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Speaker 1: our guest today, I think that really fits Tony Robbins.

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Speaker 1: and given his childhood, it's fascinating how that really motivated

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Speaker 1: I have no doubt that he will do it. And

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Speaker 1: So here's Tony Robbins. And by the way, he's a

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Speaker 1: you hear that. Thank you for stopping by our little studio.

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Speaker 1: It's my pleasure. And Brian is here with me, and

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Speaker 1: we were talking about your extraordinary career. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: I'm a peak performance coach. I'm a consultant for people,

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Speaker 1: you're right. Some are hungry because of pain. They had

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Speaker 1: a birthday with a zero, they went through a divorce,

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Speaker 1: their kids have grown up um, you know they have

428
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Speaker 1: been at the same business for twenty years. They made

429
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Speaker 1: million dollars in their board. Out of their mind. They

430
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Speaker 1: want something more. Right, someone wants something more, they're gonna

431
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Speaker 1: come see me. But then there's the whole class of people,

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Speaker 1: which is a huge chunk, which are the best in

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Speaker 1: the world that are looking for they know one little distinction.

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm going this direction and make a ten

435
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Speaker 1: degree shift, and you take that on a month and

436
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Speaker 1: now six months, and now you have a different destination,

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Speaker 1: different destiny. So I get people that are hungry. If

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Speaker 1: you're in the lukewarm middle where you're not happy but

439
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Speaker 1: you're not unhappy enough doing about it, you're never gonna

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Speaker 1: come see me. But if you're the best in the world,

441
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Speaker 1: you'll talk to the other best and I'll say Tony

442
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Speaker 1: did this for me, and you'll call me. Or if

443
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Speaker 1: you're the best or not the best, but you're really challenged,

444
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Speaker 1: you're going to look for answers. And I'm going to

445
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Speaker 1: be one of those people eventually, just because I've been

446
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Speaker 1: in the culture doing this for forty years. So if

447
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Speaker 1: Brian wanted to come, you are very expensive. If Brian

448
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Speaker 1: wanted to come and have a one on one session, Brian,

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Speaker 1: I'd like to talk to you about me beginning together

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Speaker 1: with Actually I think I could get together with Tony,

451
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Speaker 1: but he's too expensive and I'm too cheap. We should

452
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Speaker 1: talk about this because so you charged a million dollars

453
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Speaker 1: and they had a percentage of whatever side in their business. Yeah, geez, Louise,

454
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Speaker 1: no wonder you're feeding so many hungry people. You're gonna

455
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Speaker 1: only coach so many people one on one to give

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Speaker 1: you agree. I used to see. I used to do

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Speaker 1: my Magnificence seven and then I stopped doing it because

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Speaker 1: the demands are just so high and I have to

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Speaker 1: you know, I want to over deliver always, and I

460
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Speaker 1: just not enough hours in the day. So now I

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Speaker 1: do too, sometimes three at a time max. But Paul

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Speaker 1: Tutor has been one of my clients for twenty four years.

463
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Speaker 1: So I four million dollars, maybe maybe it was more,

464
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Speaker 1: but he's but he's also made billions and billions of dollars.

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Speaker 1: I mean, several times along the way, I've said, damn, look, Paul,

466
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Speaker 1: we're such dear friends. I said, I don't need this

467
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Speaker 1: for you anymore. I know what you're gonna do when

468
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Speaker 1: you're gonna do it. You knew it too, And he

469
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Speaker 1: looks at me and says, are you kidding me? Your

470
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Speaker 1: my insurance policy? Just know when you're going to show up.

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Speaker 1: I do all this stuff. I knew I should have

472
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Speaker 1: dated him in college. Well, we're going to take a

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Speaker 1: quick break and when we come back, we're going to

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Speaker 1: talk to you about leadership and our fearless leader or

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Is that the right way to describe

476
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Speaker 1: Donald Trump? These days, we'll hear from Tony Robbins about

477
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Speaker 1: Donald Trump. Right after this, we're back with Tony Robbins.

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Speaker 1: Who has I think you're the male brend of a Carl.

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Speaker 1: You've got such a raspy voice, is it? Is it

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Speaker 1: always so? Of course a lot of our listeners won't

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Speaker 1: remember brend of a Card did a tamp Ex commercial,

482
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Speaker 1: and I'm being compared to a tamp Ex commercial. I

483
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Speaker 1: feel really very raspy voice. I think it's important to

484
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Speaker 1: know the facts about tampons, to use them intelligently, and

485
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Speaker 1: to know what you're doing. Let me tell you why

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Speaker 1: I like plate Express. Yes, because I speak fifty hours?

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Speaker 1: Is that why it's so raspy? I actually went to

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Speaker 1: a expert at Harvard, who's worked with Aarri Smith and

489
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Speaker 1: all these guys. He's probably the best expert in the country.

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Speaker 1: I'll never get he has this. He asked me, how

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Speaker 1: off when I speak it? I told me. He thought

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Speaker 1: I was making it up. He goes, No, one speaks

493
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Speaker 1: for twelve hours. No one will sit there with twelve hours.

494
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Speaker 1: I said, well, now I get ten thousand people at

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Speaker 1: the time to do it. So he'd been puts me

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Speaker 1: under the scope and he literally says, I got the

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Speaker 1: thing down my throat. I can't speak. He's like, no, no.

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Speaker 1: He leaves the room with the thing in my throat

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Speaker 1: trying to say something. He walks in with three doctors

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Speaker 1: five minutes later and they all stare no, no, Well

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Speaker 1: that's when you know it's good. Yeah. So if idly

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Speaker 1: pull it out, Like what's the no, he goes, you're um.

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Speaker 1: You are what he called vocal cords are supposed to

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Speaker 1: be the thickness of your lips. Yours are thinner than

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Speaker 1: this piece of paper. He said, there's no way you

506
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Speaker 1: should be able to actually speak. It should be impossible

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Speaker 1: for you to speak. But he said, you've done something

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Speaker 1: that My forty years as a medical doctor expert in

509
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Speaker 1: this area would say as impossible. Science says, impossible. You've

510
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Speaker 1: wired your voice box, your false voice box, to your

511
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Speaker 1: normal voice box, and that's how you speak. He goes,

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Speaker 1: it's almost that you couldn't speak, and you like willed

513
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Speaker 1: yourself to speak, and somehow the cells connected and gradually

514
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Speaker 1: created this train that you now can speak. That's how

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Speaker 1: I talk to Do you ever not talk? I mean,

516
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Speaker 1: do you ever go for quiet periods? She says? Why

517
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Speaker 1: aren't you talking to me? What's wrong? You're one of

518
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Speaker 1: those everybody else you're not talking to me? You probably

519
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Speaker 1: get sick of it. I'm sure you want to just

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Speaker 1: not like, want to let your voice rest. And someone

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Speaker 1: dore my wife, she's, I tease, are mercilessly? Mercilessly? No,

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Speaker 1: I I'd like to speak when there's something to speak about,

523
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Speaker 1: and when there's something to speak out. I'm not getting

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Speaker 1: up there to talk for fifty hours because I want

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Speaker 1: to talk for fifty hours. Because what I do is conditioning. Right.

526
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Speaker 1: You hear something, once you understand it, you here a

527
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Speaker 1: couple of times in different ways, you might be able

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Speaker 1: to play it. But if I get you were you're

529
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Speaker 1: wired to do it now. You get results. I mean

530
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Speaker 1: you get results by changing conditioning. You don't get results

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Speaker 1: by just getting a new insight. This was your second wife,

532
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Speaker 1: your current I was married for fourteen years before that.

533
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Speaker 1: I've been married eighteen years on this one. And and so,

534
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Speaker 1: what did you learn from your first marriage? Your partner.

535
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Speaker 1: No one tells you how to pick a partner. So

536
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Speaker 1: she was a great lady, but we had so little

537
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Speaker 1: in common. It was just chemistry. And then I fell

538
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Speaker 1: in love with her children. She'd been married twice before me.

