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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, We're scribbing.

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Speaker 3: It hat be Monday, Happy Monday.

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Speaker 4: I'm at my house, which I so Tanya and I

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Speaker 4: normally recorded her place because she has a microphone setup,

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Speaker 4: and it's just much better.

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Speaker 3: It is just so much better, and it just brings

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Speaker 3: me so much joy to have a human being in

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Speaker 3: my office with me.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I flew home yesterday from Puerto Rico, so

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Speaker 4: I was like, listen, I'm gonna be I'm gonna look

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Speaker 4: out for you and be responsible and be at home today.

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Speaker 4: So I'm currently in my dark closet because the sound

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Speaker 4: is better. And also I'm nauseous because I think I'm

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Speaker 4: dehydrated and had really hard workout today and so overhead

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Speaker 4: light made me nauseous. So everyone said, I look like

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Speaker 4: I'm filming the blair Witch product project.

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Speaker 3: You know what, I don't mind it. If that's what

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Speaker 3: you gotta do. You know, our motto for the rest

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Speaker 3: of twenty twenty is do what you gotta do. So

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Speaker 3: happy to see you as the blair Witch Project. I

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Speaker 3: do miss seeing you here in the in the flesh.

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Speaker 3: But I do think this is the responsible thing to do,

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Speaker 3: just not being indoors next to each other. But I

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Speaker 3: will be seeing you in the outdoors this week, so.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah yeah.

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Speaker 4: Well I feel like if it had been a few

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Speaker 4: days post flying, I would have been like, you know what,

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Speaker 4: I'll come and I'll just we'll open the windows, I'll stand,

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Speaker 4: I'll stay far away. But it's just like one day after,

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Speaker 4: so I'm like, let's just make sure I feel like

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Speaker 4: I really, you know, had my mask on, ichloroxed everything.

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Speaker 4: But you just never know what the others are doing around.

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Speaker 3: You never know what the others are doing. I know

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Speaker 3: I appreciate it and I respect it. So here we go. Okay,

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Speaker 3: So tell me. I do want to know how your

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Speaker 3: birthday was, how the trip was. I need to know,

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Speaker 3: like how a long flight feels, going into the bathrooms

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Speaker 3: on a plane, like, like, I just have so many questions.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So the so Jojo turned thirty, which you know,

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Speaker 4: it's a significant birthday, and they're living in Puerto Rico

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Speaker 4: right now. They moved there I think in August or something,

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Speaker 4: and she has family there, so they like had gone

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Speaker 4: back and forth and so they're they're there right now,

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Speaker 4: and so it was kind of hard to get really,

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Speaker 4: such a weird time right now, we're in a pandemic.

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Speaker 4: And but I just felt, you know, for every birthday

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Speaker 4: that I've had, whether wherever it's been, she's shown up

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Speaker 4: at my birthday. So I made the decision that I

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Speaker 4: was going to fly and surprise her.

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Speaker 2: And so.

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Speaker 4: I was like texting Jordan planning all this about like

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Speaker 4: he's gonna pick me up and how we were gonna

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Speaker 4: make it a surprise. And so I was gonna leave

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Speaker 4: Tuesday night, I take a red eye. I would fly

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Speaker 4: to New York first and then fly down to Puerto Rico.

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Speaker 4: For those of you who are not familiar with maps

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Speaker 4: when I saw that I was going to New York,

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Speaker 4: I was like, this feels really out of the way.

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Speaker 4: But so my flight left at eleven thirty. And my

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Speaker 4: whole thing is that I've always been someone who cuts

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Speaker 3: That drive is one of those people that like likes

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Speaker 3: of time. So anytime I do travel with Becca, I

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Speaker 3: get major anxiety because she's one of She's just not

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Speaker 2: She's not a guy.

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Speaker 4: So I agree, I can be stressful, and most of

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Speaker 4: my plan was to get there like thirty five minutes

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Speaker 2: And so my flight was.

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Speaker 4: At eleven thirty and I got there at eleven like

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Speaker 4: checking me in was like, you have to be here

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Speaker 2: And I was like please.

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Speaker 4: I was like, I was like, I was begging basically,

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Speaker 4: and she goes, well, we get docked, like we get

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Speaker 2: And I was like, how like how much?

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Speaker 4: Like I was basically like, I'll be.

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Speaker 2: Please help me.

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Speaker 4: So I was so I missed my flight. They had

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Speaker 4: to reschedule me for the next day. So I was

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Speaker 4: me there till ten thirty pm. So I'm so embarrassed

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Speaker 4: because I have to text Jordan and be like, listen,

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Speaker 3: I I was doing absolutely nothing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like my plan was just to be there just

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Speaker 2: you know, I had plans to be on time.

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Speaker 3: Like if I'm ever if I ever have to be

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Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my, I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 5: Like I had too many meetings, or I like.

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Speaker 3: To a shower and I just slipped, or I don't know,

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Speaker 3: like something, and Becca's I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I couldn't even think of anything.

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Speaker 3: Becca's just like I missed my flight because I just

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Speaker 2: Because earlier exactly.

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Speaker 4: So I was so embarrassed, I like almost I didn't

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Speaker 2: So he wrote me back. He was like, I'll figure

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Speaker 4: Work, which was he's so nice to help me as

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Speaker 4: he's probably like this idiot.

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Speaker 2: So he tells her.

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Speaker 4: So I land at like eleven thirty, and he had

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Speaker 4: told her for his when he does broadcasting stuff for football,

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Speaker 2: And he made he was so brilliant.

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Speaker 4: He goes, yeah, the main sections closed, but they have

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Speaker 4: so you can go print out stuff when you need to.

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Speaker 2: And so she's just like, okay.

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Speaker 5: I like so sketched out.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she didn't even think twice about it. It's a

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Speaker 2: Am I half asleep right now? What's going on?

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Speaker 4: Video? So yeah, so it was really fun. And then

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Speaker 4: my birthday was really chill. Where they live is so

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Speaker 5: So it looks like paradise, yeah.

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Speaker 4: It is, and everyone just like it has a golf card.

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Speaker 4: then the next night Jordan and set up a dinner

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Speaker 4: that looked like a wedding reception.

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Speaker 3: It looked so beautiful. I couldn't even get over the

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Speaker 4: I was like, ah, I know, and he's so sweet,

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Speaker 4: printed out and it had like happy birthday Jojo and Becca,

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Speaker 4: and so it was just really sweet and it was

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Speaker 4: Fun, fun time and I'm glad, I went.

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Speaker 3: That's so nice. I'm glad you went too. I like

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Speaker 3: and I've texted back and I was like, how long

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Speaker 5: I was like, okay, and we will not.

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Speaker 4: Tania like, well, she's like nervous to do like a

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Speaker 2: She had already said I don't know if I feel

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Speaker 4: A nine hour travel day and then you're not gonna

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Speaker 3: So my new word for the rest of the year

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Speaker 3: like I had been so persistent to, you know, be

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Speaker 3: just realized that I'm just gonna surrender to just what is,

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Speaker 3: know what I mean. It's like you make plans and

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Speaker 3: then some people have to quarantine, so then your plans

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Speaker 3: have to change, you know. It's just like I'm just

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Speaker 3: same thing. I was like, I'm gonna have a you know,

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Speaker 3: Let me tell you somebody that I stand behind, because

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Speaker 5: The menstrual cup.

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Speaker 4: Well she really of course, it goes back to Tanya's period.

