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Speaker 1: I'm super excited because today I have such an amazing guest.
Speaker 1: He isn't He is an amazing actor, he's a producer,
Speaker 1: He's Miami. Even though we haven't had the opportunity of
Speaker 1: spending too much time together, I love the way that
Speaker 1: we support each other. Some Latinos were super close to
Speaker 1: our family. He's also the host of Essential Voices on
Speaker 1: Michael podcast Network Familiar so to be. I mean, his
Speaker 1: life has evolved and changed so much from when I
Speaker 1: first saw him on TV. I am so proud to
Speaker 1: have today on exactly a matter. California's memento is the
Speaker 1: the Rao pass ups then gott media off. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm off for the first time in like in
Speaker 1: like a while today, so I have a day to
Speaker 1: just catch up on office stuff. And everything's good. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm very happy to be able to talk to you.
Speaker 1: And I'm so proud of the show you've created, sparing
Speaker 1: and how ended and how vulnerable you've been on your
Speaker 1: show and uh and it's inspiring to see you go
Speaker 1: out there and live with with our culture first and
Speaker 1: and following your heart and your humored And I'm just
Speaker 1: so proud to be here with you, a man, Thank
Speaker 1: you so much. And you know what, I too, am
Speaker 1: proud to know that we're both part of the same family,
Speaker 1: a network that gave us an opportunity to celebrate, celebrate
Speaker 1: who we are, give us a platform. For those that
Speaker 1: haven't heard your podcast, what is it about? What's the vibe?
Speaker 1: So I mean to just to give you a few
Speaker 1: lines on it. At and the beginning of the pandemic,
Speaker 1: you know, we you know, we were experiencing a lot
Speaker 1: of uh dividing forces, right. A lot of our communities
Speaker 1: were being left to kind of fight on their own.
Speaker 1: And I think as soon as the pandemic happened, we
Speaker 1: were kind of forced to look at one another and
Speaker 1: really support each other on a community level. Um. I
Speaker 1: think it woke up a lot of stuff. I mean
Speaker 1: a lot of bad stuff and a lot of good
Speaker 1: stuff in society. I think that there's a lot of
Speaker 1: things that kind of came to surface during the pandemic
Speaker 1: that was that was really odd and really weird and
Speaker 1: really complicated to understand. And even the people that you
Speaker 1: love the most, and you thought of the you know,
Speaker 1: the world of you know, when the moment of desperation
Speaker 1: and pandemic and the uncertainty of what it really was
Speaker 1: um happened, you know, different elements, different characters started waking
Speaker 1: up in people. So I went to the grocery store
Speaker 1: and I saw my grocery store worker and said, hey,
Speaker 1: how are you doing through this whole thing? And and
Speaker 1: she said, I'm doing okay, And I said, what, wait,
Speaker 1: we are you just okay? What's wrong? You know? And
Speaker 1: she said people were so mean, you know, people were
Speaker 1: just uh, you know, going off on them just because
Speaker 1: they didn't have toilet paper, you know. And I think
Speaker 1: about that those moments where the camed food and the
Speaker 1: toilet paper was threatened to be you know, a low
Speaker 1: and uh and people were going crazy over their toilet paper.
Speaker 1: You know, we're going off on on the grocery store
Speaker 1: workers in a wheel way. And she she straight upset
Speaker 1: to me that people would call the grocery store and
Speaker 1: she will pick up and be like, hey, do you
Speaker 1: guys have any toilet paper? You know, cam food, and
Speaker 1: like what, we're running out, but we're going to get
Speaker 1: another shipment tomorrow. And they'll be like, well, down, you
Speaker 1: don't have any toilet paper and be like we don't
Speaker 1: have toilet paper now. And this person was stored up
Speaker 1: being like, well fuck you, I hope you get COVID
Speaker 1: and died and and would hang up, you know. And
Speaker 1: this was the type of stuff that our grocery store
Speaker 1: workers were receiving while they by themselves, you know, also
Speaker 1: are receiving four or six hundred people at a time.
