1 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:05,800 Speaker 1: Hello Sunshine, Hey, besties. 2 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:09,520 Speaker 2: Today on the bright Side, we're talking to Latin Grammy winner, author, 3 00:00:09,840 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 2: podcast host, and TV personality Cheeky's. She's telling us all 4 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:16,480 Speaker 2: about our new show, Cheeky Sine Filthro, how to pull 5 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:19,279 Speaker 2: off a secret wedding, and the importance of her role 6 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:23,759 Speaker 2: as the ultimate big sister. It's Tuesday, September tenth. I'm 7 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:24,480 Speaker 2: Simone Boyce. 8 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:27,400 Speaker 3: I'm Danielle Robe and this is the bright Side from 9 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 3: Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to 10 00:00:30,440 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 3: share women's stories, to laugh, learn and brighten your day. 11 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 2: Okay, Danielle as an eldest daughter, are you into older 12 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:40,800 Speaker 2: sister core? 13 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 3: Okay, I'm not, only because it's too real for me, 14 00:00:45,880 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 3: Like I can't. 15 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 1: You know, like I can't read through it because it's 16 00:00:49,479 --> 00:00:49,960 Speaker 1: too real. 17 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:52,599 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what, I'm not an oldest daughter, but 18 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 2: I feel like I understand the plight because I was 19 00:00:56,600 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 2: raised by one. So if any of our besties have 20 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 2: scrolled through TikTok recently, you might have noticed the hashtag 21 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:06,480 Speaker 2: oldest Daughters, which has over a billion views. So clearly, 22 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 2: oldest daughters are finding this new kind of family on 23 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 2: social media where they can commiserate over shared experiences as 24 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:17,040 Speaker 2: firstborn females. Danielle, the memes are hilarious, so you're totally 25 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:19,160 Speaker 2: missing out. I love this one. It says, are you 26 00:01:19,240 --> 00:01:22,120 Speaker 2: happy or are you the oldest child? And also a girl? 27 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:23,039 Speaker 1: So true. 28 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:27,119 Speaker 3: When you are the oldest daughter, you are the backup parent. 29 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:31,199 Speaker 3: You have no authority, but you have all of the responsibility. 30 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:35,240 Speaker 3: It's like being an unpaid therapist, a personal assistant. 31 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 1: Your resume is so stacked. Yeah, that makes a lot 32 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: of sense. 33 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:42,320 Speaker 2: And now that you're saying that, I think about how 34 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 2: my mom was extra hard on me. At least that's 35 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:48,000 Speaker 2: how it felt growing up. And I think that's because 36 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:50,160 Speaker 2: she had to grow up so quickly as a big sister. 37 00:01:50,480 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 1: And I know from the. 38 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 2: Stories that my mom has told me that, like you mentioned, 39 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 2: the eldest daughter role comes with a lot of its 40 00:01:56,880 --> 00:02:00,560 Speaker 2: own unique challenges and responsibilities. I mean, I've even heard 41 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 2: that sometimes it feels like the weight of the world 42 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 2: is on your shoulders. 43 00:02:03,320 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know, that's definitely intense. I don't 44 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 3: know if I felt like I think my parents were 45 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 3: very much parents, so I didn't feel like the weight 46 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:14,640 Speaker 3: of the world, but you do feel a responsibility to 47 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 3: set a good example and do the right thing. And 48 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:21,440 Speaker 3: when I think about an oldest sibling, it's being an 49 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 3: oldest daughter is different than being an oldest son. 50 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:25,920 Speaker 1: And I think this is a story that exemplifies it. 51 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:29,799 Speaker 3: A friend of mine, a guy friend from growing up, 52 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:34,080 Speaker 3: is having a baby and it's a girl. And I said, oh, 53 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:37,360 Speaker 3: my goodness, congratulations, and he said, yeah, I'm so excited, 54 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 3: and you know, she's going to take care of everything 55 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 3: and take care of her younger siblings. And I was like, 56 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 3: would you say that if you were having a boy. 57 00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:47,360 Speaker 1: I don't think so. 58 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 3: I think you would say, like, I'm so excited for 59 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 3: him to become a soccer player. 60 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 1: And I just think there's this expectation. 61 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 3: Of eldest daughters that is unwritten and written at the 62 00:02:58,200 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 3: same time. 63 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:03,639 Speaker 2: I actually like, if we do have a third kid, 64 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:08,200 Speaker 2: I expect my sons to take care of the younger child, 65 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:12,120 Speaker 2: you know. But maybe that's because it feels rare, and 66 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:14,799 Speaker 2: I want to see that dynamic more in families where 67 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 2: we praise our sons for being nurturing and having those 68 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 2: like early parenting tendencies. But I think there's a balance 69 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 2: to it, right, Like you obviously don't want to overwhelm 70 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:28,079 Speaker 2: them so much so that they don't feel like they 71 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:28,799 Speaker 2: have a childhood. 72 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 1: Yeah for sure. 73 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:33,000 Speaker 3: Well we're chatting about all of this because our guest 74 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:36,760 Speaker 3: today is the ultimate big sister. Cheeky's is the eldest 75 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 3: daughter of the late influential singer Jenny Rivera, known as 76 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 3: La Diva de la Banda. Jenny sold over twenty million 77 00:03:44,520 --> 00:03:48,400 Speaker 3: albums worldwide and her records have reached gold and platinum. 