539
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Speaker 1: I was her third husband, and she was thirteen years

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Speaker 1: my senior, twelve years my senior. So I was, if

541
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Speaker 1: you can imagine, twenty four and instantly had a seventeen

542
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Speaker 1: year old son overnight and eleven year old. Oh that's weird,

543
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Speaker 1: like seven years older than your stepson. He was the

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Speaker 1: Ashton Kutcher of his day. He's fifty and I'm fifty seven. Yeah,

545
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Speaker 1: to give an idea, So I grew up very quickly. Um,

546
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Speaker 1: but I didn't want to lose the kid's love. I

547
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Speaker 1: fell so in love with them. She's a good human being,

548
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Speaker 1: but you know, she'd be upset all the time that

549
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Speaker 1: I was stopping to talk to people or help people

550
00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 1: much so. But what the beauty is I end up

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Speaker 1: with all my kids and my second youngest is my

552
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Speaker 1: partner in several of my financial businesses, you know. And

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Speaker 1: so it's a it's a blast at this stage of

554
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Speaker 1: my life that I got to experience all those stages simultaneously.

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Speaker 1: They made me grow up and they think increased my

556
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Speaker 1: ability to help other people too. Well, let's let's enough

557
00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:27,639
Speaker 1: about your marriage. Let's talk about Donald Trump. Can speaking

558
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Speaker 1: of things that weren't supposed to be possible, like her

559
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Speaker 1: vocal cords Trump. So, so, how well do you know

560
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Speaker 1: Donald Trump? Pretty well enough that he's called me at

561
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Speaker 1: various times. I gave him his first six speech, I know,

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Speaker 1: not recently, I gave him his first big speech. I

563
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Speaker 1: think you might call him, well, sure I can, but

564
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Speaker 1: he's and he's just down the road for me. You

565
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Speaker 1: don't visit him if I want to get because I

566
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Speaker 1: live in Balm Beach most of the time. A good

567
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Speaker 1: person of time. But um, you know, he's a very

568
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Speaker 1: unique creature, as you well know. And I think that

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Speaker 1: he's been reinforced for what you and I might call

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Speaker 1: bad behave at least in communication style. And um and

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Speaker 1: he's now President Nited States, and those things are not

572
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Speaker 1: being reinforced. But I think half the country sent him

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Speaker 1: there because government is systemic. You take your time, you

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Speaker 1: think everything through it as consequences. He's pragmatic. I want

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Speaker 1: to do this now, right now, and even if make

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Speaker 1: a mistake, then I'll correct the mistake and get it done.

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Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna take two years to do it.

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Speaker 1: So I think, is that pragmatic or impulsive? Well, you

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Speaker 1: can call it impulsive, but it's also pragmatic to look

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Speaker 1: for an answer now. Everyone has a specialty in their brains.

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Speaker 1: Some people are extremely empathetic, right. Empathetic people are always

582
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Speaker 1: like if you're in a meeting right now and we

583
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Speaker 1: say we're gonna do something, they're gonna, hey, wait a second,

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Speaker 1: that will make these people feel this way, and they're

585
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Speaker 1: always worried about that. Person is more pragmatic is like,

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Speaker 1: they're gonna feel that way, but if we don't do this,

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Speaker 1: it's gonna go under and everyone's gonna get hurt. That

588
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Speaker 1: is what we gotta do right now. The systemic person like,

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Speaker 1: slow down, let's think this through, let's evaluate this, let's

590
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Speaker 1: take our time, And they might take a couple of

591
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Speaker 1: years to do what the other person will do wrong

592
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Speaker 1: in the first week, but the wrong one was the

593
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Speaker 1: first week will get more done because they do it

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Speaker 1: more often, and if they correct, they do it more often.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel correct enough or not. But

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Speaker 1: he clearly he's not empathetic. Let's put it that way.

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00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 1: I'm not as high as skill set. Thank you, last category.

598
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Speaker 1: The president of the last category sounds like Barack Obamas

599
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:14,440
Speaker 1: exactly right, totally systemic. And when you're talking at Barack Obama,

600
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:16,879
Speaker 1: he's thinking while he's talking to he's filtering every word.

601
00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:19,159
Speaker 1: I watched him, you know, get up and you have

602
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:21,679
Speaker 1: a speech to first graders and he had to what

603
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 1: do you call it? Telepropers reading teleproperters the first graders like,

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00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 1: come on. But then you have this other guy who

605
00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:29,520
Speaker 1: just makes it up as he's standing there. So we've

606
00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:31,959
Speaker 1: gone from one extreme. Yeah, that's what people do in relationship, right,

607
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,199
Speaker 1: this didn't work. Let me throw my pendulum to the

608
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 1: other side, which also often doesn't work in some people's minds.

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Speaker 1: But I think, um, I had a good conversation with

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Speaker 1: President Clinton last weekend, but I had an even better

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00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:44,720
Speaker 1: conversation related to this specifically, a couple of months ago

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Speaker 1: with George W. Bush, and I was asking him. I said,

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Speaker 1: you know, you never attacked Barack Obama. I really respect

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Speaker 1: that about you. And he goes, I'll tell you why.

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00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 1: Tony goes, I'm not president United States. The people have spoken.

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Speaker 1: I had my eight years, and whether I voted for

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Speaker 1: the person or not doesn't matter. They're my president. There,

618
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Speaker 1: you're president. We got to help them succeed. They don't

619
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Speaker 1: do it on their own. And he I said, but

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Speaker 1: what do you feel? He goes, well, you know, I

621
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Speaker 1: wanted my brother to win. He said, he obviously didn't.

622
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Speaker 1: But he goes this stuff that the world's over because

623
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Speaker 1: Trump is crazy and insane. He goes, it's so exaggerated,

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Speaker 1: and it's quite quite frankly infantile. He said, let's just

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Speaker 1: be honest. He said, I used to think this too.

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00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:24,160
Speaker 1: When Nixon left office impeached. I thought he destroyed the presidency,

627
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 1: destroyed the reputation Americas, stroyed America. He goes, I was

628
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:30,200
Speaker 1: dead wrong. He said that was an infantile emotional response.

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Speaker 1: Here's the truth. He said, the office is bigger than

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Speaker 1: the occupant. People so nervous trepidacious, scared out of their

631
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 1: mind because we as a culture constantly reinforce fear and

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00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 1: create tribalism. It's the news way in which we live.

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00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 1: Since social media plus today we can self fulfill you

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Speaker 1: can you you can just watch MSNBC all day long

635
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Speaker 1: or Fox all daylong and you live in a different

636
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:59,960
Speaker 1: universe or Facebook and read fake news. So people today

637
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:02,560
Speaker 1: don't want to be interrupted. I mean, in the financial industry,

638
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:04,520
Speaker 1: it's one of the biggest mistakes that people It's called

639
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:07,320
Speaker 1: confirmation bias. You know, you go get everybody confirm what

640
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 1: you believe and you go do that. Well, it's a

641
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:11,680
Speaker 1: recipe for death. We're doing that here. How do we

642
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 1: how do we change that? You know? I mean, this

643
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 1: is something we've talked about frequently. And my friend Nicole says,

644
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:21,719
Speaker 1: people looking for affirmation, not information. And but you know,

645
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:23,560
Speaker 1: and there was a piece in the New York Times

646
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 1: actually recently about how to get out of your bubble,

647
00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 1: and people are trying to encourage people to overlap. But

648
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 1: I mean, how what's the solution to the first? You

649
00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 1: go first, You got to see what the problem is.

650
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 1: I believe the problem. You can tell me if you

651
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 1: agree or disagree. Um. One of the problems clearly is

652
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:42,840
Speaker 1: that we are not using technology. Technology is now using us.

653
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:47,600
Speaker 1: Watch how people where people's level of impatience is today

654
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 1: the bam bam on their phone like this, it's not responding,

655
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:52,240
Speaker 1: it's going to a satellite. Give it a minute. I mean,

656
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 1: my god, whether the hell is the matter with you?

657
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:57,800
Speaker 1: And so you're used to in control every moment on

658
00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 1: the web. So I think it's a combination of technology.

