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Speaker 2: I don't even notice that I'm sitting in traffic robing.

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Speaker 2: I wake up to the show every day.

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Speaker 3: And I literally listen all the time.

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Speaker 2: It uses up all my data. I just love their interaction.

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Speaker 4: They really seem to genuinely just love each other.

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Speaker 5: Love each other.

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Speaker 6: Tell me Saran in the morning show, Well, look.

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Speaker 7: At straight Nate. What are you eating? What are you

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Speaker 7: doing over there?

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Speaker 1: I just finished my yogurt.

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Speaker 7: Oh, we have a special guest. My husband Alex is here.

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Speaker 7: Good morning Alex, Hey, what's up? But he doesn't want

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Speaker 7: to be on camera? How come because I just woke up? Okay,

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Speaker 7: all right, we did too.

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Speaker 2: I like it.

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Speaker 4: It's very like reality show TV Diva. Yeah, like no cameras,

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Speaker 7: Makes no sense anyway. So on the previous show, we

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Speaker 7: amah Are, one of our favorite restaurants, and he told

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Speaker 7: of your testicle. Is that correcrect? Yeah, it was the

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Speaker 7: we brought a meatball out and put a candle in it,

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Speaker 7: and what was the song was saying happy lost ball, Happy.

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Speaker 2: Lost ball to we lost.

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Speaker 7: And it seems kind of like a weird thing to celebrate,

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Speaker 7: but there's a good reason to celebrate this.

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Speaker 8: No, it brings awareness. You know, I'm not ashamed and embarrassed.

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Speaker 8: You know they replaced it, but an artificial one, and

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Speaker 7: We've got questions we got yeah, hold on, hold on,

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Speaker 8: You know, I have so many friends going through cancer

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Speaker 7: All right, And there's no better way than putting a

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Speaker 1: And it was delicious.

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Speaker 7: It was so there you go, any questions for our guests, okay,

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Speaker 7: Gandhi Danielle, Yeah, go ahead.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So when we started talking about the replacement testicle,

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Speaker 4: the stand in whatever it is that youicle Yeahicle scary

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Speaker 4: mentioned something about it being ping pong ball sized. Is

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Speaker 4: That feels like a big ball.

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Speaker 1: Yes, no, that's a big ball.

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Speaker 8: But what they do is, uh, there's a little different

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Speaker 9: If you want to have a really big nut, can

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Speaker 1: Well, I asked for a brass one, but they said

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Speaker 1: No, No, I didn't say it. I was knocked out.

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Speaker 1: The doctor did.

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Speaker 1: No, not me.

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Speaker 7: Oh maybe I chose for you.

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Speaker 4: you didn't like the other ball, original ball, is there

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Speaker 7: I believe it's like overcooked kalamaro. Are you learning a

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Speaker 7: Froggy has a question for you. He stuck around just

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Speaker 10: I'm sure at so with like regular balls, somebody can

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Speaker 7: Okay, so something like no flicky, no flicky, no hurdy. Wow,

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Speaker 7: that's a good question now I know that. Uh straight,

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Speaker 7: Nate has a question. He's been asking it all morning

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Speaker 5: So many Okay, we have time.

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Speaker 1: Is it?

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Speaker 7: No, no, it's attached. One follow up, what is it

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Speaker 7: don't know what, because if not, it would go up

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Speaker 9: Another question?

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Speaker 1: So it is attached. I don't know how they attack

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Speaker 5: That's the follow up question. H Uh you get cold

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Speaker 5: Does it stay hanging and the real one retreats inside

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Speaker 7: I tip over sometimes? Oh god, So wait.

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Speaker 2: A minute, can you roll it around in your hand

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Speaker 1: Yes, I can.

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Speaker 7: He's doing it right now.

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Speaker 1: I'm doing it right now, making sure it's still there.

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Speaker 11: Yes, scary now that you have one instead of two,

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Speaker 1: It is because I think I produced more. Who Yes,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Ever since the operation, that's been crazy.

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Speaker 7: I'm sure there's an explanation behind that, but we don't.

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Speaker 9: What about velocity? Is the velocity the same or.

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Speaker 1: No, actually through your throat.

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Speaker 7: They went down through his throat right, No?

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Speaker 9: Did you help him?

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Speaker 7: Can you imagine?

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Speaker 8: Actually it's blow my belly button to the left side,

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Speaker 7: It was laparoscopic.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, so that's where they went in and removed it

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Speaker 7: You know what?

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Speaker 7: Let's not push it, Scotty B. Of course we knew

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Speaker 12: I go to terminal five.

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Speaker 12: No, because when I go to terminal five at JFK,

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Speaker 7: Yes it is, Why don't you stop going to that

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 4: Did you did you name it?

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Speaker 9: Yes?

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Speaker 7: Text us now, Harry text Harry text fifty one right now,

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Speaker 7: let us know what you want to name Alex's ball,

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Speaker 7: Harry ball, Harry ball.

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Speaker 8: Well, they you know, dissect dissected it, and uh you

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Speaker 7: The cancer.

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Speaker 7: One wants a cancerous ball. Yeah, hanging. Does hair still

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Speaker 1: I don't know. No, the surgery was up in my stomach. Okay,

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Speaker 1: There's really no feeling.

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Speaker 10: You can do you can start like an only fans

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Speaker 10: because people like to watch people like step on their balls.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, you could start hurt.

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Speaker 4: I don't want to page for sure dot com.

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Speaker 9: Let me see if that's available.

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Speaker 1: Punching bag.

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Speaker 7: Punching bag.

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Speaker 5: Ball man is back, bringing it back to serious, the

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Speaker 5: serious side of think. So when you went in, did

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Speaker 5: you know the only one affected was the left one?

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Speaker 5: Was there a chance that they might have had to

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 8: Well they do all the scans beforehand, and you know,

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Speaker 8: they run all the tests.

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Speaker 1: So my left one was the bad one.

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Speaker 8: when I'm in a shower, I feel and make sure

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Speaker 8: that there's no lumps or anything.

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Speaker 1: And it was a lumbery that you felt. Initially.

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Speaker 8: It was really really hard. It was you know, it

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Speaker 7: It felt unusual.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, And I kept on saying, you know, I don't

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Speaker 7: Scary, would you put that salad in the trash?

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Speaker 7: Scary, Okay, Scary. Well, Scary's got this thing. He's got

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Speaker 7: He's back here eating it, and with every bite I

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Speaker 7: You remember of the clean plate club when you were

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Speaker 9: Oh?

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Speaker 4: There are separate compartments.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, but you shouldn't be a reward for being a glutton.

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Speaker 4: I'm exactly like. I never was able to finish everything

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Speaker 4: People gave me too much food. That was a very

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Speaker 7: But another thing I called scary doing eating the salad.

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Speaker 7: He doesn't want to eat, He said, well, I guess

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Speaker 7: So yeah, I know, a sport of eating. But you

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Speaker 11: Well, first of all, I eat because either I'm hungry

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Speaker 7: I used to.

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Speaker 4: My parents used to tell me that kids used to

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Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, I know, but it is scary here. The thing. Look,

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Speaker 7: So you need to maybe ask around, maybe someone here.

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Speaker 7: The problem with eating that salad is you've been like

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Speaker 7: Okay, well we don't do that.

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Speaker 7: Now, let's not feed the rat I think that salad

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Speaker 7: is done. I hate to say it for me because

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Speaker 7: I can't. I can't throw it out.

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Speaker 4: Oh scary, really, I like how annoyed you were getting

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Speaker 4: because every bite he takes he was making a different

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Speaker 2: How are you doing?

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Speaker 7: Did you hear that?

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Speaker 7: And I said, what's that noise you're making? You said,

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Speaker 7: he looks up to the heavens and he goes, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 7: why are you? Why are you eating it. He's like,

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Speaker 7: what did I make a noise? Yeah, you're back there going.

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Speaker 7: That was the last bit of feta.

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Speaker 11: The last bit of feta was there, and now there's

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Speaker 7: It's just greens. Okay, I'm sorry, scary. Hey, why we're

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Speaker 7: only topic of food is Look, I don't know what

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Speaker 7: Just figure it out. I got it. I gotta do

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Speaker 7: a show. I'm not going to turn this whole room

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Speaker 7: we're sitting here talking about your salad for thirty minus again?

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Speaker 7: Thank you, scared. You don't make sound effects throwing away

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Speaker 7: to salad. You heard him do that right? All right,

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Speaker 7: I'm going to throw away the sound.

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Speaker 7: I know, Okay, think this through. What if just out

456
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Speaker 7: of nowhere, Diamond came in and hosted the feud? How

457
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Speaker 7: fun would that be?

458
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Speaker 1: You want her to do it?

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Speaker 7: I think it'd be fun, But no one else is

460
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Speaker 7: agreeing to me, so.

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Speaker 4: I think she too would be terrible.

462
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Speaker 10: Yeah, I don't If we let somebody else do it,

463
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Speaker 10: then we would think Nate's great.

464
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Speaker 2: Oh maybe.

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Speaker 7: That's not nice to say that about our diamonds. She

466
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Speaker 7: maybe what if she is the next superstar in a

467
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Speaker 7: game show hosting, that would be.

468
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Speaker 10: Great saying diamond I'm saying anybody, I just don't think

469
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Speaker 10: Nate's that terrible. I don't think if anybody else tried

470
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Speaker 10: to do it would be miserable. And we go, Yeah,

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Speaker 10: you know what, Nate's pretty damn Goodlet's.

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Speaker 7: Hold on, Frog, You think Nate's not that terrible? And

473
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Speaker 7: they let you program our radio station?

474
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Speaker 5: Makes me the complidence there for rog.

475
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Speaker 9: I didn't say I was doing good at it. He

476
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Speaker 9: just let me do it. I'm not saying I'm good.

477
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Speaker 7: They're gonna rename our station in Jacksonville ninety seven nine

478
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Speaker 7: Cringe FM. All right, well here we go, Dialonde.

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Speaker 1: I think that's a good idea.

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Speaker 4: All right, next time you should play. She actually has

481
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Speaker 4: to be.

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Speaker 7: Could she ever contestant? Ready to go?

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Speaker 1: Well, no, we don't need a contestant.

484
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Speaker 7: We just have it here in the room. Oh wait,

485
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Speaker 7: we are the contestants satisfaction, we are the world.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's right, right, Well let's go.

487
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Speaker 7: Here we go. But she has to play, so name

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Speaker 7: the team. All right, so we have this hold on.

489
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Speaker 7: I insist on being on Diamonds team.

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Speaker 5: No, you screwed me up, I'm sorry, I've already made

491
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Speaker 5: the team I have.

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Speaker 7: Sorry, Sorry, it's gonna happen that way. What's your suggestion?

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Speaker 4: Shouldn't she be able to pick her team? Okay, fine,

494
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Speaker 4: you can't say no, pick your team. Let's go.

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Speaker 17: I'm going to take Gandhi and because he said that

496
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Speaker 17: he wanted to be on my team, let's go without.

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Speaker 18: You.

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Speaker 7: You will regret this, but I love being on your team.

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Speaker 11: Place for the other team, then, Diamond.

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Speaker 7: I'm also going to let you pick the other team

501
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Speaker 7: then as well. Who do you want to compete against.

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Speaker 17: Let's go with Scotty because he's a loser and Danielle

503
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Speaker 17: because she'll make.

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Speaker 2: Him a little bit better. Thank you, And let's go

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Speaker 2: with Froggy Scary. Sit this one out.

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Speaker 7: I gotta I gotta tell you, you know, scary music comes

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Speaker 7: up with the winning answers.

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Speaker 9: Just scary over me, Scary is good?

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Speaker 7: Just over there, up and push the buttons.

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Speaker 5: All right, team Diamond, here we go. Ready, Question number one.

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Speaker 5: We pulled a thousand audience members here in a huge

512
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Speaker 5: illustrated in the morning show studios. The question name something

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Speaker 5: you do in a hotel room but not at home.

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Speaker 7: Yes, oh it's not. It's Diamond.

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Speaker 5: She's leading this team they're doing.

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Speaker 17: Oh sorry, Oh okay, Well, I'm thinking of like parents

517
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Speaker 17: who have young children who can't get it on.

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Speaker 2: So maybe have sex.

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Speaker 5: Have sex you do in a hotel room but not

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Speaker 5: at home?

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Speaker 2: Show me sex?

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Speaker 7: Team Wait, hold on? Was because because the button pusher

523
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Speaker 7: pushed the bell, they did this with his hand.

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Speaker 4: He gave you.

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Speaker 7: Had one job. By the way, that's that's wrong. Everyone

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Speaker 7: has sex in hotel room, but enough with themselves.

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Speaker 9: It's not in our audio.

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Speaker 5: Only if you're drink okay, Deem loser, Scotty be something

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Speaker 5: you do in a hotel room but not at home.

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Speaker 7: Top five answers on the board. I know what I do,

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Speaker 7: but I don't think that would be there.

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Speaker 4: Say it.

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Speaker 12: No, I'm gonna say, take a super long shower, super

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Speaker 12: long shower.

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Speaker 7: Let's get ready this deal. Hold on, hold on, showers

536
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Speaker 7: on there and sex isn't only stupid people.

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Speaker 5: You're talking to your your audience, all right, So Team Loser,

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Speaker 5: you have control of the board. We're going to the

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Speaker 5: second loser Danielle. Danielle names something you do in a

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Speaker 5: hotel room but not at home.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna say, you don't make your bed.

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Speaker 7: Don't make Wow, that's a good answer, good answer, But no,

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Speaker 7: it's not as sorry people. You know what I combine.

544
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Speaker 7: I combine everything. I have sex wild. They're making me

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Speaker 7: up in the bed?

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Speaker 9: Yeah, all right.

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Speaker 5: The third loser, Froggy, name something you do in a

548
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Speaker 5: hotel room but not at home.

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Speaker 9: Shave your pribes.

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Speaker 7: Yes, that's good, gets everywhere.

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Speaker 2: Yes, this is a lot.

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Speaker 7: That's what I was.

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Speaker 9: A lot.

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Speaker 7: This is the biggest number response. And Scottie B was

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Speaker 7: also going to say that. Okay, let me see that.

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Speaker 7: Listen it says shave your your another region number five.

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Speaker 4: Show us where you sourced this, mate, I.

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Speaker 5: Would never reveal my sources. Okay, So back to Scotty B.

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Speaker 5: Name something you do in a hotel room but not

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Speaker 5: at home.

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Speaker 12: I'm thinking, uh, like thermostat. Wise you just don't care

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Speaker 12: about it and leave the air or heat on or whatever.

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Speaker 7: Especially the cheap people like you. Yes, that's all.

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Speaker 5: Number set the thermostat to very hot or very cold.

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Speaker 5: You got two responses left back to you. Danielle name

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Speaker 5: something you do in a hotel room but not at home.

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Speaker 2: I say, you make a mess because at home you're

568
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Speaker 2: need but in the hotel room you don't care. You

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Speaker 2: leave crap everywhere.

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Speaker 7: You know what, I'll give that to you. Food in bed.

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Speaker 4: That's definitely the same.

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Speaker 7: Judge is not the same. I am judged Jerry an executioner.

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Speaker 7: I say, it's your.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you're giving me the answer, and I'm telling you

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Speaker 2: it's not.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, the executioner, you're executing our riting. You got another buzz,

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Speaker 7: Give him another buzzar an answer, you get a buzz.

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Speaker 7: You got one more to you. Froggy name.

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Speaker 8: On.

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Speaker 7: This is stupid.

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Speaker 4: This is one of the worst hosts. Actually, am going

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Speaker 4: back to either.

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Speaker 7: You know I told you people I didn't want it

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Speaker 7: to host the show. You didn't listen to me. We

585
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Speaker 7: did good.

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Speaker 1: The crew is spoken.

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Speaker 5: So Scottie b you have oncese lit names something you

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Speaker 5: do in a hotel room but not at home.

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Speaker 12: I don't think it'll be worded like this, but but

590
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Speaker 12: hold the sheets like naked naked in the bed.

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Speaker 7: No, no, it must be a direct quote, right, naked everywhere.

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Speaker 4: Don't get loosey goosey with this.

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Speaker 7: Okay, so I have a few can we can talk together?

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Speaker 7: Talk either either order room service or watch porn.

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Speaker 4: I was thinking both of those, but I was thinking

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Speaker 4: room service more.

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Speaker 7: Okay, you know what if they can be so loosey

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Speaker 7: goosey with their answers, our answer is, even though I'm

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Speaker 7: not the host, it's it's it's it's you, Diamond. What

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Speaker 7: do you think, Diamond?

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Speaker 17: Oh, I'm clocked out of this one. I knew that

602
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Speaker 17: the first thing was wrong, and I'm still thinking about that.

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Speaker 5: Do you want to hint?

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Speaker 7: I would say, order room service while watching porn?

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Speaker 2: Do you have to?

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Speaker 4: Okay, in hotel rooms do you have to order porn?

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Speaker 4: Or is it just like there?

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Speaker 7: Sometimes it depends on the hotel.

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Speaker 4: As Elvis, you could say, order things you wouldn't order

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Speaker 4: at home. Yes, need an answer, and then Nate's stupid

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Speaker 4: system it has to he has to give it.

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Speaker 9: To us a long time ago.

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Speaker 7: At this point, if if I say order something you

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Speaker 7: wouldn't order a home, that would be porn and room service.

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Speaker 7: That's the answer.

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Speaker 5: Yes, okay, that that's you were wrong five minutes ago,

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Speaker 5: and you're wrong now.

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Speaker 1: Sorry.

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Speaker 5: You want to know what the number one response was

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Speaker 5: wear a robe.

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Speaker 4: I wear robes at home every day.

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Speaker 2: A lot of people Tony's get that fuzzy.

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Speaker 1: You want to continue or do you want to call

624
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Speaker 1: it quits?

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00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:04,760
Speaker 19: The way?

626
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Speaker 2: Did we win?

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Speaker 7: Yes? That was the worst ever. She should.

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Speaker 9: Feel me.

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Speaker 7: Did you see what happened? It was so bad that

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Speaker 7: the leader of our team wouldn't even talk enjoyed it.

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Speaker 7: That's how bad your game.

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Speaker 4: I would like to call something out here. Nate's sitting

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Speaker 4: there talking about one hundred people surveyed. I want to

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Speaker 4: see the survey because I believe this came from the

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Speaker 4: brain of Nates.

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Speaker 2: That nobody's survey.

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Speaker 4: There's no way some of these answers went on there.

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Speaker 4: There's just no way unless they is okay, okay.

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Speaker 2: Okay is the perfect answer, because did you go to

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Speaker 2: the hotel room you don't make your bad and you

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Speaker 2: do you're normally at home. That should have been the

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Speaker 2: number one answerybe.

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Speaker 11: One of the thousand people said that it's your wasn't one.

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Speaker 7: Of the time order room service? You can do that

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Speaker 7: at home. That's the most obvious answer.

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Speaker 4: It doesn't even exist at home.

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Speaker 7: Room you guys can you can keep making fun of me.

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Speaker 7: But the answer is that the team loser.

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Speaker 2: You know, wipe yourself on the curtains should have been

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Speaker 2: there because.

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Speaker 9: The topic.

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Speaker 7: I don't do it. I'm just saying to the curtains because.

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Speaker 2: Other people do it.

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Speaker 7: Okay, sorry, coffee machine, the coffee Yeah, don't.

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Speaker 2: Put your junk in the coffee machine.

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Speaker 7: Those curtains never get cleaned.

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Speaker 2: This is a mess.

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Speaker 7: Are you guys done? We're all We're all done. After that.

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Speaker 2: That was awful.

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Speaker 7: It is It was totally awful.

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Speaker 9: But it was fun though.

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Speaker 1: Make a mess.

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Speaker 5: Yes, half of the fun is making fun of me.

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Speaker 5: I realized that is true.

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Speaker 2: We do enjoy that.

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Speaker 7: Wow, congratulations, you've done very well.

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Speaker 20: Elvis Dan Here he is the Morning Show, Elvis ter

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Speaker 20: Wan in the Morning Show.

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Speaker 7: Mel Robbins, thank you for dropping by. I know you're

670
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Speaker 7: the busiest person in show business. I think you are.

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Speaker 7: I'm not.

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Speaker 15: I'm really I am not the busiest person in show business.

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Speaker 7: Well, welcome to our show. Ranking We're so excited that

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Speaker 7: you're here.

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Speaker 15: Thank you.

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Speaker 7: It's a dream come true to be honest, But I'm

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Speaker 7: not going to butter your biscuit anymore.

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Speaker 15: That sounds very sexual.

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Speaker 7: Your biscuits buttered the number one New York bestseller, They'll

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Speaker 7: let them. Theory is out, and we're talking about a

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Speaker 7: book that people in the publishing industry are saying, well,

682
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Speaker 7: maybe one of the biggest selling books of all time,

683
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Speaker 7: which has got to freak you out just a little bit?

684
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Speaker 7: Or do you believe it? Are they liars?

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Speaker 15: I you know, you know, it's a weird thing to

686
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Speaker 15: talk about. Is like, there is no doubt. This is

687
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Speaker 15: my legacy. This book, this book, this is my legacy.

688
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Speaker 15: It's so I can't believe'nna start crying again.

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Speaker 13: I am so blown away by the impact it's making

690
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:22,440
Speaker 13: and the fact that people are interested in reading a

691
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Speaker 13: book you know that is not helping you escape your life,

692
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Speaker 13: but helping you turn toward your life.

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Speaker 7: Wow, now I'm gonna start crying.

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Speaker 4: Don't you think people need that right now? So desperately?

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Speaker 15: Yes, I feel. You know, there are so many moments

696
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Speaker 15: in your life where you're going to feel impatient and

697
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Speaker 15: where you're going to feel like you're not quite sure

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Speaker 15: where things are going. And I know over the past

699
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Speaker 15: sixteen years in particular, I've certainly felt that way. And

700
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Speaker 15: what has happened with this theory and the way it's

701
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Speaker 15: spread around the world. Is I now can look back

702
00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 15: and go, Oh, all of those reps you were putting in,

703
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 15: all of those days you got yourself out of bed,

704
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:07,960
Speaker 15: all of those days you didn't quit, all of those

705
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:11,719
Speaker 15: times you kept going even though you got fired or

706
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:14,240
Speaker 15: that didn't work out, or you didn't think it was

707
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:17,360
Speaker 15: gonna happen. It's because you were being held for this moment.

708
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Speaker 15: And I really believe that. You know, there are two

709
00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 15: skills that I would love to talk about today that

710
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 15: have made a huge difference in my life that anybody

711
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:28,800
Speaker 15: can learn. Number One, it is a skill in life

712
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 15: to learn how to make yourself do the things you

713
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,760
Speaker 15: don't feel like doing. Like, if you only did the

714
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Speaker 15: things you don't feel like doing, you'd have everything you've

715
00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:40,120
Speaker 15: ever wanted. Motivation is complete garbage. Stop sitting around waiting

716
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:44,000
Speaker 15: for it. It's not coming. Nobody's coming to save you. You

717
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 15: have everything you need inside you. That's not some sort

718
00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 15: of wizard of Oz gobblygoo woo woo crap. The truth

719
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Speaker 15: is you have the ability to push yourself through anxiety,

720
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Speaker 15: through depression, through overwhelm, through fear, through anything that is

721
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Speaker 15: currently holding you back and do the simple things that

722
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Speaker 15: will change your life.

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Speaker 7: And what was the second? Do you remember?

724
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Speaker 1: Yes?

