35.040 --> 0:04:37.479 do sometimes my mind to the point where it's like 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:40.039 even like whenever I'm like with a real life person, 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:42.000 I can't even do anything. 0:04:42.520 --> 0:04:46.000 You know, you spoken to a doctor about this? 0:04:49.880 --> 0:04:53.000 No, because I know it's not necessarily it's not necessarily 0:04:53.000 --> 0:04:55.360 the problem of I can get leaky rid. It's not 0:04:55.400 --> 0:04:57.839 like I have a recta's function. But it's like a 0:04:57.960 --> 0:05:00.680 very situational type thing, and I I don't know if 0:05:00.680 --> 0:05:03.479 that's like something that I would seek medical attention for. 0:05:03.800 --> 0:05:06.760 So are you just wondering if your your excessive porn 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:10.280 usage and your inability to perform are linked? 0:05:11.960 --> 0:05:15.479 I don't know. I'm more like I'm calling because like 0:05:15.760 --> 0:05:18.440 this is something I wouldn't like typically like want to 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:21.800 mention with like friends or like family. So I'm more 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:23.599 or less just like I'm calling like this like the 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:25.720 first person I've ever mentioned it too, and I'm just 0:05:25.760 --> 0:05:27.800 trying to see if you have an opinion or like 0:05:28.160 --> 0:05:30.280 any like if you have an opinion or have any 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:32.480 idea of like why. 0:05:32.120 --> 0:05:32.560 That is. 0:05:34.200 --> 0:05:36.080 Well, I mean did It's It's as I said. I mean, 0:05:36.120 --> 0:05:38.560 it's like like with any with any type of point, 0:05:38.560 --> 0:05:41.359 you're gonna get the sensitize to the actual experience of 0:05:41.400 --> 0:05:45.240 having sex. So if I were you, I would do 0:05:45.279 --> 0:05:48.520 two things. One, I would try to quit watching porn. 0:05:50.120 --> 0:05:53.000 If you feel as though it's having a negative effect 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:59.800 on your actual sexual abilities then and it's important to 0:05:59.800 --> 0:06:03.880 you to be able to perform sexually, then you know, 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:06.320 you would try to go down that path of quitting porn. 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:09.520 And then too, you know, I know you say you're 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:16.799 discouraged from talking to a doctor, but you should totally 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:22.719 talk to a doctor about this. There's sex therapists, there's 0:06:22.720 --> 0:06:26.320 all sorts of you know, people who would have you know, 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:29.240 a lot more practical advice because you know, you know, look, 0:06:29.279 --> 0:06:31.719 people come, I mean on this this show again, you 0:06:31.760 --> 0:06:34.880 know whatever. I don't really give advice, but like, you know, 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:36.240 when people are like, how do I quit? How do 0:06:36.279 --> 0:06:38.080 I quit? How do I quit? It's like this this 0:06:38.120 --> 0:06:41.080 is a fucking specialist for everything. It's like there's alcoholism, 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:47.040 there's you know, people addicted to all sorts of things, 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:49.799 and it sounds like you might be kind of addicted 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:53.159 to porn. And I can't just tell you, hey, quit 0:06:53.200 --> 0:06:56.840 your addiction, because it's probably gonna be more complicated than that. 0:06:57.400 --> 0:07:03.040 But what I can tell you is is that, uh, 0:07:03.640 --> 0:07:06.080 you should recognize if you have a problem it sounds 0:07:06.120 --> 0:07:09.760 like you have, and then uh, don't be embarrassed to 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:11.280 go try to fix it. 0:07:11.760 --> 0:07:14.440 I like, how would you word that to a doctor 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:17.160 or like if there's a specialist of like whatever it is, 0:07:17.680 --> 0:07:19.800 how would you go in there and then like word 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:22.320 the scenario? Cause like even just like saying out loud, 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:25.680 I personally just feel disgusted even just like like talking 0:07:25.720 --> 0:07:26.040 about it. 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:29.360 You know, so like you gotta let you gotta let 0:07:29.400 --> 0:07:33.320 you gotta, you gotta let go of the shame. You 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:36.960 gotta let go of the shame. You love big anime titties, 0:07:38.400 --> 0:07:41.240 you know what, Lots of people love big anime titties. 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:47.040 That's why they're drawing so many of them. You think 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:50.040 they would you think that people would sit in these 0:07:50.080 --> 0:07:55.760 animation studios drawing tit after tit, hand drawn tit animation 0:07:56.360 --> 0:08:01.280 if other people were not also soaking it up. There's 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:01.800 no shame. 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:05.320 Would you then go to the doctor and walk in 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:08.280 with confidence and talk about big anime titties? 0:08:08.880 --> 0:08:12.320 Fuck? Yeah, I would go into that. I would say, hey, yeah, 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:18.120 it's these people's job to deal with the ship. Yeah, hey, doc, 0:08:18.280 --> 0:08:20.960 I'm addicted to anime titties and I need your I 0:08:21.000 --> 0:08:25.720 need a cure. I need your anime titty antidotes. My 0:08:25.840 --> 0:08:29.440 dick does not work because of all the anime titties. Uh, 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:31.880 what do you What do you think is gonna laugh 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:33.960 at you? I mean he might, but who cares. 0:08:34.360 --> 0:08:37.280 Yeah, sounds ridiculous, sounds disgusting. 0:08:38.040 --> 0:08:41.800 It's it's what's going on with you, though it's your truth, 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:50.600 own it. It's you. It's what's going on. The shame 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:55.480 is only making it worse. Will you do that for me? 0:08:56.240 --> 0:08:56.720 Do that for me? 0:08:56.760 --> 0:08:57.079 Will you go? 0:08:57.200 --> 0:09:00.959 Will you? Will you? And I don't know, I can't, 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:05.720 I I can't you know, hold your hand through Uh, 0:09:05.760 --> 0:09:11.280 overcoming the fear. But well you try, there's no shame. 0:09:11.520 --> 0:09:14.920 Oh yeah, Like I like I already have an appointment 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:17.600 lined up with care Now. Every time I said did 0:09:17.640 --> 0:09:20.880 getting closer, I'm always just thinking like, oh, this is 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:23.360 going to be so awkward, and like I'm keep on 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:26.120 just like do I really have to go to this? 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:29.280 No fuck? No no no no no no. This is 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:32.480 your truth, as I said, and you've got to own it. Okay, 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:34.600 it's not going to be awkward. I mean even if 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:37.080 it is, who gives it? Who cares? This is your truth. 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:42.600 You love anime titties and it's making your dick not work. 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:49.160 And I bet these doctors who study the penis and 0:09:49.200 --> 0:09:53.920 it's inner workings would love to tell you how you 0:09:53.960 --> 0:09:56.640 can make your penis work. Again, that's what they do, 0:09:56.679 --> 0:09:59.240 That's what they live for, is to fix people's penises. 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:03.280 So what's the girl I was seeing? I remember this 0:10:03.400 --> 0:10:05.240 was like kind of what like I thought, was really 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:07.959 sad about all of this. I had to like I 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:10.640 got it like mildly hard and I had to like 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:14.199 pretend to finish and this was like more than once, 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:17.240 and like I remember, it was like so sad, like 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:20.400 I had like pretend to finish. Would you like then 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:22.599 tell the person you're seeing about this, or would you 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:23.240 not even mention? 