Speaker 1: In a grocery store and then putting themselves in danger
Speaker 1: and then having to go back to their families. So
Speaker 1: the level of stress, I just I just thought that
Speaker 1: we need a perspective. So I created a thing on
Speaker 1: Instagram that was ultimately like my six ft apart chats,
Speaker 1: you know, and it was just like having a conversation
Speaker 1: with an essential worker. And that turned into the idea
Speaker 1: to start a podcast and really really elevate their contribution
Speaker 1: who they were before, who they are now, and who
Speaker 1: they will still be, you know, after this pandemic has gone. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I love the fact that you thought about that because
Speaker 1: a lot of times, and I talked about all the
Speaker 1: time to celebrities, artists and influencers, people that that are
Speaker 1: blessed to have a platform. It's not just about the
Speaker 1: part of entertainment, which we're you know, we're blessed to
Speaker 1: be good at what we do. That's great, but the
Speaker 1: fact that we also use our platforms to show light
Speaker 1: and bring light and awareness on things that are happening
Speaker 1: in our community. We figure out ways to uplift our
Speaker 1: community or people. All these things overall, Um, I think
Speaker 1: that should really be appreciated because not all of us
Speaker 1: do it, and it takes a lot of balls and
Speaker 1: guts to do it. So I personally want to thank
Speaker 1: you for your podcast and what you're doing for your community,
Speaker 1: for our community, for our fellow Latinos are Latin ex community.
Speaker 1: We need more people like you. And with that being said,
Speaker 1: I know that you the fact that you just recently
Speaker 1: welcomed a baby girl really see that is how do
Speaker 1: you feel? How has this? How was the before and after?
Speaker 1: Like let's say, when you know, when she was pregnant.
Speaker 1: Obviously you know that you knew that the it was there,
Speaker 1: But now that you have the opportunity though let you
Speaker 1: around you, how is that that process for you? You You know?
Speaker 1: It was It was really interesting. You know. I think
Speaker 1: that you know, you go your whole life and you
Speaker 1: know that at some point that's something that you will
Speaker 1: most likely embarking, you know, having a family, having a home,
Speaker 1: you know, and all that you know and as artists,
Speaker 1: you know, I mean you you kind of devote so
Speaker 1: much of yourself to you know, to try to make
Speaker 1: this happen, you know, and once you get some level
Speaker 1: of stability and you feel like it's the time, it's time,
Speaker 1: and you know, f y I. You know, you're never
Speaker 1: really ready like people are like I'm ready for this.
Speaker 1: Like the truth the matter is, you're never really prepared.
Speaker 1: And that's okay, because you know something wakes up in you.
Speaker 1: You know something, something is in you already that's ready
Speaker 1: to engage the moment that becomes a reality. And I
Speaker 1: think that's that's what happened for me, you know, I
Speaker 1: I I was very ready at some point, you know.
Speaker 1: I felt I felt like I had built my home
Speaker 1: my mom. My mom didn't need anything, my dad didn't
Speaker 1: need anything. My sisters were cool, my nephew was going
Speaker 1: up to be awesome, you know. And I just said
Speaker 1: to myself, like it it's a really an exciting time
Speaker 1: to to start a family, you know. But first you
Speaker 1: have to find a partner. You gotta find someone that
Speaker 1: shares the same values and and that you're like minded
Speaker 1: and you want pretty much the same thing, you know,
Speaker 1: and that you're willing to fight to to defend it
Speaker 1: and to keep it and to How about you guys
Speaker 1: dating before you guys decided to get married, because once
Speaker 1: you get married, you already know, yes, say we're locking
Speaker 1: it in. We're gonna have a family that's what it is.
Speaker 1: But that didn't I think that a lot of a
Speaker 1: lot of people, your life must be perfect, everything is
Speaker 1: great for you. You must find love all the time.