659
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 1: And we have tolerated this as a culture. You get

660
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 1: what you tolerate. As an individual, we tolerated, but how

661
00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 1: do you how do you change it? And the only

662
00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 1: way it's so far down line now. The only way

663
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:14,720
Speaker 1: it changes is the way anything changes. Historically, we throw

664
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 1: our pendulums until we exhaust that, and sometimes that exhaustion

665
00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 1: goes for a period of you know, a generation, ten

666
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 1: or fifteen or twenty years. If you think about the

667
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 1: winter seasons historically, I mean, if you grew up in

668
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 1: the nineteen thirties and forties, came of age at that time,

669
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 1: you live very differently. Became of age in the fifties,

670
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:34,760
Speaker 1: then if he came to change in the sixties and seventies,

671
00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 1: a totally different generation than the eighties and nineties two thousands.

672
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 1: So I personally believe, and I'm guessing no one knows

673
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 1: for sure. I think we're gonna throw our pendulum and

674
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 1: we're gonna get exhausted this like we exhausted anything, and

675
00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 1: will eventually come back. How long will that take? I

676
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: don't know. Will President Trump become a CEO who settles

677
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 1: down and is able to do that or not. You know,

678
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,720
Speaker 1: we're six weeks into it. He's been reinforced for the

679
00:30:56,720 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 1: behavior he had his entire life, and he's only for

680
00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 1: the first time having an interruption to that behavior. So

681
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:05,960
Speaker 1: we'll see. Well, regarding President Trump, you said Donald doesn't

682
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:09,200
Speaker 1: take coaching, he doesn't want coaching. I know a lot

683
00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 1: of Republicans who are really nervous, scared, even alarmed by

684
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 1: some of the actions he's taken as president. The fact

685
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 1: that he doesn't know what he doesn't know, and that

686
00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 1: he has these tweet storms that you know, five thirty

687
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:24,640
Speaker 1: in the morning making all these accusations that have no

688
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:27,800
Speaker 1: merit because he's been reading bright Bart News come on.

689
00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 1: And so I think the larger question is can he

690
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 1: learn from his mistakes and get bigger and better, or

691
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: he's a smarter person. You might give him credit for it.

692
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:39,360
Speaker 1: He's well trained to be the way he is because

693
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:43,160
Speaker 1: he's been rewarded so often. But without the rewards, he's

694
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 1: got the ability to learn. The question is will he

695
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 1: And I can't answer that question for you, No one can.

696
00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 1: But I think, um, the more we spend time on

697
00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:53,480
Speaker 1: his tweets uh and give it so much attention, you

698
00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 1: just reinforce the behavior. He's going to keep doing it.

699
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:58,480
Speaker 1: The more put your fist up. If I go like this,

700
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:00,360
Speaker 1: what are you doing? Why are you put him back?

701
00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 1: I didn't tell you to push back. Well, otherwise you're

702
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 1: gonna break my arm. He's a very strong guy. Actually,

703
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:09,000
Speaker 1: let let it go. You'll see it. It's not going

704
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:14,880
Speaker 1: to break your arm. More more you push on somebody,

705
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 1: I just don't put his fist out. And I pushed

706
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:18,440
Speaker 1: on it like with my fist, and he's pushing harder

707
00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:19,920
Speaker 1: and harder. I didn't tell him to push I'm still

708
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:22,760
Speaker 1: across the table from Superman here, and it's very hard

709
00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:24,960
Speaker 1: not to push back a little bit. But think about that.

710
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 1: It's very hard for him not push back, very hard

711
00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 1: for the media not to push back. But you're more

712
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 1: optimistic than many people. You think that he can grow

713
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:34,880
Speaker 1: and get better. But you've said that he doesn't take

714
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:37,160
Speaker 1: training or coaching at this stage. He's not, but it

715
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 1: doesn't mean he won't. He's got four years and we're

716
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 1: all going to be with him four years, where you

717
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:42,840
Speaker 1: like him or not. So do you really want to

718
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 1: spend the rest of your life bitching, complaining, whining about

719
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:49,520
Speaker 1: somebody's style of communicating? Um, you know, we have three

720
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 1: branches of government. They balance each other out. He's gonna

721
00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 1: pass some things you don't like. That's called life. He's

722
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:56,720
Speaker 1: gonna not pass some things he wants to that you

723
00:32:56,800 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 1: might like. That's life. You know, we're we're living in

724
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 1: a world where there's so much whining. It's just like,

725
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 1: how about, let's where the issues are real, let's deal

726
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:08,320
Speaker 1: with them. But why not? Why is there got to

727
00:33:08,360 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 1: be personal? It used to be in Congress when Clinton

728
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:13,360
Speaker 1: was in office, guys would fight like hell on the

729
00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 1: floor and they go have a beer together. Now the

730
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:18,440
Speaker 1: problem is if you talk to it aside, you're evil,

731
00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 1: you're immoral. This is absurd, This is childlike behavior. But

732
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 1: that's expanded to the nation as a whole. And so.

733
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:27,640
Speaker 1: But but no, I mean not just on Capitol Hill.

734
00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 1: And we often heard stories of Reagan and Tip O'Neill

735
00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 1: having a drink together in the Oval office and fighting

736
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:35,960
Speaker 1: like hell in the halls of Congress. But what do

737
00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:39,000
Speaker 1: you do about such a divided nation? I know this

738
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 1: is the top topic a on so many shows, and

739
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 1: I think around so many dinner tables all over the country.

740
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:48,600
Speaker 1: But these two Americas that are so at each other's

741
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 1: throats seven, how how do we come together? I mean,

742
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:55,200
Speaker 1: I know it's not going to be Kumbaya, But at

743
00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:58,200
Speaker 1: the same time, how do we dissipate this anger and

744
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:02,640
Speaker 1: vitriol that's just pulsing true society today? Well, it starts

745
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 1: with the leaders and the leaders of both parties, That's

746
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:11,640
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. That's the challenge. But eventually we burn out. Eventually,

747
00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 1: if you look at history, whatever it is, will it

748
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:15,480
Speaker 1: be anger? You get tired of being anger? It sades,

749
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 1: you get tired of me sadness I just have. I'm

750
00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:19,080
Speaker 1: just saying, why don't we get tired of it? Now?

751
00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 1: Start to focus. Let's focus on what we can do

752
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:26,399
Speaker 1: instead of we can't. What's the secret to financial well being?

753
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:29,960
Speaker 1: If not predicting the future. The secret is taking control

754
00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:32,280
Speaker 1: of what you can control. There's many things you can't

755
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:34,920
Speaker 1: and it's time to surrender to that and focus on

756
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,560
Speaker 1: what you can do. Otherwise you're just everybody just whining,

757
00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 1: and it's like, what is it doing? Is it making

758
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:41,400
Speaker 1: anything better? Is it changing it all? No, you're just

759
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:43,359
Speaker 1: getting the habit of being piste off all the time

760
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 1: or fearful all the time, And a decision made from

761
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 1: fear or a decision made from anger is almost always

762
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 1: the wrong decision. If you were coaching President Trump today,

763
00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: what would you tell him Your communication style is getting

764
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,719
Speaker 1: in the way of your substance. There's actually substance to

765
00:34:57,800 --> 00:35:00,200
Speaker 1: what he's doing in many cases that some people agree.

766
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,400
Speaker 1: I mean, if you were to say, look in Syria,

767
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 1: we cannot vet that these people are who they say

768
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:07,799
Speaker 1: they are, so in these cases until we can vet,

769
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 1: we're going to do this for them, it would be

770
00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 1: a different case. But when you talk about Muslims as

771
00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:15,440
Speaker 1: if it's a religion that's wrong, um, then the style

772
00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:17,480
Speaker 1: of communication gets ahold of it anyding. And the second

773
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:20,320
Speaker 1: thing is calling people idiots or going on the internet

774
00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:22,719
Speaker 1: at three in the morning and attacking everybody who has

775
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 1: a different point of view makes it impossible to truly

776
00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 1: govern unless you in control of everything. And why do

777
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:30,680
Speaker 1: you think he does that word? It's fitted so much

778
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:32,839
Speaker 1: time on him, and why he does it. He doesn't

779
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 1: because he's been conditioned to do it his whole life.

780
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:37,160
Speaker 1: He's a real estate guy that worked with very wealthy people.

781
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:40,600
Speaker 1: He figured a formula, he used debt, he maximized it

782
00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:44,239
Speaker 1: and almost went bankrupt and then really scored in a

783
00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:46,319
Speaker 1: large scale And no matter what he said or did,

784
00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:48,920
Speaker 1: he got reinforced, including with a TV show for twelve years.

