WEBVTT - Tony Robbins: Force of Nature 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:07.440 Hi, Brian, Katie. You know a lot of people are 0:00:07.480 --> 0:00:10.480 called a force of nature, but when it comes to 0:00:10.520 --> 0:00:14.400 our guest today, I think that really fits Tony Robbins. 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:17.439 I mean talk about sucking all the oxygen out of 0:00:17.480 --> 0:00:19.400 the room in a good way. He is bigger than 0:00:19.520 --> 0:00:22.400 life in every sense. He's like six seven, he's maybe 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:27.280 two fifty pounds of pure bodybuilding. He makes me feel 0:00:27.320 --> 0:00:29.400 like less of a man than anyone with whom I've 0:00:29.400 --> 0:00:32.760 ever spoken, But he's extraordinary and for somebody who grew 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:36.040 up watching him do infomercials, it's interesting to see how 0:00:36.080 --> 0:00:38.720 his career is evolved to being kind of an elite 0:00:38.760 --> 0:00:42.559 coach to CEOs, even presidency the United States. I mean, 0:00:42.560 --> 0:00:46.440 he's a best selling author, he's an entrepreneur, he's a philanthropist, 0:00:46.600 --> 0:00:52.240 and given his childhood, it's fascinating how that really motivated 0:00:52.360 --> 0:00:56.720 him to achieve everything he's done, which makes us feel 0:00:56.760 --> 0:00:59.200 like pikers pretty much, right, Brian, Yeah, I'm a real 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:03.080 under a che in comparison, But as you'll hear in 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:06.520 the interview, he grew up under some pretty tough circumstances 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:10.199 and overcame quite a lot. Never went to college, self taught, 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:16.280 became a guru to everybody, from Bill Clinton to Mark 0:01:16.360 --> 0:01:19.760 Bennioff to mother Teresa. I can't believe everything. He's a 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:22.720 chief Ryan at fifty seven, and there's still so much 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:25.160 more he wants to do. And I don't know about you, 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:27.959 I have no doubt that he will do it. And 0:01:28.000 --> 0:01:31.600 in addition to being a self help titan, he's involved 0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:35.880 in thirty one businesses. He generates annual sales, he says, 0:01:35.880 --> 0:01:39.399 in excess of five billion dollars. He's built an empire. 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:43.240 So here's Tony Robbins. And by the way, he's a 0:01:43.360 --> 0:01:48.200 very enthusiastic guest. So that sound you here is Tony's hands, 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:52.200 his big hands hitting the table here, no subjects there 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:58.320 hitting the table for emphasis. So you're not crazy if 0:01:58.360 --> 0:02:04.360 you hear that. Thank you for stopping by our little studio. 0:02:04.920 --> 0:02:07.640 It's my pleasure. And Brian is here with me, and 0:02:07.720 --> 0:02:12.400 we were talking about your extraordinary career. I mean, I 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:14.840 don't know, how how do you describe yourself because I 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:18.280 know how your press materials do. I'm a you know, 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:21.040 I'm a peak performance coach. I'm a consultant for people, 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:23.800 but you know I'm also an entrepreneur and philanthropist. You know, 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:27.120 big part of my life today is besides helping people 0:02:27.120 --> 0:02:28.920 and events and things of that nature, I have thirty 0:02:28.960 --> 0:02:32.880 one companies, so they're in very different industries. You know, 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:35.760 I'm everything from I have a unique opportunity to do 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:38.280 some some of the best stem cell work in the world. 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:41.760 While simultaneously we've got virtual reality, the exclusive with the NBA, 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:43.639 so you know, you see Monday Night Football, We're having 0:02:43.639 --> 0:02:46.200 Tuesday Night NBA. We have the exclusive with Live Nation, 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:49.120 so we have I have about twelve Dred employees across 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:51.959 four continents. We do five billion in sales each year. 0:02:52.160 --> 0:02:53.840 And then I have my jay job, which is about 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:56.480 of my time because I love it so much, which 0:02:56.600 --> 0:02:59.800 is helping people improve their lives. And then philanthropy wise, 0:02:59.800 --> 0:03:02.200 you know, I'm feeding a hundred million people a year now. 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:03.560 I've done that for two years in a row. I'm 0:03:03.560 --> 0:03:05.560 gonna feed a billion people over the next eight years. 