1 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:05,800 Speaker 1: Hello Sunshine, Hey, besties. 2 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:09,520 Speaker 2: Today on the bright Side, we're talking to Latin Grammy winner, author, 3 00:00:09,840 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 2: podcast host, and TV personality Cheeky's. She's telling us all 4 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:16,480 Speaker 2: about our new show, Cheeky Sine Filthro, how to pull 5 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:19,279 Speaker 2: off a secret wedding, and the importance of her role 6 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:23,759 Speaker 2: as the ultimate big sister. It's Tuesday, September tenth. I'm 7 00:00:23,760 --> 00:00:24,480 Speaker 2: Simone Boyce. 8 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:27,400 Speaker 1: I'm Danielle Robe and this is the bright Side from 9 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 1: Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to 10 00:00:30,440 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 1: share women's stories, to laugh, learn and brighten your day. 11 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 2: Okay, Danielle as an eldest daughter, are you into older 12 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:40,800 Speaker 2: sister core? 13 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not, only because it's too real for me, 14 00:00:45,880 --> 00:00:48,920 Speaker 1: Like I can't you know, like I can't read through 15 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:49,960 Speaker 1: it because it's too real. 16 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:52,599 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what, I'm not an oldest daughter, but 17 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 2: I feel like I understand the plight because I was 18 00:00:56,600 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 2: raised by one. So if any of our besties have 19 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 2: scrolled through TikTok recently, you might have noticed the hashtag 20 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:06,480 Speaker 2: oldest Daughters, which has over a billion views. So clearly, 21 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 2: oldest daughters are finding this new kind of family on 22 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 2: social media where they can commiserate over shared experiences as 23 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:17,040 Speaker 2: firstborn females. Danielle, the memes are hilarious, so you're totally 24 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:19,160 Speaker 2: missing out. I love this one. It says, are you 25 00:01:19,240 --> 00:01:22,120 Speaker 2: happy or are you the oldest child? And also a girl? 26 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:26,080 Speaker 1: So true. When you are the oldest daughter, you are 27 00:01:26,160 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 1: the backup parent. You have no authority, but you have 28 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 1: all of the responsibility. It's like being an unpaid therapist, 29 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 1: a personal assistant. Your resume is so stacked. Yeah, that 30 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: makes a lot of sense. 31 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:42,320 Speaker 2: And now that you're saying that, I think about how 32 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 2: my mom was extra hard on me. At least that's 33 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:48,000 Speaker 2: how it felt growing up. And I think that's because 34 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:50,160 Speaker 2: she had to grow up so quickly as a big sister. 35 00:01:50,480 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 2: And I know from the stories that my mom has 36 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:54,960 Speaker 2: told me that, like you mentioned, the eldest daughter role 37 00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 2: comes with a lot of its own unique challenges and responsibilities. 38 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 2: I mean, I've even heard that sometimes it feels like 39 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 2: the weight of the world is on your shoulders. 40 00:02:03,320 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, that's definitely intense. I don't 41 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: know if I felt like I think my parents were 42 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 1: very much parents, so I didn't feel like the weight 43 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:14,640 Speaker 1: of the world, but you do feel a responsibility to 44 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 1: set a good example and do the right thing. And 45 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:21,440 Speaker 1: when I think about an oldest sibling, it's being an 46 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 1: oldest daughter is different than being an oldest son. And 47 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 1: I think this is a story that exemplifies it. A 48 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: friend of mine, a guy friend from growing up, is 49 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:34,080 Speaker 1: having a baby and it's a girl. And I said, oh, 50 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:37,360 Speaker 1: my goodness, congratulations, and he said, yeah, I'm so excited, 51 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 1: and you know, she's going to take care of everything 52 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: and take care of her younger siblings. And I was like, 53 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 1: would you say that if you were having a boy. 54 00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 1: I don't think so. I think you would say, like, 55 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: I'm so excited for him to become a soccer player. 56 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:55,359 Speaker 1: And I just think there's this expectation of eldest daughters 57 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 1: that is unwritten and written at the same time. 58 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:03,639 Speaker 2: I actually like, if we do have a third kid, 59 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:08,200 Speaker 2: I expect my sons to take care of the younger child, 60 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:12,120 Speaker 2: you know. But maybe that's because it feels rare, and 61 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:14,799 Speaker 2: I want to see that dynamic more in families where 62 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 2: we praise our sons for being nurturing and having those 63 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 2: like early parenting tendencies. But I think there's a balance 64 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 2: to it, right, Like you obviously don't want to overwhelm 65 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:28,079 Speaker 2: them so much so that they don't feel like they 66 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:28,799 Speaker 2: have a childhood. 