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Speaker 1: Hi, this is Jorlan Victoria. Thanks so much for listening

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Speaker 1: to the podcast, and thanks for supporting the ministry. We

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Speaker 1: believe you're going to have an awesome twenty twenty four, healthy, productive,

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Speaker 1: and favor filed. God bless you today and enjoy the message.

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Speaker 2: You know, I want to talk to us a little

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Speaker 2: bit about relationships and how to bring value to our relationships.

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Speaker 2: You know, we're going to be around people all the time,

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Speaker 2: and we're going to have people in our life that

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Speaker 2: are close to us, and some of those relationships can

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Speaker 2: bring us great joy and satisfaction. And sometimes some of

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Speaker 2: those same relationships can be a source of frustration, and

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Speaker 2: they can be a challenge in our life. We've got

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Speaker 2: to learn to balance the two extremes. Have you ever

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Speaker 2: been in love with someone a moment and then they

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Speaker 2: say something you don't like and you're mad at them.

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Speaker 2: That doesn't make sense. We got fickle feelings. We've got

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Speaker 2: to learn how to balance these things called real relationships

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Speaker 2: and learn to bring out the best in each other

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Speaker 2: and enjoy relationships. Listen to what the apostle Paul teaches

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Speaker 2: us in First Corinthians thirteen point five. He says love

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Speaker 2: keeps no records of wrongs. Love keeps no records of wrongs.

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Speaker 3: You see, the.

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Speaker 2: Apostle Paul was telling us, if we're gonna balance out

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Speaker 2: our relationships and we're gonna enjoy them, we're not gonna

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Speaker 2: be frustrated and irritated. We're going to have to learn

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Speaker 2: to keep records of the good things. We're going to

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Speaker 2: have to learn to find the good in our relationship,

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Speaker 2: the good in the people that we are connected to.

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Speaker 3: See, it's easy to see the worst in people.

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you that takes no effort, and it

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Speaker 2: certainly takes no faith. But when we begin to keep

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Speaker 2: no records of wrong and we begin to look at

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Speaker 2: the good, we have a grateful heart. Now think about this,

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Speaker 2: Love keeps no records of wrong. The only way that

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Speaker 2: we can accomplish this is to let love rule. See

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Speaker 2: God is love. He is the very essence of love.

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Speaker 2: When we think about this for a minute, about God's love,

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Speaker 2: we think, now, God, if you were to have recorded

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Speaker 2: our mistakes, if you were to have recorded all the

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Speaker 2: things that we've done wrong, would you ever have given

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Speaker 2: us the very best Jesus Christ, would you have sent

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Speaker 2: your only son in place of our mistakes? See, love

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Speaker 2: is the essence of Almighty God, and he's put that

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Speaker 2: love on the inside of us.

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Speaker 3: And the only way that we're going to be able to.

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Speaker 2: Balance out relationships and certainly enjoy them, is to let

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Speaker 2: the love grow.

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Speaker 3: I was several years ago.

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Speaker 2: I was right down here at prayer time, praying with

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Speaker 2: a woman, and she came to me and she said, Victoria,

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Speaker 2: you need to pray for me. My husband has disappointed

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Speaker 2: me so much. He does all these things.

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Speaker 3: That I don't like.

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Speaker 2: Then she pulled up these three sheets of paper that

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Speaker 2: she held in her hand, and she opened him up,

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Speaker 2: and I began to look at the offenses on the

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Speaker 2: in different color ink, and some were written in pencil.

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Speaker 2: And I thought, well, why are they written in different

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Speaker 2: color ink and in pencil? And she said, you know why,

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Speaker 2: because as soon as he does something I don't like,

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Speaker 2: she said, I'll grab the closest pen or pencil that

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Speaker 2: I have and I'll write it down as quickly as

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Speaker 2: I thought, okay. I prayed for her. There's only so

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Speaker 2: much you can do at the altar. Sweet woman, Sweet woman,

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Speaker 2: you know, she came up for prayer, she was giving

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Speaker 2: it to God. When I got back in my seat,

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Speaker 2: I was thinking of it, and I thought, Lord, you know,

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Speaker 2: if I see her again, I'm gonna tell her, you know,

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Speaker 2: And then I have all this download what I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: tell her? Right, But I thought to myself, wouldn't she

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Speaker 2: be much happier if she would just tear that list up?