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:27.000 Yeah, well, okay, here's the thing. Look, you only want 0:10:27.040 --> 0:10:31.920 to be fucking with people who are cool, right, Yeah, 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:34.760 you only want to be fucking with people who are cool. 0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:37.080 So like, look, if something's going on with your dick, 0:10:38.440 --> 0:10:42.120 just tell the person and uh, if they freak out 0:10:42.120 --> 0:10:45.559 about it or get mad, uh, then they're not the 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:48.840 kind of person you'll be fucking with anyway. And then 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:51.240 you got to commit, Like you know, if you're fucking 0:10:51.280 --> 0:10:54.360 with someone and they say, hey, my vagina doesn't work, 0:10:54.400 --> 0:10:57.760 you gotta you gotta be cool too, you know. Uh, 0:10:57.800 --> 0:11:00.960 this is like a litmus test, right, But I feel. 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:03.040 Like that's a bit different, like whenever you're a woman, though, 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:05.000 because I feel like in that sort of shoe, whenever 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:07.640 you're like, yeah, whenever I'm around you, I can't get 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:09.920 my dick hard. I feel I feel like that's like 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:12.000 just like a slap in the face kind of thing. 0:11:12.760 --> 0:11:14.800 I get it to look, some people take some people 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:17.440 take it personally. I understand why people take it personally, 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:21.280 but usually it's it's it's not a personal thing. You've 0:11:21.280 --> 0:11:24.120 gotta find people you're comfortable with. I feel like you 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:26.480 have this issue of like you're not you're not comfortable 0:11:26.520 --> 0:11:30.440 with like your your your body and your issues and stuff, 0:11:30.440 --> 0:11:33.200 and you know that's not something that you know. 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:36.160 I'm confident about myself. I'm confident about the way I look. 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:39.439 But just like this like specific topic and like it 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:43.439 just like respecifically like revolving around like HENTI to it, 0:11:43.640 --> 0:11:45.199 just like it. Just remember, I feel a loud it 0:11:45.320 --> 0:11:47.440 just personally makes it. I just feel like it's sound 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:48.720 just so disgusting. 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:51.199 Yeah, you gotta own it, you, Ben, you got to 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:53.480 own it. These girls. There's a girl that you're sleeping with. 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:58.520 You just just be honest with her. I can't get hard. 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:01.760 It's not because of you. You're great. I've just been 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:06.800 looking at too many anime titties. There's no shame in that. 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:12.160 That's your truth. Be honest with this person. Will you 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:12.679 do that for me? 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:13.000 Ben? 0:12:14.080 --> 0:12:16.440 Will you call you call your mom on the phone. 0:12:16.440 --> 0:12:19.080 You don't have to tell your mom, but if you 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:21.280 started with your mom, it would make the rest of 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:28.319 these conversations easier. Hey, good luck to you, Ben, gek bless. 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:28.960 You and have. 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:35.679 A good night. Hello, Hello, Olivia Mile. 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:41.280 Yeah, how are you. I'm doing all right? How are you. 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:48.920 Olivia? It says here that you troll phone scammers. 0:12:51.480 --> 0:13:00.440 Yeah, that is true. So yeah, I started doing this 0:13:00.600 --> 0:13:05.160 because some time ago my mom got was a victim 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:08.360 of phone scamming. She lost a ton of money, had 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:16.000 a change bank account, all that stuff, and I hated 0:13:16.040 --> 0:13:20.000 that that happen. I couldn't do anything. So uh with 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:25.960 the career that I have now, I have learned how 0:13:26.520 --> 0:13:33.680 to use telephones in a very digital way to uh 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:41.760 do things like calling them incessantly. Like you make something 0:13:41.800 --> 0:13:45.280 that says I'm going to call every uh you know, 0:13:47.200 --> 0:13:50.160 five minutes, and I'm going to call from it looking 0:13:50.240 --> 0:13:53.480 like it's coming from a different number every time, or 0:13:53.520 --> 0:13:55.280 maybe it just looks like it comes from the number 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:58.400 one or the number two or the number three or 0:13:58.400 --> 0:13:59.280 anything of that nature. 0:13:59.840 --> 0:14:03.240 Is this like a like a I'm not anythink about coding, 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:04.920 but like a script that you wrote or. 0:14:04.880 --> 0:14:13.199 Something essentially, Yes, attacked with knowledge about how telephone works 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:19.520 from like a coding level. I work doing software essentially. 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:24.720 So how long have you been running this operation? 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:27.400 Uh? 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:29.760 You know, I don't know if I would call it 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:34.720 an operation as much as it is a a hobby 0:14:34.760 --> 0:14:40.440 of sorts that my motto, my motto generally is if 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:45.160 I can waste a phone scammer's time, I am stopping 0:14:45.200 --> 0:14:48.960 them from actually scamming people that are vulnerable to that 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:53.640 because I find that that it's it's it's it's it's 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:57.920 shitty to have people, especially because it's the older generations, 0:14:58.000 --> 0:15:01.600 right that are normally the ones that are or unaware. 0:15:05.120 --> 0:15:07.080 I can't teach everybody. 0:15:07.400 --> 0:15:09.920 Right, I was gonna say, this is a great example 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:16.080 of doing what you can, right, because you can't teach everybody. 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:20.160 You can't. I mean, there's there's whatever. However, many thousands 0:15:20.200 --> 0:15:25.320 of people running these scams. You can't take down the 0:15:25.360 --> 0:15:32.040 whole operation, but you can waste a scammer's time such 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:36.880 that one person that he could have called and scammed 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:41.680 didn't get scammed. So you're you're doing what you can 0:15:42.360 --> 0:15:48.080 to fix this issue that you are passionate about. Now 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:52.720 I ask you, how do you have time to do 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:55.480 all this? Do you do you have like another gig 0:15:55.600 --> 0:15:56.720 or or is this it? 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:04.600 At this point? From what I have done, it's been 0:16:04.720 --> 0:16:08.440 very hobbyist, and I've and I've actually thought and questioned 0:16:08.480 --> 0:16:11.600 myself with this, Like the things that I'm thinking I 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:14.840 could make in my mind, they pose a little bit 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:18.440 of like an ethical problem, Like just because I can 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:21.600 make something that does this, doesn't mean that I should 0:16:21.920 --> 0:16:26.320 make this thing that does this, because this could get 0:16:26.440 --> 0:16:30.280 used for something altogether different than my intended purpose. 0:16:32.080 --> 0:16:34.760 Makes sense, right, Yeah, No, of course, if you make 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:38.200 some sort of technology that gets into the wrong hands, 0:16:38.240 --> 0:16:43.560 it could completely undo all the all the justice that 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:46.880 you've been serving upon the world and be used as 0:16:46.920 --> 0:16:47.760 a tool for evil. 