67 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 1: Yeah for sure. Well we're chatting about all of this 68 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 1: because our guest today is the ultimate big sister. Cheeky's 69 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:39,680 Speaker 1: is the eldest daughter of the late influential singer Jenny Rivera, 70 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: known as La Diva de la Banda. Jenny sold over 71 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:47,160 Speaker 1: twenty million albums worldwide and her records have reached gold 72 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:50,760 Speaker 1: and platinum. And with all of those accolades, here's where 73 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 1: the story takes a tragic turn. Jenny died in a 74 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:57,520 Speaker 1: plane crash in twenty twelve, leaving Cheeky's to become the 75 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:02,320 Speaker 1: matriarch of her family. She has four siblings and she 76 00:04:02,360 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: took care of all of them so In twenty fourteen, 77 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:08,920 Speaker 1: Cheeky's launched her own music career and her debut single, 78 00:04:09,040 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 1: Paloma Blanca, was a tribute to her late mother, and 79 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 1: since then, she's received several nominations and awards and won 80 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 1: the Latin Grammy for Best Bonda Album twice. She's known 81 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 1: for blending and defying several different genres like mariachi, r 82 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: and b country and Bonda, a Mexican style of music 83 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:30,720 Speaker 1: which features wind instruments mostly of brass and percussion, and 84 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 1: now she's currently on her North American Diamantes tour. Well. 85 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:37,600 Speaker 2: Cheeky's also has a new docu series out called Cheeky 86 00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:41,359 Speaker 2: Sine Fieltro meaning We're seeing Cheeky Swift no Filter, and 87 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 2: she's giving viewers a glimpse into her life now plus 88 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 2: a little journey back into her past. She's also the 89 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 2: host of Cheeky Sin Chill, where she shares how she's 90 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 2: navigating the male dominated music industry, what it was like 91 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:56,040 Speaker 2: growing up in the spotlight from such a young age, 92 00:04:56,279 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 2: and she even gives some big sister advice to her listeners, 93 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 2: like how to get back to the dating pool after 94 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:03,919 Speaker 2: a divorce and how to forgive people who've hurt you 95 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:07,040 Speaker 2: in the past. So let's bring her in Cheeky's Welcome 96 00:05:07,040 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 2: to the bright side. 97 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:10,800 Speaker 3: Oh thank you guys. I'm so excited. Thank you so much. 98 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 3: We're really excited to have you. You have great energy. 99 00:05:14,040 --> 00:05:18,479 Speaker 1: Your new docu series, Cheeky Sinfiltrow is out now. And 100 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 1: one extraordinary moment that we get to see as your 101 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:25,839 Speaker 1: wedding to photographer Amelio Sanchez, which was this summer, first 102 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:27,599 Speaker 1: of all, I've been a fan of his for a while. 103 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:32,560 Speaker 1: He does great work. Second of all, congratulations, Oh thank 104 00:05:32,560 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 1: you so much. 105 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 3: I'll let him know that that's how we met actually 106 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 3: through photography. 107 00:05:37,080 --> 00:05:40,120 Speaker 1: Well, you guys had this secret ceremony, which is actually, 108 00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:44,040 Speaker 1: I think my dream way to get married. I'm wondering 109 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 1: how you pulled it off, Like what is the key 110 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:47,560 Speaker 1: to pulling off a secret wedding? 111 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:52,920 Speaker 3: Inviting all the right people that I think was the thing. 112 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:54,839 Speaker 3: And I feel bad because there's people in my life 113 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:58,920 Speaker 3: that I didn't invite that I love. But if I 114 00:05:58,960 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 3: thought twice about it, I'm like, oh, could they tell someone? 115 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:04,960 Speaker 3: I just I didn't invite them, And that doesn't mean 116 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:07,120 Speaker 3: that they're less special or that they're less important in 117 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:09,839 Speaker 3: my life. But I just wanted it to be in 118 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 3: the beginning just family. At first, I was like, letsie lope, 119 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 3: and then he's like, well what about my mom? And 120 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:16,600 Speaker 3: then I said, well what about my siblings? And then 121 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 3: it just kind of grew from there and it went 122 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 3: from fifty guests to eighty five at the end. That's 123 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 3: a good number, though, Yeah, right, I thought that that 124 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:25,479 Speaker 3: was like I really wanted it smaller, to be honest, 125 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:27,400 Speaker 3: but I feel like everyone that was there, I was 126 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:30,360 Speaker 3: very excited to see to hug. It wasn't like, oh, 127 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 3: I got to go to that table. It was just 128 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 3: these are my people, and I think that made the 129 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:38,040 Speaker 3: biggest difference, and that's why I wasn't leaked. So I'm 130 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 3: just I'm grateful to know that the people invited I 131 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:40,560 Speaker 3: can trust. 132 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 1: Well, I know you're a music person. You are a musician, 133 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:47,240 Speaker 1: so I'm curious what song you chose for your first dance. Well, 134 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:49,559 Speaker 1: the crazy thing is, we didn't have a first dance 135 00:06:49,640 --> 00:06:52,640 Speaker 1: because we just had the ceremony, which was like poolside 136 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 1: and then you guys will see it like later in 137 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 1: the season of Chikisinfildro. But and then we had a 138 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 1: little like dinner. So I didn't have a firstance. But 139 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:03,719 Speaker 1: I did walk down to a song. It was a 140 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: song that he dedicated me and that my mom in 141 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:08,600 Speaker 1: some way from Heaven. I know it sounds weird, dedicated 142 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:11,480 Speaker 1: me as well. It was the song by your Side 143 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 1: by Shadah. I'm a huge Shadda fan, love sad, so 144 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 1: I walked down to that one and it was just like, oh, 145 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 1: it was crying, it was so beautiful. I'm sure everybody 146 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 1: was crying. When you walk down the aisle too, that's breathing. 147 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:26,679 Speaker 1: So yeah, he was crying. I was crying. 148 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 3: I was just so focused and like honed in on him. 149 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 3: But now that I watched the footage of sint Fhildro, 150 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 3: now I'm like, I saw my family and everyone was 151 00:07:33,920 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 3: kind of tearing up. Our vowels were so cute too, 152 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:39,000 Speaker 3: So everyone was crying. It was a really very very 153 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:40,240 Speaker 3: special ceremony. 