725
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Speaker 15: And the second is teaching yourself how to believe in

726
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Speaker 15: a bigger possibility that things are going to work out

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Speaker 15: for you.

728
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Speaker 7: I just wanted people to hear those two things because I.

729
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Speaker 15: Well, people even just ask me how did you how

730
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Speaker 15: did you become Mel Robbins, And I'm like, how did

731
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 15: you become Mel Robbins by teaching myself how to get

732
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Speaker 15: out of bed on those moments when the anxiety and

733
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Speaker 15: depression was so crushing and I felt like what was

734
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Speaker 15: the point?

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Speaker 7: Right?

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Speaker 2: And there's at one point in the book where you

737
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Speaker 2: go I walked into my friend's house and she had

738
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Speaker 2: just renovated the whole house and you were so jealous. Yes,

739
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:44,680
Speaker 2: and you were so and that's and that's the point

740
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Speaker 2: where I feel you were like, f this, I gotta

741
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Speaker 2: do something.

742
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Speaker 15: Well, you know, there's again life is always teaching you something,

743
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 15: so you know, for for if you're listening and this

744
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Speaker 15: is the first time that you're either watching or hearing

745
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Speaker 15: my voice. My story begins sixteen years ago when we

746
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Speaker 15: were eight hundred thousand dollars in debt and my husband's

747
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:03,800
Speaker 15: restaurant business was going under, and I was unemployed at

748
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Speaker 15: the time, and we had three kids ten and under,

749
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Speaker 15: and that was not the vision for my life. And

750
00:33:09,040 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 15: what you will find is that it's easy to give

751
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 15: other people advice, but when you know what hits the

752
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 15: fan in your own life, you get paralyzed with the

753
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 15: fear that you're not going to figure it out. And

754
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 15: that was me. And instead of doing what I knew

755
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:22,520
Speaker 15: I needed to do, which was get a job, stop

756
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 15: screaming at Chris, get out of bed, get the kids

757
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 15: on the bus, ask for help, I did the opposite.

758
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:29,960
Speaker 15: I drank myself into the ground and I would lay

759
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Speaker 15: in bed like a human pot rose, staring at the ceiling.

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Speaker 7: Oh this sounds good.

761
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

762
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Speaker 15: I wouldn't open the bills. They just kept piling up

763
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Speaker 15: on the counter. And it gets worse and worse, and

764
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Speaker 15: then you start to convince yourself there's nothing you can do,

765
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Speaker 15: and that's a lie. There is always something you can

766
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Speaker 15: do to improve even the worst of situations, through your attitude,

767
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:52,480
Speaker 15: through your actions, and through the way you process your emotions.

768
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Speaker 15: And this is not a new idea, by the way,

769
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Speaker 15: This is Victor Frankel's man search for eating. This is

770
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Speaker 15: what's true about the human experience. And so I became

771
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Speaker 15: the success that you see today due to sixteen years

772
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Speaker 15: of boring, grueling reps that I would put in every

773
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Speaker 15: day that began with just get your butt out of

774
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Speaker 15: bed on the mornings. You don't feel like it.

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Speaker 7: Wow, you know, very simple, the five four three two

776
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:23,320
Speaker 7: one theory of the the countdown. There's always something we're

777
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 7: procrastinating about. I don't want to go out of bed.

778
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Speaker 7: I don't want to do this. You got to be

779
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:31,759
Speaker 7: that rocket at Cape Canaveral that's about to take off,

780
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 7: and once the countdown is done, down one and then

781
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 7: blast off, you have no choice but to go to

782
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Speaker 7: outer space. And it actually works. I've actually applied this

783
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Speaker 7: to my life and it works. When I first read that,

784
00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:43,880
Speaker 7: I'm like, this is what this is stupid? Yes, I agree,

785
00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:47,680
Speaker 7: Number one, belt over this crap. Yes, it works, it works.

786
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:49,760
Speaker 7: Tell everyone what fivesecond grul.

787
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Speaker 15: Is super simple. It's a It's a hack you can

788
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 15: use for instant courage or motivation any moment where you

789
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 15: have this instinct that you should do something, whether it's

790
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Speaker 15: speaking up at work, or it's getting out of bed

791
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 15: or putting the phone down. And actually stepping outside for

792
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Speaker 15: a walk, whatever it may be. Just start counting five

793
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Speaker 15: four three two one. You got to count backwards. Does

794
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 15: not work if you count up, because you've been taught

795
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Speaker 15: to count up your entire life, so it's already recorded

796
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 15: in your subconscious. The trick works because if you count

797
00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 15: backwards five four three two one, it requires a moment

798
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:21,200
Speaker 15: where you have to focus on the counting, and that

799
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Speaker 15: pulls the front part of your brain, the prefrontal cortex online.

800
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Speaker 15: So now you've just activated the part of the brain

801
00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:32,880
Speaker 15: that you need to change behavior or to actually push

802
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 15: yourself to do something. You're now in control for a moment.

803
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:37,439
Speaker 15: And the other reason why it works is because it's

804
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 15: like the first domino. Counting is an action, and if

805
00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:43,279
Speaker 15: you've actually decided to count five four three two one,

806
00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:46,279
Speaker 15: you've already decided to do it, So you're going to

807
00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 15: do it the first domino. Yeah, and then you move

808
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 15: five four three to one. Move.

809
00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 14: Now.

810
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 15: I didn't know any of this when I invented it.

811
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:54,280
Speaker 15: I invented it after having four bourbon Manhattans and seeing

812
00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:58,160
Speaker 15: a rocket ship launch across a television screen right and thinking,

813
00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 15: oh my god, Okay, that is a sign from God

814
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:02,480
Speaker 15: tomorrow morning, I'm gonna watch.

815
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 7: I have no problem with that.

816
00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 15: You know, I always say that, you know, my expertise

817
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:12,600
Speaker 15: comes from being life tested, Like when you're in that hole,

818
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:15,840
Speaker 15: there's a lot of things that you learn about life.

819
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Speaker 2: But that's the best part about the book is that

820
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 2: you're so honest about that, where you're not just like

821
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 2: shoving this information down people's throats. You're saying, Okay, here's

822
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 2: an example, this is what happened to me.

823
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 15: Yeah, totally, Like I am the villain in my own

824
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 15: book for sure, like the person the fun that you know,

825
00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:32,759
Speaker 15: as you read the let them theory, or like you

826
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:34,720
Speaker 15: hear the stories from it, you're like, oh my gosh,

827
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:39,760
Speaker 15: old Mel was pretty awful, jealous friend, immature, constantly taking

828
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 15: her emotions out on her family. You know, Wow, this

829
00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 15: either reminds me of me or it reminds me of

830
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:48,719
Speaker 15: somebody in my life that I wish would change. And

831
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Speaker 15: so I also think the success of this is is

832
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:54,799
Speaker 15: because let them and Let Me is so simple and

833
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:56,680
Speaker 15: it's a tool. You don't have to think about it,

834
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:58,759
Speaker 15: you just use it and it works. And also this

835
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:01,440
Speaker 15: is a book that is large about stories, but the

836
00:37:01,480 --> 00:37:03,800
Speaker 15: stories are what translate the research.

837
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Speaker 7: But I'm sure from time to time you still throw

838
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:08,920
Speaker 7: sharp objects if you're crazy. Okay, just making sure I

839
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 7: need to know that God.

840
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Speaker 4: Yes, So from all the things that you're saying, it's

841
00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:15,600
Speaker 4: not about the end. It's more about the beginning and

842
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:18,200
Speaker 4: getting started. Yes, how can you I know you're saying

843
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 4: get out of bed. But for people who are just

844
00:37:20,200 --> 00:37:22,640
Speaker 4: super sad and they're having a tough time that day,

845
00:37:22,760 --> 00:37:25,200
Speaker 4: aside from get out of bed, what do you tell them?

846
00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:28,920
Speaker 15: Well, if you're having a tough day, the first thing

847
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:31,960
Speaker 15: I want you to understand is that in order to

848
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:34,920
Speaker 15: have good days, you gotta have bad days and reminding

849
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 15: yourself that this is temporary and that another wave is

850
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:40,880
Speaker 15: going to come and you have the ability to just

851
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:44,239
Speaker 15: ride this wave. You don't have to gaslight yourself into positivity.

852
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:46,400
Speaker 15: You can just allow yourself to be sad. One of

853
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 15: the things that is very helpful for me is to

854
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:51,920
Speaker 15: say things like I'm sad because I'm going to allow

855
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 15: myself to be a little down today because and the

856
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 15: because is important because then sadness doesn't become your identity.

857
00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:01,480
Speaker 15: You've identified the thing that makes you sad, and there

858
00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:04,279
Speaker 15: are going to be times where being sad or heartbroken

859
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 15: or down is a mentally healthy response to the things

860
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:10,279
Speaker 15: that are going on in life. And you know, the

861
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Speaker 15: other thing that I would tell you is, I do

862
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:14,240
Speaker 15: think they'll let Them theory will help a lot, because

863
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 15: if you find that you're at a point in your

864
00:38:17,080 --> 00:38:21,720
Speaker 15: life where you're overwhelmed, you're struggling, you're worried, you're sad,

865
00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:24,759
Speaker 15: you're tired, or you just are working very hard and

866
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:29,520
Speaker 15: nothing's clicking. The problem isn't you. The problem is that you,

867
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 15: unknowingly are giving so much of your power to other people,

868
00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:37,360
Speaker 15: to what they think, to their expectations, to their moods,

869
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:40,840
Speaker 15: to the drama that's going on, to their beliefs. And

870
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 15: when you give power to other people, you have none

871
00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:47,160
Speaker 15: left for yourself. That's why you're tired. And so this

872
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:50,640
Speaker 15: book and the Let Them theory is actually about power

873
00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 15: and control. What can you can control, what can you

874
00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:57,759
Speaker 15: not control? Where is power and where are you giving

875
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Speaker 15: it away?

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Speaker 7: Well, the let Them there is actually a theory. There's

877
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:04,319
Speaker 7: actually some sort of easy to figure out outline to that.

878
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:05,879
Speaker 7: I want to get into that in a second. We'll

879
00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:06,399
Speaker 7: be right back.

880
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Speaker 14: Want to hear something slightly more unhinged in the Morning.

881
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 20: Showl, Mister Rand's After Party, a podcast we record daily

882
00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 20: when the morning show is finished.

883
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Speaker 14: He is literally a pastry Mister Rands After Party.

884
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 20: Listen on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your

885
00:39:27,040 --> 00:39:29,600
Speaker 20: podcasts in.

886
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Speaker 14: The morning show.

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Speaker 7: What well, mister ran in the Morning Show and we're

888
00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:38,040
Speaker 7: back more with Mel Robbins. So with you and your

889
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:41,000
Speaker 7: daughter together wrote the let Them theory. They knew they

890
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Speaker 7: had a hit already, they knew the scene was.

891
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Speaker 1: Going to be bad.

892
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Speaker 15: Well, I'll tell you why, because it was excruciating to

893
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Speaker 15: write this together. So she does this research project where

894
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:52,279
Speaker 15: I wanted her to go and look at all the

895
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 15: comments online from the podcast and from some of the

896
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Speaker 15: social media posts that we had put up, look at

897
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Speaker 15: articles that were starting to get written about Let Them.

898
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 15: And she came back and was like, you can't write

899
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:05,319
Speaker 15: this book. And I was like why, and she said, well,

900
00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 15: everybody loves it, except for there's like this slice of

901
00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 15: people they're saying let them feels good if it's making

902
00:40:11,080 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 15: them lonely, And then you're kind of left sitting with, now, what,

903
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:16,719
Speaker 15: My brothers and sisters don't reach out unless I do

904
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:18,920
Speaker 15: my friends aren't checking in on me unless I check

905
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:21,000
Speaker 15: out what now what? And she says, you can't put

906
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:23,560
Speaker 15: a book out that makes people lonely and kind of arrogant.

907
00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:25,279
Speaker 15: And she said there has to be a second part.

908
00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:28,840
Speaker 15: And that was the genesis for let me right, because

909
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:32,960
Speaker 15: you have to let them is when you stop worrying

910
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:35,480
Speaker 15: about other people's opinions and feelings and moods and making

911
00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 15: it your responsibility to make everybody else happy. And then

912
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 15: you got to go, okay, but now what let me

913
00:40:41,960 --> 00:40:44,680
Speaker 15: remind myself that my power is actually in how I

914
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:46,799
Speaker 15: think about things and what I do or don't do,

915
00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:50,160
Speaker 15: and how I process my emotions. And so she is

916
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:51,920
Speaker 15: the reason why they let me part start. And then

917
00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:53,480
Speaker 15: I was like, well then we got to write this together.

918
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:57,080
Speaker 15: So now we have two totally different working styles. Like

919
00:40:57,120 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 15: my brain is like take a bunch of mice in

920
00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 15: a cardboard box and tip it over in a kitchen,

921
00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:03,880
Speaker 15: and she's a walking Excel spread sheet. Plus her mother daughter.

922
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:04,759
Speaker 7: We were like.

923
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:07,959
Speaker 15: I would come and be like, I want to write

924
00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:10,239
Speaker 15: this story about my friends and being a jealous, you know, jerk,

925
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:12,200
Speaker 15: and she's like, what my age cares about that story?

926
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:13,919
Speaker 15: And then we fight about it, and then we get mad,

927
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 15: and then and then we both be like let her,

928
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:17,399
Speaker 15: and then she would leave and go to a different room,

929
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:19,840
Speaker 15: and then I would leave as we'd get frustrated. And

930
00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 15: so we actually sorted through every aspect of the book

931
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:25,839
Speaker 15: and we argued over everything because she wanted to make

932
00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:28,880
Speaker 15: it relevant to twenty somethings. I wanted to make it relevant,

933
00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 15: you know, to kind of like a little bit older demographic.

934
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 15: And the result was we argued over every word. And

935
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:36,960
Speaker 15: in fact, another incredible story is that when we wrote

936
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 15: the love section, we're getting near the end of the book.

937
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 15: There's eight sections. Her boyfriend of two years, the one

938
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:44,480
Speaker 15: she thought that was going to be the end of

939
00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:49,360
Speaker 15: the aisle. Dumb sir. She's like, I hate this theory.

940
00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 4: What am I supposed to do?

941
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:52,560
Speaker 2: Just let him leave, let him sleep with somebody else?

942
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 19: What?

943
00:41:53,960 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 15: And so we wrote the breakup guide and using the

944
00:41:59,239 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 15: let them theory as she was going through it in

945
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:06,400
Speaker 15: real time. And I got to say it was incredible

946
00:42:06,440 --> 00:42:10,319
Speaker 15: because she had to use let them to manage her

947
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:13,400
Speaker 15: emotions and the let me part, and I had to

948
00:42:13,520 --> 00:42:16,719
Speaker 15: use let them and let her to give her the

949
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 15: dignity of her own experience without wanting to solve it,

950
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:23,160
Speaker 15: Like I wanted to text the other mom constantly. I

951
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:25,560
Speaker 15: wanted to reach out to him like you know when

952
00:42:25,600 --> 00:42:28,280
Speaker 15: she's when she's like you know. One of the pieces

953
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 15: of advice is nobody actually goes through the detox and

954
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:33,800
Speaker 15: a breakup. This is why you don't get over people.

955
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:38,839
Speaker 15: When you break off a relationship. What you don't realize

956
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 15: is that you are neurologically and in your nervous system

957
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:46,319
Speaker 15: hardwired to be connected to this person. So for the

958
00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:48,840
Speaker 15: first couple of weeks, when you think you hear them talking,

959
00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:51,680
Speaker 15: that's not because they miss you. That's not because you

960
00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:54,759
Speaker 15: should get back together. That's because your brain has patterns

961
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 15: that have been encoded that it's just repeating. And if

962
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 15: you've never gone thirty days without looking at a photo

963
00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:05,920
Speaker 15: or listening to a voice memo, or watching their social

964
00:43:05,920 --> 00:43:10,440
Speaker 15: media profile, then you've never fully actually given your nervous

965
00:43:10,440 --> 00:43:14,759
Speaker 15: system in your brain a chance to get over them.

966
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:16,839
Speaker 15: Every time you listen to a voice memo, every time

967
00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 15: you look at a photo, you reactivate that circuitry. It's

968
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 15: just like an alcoholic who has a drink, and so

969
00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:25,920
Speaker 15: you have to do this thirty day thing where you

970
00:43:25,920 --> 00:43:28,320
Speaker 15: don't look at anything, put their stuff in a box.

971
00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:30,960
Speaker 15: I had to go through the digital frame in the kitchen.

972
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:34,880
Speaker 15: Pause pause because I'm not I don't want to delete,

973
00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 15: because I'm holding out hope, right pause, pause pause, you know,

974
00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 15: because but I have to let her have this experience.

975
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 15: And what's interesting is when you have somebody in your

976
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:48,000
Speaker 15: life who's going through something it's so uncomfortable that you

977
00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:51,520
Speaker 15: want to save them from it, if you can learn

978
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:55,160
Speaker 15: to give them a little space while you're standing on

979
00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:58,040
Speaker 15: the sidelines in support, like how would you like me

980
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:01,440
Speaker 15: to show up? What's interesting thing is you actually signal

981
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 15: to somebody I believe in your capacity to change. I

982
00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 15: believe in your capacity to move through this. And as

983
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:13,240
Speaker 15: a mom, it's been incredible to recognize that my innate

984
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:16,440
Speaker 15: desire to want my husband to change doesn't make him change.

985
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:20,840
Speaker 15: It also creates distance between us, learning how to let

986
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:24,520
Speaker 15: him be who he is and forcing myself to accept

987
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:27,440
Speaker 15: and love him as he is. Like, that's a whole

988
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:30,920
Speaker 15: different way to be with somebody. They always I heard

989
00:44:30,920 --> 00:44:33,919
Speaker 15: somebody say once that second marriages are amazing, especially when

990
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:35,000
Speaker 15: it's with the same person.

991
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 1: Wow.

992
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:39,279
Speaker 15: And when you change how you show up, you change

993
00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:43,239
Speaker 15: the relationship. But we've always put the pressure on other

994
00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:46,200
Speaker 15: people to change when actually you've got the power based

995
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:50,280
Speaker 15: on your energy and your attitude towards somebody, and creating

996
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:52,719
Speaker 15: space for somebody to be themselves is actually the best

997
00:44:52,760 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 15: way to love them.

998
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 4: When you were writing this, did you have any idea

999
00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 4: how many people were going to tattoo let them on

1000
00:44:57,360 --> 00:44:59,320
Speaker 4: their bodies? Because it's all I see everywhere.

1001
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:01,960
Speaker 15: Well, it's currently because we you know, we went through

1002
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:05,520
Speaker 15: the process of contacting every tattoo studio that you see

1003
00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 15: in here and getting rights for it, really, and every

1004
00:45:08,200 --> 00:45:09,440
Speaker 15: one of them are like I ought to tell you,

1005
00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:12,759
Speaker 15: this is the number one tattoo that is everywhere. Well

1006
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:15,719
Speaker 15: because seeing it and I love seeing now the let

1007
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:19,399
Speaker 15: me tattoos, because let them. When you say it, it's

1008
00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:23,759
Speaker 15: instant peace, because you're reminding yourself this drama or this

1009
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:27,960
Speaker 15: situation does not deserve to be stressing me out. My

1010
00:45:28,080 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 15: time and energy is worth protecting. So when you say

1011
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:33,400
Speaker 15: let them, it's a boundary. So a big mistake that

1012
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:35,840
Speaker 15: people like have about this is that, well, aren't you

1013
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:37,600
Speaker 15: just letting them treat you like garbage? I'm like, no,

1014
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 15: they already are you're explaining it away. When you say

1015
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 15: let them, you're erecting a boundary between yourself and the

1016
00:45:44,160 --> 00:45:47,400
Speaker 15: other person, and you're saying yourself, Okay, let them be

1017
00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 15: who they are, let them do what they're doing, because

1018
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:50,920
Speaker 15: their behavior is giving me data.

1019
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:51,400
Speaker 7: There you go.

1020
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 15: Now I get to choose.

1021
00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:54,640
Speaker 7: See, that's the thing. When I first saw the book

1022
00:45:54,719 --> 00:45:57,480
Speaker 7: and the title, I automatically go to, well, let them.

1023
00:45:57,760 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 7: Let me just make an assumption what this is about.

1024
00:46:00,520 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 7: Let them Okay, someone said something just really disrespectful to me, whatever, Okay,

1025
00:46:04,719 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 7: let them because what they're saying doesn't matter. Well, I

1026
00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:11,279
Speaker 7: don't get I'm not giving them the power. That's the

1027
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:15,239
Speaker 7: point to mess with my power. So that was my that.

1028
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 15: But here's the other thing. One of the things that

1029
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 15: you'll recognize when you start saying this let them and

1030
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:23,600
Speaker 15: let me is that the one thing in life you

1031
00:46:23,600 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 15: have no control over is what another human being thinks, says, believes,

1032
00:46:27,680 --> 00:46:32,279
Speaker 15: does no control. And so it is the biggest form

1033
00:46:32,320 --> 00:46:36,279
Speaker 15: of gaslighting to yourself to think that there is absolutely

1034
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 15: something you could do that would guarantee that somebody has

1035
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:41,040
Speaker 15: a thought. And I'll give you an example. We've all

1036
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:43,360
Speaker 15: had the experience where you've bent over backwards. You go

1037
00:46:43,400 --> 00:46:45,200
Speaker 15: to some party you don't want to go to. You

1038
00:46:45,239 --> 00:46:46,719
Speaker 15: do it because you don't want people to be mad

1039
00:46:46,760 --> 00:46:49,120
Speaker 15: at you, or you feel guilty, and then you get

1040
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:51,240
Speaker 15: to the party and the host is kind of annoyed

1041
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 15: because you're not as fun as you normally are. And

1042
00:46:53,120 --> 00:46:55,399
Speaker 15: so even though you bent over backwards and you did

1043
00:46:55,440 --> 00:46:57,400
Speaker 15: this thing hoping that somebody would feel a certain way

1044
00:46:57,400 --> 00:47:00,040
Speaker 15: about you, it didn't work. There's a better way to

1045
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:03,120
Speaker 15: live your life, which is let people feel what they're

1046
00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:04,880
Speaker 15: going to feel, think what they're going to think, follow

1047
00:47:04,920 --> 00:47:07,520
Speaker 15: you or unfollow you, misunderstated, Just let them because they're

1048
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:09,439
Speaker 15: going to anyway, So why would you waste any time

1049
00:47:09,440 --> 00:47:09,880
Speaker 15: on it.

1050
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 7: That's it.

1051
00:47:10,200 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 4: I can't listen.

1052
00:47:11,120 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 2: Because I feel like I'm listening to you on audible

1053
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:14,839
Speaker 2: because that's how I read the book. And I know

1054
00:47:14,880 --> 00:47:16,880
Speaker 2: you do side bars all the time, and like, I

1055
00:47:16,920 --> 00:47:19,480
Speaker 2: know it's different because you very different things, but I

1056
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:21,440
Speaker 2: feel like you know that she's with me.

1057
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:23,799
Speaker 7: In the car right now, right, and I feel like

1058
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:24,399
Speaker 7: that's my friend.

1059
00:47:26,480 --> 00:47:27,359
Speaker 2: It's great, your friend.

1060
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:30,319
Speaker 7: Yeah, Mel Robbins. Of course, the let them theory. It's

1061
00:47:30,360 --> 00:47:32,320
Speaker 7: out and I expect everyone listening to the sound of

1062
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 7: my voice to buy fourteen copies because they're really decorative,

1063
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:37,279
Speaker 7: these books. Yes, I mean they designed this cover to

1064
00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:38,040
Speaker 7: show up on a beach.