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:50.080 Right. 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:54.360 And you know, if there was a way to make this, 0:16:56.680 --> 0:16:59.600 I don't know, if there was some way that I 0:16:59.640 --> 0:17:05.520 could to justify it, I might sit there and go, Okay, 0:17:05.520 --> 0:17:08.280 actually this might be worth my time, and then maybe 0:17:08.320 --> 0:17:13.120 I don't. Maybe I spend less time doing my other gig, 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:18.520 or you know, maybe I do something that all together. 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:21.480 It just depends, you know. But until I have that, 0:17:21.600 --> 0:17:23.119 I just I don't know. I don't know if I 0:17:23.119 --> 0:17:27.520 actually want to build these things. 0:17:27.960 --> 0:17:30.440 What is this thing that you're talking about building? Is 0:17:30.480 --> 0:17:32.479 this like some sort of doomsday. 0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:35.879 Well it's not even like a doomsday thing. It's just 0:17:35.920 --> 0:17:38.680 like a server. It's just like, how do you make 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:42.520 a server? And then like right the server or or 0:17:42.680 --> 0:17:44.879 you could say like a client or like the client 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:50.000 can make a phone call right, or if it gets 0:17:50.040 --> 0:17:54.399 you know, right, Which is why I'm trying. I'm trying 0:17:54.560 --> 0:18:00.520 to use like non technical terms because it did very 0:18:01.080 --> 0:18:05.720 it's very coding related, and it's I feel like when 0:18:05.760 --> 0:18:08.000 I start to talk about it more technically, I really 0:18:08.040 --> 0:18:08.520 start to. 0:18:09.200 --> 0:18:14.359 Well, Okay, you shouldn't have to dumb yourself down to 0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:25.640 get to my level. What but the the the purpose 0:18:25.760 --> 0:18:29.760 of it? What is what's the ultimate purpose of this technology? 0:18:30.920 --> 0:18:31.040 Uh? 0:18:32.760 --> 0:18:37.679 I would want to disincentivize phone scamming altogether to the 0:18:37.720 --> 0:18:42.160 point where it makes a business either non operational or 0:18:43.280 --> 0:18:47.800 creates more of a barrier to make such things. Because 0:18:47.840 --> 0:18:49.560 maybe I can't like to feed it, right, But if 0:18:49.600 --> 0:18:54.280 I can do something that has that intended purpose to 0:18:54.400 --> 0:19:00.360 specifically make it more difficult in some way, shape or form, huh, 0:19:01.080 --> 0:19:02.160 that would that would be great. 0:19:02.960 --> 0:19:07.680 Can I bring something up that maybe will be inspiring 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:11.920 for you. I don't know if you've thought about this. Yeah, 0:19:12.119 --> 0:19:20.600 phone these these these phone scams I feel like ultimately 0:19:21.480 --> 0:19:24.639 will die out at some point because, as you said, 0:19:24.760 --> 0:19:28.320 the primary targets are old people that don't know how 0:19:28.320 --> 0:19:34.520 to use the Internet. So eventually, once we get to 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:40.439 a point in humanity where everyone alive grew up with 0:19:40.480 --> 0:19:44.600 the Internet, I feel like everyone will have a sort 0:19:44.640 --> 0:19:51.399 of baseline Internet literacy and the scammers will have to 0:19:51.480 --> 0:19:56.280 work like ten times is hard to trick people than 0:19:56.320 --> 0:20:00.320 they do now, so the the issue will event actually 0:20:00.840 --> 0:20:04.680 phase out, but all the would be victims would also 0:20:04.880 --> 0:20:07.840 be dead at that point. So I don't know if 0:20:07.840 --> 0:20:09.520 that makes you feel better or worse. 0:20:12.119 --> 0:20:15.200 That does make me feel better. I wonder what else 0:20:15.200 --> 0:20:18.639 would pop up instead of that, because I feel like 0:20:18.720 --> 0:20:20.840 scamming is sort of always a game of cat and mouth. 0:20:21.000 --> 0:20:23.280 But this was a point that you brought up just now. 0:20:23.480 --> 0:20:26.000 I didn't consider it actually does make you feel a 0:20:26.000 --> 0:20:26.400 lot better. 0:20:28.480 --> 0:20:31.000 Well, okay, so I feel like the well, let me 0:20:31.000 --> 0:20:34.280 ask you this other thing, because you were like, what 0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:36.960 form will it take now? I feel like the format 0:20:37.000 --> 0:20:39.000 takes now is like I don't know, man, I don't 0:20:39.000 --> 0:20:41.639 know if you're into bitcoin or whatever, but whenever you 0:20:41.720 --> 0:20:44.960 watch whenever, like you watch a video about it, the comments, 0:20:45.440 --> 0:20:48.440 there's always somebody in the comments that's like it's a bot, 0:20:48.480 --> 0:20:51.040 and it's like I'm made ten thousand dollars trading four 0:20:51.280 --> 0:20:55.320 x with Jessica Williams. Here's Jessica Williams's WhatsApp number, and 0:20:55.320 --> 0:20:59.840 then you text Jessica Williams and Jessica Williams is like, hey, 0:21:00.040 --> 0:21:02.880 give me your wallet address things so that I can 0:21:02.920 --> 0:21:04.399 put a bunch of money in there, and then you 0:21:04.440 --> 0:21:06.479 do it, and then she just takes all your money 0:21:06.800 --> 0:21:09.560 and turns out she wasn't Jessica Williams. Who's this some 0:21:09.680 --> 0:21:13.520 guy now now in that situation, because that's sort of 0:21:13.560 --> 0:21:18.040 the modern version. Who is any fault? Is it Jessica 0:21:18.119 --> 0:21:23.600 Williams or is it you know, Dan the Man sixty 0:21:23.680 --> 0:21:24.760 nine on YouTube? 0:21:25.280 --> 0:21:25.440 Who? 0:21:26.200 --> 0:21:30.120 At what point do we take personal responsibility? I don't. 0:21:30.160 --> 0:21:32.159 I'm not saying I have no opinion either way, but 0:21:32.160 --> 0:21:34.639 I'm curious about yours because you seemed passionate about the issue. 0:21:36.400 --> 0:21:43.919 Yeah, you know, I think I think as we age 0:21:43.920 --> 0:21:48.080 and as the older generations are more I would probably 0:21:48.080 --> 0:21:52.119 say technically aware, technically savvy, then I think there would 0:21:52.160 --> 0:21:55.000 sort of be a shifting baseline on that right of 0:21:55.040 --> 0:22:01.359 like what is acceptable in the state of the older 0:22:01.400 --> 0:22:03.560 generations that they are now people that are like my 0:22:03.640 --> 0:22:07.960 mom's age, or people like I'm not even given number. 0:22:08.000 --> 0:22:12.800 But people that are older, I feel for them because 0:22:12.800 --> 0:22:15.840 they didn't grow up with that or like I grew 0:22:15.880 --> 0:22:20.880 up with these things, right. But I think I think 0:22:20.920 --> 0:22:24.080 that would be a changing standard overall. And I think 0:22:24.160 --> 0:22:28.520 like in the case of like, if if I don't 0:22:29.000 --> 0:22:31.760 Dan the Man ninety five, I don't remember who you said. 0:22:32.200 --> 0:22:34.600 I think I said, you know, but who you could 0:22:34.640 --> 0:22:35.280 be any number? 0:22:38.119 --> 0:22:44.359 Okay, I would say, like, if you know, Dan the 0:22:44.400 --> 0:22:51.320 Man was in their twenties, probably I would say, like, 0:22:51.680 --> 0:22:55.560 maybe maybe you should know that, like because of the 0:22:55.560 --> 0:22:56.320 technical world. 0:22:56.320 --> 0:22:56.639 But I. 0:22:58.720 --> 0:23:00.359 Don't think that that's a blanket statement. 0:23:00.520 --> 0:23:03.320 So let's let's think I'm going to try to trick 0:23:03.359 --> 0:23:04.960 you into doing a blank I'm going to scam you 0:23:05.000 --> 0:23:06.320 into doing a blanket statement. 0:23:06.480 --> 0:23:07.960 At what edekay? 0:23:08.440 --> 0:23:15.119 At what age? Is it your faults? If a scammer 0:23:15.280 --> 0:23:18.760 takes all your bitcoin at what age? When? When should 0:23:18.760 --> 0:23:19.320 you know better? 0:23:19.920 --> 0:23:20.679 At what age? 0:23:21.160 --> 0:23:28.920 When should you know better from like from here on out? 0:23:29.520 --> 0:23:33.280 From here on out? What's the cutoff? 0:23:35.320 --> 0:23:44.400 A you know, I want to say twenty five twenty five? Really, 0:23:44.520 --> 0:23:47.040 I think that's plenty of feeble, plenty of time to 0:23:47.080 --> 0:23:48.600 have technology in your hands. 0:23:49.160 --> 0:23:55.040 Interesting, Okay, So if you're twenty seven and Jessica Williams 0:23:55.080 --> 0:23:58.040 texts you and is like, give me. They're your bank 0:23:58.040 --> 0:24:03.520 account routing information so that I can sell you a 0:24:03.520 --> 0:24:08.280 bitcoin thing, and you give it to them. It's not 0:24:08.359 --> 0:24:08.800 your fault. 0:24:11.560 --> 0:24:13.920 I would say, Dan the man, Where have you been? 0:24:16.840 --> 0:24:18.360 Olivia? Is there anything else you want to talk about 0:24:18.359 --> 0:24:19.639 today before we go? 0:24:20.720 --> 0:24:22.000 No? That's that. 0:24:23.240 --> 0:24:24.840 Do you feel satisfied with this conversation? 0:24:26.400 --> 0:24:27.080 I really do. 0:24:27.520 --> 0:24:30.879 Thank you le of course, have a good night, Olivia. 