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:07.520 And it's not because I'm such a good guy. It's 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:09.720 just when I was eleven years old, we had no 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:12.399 money and no food on Thanksgiving and a man came 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:14.880 to the door and delivered food and my father did 0:03:14.880 --> 0:03:16.880 not respond well to it. But I did. My dad 0:03:16.880 --> 0:03:19.120 always said, strangers don't care. And I think the biggest 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:21.640 impact for me was not just that there was food, 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:23.960 but the fact that I had evidence of strangers cared 0:03:23.960 --> 0:03:26.160 about my family and made me. It shifted me to 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:29.320 really care about strangers. So I promised myself I'd feed people, 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:31.600 and I got to seventeen. I've had two families in 0:03:31.639 --> 0:03:33.680 the next year, four and eventually got to a million, 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:35.600 two million, And I've fed four million people a year 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:38.200 for about eight years, and then two million myself and 0:03:38.240 --> 0:03:40.560 two millions to my foundation because I thought I fed 0:03:40.600 --> 0:03:42.760 forty two million in a lifetime. What if I had 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:45.440 fifty million this year? And then I got excited, made 0:03:45.440 --> 0:03:47.240 it a hundred million, and I got Feeding America to 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:49.640 be my partner, and they deliver. I mean, their efficiency 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:52.160 is amazing. So we've partnered, so we're gonna feed a 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:55.480 billion people, and then the numbers were getting should provide 0:03:55.480 --> 0:03:58.400 an ongoing hundred million new meals per year ongoing from 0:03:58.400 --> 0:04:00.360 there on. Can I just say I give up? I 0:04:00.360 --> 0:04:10.040 feel so lazy and useless after just hearing that, I think, wow, 0:04:10.160 --> 0:04:13.760 this is really impressive. Now, you talked about growing up 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:16.640 in a tough environment and you did. Your dad left, 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:19.440 as I understand, when you were very had four fathers, Yes, 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:22.239 they all left. Your mom was quite abusive. In fact, 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:24.920 you left home when you were seventeen when your mom 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:27.680 came after you with a knife. Can you describe how 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:31.520 that upbringing kind of shaped the man you've become since then? 0:04:31.880 --> 0:04:34.000 I never talked about my mom when she's alive. I didn't, 0:04:34.040 --> 0:04:35.760 you know. I still love her to this day. She 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:38.159 she had been the mother that I wanted her to be, 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:40.640 I wouldn't be the man I'm proud to be because 0:04:40.960 --> 0:04:42.960 the fact that I suffered so much, I mean she would. 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:47.200 She was addicted to you know, prescription drugs and alcohol, 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:49.039 and the mixed is not a good mix. And she 0:04:49.120 --> 0:04:50.680 got very violent. And I have a younger brother and 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:53.919 younger sister five and seven years younger. So for me, 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:56.840 I had to become a practical psychologist just to figure 0:04:56.839 --> 0:04:59.240 out to keep her in control, not hurt them much 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:02.200 less hurt me. And so I really really grew as 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:04.120 a result of that. I mean, I have suffered so 0:05:04.200 --> 0:05:05.800 much that I don't want to see any human suffer. 0:05:05.880 --> 0:05:08.640 And I became obsessed with finding answers to how to 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:10.720 help people and their suffering, how to have them have 0:05:10.839 --> 0:05:12.960 the beauty that they want for their life. And it 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:16.039 just turned into a forty year enterprise. Uh, you know, 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:18.080 and I've had the privilege of living in a time 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:20.840 where you know, I go to twelve thirteen countries a year, 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:23.440 I see a quarter of a million people live. I mean, 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:25.800 you couldn't have done that, you know, fifty years ago, 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:27.920 you know, Tony, you know, I think that kind of 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:32.800 childhood experience would have destroyed so many people. What was 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:37.600 it about you and about sort of your psyche, your constitution, 0:05:37.640 --> 0:05:41.240 your outlook on life that you were able to turn 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:44.599 it into