785
00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 1: So he's been reinforced. Until new reinforcement happens, you won't

786
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,360
Speaker 1: see a change. That's how humans work. I want to

787
00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 1: ask you about leadership, you know, because I think some Americans,

788
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 1: I would say a lot of them Americans Field there's

789
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:05,080
Speaker 1: a real dearth of leadership in this country, I would agree. Unfortunately,

790
00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:08,720
Speaker 1: Why why do you think it's so hard to find

791
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:11,600
Speaker 1: people that we trust and believe in and want to

792
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:16,360
Speaker 1: be in charge? Well, think about it today. If you

793
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:18,760
Speaker 1: and I live in in the world before the Internet,

794
00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 1: and I'm not suggesting to go back of the stupidest

795
00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 1: thing in the world. Maybe maybe in the moment, but

796
00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 1: if you really think about it before, then if you

797
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:29,640
Speaker 1: want to attack me, you're going to pay a consequence.

798
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:32,239
Speaker 1: You say something about verbally, you do something and it

799
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:33,960
Speaker 1: used to be in the media and you can be sued.

800
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:38,359
Speaker 1: Today with the Internet, we all want to be significant.

801
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 1: There's only two ways to be significant. Take big risks

802
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:43,120
Speaker 1: and try to achieve things, and you could fail, and

803
00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:46,399
Speaker 1: if you fail, you feel like you're worthless. Or tear

804
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:48,880
Speaker 1: everybody else down. Build the tallest building, or tear everybody

805
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 1: else down. Well, it's not hard to figure out what

806
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:52,839
Speaker 1: the majority of people do. There's no downside of tearing

807
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:55,359
Speaker 1: other people down. To the web, there's no consequence. So

808
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 1: our web behaviors and our technology conditioning has changed our

809
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 1: culture to where we're no longer kind. I mean, obviously

810
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:06,440
Speaker 1: there are plenty of kind people, and there are kind communities.

811
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:09,080
Speaker 1: But if you asked is the Internet a kind place?

812
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:13,800
Speaker 1: The answer is what would you say? Absolutely not? Having

813
00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:18,239
Speaker 1: said that, most of my friends would never ever right

814
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 1: the kind of garbage that comes my way. I don't know, Brian,

815
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:26,840
Speaker 1: if you get that, but you know that that comes

816
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:30,200
Speaker 1: the way of people who maybe disagree with them or

817
00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:35,279
Speaker 1: who are public figures. So yes, I don't also grew

818
00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 1: up in a different generation, right, my daughters would never

819
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 1: do that. I agree that you're you've you're because you

820
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 1: brought a different generation. You have different values, right, look

821
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:46,760
Speaker 1: at it. You're a race, so it's a value system.

822
00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 1: But right now that you can talk about values all

823
00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:51,920
Speaker 1: you want. But then people look at this phone a

824
00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:55,320
Speaker 1: hundred and fifty times a day, that's the average, hundred

825
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:57,840
Speaker 1: fifty times a day at your outdoor brain, and whenever

826
00:37:57,920 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 1: you're looking there, they're getting a dopamine hit some times.

827
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:03,399
Speaker 1: All this cool new things, so they're wired to keep

828
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 1: doing this and guess what, Like any other addiction, they're

829
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 1: here all the time. This world I can control you know,

830
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:11,200
Speaker 1: like me, I'll unfriend you, I'll let it go. We

831
00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:14,400
Speaker 1: have created a selfish society where it's all about me,

832
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:16,359
Speaker 1: and it's really not about me. It's about the way

833
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 1: I can frame myself with filters and pictures. You can

834
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:21,600
Speaker 1: see people getting depressed all the studies on Facebook now,

835
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:23,799
Speaker 1: and it's because they're not comparing their life to other people.

836
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:26,640
Speaker 1: They're comparing life to other people's fake lives. Right, So

837
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 1: I sound old talking to all this crap. Now I

838
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:32,080
Speaker 1: I agree with you. Well, I'm older than you are.

839
00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 1: I mean, what are practical things. The practical things that

840
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:38,480
Speaker 1: we have to do is we've got to train people

841
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 1: to enter a world where they live at their best

842
00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:43,400
Speaker 1: and they're reinforced for it. Let me look, let's be honest.

843
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:46,759
Speaker 1: All human beings have a two million year old brain,

844
00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 1: and that brain is not designed to make you happy.

845
00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 1: That brain is designed to make you survive. So it's

846
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Speaker 1: a survival software. So what is it looking for anything

847
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 1: that could hurt me? Well, there's not a saber tooth

848
00:38:57,640 --> 00:38:59,920
Speaker 1: tiger for you to fight or flight or freeze and

849
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 1: hopefully not spot you. Now we place that with what

850
00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:04,840
Speaker 1: are people thinking about me? As if it's life and

851
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:07,240
Speaker 1: death or do I have enough money? And let's be honest.

852
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 1: In this country, if you are in poverty and you know,

853
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 1: I care, I need a hundred million people a year.

854
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:12,799
Speaker 1: I don't wan anybody in poverty. But if you're in

855
00:39:12,800 --> 00:39:15,840
Speaker 1: part of the United States, you're not. Is the biggest

856
00:39:15,840 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 1: bullshit on the planet. You're the one percent of the

857
00:39:18,120 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 1: planet the planet. Three quarters of the planet lives on

858
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 1: two dollars and fifty cents a day. Nine dollars a year.

859
00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:26,439
Speaker 1: So we're living in a society where we've lost track.

860
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 1: It's gonna balance? Will it balance as fast as you?

861
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:31,920
Speaker 1: And I want? No? My job is to educate you.

862
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:33,719
Speaker 1: I was there. I had ten thousand people in San

863
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 1: Francisco and San Jose the day after the election. San Francisco,

864
00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:42,799
Speaker 1: so you know what that was. They were depressed, and

865
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 1: I just I went after him and I said, come on,

866
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:47,799
Speaker 1: grow up. What the hell are you doing If you

867
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:51,360
Speaker 1: can't take disappointment, and disappointment drives you into this place,

868
00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:53,279
Speaker 1: how are you gonna deal with your own life? You're

869
00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:55,440
Speaker 1: focused on Trump because you're not mastering your own life.

870
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:57,600
Speaker 1: But I think there are people who are upset about

871
00:39:57,600 --> 00:40:01,319
Speaker 1: Trump for pretty selfless reasons. Actually, people whose taxes are

872
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:03,680
Speaker 1: going to be cut by Trump, people who are personally

873
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:07,040
Speaker 1: going to benefit from Trump. Have said, I don't like

874
00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:11,359
Speaker 1: the example he sets from my children, the cut he's

875
00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:14,319
Speaker 1: going to make. Let's just agree on that. I agree

876
00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 1: with it, So what are you going to do about it? Well,

877
00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:19,320
Speaker 1: that's that's the right, but right so I answer my question,

878
00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 1: what are you gonna do about it? I don't have

879
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:23,359
Speaker 1: an answer that question. Continuing to complain about it isn't

880
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 1: changing a thing. We can continue to make ourselves miserable

881
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:29,759
Speaker 1: if you like to continue for now, I'd rather do this.

882
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:34,760
Speaker 1: I'd rather say argue with the reality is stupid. Sometimes

883
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:37,239
Speaker 1: reality does not reward what you want, So then what

884
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:39,480
Speaker 1: should you do? Focus on what you can do and

885
00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 1: what you can control, because otherwise you're just going to

886
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:43,360
Speaker 1: be upsettled. But now I agree, and I think that

887
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:46,160
Speaker 1: a lot of people I don't know. Sometimes I feel

888
00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:47,919
Speaker 1: like I get too wrapped up in that. I don't

889
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:51,240
Speaker 1: think it's whining for journalists to point out these important

890
00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:56,360
Speaker 1: issues to the president, but to try when they're no,

891
00:40:56,520 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 1: that's terrible and it's very unprofessional. And journalists shouldn't be

892
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:02,879
Speaker 1: biased in that way. And I think we're that well.