78 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 3: And with all of those accolades, here's where the story 79 00:03:51,480 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 3: takes a tragic turn. Jenny died in a plane crash 80 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:58,440 Speaker 3: in twenty twelve, leaving Cheeky's to become the matriarch of 81 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 3: her family. She has four siblings and she took care 82 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 3: of all of them so In twenty fourteen, Cheeky's launched 83 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 3: her own music career and her debut single, Paloma Blanca, 84 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:12,720 Speaker 3: was a tribute to her late mother, and since then, 85 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 3: she's received several nominations and awards and won the Latin 86 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:20,159 Speaker 3: Grammy for Best Bonda Album twice. She's known for blending 87 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:23,359 Speaker 3: and defying several different genres like mariachi, r and b 88 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:27,279 Speaker 3: country and Bonda, a Mexican style of music which features 89 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 3: wind instruments mostly of brass and percussion, and now she's 90 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 3: currently on her North American Diamantes tour. Well. 91 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:37,600 Speaker 2: Cheeky's also has a new docu series out called Cheeky 92 00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:41,359 Speaker 2: Sine Fieltro meaning We're seeing Cheeky Swift no Filter, and 93 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 2: she's giving viewers a glimpse into her life now plus 94 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 2: a little journey back into her past. She's also the 95 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 2: host of Cheeky sin Chill, where she shares how she's 96 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 2: navigating the male dominated music industry, what it was like 97 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:56,120 Speaker 2: growing up in the spotlight from such a young age, 98 00:04:56,279 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 2: and she even gives some big sister advice to her listeners, 99 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 2: like how to get back to the dating pool after 100 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:03,919 Speaker 2: a divorce and how to forgive people who've hurt you 101 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:07,040 Speaker 2: in the past. So let's bring her in Cheeky's Welcome 102 00:05:07,040 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 2: to the bright side. 103 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:10,800 Speaker 4: Oh thank you guys. I'm so excited. Thank you so much. 104 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 4: We're really excited to have you. You have great energy. 105 00:05:14,040 --> 00:05:18,479 Speaker 3: Your new docu series, Cheeky Sinfieldtrow is out now. And 106 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 3: one extraordinary moment that we get to see as your 107 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:25,839 Speaker 3: wedding to photographer Amelio Sanchez, which was this summer. First 108 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:27,599 Speaker 3: of all, I've been a fan of his for a while. 109 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 3: He does great work. Second of all, congratulations, Oh. 110 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. 111 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 4: I let him know that that's how we met actually 112 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 4: through photography. 113 00:05:37,080 --> 00:05:40,120 Speaker 3: Well, you guys had this secret ceremony, which is actually, 114 00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:44,040 Speaker 3: I think my dream way to get married. I'm wondering 115 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 3: how you pulled it off, Like, what is the key 116 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:47,560 Speaker 3: to pulling off a secret wedding? 117 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:52,920 Speaker 4: Inviting all the right people that I think was the thing. 118 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:54,839 Speaker 4: And I feel bad because there's people in my life 119 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:58,920 Speaker 4: that I didn't invite that I love. But if I 120 00:05:58,960 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 4: thought twice about it, I'm like, oh, could they tell someone? 121 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:04,960 Speaker 4: I just I didn't invite them, And that doesn't mean 122 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:07,120 Speaker 4: that they're less special or that they're less important in 123 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:09,839 Speaker 4: my life. But I just wanted it to be in 124 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 4: the beginning just family. At first, I was like, letsie lope, 125 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 4: and then he's like, well what about my mom? And 126 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:16,600 Speaker 4: then I said, well what about my siblings? And then 127 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 4: it just kind of grew from there and it went 128 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 4: from fifty guests to eighty five at the end. That's 129 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 4: a good number, though, Yeah, right, I thought that that 130 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:25,479 Speaker 4: was like I really wanted it smaller, to be honest, 131 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:27,400 Speaker 4: But I feel like everyone that was there, I was 132 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:30,360 Speaker 4: very excited to see to hug. It wasn't like, oh 133 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 4: I got to go to that table. It was just 134 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 4: these are my people, and I think that made the 135 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:38,040 Speaker 4: biggest difference, and that's why I wasn't leaked. So I'm 136 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 4: just I'm grateful to know that the people invited I 137 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:40,560 Speaker 4: can trust. 138 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: Well, I know you're a music person. 139 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:45,120 Speaker 3: You are a musician, so I'm curious what song you 140 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:46,359 Speaker 3: chose for your first dance. 141 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 4: Well, the crazy thing is, we didn't have a first 142 00:06:49,279 --> 00:06:51,920 Speaker 4: dance because we just had the ceremony, which was like 143 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:55,200 Speaker 4: poolside and then you guys will see it like later 144 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:58,240 Speaker 4: in the season of Chikisinfildro. But and then we had 145 00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 4: a little like dinner. So I didn't have a firstance. 146 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:03,600 Speaker 4: But I did walk down to a song. It was 147 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:05,919 Speaker 4: a song that he dedicated me and that my mom 148 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:08,120 Speaker 4: in some way from Heaven. I know it sounds weird, 149 00:07:08,160 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 4: dedicated me as well. It was the song by your 150 00:07:11,280 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 4: Side by Shadah. I'm a huge Shadda fan, love sad, 151 00:07:14,520 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 4: So I walked down to that one and. 152 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:19,440 Speaker 3: It was just like, oh, it was crying. It was 153 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:22,760 Speaker 3: so beautiful. I'm sure everybody was crying. When you walk 154 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 3: down the aisle too, that's breathing. 155 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:26,679 Speaker 1: So yeah, he was crying. I was crying. 