something so positive. I'm sure you've examined that. 0:05:44.720 --> 0:05:46.839 I have. I think that what saved me was reading 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:50.320 my I early in my life I got exposed to 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:53.839 personal improvement and personal development, and I took a speed 0:05:53.839 --> 0:05:55.840 reading class, and I promised myself I'd read a book 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:57.839 of dad and do that. But I read seven hundred 0:05:57.839 --> 0:06:01.680 books in seven years, and they were all psychology, physiology, 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:03.920 anything that could improve the quality of life. And so 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:06.839 because I was feeding my mind so much, I think 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:08.680 that really gave it. The other part was I just 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:11.479 love people, and so you know, I love my brother 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:13.320 and sister. To start with, I just want to help them. 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:14.560 But by the time I was in high school, I 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:16.600 would I had so many answers. I was Mr. Solution 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:18.479 you had a problem, especially if you're a girl. I 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:21.480 was highly to help you get over that stupid boy 0:06:21.520 --> 0:06:25.960 in your life you were. I have such strong memories 0:06:26.000 --> 0:06:29.160 as a kid watching your infomercials on TV. That's how 0:06:29.600 --> 0:06:32.200 I first got introduced to you. That's Brian's way of 0:06:32.200 --> 0:06:35.280 reminding us how young he is. I'm not so young. 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:40.200 I'm practically middle aged now, but practically. But the point is, 0:06:40.240 --> 0:06:42.320 I think a lot of people who may have gotten 0:06:42.360 --> 0:06:45.480 introduced to you that way don't know that you've become 0:06:45.560 --> 0:06:49.600 this advisor to CEOs like Mark Bennie Off and Paul 0:06:49.640 --> 0:06:53.880 Tutor Jones, that you've advised Richard Branson, Steve wins, Serena Williams, 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:57.839 pat Riley On and on. How is your career kind 0:06:57.839 --> 0:07:02.760 of gone from you know, TV self improvement guru to 0:07:03.680 --> 0:07:07.360 advisor to the CEO stars. Well, I was always even 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:09.440 early my life. Quite frankly, I was a young kid, 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:13.120 but I had unique insights because I had loaded my brain. 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:14.760 You know, I'd gone for so many answers that I 0:07:14.800 --> 0:07:17.320 had them. I didn't have all the life experience yet, 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:20.520 but I had this incredible passion to help people, and 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:22.960 so it allowed me at early age, I was turning around. 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:25.320 You know, when I was gosh Hose, I was twenty 0:07:25.720 --> 0:07:28.720 let's say the eighteen nineteen nineteen, twenty years old. I 0:07:28.720 --> 0:07:31.440 was turning around Olympic athletes. Twenty four. I turned around 0:07:31.440 --> 0:07:33.480 Andrea Agassi when he'd been number one and dropped to 0:07:33.480 --> 0:07:35.040 twenty nine, and got him back to number one, and 0:07:35.040 --> 0:07:37.960 he gave me enormous credit. Maybe too much, maybe not, 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:41.880 but I helped him turn around either, I'm grateful. And 0:07:41.880 --> 0:07:43.720 then you know when I got to the President Clinton 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:46.440 at that stage, and mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela at 0:07:46.480 --> 0:07:48.920 the game James Dropper, No, I have a name dropping 0:07:48.920 --> 0:07:52.440 because they were just such incredible human beings that I 0:07:52.480 --> 0:07:55.120 got the privilege to coach. I was pinching myself. But 0:07:55.200 --> 0:07:57.440 I also wasn't stupid enough to only coach them. I 0:07:57.480 --> 0:08:00.280 was learning from them. So for forty years I've not 0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:02.720 just been coaching others thinking I got all the answers. 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:05.080 I've been sucking the juice out of the brains of 0:08:05.120 --> 0:08:07.480 the smartest people I can find and most heartfelt people 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:09.080 I could find doing the same thing I did with 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:11.120 the financial And I said, if I want to, really, 0:08:11.160 --> 0:08:13.640 I've taught this for years, but I was so angry 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:15.400 what happened in two thousand eight and that no one 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:18.000 paid a price for it that by I said, I 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:20.120 got to use my skill. I've got. I have this 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:23.000 unique gift I've coached Paul Tutor Jones for at that point, 0:08:23.040 --> 0:08:24.960 I think twenty