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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space, the blood,

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Speaker 1: the beginning, which is a whild This five years has

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Speaker 2: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting

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Speaker 2: women like you. We're your hosts doctor Dominique Broussard, a

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Speaker 1: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 2: Hey, lady, is doctor dom here from the Cultivating her

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Speaker 2: Space Podcast. Are you currently a resident of the state

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Speaker 3: Our quote of the day. In a world where black

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Speaker 1: Tee. You always make me laugh when you say that, Well.

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Speaker 3: This is about This was our quote and we came

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Speaker 1: Oh wait, we don't see diversity on your website? Then

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, I would definitely agree. And I you know,

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Speaker 1: All right, let's get back to the show. And when

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Speaker 1: I say that, what I mean, lady, is that I

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Speaker 1: often think about my own death because I've experienced a

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Speaker 1: lot of loss and gone to plenty of funerals, and

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Speaker 1: so I just have a relationship with death that's a

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Speaker 1: little interesting for some folks that I like to talk

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Speaker 1: about it. It inspires me and I think that there

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Speaker 1: are more conversations that could be had around it to

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Speaker 1: give us a bit more comfort and ease when that

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Speaker 1: time comes, because death is inevitable, right for a fact,

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Speaker 1: it's going to impact us all. And so I remember

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Speaker 1: having that conversation Don and being really excited to talk

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Speaker 1: about legacy and what it means to have a bit

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Speaker 1: more control over something that is often uncontrollable for us

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Speaker 1: and that gives us a lack of control in most cases.

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Speaker 1: So's I'll start there, and now I'll probably circle back,

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Speaker 1: but I want to pass it to you what you remember.

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Speaker 3: What I remembered from this particular episode, and being one

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Speaker 3: of those people who is like, okay, so we're embraced,

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Speaker 3: saying that this is not something that I am used to,

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Speaker 3: but also recognizing my role as a therapist and that

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Speaker 3: I am going to be working with people in Greef

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Speaker 3: with Greece and then even for and so what does

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Speaker 3: that look like in working with people on the back end,

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Speaker 3: right who are dealing with grief, But then also just

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Speaker 3: from a life perspective, having to really face like, okay, no,

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Speaker 3: you can't run from it, right, that you're right that

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Speaker 3: all of us are going to die at some point.

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Speaker 3: We don't know when, but at one point we all

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Speaker 3: will die. And what does that look like in terms

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Speaker 3: of thinking about legacy. And I also remember from this

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Speaker 3: episode like just being able to bear a witness to

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Speaker 3: you reflecting on your grandmother's life all right, and how

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Speaker 3: special just recognizing how special those relationships are with certain

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Speaker 3: people in our lives. And it felt you know, we

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Speaker 3: at that point, me even doing the podcast for not

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Speaker 3: even a whole year yet, and so it felt really

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Speaker 3: special to have this opportunity to not only support you

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Speaker 3: in the death of your grandmother, but also support you

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Speaker 3: in this decision to give away your wedding dress in

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Speaker 3: honor of her.

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Speaker 1: Thank you job. I appreciate you being open, because I

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Speaker 1: know it was not something you were like, oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: let's go overcord this episode. And I appreciate you walking

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Speaker 1: with me like okay, like I'm a back push you

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Speaker 1: in supporting the missionaire. So thank you for that time.

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Speaker 3: And then oh, one more thing I say about that too,

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Speaker 3: that you that that just reminded me, is that in

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Speaker 3: that overall process of us having the like in the

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Speaker 3: podcast itself, in deciding on content, that like like you said,

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Speaker 3: me being open to something that I wasn't as comfortable

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Speaker 3: talking about INITIALI or that something and something that more

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Speaker 3: specifically something that you were really passionate about having the

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Speaker 3: conversation around right and thinking about how we create content.

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Speaker 1: That it's not all.

