WEBVTT - Finally, A Little Love for Lala! 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:02.160 Hello, gorgeous. It's La La Kent. 0:00:02.560 --> 0:00:09.680 Welcome to Untraditionally, Lala, Hello, gorgeous, Welcome back to Untraditionally Lala. 0:00:09.840 --> 0:00:13.360 I am hyped out of my effing mind because we 0:00:13.400 --> 0:00:17.240 are doing the opposite of a hater's podcast today, and 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:20.560 we are doing an episode of a lover's podcast. 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:21.200 That's right. 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:24.040 You guys wrote in you wanted to give me my flowers, 0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:25.919 you wanted to toot my horn, you wanted to show 0:00:25.920 --> 0:00:28.720 me some love. And you are rippin' if you think 0:00:28.720 --> 0:00:30.960 I would say no to that. So I've got three 0:00:30.960 --> 0:00:33.199 callers on the line. I'm going to zoom in a 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:35.159 lot of you guys said on the beef things. You're like, 0:00:35.400 --> 0:00:38.200 that one's Kristin Doty, that one's this person. You guys, 0:00:38.240 --> 0:00:41.159 I'm zooming with these people. We're not showing you their 0:00:41.200 --> 0:00:43.640 faces because we want to protect their privacy, but I 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:45.960 see them. There's no one I know on these calls. 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:50.640 With that, let's get it popping. With my first caller, Miranda, 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:51.839 I'm so nervous. 0:00:52.280 --> 0:00:53.760 I'm nervous. Don't say that. 0:00:54.600 --> 0:00:58.760 You're nervous too, Hi, Bibe, I don't know. 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:01.440 I'm like, I'm more nervous for this than I was 0:01:01.480 --> 0:01:02.680 about having the haters on. 0:01:03.760 --> 0:01:06.000 Oh that's so funny. I'm like, great, she's saying, she 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:08.760 I'm nervous. I'm like talking into my camera because I 0:01:08.760 --> 0:01:10.440 wanted you to know I am recording on my phone. 0:01:10.440 --> 0:01:11.280 If that's okay with you. 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:13.080 I would love that. That's amazing, like. 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:15.520 Behind the scenes. But I'm literally saying like I'm nervous. Okay, 0:01:15.520 --> 0:01:17.240 here they come. And then that's the first. 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:19.240 Thing you say, I know, No, we're right here, We're 0:01:19.280 --> 0:01:19.800 in sync. 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:23.199 It just goes to show that, like I'm so much 0:01:23.240 --> 0:01:29.319 more comfortable in conflict than I am with like sweetness 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:30.040 and softness. 0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:32.600 Originally, I was supposed to come on for the hater 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:37.080 podcast just saying I don't know if you know that. No, okay, 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:39.360 Well I reached out about that just because I was like, 0:01:39.360 --> 0:01:40.600 I have a lot to say to this girl, and 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:42.680 like I like her. I used to like her. He 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:44.559 ticked me off a little bit, you know that last 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:46.840 season whatever, But the sobriety for me has been like 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:51.920 the biggest grounding point I guess with my parasocial relationship 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:52.160 with you. 0:01:52.200 --> 0:01:53.560 I'll say, okay, I love this. 0:01:53.680 --> 0:01:55.320 So I like reached back out and I was like, yo, 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:57.080 can I talk with her about sobriety? 0:01:57.840 --> 0:02:01.200 I would love this. Okay, so you you wanted to 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:03.600 or you did reach out for the Haters episode because 0:02:03.600 --> 0:02:06.559 I ticked you off. Tell me why I ticked you off. 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:09.520 It's just this switch up, dude. I was like, I 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:12.040 have no idea, like I was such, I am like, 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:14.520 I love you, come on your Lalla. And then it 0:02:14.600 --> 0:02:17.320 was like what happened the girl that like I don't 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:19.400 want to say I fully like role modeled you. But 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:22.000 I was like, Okay, this is somebody who I actually 0:02:22.040 --> 0:02:26.000 align with. She knows very confident with herself, and I 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:27.960 felt like I had a sense of Lalla in me. 