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Speaker 3: Because let me tell you, I am a woman that

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Speaker 5: Like I'm a vagina talker. You know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: It's like we have them, let's carry on. Every month

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Speaker 3: Now for how long have scrubbers been writing and telling

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Speaker 3: And I've been so reluctant to try it because it

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Speaker 3: And let me just say, anybody who was trying and

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Speaker 5: All you have to do is put it in the morning.

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Speaker 3: You don't have to worry about when you pee, peeing

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Speaker 5: It's just there all day.

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Speaker 3: You take it out before you go to bed, clean

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Speaker 5: It's like the best thing I could have ever done

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Speaker 4: We love to hear it a new period product.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a new period product. I did also try

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Speaker 6: The Diva cup is a brand, right or is that

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Speaker 6: It's like it was like a Kleenex for you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm sending Ashley Aya Koneti your way because she says

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Speaker 4: I am not as passionate about Like my period isn't

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Speaker 3: It's like we've had these these products that were made

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Speaker 5: I'm just guessing.

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Speaker 5: You know what.

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Speaker 3: Let me tell you that was what deterred me from

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Speaker 4: Uh huh, well great, I mean, like maybe someone will

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Speaker 2: Not honestly, it's so funny.

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Speaker 3: I was texting my sister because I was like, how

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Speaker 5: It's really easy.

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Speaker 3: It's it's not as easy as a tampon, but once

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Speaker 2: I'm so like, I'm so happy for you, truly.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the modern day tampon was patented in nineteen thirty three.

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Speaker 2: Oh, you're right, in the thirties, in the thirties.

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Speaker 5: Think about that. We've been using tampon since it's twenty twenty.

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Speaker 3: Like, let's ebol, let's our vaginas are worth it, you.

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Speaker 6: I think the menstruation is a beautiful thing and I'm

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Speaker 6: like Okay, you take it out and then you get

441
00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:38,280
Speaker 6: a mason jar and then you put it in your

442
00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:41,399
Speaker 6: fridge like it's it's just scarred me for life. But

443
00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:43,080
Speaker 6: but I admire you, Tanya for.

444
00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:47,080
Speaker 3: So I'm not I'm not saving or collecting line. I'm

445
00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:49,919
Speaker 3: still just writing down the toilet with the rest of

446
00:20:49,960 --> 00:20:54,159
Speaker 3: the things. But I do have to say, there's the disc,

447
00:20:54,320 --> 00:20:56,160
Speaker 3: there's a cup, and then there's like a disc.

448
00:20:56,320 --> 00:20:59,600
Speaker 5: Right, So I pulled out the disc because.

449
00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:06,080
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm already so like lightheaded and nauseous.

450
00:21:06,119 --> 00:21:09,560
Speaker 3: And I know it looks like a giant condom if

451
00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:13,080
Speaker 3: you will, like, that's what so. And I was showing

452
00:21:13,119 --> 00:21:15,520
Speaker 3: it to Red Star and he was like, how does

453
00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:16,960
Speaker 3: that go inside?

454
00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:18,240
Speaker 5: Because it's like big, but.

455
00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:21,280
Speaker 3: Basically once you put it in, it like somehow conforms

456
00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:23,800
Speaker 3: to like the size that your bodies or whatever.

457
00:21:24,520 --> 00:21:28,920
Speaker 5: But I could not get in right. I couldn't get

458
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:31,000
Speaker 5: it to sit right. I don't know that one's gonna

459
00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:32,080
Speaker 5: be a little bit more of a challenge.

460
00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:34,880
Speaker 3: So I'm just telling everybody, if you're gonna try, try

461
00:21:34,880 --> 00:21:37,119
Speaker 3: the cup versus the disc first, because.

462
00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:38,720
Speaker 2: Are you are you trying?

463
00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:42,159
Speaker 4: Are you set on trying all options just so you

464
00:21:42,200 --> 00:21:45,280
Speaker 4: can reference them and talk about them. Because my thought is,

465
00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:48,080
Speaker 4: if you love the Diva cups or the cups so much,

466
00:21:48,920 --> 00:21:51,680
Speaker 4: why works so hard to do the disc?

467
00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:53,120
Speaker 2: If it's harder.

468
00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:55,359
Speaker 3: So I will I will tell you it might be

469
00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:59,679
Speaker 3: a little much for the podcast, but uh, screw it,

470
00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:03,560
Speaker 3: we're here. It's it's meant so that you can have

471
00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 3: sex on your period. So does it's not like messy.

472
00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 2: Call y'all are just animals.

473
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:15,800
Speaker 3: Because essentially what it does is it just like collects

474
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:19,720
Speaker 3: it all like on top, so it's like free of

475
00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:23,760
Speaker 3: It's just you're free to to have at it.

476
00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:28,600
Speaker 2: The sacrifice, the sacrifice for red Star. Essentially.

477
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Speaker 5: It's actually funny.

478
00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 3: I didn't know that there was a difference in a

479
00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:34,359
Speaker 3: cup and a disc. And my actually my public floor

480
00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:36,800
Speaker 3: physical therapist was telling me about the disc and she's like, oh,

481
00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:38,119
Speaker 3: I think you should try it, and I was like,

482
00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:38,679
Speaker 3: all right.

483
00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:45,199
Speaker 4: Girl, I'm trying to think of what to transition into,

484
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 4: but nothing is coming up.

485
00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:50,120
Speaker 2: So I think we actually we take a break. We'll

486
00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:51,600
Speaker 2: just take a break and we'll be.

487
00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:54,560
Speaker 5: Back with Was it too much so I go too far?

488
00:22:55,520 --> 00:22:57,840
Speaker 4: No, no further than you go on a normal basis,

489
00:22:57,920 --> 00:23:01,440
Speaker 4: I think though, Yeah, decompressed, come back.

490
00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:04,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, I never wanted took it to the Mason Jar

491
00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:05,200
Speaker 5: like Easton.

492
00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:08,680
Speaker 4: Easton's Mason Jar story is really what took a turn.

493
00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 6: Yeah, it takes all. It takes all kinds. I just

494
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:12,040
Speaker 6: want you to see the spectrum.

495
00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:14,480
Speaker 4: You know, it's amazing, what the heat, what we can

496
00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:16,880
Speaker 4: do for ourselves with our bodies.

497
00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 6: A female is a beautiful, beautiful thing.

498
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Speaker 2: It is. Thanks Easton, I love it.

499
00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:37,760
Speaker 4: All.

500
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Speaker 2: Right, we are back.

501
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:45,879
Speaker 4: Great conversation had about the female body and taking a

502
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,879
Speaker 4: totally different turn. I wanted to remind you all about

503
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 4: our Virtual Scrubbers Choice Party that we are having November thirteenth.

504
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:59,720
Speaker 4: So basically we're celebrating the People's Choice Awards. This is

505
00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 4: more just like a fun party and something for everyone

506
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,239
Speaker 4: to kind of be involved in. It's gonna be a

507
00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:07,360
Speaker 4: lot of fun. We have some really fun guests. We're

508
00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 4: doing our first ever live mannal, which y'all will love.

509
00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:15,120
Speaker 3: Yep, and so like I said, it's November thirteenth, It's

510
00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 3: starting at five o'clock Pacific, which is eight o'clock Eastern.

511
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:23,000
Speaker 3: You can go to on locationlive dot com to get

512
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:25,159
Speaker 3: your tickets to that, and then a portion of the

513
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:29,600
Speaker 3: proceeds are benefiting Young Survivor Coalition, which is young adults

514
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:33,200
Speaker 3: facing breast cancer together. So it's gonna be fun event.

515
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:37,320
Speaker 3: Come hang, get your tickets, and you know, it's like

516
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:41,639
Speaker 3: a different Friday night because every night is essentially similar

517
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 3: in Quarantine.