Speaker 1: And it's like, no, even for us, it's hard to
Speaker 1: find the right person to go through the process. You know, Okay,
Speaker 1: this is the one that it's It's it's funny that
Speaker 1: you say that, because you're right. I mean, people think like, oh,
Speaker 1: you're an artist, you know, so I mean you might
Speaker 1: have you know, there's so many different and and the
Speaker 1: truth is, in my in my life in twenty six
Speaker 1: years of my career that I've only had like probably
Speaker 1: a five serious relationships because you know, you you know,
Speaker 1: you go to long periods of times where you know,
Speaker 1: you kind of start, you know, you start kind of
Speaker 1: giving into what you think you probably should have, when
Speaker 1: really you don't ever ask yourself what are your real needs?
Speaker 1: You know, what do you want from a partner? What
Speaker 1: do you really need from a partner? And I think
Speaker 1: that's that was important for me as as I kind
Speaker 1: of grew up and it started evolving and and understanding
Speaker 1: that I was changing, right, I was changing, And I
Speaker 1: feel like you needs started changing at some point, you know,
Speaker 1: you become someone that that loves to be there for people,
Speaker 1: you know, loves to show up for people. And then uh,
Speaker 1: in the process, you forget a little bit about the
Speaker 1: fact that you know, you got to show up for yourself,
Speaker 1: and you never ask yourself, what do you need? What
Speaker 1: do you want? What do you want today? What do
Speaker 1: you feel today? You know, because as soon as you
Speaker 1: get up your service right, and as an artist, you
Speaker 1: give yourself to your audience, you give yourself to your family,
Speaker 1: It gives you to everything and you in sometimes you're
Speaker 1: depleted yourself. Who gives back to you? Who feels back?
Speaker 1: And the fan love is awesome, right, Like, it's beautiful
Speaker 1: to get a feedback when you provide entertainment and connected,
Speaker 1: but there's not there there's a there's another level of
Speaker 1: it where there's there's just a humanity side to the
Speaker 1: artist that that sometimes it's forgotten, you know. So I
Speaker 1: started really searching about what is it that I really
Speaker 1: need from a partner, what is it that I really
Speaker 1: want at home? You know? And and I wanted someone
Speaker 1: that also took care of me too, you know. So
Speaker 1: it's so that was one of the things and I
Speaker 1: think that when I met Amanda. Amanda was you know,
Speaker 1: she was also a fixer, you know, so two fixers
Speaker 1: in one and one relationship was interesting, you know, but
Speaker 1: but it was it was like, no, I'll do it,
Speaker 1: No you do I know, I'll do it. No, I'll
Speaker 1: do it, you know. And and it was really it
Speaker 1: was kind of charming and sweet to see that we
Speaker 1: were both willing to um do you think said we
Speaker 1: kind of haven't done for ourselves before. Now you have
Speaker 1: to give yourself and spread and divide to dimples. I'm
Speaker 1: being to give yourself as a father because obviously your
Speaker 1: baby girl is gonna need you, you know, she needs you. Obviously,
Speaker 1: what can I send you? Still don't want to miss
Speaker 1: out on those opportunities of seeing her, you know, grow
Speaker 1: her words, her first words, talking running. How do you
Speaker 1: figure out time between the work, because you're very busy
Speaker 1: between work, filming, learning scripts, all through doing your podcast,
Speaker 1: still being a great husband, taking care of your family.
Speaker 1: So how do you divide your time now that your
Speaker 1: father's Yeah, well so we we picked up priorities, right,
Speaker 1: So it was really important. It's really important. And I
Speaker 1: love that you're mentioning that because I think there's so
Speaker 1: much is about balance, and so much is about setting
Speaker 1: expectations and priorities, you know. And and I think the
Speaker 1: first one you are welcoming a child into your family.
Speaker 1: I think it's important that you have that conversation, what
Speaker 1: is going to be our contribution? What is going to
Speaker 1: be our partnership? You know? And it really is a
Speaker 1: hundred and a hundred, It's not fifty fifty. Man, It's
Speaker 1: like you both gotta put in a hundred and and
Speaker 1: you gotta think about the things. You gotta foresee. You
Speaker 1: gotta answer a question before he's asked, okay, And you
Speaker 1: gotta solve a problem before it is one, right. And
Speaker 1: I think that in those types of conversations it really
Speaker 1: takes partnership. You gotta be very vulner but you gotta
Speaker 1: bet you open. And I think you know, as a
Speaker 1: male myself, right, as a man um you know, specifically
Speaker 1: as a Latino man, there's certain expectations from you, you know, uh,
Speaker 1: And and it's it's also important to understand that. But
Speaker 1: you ask a very important question, which is like how
Speaker 1: do you find that time? How do you find that balance?