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Speaker 3: It's not one person says that this is what we're

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Speaker 3: gonna do, and so we do it. It's we engage

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Speaker 3: in dialogue around what we want to talk about, what

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Speaker 3: topics we want to bring in, what guests we want

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Speaker 3: to bring in. And by the term you hear this episode, lady,

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Speaker 3: or any episode, really, let me be clear, by the

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Speaker 3: time you hear any episode, know that there has been

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Speaker 3: conversation around the way the content is put together. Yes,

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Speaker 3: and and that I you know, like Terry, I'm very

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Speaker 3: grateful that we have a relationship and we've had it

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Speaker 3: from the beginning, that we that we have the chemistry

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Speaker 3: that we have, that we are committed to creating content

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Speaker 3: for our audience, that we both are in support of. Yes, correct,

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Speaker 3: and sometimes it takes one of us a little bit

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Speaker 3: longer to get there. Yes, Yes, But the way in

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Speaker 3: which we the way in which we support one another

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Speaker 3: and we and we decide on content, it's a great

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Speaker 3: partnership that I'm grateful for.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Graham, So grateful for you, it's so beautiful.

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Speaker 1: We need to I don't know, maybe one day that

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Speaker 1: that's what our book will be about how we managed that,

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Speaker 1: because it's we definitely have something special, and I think

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Speaker 1: it's dope that people friends from our lives, individual lives

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Speaker 1: and then people who listen to like y'all got a

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Speaker 1: really good chemistry and it's like it's authentic.

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Speaker 2: You know it.

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Speaker 1: We'll be trying, we just we just do it. So

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Speaker 1: don what is one of your episodes that you want

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Speaker 1: to talk about?

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Speaker 3: So all right, we're gonna totally like, all right, lady,

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Speaker 3: you were having a conversation about this, We're going to

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Speaker 3: totally switch gears. Which is what I love about what

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Speaker 3: we were here, right this is this is viral authenticity

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Speaker 3: and our multy fast as itselves.

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Speaker 1: Is that.

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Speaker 3: One of my episodes that I want to talk about

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Speaker 3: is our episode with doctor James Widley. And this episode

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Speaker 3: came during towards the end of twenty twenty, and this

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Speaker 3: episode is titled getting it In that's intimatestying dating in

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Speaker 3: terms of quarantine with doctor James Widley. Now, we do

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Speaker 3: not have a lot of male get on the show, right,

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Speaker 3: and so when we do, we are very intentional about

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Speaker 3: who we bring on. Doctor Widley is a whole ass vibe. Okay,

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Speaker 3: let's me just say and I think it's not a requirement,

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Speaker 3: but it is definitely a bonus when you are talking

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Speaker 3: with talking about sex and talking about couples and relationships,

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Speaker 3: which is what doctor Widley does right. She is a

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Speaker 3: he's the director of a sex therapy program. I mean

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Speaker 3: that conversation. People don't like talking about that from People

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Speaker 3: are uncomfortable talking about that. And if some people will

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Speaker 3: talk about that from from there's a wide range in

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Speaker 3: which conversations about sex can happen. And what I will say,

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Speaker 3: what I remember from that episode is us having lots

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Speaker 3: of last and having a good time, but also talking

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Speaker 3: about something personal, like talking about something that's really personal

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Speaker 3: for a lot of people in a way that was

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Speaker 3: not stigmatizing or shaming.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm looking at the date of the episode. I

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Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh, this feels like lifetimes ago.

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Speaker 1: But what I remember, you know that Maya Angelo quote.

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Speaker 1: People forget what she said? What's she say again? Don Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's been a long day and I have a little

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Speaker 1: bit of a headache to don't mind me. But people

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Speaker 1: will forget what you say, but they'll remember how you

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Speaker 1: made them feel.

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Speaker 2: Is that right? Yes?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember this interview being so fun and me smiling,

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Speaker 1: laughing so hard that my mouth hurts, like I remember

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Speaker 1: having to be like, okay, girl, like we're going to

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Speaker 1: take the break for laughing. Because doctor wildly as funny

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Speaker 1: as all hell, but also extremely knowledgeable, so I felt

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Speaker 1: like there was a lot of clarity, and there was

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Speaker 1: He dove into topics in a way that I felt

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Speaker 1: would be that would be consumable for black men, right

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Speaker 1: and the men in our lives, but also made it

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Speaker 1: really fun and it was just you gotta go check

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Speaker 1: it out, okay, talking about pleasure and creativity and Rogerin

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Speaker 1: has zoned all that good stuff. Lady, go check that

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Speaker 1: think yees yeah, okay, shall we get into the next

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Speaker 1: episode here?