518
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:44,399
Speaker 4: So yeah, and I mean, if you were part of

519
00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:51,480
Speaker 4: our last live virtual show, you know, anything can happen. Honestly,

520
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:54,439
Speaker 4: maybe one of my highlights of Quarantine during.

521
00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 3: Honestly kind of same, kind of same because I felt

522
00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:01,560
Speaker 3: so anxiety driven during it and was just so like

523
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:06,240
Speaker 3: stressed and disappointed, and then seeing everybody's reaction how much

524
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:08,640
Speaker 3: fun they had and how much they were laughing at it,

525
00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:10,240
Speaker 3: made me feel so much better.

526
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:13,200
Speaker 4: Well we had, I mean, it was just yeah, the

527
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:16,399
Speaker 4: videos of what was actually happening while we were just

528
00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:21,119
Speaker 4: panicking behind the scenes was just the best. So if

529
00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:23,080
Speaker 4: you weren't a part of that last time, don't miss

530
00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 4: this one because it could be even more crazy because

531
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:28,760
Speaker 4: we're gonna have a mantle.

532
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:30,760
Speaker 2: I'm sure we'll have some.

533
00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 4: You know, drinks, which always is fun for some of us.

534
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:42,360
Speaker 2: So yeah, good times. Wait, so what you just had

535
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 2: like a chill Halloween?

536
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, everything's like literally when I tell you it was

537
00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:54,000
Speaker 3: pumpkin onesies. Went to the grocery store to get stuff

538
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:56,480
Speaker 3: to make. So I had these like little skeletons. They're

539
00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 3: just like little baby skeletons, and so I was like,

540
00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:01,240
Speaker 3: why don't we make skin knee Margarita's.

541
00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 5: Get it like Eleton Margarita.

542
00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:07,399
Speaker 3: So we made skinny Margarita's. And we had like a

543
00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 3: Halloween playlist that we had on and like danced to

544
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:16,639
Speaker 3: and just literally ate and watched the craft and ate

545
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 3: vegan or we got vegan ice cream.

546
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:20,680
Speaker 5: Didn't end up eating it, but we're gonna do.

547
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 3: It a taste off next time. Next time Vegan taste

548
00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:29,119
Speaker 3: test off. Vegan ice cream taste test off. But yeah,

549
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,520
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm just kind of you know, it's interesting

550
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:34,359
Speaker 3: because I saw, you know, all that backlash that was

551
00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 3: going on with Kendall Jenner and her birthday party.

552
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:39,440
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah.

553
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 3: The Halloween birthday party, and like it's like, yes, I

554
00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:45,360
Speaker 3: do think that there is something to the fact that

555
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 3: we're still in this pandemic. We all should just hunker

556
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:51,639
Speaker 3: down and try and get through it, you know. But

557
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:53,639
Speaker 3: at the same time, it's just like we do have

558
00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:56,359
Speaker 3: to continue to somewhat live our lives, right, It's like,

559
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:59,400
Speaker 3: you know, we need to start flying again, like these airlines.

560
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 5: Need to you know, it's just like the economy needs

561
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:03,200
Speaker 5: to move right.

562
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:05,280
Speaker 3: I mean that really don't know how that correlates to

563
00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 3: Kendall Jenner's birthday party. No, we don't have you know,

564
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:11,280
Speaker 3: big shindigs. And I'm sure that there was a protocol

565
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:13,920
Speaker 3: and I'm sure people got rapid tests and yeah, things

566
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:15,959
Speaker 3: like that, but you know, I don't know.

567
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:19,159
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was gonna say, I mean, on all the

568
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,520
Speaker 4: flights that I was on, they were all the pilots

569
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 4: and the flight attendants were like, thank you so much

570
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:26,240
Speaker 4: for flying and like, you know, keeping this in like,

571
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 4: I think it's kind of just been so tough for everybody,

572
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:31,160
Speaker 4: and I think we all have to do our part

573
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:35,439
Speaker 4: and be responsible, and like even for my little birthday

574
00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:37,720
Speaker 4: getaway that I'm doing in a few in a couple

575
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:40,399
Speaker 4: of weeks, like everyone's getting tested before and it's just

576
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 4: like we have to be responsible if we're gonna have

577
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:47,120
Speaker 4: some normalcy. But like, if you know, I think it's

578
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 4: just a matter of being respectful that we are still

579
00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:52,800
Speaker 4: in a pandemic. So I know, it's like a hard

580
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,680
Speaker 4: balance to navigate because I get stressed out about doing

581
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:58,200
Speaker 4: things and the backlash I might receive. But I also

582
00:27:58,840 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 4: know that there's a lot of people who have suffered

583
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:08,080
Speaker 4: from like the discourse of like our normal lives and everything.

584
00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 4: So I think it's just yeah, I'm kind of in

585
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:15,440
Speaker 4: the same place of like not knowing what's the actual

586
00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:21,680
Speaker 4: perfect answer, and I don't think anyone does. Wait, So Friday,

587
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:25,919
Speaker 4: which was October thirtieth, was not only my birthday, it

588
00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:29,480
Speaker 4: was National texture X Day. And we teased this last

589
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 4: week if we were gonna do it.

590
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 2: I got permission, I got the go ahead from ninety

591
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:36,199
Speaker 2: five P that it was fine.

592
00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:40,960
Speaker 4: So I was gonna text Robert because he's really my

593
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:41,880
Speaker 4: only ex.

594
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:44,480
Speaker 3: Okay, it's funny that you went that way, because I

595
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,360
Speaker 3: got so much heat on my end. I got so

596
00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:50,480
Speaker 3: many dms from scrubbers saying this is exactly the opposite

597
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:52,440
Speaker 3: of what you said you should ever do, And I

598
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:54,239
Speaker 3: was like, you know what, you're right? Like why, Like

599
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:56,760
Speaker 3: I was going to text my ex from high school,

600
00:28:56,800 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 3: which is his name is Ryan Compton shout out if

601
00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 3: you listen, he probably does, but yeah, shout out.

602
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 5: Whoop poop. But it's true.

603
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 3: It's like that's so my past, and like I don't

604
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 3: need to go down that path. Like I love him,

605
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 3: I'm sure he's great, and I think he had you know,

606
00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:12,960
Speaker 3: is married. I'm pretty sure he has kids. So I

607
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 3: wish him well, but don't care to don't care to

608
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 3: text in my.

609
00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 2: Ex Well, I think it's just like my my I'll

610
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 2: do it right now.

611
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 4: My text is basically like Friday was textra x Day,

612
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 4: so I wanted to say hey and acknowledge the holiday.

613
00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 4: But also I did get you know, I was respectful

614
00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 4: to ninety five p And also Robert is single as

615
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 4: far as I know right now, so you know, I

616
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 4: if I knew that he was in a relationship, i'd

617
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 4: probably hold off because I wouldn't want to disrespect you

618
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:53,560
Speaker 4: know who he is with.

619
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 5: Right, Okay, you want to lob it out, yeah.

620
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:02,520
Speaker 1: Right, But since it's not texture X Day, what is

621
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 1: the premise?

622
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:07,360
Speaker 2: Oh no, I was gonna say Friday was texture act.

623
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:09,719
Speaker 5: Then why didn't you do it on Friday?

624
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 3: Is what Mark's saying, Like, we need some sort of recording,

625
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:16,000
Speaker 3: so you could say, friends, we're recording the podcast right now.

626
00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 1: But wait, Also, I also think you should ask him.

627
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 5: Something such as how only because if.