Speaker 1: You No matter I'm trying to I'm trying to figure
Speaker 1: it out. Myself because you're doing it, and I'm like
Speaker 1: and then I'm like, I'm taking already buen or as
Speaker 1: soon as I give birth, I have to go back
Speaker 1: to work. I can decate, wait too long? How do
Speaker 1: you do? But I will say I will tell you.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm out. I would say that, I would
Speaker 1: say this, and I would offer the following. You know
Speaker 1: that this is a very iconic moment for your life
Speaker 1: and that deserves, you know, you to be present and
Speaker 1: be in the moment. You know, And a lot of
Speaker 1: times we start thinking about, Okay, well I gotta get
Speaker 1: back to work, you know, I gotta do the thing.
Speaker 1: But you know, you should allow yourself to submerge yourself
Speaker 1: in that experience because it really is a gift. It
Speaker 1: really is a miracle and that happened and was giving
Speaker 1: to you, and this baby's chose you, you know. And
Speaker 1: then in those first couple of months, you know, you really,
Speaker 1: you really want to connect, You want to run, to
Speaker 1: be in contemporary. You don't want to worry about too
Speaker 1: much of the frequency. And that's one of the things
Speaker 1: that I really wanted for Amanda. I wanted her to
Speaker 1: really focus on this experience, to go through the emotions
Speaker 1: to really sit in with it and and really understand
Speaker 1: that everything was going to be taken care of. And
Speaker 1: you know, and as a man, you know, I mean
Speaker 1: this is sort of fellas sence you show to you know,
Speaker 1: I gotta say, like if you have a friend or
Speaker 1: if you if you're one of your boys tells you, oh, well,
Speaker 1: you know they have most of the work. You just
Speaker 1: kind of have to be there. It's absolutely bullshit, okay,
Speaker 1: like thank you. If you're not, I'm gonna tell you something.
Speaker 1: I'm doing something like a very very quickly I realized
Speaker 1: that you got as a man, you gotta do what
Speaker 1: she doesn't have to. And that is a lot, okay,
Speaker 1: Like and also you got to think about you know,
Speaker 1: your your woman. It's so focused on making sure this
Speaker 1: child has you know, it's it's food, it's rest, you know,
Speaker 1: she's whatever the baby needs. The woman is so devoted
Speaker 1: to making sure that this child is is' is fed,
Speaker 1: that she forgets to eat herself, she forgets to drink
Speaker 1: water herself, you know, and like in that moment, those
Speaker 1: little things that you can do just to show up
Speaker 1: making sure that what she's breastfeeding or given the baby,
Speaker 1: the bottle m that you are also giving her water,
Speaker 1: that you also, if you know, feeding her food, because
Speaker 1: she will forget, she will skip meals. And that's and
Speaker 1: you know, and that's the most of didn't you see
Speaker 1: didn't you see her a little bit different? A little
Speaker 1: bit different once you saw how her body transformed and
Speaker 1: what she was willing to do, like because then it's
Speaker 1: sometimes somebody physical. Men they don't have to go through it.
Speaker 1: They may not understand the fact that, by the way,
Speaker 1: did she push Oh my gosh, she deserves you you
Speaker 1: better have given her flower people, because your body changes.
Speaker 1: She sacrifice everything. I'm on me that she opened like
Speaker 1: a tunnel just to give birth to another humane. I
Speaker 1: was there, I mean I saw the whole thing. I
Speaker 1: mean I was there for supporting her, helping her, was
Speaker 1: holding her hand. I was in one hand that she
Speaker 1: had her left I had her left leg and the
Speaker 1: other one the back of her neck, you know, And
Speaker 1: I you know, and I was coaching and I was
Speaker 1: talking over the doctor, and I was overdoing it and
Speaker 1: I was doing the most and it is but it
Speaker 1: it is a magical thing. And it made me look
Speaker 1: at you know, first of all, I've always had the appreciation.