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:31.080 So it's like you reached a certain target with people, 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:34.440 and then when we assume those roles, right, it's like, Okay, 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:37.720 I have this mindset, this headspace. Now I'm giving them 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:43.400 Lalla in my every day as Miranda, right, I expected 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:45.360 you to then give Lalla all the way like with 0:02:45.480 --> 0:02:48.280 that me being a Lalla person is like I am 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:50.000 and I know you hate the word because I do. 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:53.000 Listen girls, girl, but how about just people's person? 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:55.480 I love that even more girl. 0:02:55.280 --> 0:02:58.400 Out of it people's person. I didn't understand it, but 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:02.400 there was a lot going on that we all didn't understand. Actually, 0:03:02.520 --> 0:03:05.480 so I think that, like hindsight's always twenty twenty. But 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:08.000 I mean, I've listened. I listened to the Haters podcast 0:03:08.120 --> 0:03:11.280 and everything you said, your growth is there. I can't 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:13.880 hate on somebody who's actively trying to be a better 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:17.440 version of themselves every day. So that's why I was like, 0:03:17.480 --> 0:03:19.560 I'm just I want her to know that. Like I 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:22.320 didn't understand that whatsoever, because I really expected you to 0:03:22.440 --> 0:03:27.400 kind of be there more so for Arianna, I guess, 0:03:27.680 --> 0:03:30.079 and like I'm a very big vander pump Rolls fan. 0:03:30.160 --> 0:03:32.520 I mean I watched since the beginning. I moved out 0:03:32.560 --> 0:03:35.160 to West Hollywood, not because of the show, just because 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:36.760 I saw the life and I was like, ooh, I'm 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:38.280 a speech therapist. I'm gonna move out there. 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:39.000 And so I love this. 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:42.760 I made a song for Katie and arian and Sandwich 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:45.840 Shop something about that. I don't know if you ever 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:48.040 heard it, but anyway, but I'll download it. 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:50.440 Why do I get it Spotify? 0:03:50.520 --> 0:03:53.040 It's a big, big fan. So I always loved you guys. 0:03:53.240 --> 0:03:55.800 Was very confused at that end, but I think that 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:57.600 you had just your own stuff going on, and the 0:03:57.640 --> 0:04:00.440 other thing is production. They should show I know more 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:02.760 of what's going on because you're like having these like 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:04.960 attitudes and these energies and like we don't know where 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:08.119 it's coming from. So again, while we're watching, I could 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:10.400 be so ramped up, but like I'll always be like 0:04:10.440 --> 0:04:12.760 all right, his side her aside the truth, So like 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:13.880 what really went down? 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:17.920 Yeah, And I think that that's you know, I've been 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:22.320 doing this for a decade and I have learned to 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:27.159 never get married to my own story because even though 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:29.960 I am on a reality show, there's a job to do. 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:32.240 This is entertainment for people. 0:04:32.680 --> 0:04:37.279 So I almost have to develop, or I guess, disassociate 0:04:37.920 --> 0:04:41.320 from my own reality because what I'm sharing may not 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:44.200 be interesting enough, it may not make sense because we 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:46.640 don't have the time to capture it all. And I 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:50.000 have to know that everything I've shared I'm not married to. 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:53.599 If people don't know, I hope that they enjoy the show. 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:57.960 Season eleven was horrendous and horrible. You listen to the episode. 0:04:58.000 --> 0:05:00.560 I've said it many times. I I should have never 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:02.880 gone back. I should have focused on myself and my 0:05:03.000 --> 0:05:05.479 kids and and honed in on what I needed to 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:09.120 do to accept my reality, and it just didn't land. 