0:24:32.560 --> 0:24:33.320 You do, by. 0:24:35.000 --> 0:24:38.000 Hello, Carly, Hi, what is life like? 0:24:39.640 --> 0:24:39.840 Yes? 0:24:42.440 --> 0:24:45.720 I was gonna say it says here that you just 0:24:45.800 --> 0:24:55.919 made a fake Instagram account to stuck your ex boyfriend? Yes, okay. 0:24:56.280 --> 0:24:57.800 How recently did you guys break up? 0:25:00.760 --> 0:25:03.440 Like last month? Like on Valentine's Day? 0:25:05.000 --> 0:25:06.400 Guy's just been it's been a full months. 0:25:08.560 --> 0:25:12.600 Yeah no, and it's still like still deep fresh wound. 0:25:14.160 --> 0:25:15.320 How long were you guys together? 0:25:16.400 --> 0:25:19.080 We were off and on for three years. 0:25:18.760 --> 0:25:21.320 Off and on for three years. What inspired you to 0:25:21.320 --> 0:25:22.480 make this Instagram account? 0:25:22.880 --> 0:25:26.760 So when we broke up? Like I couldn't stand seeing 0:25:26.840 --> 0:25:30.000 like you know how on Instagram? When you like when 0:25:30.000 --> 0:25:32.320 you're friends with somebody and they like the same post 0:25:32.359 --> 0:25:35.600 as you and it shows like their icon at the bottom, 0:25:35.720 --> 0:25:38.560 like this person liked it as well. I couldn't stand 0:25:38.600 --> 0:25:41.520 that that made like it made me want to cry 0:25:41.600 --> 0:25:44.800 seeing that, so I unfollowed him. Well, he has a 0:25:44.800 --> 0:25:49.879 private count. So I recently like requested to follow him 0:25:49.920 --> 0:25:53.560 again and he didn't allow me to follow him immediately. 0:25:53.720 --> 0:25:57.359 So I decided to make a fake account, and that 0:25:57.600 --> 0:26:02.440 night I followed like a hundred forty people like posted 0:26:02.720 --> 0:26:06.120 a bunch of like memes on the page, made sure 0:26:06.160 --> 0:26:08.280 to put like a guy's name, and made sure to 0:26:08.400 --> 0:26:13.840 like have completely opposite like basically just throw him off 0:26:13.880 --> 0:26:18.840 that like it's not me, because like I wanted to 0:26:18.880 --> 0:26:23.760 like stay in the range of his interest, but like 0:26:24.119 --> 0:26:26.000 to the point where he doesn't know it's me. 0:26:28.280 --> 0:26:30.800 And uh, I mean, how do you how do you 0:26:30.840 --> 0:26:35.359 feel about the fact that you've done this? How is 0:26:35.400 --> 0:26:37.600 this process? I mean feeling too. 0:26:38.600 --> 0:26:43.480 I feel psychopathic, honestly, because not even like five minutes ago, 0:26:43.760 --> 0:26:46.960 I was looking at his location on snapshot and he 0:26:47.080 --> 0:26:49.440 wasn't at his house and they started to freak out 0:26:49.480 --> 0:26:52.000 because he is talking to the new girl I heard 0:26:52.000 --> 0:26:55.520 from his friend. I was freaking out. I was texting 0:26:55.560 --> 0:26:58.720 my friend Zac. I'm just like, do you know where 0:26:58.760 --> 0:27:00.359 she lives? And I sent a screen out of his 0:27:00.440 --> 0:27:02.920 location and he's like, how the hell am I supposed 0:27:02.920 --> 0:27:06.159 to know? And then like I checked it again and 0:27:06.160 --> 0:27:08.000 then he was back at his house, so he was 0:27:08.119 --> 0:27:10.200 most likely driving on his way home. 0:27:13.160 --> 0:27:19.320 Why do you think you're doing this? What are you 0:27:19.400 --> 0:27:29.440 like hoping to gain from following him on Instagram and 0:27:30.080 --> 0:27:34.080 uh looking at his location? Like what what is the 0:27:34.240 --> 0:27:38.960 end game here? Well? 0:27:39.680 --> 0:27:41.080 You know how I said, we were off and on 0:27:41.280 --> 0:27:44.520 like situations like this has happened before with us, Okay, 0:27:46.920 --> 0:27:49.560 not as bad as this time, but that's why it 0:27:49.640 --> 0:27:52.359 kind of hurts the most. But like I'm kind of 0:27:52.400 --> 0:27:56.800 like praying like a few months, like on he'll like 0:27:56.880 --> 0:27:59.320 be through with that girl, and like I can like 0:27:59.359 --> 0:28:02.920 slide back and be like, hey, what's up? So you 0:28:02.960 --> 0:28:03.760 want to get back together? 0:28:06.040 --> 0:28:07.280 Carly says, you're eighteen? 0:28:07.359 --> 0:28:07.560 Right? 0:28:09.440 --> 0:28:09.640 Yeah? 0:28:12.080 --> 0:28:15.560 What are you still in high school? Are you freshmen 0:28:15.640 --> 0:28:16.280 in college? 0:28:16.280 --> 0:28:16.679 What are you? 0:28:17.320 --> 0:28:18.000 Where are you at? 0:28:18.119 --> 0:28:23.080 Oh? Yeah, I'm still in high school. Okay month away 0:28:23.080 --> 0:28:23.760 from graduation? 0:28:24.000 --> 0:28:26.160 Okay, two months away from graduation. What are he plans 0:28:26.200 --> 0:28:26.880 after graduation? 0:28:27.040 --> 0:28:31.280 Honestly, I'm trying to move out of my parents' house, well, 0:28:31.640 --> 0:28:34.679 my dad and my stepmom's house, and recently had a 0:28:34.680 --> 0:28:36.760 fight with my mom. But I kind of need a 0:28:36.800 --> 0:28:39.680 place to stay in the area of the community college 0:28:39.680 --> 0:28:42.240 that I'm to be going to, so I'm thinking about 0:28:42.240 --> 0:28:45.400 making up with her so i can get a place. 0:28:46.280 --> 0:28:48.840 It's not a bad idea at all. I guess the 0:28:48.920 --> 0:28:52.960 reason why I I'm asking you that is cause like 0:28:54.720 --> 0:28:57.640 you're at a You're at a super interesting point in life, 0:28:57.760 --> 0:29:02.840 you know, graduating high school, where the world is so 0:29:03.120 --> 0:29:08.400 vast and open to you. There's infinite possibilities for you 0:29:08.440 --> 0:29:09.880 to do whatever it is you want to do. I 0:29:09.920 --> 0:29:12.240 genuinely believe that I'm not saying it is like feel 0:29:12.280 --> 0:29:20.880 good bullshit. So to to be stalking your ex on 0:29:20.960 --> 0:29:28.400 social media, whatever stalking means, and to be really fixated 0:29:29.000 --> 0:29:35.800 on the possibility of getting back with him, it is 0:29:35.880 --> 0:29:43.760 to just go complete tunnel vision, uh, and not even realize, 0:29:43.800 --> 0:29:46.120 even though it's just right in front of your right 0:29:46.200 --> 0:29:52.280 in front of your face, not even realize depth of opportunity, 0:29:52.360 --> 0:29:57.640 the depth of people out there in the world that 0:29:57.800 --> 0:30:03.480 there is the possible abilities are truly endless for you 0:30:03.600 --> 0:30:09.760 at this point. And so in light of that, why 0:30:09.920 --> 0:30:15.280 would you want to continue to fixate on this guy. 0:30:16.680 --> 0:30:19.240 You know what, what are what are some things that 0:30:19.320 --> 0:30:23.080 you like want to do? Like do you have do 0:30:23.200 --> 0:30:24.880 have hobbies? Do you have interest? Do you have like 0:30:25.560 --> 0:30:27.040 aspirations of any kind? 0:30:27.760 --> 0:30:33.120 Honestly, this year has been really rough, so I've lost 0:30:33.200 --> 0:30:33.840 a lot of. 0:30:33.760 --> 0:30:35.120 Like those motivations. 0:30:35.600 --> 0:30:39.760 He was my best friend and like I before he redated, 0:30:39.920 --> 0:30:42.240 you were best friends. And like, he's the person I 0:30:42.320 --> 0:30:45.120 talked to you every day more than like my actual friends. 0:30:46.240 --> 0:30:47.920 So like, that was the person I leaned on. That 0:30:48.040 --> 0:30:51.480 was the person I planned on having a somewhat of it. 0:30:51.680 --> 0:30:54.280 Like I knew it probably wouldn't last like forever, but 0:30:54.400 --> 0:30:58.040 like I guess a little bit longer. Like we have 0:30:58.480 --> 0:31:04.040 a cat together. My sister's holding currently taking that cat 0:31:04.160 --> 0:31:07.920 back now she's I'll refuse. 0:31:07.640 --> 0:31:08.120 To give her up. 0:31:09.120 --> 0:31:14.800 I think your time and you seem you know, you 0:31:14.840 --> 0:31:17.680 seem like a smart and away of person. I'm sure 0:31:17.920 --> 0:31:21.960 you know this already, but you know your time that 0:31:22.040 --> 0:31:30.120 you're spending, uh you know, conniving on Instagram and snapchat. Uh. 0:31:30.160 --> 0:31:33.200 It it is a it is a race to the bottom. 0:31:34.000 --> 0:31:37.320 I want you to understand that you do you do 0:31:37.360 --> 0:31:42.520 you you know I beneath the sort of addiction brain 0:31:43.640 --> 0:31:47.760 that you know we've all experienced that is very like 0:31:48.800 --> 0:31:55.600 a sort of brainwashy type of vibes beneath all that. 0:31:57.000 --> 0:32:00.240 Do you do you recognize how it's a right to 0:32:00.280 --> 0:32:03.360 the bottom. 0:32:03.480 --> 0:32:07.040 Yes, but I do realize it's like not a healthy thing. 0:32:07.200 --> 0:32:10.760 But like, I don't have anything else to focus on 0:32:10.840 --> 0:32:11.280 right now. 0:32:13.440 --> 0:32:16.080 That's exactly it. That's exactly it, you know. And if 0:32:16.120 --> 0:32:19.960 you don't have anything to focus on, uh, what are 0:32:20.000 --> 0:32:21.360 you gonna do? You're gonna go on Instagram, you go 0:32:21.400 --> 0:32:23.040 on Snapchat. You're gonna be like, oh, he's at the park, 0:32:23.080 --> 0:32:26.120 he's at the fucking ice skating rink, whatever it is, 0:32:27.160 --> 0:32:29.480 because you have anything else to focus on. This is 0:32:29.480 --> 0:32:31.800 a good place you're at right now because you're not 0:32:31.840 --> 0:32:38.640 in denial. You know, you understand, you recognize that what 0:32:38.680 --> 0:32:41.320 you're doing. You know, you might as you kind of 0:32:42.080 --> 0:32:44.480 sort of put it, that you're you're you almost feel 0:32:44.480 --> 0:32:49.360 like you're not in control, you know, but you're recognizing 0:32:49.360 --> 0:32:51.400 a lot of these things that you're not in control, 0:32:51.760 --> 0:32:54.520 that that it is a race to the bottom. It's 0:32:54.560 --> 0:32:57.719 good that you know that. So, I mean, we know 0:32:57.960 --> 0:33:01.720 we know that we're where that we are are our 0:33:01.760 --> 0:33:07.600 actions are not productive and and sometimes even a little destructive. 