156 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 4: I was just so focused and like honed in on him. 157 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 4: But now that I watched the footage of sint Fhildro, 158 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 4: now I'm like, I saw my family and everyone was 159 00:07:33,920 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 4: kind of tearing up. Our vowels were so cute too, 160 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:39,000 Speaker 4: So everyone was crying. It was a really very very 161 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:40,240 Speaker 4: special ceremony. 162 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:40,600 Speaker 1: For sure. 163 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:45,600 Speaker 2: The whole series is super personal. It's raw, it's unfiltered. 164 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:48,800 Speaker 2: Of course, that's in the title. How did you decide 165 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 2: what to show and what to keep sacred? 166 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:53,280 Speaker 1: Hmmm, it's a good question. 167 00:07:53,680 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 4: The only thing I said was when the cameras came 168 00:07:56,200 --> 00:07:59,720 Speaker 4: back into my home, I said, my bedroom's off limits. 169 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 4: I believe a lot of energy and stuff, and I 170 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 4: was just like, look, my bedroom is just I don't 171 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:06,640 Speaker 4: want the cameras in there. Other than that, I just 172 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:09,520 Speaker 4: let things just flow. I didn't even really plan anything 173 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 4: because it is a docu follow so they were just 174 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:16,360 Speaker 4: following my everyday agenda, like what I'm doing, and then 175 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 4: if stuff just happened and came up, they covered it, 176 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:22,480 Speaker 4: you know. But I didn't really even remove anything. I 177 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:24,280 Speaker 4: just let it happen, and I knew what I was 178 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 4: getting myself into. And it also helps that I'm an 179 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 4: executive producer and I've done this and I did reality 180 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 4: for like ten years, so I knew what to say 181 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 4: and not to say. But in reality, I was like, 182 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:36,320 Speaker 4: this is seeing feet little, this is no filter. I 183 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:39,240 Speaker 4: have to just really live up to that, and I did. 184 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:40,680 Speaker 4: I was like, well, here it is. I'm gonna let 185 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 4: it all hang out. You know, Chiki's you have accomplished 186 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 4: so much. 187 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:47,440 Speaker 2: You're a touring musician, you're an executive producer, like you mentioned, 188 00:08:47,480 --> 00:08:51,360 Speaker 2: you've been on several TV shows. And yet the accomplishment 189 00:08:51,440 --> 00:08:56,680 Speaker 2: that I think is the most powerful or meaningful or 190 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:59,200 Speaker 2: says the most about you is how you stepped in 191 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:02,439 Speaker 2: for your siblings in the wake of your mother's passing. 192 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:06,320 Speaker 2: As the oldest of your siblings, you really became the 193 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:09,600 Speaker 2: matriarch of the family, Like you know, beyond the duties 194 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:13,280 Speaker 2: of an elder sister. You raised your siblings as if 195 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 2: they were your own children and became almost like a 196 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:18,080 Speaker 2: mother to them. How do you think that shaped the 197 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:19,959 Speaker 2: woman that we're speaking with today. 198 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:23,960 Speaker 4: Oh my goodness, it's crazy that you bring that up 199 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:27,080 Speaker 4: right now, because I didn't realize. But Johnny, my brother, 200 00:09:27,120 --> 00:09:30,960 Speaker 4: the youngest, who's now twenty three, he posted something yesterday 201 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,120 Speaker 4: and sent me a message and said, you know today, 202 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 4: Mark's ten years that you got custody of Jenica and 203 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:40,200 Speaker 4: I my other sister. And I was like, oh my gosh. 204 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:43,319 Speaker 4: It hit me because again I'm so focused and I'm 205 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 4: doing my thing that I just keep going. 206 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:46,000 Speaker 1: I just keep pressing forward. 207 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 4: But when I sit back, and I was on the airplane, 208 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:49,360 Speaker 4: and I don't know if you guys are the same way, 209 00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 4: but every time I want an airplane, I don't know 210 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 4: if it's because I'm in the sky, but I get very, 211 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:56,720 Speaker 4: very emotional all the time. I watch a movie, i 212 00:09:56,760 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 4: read something and I start crying. So of course I 213 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:01,200 Speaker 4: was like crying. I'm like, oh my god, like this 214 00:10:01,320 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 4: is crazy. And I told him, I said I would 215 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:05,839 Speaker 4: do it over and over again, even if it meant 216 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 4: that I had to face the adversity that I've had 217 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:12,000 Speaker 4: to face, Like all of that has molded me to 218 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:14,319 Speaker 4: become the woman that I am today, Like I wouldn't 219 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:17,240 Speaker 4: change anything for so long I would ask my mom, 220 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:18,800 Speaker 4: why am I the eldest. Why do I have to 221 00:10:18,840 --> 00:10:21,439 Speaker 4: always be the example? There was so much pressure growing 222 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:23,040 Speaker 4: up and it was just a lot, and I'm like, 223 00:10:23,080 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 4: oh my gosh, Like it was a lot, and now 224 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:29,000 Speaker 4: I understand why. Now I'm like, Okay, it was God's 225 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 4: plan and I'm grateful, even if it meant that I 226 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:35,440 Speaker 4: had a lot of painful moments, you know. So I 227 00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 4: definitely think that being a mother or second mother to 228 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 4: my siblings and being my mom's right hand it really 229 00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 4: helped prepare me for these moments that I'm now living, 230 00:10:47,640 --> 00:10:49,600 Speaker 4: and even to be a mom now to have my 231 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:52,120 Speaker 4: own kids, Like, I know what to expect. I guess 232 00:10:52,120 --> 00:10:55,440 Speaker 4: I'm afraid of loving someone so much because I'm like, 233 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 4: if I love my siblings as much as I love them, 234 00:10:57,160 --> 00:10:59,200 Speaker 4: imagine a child that's going to come out of my body, 235 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 4: you know, that's my So that does scare. 