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:10.680 But this was a part of my journey. And I'm 0:05:10.680 --> 0:05:14.080 so happy that you wrote into the Haters episode, but 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:16.360 I'm even happier that you're writing into this one. 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:19.599 Oh thank you. And I was gonna say, like, okay, 0:05:19.640 --> 0:05:22.320 so the circling of this, I am what we would 0:05:22.360 --> 0:05:25.920 call California sober. So I haven't alcohol in over a year. 0:05:26.040 --> 0:05:30.280 I did just celebrate a year of sobriety and congratulations, really. 0:05:30.279 --> 0:05:34.000 A year sober from alcohol. And the reason why I 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:37.119 wrote in with the sobriety was because in my sobriety journey, 0:05:37.200 --> 0:05:40.719 I then realized more about what happened, honestly, because my 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:44.640 expectations of you during your sobriety, I mean, I have 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:48.279 an expectation as I'm watching right, so she's sober, why 0:05:48.320 --> 0:05:51.120 is she acting like that? And that was something that 0:05:51.200 --> 0:05:53.560 like it during my own sobriety, I was like, WHOA, 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:56.880 I'm acting in certain ways? Why am I acting like that? 0:05:57.080 --> 0:05:59.840 I'm not drinking, why am I acting like so? It's 0:05:59.880 --> 0:06:01.760 just it's been such a big learning curve of like 0:06:01.839 --> 0:06:05.920 introspection and then also just like realizing others different realities. 0:06:05.960 --> 0:06:08.000 I've always been like a feeler, but I just feel 0:06:08.040 --> 0:06:10.680 like it's let me. I've opened up and like unlocked 0:06:10.680 --> 0:06:12.880 a new layer of my empathy, which is very cool. 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:13.800 If that makes sense. 0:06:13.880 --> 0:06:17.040 It makes all the sense. Okay, I get everything you're 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:18.760 putting down right now because I'm in it with you. 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:21.719 Bring up the Haters episode because it does connect to 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:24.080 the sobriety, which is like, if I were to watch 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:27.039 that now, ooh, my mindset would be so different, the 0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:28.880 expectations would be so so. 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:32.440 Different due to your path in giving up drinking. Yes, 0:06:32.920 --> 0:06:36.279 that is you know, there have been many moments where 0:06:36.279 --> 0:06:38.680 I've been a dry drunk, and those moments are still 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:41.560 alive and well where I have to check myself. And 0:06:41.640 --> 0:06:46.839 it was interesting during that entire season that there were 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:52.400 some women that were sober and said, I know exactly 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:55.840 what she's doing right now. This is step five, this 0:06:55.920 --> 0:06:57.799 is step four, this is step nine. 0:06:58.440 --> 0:06:59.760 And I wish that. 0:06:59.800 --> 0:07:02.520 Van under Pump rules would have captured more of my 0:07:02.640 --> 0:07:05.360 sobriety and what goes into it, because it's not just 0:07:05.440 --> 0:07:07.400 I wake up and don't drink. There's a lot of 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:11.080 things I'm held accountable, whether it's on camera or not. 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:13.800 I have a sponsor that I go to and I 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:17.680 it's I'm in constant conflict because everything that I practice 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:22.840 in my sobriety to God into the world is counterintuitive 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:26.400 of what I do for a living, and it is 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:33.040 a mind fuck. And there are so many times Sorry. 0:07:33.280 --> 0:07:35.840 Oh it's okay, I have goosebumps. I want you to 0:07:35.840 --> 0:07:37.160 know I feel what you're saying. 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:40.760 Thank you, Like at. 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:42.720 Night when I come home from filming and things, and 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:45.360 I'm like, I know that, like I spoke my truth 0:07:45.400 --> 0:07:47.120 and things like that, and I know that, like this 0:07:47.280 --> 0:07:50.680 is my real life, and I know that this is 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:55.600 also entertainment, but I feel like I'm I'm letting myself 0:07:55.640 --> 0:07:57.800 down and I'm like trying to make it right with God. 0:07:57.920 --> 0:07:59.440 Like I hope you understand. 