0:33:08.840 --> 0:33:14.760 Uh So, like what could we replace this with? Like 0:33:15.440 --> 0:33:16.719 what are you going to study? And you said you're 0:33:16.720 --> 0:33:21.080 going to community college? Right, yeah, what do you what? 0:33:21.080 --> 0:33:22.760 What are we studying a community college? 0:33:23.600 --> 0:33:26.120 I really don't have a full plan yet, but like 0:33:26.360 --> 0:33:28.880 since I was younger, I've always had this idea of 0:33:28.960 --> 0:33:32.840 being a debt. So most likely like veterinary science. 0:33:34.040 --> 0:33:38.480 Word word word word word word, it's a good place 0:33:38.520 --> 0:33:44.800 to start. I mean that's the general direction I feel. Uh, 0:33:45.000 --> 0:33:50.200 is just that, like you need something, preferably that's not 0:33:50.320 --> 0:33:57.120 other people, that's not some new guy, even that's not 0:33:57.440 --> 0:33:59.080 you know, your friend. I mean, it could be your friends, 0:34:00.120 --> 0:34:04.400 but you'll preferably something that's Cats are nice. Taking care 0:34:04.480 --> 0:34:08.760 of a cat, it's nice, gets your mind off of things, 0:34:08.840 --> 0:34:12.120 you know, it's a whole Uh, you're providing for something else. 0:34:12.160 --> 0:34:19.000 But like, what could you do that transmutes this energy 0:34:19.040 --> 0:34:23.880 that you're spending on Instagram and snapchat into something more productive? 0:34:24.000 --> 0:34:25.840 I don't know. I can't answer that question for you 0:34:25.880 --> 0:34:30.480 because you only know you, but like, if you can 0:34:30.640 --> 0:34:37.680 at least conscientiously show up every day knowing that that 0:34:37.920 --> 0:34:44.879 is your objective, that is your next step. I think 0:34:44.920 --> 0:34:48.759 you will eventually get there. Does that make does it 0:34:48.960 --> 0:34:50.239 make sense? Do you agree with that? 0:34:52.440 --> 0:34:53.359 Oh? You're right, You're right. 0:34:53.920 --> 0:34:55.160 What do you think about all this? 0:34:56.040 --> 0:34:59.400 It's a hard tell to swallow. And I get these things, 0:35:00.480 --> 0:35:04.000 and I really do make an effort a lot. I 0:35:04.120 --> 0:35:06.879 try to go out with my friends, Like I try 0:35:06.920 --> 0:35:08.399 to go out on like on a date with somebody 0:35:08.440 --> 0:35:10.400 else to get my mind off things. I try to 0:35:11.080 --> 0:35:14.120 like like focus on my studies. Like I'm currently in theater, 0:35:14.280 --> 0:35:17.200 so I'm trying to focus on my play. But like 0:35:17.239 --> 0:35:21.399 it always goes back to that. But like, I guess 0:35:21.400 --> 0:35:24.839 I just got to keep on pushing for. 0:35:26.800 --> 0:35:27.040 More. 0:35:27.239 --> 0:35:31.560 I guess, uh, I gotta do more things because I 0:35:31.560 --> 0:35:35.160 feel like that's allowing myself time to think. And when 0:35:35.160 --> 0:35:37.800 I think, that's when it like really gets bad. 0:35:38.800 --> 0:35:40.839 Oh yes, no, no, no, you never want to think. 0:35:40.880 --> 0:35:43.480 You never want to be alone with your thoughts. That's 0:35:43.520 --> 0:35:46.319 the game. That's that's all this, that's the whole game 0:35:46.400 --> 0:35:49.120 of everything. Why do you think I'm a get go 0:35:49.320 --> 0:35:53.399 on the computer right now, Carly, just to get away 0:35:53.400 --> 0:35:55.680 from let's stick, get away from the thoughts. 0:35:56.080 --> 0:36:01.799 But but yeah, I feel like you're on a you're 0:36:01.800 --> 0:36:06.839 on a good track where you're conscientiously showing up every 0:36:06.920 --> 0:36:11.279 day with that in mind, and from there, at least 0:36:11.280 --> 0:36:14.640 in my experience, it's gonna be about time. 0:36:16.200 --> 0:36:18.120 It's going to be about time. It's pretty fresh for 0:36:18.160 --> 0:36:25.000 you a month. Yeah, but uh, I think time plus 0:36:25.120 --> 0:36:32.440 uh awareness that uh stalking Snapchat is not the moves 0:36:34.400 --> 0:36:37.399 is the way to go. And please, for the love 0:36:37.400 --> 0:36:40.800 of God, delete those apps in that account. 0:36:43.320 --> 0:36:44.560 You're right, you're right, you're right. 0:36:45.680 --> 0:36:46.480 You to do it right now. 0:36:48.000 --> 0:36:49.080 Yeah, I'll do it right now. 0:36:49.719 --> 0:36:50.439 You do it right now. 0:36:52.239 --> 0:36:53.240 I'm doing it right now. 0:36:53.880 --> 0:36:57.439 Hey, you can delete both of them. Instagram never done 0:36:57.480 --> 0:37:03.520 nothing good for anyone except accept those influencers that get 0:37:03.520 --> 0:37:09.960 paid thirty thousand dollars to talk about water. Listen, Carly Jack, 0:37:10.040 --> 0:37:12.239 bless you, good luck to you. Anything else you want 0:37:12.239 --> 0:37:13.040 to say before we go? 0:37:13.640 --> 0:37:14.960 Do you want a tarrat card reading? 0:37:16.320 --> 0:37:18.160 Ooh maybe another time. 0:37:20.480 --> 0:37:23.120 Understandable, but hey, that's a good thing to. 0:37:23.040 --> 0:37:25.960 Get into, you know, if we're talking about things that 0:37:26.000 --> 0:37:31.160 you like doing, uh, tarrort card readings, start a small business, 0:37:31.239 --> 0:37:35.359 whatever it is, just throwing ideas out there. Thank you, man, 0:37:36.000 --> 0:37:39.600 appreciate Carly Forever. The cards have nothing to tell me 0:37:39.680 --> 0:37:45.640 that I don't already know. I don't know if that's true. 0:37:45.680 --> 0:37:47.000 I don't know if the cards have to tell me. 0:37:48.360 --> 0:37:52.600 I don't know if the cards talk. I don't know 0:37:52.600 --> 0:37:54.399 if I trust them. 0:37:54.640 --> 0:37:56.759 Josh, Hey, how's it going? 0:37:57.640 --> 0:38:00.239 How are you? Josh? 0:38:00.680 --> 0:38:01.719 I'm well? How are you? 0:38:03.280 --> 0:38:07.440 I'm a gecko on the computer? How how can I 0:38:07.560 --> 0:38:10.600 you know? I'm I'm I'm always I'm always sort of 0:38:10.640 --> 0:38:14.520 torn about you know, if i'm. I was about to say, 0:38:14.520 --> 0:38:15.759 how can I help you? But I don't know if 0:38:15.800 --> 0:38:18.160 I don't know if I can help you, Josh, unless 0:38:18.200 --> 0:38:19.359 if you think I can? Do you think I can 0:38:19.400 --> 0:38:22.320 help you with anything? Is there anything that you're fairly 0:38:22.360 --> 0:38:23.359 certain I could help you with? 0:38:28.080 --> 0:38:30.640 You could give me like an am I the asshole 0:38:31.719 --> 0:38:34.640 evaluation on the little scenario? 0:38:34.800 --> 0:38:35.000 I have? 0:38:35.840 --> 0:38:37.280 Oh for sure? What's the scenario? 0:38:38.440 --> 0:38:41.560 I was in Colorado for a week doing a lot 0:38:41.560 --> 0:38:48.120 of snowboarding, and we were indulging in the cannabis, and 0:38:50.120 --> 0:38:53.560 so I brought this electric rig called a puff Goo 0:38:53.680 --> 0:38:59.440 peak Pro. It's like four hund We were hitting that 0:38:59.520 --> 0:39:01.560 the whole time, and then, like last night before we 0:39:01.640 --> 0:39:07.120 flew out magically just like the glass shattered magically, like 0:39:08.239 --> 0:39:10.759 I just someone walked over and saw it and told me, 0:39:11.560 --> 0:39:15.879 and but like nobody nobody said anything about it, and 0:39:15.920 --> 0:39:18.799 like everybody was like I didn't do that, but like 0:39:19.280 --> 0:39:21.240 I don't know about you. I don't know if you've 0:39:21.840 --> 0:39:25.080 ever used a bong, but like I feel like most 0:39:25.120 --> 0:39:28.800 people know if they break something, like it's pretty apparent. 0:39:29.880 --> 0:39:33.600 And everybody just like acted like they didn't know who 0:39:33.640 --> 0:39:38.359 did it. And I got like visibly upset, was like 0:39:38.960 --> 0:39:42.080 said some choice words and went to bed. And the 0:39:42.120 --> 0:39:46.680 next day, uh, I like mentioned something else about it. 0:39:46.800 --> 0:39:52.120 One of the guys got like crazy upset, so a 0:39:52.120 --> 0:39:55.319 lot of like kind of harsh things to me, And 0:39:57.000 --> 0:40:00.040 I don't know, I just feel like I'm not I 0:40:00.120 --> 0:40:04.319 than like bijing Er an asshole in that situation, you know, 0:40:04.440 --> 0:40:06.400 Like I feel like if they were my friends, they 0:40:06.440 --> 0:40:08.600 could have just like owned up to it, like that 0:40:08.719 --> 0:40:11.600 glass replacement was probably like seventy bucks. Like I could 0:40:11.600 --> 0:40:14.360 give a fuck less about the glass, but like I 0:40:14.480 --> 0:40:16.839 just wanted someone to tell me like that they did it. 0:40:17.560 --> 0:40:19.799 No, it's the principle. It's like what you know, we've 0:40:19.800 --> 0:40:21.719 been friends for how many years and you're not just 0:40:21.760 --> 0:40:24.520 gonna you know, we're all adults. You're not just gonna 0:40:24.520 --> 0:40:26.359 own up and tell me that you broke this thing. 0:40:28.640 --> 0:40:31.279 Yeah, that's basically it. I was like, I mean, I 0:40:31.280 --> 0:40:34.319 can easily replace this tomorrow, but like, why would you 0:40:34.360 --> 0:40:36.239 just set it back? Like what if I did that 0:40:36.400 --> 0:40:39.120 to your car? What? I just hate your car by accident? 