1065
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:40,400
Speaker 15: Actually, I love that you said that because the color

1066
00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:42,920
Speaker 15: of it. We were told green books don't sell and

1067
00:47:43,000 --> 00:47:44,640
Speaker 15: it's bad luck to do a green book. And it

1068
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:46,879
Speaker 15: was inspired by cord of Thorne and Rose's book two.

1069
00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:49,440
Speaker 15: I'm a big fantasy reader, and so my daughter and

1070
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:50,880
Speaker 15: I were like, oh, we love the cover of book too,

1071
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 15: Let's do green and yellow. And then we did it.

1072
00:47:53,719 --> 00:47:56,520
Speaker 15: And as we were designing it, I said to my daughter,

1073
00:47:56,800 --> 00:47:59,359
Speaker 15: this cover has to if you're walking down the beach,

1074
00:47:59,400 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 15: you have to be to go, oh, there's that book.

1075
00:48:01,640 --> 00:48:04,520
Speaker 7: It's everywhere, Yes, and in the airport.

1076
00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 4: Everywhere, well, everywhere I see it.

1077
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:07,200
Speaker 7: I have to say that, you know, Jay Shatty's a

1078
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:10,120
Speaker 7: good friend of ours. Jefferson Fisher. I've fallen in love

1079
00:48:10,160 --> 00:48:12,719
Speaker 7: with this guy. If you've ever seen him, he's usually

1080
00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:16,280
Speaker 7: in his car telling you, like how to cut people

1081
00:48:16,280 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 7: off and they're trying to f with your head. He's great.

1082
00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:20,719
Speaker 7: And I saw the podcast for the two of you. Yeah,

1083
00:48:20,960 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 7: are there other people like that emerging that could be

1084
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 7: the next best seller that we should be following. I

1085
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 7: love I love to collect these incredible forces on my.

1086
00:48:30,800 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 15: Instagram Jefferson Fisher fantastic human being. I also love doctor Julie.

1087
00:48:37,040 --> 00:48:38,799
Speaker 15: Do you know doctor Julie is in the UK who's

1088
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:40,880
Speaker 15: that well. I love her because she's a psychiatrist or

1089
00:48:40,920 --> 00:48:46,799
Speaker 15: psychologist that uses all these models to explain different principles.

1090
00:48:46,800 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 15: So she'll like take out kids toys and show you

1091
00:48:49,640 --> 00:48:52,440
Speaker 15: these intellectual concepts. And she's a mom of three kids.

1092
00:48:52,480 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 15: And when she flew over to be on the podcast,

1093
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:57,000
Speaker 15: she brought her three kids and it was just really

1094
00:48:57,040 --> 00:48:59,240
Speaker 15: fun and we did all these things with physical models.

1095
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:01,279
Speaker 15: So I really like her to that. But there's a

1096
00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:03,719
Speaker 15: lot of it, like look, I here's my philosophy in

1097
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:08,440
Speaker 15: life is you can learn from anybody because on the

1098
00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:10,719
Speaker 15: road of life, you know, you might be ahead of

1099
00:49:10,760 --> 00:49:12,799
Speaker 15: me by three steps because you've gone through something that

1100
00:49:12,840 --> 00:49:14,719
Speaker 15: I haven't, so you can help me. I might be

1101
00:49:14,760 --> 00:49:16,919
Speaker 15: ahead of you at another time because I've gone through

1102
00:49:16,960 --> 00:49:19,120
Speaker 15: something with you know, my son, and now I can

1103
00:49:19,160 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 15: help you. You are best equipped to help the person

1104
00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:23,640
Speaker 15: you used to be. And I don't think that you

1105
00:49:23,719 --> 00:49:26,560
Speaker 15: need some fancy credentials or a new York Times bestselling

1106
00:49:26,600 --> 00:49:29,120
Speaker 15: book to make a difference in another person's life. I

1107
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:32,799
Speaker 15: think we all have important stories to share, lessons that

1108
00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:35,359
Speaker 15: we can teach other people, things that we can learn

1109
00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:38,320
Speaker 15: from our lives. And if you look at everybody around

1110
00:49:38,360 --> 00:49:42,439
Speaker 15: you with the potential that you could learn something from them,

1111
00:49:42,520 --> 00:49:46,560
Speaker 15: it changes everybody's ability to lift each other up. And

1112
00:49:46,640 --> 00:49:49,759
Speaker 15: that's a really cool thing. And so you can be

1113
00:49:50,040 --> 00:49:53,120
Speaker 15: the next Jefferson Fisher. You could be the next person

1114
00:49:53,600 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 15: that does something online that really reaches somebody halfway across

1115
00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:00,279
Speaker 15: the world that really needed to hear it. There's eight

1116
00:50:00,320 --> 00:50:03,000
Speaker 15: billion people on this planet, and so there's something about

1117
00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 15: the way that you're going to say something that is

1118
00:50:06,000 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 15: going to reach somebody in a way that I can't

1119
00:50:08,280 --> 00:50:10,440
Speaker 15: because my life experience is different than yours.

1120
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:12,279
Speaker 7: I'm over halfway through the book, and now I want

1121
00:50:12,320 --> 00:50:14,719
Speaker 7: to reach read by listening to the audible version. I

1122
00:50:14,760 --> 00:50:16,840
Speaker 7: know I'm over halfway through the book. Because you're getting

1123
00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:19,600
Speaker 7: into friendships and how important they are. Our friend Barbara

1124
00:50:19,640 --> 00:50:22,359
Speaker 7: Corkman was here the other day, said, Barbara still one

1125
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:24,719
Speaker 7: of my best friends. Barbara, you're at checks. I look

1126
00:50:24,800 --> 00:50:27,239
Speaker 7: at her, She's sitting in this She's sitting in this chair.

1127
00:50:27,239 --> 00:50:29,239
Speaker 7: I said, Barbara, you're almost one hundred and five years old.

1128
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:32,319
Speaker 7: What is it in life that you're loving the most?

1129
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:34,719
Speaker 7: And she said, surrounding myself with the people I love

1130
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:37,719
Speaker 7: friends and talk about that because I think this is

1131
00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 7: such an important, powerful thing people need to pay more

1132
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:44,440
Speaker 7: attention to, and that's the people they surround themselves with.

1133
00:50:45,000 --> 00:50:48,319
Speaker 15: Absolutely well, it's easy to forget that this all ends

1134
00:50:48,320 --> 00:50:50,880
Speaker 15: the same way for all of us. And at the

1135
00:50:50,960 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 15: end of your life, you're not going to be in

1136
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:55,880
Speaker 15: a hearse that's pulling a U haul full of crap

1137
00:50:56,560 --> 00:50:59,320
Speaker 15: and people aren't going to care much about your acknowledgments.

1138
00:51:00,040 --> 00:51:02,640
Speaker 15: If you do it right, you actually reflect on your

1139
00:51:02,680 --> 00:51:05,319
Speaker 15: life and you say to yourself, I am proud of

1140
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:08,160
Speaker 15: the way that I used my time and energy, that

1141
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:09,840
Speaker 15: I was a good boss, I was a good parent,

1142
00:51:09,880 --> 00:51:12,799
Speaker 15: I was a good friend. And if you do it right,

1143
00:51:12,920 --> 00:51:15,719
Speaker 15: you're surrounded by people that you care about who love you,

1144
00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:19,440
Speaker 15: and it's easy to get caught up. I know I

1145
00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:22,600
Speaker 15: certainly have in the day to day or in chasing

1146
00:51:22,640 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 15: the next thing, that you forget that it's really about

1147
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 15: the people. And one thing that has helped me a

1148
00:51:28,960 --> 00:51:32,640
Speaker 15: lot with the let them. Theory is really understanding the

1149
00:51:32,719 --> 00:51:36,359
Speaker 15: nature of friendship. And in order to create friendships, three

1150
00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:41,560
Speaker 15: things have to be present. Proximity, timing, and energy. That's it,

1151
00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:44,640
Speaker 15: and these factors have been proven by research. In order

1152
00:51:44,680 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 15: to be a casual friend with somebody, you got to

1153
00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:49,040
Speaker 15: spend about seventy hours. To be a good friend, you

1154
00:51:49,080 --> 00:51:51,640
Speaker 15: got to spend two hundred. And when we were little,

1155
00:51:51,640 --> 00:51:54,360
Speaker 15: from zero to twenty, we were around people our same age,

1156
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 15: going through life at the exact same time, celebrating the

1157
00:51:56,600 --> 00:52:00,239
Speaker 15: same milestones, the same vacations, the same everything. Who We're

1158
00:52:00,280 --> 00:52:02,600
Speaker 15: in proximity with so many people your age. You're in

1159
00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:05,360
Speaker 15: the same timing of life, and schools set up the

1160
00:52:05,400 --> 00:52:08,920
Speaker 15: structure for it, and you could understand, Okay, do I

1161
00:52:08,920 --> 00:52:10,759
Speaker 15: click do I not click with these people? Then you

1162
00:52:10,840 --> 00:52:14,000
Speaker 15: hit your twenties and what I call the great scattering happens.

1163
00:52:14,080 --> 00:52:17,120
Speaker 15: Everybody suddenly is going in different directions. But you don't

1164
00:52:17,160 --> 00:52:21,440
Speaker 15: realize that it's always about these three things proximity, timing,

1165
00:52:21,480 --> 00:52:24,000
Speaker 15: and energy. And so it begs the question, why aren't

1166
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:26,040
Speaker 15: you just best best best friends with everybody at work?

1167
00:52:26,040 --> 00:52:28,120
Speaker 15: Because from the age of twenty to sixty, you'll spend

1168
00:52:28,160 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 15: more time at work with people than you will friends

1169
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:34,839
Speaker 15: and family combined. Well, the reason why is timing. So

1170
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:37,919
Speaker 15: if you're in your twenties at work and you work

1171
00:52:37,920 --> 00:52:39,719
Speaker 15: with people that are in their fifties, you may love

1172
00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:41,760
Speaker 15: these people and have great energy, but you're in different

1173
00:52:42,000 --> 00:52:44,759
Speaker 15: time of life. You know, my daughter's out partying and

1174
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:46,680
Speaker 15: throwing up in a garbage can, and she comes in

1175
00:52:46,719 --> 00:52:49,960
Speaker 15: on a Monday. You know she's not really gonna click

1176
00:52:50,000 --> 00:52:51,880
Speaker 15: with people talking about what they did at the soccer

1177
00:52:51,920 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 15: field with their kids on the weekend. And that's why

1178
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:56,680
Speaker 15: you can love people at work, but they're just not

1179
00:52:57,160 --> 00:52:59,799
Speaker 15: the best of friends. And this is also why I

1180
00:52:59,800 --> 00:53:02,480
Speaker 15: hate this trend. Got to break up with that toxic friend. No,

1181
00:53:02,600 --> 00:53:05,720
Speaker 15: you don't let them come in and out of your life.

1182
00:53:06,320 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 15: Let them come and go. Just because you don't see

1183
00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 15: them doesn't mean you're not friends. What if you took

1184
00:53:10,920 --> 00:53:14,000
Speaker 15: a flexible approach and recognize that everybody you've ever met,

1185
00:53:14,080 --> 00:53:18,439
Speaker 15: unless you had some massive destructive falling out, everybody's still

1186
00:53:18,440 --> 00:53:21,080
Speaker 15: your friend. And your job isn't to sit back and

1187
00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:23,120
Speaker 15: be transactional and wait for them to reach out. If

1188
00:53:23,160 --> 00:53:25,839
Speaker 15: you want good relationships, it's not on them, it's on you.

1189
00:53:26,680 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 4: Is there ever a time though, that you say no,

1190
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:30,600
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna let them. I'm not gonna let that

1191
00:53:30,640 --> 00:53:32,560
Speaker 4: person treat me this way or do that thing.

1192
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 15: Okay, great, So yes, all the time, I hope, because

1193
00:53:36,680 --> 00:53:38,640
Speaker 15: you're gonna say let them. So do you have an

1194
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:39,920
Speaker 15: example me?

1195
00:53:41,320 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1196
00:53:41,760 --> 00:53:43,400
Speaker 4: I mean in the past, I had worked with people

1197
00:53:43,440 --> 00:53:46,520
Speaker 4: who were terrible to be around every single day. Okay,

1198
00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:48,719
Speaker 4: it was terrible, and I used to think, Okay, I'm

1199
00:53:48,719 --> 00:53:50,920
Speaker 4: just gonna let this person do whatever they're gonna do

1200
00:53:50,960 --> 00:53:51,960
Speaker 4: because I cannot control that.

1201
00:53:52,000 --> 00:53:52,280
Speaker 7: Correct.

1202
00:53:52,280 --> 00:53:54,719
Speaker 4: However, there were boundaries, yes, where it came to, which

1203
00:53:54,800 --> 00:53:57,320
Speaker 4: is like that, I'm not gonna let you break like that.

1204
00:53:57,280 --> 00:54:01,640
Speaker 15: They let me part because you can't ever control whether

1205
00:54:01,760 --> 00:54:03,360
Speaker 15: or not the words are going to come out in

1206
00:54:03,400 --> 00:54:07,279
Speaker 15: a particular tone. Let me is where you have to

1207
00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:10,520
Speaker 15: take the power back and ask yourself, how am I

1208
00:54:10,560 --> 00:54:13,440
Speaker 15: going to respond to this? And how you respond to things,

1209
00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:17,360
Speaker 15: especially when it's a disrespect is going to depend on

1210
00:54:17,400 --> 00:54:18,879
Speaker 15: a lot of things. It's going to depend on your

1211
00:54:19,000 --> 00:54:21,560
Speaker 15: energy today, It's going to depend on the situation that

1212
00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:23,640
Speaker 15: you're in. You get to choose if you speak up

1213
00:54:23,640 --> 00:54:25,480
Speaker 15: and be like, look, I realize you're stressed out, but

1214
00:54:25,480 --> 00:54:27,239
Speaker 15: you're gonna have to apologize for how your stress is

1215
00:54:27,239 --> 00:54:29,840
Speaker 15: impacting me. You get to choose if you're going to

1216
00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:31,360
Speaker 15: go to HR. You get to choose if you're going

1217
00:54:31,400 --> 00:54:33,480
Speaker 15: to stay in that job, because you have the power.

1218
00:54:34,120 --> 00:54:36,360
Speaker 15: I'm going to recognize this is who this person is.

1219
00:54:36,719 --> 00:54:38,960
Speaker 15: But now it's on me to hold a boundary and

1220
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:42,440
Speaker 15: respect myself enough to either get out of this job

1221
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:44,560
Speaker 15: or go to HR, or call out the tone of

1222
00:54:44,640 --> 00:54:47,080
Speaker 15: voice and do what I need to do. See, I

1223
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:49,440
Speaker 15: think this if we extend it into dating, Like one

1224
00:54:49,480 --> 00:54:51,560
Speaker 15: of the big crises in dating right now is that

1225
00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:57,719
Speaker 15: people explain away crappy behavior like people like if you're

1226
00:54:58,000 --> 00:55:00,080
Speaker 15: going out on a date with somebody, or if you're

1227
00:55:00,080 --> 00:55:02,600
Speaker 15: in a situationship and you know you're sleeping with somebody

1228
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:04,640
Speaker 15: and they slink like a cat out the door in

1229
00:55:04,680 --> 00:55:08,000
Speaker 15: the morning, let them because that's data they're showing you

1230
00:55:08,080 --> 00:55:10,439
Speaker 15: they don't want to hang out with you, and you

1231
00:55:11,000 --> 00:55:15,319
Speaker 15: have to decide if this is attractive or what you

1232
00:55:15,400 --> 00:55:18,239
Speaker 15: deserve in your life. They're not the problem you are

1233
00:55:18,280 --> 00:55:20,920
Speaker 15: if you allow it. And that's not victim blaming. It

1234
00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:23,720
Speaker 15: is a conversation about where's the control and the power.

1235
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:26,280
Speaker 15: Most of us get in these relationships and we explain

1236
00:55:26,320 --> 00:55:29,120
Speaker 15: away the disrespect or we cling onto the fantasy and

1237
00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:31,000
Speaker 15: we don't look at the reality that we're in. And

1238
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:34,319
Speaker 15: if you could look at people's behavior when they goes

1239
00:55:34,360 --> 00:55:36,480
Speaker 15: to you, when you have to chase them, like you

1240
00:55:36,640 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 15: inserting yourself into somebody's friend group and really thinking, oh,

1241
00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:42,160
Speaker 15: if I just hang around them more, maybe they're going

1242
00:55:42,200 --> 00:55:44,319
Speaker 15: to like me. No, they're already showing you they don't

1243
00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:46,160
Speaker 15: like you. And then take a step back and go,

1244
00:55:46,239 --> 00:55:49,360
Speaker 15: let me remind myself it's up to me to decide

1245
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:50,600
Speaker 15: if this is what I deserve.

1246
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:53,239
Speaker 7: Well, this is sort of goes back to the theory we

1247
00:55:53,239 --> 00:55:55,600
Speaker 7: always talk about arranged marriages are actually sometimes a great

1248
00:55:55,640 --> 00:55:58,400
Speaker 7: thing because your friends and family know you. Yeah, and

1249
00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:00,920
Speaker 7: how you're going going to totally be in denial with

1250
00:56:01,360 --> 00:56:04,719
Speaker 7: someone you're dating, but they see it. That's just another theory.

1251
00:56:04,800 --> 00:56:07,160
Speaker 7: There's something interesting going on here in the room. Noluh.

1252
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:09,799
Speaker 7: Danielle of course a huge fan of yours. H but

1253
00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:11,200
Speaker 7: her husband, Sheldon.

1254
00:56:11,120 --> 00:56:11,759
Speaker 2: We fight over you.

1255
00:56:11,880 --> 00:56:14,319
Speaker 7: They fight over in their own bed, They fight over

1256
00:56:14,400 --> 00:56:16,640
Speaker 7: who knows you best. The third part, So Sheldon, you've

1257
00:56:16,680 --> 00:56:18,320
Speaker 7: been quiet. I have unleash.

1258
00:56:18,560 --> 00:56:19,520
Speaker 1: Well, here's the thing.

1259
00:56:19,880 --> 00:56:22,880
Speaker 19: For the last month, my wife Danielle has been peacocking

1260
00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:25,600
Speaker 19: around our house saying, oh listen, I've I've found this

1261
00:56:25,719 --> 00:56:28,360
Speaker 19: new great person who's going to influence our life. I'm like,

1262
00:56:28,400 --> 00:56:29,120
Speaker 19: oh great, who's that?

1263
00:56:29,280 --> 00:56:29,840
Speaker 1: Mel Robins?

1264
00:56:29,880 --> 00:56:31,200
Speaker 5: I'm like, really, where you've been?

1265
00:56:31,600 --> 00:56:34,000
Speaker 19: I said, I've been best friends with Mel Robbins in

1266
00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:35,080
Speaker 19: my head for ten years?

1267
00:56:35,520 --> 00:56:36,279
Speaker 1: Can you tell me.

1268
00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:37,960
Speaker 5: What the three two one method is of getting a

1269
00:56:38,000 --> 00:56:38,680
Speaker 5: better night sleep?

1270
00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:39,839
Speaker 1: Can you do that now?

1271
00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:40,200
Speaker 2: No?

1272
00:56:40,360 --> 00:56:40,880
Speaker 1: Exactly?

1273
00:56:41,080 --> 00:56:42,879
Speaker 19: And when was the last time you used the five

1274
00:56:42,920 --> 00:56:44,360
Speaker 19: four three two one method?

1275
00:56:44,440 --> 00:56:46,719
Speaker 1: In actuality? I know you read it, but have you

1276
00:56:46,760 --> 00:56:47,080
Speaker 1: done it?

1277
00:56:47,160 --> 00:56:47,200
Speaker 8: No?

1278
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:48,240
Speaker 7: I did it this morning?

1279
00:56:48,440 --> 00:56:49,160
Speaker 1: How about that?

1280
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:51,480
Speaker 19: I can't fight if I didn't want to get out

1281
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:53,879
Speaker 19: of bed this morning, I simply imagine New Year's even

1282
00:56:53,920 --> 00:56:55,840
Speaker 19: I'm counting down to five four three two one, and

1283
00:56:55,880 --> 00:56:58,080
Speaker 19: there's thirty other people in my bedroom right now, and

1284
00:56:58,120 --> 00:57:00,040
Speaker 19: they're cheering for me to get out of bed. So

1285
00:57:00,040 --> 00:57:01,960
Speaker 19: why wouldn't I get out of bed?

1286
00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:05,840
Speaker 2: The other day? The other day, we were at a

1287
00:57:05,880 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 2: track meet and there was a guy and he was

1288
00:57:08,120 --> 00:57:10,840
Speaker 2: acting like a total ass right, and I wanted to

1289
00:57:10,880 --> 00:57:13,640
Speaker 2: say something. I was ready, I had the words, and

1290
00:57:14,040 --> 00:57:16,920
Speaker 2: I said, melts let them. So I'm like, I'm just

1291
00:57:16,960 --> 00:57:18,320
Speaker 2: gonna let them. So then we got in the car

1292
00:57:18,360 --> 00:57:20,080
Speaker 2: and I started cursing the guy out in the car

1293
00:57:20,280 --> 00:57:22,760
Speaker 2: and he turns to me and he goes, what did meltay?

1294
00:57:23,640 --> 00:57:25,960
Speaker 2: I know, let them? So then I let them, and

1295
00:57:26,080 --> 00:57:28,600
Speaker 2: I actually did feel better. So I take credit for that,

1296
00:57:28,680 --> 00:57:31,280
Speaker 2: and I think I'm your friend more than that.

1297
00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:34,480
Speaker 15: I'll let you both think whatever you want.

1298
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:37,040
Speaker 7: So they go on and on and I just let them.

1299
00:57:38,280 --> 00:57:39,800
Speaker 7: I want to go down, Thank you. I want to

1300
00:57:39,840 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 7: go down this. I just just notes, okay, from the

1301
00:57:43,160 --> 00:57:45,760
Speaker 7: leat them theory, maybe as I see it, stop wasting

1302
00:57:45,880 --> 00:57:49,240
Speaker 7: energy on things you cannot control. Stop comparing yourself to

1303
00:57:49,280 --> 00:57:53,560
Speaker 7: other people, Break free from fear and self doubt, release

1304
00:57:53,600 --> 00:57:57,600
Speaker 7: the grip of people's expectations. Loving that build the best

1305
00:57:57,760 --> 00:58:00,240
Speaker 7: friendships of your life. We talked about that, create that

1306
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:03,680
Speaker 7: love you deserve. Pursue what truly matters to you with confidence,

1307
00:58:03,840 --> 00:58:08,240
Speaker 7: build resilience against everyday stressors, distractions, define your own path

1308
00:58:08,320 --> 00:58:10,640
Speaker 7: to success, joy and fulfillment, and so much more. That's

1309
00:58:10,640 --> 00:58:13,240
Speaker 7: a taller order, it sure is, and it's in one book.

1310
00:58:13,360 --> 00:58:16,520
Speaker 15: It is because all you need is one tool. The

1311
00:58:16,520 --> 00:58:20,040
Speaker 15: only person that can keep you from what's meant for

1312
00:58:20,080 --> 00:58:23,280
Speaker 15: you in life is you. No other human being is

1313
00:58:23,320 --> 00:58:24,439
Speaker 15: blocking your way.