236 00:11:01,679 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 1: Me a little bit. 237 00:11:02,280 --> 00:11:04,480 Speaker 4: I'm like, oh my gosh, to love someone that much, 238 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:06,760 Speaker 4: that really does something to me. 239 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:09,360 Speaker 1: But other than that, I'm like, I know what to do. 240 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:11,680 Speaker 4: I got this. My siblings are everything to me. 241 00:11:12,120 --> 00:11:15,080 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to ask you a question about being 242 00:11:15,080 --> 00:11:18,040 Speaker 2: the oldest sister. Yes, you know, there have been studies 243 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:24,120 Speaker 2: that have shown that eldest siblings tend to be more extroverted, agreeable, conscientious. 244 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:28,440 Speaker 2: I actually think that the elder sister dynamic is its 245 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:31,920 Speaker 2: own thing, It's its own identity. I think a lot 246 00:11:31,920 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 2: of times for older sisters it can manifest like all 247 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:37,880 Speaker 2: that conscientiousness and pressure can manifest in anxiety or I 248 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:40,199 Speaker 2: don't know. It comes out differently for each person obviously, 249 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:44,560 Speaker 2: But do you identify with those traditional older sister traits? 250 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:50,800 Speaker 4: Absolutely I do. I've had to learn through therapy. I'm 251 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:54,199 Speaker 4: a huge advocate for therapy because it helped me a lot. 252 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:57,760 Speaker 4: I was very overbearing. I felt like I knew it 253 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 4: all too like it's you got to listen to me, 254 00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:02,800 Speaker 4: like I know, I'm your sister, like been there, done 255 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 4: that sort of thing, and it's not okay, it's not fair, 256 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 4: you know. And I had to learn to step back 257 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:13,120 Speaker 4: and stop the mother role and just be a sister 258 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:17,600 Speaker 4: and be that supporting teammate. And that was very difficult 259 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:20,120 Speaker 4: for me. Now I'm like, all right, cool, Johnny just 260 00:12:20,120 --> 00:12:21,839 Speaker 4: moved out. You guys also see that on cheek seen 261 00:12:21,840 --> 00:12:25,320 Speaker 4: feed throw. That was devastating to me. But now I'm like, okay, 262 00:12:25,320 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 4: I'm living my life for me, but still I'm trying, 263 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:32,439 Speaker 4: you know, but definitely I do identify with it for sure. 264 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 2: We need to take a quick break, but we'll be 265 00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:45,320 Speaker 2: right back with more from Latin Grammy winning artist Cheekyese. 266 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:49,920 Speaker 1: And we're back with Cheeky's. 267 00:12:51,240 --> 00:12:54,080 Speaker 3: So you recently accepted a star on the Hollywood Walk 268 00:12:54,080 --> 00:12:57,960 Speaker 3: of Fame for your mom, Jenny Rivera, I can't imagine 269 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:01,320 Speaker 3: just how meaningful and emotional that must have been. 270 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:05,960 Speaker 4: What was that moment like for you? It was surreal 271 00:13:06,160 --> 00:13:08,080 Speaker 4: right now when you mentioned it, I got chills. I 272 00:13:08,120 --> 00:13:11,640 Speaker 4: was just like, wow, Like, it's so cool to say 273 00:13:11,679 --> 00:13:16,120 Speaker 4: that my mom is a legend, you know, and she 274 00:13:16,160 --> 00:13:20,840 Speaker 4: did so much for the community, and more than anything, 275 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 4: I want people and my siblings and I feel the 276 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:25,960 Speaker 4: same way. I want her fans and people to know 277 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:28,000 Speaker 4: her as the woman. Yes, of course her artistry and 278 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:31,760 Speaker 4: everything that she accomplished is huge, but more than anything, 279 00:13:31,760 --> 00:13:34,360 Speaker 4: the woman. And that's why we were so excited to know, 280 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:36,920 Speaker 4: you know, a girl that was born and raised in 281 00:13:36,920 --> 00:13:39,959 Speaker 4: Long Beach and wasn't supposed to make it quote unquote, 282 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 4: she did. My mom was a woman that would claim 283 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:46,760 Speaker 4: things it wasn't where oh, I wish. I wish it 284 00:13:46,800 --> 00:13:49,160 Speaker 4: was I'm going to have a star on the Hollywood 285 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:52,760 Speaker 4: Walk of Fame one day, And I remember those conversations 286 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 4: and then to see it, you know, come to life 287 00:13:55,840 --> 00:13:59,320 Speaker 4: and her actually getting her star, obviously it hurt more 288 00:13:59,320 --> 00:14:02,160 Speaker 4: because she wasn't here physically, but I was so proud 289 00:14:02,160 --> 00:14:04,360 Speaker 4: to say, wow, like we did this for her because 290 00:14:04,400 --> 00:14:06,679 Speaker 4: I know that was a huge, huge stream of hers. 291 00:14:07,200 --> 00:14:08,839 Speaker 4: I'm very proud of her. That's what I feel in 292 00:14:08,920 --> 00:14:10,640 Speaker 4: my heart. I'm like, I'm just I'm very proud of 293 00:14:10,640 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 4: her and proud to say that that's my mom. 294 00:14:13,600 --> 00:14:15,560 Speaker 3: You said that you kind of felt her on your 295 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:17,520 Speaker 3: wedding day when you were walking down the aisle. Were 296 00:14:17,559 --> 00:14:19,920 Speaker 3: you able to feel her at that moment too. 297 00:14:20,560 --> 00:14:24,680 Speaker 4: Absolutely, and my siblings and I didn't say anything to 298 00:14:24,760 --> 00:14:28,720 Speaker 4: one another right away, but before walking out to where 299 00:14:28,720 --> 00:14:32,400 Speaker 4: the star is, I felt this crazy feeling. 300 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:33,680 Speaker 1: There were helicopters. 301 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:35,880 Speaker 4: I'm like, oh my gosh, this is huge, Like this 302 00:14:35,960 --> 00:14:38,320 Speaker 4: is I guess I didn't really realize until I was there, 303 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:40,920 Speaker 4: and because I'm so focused on everything that I'm doing, 304 00:14:40,920 --> 00:14:43,480 Speaker 4: But then I was like, Okay, this is today, this's happening. 305 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 4: We all kind of just felt this beautiful breeze and 306 00:14:46,520 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 4: the day was so like amazing, the weather was great. 