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:03.880 It's very confusing at times. So I'm happy that you're 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:06.960 coming from a place of not drinking and knowing how 0:08:07.040 --> 0:08:11.440 it can be a conflict. Sorry, I did not expect 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:13.560 that to happen. I should expect it to happen. 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:13.920 I cry. 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:20.440 I am a crier by nature. Anyway, there's that. And 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:23.600 I'm really happy that you called in to talk about 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:26.040 one of the biggest pieces of my life, which is sobriety. 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:28.720 It's the most important thing to me. Without it, like, 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:31.360 I can't show it for my kids, I can't provide 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:34.160 for them. I'm worthless to every single person. So I'm 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:37.280 so happy that. I mean, your skin alone shows that 0:08:37.320 --> 0:08:40.520 you don't drink. By the way, you've got gorgeous skin 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:41.160 and hair. 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:44.720 Well, well, I appreciate that a lot. I love crying. 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:47.520 I encourage crying As a speech therapist, I encourage all 0:08:47.520 --> 0:08:50.440 of this, like express yourself. Okay, sometimes we don't have 0:08:50.480 --> 0:08:53.319 the words cry, that's us feeling. We're on a spinning 0:08:53.679 --> 0:08:56.120 rock in space. So if we can feel for a moment. 0:08:56.160 --> 0:08:59.000 I love that. Online I go by Connection Queen, because 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:02.160 I actually like connecting people. This is real life. Yeah, 0:09:02.200 --> 0:09:06.120 this is a connection. So that being said, you know, 0:09:06.160 --> 0:09:08.960 sobriety for me also kind of leads into my life 0:09:09.040 --> 0:09:13.640 as a speech therapist. I started to really focus more 0:09:13.679 --> 0:09:16.800 with my free time of not planning outfits and makeup 0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:18.280 and where you know, now I have to go to 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:20.319 the grocery store and grab alcohol and then prep the 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:22.600 drinks and YadA, YadA, YadA. Right now I get to 0:09:22.640 --> 0:09:25.199 actually like focus on things that matter the most to me, 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:28.320 which is my health, my family, and I call them 0:09:28.360 --> 0:09:30.880 my families, the families that I work with. I'm a 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:34.120 really big advocate because special needs is it's prevalent, it's 0:09:34.120 --> 0:09:36.960 here and everything. I was at Bravocan you were on 0:09:37.040 --> 0:09:39.160 stage with Britney cart right for the Valley one of 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:42.760 the interviews, and that was a moment during my sobriety journey. 0:09:43.240 --> 0:09:46.200 I was celebrating a year like two weeks later that 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:48.320 I was like, oh my gosh. In the past, I 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:51.760 would like take a shot or something to ask the room. 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:53.319 There was a lot of people in that room. Yea, 0:09:53.760 --> 0:09:55.920 I know, I talk to people every day, but it's 0:09:55.920 --> 0:09:58.160 a little different, you know, when you're in front of people. 0:09:58.400 --> 0:10:00.160 And that was when I was like, no, you're just 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:01.800 going to take your deep breaths. You're gonna think about 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:05.520 your question because you got this, and that was so empowering. 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:08.120 I was like, yoh, new level unlocked. It's just like 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:10.200 I don't know how to explain it other than like 0:10:10.240 --> 0:10:13.000 if you know, you know, if I know there's something 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:15.120 like that where yeah, like in the past, I would 0:10:15.120 --> 0:10:16.960 have had to rely on this as a crutch. Now 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:19.040 it's like, nope, I am the crutch. It's me baby. 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:19.880 We got to do this. 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:21.520 I'm just so happy for you. 0:10:22.520 --> 0:10:24.000 Thank you. No, it feels good. 