1314
00:58:24,800 --> 00:58:27,240
Speaker 7: We are are our own worst enemies times.

1315
00:58:27,400 --> 00:58:30,480
Speaker 15: But I look, I didn't realize this. I was fifty four.

1316
00:58:30,880 --> 00:58:34,520
Speaker 15: Like I was, I constantly let other people stress me out.

1317
00:58:34,720 --> 00:58:37,560
Speaker 15: I was constantly tired and overwhelmed and jealous and pissed

1318
00:58:37,560 --> 00:58:40,600
Speaker 15: off about stupid things, and then blaming my stress and

1319
00:58:40,680 --> 00:58:44,240
Speaker 15: my emotions on the world around me. It wasn't until

1320
00:58:44,240 --> 00:58:47,320
Speaker 15: I started to say those words let them that I

1321
00:58:47,400 --> 00:58:51,680
Speaker 15: erected a boundary between the outside world and how I

1322
00:58:51,760 --> 00:58:54,000
Speaker 15: was allowing it to stress me out and drain me.

1323
00:58:54,600 --> 00:58:59,520
Speaker 15: And once you stop draining yourself, you start to get

1324
00:58:59,560 --> 00:59:03,480
Speaker 15: your energy back, and you start to realize your time

1325
00:59:03,720 --> 00:59:07,800
Speaker 15: matters and your energy is everything. Your experience of life

1326
00:59:08,040 --> 00:59:10,800
Speaker 15: is determined by what you spend time on and what

1327
00:59:10,840 --> 00:59:11,800
Speaker 15: you pour energy into.

1328
00:59:12,000 --> 00:59:12,560
Speaker 4: Full stop.

1329
00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:14,640
Speaker 2: Do you still have those days though, where you're like,

1330
00:59:14,760 --> 00:59:16,920
Speaker 2: I can't do it today, of how do you get

1331
00:59:16,960 --> 00:59:18,000
Speaker 2: yourself back on track?

1332
00:59:18,080 --> 00:59:20,960
Speaker 15: Well, I let myself have that day like so, I

1333
00:59:21,320 --> 00:59:24,360
Speaker 15: think it's important like that there are times in life

1334
00:59:24,360 --> 00:59:27,479
Speaker 15: where the mentally healthy response. This goes to your question

1335
00:59:27,480 --> 00:59:30,560
Speaker 15: about sadness. There are times in life where it's important

1336
00:59:30,880 --> 00:59:35,160
Speaker 15: to just be down, but often when things are bad,

1337
00:59:35,840 --> 00:59:38,400
Speaker 15: you're still carrying the weight of how this is impacting

1338
00:59:38,400 --> 00:59:41,760
Speaker 15: other people, like when you're down like I with a

1339
00:59:41,760 --> 00:59:46,240
Speaker 15: lot of people. My husband's has struggled with depression, and

1340
00:59:46,320 --> 00:59:49,440
Speaker 15: a lot of what he felt, other than that dark cloud,

1341
00:59:49,600 --> 00:59:53,400
Speaker 15: was this sense of added shame that he wasn't able

1342
00:59:53,480 --> 00:59:56,720
Speaker 15: to show up in those moments for the family, you know,

1343
00:59:56,800 --> 01:00:01,480
Speaker 15: carrying this burden that somehow he is responsible for showing

1344
01:00:01,600 --> 01:00:05,040
Speaker 15: up a certain way because we need it. I wish

1345
01:00:05,040 --> 01:00:07,400
Speaker 15: we had had let them, because it would give you

1346
01:00:07,520 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 15: the grace to be able to release the responsibility of

1347
01:00:12,760 --> 01:00:15,560
Speaker 15: everybody else so that you can actually take care of yourself.

1348
01:00:15,560 --> 01:00:18,400
Speaker 15: And let's look at the word responsibility. Responsibility is just

1349
01:00:18,440 --> 01:00:21,720
Speaker 15: the ability to respond. And life is going to be

1350
01:00:21,760 --> 01:00:23,720
Speaker 15: happening out there all the time. The headlines are going

1351
01:00:23,760 --> 01:00:25,240
Speaker 15: to be what they're going to be. People in your

1352
01:00:25,280 --> 01:00:27,360
Speaker 15: life are going to struggle, Jobs are going to come

1353
01:00:27,400 --> 01:00:29,320
Speaker 15: and go. Think the economy is going to go up

1354
01:00:29,320 --> 01:00:34,000
Speaker 15: and down. Let it. Your response to what's happening is everything.

1355
01:00:34,040 --> 01:00:36,960
Speaker 15: And in fact, you know, I spoke to doctor Martin

1356
01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:40,320
Speaker 15: Luther King the third during you know, when we were

1357
01:00:40,320 --> 01:00:42,280
Speaker 15: talking about this book, and it was incredible to hear

1358
01:00:42,360 --> 01:00:44,760
Speaker 15: him reflect You know this s Melt is my father's

1359
01:00:44,840 --> 01:00:49,480
Speaker 15: legacy that the power is in your response to what's happening.

1360
01:00:49,760 --> 01:00:52,480
Speaker 15: You get to choose peace, You get to choose what

1361
01:00:52,560 --> 01:00:54,840
Speaker 15: you fight for, You get to choose how you're going

1362
01:00:54,880 --> 01:00:57,600
Speaker 15: to show up in the face of things that seem

1363
01:00:57,720 --> 01:01:03,520
Speaker 15: dark and so understanding that you have more power than

1364
01:01:03,800 --> 01:01:06,760
Speaker 15: you realize is a very incredible thing.

1365
01:01:07,280 --> 01:01:08,800
Speaker 7: The power of the word no. Remember we used to

1366
01:01:08,760 --> 01:01:09,520
Speaker 7: preset all the time.

1367
01:01:09,560 --> 01:01:10,280
Speaker 2: It's a full sentence.

1368
01:01:10,280 --> 01:01:12,880
Speaker 7: Remember, yeah, no is a sentence years ago and you

1369
01:01:13,160 --> 01:01:15,160
Speaker 7: gave me a hat no on it, which is my

1370
01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:18,160
Speaker 7: favorite hat to wear. But that was my first foray

1371
01:01:18,240 --> 01:01:21,760
Speaker 7: into like, okay, I do have the power to be

1372
01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:24,920
Speaker 7: in control here say no. Saying no is just the

1373
01:01:24,920 --> 01:01:26,120
Speaker 7: most wonderful word.

1374
01:01:26,320 --> 01:01:27,600
Speaker 15: And then let them be disappointed.

1375
01:01:27,760 --> 01:01:29,280
Speaker 7: Does this where you at, by the way, well these

1376
01:01:29,360 --> 01:01:32,160
Speaker 7: questions when you're done with this, in these these interviews,

1377
01:01:32,360 --> 01:01:34,360
Speaker 7: does she go to the car and just go, damn,

1378
01:01:35,040 --> 01:01:39,640
Speaker 7: I'm done. I'm gonna take off my spanks and just explode.

1379
01:01:39,120 --> 01:01:40,400
Speaker 1: And just no.

1380
01:01:40,680 --> 01:01:42,600
Speaker 15: You know, I because I think what's standing in people's

1381
01:01:42,640 --> 01:01:47,000
Speaker 15: way most is discouragement, the sense that it doesn't matter

1382
01:01:47,400 --> 01:01:50,880
Speaker 15: what you do, nothing's going to change. And if there's

1383
01:01:50,960 --> 01:01:55,720
Speaker 15: anything that I hope to offer people, especially at a

1384
01:01:55,800 --> 01:02:00,320
Speaker 15: very dark moment, I really want to be a light

1385
01:02:01,120 --> 01:02:04,800
Speaker 15: that activates a sense of hope and encouragement in you

1386
01:02:05,360 --> 01:02:07,520
Speaker 15: that yes, things can get better, and yes there are

1387
01:02:07,560 --> 01:02:09,560
Speaker 15: things that you can use, and yes it matters, It

1388
01:02:09,600 --> 01:02:10,920
Speaker 15: matters profoundly.

1389
01:02:11,360 --> 01:02:14,760
Speaker 7: So this charges you up this conversation absolutely.

1390
01:02:14,320 --> 01:02:16,640
Speaker 4: All right, Yes, go ahead, gond Okay, So you've obviously

1391
01:02:16,640 --> 01:02:19,040
Speaker 4: been very inspirational to so many people and they're getting

1392
01:02:19,120 --> 01:02:20,880
Speaker 4: let them tattooed on them. I see a tattooed on

1393
01:02:20,880 --> 01:02:23,640
Speaker 4: your wrists. I can't read the entire thing. It says,

1394
01:02:23,800 --> 01:02:25,880
Speaker 4: it shall be what it shall be, It.

1395
01:02:25,840 --> 01:02:29,680
Speaker 15: Shall be, it shall be is a reminder in your

1396
01:02:29,760 --> 01:02:32,880
Speaker 15: ability to figure it out. Like I really do believe that.

1397
01:02:32,920 --> 01:02:35,640
Speaker 15: I think you can look backwards in your life and

1398
01:02:35,720 --> 01:02:38,360
Speaker 15: even the horrible things that happened that you didn't deserve,

1399
01:02:39,120 --> 01:02:41,760
Speaker 15: you can see how every twist in turn led you

1400
01:02:41,800 --> 01:02:43,840
Speaker 15: to where you are today. You can see the lessons

1401
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:46,560
Speaker 15: in it. You can kind of understand how it shaped

1402
01:02:46,600 --> 01:02:50,000
Speaker 15: you and led you to this moment. It shall be.

1403
01:02:50,240 --> 01:02:53,959
Speaker 15: And this skill that I believe that everybody can learn

1404
01:02:54,840 --> 01:02:57,600
Speaker 15: is standing in this moment and actually doing that to

1405
01:02:57,640 --> 01:03:01,480
Speaker 15: the future, that this moment, too, is but a brick

1406
01:03:01,600 --> 01:03:04,640
Speaker 15: on the path of your life that is leading you somewhere,

1407
01:03:05,200 --> 01:03:07,880
Speaker 15: and you can stand in this moment and even when

1408
01:03:07,880 --> 01:03:13,440
Speaker 15: it's devastating or heartbreaking or overwhelming and scary, that you

1409
01:03:13,520 --> 01:03:17,760
Speaker 15: can hold your own hand and remind yourself that this

1410
01:03:17,840 --> 01:03:20,720
Speaker 15: is but a moment and some point in the future

1411
01:03:20,760 --> 01:03:23,560
Speaker 15: there is such a bigger possibility that is waiting for you.

1412
01:03:24,160 --> 01:03:26,200
Speaker 15: And your job is not to doubt that. Your job

1413
01:03:26,280 --> 01:03:29,400
Speaker 15: is to trust that it is coming, and that at

1414
01:03:29,440 --> 01:03:33,920
Speaker 15: some point you'll look back and understand why this happened

1415
01:03:34,000 --> 01:03:36,440
Speaker 15: and what you learn from it, because it was preparing

1416
01:03:36,480 --> 01:03:39,160
Speaker 15: you for something bigger that was coming.

1417
01:03:39,240 --> 01:03:41,440
Speaker 7: And that's why that tattoo is there to remind you, Wow, Wow,

1418
01:03:41,800 --> 01:03:43,880
Speaker 7: you're my best friend who passed away. His line and

1419
01:03:43,920 --> 01:03:47,320
Speaker 7: his tattoo was just be that thinks that's my first

1420
01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:48,400
Speaker 7: and only tattoo I'm gonna get.

1421
01:03:49,120 --> 01:03:53,160
Speaker 2: Danielle, I don't even know what to say. I love

1422
01:03:53,200 --> 01:03:55,720
Speaker 2: the book. It's great, it's so inspirational. I love the

1423
01:03:55,960 --> 01:03:57,880
Speaker 2: I think a lot of younger people should read it

1424
01:03:57,920 --> 01:03:58,320
Speaker 2: as well.

1425
01:03:58,720 --> 01:04:01,160
Speaker 7: I think that people towing up in trash can, Yes,

1426
01:04:01,160 --> 01:04:02,200
Speaker 7: people up in trash.

1427
01:04:02,080 --> 01:04:04,520
Speaker 2: Can because I know our son was just going through something,

1428
01:04:04,600 --> 01:04:07,000
Speaker 2: you know, something similar to what we all do. Yeah,

1429
01:04:07,200 --> 01:04:09,000
Speaker 2: And I think that he would take a lot from

1430
01:04:09,040 --> 01:04:11,320
Speaker 2: this book. So I don't think it's It's definitely geared

1431
01:04:11,360 --> 01:04:12,360
Speaker 2: to so many different people.

1432
01:04:13,480 --> 01:04:15,280
Speaker 7: I cannot tell you how grateful him that you spent

1433
01:04:15,360 --> 01:04:16,000
Speaker 7: time with us today.

1434
01:04:16,040 --> 01:04:17,160
Speaker 15: Well, thank you for inviting me.

1435
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:19,720
Speaker 7: The let them theory is out, of course. Why don't

1436
01:04:19,720 --> 01:04:21,280
Speaker 7: you be one of the ka billions of people who

1437
01:04:21,440 --> 01:04:22,720
Speaker 7: made it the best selling book.

1438
01:04:22,840 --> 01:04:23,240
Speaker 2: Here's the thing.

1439
01:04:23,240 --> 01:04:24,640
Speaker 15: You don't even need to buy it. We just told

1440
01:04:24,640 --> 01:04:25,120
Speaker 15: you how to use it.

1441
01:04:26,440 --> 01:04:27,280
Speaker 7: Nothing from Sheldon.

1442
01:04:27,600 --> 01:04:29,760
Speaker 5: I mean, I'm thrilled to be here.

1443
01:04:29,800 --> 01:04:31,640
Speaker 19: I love the fact that this is a moment that

1444
01:04:31,720 --> 01:04:34,520
Speaker 19: I have pictured in my mind for many many years.

1445
01:04:34,520 --> 01:04:35,640
Speaker 7: But you are.

1446
01:04:35,560 --> 01:04:37,640
Speaker 19: Exactly who I thought you would be. So thanks for

1447
01:04:37,680 --> 01:04:38,800
Speaker 19: everything you give to everyone.

1448
01:04:39,000 --> 01:04:41,800
Speaker 7: Mel Robbins. Of course, the let them theory it's out,

1449
01:04:42,080 --> 01:04:43,280
Speaker 7: go get it. Thank you.

1450
01:04:45,960 --> 01:04:47,680
Speaker 14: That's funny to me, it's funny.

1451
01:04:47,840 --> 01:04:48,800
Speaker 2: Do you have a sense of humor?

1452
01:04:49,120 --> 01:04:51,080
Speaker 14: Telvis Duran in the morning show.

1453
01:05:00,200 --> 01:05:02,920
Speaker 7: This phone tap, do you ever go with the phone tap? Scary?

1454
01:05:03,000 --> 01:05:04,400
Speaker 7: What's your phone tap all about? Today?

1455
01:05:04,480 --> 01:05:07,880
Speaker 11: So Lily wants to phone tap her sister Eileen. They

1456
01:05:07,920 --> 01:05:11,520
Speaker 11: are a Chinese family who took over a Japanese restaurant

1457
01:05:11,680 --> 01:05:14,200
Speaker 11: and the health department did a surprise visit.

1458
01:05:14,000 --> 01:05:14,840
Speaker 7: On Saturday night.

1459
01:05:15,240 --> 01:05:17,000
Speaker 11: The inspectors wrote a whole bunch of stuff down and

1460
01:05:17,000 --> 01:05:19,440
Speaker 11: then they left. So Lily wanted me to call the

1461
01:05:19,480 --> 01:05:22,560
Speaker 11: restaurant and pretend I'm the inspector from the other night

1462
01:05:22,840 --> 01:05:25,080
Speaker 11: calling back with some of our findings.

1463
01:05:25,360 --> 01:05:29,000
Speaker 7: Scary, the health inspector shows up. Today's phone tap.

1464
01:05:30,360 --> 01:05:34,479
Speaker 11: Can help you, Lily, Hey, it's scary Jones from Elvis

1465
01:05:34,520 --> 01:05:35,360
Speaker 11: Duran in the Morning Show.

1466
01:05:36,680 --> 01:05:40,920
Speaker 7: Is Eileen around? Is now a good time? Okay? Can

1467
01:05:40,960 --> 01:05:42,360
Speaker 7: she pick up to the line and you just listen

1468
01:05:42,400 --> 01:05:43,200
Speaker 7: in on this phone too?

1469
01:05:43,640 --> 01:05:48,600
Speaker 21: Oh yeah, yeah, I think so, Eileen. How department is

1470
01:05:48,640 --> 01:05:49,560
Speaker 21: from the other night?

1471
01:05:50,520 --> 01:05:52,680
Speaker 1: All do they want? I don't know?

1472
01:05:56,200 --> 01:05:57,160
Speaker 7: Is this Eileen now?

1473
01:05:57,880 --> 01:05:58,000
Speaker 8: Oh?

1474
01:05:58,080 --> 01:06:02,480
Speaker 11: Yes, this is Norman Gadget from there, all Department of Health.

1475
01:06:03,040 --> 01:06:05,360
Speaker 11: We made the inspections to your restaurant.

1476
01:06:05,640 --> 01:06:07,720
Speaker 13: Yes, I remember, I'm calling to follow.

1477
01:06:07,520 --> 01:06:09,040
Speaker 7: Up regarding what we witnessed the other night.

1478
01:06:09,840 --> 01:06:10,840
Speaker 20: You say we passed.

1479
01:06:11,040 --> 01:06:14,400
Speaker 11: That's actually not only half the truth. We take notes

1480
01:06:14,800 --> 01:06:18,120
Speaker 11: and then we actually call back regarding sanitary grades. So

1481
01:06:18,320 --> 01:06:20,840
Speaker 11: we noticed that the hand washing facility there was no

1482
01:06:20,880 --> 01:06:22,040
Speaker 11: soap in the soap dispenser.

1483
01:06:23,160 --> 01:06:25,960
Speaker 21: No, we always we always have soap, and we have

1484
01:06:26,080 --> 01:06:27,400
Speaker 21: a sink in the kitchen.

1485
01:06:27,520 --> 01:06:29,160
Speaker 11: I didn't see that. I don't know what you're talking about.

1486
01:06:29,320 --> 01:06:29,800
Speaker 12: Can I can?

1487
01:06:29,840 --> 01:06:31,040
Speaker 21: I can take a picture for you.

1488
01:06:31,480 --> 01:06:33,720
Speaker 11: You saw, Well, that's easy now for you to say,

1489
01:06:33,840 --> 01:06:35,560
Speaker 11: I'm just gonna throw soap in the dispenser and take

1490
01:06:35,560 --> 01:06:36,000
Speaker 11: a picture of it.

1491
01:06:36,080 --> 01:06:38,080
Speaker 21: No, no, no, no, no no. I talked with her

1492
01:06:38,160 --> 01:06:38,920
Speaker 21: the other day.

1493
01:06:39,200 --> 01:06:39,440
Speaker 8: You know.

1494
01:06:39,920 --> 01:06:42,560
Speaker 21: She never listened to me.

1495
01:06:42,840 --> 01:06:43,040
Speaker 9: Let me.

1496
01:06:44,040 --> 01:06:47,600
Speaker 21: I told him to wash the low frequently, Lily, I

1497
01:06:47,680 --> 01:06:50,040
Speaker 21: told her, Lily, shut up, Lily.

1498
01:06:50,160 --> 01:06:52,280
Speaker 11: Wow, that's very unsanitary. We didn't even catch that.

1499
01:06:52,520 --> 01:06:55,440
Speaker 21: No, no, no, no, no, no. First of all, what

1500
01:06:55,920 --> 01:06:56,400
Speaker 21: is your name?

1501
01:06:57,080 --> 01:07:01,400
Speaker 11: My name is Norman, Norman Gadget.

1502
01:07:00,080 --> 01:07:06,560
Speaker 21: Their gadget, I remember, Lily, Lily, Lily, Yeah, that's him.

1503
01:07:07,000 --> 01:07:09,040
Speaker 11: Did you know that there was evidence of mice in

1504
01:07:09,080 --> 01:07:10,520
Speaker 11: the facility's food areas.

1505
01:07:11,040 --> 01:07:14,160
Speaker 21: There are no mice in our restaurant. You shouldn't do

1506
01:07:14,320 --> 01:07:15,600
Speaker 21: that a lot.

1507
01:07:16,600 --> 01:07:17,760
Speaker 7: Yes, there were none.

1508
01:07:17,800 --> 01:07:20,160
Speaker 11: There were droppings you remember me pointing to the one

1509
01:07:20,160 --> 01:07:22,120
Speaker 11: employee who was not wearing rubber gloves.

1510
01:07:22,200 --> 01:07:27,600
Speaker 21: Right, I don't remember that. I never will really let

1511
01:07:27,680 --> 01:07:28,600
Speaker 21: me down the phone.

1512
01:07:28,840 --> 01:07:29,919
Speaker 7: We're gonna have to shut you down.

1513
01:07:30,280 --> 01:07:33,360
Speaker 21: You cannot hold our restaurants down like that are the rules.

1514
01:07:33,520 --> 01:07:35,960
Speaker 11: I saw that there was cold food items held above

1515
01:07:36,040 --> 01:07:38,040
Speaker 11: forty one degrees. You know that that's illegal.

1516
01:07:38,160 --> 01:07:39,920
Speaker 21: Right, we have a in there.

1517
01:07:40,080 --> 01:07:41,840
Speaker 3: It does not say over forty one degrees.

1518
01:07:42,000 --> 01:07:45,080
Speaker 11: I suspect that your spicy salmon is more like spicy salmonilla.

1519
01:07:45,600 --> 01:07:46,360
Speaker 21: Are you kidding me?

1520
01:07:47,560 --> 01:07:48,400
Speaker 7: No, I'm being honest.

1521
01:07:52,640 --> 01:07:56,800
Speaker 21: Why listen, you know what, Just come one more time

1522
01:07:57,040 --> 01:07:59,000
Speaker 21: right now and check around you and.

1523
01:07:59,560 --> 01:08:01,880
Speaker 11: Really, so you want me to come down right now

1524
01:08:01,960 --> 01:08:02,920
Speaker 11: to check No?

1525
01:08:03,160 --> 01:08:07,520
Speaker 21: No, literally, I talk sailing talk. You got you got,

1526
01:08:08,440 --> 01:08:12,600
Speaker 21: you got your whole used door. Yeah, I'm going to

1527
01:08:12,680 --> 01:08:13,680
Speaker 21: create your supervisor.

1528
01:08:13,800 --> 01:08:16,200
Speaker 8: Your place is filthy.

1529
01:08:16,320 --> 01:08:17,120
Speaker 7: I'm shutting you down.

1530
01:08:17,200 --> 01:08:17,760
Speaker 21: Don't believe you.

1531
01:08:17,920 --> 01:08:20,400
Speaker 11: You are your spider roll has spiders.

1532
01:08:20,200 --> 01:08:21,320
Speaker 21: Can shut me dragging you?

1533
01:08:22,200 --> 01:08:24,280
Speaker 11: Why is your angry dragon Roll? Why is it angry

1534
01:08:24,400 --> 01:08:26,360
Speaker 11: because they've been dragging across your filthy floor?

1535
01:08:26,560 --> 01:08:29,280
Speaker 21: We have a clean Stamphanie show every night.

1536
01:08:31,040 --> 01:08:33,240
Speaker 7: Maybe I am because you've been phone tapped.

1537
01:08:33,520 --> 01:08:34,280
Speaker 2: We got.