628
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 4: You just say, and I know this is the I think,

629
00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:29,520
Speaker 4: what was the most annoying thing about me while.

630
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 1: We were something like that?

631
00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:36,320
Speaker 4: Okay, So I'm going to say, while I was busy

632
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 4: celebrating my birthday on Friday, there was actually another holiday happening.

633
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:43,640
Speaker 1: Did you hear from him on your birthday?

634
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 2: Yes? He said, happy birthday.

635
00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 1: Best, It's very sweet.

636
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 2: I hope you have the best day ever. That's what

637
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 2: he said.

638
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 1: Great. Okay, so this makes sense then, So.

639
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:54,800
Speaker 4: I'm saying, while I was busy celebrating my birthday, there

640
00:30:55,000 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 4: was also another national holiday that day. And then I'm

641
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:07,760
Speaker 4: gonna say it was text your X Day in honor

642
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 4: of the special day? What was the what?

643
00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 2: In honor of the most annoying thing about me? While

644
00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:27,320
Speaker 2: we were dating? Who it's sent?

645
00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 1: There was?

646
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:32,920
Speaker 5: All right, Tanya, Robert's a quick one. So I feel

647
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 5: like we're going to get a response.

648
00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 1: So, Tanya, where do we stand on this? Are you?

649
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:41,640
Speaker 3: It goes against everything that I've been fighting Becca against.

650
00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 2: Yeah that this is a pride issue for Tanya.

651
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:44,920
Speaker 4: No.

652
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like it's like I'm like the person that says

653
00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 3: there is no reason to text your ex ever.

654
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:52,240
Speaker 1: And I agree in the terms of Ryan Compton, because

655
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:54,800
Speaker 1: he may be married. You could cause problems. But there's

656
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 1: got there's got to be some sort of a more

657
00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 1: recent X.

658
00:31:58,160 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 5: There there's a recent X.

659
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:03,440
Speaker 3: But the only one that I could think of that

660
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Speaker 3: I would text I feel like is inappropriate just because

661
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 3: he has like recently reached out and I'm trying to

662
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:09,840
Speaker 3: like set a boundary, be.

663
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 5: Out of respect, you know what I mean. So that

664
00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 5: seems like playing with fire a little bit.

665
00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 2: Okay, weak, No, I'm just kidding.

666
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 3: I know what's funny though, All my exes, like the

667
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 3: ones that I like, if I go down my you know,

668
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 3: list of ones that were significant are all married minus

669
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 3: like two three.

670
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 2: He responded, Oh, that was really fast.

671
00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 5: He's a responder. He's a responder.

672
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 2: He's so full of it too.

673
00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 4: He goes, I can't think of a single thing. You're

674
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 4: an angel, And I said, you're a liar. Answer the question.

675
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 4: I knew he would say something that wouldn't I.

676
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 1: No, that's the right answer, though. You got to give

677
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:05,520
Speaker 1: him credit for that. That is, if that happened to

678
00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 1: me with an X of mine, I would say not

679
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 1: a thing, because why would you you know you don't

680
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 1: want to strow anything up.

681
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 2: I was so annoying. I mean, I was like, well,

682
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 2: what do.

683
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:16,360
Speaker 1: You think was the most annoy anything about you?

684
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:24,560
Speaker 2: Where do I begin? Probably just not my non committal ways.

685
00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:33,320
Speaker 7: Non committal ways in the sense of, like, I like,

686
00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 7: he was my first relationship, and I had been so

687
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 7: independent before that that I always just.

688
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:41,440
Speaker 4: Did my own thing, and like, didn't you know, I

689
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 4: didn't have to answer to anybody. I didn't have to

690
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 4: like talk on the phone if I didn't want to whatever,

691
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 4: And so I think he dealt with a lot of

692
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:52,760
Speaker 4: my immaturity in a first relationship.

693
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 1: So he would say like, hey, dinner Saturday night, and you'd.

694
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:59,280
Speaker 5: Be like, yeah, yeah, actually she would.

695
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 7: It's only Thursday, so exactly, which I am, like that right,

696
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 7: But I mean, in Beck's defense, she's like that in

697
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 7: every relationship or not.

698
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 1: But that airport thing would drive me nuts.

699
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:12,560
Speaker 2: I know, it's it drives everybody nuts.

700
00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:15,359
Speaker 4: So you're not my feelings don't even get hurt by

701
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:17,840
Speaker 4: that because I'm just like, I know, and then I

702
00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 4: missed my flight, so I really know. But let's listen,

703
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:25,719
Speaker 4: I have I have been that way with flying for

704
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 4: so long, and that was the first one. You know,

705
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 4: I really think the mask took away my ability to

706
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:35,560
Speaker 4: charm because normally, right, you can just rules for me,

707
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 4: and she was not having it.

708
00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:41,879
Speaker 3: So this is an interesting question though, just like because

709
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:43,919
Speaker 3: now I'm that you're saying, and I'm like reflecting back

710
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 3: on on the most annoying things that I probably did

711
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:48,400
Speaker 3: in relationships.

712
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:52,240
Speaker 2: It's interesting.

713
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:55,359
Speaker 3: It's an interesting thought process that's going through my head

714
00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:55,799
Speaker 3: right now.

715
00:34:57,680 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 1: Every relationship until actually every relationship including getting married, they're

716
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:03,480
Speaker 1: all they're all you're all works in progress.

717
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:06,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I mean we never we should.

718
00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:10,759
Speaker 4: I mean, we never stopped changing or evolving, even the

719
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 4: people that don't want to change or evolve, like you

720
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 4: are regardless because things are always changing around you.

721
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:21,240
Speaker 2: But yeah, I mean.

722
00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 5: I'm probably the opposite of Becca.

723
00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:26,080
Speaker 3: Like I'm probably so annoying because I like to have plans,

724
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:29,840
Speaker 3: probably too, Like I'm already planning things for February, you

725
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:33,080
Speaker 3: know what i mean. So it's like, yeah, that's probably annoying.

726
00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 2: What are you planning for February right now?

727
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:39,239
Speaker 3: Well, you know, twenty twenty one just seems like a

728
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:43,480
Speaker 3: good year to plan things. So just skipping November and

729
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:45,239
Speaker 3: December and going straight to twenty twenty one.

730
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:48,719
Speaker 4: Isn't it wild that in four months it'll be a

731
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:53,760
Speaker 4: year since we were in since the pandemic that yeah started.

732
00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 5: Wild.

733
00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:58,000
Speaker 4: I had to count twice to make sure that was

734
00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 4: right because I saw it posted some.

735
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:04,200
Speaker 3: I enjoy Robert. I enjoy Robert because I think he's

736
00:36:04,280 --> 00:36:06,840
Speaker 3: like a dude. He's like a duty dude, you know,

737
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 3: but he is also your ex, so there's like that

738
00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:15,239
Speaker 3: sense of like, I don't want to say brother lee

739
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:16,920
Speaker 3: vibe to him, do you know what I mean? But

740
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 3: I feel like he has my best interest at heart,

741
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:20,680
Speaker 3: but he's also a duty dude, So I just enjoy

742
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:22,759
Speaker 3: getting advice from him.

743
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:25,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, because he's duty dude, but brotherly.

744
00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:30,360
Speaker 3: Duty dude, but brotherly put that on his resume.

745
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:34,920
Speaker 4: Yeah. Should we get to emails because these are pretty

746
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 4: like I'm interested to see if we all agree on

747
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:39,920
Speaker 4: the things.