154 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:40,600 Speaker 1: For sure. 155 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:45,600 Speaker 2: The whole series is super personal. It's raw, it's unfiltered. 156 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:48,800 Speaker 2: Of course, that's in the title. How did you decide 157 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 2: what to show and what to keep sacred? 158 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:53,280 Speaker 1: Hmmm, it's a good question. 159 00:07:53,680 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 3: The only thing I said was when the cameras came 160 00:07:56,200 --> 00:07:59,720 Speaker 3: back into my home, I said, my bedroom's off limits. 161 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 3: I believe a lot of energy and stuff, and I 162 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 3: was just like, look, my bedroom is just I don't 163 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:06,640 Speaker 3: want the cameras in there. Other than that, I just 164 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:09,520 Speaker 3: let things just flow. I didn't even really plan anything 165 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 3: because it is a docu follow so they were just 166 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:16,360 Speaker 3: following my everyday agenda, like what I'm doing, and then 167 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 3: if stuff just happened and came up, they covered it, 168 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:22,480 Speaker 3: you know. But I didn't really even remove anything. I 169 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:24,280 Speaker 3: just let it happen, and I knew what I was 170 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 3: getting myself into. And it also helps that I'm an 171 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 3: executive producer and I've done this and I did reality 172 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 3: for like ten years, so I knew what to say 173 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 3: and not to say. But in reality, I was like, 174 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:36,320 Speaker 3: this is seeing feet little, this is no filter. I 175 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:39,240 Speaker 3: have to just really live up to that, and I did. 176 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:40,680 Speaker 3: I was like, well, here it is. I'm gonna let 177 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 3: it all hang out. You know, Chiki's you have accomplished 178 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 3: so much. 179 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:47,440 Speaker 2: You're a touring musician, you're an executive producer, like you mentioned, 180 00:08:47,480 --> 00:08:51,360 Speaker 2: you've been on several TV shows. And yet the accomplishment 181 00:08:51,440 --> 00:08:56,680 Speaker 2: that I think is the most powerful or meaningful or 182 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:59,200 Speaker 2: says the most about you is how you stepped in 183 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:02,439 Speaker 2: for your siblings in the wake of your mother's passing. 184 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:06,320 Speaker 2: As the oldest of your siblings, you really became the 185 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:09,600 Speaker 2: matriarch of the family, Like you know, beyond the duties 186 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:13,280 Speaker 2: of an elder sister. You raised your siblings as if 187 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 2: they were your own children and became almost like a 188 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:18,080 Speaker 2: mother to them. How do you think that shaped the 189 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:19,959 Speaker 2: woman that we're speaking with today. 190 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:23,960 Speaker 3: Oh, my goodness, it's crazy that you bring that up 191 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:27,080 Speaker 3: right now, because I didn't realize. But Johnny, my brother, 192 00:09:27,120 --> 00:09:30,960 Speaker 3: the youngest, who's now twenty three, he posted something yesterday 193 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,120 Speaker 3: and sent me a message and said, you know today, 194 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 3: Mark's ten years that you got custody of Jenica and 195 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:37,360 Speaker 3: I my other sister. 196 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:40,200 Speaker 1: And I was like, oh my gosh. 197 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:43,319 Speaker 3: It hit me because again I'm so focused and I'm 198 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 3: doing my thing that I just keep going. 199 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:46,000 Speaker 1: I just keep pressing forward. 200 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 3: But when I sit back, and I was on the airplane, 201 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:49,360 Speaker 3: and I don't know if you guys are the same way, 202 00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 3: but every time I want an airplane, I don't know 203 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:53,000 Speaker 3: if it's because I'm in the sky, but I get 204 00:09:53,240 --> 00:09:56,600 Speaker 3: very very emotional all the time. I watch a movie, 205 00:09:56,640 --> 00:09:58,640 Speaker 3: i read something, and I start crying. So of course 206 00:09:58,679 --> 00:10:00,480 Speaker 3: I was like crying. I'm like, oh my god, like 207 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:02,800 Speaker 3: this is crazy. And I told him, I said I 208 00:10:02,840 --> 00:10:05,520 Speaker 3: would do it over and over again, even if it 209 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:09,120 Speaker 3: meant that I had to face the adversity that I've 210 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:11,440 Speaker 3: had to face, Like all of that has molded me 211 00:10:11,880 --> 00:10:13,679 Speaker 3: to become the woman that I am today, Like I 212 00:10:13,920 --> 00:10:17,240 Speaker 3: wouldn't change anything. For so long I would ask my mom, 213 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:18,800 Speaker 3: why am I the eldest. Why do I have to 214 00:10:18,840 --> 00:10:21,439 Speaker 3: always be the example? There was so much pressure growing 215 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:23,040 Speaker 3: up and it was just a lot, and I'm like, 216 00:10:23,080 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 3: oh my gosh, Like it was a lot, and now 217 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:29,000 Speaker 3: I understand why. Now I'm like, Okay, it was God's 218 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 3: plan and I'm grateful, even if it meant that I 219 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:35,440 Speaker 3: had a lot of painful moments. You know. So I 220 00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 3: definitely think that being a mother or second mother to 221 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 3: my siblings and being my mom's right hand it really 222 00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 3: helped prepare me for these moments that I'm now living, 223 00:10:47,640 --> 00:10:49,600 Speaker 3: and even to be a mom now to have my 224 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:52,120 Speaker 3: own kids, Like, I know what to expect. I guess 225 00:10:52,120 --> 00:10:55,440 Speaker 3: I'm afraid of loving someone so much because I'm like, 226 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 3: if I love my siblings as much as I love them, 227 00:10:57,160 --> 00:10:59,200 Speaker 3: imagine a child that's going to come out of my body. 228 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 1: You know. That's so that does scare me a little bit. 229 00:11:02,280 --> 00:11:04,480 Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my gosh, to love someone that much, 230 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:06,760 Speaker 3: that really does something to me. 231 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:09,360 Speaker 1: But other than that, I'm like, I know what to do. 232 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:11,680 Speaker 3: I got this. My siblings are everything to me. 233 00:11:12,120 --> 00:11:15,080 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to ask you a question about being 234 00:11:15,080 --> 00:11:18,040 Speaker 2: the oldest sister. Yes, you know, there have been studies 235 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:24,120 Speaker 2: that have shown that eldest siblings tend to be more extroverted, agreeable, conscientious. 