0:40:39.200 --> 0:40:41.759 And then like parked in the other spot and was like, 0:40:41.800 --> 0:40:42.879 I don't know what happened to dog. 0:40:43.760 --> 0:40:47.000 Hmm. So did you ever find out how many how 0:40:47.040 --> 0:40:48.160 many guys were in this house? 0:40:50.120 --> 0:40:53.520 I meet and three other dudes? One of the guys 0:40:53.680 --> 0:40:56.120 does not smoke. He's completely out of the picture. I 0:40:56.280 --> 0:40:57.759 know he wouldn't have even been near it. 0:40:59.200 --> 0:41:04.240 Okay, so it's too two of them, And to this point, 0:41:04.320 --> 0:41:07.719 do they still adamantly deny that they had anything to 0:41:07.719 --> 0:41:08.160 do with it? 0:41:11.480 --> 0:41:11.680 Uh? 0:41:11.800 --> 0:41:16.359 Yeah, But the the one like the one didn't get 0:41:16.440 --> 0:41:20.200 upset or anything. Uh, he's the one that actually brought 0:41:20.239 --> 0:41:22.160 it up the shows to me because he was about 0:41:22.200 --> 0:41:24.680 to use it, and he was like, yeah, I think 0:41:24.719 --> 0:41:27.520 it's like broken at the top, and then I was 0:41:27.920 --> 0:41:30.520 I said, like, you did it. The other guy didn't 0:41:30.520 --> 0:41:33.080 really say much that night, and then the next day 0:41:33.160 --> 0:41:36.120 he was the one that like got crazy upset. 0:41:37.480 --> 0:41:38.600 You think he's got. 0:41:41.160 --> 0:41:43.200 I feel like he has something to hide, Like why 0:41:43.200 --> 0:41:46.000 would he slip out like that? Like it didn't it 0:41:46.040 --> 0:41:49.680 didn't correlate. Like he just started, like, you know, like 0:41:50.360 --> 0:41:52.640 taking like cheap shots at me and like attacking me 0:41:52.719 --> 0:41:55.600 for all this stuff. And I was like, why are 0:41:55.600 --> 0:41:59.440 you yelling? Like I wasn't yelling, you know, And I 0:41:59.440 --> 0:42:02.920 don't know. I felt like he definitely did it, and 0:42:03.160 --> 0:42:06.319 but I'd never accused him, you know. I just like, 0:42:06.400 --> 0:42:06.759 let me. 0:42:06.719 --> 0:42:12.799 Ask you something, this guy who you think did it? 0:42:15.000 --> 0:42:21.160 What has your relationship been with him thus far? Like 0:42:21.800 --> 0:42:26.359 is this something that is completely out of character for him? 0:42:26.400 --> 0:42:30.200 Because I assume you've known this guy for a decent 0:42:30.239 --> 0:42:33.000 amount of time his trip with him, you have an 0:42:33.160 --> 0:42:36.920 established record of of who he is and what your 0:42:36.960 --> 0:42:39.920 relationship is like with him? What what is what does 0:42:39.960 --> 0:42:40.840 that record look like? 0:42:43.200 --> 0:42:46.280 Right? So I've probably known him for two or three years. 0:42:46.719 --> 0:42:51.760 I met him through like a bunch of wake surfing guys, 0:42:51.800 --> 0:43:01.840 and he is definitely kind of like an like altercative person. 0:43:02.600 --> 0:43:05.600 I guess you could say, like I feel like he 0:43:05.680 --> 0:43:06.640 kind of enjoys that. 0:43:08.080 --> 0:43:15.640 He enjoys confectations ever towards like that's yeah, yeah, and 0:43:16.840 --> 0:43:20.479 but like he's never really done anything towards like any 0:43:20.520 --> 0:43:26.759 of us to make me basically what happened like out 0:43:26.800 --> 0:43:30.200 of line for anything I've experienced within our friends group 0:43:30.239 --> 0:43:33.239 around him. But I've seen him get upset. 0:43:32.960 --> 0:43:37.000 With other people like on like the ski slopes and 0:43:37.040 --> 0:43:38.640 stuff kind of similar to that. 0:43:39.239 --> 0:43:44.600 M Okay, so you've observed him having a angry temperament 0:43:44.640 --> 0:43:52.920 in the past. Yeah, Now, are you, like, and look, 0:43:53.440 --> 0:43:59.200 be honest with me, are you one hundred percent sure 0:44:00.560 --> 0:44:05.880 that somebody broke your bong and that something freakish didn't 0:44:05.920 --> 0:44:08.560 happen like a cat came in and put it down, 0:44:08.680 --> 0:44:12.319 or the wind or anything like that. Are you like 0:44:12.600 --> 0:44:15.799 one hundred percent sure this was this was the act 0:44:15.840 --> 0:44:16.360 of a human. 0:44:18.600 --> 0:44:20.880 I mean I had just used it like less than 0:44:20.880 --> 0:44:24.399 five minutes before I went to sit down and eat, 0:44:24.520 --> 0:44:26.920 and we were in an airbnb. There's like no animals 0:44:26.960 --> 0:44:29.839 or anything. And as a heavy base, like you have 0:44:29.880 --> 0:44:32.040 to like hit it with your hands and knock it 0:44:32.040 --> 0:44:38.120 over or something. So I've I find it like kind 0:44:38.160 --> 0:44:41.760 of hard to believe that would have just been like, oh, 0:44:41.840 --> 0:44:45.000 an accidental like swing, because like if it got knocked 0:44:45.000 --> 0:44:47.440 over or a form where it shattered, like it had 0:44:47.480 --> 0:44:51.680 to have gotten picked back up because it was bick 0:44:51.760 --> 0:44:52.239 back up. 0:44:52.640 --> 0:44:58.480 Ooh, because it was standing back up, but it was damaged, right, Mmm, 0:45:00.160 --> 0:45:03.640 detective work going into this, all right, So this guy 0:45:04.080 --> 0:45:07.680 who you're pretty sure did it, because he's acting all emotional, 0:45:07.719 --> 0:45:09.719 he's freaking out. I don't know because when you told 0:45:09.760 --> 0:45:12.319 me that, if we're going, if we're playing detective here, 0:45:13.040 --> 0:45:14.799 I feel like the person who brought it to you 0:45:16.560 --> 0:45:19.600 could also be guilty. You know, we don't want to rule. 0:45:19.520 --> 0:45:23.719 Him out record too, but like he was he I've 0:45:23.719 --> 0:45:25.560 known him for like ten years. I lived with him 0:45:25.560 --> 0:45:28.840 for like five years, and like we've both like broken 0:45:28.880 --> 0:45:32.200 each other's last four and just honestly like told each 0:45:32.200 --> 0:45:34.880 other and like just paid each other like whatever. Like 0:45:35.320 --> 0:45:37.239 you know, it was never a big deal. I would 0:45:37.320 --> 0:45:41.040 kind of trust him to tell me if if that 0:45:41.200 --> 0:45:44.400 was him, So okay, and like that. Also, when the 0:45:44.480 --> 0:45:47.680 other guy flipped out, he blamed it on my friend. 0:45:47.719 --> 0:45:48.960 I've known him for ten years. 0:45:50.239 --> 0:45:53.240 Oh so the other the guy who flipped out blamed 0:45:53.280 --> 0:45:56.960 it on the guy even known for ten years. 0:45:57.840 --> 0:46:00.960 Yeah, he was like it was probably him, Like trying 0:46:00.960 --> 0:46:02.120 to like clear himself. 0:46:02.880 --> 0:46:09.640 Mm hmm. Yeah, this guy sounds super guilty. So mm hmm. 0:46:10.920 --> 0:46:18.919 So listen, I mean, are you going to continue your 0:46:19.040 --> 0:46:26.319 relationship with this guy who who you sort of now 0:46:26.560 --> 0:46:32.560 know to act a fool in in a in a 0:46:33.080 --> 0:46:33.800 in this manner. 0:46:35.640 --> 0:46:40.040 Probably not. I mean, like my friend, my other friend, 0:46:40.120 --> 0:46:43.360 like ten year friend and I were talking on like 0:46:43.440 --> 0:46:45.279 a ski lift one of the days when it was 0:46:45.320 --> 0:46:48.600 just us, and he has some thoughts about it too, 0:46:48.680 --> 0:46:51.239 and said he might stop hanging out with him after 0:46:51.320 --> 0:46:54.319 this trip, and then all this stuff happened after that. 0:46:56.280 --> 0:46:58.800 Okay, so this guy, he's this is not an isolated 0:46:58.840 --> 0:47:02.359 incident of of bad things. 0:47:02.080 --> 0:47:04.279 Seem Yeah, it seems like it seems like all of 0:47:04.360 --> 0:47:06.960 us has slowly been kind of catching onto things. 0:47:07.239 --> 0:47:13.360 Mm hmmm mm hmm. Well, it sounds like you have 0:47:13.640 --> 0:47:22.600 your plot forward established here in terms of whether or 0:47:22.640 --> 0:47:24.240 not you're gonna hang out with this guy again. 0:47:26.840 --> 0:47:29.440 Oh yeah, that's yeah, that's definitely a big no. 0:47:31.200 --> 0:47:34.120 What kind of bong was it again? The say It 0:47:34.160 --> 0:47:34.919 Say one more time? 0:47:36.719 --> 0:47:42.319 The puff goo peak pro Are you gonna buy another one? Yeah? 0:47:42.320 --> 0:47:45.799 I'll probably just go get a glass replacement piece the 0:47:45.800 --> 0:47:48.040 next few days I guess I usually just only use 0:47:48.080 --> 0:47:50.360 this for traveling anyway, so it's not like pressing. 0:47:50.400 --> 0:47:54.040 But you have a you have a travel one, a 0:47:54.440 --> 0:47:55.160 home one. 0:47:58.000 --> 0:48:00.000 I have like yeah, like an actual piece of glass. 0:48:00.880 --> 0:48:03.400 This is more like electric setup kind of. 0:48:05.640 --> 0:48:05.759 Hm. 0:48:07.000 --> 0:48:08.200 Is there anything else you want to say to the 0:48:08.200 --> 0:48:08.960 people before we go? 0:48:15.920 --> 0:48:19.439 Veiled back balls are really sick. If you've never hit 0:48:19.480 --> 0:48:21.000 those up, definitely do it. 0:48:21.680 --> 0:48:22.200 What is it? 0:48:24.760 --> 0:48:24.880 Uh? 0:48:25.160 --> 0:48:29.399 The veil back balls at Veil resort, Veil resorts. 0:48:29.560 --> 0:48:31.600 Like, all right, this is this is the scene of 0:48:31.600 --> 0:48:32.480 the crime here. 0:48:35.160 --> 0:48:39.520 That's that's where we were. We were at Veil, Breckenridge, Teystone, 0:48:39.560 --> 0:48:45.120 Beaver Creek. Yeah, over five days. We hit four resorts 0:48:45.160 --> 0:48:47.120 over five days, and we hit Veiled twice. 