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:26.480 I wish I could show people, because you do start 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:28.600 to think like, oh my gosh, if I give up drinking, 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:31.000 am I going to know how to like connect with people, 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:33.520 talk to people? Am I going to be interesting? And 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:35.720 I sometimes when people have come to me to you know, 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:40.680 trying to get sober, I'm like, you, drinking is not interesting, 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:43.760 it's sad, it's there. 0:10:44.400 --> 0:10:47.240 How else to explain it other than this is just 0:10:47.280 --> 0:10:49.720 the behavior that you've adopted into your every day and 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:52.480 until you really like take a second. But I do 0:10:52.520 --> 0:10:54.360 feel like we have to be the ones to do it. 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:56.640 I've had so many different things happen in my life 0:10:56.679 --> 0:10:58.520 where people have brought it up to me, and I 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:01.960 just have been so ignorant, naive, selfish, I don't know 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:04.880 what to call it, genuinely, but I didn't see it. 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:06.040 I weren't ready. 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:09.720 I just wasn't ready. Yeah, it was not there, Like 0:11:09.800 --> 0:11:11.600 even if they held the picture in front of me, 0:11:11.600 --> 0:11:15.000 I'd be like, nope, it's blue, not green. So until 0:11:15.040 --> 0:11:17.080 I was in that place mensally where I was like, 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:21.640 all right, actually I'm curious. Now I've done my twenties drinking, 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:24.040 I want to know what it's like in my thirties 0:11:24.080 --> 0:11:26.000 to not drink. That was just an idea that I had. 0:11:26.120 --> 0:11:28.680 That's how it happened. And then I just said I 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:31.960 want to keep I want to be thirty thirty, my 0:11:32.040 --> 0:11:35.840 thirtieth birthday no alcohol. And now it's just something that 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:38.280 I'm going to keep doing. I enjoy it. I like 0:11:39.400 --> 0:11:42.960 the Miranda I'm becoming every year. I mean, it's just different. 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:43.840 It's just different. 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:46.400 I'm very very happy for you, and you know exactly 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:49.719 where to find me if you ever need an uplifting 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:51.960 you know, DM, I've got. 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:54.720 You think you know. I appreciate that. And also like, 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:56.959 this isn't the first transformation I've had. I used to 0:11:56.960 --> 0:11:58.920 be two hundred and fifty pounds. I had weight loss 0:11:58.920 --> 0:12:03.079 surgery almost like nine year years ago. Yeah, the first. Yeah, 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:05.920 that was the first transformation that Miranda had. It took 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:09.120 Miranda almost a decade to come to this new level. 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:11.600 But that's why I'm like each year kind of throughout 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:16.199 that journey, I learned so much about myself that's incredible. 0:12:16.640 --> 0:12:19.319 So it's just cool, Like I really do encourage people 0:12:19.360 --> 0:12:21.480 to change. Like, I know it could be scary and stuff, 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:25.280 but it is. It's such a good feeling. There's no word. 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:27.120 I don't have a word for it. It's just a feeling, 0:12:27.240 --> 0:12:27.440 you know. 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:30.240 No. But I'm excited for people to see this video 0:12:31.120 --> 0:12:34.160 because I think you can just tell, like from what 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:37.600 you're exuding right now, I get like, yeah, you get 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:41.840 giddy and you're very You're just alive. And I am 0:12:41.960 --> 0:12:44.880 digging everything that you're saying. So I think you're a 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:49.360 walking testimonial to what taking your life by the ovaries 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:52.480 and you know saying this isn't working for me anymore. 0:12:52.520 --> 0:12:54.280 So I'm going to make a change. And you know 0:12:54.280 --> 0:12:57.120 what I always say, I reserve the right to change 0:12:57.160 --> 0:13:00.080 how I feel today tomorrow if I feel differently. If 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:02.360 you are not here to tell me if that's right, wrong, 0:13:02.480 --> 0:13:05.040 or point it out to me, I'm well aware what 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:07.880 once worked now doesn't and tomorrow could be different. 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:12.440 I and didn't get that until I got sober from alcohol. 