Speaker 1: My sister had a baby so like when she was
Speaker 1: like nineteen, you know, and and that that was a
Speaker 1: really uh predictable time. But I will say that seeing
Speaker 1: what my sister went through made me really appreciated witnessing
Speaker 1: it myself with my woman and see my the birth
Speaker 1: of my child and seeing what Amanda did for us. Um,
Speaker 1: it just changed everything in my life, you know. I mean,
Speaker 1: it's it's absolutely unbelievable when to see her make it
Speaker 1: look easy and not complain, just go through the emotions
Speaker 1: and you know, and and it's hard. It's an emotional
Speaker 1: thing and it's emotional endeavor and it's it's a journey. Um.
Speaker 1: So I'm doing my best to try to do that.
Speaker 1: And if you ever asked me to give you a
Speaker 1: word of advice is to really embrace the moment. Just
Speaker 1: sit through the moment, don't get don't be in a
Speaker 1: hurry to get to any other phase of this. You know,
Speaker 1: every moment, every day is gonna be perfect, as imperfect
Speaker 1: as it may be, because that's the you had to be,
Speaker 1: you know, in order to to are right, for both
Speaker 1: of you to to be. So I think it's like
Speaker 1: a it's a very important time. And the thing is
Speaker 1: we forget because as hard as we're like, we gotta
Speaker 1: get it to work. We gotta yeah back in the
Speaker 1: swing of things, you know, but give yourself that time
Speaker 1: because you'll never have that time. No. And also as
Speaker 1: a woman, and also as a woman, your body changes
Speaker 1: you though you know, we are somewhat in my case,
Speaker 1: somewhat sexualized. And I get it because sex cells. I
Speaker 1: get that part. So everybody expect you automatically, especially as
Speaker 1: a woman, as soon as you give birth, mym we
Speaker 1: need you to have a six passing three that everything
Speaker 1: together we need too tight and say, hold on, it
Speaker 1: took me nine months to create a whole human being.
Speaker 1: Your whole body is changing, transforming. You can't expect me
Speaker 1: to go snap back, you know, within a mother or two.
Speaker 1: But now talking about that, your father in a in
Speaker 1: a modern age, right, what are your biggest fears? Because
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I am blessed to have two girls.
Speaker 1: Battle I was hoping to have a boy, and part
Speaker 1: of it was because I wanted to raise one good
Speaker 1: manner always said. But at the same time it was
Speaker 1: part of my own personal fears of knowing that for
Speaker 1: women is so much harder in this world. What are
Speaker 1: your personal fears as a father this age now that
Speaker 1: you have a baby girl, Well, I mean, look at
Speaker 1: you are an example, and you are a woman that
Speaker 1: has contributed to deliberation of a lot of the perception
Speaker 1: and inheritance of oppression for women, and you gotta be
Speaker 1: proud of that. So your daughters are going to be
Speaker 1: born in a world that's very much, very very different
Speaker 1: than the one you did. And it's a it's don't
Speaker 1: get twisted. I mean, this is a woman's world now officially.
Speaker 1: You know, I see world you know, you're seeing world
Speaker 1: world leaders, you know, female world leader as you're seeing
Speaker 1: in television and film. Most of our leader and lead
Speaker 1: actresses are the ones leading the chart when it comes
Speaker 1: to bugbusters and television, you know. So I think what
Speaker 1: I'm saying is that pop culturally, they're gonna be welcoming
Speaker 1: into a world where they will have choices unlike the
Speaker 1: ones that my sisters did. You know, there there there
Speaker 1: will be a the you know, the sensitization of the
Speaker 1: actual perception of what she is meant to be as
Speaker 1: a woman, and she will have a choice. And I
Speaker 1: so that's hopeful for me, that makes me excited. You know.