748
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 1: Sure, and we're about a week and a half out

749
00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:44,319
Speaker 1: from the Grace Anatomy premiere, so I want to ask

750
00:36:44,360 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 1: you guys a few questions to see if you remember

751
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 1: last season. Give me more questions next week as we

752
00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:51,920
Speaker 1: get closer and closer.

753
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 2: I love this. Wait, so are we doing this before emails?

754
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:57,520
Speaker 1: Whatever? Take a break, We'll figure it out.

755
00:36:57,920 --> 00:36:59,439
Speaker 2: Oh, okay, we'll be back.

756
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:18,000
Speaker 4: All right, We are back, and after the during the break,

757
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:21,000
Speaker 4: we discussed that we're going to do emails, offer some

758
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 4: advice to some people who have written in, and then

759
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 4: we're gonna do the Gray's Anatomy quiz game.

760
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:32,000
Speaker 1: All right. This is from anonymous. She says, I just

761
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 1: recently got engaged, and I keep dreaming about a guy

762
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:38,319
Speaker 1: I used to date. My fiance, Joshua and I have

763
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:40,520
Speaker 1: known each other since we were in middle school. I've

764
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 1: known the other guy, let's call him Sean, for about

765
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 1: the same amount of time. Sean and I were never official.

766
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:48,879
Speaker 1: He's that bad boy that gives mixed signals. I know

767
00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:51,480
Speaker 1: I want to marry Joshua, but when I wake up

768
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:53,560
Speaker 1: from those dreams, I can't help but wonder if I'm

769
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:56,520
Speaker 1: making a mistake and some of the dreams I actually

770
00:37:56,640 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 1: end things with Joshua so that I could do with Sean.

771
00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:01,799
Speaker 1: Do the dreams me anything? Should I tell Joshua about

772
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:03,320
Speaker 1: these dreams or just hope they go away?

773
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:04,720
Speaker 5: Wait?

774
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:08,239
Speaker 3: Can I just start off here? Because I find this

775
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 3: email to be so interesting. I have recently started going

776
00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:15,520
Speaker 3: to therapy, seeing a therapist and my last session she

777
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 3: asked me to whenever I have a dream, to wake

778
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 3: up and write it in my notes page that we

779
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:26,840
Speaker 3: can uh discuss it in my next session. For some reason,

780
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 3: ever since she told me this, I'm like not dreaming

781
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 3: like or they're just going like I can't remember anything

782
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 3: to save my life. And so I think that there

783
00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:37,440
Speaker 3: is some significance to it, because clearly there is if

784
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 3: my therapist is asking me to write them down so

785
00:38:40,680 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 3: that we can like discuss it in my next session.

786
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:45,360
Speaker 3: So I think that there is something to your dreams.

787
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 3: I just don't know the answer.

788
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:55,800
Speaker 2: That was very helpful advice and response.

789
00:38:56,160 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 5: Well, I'm talking to her.

790
00:38:57,000 --> 00:38:59,120
Speaker 3: On Wednesday, so hopefully I have a Maybe I can

791
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:03,320
Speaker 3: just ask her, Yeah, significance of the dream.

792
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:04,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe ask her about this one.

793
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 4: And if we give bad advice according to your therapist,

794
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:17,200
Speaker 4: then we can revisit this. But I just want you

795
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 4: to know that the bad boy that gave you mixed

796
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 4: signals then is probably still the bad boy who would

797
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 4: give you mixed signals. Now, not saying that people can't change,

798
00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 4: but I'm saying I think you're having dreams. There's probably

799
00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:36,040
Speaker 4: this level of as someone who I consider myself pretty

800
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:40,440
Speaker 4: noncommittal in a sense of like long term stuff freaks

801
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:40,839
Speaker 4: me out.

802
00:39:42,239 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 2: I feel like I.

803
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:49,359
Speaker 4: Would probably manifest this like weird dream scenario where I'm

804
00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 4: with other people, just in the sense that I'm like,

805
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:53,880
Speaker 4: oh wait, I'm gonna be with the same person forever,

806
00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 4: and your brain kind of does these.

807
00:39:55,960 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 2: Like weird tricks on you.

808
00:39:57,880 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 4: But I think if you're with Joshua and you're so

809
00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 4: excited about being with him and you can't picture yourself

810
00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:07,520
Speaker 4: not being with him, or like you wouldn't be okay

811
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:09,360
Speaker 4: if if you weren't with him and he was with

812
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:12,640
Speaker 4: someone else, then I think you know that you're with

813
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 4: the right person, and Sean is just a like fantasy

814
00:40:15,719 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 4: that is probably coming in because you you you said

815
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:23,360
Speaker 4: yes to something long term committal.

816
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like I bet there is something to

817
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:30,600
Speaker 3: like engagement, you know, even as much as if let's

818
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 3: say you're somebody that is looking forward to that and

819
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 3: that's something that you really like dream and dream of,

820
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:38,319
Speaker 3: I feel like once it happens, there is there is

821
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:39,480
Speaker 3: some level of anxiety.

822
00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:40,759
Speaker 5: Whether it's obviously something you.

823
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:44,719
Speaker 3: Really want, you know, there comes something with like the

824
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:49,200
Speaker 3: imperpetuity part of it that probably stirs up some emotions.

825
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 5: I don't know, mm hmm. I've never been engaged.

826
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:52,719
Speaker 2: Guys.

827
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 1: I you know a lot of people are going to

828
00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 1: disagree with me on this because I'm not somebody who

829
00:40:57,360 --> 00:40:59,680
Speaker 1: believes in supernatural stuff. I don't believe in psychics and I

830
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:01,760
Speaker 1: don't belie of any of that stuff. This means nothing.

831
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 1: You have cold feet. It's totally normal. Leaving Joshua for Sean.

832
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:09,000
Speaker 1: You would regret it for the rest of your life.

833
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 1: And I think you know that on some level. Like

834
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:13,840
Speaker 1: I'm close your eyes and really imagine your life a

835
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:17,880
Speaker 1: year from now, married to Joshua or having left Joshua.

836
00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:21,440
Speaker 1: You no longer speak to Joshua. You're dating the bad boy,

837
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:23,960
Speaker 1: And what's that life look like compared to what the

838
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 1: Joshua life looks like. I think you know the right

839
00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 1: path here. I think it's standard cold feet. This means nothing.

840
00:41:30,360 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 1: Don't read too much into it.

841
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:35,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, keep the good guy, dude, like good guys, the

842
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:37,160
Speaker 3: good guys. We need the good ones. You want the

843
00:41:37,200 --> 00:41:39,120
Speaker 3: good one for you want the STEADI Eddy for the

844
00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:43,680
Speaker 3: long haul. You know you don't want the Sanzi Sam.

845
00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

846
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like a life with Sean giving up

847
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 4: someone like Joshua for Sean would be a life of

848
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:59,880
Speaker 4: anxiety and insecurity and not knowing if he's being loyal.

849
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:04,799
Speaker 4: So don't don't overthink it.

850
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:06,520
Speaker 5: Is he at this door or is he a strip club?

851
00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:07,359
Speaker 5: I don't know?

852
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:09,520
Speaker 2: Is he at office depot? Right?

853
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:15,279
Speaker 1: I bet Sean's apartment is disgusting. For sure, he never

854
00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 1: cleans his bathroom. Yeah, he's got those loser friends like

855
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 1: we were talking about a few weeks ago with the

856
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 1: weird nicknames.

857
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:23,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, and he for sure leaves his like nose hair

858
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:27,200
Speaker 3: trimmings or beard trimming, Like he doesn't even wash him down,

859
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 3: he just leaves him in there.

