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Speaker 1: All right, nephew, thank you. Subject it's always the same

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Speaker 1: mess with her. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been with my

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Speaker 1: lady for almost nine years, and she proposed to me

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Speaker 1: in July. It came out of nowhere because I had

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Speaker 1: just caught her cheating on me. I was about to

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Speaker 1: break up with her and she hit me with a proposal.

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Speaker 1: I haven't told her yes or no because we have

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Speaker 1: a lot of unresolved issues. When I first met her,

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Speaker 1: it was at a strip club. She wasn't a dancer,

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Speaker 1: but she was dating one, and so was I. We

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Speaker 1: found out that we were messing with the same girl,

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Speaker 1: so we all would hook up. I took my girl

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Speaker 1: out a few times, and we decided we leave the

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Speaker 1: stripper alone and try to be monogamous. That lasted about

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Speaker 1: six months, and I found out she was cheating on

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Speaker 1: me with a guy she works with. We took a

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Speaker 1: break and I was dating a lot of other women.

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Speaker 1: I was in my mid twenties and so was she.

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Speaker 1: She told me she was ready to settle down again,

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Speaker 1: so this time we got a place together. I hoped

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Speaker 1: that she would be faithful to me because I had

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Speaker 1: gotten tired of threesomes and wild sex CapAids. I took

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Speaker 1: on an executive role at work and was ready to

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Speaker 1: be with her. Every One in my inner circles said

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Speaker 1: she's not the one to settle down with, but she

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Speaker 1: was my rock and had been there with me through

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Speaker 1: a lot of ups and downs. Come to find out,

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Speaker 1: she's my rock, but she's also a cheater and a liar.

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Speaker 1: One of my best friends showed me proof of her

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Speaker 1: trying to sleep with him, and I got mad at him.

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Speaker 1: Now that I understand how she really is, I apologize

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Speaker 1: to him and we're slowly becoming close again. This one

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Speaker 1: has my heart all twisted up, and I think I

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Speaker 1: would end up in an open marriage if I agree

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Speaker 1: to go through with this. How will I know if

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Speaker 1: she's got all the cheating out of her system? Uh? Okay,

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Speaker 1: First of all, you can't marry You cannot marry this woman.

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Speaker 1: You cannot. Okay, she hasn't gotten all the cheating out.

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Speaker 1: She just tried to hook up with your boy. No,

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Speaker 1: and she proposed to you, probably because you caught her cheating.

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Speaker 1: Like you said, you're never going to trust this woman.

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Speaker 1: You'll never be able to trust her. That's why you're

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Speaker 1: writing us now. She is not the one. Listen to

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Speaker 1: everyone in your inner circle. They know you too, do

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Speaker 1: not want the same things out of life. You don't

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Speaker 1: want to cheat, you want to settle down. She's still

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Speaker 1: out there, Wilin. Okay, she's a cheater and a liar

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Speaker 1: and those are your words, so believe them. Don't come

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Speaker 1: She has shown you who she is time after time.

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Speaker 1: Please believe her. You can't change her, you can't make

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Speaker 1: her into the person you want to be. None of that.

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Speaker 1: This relationship will turn into an even worse disaster. If

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Speaker 1: you guys, get married, If you're done with all your

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Speaker 1: wiland like you said, and you want to settle down.

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Speaker 1: You can't settle with her. She doesn't want that. I

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Speaker 1: know you must love her. You said that your heart

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Speaker 1: is all twisted, but you got to think about what

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Speaker 1: married life would be with her one heartbreak, one betrayal

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Speaker 1: after another. Tell her no, tell her no to her proposal.

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Speaker 1: You're not going to marry her, and please move on.

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Speaker 2: Steve, Well, it's always the same mess with her as

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Speaker 2: the subject. Surely made a statement that stuck out in

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Speaker 2: my mind. She said, you can't marry her because you

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Speaker 2: all don't want the same thing. Well, I think you do.

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Speaker 2: I think y'all do want the same thing. That what hell?

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Speaker 2: The problem is right here? Everybody you won't, She won't everybody,

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Speaker 2: she won't. You want everybody you've been with. She got

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Speaker 2: a guy with lot of y'all got a lot in

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Speaker 2: common here, man. Sleeping around is huge for y'all. Huge.

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Speaker 2: You've been with her for nine years. She promoted. She

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Speaker 2: proposed to you in July after you caught her cheating.

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Speaker 2: Who does a dude move? Right there? That is such

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Speaker 2: a dude move. And she obviously read the book. Act

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Speaker 2: like a lady, think like a man, because that's exactly

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Speaker 2: all she doing is thinking like a man. But this

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Speaker 2: woman you dealing with. Bruh, This is not a long

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Speaker 2: letter for me because I don't know how to do it.

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Speaker 2: Let me, we're gonna do a reenactment when we come back.

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Speaker 2: I don't even know how to do the reenact because

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Speaker 2: you all are not made for monogamous relationships. You met

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Speaker 2: her at a strip club because you was dating a

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Speaker 2: stripper and she was dating a stripple. Turn out it

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Speaker 2: was the same stripple. Then y'all got tired of reasons,

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Speaker 2: and y'all decided to stay with each other. Okay, now,

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Speaker 2: how long did that last? You said that lasted about

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Speaker 2: six months? And then I found out she was cheating

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Speaker 2: on that she worked with. She got to be in

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Speaker 2: bed at all times. She ain't down at the job.

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Speaker 2: She got to be in the rack. We took a break.