1538
01:08:35,840 --> 01:08:36,479
Speaker 17: What do we get?

1539
01:08:37,360 --> 01:08:38,200
Speaker 7: What are you talking about?

1540
01:08:38,439 --> 01:08:41,160
Speaker 11: Your younger sister Lily got you, Eileen. My name is

1541
01:08:41,160 --> 01:08:42,240
Speaker 11: Scary Jones, who helps.

1542
01:08:42,000 --> 01:08:42,880
Speaker 7: The end of the Morning Show.

1543
01:08:43,280 --> 01:08:44,000
Speaker 2: This is a joke.

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Speaker 7: So, Danielle, Yes, what I did? You're you're at the mall? Yeah,

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01:09:41,400 --> 01:09:48,160
Speaker 7: and you saw your friend's son's girlfriend with another guy.

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01:09:48,360 --> 01:09:49,960
Speaker 7: Let me say that again so people get it straight.

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01:09:50,320 --> 01:09:54,040
Speaker 7: You were at the mall, minding your own business, and

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01:09:54,200 --> 01:09:59,080
Speaker 7: you looked across the way and you saw your friends

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01:10:00,120 --> 01:10:03,479
Speaker 7: son's girlfriend with another guy.

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Speaker 2: And I right away called them and I was like,

1564
01:10:07,200 --> 01:10:09,919
Speaker 2: guess what I see? And so they told me take pictures,

1565
01:10:10,760 --> 01:10:14,880
Speaker 2: and I said, so, so, let me just tell you

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Speaker 2: that I try. I didn't. What's the scary shut up?

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Speaker 2: So I was playing private investigator because there's wait, there's

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01:10:22,240 --> 01:10:28,040
Speaker 2: issues there to begin with. So yes, so I was like,

1569
01:10:28,160 --> 01:10:29,920
Speaker 2: let me take it. So I took some pictures and

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01:10:30,560 --> 01:10:33,120
Speaker 2: Spencer was with me at the time and he's like, Mom,

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01:10:33,280 --> 01:10:36,720
Speaker 2: please never become a private investigator because they can see

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Speaker 2: you over here with your phone and I'm recording them,

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01:10:40,200 --> 01:10:42,639
Speaker 2: and I sat so close to them, and my answer

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01:10:42,760 --> 01:10:45,559
Speaker 2: to him was, I really don't give a crap. They

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01:10:45,600 --> 01:10:47,920
Speaker 2: shouldn't be doing what they're doing. And if they have

1576
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Speaker 2: a problem, they can come over to me and I'm

1577
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Speaker 2: going to ask them about that other person and say, hey,

1578
01:10:53,479 --> 01:10:56,360
Speaker 2: how so and so doing and and call them out right.

1579
01:10:56,479 --> 01:10:58,600
Speaker 2: I said, what's he gonna do? What's she gonna do?

1580
01:10:58,880 --> 01:11:00,120
Speaker 2: It's a little kid, a.

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Speaker 7: Bad so he So your son was saying that your mom,

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01:11:03,160 --> 01:11:05,720
Speaker 7: you're not a good private investiator because you're like in

1583
01:11:05,800 --> 01:11:08,080
Speaker 7: the middle of They could look right over and see

1584
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Speaker 7: who were you in the food court?

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Speaker 8: Are you?

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Speaker 2: We were in a food court, were the court and

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01:11:12,600 --> 01:11:13,960
Speaker 2: I was sitting there and I had my cat. I

1588
01:11:14,040 --> 01:11:15,680
Speaker 2: had my phone out and I was pretending I was

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Speaker 2: doing something on my phone. And Spencer says to me, Mom,

1590
01:11:18,960 --> 01:11:21,160
Speaker 2: it is so obvious you are not doing something on

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01:11:21,280 --> 01:11:23,800
Speaker 2: your phone and that you are recording these kids. And

1592
01:11:23,840 --> 01:11:26,640
Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't care. And he said, you're really embarrassing.

1593
01:11:26,680 --> 01:11:27,519
Speaker 2: I said, I don't care.

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Speaker 1: Then what was your friend?

1595
01:11:28,840 --> 01:11:30,680
Speaker 7: Was your friend? Appreciated? Thank you?

1596
01:11:30,880 --> 01:11:33,080
Speaker 2: And she said she was keeping that for a rainy day.

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01:11:33,479 --> 01:11:36,920
Speaker 2: Oh oh, because there's some stuff going down now yet.

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Speaker 7: Okay, It's like in the old movies when a politician

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01:11:40,520 --> 01:11:42,640
Speaker 7: would be in a meeting and the guy across the

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Speaker 7: table from him would pull out an envelope and pull

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Speaker 7: the photos. I go, well, here you are having sex

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01:11:47,600 --> 01:11:51,479
Speaker 7: with a donkey or so. I wonder what that reveal

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01:11:51,520 --> 01:11:52,000
Speaker 7: will be like.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, but it hasn't happened yet.

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01:11:54,479 --> 01:11:57,080
Speaker 7: Oh my god, Oh my gosh. Danielle's Jerry.

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01:11:57,920 --> 01:12:00,960
Speaker 11: I learned a long time what then, Never get involved

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01:12:01,000 --> 01:12:03,760
Speaker 11: in other people's business, because what could happen is you

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Speaker 11: could cause.

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Speaker 7: Some kind of strife.

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Speaker 11: They could break up, chaos could ensue, and then they

1611
01:12:08,560 --> 01:12:11,280
Speaker 11: could get back together and then your enemy number one.

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you, I really don't care, because here's

1613
01:12:13,840 --> 01:12:16,720
Speaker 2: the thing. There's so much drama behind the scenes with

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01:12:16,840 --> 01:12:20,960
Speaker 2: these two as it is, and the person not my

1615
01:12:21,320 --> 01:12:24,080
Speaker 2: friend's side of it has done things that shouldn't have

1616
01:12:24,160 --> 01:12:26,360
Speaker 2: been done. So they should have broken up a long

1617
01:12:26,400 --> 01:12:28,840
Speaker 2: time ago, and they didn't. So this was my proof

1618
01:12:28,920 --> 01:12:30,439
Speaker 2: that hello breaking.

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01:12:31,800 --> 01:12:33,720
Speaker 7: I think there is a lesson we learned for all

1620
01:12:33,800 --> 01:12:36,560
Speaker 7: of us here. If you plan on cheating, don't do

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01:12:36,640 --> 01:12:40,800
Speaker 7: it at the food court. We're Danielle shopping, thank you. Okay,

1622
01:12:40,840 --> 01:12:43,800
Speaker 7: So back to this thing, A private investigator your son said, Eh,

1623
01:12:44,400 --> 01:12:46,559
Speaker 7: maybe you shouldn't do it. Maybe there's a better way

1624
01:12:46,600 --> 01:12:50,000
Speaker 7: to like stand behind a plant, yeah, you know, or

1625
01:12:50,080 --> 01:12:52,679
Speaker 7: maybe were the plant and walk around as the plant.

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Speaker 2: But I felt, see, I mean, am I wrong? I

1627
01:12:57,520 --> 01:12:59,040
Speaker 2: felt like, if I'm doing it right in front of

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01:12:59,080 --> 01:13:02,080
Speaker 2: your face, right, you're you're less likely to think I'm

1629
01:13:02,120 --> 01:13:03,120
Speaker 2: doing it because why would I.

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Speaker 4: Do it right in front of your face?

1631
01:13:04,680 --> 01:13:05,439
Speaker 2: Like I whipped that.

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Speaker 7: Phone out, and I was like, you're saying it was

1633
01:13:07,960 --> 01:13:09,760
Speaker 7: too obvious? What they wouldn't notice it?

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01:13:09,920 --> 01:13:11,680
Speaker 2: Right? I Thought's what I thought, And I don't think

1635
01:13:11,720 --> 01:13:12,280
Speaker 2: they noticed.

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Speaker 8: You know.

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Speaker 2: Spencer's like all of them, calm down, mom, But.

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Speaker 7: That's hilarious, Danielle.

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01:13:17,280 --> 01:13:20,760
Speaker 4: I love it that your sound was on so as

1640
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Speaker 4: you were taking pictures, it was the camera, it was.

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01:13:25,200 --> 01:13:26,320
Speaker 2: Not it was on silence.

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Speaker 7: Dan, of course I sent that right off. Yeah, she's

1643
01:13:30,040 --> 01:13:32,040
Speaker 7: on an assignment. She had to turn off with camera sound.

1644
01:13:32,080 --> 01:13:33,680
Speaker 2: It's going to be used a later date.

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01:13:33,920 --> 01:13:37,559
Speaker 7: Okay's funny you brought this up because Samantha has a friend.

1646
01:13:38,160 --> 01:13:40,320
Speaker 7: Is your friend a p I? A private investigator?

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01:13:40,439 --> 01:13:44,200
Speaker 4: Her boyfriend is, so my friend was, yeah, the one training.

1648
01:13:44,720 --> 01:13:50,759
Speaker 7: Okay, so how do you train to become a private investigator? Maybe, maybe, Danielle,

1649
01:13:50,760 --> 01:13:54,040
Speaker 7: you should train with her friend's boyfriend husband, come on.

1650
01:13:54,640 --> 01:13:55,280
Speaker 4: Her boyfriend.

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01:13:55,360 --> 01:13:56,160
Speaker 7: So her boyfriend.

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01:13:56,320 --> 01:13:59,760
Speaker 16: She volunteered to help her boyfriend out. She knew she

1653
01:13:59,840 --> 01:14:02,320
Speaker 16: was to be followed for an entire day. She didn't

1654
01:14:02,400 --> 01:14:04,400
Speaker 16: know who or whatever. So she went about a really

1655
01:14:04,439 --> 01:14:06,560
Speaker 16: normal schedule just knowing someone was going to watch. That

1656
01:14:06,680 --> 01:14:08,600
Speaker 16: person had to take like X amount of photo and

1657
01:14:08,720 --> 01:14:11,280
Speaker 16: video and notes or whatever, and then she had to

1658
01:14:11,360 --> 01:14:14,040
Speaker 16: report back anything like suspicious or noticeable.

1659
01:14:14,920 --> 01:14:16,200
Speaker 2: Oh wow, I could do this.

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Speaker 7: But here's the thing. So she was supposed to be

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01:14:23,800 --> 01:14:29,719
Speaker 7: the target quote unquote, and then her boyfriend is training

1662
01:14:29,800 --> 01:14:32,600
Speaker 7: a guy who's supposed to follow her exactly, so, but

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01:14:32,720 --> 01:14:34,040
Speaker 7: tell them the funny thing that happened.

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01:14:34,120 --> 01:14:35,320
Speaker 4: And she texts me two.

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01:14:35,280 --> 01:14:37,360
Speaker 16: Hours later she goes, I spotted him, I said, how,

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01:14:37,439 --> 01:14:39,120
Speaker 16: She goes, I'm in Marshall's and I looked up and

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01:14:39,200 --> 01:14:41,240
Speaker 16: there was one person without a shopping cart.

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Speaker 4: Kind of watching me. So she started watching that because

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01:14:45,080 --> 01:14:46,200
Speaker 4: she wanted taking a photo.

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Speaker 16: And in her notes it says, must have shopping cart

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Speaker 16: in Marshalls. That's that is his note for period training.

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Speaker 7: Sh Danielle could say, you're at a Marshall. Now, let's

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01:14:55,960 --> 01:14:58,439
Speaker 7: say you were walking past a Marshall's and you see

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01:14:58,760 --> 01:15:03,720
Speaker 7: your friends son's girlfriend walk into Marshall's with another guy

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01:15:04,560 --> 01:15:06,519
Speaker 7: just like you saw. It's a food court. Yeah, would

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01:15:06,560 --> 01:15:08,439
Speaker 7: you go? Would you go into Marshalls and try to

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01:15:08,439 --> 01:15:09,200
Speaker 7: get a picture in there?

1678
01:15:09,640 --> 01:15:09,840
Speaker 2: Yeah?

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01:15:10,720 --> 01:15:13,120
Speaker 7: Would you remember to get a cart and it look

1680
01:15:13,200 --> 01:15:13,799
Speaker 7: like you're shopping?

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01:15:15,360 --> 01:15:18,880
Speaker 2: Probably not for now now that I've been told, I'll

1682
01:15:18,920 --> 01:15:20,240
Speaker 2: definitely get that cart next time.

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01:15:20,479 --> 01:15:22,639
Speaker 7: And you have to put stuff in the cart, and yeah,

1684
01:15:22,640 --> 01:15:24,800
Speaker 7: I got to put Yeah, if it's you, you can

1685
01:15:24,880 --> 01:15:26,639
Speaker 7: put any item in there, because you could be shopping

1686
01:15:26,720 --> 01:15:29,000
Speaker 7: for your family whatever. If it's a guy's if you

1687
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Speaker 7: start putting sports bras in there, we're kind of wondering.

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Speaker 4: What are you doing?

1689
01:15:32,360 --> 01:15:32,439
Speaker 21: Right?

1690
01:15:32,960 --> 01:15:34,519
Speaker 7: I love that training to be a p.

1691
01:15:34,720 --> 01:15:36,960
Speaker 4: I have fun so cool. I love you. Got a

1692
01:15:37,000 --> 01:15:38,880
Speaker 4: whole bunch of photos of herself. Later on in the day,

1693
01:15:38,920 --> 01:15:40,559
Speaker 4: She's just like it was creepy, even though I knew

1694
01:15:40,600 --> 01:15:41,080
Speaker 4: it was happening.

1695
01:15:41,200 --> 01:15:44,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, Wow, we have a.

1696
01:15:44,160 --> 01:15:45,080
Speaker 4: P I in the building.

1697
01:15:46,439 --> 01:15:49,800
Speaker 2: Chris, Yes, yeah, Chris, Oh yeah, yeah yeah, Christy.

1698
01:15:49,960 --> 01:15:52,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, he has all kinds of fascinating stories.

1699
01:15:52,640 --> 01:15:53,879
Speaker 7: You talked to on your podcast.

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01:15:54,160 --> 01:15:56,000
Speaker 4: Oh yeah. I had him on the podcast because I

1701
01:15:56,080 --> 01:15:57,360
Speaker 4: wanted to know. He's been doing this for a long

1702
01:15:57,400 --> 01:15:59,560
Speaker 4: time now. He has a company that they just go

1703
01:15:59,640 --> 01:16:01,560
Speaker 4: out and investigated a ton of stuff, and I just

1704
01:16:01,640 --> 01:16:03,960
Speaker 4: wanted to know what are some of the craziest situations

1705
01:16:04,000 --> 01:16:06,519
Speaker 4: he's been in and has he gotten caught doing it?

1706
01:16:06,960 --> 01:16:08,280
Speaker 7: Do you remember any great stories?

1707
01:16:09,040 --> 01:16:11,280
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, he was talking about. I mean, I can't

1708
01:16:11,320 --> 01:16:13,360
Speaker 4: give the specifics because he didn't give them either, but

1709
01:16:14,040 --> 01:16:16,880
Speaker 4: some celebrities that he's had to follow around who have

1710
01:16:16,960 --> 01:16:20,559
Speaker 4: done some really shady stuff that he's busted. Some couples,

1711
01:16:20,600 --> 01:16:23,560
Speaker 4: he said, it's typically couples. It's a woman wanting to

1712
01:16:23,640 --> 01:16:26,240
Speaker 4: know if the man is cheating, and almost always the

1713
01:16:26,320 --> 01:16:27,000
Speaker 4: answer is yes.

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01:16:29,200 --> 01:16:31,400
Speaker 7: So she had the intuition, she hired a PI to

1715
01:16:31,479 --> 01:16:35,000
Speaker 7: follow and she's it's confirmed yes.

1716
01:16:35,360 --> 01:16:36,880
Speaker 4: And he said he actually had a really good time

1717
01:16:37,040 --> 01:16:39,160
Speaker 4: doing one of them because following this couple around, he

1718
01:16:39,160 --> 01:16:40,680
Speaker 4: said they had the greatest date. They went to a

1719
01:16:40,720 --> 01:16:42,519
Speaker 4: good restaurant, so we got to eative food. Then they

1720
01:16:42,560 --> 01:16:43,880
Speaker 4: went to a concert he wanted to be part of,

1721
01:16:43,960 --> 01:16:45,360
Speaker 4: so we got to go to that concert. All the

1722
01:16:45,439 --> 01:16:47,800
Speaker 4: while he's telling these people taking pictures the whole time

1723
01:16:48,240 --> 01:16:49,519
Speaker 4: to send back to the other one.

1724
01:16:49,640 --> 01:16:51,719
Speaker 7: Yeah. Now, was he ever caught?

1725
01:16:52,200 --> 01:16:53,320
Speaker 4: He said, He's never been caught.

1726
01:16:54,520 --> 01:16:55,600
Speaker 1: But so word of.

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Speaker 7: Advice, if you're at the mall in the food court,

1728
01:17:00,160 --> 01:17:04,320
Speaker 7: Daniel taking your photo from them, you're obviously doing something wrong.

1729
01:17:04,439 --> 01:17:06,519
Speaker 2: Yeah, they didn't know it was made. The person does

1730
01:17:06,600 --> 01:17:09,760
Speaker 2: not know me, so they had no idea that it

1731
01:17:09,920 --> 01:17:12,360
Speaker 2: was you know. I mean, I guess I could be

1732
01:17:12,439 --> 01:17:14,280
Speaker 2: recognized since what I do for a living, But I'm

1733
01:17:14,360 --> 01:17:18,200
Speaker 2: just saying I don't think that particular person knew. Okay,

1734
01:17:19,040 --> 01:17:21,960
Speaker 2: maybe they knew Spencer, but you know, he I just

1735
01:17:22,479 --> 01:17:25,719
Speaker 2: he just gets back to it's a busy mall, food

1736
01:17:26,479 --> 01:17:28,559
Speaker 2: it was absolutely packed.

1737
01:17:28,600 --> 01:17:31,840
Speaker 7: And you know, Alex, your son made fun of you.

1738
01:17:33,320 --> 01:17:36,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, Danielle, if it had come the other direction, So

1739
01:17:36,800 --> 01:17:38,840
Speaker 4: if your friend was at the mall and she saw

1740
01:17:38,960 --> 01:17:41,719
Speaker 4: let's say Spencer has a girlfriend, yeah, and his girlfriend

1741
01:17:41,760 --> 01:17:43,960
Speaker 4: was someone else and she sent you the video, would

1742
01:17:44,000 --> 01:17:45,600
Speaker 4: you save it for a rainy day or would you

1743
01:17:45,640 --> 01:17:47,600
Speaker 4: immediately be like, Spencer, look at this.

1744
01:17:48,040 --> 01:17:51,240
Speaker 2: I would do research first and make sure that what

1745
01:17:51,479 --> 01:17:53,160
Speaker 2: was going on there, and then I would do it

1746
01:17:53,200 --> 01:17:55,479
Speaker 2: because I did, because at first I wasn't sure. I

1747
01:17:55,600 --> 01:17:57,559
Speaker 2: was like, Okay, well, wait a minute, are these people

1748
01:17:57,720 --> 01:18:01,280
Speaker 2: just friends or is it something else? Because it was

1749
01:18:01,280 --> 01:18:03,080
Speaker 2: a guy girl guy girl, so I was like, look

1750
01:18:03,160 --> 01:18:06,679
Speaker 2: like a date and the certain individuals were really hot,

1751
01:18:06,840 --> 01:18:09,200
Speaker 2: so I was like I was like, this is this.

1752
01:18:09,520 --> 01:18:11,519
Speaker 2: This does not look good. And then they got a

1753
01:18:11,600 --> 01:18:13,840
Speaker 2: little close and I'm like, yeah, this is not good.

1754
01:18:14,240 --> 01:18:15,840
Speaker 2: So it was what I thought it was.

1755
01:18:16,000 --> 01:18:18,880
Speaker 7: So, Danielle, if they didn't, you know, I don't know,

1756
01:18:19,920 --> 01:18:25,439
Speaker 7: did you feel that, Danielle a feeling of satisfaction.

1757
01:18:26,960 --> 01:18:30,960
Speaker 2: Because because, believe me, you need to know the backstory

1758
01:18:31,160 --> 01:18:34,439
Speaker 2: to know that. At this point, you're like, Okay, this

1759
01:18:34,640 --> 01:18:36,640
Speaker 2: is the icing on the cake and this is all

1760
01:18:36,680 --> 01:18:39,400
Speaker 2: the person needs Elvis Duran.

1761
01:18:39,640 --> 01:18:41,559
Speaker 14: He just gives people getting his mouth up to stand

1762
01:18:41,600 --> 01:18:42,360
Speaker 14: in the Morning Show.

1763
01:18:42,800 --> 01:18:45,120
Speaker 7: Okay, they're hot.

1764
01:18:45,200 --> 01:18:48,040
Speaker 4: It's going down for sure. Wouldn't have followed them, but

1765
01:18:49,400 --> 01:18:50,200
Speaker 4: people wouldn't matter.

1766
01:18:51,760 --> 01:18:52,160
Speaker 7: They're hot.

1767
01:18:58,720 --> 01:19:01,400
Speaker 14: This is ll Lister ran in the Morning Show.

1768
01:19:03,000 --> 01:19:04,599
Speaker 7: It's about to get kind of real in here.

1769
01:19:05,560 --> 01:19:07,160
Speaker 4: I don't think I've ever been more excited.

1770
01:19:07,360 --> 01:19:11,040
Speaker 7: Okay, well, okay, So we have guests in the room.

1771
01:19:11,520 --> 01:19:12,559
Speaker 7: My trainer Charles is here.

1772
01:19:12,600 --> 01:19:13,920
Speaker 9: Hi, Charles, Hello, how you doing.

1773
01:19:14,320 --> 01:19:15,679
Speaker 7: I'm doing great, We're all doing great.

1774
01:19:15,880 --> 01:19:16,080
Speaker 12: Yeah.

1775
01:19:16,840 --> 01:19:19,759
Speaker 7: And our friend Aaron, who also as a trainer with Charles,

1776
01:19:19,840 --> 01:19:22,160
Speaker 7: is here, Hi, Erin, Hello, welcome to our show.

1777
01:19:22,560 --> 01:19:24,679
Speaker 2: Thank you for having met his shirt.

1778
01:19:25,280 --> 01:19:27,120
Speaker 7: You've got your shirt. You know, if I had a

1779
01:19:27,200 --> 01:19:30,600
Speaker 7: chest like that, I would never wear a shirt. I

1780
01:19:30,640 --> 01:19:32,280
Speaker 7: would if I took off my shirt now, I would

1781
01:19:32,360 --> 01:19:35,760
Speaker 7: clear this room. So anyway, I'm glad you guys are here.

1782
01:19:35,800 --> 01:19:37,559
Speaker 7: They wanted to just stop by and say hi, check

1783
01:19:37,720 --> 01:19:39,080
Speaker 7: up on us whatever. They're on the way to the

1784
01:19:39,120 --> 01:19:42,040
Speaker 7: gym and I have a full day, a full roster

1785
01:19:42,439 --> 01:19:45,120
Speaker 7: of clients working out. See Charles, how many do you

1786
01:19:45,200 --> 01:19:46,320
Speaker 7: have today? Hmm?

1787
01:19:47,439 --> 01:19:47,639
Speaker 1: One?

1788
01:19:49,920 --> 01:19:50,320
Speaker 7: And it's me.

1789
01:19:51,800 --> 01:19:52,160
Speaker 9: That's good.

1790
01:19:52,320 --> 01:19:53,160
Speaker 1: That sounds about right.