years and twenty four years and now 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:27.560 one of the leading investment managers went to uv A 0:08:27.720 --> 0:08:30.760 with me, and I asked him after many years after 0:08:30.800 --> 0:08:33.600 we graduated, Hey, Paul, where were you when I was 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:35.520 at u v A thinking, you know, that would have 0:08:35.559 --> 0:08:37.280 been a nice person to hook up with it you 0:08:37.280 --> 0:08:40.120 know what I'm saying. And he said said to me, 0:08:40.679 --> 0:08:43.040 I was probably drunk, And I said, no, wonder we 0:08:43.080 --> 0:08:46.840 didn't meet. But anyway, continue well, Paul, as you know, 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:48.439 as a gift to this country and a gift to 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:50.160 the city for sure, with Robin Hood and all that 0:08:50.240 --> 0:08:52.240 he's done, and I've learned so much from him. But 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:54.280 but that's really what I've tried to do along the way, 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:57.240 as I've tried to learn by other people's experiences, because 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:00.040 you know, in business, other people's money is leverage. I 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:02.120 think what's much more valuable in other people's money is 0:09:02.120 --> 0:09:05.800 other people's experience. When that other person's experiences dynamic and extraordinary, 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:08.160 you know, it's wild. So really, in helping them, they're 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:12.199 helping you. They all tell about Tony changed my life, 0:09:12.240 --> 0:09:14.200 saved my life. You know, you bring Mark Banning off 0:09:14.280 --> 0:09:16.120 some one of my dearest friends. And I can remember 0:09:16.160 --> 0:09:18.600 Mark coming up to me after attending three seminars are 0:09:18.600 --> 0:09:20.480 always hard to miss. He's standing in the front row. 0:09:20.520 --> 0:09:22.440 He's as big as I am. Right, he comes up 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:24.400 and shakes my hand. He goes, this is my third seminar. 0:09:24.400 --> 0:09:26.880 I said, yeah, I know, he says. He goes, you 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:28.960 just convinced me. You finally pushed me off the edge. 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:31.280 And he says, I'm I'm leaving my job and I'm 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:33.959 gonna start this new company called Salesforce dot com and 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:36.120 we're gonna change the business world, and you're gonna remember, 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:37.680 and you're gonna come on the journey with me. And 0:09:37.679 --> 0:09:39.319 he goes, I'll everyday he looked at me. He goes, 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:42.240 Mark my words, we're gonna do a hundred million dollars 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:44.520 in business. Of course they're gonna do ten billion this year, right, 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:47.320 So it's just a fun journey to see those things. 0:09:47.400 --> 0:09:50.480 But he says, if this is my favorite quote because 0:09:50.480 --> 0:09:53.480 it certainly serves me, goes around and tells everybody Salesforce 0:09:53.520 --> 0:09:56.080 wouldn't exist if it wasn't for Tony Robbins. That's bullshit. 0:09:56.160 --> 0:09:57.679 But I really like that he says it. But I 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:00.720 think what people may have trouble understanding is, you know, 0:10:01.280 --> 0:10:04.320 you're sitting down with President Bill Clinton during the height 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:07.640 of the depths of the Lewinsky scandal, and he's looking 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:10.840 to you for advice. What can you tell him that 0:10:10.920 --> 0:10:14.000 he doesn't already know the truth? Um, I was with 0:10:14.040 --> 0:10:15.640 Peter Goober. I don't know if you know Peter owns 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:20.360 the Dodgers and the Golden State Warriors and no, but 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:24.640 his partner dated used the two. We don't want to 0:10:24.640 --> 0:10:26.720 spread that rumor you can get in trouble his wife. 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:29.120 But I was at Peter's house that was you spend 0:10:29.160 --> 0:10:31.760 every Christmas with him and AskMen. And he calls me 0:10:31.800 --> 0:10:33.840 and says, presidents on the line. So what So I 0:10:33.840 --> 0:10:35.640 got a line. The President said, you know, I've had 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:37.760 ten people tell me that right now, I'm going through 0:10:37.800 --> 0:10:40.040 a tough time. You're the right guy. Would you come 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:42.040 to Camp David and spend the weekend and talk with me? 0:10:42.080 --> 0:10:43.400 And I said, I can't come for the weekend and 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:45.280 come for the day because this holiday I gotta be 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:47.000 with my family. But I said, I just want you 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:50.199 to know I'm not a fan. And Peter, I'll never 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:52.920 get Peter's face. I said, I'm completely respectful. It would 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:54.560 be a privilege to serve you. But if you're looking 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:55.880 for someone who's going to tell you what you want 0:10:55.880 --> 0:10:58.520 to hear, I'm the wrong guy. And there's a long pause, 0:10:58.559 --> 0:11:01.199 and then President Clinton said, I like that. I'm looking 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:03.439 for something. I'm not looking to be told what I believe. 