Speaker 1: I think that she will grow up with the ability
Speaker 1: and the freedom to learn any skills she wants, to
Speaker 1: get any education she wants if she wants to, you know,
Speaker 1: And I think you should, really, you should really feel
Speaker 1: proud of what you have contributed about as a as
Speaker 1: a woman and as a voice, because you are also
Speaker 1: putting breaks in the road she will walk on, you know.
Speaker 1: And I think it's important to to to trust that
Speaker 1: you know and uh and feel good about that. But
Speaker 1: all in all, you know, I mean, I agree. I
Speaker 1: I can't wait to have a sign as well. But
Speaker 1: having a daughter first, Oh my god. Social media media,
Speaker 1: social media the music that we listen to now, Like okay,
Speaker 1: growing up, my mom would listen to Mettingle, listen that
Speaker 1: the lyrics were like and it was great. Now it's
Speaker 1: like I'm a bad bit and you know, I want
Speaker 1: her mess back and I'm like, oh my god, what
Speaker 1: of my babies gonna listen to? What's happening? Everything? Everything
Speaker 1: has changed Now when your baby girl grows up and
Speaker 1: she's in her teenage years, what we all what Because
Speaker 1: we are only fans now, I don't even know what's
Speaker 1: gonna come out later. Oh god, I don't even don't
Speaker 1: even say that. I don't even say that. Only fans
Speaker 1: don't even see that. It's like, how do you prepare
Speaker 1: as a father now for what's to come? I have
Speaker 1: fears and I'm a woman as a mother, because you'll say,
Speaker 1: I'm from you know, the way that you grew up. Um,
Speaker 1: what are the some of the influences you think that
Speaker 1: you will, you know, kind of give to your daughters
Speaker 1: that you learned or grew up with. You know, here's
Speaker 1: the thing, and and you have the same gift and
Speaker 1: skill that I have as well, which is we've never forgotten,
Speaker 1: no matter how long we've been in America, we've never
Speaker 1: forgotten the values of our culture. Okay, So as much
Speaker 1: as I fear the new inheritance of technology and whether
Speaker 1: peers are going to be doing, I think that it's
Speaker 1: important that we continue to fight and drill, you know,
Speaker 1: the values of our culture, most importantly, the essence of
Speaker 1: who we are as people. Right. Yeah, we're celebratory, we
Speaker 1: are very very colorful, but it is in our music
Speaker 1: and our stories and our traditions that that you know,
Speaker 1: that build their character, you know, And I think we
Speaker 1: have to trust that a little bit. That as much
Speaker 1: as we want them to assimilate to everyone they went
Speaker 1: to go to school with, you know, when they come home,
Speaker 1: saw some music should be on the radio. You feel me, like,
Speaker 1: you know, lunch is gotta be the holiest has and rolls.
Speaker 1: Even then they're like, we gotta make sure that when
Speaker 1: they come home it feels unlike anything they need out outside,
Speaker 1: you know, And it's and I think it's important to
Speaker 1: to to also trust that as well. So I think
Speaker 1: when you ask me, like, what are the values? That's first,
Speaker 1: you know. And I and I also want her to
Speaker 1: really and God willing to have me my mom a
Speaker 1: little bit longer so they can really but so that
Speaker 1: my daughter can really have conversations. I want them to
Speaker 1: ask questions. I want her to really know her grandmother
Speaker 1: unlike I ever met her and me and like, and
Speaker 1: I told you this was crazy. I went to lunch
Speaker 1: with my mom like a year ago, and I asked
Speaker 1: my mom. I was like, Mom, did you when you
Speaker 1: were young when you were like I don't know, like
Speaker 1: nineteen or twenty or whatever, like what where were you
Speaker 1: in school when you were like? What was your favorite
Speaker 1: thing in school, and she's like, well, I was really
Speaker 1: good at math, So I took I got a job
Speaker 1: at a doctor's office and I was a receptionist and
Speaker 1: I would do the appointments for the doctors. And I
Speaker 1: was like, you worked at a doctor's office exactly, Like
Speaker 1: I didn't think my brain was filting, Like I had
Speaker 1: no idea, you know what I mean. It's it's so,
Speaker 1: it's so incredibly important, um that we did that, we
Speaker 1: asked questions that we know who they are. It's true,
Speaker 1: it is true. I agree a thousand percent. And you
Speaker 1: don't even know what I would love to do maybe whatever, Um,
Speaker 1: I would love I don't I'm not say going to
Speaker 1: do the whole life documentary, but I would love to
Speaker 1: record my mom and have her just talk talk about
Speaker 1: your you talk about just so that I can have
Speaker 1: it because you're no Gietta tomorrow. I forbid something were
Speaker 1: to happen. I want to be able to have those
Speaker 1: stories not just in my head, but also be able
Speaker 1: to share it, share with my daughters, share with my granddathers.