236 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:28,440 Speaker 2: I actually think that the elder sister dynamic is its 237 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:31,920 Speaker 2: own thing, It's its own identity. I think a lot 238 00:11:31,920 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 2: of times for older sisters it can manifest like all 239 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:37,480 Speaker 2: that conscientiousness and pressure, it can manifest in anxiety or 240 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:40,199 Speaker 2: I don't know. It comes out differently for each person obviously, 241 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:44,560 Speaker 2: But do you identify with those traditional older sister traits? 242 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:50,800 Speaker 3: Absolutely I do. I've had to learn through therapy. I'm 243 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:54,199 Speaker 3: a huge advocate for therapy because it helped me a lot. 244 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:57,760 Speaker 3: I was very overbearing. I felt like I knew it 245 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 3: all too like it's you got to listen to me, 246 00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:02,800 Speaker 3: like I know, I'm your sister, like been there, done 247 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 3: that sort of thing, and it's not okay, it's not fair, 248 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 3: you know. And I had to learn to step back 249 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:13,120 Speaker 3: and stop the mother role and just be a sister 250 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:17,600 Speaker 3: and be that supporting teammate. And that was very difficult 251 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:20,120 Speaker 3: for me. Now I'm like, all right, cool, Johnny just 252 00:12:20,120 --> 00:12:21,839 Speaker 3: moved out. You guys also see that on cheek seen 253 00:12:21,840 --> 00:12:25,320 Speaker 3: feed throw. That was devastating to me. But now I'm like, okay, 254 00:12:25,320 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 3: I'm living my life for me. But still I'm trying, 255 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:32,439 Speaker 3: you know, but definitely I do identify with it for sure. 256 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 2: We need to take a quick break, but we'll be 257 00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:45,320 Speaker 2: right back with more from Latin Grammy winning artist Cheekyese. 258 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:52,600 Speaker 1: And we're back with Cheeky's. So you recently accepted a 259 00:12:52,640 --> 00:12:55,040 Speaker 1: star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame for your mom, 260 00:12:55,240 --> 00:13:00,520 Speaker 1: Jenny Rivera, I can't imagine just how meaningful and emotional 261 00:13:00,559 --> 00:13:01,280 Speaker 1: that must have been. 262 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:05,960 Speaker 3: What was that moment like for you? It was surreal 263 00:13:06,160 --> 00:13:08,080 Speaker 3: right now when you mentioned it, I got chills. I 264 00:13:08,120 --> 00:13:11,640 Speaker 3: was just like, wow, Like, it's so cool to say 265 00:13:11,679 --> 00:13:16,120 Speaker 3: that my mom is a legend, you know, and she 266 00:13:16,160 --> 00:13:20,840 Speaker 3: did so much for the community, and more than anything, 267 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 3: I want people and my siblings and I feel the 268 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:25,960 Speaker 3: same way. I want her fans and people to know 269 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:28,000 Speaker 3: her as the woman. Yes, of course her artistry and 270 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:31,760 Speaker 3: everything that she accomplished is huge, but more than anything, 271 00:13:31,760 --> 00:13:34,360 Speaker 3: the woman. And that's why we were so excited to know, 272 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:36,920 Speaker 3: you know, a girl that was born and raised in 273 00:13:36,920 --> 00:13:39,959 Speaker 3: Long Beach and wasn't supposed to make it quote unquote, 274 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 3: she did. My mom was a woman that would claim 275 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:44,640 Speaker 3: things it wasn't where. 276 00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:45,680 Speaker 1: Oh I wish. 277 00:13:46,120 --> 00:13:48,280 Speaker 3: I wish it was I'm going to have a star 278 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:51,480 Speaker 3: on the Hollywood Walk of Fame one day, and I 279 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:54,760 Speaker 3: remember those conversations and then to see it, you know, 280 00:13:54,960 --> 00:13:58,840 Speaker 3: come to life and her actually getting her star, obviously 281 00:13:58,880 --> 00:14:01,440 Speaker 3: it hurt more because she wasn't here physically, but I 282 00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:03,679 Speaker 3: was so proud to say, wow, like we did this 283 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:05,960 Speaker 3: for her because I know that was a huge, huge 284 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:08,400 Speaker 3: dream of hers. I'm very proud of her. That's what 285 00:14:08,440 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 3: I feel in my heart. I'm like, I'm just I'm 286 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:12,320 Speaker 3: very proud of her and proud to say that that's 287 00:14:12,400 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 3: my mom. 288 00:14:13,600 --> 00:14:15,560 Speaker 1: You said that you kind of felt her on your 289 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:17,520 Speaker 1: wedding day when you were walking down the aisle. Were 290 00:14:17,559 --> 00:14:19,920 Speaker 1: you able to feel her at that moment too. 291 00:14:20,560 --> 00:14:24,680 Speaker 3: Absolutely, and my siblings and I didn't say anything to 292 00:14:24,760 --> 00:14:28,720 Speaker 3: one another right away, but before walking out to where 293 00:14:28,720 --> 00:14:32,400 Speaker 3: the star is, I felt this crazy feeling. 294 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:33,680 Speaker 1: There were helicopters. 295 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:35,880 Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my gosh, this is huge, Like this 296 00:14:35,960 --> 00:14:38,320 Speaker 3: is I guess I didn't really realize until I was there, 297 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:40,920 Speaker 3: and because I'm so focused on everything that I'm doing, 298 00:14:40,920 --> 00:14:43,480 Speaker 3: but then I was like, Okay, this is today, this's happening. 299 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 3: We all kind of just felt this beautiful breeze and 300 00:14:46,520 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 3: the day was so like amazing, the weather was great. 