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Speaker 1: It is thank you nephew. Subject she is going to

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Speaker 1: make me pop her. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm forty seven

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Speaker 1: and I've been dating a man that is married to

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Speaker 1: a woman with a very nasty personality, and she is

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Speaker 1: ugly inside and out. Do I need to read that

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Speaker 1: again for anyone? I went to college with her and

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Speaker 1: she had a few fights with women over her boyfriend

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Speaker 1: back then. She has made my current boyfriend miserable for

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Speaker 1: twelve years and they are finally getting a divorce. Since

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Speaker 1: I've been dating her husband, I see that he's being

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Speaker 1: bullied by her. I didn't want to believe it at first,

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Speaker 1: but she talks to him like he's a weakling, and

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Speaker 1: he won't say anything to her. Because she hits below

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Speaker 1: the belt. Recently, she shattered his cell phone and he

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Speaker 1: came to my house upset. I put him on my

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Speaker 1: phone plan and that's when she found out about me.

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Speaker 1: He called her one day and my name came up

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Speaker 1: on the caller ID at their house. If he feels threatened,

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Speaker 1: he comes to my house. He thinks she is going

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Speaker 1: to put her hands on him one day, and I

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Speaker 1: can't allow that to happen because he's a calm and

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Speaker 1: even tempered man. She has passed by my house. She

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Speaker 1: sat in my driveway before we let her. We let

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Speaker 1: her sit and look stupid because her marriage is over

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Speaker 1: and we're hoping she just goes away soon. This morning,

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Speaker 1: she was behind me in the drive through and I

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Speaker 1: was very nervous. I'm telling you that if she comes

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Speaker 1: in my face, I'm going to pop her. I have

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Speaker 1: everything to lose, but it will be worth it because

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Speaker 1: I've seen her mess with people for years. What she

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Speaker 1: doesn't know is I take boxing lessons as part of

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Speaker 1: my workout. She has one more time to crush my

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Speaker 1: man's spirit or damage his property. I know I'm wrong

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Speaker 1: for having this affair, but I love this man. Would

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Speaker 1: I be wrong? If I popped her one good time.

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Speaker 1: I can't even believe you're asking that question. Seriously, lady, seriously,

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Speaker 1: I really think this letter is a waste of our time.

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Speaker 1: What you're asking the first line in this letter is

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Speaker 1: totally ridiculous. You're dating a man who is married to

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Speaker 1: a very nasty woman, A very nasty woman with a

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Speaker 1: nasty personality. Blah blah blah. Whatever you said. Is she

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Speaker 1: supposed to be nice and pleasant and kind to you.

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Speaker 1: You're dating her husband. You're the other woman. You have

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Speaker 1: no leg to stand on here. If he's planning on

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Speaker 1: divorcing her, well, why hasn't he done? It sounds like

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Speaker 1: he's scared anyway. And in the meantime, who named you

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Speaker 1: his bodyguard? You're out of line on this one. You

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Speaker 1: sound crazy. And if this man continues to let you

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Speaker 1: fight his battles and can't stand up for himself, why

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Speaker 1: would you even want to be with him? Go ahead,

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Speaker 1: you can pop her if you want to. But I

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Speaker 1: don't think it's gonna go like you think it's gonna go.

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Speaker 1: You were very nervous when she was just sitting behind

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Speaker 1: you at the drive through. She hadn't even gotten out

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Speaker 1: of the car or anything. And please don't expect any

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Speaker 1: help from him, mister Coleman and mile tempered because he's

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Speaker 1: scared of her. He's hiding behind you. I think it's

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Speaker 1: a good thing you're taking boxing lessons, because it sounds

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Speaker 1: like you might need them real soon. I say, leave

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Speaker 1: him alone, leave her alone until they get divorced. That's

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Speaker 1: the proper way to handle a situation like this. But

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Speaker 1: I know it's too late for that advice because you're

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Speaker 1: all in now, Steve. Well, lady, the subject is she

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Speaker 1: gonna make me poper. Now what I see in this

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Speaker 1: letter's just been building up for a while. Forty seven

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Speaker 1: dating a man that is married. Once you say that,

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Speaker 1: whatever you say after that, really, really it don't even

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Speaker 1: have to be because see, if you just wasn't dating

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Speaker 1: the man that's married, we don't have this letter, right.