1791
01:19:53,280 --> 01:19:56,720
Speaker 7: But Aaron works a lot, right, Yes, you're much more

1792
01:19:56,760 --> 01:20:01,400
Speaker 7: successful than Charles No where about he he does very well.

1793
01:20:01,680 --> 01:20:05,320
Speaker 7: We thought it'd be kind of funny for Scary who

1794
01:20:05,520 --> 01:20:10,280
Speaker 7: is just anti workout to maybe maybe you do a

1795
01:20:10,320 --> 01:20:14,000
Speaker 7: few a few exercises, maybe exercises you guys can teach

1796
01:20:14,080 --> 01:20:17,120
Speaker 7: him to do in his living room. Okay, yeah, all right,

1797
01:20:17,120 --> 01:20:19,880
Speaker 7: you know, just simple, simple things, Scary, what are your thoughts?

1798
01:20:20,360 --> 01:20:22,479
Speaker 11: Well, the living room is a good place for me

1799
01:20:22,600 --> 01:20:26,519
Speaker 11: to start because no one's watching me or judging me, right, okay, okay,

1800
01:20:26,640 --> 01:20:29,719
Speaker 11: and I have had some workout sessions in the past

1801
01:20:29,920 --> 01:20:33,200
Speaker 11: at a full gym uh and all that equipment is

1802
01:20:33,280 --> 01:20:36,000
Speaker 11: extremely intimidating to me. I mean, in fact, I'm out

1803
01:20:36,000 --> 01:20:38,519
Speaker 11: of my comfort zone right now. I'm not just standing

1804
01:20:38,600 --> 01:20:40,400
Speaker 11: in front of trainers. Well, he's standing in well with

1805
01:20:40,479 --> 01:20:43,040
Speaker 11: all the people around and all the equipment. So then

1806
01:20:43,120 --> 01:20:45,160
Speaker 11: someone said to me, you know what, you don't even

1807
01:20:45,400 --> 01:20:48,360
Speaker 11: even need all that big crazy equipment. Resistance training is

1808
01:20:48,360 --> 01:20:52,840
Speaker 11: where it's at. That stuff is all for marketing purposes, right, No,

1809
01:20:54,760 --> 01:20:59,120
Speaker 11: it actually does, it actually does. Okay, Well, anyway, they

1810
01:20:59,160 --> 01:21:01,559
Speaker 11: say that you using your own body weight and doing

1811
01:21:01,600 --> 01:21:05,280
Speaker 11: your own exercises, calisthetics whatever you call them, and and

1812
01:21:05,479 --> 01:21:08,519
Speaker 11: things you can have resist You could resistance train yourself

1813
01:21:08,600 --> 01:21:11,040
Speaker 11: into a better body. Is that true?

1814
01:21:11,520 --> 01:21:11,720
Speaker 1: Yes?

1815
01:21:12,160 --> 01:21:14,160
Speaker 7: Okay, all right, all right, all right, So I mean

1816
01:21:14,200 --> 01:21:14,719
Speaker 7: these dude.

1817
01:21:14,600 --> 01:21:19,960
Speaker 11: Guys jacked right, well, yeah, yeah, they're okay, they're trainers.

1818
01:21:20,040 --> 01:21:21,519
Speaker 7: I mean they train a lot. I mean when they're

1819
01:21:21,560 --> 01:21:24,360
Speaker 7: not training us, they're training themselves. It's kind of a

1820
01:21:24,439 --> 01:21:27,760
Speaker 7: homoerotic thing. They're standing around each other, like spotting each other.

1821
01:21:27,880 --> 01:21:31,720
Speaker 7: I'm like, god, dirty old on my day off, I'm

1822
01:21:31,800 --> 01:21:35,080
Speaker 7: training if you are. Then they eat chicken stuff like that.

1823
01:21:35,360 --> 01:21:37,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, they don't eat like well, they don't need those

1824
01:21:37,120 --> 01:21:38,080
Speaker 2: jalapeno poppers.

1825
01:21:39,280 --> 01:21:40,880
Speaker 4: Is that the most important thing? They always say, you

1826
01:21:40,960 --> 01:21:42,240
Speaker 4: can't out train a bad diet.

1827
01:21:42,520 --> 01:21:45,000
Speaker 7: That's correct in trouble.

1828
01:21:45,040 --> 01:21:46,120
Speaker 4: Then we're all in trouble.

1829
01:21:46,360 --> 01:21:48,720
Speaker 7: Yeah, forget it then, all right, so let's just get

1830
01:21:48,800 --> 01:21:49,759
Speaker 7: him going scary.

1831
01:21:49,760 --> 01:21:50,439
Speaker 4: I think you can do this.

1832
01:21:51,439 --> 01:21:53,720
Speaker 11: You know what, I have been told that I'm I'm

1833
01:21:53,720 --> 01:21:59,599
Speaker 11: pretty limber from my stature. Yeah, I have a bit

1834
01:21:59,640 --> 01:22:01,920
Speaker 11: of a g but I actually can move.

1835
01:22:02,160 --> 01:22:04,280
Speaker 7: I bet you can't. And you have those big calves.

1836
01:22:04,680 --> 01:22:06,759
Speaker 11: They're very they're they're very muscular.

1837
01:22:07,360 --> 01:22:09,560
Speaker 2: Do they know about your like your dieting that you

1838
01:22:09,680 --> 01:22:10,760
Speaker 2: do no in the.

1839
01:22:10,840 --> 01:22:13,560
Speaker 11: Beginning of every year, for sixty five days, I go

1840
01:22:13,640 --> 01:22:15,960
Speaker 11: on this crazy diet where I just eat protein, vegetables

1841
01:22:16,000 --> 01:22:16,640
Speaker 11: and fruit, no.

1842
01:22:16,720 --> 01:22:19,200
Speaker 7: Sugar, no carbs, no alcohol.

1843
01:22:19,000 --> 01:22:22,280
Speaker 11: No no milking, dairy, nothing, okay, and you.

1844
01:22:22,560 --> 01:22:25,400
Speaker 7: On average lose I lose thirty pounds every January.

1845
01:22:25,640 --> 01:22:25,920
Speaker 1: Okay.

1846
01:22:26,320 --> 01:22:28,960
Speaker 7: We call him first quarter scary, but like the last

1847
01:22:29,120 --> 01:22:31,080
Speaker 7: rest three quarters of the year, he just bloats out.

1848
01:22:31,240 --> 01:22:33,160
Speaker 2: Puts it back on instead of going And we keep

1849
01:22:33,200 --> 01:22:35,240
Speaker 2: saying to him, maybe if you just did a little

1850
01:22:35,280 --> 01:22:37,200
Speaker 2: bit or you went to the gym, you could, you know,

1851
01:22:37,280 --> 01:22:39,200
Speaker 2: maybe at least keep some of it off and you're

1852
01:22:39,240 --> 01:22:40,679
Speaker 2: not starting from like round.

1853
01:22:40,520 --> 01:22:42,960
Speaker 7: Zero, And he just is that unhealthy to do that?

1854
01:22:45,479 --> 01:22:47,280
Speaker 18: I would say, maybe it's a little too intense because

1855
01:22:47,280 --> 01:22:48,120
Speaker 18: you can't maintain it.

1856
01:22:48,439 --> 01:22:51,280
Speaker 11: Yeah, well, and it's it's a detox. So you lose

1857
01:22:51,360 --> 01:22:52,960
Speaker 11: the thirty and I spend the rest of the year

1858
01:22:53,479 --> 01:22:54,280
Speaker 11: gaining it back.

1859
01:22:54,880 --> 01:22:59,600
Speaker 5: So then he spends the rest of your putting on

1860
01:22:59,680 --> 01:23:00,519
Speaker 5: fort Didn't you.

1861
01:23:00,720 --> 01:23:03,479
Speaker 2: Say that it gets harder every year to lose this

1862
01:23:04,000 --> 01:23:04,880
Speaker 2: same amount of weight.

1863
01:23:04,880 --> 01:23:07,320
Speaker 11: As you get older, the metabolism slows and it's got

1864
01:23:07,479 --> 01:23:10,360
Speaker 11: it's harder to achieve those those highs that you did

1865
01:23:10,439 --> 01:23:12,640
Speaker 11: in years one and two. It's now you're seven of

1866
01:23:12,720 --> 01:23:13,200
Speaker 11: me doing this.

1867
01:23:13,320 --> 01:23:14,680
Speaker 7: All right, well, let's see what you want. Do you

1868
01:23:14,720 --> 01:23:17,679
Speaker 7: want to just plank for a minute or two? Or okay?

1869
01:23:17,760 --> 01:23:18,000
Speaker 8: Could you?

1870
01:23:18,080 --> 01:23:19,080
Speaker 1: Could you refresh my memory?

1871
01:23:19,120 --> 01:23:19,559
Speaker 7: How to plank?

1872
01:23:20,479 --> 01:23:21,240
Speaker 1: Get here?

1873
01:23:21,280 --> 01:23:23,240
Speaker 7: Come over here? Where he it's a nice and where

1874
01:23:23,240 --> 01:23:26,200
Speaker 7: do you where do you want the camera? Our friends

1875
01:23:26,280 --> 01:23:30,439
Speaker 7: Charles and Aaron are here and we already told him

1876
01:23:30,439 --> 01:23:36,160
Speaker 7: about Okay, he's setting scary up with a plank. Okay,

1877
01:23:36,320 --> 01:23:39,599
Speaker 7: all right, then from here, I think you're gonna get

1878
01:23:39,640 --> 01:23:40,760
Speaker 7: this all right?

1879
01:23:40,920 --> 01:23:46,439
Speaker 1: Okay, how's that? That's very good? A little bit?

1880
01:23:47,880 --> 01:23:48,519
Speaker 7: So what do you think that?

1881
01:23:48,720 --> 01:23:48,960
Speaker 21: Charles?

1882
01:23:49,040 --> 01:23:49,439
Speaker 1: Is you looking?

1883
01:23:49,479 --> 01:23:51,080
Speaker 7: Okay, you're close to a microphone.

1884
01:23:51,080 --> 01:23:53,479
Speaker 1: He looks like he looks like a stud.

1885
01:23:53,840 --> 01:23:58,760
Speaker 7: Okay, all right, now are you timing this? How long

1886
01:23:58,880 --> 01:24:03,639
Speaker 7: is he on this plank? We're gonna start timing now now.

1887
01:24:10,720 --> 01:24:11,040
Speaker 9: Seven?

1888
01:24:13,160 --> 01:24:19,080
Speaker 7: How's he doing? He's not breathing? Okay? Hey, question should

1889
01:24:19,240 --> 01:24:20,000
Speaker 7: he be breathing?

1890
01:24:24,880 --> 01:24:25,200
Speaker 1: Scary?

1891
01:24:25,479 --> 01:24:27,680
Speaker 7: Scary? You're holding your breath? I think was?

1892
01:24:27,800 --> 01:24:28,400
Speaker 4: I think I was?

1893
01:24:28,479 --> 01:24:30,040
Speaker 7: But I did that inadvertently.

1894
01:24:30,600 --> 01:24:36,960
Speaker 11: Okay, I have to concentrate on the plank, so I

1895
01:24:37,080 --> 01:24:39,760
Speaker 11: can't really, I don't have time to think about breathing.

1896
01:24:39,520 --> 01:24:44,720
Speaker 7: Okay, Gandhi. The importance of oxygen in the brain.

1897
01:24:44,680 --> 01:24:45,920
Speaker 4: Is I think it's pretty high.

1898
01:24:48,760 --> 01:24:50,120
Speaker 2: Breath through it. You think?

1899
01:24:51,320 --> 01:24:51,600
Speaker 1: What now?

1900
01:24:51,640 --> 01:24:54,360
Speaker 7: What about some lunging things? What are those things I

1901
01:24:54,400 --> 01:24:56,479
Speaker 7: do that? I hate the You don't like the split squad?

1902
01:24:56,479 --> 01:24:59,120
Speaker 7: Split squad? Scary should do some split squad?

1903
01:24:59,120 --> 01:24:59,640
Speaker 1: How do you do that?

1904
01:25:00,400 --> 01:25:01,920
Speaker 7: You gotta stand up? Are you okay?

1905
01:25:02,200 --> 01:25:04,280
Speaker 2: I know that Scary is very strong because when he

1906
01:25:04,400 --> 01:25:06,559
Speaker 2: throws me into a wall because something goes wrong at

1907
01:25:06,600 --> 01:25:09,559
Speaker 2: the radio stage, Yeah, he's always very strong, but he does.

1908
01:25:09,760 --> 01:25:11,719
Speaker 7: He's got some sort of theft.

1909
01:25:13,560 --> 01:25:15,479
Speaker 18: Okay, so face face the camera.

1910
01:25:15,640 --> 01:25:16,519
Speaker 7: All right, here we go.

1911
01:25:16,640 --> 01:25:19,320
Speaker 18: You're gonna place your left foot in front of your

1912
01:25:19,479 --> 01:25:24,200
Speaker 18: right a split stance like this, roughly hip with apart?

1913
01:25:24,439 --> 01:25:27,240
Speaker 7: Do you need to go further out? You're listening to

1914
01:25:27,320 --> 01:25:30,360
Speaker 7: live coverage? Are Scary doing exercises? If you're just turning

1915
01:25:30,439 --> 01:25:34,080
Speaker 7: us on? It's a very very amazing day here at

1916
01:25:34,120 --> 01:25:34,400
Speaker 7: the show.

1917
01:25:39,040 --> 01:25:39,559
Speaker 2: That's nice.

1918
01:25:40,200 --> 01:25:51,840
Speaker 7: Wait wait, I never get to hold your hand. Keeping

1919
01:25:51,880 --> 01:25:57,040
Speaker 7: his arms tight down and.

1920
01:26:00,040 --> 01:26:02,440
Speaker 2: Face what he's making are just priceless.

1921
01:26:04,040 --> 01:26:07,400
Speaker 1: Left heel left heel, Yeah.

1922
01:26:07,560 --> 01:26:19,479
Speaker 7: Okay, okay, he's done too. You don't get to breathe balance. Okay,

1923
01:26:25,120 --> 01:26:26,160
Speaker 7: we're not going to be able.

1924
01:26:26,000 --> 01:26:27,280
Speaker 2: To get out of bed tomorrow morning.

1925
01:26:29,120 --> 01:26:29,519
Speaker 8: You need to.

1926
01:26:29,800 --> 01:26:32,120
Speaker 7: But you need to do the other side too, otherwise

1927
01:26:32,160 --> 01:26:36,479
Speaker 7: he's gonna ben. You have to to split squat. Yeah,

1928
01:26:36,479 --> 01:26:37,960
Speaker 7: you need to even out with the other side to

1929
01:26:38,320 --> 01:26:38,920
Speaker 7: so try to have.

1930
01:26:39,040 --> 01:26:41,920
Speaker 18: Both hips facing forward, so both to facing the camera.

1931
01:26:42,200 --> 01:26:43,960
Speaker 11: Right is weaker than my left though.

1932
01:26:46,080 --> 01:26:51,360
Speaker 7: That's the whole point of this. You know, we're people

1933
01:26:51,400 --> 01:26:54,120
Speaker 7: are saying we're making we're making fun of scary. We're

1934
01:26:54,200 --> 01:26:57,719
Speaker 7: not making fun of scary. We're having fun people.

1935
01:26:57,800 --> 01:26:58,080
Speaker 19: You know what.

1936
01:26:58,680 --> 01:27:05,559
Speaker 2: You know, Wow, that's gonna hurt tomorrow.

1937
01:27:07,600 --> 01:27:10,080
Speaker 7: I can be honest with you. The soreness I feel

1938
01:27:10,120 --> 01:27:12,880
Speaker 7: the next day, I like it. Yeah, it makes me

1939
01:27:12,920 --> 01:27:13,840
Speaker 7: feel like I did something.

1940
01:27:13,920 --> 01:27:16,920
Speaker 2: I have a question. Have you ever gotten a scary

1941
01:27:17,040 --> 01:27:19,880
Speaker 2: type of a person in and they actually have completed

1942
01:27:19,920 --> 01:27:22,680
Speaker 2: their journey and at the end they're like ripped and

1943
01:27:22,720 --> 01:27:24,080
Speaker 2: they're in the best health of their life.

1944
01:27:24,360 --> 01:27:24,920
Speaker 7: Absolutely?

1945
01:27:25,040 --> 01:27:26,320
Speaker 2: How long does it usually.

1946
01:27:26,200 --> 01:27:30,160
Speaker 7: Take, depending on the frequency, how many times they're coming

1947
01:27:30,200 --> 01:27:32,479
Speaker 7: in a week three to six months.

1948
01:27:35,479 --> 01:27:38,800
Speaker 18: And have dedicated there, How many times a week, and

1949
01:27:38,920 --> 01:27:40,240
Speaker 18: how many poppers.

1950
01:27:46,479 --> 01:27:46,960
Speaker 1: Push up?

1951
01:27:47,400 --> 01:27:47,800
Speaker 7: Push up?

1952
01:27:49,080 --> 01:27:49,479
Speaker 21: Go for it.

1953
01:27:49,640 --> 01:27:51,320
Speaker 7: You can do a push up, right, Scary, you can

1954
01:27:51,360 --> 01:27:55,280
Speaker 7: do this a few you are here.

1955
01:27:55,320 --> 01:27:59,240
Speaker 1: We go, okay, yeah, drive through the.

1956
01:27:59,280 --> 01:28:00,880
Speaker 7: He look at that.

1957
01:28:01,880 --> 01:28:02,200
Speaker 1: I love it.

1958
01:28:02,320 --> 01:28:03,160
Speaker 7: I love that he's doing this.

1959
01:28:04,720 --> 01:28:05,519
Speaker 5: I just did what I did.

1960
01:28:05,560 --> 01:28:08,840
Speaker 7: That that counts absolutely.

1961
01:28:09,320 --> 01:28:13,360
Speaker 2: I don't think that's not a push up. Why don't

1962
01:28:13,360 --> 01:28:15,080
Speaker 2: you let him go in and start?

1963
01:28:16,560 --> 01:28:17,320
Speaker 7: That was not good?

1964
01:28:17,960 --> 01:28:18,479
Speaker 1: Not great?

1965
01:28:21,040 --> 01:28:23,080
Speaker 7: You know, okay, but but don't be like I'm more

1966
01:28:23,080 --> 01:28:26,160
Speaker 7: of a sit up. Don't be okay, let's try up crunch,

1967
01:28:26,920 --> 01:28:29,759
Speaker 7: let's try sit ups. But keep him. Don't be discouraged, Scary,

1968
01:28:30,120 --> 01:28:32,360
Speaker 7: get up, don't discourage. I get discouraged all the time.

1969
01:28:32,640 --> 01:28:37,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, this up, it's not great. That gives you lots

1970
01:28:37,840 --> 01:28:39,200
Speaker 4: of room to improve. That's not bad.

1971
01:28:39,360 --> 01:28:39,519
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1972
01:28:39,680 --> 01:28:40,400
Speaker 11: Do I get a pillow?

1973
01:28:40,880 --> 01:28:41,160
Speaker 15: Pillow?

1974
01:28:42,120 --> 01:28:43,240
Speaker 7: Did you bring my pillow with you?

1975
01:28:45,200 --> 01:28:45,479
Speaker 11: Scary?

1976
01:28:45,520 --> 01:28:46,080
Speaker 9: You're doing great.

1977
01:28:46,360 --> 01:28:51,960
Speaker 7: You're scary, you're doing great, savage. Yes, the word of

1978
01:28:52,000 --> 01:28:57,280
Speaker 7: a tuck your chip. I love that he's worried, he's

1979
01:28:57,320 --> 01:28:58,040
Speaker 7: working out with Scary.

1980
01:29:00,360 --> 01:29:00,760
Speaker 8: There we go.

1981
01:29:01,400 --> 01:29:05,720
Speaker 7: That's a sit up. That's good. Scary, that's awesome. You're

1982
01:29:05,760 --> 01:29:11,839
Speaker 7: a beast. You scary is Look, you're so slow.

1983
01:29:16,040 --> 01:29:17,120
Speaker 1: That is awesome.

1984
01:29:18,960 --> 01:29:21,600
Speaker 7: We got one more for him again, hold of what

1985
01:29:21,840 --> 01:29:22,599
Speaker 7: do you have left for him?

1986
01:29:22,640 --> 01:29:25,479
Speaker 9: We're gonna give him an air squat, an air squad?

1987
01:29:25,800 --> 01:29:26,599
Speaker 7: What's an air squad?

1988
01:29:26,800 --> 01:29:26,960
Speaker 6: Do that?

1989
01:29:27,280 --> 01:29:27,800
Speaker 1: Know how to do that?

1990
01:29:28,080 --> 01:29:29,400
Speaker 7: Face to kill?

1991
01:29:29,840 --> 01:29:30,360
Speaker 1: Absolutely?

1992
01:29:30,520 --> 01:29:33,160
Speaker 7: Here comes Charles to show the air.

1993
01:29:33,080 --> 01:29:36,639
Speaker 1: Squad a little wider than shoulder with so slightly.

1994
01:29:37,479 --> 01:29:38,720
Speaker 7: This is one where you stick your butt out.

1995
01:29:38,960 --> 01:29:40,519
Speaker 9: Yeah, keep your keep tight.

1996
01:29:40,600 --> 01:29:44,240
Speaker 7: Okay, don't let your knees buckle in. This would be great.

1997
01:29:44,600 --> 01:29:47,400
Speaker 9: Your hands out and imagine you're sitting right into a chair.

1998
01:29:48,680 --> 01:29:53,639
Speaker 7: Oh right, that's easy. Okay, it looks easy.

1999
01:29:53,840 --> 01:29:54,560
Speaker 1: Do it, you can do it.

2000
01:29:54,640 --> 01:29:56,720
Speaker 7: Scary, scary, you're doing great.

2001
01:29:56,720 --> 01:29:57,320
Speaker 9: You're doing great.

2002
01:29:58,360 --> 01:30:02,360
Speaker 5: Putting nice and easy, and your bud to go way back?

2003
01:30:03,000 --> 01:30:04,160
Speaker 7: One beautiful?

2004
01:30:05,040 --> 01:30:05,240
Speaker 1: Two?

2005
01:30:06,400 --> 01:30:11,360
Speaker 7: Wow, savage, you're doing great. But is this but farmer back?

2006
01:30:12,240 --> 01:30:12,760
Speaker 1: We'll take it.

2007
01:30:16,280 --> 01:30:21,960
Speaker 7: That was great, Scary, scary. You got to go to

2008
01:30:22,040 --> 01:30:23,720
Speaker 7: the gym. Come come to the but don't come with

2009
01:30:23,800 --> 01:30:30,360
Speaker 7: me because I'll have too much fun. That's awesome. I'm

2010
01:30:30,400 --> 01:30:30,840
Speaker 7: not gonna lie.

2011
01:30:30,920 --> 01:30:33,320
Speaker 11: That was I didn't even do a workout when I

2012
01:30:33,360 --> 01:30:33,879
Speaker 11: was intense.

2013
01:30:34,320 --> 01:30:35,559
Speaker 2: Tomorrow we're going to get a call.

2014
01:30:35,640 --> 01:30:36,400
Speaker 15: He can't make it in.

2015
01:30:37,880 --> 01:30:39,240
Speaker 7: Awesome. That was fun.

2016
01:30:40,240 --> 01:30:42,800
Speaker 11: It was because there was somebody there leading me.

2017
01:30:43,000 --> 01:30:43,240
Speaker 1: See.