307 00:14:51,040 --> 00:14:53,360 Speaker 4: So I think I definitely felt her. And then later 308 00:14:53,400 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 4: on my siblings and I were like, oh my gosh, 309 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:57,360 Speaker 4: I felt it too. I felt like a special presence, 310 00:14:57,400 --> 00:14:58,560 Speaker 4: and I'm like, well, that has to be mom. 311 00:14:58,640 --> 00:14:58,840 Speaker 2: You know. 312 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:00,200 Speaker 1: It was really cool. 313 00:15:01,120 --> 00:15:04,560 Speaker 3: So in the very first episode of Cheeky Sinfieldtrow you said, 314 00:15:04,560 --> 00:15:06,800 Speaker 3: when you're going through something, the best thing you can 315 00:15:06,840 --> 00:15:08,920 Speaker 3: do is be happy and say thank you for the 316 00:15:09,000 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 3: chance to learn and to grow. And that is coming 317 00:15:12,360 --> 00:15:14,520 Speaker 3: from a very evolved person who has been through a 318 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:18,040 Speaker 3: whole heck of a lot. How did you reach that point, 319 00:15:18,080 --> 00:15:20,680 Speaker 3: because I can't imagine that was the first instinct you 320 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:21,800 Speaker 3: had all those years ago. 321 00:15:22,040 --> 00:15:23,440 Speaker 1: No, it definitely wasn't. 322 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:27,120 Speaker 4: I think it was just a choice and the only 323 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:29,640 Speaker 4: way I was going to get through is to know 324 00:15:30,120 --> 00:15:34,080 Speaker 4: that It's part of my testimony. It's part of the 325 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:37,280 Speaker 4: story that I'm going to tell my children or my 326 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:40,560 Speaker 4: fans of Like, Okay, I'm the type of person that 327 00:15:40,640 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 4: I and it sounds very I don't know, I guess, cliche, 328 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:46,560 Speaker 4: but it's like, oh, very positive. I try to find 329 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:49,360 Speaker 4: the positive in everything. I feel like everything happens for 330 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:52,160 Speaker 4: a reason. I really really feel that, and I think 331 00:15:52,240 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 4: that that's what helped me. I just said, well, I mean, 332 00:15:54,440 --> 00:15:56,560 Speaker 4: this is a learning lesson, and I have a choice. 333 00:15:57,040 --> 00:16:00,440 Speaker 4: This happened to me. I can either victimize myself or 334 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:03,680 Speaker 4: I can grow from it. Any situation, we can always 335 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:07,800 Speaker 4: find something positive to pull out of it, and it 336 00:16:07,880 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 4: is up to us to say, Okay, I either sink 337 00:16:11,960 --> 00:16:14,480 Speaker 4: or I swim. And I just chose to swim. Kind 338 00:16:14,480 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 4: of like Dori, I always say that I might keep 339 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 4: on swimming, keep on swimming. I was like, I figured out, 340 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:22,040 Speaker 4: you know, and that's what's helped me. I had no 341 00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:24,720 Speaker 4: other choice. I was like, well again, because I am 342 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 4: the eldest, I always had to be that example. So 343 00:16:27,040 --> 00:16:28,840 Speaker 4: my siblings were always in the back of my mind work. 344 00:16:28,920 --> 00:16:31,680 Speaker 4: I have to show them that this is possible. I 345 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:32,960 Speaker 4: have to keep going, you know. I have to be 346 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:36,040 Speaker 4: an extension of my mom and what she taught us. 347 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 1: That's really powerful. 348 00:16:39,120 --> 00:16:41,960 Speaker 3: I think of like the lineage of women's strength that 349 00:16:41,960 --> 00:16:44,320 Speaker 3: has come before me too. When I need to grab 350 00:16:44,360 --> 00:16:47,760 Speaker 3: onto something. For sure, Simona and I have this thing. 351 00:16:47,800 --> 00:16:50,080 Speaker 3: We're very similar in this. We say we give ourselves 352 00:16:50,080 --> 00:16:53,200 Speaker 3: twenty four hours. If we're sad, to wallow in it 353 00:16:53,280 --> 00:16:55,480 Speaker 3: and then it's time to get up and get going. 354 00:16:56,640 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 3: I'm curious what your process is when, like the be 355 00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:06,880 Speaker 3: happy mantra doesn't come as easily. You know what these 356 00:17:06,920 --> 00:17:10,520 Speaker 3: past I want to say month, I've it's been I 357 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:14,160 Speaker 3: haven't felt like this in a long time, where I'll 358 00:17:14,200 --> 00:17:15,600 Speaker 3: have two good days and then I have a bad 359 00:17:15,680 --> 00:17:18,240 Speaker 3: day and it's like I haven't felt this, and I'm like, Okay, 360 00:17:18,320 --> 00:17:20,920 Speaker 3: is it the retrograde? Is it like the blue moon 361 00:17:20,960 --> 00:17:22,560 Speaker 3: that just happened? Like I want to blame everything else, 362 00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:25,520 Speaker 3: you know, but it's just life, you know. And I've 363 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:30,120 Speaker 3: had a very difficult time with again me too, I'm like, Okay, 364 00:17:30,119 --> 00:17:32,760 Speaker 3: I feel sad. I'm going to feel these feelings. I'm 365 00:17:32,760 --> 00:17:34,960 Speaker 3: going to validate them, and then I'm not gonna let 366 00:17:34,960 --> 00:17:37,119 Speaker 3: this day become two days, three days the way I 367 00:17:37,240 --> 00:17:40,159 Speaker 3: used to. So I'm like, I have to again, I 368 00:17:40,200 --> 00:17:42,720 Speaker 3: have to get back up. But what really really helps 369 00:17:42,760 --> 00:17:46,200 Speaker 3: me is a good book. And that's what's been helping 370 00:17:46,200 --> 00:17:49,160 Speaker 3: me this past month. I'll have a book in my purse, 371 00:17:49,200 --> 00:17:51,760 Speaker 3: and now that I'm flying so much, I'll read some 372 00:17:51,880 --> 00:17:54,679 Speaker 3: pages a chapter I'm not like I don't read as 373 00:17:54,760 --> 00:17:57,080 Speaker 3: much as I used to, but I really am intentional 374 00:17:57,119 --> 00:18:00,159 Speaker 3: with reading or meditating, like just closing my eyes and 375 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:03,560 Speaker 3: just breathing and reminding myself that this too shall pass. 376 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:06,680 Speaker 4: It's okay, it's just a moment. It's not a bad life. 377 00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:09,000 Speaker 4: It's just a bad day, and it helps me. But 378 00:18:09,440 --> 00:18:11,520 Speaker 4: I've been struggling for the past month. To be honest, 379 00:18:11,520 --> 00:18:13,159 Speaker 4: I think it's just because I'm tired, you know what 380 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:15,520 Speaker 4: I mean, Like, I've I have a lot going on, 381 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:19,679 Speaker 4: and I don't want to be ungrateful, but my body, 382 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:23,000 Speaker 4: I'm a little exhausted, you know. So I think that's all. 383 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:25,040 Speaker 4: And I'm like, okay, it's okay, it's okay. I asked 384 00:18:25,040 --> 00:18:26,960 Speaker 4: for this. I have to remind myself you asked for this. 385 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:29,960 Speaker 2: You probably have a lot of time to read whenever 386 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:33,840 Speaker 2: you're on the road, traveling between destinations because you are 387 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:35,520 Speaker 2: a Grammy Award winning musician. 388 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:37,040 Speaker 1: You just came off of a huge tour. 389 00:18:37,520 --> 00:18:40,359 Speaker 2: For people who haven't been to a cheeky show yet, 390 00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:41,520 Speaker 2: what can they expect? 391 00:18:42,200 --> 00:18:43,480 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. 392 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:46,359 Speaker 4: I was just talking to a Milio about this about 393 00:18:46,400 --> 00:18:47,880 Speaker 4: my show, and he was just telling me how fun 394 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:49,639 Speaker 4: they are, you know, and I'm like, yeah, I was like, 395 00:18:49,640 --> 00:18:52,080 Speaker 4: I haven't been on stage for like two months, and 396 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:54,679 Speaker 4: I miss it so much. My shows are an experience. 397 00:18:54,840 --> 00:18:57,720 Speaker 4: I want people to go on this emotional roller coaster 398 00:18:57,840 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 4: with me. I'm gonna make you happy. I might make 399 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:02,200 Speaker 4: you cry, but you're going to leave there super happy 400 00:19:02,240 --> 00:19:04,680 Speaker 4: and inspired. And I feel that if I'm going to 401 00:19:04,760 --> 00:19:07,080 Speaker 4: be on stage and I have this huge responsibility of 402 00:19:07,119 --> 00:19:09,720 Speaker 4: having a mic in my hand, then I need to use. 403 00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:11,240 Speaker 1: My voice for good. 404 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:14,320 Speaker 4: And even if I'm drinking and I'm being crazy and 405 00:19:14,320 --> 00:19:17,359 Speaker 4: I'm torking because I dance, I do it all on stage. 