860
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:31,040
Speaker 2: Or maybe Sean is the friend, the gross friend.

861
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh yeah, you're right, Yeah, all right, all right,

862
00:42:37,640 --> 00:42:40,720
Speaker 1: here comes another one. This is from Brittany. I'm currently

863
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:45,360
Speaker 1: working in a field that is male dominated surgery, very

864
00:42:45,719 --> 00:42:49,120
Speaker 1: perfect for our scrubbing in program. I started my job

865
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 1: dating a guy and that didn't pan out. I'm now

866
00:42:51,320 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 1: in a relationship with a female who I adore. I

867
00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:57,360
Speaker 1: need advice on how to address my sexuality with my employer.

868
00:42:57,840 --> 00:42:59,920
Speaker 1: I work in the Deep South for people who do

869
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 1: not share the same views as me. However, I see

870
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 1: forever with this girl. Would you tell your boss about

871
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 1: your sexual orientation, even if it's something he's made remarks

872
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:10,280
Speaker 1: about disagreeing with Any advice would be helpful.

873
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 2: This is what the middle part again the deep solf.

874
00:43:21,480 --> 00:43:24,680
Speaker 5: Well, no, like, why does she need what she started

875
00:43:24,680 --> 00:43:28,319
Speaker 5: out her career dating a man didn't work out, she's

876
00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 5: now dating a woman.

877
00:43:31,719 --> 00:43:34,360
Speaker 1: How does she address this with her employer but it

878
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 1: knows that they're not keen on the same sex relationships?

879
00:43:37,760 --> 00:43:41,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, because she said he's made remarks about disagreeing with it.

880
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 4: I personally like, I don't think it's a conversation where

881
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:47,680
Speaker 4: you go out. It's really no one's business.

882
00:43:47,680 --> 00:43:49,239
Speaker 1: Honestly, I think I agree with that.

883
00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 4: But I do think if he says something derogatory or

884
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:56,399
Speaker 4: rude that is offensive about it, I think you say, like, hey,

885
00:43:57,600 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 4: you know that's inappropriate and I'm actually in a relationship,

886
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 4: Like if you feel comfortable being like I'm in a

887
00:44:02,800 --> 00:44:05,799
Speaker 4: relationship with a woman, that's inappropriate, or just say hey,

888
00:44:06,360 --> 00:44:08,520
Speaker 4: you know, I find that to be a little bit offensive.

889
00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:10,040
Speaker 4: If you feel like you need to stick out for

890
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 4: yourself and absolutely say something. But I don't think it's

891
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:17,319
Speaker 4: necessary for you to go out of your way to

892
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:20,320
Speaker 4: have the conversation because it's really no one's business.

893
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:22,880
Speaker 1: But that's my question. Is it necessary? Is there a

894
00:44:22,960 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 1: Christmas party? Is there? Is it going? Is it inevitable?

895
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 1: The business?

896
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 3: Here's the thing, here's the thing. I think that no,

897
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 3: you don't need to. It's you know, it is really

898
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:34,719
Speaker 3: nobody's business but your own. However, I do also think too,

899
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 3: like you don't want to You're not embarrassed of your girlfriend.

900
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:38,640
Speaker 3: You don't want to hide your girlfriend, you don't want

901
00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 3: to hide your relationships. So I think there are ways

902
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:45,080
Speaker 3: that you can, you know, like without having saying I

903
00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 3: want to have a serious conversation or like I want

904
00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:48,560
Speaker 3: to talk to you about something. You don't have to

905
00:44:48,560 --> 00:44:51,120
Speaker 3: make it this big thing. But if you guys are like,

906
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:53,200
Speaker 3: let's say, I don't really know what if you have

907
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 3: lunch in a cafeteria or you know, if you hang

908
00:44:56,120 --> 00:44:58,719
Speaker 3: out in the lounge or wherever you hang and there

909
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 3: it's just like, I don't know, I have no idea,

910
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:03,959
Speaker 3: But in just a very like kind of passive way,

911
00:45:04,040 --> 00:45:05,560
Speaker 3: you say something like, oh my gosh, yeah, like my

912
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:08,360
Speaker 3: girlfriend and I went to the Farmer's Market in Studio

913
00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:11,240
Speaker 3: City and they have the best, you know almonds.

914
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:12,040
Speaker 5: I know you love almonds.

915
00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:14,160
Speaker 3: You should go there or I don't know, you know

916
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 3: what I mean, Like if your boss loves you know,

917
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:18,800
Speaker 3: Mexican food, you could be like, oh my gosh, my girlfriend,

918
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:20,799
Speaker 3: I just went on a really nice date there. They

919
00:45:20,840 --> 00:45:24,440
Speaker 3: have this great open seating and they have you know,

920
00:45:24,719 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 3: tacos for five dollars on Tuesdays.

921
00:45:26,520 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 5: You should try that.

922
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:29,080
Speaker 3: So you're bringing up the fact that you have a

923
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:32,319
Speaker 3: girlfriend and you're saying it, but you're not making it

924
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 3: like a big thing. You're not saying like I really

925
00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 3: talk to you about something. I know this is not

926
00:45:36,440 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 3: you know yours.

927
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 1: Well, here's the danger, Like can he can he kind

928
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: of short circuit her career? Can he decide that she's

929
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:45,960
Speaker 1: not going to get the promotions? Because I know it's

930
00:45:45,960 --> 00:45:48,680
Speaker 1: not legal per se, but in the Deep South, I

931
00:45:48,760 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 1: think this is the kind of thing that happens. So

932
00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 1: I am a little concerned about it.

933
00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:54,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, but you know what, I think you have to

934
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 4: give people a chance to respond in a different way.

935
00:45:57,239 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 2: Like a lot of people are.

936
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:01,720
Speaker 4: Ignorant because of how they were raised or the culture

937
00:46:01,760 --> 00:46:04,840
Speaker 4: that they grew up in and sometimes it takes like

938
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:08,279
Speaker 4: knowing someone that you respect or that's you know in

939
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:11,799
Speaker 4: your life on a consistent basis to realize that it's

940
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:15,920
Speaker 4: no different, Like a relationship is a relationship. And I

941
00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:18,680
Speaker 4: almost think, I like your idea tony of it coming

942
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 4: up naturally. But I also think if you do have

943
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:23,719
Speaker 4: like a Christmas party or a party, you bring her

944
00:46:23,800 --> 00:46:25,879
Speaker 4: and you say this is my girlfriend, and and then

945
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 4: that way it's not this just we've.

946
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:31,359
Speaker 2: Talked about this on the podcast before of like if

947
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 2: people have.

948
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:34,799
Speaker 4: Kids and they go into the day being like like

949
00:46:34,880 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 4: a little almost like it's a bad thing that they

950
00:46:37,440 --> 00:46:37,920
Speaker 4: have kids.

951
00:46:37,920 --> 00:46:39,640
Speaker 2: If you make like they.

952
00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:41,640
Speaker 3: Sit there and they're just like I have to tell

953
00:46:41,680 --> 00:46:44,680
Speaker 3: you something, yeah, and you're like expecting them to drop

954
00:46:44,719 --> 00:46:46,320
Speaker 3: some bomb, and then they say they have kids, and

955
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:48,719
Speaker 3: it's like great, I want kids, you know.

956
00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:49,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

957
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:51,799
Speaker 4: But I think it's I think, just like anything in

958
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:54,400
Speaker 4: that regard to you just kind of don't make it

959
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:56,320
Speaker 4: a big deal because when you make it a big deal,

960
00:46:57,160 --> 00:47:00,080
Speaker 4: it becomes a bigger deal than it is. So I

961
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 4: think you casually bring her up and say sometimes people

962
00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:06,840
Speaker 4: might think girlfriend is a friend because sometimes like girlfriends

963
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:07,800
Speaker 4: are like, that's my girlfriend.