301 00:14:51,040 --> 00:14:53,360 Speaker 3: So I think I definitely felt her. And then later 302 00:14:53,400 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 3: on my siblings and I were like, oh my gosh, 303 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:57,360 Speaker 3: I felt it too. I felt like a special presence, 304 00:14:57,400 --> 00:14:58,840 Speaker 3: and I'm like, well, that has to be mom. You know. 305 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:02,440 Speaker 1: It was really cool. So in the very first episode 306 00:15:02,440 --> 00:15:05,800 Speaker 1: of Cheeky Sinfieldtrow you said, when you're going through something, 307 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:08,040 Speaker 1: the best thing you can do is be happy and 308 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:10,360 Speaker 1: say thank you for the chance to learn and to grow. 309 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:13,640 Speaker 1: And that is coming from a very evolved person who 310 00:15:13,720 --> 00:15:16,960 Speaker 1: has been through a whole heck of a lot. How 311 00:15:17,000 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 1: did you reach that point, because I can't imagine that 312 00:15:19,440 --> 00:15:22,120 Speaker 1: was the first instinct you had all those years ago. No, 313 00:15:22,240 --> 00:15:23,440 Speaker 1: it definitely wasn't. 314 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:27,120 Speaker 3: I think it was just a choice and the only 315 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:30,240 Speaker 3: way I was going to get through is to know that. 316 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 3: It's part of my testimony. It's part of the story 317 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:37,840 Speaker 3: that I'm going to tell my children or my fans 318 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:40,720 Speaker 3: of Like, Okay, I'm the type of person that I 319 00:15:41,440 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 3: and it sounds very I don't know, I guess, cliche, 320 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:46,560 Speaker 3: but it's like, oh, very positive. I try to find 321 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:49,360 Speaker 3: the positive in everything. I feel like everything happens for 322 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:52,160 Speaker 3: a reason. I really really feel that, and I think 323 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 3: that that's what helped me. I just said, well, I mean, 324 00:15:54,440 --> 00:15:56,560 Speaker 3: this is a learning lesson, and I have a choice. 325 00:15:57,040 --> 00:16:00,440 Speaker 3: This happened to me. I can either victimize myself or 326 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:03,680 Speaker 3: I can grow from it. Any situation, we can always 327 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:07,800 Speaker 3: find something positive to pull out of it, and it 328 00:16:07,880 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 3: is up to us to say, Okay, I either sink 329 00:16:11,960 --> 00:16:14,480 Speaker 3: or I swim. And I just chose to swim. Kind 330 00:16:14,480 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 3: of like Dori, I always say that I might keep 331 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 3: on swimming, keep on swimming. I was like, I figured out, 332 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:22,040 Speaker 3: you know, and that's what's helped me. I had no 333 00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:24,720 Speaker 3: other choice. I was like, well again, because I am 334 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 3: the eldest, I always had to be that example. So 335 00:16:27,040 --> 00:16:28,840 Speaker 3: my siblings were always in the back of my mind work. 336 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:31,680 Speaker 3: I have to show them that this is possible. I 337 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:32,960 Speaker 3: have to keep going, you know. I have to be 338 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:36,040 Speaker 3: an extension of my mom and what she taught us. 339 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:40,800 Speaker 1: That's really powerful. I think of like the lineage of 340 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:43,720 Speaker 1: women's strength that has come before me too. When I 341 00:16:43,760 --> 00:16:47,120 Speaker 1: need to grab onto something for sure, Simone and I 342 00:16:47,160 --> 00:16:49,280 Speaker 1: have this thing. We're very similar in this. We say 343 00:16:49,280 --> 00:16:52,360 Speaker 1: we give ourselves twenty four hours. If we're sad, to 344 00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:54,920 Speaker 1: wallow in it and then it's time to get up 345 00:16:54,920 --> 00:16:59,880 Speaker 1: and get going. I'm curious what your process is when 346 00:17:00,160 --> 00:17:05,199 Speaker 1: like the be happy mantra doesn't come as easily. You 347 00:17:05,240 --> 00:17:09,359 Speaker 1: know what these past I want to say month, I've 348 00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:12,399 Speaker 1: it's been I haven't felt like this in a long time, 349 00:17:13,480 --> 00:17:15,320 Speaker 1: where I'll have two good days and then I have 350 00:17:15,359 --> 00:17:17,480 Speaker 1: a bad day and it's like I haven't felt this, 351 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:19,800 Speaker 1: and I'm like, Okay, is it the retrograde? Is it 352 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:21,800 Speaker 1: like the blue moon that just happened? Like I want 353 00:17:21,840 --> 00:17:23,360 Speaker 1: to blame everything else, you know, but it's just life, 354 00:17:23,720 --> 00:17:27,359 Speaker 1: you know. And I've had a very difficult time with 355 00:17:28,200 --> 00:17:31,120 Speaker 1: again me too, I'm like, Okay, I feel sad. I'm 356 00:17:31,160 --> 00:17:33,640 Speaker 1: going to feel these feelings. I'm going to validate them, 357 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:36,120 Speaker 1: and then I'm not gonna let this day become two days, 358 00:17:36,160 --> 00:17:39,040 Speaker 1: three days the way I used to. So I'm like, 359 00:17:39,119 --> 00:17:40,960 Speaker 1: I have to again, I have to get back up. 360 00:17:40,960 --> 00:17:44,320 Speaker 1: But what really really helps me is a good book. 361 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:48,080 Speaker 1: And that's what's been helping me this past month. I'll 362 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:49,640 Speaker 1: have a book in my purse, and now that I'm 363 00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:53,520 Speaker 1: flying so much, I'll read some pages a chapter. I'm 364 00:17:53,520 --> 00:17:55,439 Speaker 1: not like I don't read as much as I used to, 365 00:17:55,520 --> 00:17:58,800 Speaker 1: But I really am intentional with reading or meditating, like 366 00:17:58,920 --> 00:18:02,400 Speaker 1: just closing my eyes and just breathing and reminding myself 367 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:03,560 Speaker 1: that this too shall pass. 368 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:06,680 Speaker 3: It's okay, it's just a moment. It's not a bad life. 369 00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:09,000 Speaker 3: It's just a bad day, and it helps me. But 370 00:18:09,440 --> 00:18:11,520 Speaker 3: I've been struggling for the past month. To be honest, 371 00:18:11,520 --> 00:18:13,159 Speaker 3: I think it's just because I'm tired, you know what 372 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:15,520 Speaker 3: I mean. Like, I've I have a lot going on, 373 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:19,679 Speaker 3: and I don't want to be ungrateful, but my body, 374 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:23,000 Speaker 3: I'm a little exhausted, you know. So I think that's all. 375 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:25,040 Speaker 3: And I'm like, okay, it's okay, it's okay. I asked 376 00:18:25,040 --> 00:18:26,960 Speaker 3: for this. I have to remind myself you asked for this. 377 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:29,960 Speaker 2: You probably have a lot of time to read whenever 378 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:33,840 Speaker 2: you're on the road, traveling between destinations because you are 379 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:35,520 Speaker 2: a Grammy Award winning musician. 380 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:37,040 Speaker 1: You just came off of a huge tour. 381 00:18:37,520 --> 00:18:40,359 Speaker 2: For people who haven't been to a cheeky show yet, 382 00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:41,520 Speaker 2: what can they expect? 383 00:18:42,200 --> 00:18:43,480 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. 384 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:46,359 Speaker 3: I was just talking to a Milio about this about 385 00:18:46,400 --> 00:18:47,880 Speaker 3: my show, and he was just telling me how fun 386 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:49,639 Speaker 3: they are. You know, and I'm like yeah, I was like, 387 00:18:49,640 --> 00:18:52,080 Speaker 3: I haven't been on stage for like two months, and 388 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:54,679 Speaker 3: I miss it so much. My shows are an experience. 