0:48:48.680 --> 0:48:52.880 Well, it sounds like aside from this long breaking incident, 0:48:52.920 --> 0:48:54.040 it was a pretty good weekend. 0:48:55.840 --> 0:48:59.799 Oh yeah, I had the GoPro three sixty. That thing 0:48:59.880 --> 0:49:02.279 is so cool. Have you ever used it? 0:49:03.680 --> 0:49:03.719 No? 0:49:03.840 --> 0:49:05.440 I haven't. I got to get one though, because I 0:49:05.440 --> 0:49:08.319 want to do my gek walk things with that, So 0:49:08.360 --> 0:49:09.359 I'm gonna do you have a code? 0:49:09.600 --> 0:49:13.719 Yeah, it's really cool. When you get it, sign up 0:49:13.719 --> 0:49:17.720 for the GoPro subscription. It's fifty hours a year, I think, 0:49:18.200 --> 0:49:21.000 and it's so worth it because if you break your GoPro, 0:49:21.120 --> 0:49:26.839 they just replace it, no question, and you can It's 0:49:26.880 --> 0:49:29.680 like unlimited cloud storage uploads, so all your videos you 0:49:29.719 --> 0:49:32.480 can upload to their cloud and there's no limit to it, 0:49:32.520 --> 0:49:33.480 which is pretty cool. 0:49:34.040 --> 0:49:36.239 Well, Josh, I hope you're getting paid for this. 0:49:39.160 --> 0:49:41.240 No, man, I'm just chilling on my couch. 0:49:42.600 --> 0:49:46.880 Beautiful. Have a good night, Josh, you too, man. Hello, 0:49:47.600 --> 0:49:48.120 how's it going? 0:49:48.120 --> 0:49:48.359 A lot? 0:49:48.440 --> 0:49:51.880 Tell me? Tell me everything? A lot of Well here, Alana, 0:49:51.920 --> 0:49:53.920 it says here that you want to know if you 0:49:53.920 --> 0:49:57.600 should be mad that you recently found out that your 0:49:57.719 --> 0:50:01.960 dad got married a year ago and did not tell anybody. 0:50:04.520 --> 0:50:06.720 Yeah, it was something I could talk about for sure, 0:50:06.920 --> 0:50:07.279 if you. 0:50:07.280 --> 0:50:11.120 Want to talk about it, I I That's that's why 0:50:11.200 --> 0:50:15.160 we're here. We're here to talk on the phone. Alana. 0:50:15.200 --> 0:50:16.960 What's what happened here? 0:50:18.600 --> 0:50:23.960 All right? Well, backstory, my dad and my parents separated 0:50:25.400 --> 0:50:30.120 about six years ago, and about three years ago we 0:50:30.200 --> 0:50:33.840 started dating this girl I don't want to say, I 0:50:33.880 --> 0:50:39.000 don't care Keana, and we all met her at my 0:50:39.160 --> 0:50:42.919 brother's eighteenth birthday party, which is at my dad's house, 0:50:43.040 --> 0:50:50.600 I like family house. Before my parents separated, and when 0:50:50.640 --> 0:50:53.760 we all pulled up and she was there, At first 0:50:53.760 --> 0:50:56.200 I thought she was one of my brother's friends. And 0:50:56.280 --> 0:50:58.440 I was like trying to she looked really like she 0:50:58.480 --> 0:51:01.799 wasn't talking to anybody, and so I said, hey, do 0:51:01.840 --> 0:51:05.560 you be a swimsuit or you know, need any direction 0:51:05.760 --> 0:51:08.719 for bathroom or food? You know, let me know. She's 0:51:08.760 --> 0:51:11.120 like no, I'm good. Do you have you? And I 0:51:11.160 --> 0:51:14.160 was like, all right, have you seen Alan? I'm like 0:51:15.120 --> 0:51:20.040 my dad and she's like yeah, I'm like yeah, I 0:51:20.040 --> 0:51:24.160 think he's in inside. And she's like all right, cool, thanks, 0:51:24.160 --> 0:51:27.760 and then she walked away and then kind of like clicked, 0:51:28.000 --> 0:51:30.600 like is that the girl that my dad say? And 0:51:30.640 --> 0:51:34.399 so she's found out she's my age, you know, one 0:51:34.440 --> 0:51:37.879 year older than me. I think, so I'm twenty six, 0:51:37.920 --> 0:51:41.880 she's twenty seven. So at first it was like a 0:51:41.920 --> 0:51:45.120 shock to find out that she was with someone for 0:51:45.480 --> 0:51:47.200 I was so young, but I wanted to be like 0:51:47.520 --> 0:51:51.719 happy for him and okay, and she's like all right, 0:51:51.760 --> 0:51:54.960 I wanted to have a companion, So I got I 0:51:55.080 --> 0:51:56.560 was okay with it. I got used to it. She's 0:51:56.600 --> 0:52:02.040 really nice and whatever. But you know, since my parents separated, 0:52:02.120 --> 0:52:05.800 they my dad just kind of he wasn't the same dad. 0:52:06.360 --> 0:52:08.160 He hasn't been the same dad to them, and he's 0:52:08.200 --> 0:52:10.520 as he was to me, as in just like not 0:52:10.640 --> 0:52:16.240 showing up too, you know, sporting events or you know not. Also, 0:52:16.520 --> 0:52:19.000 he just stopped financially helping with my mom and like 0:52:19.080 --> 0:52:23.760 doesn't pay for child support or health bills or anything, 0:52:23.840 --> 0:52:26.480 and so he doesn't help. And that just makes me, 0:52:27.480 --> 0:52:31.239 as the older sibling, you know, I just I have 0:52:31.320 --> 0:52:36.399 a lot of anger and I don't I'm not I'm 0:52:36.440 --> 0:52:40.879 not an angry person, and so I have so much 0:52:40.920 --> 0:52:44.320 anger for this one person that is like my dad, 0:52:44.400 --> 0:52:47.680 and so that's it's a I don't know, it's a 0:52:47.680 --> 0:52:51.160 shitty thing to feel, but it's hard when, like, you know, 0:52:51.239 --> 0:52:55.480 I just had my birthday a month ago and he 0:52:55.680 --> 0:53:00.600 made plans to get lunch and cancel them scheduled and 0:53:01.040 --> 0:53:04.799 canceled the rescheduling because he said his car broke down, 0:53:05.640 --> 0:53:08.760 which I'm like, okay, he could suber, you could uber, 0:53:08.960 --> 0:53:11.799 I could stick you up. It's not an excuse. So 0:53:12.560 --> 0:53:15.080 it feels like there's all these things that just don't 0:53:15.280 --> 0:53:18.600 line up that makes it feel like that I should 0:53:18.840 --> 0:53:28.400 should I should forgive him, and just like you know, so. 0:53:26.680 --> 0:53:31.279 You're you're twenty six. It has it always been like 0:53:31.360 --> 0:53:31.919 this with him? 0:53:32.680 --> 0:53:38.440 Not since I guess like a couple of years after 0:53:38.520 --> 0:53:41.400 the divorce. Like when I was younger in high school, 0:53:41.400 --> 0:53:43.440 I was way closer with my dad than I was 0:53:43.480 --> 0:53:47.160 with my mom, and then it switched. It's when I 0:53:47.200 --> 0:53:49.560 left for college, and then all this happened, because it's 0:53:49.600 --> 0:53:53.400 all happened when I was away for college, so you know, 0:53:53.440 --> 0:53:56.440 I wasn't home to be there through like the really 0:53:56.480 --> 0:53:59.080 hard part of it, like the first two years, and 0:53:59.120 --> 0:54:01.400 that was my sibling that went through it all, and 0:54:01.560 --> 0:54:04.439 and I was away, and then I came back after 0:54:04.520 --> 0:54:08.040 I graduated, and now I'm I just kind of started 0:54:08.040 --> 0:54:13.320 to see what the result of like everything happening, and 0:54:13.560 --> 0:54:18.239 just you know, it's just not fair, and it's not 0:54:18.320 --> 0:54:22.480 about like fairness, and like it's just more of I 0:54:22.520 --> 0:54:25.879 want my siblings to like have had experienced the same 0:54:25.960 --> 0:54:28.239 dad that like I got the experience of who was 0:54:28.840 --> 0:54:32.480 the person taking me to practices and showing up to everything. 0:54:32.680 --> 0:54:36.359 Have you told him that you're pissed off at him? 0:54:36.360 --> 0:54:41.279 Have you expressed to him that you know you felt 0:54:41.280 --> 0:54:43.759 like you guys used to be closer, Well, you say 0:54:43.920 --> 0:54:47.600 you said he knows. Yeah, but what makes you say 0:54:47.640 --> 0:54:48.440 he knows? 0:54:48.920 --> 0:54:51.680 Because I did have so it was after I came back, 0:54:51.760 --> 0:54:55.400 like I lived, so I did live with him for 0:54:55.440 --> 0:54:59.479 about seven months with him and his girlfriend at the time. 0:54:59.520 --> 0:55:04.120 Now why it was up and down, but it can 0:55:04.280 --> 0:55:07.920 end on a great note. But I did talk to him, 0:55:07.920 --> 0:55:10.680 and I'm very honest. I guess I'm not someone that 0:55:10.719 --> 0:55:14.600 really holds back how I feel. But I guess it's 0:55:14.640 --> 0:55:18.560 because I have expressed that to him so many times already, 0:55:18.640 --> 0:55:20.719 and I've had like sit down lunches with him where 0:55:20.719 --> 0:55:23.080 I've just said, like, you know, just show up to 0:55:23.880 --> 0:55:25.920 my sister's game, show up to my brother's game, just 0:55:25.960 --> 0:55:28.600 like be there. Why can't you just do that? And like, yeah, 0:55:29.320 --> 0:55:32.719 you know, he he's a salesman. He is really good 0:55:32.760 --> 0:55:35.720 at being all talk and then when it comes down, yeah. 0:55:37.120 --> 0:55:39.719 Yeah he's he's he's he's trying to play people like 0:55:39.760 --> 0:55:40.120 a fiddle. 0:55:40.400 --> 0:55:42.759 Really good salesman, Atlanta. Dude. 0:55:42.800 --> 0:55:48.759 You know, I think that it's cool that you care 0:55:48.880 --> 0:55:55.040 so much about your your siblings and your that that 0:55:55.080 --> 0:55:59.840 you want them to have, uh, the same experience with 0:55:59.880 --> 0:56:03.600 your dad that you have a question. 