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:12.800 I know. 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:15.120 It's pretty incredible, right yes. 0:13:15.160 --> 0:13:17.719 And now, like that's the part of the empathy I'm 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:21.199 talking about, because with that you're able to then empathize 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:23.320 and go, oh well, maybe it didn't work for them today. 0:13:23.480 --> 0:13:25.199 But if we don't have that awareness, how could I 0:13:25.240 --> 0:13:26.840 even id at a thought like that? 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:27.400 Right? 0:13:28.520 --> 0:13:31.120 No, you're you're a smart bitch, and thank you for 0:13:31.200 --> 0:13:34.480 all the work that you do helping families advocating for them. 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:37.520 Yes, please, parents know you're right. Parents have so many 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:40.199 rights for their kids, and school districts don't want you 0:13:40.240 --> 0:13:42.120 to know about it. So please, if any parents have 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:44.920 any questions, please please let me know. I will do 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:47.240 pro bono work and help families out because it's my 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:51.400 life's mission to help families, especially as a speech language 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:55.959 pathologist with speech cases. You know, IEPs are scary, So please, 0:13:55.960 --> 0:13:57.480 if we could use a little piece of this to 0:13:57.600 --> 0:14:01.160 just you know, help advocate about special needs, the IEP, 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:03.080 the school districts, all of that, it would mean the 0:14:03.080 --> 0:14:03.559 world to me. 0:14:03.840 --> 0:14:05.720 What is your handle? Where can people find you? 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:06.240 So? 0:14:06.400 --> 0:14:09.560 Yes, my handle is Connection Queen. I definitely talk about 0:14:09.559 --> 0:14:11.400 a lot of reality TV stuff. I am in the 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:14.800 works right now of coming up with a new platform 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:17.600 where I can actually like help just you know, streamline 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:20.600 education and advocacy for special needs. 0:14:20.680 --> 0:14:23.720 For sure, you're an incredible person. We're very grateful. 0:14:23.840 --> 0:14:25.920 Thank you. No, I appreciate that, Lava so so much. 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:29.080 Thank you, thanks for letting me come on and just ramble, and. 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:31.800 You're always most welcome. You're a part of the pod. 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:34.640 Oh my gosh, I love that. Thank you, No, seriously, though, 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:37.080 I do appreciate it and what you've done and share 0:14:37.120 --> 0:14:39.920 your life. Not many people could do so as much 0:14:39.920 --> 0:14:42.200 as all of us yap online about it. It's like 0:14:42.200 --> 0:14:44.320 to be able to say to you, like, thanks for sharing, 0:14:44.440 --> 0:14:46.840 thanks for letting me talk my online. I appreciate it. 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:49.040 You're so welcome, You're very very cool. 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:52.200 Please end my sessions by the way with my students 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:54.600 two thumbs up, round of applause and a heart. So 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:55.720 I'm gonna do the same for you. 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:59.160 I love it, baby, Thank you so much. We'll be 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:00.800 in touch. I'm going to hit you up. 0:15:01.240 --> 0:15:01.560 Thanks. 0:15:01.680 --> 0:15:03.640 Yes, if any of your friends have questions, let me 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:04.040 know with the. 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:21.440 Kids, definitely bybe able Kristin, Hello, gorgeous, Like you are. 0:15:21.320 --> 0:15:24.240 So good at taking accountability for the things that you've 0:15:24.280 --> 0:15:27.400 done and the journey that you've been on. And I 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:31.080 also think that it's a lot of people are casting 0:15:31.160 --> 0:15:33.760 judgment that haven't walked them out on your shoes. And 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:38.040 I think it's really easy for people to be able 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:39.840 to tell you what you should do when they haven't 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:40.480 done any of. 0:15:40.440 --> 0:15:42.680 It, you know what. I feel like? 