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Speaker 3: Yes, we shut out.

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Speaker 1: So this is season five, episode four, and the episode

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Speaker 1: is how your words are creating your current reality? Put

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Speaker 1: some respect on your name? Okay that part? That part? Now,

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Speaker 1: I you have this episode, don because I think I'm

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Speaker 1: looking at the show those likeg make sure I can remember.

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Speaker 3: I swear.

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Speaker 1: It's like you record a podcast episode and then you

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Speaker 1: forget what you say. Like someone could be like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: remember when you said this? Who said that?

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Speaker 3: I I had them conversations regular with people be like

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Speaker 3: I listened to this episode and you said and I

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Speaker 3: said that, Oh I do.

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Speaker 1: That's that's right. But it makes me think about when

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Speaker 1: we have guests one and you do the quote of

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Speaker 1: the day and they're like, oh, those are my words,

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Speaker 1: and you're like yeah. I feel like once we get

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Speaker 1: the download and you release it, then you're like, oh,

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Speaker 1: it's sound for something new. But I love this episode

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Speaker 1: because we really talked about the power of our words

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Speaker 1: and how we speak about ourselves. And I'm pretty sure

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Speaker 1: I probably talked about my struggle with low self esteem, depression,

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Speaker 1: all those things, and how I had a negative, a

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Speaker 1: negative recording like of just self talk or loop in

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Speaker 1: my mind and that was impacting how I was showing

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Speaker 1: up in the world and I really transformed my life,

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Speaker 1: but also the quality of my life by using words,

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Speaker 1: by using affirmations, by manifesting and coming from, you know,

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Speaker 1: a very violent and abusive household where I mean, my

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Speaker 1: self esteem was so low, and to think about where

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Speaker 1: I am now. Obviously always you know, work at your

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Speaker 1: work in progress is always room for improvement, but I

651
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Speaker 1: never thought that I'd be able to have the confidence

652
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Speaker 1: in the level of security that I have today. And

653
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Speaker 1: so I love that episode because I think it's a

654
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Speaker 1: great place for people to start if you are in

655
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Speaker 1: that space of you know what, You've got the negative

656
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Speaker 1: self talk on loop and you're trying to figure out

657
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Speaker 1: how to navigate out of that and reprogram your mind

658
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Speaker 1: for something else. That's what I remember from the episode

659
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Speaker 1: down what about You? So what I remember is.

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Speaker 3: So there's a couple of things that are coming up

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Speaker 3: for me, right, So there's stuck within the episode and

662
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Speaker 3: then the process behind the soul right and jo what's

663
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Speaker 3: coming up for me? As I now, let me just

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Speaker 3: be queer. I had to look at the show notes

665
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Speaker 3: and then the dolts the memory started coming, okay, honor

666
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Speaker 3: and looking at our notes as like me were creating

667
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Speaker 3: the content, and I see that like this is the point,

668
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Speaker 3: like wet, Like this episode is from season five, right,

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Speaker 3: so early twenty twenty, and at this point we're moving

670
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Speaker 3: from We're We've had a year of creating Curpent and

671
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Speaker 3: now we're like we slowly starting to think about with

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Speaker 3: how do we start to monetize, And this was one

673
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Speaker 3: of the first episodes where we had an egg really Now,

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Speaker 3: just to be clear, the ad was for our like

675
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 3: link associate links on Amazon. It wasn't like sponsored ads.

676
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Speaker 3: It was us trying to start the monetization process. And

677
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Speaker 3: when I look at that and I think about that's

678
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Speaker 3: where we started to where we are now with ads

679
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:57,040
Speaker 3: and sponsorship, it's a reminder of the episode itself, right,

680
00:41:57,320 --> 00:42:01,759
Speaker 3: like how your words are creating your reality that we

681
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Speaker 3: were speaking about literally in the episode, speaking about like monetization,

682
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Speaker 3: as we were encouraging you to go and purchase products

683
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Speaker 3: that we were talking about in the episode, and how

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Speaker 3: that led to where we are now.