964
00:47:07,880 --> 00:47:09,640
Speaker 5: Like, well, that's why I said, like date my girlfriend.

965
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 5: I went on a d Yeah.

966
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:13,840
Speaker 4: But also I think maybe you bring her to something

967
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 4: and introduce her and just say like, this is my girlfriend,

968
00:47:16,120 --> 00:47:20,239
Speaker 4: and and they're not gonna I imagine, and I know

969
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:23,720
Speaker 4: it's different in the South, but I imagine that someone's

970
00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:24,440
Speaker 4: not gonna.

971
00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 2: Be blatantly rude or right to your face in that moment.

972
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:32,400
Speaker 4: I think we I think you have to give people

973
00:47:32,400 --> 00:47:34,840
Speaker 4: a chance to prove your expectations wrong.

974
00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:38,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, and if they do short circuit you and they're that,

975
00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:42,840
Speaker 3: you know that in this stuck in their ways and

976
00:47:42,880 --> 00:47:48,279
Speaker 3: their beliefs, and then we gotta, we gotta, we gotta

977
00:47:48,760 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 3: email us back. We will get community to out that.

978
00:47:56,160 --> 00:47:56,399
Speaker 5: Man.

979
00:47:57,880 --> 00:47:59,600
Speaker 1: She doesn't have to tell the boss. You could just

980
00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:01,600
Speaker 1: mention it to any of the other doctors and nurses.

981
00:48:01,640 --> 00:48:03,920
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, my girlfriend went to that Mexican restaurant last weekend.

982
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:08,640
Speaker 1: And that's going to spread like wildfire throughout the entire wing.

983
00:48:09,160 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 1: I guess, yeah, And I don't think.

984
00:48:11,560 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 3: I don't know how the doctors, the cafeterias, anatomy down

985
00:48:17,160 --> 00:48:18,400
Speaker 3: call room is going to be a buzz.

986
00:48:19,280 --> 00:48:22,160
Speaker 1: But good luck being in a same sex relationship in

987
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:23,680
Speaker 1: the Deep South has got to be a challenge, so

988
00:48:23,719 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 1: good luck.

989
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:29,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, yeah, and I think you feeling confident

990
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 4: that you see forever with her is you know, it

991
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 4: means more than what someone else's opinion means. So you know,

992
00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 4: sorry that it's even something you have to navigate, but

993
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 4: such is our world, and sometimes people can be.

994
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:47,799
Speaker 2: Disappointing, but they also can surprise you.

995
00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:50,840
Speaker 4: So to keep that, you know in the back of

996
00:48:50,920 --> 00:48:53,360
Speaker 4: your head too, but happy for you that you're in

997
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:55,400
Speaker 4: a very happy relationship that you're.

998
00:48:57,480 --> 00:48:58,440
Speaker 1: I mean, good for you.

999
00:49:00,960 --> 00:49:01,280
Speaker 2: Great.

1000
00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:05,799
Speaker 4: Okay, So after that very insightful knowledge of our you know,

1001
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:09,880
Speaker 4: hospital lingo giving advice about the r the wing, the

1002
00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 4: on call room, I'm.

1003
00:49:12,120 --> 00:49:14,439
Speaker 1: Worried that she's gonna get stuck doing appys from now on.

1004
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:25,160
Speaker 3: You know what, Every appy is one step closer to happy.

1005
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:24,520
Speaker 1: Wow.

1006
00:49:25,560 --> 00:49:27,719
Speaker 2: Good I'm proud of you for that one.

1007
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 5: Thank you.

1008
00:49:29,760 --> 00:49:32,040
Speaker 1: All right, I'll just ask you a few questions about

1009
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:34,840
Speaker 1: this season of Gray's Anatomy, sorry, last season of Gray's Anatomy,

1010
00:49:34,920 --> 00:49:36,920
Speaker 1: just to make sure that we all remember what happened,

1011
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:38,479
Speaker 1: because it was a long time ago and the world

1012
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:44,120
Speaker 1: has changed. Uh, Tanya, you go first, Becca, you can steal. Okay,

1013
00:49:44,760 --> 00:49:49,320
Speaker 1: Meredith detects which of these illnesses in her community super

1014
00:49:49,360 --> 00:49:51,319
Speaker 1: her community service supervisor.

1015
00:49:51,440 --> 00:49:56,080
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I forgot she was even incommunien. I

1016
00:49:56,120 --> 00:49:57,319
Speaker 3: see how this is gonna go for me.

1017
00:49:57,440 --> 00:50:03,120
Speaker 1: Okay, do you have an answer?

1018
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:05,000
Speaker 5: Oh, it's not like multiple choice.

1019
00:50:05,080 --> 00:50:06,840
Speaker 1: Well it could be, but I'd rather it not be

1020
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 1: if we can avoid it.

1021
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:11,000
Speaker 5: I feel like I remember this, Say ask me the

1022
00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 5: question again.

1023
00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:13,759
Speaker 1: All right. Remember she was on community services, she had

1024
00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 1: a supervisor, and then she real and the supervisors being

1025
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:20,400
Speaker 1: kind of a jerk to her, and she realized that

1026
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:24,360
Speaker 1: he had a certain affliction just by looking. She's like,

1027
00:50:24,440 --> 00:50:27,240
Speaker 1: I think you have this. And I forget what symptoms

1028
00:50:27,280 --> 00:50:29,080
Speaker 1: she saw, but it was enough to make her concerned.

1029
00:50:31,760 --> 00:50:34,640
Speaker 1: Sure don't Okay, Becca, do you remember?

1030
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:37,680
Speaker 4: God, I feel like I'm getting this confused with another

1031
00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:39,479
Speaker 4: thing where Alex was.

1032
00:50:40,920 --> 00:50:43,680
Speaker 2: Fighting for Zola to be adopted.

1033
00:50:43,800 --> 00:50:46,359
Speaker 4: And now I'm like, because he did the same thing

1034
00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:48,400
Speaker 4: with like the social worker or something.

1035
00:50:49,680 --> 00:50:51,160
Speaker 5: Oh, that's not the answer.

1036
00:50:51,280 --> 00:50:54,960
Speaker 2: No, give me a second. Was it a lump?

1037
00:50:56,640 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 1: All right, I'm gonna give you guys the choice. Okay, Kanya,

1038
00:51:00,560 --> 00:51:03,840
Speaker 1: back to you. Was it the flu? Was it cancer?

1039
00:51:04,680 --> 00:51:09,680
Speaker 1: Was it an aneurysm aneurysm? Becca? Agree or disagree?

1040
00:51:09,960 --> 00:51:11,440
Speaker 2: Disagree? Cancer?

1041
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:17,520
Speaker 1: And the point goes to Becca it was cancer. Yeah,

1042
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:20,680
Speaker 1: one point for Becca. Becca gets this question who is

1043
00:51:20,719 --> 00:51:22,440
Speaker 1: the father of Amelia's baby?

1044
00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:25,520
Speaker 2: Link?

1045
00:51:26,280 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 1: That's right, two points, very good. And now back to you, Tanya.

1046
00:51:30,680 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 1: What that well, you know.

1047
00:51:33,239 --> 00:51:35,800
Speaker 2: It's the same opportunity as the second ex.

1048
00:51:38,440 --> 00:51:40,520
Speaker 1: Uh what is the name of Teddy and Owen's daughter?