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Speaker 1: So see, you complicated your life by complicating a situation.

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Speaker 1: I've been dating a man, this man that's gonna come

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Speaker 1: with some situations, that's gonna come with the stipulations, problems.

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Speaker 1: But she's married to a woman with a very nasty personality.

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Speaker 1: She is ugly inside and out. And you know how

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Speaker 1: she noticed because she went to college with her, and

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Speaker 1: back then. Well, now let's go over this please. She

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Speaker 1: obviously you are calling her ugly in and out, but

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Speaker 1: seemed to me like according to this letter, she keep

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Speaker 1: a man. She didn't had a man in college. She

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Speaker 1: got a man. Naw, you didn't hand no man in college.

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Speaker 1: You ain't married, So I don't know if she really

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Speaker 1: and you obviously don't. You didn't hand a man in college.

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Speaker 1: It ain't work out for you, and you ain't got

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Speaker 1: no husband, so you got a hoss. She has made

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Speaker 1: getting a divorce. That's a slight uh, ironie in this statement,

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Speaker 1: she has made my current boyfriend, but your leading out

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Speaker 1: is her husband. It is her husband. What doesn't she

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Speaker 1: get about that? That's so confused? Yes, and she's made

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Speaker 1: him miserable for twelve years, and how do you know

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Speaker 1: accept that's what they told you and they finally get

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Speaker 1: into divorce that since I've been dating her husband. See

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Speaker 1: right there, you keep plugging in information that determines how

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Speaker 1: bad your life is. You're just saying the real simple

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Speaker 1: right there. Since I've been dating her husband, I see

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Speaker 1: he's being bullied by her. Well, when we come back,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna find out, jest how much a little boy

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Speaker 1: being getting bullied by the school. All right, hang on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: coming up with twenty three minutes after the hour, we'll

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Speaker 1: have part two of your response. The subject of today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letters, she's going to make me pop her. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today strawberry letter. The subject

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Speaker 1: she is going to make me pop her? For the

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Speaker 1: seven year old lady Dayton, a married man. We're off

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Speaker 1: to a rough start in this letter, but that's high stars.

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Speaker 1: But he's married to a woman who with a very

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Speaker 1: nasty personality. She ugly inside and out. And the way

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Speaker 1: and she had a few fights with women over her

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Speaker 1: boardfriend back then. Well, now she keep a man, that's

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Speaker 1: always the case, and she keep a man that other

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Speaker 1: women won't. So the lady that you think is so

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Speaker 1: ugly in and out keep having me and that other

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Speaker 1: women won't. And now you won't the one she got

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Speaker 1: now the other women wanted the one she had in college.

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Speaker 1: Maybe that's why she got a nasty attitude. Everybody want

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Speaker 1: what she got? Whoa hello? Could this be it? And

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Speaker 1: then you know they finally getting a divorce now because

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Speaker 1: he'd made a like miserable for twelve years. And since

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Speaker 1: I've been dating her husband, she put that line in

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Speaker 1: there like we weren't gonna notice it. So since I've

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Speaker 1: been dating her husband, I see that he's being bullied

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Speaker 1: by her. I didn't want to believe it at first,

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Speaker 1: but she talks to him like he's a weakling, and

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Speaker 1: he won't say anything to her because she hits below

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Speaker 1: the belt. Wait a minute, so you're trying to tell

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Speaker 1: me that this man won't say nothing back to her

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Speaker 1: because she treats him like a weakly. You can't treat

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Speaker 1: he won't say anything to her because she hits below

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Speaker 1: the belt. Well we both swinging low. Then you know

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Speaker 1: I'd stay with you, but you're too small for me.