893
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:05,960
Speaker 1: Not all of them are. A journalist across the table

894
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:10,239
Speaker 1: from me is not, I would argue. But today our

895
00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 1: journalists today pure reporters as they once were. Is that

896
00:41:13,080 --> 00:41:15,959
Speaker 1: pure journalism? Many of them are? I do. I think,

897
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:20,640
Speaker 1: by and large, journalists tend to be more progressive and

898
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 1: and and and and and care about progressive issues more.

899
00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:28,719
Speaker 1: I think there's Yeah. I went to college and they

900
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:31,960
Speaker 1: had a professor who was liberal, not conservative, because that's

901
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 1: who goes and teaches, and so we keep fulfilling that

902
00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 1: that aspect. Personally, I think and I'm not for the

903
00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:41,319
Speaker 1: agenda President Trump, but I personally think it starts even

904
00:41:41,320 --> 00:41:43,400
Speaker 1: at the colleges. We need to have more diversity in

905
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 1: these colleges. When you look at Berkeley, which is supposed

906
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 1: to be the home of free speech, and I don't

907
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 1: even see it. I just have the pictures today. But

908
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 1: I remember that idiot from bright Bart I can't think

909
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:54,520
Speaker 1: of his name. I don't support him. But to blow

910
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:57,960
Speaker 1: shut up, to create fires, to punch people in the

911
00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 1: face so that someone can't speak, I don't know how

912
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:03,480
Speaker 1: to see that group of people that supposedly started the

913
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:06,960
Speaker 1: free speech movement? Are you not embarrassed by that? I'm embarrassed.

914
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:08,560
Speaker 1: I don't know how you call yourself a liberal and

915
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:10,920
Speaker 1: opposed the First Amendment and say I'm not. I'm not

916
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:14,440
Speaker 1: going to even expose myself to ideas with which I disagree.

917
00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:17,719
Speaker 1: But speaking of powerful ideas, before we let you go,

918
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 1: how is that for an awkward segue? We should talk

919
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:26,479
Speaker 1: about what I'm trying to talking about. How many books

920
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 1: have you written? Tony? What is this now? Five? I

921
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 1: guess six. I guess, Wow, good, you're You're a busy guy.

922
00:42:31,840 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 1: So this one is unshakable, your financial freedom playbook. And

923
00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:37,879
Speaker 1: this is the result of all your conversations with all

924
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:41,040
Speaker 1: these financial experts, well not just experts, but every one

925
00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 1: of them was a self made millionaire. And then I

926
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 1: went Nobel Prize winner that I just brought them people

927
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:47,400
Speaker 1: the best on earth. But the reason about this book

928
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:50,839
Speaker 1: is I actually had I do an annual event where

929
00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:52,640
Speaker 1: I bring in, you know, six self made billionaires, some

930
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:53,960
Speaker 1: of the best financial people in the world, and I

931
00:42:54,040 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 1: have them work with my biggest donors, you know, for

932
00:42:56,120 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 1: feeding people. And I a year ago I had the

933
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:02,759
Speaker 1: form a FED chair, Alan Greenspan on nineteen years most

934
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:05,839
Speaker 1: powerful man in finance for presidents, right, I guess spent

935
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Speaker 1: five hours and then three hours picking his brain, which

936
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 1: is what I do best. I dig in, find it

937
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 1: his psychology and his psyche and how things have shifted.

938
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:14,520
Speaker 1: And then two hours in one of the audience and

939
00:43:14,560 --> 00:43:16,560
Speaker 1: the last thing we talked about negative interest rates and

940
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 1: you know, I've never seen this in five thousand years

941
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:20,319
Speaker 1: of banking history, and what the FEDS are doing, and

942
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 1: this really passionate conversation. So I said, okay, you're back,

943
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Speaker 1: made of head fed today you're the chairman of the

944
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 1: Fed of Again, what's the first thing you do? And

945
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 1: the whole room leaned into here and he paused, and

946
00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:34,720
Speaker 1: he paused, and he leaned in and he went resigned.

947
00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:38,279
Speaker 1: I would resign. Was like when the FED chair says

948
00:43:38,320 --> 00:43:40,919
Speaker 1: he resigned. You know we're in trouble. So look, we're

949
00:43:40,960 --> 00:43:44,160
Speaker 1: eight years into this bull market. It's the second largest

950
00:43:44,160 --> 00:43:47,280
Speaker 1: one in history. It doesn't take a genius to figure

951
00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:49,960
Speaker 1: out there's gonna be a crash. It's not negative. It's

952
00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:52,880
Speaker 1: just the fact it always has been. It's historic. But

953
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 1: what I wanted to do is I wanted three people

954
00:43:55,080 --> 00:43:57,080
Speaker 1: of the fear and show him how to utilize this,

955
00:43:57,200 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 1: both protect themselves and take advantage. Because if you're a

956
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:03,440
Speaker 1: baby boomer and you started too late. I know it's counterintuitive,

957
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 1: but the next crash is your chance, the leap fraud

958
00:44:06,960 --> 00:44:08,719
Speaker 1: from where you are financially to where you want to be.

959
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:11,200
Speaker 1: If you're a millennial and you've got all this you know, debt,

960
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:14,239
Speaker 1: God forbid from you know, college education, you've got you

961
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:16,880
Speaker 1: think you'll never get out of it. The crash is

962
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:19,400
Speaker 1: the leveler. It's like if I told you your favorite

963
00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:22,319
Speaker 1: car was I don't know Ferrari, and you said to me,

964
00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 1: I want a Ferrari, and I said, I know a

965
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 1: place you get them fifty percent off, you'll be out

966
00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 1: of your mind. But when the stock market goes fifty off,

967
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:30,800
Speaker 1: people freak out. People have the opposite instinct, which is

968
00:44:30,840 --> 00:44:36,359
Speaker 1: to buy high and sell low. Buffett, what you tell

969
00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:38,840
Speaker 1: everybody during that time, this is the greatest opportunity of

970
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 1: your life by anything. You can be like others are fearful,

971
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:45,520
Speaker 1: and fearful when you got it absolutely so what what

972
00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: people don't know? The reason they're not in the market

973
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:49,520
Speaker 1: A they think they have no money, And so I

974
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 1: show them what to do and how to actually just

975
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:53,759
Speaker 1: take a small percentage and grow it because you just

976
00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:56,400
Speaker 1: don't realize what compounding can do, you know. I give

977
00:44:56,440 --> 00:44:59,640
Speaker 1: an example in the Book of a young Man based

978
00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:02,719
Speaker 1: on a friend. Mind's father convinced him at nineteen that

979
00:45:02,719 --> 00:45:04,520
Speaker 1: he's gonna take three dollars a month and say but,

980
00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:06,320
Speaker 1: which sounds like a lot. But once you automated, you

981
00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:08,160
Speaker 1: don't even think about it just happens. You don't see it,

982
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:11,239
Speaker 1: And he did it just till he was twenty nine, right,

983
00:45:11,320 --> 00:45:14,040
Speaker 1: so nine years. Total amount of money in was like

984
00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:16,640
Speaker 1: four thousand years, so it's like thirty five thousand dollars

985
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 1: he left it in the market, and the market over

986
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:21,280
Speaker 1: the last thirty years is ground ten point to five.

987
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 1: But I showed you even if it only grown at

988
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:27,400
Speaker 1: eight percent even less, he ends up taking that thirty

989
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:30,120
Speaker 1: five tho dollars, never putting another diamond. At sixty five,

990
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:32,799
Speaker 1: he's got just under a million dollars. His bet that

991
00:45:33,080 --> 00:45:34,399
Speaker 1: it doesn't make a lot of money to be wealthy.

992
00:45:34,400 --> 00:45:38,680
Speaker 1: It takes time and and consistency. His best friend gets

993
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:41,320
Speaker 1: the idea when he finishes to start at twenty nine,

994
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:43,600
Speaker 1: and he invests three dollars a month his entire life

995
00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:46,759
Speaker 1: to sixty five, and he never catches up because it's

996
00:45:46,840 --> 00:45:49,200
Speaker 1: time that gives you the advantage. You don't need a

997
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 1: lot of money. How many great athletes, how many great

998
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 1: movie stars, actresses? Actors? Have you seen that made more

999
00:45:55,640 --> 00:45:58,520
Speaker 1: money than god? And now they're totally broke. I mean,

1000
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:00,799
Speaker 1: you look at fifty cent he know he got a

1001
00:46:00,880 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 1: hundred million dollar tip on vitamin water. You made I

1002
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:06,840
Speaker 1: think it was four or million bucks if I remember correctly,

1003
00:46:07,120 --> 00:46:11,800
Speaker 1: and he's bankrupt. He bought Tyson's home and Tyson went bankrupt.