406 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:23,120 Speaker 4: I want people to leave with something in their heart, 407 00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:25,879 Speaker 4: imprinted in their heart and in their mind. So for me, 408 00:19:25,960 --> 00:19:28,440 Speaker 4: that's super important. Every show is very different. I don't 409 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:30,440 Speaker 4: rehearse it. I don't rehearse what I'm going to say. 410 00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:32,400 Speaker 4: I just go with the flow what the audience makes 411 00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:36,359 Speaker 4: me feel. And every tour has I'm very old school 412 00:19:36,400 --> 00:19:39,480 Speaker 4: in that sense of like I like finished albums. So 413 00:19:40,040 --> 00:19:42,840 Speaker 4: with that album and that concept comes the tour and 414 00:19:42,880 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 4: what I'm going to talk about. And right now it's 415 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:47,160 Speaker 4: the amanthis tour, so we're talking about how a diamond 416 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:50,760 Speaker 4: was made and under pressure and in dirt basically, and 417 00:19:50,840 --> 00:19:52,679 Speaker 4: how long it's taken that to what I feel that 418 00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:54,960 Speaker 4: I'm doing right now. And I listen to everything. I 419 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:56,960 Speaker 4: love R and B, I love rap, and that's what 420 00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:58,800 Speaker 4: I do in my shows, like I'm kind of yes, 421 00:19:58,840 --> 00:20:00,760 Speaker 4: I'm sinking band and I have a hanna on, you know, 422 00:20:00,920 --> 00:20:04,200 Speaker 4: very traditional, but I'm rapping. Especially with this last album, 423 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:06,200 Speaker 4: you're going to hear a lot of that, the fusions 424 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 4: of country and R and B and all those things 425 00:20:10,280 --> 00:20:13,359 Speaker 4: that I listen to that have inspired me to sing. 426 00:20:13,560 --> 00:20:16,800 Speaker 4: And I'm also like, I'm not afraid, and I think 427 00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:19,520 Speaker 4: that that's why I've been able to kind of do 428 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:22,440 Speaker 4: my own thing and not necessarily stay in my mom's 429 00:20:22,440 --> 00:20:24,560 Speaker 4: shadow because I was for so long, Because I'm like, 430 00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:26,800 Speaker 4: I'm not afraid of stepping out of my comfort zone 431 00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:29,359 Speaker 4: and shaking things up a little bit, because that's the 432 00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:31,200 Speaker 4: only way I feel that you're going to make history. 433 00:20:31,680 --> 00:20:33,480 Speaker 3: I think you're doing it in a really cool way 434 00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:36,800 Speaker 3: because your mom was and is such a legend, and 435 00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:40,000 Speaker 3: so you get that respect from the Latin community in particular, 436 00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:43,080 Speaker 3: and then you're putting your own cheeky's. 437 00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:45,000 Speaker 1: Twist on it. No, thank you so much. 438 00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:47,879 Speaker 3: I want to pay So collab. Is there anybody that 439 00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:50,960 Speaker 3: you want to collab with? Yes, I would love to 440 00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:53,480 Speaker 3: do something with Carol ge. I love what she's doing. 441 00:20:54,320 --> 00:20:58,000 Speaker 3: I think she's a wonderful human being and as a 442 00:20:58,040 --> 00:21:00,560 Speaker 3: woman and everything that she's you know, she's broken so 443 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:04,520 Speaker 3: many barriers and for me, it's someone that I absolutely admire. 444 00:21:04,560 --> 00:21:07,040 Speaker 3: So that's someone that's like high on my list. Galiu 445 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:08,960 Speaker 3: Cheese as well, I think is super awesome. 446 00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:09,639 Speaker 1: I love that. 447 00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:12,399 Speaker 4: I'd love to do something with BESL. We actually have 448 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:18,959 Speaker 4: the same manager, so this has to happen, I know, right, Yeah, 449 00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 4: I know. And the thing is, I think we're waiting 450 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,520 Speaker 4: for the right song. I think he's the same. We 451 00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:26,119 Speaker 4: can't force it. It just has to kind of happen organically, 452 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:28,879 Speaker 4: and I'd prefer it that way anyways. So yeah, I 453 00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:32,760 Speaker 4: mean maybe maybe maybe we'll do it. You know, we'll see. 454 00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:36,040 Speaker 3: I'm holding that vision for your Cheeky's thank you put 455 00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:37,200 Speaker 3: it on your vision word please. 456 00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:39,080 Speaker 1: I love that. 457 00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:42,679 Speaker 3: We need to take another short break, but when we 458 00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:47,479 Speaker 3: come back. Cheeky's answers your questions about beauty, friendship, and 459 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:58,240 Speaker 3: entrepreneurship stick with us, We're back with Cheeky's So. 460 00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:01,439 Speaker 2: For music to podcast. You have a podcast called Cheeky 461 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:04,480 Speaker 2: and Chill. And one thing I love about the way 462 00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:07,720 Speaker 2: you do your podcast is that you seamlessly flow between 463 00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:11,280 Speaker 2: English and Spanish. It's like you're creating something for both 464 00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:14,639 Speaker 2: a very specific audience and a broader audience at the 465 00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:18,280 Speaker 2: same time. Yeah, what reaction have you gotten from the 466 00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:20,800 Speaker 2: LATINX community about the show? 467 00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:21,959 Speaker 1: Oh? Thank you. 468 00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,119 Speaker 4: I have Cheekys and Chill on Mondays and then on Wednesday, 469 00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:26,080 Speaker 4: I have Dear Cheeky. So people ask me questions and 470 00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:28,919 Speaker 4: I do my best to give them my best advice. 