389 00:18:54,840 --> 00:18:57,720 Speaker 3: I want people to go on this emotional roller coaster 390 00:18:57,840 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 3: with me. I'm gonna make you happy. I might make 391 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:02,200 Speaker 3: you cry, but you're going to leave there super happy 392 00:19:02,240 --> 00:19:04,680 Speaker 3: and inspired. And I feel that if I'm going to 393 00:19:04,760 --> 00:19:07,080 Speaker 3: be on stage and I have this huge responsibility of 394 00:19:07,119 --> 00:19:09,240 Speaker 3: having a mic in my hand, then i need to 395 00:19:09,320 --> 00:19:13,400 Speaker 3: use my voice for good. And even if I'm drinking 396 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:15,840 Speaker 3: and I'm being crazy and I'm torking because I dance, 397 00:19:15,880 --> 00:19:18,919 Speaker 3: I do it all on stage. I want people to 398 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:24,320 Speaker 3: leave with something in their heart, imprinted in their heart 399 00:19:24,320 --> 00:19:26,800 Speaker 3: and in their mind. So for me, that's super important. 400 00:19:26,840 --> 00:19:29,199 Speaker 3: Every show is very different. I don't rehearse it. I 401 00:19:29,200 --> 00:19:30,840 Speaker 3: don't rehearse what I'm going to say. I just go 402 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:33,640 Speaker 3: with the flow what the audience makes me feel. And 403 00:19:33,840 --> 00:19:36,960 Speaker 3: every tour has I'm very old school in that sense 404 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:40,719 Speaker 3: of like I like finished albums. So with that album 405 00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:43,320 Speaker 3: and that concept comes the tour and what I'm going 406 00:19:43,400 --> 00:19:45,280 Speaker 3: to talk about. And right now it's the amanthis tour, 407 00:19:45,400 --> 00:19:48,239 Speaker 3: so we're talking about how a Diamond was made and 408 00:19:48,359 --> 00:19:51,520 Speaker 3: under pressure and in dirt basically, and how long it's 409 00:19:51,560 --> 00:19:53,440 Speaker 3: taken that to what I feel that I'm doing right now. 410 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:55,480 Speaker 3: And I listen to everything. I love R and B, 411 00:19:55,600 --> 00:19:57,760 Speaker 3: I love rap, and that's what I do in my shows, 412 00:19:57,800 --> 00:19:59,720 Speaker 3: like I'm kind of yes, I'm sinking band and I 413 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:02,800 Speaker 3: have a hanna on, you know, very traditional, but I'm rapping. 414 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:04,840 Speaker 3: Especially with this last album, you're going to hear a 415 00:20:04,880 --> 00:20:09,159 Speaker 3: lot of that, the fusions of country and R and 416 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:11,960 Speaker 3: B and all those things that I listen to that 417 00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:15,800 Speaker 3: have inspired me to sing. And I'm also like, I'm 418 00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:18,679 Speaker 3: not afraid, and I think that that's why I've been 419 00:20:18,720 --> 00:20:20,919 Speaker 3: able to kind of do my own thing and not 420 00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:23,520 Speaker 3: necessarily stay in my mom's shadow because I was for 421 00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:25,719 Speaker 3: so long, Because I'm like, I'm not afraid of stepping 422 00:20:25,720 --> 00:20:28,600 Speaker 3: out of my comfort zone and shaking things up a 423 00:20:28,600 --> 00:20:30,199 Speaker 3: little bit, because that's the only way I feel that 424 00:20:30,240 --> 00:20:31,200 Speaker 3: you're going to make history. 425 00:20:31,680 --> 00:20:33,480 Speaker 1: I think you're doing it in a really cool way 426 00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:36,800 Speaker 1: because your mom was and is such a legend, and 427 00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:40,000 Speaker 1: so you get that respect from the Latin community in particular, 428 00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:43,400 Speaker 1: and then you're putting your own cheeky's twist on it. 429 00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:46,880 Speaker 1: No thank you so much. I want to pay so collab. 430 00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:49,960 Speaker 1: Is there anybody that you want to collab with? Yes, 431 00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:52,480 Speaker 1: I would love to do something with Carol ge. I 432 00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:56,000 Speaker 1: love what she's doing. I think she's a wonderful human 433 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:59,800 Speaker 1: being and as a woman and everything that she's you know, 434 00:20:59,800 --> 00:21:03,440 Speaker 1: she's broken so many barriers and for me, it's someone 435 00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:05,920 Speaker 1: that I absolutely admire. So that's someone that's like high 436 00:21:05,960 --> 00:21:08,240 Speaker 1: on my list. Galiu Cheese as well, I think is 437 00:21:08,280 --> 00:21:09,639 Speaker 1: super awesome. I love that. 438 00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:12,399 Speaker 3: I'd love to do something with BESL. We actually have 439 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:18,959 Speaker 3: the same manager, so this has to happen, I know, right, Yeah, 440 00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 3: I know. And the thing is, I think we're waiting 441 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,520 Speaker 3: for the right song. I think he's the same. We 442 00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:26,119 Speaker 3: can't force it. It just has to kind of happen organically, 443 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:28,879 Speaker 3: and I'd prefer it that way anyways. So yeah, I 444 00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:32,760 Speaker 3: mean maybe maybe maybe we'll do it. You know, we'll see. 445 00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:36,040 Speaker 1: I'm holding that vision for your Cheeky's thank you put 446 00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:40,879 Speaker 1: it on your vision word please. I love that we 447 00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:43,200 Speaker 1: need to take another short break, but when we come back, 448 00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:49,000 Speaker 1: Cheeky's answers your questions about beauty, friendship, and entrepreneurship stick 449 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:58,240 Speaker 1: with us. We're back with Cheeky's So. 450 00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:01,439 Speaker 2: For music to podcast. You have a podcast called Cheeky 451 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:04,480 Speaker 2: and Chill. And one thing I love about the way 452 00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:07,720 Speaker 2: you do your podcast is that you seamlessly flow between 453 00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:11,280 Speaker 2: English and Spanish. It's like you're creating something for both 454 00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:14,639 Speaker 2: a very specific audience and a broader audience at the 455 00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:18,280 Speaker 2: same time. Yeah, what reaction have you gotten from the 456 00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:20,800 Speaker 2: LATINX community about the show? 457 00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:21,959 Speaker 1: Oh? Thank you. 458 00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,119 Speaker 3: I have Cheekys and Chill on Mondays and then on Wednesday, 459 00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:26,080 Speaker 3: I have Dear Cheeky. So people ask me questions and 460 00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:28,919 Speaker 3: I do my best to give them my best advice. 