1004
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:13,800
Speaker 1: Who made a half a billion dollars right now? I

1005
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:15,200
Speaker 1: don't know if it's true, but I read the other

1006
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:19,919
Speaker 1: day that what's pirates scabbean Johnny Depp he made three

1007
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:22,920
Speaker 1: quarters of a billion dollars seven or fifty million dollars,

1008
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:25,000
Speaker 1: and they're talking about him going bankrupt right now because

1009
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:27,319
Speaker 1: he spent thirty thousand a month on wine and he

1010
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:30,320
Speaker 1: spent three million dollars. Take Hunter Thompson burned his body

1011
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:33,799
Speaker 1: and blow it in a cannon into space. It's hard

1012
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:35,840
Speaker 1: to live a nice lifestyle and three quarters of a

1013
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 1: billion dollars and you've got to economize unless you make

1014
00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:42,240
Speaker 1: money your slave. You're the slave to money. And unless

1015
00:46:42,280 --> 00:46:43,920
Speaker 1: you learn how to make money while you're sleep, it's

1016
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:46,120
Speaker 1: not gonna happen. And every American can do. And it's

1017
00:46:46,160 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 1: not a full time job. It requires you to get

1018
00:46:48,760 --> 00:46:50,360
Speaker 1: in the game. But you've got to know what the

1019
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 1: rules are so you don't get taken advantage of because truthfully, uh,

1020
00:46:53,960 --> 00:46:56,880
Speaker 1: the level of the seat that happens in this industry

1021
00:46:56,960 --> 00:46:59,000
Speaker 1: is greater than almost any industry in the world because

1022
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:02,280
Speaker 1: there just isn't it's parents e and people use language.

1023
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:04,000
Speaker 1: It makes people feel like they don't know what they're doing,

1024
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:05,960
Speaker 1: and so they just give up. And then they beat

1025
00:47:06,000 --> 00:47:07,840
Speaker 1: you to death with fees you don't even know you're paying.

1026
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:10,319
Speaker 1: So this is this book is really for everyone, not

1027
00:47:10,520 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 1: for wealthy people anybody. Now, this is a book designed

1028
00:47:14,160 --> 00:47:15,960
Speaker 1: to show you how you can leap frog where you

1029
00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 1: are where you want to be, and to make sure

1030
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:20,760
Speaker 1: a you're protected during the next time, but more importantly,

1031
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 1: that you take advantage of what the next time will

1032
00:47:22,680 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 1: provide for you. I mean, I'll give you an example.

1033
00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:28,320
Speaker 1: Why are people afraid you in the market's gonna crash? Well,

1034
00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:30,640
Speaker 1: every day you hear another we broke another record, you

1035
00:47:30,680 --> 00:47:32,880
Speaker 1: know here at the dolls up another one. Well, if

1036
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 1: you look over the history of the stock market, on average,

1037
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 1: we break we have a new record once a month.

1038
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:40,239
Speaker 1: Now sometimes that happens seven in a week, but that's

1039
00:47:40,280 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 1: the average that we've had over time. But here's what's

1040
00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:46,320
Speaker 1: really interesting. Every year we have a correction. It's like,

1041
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:49,319
Speaker 1: if you're gonna be stressed and you're forty years old

1042
00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:51,000
Speaker 1: and you're gonna live to eighty five, you're gonna have

1043
00:47:51,000 --> 00:47:52,759
Speaker 1: forty five more corrections to go through. You're gonna be

1044
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:55,320
Speaker 1: stressed the rest of your freaking life. Remember last January,

1045
00:47:55,360 --> 00:47:58,720
Speaker 1: the worst January in history, two point two trillion dollars

1046
00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 1: melted down. But where we end up year record breaking

1047
00:48:01,760 --> 00:48:04,279
Speaker 1: eighty percent of those corrections, and a correction for those

1048
00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:07,400
Speaker 1: listening is anytime you drop more than ten percent up

1049
00:48:07,440 --> 00:48:10,320
Speaker 1: to twenty from where the peak was, that's called a correction.

1050
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:13,480
Speaker 1: Eighty percent of them don't become a crash. They don't

1051
00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:15,719
Speaker 1: become that melt down that everybody's afraid of at the

1052
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:19,720
Speaker 1: deepest level. And so you literally you you see fourteen

1053
00:48:19,760 --> 00:48:22,399
Speaker 1: percent dropout, and it bounces right back unless you sell.

1054
00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:24,839
Speaker 1: I always tell people the market never took a dime

1055
00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:27,839
Speaker 1: from anyone you did. Now watch this. What about those

1056
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Speaker 1: big bear markets? They last a year on average, They

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00:48:31,160 --> 00:48:33,759
Speaker 1: cost us an average of thirty three if you sell,

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00:48:33,800 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 1: if you don't sell, and cost you anything. And here's

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Speaker 1: what people have to know. Every single bear market, every

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00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 1: crash in the history of the the United States for two

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00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:44,840
Speaker 1: centuries plus, has been followed by a bull market that

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00:48:44,880 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 1: goes crazy. If you remember two thousand and eight, we

1063
00:48:46,800 --> 00:48:49,640
Speaker 1: lost you know, from peak to trough briefly, it was

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Speaker 1: really around thirty five for most people, but we went

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Speaker 1: we made six starting on March nine. Coming up a

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Speaker 1: few days from now is the anniversary for the next

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Speaker 1: twelve months. I can show that to you every time

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Speaker 1: in history of the United States. That's why Warren Buffett says,

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Speaker 1: you don't want to bet against the United States the

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Speaker 1: last two centuries. The dumbest bet you could possibly make.

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Speaker 1: You want to be in the market, not sell, And

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Speaker 1: when the market crashes, you want to buy things for

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Speaker 1: a discount. Well, in your message, which is a very

1074
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 1: powerful one and one that I think a lot of

1075
00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:17,520
Speaker 1: people need to hear, is you can't market time. You

1076
00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:20,400
Speaker 1: brought to bear a great stat in the book about

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Speaker 1: how most of your gains happened during these days. I forget,

1078
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Speaker 1: It's like a dozen days the course of the year.

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Speaker 1: Get the hot button. Check this out. So people are

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00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:31,040
Speaker 1: trying to time the market. Oh my god, the market's

1081
00:49:31,040 --> 00:49:32,319
Speaker 1: too high. How long have you been hearing that? For

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00:49:32,440 --> 00:49:35,120
Speaker 1: eight years? The market's got up two How have we

1083
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 1: heard that since since Trump got in office? We're up

1084
00:49:38,280 --> 00:49:41,959
Speaker 1: right now? Trump bump. But he isn't gonna correct. Of course,

1085
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:43,880
Speaker 1: it's gonna correct. It's gonna happen. But here's what you

1086
00:49:43,960 --> 00:49:47,120
Speaker 1: gotta know. Warren Buffett said to me, Tony, those guys

1087
00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:50,439
Speaker 1: on CNBC, those market forecasters, they're only there, he said,

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00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 1: to make fortune tellers look good because no one can

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00:49:52,960 --> 00:49:56,399
Speaker 1: predict the market. But here's what you can predict. There's

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00:49:56,440 --> 00:49:58,520
Speaker 1: a study done over the last twenty years by both

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00:49:58,600 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 1: JP Morgan and by Charles Swamp. They did independently. What

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00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:05,600
Speaker 1: they found is, over thirty years we've done ten point

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00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:08,400
Speaker 1: to eight percent, which is amazing. Over the last twenty

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00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:11,160
Speaker 1: years we've done eight point two percent. But if you

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00:50:11,320 --> 00:50:15,960
Speaker 1: missed just ten of the best training days in twenty years, now,

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00:50:15,960 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 1: what are your chances of knowing which days those are

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00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:20,560
Speaker 1: going to be? So you're out because you're thinking is overvalued,

1098
00:50:20,600 --> 00:50:23,120
Speaker 1: whatever the case may be, you're scared. If you missed

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00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:25,719
Speaker 1: the top training ten trading days, that's all in twenty years,

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00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:27,680
Speaker 1: you moved from having an eight percent return where you're

1101
00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:29,520
Speaker 1: doubling your money every nine years and get wealthy. Of

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00:50:29,560 --> 00:50:32,000
Speaker 1: doing that, it drops down to four and a half percent.