Speaker 1: This was your grandmo, this is what she said, this
Speaker 1: is where her life experience where all those things and
Speaker 1: we used to technology so much just for us, why
Speaker 1: not also use it for our parents and to have
Speaker 1: and save those memories. It's like back in the days
Speaker 1: we used to print out pictures. I have albums and
Speaker 1: albums and albums of baby pictures these days. If the
Speaker 1: Internet were to break down, our phones were to disappear,
Speaker 1: the iCloud all my memories and all my things. God yeah, spanished.
Speaker 1: So that's definitely one of those things that I feel
Speaker 1: that we should figure outways Now, I'm gonna ask you
Speaker 1: one last question because I know you have to go.
Speaker 1: But I grew up in a household being Dominiana Latina,
Speaker 1: and I'm very proud to speak Spanish. But growing up
Speaker 1: and being born in Miami, I just didn't feel like
Speaker 1: I needed to speak Spanish because what you know, I
Speaker 1: go to school, my friends speak English. In your case,
Speaker 1: the father my babies is Latino, so we both we
Speaker 1: both speak English, we both speak Spanish, but it Aposa
Speaker 1: is Americana, right, Well, she's having Mexican Okay, she is Mexican,
Speaker 1: have wife, but she is also taking Spanish classes because
Speaker 1: she has You know, it's funny because we had the gift.
Speaker 1: You and your guy had the gift that that we
Speaker 1: were taught Spanish at really young age. But a lot
Speaker 1: of Latinos in America. Um, and you know, a lot
Speaker 1: of our listeners, you know, they unfortunately, you know, grew
Speaker 1: up in a different you know generation where sometimes our
Speaker 1: parents and I'm not saying my dad of amount because
Speaker 1: they could not be more colomb as well, right right,
Speaker 1: but I'm saying some some of our are are Hispanic
Speaker 1: or Latino community in the United States came you know,
Speaker 1: from parents whose grandparents said, you're in America. You only
Speaker 1: speaking correct, right, You're in America. This is how you dress,
Speaker 1: this is what you listen to. You know, when you're here,
Speaker 1: you do this. They were trying to make them adapt.
Speaker 1: They were trying to make it, which I mean in
Speaker 1: many ways, they weren't trying to keep them safe, you know. Um.
Speaker 1: And what happened was is that then now those parents
Speaker 1: grew up not knowing how to speak Spanish. And now
Speaker 1: those kids have this interest and I'm talking about the
Speaker 1: generation that listens to you and that listens to me,
Speaker 1: and that is growing up right now. Now they have
Speaker 1: an interest to be Latino more than ever. Now they
Speaker 1: want to be Latino. And now the look at the parents, like,
Speaker 1: why don't I speak Spanish? You know so, I think
Speaker 1: I think that to your point, I think that my
Speaker 1: my daughter, my mom speaks to her only in Spanish.