0:11:03.480 --> 0:11:05.480 I said, great, then I'm happy to come. I don't 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:07.000 the phone in Peterson. You just told the President Nited 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:08.679 states you're not as fan. I have to invite to come. 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:10.640 What the how's the matter with you? You know? So 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:12.760 I went met with the President and developed a real 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:15.640 great friendship. But I can remember after the Blue Dress 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:17.840 we were an AskMen together and going down the Red 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:19.520 Mountain if you know that area, you know, and it's 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:22.720 snowy and there it's surreal. You know, the President's motorcade 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:24.200 in the middle of the night, going down this icy 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:27.600 mountaintop and he said to me, goes, he said, you know, god, 0:11:27.640 --> 0:11:29.520 I'd run again if I could. And I was like, dude, 0:11:29.520 --> 0:11:30.840 if I were you, I'd get the hell out of 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:33.680 dodge us teasing him, and he goes, no time, what 0:11:33.720 --> 0:11:35.360 am I gonna do with the rest of my life. 0:11:35.360 --> 0:11:37.520 I'm fifty or fifty one whatever he was at the time, 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:40.120 And uh, it's kind of crazy now because I just 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:42.520 saw him last weekend and just to see what he's 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:44.960 done with his life. I know he's obviously massively disappointed 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:47.000 what happened in the election, but to see what he's 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:51.000 done out of office is truly inspiring. It's inspiring that 0:11:51.040 --> 0:11:53.000 you can't imagine. But to address what you said, I 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:55.160 was thirty one and I'm advising the president nited states. 0:11:55.160 --> 0:11:57.320 It's kind of trippy. I'm you know, a deer went 0:11:57.400 --> 0:11:59.120 running by. It's in the middle of the snow, and 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:01.439 the President's telling me how bad the media is. It's 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:03.240 so funny you tell me at that time and they 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:05.880 don't listen. And you know, he's the first president that 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:09.079 doesn't have an external enemy, so now everybody's turning internally, 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:11.680 was his view. I remember thinking, this guy's president United 0:12:11.720 --> 0:12:14.560 States and he's whining, and it's like, I guess we 0:12:14.640 --> 0:12:16.360 all whine at times. And I got to figure out 0:12:16.400 --> 0:12:19.400 what to do to help this man and long term relationship, well, 0:12:19.480 --> 0:12:21.280 I don't talk about what I do with people unless 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:23.160 they talk about it publicly. Something I can tell you 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:25.400 is one day, one of the more interesting calls I got, 0:12:25.800 --> 0:12:27.560 can call me. One day I was at my office, 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:30.559 people paid me and I get him the phone and 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:32.240 he says, they're gonna impeach me in the morning. What 0:12:32.280 --> 0:12:35.520 should I do? And I'm like, first, could you have 0:12:35.640 --> 0:12:39.440 called me sooner? Yes, tomorrow morning, right? And I said, 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:41.320 that's the wrong question. And the question you gotta ask 0:12:41.400 --> 0:12:43.599 is what do you really want? Because what to do 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:45.400 is based on the outcome you're after. If you want 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:47.400 to stay in office, do nothing because the Senate's not 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:49.920 gonna impeach you. Easy for me to say, I'm not 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:51.760 the president under pressure, but you know as well as 0:12:51.800 --> 0:12:53.600 I do, they're not gonna teach you. I said, so 0:12:53.640 --> 0:12:56.000 you can do nothing. If you want to be respected 0:12:56.960 --> 0:13:01.080 then by American people, by children, by