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Speaker 1: Almost in a half. You've missed the top twenty days,

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00:50:35,200 --> 00:50:36,759
Speaker 1: you will only make two percent. You might as well

1105
00:50:36,800 --> 00:50:38,439
Speaker 1: have been in bonds. And if you missed the top

1106
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:41,600
Speaker 1: thirty days one and a half days for twenty years,

1107
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:43,479
Speaker 1: that's all one half days each year for twenty years,

1108
00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:47,480
Speaker 1: you lose money. See, the most dangerous thing is not

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00:50:47,520 --> 00:50:49,440
Speaker 1: getting the market. You've got to be in the market

1110
00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:51,680
Speaker 1: because it's given the highest rates of return for the

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00:50:51,719 --> 00:50:54,600
Speaker 1: last two centuries. It has the most volatility, which is

1112
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Speaker 1: why you have to have diversification, like I show you.

1113
00:50:57,400 --> 00:50:59,520
Speaker 1: But it is the opportunity of your lifetime to be

1114
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:01,960
Speaker 1: in there and be unlike other people and be unshakable.

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Speaker 1: All right, before we go, I feel like watching Tony.

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00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:09,560
Speaker 1: He's got so much energy. Do you drink a lot

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00:51:09,600 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 1: of coffee. I don't drink any coffee. You imagine me

1118
00:51:13,200 --> 00:51:16,120
Speaker 1: one you would be scary, really so. But you do

1119
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:19,880
Speaker 1: have some kind of funky personal routine. You you you you.

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00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:23,799
Speaker 1: You jump into this cold pool every morning when you're

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00:51:23,880 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 1: at one of your homes plural, that's fifty seven degrees

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00:51:27,239 --> 00:51:32,560
Speaker 1: the water that um it stimulates. It's done all over

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Speaker 1: the world, but especially in the northern countries to go

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00:51:35,840 --> 00:51:38,720
Speaker 1: hot cold stimulate the limp system. The blood flow cleans

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Speaker 1: your system out. But I also do it for another reason.

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Speaker 1: Which is you know, most people don't do what they

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00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:46,520
Speaker 1: need to do. They know what they should do, but

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Speaker 1: they don't do it. You know, you know what to do,

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00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:50,560
Speaker 1: but they don't do what they know. Right. So when

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00:51:50,600 --> 00:51:52,400
Speaker 1: I did early on, as I said, I want to

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00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:54,080
Speaker 1: train my brain that when I say we're doing this,

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Speaker 1: I'm not negotiating with myself. Well do it tomorrow. So

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00:51:58,400 --> 00:52:00,279
Speaker 1: I get in every day for one reason and to

1134
00:52:00,320 --> 00:52:01,960
Speaker 1: teach my brain. When I say we do it, we

1135
00:52:02,040 --> 00:52:03,440
Speaker 1: do it, and now it does. If I want to

1136
00:52:03,480 --> 00:52:06,080
Speaker 1: go make the run, I want to do the business thing.

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00:52:06,440 --> 00:52:09,920
Speaker 1: There's no hesitancy in me. There's no negotiation within myself

1138
00:52:10,160 --> 00:52:12,520
Speaker 1: and that has enormous power. If you want to build

1139
00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 1: things and create things and have an impact with people.

1140
00:52:14,440 --> 00:52:17,239
Speaker 1: You also do breathing exercises. I do. I start every

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00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:20,279
Speaker 1: day with my first ten minutes. Is a form of meditation,

1142
00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:22,400
Speaker 1: sort of meditation. Like here's what I do. I do

1143
00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:25,240
Speaker 1: a radical change in my body because changing your breathing

1144
00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:27,719
Speaker 1: changes the way the brain works. If you study you

1145
00:52:27,760 --> 00:52:31,680
Speaker 1: know yoga, various esoteric sciences. The breath is like the

1146
00:52:31,719 --> 00:52:34,759
Speaker 1: string on a kite. The kite is your brain. If

1147
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:37,360
Speaker 1: you change the breath, you change how the brain becomes engaged.

1148
00:52:37,520 --> 00:52:40,239
Speaker 1: So I do this radical explosive breathing. I do three

1149
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:42,040
Speaker 1: sets of thirty, and that changes my stake of it.

1150
00:52:42,080 --> 00:52:46,520
Speaker 1: I hear what radical explosive breathing sounds like a little

1151
00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 1: louder than that, harder than that. And I do thirty

1152
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:51,399
Speaker 1: of them? Right, I do thirty paws, thirty pause. Then

1153
00:52:51,440 --> 00:52:54,120
Speaker 1: I spend ten minutes, and I do three minutes where

1154
00:52:54,160 --> 00:52:56,440
Speaker 1: all I focus on our three things. I'm grateful for you.

1155
00:52:56,480 --> 00:52:59,239
Speaker 1: Now why it sounds man? Be pan be gratitude. Who cares?

1156
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:02,040
Speaker 1: Two emotions that screw us up? And you see them

1157
00:53:02,080 --> 00:53:05,080
Speaker 1: in our society right now are anger and fear. They'll

1158
00:53:05,120 --> 00:53:07,480
Speaker 1: screw up your business, they'll screw up your intimate relationship,

1159
00:53:07,520 --> 00:53:10,880
Speaker 1: they'll screw up your health. And the antidote is gratitude.

1160
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:14,480
Speaker 1: It can't be grateful and angry simultaneously. It's impossible. So

1161
00:53:14,520 --> 00:53:16,960
Speaker 1: if you cultivate that gratitude, there's no anger there. You

1162
00:53:17,000 --> 00:53:21,799
Speaker 1: can't be fearful and grateful simultaneously. So by taking three

1163
00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:24,239
Speaker 1: minutes to start every day and bringing that up in

1164
00:53:24,280 --> 00:53:27,520
Speaker 1: my nervous system with real stuff, not positive thinking, I'm

1165
00:53:27,560 --> 00:53:29,880
Speaker 1: so happy and making it up a bunch of affirmations.

1166
00:53:29,920 --> 00:53:32,920
Speaker 1: I think about real situations and I make one really simple,

1167
00:53:32,960 --> 00:53:36,120
Speaker 1: like the wind on my face, my child smile, Because

1168
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:38,760
Speaker 1: if you only train yourself to respond to big things,

1169
00:53:38,800 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 1: then you don't enjoy life. It's kind of like the

1170
00:53:40,280 --> 00:53:41,960
Speaker 1: astronauts that went to the moon came back. What do

1171
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:43,520
Speaker 1: you do when your thirty five you went to the moon,

1172
00:53:43,560 --> 00:53:45,520
Speaker 1: you took the presidence and the taper time, you know,

1173
00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:47,359
Speaker 1: the ticker tape parade? What the hell do you do now?