461 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:30,880 Speaker 3: For sure, like a big sister, I think it works 462 00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 3: out because I'm a big sister. You know, it's doing 463 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:36,080 Speaker 3: very well in the comments that I receive. It's such 464 00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:39,439 Speaker 3: a beautiful compliment for me because I feel like the 465 00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:42,320 Speaker 3: people that are listening to my podcast are people just 466 00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:44,800 Speaker 3: like me. You know that we're here nor there, and 467 00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:47,000 Speaker 3: it's kind of like the two hundred percent where you're 468 00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:49,680 Speaker 3: one hundred percent you know, Latin one hundred percent American, 469 00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:51,879 Speaker 3: and I'm like, those are the people that I'm talking to, 470 00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:55,159 Speaker 3: and I'm receiving that feedback because as one thing I 471 00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,239 Speaker 3: told them, if I'm going to do a podcast, I 472 00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,560 Speaker 3: need to just be myself and I express myself a 473 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:02,760 Speaker 3: lot better to be honest in English, but I always 474 00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:06,280 Speaker 3: will put a word here there in Spanish all the time. 475 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:07,120 Speaker 1: It's just who I am. 476 00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:10,600 Speaker 3: And I do receive a lot of great feedback, and 477 00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:13,040 Speaker 3: that's amazing because I love to podcast. 478 00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:16,359 Speaker 1: It's like therapy for me. It's really I love it. 479 00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:18,199 Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm just talking to a microphone unless I 480 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:19,679 Speaker 3: have like an invite, but I'm like, I love it. 481 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:21,400 Speaker 3: I'm just letting it all out too. 482 00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:24,719 Speaker 2: Is there a question that's stumped you or one that 483 00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:27,800 Speaker 2: still kind of haunts you today? A question that a 484 00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:29,280 Speaker 2: user has sent in listening. 485 00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:33,280 Speaker 3: Yes, and it came from an anonymous listener. Because I 486 00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:36,400 Speaker 3: never listened to the questions prior, I let my producers 487 00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:39,000 Speaker 3: put them on right then and there, and you get 488 00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:41,760 Speaker 3: my reactions, like my natural reaction, because I just like, 489 00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:43,240 Speaker 3: what comes from the heart reaches a heart, you know. 490 00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:48,840 Speaker 3: So one time a girl asked me, I don't know 491 00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:50,320 Speaker 3: if I can say this is that like? But I mean, 492 00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:52,560 Speaker 3: I'll be honest. She was saying that she had been 493 00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:55,680 Speaker 3: dating this guy for a few months and they had 494 00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:58,560 Speaker 3: finally had sex and he had a very small penis, 495 00:23:58,600 --> 00:24:01,920 Speaker 3: but she really liked him, and she didn't know how 496 00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:04,720 Speaker 3: to tell him how they can just try different positions 497 00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:06,720 Speaker 3: or something like that because he had a small piness. 498 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:08,240 Speaker 3: I was just like, I was very caught off guard. 499 00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:09,800 Speaker 3: I was like, oh my goodness, I don't even know 500 00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:11,440 Speaker 3: how to deal with this right now. But I don't 501 00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:14,159 Speaker 3: even remember what I said, but that did shock me. 502 00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:17,240 Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, well, if you like him, that's good. 503 00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:19,080 Speaker 3: I mean, you guys will figure it out. 504 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,000 Speaker 1: Cheeky's I feel like somebody wrote this question and to 505 00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:26,040 Speaker 1: troll you. You think, I know. Honestly, I swear I've 506 00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:26,359 Speaker 1: thought that. 507 00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:28,600 Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, are these my I've even thought I'm like, 508 00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:29,680 Speaker 3: are these my producers? 509 00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:32,320 Speaker 1: Like trying to get me? It's one of your best 510 00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:38,000 Speaker 1: friends who's trolling you for real? Oh my gosh. Yeah, 511 00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:39,800 Speaker 1: I was so ungoted. I was like, oh my gosh, 512 00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:42,720 Speaker 1: am I gonna help this grow it out? Yeah? Well, 513 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:44,600 Speaker 1: with that in mind, we have a few questions we're 514 00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:46,760 Speaker 1: going to read to you from our bright side besties. 515 00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:49,800 Speaker 1: There's a range. Okay, some are light, some are heavy. 516 00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:52,399 Speaker 1: But with all of that said, are you ready to 517 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:55,360 Speaker 1: give us some big sister advice. I am ready. Oh 518 00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:58,320 Speaker 1: that Cheeky's my best friend is in a relationship with 519 00:24:58,359 --> 00:25:00,800 Speaker 1: a guy that I'm not a fan of. Early on 520 00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:02,960 Speaker 1: in their relationship, I told her I was worried about 521 00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:04,719 Speaker 1: her because there was a lot of drama and she 522 00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:07,520 Speaker 1: was crying every time I spoke with her. They quickly 523 00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:09,679 Speaker 1: moved in together, and since I mentioned I was worried 524 00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:12,119 Speaker 1: about her, she's never mentioned him to me again, like, 525 00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,120 Speaker 1: barely even mentioned they moved in together. She's my best 526 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:16,880 Speaker 1: friend and I want her to know that I'm here 527 00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:19,400 Speaker 1: for her, but it's totally awkward that she doesn't mention 528 00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:21,960 Speaker 1: one of the biggest things in her life. Any advice 529 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:23,760 Speaker 1: on how to address it or should I just let 530 00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:24,840 Speaker 1: it be and follow her lead? 531 00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:28,040 Speaker 3: Ooh, that's a good question. I think your friend probably 532 00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:31,359 Speaker 3: knows that she's not in a good relationship and doesn't 533 00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:33,280 Speaker 3: want to hear the truth because she just kind of 534 00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:35,240 Speaker 3: wants to live this And I think you, as a 535 00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:39,200 Speaker 3: good friend, should probably just let it be and say hey, 536 00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:41,840 Speaker 3: I am here, and if it doesn't work out, don't 537 00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:45,320 Speaker 3: say I told you so. I would go and say, hey, 538 00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:50,000 Speaker 3: I've noticed that you haven't been telling me about your boyfriend. 