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Speaker 2: If she wouldn't keep a record, a running list of

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Speaker 2: the things that she sees that's wrong. Wouldn't her life

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Speaker 2: be better, less frustrated. Wouldn't she operate from a position

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Speaker 2: of power if she would just tear that list up?

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Speaker 2: Because the truth of the matter is the greatest power

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Speaker 2: that we operate in is when we trust God. Is

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Speaker 2: when we say God, it doesn't matter how many things

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Speaker 2: It doesn't matter if they do the things.

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Speaker 3: That I like or dislike.

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Speaker 2: That doesn't change who I am, doesn't change my destiny.

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Speaker 2: Because I trust you God, you got my back. I

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Speaker 2: position of power. When we're frustrated, when we're always looking

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Speaker 3: We're at a position of weakness.

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Speaker 2: We're running at a deficit because that's how we're going

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Speaker 3: We're going to respond to people in our life from

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Speaker 2: You know, some of us don't make physical lists, but

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Speaker 2: that people do when they hurt us. They don't make

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Speaker 2: us feel good. They do things their way and not

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Speaker 2: then when it happens again, we have this automatic recording

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Speaker 2: in our mind that says, well, there they go again.

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Speaker 3: They're always going to be like that. They're never going

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Speaker 3: to change. There they go. That's who they are. And

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Speaker 3: you know what, that is not a healthy place to

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Speaker 3: be because you know what happens. It hurts us.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it not only hurts the other person and

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Speaker 2: damages our relationships, but it frustrates us.

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Speaker 3: It hurts us so God, I mean, it's saying.

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Speaker 2: Through the apostle, Paul, one of the ways you can

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Speaker 2: balance all this out is to clean the slate every day.

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Speaker 3: To let people off the hook.

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Speaker 2: To understand the best health you can be to them

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Speaker 2: is when you're operating out of a place of wholeness, happiness,

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Speaker 2: and strength. Keep no records of wrongs. Listen, nobody's perfect,

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Speaker 2: No relationship is perfect.

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Speaker 2: Can I stop there just a minute, because I've heard

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Speaker 2: that a lot lately.

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Speaker 3: Nobody's perfect.

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Speaker 2: Some people say nobody's perfect, and you know that's why

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Speaker 3: But the truth of the matter.

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Speaker 2: Is we serve a perfect God, and his spirit is

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Speaker 2: on the inside of us, So we should at least

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Speaker 2: set our sights on perfection. We should at least set

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Speaker 2: our sights on developing everything that He's put on the

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Speaker 2: inside of us. Can you imagine walking this earth being

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Speaker 2: soulful of love, soulful of faithfulness, that nothing shakes you, nothing.

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Speaker 3: Rocks your boat.

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Speaker 2: When your child says something or he does something that

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Speaker 2: you don't particularly agree with, that you say, I love

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Speaker 2: you anyway.

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Speaker 3: Tell me.

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Speaker 2: Can you imagine the response that the people in our

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Speaker 2: life would have when we love them anyway? Can you

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Speaker 2: imagine the meaningful conversations that we can have when we're

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Speaker 2: operating of this place a pure love. Now, people don't

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Speaker 2: always want to hear it, but men, when they know

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Speaker 2: you love them, seed goes down on the inside of

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Speaker 2: them and they carry that seed with them. You know,

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Speaker 2: more is caught, more is caught with honey. More flies

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Speaker 2: were caught with honey than vinegar. Things are absorbed when

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Speaker 2: you are coming at it from a place of love,

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Speaker 2: like you know what, I can't change you.

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Speaker 3: God can change you. All I can do is love you.

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Speaker 2: Bible says, oh, no, man, but to love them.

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Speaker 3: Listen. Life is too short to live frustrated.

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Speaker 2: Life is too short, and it's too precious to be

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Speaker 2: out of balance with the people in your life.

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Speaker 3: You know as well as I do.

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Speaker 2: One minute, you can love somebody till they do something

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Speaker 2: you don't like. Listen, We've got to step back, and

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Speaker 2: we've got to say, Okay, this morning, I wipe the

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Speaker 2: everybody in my life off the book. I'm gonna let

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Speaker 2: them be who God's called them to be. I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: do my job, and I'm gonna be more effective in

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Speaker 2: that job when I come from a place to love.

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Speaker 2: the great thing. He helps us. He doesn't expect us

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