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Speaker 1: So that's like the behind the scenes piece that came

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Speaker 1: up for me, right, Glass you mentioned that, and but

687
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Speaker 1: the content.

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Speaker 3: Within was I think the thing that one of the

689
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Speaker 3: things that set out for me is just the idea

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Speaker 3: of truly how we talk to ourselves. That it worked

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Speaker 3: constantly and I and I'm a work in progress on this,

692
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Speaker 3: but I've gotten a lot better of if I make

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Speaker 3: a mistake not saying oh girl, that was so stupid, right,

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Speaker 3: And and then also like when I hear my friends

695
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Speaker 3: saying something negative about themselves same wait hold on, uh um,

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Speaker 3: that's not my friend, and reframing it in a positive way, right, yes, girl,

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Speaker 3: And I like how we also talked about coming up

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Speaker 3: with positive affirmations that really reflect us as an individual

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Speaker 3: and want and focus on creating like positivity within m hm, girl, I'm.

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Speaker 1: Glad you mentioned the ad because I did not realize that.

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Speaker 1: So that's super cool to be like, oh dang, that's

702
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Speaker 1: when we first started to figure out, like, how are

703
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Speaker 1: we going to minuitize the podcast? You know what else?

704
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Speaker 1: That made me think about and it made me think

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Speaker 1: about BABYZ, my two and a half year old daughter,

706
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Speaker 1: and girl, I am just so me living her best life.

707
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Speaker 1: She has such a good life, and I'm so happy

708
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Speaker 1: for her because I'm like, girl, you're getting everything me

709
00:44:04,520 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 1: your daddy didn't have, and you deserve all that. But

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Speaker 1: I think about the self talk Tom and you know,

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Speaker 1: we've talked about how I work with her on when

712
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Speaker 1: we do affirmations and encourage her. She ain't ever heard

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Speaker 1: nothing negative about herself, which I think is like amazing

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Speaker 1: because we we just don't communicate in that way. So

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Speaker 1: there was a time recently where she was trying to

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Speaker 1: do something and she repeated back to me something I

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Speaker 1: always say to her. So it was something like, I

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Speaker 1: can do this, I got this, and you know, I

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Speaker 1: have confidence. Just little things like that, and like that

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Speaker 1: stuff is so important. So her the feedback loop that

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Speaker 1: she's gonna have when she grows up, it's going to

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Speaker 1: be way better than her mam as well. She won't

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Speaker 1: have to deal with a lot of the stuff that

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Speaker 1: I dealt with. So I just think that's what it

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Speaker 1: made me think of, which is so amazing. The last

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Speaker 1: thing I'm want to point out related to this episode

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Speaker 1: is the quote of the day, because I thought that

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Speaker 1: was such a great not just because it's a quote

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Speaker 1: for me, but I think it's just a really great

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Speaker 1: question that we can ask ourselves. I promise y'all. Let

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Speaker 1: me just read this to y'all. Yes, you can get it.

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Speaker 3: It's great.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. It sounds better coming from you.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: So the quote is if someone overheard your internal dialogue,

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Speaker 1: what would they think how you talk to yourself and

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Speaker 1: how you talk about yourself is impacting the way you

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Speaker 1: show up in the world. Put some respect on your name.

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Speaker 1: And I want to ensure that we're not you know,

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Speaker 1: encouraging someone to feel shame about the way that you're

741
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Speaker 1: talking because we all are in the space that we're

742
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Speaker 1: in based off of our previous experiences and what the

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Speaker 1: tools that we believed were available to us. That I

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Speaker 1: think it should it should give you pause, right Like

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Speaker 1: if someone or to put a loud speaker on, like

746
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Speaker 1: in an auditorium, and everyone were to hear the way

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Speaker 1: I was speaking to myself, it should bring up some

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Speaker 1: type of emotion where it's like, oh, I probably wouldn't

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Speaker 1: want people to hear that. I probably deserve to speak

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Speaker 1: better about myself. So that's all I want to say

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Speaker 1: about that.