Speaker 1: My dad speaks to her only in Spanish. I mean,
Speaker 1: she's only ten months old, right exactly. So then then
Speaker 1: my my and my wife is straight up in the
Speaker 1: middle of you know, Spanish classes. She speaks Spanish now
Speaker 1: and all that, but you know, but we forget because
Speaker 1: we speak English so often. I know you ourselves forget
Speaker 1: to talk in Spanish back to them, you know so,
Speaker 1: So it's you gotta make an effort. You gotta make
Speaker 1: an effort, and I went, I really want. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: make sure her that Spanish is her first language even
Speaker 1: though she was born in America. Most definitely, I agree
Speaker 1: a thousand percent. And that's part of us not losing
Speaker 1: our culture, us not losing our essence. UM, is being
Speaker 1: able to at least try You don't have to know perfectly,
Speaker 1: but at least try to also maintain that Latino language
Speaker 1: in your in your in your household, UM, and especially
Speaker 1: while you're raising your kids. In my case, my mom
Speaker 1: only speaks Spanish only. I understand her, but UM, I
Speaker 1: think that I too do my best to teach my
Speaker 1: children Spanish, because I obviously in this country, the more
Speaker 1: languages you know. But with that being said, thank you
Speaker 1: so much for coming in today. I am so grateful
Speaker 1: for you. I wish you nothing but the best now
Speaker 1: in your new stage is father. With everything you're doing,
Speaker 1: You're amazing. I am blessed to have you on my
Speaker 1: podcast and tell you something. Can I just can I
Speaker 1: just say something to you. Yes, it's something that nobody offered,
Speaker 1: you know, my my lady and me at the beginning
Speaker 1: of this experience, um one thing that was really important
Speaker 1: to us and I can't you know, I'll live with this,
Speaker 1: but it's important that I say this to you because man,
Speaker 1: I you know, I watch you and I see you grow,
Speaker 1: and I am so proud, you know, to call you
Speaker 1: a friend and and like even though we're from the
Speaker 1: east count the West, because I'm just so I'm just
Speaker 1: so incredibly proud. We don't have anyone like you, and
Speaker 1: we needed you for so long and I just want
Speaker 1: you to really come full circuitus this one thought, like
Speaker 1: when you first came to in a situation and you're
Speaker 1: about to be a parent, everyone offers you the horror stories.
Speaker 1: Right first, they're like, oh, is this and this and
Speaker 1: you lose that and forget about intimacy and dada da
Speaker 1: da da da, and like immediately they're like but and
Speaker 1: then they follow it with like, but you're going to
Speaker 1: be but it's gonna be It's gonna be great, and
Speaker 1: you're like that, you know, does that even makes sense?
Speaker 1: You know? So I just want you to trust yourself
Speaker 1: that that even if you don't read one book, even
Speaker 1: if you don't ever ask anyone one question, that everything
Speaker 1: is in you already and that you absolutely will will
Speaker 1: soar as a beautiful mom At the moment that you
Speaker 1: you continue to hold this beautiful children of God and
Speaker 1: and and give you this, this beautiful essence, something else
Speaker 1: is gonna wake up and it's gonna make even more powerful.
Speaker 1: And as a woman, you're gonna know that absolutely anything
Speaker 1: really is possible in someone with your drive. You're gonna
Speaker 1: build empires that are going to be able to be shared.
Speaker 1: And those empires is mission and statement are going to
Speaker 1: be to change the world. And you are going to
Speaker 1: continue to build the tools and you're gonna have the
Speaker 1: resources to continue to make a difference. And I just
Speaker 1: want you to keep swinging, and I you know, I
Speaker 1: want you to never forget that there's there's some of
Speaker 1: us out here that that it will do anything to
Speaker 1: make sure that you continue to win, because we need
Speaker 1: you to you know, we we need you now more
Speaker 1: than ever. And uh and those children are lucky to
Speaker 1: have you as as a mommy too, because to be
Speaker 1: that free as a mommy, to be that free's gonna
Speaker 1: be liberating for for for them as well. But I
Speaker 1: just wanted to offer that because nobody really taught us that,
Speaker 1: you know, nobody told us that it really could be
Speaker 1: as simple as just go with the flow. I mean,
Speaker 1: we learned to push in the room, by the way,
Speaker 1: like how do we push? Yeah? How do we make
Speaker 1: it better? Yeah? It is true. And I'm and I'm
Speaker 1: grateful for those words because I'm sure that there's somebody
Speaker 1: out there right now listening to this podcast that also
Speaker 1: needed to listen and hear that. So definitely, I'm so
Speaker 1: grateful for your words. Um when now, by the way, guys,
Speaker 1: but then the podcast, thank you guys so much for
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