2018
01:30:43,280 --> 01:30:45,479
Speaker 7: But if that's why it's great to get a great trainer,

2019
01:30:45,640 --> 01:30:46,759
Speaker 7: like like Charles or Aaron.

2020
01:30:47,240 --> 01:30:49,479
Speaker 11: I mean, if I was to be self motivated about

2021
01:30:49,520 --> 01:30:51,320
Speaker 11: it and someone just gave me a regiment and wrote

2022
01:30:51,320 --> 01:30:53,479
Speaker 11: stuff down for me, I don't know.

2023
01:30:53,479 --> 01:30:55,920
Speaker 7: If i'd go through with it. So how many guys

2024
01:30:56,040 --> 01:30:57,680
Speaker 7: or how many men and women do you train to

2025
01:30:57,960 --> 01:30:59,920
Speaker 7: agree with that? If they did, they say to you,

2026
01:31:00,080 --> 01:31:01,920
Speaker 7: if I didn't come here to the gym and have

2027
01:31:02,000 --> 01:31:04,840
Speaker 7: accountability through you, I never would work out, because that's

2028
01:31:05,160 --> 01:31:05,599
Speaker 7: how I am.

2029
01:31:06,360 --> 01:31:07,880
Speaker 1: Most of my clients pretty common.

2030
01:31:08,160 --> 01:31:10,400
Speaker 7: Yeah, because this one over here. He's like, won't you

2031
01:31:10,560 --> 01:31:12,880
Speaker 7: just zoom me from your backyard and we'll work out.

2032
01:31:12,880 --> 01:31:20,160
Speaker 7: I'm like, uh nah, why most clients?

2033
01:31:20,360 --> 01:31:21,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know.

2034
01:31:21,160 --> 01:31:22,960
Speaker 11: I feel something on the left side of my chest.

2035
01:31:23,160 --> 01:31:23,479
Speaker 5: What is it?

2036
01:31:23,640 --> 01:31:24,160
Speaker 7: That's your heart?

2037
01:31:27,920 --> 01:31:28,720
Speaker 11: It's just kind of tight.

2038
01:31:30,400 --> 01:31:31,559
Speaker 7: Nate has had heart attacks.

2039
01:31:31,760 --> 01:31:32,880
Speaker 14: I don't know.

2040
01:31:32,960 --> 01:31:34,679
Speaker 5: How's your left arm field. Do you have a feeling

2041
01:31:34,720 --> 01:31:35,479
Speaker 5: of impending doom?

2042
01:31:36,479 --> 01:31:39,639
Speaker 4: Okay, oh yeah, it's fine.

2043
01:31:43,080 --> 01:31:44,880
Speaker 7: I like that. He's like, it's a little it's a

2044
01:31:44,920 --> 01:31:45,400
Speaker 7: little tight.

2045
01:31:47,600 --> 01:31:49,280
Speaker 11: I feel like I haven't worked out some of these

2046
01:31:49,360 --> 01:31:51,320
Speaker 11: muscles in a while, and they're just finally waking up.

2047
01:31:51,360 --> 01:31:53,960
Speaker 11: You know, it's like, whoa, hey, I'm being used so scary.

2048
01:31:53,960 --> 01:31:56,080
Speaker 7: I'll tell you, you know, because I went all during

2049
01:31:56,160 --> 01:31:59,080
Speaker 7: pandemic without working out with Charles, and even before pandemic,

2050
01:31:59,160 --> 01:32:01,160
Speaker 7: I worked out, but I'm I wasn't like a beast,

2051
01:32:01,720 --> 01:32:03,920
Speaker 7: and I got a little muscle tone, didn't lose a

2052
01:32:03,960 --> 01:32:05,679
Speaker 7: lot of weight whatever. I felt like I was okay.

2053
01:32:06,160 --> 01:32:08,320
Speaker 7: So I got back after two and a half years

2054
01:32:08,320 --> 01:32:10,840
Speaker 7: of working out, and it took a little time, but

2055
01:32:10,840 --> 01:32:12,200
Speaker 7: I feel like I'm moving forward.

2056
01:32:12,240 --> 01:32:14,400
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not you know some adonnist.

2057
01:32:14,479 --> 01:32:17,200
Speaker 7: It's not not the point. But I mean, I'm getting stronger.

2058
01:32:17,400 --> 01:32:19,160
Speaker 1: You're back in, you look phenomenal.

2059
01:32:19,280 --> 01:32:21,639
Speaker 7: Well, no, but I'm getting stronger. You can tell absolutely.

2060
01:32:22,280 --> 01:32:24,640
Speaker 18: I show you that you're getting stronger, and then you

2061
01:32:24,720 --> 01:32:27,519
Speaker 18: still tell me no, I know, he says it just

2062
01:32:27,600 --> 01:32:27,760
Speaker 18: like that.

2063
01:32:28,400 --> 01:32:28,439
Speaker 8: No.

2064
01:32:29,320 --> 01:32:31,800
Speaker 5: What I'll tell you these guys are good trainers. The

2065
01:32:31,880 --> 01:32:35,280
Speaker 5: reason I know is because you were doing positive reinforcement

2066
01:32:35,360 --> 01:32:37,599
Speaker 5: to Scar. You're telling that savage even though he did

2067
01:32:37,840 --> 01:32:44,320
Speaker 5: four setups which basically did two your positive reinforcement, I

2068
01:32:44,400 --> 01:32:47,040
Speaker 5: mean and that's that's a sign of a good trainer.

2069
01:32:47,240 --> 01:32:47,519
Speaker 1: I think.

2070
01:32:47,560 --> 01:32:50,040
Speaker 5: So even if you're not up to their level, they're

2071
01:32:50,080 --> 01:32:52,320
Speaker 5: making you feel like you're maxing out your level.

2072
01:32:52,680 --> 01:32:53,080
Speaker 1: There you go.

2073
01:32:53,479 --> 01:32:55,200
Speaker 7: Well, thank you for coming and doing this with our ski.

2074
01:32:55,280 --> 01:32:56,120
Speaker 1: Thank You're very welcome.

2075
01:32:56,160 --> 01:32:56,880
Speaker 5: Thank you for having us.

2076
01:32:56,960 --> 01:32:59,200
Speaker 7: Now we were just on Instagram live. But also we're

2077
01:32:59,200 --> 01:33:01,439
Speaker 7: gonna take photos and post them so you can follow

2078
01:33:01,600 --> 01:33:04,680
Speaker 7: both Aaron and Charles on Instagram because I mean, you

2079
01:33:04,760 --> 01:33:06,519
Speaker 7: got you put a lot of great video out. You

2080
01:33:06,600 --> 01:33:09,160
Speaker 7: do great stuff. Charles used to want to tell jokes

2081
01:33:09,200 --> 01:33:14,240
Speaker 7: and be funny, and he kept losing followers. They were

2082
01:33:14,320 --> 01:33:16,120
Speaker 7: leaving about the thousands, this is true.

2083
01:33:17,120 --> 01:33:19,040
Speaker 18: And then and then I would put up what I

2084
01:33:19,080 --> 01:33:21,360
Speaker 18: thought was a pretty good exercise and I'd lose some more.

2085
01:33:23,240 --> 01:33:25,000
Speaker 7: One time I was working out and he was videoing

2086
01:33:25,040 --> 01:33:26,599
Speaker 7: me doing like, what are you doing? He's I'm gonna

2087
01:33:26,600 --> 01:33:28,080
Speaker 7: post this so people can see how great you're doing.

2088
01:33:28,080 --> 01:33:30,080
Speaker 7: I'm like, no, you won't. I do not want to

2089
01:33:30,120 --> 01:33:32,080
Speaker 7: say no. No one wants to see me exercise.

2090
01:33:32,120 --> 01:33:33,519
Speaker 1: And you get serious.

2091
01:33:33,880 --> 01:33:35,559
Speaker 7: That's the one time where you get very serious.

2092
01:33:35,600 --> 01:33:37,120
Speaker 1: I'm like, we're gonna put this exercise up.

2093
01:33:37,360 --> 01:33:40,000
Speaker 7: No, I don't like it.

2094
01:33:40,479 --> 01:33:40,920
Speaker 9: I don't like it.

2095
01:33:41,040 --> 01:33:42,640
Speaker 7: I'm just happy I finally go to a gym and

2096
01:33:42,680 --> 01:33:43,639
Speaker 7: I leave the locker room.

2097
01:33:44,200 --> 01:33:44,800
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

2098
01:33:46,560 --> 01:33:49,360
Speaker 7: He likes he likes hanging out at the juice Bar

2099
01:33:50,280 --> 01:33:53,360
Speaker 7: London and espressos. We do we get down at the

2100
01:33:53,400 --> 01:33:55,280
Speaker 7: juice bar well anyway, Okay, So thank you guys for

2101
01:33:55,360 --> 01:33:57,599
Speaker 7: coming in, and make sure when you see this stuff

2102
01:33:57,600 --> 01:34:01,320
Speaker 7: on Instagram follow, Follow Aaron, follow Charles, show him support,

2103
01:34:01,520 --> 01:34:03,320
Speaker 7: listen Scary still breathing. That's good.

2104
01:34:03,920 --> 01:34:05,280
Speaker 11: By the way, these are the kind of guys that

2105
01:34:05,360 --> 01:34:07,200
Speaker 11: you see a tiki Monday in Point Pleasant.

2106
01:34:07,360 --> 01:34:08,040
Speaker 7: These are the dudes.

2107
01:34:08,600 --> 01:34:11,240
Speaker 11: It's accept your shirts would be often you'd be well oiled,

2108
01:34:11,400 --> 01:34:12,479
Speaker 11: muscle in la.

2109
01:34:12,640 --> 01:34:13,960
Speaker 2: That's what guys.

2110
01:34:14,080 --> 01:34:15,320
Speaker 7: I feel like, this is what I need.

2111
01:34:15,280 --> 01:34:16,240
Speaker 9: To hell it no oil.

2112
01:34:16,320 --> 01:34:16,800
Speaker 4: One question?

2113
01:34:18,040 --> 01:34:19,639
Speaker 7: Fifteen questions on a cheat day?

2114
01:34:20,080 --> 01:34:20,800
Speaker 14: What do you go for?

2115
01:34:23,000 --> 01:34:27,920
Speaker 7: Burger King Whopper? Come on, Charles, what do you cheat with?

2116
01:34:28,040 --> 01:34:28,519
Speaker 7: I don't think you.

2117
01:34:28,720 --> 01:34:32,960
Speaker 18: Cheese Burger Deluxe, Ben and Jerry's Strawberry Cheesecake pints and

2118
01:34:33,080 --> 01:34:37,560
Speaker 18: sometimes too yeah, and then he yell at me.

2119
01:34:38,400 --> 01:34:40,320
Speaker 7: They're supposed to keep each other in line. All guys,

2120
01:34:40,400 --> 01:34:44,000
Speaker 7: thank you for coming in. Scary though, scary. Is looking

2121
01:34:44,600 --> 01:34:51,519
Speaker 7: so swollen right now? You look swoll I'm swollen. You

2122
01:34:51,600 --> 01:34:52,559
Speaker 7: look good, you look great.

2123
01:34:54,120 --> 01:34:56,120
Speaker 14: The Mercedes Benz Interview Lounge.

2124
01:34:57,200 --> 01:35:01,080
Speaker 7: How fabulous is that? How is the reception here in

2125
01:35:01,120 --> 01:35:01,920
Speaker 7: New York City so far?

2126
01:35:02,080 --> 01:35:04,439
Speaker 4: It's amazing. It's like London on drugs.

2127
01:35:04,520 --> 01:35:08,280
Speaker 7: That's how to describe New York. That feeling of owning

2128
01:35:08,320 --> 01:35:11,439
Speaker 7: your first Mercedes Benz is hard to believe, but it's real.

2129
01:35:11,720 --> 01:35:14,960
Speaker 7: From the leather stitching to the iconic design, every element

2130
01:35:15,040 --> 01:35:17,680
Speaker 7: of a Mercedes lives up to its reputation. See for

2131
01:35:17,760 --> 01:35:20,120
Speaker 7: yourself at your local dealer offers our waiting.

2132
01:35:20,320 --> 01:35:24,080
Speaker 14: Elvis Duran in the Morning Show, Elvis.

2133
01:35:23,880 --> 01:35:25,200
Speaker 2: Dan in the Morning Show Worth.

2134
01:35:26,600 --> 01:35:28,200
Speaker 7: I don't know how I got into it. With a

2135
01:35:28,240 --> 01:35:31,360
Speaker 7: friend of mine. We're having a conversation and I was

2136
01:35:31,520 --> 01:35:33,600
Speaker 7: and I was told, hey, Elvis, the other day you

2137
01:35:33,680 --> 01:35:35,679
Speaker 7: said something and it was sort of sort of upsetting

2138
01:35:35,760 --> 01:35:37,519
Speaker 7: to me. I just wanted to bring it up to

2139
01:35:37,560 --> 01:35:40,000
Speaker 7: you and let you know I was offended. I'm like, oh, oh, god, okay,

2140
01:35:41,479 --> 01:35:44,200
Speaker 7: and I've said God, I'm I'm so sorry you feel

2141
01:35:44,200 --> 01:35:45,439
Speaker 7: that way. I don't want you to feel that way.

2142
01:35:45,960 --> 01:35:48,679
Speaker 7: And then I got the I'm so sorry you feel

2143
01:35:48,760 --> 01:35:50,280
Speaker 7: that way is not an apology.

2144
01:35:52,560 --> 01:35:54,679
Speaker 4: Yeah, I get torn on that because, to be fair,

2145
01:35:54,920 --> 01:35:57,560
Speaker 4: I do say that when I'm not trying to apologize

2146
01:35:57,600 --> 01:36:00,800
Speaker 4: about something, and I'm more putting like the onus on them,

2147
01:36:00,880 --> 01:36:02,560
Speaker 4: like i'm sorry you feel that way, as opposed to

2148
01:36:02,600 --> 01:36:06,000
Speaker 4: me saying I'm sorry I did that. But I believe

2149
01:36:06,040 --> 01:36:08,200
Speaker 4: in this case you probably meant what you said.

2150
01:36:08,560 --> 01:36:13,840
Speaker 7: I think I did. Yeah, yeah, Frog, I do exactly this.

2151
01:36:14,040 --> 01:36:16,760
Speaker 10: When I have an argument with Lisa, I'll say if

2152
01:36:16,800 --> 01:36:19,200
Speaker 10: I was you, i'd feel exactly the same way.

2153
01:36:19,760 --> 01:36:22,280
Speaker 7: That's not an apology, Yeah, duck, it does.

2154
01:36:22,439 --> 01:36:24,760
Speaker 10: It's true because if I was you, I would feel

2155
01:36:24,800 --> 01:36:26,760
Speaker 10: that way. But I'm not you, so I don't feel

2156
01:36:26,800 --> 01:36:27,040
Speaker 10: that way.

2157
01:36:27,400 --> 01:36:29,519
Speaker 7: See if you say, if you just say flat out

2158
01:36:29,600 --> 01:36:34,960
Speaker 7: i'm sorry, that that says you regret, you truthfully regret

2159
01:36:35,040 --> 01:36:36,080
Speaker 7: what you said or what you did.

2160
01:36:36,240 --> 01:36:36,360
Speaker 19: Right.

2161
01:36:36,479 --> 01:36:39,120
Speaker 7: Yeah, and you know me not really living in a

2162
01:36:39,200 --> 01:36:40,439
Speaker 7: life with any regrets.

2163
01:36:43,240 --> 01:36:45,080
Speaker 2: But I feel like sometimes when you say i'm sorry

2164
01:36:45,160 --> 01:36:47,880
Speaker 2: you feel that way, you're kind of saying I didn't

2165
01:36:47,920 --> 01:36:49,720
Speaker 2: mean it to come out that way in a way,

2166
01:36:50,520 --> 01:36:51,200
Speaker 2: do you know what I mean?

2167
01:36:51,320 --> 01:36:54,439
Speaker 7: Well, it depends on how they interpret it. I mean, yes,

2168
01:36:55,000 --> 01:36:57,080
Speaker 7: I could say one thing to you, Danielle, and say

2169
01:36:57,120 --> 01:36:59,559
Speaker 7: the same thing to Gandhi. She may not be offended.

2170
01:36:59,600 --> 01:37:02,599
Speaker 7: You maybe offended. So I'm sorry that you feel that way,

2171
01:37:02,800 --> 01:37:04,559
Speaker 7: not sorry that Gandi feels that way, because she doesn't

2172
01:37:04,600 --> 01:37:07,400
Speaker 7: feel anything wrong. So I don't know. So this is

2173
01:37:08,280 --> 01:37:12,360
Speaker 7: someone posted this online. Uh, this is not an apology.

2174
01:37:12,479 --> 01:37:17,479
Speaker 7: I am sorry, but yeah, you see, I'm sorry. But

2175
01:37:17,680 --> 01:37:19,120
Speaker 7: you know what I've meant to do is this and

2176
01:37:19,200 --> 01:37:22,439
Speaker 7: this and this. That's not an apology. I'm sorry you

2177
01:37:22,680 --> 01:37:31,120
Speaker 7: think I did something wrong exactly. You're not apologizing for

2178
01:37:31,200 --> 01:37:33,760
Speaker 7: what you say. You're just sorry that they didn't like,

2179
01:37:34,840 --> 01:37:37,679
Speaker 7: Give me more, give me more of these. I'm sorry

2180
01:37:37,720 --> 01:37:41,120
Speaker 7: you feel that way. I'm sorry you got upset. I'm sorry.

2181
01:37:41,720 --> 01:37:46,400
Speaker 7: Not an apology. Yeah, also not an apology. You're being

2182
01:37:46,479 --> 01:37:56,000
Speaker 7: too sensitive. I was just kidding, overwhelm. Uh yeah, fine,

2183
01:37:56,000 --> 01:37:59,280
Speaker 7: I'm sorry. Just okay, we'll move on. See. That's not

2184
01:37:59,320 --> 01:38:03,160
Speaker 7: an apology. Okay, I'm sorry just for the sake of

2185
01:38:03,400 --> 01:38:06,680
Speaker 7: putting it on the record. You know we're done, right, Yeah, no, no.

2186
01:38:06,720 --> 01:38:09,080
Speaker 4: No, And I was having a conversation sort of similar

2187
01:38:09,240 --> 01:38:13,000
Speaker 4: to this the other day that repeated sorries. Even if

2188
01:38:13,040 --> 01:38:15,840
Speaker 4: it is a genuine I'm sorry over the same thing

2189
01:38:16,040 --> 01:38:18,720
Speaker 4: is also not a sorry, because the first time you

2190
01:38:18,800 --> 01:38:21,639
Speaker 4: say sorry, okay, you you didn't mean to do something.

2191
01:38:21,720 --> 01:38:24,080
Speaker 4: But if you keep doing that same behavior, repeating the

2192
01:38:24,080 --> 01:38:26,759
Speaker 4: same behavior, you're really not that sorry. The best apology

2193
01:38:26,920 --> 01:38:30,439
Speaker 4: is changed behavior to not do that thing again. Right,

2194
01:38:30,560 --> 01:38:32,160
Speaker 4: You can't just keep saying sorry and hope that it

2195
01:38:32,760 --> 01:38:33,559
Speaker 4: fixes everything.

2196
01:38:33,880 --> 01:38:34,040
Speaker 21: Well.

2197
01:38:34,080 --> 01:38:38,120
Speaker 7: Plus, you know, sometimes if you say I'm sorry, the

2198
01:38:38,200 --> 01:38:41,160
Speaker 7: person you're saying you're sorry to wants to continue the conversation,

2199
01:38:42,560 --> 01:38:46,760
Speaker 7: and you're like, well, okay, I said I'm sorry, I

2200
01:38:46,880 --> 01:38:52,080
Speaker 7: really am, I'm truly I'm I now understand why you're

2201
01:38:52,160 --> 01:38:55,320
Speaker 7: upset at what I said, because what I said hurt you.

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Speaker 7: I get that, But why are you sorry? But why

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01:38:57,840 --> 01:38:59,960
Speaker 7: are we in any different ways? Do you want me to.

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01:39:02,479 --> 01:39:04,599
Speaker 4: In every language lociento.

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01:39:04,360 --> 01:39:09,240
Speaker 7: We are exactly. We are circling the drain here. You know,

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01:39:09,680 --> 01:39:12,960
Speaker 7: after a while, like, okay, is there some underlying something

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01:39:13,000 --> 01:39:14,720
Speaker 7: else you're not telling me that you're upset at? But

2208
01:39:15,200 --> 01:39:18,719
Speaker 7: we basically handled that. We moved that off the desk.

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Speaker 7: As they say, I've.

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01:39:19,960 --> 01:39:21,960
Speaker 4: Gotten to the point sometimes where I've said sorry so

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01:39:22,000 --> 01:39:23,559
Speaker 4: many times and then I'm like, you know, what, I'm

2212
01:39:23,600 --> 01:39:24,479
Speaker 4: not sorry anymore.

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01:39:24,600 --> 01:39:26,799
Speaker 9: Yes, I've done that too anymore.

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01:39:28,080 --> 01:39:33,560
Speaker 7: Okay, how about this. I never was sorry. I was

2215
01:39:33,720 --> 01:39:36,800
Speaker 7: never sorry. But you know you wouldn't accept the fact

2216
01:39:36,840 --> 01:39:39,479
Speaker 7: that I said I was sorry. You didn't believe me

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01:39:39,520 --> 01:39:43,040
Speaker 7: in the very first time. Anyway, Yes, Gary.

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01:39:42,880 --> 01:39:46,920
Speaker 11: What if you are sorry, you have regret, but you're

2219
01:39:47,040 --> 01:39:51,000
Speaker 11: also trying to justify your actions and behavior and why

2220
01:39:51,120 --> 01:39:51,919
Speaker 11: you felt.

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01:39:51,720 --> 01:39:53,479
Speaker 7: That way to begin with. And you you know what

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01:39:53,520 --> 01:39:55,920
Speaker 7: I'm saying, Like it depends on who you're talking to. Yeah,

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01:39:56,400 --> 01:39:57,719
Speaker 7: because is that is that a sorry?

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01:39:57,800 --> 01:39:59,560
Speaker 11: Then it's like, look, I was just trying to do

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01:39:59,720 --> 01:40:02,640
Speaker 11: this because I because this is how I feel about that.

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Speaker 7: Well, you know, if you're gonna get so granular and say, Okay,

2227
01:40:07,640 --> 01:40:11,920
Speaker 7: I totally get it what I said. I should not

2228
01:40:12,040 --> 01:40:15,479
Speaker 7: have said it. It wasn't nice. But here's why I

2229
01:40:15,600 --> 01:40:17,960
Speaker 7: said it at the time. Right at the time, we

2230
01:40:18,040 --> 01:40:19,840
Speaker 7: were going through this and this and this, and I

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01:40:20,320 --> 01:40:22,320
Speaker 7: felt I needed to say it. Well, I do that

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01:40:22,400 --> 01:40:25,720
Speaker 7: at that point. Well, but at that point you could

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01:40:25,760 --> 01:40:28,120
Speaker 7: have just moved on, right Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I

2234
01:40:28,160 --> 01:40:28,400
Speaker 7: don't know.

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01:40:28,479 --> 01:40:30,160
Speaker 4: I had a soccer coach tell me, when you use

2236
01:40:30,200 --> 01:40:33,000
Speaker 4: the word butt, everything before the butt gets negated by

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01:40:33,040 --> 01:40:35,759
Speaker 4: what comes after the butt. So I really like Danielle,

2238
01:40:35,840 --> 01:40:38,000
Speaker 4: but she's kind of a bitch. Really, you just left it,

2239
01:40:38,040 --> 01:40:39,840
Speaker 4: but she's kind of a bitch. Maybe you didn't mean

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Speaker 4: the I really like Danielle, but part did Gandy just call.