parents. Then I said, 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:02.600 I know you're not gonna put yourself You're a lawyer, 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:04.240 you're not gonna put yourself in jail. But you've got 0:13:04.240 --> 0:13:07.040 to communicate with more clarity about what's really going on 0:13:07.080 --> 0:13:09.280 and take responsibility for the things that were a mess up. 0:13:09.880 --> 0:13:12.240 And I had this moment where he said, you're so right, 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:14.839 You're so right. So I'm so glad I called you said, 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:16.560 I'll call you back. I'm gonna call you back in 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:19.800 forty five minutes, and I thought, holy shit, I'd influenced 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:21.440 the president move in the right direction, right what I 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:24.240 could through the right direction. And then his secretary called 0:13:24.240 --> 0:13:26.280 me about thirty minutes later. He's still with the group, 0:13:26.280 --> 0:13:28.320 but he wants to know he's focused on it. In 0:13:28.320 --> 0:13:30.199 about three hours called at the time at four hours later, 0:13:30.200 --> 0:13:31.839 he was stadding, with all the Democrats, you know, and 0:13:31.880 --> 0:13:34.000 they're saying, you know, this is all bullshit and we're 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:36.480 gonna fight this thing. But so I've had some wild rides. 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:38.760 I've had a chance to sit down with Mr Gorbachoff, 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:40.760 you know, right after you know, he was taken out 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:43.240 of office, and spend time and bring him. I've I've 0:13:43.280 --> 0:13:45.439 had a ticket to history and it's been an incredible 0:13:45.440 --> 0:13:47.600 privilege and I've learned so much, and I try to 0:13:47.640 --> 0:13:50.160 take that and make it practical for the average person 0:13:50.200 --> 0:13:52.319 so they can prove their life or you know, the 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:54.640 leader that calls when it's time to interm intervene. Just 0:13:54.800 --> 0:13:57.800 on the on the President Clinton front. You got to 0:13:57.840 --> 0:14:00.280 know Hillary Clinton well as well? Have you have my 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:03.440 Trump as well? Yeah, well we'll get to that in 0:14:03.440 --> 0:14:05.920 a moment. But one of the things I thought about 0:14:06.120 --> 0:14:08.640 was Monica Lewinsky. I saw her not long ago in 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:15.360 Los Angeles, and I always felt that she had I mean, 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:17.440 I was going to say she got the short end 0:14:17.480 --> 0:14:21.400 of the stick, and then I just realized that I'm 0:14:21.440 --> 0:14:24.440 sorry that I was. I was searching. I was searching 0:14:24.560 --> 0:14:30.760 Alec Baldwin and Donald Trump apression so unfairly and I 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:35.440 you know, and and so villainized, and she was. You know, 0:14:35.480 --> 0:14:37.800 I have a daughter who's twenty one years old, Tony, 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:41.840 and I think about she, Well, you know, she's a kid, 0:14:41.960 --> 0:14:45.320 she's a college girl, and I felt like she was 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:48.400 she made a mistake but also taking advantage of in 0:14:48.400 --> 0:14:52.120 a very serious way. Did you ever think about her 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:55.680 or reaching out to her? Actually, um, I've reached out 0:14:55.680 --> 0:14:57.280 all the time on something there, like I reached out 0:14:57.280 --> 0:14:59.840 to Tiger Woods. Actually, probably a dozen people reached out 0:14:59.880 --> 0:15:01.520 for for me to Dagger Woods, but he got in 0:15:01.600 --> 0:15:03.320 motors like I don't want to help, and he didn't 0:15:03.360 --> 0:15:05.320 do it. So Um, as far as her, I didn't 0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:07.720 reach out her directly, but I always let people know 0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:09.320 that I'm available, and I work with people on both 0:15:09.360 --> 0:15:12.040 sides of the aisle. I'm an independent personally. I worked 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:14.600 with whoever I think is a great leader. Um, but 0:15:14.720 --> 0:15:16.080 you know she's the kind of person if you know 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:17.960 her and want to invite her. I'm doing an event. 