539 00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:53,320 Speaker 3: I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings, if I made 540 00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:58,080 Speaker 3: you feel uncomfortable, I'll reserve my opinion. But I want 541 00:25:58,080 --> 00:25:59,360 Speaker 3: to be here for you and I want to hear 542 00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:01,680 Speaker 3: about what's going on in your life, so please feel free. 543 00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:04,360 Speaker 3: I don't want to feel like you're excluding me. I'm 544 00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:06,879 Speaker 3: here for you. I think even if she decides after 545 00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:10,720 Speaker 3: that not to share anything with you, then I would 546 00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 3: just leave it at that. But I think you should 547 00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:14,520 Speaker 3: be the first to say, hey, I'm here, I love 548 00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:17,600 Speaker 3: you and I respect your decision, so that that way 549 00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:20,920 Speaker 3: she feels comfortable with sharing, and just be there for her. 550 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 1: It's tough. Been there. Yeah, that's not an easy one, 551 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:27,200 Speaker 1: but you gave great advice. Okay. 552 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:31,199 Speaker 2: Question number two for people who are aspiring entrepreneurs, what 553 00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,200 Speaker 2: would be your words of advice for them? 554 00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:36,600 Speaker 1: Hmm, definitely do it. Try it. 555 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:41,800 Speaker 3: I just know because when I started my first business, 556 00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:44,240 Speaker 3: I felt it was Just know that it's all part 557 00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:46,840 Speaker 3: of the process. Do not be afraid of failure. It's 558 00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:50,800 Speaker 3: going to help you appreciate success and teach you a 559 00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:52,120 Speaker 3: lot along the way. 560 00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:53,119 Speaker 1: Try it. 561 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:55,000 Speaker 3: Don't live with you. What if I tried it. What 562 00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:56,560 Speaker 3: if don't let fear stop you. 563 00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:57,520 Speaker 1: Do it. 564 00:26:57,640 --> 00:26:59,959 Speaker 3: Try it, save your money, don't leave your job completely. 565 00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:03,440 Speaker 3: Like still do that, and you know, have your ducks 566 00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:05,080 Speaker 3: in a row and save some money and do it 567 00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,680 Speaker 3: whatever it may be. I mean, the great thing about 568 00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:12,440 Speaker 3: social media is that it's helping a lot of entrepreneurs 569 00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:14,800 Speaker 3: and small businesses. So I think it's a lot easier 570 00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:19,920 Speaker 3: than five ten years ago even so definitely try it. 571 00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:21,320 Speaker 3: Don't let fear stop you. 572 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,840 Speaker 1: Okay, question number three, I know for years you've struggled 573 00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 1: with being self conscious about your arms. What's your secret? 574 00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:32,720 Speaker 3: I did forever? Okay, Well, first of all, I put 575 00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:35,760 Speaker 3: it on my vision board. I put some really nice arms, 576 00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:38,440 Speaker 3: and I put my little face on the girl. And 577 00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:42,240 Speaker 3: also I've been working out as part of my lifestyle. 578 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,200 Speaker 3: But I also went to a doctor. 579 00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:45,639 Speaker 1: Guys. 580 00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:48,359 Speaker 3: I went to a doctor called Celebrity Arms or something 581 00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:51,639 Speaker 3: like that on Instagram, and he's in Tampa, and he 582 00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:54,600 Speaker 3: did this amazing light bow on my arms, you guys, 583 00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:56,960 Speaker 3: And I'm so happy I did it before I lost weight, 584 00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:58,679 Speaker 3: which I wish I would have waited a little bit, 585 00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:02,080 Speaker 3: but I am very happy with my arms. He toned 586 00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:04,560 Speaker 3: like he made them like look very like if I 587 00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:07,520 Speaker 3: worked out for I don't know, ten years NonStop. So 588 00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:09,520 Speaker 3: I'm really happy with them now and I'm still keeping 589 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:11,840 Speaker 3: it up, you know, I'm working out. So yeah, that's 590 00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:15,840 Speaker 3: that's my secret. That's what happened. That's awesome. Good for you. 591 00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:19,080 Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing that with us. Of course, Cheeky's 592 00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:22,199 Speaker 1: this has been so much fun. You are totally the 593 00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:25,640 Speaker 1: internet's favorite big sister. Thanks for coming on the right side. 594 00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:28,199 Speaker 1: Thank you, ladies. I appreciate it. I love it. 595 00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:30,159 Speaker 3: I thank you for your time and hopefully were I 596 00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:31,040 Speaker 3: would help a lot of people. 597 00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:37,560 Speaker 2: Cheekys is a musician, author, and TV personality with the 598 00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:42,000 Speaker 2: new show Cheeky Sinfiltro now streaming on the platform vix. 599 00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:44,400 Speaker 2: You can hear more of her and her big sister 600 00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:46,720 Speaker 2: advice on our podcast, Cheekys and Chill. 601 00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:55,560 Speaker 1: That's it for today's show. Tomorrow, it's Wellness Wednesday. Happiness 602 00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:58,480 Speaker 1: and well being advocate Karen Guggenheim joins us to share 603 00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:01,840 Speaker 1: how we can all bring more happiness into our lives. 604 00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:05,680 Speaker 1: Listen and follow the bright Side on the iHeartRadio app, 605 00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:09,560 Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Simone voice. 606 00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:13,040 Speaker 2: You can find me at Simone Boice on Instagram and TikTok. 607 00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:17,440 Speaker 1: I'm Danielle Robe on Instagram and TikTok. That's r v A. 608 00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:22,440 Speaker 2: Y see you tomorrow, Folks. Keep looking on the bright side.