1049
00:51:43,120 --> 00:51:46,839
Speaker 5: I'm sorry? Oh yeah, they have a daughter. Wait, they

1050
00:51:46,840 --> 00:51:47,320
Speaker 5: have a daughter.

1051
00:51:50,800 --> 00:51:52,600
Speaker 2: Teddy and Owen have a daughter.

1052
00:51:54,200 --> 00:51:55,880
Speaker 5: Did you know that? Oh?

1053
00:51:56,040 --> 00:52:01,720
Speaker 2: Wait, I think I know. No, I mean, is it Megan?

1054
00:52:03,239 --> 00:52:04,920
Speaker 5: No, that's that's somebody's sister.

1055
00:52:05,080 --> 00:52:07,120
Speaker 1: But I see what you're doing, and you're on the

1056
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:09,600
Speaker 1: right track. Her name is Alice. Her name is Alice,

1057
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:13,040
Speaker 1: which is another named after a woman Teddy knew when

1058
00:52:13,120 --> 00:52:14,600
Speaker 1: she was in New York or something.

1059
00:52:14,719 --> 00:52:17,520
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, wait, weren't they like lovers or something.

1060
00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:20,040
Speaker 1: That they were very good? Yes? They were?

1061
00:52:21,080 --> 00:52:21,440
Speaker 2: Wow?

1062
00:52:21,640 --> 00:52:23,600
Speaker 1: All right, Tony, I'll give you one more chance here.

1063
00:52:24,320 --> 00:52:29,000
Speaker 1: You know, Richard, what do you mean it's not fair? Well,

1064
00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:33,080
Speaker 1: but okay, fine, Richard has that old friend that makes

1065
00:52:33,160 --> 00:52:35,640
Speaker 1: Catherine very jealous. What's her name.

1066
00:52:37,480 --> 00:52:41,040
Speaker 2: That makes Catherine really jealous. Who is that? I'm trying

1067
00:52:41,040 --> 00:52:43,040
Speaker 2: to think of? Who's the actress that plays.

1068
00:52:44,000 --> 00:52:49,360
Speaker 1: It was Jasmine guy from two two seven.

1069
00:52:49,880 --> 00:52:54,239
Speaker 2: I don't know who that is? Her name though? Is

1070
00:52:56,200 --> 00:53:01,000
Speaker 2: her name is? Uh? I think it's Lisa.

1071
00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:05,879
Speaker 1: Okay, it's not Lisa, Tanya for the Steel, I mean

1072
00:53:06,480 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 1: name Kelly. Okay. I'm gonna give you three choices. I

1073
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:14,759
Speaker 1: guess Becca gets the choices first because it's hers. Is

1074
00:53:14,800 --> 00:53:28,040
Speaker 1: her name? Is her name Mia, Maggie or Gemma.

1075
00:53:30,960 --> 00:53:32,240
Speaker 2: Mia?

1076
00:53:32,520 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 5: Tanya, Well, it's not Maggie. That's his daughter, Gemma.

1077
00:53:37,400 --> 00:53:42,880
Speaker 1: Gemma's correct. Wet ourselves a tie? Don't do no? Becker's

1078
00:53:42,960 --> 00:53:50,160
Speaker 1: up to all right, Tanya? Who told Bailey about Meredith's

1079
00:53:50,160 --> 00:53:51,360
Speaker 1: insurance fraud?

1080
00:53:52,719 --> 00:53:54,000
Speaker 5: I actually remember this.

1081
00:53:57,520 --> 00:53:58,399
Speaker 2: You know who it is?

1082
00:53:59,440 --> 00:53:59,759
Speaker 1: You know.

1083
00:54:02,160 --> 00:54:05,480
Speaker 5: Maggie Nope, Amelia, Nope.

1084
00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:10,360
Speaker 2: It was Glasses. I do I need his name's character?

1085
00:54:10,360 --> 00:54:16,000
Speaker 4: I'm like blanking on his No, Jake Burrelli's character Glasses.

1086
00:54:16,960 --> 00:54:18,120
Speaker 1: His name is Levi Schmidt.

1087
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:20,000
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, that you're right, You're right here.

1088
00:54:19,840 --> 00:54:21,520
Speaker 1: There you go. I Becca wins, I mean, and she

1089
00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:22,000
Speaker 1: always does.

1090
00:54:23,320 --> 00:54:25,319
Speaker 2: I'm really paying attention to the detail, you know.

1091
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:27,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, And you know what I was never great in school,

1092
00:54:27,880 --> 00:54:29,200
Speaker 3: So I'm just gonna suck it up to that.

1093
00:54:32,320 --> 00:54:33,759
Speaker 1: Pay attention to a television show.

1094
00:54:33,880 --> 00:54:37,440
Speaker 4: You remember how how I dominated in that Taylor Swift

1095
00:54:37,560 --> 00:54:40,880
Speaker 4: lyric versus Kanya with Selena Gomez lyrics.

1096
00:54:40,880 --> 00:54:42,879
Speaker 3: I'm just not a good test taker. I just feel

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Speaker 3: this this level of anxiety pressure that's just like put

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Speaker 3: on me in the moment. I'm like, I hear the

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Speaker 3: word quiz or test, you know, it's like triggering.

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Speaker 1: All right, well, Becca, you're ready for next week's premiere

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Speaker 1: of Grey's Anatomy Season seventeen.

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Speaker 2: I'm so.

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Speaker 4: I was watching old episodes this morning. It's just can't

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Speaker 4: wait watch. I watched The Holiday with Arizona Robbins in it.

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Speaker 4: I did Arizona like, I can't be.

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Speaker 5: So Arizona, like, what are you doing out of the

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Speaker 5: O R girl? Get back in there?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I just like why, I'm just you know, I

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Speaker 4: wish they'd bring back some of those older characters.

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Speaker 2: See what do you give us an update on their lives?

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Speaker 5: Me too? Like I miss Calie even really like she.

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Speaker 3: I'm having a moment with her right now because I'm

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Speaker 3: watching I think season six. She's just crushing it right now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she gets pretty like badass.

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Speaker 4: Well cool. Well, I hope you all have a great week.

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Speaker 4: Take care of your seriously, take care of yourself this week.

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Speaker 4: There's a lot of anxiety and tension and this week

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Speaker 4: is probably gonna be at an all time high with

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Speaker 4: that the conversations you're having with people, So really take

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Speaker 4: care of yourself. And if you need to unplug and

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Speaker 4: step away from hearing and watching everything that's going on,

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Speaker 4: take that time for yourself. You know, if you want

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Speaker 4: to have someone fill you in on important things going on,

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Speaker 4: ask someone if you're like too stressed to watch out.

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Speaker 4: But just be kind to each other because this is

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Speaker 4: gonna be a week where we see a lot of

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Speaker 4: frustration and people that are very angry and hurt.

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Speaker 3: So or do what you gotta do and do it

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Speaker 3: to get by.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and seriously, like, be nice to each other. There's

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Speaker 4: a lot more going on beyond this election in people's

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Speaker 4: personal lives, so just remember that too, and we will

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Speaker 4: be back as always for next week. Don't forget to

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Speaker 4: get your tickets for the live virtual show. It's gonna

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Speaker 4: be a lot of fun. And until then, audios, we.

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Speaker 3: Love baby, we love you. Can't wait to chitty chat.

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Speaker 3: Can't wait to read the emails about the cups and

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Speaker 3: such this week, so keep them coming.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, our official period guru telling your rad that's right,

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Speaker 4: all right.

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Speaker 2: Bye bye