0:15:18.120 --> 0:15:19.360 I think she's based in l A now is and 0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:21.840 she years if she wants to come. I'm doing one 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:24.000 for ten thousand people in two weeks and she could 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:25.400 come as our guests and would blow her mind. I 0:15:25.400 --> 0:15:26.880 can promise you that. So if she wants, if you 0:15:26.880 --> 0:15:28.560 want invite her as my guests, will do it. But 0:15:28.600 --> 0:15:33.360 it's interesting, europe psychology expert, you're clearly really great at 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:37.080 leadership coaching, but you never went to college. There's no 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:40.840 formal training for this. You said you've learned from the 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:44.080 people with whom you've had these discussions. But what do 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:46.880 you think you offer? What is the value add when 0:15:46.880 --> 0:15:50.520 somebody's sitting across the table from you besides telling them 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:53.960 the truth? Well, I'm I've spent forty years now at 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:56.880 this stage where I've gotten the call and I got 0:15:56.880 --> 0:15:59.520 to produce the result. Now, Serena Williams is melting down 0:15:59.600 --> 0:16:01.520 on that sal television. What do I do? I should 0:16:01.560 --> 0:16:04.400 gone through all these problems turn around right now? Um, 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:07.200 you know kids suicidal, knock on wood. I've never lost 0:16:07.240 --> 0:16:10.600 one suicide in forty years out of thousands. So my 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:13.680 whole approach has been how do I just really deliver 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:16.480 results for people? And what every area it is, whether 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:18.720 it be sports or would be business. And you know, 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:20.840 I've been obsessed with finding principles that are the best 0:16:20.840 --> 0:16:24.360 principles from find like somebody's been together twenty five years 0:16:24.360 --> 0:16:26.560 and they're still passionate for each other, not just hanging out. 0:16:26.600 --> 0:16:28.920 They're not lucky. They do things differently than other people. 0:16:29.200 --> 0:16:31.360 If you're fit and you've stayed fit for thirty years, 0:16:31.360 --> 0:16:34.320 you're not lucky. You're doing something different. If you're financially 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:37.080 set and you've started with nothing and you've built it 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:39.120 that you're not lucky. You did something different. So I 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:41.320 codify what that difference is. But then I put it 0:16:41.360 --> 0:16:45.680 into a delivery system that's so enjoyable that you love 0:16:45.720 --> 0:16:47.840 while you're learning, and so as a result, you tend 0:16:47.920 --> 0:16:49.920 to really apply it because there's more emotion to it. 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:52.720 You know, information without emotions not retained. If I said, 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:55.760 do you remember where you were on nine eleven, everybody 0:16:55.760 --> 0:16:57.760 in this country, in fact, most countries know where they 0:16:57.760 --> 0:16:59.320 were when they heard it. They can describe where they were, 0:16:59.320 --> 0:17:01.640 who was around them they saw. But I ask you 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:03.480 where you are on eight eleven, you have no clue 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:07.479 because information without emotion is not retained. What I do 0:17:07.560 --> 0:17:10.640 is I put people in states, psychological emotional states where 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:12.920 what they learned they feel it, they embed it, they 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:15.240 experience it, and they live it. And because they live it, 0:17:15.280 --> 0:17:17.679 they get results. And then that's grown my brand and 0:17:17.720 --> 0:17:20.679 reputation for fourty years. You're also almost telepathic, you know, 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:23.560 I watched the documentary, and when you have a huge 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:27.520 crowd of people, you can almost you do and feel them. 0:17:27.560 --> 0:17:31.280 You can zero in on the person who really seems 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:33.800 to need your help. It's almost like the Long Island 0:17:33.880 --> 0:17:39.040 medium with shorter nails. How you do that? How do 0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:42.520 you do that? Well, I'm extremely empathetic and and if 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:45.239 you know anything about the human brain, we have these 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:47.920 things called mirror neurons, whereas if you're sitting there and 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:50.639 you watch somebody going rowing by, and you keep watching them, 0:17:50.760 --> 0:17:52.879 your brain will actually start to do their rowing and 0:17:52.960 --> 0:17:55.200 your nervous system right. And the more empathetic you are, 0:17:55.240 --> 0:17:57.359 the more your mirror neurons tend to turn on. So 0:17:57.520 --> 0:18:01.280 mine are highly developed for forty years to enter someone's world, 0:18:01.359 --> 0:18:03.760 rapidly feel who they are. And then I have so 0:18:03.800 --> 0:18:07.200 many you know, there's only so many patterns, right, There's 0:18:07.320 --> 0:18:09.480 there's only so many ways. We're the only creatures on 0:18:09.520 --> 0:18:12.800 earth that can make ourselves angry with one thought, happy 0:18:12.880 --> 0:18:16.359 with another, piste off another, excited with another. And so 0:18:16.440 --> 0:18:18.719