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Speaker 3: Yes, then we're gonna put some respect on your name

753
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Speaker 3: and allow you to have some allow you to celebrate

754
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Speaker 3: that your quote of the day in this episode was

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Speaker 3: the possible as it was. Okay, thank you girl, Okay,

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Speaker 3: I appreciate you.

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Speaker 1: So we have what two more episodes, your episode and

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Speaker 1: then the one that we both chose. Both chose yes.

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Speaker 3: Yes. So the episode that I chose, episode number four

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Speaker 3: on our list, is an episode that a lot of

761
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Speaker 3: people really resonated with and thus led to hosting a

762
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Speaker 3: virtual workshop to give fult an opportunity to have more content,

763
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:40,800
Speaker 3: a lady, if you did not have an opportunity to

764
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:46,160
Speaker 3: benefit from that workshop, please know that there is always

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Speaker 3: a link in our show note that will take you

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Speaker 3: directly to that workshop where you can access that content

767
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Speaker 3: for a small fee. Okay, so the episode is from

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Speaker 3: the seed Room. So the top of twenty one, so

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Speaker 3: you know, just to kind of set the stage, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 3: the top of twenty two. And so we are, you know,

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Speaker 3: the pandemic has been what it is, and we are

772
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Speaker 3: trying to figure out are we really gonna for real

773
00:47:16,440 --> 00:47:21,040
Speaker 3: be outside? And we're like, all right, so we've had

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Speaker 3: the last two years of like, what the hell? What

775
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Speaker 3: is this year gonna bring? How are we gonna set

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Speaker 3: the stage for having a great year because we thought

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Speaker 3: twenty twenty was gonna be it with our visualization and that,

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Speaker 3: and that wasn't not twenty twenty win. Now twenty twenty one,

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Speaker 3: we were like, all right, we just gonna we just

780
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Speaker 3: gonna ride this out because we learned from twenty twenty.

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Speaker 3: We don't know and by this point we're like, no,

782
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Speaker 3: we need need to make sure that we are in

783
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Speaker 3: a good stade of vibrating higher right like that.

784
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Speaker 1: We need.

785
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Speaker 3: How we can leave things behind that aren't serving us

786
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Speaker 3: and move forward to focus on the things that are

787
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:16,759
Speaker 3: serving us that are going to help us create the

788
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Speaker 3: best year yet. So the actual episode title is Vibrate Higher,

789
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 3: eleven things to leave in the past year and how

790
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Speaker 3: to have your best year yet.

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Speaker 1: Lady, you just got to go check it out. This

792
00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:34,319
Speaker 1: episode again, like Don said, thousands and thousands of people

793
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:38,439
Speaker 1: tuned in. It was just really I thought it, gay,

794
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Speaker 1: I thought that the eleven the eleven things that we're

795
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Speaker 1: leaving behind were just really great to help us ground ourselves,

796
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Speaker 1: like you said, in the new year and just start

797
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Speaker 1: fresh and avoid those I want to say, toxic patterns

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Speaker 1: you know that we may have been attached to or

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Speaker 1: married to. So, yeah, this is when you got to

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Speaker 1: check out.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I mean you know what, I look at these

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Speaker 3: eleven topics or eleven things that we wanted to lead

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Speaker 3: befferm I look at how we have then over the

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Speaker 3: course of the last two years, have covered these topics

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Speaker 3: in some way, each one of them, like cover most

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00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:23,160
Speaker 3: of them in some way, right, And so, lady, as

807
00:49:23,239 --> 00:49:26,880
Speaker 3: you go back and you look at this episode, listening

808
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Speaker 3: to this episode and listening to those eleven things.

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Speaker 1: Google eight.

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Speaker 3: One of those steps. Put that in Google along with

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Speaker 3: the name of the podcast and see how many other

812
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:45,399
Speaker 3: episodes come up around that topic. Because we are intentional

813
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 3: about making sure that the things that aren't serving you,

814
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:52,800
Speaker 3: we want to help you get rid of it, and

815
00:49:52,920 --> 00:49:55,800
Speaker 3: so we have lots of content in addition to the

816
00:49:55,840 --> 00:50:03,319
Speaker 3: workshop to help you maybe your best life, be your

817
00:50:03,480 --> 00:50:07,000
Speaker 3: best self, continue to grow and evolved.