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Speaker 2: Then I was dating a lot of other women. Now

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Speaker 2: you and now you back out in the streets. I

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Speaker 2: was in my mid twenties and so was she. She

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Speaker 2: told me she was ready to settle down again. So

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Speaker 2: this time we got a place together. Who thought this

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Speaker 2: was a good ass? I did. Y'all got a place together.

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Speaker 2: Now it's Grand Central Railroad Station, in y'all house, I

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Speaker 2: can promise you it's some comings and going on in here.

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Speaker 2: I hope she will be faithful to me because I

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Speaker 2: had gotten tired of threesomes and wild sex coupais. I

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Speaker 2: know that's right. And let me tell you something. She

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Speaker 2: is doing the damn most because when the dude say

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Speaker 2: he tied the threesomes and while sex coupaid. If you

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Speaker 2: in now, girl, you in now with the Jordan of

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Speaker 2: sexual activity. You in there with the greatest of all time.

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Speaker 2: Ladies in German.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, of your response coming up at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after today's Strawberry letter, subject it's always the same mess

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Speaker 1: with her. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening morning show, All right, Steve, come on, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is it's always the

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Speaker 1: same messed with her.

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Speaker 2: This poor man that wrote this letter in dating a

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Speaker 2: woman for nine years. They met at a strip club.

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Speaker 2: They was dating the same stripple.

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Speaker 3: Uh.

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Speaker 2: Then she has her to marry him because she cheated

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Speaker 2: on him with a guide work. They broke up a

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Speaker 2: was back out there in them streets you, I'm exhausted.

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Speaker 2: Then she told me she was ready to settle down again.

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Speaker 2: And then they went and got a place together. They

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Speaker 2: opened up Grand Central Station at the house. Uh so

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Speaker 2: the Holiday Inn Express was now their new home. So

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Speaker 2: they they uh they got a house and it turned

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Speaker 2: about an hour. That's when you noticed happened to popping

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Speaker 2: he said he got tired of threesomes and wild sex coupage.

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Speaker 2: You know, something going on when the dude get tied.

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Speaker 2: So now he wants to This is ridiculous, out of y'all.

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Speaker 2: He took an executive role at work, so he executive now.

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Speaker 2: And then he said that he was ready to be

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Speaker 2: she's not the one to settle down with. Now. Guess

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Speaker 2: what came out of all this. This is what threw

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Speaker 2: me in this hole. Guess what he said after that.

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Speaker 2: But she is my rock, Oh mate, boy boy, you

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Speaker 2: need a new posaurus and dictionary. You cannot be calling

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Speaker 2: her your rock. She come to find out. She is

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Speaker 2: my rock, but she's also a cheatah and a liar. Yeah, boy,

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Speaker 2: you need some new rocks. I ain't gonna not there anyway.

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Speaker 2: She's not your rock now. I don't know if this

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Speaker 2: to tell you what you have here. Though she's not

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Speaker 2: need to say. That's the Strawberry letter. Thank you all

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Speaker 2: for listening this moment her please and bro, don't I

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Speaker 2: don't understand man. So then one of your best friends

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Speaker 2: You got mad at him. Now I understand how she realized.

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Speaker 2: I apologize to him, and we slowly becoming close again.

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Speaker 2: What you mean by that? Though?

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Speaker 1: He and his friend are slowly getting becoming close.

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Speaker 2: Oh I thought they had broke up too. I shouldn't say.

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Speaker 2: It's just well, y'all see with the same strip woods,

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Speaker 2: the same friends. Anyway, this woman was my has my

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Speaker 2: heart all twisted up? And I think I would end

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Speaker 2: up in an open marriage if I agreed to go

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Speaker 2: through with this. How will I know if she's got

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Speaker 2: all the cheating out of her system. She don't. She

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Speaker 2: don't have no cheating out her sister her. Okay, I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna do something I never am. Y'all be a man

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Speaker 2: that's concerned. I'm gonna give you the answers of a cheating,

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Speaker 2: how a woman who cheats in lies answers the question.

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Speaker 1: Is it true you tried to get with my boy?

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Speaker 2: Hell?

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Speaker 1: Nah?

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Speaker 2: Boy? Hell no? You know I don't even like other men.

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Speaker 2: When you met me, was I with him? Uh uh?

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Speaker 2: I know you were with the girl that we both

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Speaker 2: got with. Yeah, but I don't even like other men. God,

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Speaker 2: you crazy, except for that dude in my job, just

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Speaker 2: I want your friends.

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Speaker 1: To well, baby, I thought you were supposed to be

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Speaker 1: my rock.

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Speaker 2: I am your rock. Who you know who you know

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Speaker 2: hit harder than me?

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Speaker 2: Wow? Wow? How many times have you cheated on me.

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Speaker 2: Be honest.

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Speaker 3: Let's have an honest conversation. Okay, I have forgiven it,

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Speaker 3: just that one just at one time, one time.

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Speaker 2: That's it. Yeah, what is it gonna be like if

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Speaker 2: we get married? What is it gonna be like? Oh,

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Speaker 2: it's gonna be beautiful.

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Speaker 1: No cheating.

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Speaker 2: Why don't be beautiful? You're gonna have my grain headaches,

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Speaker 2: worry about me. I'm gonna drive you crazy, but that's

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Speaker 2: what you said. Ooh, I'd be driving you crazy, and

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Speaker 2: I'm just why would I cheat on you. I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: just gonna bring them by the house you decide.

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Speaker 2: Said one last station. See that ain't got the cheat

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