471 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:30,880 Speaker 4: For sure, like a big sister. I think it works 472 00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 4: out because I'm a big sister. You know, it's doing 473 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:36,120 Speaker 4: very well in the comments that I receive. It's such 474 00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:39,439 Speaker 4: a beautiful compliment for me because I feel like the 475 00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:42,320 Speaker 4: people that are listening to my podcast are people just 476 00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:44,800 Speaker 4: like me. You know that we're here nor there, and 477 00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:47,000 Speaker 4: it's kind of like the two hundred percent where you're 478 00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:49,680 Speaker 4: one hundred percent you know, Latin, one hundred percent American, 479 00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:51,879 Speaker 4: And I'm like, those are the people that I'm talking to, 480 00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:55,159 Speaker 4: and I'm receiving that feedback because as one thing, I 481 00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,239 Speaker 4: told them, if I'm going to do a podcast, I 482 00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,560 Speaker 4: need to just be myself and I express myself a 483 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:02,760 Speaker 4: lot better to be honest in English, but I always 484 00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:06,280 Speaker 4: will put a word here there in Spanish all the time. 485 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:07,120 Speaker 1: It's just who I am. 486 00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:10,600 Speaker 4: And I do receive a lot of great feedback, and 487 00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:13,880 Speaker 4: that's amazing because I love to podcast. It's like therapy 488 00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:16,800 Speaker 4: for me. It's really I love it. I'm like, I'm 489 00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:18,840 Speaker 4: just talking to a microphone unless I have like an invite, 490 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:20,800 Speaker 4: but I'm like, I love it. I'm just letting it 491 00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:21,400 Speaker 4: all out too. 492 00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:24,719 Speaker 2: Is there a question that's stumped you or one that 493 00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:27,800 Speaker 2: still kind of haunts you today? A question that a 494 00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:29,280 Speaker 2: user has sent in listening. 495 00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:33,280 Speaker 4: Yes, and it came from an anonymous listener. Because I 496 00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:36,400 Speaker 4: never listened to the questions prior. I let my producers 497 00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:39,000 Speaker 4: put them on right then and there, and you get 498 00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:41,760 Speaker 4: my reactions, like my natural reaction, because I just like, 499 00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:43,240 Speaker 4: what comes from the heart reaches a heart, you know. 500 00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:48,840 Speaker 4: So one time a girl asked me, I don't know 501 00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:50,320 Speaker 4: if I can say is this that like? But I mean, 502 00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:52,560 Speaker 4: I'll be honest. She was saying that she had been 503 00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:55,680 Speaker 4: dating this guy for a few months and they had 504 00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:58,560 Speaker 4: finally had sex and he had a very small penis, 505 00:23:58,600 --> 00:24:01,920 Speaker 4: but she really liked him, and she didn't know how 506 00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:04,720 Speaker 4: to tell him how they can just try different positions 507 00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:06,720 Speaker 4: or something like that because he had a small piness. 508 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:08,240 Speaker 4: I was just like, I was very caught off guard. 509 00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:09,800 Speaker 4: I was like, oh my goodness, I don't even know 510 00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:11,440 Speaker 4: how to deal with this right now. But I don't 511 00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:14,159 Speaker 4: even remember what I said, but that did shock me. 512 00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:17,240 Speaker 4: I was like, Okay, well, if you like him, that's good. 513 00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:19,080 Speaker 4: I mean, you guys will figure it out. 514 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,000 Speaker 3: Cheeky's I feel like somebody wrote this question and to 515 00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:23,800 Speaker 3: troll you. 516 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,359 Speaker 1: You think, I know, Honestly, I swear I've thought that. 517 00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:28,600 Speaker 4: I'm like, yeah, are these my I've even thought I'm like, 518 00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:29,680 Speaker 4: are these my producers? 519 00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:30,640 Speaker 1: Like trying to get me? 520 00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:34,720 Speaker 3: It's one of your best friends who's trolling you for real? 521 00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:36,400 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. 522 00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:39,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, I was so ungoted. I was like, oh my gosh, 523 00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:40,960 Speaker 4: am I gonna help this grow it out? 524 00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:42,480 Speaker 1: Yeah. 525 00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:44,400 Speaker 3: Well, with that in mind, we have a few questions 526 00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:46,760 Speaker 3: we're going to read to you from our bright side besties. 527 00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:47,800 Speaker 1: There's a range. 528 00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:51,160 Speaker 3: Okay, some are light, some are heavy, but with all 529 00:24:51,200 --> 00:24:52,840 Speaker 3: of that said, are you ready to give us some 530 00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:53,800 Speaker 3: big sister advice? 531 00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:54,760 Speaker 1: I am ready. 532 00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:58,200 Speaker 3: Oh that Cheeky's My best friend is in a relationship 533 00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:00,639 Speaker 3: with a guy that I'm not a fan of. Early 534 00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:02,720 Speaker 3: on in their relationship, I told her I was worried 535 00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:04,560 Speaker 3: about her because there was a lot of drama and 536 00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:07,080 Speaker 3: she was crying every time I spoke with her. They 537 00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:09,320 Speaker 3: quickly moved in together, and since I mentioned I was 538 00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:12,119 Speaker 3: worried about her, she's never mentioned him to me again, like, 539 00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,120 Speaker 3: barely even mentioned they moved in together. She's my best 540 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:16,880 Speaker 3: friend and I want her to know that I'm here 541 00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:19,400 Speaker 3: for her, but it's totally awkward that she doesn't mention 542 00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:21,960 Speaker 3: one of the biggest things in her life. Any advice 543 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:23,760 Speaker 3: on how to address it or should I just let 544 00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:24,840 Speaker 3: it be and follow her lead? 545 00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:28,040 Speaker 4: Ooh, that's a good question. I think your friend probably 546 00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:31,359 Speaker 4: knows that she's not in a good relationship and doesn't 547 00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:33,280 Speaker 4: want to hear the truth because she just kind of 548 00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:35,240 Speaker 4: wants to live this And I think you, as a 549 00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:39,200 Speaker 4: good friend, should probably just let it be and say hey, 550 00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:41,840 Speaker 4: I am here, and if it doesn't work out, don't 551 00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:45,320 Speaker 4: say I told you so. I would go and say hey, 552 00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:50,000 Speaker 4: I've noticed that you haven't been telling me about your boyfriend. 