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Speaker 1: Yes, girl, because you deserve it. And dom This takes

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Speaker 1: us to our fifth and final recommended episode, which is

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Speaker 1: how to Finally Leave your narcissistic Partner with Doctor with

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Speaker 1: Doctor Romeny der Vasila and this is season ten, episode three.

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Speaker 1: Any episode that we've done with doctor Romeny is amazing.

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Speaker 1: You may have seen doctor Romeny as the narcissistic Expert

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Speaker 1: narcissism Expert. I did say that correctly, did I? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the narcissism Expert. Okay, yeah, there we go. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: Don the narcissism Expert on Red Table Talk. And she's

827
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Speaker 1: just so amazing. I feel like she's just so insightful.

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Speaker 1: I used to watch her videos before we had on

829
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Speaker 1: the show, and I was like, oh my gosh, this

830
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Speaker 1: is so amazing. And especially if you grew up in

831
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Speaker 1: a narcissistic or look with narcissistic parents, or if you

832
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Speaker 1: have a narcissistic partner. Check all this episode, Lady. She

833
00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:02,560
Speaker 1: just drops so many gems, and what I love about

834
00:51:02,640 --> 00:51:05,719
Speaker 1: her is she also provides examples, right, because sometimes these

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Speaker 1: words they're new for some of us, they feel kind

836
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Speaker 1: of buzz wordy, and you're just like, okay, everybody's talking

837
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Speaker 1: about narcissism. She breaks it down like, what does it

838
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Speaker 1: look like to manipulate? What does it look like too

839
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Speaker 1: bread from what does it look like to gaslight someone?

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Speaker 5: Right?

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00:51:18,760 --> 00:51:21,680
Speaker 1: And so that way you can literally analyze your situation

842
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:25,120
Speaker 1: and go, Okay, well it looks like this is what's happening,

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00:51:25,200 --> 00:51:27,839
Speaker 1: this is what I'm experiencing, and so you can make

844
00:51:27,880 --> 00:51:29,640
Speaker 1: your decision based off of that, and then she gives

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Speaker 1: you tips and strategies on how you can finally leave. Yes.

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Speaker 3: And what I think is so important about this episode

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Speaker 3: is that, like you mentioned that narcissism on gas lighting,

848
00:51:41,320 --> 00:51:45,000
Speaker 3: like we talk, we talk about those topics and other

849
00:51:45,080 --> 00:51:49,919
Speaker 3: episodes as well, but they are buzz words in pop

850
00:51:50,000 --> 00:51:55,280
Speaker 3: psychology right, in our general cultural lexicron, we are using

851
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Speaker 3: words like narcissism and gas lighting that don't act fairly

852
00:52:02,360 --> 00:52:07,400
Speaker 3: always fit the person that we're talking about. And so

853
00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:12,920
Speaker 3: those real life examples that doctor Romeney provides how she

854
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:17,640
Speaker 3: walks us through how to identify what that looks like.

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Speaker 3: It's a luck. Listen, if you are really trying to

856
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Speaker 3: figure out and you want to also want to make

857
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Speaker 3: sure that you're using the words correctly.

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Speaker 1: When you think you might be experiencing it. That's a

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00:52:31,360 --> 00:52:32,960
Speaker 1: very good point, lady. We're just gonna add a couple

860
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:35,920
Speaker 1: of little bonus episodes onto this because in addition to

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Speaker 1: that episode by doctor Romeney, we have two other episodes,

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Speaker 1: one where we actually have doctor Romeny on again and

863
00:52:41,320 --> 00:52:43,480
Speaker 1: then another where we dive into some of her work.

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Speaker 1: And so that other episode is season ten, episode two,

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Speaker 1: and it is your Partner a Narcissist, And this is

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Speaker 1: where we dive into doctor Romeny's I believe it's her

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Speaker 1: And then the other one, which is also a related episode,

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Speaker 1: Raised by a Narcissist signs symptoms and how to recover.

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Speaker 1: So that is one what we had Doctor Romney on

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I think that might be it.

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