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:46.360 That's kind of life though, right, Like every every situation 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:50.160 is so nuanced, and there's so many ins and outs 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:53.360 of life, and then you take into account how someone 0:15:54.360 --> 0:15:57.800 was raised, like their upbringing and things that they experienced 0:15:57.800 --> 0:16:01.800 as a child that they may have carried into adulthood, 0:16:01.920 --> 0:16:07.600 and it's just so complex. And I had like reading 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:12.720 the hate comments, the beef comments, and seeing such an 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:18.720 overwhelming amount of people who were asking to do this episode, 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:21.400 like let us show you love, let us give you 0:16:21.400 --> 0:16:25.040 your flowers. It was such a moment of like I 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:27.440 really put which I haven't. 0:16:27.640 --> 0:16:28.920 I haven't always done. 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:30.800 This is the more recent in the last couple of 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:36.280 years where I fixate on the hateful comments and I 0:16:36.280 --> 0:16:39.320 forget about all of the people who really have rocked 0:16:39.320 --> 0:16:43.840 hard with me and had constructive criticism, which I always welcome. 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:47.600 And during season eleven, You're gonna die the amount of 0:16:47.640 --> 0:16:51.120 messages my mom got showing me love and then at 0:16:51.160 --> 0:16:53.520 the end saying, if you choose to share this, please 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:54.520 don't mention my name. 0:16:55.160 --> 0:17:00.280 I was like, Wow, I am so alone. 0:17:01.160 --> 0:17:03.640 And that's unfair and it shouldn't be that way. 0:17:03.720 --> 0:17:07.320 And I'm so thankful as a viewer that you've been 0:17:07.400 --> 0:17:11.280 vulnerable and shared some really hard things, because some of 0:17:11.320 --> 0:17:14.359 the things that you've walked through aren't things that are 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:15.000 talked about. 0:17:15.359 --> 0:17:17.280 And so for those people out there that. 0:17:17.240 --> 0:17:20.240 Are listening and that are watching you go through these things, 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:23.440 not that it gives them a roadmap of what they 0:17:23.440 --> 0:17:26.080 should do, but it gives them the feeling of not 0:17:26.320 --> 0:17:28.399 being alone and not being isolated. 0:17:29.200 --> 0:17:30.240 And I'm just so. 0:17:30.240 --> 0:17:32.720 Grateful that you've shared your journey and the things that 0:17:32.760 --> 0:17:35.840 you've gone through. I know I wrote in a little 0:17:35.840 --> 0:17:38.480 about my story, but I think it helps like connect 0:17:38.480 --> 0:17:39.399 the dots a little bit. 0:17:39.440 --> 0:17:43.639 If you will, Can you share I know your message, 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:47.199 but I also want our listeners to know your story. 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:50.680 Yeah, so I guess it really starts in twenty thirteen. 0:17:50.800 --> 0:17:53.440 We have my family had a car accident. My two 0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:57.439 daughters and I were involved in that. My daughter, Aubrey 0:17:57.440 --> 0:17:59.119 was eight months old at the time, and she passed 0:17:59.119 --> 0:18:03.000 away pretty quickly. We got to the hospital and they 0:18:03.080 --> 0:18:05.680 told us there was essentially nothing that they could do. 0:18:06.520 --> 0:18:11.080 We just had to wait for God to take. 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:10.720 Her from us. 0:18:11.200 --> 0:18:16.359 Essentially, our other daughter, Brooke, was four, and she was 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:18.120 intubated on the scene. 0:18:18.359 --> 0:18:20.000 She was fighting for her life. 0:18:20.800 --> 0:18:22.720 The girls couldn't be in the same room because of 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:27.600 their needs, so they were separated. And I didn't know 0:18:27.680 --> 0:18:32.000 the severity of Brooks injuries at the time. I sat 0:18:32.040 --> 0:18:35.360 in that hospital room beside my eight month old and 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:40.280 I just remember praying for God to provide a miracle 0:18:40.320 --> 0:18:43.760 in that moment, and we were watching the monitors and 0:18:43.920 --> 0:18:47.080 her ICP number started to drop, and I really thought 0:18:47.119 --> 0:18:50.600 that was God answering our prayers. And I asked the 0:18:50.680 --> 0:18:55.160 nurse and she said, with tears in her eyes, she said, no, honey, unfortunately, 0:18:55.359 --> 0:18:58.760 her brain has gone down into her spinal column and 0:18:58.760 --> 0:19:03.199 that's why that number has gone down. And she just 0:19:03.240 --> 0:19:06.600 had sat with me and listened all night to my story, 0:19:06.840 --> 0:19:08.640 our life with our girls. 0:19:09.359 --> 0:19:12.840 I was still breastfeeding, we were co sleeping. So she 0:19:13.160 --> 0:19:14.840 in that moment, she. 0:19:14.800 --> 0:19:17.239