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Speaker 1: Well let's swing back. I'd stay with you, but you're

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Speaker 1: too big for me. See See how that worked. See

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Speaker 1: we can all hurt each other. But you don't want

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Speaker 1: to do that that hurt. She talked to him like

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Speaker 1: he's a weakling. He won't say anything because she hit

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Speaker 1: below to it. Recently, she shouted his cell phone. He

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Speaker 1: came to my house upset. She broke my phone that

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Speaker 1: was in there talking and I broke it, so I

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Speaker 1: put him on my phone plan and that's when she

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Speaker 1: found out about me. He called. He called her one

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Speaker 1: I d at day house. How stupid is this food?

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Speaker 1: He really he feels threatened, he comes to my house.

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Speaker 1: If he feels threatened, he come to mama house. Go

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Speaker 1: tell my mama. He thinks she's gonna put her hands

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Speaker 1: when she hit me, I don't know what I want

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Speaker 1: to do. I can't a lot that to happen because

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Speaker 1: he's a calm and even tempered man. He's a weakling.

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Speaker 1: She has passed by my house and she said in

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Speaker 1: my driveway before, yeah, she gonna kill y'all. She yeah,

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Speaker 1: just coming, just coming. See that her sitting look stupid

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Speaker 1: because her marriage is over and we're hoping she just

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Speaker 1: goes away. Soon. This morning she was behind me in

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Speaker 1: the drive through. I was very nervous, as you should be.

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Speaker 1: I immediately don't want no chicken naw. I'm telling you

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Speaker 1: right now, if the enemy is behind me in the car,

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Speaker 1: I'm getting out this damn lying. And this morning she

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Speaker 1: very mir nervous. Man, here we go. I'm telling you

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Speaker 1: that if she comes in my face, I'm gonna pop up.

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Speaker 1: I have everything to lose, but it'll be worth it

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Speaker 1: because I've seen her mess with people for years because

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Speaker 1: she don't know though, I been taking boxing lessons right there,

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Speaker 1: let me tell you somethbody boxing lessons, lady, don't let

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Speaker 1: them lessons get your ass. Whoop the mis boxing less sense,

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Speaker 1: less sentence, the bag, don't punch back people, don't fight

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Speaker 1: a damn but where y'all f in the grab hair?

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Speaker 1: I fen to put my baby finger in your nostril? Now,

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Speaker 1: what's your boxing lessen fitting to help you with? With that?

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Speaker 1: I said, I'm gonna put my baby finger in your nostril, okay,

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Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna take fight. What is your boxing lesson?

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Speaker 1: Fitting to do. She don't know. I've been taking boxing

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Speaker 1: lessons as part of my work. Right, she got one

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Speaker 1: more time to crush my man's spirit or damage his property. Well,

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Speaker 1: you can't put him a paper. I know I'm wrong

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Speaker 1: for having us a fan or thing ding, that's the

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Speaker 1: whole letters off. But I love this man. Would I

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Speaker 1: be wrong if I popped up with good one good time?

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Speaker 1: But you might discover something. Yeah, go ahead, you might

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Speaker 1: discover to them. You need to get your money back

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Speaker 1: on the boxing lessons, so you might have to ask

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Speaker 1: for that. You don't You don't think she didn't have.

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Speaker 1: You just said in college. Listen to me, I went

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Speaker 1: she won. You've been a jump on a woman that's

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Speaker 1: got fight women experience. You ain't fault nobody. Lady, lady,

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Speaker 1: I can't help you with this letter right here. I

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Speaker 1: understand you love him and they probably are gonna get

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Speaker 1: a divorce. But you know, maybe I don't know. Maybe

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Speaker 1: it's good to be man to a soft man. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. I can't help. It's gonna be wonderful. Well,

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Speaker 1: she's just dating him. No, she loves this man. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she got one more time to bully him or destroy

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