0:56:04.360 --> 0:56:07.640 Yeah sure, yeah, I have a question, So do you 0:56:07.680 --> 0:56:11.440 think that I, like you just said, like should I 0:56:11.600 --> 0:56:16.200 is it right for me to have these emotions that 0:56:16.239 --> 0:56:20.040 are not really attached directly to me, Like it's not 0:56:20.080 --> 0:56:23.120 like he's, yeah, he didn't cancel my birthday whatever, but 0:56:23.160 --> 0:56:25.239 it's not like the big things. He didn't directly do 0:56:25.360 --> 0:56:28.080 it to me. It's been like to my family, like 0:56:28.160 --> 0:56:32.480 to my sibilians and like my mom. So is it 0:56:32.640 --> 0:56:35.320 right for me or to feel this kind of anger 0:56:36.880 --> 0:56:39.160 with the things that he's done, not even too many 0:56:39.280 --> 0:56:41.600 people I love? Or should I be able to have 0:56:41.640 --> 0:56:46.440 that separation of like you know, because I still love it. 0:56:46.520 --> 0:56:48.680 It's not like at the end of the day, I mean, 0:56:48.960 --> 0:56:51.080 you are mad at him, but like I love him 0:56:51.080 --> 0:56:51.920 and I care about him. 0:56:51.920 --> 0:56:54.200 But here's what I'll tell you here, Like my my 0:56:54.200 --> 0:56:59.040 my thoughts is are you right to be mad? Of course, 0:57:00.120 --> 0:57:05.839 I don't think that feelings necessarily need a whole lot 0:57:05.880 --> 0:57:09.799 of justification, Like are you right to be mad? Who 0:57:09.920 --> 0:57:12.520 fucking cares you're mad? You know, it doesn't whether or 0:57:12.560 --> 0:57:15.719 not it's right, But I do. I do think this 0:57:15.800 --> 0:57:20.200 is something I've kind of been meditating on lately, is 0:57:20.280 --> 0:57:27.680 like there's only so much shit that's in your control, 0:57:28.640 --> 0:57:35.440 like how your dad treats your siblings. You know, it's 0:57:35.440 --> 0:57:39.320 it's valid that it makes you mad, but I think 0:57:39.360 --> 0:57:42.080 you have to look at how that anger is serving you, 0:57:43.080 --> 0:57:47.880 like it is it propelling you to make some sort 0:57:47.880 --> 0:57:51.440 of conscious choice or take some sort of conscious action 0:57:52.320 --> 0:57:55.480 to your or anyone's benefit, Because at the end of 0:57:55.520 --> 0:57:59.240 the day, I feel like, while while I think it's 0:57:59.400 --> 0:58:02.480 it's it's noble of you, you clearly are a person 0:58:02.520 --> 0:58:04.440 that cares a lot about other people, that cares a 0:58:04.480 --> 0:58:08.320 lot about your family, But I think that it might 0:58:09.000 --> 0:58:14.080 serve you to accept the fact that you can't control 0:58:14.240 --> 0:58:18.680 the actions of your dad. You can control how you 0:58:18.720 --> 0:58:21.160 talk to him, you can control how you treat him, 0:58:21.240 --> 0:58:24.160 you can control how you treat your siblings. And it 0:58:24.280 --> 0:58:27.040 sounds like from what you've told me, you've done all 0:58:27.080 --> 0:58:30.120 the things that you seems like you can. You've been honest, 0:58:30.680 --> 0:58:33.760 You've told him how you feel. You know, you can 0:58:33.800 --> 0:58:36.080 put as much effort as you want or don't want 0:58:36.120 --> 0:58:38.840 into cultivating a relationship with him. But the end of 0:58:38.840 --> 0:58:42.960 the day, I think there does need to be a 0:58:42.960 --> 0:58:46.840 little bit of acceptance that you can't control his behavior. 0:58:46.880 --> 0:58:49.800 You can't you can't. As much as you as much 0:58:49.800 --> 0:58:55.600 as you try, you can't make him act any sort 0:58:55.600 --> 0:59:00.160 of way to you or to your siblings. But you 0:59:00.160 --> 0:59:01.520 have but you have other things. But you have other 0:59:01.520 --> 0:59:04.400 things in your control, Like you control how you act 0:59:04.480 --> 0:59:08.080 to your siblings. So like, if you see something, if 0:59:08.600 --> 0:59:10.360 you feel like there's things that you got as a 0:59:10.440 --> 0:59:13.560 kid from your dad that you didn't that you see 0:59:13.600 --> 0:59:15.680 your siblings not getting and that pains you to see 0:59:15.680 --> 0:59:19.320 them not get it, Well, what can you do to 0:59:19.920 --> 0:59:20.720 give it to them? 0:59:20.760 --> 0:59:20.840 Like? 0:59:21.000 --> 0:59:24.720 Can you be more you know, loving and thoughtful toward 0:59:24.840 --> 0:59:27.960 your siblings. That's something that's in your control to do. 0:59:28.160 --> 0:59:30.240 You know, you can't make your dad do it, but 0:59:30.320 --> 0:59:34.320 you can sort of fill in the gaps that he's leaving, 0:59:35.080 --> 0:59:38.920 right And you know, I feel like that is a 0:59:39.640 --> 0:59:46.200 sort of productive application of your anger, you know. So 0:59:46.200 --> 0:59:49.360 so I would say take your anger. Take your anger, 0:59:49.760 --> 0:59:51.440 because you have it. You have your anger, and it's 0:59:51.520 --> 0:59:56.760 valid anger. Take it and apply it toward the transmute it. 0:59:56.960 --> 0:59:59.680 Apply it towards the things that you can control. You 0:59:59.720 --> 1:00:01.800 can control how you act towards your dad, You can 1:00:01.800 --> 1:00:04.040 control how you act towards your siblings. But you cannot, 1:00:04.120 --> 1:00:08.560 under any circumstances, control how he acts towards them. What 1:00:09.160 --> 1:00:09.920 do you think about all that? 1:00:10.600 --> 1:00:15.600 No, I completely agree with you. And you know, I 1:00:16.080 --> 1:00:20.840 do put, like, you know, expectations on people, and I 1:00:20.840 --> 1:00:24.200 get really hurt when you know they're not met. And 1:00:24.240 --> 1:00:27.800 it's just people are human and it's not fair to 1:00:27.840 --> 1:00:33.360 set any preconceived expectation on anyone, so you know, and 1:00:33.400 --> 1:00:36.080 I do my best to like you know, like you said, 1:00:36.120 --> 1:00:39.720 like fill the gaps like I you know, drove. I'll 1:00:39.760 --> 1:00:43.120 take my sister to tournaments and like you know, other states, 1:00:43.160 --> 1:00:45.520 and I'll spend time with her. And now that I've 1:00:45.560 --> 1:00:48.480 moved back in you know, under my mom's new place, 1:00:48.600 --> 1:00:52.280 but with my sister or sharing a bathroom, and I 1:00:52.280 --> 1:00:55.479 think it's a good opportunity for us to like kind 1:00:55.480 --> 1:00:59.560 of you know, build our relationships and kind of be 1:00:59.720 --> 1:01:04.480 that stiller. And she looks at me like a mom 1:01:04.920 --> 1:01:07.520 too much, because I'm like eight years older than her, 1:01:09.080 --> 1:01:11.000 and so I don't want to be and I don't 1:01:11.000 --> 1:01:12.600 want her to be because it's like I want her to 1:01:13.520 --> 1:01:16.400 look at me as like my sister, not like an 1:01:16.440 --> 1:01:18.720 older sister that she can talk to, not like an 1:01:18.720 --> 1:01:19.280 older mom. 1:01:19.360 --> 1:01:22.000 But well, listen, I'm glad to hear that you are 1:01:22.080 --> 1:01:25.520 finding ways to like transmute this anger. I think if 1:01:25.560 --> 1:01:27.720 I had to leave you with some sort of thesis 1:01:27.760 --> 1:01:31.280 of whatever this of of you know what this call is, 1:01:32.200 --> 1:01:36.720 it's like the solution would be to transmute that anger 1:01:36.800 --> 1:01:39.960 into u you know, productive things that you can do 1:01:40.040 --> 1:01:42.120 for yourself and your siblings, which it sounds like you're 1:01:42.120 --> 1:01:46.280 doing so, you know, props to you for you know, 1:01:46.520 --> 1:01:50.360 as we're talking about filling in those gaps before we go, 1:01:50.520 --> 1:01:52.840 Is there anything else you want to say to the 1:01:52.840 --> 1:01:57.240 world or to they? You gotta go on the computer, 1:01:59.520 --> 1:02:00.920 m do you? 1:02:01.560 --> 1:02:06.880 Yeah, thanks for taking my call. I called like four. 1:02:06.720 --> 1:02:09.720 Times and hit time you know any times. 1:02:09.560 --> 1:02:12.640 I know and you know, I know you don't. This 1:02:12.720 --> 1:02:16.560 is your platform originally wasn't for like therapy for people. 1:02:16.560 --> 1:02:19.920 It is just to talk. But I appreciate you always 1:02:19.960 --> 1:02:23.000 offering up the platform to like, you know, give advice. 1:02:23.320 --> 1:02:23.960 I appreciate it. 1:02:23.960 --> 1:02:27.320 Thank you, I appreciate I appreciate that I get I 1:02:27.360 --> 1:02:33.120 give a shot anytime I I feel like I can, 1:02:33.800 --> 1:02:35.080 I try, I try, and I try to. 1:02:35.120 --> 1:02:35.520 At least. 1:02:36.080 --> 1:02:38.880 The last thing I ever want is to be some 1:02:39.040 --> 1:02:41.160 kind of a guru. But if I have a thought 1:02:42.280 --> 1:02:45.720 that sounds that in my head, I'm like, this sounds 1:02:45.760 --> 1:02:49.120 like it kind of makes sense. I will, I will. 1:02:49.200 --> 1:02:52.200 You've always sounded genuine and it's like, you know, I 1:02:52.200 --> 1:02:54.200 feel like people that I've listened to you like know 1:02:54.320 --> 1:02:58.600 that you're actually genuine and you'll listen to whoever talk 1:02:58.640 --> 1:03:01.760 about whatever. But ayways, I won't take any more of 1:03:01.760 --> 1:03:03.960 your time. But thanks, and I hope you have a 1:03:04.080 --> 1:03:04.960 good rest to your night. 1:03:05.640 --> 1:03:08.600 Thank you for calling, Alana Ghek bless you. Never be 1:03:08.800 --> 1:03:12.320 kid goes on the line making your phone calls every night. 1:03:12.680 --> 1:03:14.560 Never be Kid goes doing his eye. 1:03:14.680 --> 1:03:17.800 He's teaching you loud liver your life, but he's not 1:03:18.000 --> 1:03:19.400 really an expert.