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01:40:43,520 --> 01:40:43,960
Speaker 7: You a bitch?

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01:40:44,120 --> 01:40:45,960
Speaker 2: I think took away from that.

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01:40:46,080 --> 01:40:48,479
Speaker 7: I don't know that that was our soccer coach example.

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01:40:48,960 --> 01:40:50,479
Speaker 4: I love you, Danielle, She's not bitch, you know.

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01:40:52,200 --> 01:40:58,720
Speaker 7: But there are moments no, all right, so you know

2246
01:40:58,760 --> 01:41:00,920
Speaker 7: people are texting in and in catching up with this.

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01:41:01,400 --> 01:41:05,320
Speaker 7: I guess I'm sorry and I love you. These are

2248
01:41:05,360 --> 01:41:08,040
Speaker 7: phrases that we just kind of throw about without really

2249
01:41:09,160 --> 01:41:13,400
Speaker 7: the targeting where they're going, without really understanding what's behind them.

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Speaker 7: So I guess we should be more careful about that.

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01:41:15,720 --> 01:41:17,040
Speaker 7: Who's on the line there.

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01:41:17,240 --> 01:41:19,559
Speaker 5: It's Jessica, and she's a therapist and she can lend

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01:41:19,600 --> 01:41:20,599
Speaker 5: her professional apparition.

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01:41:21,760 --> 01:41:25,040
Speaker 7: I would love to hear her take on this. Hello Jessica,

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Speaker 7: Is it Jessica, Jessica? Hello Jessica, Well, welcome to Welcome

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01:41:29,800 --> 01:41:31,439
Speaker 7: to the show. Sorry it took so long to get

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01:41:31,439 --> 01:41:31,640
Speaker 7: to you.

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01:41:33,479 --> 01:41:36,000
Speaker 3: No, it's okay. Excited to be talking to you.

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01:41:36,120 --> 01:41:36,360
Speaker 2: Guys.

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Speaker 3: Listen every day.

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01:41:38,000 --> 01:41:39,880
Speaker 7: Love you all, well, thank you, and thank you for

2262
01:41:39,960 --> 01:41:42,840
Speaker 7: what you do, because we all agree that mental health

2263
01:41:42,920 --> 01:41:45,479
Speaker 7: is a very important thing, and having a therapist on

2264
01:41:45,640 --> 01:41:48,680
Speaker 7: the journey with you is a wonderful, wonderful way to

2265
01:41:48,720 --> 01:41:50,840
Speaker 7: do it. Okay, So I'm sorry, go ahead.

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01:41:52,280 --> 01:41:55,400
Speaker 3: So I am a little bit of two minds about this,

2267
01:41:55,680 --> 01:41:59,080
Speaker 3: because on the one hand, if you're being intentionally a

2268
01:41:59,240 --> 01:42:03,880
Speaker 3: jerk and grew, obviously if an apology is warranted. But

2269
01:42:04,720 --> 01:42:08,640
Speaker 3: on the other hand, you are only responsible for your

2270
01:42:08,720 --> 01:42:12,879
Speaker 3: own behavior. You can't necessarily be responsible for other people's

2271
01:42:13,439 --> 01:42:16,519
Speaker 3: reactions or thoughts or emotions.

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01:42:16,080 --> 01:42:17,960
Speaker 21: Because you don't know what somebody's.

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01:42:17,640 --> 01:42:20,479
Speaker 3: Going through at the time. They're looking at the world

2274
01:42:20,600 --> 01:42:23,400
Speaker 3: through their lens and you're living your life through your lens.

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01:42:24,280 --> 01:42:25,600
Speaker 8: So I don't know.

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01:42:25,680 --> 01:42:27,160
Speaker 3: I just have a kind of.

2277
01:42:27,200 --> 01:42:28,280
Speaker 2: Mixed feeling about that.

2278
01:42:28,479 --> 01:42:30,040
Speaker 3: So I don't know that you always need to be

2279
01:42:30,280 --> 01:42:34,160
Speaker 3: sorry for something that you've not done intentionally that's cruel

2280
01:42:34,280 --> 01:42:35,400
Speaker 3: or hurtful or harmful.

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01:42:35,560 --> 01:42:37,519
Speaker 7: I'm so glad you brought that up, because this is

2282
01:42:37,560 --> 01:42:40,719
Speaker 7: another thing that makes me kind of crazy. For instance,

2283
01:42:40,800 --> 01:42:43,240
Speaker 7: if I'm, you know, going down an aisle in the

2284
01:42:43,280 --> 01:42:46,439
Speaker 7: grocery store and someone's looking at the paper towels, and

2285
01:42:46,479 --> 01:42:48,320
Speaker 7: I walk between them and the paper towels, you know,

2286
01:42:48,439 --> 01:42:51,200
Speaker 7: in their line of sight. I tend to be the

2287
01:42:51,240 --> 01:42:53,640
Speaker 7: guy who says, ooh, sorry I did do but we

2288
01:42:53,720 --> 01:42:57,320
Speaker 7: shouldn't sorry, excuse me. You could say pardon me or whatever,

2289
01:42:57,439 --> 01:43:01,479
Speaker 7: but sometimes we say I'm sorry just to move on.

2290
01:43:02,000 --> 01:43:05,559
Speaker 7: You know, it's just okay, Oh I offended you. I'm

2291
01:43:05,760 --> 01:43:08,760
Speaker 7: I'm sorry, But am I really.

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01:43:08,680 --> 01:43:11,920
Speaker 2: Well no, But I'm a little confused because if you

2293
01:43:12,000 --> 01:43:14,479
Speaker 2: didn't mean to offend them on purpose, I understand that.

2294
01:43:14,680 --> 01:43:16,320
Speaker 2: You know, maybe you wouldn't want to say sorry, but

2295
01:43:17,280 --> 01:43:20,240
Speaker 2: maybe you just didn't realize the words you chose were offensive,

2296
01:43:20,479 --> 01:43:23,240
Speaker 2: so maybe you should. So I don't understand why you

2297
01:43:23,240 --> 01:43:24,240
Speaker 2: wouldn't say you're sorry.

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01:43:24,400 --> 01:43:26,880
Speaker 7: I don't know, Jessica, when should we or which should

2299
01:43:26,880 --> 01:43:27,719
Speaker 7: we not say we're sorry.

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01:43:29,280 --> 01:43:31,519
Speaker 3: I'm certainly no expert on that, but I think if

2301
01:43:31,560 --> 01:43:35,360
Speaker 3: you're feeling, if you're expressing an opinion about something, and

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01:43:35,479 --> 01:43:39,360
Speaker 3: you really believe what you're talking about, and again, like

2303
01:43:39,479 --> 01:43:42,680
Speaker 3: if you're not doing it to be intentionally hurtful or spiteful,

2304
01:43:43,280 --> 01:43:45,799
Speaker 3: people are going to have different opinions and you can't

2305
01:43:46,360 --> 01:43:50,240
Speaker 3: always account for how other people interpret what you've said

2306
01:43:50,400 --> 01:43:53,439
Speaker 3: or how other people's opinions are different than you. And

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01:43:53,479 --> 01:43:56,160
Speaker 3: that's kind of what makes life interesting and interacting with

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01:43:56,280 --> 01:43:57,880
Speaker 3: other people and learning and growing.

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01:43:58,320 --> 01:44:00,160
Speaker 7: I know, you know, why can I not be my

2310
01:44:00,360 --> 01:44:03,800
Speaker 7: authentic self with you? And look, the last thing we

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01:44:03,880 --> 01:44:05,840
Speaker 7: want to do is offend anyone. Yeah, gandhi, what are

2312
01:44:05,840 --> 01:44:06,120
Speaker 7: you thinking?

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01:44:06,439 --> 01:44:10,360
Speaker 4: So, doctor Jessica in your professional opinion? What is the

2314
01:44:10,479 --> 01:44:15,040
Speaker 4: best way Jessica, Okay, social order Jessica and your professional opinion,

2315
01:44:15,120 --> 01:44:17,920
Speaker 4: What is the best way to say sorry without meaning

2316
01:44:17,960 --> 01:44:19,880
Speaker 4: that you're sorry, just to move past what's going on?

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01:44:22,400 --> 01:44:23,960
Speaker 7: That's a valid question in the words.

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01:44:25,479 --> 01:44:29,120
Speaker 3: So part of what how I think I would approach

2319
01:44:29,160 --> 01:44:34,599
Speaker 3: a situation like that is saying I understand where you're

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01:44:34,720 --> 01:44:38,360
Speaker 3: coming from. I see how you could think and feel

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01:44:38,560 --> 01:44:42,200
Speaker 3: how you're thinking and feeling, and at the same time,

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01:44:43,520 --> 01:44:46,080
Speaker 3: this is how I think and feel about it. And

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01:44:46,200 --> 01:44:48,519
Speaker 3: we may not ever come to terms, we may not

2324
01:44:48,640 --> 01:44:51,960
Speaker 3: ever see it from the same point of view, but

2325
01:44:53,160 --> 01:44:55,479
Speaker 3: this is where I'm at, that's where you're and it's

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01:44:55,520 --> 01:44:57,640
Speaker 3: okay that we're not seeing eye to eye about it.

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Speaker 10: Oh my god, I need you on call around the

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01:45:00,920 --> 01:45:03,200
Speaker 10: You're great close to mine. I can see if I

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01:45:03,240 --> 01:45:05,720
Speaker 10: were you, I would feel like that exactly.

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01:45:05,680 --> 01:45:09,320
Speaker 7: Which which is And you may actually if they actually

2331
01:45:09,360 --> 01:45:11,680
Speaker 7: say to you, well, that's not an apology. That's when

2332
01:45:11,720 --> 01:45:13,320
Speaker 7: you have to pull out the big guns and go, well,

2333
01:45:13,360 --> 01:45:16,600
Speaker 7: I'm not apologizing. I'm telling you. I love you, I

2334
01:45:16,760 --> 01:45:19,439
Speaker 7: respect you. I don't want to hurt you. But that's

2335
01:45:19,479 --> 01:45:21,880
Speaker 7: how I feel. And you know if I sit here

2336
01:45:21,920 --> 01:45:23,600
Speaker 7: and say, well, that's not how I feel. I was

2337
01:45:23,680 --> 01:45:25,479
Speaker 7: lying the whole time, well then what does that make me?

2338
01:45:25,880 --> 01:45:28,599
Speaker 7: That makes that makes that means I'm chopping down my tree.

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01:45:28,920 --> 01:45:33,320
Speaker 7: Come on anyway, Jessica, you know you're fabulous at what

2340
01:45:33,400 --> 01:45:35,240
Speaker 7: you do, and uh and I love that you're a

2341
01:45:35,280 --> 01:45:37,400
Speaker 7: social worker and you're out there helping people who really

2342
01:45:37,479 --> 01:45:39,640
Speaker 7: truly need it. And to know that you're listening to

2343
01:45:39,680 --> 01:45:40,879
Speaker 7: our show is pretty incredible.

2344
01:45:40,920 --> 01:45:43,559
Speaker 3: Thank you very much, Thank you guys.

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01:45:43,680 --> 01:45:44,280
Speaker 21: Love you guys.

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01:45:47,640 --> 01:45:49,599
Speaker 7: Thanks, have a great day, have a great drive. There

2347
01:45:49,640 --> 01:45:51,479
Speaker 7: you go. I love that. So we'll just send a

2348
01:45:51,520 --> 01:45:54,280
Speaker 7: text in it. And I love it because I'm guilty

2349
01:45:54,360 --> 01:45:58,479
Speaker 7: of this. We say sorry too much. We actually say

2350
01:45:58,600 --> 01:46:01,519
Speaker 7: too much. Sometimes it's good to go okay, If you

2351
01:46:01,520 --> 01:46:04,200
Speaker 7: would have a long drawn out conversation about why you're offended,

2352
01:46:04,240 --> 01:46:05,840
Speaker 7: and why I don't think you should be offended. We

2353
01:46:05,960 --> 01:46:08,640
Speaker 7: can have that conversation. Where's it going to get us?

2354
01:46:09,439 --> 01:46:13,760
Speaker 7: What's the end goal? I mean, if you just need

2355
01:46:14,000 --> 01:46:16,680
Speaker 7: to like chop me down because you need to make

2356
01:46:16,760 --> 01:46:19,000
Speaker 7: someone feel like they've done something wrong because it makes

2357
01:46:19,040 --> 01:46:21,479
Speaker 7: you feel better about yourself. Okay, well let's acknowledge it.

2358
01:46:21,840 --> 01:46:23,639
Speaker 7: That's what it is. There.

2359
01:46:23,680 --> 01:46:26,040
Speaker 9: You what about I'm sorry you're.

2360
01:46:25,920 --> 01:46:31,640
Speaker 4: So sensitive, and then you should follow it up with

2361
01:46:31,680 --> 01:46:32,200
Speaker 4: a calm.

2362
01:46:32,080 --> 01:46:36,080
Speaker 7: Down or pull yourself together.

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01:46:37,000 --> 01:46:38,040
Speaker 14: Okay, it's Nicki Mina.

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01:46:39,760 --> 01:46:40,479
Speaker 7: This is Rihanna.

2365
01:46:40,600 --> 01:46:42,040
Speaker 14: Hey, this is Lady Gaga.

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01:46:43,000 --> 01:46:53,840
Speaker 22: You're listening to the Elvis Duran and the Morning shows

2367
01:46:55,320 --> 01:46:57,240
Speaker 22: Elvis Duran and the Morning Show.

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01:47:00,439 --> 01:47:03,400
Speaker 7: Look, you know, you you date someone, you have a relationship,

2369
01:47:03,520 --> 01:47:06,240
Speaker 7: you're friendly, then it ends for whatever reason and you

2370
01:47:06,320 --> 01:47:08,559
Speaker 7: go your separate ways and it should just end there.

2371
01:47:08,840 --> 01:47:10,960
Speaker 7: You know me, I'm I'm I really have a problem

2372
01:47:11,000 --> 01:47:13,920
Speaker 7: with people who can't let go, and they to the

2373
01:47:14,000 --> 01:47:17,400
Speaker 7: point where they drive their ex crazy, they drive themselves nuts,

2374
01:47:18,040 --> 01:47:22,680
Speaker 7: and then then there's the revenge people like they did

2375
01:47:22,760 --> 01:47:25,320
Speaker 7: me wrong, so I'm going to key their car. I

2376
01:47:25,320 --> 01:47:29,080
Speaker 7: don't like tires up. So a friend of mine. Good

2377
01:47:29,240 --> 01:47:32,599
Speaker 7: text from an ex he broke up with her maybe

2378
01:47:32,920 --> 01:47:35,320
Speaker 7: five years ago. She said, I just want you to

2379
01:47:35,439 --> 01:47:37,640
Speaker 7: know I'm happy I'm dating someone better than you.

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01:47:38,400 --> 01:47:39,200
Speaker 4: Five years later.

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01:47:39,960 --> 01:47:44,360
Speaker 7: Yes, hell wow, still like still floating on that floating

2382
01:47:44,439 --> 01:47:45,840
Speaker 7: on that float in the middle of the ocean for

2383
01:47:46,000 --> 01:47:48,840
Speaker 7: five years. Really you have to let me know five

2384
01:47:48,920 --> 01:47:52,280
Speaker 7: years later you're dating someone that's better than me, Okay.

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01:47:52,120 --> 01:47:55,439
Speaker 2: And that's that gives the person the upper hand because

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01:47:55,439 --> 01:47:57,600
Speaker 2: then they think, oh, for the last five years, they

2387
01:47:57,640 --> 01:48:00,000
Speaker 2: couldn't findnybody better than me, and they've they've been missed.

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01:48:00,000 --> 01:48:02,559
Speaker 2: Should at that point now you know, don't you don't.

2389
01:48:02,479 --> 01:48:04,840
Speaker 4: And they've been living in your head five years that

2390
01:48:05,000 --> 01:48:06,200
Speaker 4: real estate should be expensive.

2391
01:48:07,160 --> 01:48:09,559
Speaker 7: It should, it should be if you if you keep

2392
01:48:09,600 --> 01:48:12,759
Speaker 7: these thoughts in these emotions just kind of churning around

2393
01:48:12,840 --> 01:48:16,040
Speaker 7: for even months, I mean, you should be getting over that.

2394
01:48:16,160 --> 01:48:18,960
Speaker 7: You really owe it to yourself, right But five years later, aha,

2395
01:48:19,479 --> 01:48:22,200
Speaker 7: five years later, but still I've found someone better than you.

2396
01:48:22,600 --> 01:48:24,599
Speaker 7: So the question I asked was, well, what is your

2397
01:48:24,840 --> 01:48:27,160
Speaker 7: what is your response to her? What do you you

2398
01:48:27,280 --> 01:48:28,240
Speaker 7: got to respond to her?

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01:48:28,760 --> 01:48:29,439
Speaker 2: What did he say?

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01:48:30,360 --> 01:48:33,080
Speaker 7: Well, I know he's he's still trying to think. What

2401
01:48:34,720 --> 01:48:37,439
Speaker 7: I don't know. Maybe you shouldn't. Maybe the best response

2402
01:48:37,640 --> 01:48:38,880
Speaker 7: is just ignore it.

2403
01:48:39,080 --> 01:48:41,240
Speaker 4: I feel like you should thumbs up it, like, not

2404
01:48:41,360 --> 01:48:43,760
Speaker 4: even words, just a little thumbs up reaction.

2405
01:48:44,120 --> 01:48:46,040
Speaker 7: Right, yeah, send an egg plant.

2406
01:48:46,280 --> 01:48:49,640
Speaker 15: Yeah, in the eggplant, just right back.

2407
01:48:49,720 --> 01:48:50,200
Speaker 4: No you didn't.

2408
01:48:50,760 --> 01:48:52,280
Speaker 7: It's just I don't know. It's like I don't know.

2409
01:48:52,439 --> 01:48:55,519
Speaker 7: It's like if you five years later, I haven't even thought.

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01:48:56,560 --> 01:48:58,639
Speaker 7: Let me put myself in his place. I haven't even

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01:48:58,760 --> 01:49:02,000
Speaker 7: thought of them in four years. Let's say, so five

2412
01:49:02,040 --> 01:49:05,760
Speaker 7: years later, I'm instill in your head my response to

2413
01:49:05,800 --> 01:49:08,400
Speaker 7: you should be no response. I'm starting to get into that.

2414
01:49:08,640 --> 01:49:10,200
Speaker 7: Just don't respond, Just be quiet.

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01:49:10,400 --> 01:49:13,479
Speaker 2: I think I finally found someone better.

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Speaker 15: I would have written not possible.

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01:49:17,520 --> 01:49:18,200
Speaker 2: That's a lie.

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01:49:18,760 --> 01:49:21,360
Speaker 7: That's see, that's a fun answer. That's a good answer. Yeah,

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01:49:22,240 --> 01:49:24,439
Speaker 7: I don't know, but yeah, think about what do you

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01:49:24,640 --> 01:49:28,080
Speaker 7: have that's still circulating in your head and in your

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01:49:28,160 --> 01:49:30,960
Speaker 7: heart and in your soul something you should have gotten

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01:49:31,040 --> 01:49:33,800
Speaker 7: over years ago. It may not be a relationship. I'm

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01:49:33,880 --> 01:49:38,960
Speaker 7: believing I'm over all those, but it's an interesting exercise

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01:49:39,240 --> 01:49:41,280
Speaker 7: to play with yourself, like, not play with yourself, but

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01:49:41,400 --> 01:49:44,400
Speaker 7: to work out with yourself, Like, what is something that

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01:49:44,520 --> 01:49:47,400
Speaker 7: happened to you years ago that still bounces around in

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01:49:47,439 --> 01:49:49,320
Speaker 7: your head and drives you crazy. These are the thoughts

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01:49:49,360 --> 01:49:51,840
Speaker 7: you have in the shower some mornings, when your mind

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01:49:51,920 --> 01:49:53,880
Speaker 7: goes down these weird alley ways. You're like, why am

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01:49:53,920 --> 01:49:56,200
Speaker 7: I thinking of that? When's the last time you thought

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01:49:56,280 --> 01:50:00,839
Speaker 7: something just really wasteful? And then and you said to yourself,

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01:50:01,080 --> 01:50:03,080
Speaker 7: why am I thinking about this? Why am I doing?

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01:50:03,160 --> 01:50:05,760
Speaker 7: Why am I going through this dialogue in my head

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01:50:05,840 --> 01:50:07,240
Speaker 7: right now? Why am I doing this to me? Do

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01:50:07,240 --> 01:50:07,880
Speaker 7: you guys ever do that?

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01:50:08,080 --> 01:50:10,120
Speaker 4: Every night before I go to sleep, I think about

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01:50:10,160 --> 01:50:12,800
Speaker 4: all of my cringiest moments and like fights that I

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01:50:12,840 --> 01:50:15,400
Speaker 4: should have said something different and I would have won

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01:50:15,680 --> 01:50:17,680
Speaker 4: if I would have said the different thing, And I'm

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01:50:17,760 --> 01:50:19,479
Speaker 4: just like battling in my head. I think about it

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01:50:19,520 --> 01:50:20,080
Speaker 4: all the time.

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01:50:20,360 --> 01:50:22,360
Speaker 7: From how long ago the situation is going to go

2443
01:50:22,479 --> 01:50:27,439
Speaker 7: back to middle school exactly exactly, you know, And sometimes

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01:50:27,520 --> 01:50:29,439
Speaker 7: you have to remind yourself you got to snap out

2445
01:50:29,439 --> 01:50:31,400
Speaker 7: of it and like slap your own face right, snap

2446
01:50:31,479 --> 01:50:34,439
Speaker 7: out of it. I love these texts that are coming in.

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01:50:35,439 --> 01:50:38,519
Speaker 7: My friend's ex sent a text saying five years later,

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01:50:38,680 --> 01:50:42,599
Speaker 7: I have finally found someone better than you. They're saying

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01:50:42,600 --> 01:50:45,400
Speaker 7: you should write back like new phone, who is.

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01:50:48,800 --> 01:50:49,000
Speaker 11: It is?

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01:50:49,400 --> 01:50:52,880
Speaker 7: It's hard to do, but you get you get into

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01:50:52,920 --> 01:50:55,080
Speaker 7: these arguments with people that aren't even in the room

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01:50:55,160 --> 01:51:00,160
Speaker 7: with you. Then you're like, what am I doing? That's

2454
01:51:00,160 --> 01:51:02,120
Speaker 7: when I want you to slap yourself in the face

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01:51:02,160 --> 01:51:03,320
Speaker 7: and snap out of it.

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01:51:03,640 --> 01:51:03,880
Speaker 1: I'm in.

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01:51:06,360 --> 01:51:07,080
Speaker 7: That's weird.

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01:51:07,479 --> 01:51:12,880
Speaker 14: Elvis Duran in the Morning Show, all right, we're done,

2459
01:51:12,880 --> 01:51:13,439
Speaker 14: we're out of time.

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01:51:13,479 --> 01:51:15,080
Speaker 7: We'll see you next time, so make sure you're here

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01:51:15,120 --> 01:51:17,679
Speaker 7: with us until then, say peace, out of everybody, piece

2462
01:51:17,760 --> 01:51:18,759
Speaker 7: out out of my body.