1174
00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:49,759
Speaker 1: And most of them got addicted to drugs and alcohol

1175
00:53:49,960 --> 00:53:52,160
Speaker 1: because they found adventure only in a smile. They didn't

1176
00:53:52,160 --> 00:53:54,040
Speaker 1: find it and excuse me, I'm going to the moon

1177
00:53:54,160 --> 00:53:57,160
Speaker 1: versus a smile. So I do three minutes and I

1178
00:53:57,239 --> 00:53:59,520
Speaker 1: focus on it and I feel it like I'm there,

1179
00:53:59,640 --> 00:54:01,239
Speaker 1: and it makes my nervous system go. Then I do

1180
00:54:01,280 --> 00:54:03,719
Speaker 1: three minutes of prayer and kind of blessings if you

1181
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 1: would to my children, my family, my coworkers, my associates

1182
00:54:07,640 --> 00:54:09,759
Speaker 1: and people I meet on the street. And then my

1183
00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:15,399
Speaker 1: last tomorrow I promise I will, But then my last

1184
00:54:15,400 --> 00:54:17,400
Speaker 1: three minutes is kind of my three to three to

1185
00:54:17,480 --> 00:54:20,080
Speaker 1: five to thrive, I think of three things that I

1186
00:54:20,120 --> 00:54:22,040
Speaker 1: really want to accomplished that matter to me, and I

1187
00:54:22,120 --> 00:54:23,920
Speaker 1: see it and feel it is done and kind of

1188
00:54:23,920 --> 00:54:26,400
Speaker 1: celebrate it. And what that does is it sets up

1189
00:54:26,440 --> 00:54:30,480
Speaker 1: your brain where you're grateful instead of reactionary. You're loving

1190
00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:33,360
Speaker 1: to the people around you and yourself and bussing side

1191
00:54:33,680 --> 00:54:35,840
Speaker 1: and you're clear what is you really want to make happen,

1192
00:54:35,840 --> 00:54:37,560
Speaker 1: and you're certain it's going to happen. And it takes

1193
00:54:37,600 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 1: ten minutes, and honestly, I'll usually go fifteen or twenty

1194
00:54:40,120 --> 00:54:42,440
Speaker 1: because it feels so good. But there's no excuse not

1195
00:54:42,520 --> 00:54:43,759
Speaker 1: to do it, because you know, if you don't have

1196
00:54:43,760 --> 00:54:45,480
Speaker 1: ten minutes, you've got a life. And so that's what

1197
00:54:45,640 --> 00:54:48,240
Speaker 1: I do. That and my jumping in that freezing water

1198
00:54:48,360 --> 00:54:52,480
Speaker 1: are my Yeah, no, I I use I lymphasize. I

1199
00:54:52,560 --> 00:54:56,239
Speaker 1: use a rebounder. Yeah, it moves your lymp the limp.

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00:54:56,400 --> 00:54:58,560
Speaker 1: You know, the heart and the blood is moved by

1201
00:54:58,600 --> 00:55:01,160
Speaker 1: the heart, but the lymph has very little that can

1202
00:55:01,200 --> 00:55:04,280
Speaker 1: move it around other than strong explosive breath, strong breathing

1203
00:55:04,280 --> 00:55:07,319
Speaker 1: and movement exercise. So the length is critical. It's the

1204
00:55:07,400 --> 00:55:09,719
Speaker 1: detoxication system your body. So bouncing out a rebound or

1205
00:55:09,719 --> 00:55:11,799
Speaker 1: allows you to move the limp, but it doesn't when

1206
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:13,440
Speaker 1: you hit the ground, you don't have the impact. That's

1207
00:55:13,480 --> 00:55:14,880
Speaker 1: part of them. I don't know about you, Brian, but

1208
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Speaker 1: I'm going to do those three things tomorrow. And I

1209
00:55:17,440 --> 00:55:21,759
Speaker 1: don't have a trampoline, but see if not going to

1210
00:55:21,840 --> 00:55:26,359
Speaker 1: do that either. But the people you're grateful, the gratitude thing,

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Speaker 1: which my husband says I should do more, and the

1212
00:55:31,800 --> 00:55:35,160
Speaker 1: prayers and then the intentions. Yeah, the three things you're

1213
00:55:35,160 --> 00:55:37,520
Speaker 1: committed to, right, but seeing it as done failures done.

1214
00:55:37,520 --> 00:55:40,520
Speaker 1: It's really simplistic, but when you do it every day,

1215
00:55:41,280 --> 00:55:43,719
Speaker 1: it reinforces that. You also just got to think about

1216
00:55:43,760 --> 00:55:45,759
Speaker 1: we all do what we've trained our nervous system to do.

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00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:47,600
Speaker 1: If you bitch all the time, you're gonna bitch all

1218
00:55:47,640 --> 00:55:49,560
Speaker 1: the time. If you're grateful the time, you're grateful a time,

1219
00:55:49,600 --> 00:55:51,520
Speaker 1: if you're we all know people that are funny no

1220
00:55:51,520 --> 00:55:53,719
Speaker 1: matter what happens, right, you know, and how do they

1221
00:55:53,719 --> 00:55:55,319
Speaker 1: do it? They wired themselves to do it. So why

1222
00:55:55,360 --> 00:55:59,120
Speaker 1: not wire yourself for higher emotional states that will affect

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00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:02,239
Speaker 1: your family and your businesses and your coworkers and associates

1224
00:56:02,239 --> 00:56:04,200
Speaker 1: as opposed to just showing up and hoping you feel

1225
00:56:04,200 --> 00:56:07,320
Speaker 1: good with an environment that if you turn on anything.

1226
00:56:07,360 --> 00:56:09,840
Speaker 1: If this thing's following you, you're probably gonna be unhappy

1227
00:56:09,880 --> 00:56:11,640
Speaker 1: because all I gotta do is open us up and

1228
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:14,000
Speaker 1: there'll be twenty things about Trump and twenty things about

1229
00:56:14,120 --> 00:56:17,719
Speaker 1: the record show. He is holding his iPhone. I feel

1230
00:56:17,719 --> 00:56:20,440
Speaker 1: like I should do of what Tony Robbins does. I

1231
00:56:20,480 --> 00:56:23,960
Speaker 1: will be a hugely successful person. That's for damn. I mean,

1232
00:56:24,040 --> 00:56:26,600
Speaker 1: you're amazing. Really, you guys are sweet. Now, we all

1233
00:56:26,640 --> 00:56:28,319
Speaker 1: we all have our gifts, and I'm just clear what

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00:56:28,400 --> 00:56:30,439
Speaker 1: my mission is. I think you're clear about yours. And

1235
00:56:30,480 --> 00:56:31,920
Speaker 1: I don't know you well enough to know, but it

1236
00:56:31,920 --> 00:56:34,040
Speaker 1: sounds like you've found a partner here and still figuring

1237
00:56:34,080 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 1: it out Brian, and Brian is clear as well. That's wonderful.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, thank you so much for people pick

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Speaker 1: up the book, because we're going to feed another hundred

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00:56:43,000 --> 00:56:45,480
Speaker 1: million people. That every book will feed fifty people. All

1241
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Speaker 1: the profits are going to Yeah, last time, we sold

1242
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Speaker 1: a million copies in hardbackup money Master the Game, so

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Speaker 1: we've had fifty million people. But I'm donating it regardless,

1244
00:56:53,640 --> 00:56:56,400
Speaker 1: even if you don't buy the book for yourself. If

1245
00:56:56,400 --> 00:56:59,160
Speaker 1: people are interested in learning more about your charity and

1246
00:56:59,200 --> 00:57:01,760
Speaker 1: about what you you to feed people all over the globe.

1247
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Speaker 1: How do they do that? They can go to feeding

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Speaker 1: America dot org and you can look up to Tony

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Speaker 1: Robbins hundred million More they call it because every year

1250
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:11,160
Speaker 1: we do another hundred million a billion person challenge basically,

1251
00:57:11,320 --> 00:57:13,400
Speaker 1: or you go to my website at Tony Robbins dot com.

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Speaker 1: So fun to have you, so nice to see you again.

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00:57:20,480 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 1: Our thanks as always to Gianna Palmer for producing the show,

1254
00:57:23,760 --> 00:57:27,480
Speaker 1: to Jared O'Connell for mixing and engineering it. Thanks also

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00:57:27,600 --> 00:57:30,720
Speaker 1: to our social media guru Alison Bresnik, and to Emily

1256
00:57:30,760 --> 00:57:34,000
Speaker 1: Beana for her part in producing the show, to Nora

1257
00:57:34,160 --> 00:57:38,640
Speaker 1: Richie for additional editorial assistance, and Mark Phillips, thank you

1258
00:57:38,680 --> 00:57:42,160
Speaker 1: as always for our great theme music. Katie Curic, Mitch

1259
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Speaker 1: Simul and I are the executive producers of the show,

1260
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Speaker 1: and remember you can email us at comments at current

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Speaker 1: podcast dot com. Please keep it clean, people, or find

1262
00:57:53,440 --> 00:57:56,840
Speaker 1: me on social media to keep that nice please. I'm

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