553 00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:53,320 Speaker 4: I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings, if I made 554 00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:58,080 Speaker 4: you feel uncomfortable, I'll reserve my opinion. But I want 555 00:25:58,080 --> 00:25:59,360 Speaker 4: to be here for you and I want to hear 556 00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:01,680 Speaker 4: about what's going on in your life, so please feel free. 557 00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:04,360 Speaker 4: I don't want to feel like you're excluding me. I'm 558 00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:06,879 Speaker 4: here for you. I think even if she decides after 559 00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:10,720 Speaker 4: that not to share anything with you, then I would 560 00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 4: just leave it at that. But I think you should 561 00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:14,639 Speaker 4: be the first to say, hey, I'm here, I love you, 562 00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:17,720 Speaker 4: and I respect your decision, so that that way she 563 00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:20,920 Speaker 4: feels comfortable with sharing, and just be there for her. 564 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 1: It's tough. Been there. Yeah, that's not an easy one, 565 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:27,200 Speaker 1: but you gave great advice. Okay. 566 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:31,199 Speaker 2: Question number two for people who are aspiring entrepreneurs, what 567 00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,200 Speaker 2: would be your words of advice for them? 568 00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:36,600 Speaker 1: Hmm, definitely do it. Try it. 569 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:41,800 Speaker 4: I just know because when I started my first business, 570 00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:44,240 Speaker 4: I felt it was Just know that it's all part 571 00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:46,840 Speaker 4: of the process. Do not be afraid of failure. It's 572 00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:50,800 Speaker 4: going to help you appreciate success and teach you a 573 00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:52,120 Speaker 4: lot along the way. 574 00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:53,119 Speaker 1: Try it. 575 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:55,000 Speaker 4: Don't live with you what if I tried it? What 576 00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:56,560 Speaker 4: if don't let fear stop you? 577 00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:57,520 Speaker 1: Do it? 578 00:26:57,640 --> 00:26:59,959 Speaker 4: Try it, save your money, don't leave your job completely, 579 00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:03,440 Speaker 4: Like still do that, and you know, have your ducks 580 00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:05,080 Speaker 4: in a row and save some money and do it 581 00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,680 Speaker 4: whatever it may be. I mean, the great thing about 582 00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:12,440 Speaker 4: social media is that it's helping a lot of entrepreneurs 583 00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:14,800 Speaker 4: and small businesses. So I think it's a lot easier 584 00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:19,920 Speaker 4: than five ten years ago. Even so definitely try it. 585 00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:21,320 Speaker 4: Don't let fear stop you. 586 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,840 Speaker 3: Okay, question number three, I know for years you've struggled 587 00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:27,199 Speaker 3: with being self conscious about your arms. 588 00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:31,359 Speaker 1: What's your secret? I did forever? 589 00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:33,080 Speaker 4: Okay, Well, first of all, I put it on my 590 00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:36,199 Speaker 4: vision board. I put some really nice arms, and I 591 00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:39,520 Speaker 4: put my little face on the girl. And also I've 592 00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:43,560 Speaker 4: been working out as part of my lifestyle. But I 593 00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:45,200 Speaker 4: also went to a doctor. 594 00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:45,639 Speaker 1: Guys. 595 00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:48,359 Speaker 4: I went to a doctor called Celebrity Arms or something 596 00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:51,639 Speaker 4: like that on Instagram and he's in Tampa, and he 597 00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:54,600 Speaker 4: did this amazing light bow on my arms, you guys, 598 00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:56,960 Speaker 4: And I'm so happy I did it before I lost weight, 599 00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:58,679 Speaker 4: which I wish I would have waited a little bit, 600 00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:02,080 Speaker 4: but I am very happy with my arms. He toned 601 00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:04,560 Speaker 4: like he made them like look very like if I 602 00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:07,520 Speaker 4: worked out for I don't know, ten years NonStop. So 603 00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:09,520 Speaker 4: I'm really happy with them now and I'm still keeping 604 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:10,600 Speaker 4: it up, you know, I'm working out. 605 00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:14,960 Speaker 1: So yeah, that's that's my secret. That's what happened. That's awesome. 606 00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:15,840 Speaker 1: Good for you. 607 00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:19,000 Speaker 2: Thank you for sharing that with us. Of course, Cheekey's 608 00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:22,199 Speaker 2: this has been so much fun. You are totally the 609 00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:25,640 Speaker 2: internet's favorite big sister. Thanks for coming on the right side. 610 00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:28,199 Speaker 1: Thank you, ladies. I appreciate it. I love it. 611 00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:30,159 Speaker 4: I thank you for your time and hopefully were I 612 00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:31,040 Speaker 4: would help a lot of people. 613 00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:37,560 Speaker 2: Cheekys is a musician, author, and TV personality with the 614 00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:42,000 Speaker 2: new show Cheeky Sinfiltro now streaming on the platform vix. 615 00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:44,400 Speaker 2: You can hear more of her and her big sister 616 00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:46,720 Speaker 2: advice on our podcast Cheekys and Chill. 617 00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:55,560 Speaker 3: That's it for today's show. Tomorrow, it's Wellness Wednesday. Happiness 618 00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:58,480 Speaker 3: and well being advocate Karen Guggenheim joins us to share 619 00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:01,840 Speaker 3: how we can all bring more happiness into our lives. 620 00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:05,680 Speaker 3: Listen and follow the bright Side on the iHeartRadio app, 621 00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:08,400 Speaker 3: Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. 622 00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:09,560 Speaker 1: I'm Simone Boye. 623 00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:13,040 Speaker 2: You can find me at Simone Boice on Instagram and TikTok. 624 00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:16,120 Speaker 3: I'm Danielle Robe on Instagram and TikTok. 625 00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:17,440 Speaker 1: That's r v A. 626 00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:22,440 Speaker 2: Y see you tomorrow, folks. Keep looking on the bright side.